May 5, 2025 • 33 mins
In this episode of 'Organizing an ADHD Brain,' host Megs dives into the critical concept of prioritization, especially for those with ADHD. Megs shares her personal life updates about preparing to move across the country and the importance of having meaningful conversations with family. She details her realization that trying to do everything at once leads to nothing being truly important and emphasizes the need to prioritize tasks. Megs discusses the challenges of executive function, time blindness, and impulsive tendencies associated with ADHD, offering practical advice on how to slow down, focus, and be effective in daily tasks. This episode is a reminder to notice what truly matters and to take care of oneself despite the chaos.
02:24 Decluttering and Selling Everything
02:50 When Everything is Important, Nothing is Important
03:43 Balancing Excitement and Focus
04:28 Managing ADHD and Executive Function
05:05 Overwhelmed by Busy Schedules
13:14 The Need for Rest and Self-Care
21:28 Prioritizing and Organizing Your Life
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Hey, welcome back to anotherepisode of organizing an A DHD
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Brain.
I'm your host, Megs, and I'msuper excited to be talking to
you today about something I sayall the time on this podcast is
when everything is important,nothing is important.
What does that mean?
So first, a little bit of a lifeupdate.
We are still getting prepared tosell our house and move across
the country.
And this last week, my husbandand I sat the girls down
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thinking this might be about 10to 15 minutes of just talking
about what we've been talkingabout for a while now, the girls
have talked about theirexcitements and things like
that, but we truly sat down as afamily and started asking them
questions about.
What they wanted this trip tobe.
We told them a little bit moreabout the timeline and where
we're gonna be, where, andhelping them understand.
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And we sat there for an hour anda half having a conversation as
a family.
It was so darn cool.
So Charlotte, my 8-year-old saidthat she wants to have travel
Tuesdays.
Then Thursday rolls around andshe goes, oh, it's travel
Thursday, which was so cool.
We're like, okay, let's do itbecause why wouldn't we have
travel Tuesday and travelThursday?
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And we sat down and talked alittle bit more about what our
hopes and dreams and goals arethroughout the trip and what we
really want.
It's been really fun and one ofthe reasons why I started this
podcast is because havingconversations is so important to
me.
I don't remember havingconversations with my parents as
a kid.
My dad was in the Navy, so hewasn't around a lot.
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And my mom is deaf she was borndeaf.
Anyway, the art of theconversation I think is
beautiful and I think it'ssomething that is oftentimes
lacking in our society, which iswhy having podcasts are so
freaking cool.
We get to start to understandpeople from a new perspective
and have real conversations andgo in with curiosity versus just
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assuming one thing, from people.
So being able to go in withcuriosity with my kids first has
been fascinating.
It's just been so interesting toget their perspectives, to get
their full unique perspectiveson everything that's going on in
our life.
My husband even asked thequestion, what do you think it's
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gonna be like when we don't haveall the stuff that we have right
now?
We're going to be sellingeverything.
And honestly, when he asked thatquestion, I was like, oh, whoa.
What a change we're going aboutright now.
And if you're just starting thisdecluttering journey, that is
not where you start.
This is not where you startselling everything.
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That is a big journey.
Because it does take a lot oftime.
Selling stuff is a whole notherpart-time gig.
But having these conversationshas been truly fascinating and
has allowed me and my husband tohave deeper conversations about
it as well.
It got me inspired to share withyou about today's episode.
When everything is important,nothing is important.
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My boss used to say you get tooexcited about everything.
He never explained what thatmeant.
And I'm like yeah, I always getexcited about everything because
isn't that what I'm supposed todo?
I'm excited about the mission.
I'm excited about theseprojects.
I'm excited about education.
I'm excited about inspiring myteam to get to where they want
to go.
In this world of corporate, somany things.
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But I get it now.
I get it because as I left thecorporate world and started my
business, I wanted to start apodcast and I also got certified
to teach manifestation.
And I also became a coach, but Iwas also doing in-person
organizing and there were somany things that I wanted to do,
but without being able to fullyfocus and get really good at one
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thing, I didn't feel like I wasactually thriving at anything.
So that made a lot of sense tome.
It doesn't mean that my brainhas changed because I still get
excited about so many differentthings.
But I bring that up todaybecause as we continue to attack
the world and you listen to thispodcast and you figure out how
to get more organized or whatyou want in this life.
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Your brain isn't changing.
Your A DHD is still there infull form.
You're still gonna haveexecutive function difficulties.
You're still gonna have timeblindness, you still may act on
impulsive tendencies, but partof that is now being aware of so
many of these things that youweren't aware of before.
And that awareness allows you tostart to question some of the
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things that you wouldn't havequestioned before you just
would've done, because that'sthe way you've lived your life,
your whole darn life.
So as we approach this changecoming up in our world, right?
We have sold our house.
We're under contract, so we'redoing all kinds of different
stuff.
We did a bunch of painting.
We did a bunch of like holepatching.
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We changed all the pictures inour house to not include our
family, which was a little sad,but we're also selling a bunch
of stuff.
But then the girls are.
Finishing school and they justturned six and eight, and then
it's gonna be my birthday.
And then we had a joint birthdayfor them.
And then we have sleepoverscoming up and then they have
extracurricular things thatthey're doing.
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But then my husband is finishinghis job and he is trying to find
a new job right now.
And of course there's thingsthat I wanna be doing and I'm
building this business at thesame time, in fact, like there's
so many things I wanna be doingthat it's very hard to not try
to do them all at once.
So right now the things that aretruly pulling my attention is
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like getting my community movedover to circle.
They're so like it is anexecutive function mess because
there's so many things that Iwant to accomplish by moving the
community over there, but I haveto really break it down and do
things one at a time to makesure that it's not only simpler
for me, but also for anyonewho's joining the community.
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And then I have my clients, andthe more I systemize things to
make it easier for myself, theeasier it is for me to accept
new clients, to be able tosupport everyone in a way that
makes sense.
But if I were to also startclasses right now and to also
have a group coaching programand all of these other things
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that I want to do, it wouldn'tallow me to truly put my best
effort into the community andbeing the best coach I could
possibly be.
So while I'm excited about allof these other things, I have to
bring myself back to reality andsay, while those things are
still possible.
I've got to be able to focus onthe things that I wanna do right
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now.
Like I've got to be able tobring it back in, even if
they're not done right.
Like I, I've got to be able tobring it to a sense of
completion where I feel likeI've got control over what's
going on, and I feel like I'mreally good at all of these
things before I start to buildupon it.
Especially before I can start tohire more people.
But in the sense of, like whenwe're thinking as a mom or as a
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parent in general, we often takeon so many different things and
so many different roles becausewe feel like we have to.
And if we don't, then we're notgonna look good to Suzy
Homemaker down the street or tothis badass woman who's working
this amazing job and alsomanages to have the perfect
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lunches for her kids everysingle day.
I don't think any of us trulyhave it together in a sense that
we don't all cry a little bit onthe inside because I don't think
that we are ever meant to bethis busy.
I really don't like.
We're so busy.
There's so many things going onon a regular basis, but when
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everything is important andnothing is important, how do we
possibly get to the point wherewe can start to take things off
of our plate?
Ultimately when we have so muchgoing on, we are so focused on
getting everything done thatthen it's hard to even know
where to start.
We go into fight or flight mode.
So oftentimes our nervous systemplays a huge role in the way
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that we react to things,especially when we have so much
going on.
And oftentimes we prefer chaosbecause we operate in a state of
like calm and ease when there'schaos around us because we know
that there's always gonna besomething to do next.
When it comes to our stuff, ourclutter, we have clutter by the
door and we've got clutter inthe kitchen and clutter on the
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kitchen table and in the livingroom and in our kids' room, and
then in our room, and then inour closets, and then in our
front hall closet and then inour office, how do we possibly
know where to start?
And oftentimes because all ofthose things are so important,
we try to do a little bit ofeverything, and sometimes it
leads us to flitting from oneroom to another, trying to do a
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little bit of everything wherewe don't actually leave any
visible results.
And part of it just prevents usfrom starting in general because
if I have to do my office andthen in my laundry room, and
then in my room, do you guysever ask yourselves what's the
point of even starting when thisis gonna take so much longer
than I want it to take?
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Like why would I start to learna different language?
Because I'm not gonna be fluentright away and that's gonna be
so annoying.
Says me, who's been on Duolingofor I don't know, 72 days now
and I'm still not fluent andit's so frustrating Even eating
healthier.
I know I wanna eat healthier,but what does that even mean?
I don't know what it means, andI don't know how to cook
healthy.
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Why would I even bother startingnow?
There's too much work that goesinto it that's gonna be too much
of a change, and knowing me, I'mprobably just gonna fail.
That's because we put so muchpressure on ourselves to be so
perfect at things right away.
Which is again, why we signourselves up to do all of these
things, because we wanna show upand say, oh, like I got snack
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for the kids' soccer game.
In fact, you know what?
I'll just take over snack andwhy don't you just allow me to
do all the party planning too,because that sounds easy.
I'm good at party planning andthat's not gonna take up any
time at all, when really ittakes up.
So much time and we don't trulyrealize it, until it's too late
to ask for help, because it'sthe night before this party, and
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you've gotta get all of thesethings that you've waited until
the last minute to actually doand coordinate.
But it's because when everythingis important, nothing is
important, you still get thingsdone, but now you shame yourself
because you're not gettingeverything done.
And then your to-do listcontinues to get longer.
You continue to put yourself onthe back burner because who has
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time to take care of themselveswhen they're also trying to plan
for everyone else?
And especially when you're a momand you are basically the
business owner or thecoordinator of everything that's
going on in the house.
at some point the schedule willget a little bit lighter and
then I'll take a break, thenI'll take care of myself.
But when's the last time thatactually happened?
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In reality, when's the last timeyour schedule got so clear that
you actually had time to dosomething that you wanted to do?
Because I bet most of you don'teven know what the heck you
would wanna do if you had justeven a little bit of time in
your schedule to actually sitdown.
So coming back to organizing, ifyou're not used to being an
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organized person, if you neverlearned how to be an organized
person, or even if you used tobe, maybe you had more help
previously and now you're in aposition where you have no help
whatsoever, you have to do it onyour own.
You are now having to try to fitit in or catch up in between
doing all of these other thingsand your schedule is not going
to stop just so that you canstart to be more organized.
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And so that's where we have tofigure out how do we make room
in our lives where we understandtruly what we're capable of in
these moments and what can getput off for the future.
Because like I said earlier, Iwanna plan classes.
I really wanna do groupcoaching.
I'm so excited about doing it,but I want it to be really good.
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If I want something next week,it would be fine.
It wouldn't be really good.
It wouldn't be exactly what Iwant it to be.
And I'm not saying make itperfect, but I am saying that's
not my priority right now.
My priority is my kids and myhusband, and my business and my
clients and my community.
And adding that in would takeaway from all of these other
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things that I'm doing.
I'm not ready.
I don't have the capacity to doit right now.
So why don't we do that when itcomes to our personal schedules
too?
Because our personal scheduleskeep getting fuller and fuller,
and we keep saying yes and yes.
I saw this idea the other daythat said, what if we had a to
not do list.
Okay.
And then if someone says, wouldyou like to do this?
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You could refer to your to notdo list.
So you could say no, that'sactually something that is not
on my to-do list.
It is on my to not do list.
So that we could start tounderstand what we can say no
to, even if we truly still wantto say yes to it too.
When it comes to seeing familyand doing all of these things
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for my business, it's so easyfor me to still say yes to
everything, it's because I knowa little bit more about my brain
that I understand that if I sayyes to everything, I am not
going to have the ability to doeverything, and I'm gonna let
myself go first.
So a lot of it comes down to thedopamine too.
Like we genuinely wanna bearound a lot of people, and I'm
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an introverted extrovert, I loveto be around people, but I also
love my rest, but I forget thatI need rest.
I actually forget that I needtime away from people and to
have some solid downtime beforeI'm recharged enough to go out
and have fun again.
There used to be times that Iwould plan something on Friday,
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on Saturday and Sunday, andafter enjoying Friday so much,
Saturday comes around and I'mlike, I don't even wanna do
this.
And then we're doing somethingagain the next day.
It's exhausting.
We forget how much we truly needto recharge our batteries.
Having kids has really helped meunderstand and see their need
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for rest and understand thatthey need a break during the day
to understand that, oh, maybethis relates to me too.
Maybe I also need a break duringthe day.
But part of it is that need fordopamine, right?
But it's also our need to proveourselves to the world and
perhaps to ourselves.
Then part of it is this peoplepleaser nature that a lot of us
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have that we grew up with.
It's about going above andbeyond.
It's this perfection that we'reseeking and oftentimes it's so
much easier to show up and helpsomeone else than it is to help
ourselves.
That's so interesting, that's asuper deep question is why is it
so easy for us to go and helpother people versus helping
ourselves?
When you continue to prioritizeyour to-do list and everyone
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else's needs above your own, youare never going to prioritize
your own.
That's part of where thenoticing takes place.
When you start to notice thatyou're always putting other
people in front of yourself, youlook at yourself in the mirror
and you realize why the circlesare so dark under your eyes, why
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you're not getting sleep atnight, because you do feel like
you always need to be going.
You might be waking up in themiddle of the night because you
feel like there's something elsethat you've now forgotten to
prioritize.
But that's where fillingyourself up is so important.
And this is, oh my gosh, likebeing selfish is incredibly
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important and not selfish in a,like you're ruining other
people's lives because you'reselfish type of thing, but
selfish in that.
You genuinely know how to takecare of yourself first, because
when you do, you're able to fillyour cup up so darn much that
you are able to shine your lightin this world so much more when
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you are selfish about getting upearly and prioritizing your day,
making sure that you drink a cupof coffee, making sure that
you're planning your day.
Making sure that you get acouple of deep breaths before
other people wake up in themorning.
Call it selfish, call itwhatever you want.
If you take time to breatheduring the day, just 60 seconds
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of noticing your breath, that'staking care of yourself when you
take a walk for 15 minutes.
That's taking care of yourselfwhen you watch trashy tv.
That is taking care of yourself.
But when you rest where youthink you're resting and then
you still have 20 other thingsgoing on in your mind because
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you can't possibly shut yourbrain off, that is not
prioritizing yourself.
The first things to go when weare busy is ourselves.
We stop prioritizing moving ourbody or eating healthy or
drinking enough water'cause weforget that water exists or
we're skipping meals because wedon't have time because other
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people come first.
But the truth is that when youstop being selfish, oh my gosh,
why is it such a negative word?
But like when you focus ontaking care of yourself, you
literally are just prolongingthe life you get to shine your
light on here in this world.
The amount of light you have togive to your kids because you're
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literally hydrating your bodywith the appropriate amount of
water on a regular basis.
This is me being really real formyself right now because I have
not been prioritizing water andI need to.
I live in Colorado.
It comes back to when they tellyou on the airplane to put on
your own mask before you put onyour kids.
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It just means that you areensuring that you get to live
while you help your kids livetoo.
It's important that you stayalive so that you can ensure
your kids stay alive.
You know that when you'regetting air into your lungs, you
will absolutely make sure thatyour kids get those air masks
on.
But if you put theirs on firstand you forget about yourself,
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you might pass out and they'renot gonna be able to help you.
They don't have the capacity todo it.
That's why we need to learn howto regulate ourselves and show
our kids what it's like to takecare of ourselves so that they
can learn how to do it too.
Because being mamas and dads outin this world is freaking hard.
It is a lot of work.
I think almost every person I'vetalked to that's become a client
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or is in the community, hastalked to me about how they just
need time.
They just need someone to comeover for an entire week to
revamp their entire house, andthen everything will be fine.
Or they just need to come upwith this perfect schedule and
then everything will be finebecause things will start to
fall into motion.
But that's not the way that lifeworks.
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No matter how much you thinkthat your life is gonna slow
down or your to-do list is gonnaget shorter, or one day you'll
be able to breathe.
That's just not the case.
Life continues to happen.
There's always ridiculouswrenches getting thrown into
your plans.
But when you're trying to doeverything, you're never gonna
have time for yourself if youdon't have yourself in that
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everything mix.
This continues to show up for melately, and it happens often.
My brain has not changed justbecause I talk about this and I
know how to be organized.
It's just that I'm now aware ofit.
And so this morning I knew Iwanted to go to yoga, but as the
time kept creeping closer andcloser, I wanted to go less and
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less.
I was like, I don't wanna do it.
I don't wanna prioritize myself.
I know moving my body isimportant.
I'll do it some other time.
I was coming up with all ofthese excuses not to go, and I
went and I felt really goodabout it.
But oftentimes when I'm so busyand I'm so frustrated about
everything that I have to do, Ioftentimes sacrifice myself the
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most, and I forget about takingcare of myself and I forget
about drinking that water.
So Megan, this is great.
Like thanks for telling me I dotoo much.
I already get it, but how do Ipossibly slow things down?
Part of it and we've talkedabout this in previous episodes,
about just understanding thatyou don't actually have to rush
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through everything that you'redoing, what.
does it look like to slow downbringing awareness to it, even
just driving to the next game.
You don't have to speed.
If you went the speed limit, itmight make a difference of one
or two minutes, but let's behonest, it actually doesn't make
a difference at all with all thelights so what does it look like
to slow down a little bit?
Even just in the day to day?
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Or what if instead of having 20things on your to-do list, you
planned three that you got donethat day.
Three bigger things that youactually accomplished and then
you could say, wow, I'm achampion.
What if you sat down in thebeginning of the week and you
said, what are four things thatI would really like to get done
by the end of the week?
What would I feel really goodabout doing?
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And then you focused on thosefour things, or even just coming
back and saying what's one thingI could do today that would make
me feel like 10 years from now.
Megs is so proud of me forgetting that done.
We don't have yesterday.
We don't have tomorrow.
We literally only have the daythat we're in and we're so good
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at procrastinating.
We could totally put it offuntil tomorrow, right?
Or we could also beat ourselvesup for not doing it yesterday.
So why not do it today?
But you can't do everythingtoday.
I am curious, if you were tolook at your to-do list right
now, whether you have it writtendown or if it's all floating up
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in your head, I would recommendwriting it all down.
What would you see as the mostimportant thing on that list?
Is it your kids?
Is it kids' activities, sportsgames?
Is it meals?
Is it to-do list projects aroundthe house?
Is it art projects?
Is it scheduling things?
Is it doing taxes?
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What kinds of themes are comingup for you?
I am curious if you could startto take notice of that because
when I decided to really takecontrol of my to-do list and
what I was getting done on aregular basis, my common themes
were myself, even though Ididn't want to.
This was something that I put onthe list because ultimately I
wanted to see that I hadsomething for myself down each
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day, and it could even bereading a book for 15 minutes.
I found free audio books onSpotify the other day, and I
started listening to one and ithad me captivated within the
first five minutes.
I was like, oh, this is great.
Then it's my family.
And different things likespending time together on Travel
Tuesdays or travel Thursdays, ormaybe we were just outside.
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Maybe we would love going to themovies lately.
That's been really fun.
Minecraft was hilarious.
Or even just doing gardeningoutside.
My girls love helping withgardening, even if their friends
distract them and then theydecide to go play with them
instead, that's fine.
Totally cool.
What matters for the home?
Things like meals, things likeregular cleaning stuff or
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decluttering and getting thingsin their place, putting things
away, getting things back to aplace where we don't feel so
overwhelmed by all the stuff inour home all the time.
And then my last priority formyself is my business.
I like to, as I plan my week andmy day, I try to plan my day
each day, and I'm not alwayssuccessful at it, it's just
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continuity.
I come back to it whenever Idon't do it for a couple days, I
come back to it, and that makesit easier to accomplish.
But for my business, then I say,okay, these are the things I'm
gonna get done today for mybusiness on my to-do list.
I have six things that Iaccomplish each day.
I do have a download on mywebsite.
If you go to organizing an A DHDbrain.com, and then click on
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store.
You can see I have a to-do listdownload there.
It has priorities at the top,then the date, and then you fill
in the time slots to see if yourto-do list is actually
achievable.
'cause we are time blind andit's very easy to say, we're
gonna do all of these things,but then we see that time is not
actually going to be on our sidewhen we try to accomplish these
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things.
It's something that I createdfor myself and I put out there
because it's a really goodfoundation.
I wanted to keep it as simple aspossible to make it feel like it
was.
Something that you couldaccomplish.
So go check it out.
Otherwise, I did a coupleepisodes last year on planning
your day, and I like superstructured it out.
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The episodes is called LessBusy, more Bliss.
Prioritize Your Schedule with ADHD.
So there's part one and parttwo.
There's also one I did earlierthis year called A DHD and
prioritizing taming theoverwhelm when everything feels
important.
And so honestly, this episode islikely very similar to things
that I talked about in there,but it's about repetition.
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It's about what is gonna workfor you, because not everything
I say is gonna work for you.
I found what works for me, andthat's why I asked so many
questions to help you figure outwhat's gonna work for you too.
So this week I have a challengefor you, if you write everything
down and start to see the commonthemes, amazing.
But if you don't get around toit because you're in constant
fight or flight mode right now,and just listening to this
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podcast is amazing because youfound time to listen to this
amongst the other insane lifethings that you're doing.
So start to notice as you gofrom one thing to another, what
are the things you're going fromJust bring notice to your life.
Are any of them for you?
And if they're not, why not?
And if they're for everyoneelse, is there anything that you
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could possibly say no to?
Is there anything that you'resaying yes to because you feel
you have to.
Is there anything you're sayingyes to because you think that
people will look at younegatively if you say no?
And if so, I'll think you'repretty darn awesome if you say
no to something that's gonnaallow you to have a little bit
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of space and time for you tothink clearly, for you to not
feel like you're in constant gomode all the darn time.
Honestly for you to feel likeyou have a little bit of control
over this to-do list, becausesometimes we've got so much on
our to-do list that we go intocomplete freeze mode and we're
just like, Nope, not doing anyof that.
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I know I could do some of it,but Nope.
Uhuh, and it's our body'sreaction to it, and we're just
like, Uhuh not doing any of it.
I think when you start torecognize that not everything on
your to-do list is a priority,it helps you start to
understand.
How you could go about your dayin a different way.
It's hard.
'cause there's so much more tothis, like there's the
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regulation piece of it and beingin constant fight or flight mode
or dysregulation, so to speak.
Even pausing for a second tothink about this is a lot.
So like I will do more episodeson that.
But just understanding that it'snot about saying no forever,
it's just no, today it's justnot right now.
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What are the things you have todo today and what are the things
that would be okay if you putoff until tomorrow?
And sometimes that does becomeus, right?
And so coming back to, is itimportant that you fill up your
own cup before you fill upothers?
Yeah, it really is.
It's so important that you takecare of yourself.
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And I'm not talking self-care,like going to a spot a although.
That's amazing.
Also get yourself a massage,right?
Go get a facial.
Awesome if you can afford it, ifyou can make that a part of your
life.
But no, taking deep breaths andeven just recognizing how
grateful you are for this lifethat you live.
And if you're not yet there,that's okay too.
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What I have noticed with myclients, with anyone that I meet
with A DHD and with myself isthat sometimes we need some time
to think about this before wetruly start to take action.
The one thing that I just wantyou to take away from today is
notice.
How could you start to noticewhat things matter the most?
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How do you start to notice?
What does that look like in yourlife?
I'm curious, without needing totake action on it right away,
because you're not gonna changeyour schedule in a week.
Your brain is gonna overcomplicate it anyway, and then
you're gonna fail and you'regonna feel like you're a failure
because you didn't complete the20 things that you had on your
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change of plan scheduledplanning thing.
Just what's something you cantake notice of this week?
That's all you gotta do.
I'm not gonna give you anythingmore complicated to do than
that.
I am gonna invite you into mycommunity.
I would love for you to come tomy community.
It is right now close.
However, you could go to mywebsite and sign up for the wait
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list for the community that isgoing to be launching on May
15th.
So the price of the membershipis gonna be$37.
If you're on the wait list,there might be some exciting.
Delicious freebies and otherexcitements that'll be coming
your way before it officiallylaunches on the 15th.
I would love to see you there ifyou're interested in coaching.
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I have one slot left availablefor the month of May, and I may
shut it down for the summer aswe're traveling keeping the
clients that I already have.
So I'd love to chat with youabout coaching, even if you're
not ready to sign up right away,just to see.
What's piqued your interestabout it, and I can help you
understand what coaching isversus therapy, things like
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that, and I'd love to meet you,which would be so cool.
Oh, another thing, when you signup for the community, there may
be an opportunity for you tocoach one-on-one with me for 30
minutes for free.
More about that as you sign upfor the wait list.
And I will keep you in the loop.
So next week we'll be evencloser to the launch of the
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community.
I'm so excited.
There's gonna be some reallygood stuff in there.
And Circle is the communitywe're moving to.
And it's so much more A DHDfriendly than where I'm at right
now.
I'm so excited to share it withyou.
I just can't wait to see youguys and support you through
this journey of gettingorganized and understanding that
you don't have to change yourlife.
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So much to feel like you have toalso stop your life to get
organized before you cancontinue on feeling successful.
And one more thing, you don'tactually have to earn that
self-care, right?
Like you don't have to earntaking care of yourself.
You don't have to get 20 thingsdone off your to-do list in
order for you to say yeah, I canfinally take care of myself.
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Now, you don't have to puteveryone else first in order for
you to do it.
In fact.
It's not recommended.
When you sacrifice yourself, yougrow resentful.
No matter how much you do it.
You could shove all thosefeelings down inside, but when
you put everyone else first,constantly, the resentment
grows.
And it's not pretty.
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Not for anyone else and not foryou.
But when you take time to putyourself first and then you take
care of everyone else, oh, thatlight you shine is so beautiful.
If this podcast resonated withyou at all, I would love for you
to share this with just oneperson.
When the podcast gets shared, wegrow and it helps other people
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with a DHD brains get seen andheard just like you.
And if you're feeling extrafeisty please leave a review
anywhere that you listen topodcasts.
It means so much to me and tothe podcast.
It's still.
Such a small podcast.
I am growing.
I am building this business, andI am so grateful to have you
along for the ride.
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But any time you share with justone person, it goes so far.
I hope to see you in thecommunity or even just on the
wait list.
On that note, I hope you have abeautiful spring week, and I
will see you again soon.
Bye.
Hey, welcome back to anotherepisode of organizing an A DHD
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Brain.
I'm your host, Megs, and I'msuper excited to be talking to
you today about something I sayall the time on this podcast is
when everything is important,nothing is important.
What does that mean?
So first, a little bit of a lifeupdate.
We are still getting prepared tosell our house and move across
the country.
And this last week, my husbandand I sat the girls down
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thinking this might be about 10to 15 minutes of just talking
about what we've been talkingabout for a while now, the girls
have talked about theirexcitements and things like
that, but we truly sat down as afamily and started asking them
questions about.
What they wanted this trip tobe.
We told them a little bit moreabout the timeline and where
we're gonna be, where, andhelping them understand.
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And we sat there for an hour anda half having a conversation as
a family.
It was so darn cool.
So Charlotte, my 8-year-old saidthat she wants to have travel
Tuesdays.
Then Thursday rolls around andshe goes, oh, it's travel
Thursday, which was so cool.
We're like, okay, let's do itbecause why wouldn't we have
travel Tuesday and travelThursday?
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And we sat down and talked alittle bit more about what our
hopes and dreams and goals arethroughout the trip and what we
really want.
It's been really fun and one ofthe reasons why I started this
podcast is because havingconversations is so important to
me.
I don't remember havingconversations with my parents as
a kid.
My dad was in the Navy, so hewasn't around a lot.
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And my mom is deaf she was borndeaf.
Anyway, the art of theconversation I think is
beautiful and I think it'ssomething that is oftentimes
lacking in our society, which iswhy having podcasts are so
freaking cool.
We get to start to understandpeople from a new perspective
and have real conversations andgo in with curiosity versus just
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assuming one thing, from people.
So being able to go in withcuriosity with my kids first has
been fascinating.
It's just been so interesting toget their perspectives, to get
their full unique perspectiveson everything that's going on in
our life.
My husband even asked thequestion, what do you think it's
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gonna be like when we don't haveall the stuff that we have right
now?
We're going to be sellingeverything.
And honestly, when he asked thatquestion, I was like, oh, whoa.
What a change we're going aboutright now.
And if you're just starting thisdecluttering journey, that is
not where you start.
This is not where you startselling everything.
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That is a big journey.
Because it does take a lot oftime.
Selling stuff is a whole notherpart-time gig.
But having these conversationshas been truly fascinating and
has allowed me and my husband tohave deeper conversations about
it as well.
It got me inspired to share withyou about today's episode.
When everything is important,nothing is important.
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My boss used to say you get tooexcited about everything.
He never explained what thatmeant.
And I'm like yeah, I always getexcited about everything because
isn't that what I'm supposed todo?
I'm excited about the mission.
I'm excited about theseprojects.
I'm excited about education.
I'm excited about inspiring myteam to get to where they want
to go.
In this world of corporate, somany things.
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But I get it now.
I get it because as I left thecorporate world and started my
business, I wanted to start apodcast and I also got certified
to teach manifestation.
And I also became a coach, but Iwas also doing in-person
organizing and there were somany things that I wanted to do,
but without being able to fullyfocus and get really good at one
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thing, I didn't feel like I wasactually thriving at anything.
So that made a lot of sense tome.
It doesn't mean that my brainhas changed because I still get
excited about so many differentthings.
But I bring that up todaybecause as we continue to attack
the world and you listen to thispodcast and you figure out how
to get more organized or whatyou want in this life.
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Your brain isn't changing.
Your A DHD is still there infull form.
You're still gonna haveexecutive function difficulties.
You're still gonna have timeblindness, you still may act on
impulsive tendencies, but partof that is now being aware of so
many of these things that youweren't aware of before.
And that awareness allows you tostart to question some of the
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things that you wouldn't havequestioned before you just
would've done, because that'sthe way you've lived your life,
your whole darn life.
So as we approach this changecoming up in our world, right?
We have sold our house.
We're under contract, so we'redoing all kinds of different
stuff.
We did a bunch of painting.
We did a bunch of like holepatching.
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We changed all the pictures inour house to not include our
family, which was a little sad,but we're also selling a bunch
of stuff.
But then the girls are.
Finishing school and they justturned six and eight, and then
it's gonna be my birthday.
And then we had a joint birthdayfor them.
And then we have sleepoverscoming up and then they have
extracurricular things thatthey're doing.
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But then my husband is finishinghis job and he is trying to find
a new job right now.
And of course there's thingsthat I wanna be doing and I'm
building this business at thesame time, in fact, like there's
so many things I wanna be doingthat it's very hard to not try
to do them all at once.
So right now the things that aretruly pulling my attention is
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like getting my community movedover to circle.
They're so like it is anexecutive function mess because
there's so many things that Iwant to accomplish by moving the
community over there, but I haveto really break it down and do
things one at a time to makesure that it's not only simpler
for me, but also for anyonewho's joining the community.
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And then I have my clients, andthe more I systemize things to
make it easier for myself, theeasier it is for me to accept
new clients, to be able tosupport everyone in a way that
makes sense.
But if I were to also startclasses right now and to also
have a group coaching programand all of these other things
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that I want to do, it wouldn'tallow me to truly put my best
effort into the community andbeing the best coach I could
possibly be.
So while I'm excited about allof these other things, I have to
bring myself back to reality andsay, while those things are
still possible.
I've got to be able to focus onthe things that I wanna do right
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now.
Like I've got to be able tobring it back in, even if
they're not done right.
Like I, I've got to be able tobring it to a sense of
completion where I feel likeI've got control over what's
going on, and I feel like I'mreally good at all of these
things before I start to buildupon it.
Especially before I can start tohire more people.
But in the sense of, like whenwe're thinking as a mom or as a
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parent in general, we often takeon so many different things and
so many different roles becausewe feel like we have to.
And if we don't, then we're notgonna look good to Suzy
Homemaker down the street or tothis badass woman who's working
this amazing job and alsomanages to have the perfect
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lunches for her kids everysingle day.
I don't think any of us trulyhave it together in a sense that
we don't all cry a little bit onthe inside because I don't think
that we are ever meant to bethis busy.
I really don't like.
We're so busy.
There's so many things going onon a regular basis, but when
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everything is important andnothing is important, how do we
possibly get to the point wherewe can start to take things off
of our plate?
Ultimately when we have so muchgoing on, we are so focused on
getting everything done thatthen it's hard to even know
where to start.
We go into fight or flight mode.
So oftentimes our nervous systemplays a huge role in the way
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that we react to things,especially when we have so much
going on.
And oftentimes we prefer chaosbecause we operate in a state of
like calm and ease when there'schaos around us because we know
that there's always gonna besomething to do next.
When it comes to our stuff, ourclutter, we have clutter by the
door and we've got clutter inthe kitchen and clutter on the
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kitchen table and in the livingroom and in our kids' room, and
then in our room, and then inour closets, and then in our
front hall closet and then inour office, how do we possibly
know where to start?
And oftentimes because all ofthose things are so important,
we try to do a little bit ofeverything, and sometimes it
leads us to flitting from oneroom to another, trying to do a
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little bit of everything wherewe don't actually leave any
visible results.
And part of it just prevents usfrom starting in general because
if I have to do my office andthen in my laundry room, and
then in my room, do you guysever ask yourselves what's the
point of even starting when thisis gonna take so much longer
than I want it to take?
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Like why would I start to learna different language?
Because I'm not gonna be fluentright away and that's gonna be
so annoying.
Says me, who's been on Duolingofor I don't know, 72 days now
and I'm still not fluent andit's so frustrating Even eating
healthier.
I know I wanna eat healthier,but what does that even mean?
I don't know what it means, andI don't know how to cook
healthy.
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Why would I even bother startingnow?
There's too much work that goesinto it that's gonna be too much
of a change, and knowing me, I'mprobably just gonna fail.
That's because we put so muchpressure on ourselves to be so
perfect at things right away.
Which is again, why we signourselves up to do all of these
things, because we wanna show upand say, oh, like I got snack
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for the kids' soccer game.
In fact, you know what?
I'll just take over snack andwhy don't you just allow me to
do all the party planning too,because that sounds easy.
I'm good at party planning andthat's not gonna take up any
time at all, when really ittakes up.
So much time and we don't trulyrealize it, until it's too late
to ask for help, because it'sthe night before this party, and
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you've gotta get all of thesethings that you've waited until
the last minute to actually doand coordinate.
But it's because when everythingis important, nothing is
important, you still get thingsdone, but now you shame yourself
because you're not gettingeverything done.
And then your to-do listcontinues to get longer.
You continue to put yourself onthe back burner because who has
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time to take care of themselveswhen they're also trying to plan
for everyone else?
And especially when you're a momand you are basically the
business owner or thecoordinator of everything that's
going on in the house.
at some point the schedule willget a little bit lighter and
then I'll take a break, thenI'll take care of myself.
But when's the last time thatactually happened?
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In reality, when's the last timeyour schedule got so clear that
you actually had time to dosomething that you wanted to do?
Because I bet most of you don'teven know what the heck you
would wanna do if you had justeven a little bit of time in
your schedule to actually sitdown.
So coming back to organizing, ifyou're not used to being an
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organized person, if you neverlearned how to be an organized
person, or even if you used tobe, maybe you had more help
previously and now you're in aposition where you have no help
whatsoever, you have to do it onyour own.
You are now having to try to fitit in or catch up in between
doing all of these other thingsand your schedule is not going
to stop just so that you canstart to be more organized.
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And so that's where we have tofigure out how do we make room
in our lives where we understandtruly what we're capable of in
these moments and what can getput off for the future.
Because like I said earlier, Iwanna plan classes.
I really wanna do groupcoaching.
I'm so excited about doing it,but I want it to be really good.
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If I want something next week,it would be fine.
It wouldn't be really good.
It wouldn't be exactly what Iwant it to be.
And I'm not saying make itperfect, but I am saying that's
not my priority right now.
My priority is my kids and myhusband, and my business and my
clients and my community.
And adding that in would takeaway from all of these other
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things that I'm doing.
I'm not ready.
I don't have the capacity to doit right now.
So why don't we do that when itcomes to our personal schedules
too?
Because our personal scheduleskeep getting fuller and fuller,
and we keep saying yes and yes.
I saw this idea the other daythat said, what if we had a to
not do list.
Okay.
And then if someone says, wouldyou like to do this?
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You could refer to your to notdo list.
So you could say no, that'sactually something that is not
on my to-do list.
It is on my to not do list.
So that we could start tounderstand what we can say no
to, even if we truly still wantto say yes to it too.
When it comes to seeing familyand doing all of these things
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for my business, it's so easyfor me to still say yes to
everything, it's because I knowa little bit more about my brain
that I understand that if I sayyes to everything, I am not
going to have the ability to doeverything, and I'm gonna let
myself go first.
So a lot of it comes down to thedopamine too.
Like we genuinely wanna bearound a lot of people, and I'm
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an introverted extrovert, I loveto be around people, but I also
love my rest, but I forget thatI need rest.
I actually forget that I needtime away from people and to
have some solid downtime beforeI'm recharged enough to go out
and have fun again.
There used to be times that Iwould plan something on Friday,
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on Saturday and Sunday, andafter enjoying Friday so much,
Saturday comes around and I'mlike, I don't even wanna do
this.
And then we're doing somethingagain the next day.
It's exhausting.
We forget how much we truly needto recharge our batteries.
Having kids has really helped meunderstand and see their need
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for rest and understand thatthey need a break during the day
to understand that, oh, maybethis relates to me too.
Maybe I also need a break duringthe day.
But part of it is that need fordopamine, right?
But it's also our need to proveourselves to the world and
perhaps to ourselves.
Then part of it is this peoplepleaser nature that a lot of us
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have that we grew up with.
It's about going above andbeyond.
It's this perfection that we'reseeking and oftentimes it's so
much easier to show up and helpsomeone else than it is to help
ourselves.
That's so interesting, that's asuper deep question is why is it
so easy for us to go and helpother people versus helping
ourselves?
When you continue to prioritizeyour to-do list and everyone
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else's needs above your own, youare never going to prioritize
your own.
That's part of where thenoticing takes place.
When you start to notice thatyou're always putting other
people in front of yourself, youlook at yourself in the mirror
and you realize why the circlesare so dark under your eyes, why
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you're not getting sleep atnight, because you do feel like
you always need to be going.
You might be waking up in themiddle of the night because you
feel like there's something elsethat you've now forgotten to
prioritize.
But that's where fillingyourself up is so important.
And this is, oh my gosh, likebeing selfish is incredibly
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important and not selfish in a,like you're ruining other
people's lives because you'reselfish type of thing, but
selfish in that.
You genuinely know how to takecare of yourself first, because
when you do, you're able to fillyour cup up so darn much that
you are able to shine your lightin this world so much more when
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you are selfish about getting upearly and prioritizing your day,
making sure that you drink a cupof coffee, making sure that
you're planning your day.
Making sure that you get acouple of deep breaths before
other people wake up in themorning.
Call it selfish, call itwhatever you want.
If you take time to breatheduring the day, just 60 seconds
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of noticing your breath, that'staking care of yourself when you
take a walk for 15 minutes.
That's taking care of yourselfwhen you watch trashy tv.
That is taking care of yourself.
But when you rest where youthink you're resting and then
you still have 20 other thingsgoing on in your mind because
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you can't possibly shut yourbrain off, that is not
prioritizing yourself.
The first things to go when weare busy is ourselves.
We stop prioritizing moving ourbody or eating healthy or
drinking enough water'cause weforget that water exists or
we're skipping meals because wedon't have time because other
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people come first.
But the truth is that when youstop being selfish, oh my gosh,
why is it such a negative word?
But like when you focus ontaking care of yourself, you
literally are just prolongingthe life you get to shine your
light on here in this world.
The amount of light you have togive to your kids because you're
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literally hydrating your bodywith the appropriate amount of
water on a regular basis.
This is me being really real formyself right now because I have
not been prioritizing water andI need to.
I live in Colorado.
It comes back to when they tellyou on the airplane to put on
your own mask before you put onyour kids.
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It just means that you areensuring that you get to live
while you help your kids livetoo.
It's important that you stayalive so that you can ensure
your kids stay alive.
You know that when you'regetting air into your lungs, you
will absolutely make sure thatyour kids get those air masks
on.
But if you put theirs on firstand you forget about yourself,
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you might pass out and they'renot gonna be able to help you.
They don't have the capacity todo it.
That's why we need to learn howto regulate ourselves and show
our kids what it's like to takecare of ourselves so that they
can learn how to do it too.
Because being mamas and dads outin this world is freaking hard.
It is a lot of work.
I think almost every person I'vetalked to that's become a client
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or is in the community, hastalked to me about how they just
need time.
They just need someone to comeover for an entire week to
revamp their entire house, andthen everything will be fine.
Or they just need to come upwith this perfect schedule and
then everything will be finebecause things will start to
fall into motion.
But that's not the way that lifeworks.
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No matter how much you thinkthat your life is gonna slow
down or your to-do list is gonnaget shorter, or one day you'll
be able to breathe.
That's just not the case.
Life continues to happen.
There's always ridiculouswrenches getting thrown into
your plans.
But when you're trying to doeverything, you're never gonna
have time for yourself if youdon't have yourself in that
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everything mix.
This continues to show up for melately, and it happens often.
My brain has not changed justbecause I talk about this and I
know how to be organized.
It's just that I'm now aware ofit.
And so this morning I knew Iwanted to go to yoga, but as the
time kept creeping closer andcloser, I wanted to go less and
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less.
I was like, I don't wanna do it.
I don't wanna prioritize myself.
I know moving my body isimportant.
I'll do it some other time.
I was coming up with all ofthese excuses not to go, and I
went and I felt really goodabout it.
But oftentimes when I'm so busyand I'm so frustrated about
everything that I have to do, Ioftentimes sacrifice myself the
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most, and I forget about takingcare of myself and I forget
about drinking that water.
So Megan, this is great.
Like thanks for telling me I dotoo much.
I already get it, but how do Ipossibly slow things down?
Part of it and we've talkedabout this in previous episodes,
about just understanding thatyou don't actually have to rush
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through everything that you'redoing, what.
does it look like to slow downbringing awareness to it, even
just driving to the next game.
You don't have to speed.
If you went the speed limit, itmight make a difference of one
or two minutes, but let's behonest, it actually doesn't make
a difference at all with all thelights so what does it look like
to slow down a little bit?
Even just in the day to day?
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Or what if instead of having 20things on your to-do list, you
planned three that you got donethat day.
Three bigger things that youactually accomplished and then
you could say, wow, I'm achampion.
What if you sat down in thebeginning of the week and you
said, what are four things thatI would really like to get done
by the end of the week?
What would I feel really goodabout doing?
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And then you focused on thosefour things, or even just coming
back and saying what's one thingI could do today that would make
me feel like 10 years from now.
Megs is so proud of me forgetting that done.
We don't have yesterday.
We don't have tomorrow.
We literally only have the daythat we're in and we're so good
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at procrastinating.
We could totally put it offuntil tomorrow, right?
Or we could also beat ourselvesup for not doing it yesterday.
So why not do it today?
But you can't do everythingtoday.
I am curious, if you were tolook at your to-do list right
now, whether you have it writtendown or if it's all floating up
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in your head, I would recommendwriting it all down.
What would you see as the mostimportant thing on that list?
Is it your kids?
Is it kids' activities, sportsgames?
Is it meals?
Is it to-do list projects aroundthe house?
Is it art projects?
Is it scheduling things?
Is it doing taxes?
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What kinds of themes are comingup for you?
I am curious if you could startto take notice of that because
when I decided to really takecontrol of my to-do list and
what I was getting done on aregular basis, my common themes
were myself, even though Ididn't want to.
This was something that I put onthe list because ultimately I
wanted to see that I hadsomething for myself down each
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day, and it could even bereading a book for 15 minutes.
I found free audio books onSpotify the other day, and I
started listening to one and ithad me captivated within the
first five minutes.
I was like, oh, this is great.
Then it's my family.
And different things likespending time together on Travel
Tuesdays or travel Thursdays, ormaybe we were just outside.
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Maybe we would love going to themovies lately.
That's been really fun.
Minecraft was hilarious.
Or even just doing gardeningoutside.
My girls love helping withgardening, even if their friends
distract them and then theydecide to go play with them
instead, that's fine.
Totally cool.
What matters for the home?
Things like meals, things likeregular cleaning stuff or
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decluttering and getting thingsin their place, putting things
away, getting things back to aplace where we don't feel so
overwhelmed by all the stuff inour home all the time.
And then my last priority formyself is my business.
I like to, as I plan my week andmy day, I try to plan my day
each day, and I'm not alwayssuccessful at it, it's just
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continuity.
I come back to it whenever Idon't do it for a couple days, I
come back to it, and that makesit easier to accomplish.
But for my business, then I say,okay, these are the things I'm
gonna get done today for mybusiness on my to-do list.
I have six things that Iaccomplish each day.
I do have a download on mywebsite.
If you go to organizing an A DHDbrain.com, and then click on
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store.
You can see I have a to-do listdownload there.
It has priorities at the top,then the date, and then you fill
in the time slots to see if yourto-do list is actually
achievable.
'cause we are time blind andit's very easy to say, we're
gonna do all of these things,but then we see that time is not
actually going to be on our sidewhen we try to accomplish these
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things.
It's something that I createdfor myself and I put out there
because it's a really goodfoundation.
I wanted to keep it as simple aspossible to make it feel like it
was.
Something that you couldaccomplish.
So go check it out.
Otherwise, I did a coupleepisodes last year on planning
your day, and I like superstructured it out.
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The episodes is called LessBusy, more Bliss.
Prioritize Your Schedule with ADHD.
So there's part one and parttwo.
There's also one I did earlierthis year called A DHD and
prioritizing taming theoverwhelm when everything feels
important.
And so honestly, this episode islikely very similar to things
that I talked about in there,but it's about repetition.
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It's about what is gonna workfor you, because not everything
I say is gonna work for you.
I found what works for me, andthat's why I asked so many
questions to help you figure outwhat's gonna work for you too.
So this week I have a challengefor you, if you write everything
down and start to see the commonthemes, amazing.
But if you don't get around toit because you're in constant
fight or flight mode right now,and just listening to this
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podcast is amazing because youfound time to listen to this
amongst the other insane lifethings that you're doing.
So start to notice as you gofrom one thing to another, what
are the things you're going fromJust bring notice to your life.
Are any of them for you?
And if they're not, why not?
And if they're for everyoneelse, is there anything that you
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could possibly say no to?
Is there anything that you'resaying yes to because you feel
you have to.
Is there anything you're sayingyes to because you think that
people will look at younegatively if you say no?
And if so, I'll think you'repretty darn awesome if you say
no to something that's gonnaallow you to have a little bit
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of space and time for you tothink clearly, for you to not
feel like you're in constant gomode all the darn time.
Honestly for you to feel likeyou have a little bit of control
over this to-do list, becausesometimes we've got so much on
our to-do list that we go intocomplete freeze mode and we're
just like, Nope, not doing anyof that.
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I know I could do some of it,but Nope.
Uhuh, and it's our body'sreaction to it, and we're just
like, Uhuh not doing any of it.
I think when you start torecognize that not everything on
your to-do list is a priority,it helps you start to
understand.
How you could go about your dayin a different way.
It's hard.
'cause there's so much more tothis, like there's the
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regulation piece of it and beingin constant fight or flight mode
or dysregulation, so to speak.
Even pausing for a second tothink about this is a lot.
So like I will do more episodeson that.
But just understanding that it'snot about saying no forever,
it's just no, today it's justnot right now.
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What are the things you have todo today and what are the things
that would be okay if you putoff until tomorrow?
And sometimes that does becomeus, right?
And so coming back to, is itimportant that you fill up your
own cup before you fill upothers?
Yeah, it really is.
It's so important that you takecare of yourself.
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And I'm not talking self-care,like going to a spot a although.
That's amazing.
Also get yourself a massage,right?
Go get a facial.
Awesome if you can afford it, ifyou can make that a part of your
life.
But no, taking deep breaths andeven just recognizing how
grateful you are for this lifethat you live.
And if you're not yet there,that's okay too.
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What I have noticed with myclients, with anyone that I meet
with A DHD and with myself isthat sometimes we need some time
to think about this before wetruly start to take action.
The one thing that I just wantyou to take away from today is
notice.
How could you start to noticewhat things matter the most?
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How do you start to notice?
What does that look like in yourlife?
I'm curious, without needing totake action on it right away,
because you're not gonna changeyour schedule in a week.
Your brain is gonna overcomplicate it anyway, and then
you're gonna fail and you'regonna feel like you're a failure
because you didn't complete the20 things that you had on your
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change of plan scheduledplanning thing.
Just what's something you cantake notice of this week?
That's all you gotta do.
I'm not gonna give you anythingmore complicated to do than
that.
I am gonna invite you into mycommunity.
I would love for you to come tomy community.
It is right now close.
However, you could go to mywebsite and sign up for the wait
(28:48):
list for the community that isgoing to be launching on May
15th.
So the price of the membershipis gonna be$37.
If you're on the wait list,there might be some exciting.
Delicious freebies and otherexcitements that'll be coming
your way before it officiallylaunches on the 15th.
I would love to see you there ifyou're interested in coaching.
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I have one slot left availablefor the month of May, and I may
shut it down for the summer aswe're traveling keeping the
clients that I already have.
So I'd love to chat with youabout coaching, even if you're
not ready to sign up right away,just to see.
What's piqued your interestabout it, and I can help you
understand what coaching isversus therapy, things like
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that, and I'd love to meet you,which would be so cool.
Oh, another thing, when you signup for the community, there may
be an opportunity for you tocoach one-on-one with me for 30
minutes for free.
More about that as you sign upfor the wait list.
And I will keep you in the loop.
So next week we'll be evencloser to the launch of the
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community.
I'm so excited.
There's gonna be some reallygood stuff in there.
And Circle is the communitywe're moving to.
And it's so much more A DHDfriendly than where I'm at right
now.
I'm so excited to share it withyou.
I just can't wait to see youguys and support you through
this journey of gettingorganized and understanding that
you don't have to change yourlife.
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So much to feel like you have toalso stop your life to get
organized before you cancontinue on feeling successful.
And one more thing, you don'tactually have to earn that
self-care, right?
Like you don't have to earntaking care of yourself.
You don't have to get 20 thingsdone off your to-do list in
order for you to say yeah, I canfinally take care of myself.
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Now, you don't have to puteveryone else first in order for
you to do it.
In fact.
It's not recommended.
When you sacrifice yourself, yougrow resentful.
No matter how much you do it.
You could shove all thosefeelings down inside, but when
you put everyone else first,constantly, the resentment
grows.
And it's not pretty.
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Not for anyone else and not foryou.
But when you take time to putyourself first and then you take
care of everyone else, oh, thatlight you shine is so beautiful.
If this podcast resonated withyou at all, I would love for you
to share this with just oneperson.
When the podcast gets shared, wegrow and it helps other people
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with a DHD brains get seen andheard just like you.
And if you're feeling extrafeisty please leave a review
anywhere that you listen topodcasts.
It means so much to me and tothe podcast.
It's still.
Such a small podcast.
I am growing.
I am building this business, andI am so grateful to have you
along for the ride.
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But any time you share with justone person, it goes so far.
I hope to see you in thecommunity or even just on the
wait list.
On that note, I hope you have abeautiful spring week, and I
will see you again soon.
Bye.
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