#51 - The Dilly Dally - #NotAboutUpod

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And we are going to do this. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to
another exciting edition of not about you podcast.
My name is Jamal Harrington. You guys already know that.
Also my guest night of my guest,my host Co host.
It's been a while. I'm sorry my Co host Romeo Nash

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and his. That's this guy and.
And his lovely wife, Marianne Riley.
That's those people. Yeah.
So it's, first of all, it's great to be back.
I have been reading, believe it or not, guys, we get fan mail.

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Been reading a lot of fan mail. And then I get.
And then also, not only is it, it's like fan mail mixed with.
I would be a good guest on your show because I'm a doctor and we
could talk about vaccinations and I'm like, I don't know.

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I would love that. I like so.
So first of all, first of all, let me ask you our guest last
week. Oh yeah.
Tim. Tim.
Did you get a chance to listen to the show?
I've listened to parts of the show.
It was, here's the weird thing about it.
While you guys were recording, Iwas like in bed in agonizing

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pain, but I could hear you guys talking and I would like check
in on you guys like every once in a while.
You guys, you guys went three hours, which I was like, wow, I
wonder what you guys, you guys had a lot to talk about and it
was. Tim was very Tim was very
informative on a lot of on, on alot of points and issues and,

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and with him being a teacher, a professor, he, he had a, you
know, he had a lot of interesting facts, fact facts
instead of instead of, you know,opinionated things that, that
you or some that he's read somewhere else that would

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probably need fact checking. You know he.
Had he was the. Fact yeah, he was the fact
checker and able to the the elephant was in the room is what
it was he was he was there so. Able to really shed some light
on a lot of different things. And I will have to say that Tim,
you can tell that he's used to being the one who's in charge of

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talking because he, you know, you asked a couple of questions.
It was interesting because we didn't do a whole lot of
talking. Romeo and I didn't do a whole
lot of talking. We just we asked a few questions
and he was able to just really like, it was very educational.
I will definitely say that it was very educational and it was,

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it was incredibly, you know, interesting.
Yeah, I had actually a bookmarked that episode because
what I was going to because I what I did was after I uploaded
it and everything I went on and I list I like pretty much put it
to like a random part and was just listening and it was
talking about Montana and what he, you know, did out there.

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So I'm thinking to myself, you know, it's a I'm going to listen
to it this weekend because again, I when I went, when I,
when you guys were done, like I get, I was checking in on, on on
it. You guys were just wrapping up
and like right when you guys were done and you guys cut out,

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I was like, OK, good. And then I was able to upload
that episode and he even messaged me because I up, I
uploaded it maybe almost a week.I uploaded it yesterday or the
day before because I was so under the weather.
I didn't, you know, I wasn't like on social media really
doing, you know, I was just likein bed sick.

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So when I looked at the time of the of I was like wow. 3.
Hours that's A and and and you know, I was like, you know, not
me not on it I was like, what did you guys have to talk about
now I was like more curious and then I listened to some of it
and yeah, it almost sounded likehe like at least the part that I
was listening to the couple of parts I listen to, I kind of

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felt like I was like in a a likea like out of college hall
listening to a lecture, you knowso and The thing is like me and
him we're friends on Facebook. I've only talked to him twice
maybe, but it's just like he seemed like that, you know,

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there's some people that are on social media that they have
stuff to say and, and they've been on podcasts that have other
platforms that they do. And, you know, between him and
the guests that we had before, we've, I kind of feel like, you

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know, there's a lot of interesting people out there.
No, I'm not saying that our listeners have to Oh yeah, agree
with everything that they say. But, you know, I, I like to
think that we get a lot of smartpeople on this show, a lot of
people that like to that that are very.

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You know I. Do you know, like you said, Tim
was the fact checker. Like Tim knew what he was
talking about. You know what I'm saying?
And and it's just like, it's good to have like those people
in a in your circle, per SE. But yeah, I've never, I mean,
from what I've read, like Tim's posts and his, you know, he

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doesn't rant. He, you know, he's just like,
oh, here's my thought on this based on these facts.
OK. You know, so sometimes you kind
of need somebody that kind of, you know, I, you know, I'd like
to feel like I'm smart when I'm listening to people talk, you
know what I'm saying? It's just we're, we're comics.

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We, we, you know, we do hang outwith intelligent people.
You know, the funny ones are usually intelligent, but then
there's, you know, the ones. I'm just like, OK, what is what
is this based on? You know, like what is your so?
Yeah, it's so. No, I'm, I'm really glad you
guys had a good episode last week.
So tell me more about our fan mail.

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Well, it's it's all it's again. It's as I was reading, I this
doctor wanted to his name was a doctor Gator was like his middle
name. And I don't want to like put out
too much because, you know, I, Ijust responded to him like, OK,

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fine, because we have a lot of people that want to come on the
show. We do.
I, I read, I read all the emails.
Hey, we want to talk about this.We want to talk about this.
I want to, I think this would begood.
You know, everybody has an idea of what they want to talk about,
which is fine. Again, we always offer.
The plan, we like that input because it gives us something,
you know, that we, I love it, you know, and I, I absolutely

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love the idea of having somebodywho knows how to have a
conversation and not be and be disrespectful that doesn't
necessarily agree with our viewsbecause I don't want to live in
an echo chamber. I don't want to be thinking that
I'm all, you know, like may I never get so comfortable in my
beliefs that my beliefs can't bechallenged.

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And I'm not, I'm not talking my core values, that that's a
totally different thing. My values are always going to be
my values. Those will never change.
But my beliefs, you know, have changed, have evolved, have
grown since I've gotten older and I've gotten more educated
and I've gotten, I don't know, Ithink probably I, I don't want

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to say more worldly, but like more traveled and I'm outside of
like just my little area. I'm able to see other
perspectives and other views andI'm able to like that does make
me look at my own and challenge it.
And also like, and I've, I have challenged a lot of my own views

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and grown because of it. And so I think that it's so
critically important to have somebody who can have
conversations with us and, you know, challenge maybe some of
our beliefs or some of our, you know, just some of our current
views. Maybe we don't have all the
information and they have information that would maybe put

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it into a different light. And I agree with that.
No, you got a good point, because I've always wanted to
have a doctor on the show, you know?
I've always I've. Always wanted to have that, you
know, that conversation like, you know, and it doesn't
necessarily have to be about, you know, because doctors, they

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see a lot of things that, you know, we don't see or unless
we're the patients ourselves, we're like, oh, yeah, I know
what you're talking about there.But I always wanted, you know,
somebody, you know, I was seeking a doctor.
But then when I'm reading the e-mail, I'm like, OK, because
everybody, I kind of feel like alot of there's some of the
guests that have sent me emails or potential guests, I should

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say, where I feel like they havean agenda.
Right. And I'm like, OK, what's your
agenda? What am I hoping to learn?
And there's, I've had a lot of the same people actually give
us, well, e-mail me requests fora type of guests.

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And it seems like everybody for the most part, it's like, oh, I
know this porn star. I'm like OK well I've emailed
this porn star like 3 times. Yes, we would.
And we? Love to absolutely love to have
a porn star, I do. Really.
Why not? Oh no, I know some.

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Well, let's go on. No, but it's like, no, we,
that's what. Let's go on.
We'll talk about that later. Oh.
Oh yo, don't Hey man, share withthe class, you know?
Share with the class Mary. Ann's not Mary.
Ann's not saying no so. I still want to have like A to

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try and get my cousin back. And she is, it would be more
interesting on the podcast than it was when we had her on the
radio show that that sparked this whole podcast.
But the the sex therapist, I would love to have her, but we'd
have to try and do record on a different day and time just to

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accommodate the schedule. Yeah.
Which I yeah. That would be very interesting
because Lord knows that is something that we would need and
a lot of our listeners would probably be very interested in
that. But it's just like that is like
between. I mean, I get a lot Oh, this,
this porn actress and then I getlike the resume she's been on

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this, she's been on that. And I'm like, I either recognize
them because, you know, yeah, I know porn stars as far as like
watching them perform or whatever.
But it's just like, it's weird. Whenever I get I'm like, are you
the agent? Are you the manager in charge?
Like why would this, you know, why does this porn star want to

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be on their show? And it's a lot of these people
handlers that are actually listening to the show because
they specifically talk about thepart of an episode that they
like that they thought was funnyor that they thought was
intriguing. They're like, oh, I know
somebody who, you know, performsnaked and has like, you know, 8

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million followers. And it's like, oh, OK, you know,
so I always like, what's this person's e-mail?
I'll drop them a line or whatever.
And when I don't get an answer for like a week, I'm like, Oh
yeah, she's too busy, you know? Could have gone to spam.
You could have. Gone to their spam mail mailbox
too, right? OK, I I never thought about

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that, but that I hope that's thecase because I don't want to.
I don't want to come off as likea like a like a nagging fan,
like please come to our show. Oh, and then you get.
Blown off. How?
How is this different from like dating apps?

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But The thing is, is I think that a lot of times something
like this, this kind of our platform is so unique because
we're able to talk about real shit, but have a funny spin on
it. You know, we can put our funny
spin on things even, you know, like, quite frankly, I think
that all three of us, what makesus to the bottom of our souls,

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the difference between US and funny people, what makes us
comics, is that even in our darkest time, we always find
something to laugh about. Right we.
Oh yeah, definitely. Are always looking at something,
you know, that's the difference that's what makes us who we are
that's we are comedy isn't something we do it's who we are

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and that's the difference, you know so but being able to take
something like I would, you know, like some of these
different unique jobs and stuff would be fantastic.
I would love to talk to people and actually kind of sit down
and interview them and ask them,you know, what's the day in the
life of what does it, what does it look like doing what you do?

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How did you get to that? How did you get to that, that
career choice? You know, and you know what's
and even, you know, like something like even with the
doctor, there's a lot of questions that I mean, I would
have a lot of questions for any of these different professions,
but I would love to be able to listen to them and just
especially, you know, if they have a following already, win

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win. You know, we're able to tap in
and ask them a lot of different questions and be able to to like
maybe and not just the regular interview kind of questions we
would ask not about you kind of questions, right, We would.
Yeah, yeah. You know, and so I think that

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that makes it, it makes us, you know, it would make for a unique
show for sure. I I would love that.
Yeah, I mean, luckily for us and, well, luckily for the
viewers, I guess. Because, you know, knowing me,
I'd be like, I got this boil behind here.
Can you tell me what this is? You know, just like, diagnose me

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like. You want to write on the show
like there's all kinds. Of things.
Well, maybe he's talking about the porn.
Maybe she could diagnose him because, you know, they see a
lot of. I know, right?
She didn't know right away. Oh my God, you got chlamydia.
We. Know like how to how to like the
best way to treat because you know, how do you look good on
camera If you got a boil on yourbutt, like how do you because

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I've seen some porn and they didnot they did not address some of
those pimples on the ass. And I'm like, and I'm distracted
as fuck because I'm sitting there going really, really you
couldn't have slapped some coverup on that or something.
Maybe a little bit of of dustingpowder to make sure it didn't
shine I mean. Yeah, I mean, I was watching

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this porn the other day with a friend of mine.
Actually. I wouldn't say watching it was
like, yeah. You got no friends over there
watching porn with you. It's, it's background noise, you
know what I'm saying? Like no dude, there's been
parties that I've attended wherelike they'll have porn on like a
projecting screen and it's just like and it but but there's a DJ
playing music and no one is onlyI'm watching a porn actually.

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Like I'm the only one with my neck like this at an angle and
people around me are talking andit's not like I'm not interested
in their conversation. I'm just like, does anybody else
see this or is it just like, youknow what I'm saying?
Like I'm looking around. I'm like, nobody's jerking off.
Like I kind of want to, but I'm like in a public place.

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But it's like, you know, like I don't want to.
Like if I if, if I don't see like one person doing it, I'm
like, OK, maybe I won't make that person feel bad that he's
doing it by himself. So maybe I just, you know.
Would be That would be like. Hey, you're, you're, you're not
alone, dude. You know, like but just don't
like. Themselves, I mean, that would

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be, I've never been to a party ever where they were playing
porn, OK. And I think that it would be
very distracting and not just distracting, but like, like I
would be, I, I think a lot of the guys, they should be worried
about getting a stiffy. Well, they're watching this

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porn. If they're talking to somebody,
like you can give a girl the wrong idea.
Like I'm talking to some dude and all of a sudden he gets a
stiffy And I'm thinking he's excited about the conversation
we're having. Then come to find out he's
looking over his shoulder at theporn behind me.
Yeah, So without naming a comic's name, because I'm pretty
sure this person may not may or may not want to be mentioned,

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but I was invited to a party. It actually was a Thanksgiving
party. And a lot of comics who weren't
able to go home went to this house where again, DJ big, big
loft space and on the roof we flash fried a Turkey.

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I was, I was a task of bringing 7 bottles of I believe was
peanut oil so we could flash frythis thing on the on the roof.
And like when I say roof, I mean, I'm coming out of a window
climbing up a like a ladder, a, a going on the roof with this

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big bags of oil. And there's like a, a cylinder
flash fry, Turkey flash fry thing up there.
And you know, everybody's being careful because they said that
this could get ugly if not handled properly.
And beneath us there's music, house music being played again,

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porn being show. There's probably like 20-5
people there dancing and again, not even paying attention to
what's going on on the screen. They know turkeys around,
everybody's drinking. And we flash fried a bird.
And it was, I've never done it before.
I felt like I was a part of, I guess, you know, something of

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like the moon landing or something.
I'm like, oh, this is going to be great.
And but yeah, it was like it wasit was a Thanksgiving party in
November And and I've never beenup.
Like, I don't, I mean, I've beento a lot of parties, but nothing
like this. This was very different.
So it. Was.
It was rather strange. Yeah, I've been frying turkeys

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for the last eight years, and after you have a fried Turkey,
you will never go back. They're so good.
Yeah, it is. I have a Turkey fryer and I
fried my I fried I fried 2 turkeys last year and I fry
Turkey every year. Not.
Like those the the the whole key.

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Cylinder thing. The dangerous ones.
This is an actual. It's a Turkey fryer.
Like you, you lower the Turkey and the pot like the top of the
pot. Mine is in the basket.
It's a big you set the you set the Turkey in the basket.
It's a big basket that the Turkey sets in and then you just
set it down and it has a lid that closes over it.

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It's. An actual fryer.
Yeah. Like you can fry franchise and
chickens and. All this like how?
How fast does it fry to your? About an hour.
Takes about an hour. Takes about an hour.
Yes, it takes it takes an hour to heat up, takes an hour for it

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to get up to temp. And then once it's up to temp,
it's got a timer on it. It's got a timer on it.
And I think it's 6 minutes per pound, so roughly about a 20 LB
bird takes about an hour, takes 50-60 minutes.
So you can, it's so good. It's it's, it's just, it's so

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delicious. I will never go back.
I've been doing it for about 8 years now, still infuse.
It. With all Oh yeah.
Well, well, yeah, you get, you get like this melted butter and
it's like, yeah. And you infuse it in the burp
and. You.
Detect it with what what you know your seasonings and then.

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I mean, do do, do you, did you guys, do you usually stuff yours
with like stuffing or? No, no I don't.
Stop. Leave it empty.
No giblets. I'll leave it empty.
I'll leave it empty. And if you, you can, but if you
want to do that, you want to do it after the bird's already done
and then you do your stuff and then you put, you could put it
in there. And, but I don't.

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We make our stuff and we make our stuff in separately and I
fry my bird and then I'll take the bird out.
We bless the table. We did not cut the bird up.
And the stuffing is served out of a separate dish.
Yeah, I usually I like a crock pot or something because I do, I
like to do my oh, oh stuffing, like my handmade stuffing.

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With no raisins in it. We don't do that in our house.
What's? Raisins in stuffing.
Oh wow. You know.
Yeah, I've, I've, I've had, I didn't even know that was a
thing until I had a Thanksgivingin the South and I was eating
stuffing I and I thought, wow, this is sweet.

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What is it? Oh, there's raisins in it.
And I'm just like, oh, maybe that's because I've never known
in the North to do raisins and stuff.
I I've never known. I've never known that.
And when I'm raisins and stuffing in my house, you
getting kicked out and you and your stuffing going with you,
you don't don't bring that up inhere hell wrong with you.

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You don't put raisins and stuffing.
I don't understand the fascination of that, though,
because when I talk about it up here, like, you know, in the New
York area, the Northeast, it's like, Nah, man, we don't.
No, you don't. You don't.
You don't. You don't disrespect stuffing by
putting raisins in it. Exactly right, Exactly you.
Know and and even you know as Caribbean, you know, I always

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feel like we have and we kind ofhave a different way that we do
things different. We still do the traditional bird
and whatnot, but even the stuffing never had raisins.
But you go you go down to, you know, pass in the Bible belt,
the Mason Dixon line, there's, you know, raisins and mashed
potatoes. You know what I'm saying?

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Like why you So I? Found that out.
My daughter came to me and she'sI guess she went to her
husband's parents' house for Thanksgiving and and then she
came out of her house and I'm like, so are you hungry?
She goes, Dad, I'm starving. I'm like, you ain't eating that,

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that guy. She goes, they have raisins in
everything. She goes, they have raisins.
She goes, she goes, she goes, nooffense.
She goes, That was the whitest Thanksgiving I've ever seen I've
ever been to in my life. She goes, I never knew that they
had raisins in everything. She goes.
They have raisins in everything.The mashed potatoes.

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Like they just sprinkled raisinson everything.
Huh. Oh my goodness gracious.
I was cracking up like I said. Well, so she was.
She was hungry. No, I mean, yeah, if you, if you
go to a Thanksgiving, not for nothing, if you go to a
Thanksgiving and you're AI mean and you're hungry after that,
then you didn't get that. You didn't get the, the the full

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experience. You know what I'm saying?
I remember one year, me and my roommate this week, 2003,
Thanksgiving 2003, we went to three different houses for
Thanksgiving and we went to two places in Manhattan.
And then we, you know, we were, I worked for a moving company,

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so we still had the van that we did the job in the day before
Thanksgiving Eve. We drove to Jersey to a
Thanksgiving to end the night. And it was, yeah, three
different Thanksgivings, actually.
One of them we had at my grandmother's house, actually.

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And they had a great time, you know, again, some of them, some
of our friends couldn't go home.So they came up with my
grandmother's house. And, you know, she, they do it,
we do it big, you know, you're bringing friends over, everyone
eats, you know what I mean? Like, no one, no one gets turned
away. Nobody gets, you know, there's

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no raisins in anything so but you are guaranteed to eat to
your heart's content because we're not, we're not food
monitors, you know what I'm saying?
So we're not sit home with a plate?
Yep. The end that too, yes, I mean
you will hey, do you want to take something home with you or
do you want to take something home with a friend?

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And and and it's just and and it's crazy.
And then we went to like two others after that.
I ended up hanging out all day and we went to two other ones
and it was just like I was, you know, full like I didn't leave a
place hungry, but I'm the type of guy that I could eat, you
know what I'm saying? So I I always try to like save
room. If I'm like, Hey, how many where
we going? I need to know where we're

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going, what the timetable is like, because that's going to
determine how much I eat here versus the next place that we
go. If they have something that's
really awesome. I don't want to miss out on
food. You know what I'm saying?
I want to make sure that by Black Friday, I'm not even
thinking about trying to stand in line to shop first.

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I I want to be in a food coma and not wake up till football
Sunday. Yeah.
Yep and Yep. You know, so and, and, and The
thing is and, and I like Thanksgiving.
I know Halloween is like right around the corner, like later on
this at the end of this week. But but I do like the like
Thanksgivings. I like getting invited to like

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other people's houses because I get to see like how they cook.
I'm a I'm a huge foodie. You know, I'm going to say, oh,
how did you prepare this? You know, and if it's bad, I'm
not going to be like, wow, this is like the worst.
No, you know, I'm always respectful when it comes to
because, again, you don't bitch about free food.
First of all, you know what I'm saying?

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You, you, you, you never do that.
You, you just be. I'm.
I'm usually glad that I'm invited to the dance, if you
know what I mean. So when it comes to food, man,
it's like hell yeah. Yeah, I'm not.
I'm not like super finicky either.
So that's that's his place. He gets to be super.

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Nope, not finicky when it's. Free.
Yeah, he he. If it's, if it's, if it's free,
I can't. I'm not complaining about
nothing. I got, you know what I'm saying?
Somebody took, somebody took their time to make it.
Somebody took their time and andwas gracious enough to invite

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me, you know, on their dime. On their dime.
So. So I'm, I'm finicky at home when
I'm cooking in my house, yeah, I'm finicky.
I don't want to eat that if my wife is cooking.
Yeah, I want to eat that either.But.
But, but I mean, but like you said, you know, on somebody
else's dime and what all you have to do is what, bring a

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bottle of wine, bring something,bring a fruit cake or something.
You know what I'm saying? You're not asked to do a lot
when it comes to stuff like that.
So I mean, of course, yeah, you definitely won't.
Don't want to be that guy that'ssitting there eating, being
like, damn, this fucking Turkey is dry as fuck.
You know, you don't want to be that guy, you know what I'm
saying? Because then that just that just

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creates the awkwardness of, you know, wow.
And then when? And then when your friends end
up going next year, whenever they throw it.
But you, Oh, yeah, your invite got lost because they weren't
inviting you in the first place.You know, it's like, oh, that's
right. I made a crack at, you know, at
somebody's, you know, yeah. You just, you got to be very

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careful when it comes to that. And again, I and I know people
who are like, I'm just being, I'm just keeping it real.
Yeah, you're keeping it real dumb right now.
I don't. Don't be that guy, you know.
Yeah, you're, you're making, you're setting it up so that you
will have no place to go next year.
So hopefully you had other arrangements with.
Us and God forbid if you can't cook on things, I mean, you,

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you're just going to starve thatday, you know what I'm saying?
Somebody brings hey, I'm going to bring homeboy a plate.
You know, he, he, he thought he was going to get an invite, but
Nah, man, he, he going, you going to have to starve it out
this year, man. That lesson needs to be learned.
Let us ask. Starve.
Yeah, learn to shut yourself forreal.

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Exactly. So Speaking of, we were talking
about a Halloween because it is like in a couple of days.
Yeah, any. Plans Alright.
Do you have any? Plans.
I do have plans actually. So Justin is in town.
He just landed today and we are going to, I told him to pack a

(30:33):
costume because I'm looking at, I, my costume is in my little
drawer there. And Friday I think we're going
to, we're just going to walk around town, probably hit up
Times Square in costumes and just, you know, just be a part.
First of all, I know we're just talking about Thanksgiving, but

(30:53):
Halloween is my favorite. I, I, I'm always looking forward
to Halloween. I'm going to do it a little bit
different this year. I'm not, I'm going to dress in
the clothes that I'm going to wear, but I'm not going to paint
my face all day like I did last year because I suffocated my
face pretty much. And it was, it was a lot.

(31:17):
So what I'm going to do is I gotthe wig, I got the I'm going to
dress up as Joker, like how I did last year and the year
before that. And yeah, I'm just going to
after work, I'm going to hit thetown, dressed up, believe face
painted and enjoy everybody elsethat's also doing the same.
And that's the cool thing about Halloween in New York.

(31:39):
It's, you know, everybody just wants to dress up and show off
their costumes and have a great time.
And it's, it's really just that time of year where again, like
people our age, you know, reallyget into it it.
Really, it's not just. It's not just kids, it's like

(32:00):
4050 year old people, just the, the, the creativity of their
costumes. If they're making it at home,
it's just, it's wild and I love it.
So I know that last year I will I, I wanted to dress up as a
joker, but I couldn't find my the old outfit.

(32:21):
So I went and stood in two different lines, probably
totalling 4 hours to find the correct costume that I was
looking for because I wanted to.And this Joker costume that I
bought last year was way better than the first one because it
has a nice vest, a nicer vest. Like it looks like Joker, but
he's about to audit your company.

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Like that's how dope he looked with the crazy color.
So, but yeah, that's, that's, that's my plan.
It's the you know, and it's on aFriday, which is perfect.
Yeah, so. I, I, I've been kind of on the,
on the sober, on the sober kick right now.

(33:03):
So I don't plan on getting hammered while being out and
about. But yeah, it's just, you know,
I'm going to take a lot of pictures of other people's
costumes and whatnot, but I loveHalloween in New York.
Love it. And then we have the parade.
The the Halloween, the, the parade as well.
Yeah, we have that parade. Oh yeah.

(33:26):
That's cool. Yeah, and it's just, it's it's
it's, it's a parade, like floatsand like people dressed up
walking down. I believe it's 6th.
Ave. In the village and.
It's yeah. So can anybody just get in that
parade and walk with their costumes on?
I. I, I I'm not.

(33:46):
Sure, I've only been to it once.I don't know if they've changed
the regulations, but it's one ofthose things where you could
just like go there and check it out and be a part of the
festivities. Nice, nice.
So, so that's, that's always, I didn't do it last year or the
year before because I've always just been like, it's very

(34:06):
crowded. And at least if I'm doing it in
times in Times Square, which I'mnot a huge fan of Times Square,
but I would go there because there's going to be a lot of
other people dressed up hanging out in Times Square.
And it's and it's a bit more open in Times Square.
There's a lot more open space where if I get overwhelmed
because of a crowd, I could justdip off into one of the side

(34:29):
streets and kind of relax or catch my breath or whatever.
But yeah, it's I always look forand I know my niece is probably
going to get dressed up. I will get to, I will get to go
trick or treating with her. But I'm sure her mom is going to
do do all that for her. But it's I'm excited.

(34:49):
I've always, I'm more excited about this than I am with
Christmas, Thanksgiving, New Year's combined.
I mean, it's just. Ow.
I'm that I'm, I'm and I've been watching scary movies like all
month, even kind of like gearingup for it.
So, you know, it's the fall. So it's like, it's it's my
favorite time. But yeah, I even got my nails,

(35:11):
like kind of. I saw that.
I saw the. Getting ready for the
festivities. Black and orange.
That's very cool. That's very cool.
I I was going to put my Halloween nails on.
I haven't done that yet. What are you guys going to do
for Halloween? I'm going to do a white girl.

(35:35):
OK, I'm so sad. I wake up, brain.
You're good. You're supposed to party then.
Like on top of that, no pun intended.
Actually, it kind of depends on the weather.
I wanted to go over to Eastern Washington and go see my
grandbabies in their Halloween costumes.

(35:57):
Oh, we ain't going to do that onFriday, babe.
Go trick or treating with them but.
Really you want to do that? OK.
But I'm. Thinking we got to make sure I
got our our costumes back from our son first.
Well, I was, I was thinking, youknow, that we would go trick or
treating with them. I would love to do that, but I
don't know. There's been a lot of snow on
the passes already. This.

(36:19):
Yeah, yeah. I was going to ask, is Kyle
coming down for things? No, he won't be coming back down
anymore. Oh, oh, you mean oh, Canadian
Kyle? Yeah, No, yeah.
I won't let him come back down. It's not safe for him to come
down with them acting fools at the borders.

(36:40):
Oh. Yeah, Border Patrol they've
been. Nope.
We. We.
I go up there every once in a while.
We'll go up there, but we're we don't feel comfortable with the
even the even if there's only a 1% chance that we would get
stopped at the border and something would happen, that's
1% too much that we can't take with him.

(37:01):
Because he needs his medication and stuff like that up there.
And he wouldn't understand. He is, he's, you know, if, if if
Border Patrol tried to stop him and you know, like ice was to
stop him. We don't.
Yeah, we have no recourse. We have no way of of being able
to protect him. Because there's there's been

(37:22):
people trying to come across theborder getting ads if they
support Trump and and because I refuse to.
Answer that's a question that they.
Asked yes and. They won't let him.
In they won't let him in, they say no.
And then so they tried to go to another border.
They went, they went from from the Victoria border to Bellevue

(37:46):
to to, to, to go to Vancouver and it happened again and they
didn't get in. They wouldn't let him back in
the country. Yeah.
So it's just, you know, there's just so many different things
going on right now with ice and stuff that we and plus there's
been a lot of tension between, you know, the US and Canada,
yeah. At my job, we're feeling it too.

(38:08):
Well, I shouldn't say we're feeling it.
My customers are feeling it and and they're, you know, like even
today I had to explain again, I work for a Canadian based
company that has distribution centers here in the, in the US
as well as Canada, you know, even out in Surrey, which is not

(38:33):
too far from you. Well, I wouldn't say not too far
from you guys, but regionally speaking, British Columbia,
yeah. So, so you know, we cannot 9
times out of 10, if it's something that we don't have
stateside and Canada has it, we're allowed to ship it from
Canada into the US. But the issue is now with that,

(38:56):
which is kind of dumb because I'm like, we knew this was going
to happen and people are acting like this just happened
yesterday. You know, it's like no,
everybody knows about the tariffs.
We, I don't think we need to educate people on tariffs
anymore. We know what it is.
And even if you don't know what it is, Google is free, AI Gemini

(39:17):
is free. You can always, you know, so I
had a customer today wanted to order these very nice little
small plastic handles. I checked inventory to see where
they would be coming from and only four warehouses would carry
them. And the only warehouse that does
is the one up in Montreal, unfortunately.

(39:41):
And then on top of that, the customer wants a, a, a discount,
a price reduction. Well, I'm like, first of all,
Canada has it. You want a price reduction, It
ain't happening. Yeah, I, I, it's going to cost
us an arm and a leg to get an item that's like $7.60 for 15

(40:05):
handles. I got to, I got to up charge you
almost double the cost includingfreight.
But here's the problem there. Some of these items that are
made, they come from China. The metal comes from China, and

(40:25):
that's where. That's where the tariffs and all
that come into play. You know what I'm saying?
It's the amount of metal and aluminum that comes from China
and these other countries where they, you know, they have these
tariffs that, you know, are implemented.
So it's like my customers are like, well, how, how can you get

(40:48):
it over stateside? I got a customer that really
needs them. I'm like, well, you got to tell
your customer that you can't getthem.
Yeah. Simple as that.
And it's like I watched, I watched the young lady, I
watched the lady and she went toget a bathing suit.
The bathing suit was 12 bucks, right?

(41:08):
But with the tariffs and the waythey had to ship it, it was
$45.00. I'm like.
Anything suit? Well, you said the suit was $40,
like altogether including shipping.
No, Yeah. Well, yeah, it was like with
shipping and whatever she had togo through, but it was normally
like 12 bucks. But by the time she would have

(41:32):
got it, it would have cost her $45.00 for this bathing suit
for, for. I don't know what they're doing,
I mean. The way the.
Markup is. It's ridiculous.
Yeah. I mean, even with a lot of the
stuff that we have here here in that we meant that are that are

(41:57):
the the manufacturers of the items that we do sell, they've
raised their prices as well. So when a customer calls me up
and it's like, hey, I want to buy this hinge, you know that
they're so used to buying for like 4 dollars, $5.
Now it's 7:50. And then I, I'm like, OK, yeah,

(42:20):
it'll be 750 plus shipping and this stuff, whatever.
Oh, wait a minute. If you look at my order history,
I was getting these for $5 and it's like, yeah, you were
getting those for $5.00 because we were giving you discounts
because shit, I was probably having a good day or, you know,
you're a good customer or whatever.
But it's hard to tell a customerthat gives you an order like 3 *

(42:42):
a week that hey, unfortunately Ican't do the sweetheart favors
that I've been doing for you Nowbecause of the 15 percent, 10%,
even in some cases 20% markups it.
I have to have these conversations with a lot of my
customers that I'm close to. Most of them are like, hey, you
know what? Don't worry about it.

(43:03):
Because first of all, our competitors are doing the same
thing too. They have to raise their prices.
So it's not like, OK, we're justraising our prices because we're
greedy. No, we tried our very best to
toe the line. So we, you know, so once we get

(43:23):
these kind of news, I call my customers like, hey, just so you
know, these Blum slides that youguys that used to buy for like
1350, they're going up in like 2weeks.
You might want to get a lot of them now so you can have them
when, you know, these, these manufacturers raise the prices

(43:43):
up and a lot of them they just, it's like, you would think that
they were like, what's the word?Like doomsday prepping?
Like, hey man, these cabinet makers are going to need some
slides and hinges or whatever. At least I got like 10 boxes
that I could sell to them when the, you know, shit hits the
fan, you know what I mean? It's like, so but then some of

(44:06):
these customers, they, they waittill the very last minute.
Oh man, I thought that, you know, so it's just, it's really,
I would say it's hard because those who are in the know are
like, yeah, we expected this, but what do they do?
They they have to buy low from us and then sell it high to

(44:26):
their customer. Right.
See for for the most part everybody's in.
Everybody knows what's going on with that, though.
It's not like they're, they don't your customers, they don't
see you screwing them over because like you said, every
their competitors are doing the same everywhere that they look.
If they was like, well, I, if I can't get it from you at at 7

(44:49):
bucks, I can get it from him at 7 bucks.
And then when they go over there, they're like, yeah, well
shit, his aren't 7 bucks either.And then they go over there.
Oh his ain't 7 bucks either. What's exactly?
You see what I'm saying? It's like, it's not like you,
it's not like you have an out. So they just they have to roll
with it. So like, case in point, let's
say you have a warehouse and I have a warehouse and I have A

(45:10):
and you know, a lot of customers, they shop around.
Hey, you got a customer that wants to buy this item.
Well, they know they can get it from us at the price that
they're so used to getting it. But at the same time, they're
going to ask me for a quote. They're going to go to you and
ask you for a quote and they're going to realize, oh, they raise
their prices too. They have to, you know what I'm
saying? So now it's like, at this point,

(45:33):
I mean, yeah, there's a decisionthat you would have to make.
Who are you going to buy from? 9 times out of 10, you're going
to buy from the person that has the best service, which, you
know, I, I, that's what I, you know, I, I, I, I pride myself
on, you know, I'm going to get this stuff shipped to you as
fast as possible. And if there's an issue, we're
going to fix the issue super fast to a point where it's not

(45:57):
going to cost you anything or you could easily tell your
customers, hey, we had a snafu. But you know my guy, hey, just
working on it. He's going to fix it or
whatever. But so, so that's what it is.
But at the same time, if I have to raise my prices and you're
not going to keep your prices the same because you also have

(46:20):
expenses and overhead and you have people that you have to pay
on the floor if you have your warehouse as well.
So you got to raise your prices to a competitive state where
you're not hurting yourself, butyou're also staying within the
market. You know what I'm saying?
That's like you see it. You see it with gas stations all

(46:41):
the time. You got gas stations right next
to each other. Now you'll see this guy raises
prices and they'll try to keep theirs down.
Except they can't. They can't.
If you notice, I'm sorry to cut you off, but if you notice, like
if you see like an Arco with, you know, 429 a gallon and then
there's a shell with 525 a gallon, like a dollar more, it

(47:04):
becomes a question of value now,not just hey, what's the average
price of gas? Oh, it's at $5.
OK, am I going to spend $0.25 a gallon more because the value of
this gas is good for my engine? Or am I going to pay the four
25475 because I'm looking at my wallet and I and at this point I

(47:31):
cannot afford to spend that muchmoney on luxury gas.
You know what I'm saying? So it's just like.
That's what I got is 425 gas. My car starts knocking start
making knocking sound and if I get this gas over here, I run
out of gas faster, but my car still it's drives smoother.

(47:54):
You know, so so. It's like, I mean with, I mean,
with that being said, even now, like when I look at my budget,
when I go grocery shopping, I look at like, OK, I want that.
I don't mind spending money on something that is good that's
going to last me. You know what I'm saying?
Like I look at boxes of cereal nowadays, they have like the the

(48:17):
big box, like here it's like 7-8bucks, you know what I'm saying?
A Megabox. Like the like the family size
boxes is like that high, but even like you're the regular
size, it's like $7.00. It's like $657.
It used to never be. It used to be like what, 399,

(48:38):
four dollars, maybe 4-50. But I see that the price of
cereal has gone up. So I think to myself, like, OK,
am I going to I, I don't have a huge family.
I mean, it's, you know, me and my dad, we do eat cereal.
So it's like, OK, I could spend this $8 on the cereal and it'll
last us a good week or a week and a half even.

(49:00):
We don't even eat that much cereal.
But if we want cereal and it's there, OK, there's the, that's
the value of having it last long.
But I've even had the regular size boxes of cereal and I'm not
going to lie, sometimes if I don't feel like cooking, that's
dinner and that lasts me at least like 3 days if I'm just
being lazy, you know what I'm saying?

(49:20):
So what I, what I try to do now,and I do this with everything,
if it's money involved, you know, back in the day when I was
trushing it and making a ton of money, I didn't give a fuck.
Oh, I got money, you know? But now it's like when it's all
said and done based on the billsthat I'm paying and then based
on the needs versus the wants, you know, hey, I need a new

(49:43):
laptop or hey, I winter's coming.
I need some timberlands. I have to make sure that I'm
looking at every dollar that's being spent.
Because what I don't want to do is I don't want to fall into a
trap because, you know, our economy right now, it's, you
know, everything is going up. And I want to make sure that my

(50:04):
head is above water if because of certain items that are going
up, especially in the food market, you know, and especially
my bills, you know, everything has gone up, had noticed.
So I don't want to, I don't wantto be one of those people that
are like, oh, when did this happen?

(50:26):
No, I watched the news. I, I, I read a lot of articles,
you know, when I'm at work online, something that strikes
me, I read it because I want to know again, you want to know
what's going on. You don't want to be surprised.
Some of my customers, they act like the the head's been in the
sand, like, oh, we didn't know that was going to go into no,
no, everybody did. You just was you just the ones

(50:49):
that was hoping that I'm going to do you this favor.
It's almost like, it's almost like you're going to have to.
OK, so back in the day when I was single 20 years ago, let's
say 20 years ago, right? Just got out the military,

(51:09):
single living with living with acouple of buddies, you know.
But we spent all our money partying, right?
We spent all our money going to Canada and on alcohol.
But we knew how to stretch our money big time.

(51:34):
Like we used to shop we would make 5 bucks last the three of
us all week long. OK, So what we used to do, they
used to sell, they used to sell hot dogs for $0.89 a pack,
right? OK, Yeah.

(51:55):
Yeah, so we used to buy 2-3 packs of hot dogs, right?
We used to buy so, and this is this was this was something
crafty that we used to do with the bread.
So with the bread, we bought bread one time, but we can make

(52:16):
that last all month. OK, OK, So what we used to do
with that, we would still buy the bread.
Buy a loaf of bread and you eat the bread halfway through the
loaf. Right after you get halfway
through the loaf, there's a seamon the side where where they
where they close the bread up and it's the same on the side.

(52:39):
Take away the blade, slice that,take the bread back and say, hey
dude, I got I bought this bread.I got home and it fucking came
open on me. They give you another loaf of
bread. So we would do that at two or
three different, but you can't do it at the same place all the
time. So we had like four or five

(53:00):
different places that we will always eat it down to about 1/4
loaf of bread. Put, put, take a razor blade to
the side, go get another loaf ofbread.
Then you buy a a bag of potatoes.
Bag of potatoes was $0.89 a bag for a 10 LB bag.
This, like I said, this was 20 years ago. 89 cents, $0.89 or

(53:24):
$0.99 for a 2010 LB pack bag of potatoes.
So that made baked potatoes, French fries, you know, mashed
potatoes. I mean, you, you had your choice
and it, and it, like I said, it used to last.
We made that last. It was like 5 bucks that I've
spent so far. You see what I'm saying?

(53:45):
And we, and we always made that last.
And people were like, dude, how the, how in the hell are you
guys surviving? And, and you know what else was
pancake mix? Pancake mix was always a a go
to. It was always.
It's a quick and easy meal, veryquick.
Make yourself a cup of. Plate especially just when you

(54:08):
have to just add water. Ones where you don't have any
other ingredients, just add water.
Perfect, you can do that. And then so you can live off of
that. And then you can take one of
your hot dogs, dip it in that batter, then fry that up.
There you go, corn dog. You see what I'm saying?
I mean, but like I said, but when you are a bachelor, you

(54:33):
learn to stretch that dollar. And that's what that's what I
meant when I said it's like we got to start reverting back to
ways to make your money last or stretch that dollar because
things are getting so high. It's like, how in the heck?

(54:53):
I mean, because I see they're making, I mean, they're making
what's these veggie burgers? And they're making meat that's
not meat, right? And I'm like, OK, first of all,
I've always been a meat eater, but they got so many steroids
and so many hormones going through these, through these,

(55:14):
this meat, a lot of it. I mean, you eat it and it don't
even taste like meat no more. You know, it's like, what in the
world is this? It's supposed to be a state.
And, and, and it's like 3 times the price because it's the word
organic is on the package, you know, on some of these.

(55:35):
And it's, you know, kind of likecircling back to what you were
talking about as far as like stretching your dollar.
I remember I was at the grocery store and I was of course,
shopping and there was this guy and his girl.
They were pushing a car togetherand a guy grabs, we're in the
meat aisle and he grabs, he's looking at the hot dogs like

(55:59):
the, and you know, they're looking at the prices and all
that. And I'm just kind of like, I'm
on the other side looking at prices for ribs.
I'm I'm, I'm looking to get ribsand I'm looking at the prices
and I'm just like, OK, well, based on what I brought my food
budget, I'm like, I've got to afford to get this, this, that,

(56:20):
whatever. So the guy grabs a huge, I think
it's, it's like ballpark Frank'sthe 40 pack.
And it was like, I think and he looked at the price and he was
like, that's a lot for 40. I mean, it was AIII forget what

(56:43):
the cost was, but it was. 30 bucks it was like 2999.
I know what it was, but. It was, it was, it was, it was,
yeah, I think Hebrew Nationals was the brand and, and it was
like, it was like a pack. It was like a jam pack of 40.
And he was like, damn, he was like, he was like, that's a lot

(57:05):
of money for 40 hot dogs, you know?
And then he's looking at the like the smaller packages.
And it was like, you know, it was like way cheaper.
But he was like, but for 40, he was like, this could last.
This could do that. But then I'm like, yeah, but I
took my, I took my phone and I did the math on how many hot

(57:28):
dogs in there versus how much the price was.
And I believe it came up to like350 a hot dog or something like
that. And I'm like, they sell slightly
bigger hot dogs in Manhattan on the corner for 5 bucks.

(57:49):
And they're like, yeah, doing the math.
And he was like that. And and then I think there was
like AI want to say like $1.25 difference between the hot dog
you can get on the street and per hot dog.
Yeah, it was almost like a 30. Like, I think you were right.
It's like a 2999 pack. Yeah, 40.

(58:12):
And I'm just like, and then God forbid, are you going to eat
that many? I mean, like, how many kids do
you guys have? Like I'm sitting there, right?
Because at that point, at the atthat point you'll have to
separate and freeze separate. Them.
And divide them up and start freezing them because otherwise
you will have a bunch of hot dogs that's gone bad.

(58:33):
Yeah, So I'm sitting there beinglike, you know, I'm not trying
to get into your business or anything because I'm kind of,
I'm kind of curious on how this 40 hot dog situation is going to
play. How many kids do you have?
Are you guys going to be entertaining?
It's still summertime, so you might want to bring the ones you
don't eat. I don't know how I feel about
people bringing open hot dogs toa grill, but you might be, you

(58:57):
might be made fun of like a little while.
Hey, remember, remember you guysbrought home, you know, brought
to the, the grill open hot dogs,you know, but it's just like,
but then they ended up just not getting them because they're
like, you know what, you make a point and then the guy turns
around and he's like, oh, that'sa lot of ribs you're getting.

(59:18):
Do you live alone? I tell you, I'm like, yeah, no,
me and my father, we're going totear these ribs up.
Like, don't you worry. I'm like, it was like a huge
rack of ribs. And I got a, it was a sale.
It was like a huge rack of ribs for like 999.
And I bought 292. Huge.

(59:39):
Racks. Well, yeah, I would have.
Yeah. And the thing about it is it's
like, you know, my dad, but he, because, again, he's in charge
of the cooking. You've all let me get near the
stove to cook for us. He wants to be in charge of
cooking. So he's kind of a control freak
when it comes to the kitchen. So I'm like, OK, if I buy the
food or, you know, whatever and you're cooking, OK, That, that

(01:00:03):
that's a great trade off. That means I could just sit and,
you know, sit around and do nothing while you cook.
And it's a great arrangement. You know what I'm saying?
It's, it's such a great arrangement.
So but yeah, it's sat in my refrigerator for like 3 weeks.
Because I didn't feel like cooking it.

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He was like, OK, let's I'll, I'll cook it later, later.
And then I was on my way to do agig out of state.
And I go into the refrigerator and get me some water coming
from work to pack to leave. And he's thawing it out.
And I'm like, you know, I'm leaving, right?
Like by the time you cook this, you're going to have to, you're
going to save yourself, right? Like I'm, I'm going away.

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There better be some cooked ribswhen I get back.
You know what I'm saying? Like the?
Way he was doing, he was waiting.
He was like, yeah. Yeah, like, and, and, and I
probably like a lot of meat in bulk because it, like I buy
Curry. I, I buy goat meat and it lasts
us like 3 days, like from the time that he cooks it.

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And it's a lot. It's like 5 lbs of meat between,
you know, two people for like $25 for like 5 lbs.
And it's a lot of food, like theway he cooks it and he cooks all
of it. So it's like, good, I'm going to
eat tonight. I'm going to take something to
work. When I come home from work, I'm
going to eat more of it. And there's still a ton of it

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left. So I did that one time and it's
been in the refrigerator for a week.
And I'm thinking every time I come home, he's going to make
it. He's going to make he knows I
like it. It's like my one of my favorite
Caribbean dishes, Curry go, Oh, he didn't make it.

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OK, I'll just make a salad or something.
Because he's also monitoring my my meat intake.
Also like, hey, you had steak yesterday.
Sounds like he's monitoring youryour schedule of when you leave
it. That too.
So I'm, I, I'm packing for a wedding that I went to three

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weeks ago in North Carolina. And I come home and I smell the
food and I'm like, oh, he's cooking, but I'm not going to be
there to enjoy all. So I eat.
I take some to work with me, even though I'm flying out later

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that day. I figure I'll and I'm leaving
half a day from work. I'll eat this and then I'll be
full for like the rest of the day.
I don't have to worry about eating at the airport.
When I land, I'll have somethinglighter because this Curry
goat's going. To be in me.
Because when I eat, eat and I I pack it in.

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I ended up having fried chicken leftovers from the day before
and I don't want that to spoil. So I ate that for breakfast and
I left my Curry goat purposely in the refrigerator at my job,
thinking to myself, when I get back, I'll eat it.

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Here's the problem. I'm leaving Wednesday night.
No, I'm sorry, I'm leaving Thursday.
I'm leaving Thursday in the daytime from Queens going out to
Newark Liberty. As I am waiting in line at the

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TSA, I figured, you know what? Let me Google how long you can
have goat meat in the refrigerator before it spoils.
And according to what I've researched, you can't leave it
in the you can leave it in the refrigerator for no more than
four days before it spoils. And I'm like fuck, because I'm

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not coming back till Monday and by then the goat is going to be
bad. So I'm in Durham.
It's Friday. I'm we're getting, we're trying
on our tuxedos for the wedding and I'm like, you know what?

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I call up one of my Co workers and I'm like, hey, since I know
you eat goat and your, your family's Jamaican, I got Curry
goat in the refrigerator. I don't want it to spoil.
You can have it. The dude is like, Are you sure,
man? I'm like, trust me, I don't want
it to go to waste. I get very agitated when food

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goes to waste, especially something like Curry goat.
I don't mind, you know, the money doesn't matter.
I just want someone to enjoy it and it for it to be eaten.
I'm getting fitted for my soup. And my buddy, the groom, my
buddy John, he's like, hey Jamal, you're getting a call

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from Andrew. He's one of my Co workers.
And I'm like, Oh yeah, pass me my phone.
He pass me my phone through the curtain.
And and Andrew's like, bro, yourdad could fucking cook.
He was like, man, yo, because mydad added ginger in the food and

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Curry. There was a cake to it.
It was nice. And he was like, yo, man, like,
I can't believe you left that inthe refrigerator.
And and he was like, yeah, man, when you next time you talk to
your dad, let him know that yo, he can cook.
He cook that I'm like, yeah, allby himself.
So after I get fitted for the for the tuxedo, I go outside and

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I'm walking up and down like around Duke University and I
call my dad and I'm like, hey dad, one of my Co workers
thought the Curry goat that you made was amazing.
He liked it. And you know, my dad, he was
very like, oh man, he really liked it.
He's like, yeah, man. He even like I didn't tell him
what was in the food, but he ateit.
He was like, yeah, he he was like I sensor hints of ginger

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and this the seasoning was so good and this that whatever.
I I kid you not, after I fit, I got fit up in that tuxedo.
I spoke to my dad for an hour about about that just.
And he was just like, almost like, yeah.
Say that again. What?
What? Exactly.
Did he say because, you know, heneeded that ego boost?
So I'm just like, no, I'm going to let you have it because I'm

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glad we didn't waste food. And he's like, yo, next time
your dad cooks goat and you're going on another trip like a
comedy show or whatever, Yo, I got you, man.
I'll take care of that for you. So my my dad can throw down in
the kitchen. He's Caribbean.
He better know how nice. Nice.
Who? Who taught you how to cook?
Your mom or your dad or both? It's a little bit of both,

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actually. I cannot cook as good as both of
them. If I'm to be honest, especially
Caribbean cuisines. I am not that good at it.
I've watched my dad. I never watched my dad cook for
five years. And even before that, he's
known. He he always brags to me that he
taught my mom how to cook because when they were kids, my

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dad and his brothers and sisters, when they were in their
teens, they were cooking. Oh yeah, yeah, they were.
They were cooking since they were knee high to a duck.
So my mom, when my mom and my dad dated when they were in high
school, you know, my dad taught my, well, my dad claimed that he
taught my mom how to cook, But I'm like, I have a grandmother

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that throws that in the kitchen too.
And my grandmother on my mom's side and my mom, they kind of
have like the same techniques when it comes to cooking
Caribbean food. I I like my grandmother's more
because it's more because she lives in Trinidad, so it's more
authentic and what? What would you call like?

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What would be a real authentic Trinidadi meal?
I would probably say Curry chicken, like we're really big
on Curry's. So I would say like a Stew
chicken or a Curry chicken. You know, I'll look because
there are some, some foods that people think that oh, this is

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Jamaican when it's actually, no,it's Caribbean.
It's Trinidad specifically or Jamaican specifically, so, but
at the same time, a lot of that gets shared in that region in
that culture. So I mean, you could walk if I
walked into a Caribbean restaurant, I mean, first of

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all, I have all the flags of ourislands that, you know, in the
Caribbean, but I couldn't tell you like, oh, this is a guy.
I mean, in some cases I could say, oh, this is a Guyanese
dish. Oh, this is a Haitian dish.
This is a, you know, a trendy dish or a Jamaican dish.
It's, it's, you know, because, you know, I left Trinidad when I

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was a kid, but I was, the culture was still embedded in me
because my mom still cooked Caribbean even when we lived in
Texas. Even when we, you know, even in
even today, when me and my brother go visit her when she's
cooking, you know, she does it in that style, in that way.
So But yeah, everything is, it'salmost like everything is

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borrowed. I wouldn't say borrowed, but
everything is. Oh, Trini, Jamaicans know how to
make Curry goat. That's kind of like their
specialty. Trinidad's going to try to make
it their way, you know, So everything, everything kind of
gets tossed like a hot potato, like, you know, but as far as
I'm concerned, it's all Caribbean to me.

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But so, so I, I, I never really tried to make that distinction
for the most part. I have a Co worker at work.
He's, he was born in Trinidad aswell.
So if I say, oh, I'm going to get double S or whenever from a
Jamaican spy. Oh, no, I know.
I know a training place where they made the real treaty, you
know, like he knows where to getthe authentic stuff, you know?

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So that's always good to know. You know, you you want to know
about your culture, you want to know, you know.
Yeah, you want to definitely be aligned with that and in the
know. So.
And I try to do that. But as far as cooking, I wish
that I could just invite a date up and be like, I'm going to

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cook you something you've probably never had in your life
and then just, you know, crush it in the kitchen.
I mean, like, what The good, Thegood.
The good thing that I kind of feel as far as that goes is I
could cook. So it's not like I'm not, I, I
am, you know, culinary illiterate.
You know, there's some things that I've cooked and I love

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using cookbooks sometimes to, todo that because it shows to know
that I know my way around the kitchen.
I know how to measure. And, you know, if I see
something that that will tickle my fancy, I would try that.
And it's usually Italian foods that I do that in.
I love cooking Italian. Yeah, Italian seems to have
like, it's a really, I don't know, I don't want to say easy

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way of cooking, but I think thatthey have some really
interesting flavors. You can get some real good
flavors in there. And you got to, you know, it's a
comfort food, too. It is, yeah.
When I started, I started cooking Italian food like, and
then what I would try to do is Iwould like find a meal and I
would cook it like twice in one week.

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And then I would try to use, to cook it again without using the
book. But in some cases with Italian
food, it's a lot of spices you got to buy.
There's a lot of ingredients, you know, as far as prep it
goes, you know, But you know, I,I tried this Italian dish.
It was like this, it was like this spicy linguini that I made.

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And I had to, I remember I went to QFC and I had to buy like
jalapenos, you know, I had to cut a jalapeno.
Yeah, I mean, it was, it was a spicy chicken.
Oh, I remember exactly what it was.
It was a spicy penne chicken linguine thing that we that I

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made and I had to crush up, likecrush up jalapenos.
And it, it was the green sauce that I was making.
But you know, like the the regular penne.
But it was like that with jalapenos and the seeds were in
it. And yeah, I made that and it
was, yeah, it was very, very spicy.

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Yeah, seeds in, Yeah. Yeah, it was very spicy, but it
was really good. And I was excited because I love
spicy food, but I've never really had like crazy spicy
Italian food like that. So, So, yeah, I, I tried that
and it was, it was, it was, it was one of my, you know, as far

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as, you know, culinary victorieswhen it comes to like trying to
impress somebody, trying to impress a Filipino girl that,
you know, how to cook Italian food.
I think that that would be better you you would take a
different ethnicity of food thanthe kind of food.
Like you wouldn't want to try and impress a Filipino girl with
Filipino food because chances are you're not going.

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To do it, you got a good point there.
But if it's a black dude doing it, I think it's almost like,
oh, he knows my people, he knowsmy culture, he knows my food.
I may not have to worry about making punsin and lumpia.
Oh yeah, they would. Do it.
I got him to do it for me and and again, I got to be good.

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I got to be like my mom made it this way good.
You know what I'm saying? So it's like you can't just
throw some, you know, some random stuff together.
No, it's got to be like, oh, this tastes just like how mom
used to make when I was married.Believe it or not, the first, I
would say the first year and change into my marriage.

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And I'm not even trying to soundlike an asshole.
I did not eat my wife's cooking or much of it.
And I think it was because I, I had like this, nobody cooks
better than my mom mentality, you know what I'm saying?
And yeah. And it was just like, and not to
say that she couldn't cook, she could cook, but it was just kind

(01:14:56):
of like, Oh my God, I, you know,it was one of those things where
I had to, I had to pride myself from that thinking and be like,
to this woman, she's going to bemaking these meals for a long
time. You know what I'm saying?
For as long as we're going to bemarried, she's going to be

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making these meals. But I did a lot of the cook.
I did a lot of the cooking. So it was just like, and she did
not mind that at all. I was like, look, what if I did
the cooking? What if I did like 90% of the
cooking? Yeah.
Yeah, so I did a lot of the cooking, but again, which was
weird and sort of hypocritical because I wasn't cooking as good

(01:15:37):
as my mom, you know what I'm saying?
But you know, but, and it's justlike that was one of those
things that I had to learn, likebeing in relationships with
women that like to cook or know how to cook.
It's like, look, if you know howto cook and you like to cook,
hey, that's a blessing. Most women don't.
I should say most some women don't even want to.

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I don't even think, oh, before Igo home and let me see if Jamal
wants to have dinner and what would he want to have This, that
whatever I'll do like a shoppinglist or whatever, but nine times
on it. But but now it's like, if I'm
dating a girl and she's got mad cooking skills.
Oh, yeah, it's on. Yeah.
Like, I will not argue with you.Cook to your heart's content.

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And. And yeah.
Because again, you know, most women, especially independent
women who kind of don't have thetime to act, you know, who would
probably stop at a place and getsomething to eat before going
home. If they have a man, that's when
they cook. Like, you know, you got Romeo,
you got a guy that's willing to cook and like, hold it down.
It's almost like, OK, I got somebody that could, you know,

(01:16:46):
be that buffer between you wanting food and then having it
there by the time you get there or or what have you, you know,
so that's you don't. Complain.
You don't complain you. You eat what's put in front of
you and say thank you so much for taking the time to go
shopping to buy the stuff and then cook it.

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Luckily Romeo is a really good cook, so that helps.
But yeah. I'm a control freak.
He's a control freak in the kitchen.
But it sounds like that's your that's that's what your problem
was. Jamal sounds like he was a
control freak in the kitchen. Yeah, well.
Yeah, probably that too. But also, you know, my wife, at

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the time she worked, she would come home very late because her
job, she was a switchboard operator.
And so luckily the cuts, you know, there was a company card I
would take her from Midtown Manhattan to way out in Queens.
So by the time I was always homebefore she was.
So, you know, by the time she got home, you know, a meal of

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some sort was cooked. And then we would like, you
know, sit down and watch like, you know, TV while, you know,
whatever, talk about our day on what Ave.
So there was always that. But because I I never found it
fair that OK, because of her schedule, you know, she would go

(01:18:16):
into work like later in the afternoon, be there till about 8
or not well, be there till about7-8 or nine, get home trying to
get through, you know, drivers going through traffic and.
And then? To go through a long day and
then not be able to eat or me athome, not doing anything because

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I didn't feel like, you know, soI always felt like, you know,
there's got to be, I know we talk about this all the time, a
bit of give and take in the relationship.
You know, what are you offering?What are you offering to the
relationship that's going to end?
That it's going to enrich it to a point where it's like
somebody's not holding the entire mode.
Oh, not only am I, you should. Never be 1 sided anyways, you

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should never be 1 sided. You guys are when you when
you're in a relationship, you guys should be a team and if one
of y'all are out working, the other one should be at home
cooking. At least have a meal for that
person that's been out busting their hump all day.
You know, it's not 5050 and I'm going to say right now a lot of

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people make the mistake of saying a relationship is 5050.
It's not. It's a hundred 100.
You both have to give it 100%, right?
There's going to be times when you can't like, you know, like
when I was sick, I was sick. I couldn't do anything but
sleep, you know, and don't expect me to do anything.
But there's just, I really thinkthat the difference between

(01:19:48):
being when we really grow up, when we grow up is when we
stopped saying, well, I would have done it, but nobody asked
me to look, it's. God, yeah.
Asked me to do it. Why should anybody you know, and
I hear this, I hear this a lot like in failed relationships and
stuff. The guy is saying, well I would

(01:20:08):
have done it, but she never asked me.
Well why the fuck should she have to ask you?
Aren't you an adult? Can you not see that the dishes
are dirty? Can you not see the garbage is
full? Can you not see the toilets
here? The I mean the room needs to be
clapped, vacuumed, whatever. If she has to ask, you are not
an adult. That's that's just what it is.

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If she has to ask, she's your mom.
Exactly. There you go.
If she has to do that, she is, You're not fucking her.
She is getting your clothes off for school the next day.
That's what it is. You know, I was actually, I was
on the bus the other day and there was this young couple that

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got on and they sat across the aisle next to me and they were
in an argument. They were already arguing while
we were waiting for the bus. And the guy kept saying, can you
keep your, can you keep your voice down?
You know, no, no, I'm not going to keep my voice down because,
you know, I'm dating a boy, you know.
So what I gathered from the conversation was this very young

(01:21:14):
couple. And when I say young, I'm
probably thinking like 20. Between 22 and 25, the girl was
very agitated at, I'm assuming, a litany of immature things her
boyfriend was doing or not doingbecause she was saying things
like, all you had to do was get the paper, sign it, and we could

(01:21:39):
have had that apartment. So apparently the boyfriend
dropped the ball somewhere and she was like, they were having
like this argument. She was not speaking super loud
where everyone was in her business, but she was like using
her indoor voice but a couple ofdecibels louder.
So I can hear everything she's saying and this dude is kind of

(01:22:01):
embarrassed and I'm. Looking at her.
First of all, smoking hot. Smoking hot, 20 something year
old. I don't care what the dude was,
but you do not let something like this happen to a girl like
that because another guy is going to do what you failed to

(01:22:22):
not do or failed to do. And she's going to be with him
and you're you're just going to be that guy.
You know, she was like, you know, I come home from work and
what did I see you doing? Playing video games.
I don't mind that you play videogames because you work.
You know you're working and that's your way to unwind.
I allow you that time. But if I'm asking you to do

(01:22:44):
something and then I have to come back to you an hour later
and ask you again, where is the man in this situation?
I feel like I have to do everything.
I feel like I'm the fucking *** in this relationship.
Like this is what she said. Like I'm, you know, in this
relationship, I'm like, why do I?

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I don't even need you, you know what I'm saying?
Because I'm doing 100% of the work so we can get a better
place to live because I can't bewith you and your friends at
your place. You know what I'm saying?
So what I gathered from this is you have a woman, very
beautiful, intelligent woman with an idea and a goal so she

(01:23:27):
can, you know, better live with her boyfriend.
As retarded as it seemed when itcame to tasks that she.
Had laid out. For him, I need you to do this.
I need you to do that. But what I would gather from
that relationship is she kept repeating herself and she's

(01:23:50):
dating a child. Yeah, Yep.
You know, so, and, and, and that's not the first time I've
heard or, and, and this is something I witnessed with my
own eyes and I, and as I'm looking at them or kind of
overhearing and kind of side eying them.
I was, I it, it put a lot of stuff into perspective about my,

(01:24:13):
you know, relationships or even my friendships for that matter.
You know what I'm saying? Like not forget relationship, my
my friendships, you know, like knowing that somebody is going
through something and picking upthe phone, being like, hey, man,
you all right? You didn't ask me to do that,
but at the same time you're a friend of mine.

(01:24:36):
We we have a relationship as a friend.
It's not as intimate or lack of intimacy with as the couple that
I was talking about. But at the same.
Time. It's like, hey, look, even in
friendships I've got to count onpeople.
Right. And it is a form of like even
your friendships is a form of a relationship.
Everything that we do is a form of a relationship and how we

(01:24:58):
tender to that relationship, including our job.
You know, we have a relationshipwith our job, We have a
relationship with the our Co workers, our our friends, our
family. And then there's that deeper
relationship that we have with our partner.
But it's still like you, you still have to have a certain

(01:25:19):
amount of give and take, and youstill have to have that
appreciation and you still have to tender that relationship
because if you don't tend to it,you're going to lose it.
Yeah, I and, and even, you know,as comedians, if I, if you guys
are booking a show or if I'm booking a show and I'm like, OK,
got the show lined up. Everything is going well.

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Like even earlier this month hadthe show booked out and
everybody except for one comic showed, didn't call, didn't show
up. He's on the lineup.
When I put the, the, the the poster out there, I tagged him

(01:26:02):
this, that whatever, and I didn't want to perform.
But I'm like, I don't have a comic that I could call because
I had the lineup set up and I'm like, look, this guy had not
told me it was going to come or not whatever.
But I'm not going to chase you. I'm not going to call you.
I'm not going to shoot you a message.
You knew the show was on there. I booked you this, that,
whatever, no call, no show. I had them going on no problem.

(01:26:24):
But I saw a comic on Facebook, made a post about comics.
Who no call, no show. And it's the same comic.
So I'm complaining about, oh, I don't get booked because of
gatekeeping. It's like, no, you don't get
booked because you're a piece ofshit who don't know how to call
people and say, hey, even lie tome, I'll take a fucking lie.

(01:26:46):
Hey, you know I got stripped through drinking from a water
fountain. It doesn't matter.
It doesn't. I got to be able to make it,
period. End of story.
I don't even need to make up an elaborate story.
I'm not, you know, sorry. But but even that give me that
much like I said, I don't even take a lie, but give me that
much. So what I So what I usually do

(01:27:09):
now it's I'm like, Hey, look again, even though the if we
weren't friends or whatever, I have no problem saying, hey, you
know what? I will never book you on the
show. Yeah, exactly.
Because that's this is the tip of the iceberg, you know what I
mean? I, I will not, I will not.
And and I don't even stress. It's not even a huge stress.
It's like he's not here. OK, I got a back up plan.

(01:27:30):
We always have a back up plan, But but also the ones that did
show up, that has never worked with me before.
We, you know, we create a relationship, like a business
relationship, you know. Hey man, thanks for having me.
This was great. This was fun.
You need another. Hey, I'm here if you need me.

(01:27:51):
I like to hear that, you know what I'm saying?
Because then I like real reliability is very important.
And again, going back to that couple, she did not feel like
she could rely on her partner. It wasn't trust that that trust
was lost. You know, and and and not, but

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nothing. Even though he was trying to be
like, look, man, I don't know, you're trying to first of all,
the, the he was trying to defendhimself.
And in my mind, I'm like, you have no case.
You should just shut the fuck upand listen at this point.
This is a teachable moment. Yeah.
And I wanted to be like, I'm sorry, I've been listening to
your conversation for like 1/2 an hour now.
I must interject as a 40 year old man that's been in

(01:28:34):
relationships, dude, you're fucking up.
And even I want to invite her out to dinner, you know what I'm
saying? But nonetheless, it's like, I
mean, relationships that I was in in my 20s are very different
from the relationship that I'm in even like at my age.
Because again, you should never have to ask me to do something.

(01:28:57):
You being in a relationship, your job is not.
Also, like you said, it's 100% on both sides, but you're
supposed to look out for traps for the other, for your partner.
Oh right, let's not do that. I got a better idea.
Nothing wrong with that, you know what I'm saying?
Agree, agree. You know, the other thing is, is

(01:29:19):
that, you know, I mean, and I'm going to say I, I, I need to, to
change that. You, there are going to be times
when you have to ask your partner to do something because
maybe, you know, it's not, you know, you, you do.
I also think that it's reasonable to say something
like, Hey, honey, no rush, but you know, can you sometime today

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or sometime this week or, you know, do this because I'm not
going to have time to do that. But if I ask you to do
something, I think it's pretty much implied that, you know,
within the hour. Is that fair to say?
Is that fair to say within the hour?
Like, I get it, you're watching TV or you're playing a video

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game or whatever. Hey, when you're finished with
that, when you wrap that up. When you have a moment.
Yes, when you. Have can you do this?
Can you do this I or I need to do I need when you because after
you do that, I can do this, you know, or you know, and that's
part of that you that learning curve of stuff.
And I think that that's something that we as kids,

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that's what makes us adults. When we go from being a kid,
we're used to having our parentsask us to do something and then
going and doing it eventually. But I think that that was
something that, you know, like, really, that's one of the
reasons why, you know, I can think of relationships that have
ended for me because of shit like, can you do this?

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And then? Can you do this?
Can you do this? I'm getting really fucking tired
of asking you and I just go do it myself.
Who? I was going to do that.
Really. See, that's the difference
between the between the way you was raised, the way I was
raised. My parents had asked me to do
shit. They told me to do it.
Yeah, yeah. Yeah, you know what I'm saying?

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I mean, it was never an axe. Our parents never asked us to do
shit. Clean your room and I'm not
going to tell you again and theywon't, they won't tell you
again. And then and then my grandmother
would. She told me to clean my room one
night. I'd never forget it.
Never forget it. She said I told you to clean

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your room. I am grandma.
And I went to bed and she woke me up at 3:00 in the morning
with an ass whooping. And then after the ass whooping
made me clean the whole house, clean the whole house, sweep,
mop and wax my kitchen floors and my living room floor.

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Clean up your room and clean my whole house up.
And you better not be late for school.
I start at 3 AMI finished at 5:30.
I had to be I finished at 6:30. I had to be at school at 70.
I got 20 minutes to sleep. Maybe I tried to anyways, but

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that was in study hall. Yeah, like I remember coming
home, you know, me and my brother would come home from
school and you know, my mom would already be like, OK, you
do the bathroom, you do the kitchen.
And before we did our homework or what have you, like we had
chores that we had to do. So it's like and and and again,

(01:32:37):
like, yes, our mom is going to tell us what to do when we got
home or whatever. But at the same time, there's a
reason for that, you know, because, you know, even my, my
work area at my, I keep a very nice semi tidy work area.
You know, we keep the house clean here, you know, we don't
leave dishes in the sink overnight or whatever.

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Or if my dad cooks, I put, I putthe food away so he doesn't, you
know, so he doesn't have to do it, you know, put the food away,
wash the dishes, wash the necessary stuff, kind of like
tidy up a little bit. But at the same time, it's like,
I cannot live in a dirty house. So I make sure that, you know,

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once a once every couple of weeks or so.
I I, I take ammonia and I ammonia the entire house.
You know what I'm saying, like clean the bathrooms or what have
you. I clean everything.
I don't, we don't usually have like too many guests.
I come over, but at the same time, it's good for me because
you know, IA clean house. I don't have to worry about

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getting sick. I'm not missing days of work.
So I make sure that, you know, we get, you know, my, our niece
comes over, make sure we keep a tiny house.
And if she sees me cleaning, it only goes to show.
Oh, you know what? I could see why he does that.
It's it's like not really training, but she's learning.
Oh, grown men cleaning houses. It's it's a thing, you know,

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it's not just babies doing it, you know, So it's just like some
of the stuff that my mom that I grew up doing in junior high or
high school, it's stuff that I was doing since I was a kid.
I come home and like I have thishabit where if I'm cooking, I'm
cleaning as I'm cooking. So when I'm done eating, the

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only thing I have to do while I'm savouring the meal that I
cook is just wash a knife of fork and A and A and a pot and a
plate after I, and, and the pot that I've cooked it.
But the majority of the work is done.
I've already clean. I, I clean as I go.
So that saves me time. I don't want to be groggy,

(01:34:53):
tired. And then I'm washing dishes, a
bunch of dishes at 9:00 PM when all I want to do is just sit
back, relax and like, you know, watch a streaming, whatever, you
know what I'm saying? Like I, I want to, I want to
relax and unwind. But sometimes, you know, there's
things you got to do. You got to take a shower, you
got to do this. There's things you got to do in
between. But then when you're like done

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relaxing and you guys have like food or whatever, you're
relaxed. It's time that you're like, I've
earned this time. So yeah, I.
You know, that's one of the things, things I have to say is
I think one of the sexiest things I've ever seen in my life
was a man cleaning the toilet. That was like, Oh, my God, When

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I was younger, I was like, Oh myGod, that is girl, girl, this
man is cleaning the toilet. What?
Yeah. And cleaning it properly, not
just like, swirling shit, like actually spraying it down with
chemicals, scrubbing it, then wiping it all down to make sure
that it's all clean. My God.

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It was like, like it was such anaphrodisiac.
Like seriously. No, I, I, you know what?
And you're not wrong about that.One of my last relationships, I
would spend a lot of time at this girl's house and I would, I
would do her dishes just like I would just do her dishes.
And she would be like, you don'thave to do the dishes.

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And I'm like, yeah, I do becauseshe works these crazy hours.
And I'm like, if I don't do the dishes and I come back the next
time, there's going to be twice as much dishes in here.
So I'll do the dishes and kind of like wipe down like the sink
and the stove area. And she'll never has been there
by the time where she didn't thank me or she did not notice

(01:36:41):
that there was a clean part of her house that wasn't clean
before she left and went to workor whatever she would see, you
know, or, or, or you know, I, I,I remember one time I cleaned
the litter box. I, I, I, I like this cat and we
bought it. So I was like, you know what I

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do, I'm going to clean the litter box.
And I was like scooping whatever, refreshed it, put it
in. And then she comes in and she
sees me. She's like, are you cleaning the
litter box? And I'm like, yeah, I figured,

(01:37:25):
you know, why not? I I don't usually clean this
litter box, but it And she was like, it just words failed her.
You know, I'm like I'm. Like in a way, I'm kind of.
Really doing it for him, but also I'm doing it for like, oh
wait, it's like, look, you know,I'm not I am not too big to

(01:37:51):
clean a Kitty litter box. You know what I'm saying?
I like animals. I like cats.
So you know, I was just mind you, the cat is right there
looking at me like make sure youget every like make sure I want
to step in there and just feel the litter between my paws you.

(01:38:13):
Know what I'm saying? And as soon as he got done
cleaning, he went in and took a shit, didn't he?
Actually, no, I, I put him in there just so he could know that
it was clean. But all you felt all I think he
peed in there because all you heard was like, and they just
walked out like you did good, you did good, But I kid you not,
Cat, cat said that right there, eyeball at me.

(01:38:34):
Like look, bro, you know you're you're taking one for the team.
I know you. I know you're in love with her,
but you know you're really taking one for the team
compadre. Yeah, yeah, I I know that our
cats every single time Romeo cleans their cat box.

(01:38:55):
Oh, I don't even be finished yet.
And. They're climbing in there to
take a shift. Oh really?
That's disrespectful. You know, well, I think they do
it. I think they do it because they
know it flushes itself. So that's like, that's like
that's like, you know, you cleaning the toilet and Marianne
just walks on by and is like, oh, I got to go just so she can

(01:39:17):
watch you continue cleaning it because she has that, you know,
fixation on that. Well, it's got, I got those
automatic flushers, you know, the, so the, so the soon as the
cat gets out, it starts, it starts spinning and, and so and
I think they're like, oh, I wantto be the first one in before,

(01:39:38):
before the smell gets in here again.
Hair bad. So my, my, my buddy John from
Durham, my high school mate, he has five cats.
Wow, 5 cats, two dogs. I mean, let me tell you
something, I envy those animals.Fucking envy the shit out of

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them. I mean, and they're, they're
very friendly. You know, whenever I'm over
there at their place, I wake up and there's a cat in my bed.
You know what I'm saying? Like I, I kind of feel like I
wake up and there's. And the cat's like, look, I've
been protecting you while you was asleep, even though there's
nothing to be worried about, butI'm here for the pets if you

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want to pet me. But I just want you to know,
like he has like this one black cat named Shadow.
And I think he's, he's one of myfavorites.
But I, I one time I woke up and I see shadow is like sitting
there and kind of like underneath my like by my belly.
And I'm just like, you know, like just over the over the

(01:40:41):
covers, just laying there and, you know, I wake up and he's
looking at me like everything good.
Can I get you something? Do you need like a moist
towelette or something? Like what's going on?
You want me to put the toothbrush?
You want me to get your toothpaste ready on your
toothbrush? I don't got thumbs, but I could
see what I could do. But it's like, and I always
thought like, you know, because I still have to, I still am

(01:41:06):
contemplating on getting them a wedding present and I want and
one of the things I wanted to get them was that litter that
kind of does that on its own. You know what I'm saying?
Really. Expensive.
Yeah, I actually, I was pricing some of those out and I was
like, wow. But in a way it's almost, I

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mean, I've known him for him for30 years, 3030 plus years.
So it's almost like there's no like I can't, you know, there's
no like there's no price tag. That's like, you know what I'm
saying? Especially for a friendship that
long, I should I should be able to be like, wow, $500, huh?

(01:41:49):
All right, Like if it's 500 bucks for that, which I'm
assuming that it's like the overunder, I'm probably going more
more. OK, so but OK, so for that
amount. I would definitely.
That's 500. OK, I would.
I would pay that, but at the same time it's like, OK, it's

(01:42:11):
really for the cast and not you want to get you, you and your
wife something. So it's like I've been kind of,
you know, contemplated because it's been, it was a crazy, it
was a, it was a great wedding, so.
Tell us how how was how was thatthe wedding you went to last
week? Yeah, it was about 3 weeks ago
in Durham, NC. Actually it was.

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The wedding reception was held in Chapel Hill, but yeah, it's,
it's, I'm sorry, Chapel Hill, NC.
It's about, I would say maybe 20-30 minutes West of Durham,
NC. Not, not, not a, not a bad drive
what we did. So I get to Durham and of course

(01:42:59):
I usually stay over at my buddy John's place, but the in laws
are staying in the rooms that you know, so which is fine.
So I ended up getting a hotel atthe Hilton and I, I, I go to, I,
I, the, the, IT was an arduous trip from the airport to

(01:43:23):
downtown, but you know, took a bus, got in there, ended up
getting AI was trying to see if I could do open mics while I was
there. And the open mics turned out to
be music open mic saying y'all, no, I Can't Sing for shit.
So I end up getting a drink at abar and then taking a $3 Uber to
my, to my hotel room. I will say this, when I got to

(01:43:48):
the lobby to check in, there wasthis beautiful woman behind the
counter. And oh, my God, when she was
talking, I felt the Southern charm and everything.
And she's like, your name. And I'm like, my name is Hayden
Harrington. And she was like, I need to see
your ID. And I'm like, OK, I'll show her

(01:44:09):
my ID. And she looks at it and she
stares at it. She's like, huh, New York, huh?
Brooklyn, to be exact. Huh.
I'm like, OK, you got some crackabout Brooklyn or New York that
you know, that you Southerners have.
Let me hear it. I thought I heard them all.
And she's like, oh, I am from White Plains, NY, which is a

(01:44:31):
little bit a little further north.
And I was like, oh, I hear there's a lot of beautiful women
up in the White Plains area. What brings you down here?
And she was like, I got a porch.I got a dog, I got a lawn, The
price, 'cause I mean, I was like, all the things that I'm
like, yeah, stuff that I wish I had in New York, she had.

(01:44:55):
And I was like, oh, OK. And you know, I started hitting
on her because why not? And she was like, how long are
you staying here and what bringsyou here?
And I'm like, I'm here for a wedding.
My best friend's getting marriedand I'm here for two days.
I mean, I'm here for like the weekend, but I'm going to spend
2 days here and then I'm going to spend 2 days at the place

(01:45:18):
where we're getting the the wedding, whatever.
She grabs a piece of paper and she starts writing stuff down on
it. And she was like that right?
There is a voucher for two breakfasts during your stay.
I was like, wait, free breakfast.

(01:45:39):
She was like, yes, breakfast is there are 2150 a person and I
didn't have to pay that. And she was like, but if you do
this, if I give you this, can you do me a favor?
Can you write me a review? I was like done, fucking done.

(01:46:02):
So I tell my bud, I tell my buddy John where I'm staying at
and it turns out the brother-in-law and her boyfriend
and his boyfriend are staying atthe same hotel I'm staying at.
But I'm having breakfast. But I have.
So nonetheless I'm staying therefor two days having the time of

(01:46:24):
my life. Nice room.
I'm a Hilton, I'm a Hilton guy for life.
Now I got to happen the whole night.
So my first day there, we go to this wildlife sanctuary type
place where we get to see animals and I took a lot of
pictures and a lot of videos. I did not post them up on

(01:46:45):
Facebook because I was sick, butI got to see like the fucking
Madagascar monkey. Oh, Oh, yeah, Oh yeah, the.
Lemurs. Lemurs, yes, I saw like a one
arm lemur, saw tigers and lions.Let me tell you something, it

(01:47:06):
was incredible. And then like learning where
they got the animals from, how they coupled the animals
together and they've had like some, I saw three tigers.
Two of them were brothers and one of them was the sister of
the same lot. And they were just as soon as we
showed up, they were playing around.
I mean big one of my goals in life was the pet a tiger.

(01:47:30):
I wish I could have just reachedin and just be like, ah, but
then we've already, you know, we've heard the stories about
people fucking around with tigercages, but they were like so
playful and nice and I kind. Of I was kind of like, oh.
I want in, I want to, I want to feel what you're feeling.
So, you know, you know, but it was like, yeah, you got to be

(01:47:51):
careful because, you know, when it comes to outsiders, you know,
they will blow all the shit out of you.
And it's like, no, no, yeah, we,we know, like, but so we got to
see like all these really cool animals, all these really cool
jungle cats and all that. I mean, it was so amazing.
It was like 30. No, it was like 20 of us just

(01:48:12):
walking around doing this, this,this really cool thing.
And then So what ended up happening was where they had the
wedding and the wedding party atit was at this, how do I
describe it? It was at this estate where they
had houses, little houses and like a big house with by the

(01:48:41):
lake, lot of geese, lot of a fireplace outside.
I mean, it was a huge estate with like a lot of a few rooms
and some of them. And I had like a room that I was
in a study with a couch that folded out, which I was like,

(01:49:02):
Oh, that's, this is great. And it was like they had like a
mess hall where they had like wehad the, the rehearsal dinner
and they had, I mean, it was like just as big.
It was like we had it outdoors. Beautiful wedding, Everything, I
mean, everything went off without a hitch.

(01:49:23):
You know, family, everybody's family that showed up and what
have you. We me I loaded a 10 foot box
truck U-Haul truck with the arc gifts but mainly boobs and I'm

(01:49:44):
talking about X amount of 6 packs of this brand of beer, X
amount of case. It looked like we were getting
ready for prohibition. I felt like Al Capone, I kid you
not. It was literally a felonies, a
felonies in that time worth, I mean worth of alcohol.

(01:50:06):
And I, I kid you not, there was probably easily maybe 50 cases.
Wow. Off beer, hard liquor.
And I'm loading it up, loading it up again.
So we load this up. We, you know, John is driving,
I'm sitting passenger. We're unloading this stuff now
and I'm like coming up things like, oh, don't worry, open bar.

(01:50:28):
And that's what did me in. They, the, the place that we
were at had refrigerators, they had Keurig.
I mean, it was everything was they really took care of the
property. It was huge, huge.
And then the wedding we had, like there was a lot of people
that showed up, like friends started flying in.

(01:50:51):
And again, me and John, John's practically my brother.
We've actually had him on the show before actually, yeah.
We, I mean, we go back 30 years.So like we're, we're practically
family. So and, and, and I met his wife,
well, his fiance at the time. I met her when his dad passed

(01:51:12):
away. So I met her at the funeral and
you know, we hit it off as like friends, like instantaneously
very nice girl, very awesome, very fun horror movie fanatic.
The the the theme of the weddingwas basically like what's her
favorite holiday is thanks not Thanksgiving, but Halloween.

(01:51:35):
It was more of like a Halloween theme, even though it didn't
look like it because, you know, she had a beautiful dress and
everything, but it was like a Halloween sort of a theme.
Like even the cards our invite had like, you know, cemetery
vibes and a bat and all that. It was, it was great.

(01:51:56):
Like they had a sense of humor about this.
It wasn't a traditional wedding.So that's what, that's what was
like really cool about it. And just meeting a lot of John's
friends that flew in and you know that meeting me, they're
like, wow, you're, you're like the oldest, you're his oldest
friend because you guys went to high school together and this,
that whatever. We met him like after the fact

(01:52:16):
in college and grad school and all that.
And it was great to see like himgrow as a person with people,
like outside of the people that we grew up with and, and me and
and then me not having to worry about being the funny guy at the
wedding. I was not asked to tell jokes.

(01:52:37):
I was not asked to speak per SE even though I did anyway it it
just felt so carefully because Iwas so happy for my friend who
found happiness during COVID. Yeah, that's wow.
That's when we found happiness. Right before COVID, yeah.
Yeah, and it was just the, and the ceremony itself, last was

(01:53:01):
only half an hour. And then all we did, all I did
if, if I drank so much, so much.I mean, I was like, look, I
drank so much. I wanted to pack less beer.
When we had to return it back toJohn's, to John's garage, I was

(01:53:25):
like, we had significantly, and we still had a lot of beer
leftover. We still had a lot of alcohol
leftover in spite of it being anopen bar.
We still had, I mean, I was like, John, I don't even want to
know how much the alcohol alone cost.
Yeah. But it was, it was a lot, but

(01:53:48):
but it at the same time it was, it was great seeing that it, it
was just, it was so much fun just to get away.
I'm first of all, shout out to the city of Durham, wonderful
city. When I landed, I was very
agitated because I was at the airport for an hour because my

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well, my flight had delayed and John's mom got in a little bit
earlier than me and they were going to wait for me.
And John, I mean, he always getsmy flights.
And he's like, oh, yeah, he knows the status of my flight.
And he's like, oh, yeah, you know, you're static.
You're going to be here very late.
So I decided I was just fun. Like, no, go get your mom to the

(01:54:33):
house. I'll figure out getting there.
So I find a bar that I just wanted to kind of unwind.
And it was a bar that served coffee, liquor and beer.
Oh, all three of those. And I was like, I could use a
coffee, but I was like I could really use a stiff.
Drink. And I was like, can I?
And I was sitting next to this girl who a Duke University

(01:54:56):
student, and she sees my nails and she compliments them and all
that. I'm like, oh, you know, thank
you. What have you?
I was like, and and this guy, this kid comes over, this kid
behind the bar. I'm like, dude, how old are you?
He was like, oh, I'm 22. I'm like, all right.
He's like, are you OK, Sir? I'm like, no, I just took me a
while to get here from the, you know, I I just landed.

(01:55:19):
I'm a little tired, little agitated.
But it's not you, It's more me. Can I sample this drink?
And he looks to be dead in the air.
He was like, oh, I'm sorry, we don't do samples here.
And I was like, OK. And then, like, a girl roughly
his age comes by and she's like,hello, Sir, is everything OK?
Is there? Are you being helped?

(01:55:40):
And I was like, well, yes and no.
I asked for a sample. And the gentleman here says, you
guys don't do samples for a beer.
I want to try this wheat beer. And she was like, oh, no, we do
samples. And the and the kid looked like
it was his first day there. Like, wait, we do samples.
I'm like, yeah, I mean, I'm not going to sample bourbon.

(01:56:02):
I mean, I know what bourbon tastes like.
I'm not going to sample all yourbourbons and then get wasted and
not buy any bourbon. If I like this beer, I'm going
to drink this. I'm like, where I come from, we
people sample beers all the time.
And the girl next to me, oh, where'd you come from?
Where'd you fly in from? I'm like, oh, yeah, she's
interested. I'm like, oh, I've lived from

(01:56:22):
New York. And she was like, yeah, you did.
She was like, yeah, you did. That's fucking awesome.
What are you doing in our littletown of Durham?
I'm like, well, actually I'm going to a wedding and I'm going
alone to this wedding. Do you know what I mean?
She's like, and I'm like, and I'm staying at the Hilton.

(01:56:44):
I'm a blonde too, just in case, you know, you need to go home
and get dressed and you need to pack like a bag or something.
You know what I'm saying? Like I was going to take on this
man. Like, you know, if you need to
pack a bag because you know, butyou know, and you know what you
might need, you might need to wear like a football, you know,
some pads. So you might want to catch a

(01:57:06):
bouquet if this works out, you know what I'm saying?
If you I'm going to catch that bouquet and be a Harrington, you
know what I mean? I didn't do all that, but I I, I
did kind of, you know, I've beenhitting on just I'm just
whatever. If it has a heartbeat and tits,
I'm talking to it. I mean talking to her.

(01:57:28):
Hi, my name's Romeo. Sometimes.
You got to though. You know, I will say this
though, but I will say this though, like the the the women,
they're they're such sweetheartsdown there.
I mean, they're just very nice. They they welcome conversations.
So it was almost like one of those things where it's like,

(01:57:48):
look, I don't have to pour it onfake.
I could just I would rather havejust an intelligent conversation
with a pretty girl from that area than just be like, so does
the match the I don't have to tobe that creepy.
I just have to be a genuine guy down there because that's really
what they look for down there. You know, somebody who's not
going to hit them, You know whatI mean?

(01:58:09):
Like somebody's going to somebody who's going to be
thoughtful that, you know, that's the kind of thing that
they look for. They don't it's it's not what's
I mean, yes, you need to be welloff at least or something, but
they're not trying to they're just they're just genuine
people. And that's what I that's what I
do love about, you know, that area of the South.
You know, they're just, you know, they're, they're people,

(01:58:33):
they just, they have different ideals as far as relationship
goes here in New York. It's like, OK, where do you
live? What's your net worth?
OK, I'll see how much I can put up with you before, you know,
it's almost like it's a businessrelationship down there.
It's like genuine. They just want to meet a nice
fella for the most part. Yeah, and.

(01:59:00):
You still have to have your shittogether too, but for the most
part. Well, I think that, you know,
you were saying that you're a hitting on everybody, but you
know, it's, it is absolutely true.
I know it's a, it's old and tight, but you miss 100% of the
shots you don't take, you know, and the difference between
somebody who, why is it though it, it does seem like, and I

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don't mean this year, but most of the guys that actually are
taking the shots are usually just schedule like I, I don't
know, they're always popping it out for somebody.
I mean, I with no, I feel what they try to do for the most
part, especially around here, isthey swing for the fences.

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I mean, they swing hard. I'm like like even with the 2
girls that I met down in Durham,it was it's, it was as simple as
I shouldn't say simple, but likea compliment.
Hey, I like I was like, oh, nice.
Like if you a compliment, you'd be surprised how much like not

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even like, oh hey, nice ass. No, like a genuine compliment.
She complimented my nails. To which, I mean, I've been
getting a lot of compliments anyway.
But it was almost like she took notice and she felt the need to
say it. She was like, but it was more
than just a compliment. She said, oh, I like your nails.
It fits the season. So it's like she, you know, she

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understood where I was going with it.
It wasn't like, oh, what made you?
I mean, she could have asked just to strike the conversation,
but it was almost like, look, she's not done.
She's going to Duke University. They don't, they don't teach
idiots. You know what I'm saying?
She's just a fucking private school, private, private

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university. She's not an idiot.
So it was like one of those things where it was like, I
could have this conversation with her because she's not an
idiot, you know what I'm saying?So we had, you know, the little,
oh, I, you're from New York, I live here.
This that whatever. We had an intelligent
conversation. And nine times out of 10, I
would rather have that than to, you know, being at a bar talking

(02:01:22):
about nothing of substance. Yeah.
You know what I mean? Sometimes I don't, you know, or
even if we're getting to know each other, like your life's a
dislike. OK, that's great.
But I miss having conversations where it's where I, where
there's intelligence involved. I there's and, and again, I
live, I live in a city where there's a lot of intelligent

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women here, a lot of independentwomen here.
And I think a lot of gentlemen here are intimidated by that.
They don't talk to them because they're just, oh, she looks like
she got shit together. I don't know.
I don't know what to do with it.No, fuck that.
Hey, let's have this discussion because I want to get to know
you. And if you got your shit
together and I got my shit together, then we don't have
anything to worry about. We could look out, we could look

(02:02:06):
out for traps, you know, or, or whatever.
But it it's just that, yeah, I noticed when I see guys sitting
on girls, they sweating for the fences, They say that they I'm
just like, does that ever work? Like, ask yourself, why are you
single? Why are you hitting on girls
that won't even fucking talk to you?
Because you're just like, hey, what up are you doing, Ma?

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Hey, what up? What up Ma you got?
You know, it's just like that, that why are you being lazy
about it? You know, if I see a girl like I
see a girl on a train, I try to find the one thing about her.
If I want to talk to her that's going to make me even want to
strike up a conversation. What's the one thing that's
going to make me want to? Why?

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I got to give her a reason to want to continue a conversation
with me. I can't just be like, hi, my
name is Jamal Harrington. What's your name?
I think you're very pretty. No, All that.
I don't have to say all that. Why?
I'm just wasting words now. She knows why I'm watching her.
She knows why. Even if I'm being sodling tell

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about it. Hey, that's a nice tattoo.
What's the significance of that?Even if I say something like
that. She.
Knows she's not dumb she goes through this all the time with
dudes she won't even want to fucking talk to but it's always
how you print the entrance how are you getting in here am I

(02:03:32):
running through a a wide open door or am I just walking
through a very. Slim.
Is she going to ajar the door just a little bit?
And I could just walk him just be like, oh, by the way, I just,
you know, and she opens it a little wider and then I get to
meet her, talk to her, have a little discussion, maybe trade
information or whatever. And then as at the end of the

(02:03:54):
day, she's going to come to a realization, no matter what the
I mean, if it goes well, I'm like, oh, wow, somebody came and
talked to me and he had something to say.
He was intelligent, you know, he, he, he brought substance to
a conversation where otherwise any other dude that I talked to,
it's just full retard. And what's the rule?

(02:04:16):
You don't go full retard. Yeah, I guess that, yeah, I was
just going to say that, but, youknow, I think that, you know,
with with today, I mean, I man, I've said it before, I'll say it
again. I'm so fucking glad I am not
single. I'm so it's not even that I'm
not single. It's I'm so that because that
sounds bad. That sounds like I just settled

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and I didn't. I'm so I am so blessed to have
found my person in life. I'm so blessed and.
We're blessed to find each other.
Yeah, I'm just so blessed and sothankful.
And, you know, I wish that everybody that I know could find
this. I really do because it's it's

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magical. It really is.
It is so amazing to be like Romeo.
I sent him off on a guy's night last week, last Friday.
And I periodically I do that because I think that it's really
important. I think that it's really crucial
in for him to be able to go out with his guy friends and let his

(02:05:27):
hair down, so to speak, to be able to just not worry, you
know, like, you know, to have like conversations with guys
that that guys have when they'realone, you know that they're
bonding and they're not and shitthat they would never say or do
around me if I was there, it wouldn't happen, right?

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That's a reality, right? I mean, there's guys that you
know that you guys, when you guys are out, you're friends and
you guys are just being guys. There's shit that you do like
which you would never do with a,a woman was present.
For instance, my mind instantly is a, a, a statue of Henry

(02:06:10):
Winkler and these two guys, you know, 1 was like standing behind
and 1 was pretending like he wasblowing the statue.
They would never do shit like that if a woman with one of
their women was present because first of all, she wouldn't allow
it, right? And so I'm homeless.
Embarrassed about that, but I'm still embarrassed to the day.

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But there's still shit that guysdo right.
There's still shit that guys do.And so I think it's very
important probably now more so than ever for him to be able to
go out and just like, look, go out with your guy friends.
You guys are going to go out to bars.

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You guys are going to go out to dinner.
You guys are going to be drinking.
Don't come home until tomorrow because you're not drinking and
driving. So just go spend the night and
go tear it up and have a great time.
Bust each other's balls and do what you guys do.
Yeah, Patrice O'Neal has a greatbit about that where there's a

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there's a group of guys at sitting in the front row and
there's a girl there, I think she was pregnant.
And he was like, he was like, you know, trying to, you know,
he does a lot of crowd work and he and he was talking to them
and he was like, so why would you come on a guy's night out?
And he was like, you know, that's what women does.

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They they're like to Reuben man fun.
You know what I'm saying? Like.
Why would you? Bring this pregnant woman out,
you know, like you couldn't be like, you know, everything will
be smoking at the comedy club, man.
I don't want to hurt the baby. You know what I'm saying?
Like you couldn't find her. You know, like these are the
things that he's saying, but theone thing that he says and he's
like, now you can't do nothing fun.
Now you can't do no guy shit like that.

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He's like, he's like, hey, let me ask you this.
He was like, what? And I want to I want to ask this
question too. He's like, what was the he was
like, who was the last girl? Who was the last girl that you
last fucked? And he was like, see, you can't
even talk about pussy you used to have because this fucking

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pussy, she can't even do it, youknow what I'm saying?
I can't even talk about pussy that you used to have.
That's because she's here. Exactly, exactly.
And you know what, though? I think that that is so
incredibly important, especially, you know, when you
had a friendship that you've hadfor like 30 years, that you you

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maintain those friendships. And part of maintaining those
friendships is being able to just go out and talk about
whatever shit you that comes up that you guys and not have to
worry about. Oh my God, what is she going to
think about if I say this? I mean, you know, it's and I get
that. I understand that and I can
honestly say, and nobody else I would have felt as comfortable

(02:09:08):
with doing that. There's nobody else that I've
ever been with that I would havesaid, you know what here's you
know here. Make sure you have enough cash,
make sure you have enough gas inyour car.
Go hang out. Make sure that they know you're
staying the night and I'll see you tomorrow.
Be safe. Love you.
Bye Have. Your parents drop you home
whenever you're done. Yeah, All right.
Exactly. Let me know if you need me to

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come pick you up, you know? But that's just it though.
It's just that. And yeah, no, you're right.
Because you know, me and Jonathan, we've been talking
about, I mean, we've been kind of doing that.
We've been having like a guy's like we'll, we'll have dinner,
you know, take a place. We go, we have dinner and we
just have like, you know, we talk about, yeah, we talk about

(02:09:53):
relationships or the last few relationships we've been in or
the girls that were dating or whatever, and the pros and cons
of, you know, stuff like that. We do something like that
because, you know, it's just like, you know, he knew I was
sick and everything. Like even we, we did a show and

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I literally dragged my ass to dothis show, didn't want to
perform, ended up performing being that shitty as it was, but
he was like, do do you need anything?
And I'm like, no, I'm like, I'm good with, you know, the the
venue that I was at, they had made tea and they had, I mean,

(02:10:38):
giving me like Medicaid, like over the counter medication
along with tea and gingers and stuff like that.
So I could kind of maintain producing a show, even though I
felt like shit. And I was like, yeah, I think
they're taking care of me is like, well, have you eaten?
You got those, you know, stomachvirus.
You have, you said you haven't eaten.

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And I literally have not eaten. My stomach was empty for two
days. I felt like a Jew on high
holiday. That's how hungry I was fasting.
And it was just like, I was like, I can't do this.
And when I got off stage, he handed me an order that he had
placed for me because he was like, dude, you need to eat

(02:11:20):
because you look very skinny up on stage.
So he, he had bought me, he had bought me some food.
And while he was up on stage, I was like eating it like a
rabbit, like taking like becauseI can't just like rush into like
solid foods, you know, So I had to kind of eat.
I didn't even, I had to bring ithome with me and eat it for

(02:11:41):
lunch the next day. That's how out of it I was.
But as you was going back to thewhole guy thing, but yeah, you
know, that's it's, it's good forguys because you know, you're
hanging out, you're doing thingsthat you otherwise wouldn't do
with your significant other and it kind of, and it kind of lets
you unwind a bit. Yes, it lets you and.

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And the important thing too is, is not only does it let you
unwind and here and equally important, I believe, is that
you had this experience with your friends.
You went out there and you did this thing.
Now you can come home and share it with me, right?
It gives you something differentto talk about it.

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And, you know, I'm not going to get all the the the nitty gritty
stuff and I don't need you, but there's going to be like, I'll
get the highlight reel of thingsthat he wants to share with me
that were funny and, and interesting, you know, and
that's, and that's gives us something different to kind of
talk about and communicate. And it gives him something to
look forward to. You know, he knows that.

(02:12:44):
Hey, I want to go and hang out with the guys.
OK, Go have fun. I'll, you know, more than likely
I want to be sitting here. And here's why it's important
for me. She gets the remote.
I get the remote control and I don't have to fight for it.
I can put on anything I want to and I don't get any huffing,
puffing or any of that shit. I get the whole remote to

(02:13:07):
myself. Nicely done.
Yeah, so I start watching shit, you know that.
Guys night is is therapeutic to any guy.
Guys night is is just that. It's therapy that guys need.
We need to be around each other every once in a while to blow
off Sting, you know, to talk shit.

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And that's what we do. We talk shit to each other, talk
shit about each other, talk shitabout, talk, talk shit about old
pussy. And not just yours, but your,
your friends you know? And exactly like man, I remember
that the hate you were with or something like that.
And you know, I mean that one time we were at the bar because

(02:13:53):
you're going to have those stories if you've been together
for a but that chick that act like a dog and.
She and she had you cowering in the corner while she walked,
while she crawled on all fours, barking.
I mean, yeah, I mean, again, like the stuff that I mean,
Jonathan, like it's mainly like shit that we've done on the
road. Yeah, shit.
You know, like I, I like one of the, I remember one time me and

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John, me and Jonathan, we went to a gas station in West
Virginia and the gas station hada curtain, like a beaded curtain
that had a liquor store on the other side.
And I kind of peeked my head in there.
And Jonathan turns around and he's got 2 bottles of Honey

(02:14:41):
Tennessee Jack Daniels whiskey. And he's like, and he's got two
of them. He's like, dude, 2.
There's like A2, buy one, get one like half off.
And I'm like, leave it to you tofind this in a gas station, you
know? So he was like, dude, I think we

(02:15:02):
should do this. And I'm like, yeah, sure,
whatever. I'm like.
So we go back to the hotel and he's like, dude, let's go
outside and drink and like, and we, and so we're out in the
parking lot across the street isthe Civic Center and there's
like an event going on. A lot of cars are parked, but

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we're on the hotel side parking lot and we go across this
barrier where it's like, I guessparking more parking, but for
the Civic Center. So.
Me and Jonathan, you know, we'resmoking, we're talking, we're,
you know, chatting it up, just, you know, because it's an 8/8
and 1/2 hour drive. And we're just like, damn, we,

(02:15:45):
we made it all, you know, we, wemade it, you know, we came,
we're here in West Virginia and there were people walking by us.
I could smell the weed. See that we have that we're
drinking. We have like little cups.
But you know, we're not advertising the Jack Daniels.
But we did make ourselves a drink and we're downstairs

(02:16:06):
drinking it and they're like looking at us, like sticking
their nose up at us like these like ragamuffins, you know what
I'm saying? Are smoking in the parking lot,
like, like we were at like at a Taco Bell at a high school
football game or something like that, you know what I'm saying?
But it was just like, it was like, hey, remember those

(02:16:26):
people? I'm like, yeah, I remember those
people, the ones that are. But it's just like, that's kind
of what our Rd. gigs or like, whenever we go on the road,
that's what it consists of weed,sushi, debauchery, drinking and
seeing who we could pick up. But.
What you know what though? You guys are both all single.

(02:16:47):
So that's the way it should be, right?
You know, I mean, absolutely. And it's a different kind of
mindset and, and that's, but that's so important.
So even like say 20 years from now and you and, and, and
Jonathan are both settled down. You're married, you have your
families and you go out and havea guys night.
You're going to talk about thoseRd. gigs where you the

(02:17:09):
debauchery and and that's but that and that's just it though.
And it doesn't mean that you don't you want to be with your
spouses. It doesn't mean that you, you
know, you would trade it. It means that you need to be
able to have those conversationsand talk about the good old
days. You talk about those days, laugh
about those, you know, those memories.

(02:17:30):
And it's something that, you know, I think that more women
need to understand that. Well, again, 20 years ago,
there's no way in hell I wouldn't have because women were
so insecure. Like, you know, I don't know
what you're doing out there. You might be going out there and
hoeing around and what do you mean you're not coming home

(02:17:50):
tonight? Bullshit.
I'll fucking come get your ass. You know, I'll come get you.
I'll, you know, I'll drop your ass off and then I'll come get
you. Make sure that you ain't going
with some other bitch. And, and now like I, I think a
lot of it's just not just my maturity, but literally just my,

(02:18:10):
my comfort in, in where I'm at in life, my, in my partner that
I'm like, you need that. And I don't, I don't even give
it a second thought. I know that there's nobody he's
not out there hoeing or anythinglike that.
You know, I know that that's nothappening.
So. Yeah, and, and, and you know
what? Sometimes you need that space

(02:18:32):
anyway, you know what I'm saying?
Like, I'm not talking about space.
Like, oh, I'm going to work. So.
But like, space away. Like whenever your leisure time,
there's space in between your leisure time, Yeah.
You. Know what I mean?
So I, I, I kind of get that because it's just like, I would
hate to be, you know, I mean, I'm not like a like one of those

(02:18:57):
guys. I mean, I'm attentive, but if
you're like, oh, I don't, you don't have to be around for this
or whatever. Oh, right.
I'm ghost. OK.
Like if you, you know, if you're, if you're just like, oh,
you know, we could check in, sure, but I don't feel like I
need somebody to like, I need tocheck in like all the time on

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the hour, every hour. It's like, hey, look, yeah,
today I did this, this, that, whatever.
What are you doing later? You want to meet up or you want
to, you know, plan something. OK, that's fine.
So it's just like, you know, I don't, I don't, I don't need to
be on a tether. Yeah, but it's a little bit
different, though, when you're married and you're living under

(02:19:40):
the same roof. You know, it's not like really
being on a tether. Like I don't even expect him to
check in, and usually I don't think he ever does.
As long as you know that you in a relationship, that's that's
what that's what it. Should be as.
Long as you and that goes to both of you know that you're in
a relationship, you go on out and you do have yourself a good

(02:20:05):
time and just know that you're in a relationship.
Don't fucking be like, oh, well,I wonder if it's OK if I bring
up. Yeah, I wonder if it's OK if I
do this. No, you know it ain't you.
Do you know you're in a relationship?
Because do you want her doing that?
Yeah, yeah. I mean, no, no.
Exactly. In hell no, you know you don't

(02:20:25):
want her to fuck around on you, then you don't fuck around on
her plain and. Simple and the thing it goes is
a lot of times like this is a time like women, we don't we we
don't bond the same as men. We do not it is not the same for
us. We can have those same kind of
bonding on the phone, having a conversation, hanging out with

(02:20:45):
each other, but it's it is a lotdifferent for women when we bond
than it is for men. And a lot of times one of the
things that makes it so hard formen to understand this is like
women we get. If another woman comes and
starts telling me about her day and she's bitching about how bad
her day was and how fucked up her work is and just how it just

(02:21:08):
frustrates her and pisses her off, I understand she needs to
vent. That's it the girl needs to
vent. I'm going to let her bitch.
I'm not going to tell her even if she's bitching about her
husband. Man, this motherfucker, I can't
believe he does this. I can't stand his ass and I'm
not going to go well, you shouldjust leave his ass in.

(02:21:31):
That's not something that I would say like I understand
she's venting. She's pissed off at A at that
particular moment at this particular time about that
situation. It doesn't mean she wants to
leave him or that she doesn't love him.
It means that she's venting, andthat's one of the things that
women, we do for each other, like men.

(02:21:53):
Men don't talk that way. They don't.
Men do we don't bring up our relationships in the other media
the. Thing is that the only reason
you guys would ever do that is men will bring up a problem to
another man. If he wants advice, that's it.
Yep. Men therefore assume that when a

(02:22:14):
woman is venting, she wants his advice and he Well, fuck, fuck
your boss. Quit your job.
Well, I didn't fucking say he wanted to quit.
Well, why are you a bitch? Why did you say that?
Why didn't you tell me to quit my job?
I love my job. You know how much money that
would be? Do you know how long?
Don't get to get that job. You know that's not what she's

(02:22:37):
saying. What she's saying is I just.
And men will go so much further in a relationship if they
understand that. Yes, dear, that must be
difficult, dear. Tell me more.
Really. Then what happened?
That's all you got to say? Because she just wants to
fucking vent and feel like you're listening to her vent and
she can get rid of all that bullshit.

(02:22:58):
What? I like to do is, I like to be
mad with them because that givesme a reason to be mad.
Like, yeah, like what? She said bad.
Oh man, what'd you say after? That I'm so proud of you.
Oh, shoot, shoot. She said your dress was ugly.
OK, So what? So OK, Fast forward to the part

(02:23:18):
where you are getting suspended because you punched this girl in
the twat. Like Fast forward to that part.
Like I don't mean none of this get did that happen?
You know, so I, I get, I get whatever, like I would cause
again, we've they want us to women want us to listen, yes, by

(02:23:41):
all means, but they don't like you said Marianne, they don't
want advice because first of all, you don't need our fucking
advice. You've already made your
decision anyway. You already know what you
already know what you're going to do, what you want.
I realize what it is. What you what?
Would you do? I realize what it is.
It's the dilly dally all over again.
But dilly dally and I did not know what the dilly dally was

(02:24:05):
until some woman a couple of months ago, a couple of months
ago sent a text. It was a, it was actually, it
was a Facebook. It was a Facebook clip reel that
I watched. And this woman, she got on there
and she explained the dilly dally.
And all she said was she goes, she goes, OK, she goes now she

(02:24:30):
goes. Sometimes she goes, I might want
to go out. I might want you to Take Me Out
somewhere. He goes, but you going to be
like, well, where do you want togo?
I don't care. Just take me somewhere.
You know, it could be to a store, it can be to a mall.
It could be, it could be, you know, up to the park, anywhere.

(02:24:52):
And then she goes and we might go to a store or somewhere.
You explain, you explain. You a woman, go ahead.
And this is absolutely a woman'smentality.
I'm going to get up one day and I'm going to say, hey, baby,
let's let's go out. OK.
Where do you want to go? I don't know.
Let's just go. OK.
OK. I want to go get something to

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drink. OK.
What do you want? Do you want a coffee?
Do you want to go stop at a 711 for a soda?
Where do you want to go? I don't know yet.
Let's just go and I'll figure itout.
OK, then we're going to go to a store.
Well, what store do you need to go to?
I don't need to go to any store.I just want to go to a store and
I don't care. Maybe Walmart, maybe it'll be TJ
Maxx, maybe it'll be Home Depot.Let's just go to the store.

(02:25:36):
OK, Well, what are you going to buy?
Well, I'm not buying anything. I'm going to walk through the
store. I'm going to pick something up
and go. Huh, Look at that.
Did you did you notice the priceon that?
That's a really, really expensive thing.
I would never pay that much. And then I might go down a
little bit later and go pick something up and go, Oh my God,
babe, isn't this really beautiful?

(02:25:56):
This is so cool. Anyway, you want to get it?
No, I don't want to get it. And then at the end of the day,
I've walked out of the store, I've bought nothing, but I dilly
dally and my heart overfloweth. My heart is content because all
I did was dilly dally. And then you don't understand

(02:26:17):
the dilly dally because? It hasn't been explained.
Once it was explained to me in that context, she goes, she
didn't care. She goes, she goes.
It was the dilly dally. Most men don't know what the
dilly dally is and it's something so simple and to be
laid out in that terms. I I always thought, what the

(02:26:38):
fuck? We went out to the shop, to the
mall and we walked around for three hours.
You ain't funk shit. Here's the thing if you if
you're in a relationship you've dilly dallied but just didn't
know what it was. When I when me and when me and
Jocelyn was dating was dating, we dilly dallied so much.
It was like, why the fuck were we here in the 1st place?

(02:27:00):
Like you know exactly. We would we would be in gosh, we
would be at EU district and she would see a thrift store and
we'd go into the and and, and she would watch.
Well, she would say, hey, can we, she always can we go into
the thrift store. Of course we can go into the
thrift store. So we'll go in, I'll look at

(02:27:22):
stuff like and I'll dilly dally.She dilly dally's.
Then she'll come up, she'll findme and be like, OK, I'm ready
when you are. And I'll be like, what did you
get? She was like nothing.
I'm like, she was like, oh, and if she sees me holding something
in my hand, she's like, oh, are you going to buy that?
I was like, I was thinking aboutit, but no.

(02:27:42):
And then we just leave and we didn't buy anything.
That's the Dilly Dowdy. That is the daily dowdy.
But like I said, since I've beenaware, we go out now I don't get
mad because we'll we'll start walking around and I'll be like,
so is this the dilly dally? She goes, yes, we're dilly
dally. I'm like, cool, go ahead.

(02:28:03):
And I let her go. I don't expect her to pick up
anything or if she does good. Yeah, because we're here for
what did you just go give me? Well, like I said, that's man
mentality because it's never ever explained to us.
But The thing is. We go in for a specific thing,
we we pick it up and we're fucking out.

(02:28:25):
But OK. But but, but, but his thing that
there's some rules to dilly Dowling though, because now
you're going to think about all the times that you were dilly
dallying and you're like, oh, that's right.
You're going to think about yourpath, dilly Dowling, that you
don't even know more dilly Dowling.
You know what I'm saying? So rule #1 of Dilly Dowling, You
don't talk about Dilly Dowling there?
You go. There you go.

(02:28:46):
Too rule #2 you don't talk aboutdilly Downing because.
I'm with you. I'm with you.
Because, and I'll tell you why at the end of she's going to
want to, she she's going to wantto check out a place.
And that's, and, and, and The thing is again, when when me and
Jocelyn dated, it was in my mind, I'm like, hey, she could

(02:29:12):
be dilly dallying with somebody else.
She's doing it with me. She's spending her time with me,
I'm spending time with her. We're together.
I don't give a fuck if she doesn't buy anything in the
store. It's I'm saving money because
it's probably going to be my money that buys it.
So I could give a shit, you know, so, but, and, and most

(02:29:34):
people dilly dally evolves anyway.
If you're at, if you're at the mall, you're dilly dallying all
day for the most part. And, and me again.
And, and, and I wouldn't say dilly dally because I always
made purchases. But if we walk past the store
that interests them, hey, can westop into the perfume shop?
I want to smell some perfumes and, and, and, but The thing is,

(02:29:55):
you don't know your dilly dallying, but in a way, a way to
kind of, and then there's nothing wrong with dilly dally,
but you could always say, Oh, hey, you like the way that
smell. What do you think you, you want
me to get? You know, do you want it?
And if she says? Well.
Maybe I'm like, no, it smells good.

(02:30:15):
I think it'll smell good on you.Let's get that for you.
Let's get that for you. My treat, babe, you know my gift
to you and it's almost like it doesn't.
It doesn't look like a Dooley dally.
Now it looks like you're there and you've made a purchase, but
also you're thinking about her. So it's like.
It's less. No, no, she smelt it.

(02:30:36):
She said she liked the way that smell.
That should be like a clue. Like, hey, I like the way that
smells on her, too. Maybe, you know, do you want to
get it? And that's what I always do,
whether it's like, if she says Adam, I can't afford it or I
can't. No, no.
How about this? There you go.

(02:30:57):
Here's my card. Go get it.
You know what I'm saying? Like be a Big Bang.
There you go. The code on that is 3297.
Go ahead. Go get that girl.
Go get that. Daddy's got you, you go, you go
get that good smell and throat because I'm going to smell that
on you, you know what I'm saying?
And again, it ends up being likea gift instead, you know what

(02:31:19):
I'm saying? And it's a moment.
So every time you smell that perfume on her, it's a moment
that she saw something. She lied.
She was dilly down here. But you're like, Nah, we ain't
dilly down here. My girl gets what she wants.
You want that? You want that Coco Chanel?
Let's go get that Coco Chanel girl.
I want you dripping and smell goodness.

(02:31:40):
Yeah, that's that's kind of likeRomeo when when we go shopping,
I tell him, you know, go get something to make yourself
pretty, baby. Go make yourself pretty for
Mama. Go get something nice.
And now let her do it too. What I what I would do and I
usually hate. I just say hate.
Now I'm getting used to going shopping with women now.

(02:32:02):
You know, sometimes a girl wouldbe like, hey, think I'm going to
the mall. You want to come?
I'm like, I was going to go to the mall too, but I was hoping
that I was going to go by myself.
But so you know, me and some, you know, I got, I got a bunch
of lady friends that I hang out with.
So we, we go, we go shopping, wego to the mall.
And so I go into a converse store.
I'm a huge converse fan, no secret.

(02:32:24):
And I remember when I, when me and Jocelyn or me and like
another girl would date, they would have like these deals.
Buy one, get one half off. And I would say like, well, most
of these Converses either aren'tI don't want to wear because
they're ugly or already have them.
What if I buy the one converse that I want and then I just you

(02:32:46):
can get the half off one for youknow what I'm saying?
Like I would do that, you know, and I'm gosh, Johnson took
advantage of that because I was like, yeah, man, you, I'm going
to, and usually I buy 2 anyway, So I'm like the other two that
you get, you're going to get a 2for one anyway.
So it kind of works out for the best.

(02:33:06):
So we go shoe shopping or combo shopping, you know, I was, which
one do you like? And she'll come up to me and
she'll kind of like like model them off me.
Like, what do you think? I think it matches what you're
wearing. And I'm like, I bag it up.
Let's go, you know, like, and then so, you know, I, I, I, I do
miss like being able to buy, like go shopping with my

(02:33:30):
significant other and it, and it's not even like a thing.
It's like a field trip almost right.
You know, like I Remember Me andher, we would go to, to Layla.
I love to Layla, the casino up there.
I would go there. Me, her and her family would go
there from time to time. And God, that's the one thing I

(02:33:54):
miss about the Pacific Northwest.
I love your casinos. So Layla was one of my favorite
pigeons because they had the outlet mall right there and it
was only like 1/2 hour drive from Mercer Island.
So to Halo, man. Yeah, yeah, that is time.
All right, so it's going to be that time we going to have to

(02:34:15):
start winding this down. So let's talk about binge
watching, binge watching, and binge.
Watching what have you been binge watching Jamal?
So I've been I've just finished the first two seasons of True
Detective on HBO. Fascinating show, especially the

(02:34:38):
second season. But True Detective first season
is Woody Harrelson, Matthew McConaughey.
They're investigating a murder and great partnership.
Great great acting for both of those guys.
I love both of them. Great show.

(02:34:58):
I'm not going to give it away, but that's a great show.
Second season, Colin Farrell, Rachel McAdams, Vince Vaughn.
It's a different trying different situation where
politics are involved and corruption.
And and I just I just finished the season finale, the hour and

(02:35:19):
a 27 minute season finale today.Good show.
The the fourth season so far. So I don't even know what the
third season holds, but I just watched that.
I highly recommend those shows if you're into like that kind of
crime drama. I am in season 3 now of The Big

(02:35:42):
Bang Theory. I'm watching that again.
Yeah, I just turned it on last night.
I, I, I, I stopped watching after season 5, so I'm kind of
re catching up. Still a funny show, still holds
up. And it's, you know, between True
Detective and that I've been kind of flip flopping because

(02:36:02):
it's so funny and it kind of gives me a good balance of like
moods and whatnot. So it, it's really good.
I started at the season 1 of White Collar.
I I, I stopped watching after season 4, and now I'm getting
back into that. There's just a lot of shows that

(02:36:22):
I've just incompleted and I wanted to kind of go back and
catch up and watch these shows. And it's full entirety.
So there's that. Yeah.
Those are the those are the the new shows that are that I'm

(02:36:46):
adding to my binge watching repertoire.
So we have been watch we we jumpback on and watch the entirety
of land Man again because the new because the new season
starts out in November 16th. It's on the 16th.
So we watched that one and that entire time for the. 3rd.

(02:37:08):
Time for the third, for the third time?
Even the third time. Watching, there's still so many
things that I was picking up on the third time.
Like, God did I? How did I miss that part?
Yeah, yeah. You know, it's a great show, a
little. Detail so I I.
Think it's just hilarious? It's oh.
My God, it's. So, you know, if you haven't
seen Land Man tell you. I'm already waiting for the

(02:37:32):
second. Season and and and and so now
we've been binge watching Tulsa King with Stallone.
So we've watched. We've watched two seasons, the
first two seasons, the first season.
Just came out, so we just started watching.
That Yeah. So we just started watching this
third season. What else?

(02:37:55):
Although I got to say, I got to say this about Tulsa King.
I was thinking about this and season 1, Season 2, season 3.
It's kind of like the same storyline, just different people
type thing, you know, and and I'm hoping it's not going to be
that predictable for this season, but you know, it's

(02:38:15):
still, I mean, it's it's an interesting watch, but.
They also got so she hasn't watched it yet.
I have Mayor of Kingstown, I. Watch part of it.
I watch probably. Mayor of Kingstown the first the
first three seasons 3. Episodes.

(02:38:38):
The first three seasons was freaking awesome.
OK. She's only watched the first 3
episodes on the season 1. I love Mary of Kingstown, they
just start up with season 4. I haven't watched any of it
because I like watching TV with my baby so I want to see if she

(02:39:01):
wants to watch them together andI will watch them in my in her
entirety with her. But if she doesn't want to, you
know, I'll. Probably, you know, after we're
done with with Tulsa King, we'llprobably.
Jump on Mayor of King. I have no idea what you're
doing. It looks like you're jerking

(02:39:22):
off. She does it.
Really. No.
I'm I'm massaging my my the the back of my.
It's been called a lot of things.
Stop it. No, I'm I'm massaging the back
of my my thighs. Sure.
OK, look OK. Yeah, but.
So that's what we've been binge watching.

(02:39:43):
We've been binge watching Tulsa King.
Oh, we watched, we talked about boots.
Now, I don't know if you've seenboots.
Boots was on Netflix. We talked about it last week
and, and but you wasn't here to hear about it, but boots was.
It's about the it's about the Marines boot camp.

(02:40:05):
In 1980. Yeah.
So it was, it was, it was a thatwas very interesting.
It was pretty good. Wayward.
Wayward. Wayward was another one that was
Wayward was weird. It was good.
It was good, but it was. I don't even remember it now.

(02:40:27):
Oh, I do. It was I.
Remember, it was weird. Yeah, it was very weird, but it
was, it was, it was decent. It was decent, so wayward boots
Tulsa King. Yeah, that's what we've been
doing a lot of watching of and then.
We're still watching 2 Broke Girls.
Yeah, we started watching that one again from the beginning and

(02:40:47):
I think we're on season. Six Season 6 right now.
Right now. Yeah, and then we do
occasionally. We still watch.
We're still watching King of theHill, so we haven't got to the
new episodes yet because I know that King of the Hill has like
the new episodes, but I think it's where Bobby's grown up, so.
Yeah, I think it's their, if I remember correctly, I think it

(02:41:10):
went, I don't know if it's 11 or13 seasons.
It should be like 13 because I think we're on Season 9.
So this OK? This will be probably their 14th
season. I'm kind of glad it's back
actually. I haven't watched any of the new
episodes either, but it's good to it's good that Judge is

(02:41:34):
coming back or or came back for that matter to, to do that.
So I'm kind of interested. I mean, I'm going to end up
watching all these, you know, chronologically again, like how
I've been doing with a lot of these shows.
So I'm trying to like, like while I was sick, I would, I
would be like falling asleep to True Detective because that's

(02:41:57):
been out for a while. And I was like, oh, let me give
this a shot. And then I got so hooked that I
was like, OK, well, I know Season 2 is a new case and see
what they're doing with this. And it was it was so interesting
watching Vince Vaughn and his character.
It it, it was, it's such a good show.
And it took me only two days to watch Season 2 because I just

(02:42:20):
knocked out four in one day. And then, you know, knocked out
two last night and then last night 1 into the morning and
then watched 1 today. So it's yeah, like I'm, I'm kind
of getting back into the whole binge watching thing now, you

(02:42:40):
know, especially with Big Bang Theory.
I I watched that go into bed andI and I find myself sleeping
better than watching something stressful.
That's how to think. Would you go to the last thing
you watch when you go to sleep will determine how well your

(02:43:03):
sleep is as far as I even. How your your dreams are Because
like I noticed there's certain shows that I'm like, no, I
cannot go to sleep after watching that.
I need something. I need my life it.
Was like that for a long time. That's why we always like we
would watch. We was when we was watching, we

(02:43:26):
was watching the surfers. Oh God, yeah, the animal
Kingdom. Animal Kingdom so we were
watching Animal Kingdom. We had to watch 2 Broke Girls or
Mom or something that was, you know, with a comedian type of
atmosphere before we can go to bed because you know, Animal

(02:43:49):
Kingdom was just too. Stressful for well and very
intense and I was like why am I getting stressed?
I should not be watching something that's causing me to
be stressed out. Like I need something that
should make I've already got enough stress in my.
Life, Yeah, something lighthearted and.
And you know. That's more comedic.
I need something that's lighter,you know?

(02:44:10):
It's like, it's like, what's thesaying?
Don't go to bed angry. Yeah, one of those, one of those
type of digits. Yeah.
So I try to go to bed with something like Heartfelt.
Yeah, it's like we we were watching Mom, but we finished
watching it already, so we watched all of that.
And so we'll probably start incorporating Big Bang back into

(02:44:31):
it because I like Big Bang. It doesn't have.
Anything I got to watch Big Bangwell.
I can I can do it in. Here.
We don't have. I just want something that is
light and fluffy, that doesn't cause like any kind of stress
and that you can laugh about andenjoy like and preferably I love
falling asleep to something likeBig Bang that I've seen all of

(02:44:53):
them. So it doesn't matter.
I'm not my brains not like trying to keep me awake to
finish watching it. I can just go fuck it.
I've seen this. I know how it ends and I'll
drift off to sleep, but I'm still kind of smiling or
laughing about it. So that's my preference.
So. All right.
Huh. Well, that's about everything,

(02:45:14):
huh? Yeah, looks.
Like, well, that's this was a great recording.
I feel like I've learned a lot. I'm going to dilly dally my way
to the kitchen and wash dishes and not make anything dilly.

(02:45:35):
Dally me too dilly dally I. I miss the dilly dally, man, I
miss it. Ladies and gentlemen, that has
been our show. Man, I hope you got a lot out of
this. Even though it was just us
three. God, I love the I love these
these recordings. I love where they go.
So ladies and gentlemen, thank you for making us a part of your
day and thank you for listening.I know we've pretty much ear

(02:45:58):
fucked you all night or all day,but you know, this is what we
do. This is the podcast, this is the
fun part of it. And I and I always look forward
to doing it with the people thatI care about.
So ladies and gentlemen, that being said, thank you for
listening. As Marianne always say, make
good decisions. You know, it's been 3 weeks,

(02:46:23):
make good choices. And always remember, if you have
something that you're that we'vesaid that have offended you,
just please take comfort in knowing that it is not about
you. Yeah.

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