Relationship Compromises, The Nash's NYC Visit (Part 2)

In this episode we speak about:

Relationship compromises and its effects on relationships.

What Romeo and Marianne hated about New York City.

Episode Transcript

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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome toanother edition, another episode
of It's Not About You, starring myself, Jamal Harrington, coming
out of Brooklyn, NY and coming out of the great city of, of,
of, of, of, of. And I'm kidding.
Out of Washington, out of Sumnerthe great, very funny, very
talented, very Irish, Marianne Riley.

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Good morning. It is morning.
This is unusual for us. We don't typically record this
early in the morning. And man, I'm barely, it's a
Sunday morning and I'm barely got my eyes open.
It's been a rough couple of weeks, so, oh, I understand.
I've been hungover all weekend, just all weekend.

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I have not had, like, I don't think I've had a unblurry vision
yet. So it's been, yeah, just waking
up today. I've just been, you know, But it
it, it, it feels great to wake up knowing that you have
something to do, knowing that you're supposed to be doing
something, knowing that you're supposed to be working in a way.

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So this, this kind of, I think this is the one time that I kind
of feel a bit mellow now. Well.
I got to say, so I I actually celebrated my two year sobriety.
Last week. Oh, that's that's an applause
break right there. Congrats.
Yeah. Two years.

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Two years, yeah. So no alcohol and I'm good.
I did, however, do something yesterday that I'm very
surprised about with myself and the results were crazy.
I had some edibles and I yeah. Now keep in mind I am not

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somebody. Whoever partakes that is not my
lane. Never has been.
But I was. I was using the CBD 40 to one
for pain management. OK, just when it's when it's
really bad. And right now I actually took
gave the last one to to Romeo last night because just it's

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this. This weather turns cold and
rainy, and it's just brutal on the body, the joints and
everything. And I know he was in a lot of
pain, so I was like, here, I made him take one of those and I
was like, well, shoot, I'm not going to take the last one
because I want to save it for him.
So we had bought some gummies that were just straight up
edibles, like 10 milligrams. And I tried one and it did

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nothing for me, did nothing. So I made the mistake of.
Well, if one doesn't do anything, let's try 2.
Yeah. Wow.
Wow. Yeah.
Who the fuck thinks that this isa good thing?
This does not feel I was. I was freaking out.

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Like I was laughing hilariously,like I could not stop laughing.
Romeo would say something stupidand I couldn't stop laughing and
I was just like giggling a crazylaugh.
I just wanted to lay down and unfortunately we had just washed
and dried all the sheets yesterday so we hadn't made the
bed. As I'm ready to just I just want

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to lay down because I'm having to lean against a wall because I
can't even stand up straight. My knees were buckling and
knocking. I was afraid I had to go use the
bathroom, that I wasn't going tobe able to make it in there and
I'd be falling on the, you know,my tile floors, so.
One out of 10 Do not Recommend. It was horrible.

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It was horrible. Like, I felt like I was melting
into the chair and I couldn't get out of the chair.
Yeah. The The thing about that though
is if you've never tried it before at first, it is a bit of
like it's uncharted territory. You know, if you've never done
that kind of stuff before, you don't have really anything to

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compare it to except for possibly being drunk, you know.
But when you drunk, yeah, but exactly like if you've ever been
drunk before. It's almost like, but this is
first of all when you're in pain, that is it.
It's a feel good high it really is.
Especially if you I definitely. Didn't feel anything.

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Yeah. Especially if you're doing pain
management. Like, yeah, the pain.
You don't even think about it, you know, Sure.
You get a bit loopy and and and I'm with you sometimes you'll
try the one and you don't feel anything.
So you kind of double down on it, which I'm very known to do.
Sometimes if I'm going on a plane and I have anxiety or I

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just kind of don't feel, you know, because I sometimes I
drink before I get on a plane because, again, I don't want to
talk to people. But if I have edibles on me,
I'll eat them and then I'll go straight to sleep.
As soon as like I sit down, likeI'll go straight to sleep and
I'll feel good. I don't feel like I'm on a
plane, you know, I just. And then sometimes when you're

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laying down and you're on it, ohman, it's just just laying down
and letting your body just go through the motions of being
high and just, you know, sometimes if I'm watching TV or
like a movie, it's just like I'min a calm space, you know?
Calm spaceman I don't. I was out of space.

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Like I was so far out there. I felt like I was out of this
universe. I was melting into my chair.
We we were watching so kind of jump ahead of of what have we
been been watching. We were watching 24.
We started. I've never seen it before.
So we're watching and we're watching the first series and

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1st season and I. Was fine when we sat down out in
the living room in my chair, putmy feet up, and then next thing
I know, I felt like I was just going further, melting into my
chair. I was going further for the
backwards. My whole body, like my my whole

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existence, melted into my my lounging chairs.
I had my feet up. And I'm watching this and they
had some weird noises going on and it was kind of freaky deaky.
I'm not going to lie. I was like, oh wow.
What the hell? And then I'd look over at Romeo
and he just started just bustingup loud and he's like, you are

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high as hell he goes, you were so you are so baked right now.
Your eyes is really shit. Yeah, he told me.
He said my. And first of all, let me just
say I did not know that your eyes would go red from edibles.
They went way red. And then I also did not know

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that you would get cottonmouth from edibles, 'cause I all
thought that was part of the smoking the thing.
No, I a cotton eye off with somesomething else baby.
She just wasn't aware because she was so high.
No, I was. I was so out of it.
I was so. And I was afraid to move.

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Like, you literally can't move your body.
Like, I And then I started freaking out and I started
thinking of that movie Get Out, you know?
And I'm like, yeah. Yeah, which I watched, by the
way. I watched Get Out on The for the
First time on the plane going toNew York.

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So, oh, that was the movie that you guys watched?
I watched that, yeah. I watched that because I had my
little individual headsets and Iwas like, I've never seen it.
I've heard about it. I need to watch it.
It's pretty interesting. It's a pretty interesting movie.
I thought it was very overrated,but I did like the concept.

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I was like, I like the concept, but all my friends were like,
you should go see get out. And it's almost like, all right,
I get it. You know, for somebody who have
dated white girls, like plenty of times, I've never felt like
that. And The funny thing is, when I
watched this, this movie, it wasmy ex, my ex-girlfriend who

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wanted to watch it. And she thought, hey, let me
watch it with you, maybe I couldget a perspective.
And I'm just like, OK, And we watched it.
And you know what? I mean?
She really enjoyed it and I enjoyed it too.
But I was like, looking at her like, I don't get that vibe from
you or anybody in your family. You know what I mean?
It's just like, I mean, and I get it.
I know what it's supposed to be.But it's just like, I'm like,

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unless you're an NFL or an NBA basketball player going into the
draft and you're about to get picked, like maybe there's some
truth to that. Like, I got to, you know, I got
to. But it was.
I did. I thought it was a good concept.
But you know, it's funny when when brothers are like, man, I
have to watch it get out. I got to send out.
I'm like, no, no, you don't. It's a movie.

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It's just a movie, right? Like, relax.
Calm down. It's not like they're trying to
steal your sperm there. So yeah, it's like like calm
down. There's a, you know, there's a
reason why you date white women is the same reason why white
women date black people. It's black guys.
It's it's it's, you know, it's an interest thing.
It's a, you know, it's that's what they like.

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It's not because we're freaks. Romeo's in the background and
you hear him screaming because they're freaks, not because
there's, I mean, and there's some truth to that too.
But yeah, you know they're just like, but for me it's a
preference and what Romeo just said but nonetheless but

(10:02):
nonetheless. Yeah it's you know.
Yeah I think it's it's it's justwhat it's what you look for.
I mean at the end of the day it's like, I mean not for
nothing. Speaking of that, since Romeo
had sort of touched on, it's just like, hey, some people

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like, who do you find? Who do you find yourself like?
It's almost like, what race do you find yourself in?
Bet that you think is going to give you like a run for your
money in the sack, you know? OK I I I think, I think.
Is that your reason for it? Because, you know, it's so funny
because I know I have black friends who post on their their,

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I'm their token white friend andit's more of a because they are,
they just, they are very pro black and being around their
own, their their own people. I guess, yeah.
Their own people that, you know,their own inner circle, right.

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They don't. Anyways, I'm just going to yeah,
I feel like I'm dancing around that one.
How do I delicately. But you know, they're posting
stuff on there all the time about why?
Why do women, you know, why do white women want to get with
with black men and and I'm, you know, and they they come up with

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all this weird stuff. And I'm just thinking, wow, that
has nothing to do with it at allfor me.
I can't speak for other people, but I can only speak on myself.
It's just that the contrast of our skin colors are very exotic.

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I mean, it's it's erotic for me.And that's it.
That's it. I mean, whenever I see an
interracial couple, I'm just like in my head, I applaud, you
know, you know, I just, you know, and everybody has their
story. You know, it's like, you know,
you'll see, case in point, like maybe, you know, 2 white, 2

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white couples, I should say, because, you know, everybody's
dating, whether it's hetero or gay or whatever.
I mean, even yesterday I was in Manhattan and I saw, I was at, I
was at Whole Foods and I saw, you know, it was a black guy,
white guy, holding hands, walking down.
And I'm like, all right, you know, I'm like, all right, I'm
cool with that. That that's, you know, that's
beautiful too, you know, in a sense.

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So it's just like, it's not justto me, it's not just a hetero
thing. I think, I just think that, you
know, at the end of the day, theheart wants what it wants and
you're going to, you know, you're going to go after what
your heart wants. You're going to go after your
preference. You know, if you're, you know,
if you're a guy and you're into black dudes, you're going to go

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into black dudes. But when I see, like, you know,
same color couples, it's almost like, OK, you were probably high
school sweethearts or college sweethearts or, you know, you
met on a Tinder or whatever. You know, everybody has their
story, you know. And when I was going, when I was
growing up, the majority of the girls that I dated were white.

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I could probably count on maybe one hand of a very poor
Carpenter. How many black girls I've dated?
No, like, really. In predominantly white areas.
I mean I I did live in those. I did do live in those
predominantly right areas but that didn't mean there was like

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you know 2 black girls I couldn't get with you know what
I mean Or but at the same time but at the same time you know
with the majority of them being that it was almost like you know
you have your pick. You know you have your pick if
there's with the small minority of you know, again I graduated
with a black girl in my school and never have I ever thought,

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oh I could go date her. Like it never crossed my mind.
I was looking at like everybody else.
Like the first crush that I had in high school was with a
Mexican girl, you know. So it was it wasn't like, oh
good, there's one black girl like the one black girl I could
talk to. It's almost like OK if we did
and we break up, there's no moreblack girl.
Like I've dated the black girl in my class and that's it.

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Everybody else is just super young and, you know, so it's
just that I didn't, you know, you don't want to supremely
limit yourself to who you want to date.
You know, you kind of want to, you know, keep the you want.
You know, you want to keep as many options open.
But when you have those options that are open, you do have like

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your priorities. It's like, OK, I know I could
almost. I got, I got this wide bast of
fish in the sea, but this is what I'm going to look for first
and then if this doesn't work, I'm going to go look for this
next or what have you. But yeah, it's it's crazy.
Well, and the and The thing is, though, it's just like you said,
the black girl. I mean, by the time you were in

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high school, you were in areas where, like you said, there was
only one of the black. And just because these, the
girls that you could have dated,were black.
Did not mean that their personalities matched up with
you. Just because the skin tone did
didn't mean personalities were something that you'd want to
date. I've met a lot of douchebag

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white dudes that I wouldn't wantto date, you know?
So I mean that and and that preference.
I mean, yeah, I get that. It's for me it was more about
personality and being able to mesh personalities and.
Because when I looked at Romeo, in a lot of ways he was not

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anything that I would, I would typically date.
He's not like anybody I would typically date.
He's, he's, I usually typically dated guys that were more
physically fit. Right.
Which I is, is ironic because I am not.
And actually there's a lot of, there's a lot of things that,
you know, that I'm actually more, I mean, he's, I'm more

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comfortable with him because he's not physically fit.
You know, there's certain thingsthat that comfort level is, is a
lot more with somebody who's struggled with his weight for
his lifetime, the same as I have.
So that commonality that we haveis, is huge.
Yeah. And and when it comes to meeting

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people or I mean like even dating, like the first thing you
notice is the physical, you know, the outward appearance.
That's like the first thing thatyou're attracted to before you
even get to, you know, you're not going to, you know, it's
what you see first. And you're just like that's
that's the first thing that you're going to be attracted to.
And then even though that personmight be beautiful in like,

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outside, the outward appearancesis, you know, could be a ten.
Once you get to know that person, sometimes one of two
things could happen. You could be like, oh, wow, he's
he or she is as beautiful as, you know, on the inside as is on
the outside. Or you find ways of like, oh,
God, OK, yes, he's handsome, butthese are the attributes I can't

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deal with. You know what I'm saying?
Like, you start, and then when you Start learning more about
that person, it, it determines again like whether another date
happens, whether you know you. You decide, Hey, you know what?
Let me see if I can learn more about him, Maybe by him or her.
I might find something that we could have in common and all
that. So it's just like, you know,

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it's. And The thing is we.
I mean us as, you know, I'm 40. I'm 41 now.
I I look at dating very differently now than I did when
I was 20. Then I didn't When I then I did.
When I was, Yeah, like when I was 20, when I was 30.
Now, the older that I get, it's,you know, sure, I've dated the

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beautiful women in my 10 year ofdating.
But at the same time what I've also realized was you know
personalities were not did not match or or you know our
personalities didn't match or you know, it could have been and
you know something about me thatthey didn't like or something

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about them that I I didn't like.So it was just like sometimes
you just can't you know you justcan't let it.
It has to be, not. Just about.
You have to be more than a pretty face.
Yeah, and you can. You know I've seen a 10 go to a
four real quick. Oh jeez, yes, yes, I've and and

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The thing is and when I was in my 20s when that 10 or you know
what, I I wouldn't even go as far as 10 because like I've I've
yet to really date A10. But let's just say like nines or
eights for instance. I've seen them plummet to like
A4 or A5. And then I again in my 20s, I
think to myself, well, you know what?

(19:13):
I could probably change that. I could probably coach this
habit out of them. You know what I'm saying?
Like, I treat them like I'm a head coach of a football team
and I have a quarterback that's raw.
And I'm like, hey, I'm going to teach.
I'm going to, I'm going to coachall the turnovers out of you.
I'm going to coach all the fumbles out of you.
I'm going to show you how to make quick decisions when you

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snap the ball. That's how I was doing it in my
20s. I'm just like, oh, you don't
like horror movies. OK, that's fine.
Maybe I could interests you intolike a mild PG13 movie that
might you know oh you know and and or or or just something else
about them like you know she's mean to the waiter or something
whenever you go out and they're just like OK I could probably

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coach that out of you hey maybe you know when a waiter comes you
just you be a little bit nicer and then like she gets even more
madder at me and then just matter at the world because she
thinks that we hate her. But I it's that was the biggest
issue that I had is I always thought that.
I'll either tolerate this because she's so beautiful and I
couldn't do any better, or I would.

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Or I would just, I would just tolerate it and just be like.
OK, you know, whatever you say. But but yeah, I would just try
to you know, that whole you can change aspect.
Oh, that person can change. No, they can't.
Yeah, they can't. And that's just it, though.

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I think it's funny though. I think it's hilarious that you
said that as a guy you could change somebody's behavior.
And that's so funny to me because I've never heard that
come from a male perspective. It's almost always, oh, women
want to change the guys. And I've never heard of like a

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that a guy would think that. If there was something that they
could coach out of a female, that's funny.
I It's such AI will admit to this though, it's never worked
on my end. It never does.
It never will. It it it never has.
You would think by now, or like even in my first, I would have
learned that. But it's never happened.

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Now again, like you just said, it's almost like guys, you could
get us to do almost whatever. I mean, we're just that we're
we're just that compromising forthe most part.
I mean, I know guys that are married that are just like, man,
I used to like guys that used tosmoke.
I have some friends that were that are married that used to

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smoke like back in the day, they're like, hey, I was like,
oh, you quit smoking. He's like, yeah, you know, I
quit for my health and I quit for my wife.
And I was like, well, and it wasmore like, yeah, she kind of
asked me to quit. So I had.
And he was like after many, manyattempts, you know, he ended up,
he ended up quitting. And he doesn't even miss it.
Like, he'll be hanging. We'll be hanging out at a bar

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and people be smoking around us.And he doesn't even miss it.
But it's like, you know, when hesaid his wife, you know, I did
it for my wife. I'm like, did she ask you to do
it? He's like, well, yeah, she kind
of, you know, and he has kids too.
He does and she doesn't want to smoke around kids and all that.
So But yeah, you could. I feel that women, you know, and

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and and I'm not saying like, notnot nagging women, like like if
a woman is like, hey honey, I think we should talk about this
aspect of the relationship. I think women who come correct
and do it, you know, humbly can get a guy to almost do whatever
he wants just because, you know.Whatever she wants.

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Not what he wants. She wants whatever she wants.
Yeah. Yeah.
Because you know, like, you know, like they say, happy wife,
happy life, but. My husband says that all the
time. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
But he does. I I I feel that I I I do feel
that women can be. I mean because again, you know,

(23:16):
I mean leave it to the women whobear the children, I think.
Yes. You should have a large say in
the relationship. You bear the children.
You, you, you, you, you, you, you.
You guys are very motherly and very nurturing.
I mean us we're we're a hunters and gatherers.
You know, we we, you know, we that's that's that's basically

(23:37):
what we do. And we and we're protectors as
well. Just moms can be protectors as
well. But I and I don't.
And back in the day I used to belike, oh your pussy work, you
know, you you do whatever your wife tells you or blah, blah,
blah. But now it's like you know what
There a wife is not going to tell you to do something harmful

(23:58):
to yourself. Like most of the time it's
something that helps the relationship.
I don't think that you know. Again I've been told a lot a lot
of things about my hey, you knowwhat maybe should cut back on
this or maybe should cut back onthat or or what have you.
Or like there was AI was in thisrelationship where when my when
my girlfriend at the time found out that I smoked weed she she

(24:20):
gave me that look like like thatwas like a a deal breaker for
her. Right.
You know, and I mean, and I toldher that I did it.
And one time I was at AI was doing a show, and me and a bunch
of the guys were out in front ofthe other comedy underground
where we were smoking. And she appeared.
And I didn't even know she was coming to the show.

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And she saw me with all the guysand the girls that were in the
circle lighting up. And but The thing is, here's the
thing that made it kind of interesting.
When she saw me, she didn't walkaway.
She wasn't like trying to embarrass me in front of my
friends. Like I thought I told you.

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Like, she came up to me, she gave me a kiss on the cheek and
she says, I'm going to go insideand I'm going to sit down and
I'll see you after the show. Like, she didn't make a big deal
out of it at all. Like she, it was crazy.
And you know, I I introduced herto like the comics that were
there and whatnot. And we ended up going out
afterwards, me and and some of the comics.
And later on that night when we went to her, to her place, she

(25:29):
was like, oh, wow, she was like you.
She she had brought it up. She was like, so when you said
you smoked weed, I didn't. She was like, it's, I never
picked. I never thought I would see you
like, you know, and I told her, like, yeah, I do smoke, but
usually I wouldn't smoke like around you because I know how
you feel about that. So what she did was we kind of

(25:50):
made a compromise. She was like, look, I don't care
if you smoke weed it it it'd be,but she was like because I know
you know you with your friends, you're doing this or whatever
and you seem like you know how to handle yourself when you're,
you know, when you're, when you're smoking.
I would rather not. You do it around me and I'm like
perfect, great, you know, and she's like, you know, and she's

(26:15):
like, but I do plan on coming toa lot of your shows.
So that means that you might have to cut back.
If I'm around and I'm like, I can do that.
So for the most, for the most part, whenever she came to a
show, I wasn't smoking. When she didn't come to a show,
I for the most part I wasn't smoking either because it's just

(26:35):
like what if she shows up or or like or.
But but I was. So I mean I was, you know, kind
of at a point where I was just like, shit, I don't need to
smoke and and I didn't. And so for the most part of our
relationship, I mean, I still smoked during the relationship,
but I didn't do it around her. And also when I would go to her
place, you know, I would have like, Cologne in my in my glove

(26:59):
box. So I'd sprayed myself.
So I'm not going to her place smelling like weed or going to
her friend's place smelling like, you know, so there was
that, There was that compromise.But while I was dating her, I
smoked less than I did dating anybody else.
It's your question, was that when Lee was that before or
after weed was legal? This was after it was legal.

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OK, OK. Because that's usually that.
I did see that there's a lot of people's mentality changed about
it once it became legal. Well, after a while because she
would, when she was come to the come to the shows that she would
meet the comments. I mean come on everybody,
everybody smells like weed. Every comic that does weed, you
know, it's it's you know. But after a while she kind of,

(27:49):
you know, even even one time we went out of town, she tried it
and she was like, you know, I, I, I went to a, we went to a a
dispensary got some pre rolls and just walking around, walking
around and I lit one up, you know, and she was like let me

(28:14):
try it and I was like, here you go.
And you know she smoked like probably 3/4 of it and she was
feeling good. You know, she wasn't like I mean
she was a little high but she was just kind of like kind of
like, you know, we're out of town.
We don't have a care in the world.
We don't have to work. We're just hanging out And and

(28:35):
she was, you know like hey what do you want to go to eat, you
know like starting to get a little starting to get the
munchies. I'm like you're you know and you
know but it's just like but it'sstuff like that where again if
somebody you know you know and again I know we're we're mainly

(28:56):
saying women asking for men to to to change a habit or drop a
habit you know what I'm saying like you and and again we see
that a lot we do see that a lot in relationships but at the same
time you know back in the day itwas it's so you know you're yeah
now it's like you know what if you're whooped good for you

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somebody cares. Right.
And I think that that's just it though.
So I say, you know, the the men being pussy whipped.
But you know, really when women are trying to make those
changes, it is usually trying todo the.
It's not like women are typically trying to do talk men

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into doing something bad. Yeah, right.
And. I think on the other hand, men
though aren't usually trying to to change women for better or
trying to get them to do. They're usually if they're.
If the men are trying to manipulate the woman into doing

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something, it's usually something bad.
Yeah, yeah, it it, it, it is, itis and it ends badly, you know,
it's like and I and I can't believe I'm going to go there.
I'd be like, hey honey, you know, you know, sex is great,
but do you want to know what would make it even greater?

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Oh, my God, this is the introduction.
You reciprocate the oral sex thing.
That it's almost like, how do you tell a girl that, hey, I
like blowjobs? Like, how do you just spit that
out? Like hey, a little bit more You
know a little bit more. I mean just as much as I give

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you you know how do and and it'sbadly it's like wow could you
believe that He doesn't you knowand I just don't like it.
Well I'm like, well first of allagain it's a it's it it is a
preference thing. But most guys it's almost like
again sometimes they'll tolerateit.
I know guys that's just like, ohshit doesn't give head I'm out.

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Like I'm out and that. And that's usually, and I don't
know, is that like the main thing?
If a guy's trying to have a girlcompromise, a woman compromise
in something, it's usually in the it's sexual in nature, you
know? I think so.
I think if that's typical, if there's something that from from

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what I hear because from not notfrom what I experience because
you know. I'm a freak.
But so that's never been, you know, never been a problem for
me. But I think that a lot of times
that's the one thing is, is thatwith men if they're trying to
make a woman change it is something in a sexual nature but

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or if it's something like they're talking her into doing
something that she doesn't want to do, it's either sexual or
drugs to try and get the sex or you know, stuff like that.
I mean, it's more capsulating ina in a.
I think it all probably does come down, though to Saks at the
end of the day in one way or another.

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But changing. Yeah, so I'm going to like, so
New York. Oh my God.
So before you start, let me preface this.
So about a couple of weeks ago, Marianne and her husband came to

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the East Coast. They made their they graced
their, their presence in the East Coast.
Now Marianne flew in from work for work with her husband, which
I'm so glad she was able to bring him.
And they spent the they spent a week in New Jersey at a hotel.
And then when they were done with the work part they spent an

(32:54):
additional few days, mainly the weekend in New York, NY, New
York. And unfortunately I didn't get a
chance to hang out with them. But I did hear their bit of
their experience with her, whichMarian's going to share with us.
And well, not only the experience I saw a post that

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Romeo had and that's what reallykind of drove me insane because.
But and I told my friends about it and they were like, well, of
course they don't want to come back.
But anyway, I'm going to. I'm going to leave that to you.
Oh man, tell me, how'd you like New York?
New York can suck my fucking balloon knot.

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I'm telling you, it is. So first of all, let me let me
start by saying this. Romeo has he he's a disabled
veteran, OK? And when I say he's disabled,
he. His knees are blown, are blown,
they're like bone on bone and sofor him to be able to walk is

(34:00):
very painful. So he doesn't tip.
That's why he has the handicap placard and that's also why he
has a lot of the the treatment that he gets.
You know he has a has a walk, a cane and a Walker and so
mobility challenge we don't do, we typically do not walk long

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distances at all because he justcan't do it.
And New York is definitely not for the mobility challenged.
It is not, it is not designed for that.
There's it's a lot of walking and hiking and trying even go
and running up and down stairs at the subway.
And so now let's also say so we flew in, we flew into JFK on a

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Sunday night, because I knew I took all day Sunday to travel.
Our plane landed at 7:20 PM. We did not get to our hotel in
New Jersey until 1:00 in the morning.
It took almost an hour to get out of the airport.
It we were. I mean it took us forever to get

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out of the airport. And then we found the rental
cars. Finally got to the rental cars
and my rental car company was out there.
Come to find out that it was. Off site and you had to catch a
shuttle. So we waited and and I was like,

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do we have to call for somethinglike, no, you just wait, they'll
come here and get you Waited, waited.
After about 40 minutes I finallycalled the company to try and
like, hey, are you guys having ashuttle come by here because
it's cold and it's raining outside and it's getting late.
At this point it is like close to 9:00 at night and keep in
mind that. We're hungry as fuck.

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We haven't eaten. OK, so we're both getting hangry
because we hadn't ate since like8:00 our time.
And so we start getting hangry. We're waiting.
I called the rental car company.They hung up on me four times.

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I finally was able to get. Through to the shuttle driver to
have somebody come pick us up. They finally come get us.
We finally go get the rental car.
It's the company. We have to sit outside and wait
our turn and then it we go in. By the time we finally get the
rental car, it's like almost 10:00 at night.

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They tell us that they gave us afree upgrade and I I point that
out to Romeo and he looks at thecar and he goes from what?
From Prius like it. It was a Toyota Camry.
We get in and we start driving and all of a sudden I think we
made it maybe 2 minutes away andall of a sudden alarms were

(37:03):
going off, right? And I, Robbie and I are hangry,
we're we're sniffing at each other.
I stopped some place and they were.
Closing. And I said, is there any place
around here that's open? And so they appointed us.
I think it was like an apple base.
We went to an apple base for dinner.
Finally we're sitting there, we're eating and I'm calling the

(37:26):
rental car company to tell them that they have an alarm going
off in their car and I needed tothem trade it out.
And they tell me that my insurance can pay for it.
And I was like, pay for what? Like this vehicle is is on your
end. You gave me a car that has a
mechanical issue and I need to trade it out and they start

(37:47):
arguing with me and then have the nerve to say, ma'am, I would
appreciate if you would keep this professional because I
didn't cuss him out like I did, you know, because this was a
work thing, so I'm and Romeo's losing his shit.
And he's like fucking tell them they could kiss her.
And I'm like calm down. I'm like this is the work I need
to maintain right. I have to have a keep a

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professional appearance And so when this guy had the nerve to
tell me that we ma'am I'd appreciate it if we keep it
professional because I was like I got my really super like what
are you going to tell your boss when you're complaining about me
as a customer that I said I thank you very much I you know
and. I guess I was.

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I said it in a snotty way, but when he said that, I said, look
dude, I would like to keep this professional too.
I would have preferred if you guys kept it professional and
not left me sitting outside the airport for an hour.
I would have preferred that you guys kept it professional and
not hung up on me four times when I called you.
And I would prefer that you would keep it professional when

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I'm telling you that your vehicle has a mechanical issue
with it. And not telling me that I have
to put it on my insurance, whichhas nothing to do with this
vehicle. So we ended up like I ended up
hanging up with the dude and I went outside and I told Roman, I
said screw it, we're just going to drive to New Jersey.
And he looks at me and he goes, no, we're not because we found

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out it was the hood wooden latch.
And the hood would not latch. Every time we slammed it, it
would come up. So we had to take the car back
to the rental car company because we're always like, look,
we going to try and drive an hour to New Jersey, that hood
can fly up on our face. And we that's so dangerous.
So we ended up taking it back. And then they gave us this song

(39:36):
and dance like they went out there and tried to close the
hood. And we're like, look, dude, it's
not freaking closing. It's bent.
It's not working. And so then they're like, well,
we got to hurry up and get you into another rental car because.
Our computer shut down automatically at midnight and
I'm like, what? So we finally get the rental car
At midnight we drive to our hotel.

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Thankfully, I'd already called ahead of time to tell them that
we were going to be We were coming in and we were going to
check in and we'd be late. Got our hotel room, which was
absolutely amazing. The work.
I had a great time at work. It was, it was fantastic, Great
opportunity. And then?
So we took Friday is typically atravel day.

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So we decided to take Friday andjust drive to New York and go
drive around while we still havethe rental car.
So we got to see the Brooklyn Bridge.
I know, right? And Oh my good God, it takes
half an hour to go 4 miles in New York.
Yeah, that is insane to me. How does it take so freaking

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long and so Uber? If you try and order an Uber, it
takes forever because they have to calculate it and it's
massively expensive because theycalculate in the time, not just
the the distance. So that was issue #1.
But we did get a chance to see from Liberty Park.
We got to see the Statue of Liberty.

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We got to see the Empire State Building.
We got to see Times Square. I mean, we just driving around,
we drove around. Then we dropped off the rental
car and found out that our hotelthat's right next to the airport
was deep. I mean, it was deep.
It was nowhere near the airport.It was very deep.
And so we settled in for the night and got up the next

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morning, Saturday, we woke up, was starting to get out of bed,
and we looked at each other and we were like.
I'm sick as fuck. And he's like, I'm sick too.
And I said stay in bed today andhe's like stay in bed and we
literally slept all day. That's why we were supposed to
get with you that that Saturday.Yeah, by the way.
And so then we were going to tryand get work to get with you on

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Sunday too. So Sunday we we finally took an
Uber into town and we were walking all over the place
trying to catch subways and it was we got lost.
We did, we did, we did take the Staten Island Ferry, the walk on

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ferry for free and we were able to see the Statue of Liberty.
Then got off and then got right back on and came back.
We went and saw. We did see the 9/11 memorial

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which was depressing as hell andout in the middle of the.
So we finally we we got on a train.
We found out how to get. I mean this.
They are not well marked. There's no real like when you go
to the subway, there's no real place to look at that says where

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everything is and how to get there.
And it's so freaking confusing. We got lost in the subway for
over half an hour going up and down.
I swear to God, we just kept circling, fucking around and I'm
trying to find elevators becausethe the knees, his knees were
just blown and dying from the stairs.
Then when I did try and do this,it was like, look, it took us

(43:18):
over a freaking hour just to finally get out of the subway
and catch the long. And I didn't know that LIRR was
the Long Island Railroad, which is what we were taking.
I didn't know that we finally wethought we were on the right
train. Turns out we were going to West
Hampstead instead of going to Hampstead and we ended up

(43:41):
finally getting off the the the train and took an Uber to our
hotel which was, I mean it was still less than it would have
been but by the time we got to our hotel.
Oh, and and our our first Uber ride, Let's talk about this.
Our first Uber ride was when we dropped the rental car off.
We called an Uber and said it would be there in a minute.

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We're looking around and then Romeo goes, oh, our Uber's here
and he goes to get in the car and he goes here, opens door and
gets me in and he gets in. And the guy in the car turned
and looked at us like, and he didn't speak English.
And I'm asking him like, is thisUber?
And he's like Uber? Yes, Uber.
Uber. Turns out he wasn't fucking
Uber. He was returning a rental car.

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He didn't. Right, So.
Then we get out of the Uber. Oh my God.
And then we had the one Uber ride that took us into New York.
This guys, his car. As Romeo said, his car was held
together by duct tape, dirt and hope.
I mean, it was like, it was so bad.

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Literally, I took a picture. We talked about it on Monday
when we were waiting for our lift to take us to the airport
and he we we were talking about his car and we turned around and
there he was and I was able to get a picture of his car.
The whole front bumper was practically missing.
His interior Dome light was heldtogether with fucking Scotch
tape. I mean, seriously, dirt.

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Really. How is he?
Able to legally drive that car for Uber or Lyft?
I don't know, but it was the biggest and it stank and there
was weird ass stains on the seatand we were afraid like like
Romeo said we need to get hepatitis shots after we get out
of this Uber. It was gross.

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So Long story short, so, so thenOK, so Sunday we were able.
We did go see Wicked on Broadway, which was very good.
Play. I like that play.
Well, I fell asleep in it. I fell asleep and I know I I
thought to stay awake. Well, so then Fast forward.

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We come home. We fly home.
On Monday, we had taken Tuesday off.
Wednesday, no Romeo. Sunday, he said he was feeling
better. Monday, Tuesday he said he felt
great. Wednesday he and I still wasn't
feeling good the whole time. Wednesday I go to work, not the,
and I'm just in such a fucking brain fog.

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Like I can't hold a thought to save my life, right?
And I'm driving home from work on Wednesday, and all I wanted
to do, I was just exhausted. I didn't feel good.
I just wanted to come home. And as I'm driving home, Romeo's
like, he goes, I don't feel good.
He calls me, he goes, I'm feeling really, really sick.

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So I come home and when I say I was in a brain fog, I was in
such a brain fog that whole time.
I get home on Wednesday and I goand take a COVID test and within
minutes it popped hot and I tested Romeo and through the

(46:59):
entire pandemic. Romeo has not once had to take a
COVID test. He has not taken a COVID test
once and I made him take a COVIDtest and his he his, though you
could see as the the test stuff was going through it.
I mean it didn't even the fluid didn't even get to the other

(47:20):
side before it tested positive. I mean he tested so fast.
Yeah. And so it was very strange.
It was very strange because I walked out of the he was on the
phone and I I'd walked out therewith my test strip and he was
like, dude, I'm going to call you back.
Something just came up and I've never had COVID.

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I've made it through this entirepandemic without getting sick.
I don't know how I've managed togo the entire pandemic without
getting sick, but I part of it is I'm mad at myself because
Romeo even said before we went to go fly, He said we need to
wear our masks on the plane and I didn't have one of my paper

(48:08):
masks like I I like to use and Idon't like the the cloth ones
because they're really hard to breathe through.
And so I was like, Nope, I didn't wear anything and I let
my guard down and I fucking got COVID for the first time through
this entire pandemic. We have not gotten COVID.
This stuff I am I I took a test Thursday night and it came back

(48:31):
negative this last Thursday. So it's been almost two weeks
now. I am still feeling like shit.
I'm still so fucking tired. It's ridiculous.
It's still all I feel like I have a head cold and I don't

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know, maybe I do, maybe I am like I caught something else.
But it's not. At least I'm not positive for
COVID anymore. Yeah, well, it almost sounds
like he's just recovering from all the effects from it, though,
You know, like you're like, it'sslowly but surely recovering.
I I did not lose my sense of taste or smell.

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I did lose my voice the other morning Friday.
I had no voice. It was weird.
I think the thing that was the most unsettling, and it was just
that brain fog, the loss of, like, literally through the
entire pandemic, Anytime I've ever been even slightly sick, I

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was taking COVID tests. I've got 18 of them in my
cupboard right now, 18 tests, actually 17 that I could go at
any time and and go take a test well, and I have been so
diligent every single time I've gotten sick.
Monday, when we flew home, I wasthinking, I need to go take a

(50:00):
COVID test as soon as I get home.
And it popped right out of my head and didn't pop back in
until Wednesday, after I'd already exposed to people that I
work with, you know? Yeah.
And so, oh, it was, yeah. I try to sit here and think, who

(50:21):
all I expose myself to. Oh, well, a new, a new hire, you
know, a new employee. But other than that nobody else
got sick from me, so at work. So that was good and and even
like my my sister-in-law who picked us up at the airport, her
nine month old baby, he's just alittle itty bitty.

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He didn't get sick. I was sitting right next to him,
so thankfully he didn't get sick.
But you know, it made me really kind of stop and and just
coincidentally I was listening to a voicemail.
I was listening to a voicemail that I had.
I recorded some stuff. It wasn't a voicemail, but it
was some recordings that I did back when I was with Hollow

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Earth radio station. And one of the things that we
were tasked with as the On Air personalities was coming up with
a positive message, something that we could all the different
On Air Personalities could. They could play our our positive

(51:27):
message throughout the day for everybody.
And so I came across this record.
I didn't even remember that I did that recording.
This was back in 2019 or no 2020because it was right before you
joined the radio show with me and I I I came across it and I
sent it to you and so we should talk.

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So I just thought that was kind of, I guess, poignant, poignant,
Is that right? I, I don't know what kind of
word I want to use to describe this, that I found that as I was
dealing with COVID myself for the first time in almost four
years since the pandemic started.

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So I sent it to you and I want you to tell me what are your
thoughts. Oh, oh, oh, OK.
So when I listen, I listened to it and it really sort of took me
back to the pandemic, right? It just took me back because it

(52:37):
was, it was a very dark time, ofcourse, where we were just
trapped inside, I mean, just trying to keep our wits up and
everybody was going through cabin fever.
But I was listening. I I listened to.
The message. And then I thought about the
message, probably for the rest of the day, of what I was hoping

(52:59):
to accomplish from the pen, after the pandemic, and even
during the pandemic. All I thought was I want to
leave the pandemic era differently from how I came in.
You know whether it's, you know.Change the I mean, change the

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way I look at things, change theway that I do things, do be
better, you know, because it's just like at any point.
I mean, there's so many people that were dying, so many of our
friends dying. It was almost that.
I almost felt like at one point,you know, I could be dead.

(53:44):
I could get sick. And I did get sick.
I got, I did. I caught COVID.
Before, people thought it was cool because I caught it the
February of 2020 and it was awful.
Caught it during Super Bowl weekend and it sucked.
So you know, and I wasn't thinking, oh, I'm dying or
anything like that. It was just I luckily for me

(54:07):
where I was at. I had all the things around me
that I needed to keep myself better, whether it was water,
orange juice. Medication.
I kept that stuff around me and I used it accordingly.
But it was just you know so anyway to answer your.

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I mean answer your question you know I just felt like a we we
got past it. We're at the end am IA better
person than I was before the pandemic or I think I see the
world much differently now and. And and for me, sadly, you know,
I, I, I mean, I've traveled a lot since the pandemic.

(54:50):
There are places that I've been to that didn't even look like
they went through a pandemic or or actually what I should say is
it looked like they went right back to normal like things are
good. They were able to survive the
pandemic. They were able to overcome the

(55:12):
pandemic. There are places that I've been
to where you didn't think they did.
It was it almost. It almost seemed worse, like not
for nothing. Here in New York, I don't feel
that we got better since the pandemic.
Everything. I shouldn't say everything.

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Most of the things are terrible.It's terrible and I don't know
if it's because. And and and and and I don't want
to, I don't know if it's becauseof the, the the of the pandemic
of you know, little, little, little things because of the

(55:54):
pandemic. I mean, I know rent's gone up
like crazy. Oh yeah, the cost of
everything's gone up. Yeah, the the cost of everything
has gone up. I feel like now we have more
people with mental health issues.
We have a lot of homeless peopleout on the street and you would
think that, you know, hey, when we get back to normal, there are

(56:19):
some things we need to work on as a society, as a city, as
whatever. There are things we need to work
on. Hey, we need to get these
homeless people off the street because again, not for nothing,
you know, some nice family from Ohio was putting change in a
homeless person's cup. And that person is sick with

(56:40):
COVID or what have you, you know, like you don't know.
And then next thing you know, you get sick.
You know, not not to say that all homeless people are sick,
but you never know who you couldget it from, you know?
So, you know, you end up taking your family back home to Ohio
and they get sick and then you end up going to work and getting

(57:01):
them. You know it.
It's a chain reaction. So my my thing is.
You know they I kind of feel like New York as a city and I
have our our mayor to blame for this, our current mayor.
I don't feel that they're doing their due diligence and trying
to make the city a better place.I've been to again other cities

(57:25):
and people are out and about andand and and again living the
post COVID-19. Pandemic, you know they're
they're just like they're they're they're living it like
hey, you know what we were inside for a long time this that
whatever. And we're going to try, you
know, we're going to try to do good.

(57:45):
We're going to try to do better.I see cities doing that and
working on that. Where I live, I don't, I I I
don't see that and it's almost but yet a lot of people come
visit. A lot of people you know come
here spend and do things and it's great.
You know, we our city needs that, but.
I do feel that we have a long way to go.

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You know what was weird though, is just that I didn't really see
any homeless. I saw two homeless people in New
York. It's nothing like what you would
see here in Washington, where there is absolutely homeless
encampments everywhere. I didn't see any of that in New
York. I did see some Some ask the

(58:29):
fucking rails hustling going on.Like there was a woman selling,
she was selling tacos and churros in the middle of the
freaking highway. Literally, it's middle of the
highway I've never like that's some next level shit right
there. Like that woman was hustling.
When you go into the subway, there's these Mexicans with and

(58:56):
they have their kids doing it. They're selling candy, you know,
selling chocolates. And they have like either they
have like a baby strapped on on their back while they're doing
this which I guess adds for you know the the charm of giving in
or they'll have their their little 7 year old in front
walking around chaka latte chaka, latte chaka.

(59:19):
And it's it's, it's they. I mean there's the the hustle in
this city. It it's real.
Like the hustle in the city is definitely for real.
Everybody's hustling and and everyone you know because I mean
what else are you gonna you you live in New York what else are
you going to do you know? And it's it's saying that level
of hustle. I've never seen it anywhere else

(59:41):
in my life, and not to that level.
I mean, I've never seen that, right?
Like, I wish the Seattleites, the our populace, would hustle
like that. So there'd be a hell of a lot
less fucking bums on the street,you know?
But they also New York. From my understanding, they
can't just sell shit unless they're they have a permit,

(01:00:03):
right? Well, which that which doesn't
stop them at all. But I know some there's some you
have to have a food handling license that's that's the main
thing. So sometimes you know I I
remember like in the train there's there's this guy who
every in the morning who sells coffee and tamales in the

(01:00:25):
morning in the train and I'm sure cops walk by and you know I
and just you know some of the some of the if you don't have a
for the most part if you don't have a some cops won't even
bother you. They they they just they just
don't you know and it's you knowit's just like sometimes you
would just have to use your discretion when it comes to

(01:00:47):
that. You know I've you know we have a
lot of food trucks in in some place in Brooklyn we have so
many food trucks now you know and and and it's just you know
multicultural food trucks aroundthe like the Barclays Center by
not too far from where I live. And in Manhattan you know you
might see some weed trucks you might see some you know you

(01:01:10):
might see some food you'll see like the the the little stands,
the hot dog stands is the one thing I don't mess with.
I'm never. I mean, I'm not going to pay $3
for a hot dog because I'm like, I live here, You.
Know we did buy a hot dog. It was disgusting.
Yeah, it's. We bought it over on Broadway
and it was good God. Again, Keep in mind we did not

(01:01:34):
know at the time that we had COVID, so we were we were pretty
sick, but we would never do thatshit again.
Overall. Like, I've been to New York
before and I enjoyed it, but forthis time it was just, I knew
how. It was very stressful for me
because I knew how much pain he was in and we tried to find some
place where we could even rent some mopeds or something.

(01:01:56):
And we were even going to try and rent a a U-Haul truck, but
they didn't have any available. The thing about New York is it's
not really like it's not really.I mean, wheelchair friendly,
yes, in some cases, but like Rascal friendly scooter friend

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like it. It's kind of odd.
Like you guys would have had a hard time with that, with
Y'all's like Rascals if you guyshave brought it to New York
because you know it it it is rough.
Like you wouldn't. I mean, sure, you'd be able to,
I guess, use it on the sidewalk,but you know you can't.
You really wouldn't. Wouldn't be wise to bring it to

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Times Square of all places, or you wouldn't?
Even really be able you it wouldbe a hard time trying to get on
to one of the subways. Yeah, because you would have to
try to find an elevator access. Which they're not everywhere at
all. They're not.
Which means you got to do a lot of walking.
Hell, we got on to 1. The one subway, the train

(01:03:00):
stopped, We couldn't even get inbecause it was so packed.
And then we waited for the next one and had to just fight our
way into it. We just muffled our way in and
in the next stop or two it got real empty real quick.
But it was just where we were at.
It was really a very popular spot and.
It was just, it was very frustrating for because then it

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was there's no place to sit. So you're standing the whole
time. So yeah, he was in so much pain.
He was miserable, which made me miserable because there was
nothing I could do to help him and I knew how much pain he was
in. So at that point I was willing
to pay 100 bucks to get an Uber to get the hell out of there if
I had to. We we didn't.

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We ended up catching the, you know.
And we kept asking people insidethe subway, how do we find, you
know, like people that work there, though, you know what I
mean? Nobody.
There was no way you could actually find a sign that said,
you know, like even at freaking bus stops, it tells you where
this the bus stops and where you're going and show that.

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It doesn't tell you that on the subway.
They on the subway, like when onthe platforms there used to be a
lot of maps where you could see where you're going and whatnot.
And on the train in in the subway cards, there's like 2
maps in every car. So it's like there's definitely
maps on there or if you're there's like if you look up at
the they'll have like what stopsare next and what transfers are

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and whatnot. But yeah, they used to have it
on the subway. And I know some train stations
have like the digital maps, but for some reason motherfuckers
keep breaking those. But we we we have digital maps
where you could, where you couldsee where you are.
Sorry. When you're sitting in the sub,

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in the in the subway itself, when you're sitting into the
train, OK, It's so packed you can't look around.
No, no, Yeah, you're right. No, you can't.
So many people. And then you got to hope that,
well, like you could. Fight your way through to go.
Excuse me, Excuse me. Move so I can come move this
map. I mean and and The thing is,

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here's the thing, though, but also, and I meant to say this
earlier during the weekends, like even I had to go to work
yesterday. The subways there, the services
are limited there. Yeah.
So there's certain places that, you know, the trains, the two

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trains not running from Flatbushto Atlantic Ave. you would have
to take it and then and into Manhattan.
It's not running from 34th St. to 125th.
Like there's a lot of, there's alot of train alterations that if
you don't live there, but you have no clue where to go, what
to do because. There's nothing that you could

(01:05:51):
even look at, and even using Google Maps didn't help.
You know, Google Maps will neverhelp you when it comes to.
I mean, actually it will help you with the subways, but it's
still a pain in the ass because again, there are certain stops
that a lot of trains are rerouted because of signal
improvements and all these improvements that they claim

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they are doing. But it's a it subway the the MTA
on the weekend, especially on a Saturday when you know you got
all you got, the influx of tourists coming in.
It is just God awful. Because again, unless you don't
know the trains really well, youcan't really navigate and

(01:06:33):
circumvent that system really well.
Because you know it's your firsttime.
You don't know where to go, you don't know you're expecting a
train to stop here, but when it doesn't, you're like, what the
hell? So with Romeo his initially when
we were like he's oh, I'm not worried about having to use
subways and trains to. That's how I grew up in in

(01:06:55):
Chicago, Chicago. Yeah, no, no, that didn't help
him at all because he's like, where the fuck?
And I was like, I don't know and.
Not we did find, whenever we were able to find a subway that
we could use an elevator. We would use that.

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But like I said, it's just I could not even imagine somebody
in a wheelchair trying to get out into a subway.
I just couldn't imagine it. Do you know how difficult?
How many people do you ever see in New York?
In a wheelchair? In a wheelchair?
I mean, well in the subway, Not too many, you don't see too many

(01:07:38):
in the subway, but above ground,you know.
But for some of those people whoare wheelchair bound, they're
they do have like their own kindof, I don't know if it's really
public transportation, but there's vans that'll that will
get them to where they need to go.
Accessor rides. So if you're disabled in any

(01:08:00):
way, what they do is, you know, you make a phone call and a van
will come pick you up, drop you off wherever you want to go.
I don't know how that's paid, but it's like, you know, because
I have a cousin who's disabled, not disabled, but she can't get
around. And anytime she, you know, she's

(01:08:20):
at a family function, she calls that number up and they pick her
up and they take her home, you know, so.
So for the most part, people whoare wheelchair bound here in New
York, they do have ways of getting around without having to
take the subway, which is not for nothing better for them, I'd
rather. Oh yeah, yeah.

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Take, get, get, get in a van andaccess to ride because they have
you know the the the handicap decals they have they're big
enough where you know four people in a wheelchair could be
in you know wow. So I'm.
Telling you it is just so not well, every time, every time I
see somebody, every time I see somebody in a wheelchair in New

(01:09:04):
York, in the subway, I just, I automatically feel bad for them.
I'm like, wow, you have no idea.I mean, unless they know their
way around. It's like I I I feel for you,
man. And that's exactly what it was.
So I mean, and and for him, there was not always a chance
for him to sit down or anything like that.
And of course, him being a gentleman, so if there was a

(01:09:25):
seat, he would make me take it. He wouldn't sit in it, He would
make me sit because he's a gentleman.
And so, yeah, so New York was not so awesome for us.
Not so awesome. I will say, though, that I
absolutely did love seeing the Statue of Liberty.
That did. I got in my phills for that.

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I don't know. That was beautiful.
And then the memorial was, quitefrankly, underwhelming.
Well, I I will say this about the memorial because I go there
almost. Well, every 911 I'm there and
sometimes I walk past there, like me and my dad was kind of

(01:10:10):
by the memorial Friday night, actually, but it's usually
packed, you know, people want tocome see it, you know.
To me it's a tourist attraction and I don't care.
But I, I, I witnessed it. So for me, there's AI have a
saw. I have a very soft spot for it.
So I, I, I, I go there and you know we listen to other people's

(01:10:34):
stories. We overhear people's stories.
But for what it, for what it is,I think it's a really it's a
really they really did a good job on you know they did a good
job with it and you know, and and to me, yes, it is depressing
like, but the memorial is cut tome.

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It's kind of like, you know whatthe memorial, the memorial is a
great send off to the towers because we still have the one
big tower that we have there, the big World Trade Center over
there. So and then you know, around it,
there's, you know, a lot of goodstores, a lot of good shops you
don't really think about. I mean it's in the back of your
mind, hey, we're near the 9/11 memorial, you know, but you

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know, it's. I don't, it's almost like what?
Yeah. No, it's it's, it is what it is.
We preserved it well, I don't think, I mean, I guess depending
on perspective, it's depressing.But when a lot of when people
show up, it's more of like a happy morn, you know.

(01:11:40):
But when I first started going there and helping, you know,
like prepare food for them, it was very depressing because they
were still digging bodies out. They were still working.
There was still firefighters were getting lung cancer and
lung illnesses because of the dirt and smoke and having to do

(01:12:01):
all of that, like, you know, so that's the sad part for me.
Whenever I walk past the fire station, you know, I see fire
the fire guy, a fireman standingout there, I shake their hands,
you know because again those guys in my, in my opinion are
the true heroes of New York. Oh yeah, you know, whether you

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know, I mean firemen. I, and you know this, I have
more respect for our firemen in our city than I do for the
police here for obvious reasons.But I always respect the
firefighters, you know, definitely so.
But yeah, it's, you know, those,those.

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It's not just that. It's it's underwhelming.
I guess I did. I wasn't prepared for what I was
going to see, like just what it was.
It's a water feature, really. Yeah.
And. I think that it's very, when you
think about it, about all those people who died there, that

(01:13:07):
there used to be towers there and that they collapsed in and
that there's, you know, all those people died.
That is insanely, sanely sad, you know, and you almost sense.
How? Traumatic of what happened

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there. You can still feel it.
Yeah. Yeah.
You know, I I mean, I see 911 again, almost almost everywhere
I go. Like again, you go to the fire
stations. They have the memorials of the
of the their brothers who passed.
You know you you and you see it and it's and you know again it's

(01:13:55):
it's those things that it's likeit's a it's a very good send
off. These people are not going to be
forgotten you know. But my main thing was my main
concern was the fireman. I I I know some I have a few
friends that are firefighters. You know one of them was there

(01:14:17):
and he didn't get any lung issues but he was like it was it
was the hardest thing he ever had to do be on that site and it
was almost and it wasn't just you know NYFDNY we had we've had
I think New Orleans sent us a sent New York a a fire truck to

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loan. You know, there were other
places all over the country thatwas, you know, being very
helpful, whether it was loading us fire trucks, you know, things
that we needed to to get this, to get this project off the
ground, get these bodies out outof there.
We we were getting help from, you know, just all over.

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It was just crazy. Like every day you'd see the
news. Oh, St.
Louis sent a fire truck over, you know, because again, you
know, we, while we were still, while the firefighters were
doing this, we still had a city to run.
You know, we still had, we stillhad to, you know, I mean
everybody's eyes was on Ground Zero.

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You know, my, my office at the time, you saw the financial
district, what you saw down there was basically smoke, like
a war just finished. And you even a week after that,
you saw smoke just hovering overthat area.
And then, you know, me and some friends, we would go down to the
Bowery and then we would volunteer to like prepare food

(01:15:52):
for the firefighters, the workers, construction workers
that were, you know, using the backhoe to dig all that dirt up.
We we worked there. And then the guy who was running
the whole show would make us take a walk over there and say
just so you guys know, this is what you're doing this for.
You know, So it really, I felt like, you know, I wasn't giving

(01:16:16):
blood because I hate needles. But I was more than willing to,
you know, Fridays and Friday nights, Saturday nights, Sundays
to volunteer my time because this is my city and I feel like
if I don't do nothing, then I don't care and I'm a part of the
problem. But you had a lot of people all

(01:16:38):
over helping and that that that's what.
Yeah, I take, I take very, I took very good comfort in that.
Now on the flip side, we have people scamming elderly people.
Just, you know, there's always that side, the dark side that oh
we're starting a fund for the firefighters, this, that,
whatever. And we were told that if anybody

(01:16:58):
called you for that, it's a scam.
Nobody was doing that. However, if you wanted to send
money, there was like a very well reputable charity that you
could send your money to. So there would be, there would
be we. My grandmother was getting those
calls and you know, luckily she was a smart woman.
She knew better not to give in to that.

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Right, right. Yeah.
It it was, I don't know, I thinkthat New York it was definitely
it. It was a great opportunity for
us to realize that we have to dothings differently if we when we
go to travel, because we want todo a lot more traveling now and
we. Look at travel different when we

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are flying versus driving. When we're driving, like when we
went on our trip to north, you know, we went to South Dakota
and through Wyoming and all thatstuff.
It was a lot different because we had a vehicle, we were
driving, it was at on our terms and we're spoiled that way.
We're used to being able to travel when we want, where we
want. Like at at a whim we don't have

(01:18:06):
to follow any schedule like a train or a a bus or a subway or
any of that stuff. We can just jump in our vehicle
and go and so it it's definitelythe it's a different kind of
travel for sure and to have to try and make those other kind of
adjustments is is was really hard so.

(01:18:30):
I wanted to try and talk about something that some news that I
was kind of changing topics a little bit.
I sent you an A message about this.
It was kind of a news story and I'm trying to get back to it.
So I thought it was absolutely freaking hilarious.

(01:19:01):
Let's see. Yeah, we were actually going to
record earlier this week and I Icouldn't because I I this After
effects. The one thing about COVID that
I'm finding is this. I'm just so exhausted and I'm I

(01:19:22):
do find and I feel great. And then I'll go do something
like we were supposed to record on Thursday, right?
Yep. Wednesday I felt fantastic.
I had a great day. Wednesday.
I had lots of energy. I had a lot of things that I
accomplished. Thursday, not so much.
And I made it through work and all I could think of was I got

(01:19:46):
to get to my bed. I just got to make it long
enough through the day to get home and go to my bed and.
I got here and I crawled into mybed and that's the last thing
that I I remember doing for the whole day.
So I'm trying to find. I know that I sent you and I

(01:20:11):
can't find it because I sent. Oh wait, maybe it's in here.
Is it a DUI story? Yes, yes.
And I'm trying to find the DUI story because it was freaking
hilarious. Where's my DUI story?
The guy got a DUI. It was at.

(01:20:33):
I'm going to pull up a new one then, because I already know it
was. It was at.
It was at a He was driving a tractor with a bunch of kids
behind him. Going through a parade, OK?

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And he was drunk. And he was drunk, driving,
driving a tractor, towing a bunch of kids.
So he gets he got a DUI, driver DUI.

(01:21:26):
Trying to see man driving children's train at Christmas
event accused of DUI. And you know what?
I just googled this and now I'm going to be like it.
It popped up all these Google DUI attorneys.
Now I'm going to get into a bunch of shit for DUI attorneys.

(01:21:51):
Let's see, he was driving. He was in Tennessee.
Oh, Tennessee. Good old Tennessee.
Yeah. A man is accused of operating a
motorized train for children at a Christmas parade while under
the influence. Henry Mead, who's 40, was

(01:22:11):
arrested on Saturday by the Taxwell Police Department.
He faces charges of driving. But under the influence
possession of methamphetamine and other drug charges,
according to the television. So this guy, not only is he
drunk driving, he's all messed out while he's doing it.

(01:22:31):
While he's pull, he's driving a Christmas tractor for a bunch of
kids, he's doing Santa. He was driving the Santa's train
during the the town's Christmas Tractor Parade when visitors
reported seeing him driving erratically down Main St.
According to the police, he was driving a motorized lawn mower
converted into a train that pulled 2 carts behind it.

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Oh. Officers said he was unsteady on
his feet and according to an arrest affidavit, he was
determined to be under the influence, according to the
television station, after he wasarrested, ME Research and
officers discovered a syringe, methamphetamines and other
narcotics. Good old Tennessee.

(01:23:16):
Wow. You know, there's that sign
whenever, like in neighborhoods that says drive like your kids
live here. You did the opposite of that.
Exactly what could? You imagine you you take your
kids and and like, yay, I get a ride on the Santa's train and

(01:23:36):
come to find out the guy who's driving your kids is is messed
out and drunk. You know what that guy just
caused? He just caused a checkpoint for
those kinds of things now like OK, Sir, stop it.
We just needed this is the this is the DUI checkpoint.
We got to search your vehicle just because of that statue.

(01:24:00):
Exactly. Exactly.
So, oh, I now that I have, all of a sudden I had a shiny thing
moment. Thursday.
I know we're not going to recordthis coming Thursday, because
why? Why not?

(01:24:21):
I guess we could. No, I I'm so kidding.
I'm actually, I am most likely going to be at my aunt's for
Thanksgiving here in Brooklyn. But that doesn't mean we can't
record on Wednesday or Tuesday. That's very true.
So what are what are you? What does Thanksgiving look like

(01:24:42):
for you? What is your plans for
Thanksgiving? So my dad told me that his
sister is going to be having Thanksgiving at her place and I
I decided yesterday, well the day before yesterday that I
would attend. So what it looks like is a lot
of family going over to my aunt's house and me watching

(01:25:04):
football hopefully and not passing out and not getting too
inebriated, which I can't promise won't happen.
But no, it's going to be it's going to be fine.
I thought about usually I leave for Thanksgiving, I I go out of
town, but how come just to get away just because.

(01:25:27):
Well, so here's the cool thing about my work week next week.
Well this coming, it's going to be short because I work Monday,
Tuesday and Wednesday I am, we are of course off on Thursday,
but as an added bonus, we're also off on Black Friday.
I have not had back-to-back Friday, Thursday, Friday,

(01:25:50):
Thanksgiving in a long time. I am so excited about sleeping
Friday, sleeping Saturday, doingGod knows what on Sunday.
It's it's a four day weekend that I have not had.
I'm just like I feel like I'm inhigh school again.
Like what am I going to do? What am I doing all this time?
I know what I'm doing Thursday, Friday, probably not going to do

(01:26:13):
Black Friday shopping but I'll probably just be you know
hanging out at the we there's a football game on Friday.
I'll probably end up watching that the Black Friday, the 1st
Black Friday game that the NFL is doing.
But aside from that, it's just like I am on from.
I'm sorry, let's do it a game. There's a game on Friday.
Yeah. I think The Jets and another

(01:26:34):
team is playing it's like and I think I think it's going to be
music as well. I think Garth Brooks is going to
be doing a thing there if I if. But yeah there's supposed to be
there's supposed to be a Friday game I think I I I don't know if
they're calling it the Black Friday game.
I hope they don't because that just call it Friday.
But yeah, so it's I am very pumped and and I'm very pumped

(01:26:57):
about this work week. But once we hit Thanksgiving,
I'm, I'm probably just going to be in a holiday mode.
I mean, I'm, I'm already, I'm just excited about the holidays
now. I don't even know why, Maybe
maybe because I'm in a much morehappier place than I was last
year. But I am.

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I'm pretty excited like even like, so yes, this past Friday
was my father's birthday. So I saw.
That happy birthday. He is a very healthy 64 year old
man. I did not know he was 64 to be
honest with you. When I showed up to my job well

(01:27:42):
dressed because I was taking my father out after work to, I was
going to take him out to dinner and I show up, you know, looking
as you know, looking like this with a blazer, like very, very,
very dapper. My boss was just like, usually
on Fridays I'm wearing my New York Giants jerseys or whatever,

(01:28:03):
you know, for for football. But I dressed up about that.
And, you know, this is a little change in my, my my parents.
He's like, he's like, so are youdoing a show tonight?
Like, what is this? What is this?
Get up. And I told him, oh, it's my
father's birthday today. And rather than going home to
change, we're just going to go straight to New Jersey.
And I'm going to take him out toa steakhouse.

(01:28:24):
And he was like, oh, that's he'slike, OK, how old is your, how
old is your father? And like, I was trying to trying
to do the math in my head and I was so bad at it.
I told him that. I said, oh, he's like 56.
And he was like, really? I was like, I think he's like,
well, you're 41. Right.

(01:28:47):
So your dad was 15 when he had you.
So it was like, so your dad musthave made some very, very risque
decisions when he was a teenager, if he's 56.
So we end up, we end up meeting near the Ground Zero memorial
and then we take the PATH train into New Jersey.

(01:29:08):
And I had made reservations for this, this steakhouse that is
like, really? I read, I read the reviews on
and it was just, you know, it's not your, you know, no, this was
a steakhouse where you're putting, you're putting out some
money, OK, like I. Saw the pictures.
It looked amazing. We were mortgaging a house.

(01:29:31):
Like that's how like, so we're taking out a second mortgage
like that's. But yeah, we we get there.
And now mind you, some of the reviews that are read on this
place, people are very funny. It seems like people like to
write reviews whenever they're pissed off and they're just
like, you know, well, I'm in a but some of the rooms that I

(01:29:52):
read were really were really nice and really good.
But even some of the ones that Ihad read, I was like, well,
that's every restaurant. Like, you know, it's probably
not even the restaurants. Probably you're a piece of shit.
That's probably why. And and you enjoyed them.
But when we went, you know, me and my dad, I had made a 730
reservation. We got there at 7:00.
We got there super early and theplace was kind of, it was mostly

(01:30:16):
empty, which I was very happy about.
It's mostly empty. And I was like, you know, I know
we're early. Would we be able to, you know,
at least get a seat? And, you know, they sat us down.
The wait, the waiter, the wait staff was incredible.
They, you know, made sure that we were pretty much taken care

(01:30:38):
of. They, you know, they were just
very helpful. And, you know, hey, it's my
father's birthday. They were very welcoming and
they were very nice. And they made sure that he was
comfortable. And they sat us in a section
where there was like another couple there and there was, you
know, a few people around it. But again, it wasn't
overwhelming. It wasn't packed.
Me and my dad could hear ourselves talking.

(01:31:00):
The food was Immaculate. I mean, I told my dad I was
like, look, you could order whatever you want.
This is your birthday. He was like, well, you know, and
I'm like, look, oh, you want that $110 Tomahawks, You get
that $110, you get that steak ifthat's what you want.

(01:31:22):
But it was just, but it was just, you know, we we and and
and mind you, the sides that we had on the table, they weren't
cheap either. But you know, I was like, order
whatever you want. Let's just let's just hang out
father and son and and we drank oh, my God, we drank.
We two. Each of us had like 2 glasses of
wine, 22 bottles of beer. Like we were just, you know, we

(01:31:46):
were drinking. We were it was just it was
great. You know what I'm saying?
And then mind you while while while we're sitting there his
phone is blowing up. You know people are people are
calling him and and he was like,you know you don't mind if I
take this like it's your birthday.
People are probably trying to wish you a happy birthday.
This is the good time for them to do it.
No get on do it. And but one thing that he made

(01:32:09):
sure that he did was like, you know, because I can hear you'll
pick up the phone and hey, thankyou.
Somebody saying happy birthday. And he's like, yeah, you know,
I'm with my son right now. You know, he took me out to this
really, really nice restaurant, nice steakhouse.
He's like, the food is good. And, like, he made sure that

(01:32:31):
they knew what the situation was.
So it's like, oh, you're with it.
Your son. You're with your son.
OK, well, you know, blessings. We'll talk soon.
Happy birthday. Good for your son.
Click. That was that was mostly and and
and you know, it was cool. And then after we posted up,
after we, I posted the pictures up on Facebook.

(01:32:53):
He's getting calls. My mom calls me.
What? What are you guys doing?
What are you guys eating? You know, it was just like, is
he enjoying the food? I'm like he he ordered it.
He better, you know, like he better.
He better had, you know, they they cut a steak for him like he
was a 5 year old. Yeah, there were they, you know.

(01:33:18):
Wow, that's like over the top. Oh no, they they went above and
beyond the call. And I even told the way, I told
the way I was like, hey, just soyou know, it's it's his birthday
today. So you know, whatever you guys
can do, just, you know, throw iton, throw it on the tab.
And you know, they they brought him the, the, the cake, which
was a cheesecake. And now mind you, I haven't had

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a cheesecake in a long time. And I was like, oh shit, that's
a fucking. I was like, I'm probably going
to eat more of that than you arenow just because I have had a
cheesecake in a while. But no, you know, my I was like,
you know, I told my dad I was like, look, let's you know he.
So when you open the one thing that I wanted to take a picture
of also was and I didn't get a chance to because I when you

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open the menu, the menu lit up. Wow.
You could read the yeah, it was like there was a light like
inside. So when you open it up you could
clearly because it was not it was a very like dimly lit area
that we was in. So they brought the drink menu

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and I and my dad, he hands me todrink menu.
He's like, look, you know more about wines and stuff.
You know, just you order what you think.
And I open it up and it and it lit up and I started laughing.
I couldn't. I was like chug.
I was like, oh, this is the greatest thing there.
And then like there's a couple who's 2 tables down.
They're just like I know. It is awesome.

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That's amazing. I've never made her rest.
That's high class right there. Yeah.
And that's how I was. Like, that's how I knew I could
write you guys a blank check andyou could add as many zeros as
you want. And I'd be fine by it.
But it was just when I saw that I was and I was like, able to
read everything clearly. And, you know, I, my dad put me

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in charge of ordering the, the drinks.
He's like, what do you think that I would like?
I was like, oh, a glass of Chardonnay for him and a glass
of, you know, Savion Blanc for me.
And we were just, you know, we're drinking.
And then I was like, do you wantanother one?
And mind you, but no, not now. And then next thing I know,
like, we're still eating. My dad's like, hey, how about

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another? How about another round?
You don't have to tell me twice.Or did another round of of
champagne. And then then we just started
drinking like regular beers as we like.
I got so buzzed that it was already 10:00 and my dad was
just like, because we took In order for us to go home, we

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would have had to take the PATH train to lower Manhattan and
then take a train. And I was already getting in my
mind not not so fussy, but I wasalready like, if I get on the
PATH train, I'm going to fight somebody because I'm fussy and
and if I get on the MTA and so I'm I'm with my dad.
So what we did was I was like, you know what?

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I want to go home fast. Going to take us like an hour to
get home. I'm going to go home fast.
So I ended up just getting an Uber.
What a lift. We ended up the couple, the two
couple, the couple that was 2 tables down from us, we ended up
talking with them. They ended up talking to us.
And the guy, this time he startsthe conversation.

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He was like, I think I've seen you somewhere before and I was
like, well do I owe you money? And he started laughing and he
said, you know what, come to think of it with that statement,
I bet you're a stand up comedian.
And my blew my dad's mind was like, but I was like, well, as a
matter of fact, he is. And he was like, he was like,

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really? It was like, yeah, I am.
He was like, yeah, 'cause I 'cause he was like, it's like I
was overhearing your conversation with your dad.
By the way, happy birthday. But yeah, I was overhearing a
conversation with your dad. And I was just like, man, he's
laughing and you sound very funny.
And I'm laughing and my, you know, he's with his girlfriend
and everything. And and from there on we started
talking about comedy for like anhour, you know, just drinking

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and and all that. And then it started getting
late. He started getting a little, a
little drunk, which is like, youknow what?
That's fine. You know, he wasn't being
obnoxious or anything, just having a conversation with
another guy. And then I was just like, all
right, it's time to go home. I have APS five at home that I
want to tinker with. So.
And and my dad was very, you know, it was just great spending

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that time, you know, drinking. And like, I don't, I mean me and
my dad, we don't usually drink. I mean, we we, I keep telling
myself we should do this more, you know, 'cause I 'cause I told
them straight up I was like, Dad, just so you know, I don't
even take girls out on dates like this.
So you're very lucky. Oh, Oh my gosh.

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Right. Like girls with those.
These are things, you know, I, and I'm looking at it like right
now, 'cause my dad, I I really think that this is going to be
his last. Well he just he just celebrated.
He and his wife on my stepmom onFriday just celebrated their
45th wedding anniversary. And honestly last year I didn't

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even think he'd be here for it. He's I'm, I don't even know
what's got that man. I don't even know how he's alive
right now. He's he is shot lung cancer.
Oh yeah, And he's got cancer andhe's got lung cancer.
He by all the math that I've ever heard of, he should have

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been gone last year and he's still hanging on and still
fighting. But I I honestly think that this
is going to be his last Thanksgiving and his last
Christmas. And so looking at that, anytime
that you can spend with your dadright now.
While he's young and capable, isis just those kind of memories,

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you should be able to spend timewith them and do it better than
you can. A date, you know, like a date is
just something you just, you know, honestly you're trying to
get laid and and you know, maybesee if there's something other
than that there. But yeah, oh thank God, There
was no motive. There was really no motivation.
No, I didn't have, like any hidden agendas or anything like

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like that. And that's what makes it.
Different. Yeah that's what makes it so
much better is that because you are just trying to connect and
bond with him and it's differentwhen you at your ages now you
guys are both grown men and whenyou guys, it's not like father
son it's it's more like compatriots you know like you're

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somebody who is you can see him as an an adult and that's it's
it's I think that relationship is so fantastic when you get
that point with your parents so.Yeah.
And and you know what It it's not and it's not.
And I feel and and I know I get.I get people get envious
actually. I I guess envious isn't the

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word. But I I kind of feel like people
get envious. When I say this I'm like both of
my parents are still alive. Oh yeah I've I've gone.
You know I I'll go out to a bar with my mom and drink my mom
like my mom parties at her age. Like my mom's like 62.
She fucking parties like she's 30, you know, So it's like, but

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also I get to bond with her in that aspect.
Whenever she's visiting or if I'm over there, you know, like,
I could always say, hey mom, youwant to go get a drink at this
bar and she'll be like, yeah, you know what I'm saying?
And we'll buy each other rounds,you know what I'm saying?
Like, we will do that, you know,like even, you know, with my
with my dad, it it was more like, hey, this is more than

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your birthday. This is an appreciation.
You know what I'm saying? I appreciate what you have done
for me. I've appreciate what you're
doing for me now. So that's why you know instead
of taking him to an Applebee's or a Red Lobster or I was like I
am willing. I want to go to a place that I

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otherwise if I hadn't planned well or have the job that I have
couldn't afford. And I looked at and I and and
and The funny thing is it took my I was like, yeah, dad look at
them. I already know what I want.
I saw the menu while I was scouting around and making the I
said I saw this menu. I know how much things here cost
why you think we're here you know so so like money is not a

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factor because I planned for us to be here.
I, you know and this is not one of those things.
I was like, this is not one of those things where you're going
to go home and I'm washing dishes like we're leaving
together, OK, One way or another, we're leaving together,
OK, So what a. Great way to finally get there

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too in your life. So I know it's a it seems kind
of crazy if you think about like, kind of wrapping up.
So what have what amazing thingshave you been binge watching
lately? So I actually just found out
that LA Law is on Hulu and I'm excited about that.

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So that's what I'm going to start binge watching because I
didn't get a chance to to do that.
But that's the show right there that I'm to get on.
But the show that I have been watching a lot of is the Steve
Harvey Show. Really.
Yes. I will say this.
I take back every bad thing I'veever said about that show

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without watching it as much as Ihave.
It's fucking hilarious. That show is so funny.
It's so witty. It's well written.
I mean, it's kind of like it's crazy funny.
I like that show a lot and I. The Steve Harvey Show, Is that
a? Is it like a talk show or?

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No, no, no, it's it's the show that he did like gosh, I think
it was like in the late 90s thiswas like him and Cedric the
Entertainer. That was a show that they were
on. You got to ask Roby about it.
He knows about the Steve Harvey show, but it's, you know it was
one of the IT was one of the hisshows that he had.

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I mean he was already famous then.
Anyway he was still like a standup comedian with a with a show
and whatnot. But and this was like pre kings
of comedy. I believe so.
But yes, the Steve Harvey show, this was the show that he had.
He was he plays like this old school, he plays a jazz, he

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plays a music teacher at a high school after like retiring from
music. And Cedric the Anna Tanner plays
the high school coach Wendy Raquel Robinson, she plays the
principal and it's just like they have the kids in there that
they're really they're funny as hell.
But it's a very funny show. It's on to be.
To be is streaming it. So I've been watching it.

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I think they only have like the first two seasons I believe.
But yeah, it's a very funny showand I'll be watching it and I'm
just laughing my ass off. I'm like, holy shit, this show.
I didn't like it when I was a kid for some reason.
But as I'm watching it, I'm like, you know, let me give this
show a chance. Hilariously funny And and Steve
Harvey is just, he's him and Cedric the Entertainer.

(01:44:43):
I mean they were perfect for that show.
But yeah, that's the that's The One Show right now that I am
definitely that, I'm that and Billions, those are the two
shows that I'm binge watching. What are Billions?
Billions is a show that is on Showtime, Paul Giamatti and
Damian Lewis. It's about it's about Paul

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Giamatti going after a a companywho is supposed to be allegedly
insider trading and all that. It's kind of one of those like
financial drama shows but Paul Giamatti is amazing in it very
funny Well I shouldn't say very funny he does have like some

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good lines in it but him him butting heads with a with a with
a that company in the in the show it's it's really good.
It's almost like like Wall Street the movie Wall Street,
except for this is like, you know, fast forwarded to present
time and OK, yeah, it's a good, it's a really good show.

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You know, we we binge watched and we actually watched.
I think we finished watching it when we were in New York was we
binge watched the boys and how Igot into that was so you know
our friend Tyler Annette was in Gen.

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Gen. Z or Gen.
V. Gen.
V, Gen. V is kind of the spin off.
And so I watched the first couple of episodes of Gen.
V and Romeo was like, no, you'vegot to watch the boys.
And so we watched. And I'm glad we did too, because

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we watched all the seasons of the boys, all three seasons, and
then watched the last. But it was like the last three
episodes, two episodes of Gen. V, which thankfully we did
because those last couple of episodes, last 2-3 episodes,
actually tied in to the boys, OK.

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It's like a continuation. It's almost like a continuation.
Yeah, they tied the two in. So I know that you watched the
boys, right? Yeah, I haven't finished it,
though. I'm I'm on season three.
I'm actually on the beginning ofseason 3.
OK, so we watched those and I highly, I'm glad that because I

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was like, oh, I don't need to watch the Boys to to watch Gen.
V Yes you do. Because there's some characters
that go from being in the boys to showing up in Gen.
V, which almost takes it to the next level.
So, like where it ends on seasonthree on the boys, it's it gets
kind of picked up. On Gen.

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V some somewhat. So it was very it was actually
it was really good. So good.
I was so impressed with it. I I was actually surprised that
I enjoyed it as much as I did And then we started like I said
we started watching. We still have.
We never finished, we've never finished the watching all the

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seasons of Scandal. Like on the last season and then
we just kind of stopped watchingit.
But we started watching 24. I've never saw 24 when it first
came out and we started watchingthat kind of think last week

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we've we're already we're almostdone with season one and there's
like you know there's 24 episodes that's almost 24 hours.
So we can watch. And there's like, there's like
eight seasons and then like a couple of offshoots.
So oh God, when you told me thatyou were watching 24, I
remember. So when it was when it was out

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on Fox, me and my friends would have every Monday 24 parties,
where every Monday we would go to our friend's house in Harlem
and we would watch 24. We would have food, we would
have. It was like a party and we would
just watch for the for the one hour of the show.
And I can see why the uniquenessof this show and every single

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episode ends on a what the fuck?Yeah, where's the next episode?
So I I could not imagine having to wait a week to watch each one
of these episodes. Sometimes we would get lucky and
they would do a 2 hour episode. They would or they would do 2
episodes in one night. So we would get excited about
that. But every Monday I always looked

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forward to go into my friend's house and other people who were
like we would play like Settlersof Catan like before the show
starts. And then or if the game went
long, we would like put it on, we would stop playing and then
we would watch 24 and then we would like resume afterwards.
But yeah, we could not wait tillthe next episode.

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You are lucky because you get toboom, binge watch them straight.
And it's one of those shows thatI still like.
Since then, I watched it once more on on DVD.
So I would have like, Netflix send it to me on DVD and I would
just rewatch it. And I'm like, wow, this show to
me still holds up. It's such a good show.
You're going to really like it. Well, and the thing that really

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gets me to is that like that time frame I that's something
that is so unique like everything is all happening in
one day and how they were able to really even like the.
The commercial part of it where they you could see where they
took that time out when they brought it back from commercial

(01:50:38):
break, which I mean we're not watching the commercials, but
when they would bring it back from commercial break, you would
see that time frame in there andhow well that lined up.
That's really super cool. Yeah, definitely, definitely a
unique show. I mean, that show, man, you.
Yeah, that show it's it's, it's it goes hard it.

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Really does. It really does.
So well, I can't believe it's been 2 hours already.
I mean, we're like, we're at that two hour mark.
And I know that we were kind of doing a special recording today
because we haven't been able to catch up.
And I know that that the main thing I was trying to do is make
sure that we could get this all recorded before football started
and everything. But you know, and I I really

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appreciate you being able to kind of work with me on this
crazy time frame. You know, I'm glad we're able to
put out something for the fans. And so so yeah, no, this was
great. Like I said it was.
I'm, I'm wide awake now. I'm about to go out and grab
some food and watch some some ofthis Giants ass whooping here

(01:51:46):
that we're about to get or that we're getting now.
But yeah. So, ladies and gentlemen, that
has been our show, our special Sunday show.
Thank you for listening. And special thanks to Marianne
just for being here. This show, we can't.
We can't do this without her. Because otherwise I'm talking to

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myself and shout out to Romeo. He's probably out there
somewhere hating New York more. But you know what?
Like with every fiber of his being, just hating this city.
And you know what, though? I will say this.
I told my friends, showed them your, showed them your post.
And they were like, you know what?
I get it And we get it like we understand.

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So. But for those of you, you know
what? It's just it's just not about
you. Just just remember that.
Oh, oh, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Hold on.
One more thing. As Marianne always says, make
good choices. Make good choices.
And remember, if you can't make good choices, always remember
it's not about you. Ta da.

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Bye. Bye.
Have a great day, alright.