July 3, 2024 • 34 mins
Unlock the secrets to holistic well-being with Ashley Sitterding, an emotional master and embodiment mentor, as she guides us through transformative practices that integrate body and mind. Imagine harnessing the power of breathwork, EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), somatic movements, sound, and visualization to not only facilitate emotional release but also regulate your nervous system. Ashley dissects the scientifically-backed benefits of these techniques, promising to help you move from being stuck in your head to finding presence in your body. This episode is brimming with actionable insights for anyone eager to explore these transformative practices.
But that's not all. Dive deep into Ashley's personal journey through grief, eating disorders, and chronic illness as she shares the importance of intuition in the healing process. From NLP and hypnosis to Reiki and breathwork, discover an array of methods aimed at achieving lasting well-being. We also discuss the invaluable need for a "dream team" of support—a coach, mentor, and therapist—to navigate the complexities of mental, physical, and emotional health. Through Ashley's heartfelt anecdotes and expert advice, find out how to release stored trauma and connect deeply with your intuition for a balanced, holistic life
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hello beautiful souls and welcome to Oroasis
Community Podcast.
I am Dr Roldan, your host.
I am a doctor in clinicalpsychology, a BIPOC therapist
professor and a mindful somaticcoach.
While I am a therapist,remember I'm not your therapist.
This podcast is not asubstitute for professional
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mental health care, but we haveresources in our website and
Instagram to support you in thatsearch.
Join us for a cozy, feltconversation about mental health
, personal growth andmindfulness.
We explore tools to care foryour mind, your body and your
soul.
Check the footnotes fordisclaimer, trigger warnings and
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additional resources for eachone of the episodes.
So grab your favorite cup oftea, coffee or hot chocolate,
wrap yourself in a warm blanketand find a coffee spot here with
us to be kind to be brave, loudand strong in your search of
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mental health wellness.
Welcome to your Oasis.
Welcome everybody to our Oasispodcast.
My name is Dr Roldan and comeand sit with me.
Grab your favorite beverage towarm the soul.
And today I have somebody that Itotally fangirl over it Miss
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Ashley.
I met her a couple years agoand then truly, truly got to be
in her presence, because I amsomebody that has done a lot of
mindfulness and work, but I havenever tried breath work and I
tried once with somebody and Iwas like I feel like I'm dying,
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I'm going to have an asthmaattack.
This is not cool, I don't likeit.
So this is important, also offinding the right practitioner.
I tried once with Ashley.
They were doing a masterclassand I just joined and this was
an online online and she was sopowerful that I got all the
benefits of releasing throughbreeding.
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And then recently, in February,we have the pleasure to be in an
event that's the number oneevent in Fresno that is called
Galentine's from.
She's Made for More and she dida goddess night which, if you
know me, I was like that is verywoohoo name.
I don't know what to do withthis and she was doing body
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movement and body release ofenergy and she will explain it
more.
But I just want to know foreverybody out there just try it,
just try it.
And, like I always say withtherapy, you have to go at least
for three sessions beforesaying we're not vibing, I don't
like it.
Give it a chance three timesbefore you say this is to woohoo
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or this is not for me, becauseI only have to do it once with
Ashley and I was in love, so nofurther ado I have.
Ms Ashley, please introduceyourself to our audience and
tell us who you are and why youdo and where you come from.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Yes, thank you, sarita.
So I am Ashley Sitterding.
I am an emotional master andembodiment mentor, and I do that
through different modalitiessuch as breathwork tapping, also
known as EFT, somatic movementsand somatic practices, and I do
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.
I love bringing in sounds likefor people to use sound, as
we're releasing differentemotions and visualization as
well.
So I have a bunch of differentmodalities sprinkled in, but
primarily getting people out oftheir heads into their bodies
and really connecting them totheir emotions and learning how
to, you know, regulate theirnervous system, move through
freeze and how to calm downafter the fight or flight and
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just really become more in tuneto themselves.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
And for our audience.
Can you explain and let us knowwhat the letters mean and what
did that mean?
Getting into our body, I meanour body's there, so what is
there to be?
So can you explain that topeople?
Yeah, beautiful.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
I love that you pointed that out.
So EFT actually stands foremotional freedom techniques and
for those who may have heard ofEFT, tapping, and that's
tapping on the differentmeridian endpoints, and so what
that's doing is it's for me Icall it psychological
acupressure, because we'retalking through, we're using CBT
, um modalities and practices ofkind of reframing, because we
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we want to talk about all thenegative things that we're
moving through.
That's really on our mind andwhat is our truth's really
feeling.
Because a lot of us, especiallyin self-development and those
who know law of attraction orall these different things, it's
like, oh, we can't say negativethings, because then we're
going to try negative things andit's like you can't just
sprinkle potpourri over goingnumber two, right, like you
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still smell it, right.
So like we need to like clearout what's there and really
acknowledge and bring thoseparts on board and bring
compassion and curiosity tothose areas.
And then we move to neutrality,more positivity, and while
we're doing that we're releasingthe emotional um stagnation in
those areas because their bodyholds on to trauma, holds on to
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suppressed emotions.
So we're kind of like tinkeringwith the little fuse box, if
you will, because we'reelectrical beings and so certain
areas get blocked up when wehold tension or tightness.
If you have inflammation orconstriction or pain, oftentimes
there's some.
I always believe there's achemical, there's a mechanical
and there's an emotionalcomponent to it.
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And so while we go through thisprocess, not only are we
decreasing our cortisol levels,our blood pressure, our heart
rate, we're also deactivatingthe amygdala.
As I mentioned at Galentine'sat Goddess Night, we have over
300 different scientificpeer-reviewed studies in tapping
and more to come.
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And so to really understand thatwe have to involve our body
when we're cause, going totherapy is great and it's so
important, it's useful to bringin that awareness.
And and it starts withawareness, like we have to have
that mental awareness, but thenwe have to get the body on board
.
We have to understand that ournervous system, it if we're in a
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fight or flight or if we're ina freeze, it's almost like
nothing can get through.
That we may understand on aconscious level, but we're still
doing the same things, thatwe're old patterns that we're
trying to get out of.
And so to be able to get thebody on board and integrate the
two because we understand we aremind body connected, um, we
don't even have to bring in thesoul at this point, which you
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know you're behind you says mind, body, soul, cause.
It is all one and um.
So to to really like practice,how to move energy through your
body, how to sit withuncomfortable emotions.
A lot of times we dounproductive things for
ourselves that, um, likeovereating or drinking alcohol
or doing drugs or shopping orgambling or sex or whatever it
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is pick your vice right.
We reach for those thingsbecause we actually don't want
to sit with uncomfortability ofwhatever it is that we're
experiencing.
So, really, tapping is such abeautiful light way to sprinkle
in safety, uh, learning how tobe more compassionate.
It's, um, I love it because ithelps me kind of imprint a new
way of talking to themselves,reparenting themselves, um, and,
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and there's something about itI don't, I think, just the
tapping and maybe because, um,I'm I'm hypersensitive, but also
like I probably have some typeof ADD I was diagnosed but I
don't know if I really do butthere's something about tapping
that kind of distracts you, butit's also soothing.
It's so soothing for the bodyand so, as you're doing that
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other things, that your bodyfeels safe for emotions or
awarenesses to come up thatmaybe you haven't processed, and
then my clients will startcrying and they won't know why,
but like I'm able to then guidethem in a beautiful way, that's
like, oh okay, that wasn't sobad.
But oftentimes we're sort ofscared to feel sad or or to even
let anger out or all thesedifferent things.
(08:15):
But they're all beautifulemotions and they all have
something to teach us.
So being able to take somebodyon that journey of um really had
to sit with their emotions in away that feels good for them,
more importantly for them,because not everyone has the
same pace, so really meetingpeople where they're at so they
don't get lost in the emotionbut they're not bypassing the
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emotion either.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
Right, and just to bring up so for the audience.
We have talked about it inother episodes.
But CBT stands forcognitiveognitive Behavior
Therapy, meaning we're workingcompletely with your thoughts,
thoughts, feelings, body.
So we love the body after Right, and the reason why we do that
is for awareness.
(08:57):
But that is a technique that isto take you out of a crisis
mode Right out of a crisis moderight, because you know there's
five stages Fly, fight, freezeand fawning.
Fawning is people pleasing.
It's reactions that we haveevolved from trauma.
But the other thing I want topoint out for our audience
that's listening or you'rewatching us, is that okay?
(09:20):
Because there's a girl that isjust talking about scientific
journals, why she has this lingothat is so boo-hoo but at the
same time, she has a scientificone.
So let me tell you why.
So, actually, because, as anyperson like you know me, we're
like how do you know what youknow right?
What is your credentials, whatdo you do and what is like the
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tapping?
And for people that is like me,I, we are gonna be posting some
peer-reviewed journals.
Those are journals that meansthey have done experiments,
repeat experiments and they getsaying the same answer, and
these by professionals.
What I mean is scholarprofessionals, you know, and
also I'm gonna put there howbeautiful she said it.
(10:03):
I'm going to put a littleworksheet for everybody to
understand what it means Feelyour feelings.
Feel your feelings, it's nottalk.
Oh my God, I am so sad.
Feel your feelings means wherein my body I locate my sadness,
my anger, my all of it, andthere are just signals.
Feelings are just like notflashlights.
(10:24):
That's not like the blinkers inyour car right, if you blink
left, we know we go to the left.
If you blink right, we know yougo to the right.
But when we are in trauma it'slike being in a snowstorm where
you're like blinking, blinking,blinking, blinking everywhere
Because I want people to seethat I'm in danger.
Oh, I could be a danger forsomebody else.
So if you're struggling orsomebody that you love is
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struggling, we have alsoresources in the notes that you
can go and check because, likeAshley said, therapy is great.
It's the first step forself-awareness and once you get
to a point you can start tryingall the other things, like you
can start doing tapping, whichwhy tapping works?
Because all our body is anetwork system for our brain.
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Our brain is connected todifferent parts of your body.
It's funny, if you want to trythis, if you go to the palate of
your mouth, like the palate ofyour mouth with the tip of your
tongue, I call it tickling yourbrain.
So if your gurgle is reallyfast, it's like a tickle in your
tongue.
I call it tickling your brain.
So if your gurgle is reallyfast, it's like it's like a
tickle in your brain, and thatis because it's one of the most
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primitive parts of our body thatwe still have.
So if you ever are so nervous,stressed or whatever, you can
try that, and it gives you fiveseconds to take a deep breath.
Which brings me to Ashley'sbeautiful work in the Goddess
Knight.
You know what I love about hershe is very aware of the state
of each person, and thatawareness comes because she is a
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scientist, she's a professional, and she will tell you how and
why.
What do I mean?
As a person with chronicillness, I stop doing exercise.
And why not?
Because I can't like, literally, I will have a heart attack.
If so, uh, shout out to all myputts.
Uh, dealing people out there.
So you know that we cannot doexercise.
(12:16):
But ashley is so good aboutdoing this body movement to
whatever you are.
So in the goddess nighteverybody was dancing around and
doing their thing.
Well, it's not dancing movement, they were doing the movement
that felt good to their bodies.
And it was two of us that wewere like we can't move that
much or like I have to besitting down every five minutes
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and then I get up and do more,which normally I don't do.
Once I sit down, you leave mealone and leave me there because
my poor body is like.
But I keep doing it because youknow I have done the internal
work I have as a therapist.
I have my own therapy and myown therapist, my own coach, I
have a body movement coach and Ilove everything that Ashley
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does.
But for the people out therethat says who is this girl and
why does she have this knowledge, can you tell them your?
Speaker 2 (13:07):
background, please, yes, of course I, and you know
it's so beautiful that you saythat, because I really do feel
passionate about bridging thegap between science and
spirituality, because I thinkthey can all coexist.
I think it's about thebeautiful union of all of it,
just like eastern and western,like there, there doesn't have
to be one way and everybody'sdifferent it's.
It's like pick your flavorRight, and so, um, for me.
(13:31):
I have been in RN for 13 years.
I have been in all differentsorts of settings, um ER, pacu,
which is post anesthesia ORpre-op, post surgical, where
they stay on the floor longer.
I've dabbled and now I doprivate care, nursing, like
twice a week because I reallyenjoy it, and so there's that.
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But I do coaching on the otherdays of the week, and so for me,
understanding the science is soimportant, but I also know that
there's so much more thatscience can't measure, and
there's so much more that myintuition has just led me to
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through my own journey of when Ilost my dad in terrible grief,
where I had seven years of aneating disorder and I was so
disconnected from my body whereI was just running around with
the chicken, with Seth Goff justgoing to sleep, waking up,
going, you know, going to sleep,waking up, going to work, going
to sleep, waking up, go likethe on repeat and just had
really lost touch of myself.
And um was in a relationship.
(14:35):
It wasn't an unhealthy one oranything, but it was one where I
was coen, mesh and I had lostmyself.
And so, um, yeah, I would sayaround like 24, 25 really just
started my journey of reallyrediscovering who I was and what
I wanted to do and that led medown life and success.
Coaching, getting NLP, whichstands for neuro-linguistic
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programming and it's aboutdealing with the subconscious
mind and hypnosis, helped somepeople with weight loss and some
, you know, smoking and otherthings.
But I was like there's, there'sgotta be more.
You know, um went level threein Reiki, which really taught me
about the energy systems of thebody.
Um, and then I became an EFTpractitioner which, quite
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honestly, for those who do knowwhat it is and have seen it, it
does look absolutely ridiculousand for the longest time, even
after I got certified, it wasactually tied into another
certification.
I didn't go for that and thefunny thing is it's the one I
use the most, but it was alsothe one that took me the longest
to get on board with Cause.
I was like this is ridiculous,how is happening on my face?
And all these different pointsgoing to help me?
(15:40):
And you know, I reallypoo-pooed on it for a while and
now it's one of my most favoritetools because I mean, I
literally use it every day onmyself but I've seen such shifts
in people, in my clients, andso that.
And then just diving deeper intobreath work and nervous system
work and EMDR, and you know I'mconstantly learning and fine
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tuning and learning differentsomatic practices and through my
own self-experimentation I justI really I started dancing and
I started like not chanting butlike making like almost primal
noises to it.
There's so much power when werelease sound, because our body
recognizes rhythm and frequencyand resonance and that's where
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our subconscious is, that'swhere our emotions are stored.
So I knew there was stuff in mybody I needed to move.
I was reading anything andeverything I could get my hands
on to about self-development andhealing and da-da-da-da.
But at a certain point you justgot to do it.
You got to get in your body andyou just got to feel it and
heal it and release and andreally become in tune with what
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your body's trying to speak withto you.
You can't read that or learnthat in a book Like it.
Just it takes time, andespecially for someone that is
so used to going all the timeand never really listening to
what their body actually needs.
Or maybe they do hear, but theypush it aside.
Ultimately we end up withchronic disease, and that was me
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.
I had terrible joint pain andit was funny because I knew I
had like thyroid stuff andarthritis stuff and all these
different things.
But labs came back normal andthank God because I mean at that
time I might have taken a pill,but ultimately I know I would
have been like no, I knowthere's another way.
And there was, and that wasreally coming back home to
myself, learning boundaries,learning how to slow down,
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learning that my mindset youknow the thoughts that I'm
thinking aren't me and how toreally like come in tune with
that, getting my nervous systemon board.
So, yeah, there's.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
And I love what you say about health, right, Health
is mental health, physical,emotional health, and we cannot
have one without another one.
Also, a pill is not going tochange the health of the three.
I'm pro whatever works for you,it can be natural, it can be an
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aid.
And also to understand thatthere is times that we do need a
little help, right, it's notthe same having a flu and we
take the tea of mama's recipe,which is honey and lemon, which
we know they do kill, right, anda little bit of if you're
Latino, to all my Latinos, theyknow what I'm talking about they
put a little Bixbap or Roo inyour chest and life becomes so
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much beautiful, right.
But then if we don't take careof it, if we ignore it, then it
becomes a pneumonia, it becomesa sinus infection, not any kind
of infection, and for that wewill need antibiotics.
But what do we tend to do?
Because we're a fast pace, wewant to fix real quick, we want
the antibiotics to fixeverything.
But the antibiotics have sideeffects too, and those side
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effects, if you're already kindof immune to things or you are
more prone to things, they'regoing to affect you.
The same comes with trauma andstoring our bodies right.
When we start releasing trauma,guess what?
You're going to notice that,yeah, your liver has kidney
stones or you have problems withyour joints because before you
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were so tense or so involved inyour own.
I don't want to feel it.
I don't want to feel it.
I don't want to feel it.
So I always say like, likeanything that is worth doing or
like is going to change yourlife for the better.
It requires a transformationthat is painful.
When I say painful doesn't meanthat you are going to lose
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yourself.
When I say painful is, we needto grieve the person that we
used to be, because we willnever be that person.
We will be either a betterversion or a second version.
Two, we will never know whatother things in other places
work.
For example, me as aneuroscientist and as a clinical
psychologist.
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I'm like I did book science,hardcore, right.
And then I did four years ofmindfulness, breath and stress
reduction mindfulness, breathand stress reduction which
literally the graduation was oneweek of silence and saying,
right, my brain goes all overthe place and I was like I last
three days because I was like Icannot last the whole week, so I
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have to do it again, Right, butthat just teach you that we
hate sitting in silence andbeing in ourselves.
But if you are listening and youthink about the darkest days,
or the darkest moments in yourlife has been when we stay still
and we finally can feel it'swhen everything comes up because
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unfortunately, we have pushedeverything so much.
I call it the beach ball thatgoes in the pool.
You can push it all you want,but it's going to come back and
smack you in the face in anyshape or form.
So what you will say to peopleif they want to find either a
coach or a practitioner like you, what is the I call it the
(21:01):
green flags that go ahead and doit and what is the red flags?
I think you need extra cushions.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Yeah, yeah, absolutely, I think for me, and
how it's always worked out.
I mean again, I and I think,because I've gotten so in tune
with my body, I like have aninstant knowing.
I like have this internal, likeooh, or where you're just so
fascinated by somebody and youjust you're going on their page
and they're saying and they feellike you can feel their heart,
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you feel connected to them, youfeel like you just resonate with
them.
There's something about themand I mean for me one of the
most important things, and Ididn't always get it right
because I was in my mind, I waslike oh, I think this is what I
need, or they look like they'resuccessful.
And those were the ones that Ididn't really feel seen by, I
didn't really feel held by, Ididn't feel like they were
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giving meeting me where I was at, they were just giving me a
system or this one size fits alltype do this and you'll get
this.
And it's like that's not how wework.
And, and I think too, just um,yeah, it's definitely has always
been an internal pull.
The ones that were the rightdecisions were just like this
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instant, like feeling of, likesafe.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
I felt safe with them , I felt seen with them, I felt
um like we could really befriends okay and um, just to
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piggyback on that, uh, I alwayssay, like you, you know, like
any athlete, any because a lotof athletes work.
In his case it was more likebiofeedback, which is also
breath work in a more scientificway.
And then he also had atherapist and he did MDR and you
know, like we all come withbaggage, or with a blueprint
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that is not ours, it'sgenerations of X, y and Z, or
with a blueprint that is notours, it's generations of X, y
and Z.
And one thing that I want thepublic to remember is that the
thing that you're the mostscared to do normally is the
thing that is going to bring youto the next level.
What do I mean with the nextlevel?
Nothing that is going to harmyou emotionally or mentally.
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Run away from it, just don't doit.
But if it feels like, okay, I'mscared because I think they're
not going to like me, or I'mscared because I think the X, y
and Z, that is okay.
But I love what you say becausein our community that's what we
do, you are seen, we're kind.
Community, that's what we do,you're seeing, you are, we're
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kind and I always.
There's a slogan of our umcommunity is be proud for
whatever you are.
Yes, I'm depressed, I'm anxious, I'm, I have attention disorder
or I have a chronic illness orI have an eating disorder.
Be proud of that in the senselike it took you something to
get there, because once youacknowledge it, once you name it
, you can change it and then.
So be proud, be loud.
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Be loud meaning get help.
However, that start that steps.
It looks like for some is acoach, for some is a mentor, for
some is a therapist, for someis a little more like I need to
go to the hospital, right so.
But you have to be loud aboutasking for help.
So be proud.
Be proud who you are and beloud and be kind, not to others,
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okay, people please theirrecoveries right.
Be nice to you.
If you cannot say nothing niceabout your own life, that's a
red flag for you that we need toget a little more help and all
parts of you are accepted.
How many of us we go aroundcomparing ourselves to the top
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of the iceberg and compareourselves to the shinies, the
social media person, but weforget that they start somewhere
.
I always mention and I knowthere's going to be a battle in
the comments about this in thesense of, like, either you're a
safety or you are a queen bee,right, like you always fight
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between those two, but both ofthem come from trauma and both
of them have done so much workwith a mentor, a coach, a
therapist.
So, for our audience, what youwill say as a clinician and as a
coach, what is your idealclient Like?
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Who can find you and what statein their life they have to be?
Because you know, like, forexample, I'm a trauma, I'm a
CPTSD, which stands complextrauma therapist right, so I
deal with people that clientsthat are in the very, very, very
dark place, right, and then wehave to dig out a lot of things.
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So they come to me when there isno more things to do, right,
when we're at the end of ourropes.
So you don't come to me whenyou want to learn how to do
breath work, right, because Ifeel like with breath work, it's
just to release the last stuffthat we have and just to move to
the lightening, if you will.
So what is your ideal client?
(26:34):
And what do you do when youhave a client that you're like?
And what do you do when youhave a client that you're like I
think you need something extra.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
Yeah, yeah.
Well, it's funny becauseactually both of two of my most
recent clients they have atherapist and I'm like, yes, I
love that, I support that, Iwant that because you know you
have all these things that arebrought up, so you kind of have
an understanding of, like, whatare you working on?
And then we bring that to oursession and then I give you like
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everyday tools that you coulddo and and how you can further
along and how you can reallystart embodying some of these
things.
And again, it's not traditionalstuff because, well, one like,
although I have traditionaltraining, a lot of this was my
own and what I found that reallyhelped me.
And, um, most of my um clientsare female.
So, really like, dancing is areally fun way to to get in the
(27:25):
body, but I always bring in aprocess and an element of
movement that is somatic baseand we're like really like,
almost like Tai Chi in a way,but not um, but it's also it's
just getting us like, it getsthe heart rate up, it gets you
out of that thinking mind andreally like start thinking about
it.
And I bring in the things oflike what you want to release
and we're like in it we're likeall right, let's let go of that
(27:48):
Like inability to trust, andlet's bring in that faith and
trust and surrender to knowingthat like things are working out
and how can we shift this andthat, knowing that like things
are working out and how can weshift this and that.
And so I love it when you knowmy clients kind of have an
understanding of you know thisisn't working for me anymore.
I keep going to food when Iknow that I'm emotionally
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stressed or I'm burnt out or I'mtired and I just keep doing it
and I can't seem to stop.
You know, or just like I havethese habits that just keep me
locked into this life that I nolonger want to be.
I can see how it's hurting me,it's no longer serving me.
So really it's people who havehad tools of coping and they're
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no longer working and they needto widen their tool belt because
they're stepping into that nextversion.
They're stepping into a biggerdream that they have for
themselves, or they just want tounderstand their body more.
They want to understand how tobe with their emotions, how to
connect more to their intuitionand really like be able to to
tune in more to that.
Speaker 1 (28:52):
Nice and I love and I want everybody, if you listen,
to please go and post yourcomments.
Have you have a therapist andhave you have your dream team.
As everybody knows, I'm a supernerd.
So as a part of being a supernerd, you know, I believe in the
Justice League.
I believe oh my goodness, myfavorite is the X-Men.
(29:13):
Sorry, I'm going in a tangent ofnerdiness Marbles.
Yeah, so you need your JustinLing, you need your X-Men.
Meaning you need Dr X to tellyou hey, how's your mind doing,
kind of thing.
But then I need the Wolverineto put all my emotions of anger
out.
But then I need the beautifuljust storm to make my body move
(29:38):
through the air.
Right, what do I say like thatand for my non-nerdy friends, I
pull my eyes, but you know I'mtalking about the mind-body
spirit basically.
So what I'm saying is, if youdon't have your dream team with
you, start building it.
Get a coach, get a mentor andget a therapist.
With that you're invincible.
(29:59):
Meaning you're going to putmore tools, as you say, in your
tool.
Well, you're going to healwounds that are just oozing and
you are going to learntechniques, not only to not hurt
others but not hurt anymore,right?
So if you don't have your dreamteam suggestion, we have Ashley
Ashley, I'm taking new clientsor if they're in corporate and
(30:21):
we have bus babes out there thatthey want to hire you for a
corporate event where they canfind you.
Speaker 2 (30:27):
Absolutely.
On Instagram Holistic Alignment, it's with a W because it's all
about the whole part of us.
So W-H-O-L-I-S-T-I-C alignment411.
So W-H-O-L-I-S-T-I-C alignment411.
And, yeah, I am currentlytaking I think I've got like one
more spot but I have a twomonth, a four month and a six
(30:48):
month Very, very reasonableprices.
Actually.
I sometimes I'm like why don't Iraise?
I'm like this just feels good.
I want it to be accessible, Iwant people to have these tools
and for me you'll get 24-7accessibility to me.
I mean, you may not answerimmediately, but the point is,
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as you're moving through thisand as we have our call and I
give you your homework or whatit is you're working on, we come
up with the roadblocks and allof a sudden we're like, oh, this
is coming up for me.
It's like quick access to me tobe able to help you through
that, and so I think that'sreally important.
It was something that I wanted,because sometimes I didn't have
(31:28):
what I needed on the call itself, but then it's like, man, it
really hits when I'm I'm thereand then that's when I really
need the support.
So so I love that option and,yeah, reach out, dm me, let me
know what's going on and Ialways jump on discovery calls
because I don't take everyoneeither Like.
I always make sure it's a goodfit and you know it's always a
(31:49):
good clarity call to be able toconnect and see if it is
something that is right for you.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
Right and just for everybody, we will be posting
resources for therapy, forsupport groups and, of course,
ashley's, because, like I said,what we want and we champion for
you is that you have yourwoohoo, your science and your
spirit together, because we are.
We're not only one part, we'rea whole, so we have to work in
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all the parts of us and, asalways, thank you so much for
being here at Oasis.
Find our next episode in thenext season and everybody, have
a wonderful start day.
Speaker 2 (32:32):
Thank you Bye.
Speaker 1 (32:37):
As we conclude today's episode, take a moment
to reflect.
Be proud of the journey, forevery step that brings you
closer to who you truly are.
Embrace the kindness towardsyourself, as you did to each one
of our guests.
Honor the bravery in youractions and celebrate the
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importance of mental wellnesswith us.
And remember it's an exercisethat we practice daily.
Continue to grow and flourish,knowing that we are in this
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Hello beautiful souls and welcome to Oroasis
Community Podcast.
I am Dr Roldan, your host.
I am a doctor in clinicalpsychology, a BIPOC therapist
professor and a mindful somaticcoach.
While I am a therapist,remember I'm not your therapist.
This podcast is not asubstitute for professional
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Instagram to support you in thatsearch.
Join us for a cozy, feltconversation about mental health
, personal growth andmindfulness.
We explore tools to care foryour mind, your body and your
soul.
Check the footnotes fordisclaimer, trigger warnings and
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additional resources for eachone of the episodes.
So grab your favorite cup oftea, coffee or hot chocolate,
wrap yourself in a warm blanketand find a coffee spot here with
us to be kind to be brave, loudand strong in your search of
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mental health wellness.
Welcome to your Oasis.
Welcome everybody to our Oasispodcast.
My name is Dr Roldan and comeand sit with me.
Grab your favorite beverage towarm the soul.
And today I have somebody that Itotally fangirl over it Miss
(01:27):
Ashley.
I met her a couple years agoand then truly, truly got to be
in her presence, because I amsomebody that has done a lot of
mindfulness and work, but I havenever tried breath work and I
tried once with somebody and Iwas like I feel like I'm dying,
(01:47):
I'm going to have an asthmaattack.
This is not cool, I don't likeit.
So this is important, also offinding the right practitioner.
I tried once with Ashley.
They were doing a masterclassand I just joined and this was
an online online and she was sopowerful that I got all the
benefits of releasing throughbreeding.
(02:09):
And then recently, in February,we have the pleasure to be in an
event that's the number oneevent in Fresno that is called
Galentine's from.
She's Made for More and she dida goddess night which, if you
know me, I was like that is verywoohoo name.
I don't know what to do withthis and she was doing body
(02:32):
movement and body release ofenergy and she will explain it
more.
But I just want to know foreverybody out there just try it,
just try it.
And, like I always say withtherapy, you have to go at least
for three sessions beforesaying we're not vibing, I don't
like it.
Give it a chance three timesbefore you say this is to woohoo
(02:54):
or this is not for me, becauseI only have to do it once with
Ashley and I was in love, so nofurther ado I have.
Ms Ashley, please introduceyourself to our audience and
tell us who you are and why youdo and where you come from.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Yes, thank you, sarita.
So I am Ashley Sitterding.
I am an emotional master andembodiment mentor, and I do that
through different modalitiessuch as breathwork tapping, also
known as EFT, somatic movementsand somatic practices, and I do
(03:30):
.
I love bringing in sounds likefor people to use sound, as
we're releasing differentemotions and visualization as
well.
So I have a bunch of differentmodalities sprinkled in, but
primarily getting people out oftheir heads into their bodies
and really connecting them totheir emotions and learning how
to, you know, regulate theirnervous system, move through
freeze and how to calm downafter the fight or flight and
(03:55):
just really become more in tuneto themselves.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
And for our audience.
Can you explain and let us knowwhat the letters mean and what
did that mean?
Getting into our body, I meanour body's there, so what is
there to be?
So can you explain that topeople?
Yeah, beautiful.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
I love that you pointed that out.
So EFT actually stands foremotional freedom techniques and
for those who may have heard ofEFT, tapping, and that's
tapping on the differentmeridian endpoints, and so what
that's doing is it's for me Icall it psychological
acupressure, because we'retalking through, we're using CBT
, um modalities and practices ofkind of reframing, because we
(04:38):
we want to talk about all thenegative things that we're
moving through.
That's really on our mind andwhat is our truth's really
feeling.
Because a lot of us, especiallyin self-development and those
who know law of attraction orall these different things, it's
like, oh, we can't say negativethings, because then we're
going to try negative things andit's like you can't just
sprinkle potpourri over goingnumber two, right, like you
(05:00):
still smell it, right.
So like we need to like clearout what's there and really
acknowledge and bring thoseparts on board and bring
compassion and curiosity tothose areas.
And then we move to neutrality,more positivity, and while
we're doing that we're releasingthe emotional um stagnation in
those areas because their bodyholds on to trauma, holds on to
(05:21):
suppressed emotions.
So we're kind of like tinkeringwith the little fuse box, if
you will, because we'reelectrical beings and so certain
areas get blocked up when wehold tension or tightness.
If you have inflammation orconstriction or pain, oftentimes
there's some.
I always believe there's achemical, there's a mechanical
and there's an emotionalcomponent to it.
(05:41):
And so while we go through thisprocess, not only are we
decreasing our cortisol levels,our blood pressure, our heart
rate, we're also deactivatingthe amygdala.
As I mentioned at Galentine'sat Goddess Night, we have over
300 different scientificpeer-reviewed studies in tapping
and more to come.
(06:02):
And so to really understand thatwe have to involve our body
when we're cause, going totherapy is great and it's so
important, it's useful to bringin that awareness.
And and it starts withawareness, like we have to have
that mental awareness, but thenwe have to get the body on board
.
We have to understand that ournervous system, it if we're in a
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fight or flight or if we're ina freeze, it's almost like
nothing can get through.
That we may understand on aconscious level, but we're still
doing the same things, thatwe're old patterns that we're
trying to get out of.
And so to be able to get thebody on board and integrate the
two because we understand we aremind body connected, um, we
don't even have to bring in thesoul at this point, which you
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know you're behind you says mind, body, soul, cause.
It is all one and um.
So to to really like practice,how to move energy through your
body, how to sit withuncomfortable emotions.
A lot of times we dounproductive things for
ourselves that, um, likeovereating or drinking alcohol
or doing drugs or shopping orgambling or sex or whatever it
(07:09):
is pick your vice right.
We reach for those thingsbecause we actually don't want
to sit with uncomfortability ofwhatever it is that we're
experiencing.
So, really, tapping is such abeautiful light way to sprinkle
in safety, uh, learning how tobe more compassionate.
It's, um, I love it because ithelps me kind of imprint a new
way of talking to themselves,reparenting themselves, um, and,
(07:32):
and there's something about itI don't, I think, just the
tapping and maybe because, um,I'm I'm hypersensitive, but also
like I probably have some typeof ADD I was diagnosed but I
don't know if I really do butthere's something about tapping
that kind of distracts you, butit's also soothing.
It's so soothing for the bodyand so, as you're doing that
(07:54):
other things, that your bodyfeels safe for emotions or
awarenesses to come up thatmaybe you haven't processed, and
then my clients will startcrying and they won't know why,
but like I'm able to then guidethem in a beautiful way, that's
like, oh okay, that wasn't sobad.
But oftentimes we're sort ofscared to feel sad or or to even
let anger out or all thesedifferent things.
(08:15):
But they're all beautifulemotions and they all have
something to teach us.
So being able to take somebodyon that journey of um really had
to sit with their emotions in away that feels good for them,
more importantly for them,because not everyone has the
same pace, so really meetingpeople where they're at so they
don't get lost in the emotionbut they're not bypassing the
(08:36):
emotion either.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
Right, and just to bring up so for the audience.
We have talked about it inother episodes.
But CBT stands forcognitiveognitive Behavior
Therapy, meaning we're workingcompletely with your thoughts,
thoughts, feelings, body.
So we love the body after Right, and the reason why we do that
is for awareness.
(08:57):
But that is a technique that isto take you out of a crisis
mode Right out of a crisis moderight, because you know there's
five stages Fly, fight, freezeand fawning.
Fawning is people pleasing.
It's reactions that we haveevolved from trauma.
But the other thing I want topoint out for our audience
that's listening or you'rewatching us, is that okay?
(09:20):
Because there's a girl that isjust talking about scientific
journals, why she has this lingothat is so boo-hoo but at the
same time, she has a scientificone.
So let me tell you why.
So, actually, because, as anyperson like you know me, we're
like how do you know what youknow right?
What is your credentials, whatdo you do and what is like the
(09:41):
tapping?
And for people that is like me,I, we are gonna be posting some
peer-reviewed journals.
Those are journals that meansthey have done experiments,
repeat experiments and they getsaying the same answer, and
these by professionals.
What I mean is scholarprofessionals, you know, and
also I'm gonna put there howbeautiful she said it.
(10:03):
I'm going to put a littleworksheet for everybody to
understand what it means Feelyour feelings.
Feel your feelings, it's nottalk.
Oh my God, I am so sad.
Feel your feelings means wherein my body I locate my sadness,
my anger, my all of it, andthere are just signals.
Feelings are just like notflashlights.
(10:24):
That's not like the blinkers inyour car right, if you blink
left, we know we go to the left.
If you blink right, we know yougo to the right.
But when we are in trauma it'slike being in a snowstorm where
you're like blinking, blinking,blinking, blinking everywhere
Because I want people to seethat I'm in danger.
Oh, I could be a danger forsomebody else.
So if you're struggling orsomebody that you love is
(10:46):
struggling, we have alsoresources in the notes that you
can go and check because, likeAshley said, therapy is great.
It's the first step forself-awareness and once you get
to a point you can start tryingall the other things, like you
can start doing tapping, whichwhy tapping works?
Because all our body is anetwork system for our brain.
(11:07):
Our brain is connected todifferent parts of your body.
It's funny, if you want to trythis, if you go to the palate of
your mouth, like the palate ofyour mouth with the tip of your
tongue, I call it tickling yourbrain.
So if your gurgle is reallyfast, it's like a tickle in your
tongue.
I call it tickling your brain.
So if your gurgle is reallyfast, it's like it's like a
tickle in your brain, and thatis because it's one of the most
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primitive parts of our body thatwe still have.
So if you ever are so nervous,stressed or whatever, you can
try that, and it gives you fiveseconds to take a deep breath.
Which brings me to Ashley'sbeautiful work in the Goddess
Knight.
You know what I love about hershe is very aware of the state
of each person, and thatawareness comes because she is a
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scientist, she's a professional, and she will tell you how and
why.
What do I mean?
As a person with chronicillness, I stop doing exercise.
And why not?
Because I can't like, literally, I will have a heart attack.
If so, uh, shout out to all myputts.
Uh, dealing people out there.
So you know that we cannot doexercise.
(12:16):
But ashley is so good aboutdoing this body movement to
whatever you are.
So in the goddess nighteverybody was dancing around and
doing their thing.
Well, it's not dancing movement, they were doing the movement
that felt good to their bodies.
And it was two of us that wewere like we can't move that
much or like I have to besitting down every five minutes
(12:37):
and then I get up and do more,which normally I don't do.
Once I sit down, you leave mealone and leave me there because
my poor body is like.
But I keep doing it because youknow I have done the internal
work I have as a therapist.
I have my own therapy and myown therapist, my own coach, I
have a body movement coach and Ilove everything that Ashley
(13:00):
does.
But for the people out therethat says who is this girl and
why does she have this knowledge, can you tell them your?
Speaker 2 (13:07):
background, please, yes, of course I, and you know
it's so beautiful that you saythat, because I really do feel
passionate about bridging thegap between science and
spirituality, because I thinkthey can all coexist.
I think it's about thebeautiful union of all of it,
just like eastern and western,like there, there doesn't have
to be one way and everybody'sdifferent it's.
It's like pick your flavorRight, and so, um, for me.
(13:31):
I have been in RN for 13 years.
I have been in all differentsorts of settings, um ER, pacu,
which is post anesthesia ORpre-op, post surgical, where
they stay on the floor longer.
I've dabbled and now I doprivate care, nursing, like
twice a week because I reallyenjoy it, and so there's that.
(13:54):
But I do coaching on the otherdays of the week, and so for me,
understanding the science is soimportant, but I also know that
there's so much more thatscience can't measure, and
there's so much more that myintuition has just led me to
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through my own journey of when Ilost my dad in terrible grief,
where I had seven years of aneating disorder and I was so
disconnected from my body whereI was just running around with
the chicken, with Seth Goff justgoing to sleep, waking up,
going, you know, going to sleep,waking up, going to work, going
to sleep, waking up, go likethe on repeat and just had
really lost touch of myself.
And um was in a relationship.
(14:35):
It wasn't an unhealthy one oranything, but it was one where I
was coen, mesh and I had lostmyself.
And so, um, yeah, I would sayaround like 24, 25 really just
started my journey of reallyrediscovering who I was and what
I wanted to do and that led medown life and success.
Coaching, getting NLP, whichstands for neuro-linguistic
(14:56):
programming and it's aboutdealing with the subconscious
mind and hypnosis, helped somepeople with weight loss and some
, you know, smoking and otherthings.
But I was like there's, there'sgotta be more.
You know, um went level threein Reiki, which really taught me
about the energy systems of thebody.
Um, and then I became an EFTpractitioner which, quite
(15:18):
honestly, for those who do knowwhat it is and have seen it, it
does look absolutely ridiculousand for the longest time, even
after I got certified, it wasactually tied into another
certification.
I didn't go for that and thefunny thing is it's the one I
use the most, but it was alsothe one that took me the longest
to get on board with Cause.
I was like this is ridiculous,how is happening on my face?
And all these different pointsgoing to help me?
(15:40):
And you know, I reallypoo-pooed on it for a while and
now it's one of my most favoritetools because I mean, I
literally use it every day onmyself but I've seen such shifts
in people, in my clients, andso that.
And then just diving deeper intobreath work and nervous system
work and EMDR, and you know I'mconstantly learning and fine
(16:04):
tuning and learning differentsomatic practices and through my
own self-experimentation I justI really I started dancing and
I started like not chanting butlike making like almost primal
noises to it.
There's so much power when werelease sound, because our body
recognizes rhythm and frequencyand resonance and that's where
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our subconscious is, that'swhere our emotions are stored.
So I knew there was stuff in mybody I needed to move.
I was reading anything andeverything I could get my hands
on to about self-development andhealing and da-da-da-da.
But at a certain point you justgot to do it.
You got to get in your body andyou just got to feel it and
heal it and release and andreally become in tune with what
(16:49):
your body's trying to speak withto you.
You can't read that or learnthat in a book Like it.
Just it takes time, andespecially for someone that is
so used to going all the timeand never really listening to
what their body actually needs.
Or maybe they do hear, but theypush it aside.
Ultimately we end up withchronic disease, and that was me
(17:09):
.
I had terrible joint pain andit was funny because I knew I
had like thyroid stuff andarthritis stuff and all these
different things.
But labs came back normal andthank God because I mean at that
time I might have taken a pill,but ultimately I know I would
have been like no, I knowthere's another way.
And there was, and that wasreally coming back home to
myself, learning boundaries,learning how to slow down,
(17:31):
learning that my mindset youknow the thoughts that I'm
thinking aren't me and how toreally like come in tune with
that, getting my nervous systemon board.
So, yeah, there's.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
And I love what you say about health, right, Health
is mental health, physical,emotional health, and we cannot
have one without another one.
Also, a pill is not going tochange the health of the three.
I'm pro whatever works for you,it can be natural, it can be an
(18:03):
aid.
And also to understand thatthere is times that we do need a
little help, right, it's notthe same having a flu and we
take the tea of mama's recipe,which is honey and lemon, which
we know they do kill, right, anda little bit of if you're
Latino, to all my Latinos, theyknow what I'm talking about they
put a little Bixbap or Roo inyour chest and life becomes so
(18:26):
much beautiful, right.
But then if we don't take careof it, if we ignore it, then it
becomes a pneumonia, it becomesa sinus infection, not any kind
of infection, and for that wewill need antibiotics.
But what do we tend to do?
Because we're a fast pace, wewant to fix real quick, we want
the antibiotics to fixeverything.
But the antibiotics have sideeffects too, and those side
(18:49):
effects, if you're already kindof immune to things or you are
more prone to things, they'regoing to affect you.
The same comes with trauma andstoring our bodies right.
When we start releasing trauma,guess what?
You're going to notice that,yeah, your liver has kidney
stones or you have problems withyour joints because before you
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were so tense or so involved inyour own.
I don't want to feel it.
I don't want to feel it.
I don't want to feel it.
So I always say like, likeanything that is worth doing or
like is going to change yourlife for the better.
It requires a transformationthat is painful.
When I say painful doesn't meanthat you are going to lose
(19:33):
yourself.
When I say painful is, we needto grieve the person that we
used to be, because we willnever be that person.
We will be either a betterversion or a second version.
Two, we will never know whatother things in other places
work.
For example, me as aneuroscientist and as a clinical
psychologist.
(19:54):
I'm like I did book science,hardcore, right.
And then I did four years ofmindfulness, breath and stress
reduction mindfulness, breathand stress reduction which
literally the graduation was oneweek of silence and saying,
right, my brain goes all overthe place and I was like I last
three days because I was like Icannot last the whole week, so I
(20:17):
have to do it again, Right, butthat just teach you that we
hate sitting in silence andbeing in ourselves.
But if you are listening and youthink about the darkest days,
or the darkest moments in yourlife has been when we stay still
and we finally can feel it'swhen everything comes up because
(20:39):
unfortunately, we have pushedeverything so much.
I call it the beach ball thatgoes in the pool.
You can push it all you want,but it's going to come back and
smack you in the face in anyshape or form.
So what you will say to peopleif they want to find either a
coach or a practitioner like you, what is the I call it the
(21:01):
green flags that go ahead and doit and what is the red flags?
I think you need extra cushions.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Yeah, yeah, absolutely, I think for me, and
how it's always worked out.
I mean again, I and I think,because I've gotten so in tune
with my body, I like have aninstant knowing.
I like have this internal, likeooh, or where you're just so
fascinated by somebody and youjust you're going on their page
and they're saying and they feellike you can feel their heart,
(21:40):
you feel connected to them, youfeel like you just resonate with
them.
There's something about themand I mean for me one of the
most important things, and Ididn't always get it right
because I was in my mind, I waslike oh, I think this is what I
need, or they look like they'resuccessful.
And those were the ones that Ididn't really feel seen by, I
didn't really feel held by, Ididn't feel like they were
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giving meeting me where I was at, they were just giving me a
system or this one size fits alltype do this and you'll get
this.
And it's like that's not how wework.
And, and I think too, just um,yeah, it's definitely has always
been an internal pull.
The ones that were the rightdecisions were just like this
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instant, like feeling of, likesafe.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
I felt safe with them , I felt seen with them, I felt
um like we could really befriends okay and um, just to
(22:51):
piggyback on that, uh, I alwayssay, like you, you know, like
any athlete, any because a lotof athletes work.
In his case it was more likebiofeedback, which is also
breath work in a more scientificway.
And then he also had atherapist and he did MDR and you
know, like we all come withbaggage, or with a blueprint
(23:16):
that is not ours, it'sgenerations of X, y and Z, or
with a blueprint that is notours, it's generations of X, y
and Z.
And one thing that I want thepublic to remember is that the
thing that you're the mostscared to do normally is the
thing that is going to bring youto the next level.
What do I mean with the nextlevel?
Nothing that is going to harmyou emotionally or mentally.
(23:39):
Run away from it, just don't doit.
But if it feels like, okay, I'mscared because I think they're
not going to like me, or I'mscared because I think the X, y
and Z, that is okay.
But I love what you say becausein our community that's what we
do, you are seen, we're kind.
Community, that's what we do,you're seeing, you are, we're
(24:02):
kind and I always.
There's a slogan of our umcommunity is be proud for
whatever you are.
Yes, I'm depressed, I'm anxious, I'm, I have attention disorder
or I have a chronic illness orI have an eating disorder.
Be proud of that in the senselike it took you something to
get there, because once youacknowledge it, once you name it
, you can change it and then.
So be proud, be loud.
(24:23):
Be loud meaning get help.
However, that start that steps.
It looks like for some is acoach, for some is a mentor, for
some is a therapist, for someis a little more like I need to
go to the hospital, right so.
But you have to be loud aboutasking for help.
So be proud.
Be proud who you are and beloud and be kind, not to others,
(24:46):
okay, people please theirrecoveries right.
Be nice to you.
If you cannot say nothing niceabout your own life, that's a
red flag for you that we need toget a little more help and all
parts of you are accepted.
How many of us we go aroundcomparing ourselves to the top
(25:08):
of the iceberg and compareourselves to the shinies, the
social media person, but weforget that they start somewhere
.
I always mention and I knowthere's going to be a battle in
the comments about this in thesense of, like, either you're a
safety or you are a queen bee,right, like you always fight
(25:30):
between those two, but both ofthem come from trauma and both
of them have done so much workwith a mentor, a coach, a
therapist.
So, for our audience, what youwill say as a clinician and as a
coach, what is your idealclient Like?
(25:51):
Who can find you and what statein their life they have to be?
Because you know, like, forexample, I'm a trauma, I'm a
CPTSD, which stands complextrauma therapist right, so I
deal with people that clientsthat are in the very, very, very
dark place, right, and then wehave to dig out a lot of things.
(26:13):
So they come to me when there isno more things to do, right,
when we're at the end of ourropes.
So you don't come to me whenyou want to learn how to do
breath work, right, because Ifeel like with breath work, it's
just to release the last stuffthat we have and just to move to
the lightening, if you will.
So what is your ideal client?
(26:34):
And what do you do when youhave a client that you're like?
And what do you do when youhave a client that you're like I
think you need something extra.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
Yeah, yeah.
Well, it's funny becauseactually both of two of my most
recent clients they have atherapist and I'm like, yes, I
love that, I support that, Iwant that because you know you
have all these things that arebrought up, so you kind of have
an understanding of, like, whatare you working on?
And then we bring that to oursession and then I give you like
(27:04):
everyday tools that you coulddo and and how you can further
along and how you can reallystart embodying some of these
things.
And again, it's not traditionalstuff because, well, one like,
although I have traditionaltraining, a lot of this was my
own and what I found that reallyhelped me.
And, um, most of my um clientsare female.
So, really like, dancing is areally fun way to to get in the
(27:25):
body, but I always bring in aprocess and an element of
movement that is somatic baseand we're like really like,
almost like Tai Chi in a way,but not um, but it's also it's
just getting us like, it getsthe heart rate up, it gets you
out of that thinking mind andreally like start thinking about
it.
And I bring in the things oflike what you want to release
and we're like in it we're likeall right, let's let go of that
(27:48):
Like inability to trust, andlet's bring in that faith and
trust and surrender to knowingthat like things are working out
and how can we shift this andthat, knowing that like things
are working out and how can weshift this and that.
And so I love it when you knowmy clients kind of have an
understanding of you know thisisn't working for me anymore.
I keep going to food when Iknow that I'm emotionally
(28:11):
stressed or I'm burnt out or I'mtired and I just keep doing it
and I can't seem to stop.
You know, or just like I havethese habits that just keep me
locked into this life that I nolonger want to be.
I can see how it's hurting me,it's no longer serving me.
So really it's people who havehad tools of coping and they're
(28:32):
no longer working and they needto widen their tool belt because
they're stepping into that nextversion.
They're stepping into a biggerdream that they have for
themselves, or they just want tounderstand their body more.
They want to understand how tobe with their emotions, how to
connect more to their intuitionand really like be able to to
tune in more to that.
Speaker 1 (28:52):
Nice and I love and I want everybody, if you listen,
to please go and post yourcomments.
Have you have a therapist andhave you have your dream team.
As everybody knows, I'm a supernerd.
So as a part of being a supernerd, you know, I believe in the
Justice League.
I believe oh my goodness, myfavorite is the X-Men.
(29:13):
Sorry, I'm going in a tangent ofnerdiness Marbles.
Yeah, so you need your JustinLing, you need your X-Men.
Meaning you need Dr X to tellyou hey, how's your mind doing,
kind of thing.
But then I need the Wolverineto put all my emotions of anger
out.
But then I need the beautifuljust storm to make my body move
(29:38):
through the air.
Right, what do I say like thatand for my non-nerdy friends, I
pull my eyes, but you know I'mtalking about the mind-body
spirit basically.
So what I'm saying is, if youdon't have your dream team with
you, start building it.
Get a coach, get a mentor andget a therapist.
With that you're invincible.
(29:59):
Meaning you're going to putmore tools, as you say, in your
tool.
Well, you're going to healwounds that are just oozing and
you are going to learntechniques, not only to not hurt
others but not hurt anymore,right?
So if you don't have your dreamteam suggestion, we have Ashley
Ashley, I'm taking new clientsor if they're in corporate and
(30:21):
we have bus babes out there thatthey want to hire you for a
corporate event where they canfind you.
Speaker 2 (30:27):
Absolutely.
On Instagram Holistic Alignment, it's with a W because it's all
about the whole part of us.
So W-H-O-L-I-S-T-I-C alignment411.
So W-H-O-L-I-S-T-I-C alignment411.
And, yeah, I am currentlytaking I think I've got like one
more spot but I have a twomonth, a four month and a six
(30:48):
month Very, very reasonableprices.
Actually.
I sometimes I'm like why don't Iraise?
I'm like this just feels good.
I want it to be accessible, Iwant people to have these tools
and for me you'll get 24-7accessibility to me.
I mean, you may not answerimmediately, but the point is,
(31:08):
as you're moving through thisand as we have our call and I
give you your homework or whatit is you're working on, we come
up with the roadblocks and allof a sudden we're like, oh, this
is coming up for me.
It's like quick access to me tobe able to help you through
that, and so I think that'sreally important.
It was something that I wanted,because sometimes I didn't have
(31:28):
what I needed on the call itself, but then it's like, man, it
really hits when I'm I'm thereand then that's when I really
need the support.
So so I love that option and,yeah, reach out, dm me, let me
know what's going on and Ialways jump on discovery calls
because I don't take everyoneeither Like.
I always make sure it's a goodfit and you know it's always a
(31:49):
good clarity call to be able toconnect and see if it is
something that is right for you.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
Right and just for everybody, we will be posting
resources for therapy, forsupport groups and, of course,
ashley's, because, like I said,what we want and we champion for
you is that you have yourwoohoo, your science and your
spirit together, because we are.
We're not only one part, we'rea whole, so we have to work in
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all the parts of us and, asalways, thank you so much for
being here at Oasis.
Find our next episode in thenext season and everybody, have
a wonderful start day.
Speaker 2 (32:32):
Thank you Bye.
Speaker 1 (32:37):
As we conclude today's episode, take a moment
to reflect.
Be proud of the journey, forevery step that brings you
closer to who you truly are.
Embrace the kindness towardsyourself, as you did to each one
of our guests.
Honor the bravery in youractions and celebrate the
(33:00):
importance of mental wellnesswith us.
And remember it's an exercisethat we practice daily.
Continue to grow and flourish,knowing that we are in this
training for our mental wellnesstogether.
We are so proud to have you aspart of our community, so join
(33:21):
us on Instagram at OasisCommunity Podcast for more
inspiring conversations,valuable resources and supported
content, including journals,worksheets and content in
Spanish.
Exciting things are in thehorizons.
Our Oasis community break roomsare coming soon to grab tools
(33:43):
and take a break for your mentalhealth.
Also, we are featuring oursix-month training ethical
mental health coaching programdesigned for new and experienced
coaches, as well as holisticand healing professionals.
Enroll to create a safe andtransformative experience to
your clients.
Links in the bio.
Until next time, take care,stay connected and welcome to
(34:10):
our Oasis community.
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