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In this episode of 'Organizing an ADHD Brain,' our host shares personal experiences and valuable lessons learned during a cross-country move from Colorado to Massachusetts. Reflecting on what went well and how they remained organized, topics include overcoming all-or-nothing thinking, designated spaces for belongings, using QR codes for better organization, and packing strategically for different legs of the trip. Also, the host highlights the importance of self-trust and embracing discomfort for growth. The episode concludes with a special guest appearance by the host's eight-year-old daughter, Charlotte, who shares her thoughts on the move.
00:55 Traveling with ADHD: Challenges and Insights
02:11 Five Things That Went Well During the Move
04:46 Designating Spaces for Organization
09:25 Using QR Codes for Efficient Packing
10:56 Packing for Specific Legs of the Trip
12:25 Reflecting on the Move and Future Plans
18:32 Conclusion and Future Podcast Plans
20:09 Special Guest: Charlotte's Perspective on the Move
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(00:00):
Hey, beautiful people.
Welcome back to another episodeof organizing an A DHD Brain.
I'm coming in hot from anothercloset, but this time it's not
mine.
I'm so thrilled to update youthis week.
On what went well during themove.
Some of the things that I'mreally proud of myself for
doing, even though a lot of thetimes in our A DHD brains, I
(00:20):
know mine specifically, I cansometimes look back and be like,
oh my gosh, why didn't I dothis?
Why didn't I do that?
Except that all of this was abeautiful learning opportunity
for me to say, okay, I didn't doit that way, but I wouldn't have
known to, I had to experiencethese certain things in order to
get where I am right now.
So to fill you in, we havemoved.
(00:43):
We sold our house in Coloradoand we're making our way across
the country to land inMassachusetts by the beginning
of the school year.
So that is in the works rightnow and we are traveling.
Until then, I'm gonna be honest,there's a lot that is going into
this and I will talk abouttraveling with A DHD pretty soon
(01:03):
and staying organized whiledoing it.
That has been quite a conundrum,if you will, and certainly an
enlightening experience becausethere's a lot that we're still
learning about ourselves as weput ourselves through this truly
uncomfortable experience.
One thing my husband and I bothknow.
(01:26):
It is that when we areuncomfortable and we put
ourselves in this state of beinguncomfortable, it's proven that
we will grow.
We know that the other side ofit is an experience that is
worth having in order to knowwhat we now know.
On the other side, there arecertain things that you can hear
from a podcast.
There's certain things that youcan read in a book and.
(01:49):
Life is not teaching you lessonsuntil you're taking actions and
failing yourself.
'cause those failures teach youa ton about what you're doing
well, about what you canimprove, about what you might
wanna do differently next time.
And a lot of you are listeningbecause you're like, I just
wanna be organized, and I don'tknow how to do that with my damn
(02:10):
brain.
So let me talk to you a littlebit about the five things that I
believe went really well when itcame to the move.
It doesn't mean that everythingwent well.
But I do wanna give myselfcredit because there's a lot of
things that I've learned aboutmy brain that allowed me to look
at things differently as we hadto make so many decisions,
(02:30):
especially toward the end.
The first thing that went wellis understanding my all or
nothing thinking.
Now, just because I talk aboutthis a lot, I know I have an all
or nothing thinking.
I know that I could look at abathroom and think I'm not gonna
make any changes until I cancompletely gut this thing and
pick out new wallpaper and newtile and do it all on a weekend,
(02:53):
which we also know is notrealistic when renovating a
bathroom.
But that comes back to timeblindness.
So as I started to approach somany of the different projects
in my house that needed to getdone prior to us selling the
house and of course selling allof our stuff, most of it that
left the house, it felt sooverwhelming and I knew I had to
(03:17):
continue to take baby steps inthe direction of where we were
headed.
So every time I started toattack a project, I knew that I
was going at it with this all ornothing mentality because just
because you have a DHD and thenyou know that you have this all
or nothing thought process thatyou wanna get everything done
(03:38):
all at once.
Doesn't necessarily mean that itgoes away.
It just means that you have tocontinuously be aware of that.
So you can say, okay, I know Ican't do all of this at once, so
what's one thing I can do andwhat's one decision I can make?
Especially when it came to thestuff like what's leaving?
What's staying?
(03:58):
What are we bringing with us?
What are we not bringing withus?
Making a decision one item at atime really allowed me to be
purposeful about.
What happened next, and that wasan anchoring point for me at so
many different periods and whenI was able to ask myself, what's
(04:18):
one thing I can do?
And making one decision, oneitem at a time really allowed me
to make progress and remindingmyself that these small little
efforts that I make add up.
And we ultimately started makingdecisions on our items and
listing things on Facebookmarketplace starting in the
beginning of the year.
(04:39):
And then we didn't leave ourhouse until it's a week ago
Today I am recording this onSunday.
That's crazy.
The second thing that I willgive myself credit for doing
really well is designating ourfront room or the office space
that you may have seen inprevious videos of the podcast.
Dedicating that room as a spacewhere all of the stuff we
(04:59):
planned on taking with us went.
So even if we didn't have itpacked, even if we didn't know
where it was gonna go yet, asfar as storage, as far as what
we were gonna store it in, as wetook it with us, all of the
stuff we knew we wanted to comewith us, lived in the front
room.
And that was really beneficialbecause as soon as I saw
something that I knew we didn'tneed anymore, say it was a
(05:21):
picture on the wall that didn'tneed to be on the wall anymore
because we were taking thingsdown and patching holes up.
We were able to put everythingin the front room and make sense
of it when it came down to it.
And this was ultimately in thelast week that we were there.
But having that designated spacein the front room for the things
that we're leaving with us, itreminded me about the trust that
(05:45):
I have in myself.
When you are organizing yourhome, oftentimes I talk about
thinking about where future youwould go to look for something.
If you were trying to find it,where would you go to look for
it if you were trying to findit?
That is an excellent question tohelp you understand where things
go, to start to establish homesfor things as you're organizing
(06:08):
your home, but when you'retearing your home apart and
everything is not in the placethat you would go to look for it
anymore.
Designating new spaces andtrusting yourself, knowing that
you'll be able to get through.
This is key.
Honestly, organizing andlearning to have a belief of
(06:30):
self-trust in yourself is one ofthe key elements that will get
you from point A to point B.
It comes back to if I think Ican, or I think I can, I'm
right.
The belief that you have inyourself is everything when it
comes to making.
Small changes in your home, likeorganizing or huge changes like,
(06:53):
I don't know, leaving thecorporate world, deciding to get
bariatric surgery, quittingdrinking, and then deciding to
sell your house and all of yourbelongings and move across the
country.
Just little things like that.
The third thing I wanna give uscredit for doing really well is
designating our garage area asthe place.
For everything that was leavingour house.
(07:13):
So anything we knew we weregoing to sell immediately went
into the garage after we tookpictures of it to post it on
Facebook marketplace, or ofcourse, to stage these items as
we got them out of the house forour two garage sales that we
held.
That was really helpful becauseas soon as we made a decision on
something and it left the house,it didn't come back in unless it
(07:34):
was our dishes that we decidedwe could still eat off of if no
one was buying them yet.
But it was just really greatbecause we knew that anything
that was in the garage was to besold, and it was a really great
way for my husband and I to beable to communicate without us
specifically saying, Hey, I'mputting this out here.
It's for sale.
We just knew there were timesthat there were things that we
(07:54):
knew we needed to take insidetoo.
In the garage, there was thischaos element of it where.
There were things on the leftside that needed to be gone
through.
And there were things on theright side that we knew we were
selling and then there werethings in the middle that our
kids had gotten out and playedwith and had no idea where to
put them back away at because ofcourse we're moving and we took
(08:15):
things off the wall and there'sjust chaos, right?
So that was a huge aspect of ourmove as well.
But once we started to establishthese zones and then put things
in the zones.
It made things easier, even ifthere was chaos in the
in-between.
And nobody really talks aboutthe in-between chaos, right?
(08:35):
There's the before picture andthe after picture, but we need
those messy middle pictures.
Those messy middle pictures arewhat life is all about.
Those messy middle pictures arefreaking everything.
That's what it's all about.
The transition.
The transition of the before,getting to the after is what we
(08:56):
really need to see and what weneed to understand is it's not
very pretty.
It's not pretty, it's notaesthetically pleasing and it's
probably why we don't see a lotof that on Instagram, but it's
exactly what we need to see tounderstand that when we look at
our messy middle.
We can say, oh no, this isexactly where I need to be right
(09:16):
now.
I'm exactly where I need to beright now because this is
painting a picture of thetransition and the place that
I'm headed, even if it stilllooks like chaos.
The fourth thing that I reallylove that I did during this
whole process was I have theselittle QR codes that are
stickers.
It's an app called Scan Lilly,and you can order these little
(09:37):
stickers on Amazon.
I'm gonna put a link in the shownotes below.
And what these stickers do isyou take a picture of them and
then you can scan the differentthings that you want into the
box that you're storing them in.
So I have two little QR codes onthe outside of two boxes that I
have, and I can go to my phonein the app and search the
(09:58):
different things that I have inthere.
I have gloves in there and hatsand winter jackets and things
like that.
It has allowed me to see what wehave.
So that I don't have to gosearching through boxes for
certain things.
Now, I didn't do this with everybox.
But for these two larger boxes,these are our heaviest items.
(10:19):
And I used this a while ago.
This was the first thing I usedScan Lily for, was Bluey
Valentine's.
I went and bought BlueyValentine's for Cora's class and
I was so excited to get them outand I lost them.
I couldn't find them anywhere.
I had no idea where they went.
And then of course, about a weekafter Valentine's Day, after I
(10:40):
had already gone out and boughtnew ones, I found them.
And so I decided to put a littleQR code on them and store them
above my.
Dryer in the laundry room, and Iwas able to find them so much
easier the next time it camearound.
The fifth thing I will say I didreally well on this trip, was
(11:00):
having our bags packed forspecific legs of our trip.
So as we make our way to theEast coast, the first night
after our initial eight hourdrive, we stayed at a pet
friendly hotel where we juststayed for the night.
So when our first bag was reallyjust the things that were
(11:20):
essential, like a fresh pair ofpajamas, a fresh pair of clothes
to wear for driving thefollowing day, And I packed a
couple fun extras for the girlsto be surprised, like a stuffed
animal and a new book for themto play with in the car The next
trip that we stayed, I hadanother bag packed for the four
(11:41):
nights that we were going to bethere.
Now I did two bags, one for thegirls and then one for me and
Adam so that we could truly haveeverything that we needed.
And that way any of theadditional clothes that.
Obviously we're still bringingwith us, but didn't need to be
packed in.
Those initial three suitcasesgot pushed to the back of the
trailer, so as we were towingthings, we didn't need to access
(12:04):
these additional things.
That was so helpful because Ididn't feel like we had to lug
more suitcases in or less, andit felt.
Easy.
'cause I was like, what'spractical?
What's realistic for us?
when it comes to stopping forone night and stopping for four,
and then eventually getting towhere we are now?
And then the sixth thing that Iwill say.
(12:25):
I did really well is rememberingwhere we're going.
Last year when my husband and Iwere talking about selling our
house, we've talked about itbefore and didn't necessarily
know if we were gonna press,press the button and move
forward.
But as we continued to talkabout what we wanted, we know we
want land.
(12:45):
And we know we want peace.
We know we want a life thatfeels a little bit simpler as we
continue to let go of stuff inour home, declutter and organize
and see what a home we continueto create in the home that we
decided to sell.
We knew that there was so muchmore that we could create it.
It wasn't that we weren'tgrateful for everything that we
(13:07):
had so entirely and ultimatelygrateful for everything that we
had, our neighbors, our yard,our view, the beauty that
surrounded us, and we were readyfor a change.
And When we initially decided tosell our house and move to the
East coast, I looked at Adam andI was like, people are gonna
(13:27):
wanna know why.
And he's like, doesn't matter.
It matters that we have our why,and there's not a lot of people
that are gonna understand that.
And let me tell you, people letus know their opinions about
everything that we were doing,And when we were in the thick of
it, when we were down to ourlast couple days in the house.
(13:49):
I kept looking around and beinglike, why the hell are we doing
this?
This is awful.
We are ripping up the comfort ofour status quo of everything
that we've known that's madesense.
We sold our bed and we love ourmattress.
We sold our couch.
We freaking loved that couch.
We sold our plates.
(14:10):
We sold everything that we had.
Meticulously chosen for thislife that we lived in Colorado.
And I remembered, and this iswhy it's so important for
coaches to have coaches too,because I remembered what I
teach so many of my clients isthinking about what is this end
result that we're looking for?
What are we striving for?
(14:32):
We're striving for peace.
We're striving for land, we'restriving for.
A different life for our girls,really, and we're seeking that
out by taking this grandadventure.
So part of the thing that Ithought of as we were going
through this tumultuous,ridiculous upending and
(14:55):
uprooting of the status quo wehad created, I saw myself
sitting and sipping coffee.
Wrapped up in a really cozy,incredible blanket, looking out
onto this beautiful yard that'sgreen surrounded by trees, and
it's really peaceful In themeantime, I am at one week from
(15:18):
leaving this life we had inColorado.
I can't tell you that I've fullybeen enlightened yet.
But I've, I'm noticing somechanges that I wasn't able to
fully grasp as I was goingthrough this craziness of
letting go.
I don't know what that fully isyet, but I'm getting more and
(15:38):
more comfortable.
With the idea of trusting myselfand knowing that my family is my
home, being grateful that mydogs and our cats are here with
us and, and figuring out what'snext.
One day at a time, I'm reallydamn proud of the life that my
husband and I have created upuntil this point.
I'm also really proud that myentire family agreed to do a
(16:02):
line dancing class with me inNashville this last week.
This whole change has been areminder of how uncomfortable
change is.
Now, this could be as ridiculousas selling your house and moving
across the country, or it couldbe as simple as deciding to let
(16:24):
go of the clutter that oncebrought you.
Believe it or not, peace.
It's not necessarily peace thatit's bringing.
There's a lot of studies thatshow how uncomfortable it is to
have so much clutter around, butthe way that you dealt with it
is comfortable.
It's comfortable to simplyignore it until it triggers you.
(16:47):
So dealing with it in adifferent way is so
uncomfortable.
It's uncomfortable to the pointthat we want to run the other
direction and ignore it again orattack it and fight it or do
research on it until we have allthe information or simply just,
I try to do a little bit hereand a little bit there until
nothing is ever actually done.
(17:09):
All of those ways of dealingwith our clutter are normal
because that's how we've beendealing with our lives, our
whole lives with A DHD, andwhether you're diagnosed or
undiagnosed or just figuring itout to this point, it's helpful
to understand how you approachsome of these situations And
(17:30):
that it is actually okay to beuncomfortable I saw this really
great quote the other day.
That you can have comfort orgrowth, but you can't have both.
When you have comfort, yousacrifice growth, and when you
have growth, you sacrificecomfort because there's a
certain element to you that hasto change in order to grow.
(17:51):
I don't know that I fully lovethat quote because I really want
there to be both.
I wanted to fix this together,but I will say that over the
last couple weeks I have been souncomfortable, so freaking
uncomfortable and desperate tofind some peace.
So last night as me and thekiddos and Adam were all in the
(18:16):
hot tub, we are sitting at thetop of a mountain watching
fireflies, and the piece isstarting to seep in and the
understanding and the, the, thegrowth in a way that.
Just allows me to see thingsfrom new perspectives.
I would be absolutely honored ifyou would take the time to go
(18:37):
and leave me a review on thispodcast today on Spotify or.
Wherever you leave reviews.
I am not currently taking anynew coaching clients right now,
and my community is currentlyclosed to new members as I'm
nurturing the current members.
But if you would like to sign upfor the wait list.
(18:57):
Go to organizing an ADHDbrain.com/community.
You can learn a little bit moreabout the community, and I will
also be talking about futurecoaching opportunities there as
well.
If you have any questions,you're so welcome to email me at
anytime info at organizing anadhd brain.com I've got some
(19:20):
really awesome interviews comingup over the rest of the summer,
and I'm gonna do a couple ofreruns just to remind you of
some of the fun things that havehappened for over the rest of
season two.
Here's what I will say.
This is gonna be my last soloepisode for season two of
organizing an A DHD Brain.
(19:42):
It feels right, there's beensome transitions this year and
I'm ready to start somethingnew.
I'm ready to do something alittle different with this
podcast so that we can continueto grow together in our
organizing skills, A DHDknowledge and really just
understanding yeah, you can dothis.
It's just not gonna happen likeyou thought it would, and that's
(20:02):
freaking okay.
I hope you're having a fantasticsummer and I will chat with you
soon.
I am joined today by a veryspecial guest who's gonna share
with you a little bit about howthis move has been.
So welcome to the show,Charlotte.
Tell us a little bit about you.
(20:23):
My name is Charlotte and I ameight and I'm about to go in
third grade.
And I love my sister Cora.
Can you tell us a little bitabout the move that you've just
had?
The move, it's, it has beenreally big and it's really fun
because we let our cat namedTeddy come out and play with us
(20:44):
in the car On the road.
In the car in the road.
What's been your favorite partso far?
I like when Teddy lays on my lapand, lays down and It's the
cutest thing in the whole world.
Hey, beautiful people.
Welcome back to another episodeof organizing an A DHD Brain.
I'm coming in hot from anothercloset, but this time it's not
mine.
I'm so thrilled to update youthis week.
On what went well during themove.
Some of the things that I'mreally proud of myself for
doing, even though a lot of thetimes in our A DHD brains, I
(00:20):
know mine specifically, I cansometimes look back and be like,
oh my gosh, why didn't I dothis?
Why didn't I do that?
Except that all of this was abeautiful learning opportunity
for me to say, okay, I didn't doit that way, but I wouldn't have
known to, I had to experiencethese certain things in order to
get where I am right now.
So to fill you in, we havemoved.
(00:43):
We sold our house in Coloradoand we're making our way across
the country to land inMassachusetts by the beginning
of the school year.
So that is in the works rightnow and we are traveling.
Until then, I'm gonna be honest,there's a lot that is going into
this and I will talk abouttraveling with A DHD pretty soon
(01:03):
and staying organized whiledoing it.
That has been quite a conundrum,if you will, and certainly an
enlightening experience becausethere's a lot that we're still
learning about ourselves as weput ourselves through this truly
uncomfortable experience.
One thing my husband and I bothknow.
(01:26):
It is that when we areuncomfortable and we put
ourselves in this state of beinguncomfortable, it's proven that
we will grow.
We know that the other side ofit is an experience that is
worth having in order to knowwhat we now know.
On the other side, there arecertain things that you can hear
from a podcast.
There's certain things that youcan read in a book and.
(01:49):
Life is not teaching you lessonsuntil you're taking actions and
failing yourself.
'cause those failures teach youa ton about what you're doing
well, about what you canimprove, about what you might
wanna do differently next time.
And a lot of you are listeningbecause you're like, I just
wanna be organized, and I don'tknow how to do that with my damn
(02:10):
brain.
So let me talk to you a littlebit about the five things that I
believe went really well when itcame to the move.
It doesn't mean that everythingwent well.
But I do wanna give myselfcredit because there's a lot of
things that I've learned aboutmy brain that allowed me to look
at things differently as we hadto make so many decisions,
(02:30):
especially toward the end.
The first thing that went wellis understanding my all or
nothing thinking.
Now, just because I talk aboutthis a lot, I know I have an all
or nothing thinking.
I know that I could look at abathroom and think I'm not gonna
make any changes until I cancompletely gut this thing and
pick out new wallpaper and newtile and do it all on a weekend,
(02:53):
which we also know is notrealistic when renovating a
bathroom.
But that comes back to timeblindness.
So as I started to approach somany of the different projects
in my house that needed to getdone prior to us selling the
house and of course selling allof our stuff, most of it that
left the house, it felt sooverwhelming and I knew I had to
(03:17):
continue to take baby steps inthe direction of where we were
headed.
So every time I started toattack a project, I knew that I
was going at it with this all ornothing mentality because just
because you have a DHD and thenyou know that you have this all
or nothing thought process thatyou wanna get everything done
(03:38):
all at once.
Doesn't necessarily mean that itgoes away.
It just means that you have tocontinuously be aware of that.
So you can say, okay, I know Ican't do all of this at once, so
what's one thing I can do andwhat's one decision I can make?
Especially when it came to thestuff like what's leaving?
What's staying?
(03:58):
What are we bringing with us?
What are we not bringing withus?
Making a decision one item at atime really allowed me to be
purposeful about.
What happened next, and that wasan anchoring point for me at so
many different periods and whenI was able to ask myself, what's
(04:18):
one thing I can do?
And making one decision, oneitem at a time really allowed me
to make progress and remindingmyself that these small little
efforts that I make add up.
And we ultimately started makingdecisions on our items and
listing things on Facebookmarketplace starting in the
beginning of the year.
(04:39):
And then we didn't leave ourhouse until it's a week ago
Today I am recording this onSunday.
That's crazy.
The second thing that I willgive myself credit for doing
really well is designating ourfront room or the office space
that you may have seen inprevious videos of the podcast.
Dedicating that room as a spacewhere all of the stuff we
(04:59):
planned on taking with us went.
So even if we didn't have itpacked, even if we didn't know
where it was gonna go yet, asfar as storage, as far as what
we were gonna store it in, as wetook it with us, all of the
stuff we knew we wanted to comewith us, lived in the front
room.
And that was really beneficialbecause as soon as I saw
something that I knew we didn'tneed anymore, say it was a
(05:21):
picture on the wall that didn'tneed to be on the wall anymore
because we were taking thingsdown and patching holes up.
We were able to put everythingin the front room and make sense
of it when it came down to it.
And this was ultimately in thelast week that we were there.
But having that designated spacein the front room for the things
that we're leaving with us, itreminded me about the trust that
(05:45):
I have in myself.
When you are organizing yourhome, oftentimes I talk about
thinking about where future youwould go to look for something.
If you were trying to find it,where would you go to look for
it if you were trying to findit?
That is an excellent question tohelp you understand where things
go, to start to establish homesfor things as you're organizing
(06:08):
your home, but when you'retearing your home apart and
everything is not in the placethat you would go to look for it
anymore.
Designating new spaces andtrusting yourself, knowing that
you'll be able to get through.
This is key.
Honestly, organizing andlearning to have a belief of
(06:30):
self-trust in yourself is one ofthe key elements that will get
you from point A to point B.
It comes back to if I think Ican, or I think I can, I'm
right.
The belief that you have inyourself is everything when it
comes to making.
Small changes in your home, likeorganizing or huge changes like,
(06:53):
I don't know, leaving thecorporate world, deciding to get
bariatric surgery, quittingdrinking, and then deciding to
sell your house and all of yourbelongings and move across the
country.
Just little things like that.
The third thing I wanna give uscredit for doing really well is
designating our garage area asthe place.
For everything that was leavingour house.
(07:13):
So anything we knew we weregoing to sell immediately went
into the garage after we tookpictures of it to post it on
Facebook marketplace, or ofcourse, to stage these items as
we got them out of the house forour two garage sales that we
held.
That was really helpful becauseas soon as we made a decision on
something and it left the house,it didn't come back in unless it
(07:34):
was our dishes that we decidedwe could still eat off of if no
one was buying them yet.
But it was just really greatbecause we knew that anything
that was in the garage was to besold, and it was a really great
way for my husband and I to beable to communicate without us
specifically saying, Hey, I'mputting this out here.
It's for sale.
We just knew there were timesthat there were things that we
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knew we needed to take insidetoo.
In the garage, there was thischaos element of it where.
There were things on the leftside that needed to be gone
through.
And there were things on theright side that we knew we were
selling and then there werethings in the middle that our
kids had gotten out and playedwith and had no idea where to
put them back away at because ofcourse we're moving and we took
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things off the wall and there'sjust chaos, right?
So that was a huge aspect of ourmove as well.
But once we started to establishthese zones and then put things
in the zones.
It made things easier, even ifthere was chaos in the
in-between.
And nobody really talks aboutthe in-between chaos, right?
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There's the before picture andthe after picture, but we need
those messy middle pictures.
Those messy middle pictures arewhat life is all about.
Those messy middle pictures arefreaking everything.
That's what it's all about.
The transition.
The transition of the before,getting to the after is what we
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really need to see and what weneed to understand is it's not
very pretty.
It's not pretty, it's notaesthetically pleasing and it's
probably why we don't see a lotof that on Instagram, but it's
exactly what we need to see tounderstand that when we look at
our messy middle.
We can say, oh no, this isexactly where I need to be right
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now.
I'm exactly where I need to beright now because this is
painting a picture of thetransition and the place that
I'm headed, even if it stilllooks like chaos.
The fourth thing that I reallylove that I did during this
whole process was I have theselittle QR codes that are
stickers.
It's an app called Scan Lilly,and you can order these little
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stickers on Amazon.
I'm gonna put a link in the shownotes below.
And what these stickers do isyou take a picture of them and
then you can scan the differentthings that you want into the
box that you're storing them in.
So I have two little QR codes onthe outside of two boxes that I
have, and I can go to my phonein the app and search the
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different things that I have inthere.
I have gloves in there and hatsand winter jackets and things
like that.
It has allowed me to see what wehave.
So that I don't have to gosearching through boxes for
certain things.
Now, I didn't do this with everybox.
But for these two larger boxes,these are our heaviest items.
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And I used this a while ago.
This was the first thing I usedScan Lily for, was Bluey
Valentine's.
I went and bought BlueyValentine's for Cora's class and
I was so excited to get them outand I lost them.
I couldn't find them anywhere.
I had no idea where they went.
And then of course, about a weekafter Valentine's Day, after I
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had already gone out and boughtnew ones, I found them.
And so I decided to put a littleQR code on them and store them
above my.
Dryer in the laundry room, and Iwas able to find them so much
easier the next time it camearound.
The fifth thing I will say I didreally well on this trip, was
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having our bags packed forspecific legs of our trip.
So as we make our way to theEast coast, the first night
after our initial eight hourdrive, we stayed at a pet
friendly hotel where we juststayed for the night.
So when our first bag was reallyjust the things that were
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essential, like a fresh pair ofpajamas, a fresh pair of clothes
to wear for driving thefollowing day, And I packed a
couple fun extras for the girlsto be surprised, like a stuffed
animal and a new book for themto play with in the car The next
trip that we stayed, I hadanother bag packed for the four
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nights that we were going to bethere.
Now I did two bags, one for thegirls and then one for me and
Adam so that we could truly haveeverything that we needed.
And that way any of theadditional clothes that.
Obviously we're still bringingwith us, but didn't need to be
packed in.
Those initial three suitcasesgot pushed to the back of the
trailer, so as we were towingthings, we didn't need to access
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these additional things.
That was so helpful because Ididn't feel like we had to lug
more suitcases in or less, andit felt.
Easy.
'cause I was like, what'spractical?
What's realistic for us?
when it comes to stopping forone night and stopping for four,
and then eventually getting towhere we are now?
And then the sixth thing that Iwill say.
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I did really well is rememberingwhere we're going.
Last year when my husband and Iwere talking about selling our
house, we've talked about itbefore and didn't necessarily
know if we were gonna press,press the button and move
forward.
But as we continued to talkabout what we wanted, we know we
want land.
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And we know we want peace.
We know we want a life thatfeels a little bit simpler as we
continue to let go of stuff inour home, declutter and organize
and see what a home we continueto create in the home that we
decided to sell.
We knew that there was so muchmore that we could create it.
It wasn't that we weren'tgrateful for everything that we
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had so entirely and ultimatelygrateful for everything that we
had, our neighbors, our yard,our view, the beauty that
surrounded us, and we were readyfor a change.
And When we initially decided tosell our house and move to the
East coast, I looked at Adam andI was like, people are gonna
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wanna know why.
And he's like, doesn't matter.
It matters that we have our why,and there's not a lot of people
that are gonna understand that.
And let me tell you, people letus know their opinions about
everything that we were doing,And when we were in the thick of
it, when we were down to ourlast couple days in the house.
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I kept looking around and beinglike, why the hell are we doing
this?
This is awful.
We are ripping up the comfort ofour status quo of everything
that we've known that's madesense.
We sold our bed and we love ourmattress.
We sold our couch.
We freaking loved that couch.
We sold our plates.
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We sold everything that we had.
Meticulously chosen for thislife that we lived in Colorado.
And I remembered, and this iswhy it's so important for
coaches to have coaches too,because I remembered what I
teach so many of my clients isthinking about what is this end
result that we're looking for?
What are we striving for?
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We're striving for peace.
We're striving for land, we'restriving for.
A different life for our girls,really, and we're seeking that
out by taking this grandadventure.
So part of the thing that Ithought of as we were going
through this tumultuous,ridiculous upending and
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uprooting of the status quo wehad created, I saw myself
sitting and sipping coffee.
Wrapped up in a really cozy,incredible blanket, looking out
onto this beautiful yard that'sgreen surrounded by trees, and
it's really peaceful In themeantime, I am at one week from
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leaving this life we had inColorado.
I can't tell you that I've fullybeen enlightened yet.
But I've, I'm noticing somechanges that I wasn't able to
fully grasp as I was goingthrough this craziness of
letting go.
I don't know what that fully isyet, but I'm getting more and
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more comfortable.
With the idea of trusting myselfand knowing that my family is my
home, being grateful that mydogs and our cats are here with
us and, and figuring out what'snext.
One day at a time, I'm reallydamn proud of the life that my
husband and I have created upuntil this point.
I'm also really proud that myentire family agreed to do a
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line dancing class with me inNashville this last week.
This whole change has been areminder of how uncomfortable
change is.
Now, this could be as ridiculousas selling your house and moving
across the country, or it couldbe as simple as deciding to let
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go of the clutter that oncebrought you.
Believe it or not, peace.
It's not necessarily peace thatit's bringing.
There's a lot of studies thatshow how uncomfortable it is to
have so much clutter around, butthe way that you dealt with it
is comfortable.
It's comfortable to simplyignore it until it triggers you.
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So dealing with it in adifferent way is so
uncomfortable.
It's uncomfortable to the pointthat we want to run the other
direction and ignore it again orattack it and fight it or do
research on it until we have allthe information or simply just,
I try to do a little bit hereand a little bit there until
nothing is ever actually done.
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All of those ways of dealingwith our clutter are normal
because that's how we've beendealing with our lives, our
whole lives with A DHD, andwhether you're diagnosed or
undiagnosed or just figuring itout to this point, it's helpful
to understand how you approachsome of these situations And
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that it is actually okay to beuncomfortable I saw this really
great quote the other day.
That you can have comfort orgrowth, but you can't have both.
When you have comfort, yousacrifice growth, and when you
have growth, you sacrificecomfort because there's a
certain element to you that hasto change in order to grow.
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I don't know that I fully lovethat quote because I really want
there to be both.
I wanted to fix this together,but I will say that over the
last couple weeks I have been souncomfortable, so freaking
uncomfortable and desperate tofind some peace.
So last night as me and thekiddos and Adam were all in the
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hot tub, we are sitting at thetop of a mountain watching
fireflies, and the piece isstarting to seep in and the
understanding and the, the, thegrowth in a way that.
Just allows me to see thingsfrom new perspectives.
I would be absolutely honored ifyou would take the time to go
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and leave me a review on thispodcast today on Spotify or.
Wherever you leave reviews.
I am not currently taking anynew coaching clients right now,
and my community is currentlyclosed to new members as I'm
nurturing the current members.
But if you would like to sign upfor the wait list.
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Go to organizing an ADHDbrain.com/community.
You can learn a little bit moreabout the community, and I will
also be talking about futurecoaching opportunities there as
well.
If you have any questions,you're so welcome to email me at
anytime info at organizing anadhd brain.com I've got some
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really awesome interviews comingup over the rest of the summer,
and I'm gonna do a couple ofreruns just to remind you of
some of the fun things that havehappened for over the rest of
season two.
Here's what I will say.
This is gonna be my last soloepisode for season two of
organizing an A DHD Brain.
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It feels right, there's beensome transitions this year and
I'm ready to start somethingnew.
I'm ready to do something alittle different with this
podcast so that we can continueto grow together in our
organizing skills, A DHDknowledge and really just
understanding yeah, you can dothis.
It's just not gonna happen likeyou thought it would, and that's
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freaking okay.
I hope you're having a fantasticsummer and I will chat with you
soon.
I am joined today by a veryspecial guest who's gonna share
with you a little bit about howthis move has been.
So welcome to the show,Charlotte.
Tell us a little bit about you.
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My name is Charlotte and I ameight and I'm about to go in
third grade.
And I love my sister Cora.
Can you tell us a little bitabout the move that you've just
had?
The move, it's, it has beenreally big and it's really fun
because we let our cat namedTeddy come out and play with us
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in the car On the road.
In the car in the road.
What's been your favorite partso far?
I like when Teddy lays on my lapand, lays down and It's the
cutest thing in the whole world.
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