You Can’t Logic Your Way Out of Jealousy (But You’ll Definitely Try) Ep. 135

Ever tried to think your way out of a feeling?

You read the books, have the talks, highlight every chapter on jealousy and self-regulation… and your nervous system just shrugs and says, “That’s cute, I’m still panicking.”

This week on Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I’m getting real about the hilarious (and exhausting) ways we try to outsmart our emotions, and why logic doesn’t work when your body doesn’t feel safe.

In this solo episode, I share my own “self-help fails,” the moment I realized you can’t out-think a trauma response, and what actually does help when jealousy, anxiety, or insecurity hit hard in non-monogamous relationships.

We’ll talk about what it means to stop fixing and start feeling, to breathe, laugh, and build emotional safety in real time, one micro-moment at a time.

What You’ll Learn

• Why jealousy in polyamory is a nervous system response, not a logic problem.
• How overthinking and self-help spirals fuel relationship anxiety in non-monogamy.
• The mind-body disconnect that happens during triggers in open relationships.
• Simple nervous system regulation tools that actually help with jealousy and insecurity.
• How laughter and self-compassion reduce emotional overwhelm in polyamorous dynamics.
• How to use body-based honesty to communicate needs and build trust with partners.

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