January 21, 2025 • 24 mins
Angilie Kapoor, a versatile TV show host, author, speaker, and leadership coach, offers a compelling story of transformation that begins with her shift from a successful healthcare career to a role in leadership. Angilie's journey is rife with candid reflections on overcoming imposter syndrome and silencing negative self-dialogue, underscoring the pivotal role of mindset in personal and professional evolution. This episode promises insightful revelations as Angilie opens up about the power of self-reflection, illustrating how embracing one's authentic self and practicing gratitude can lead to profound personal growth and leadership effectiveness.
Listeners are invited to explore the transformative concept of leadership beyond traditional boundaries, discovering how leading oneself and embracing authenticity can catalyze change in all aspects of life. Angilie introduces practical methodologies for mindset transformation, drawing from her books and her empowering TV shows that highlight leadership through the unique lens of dance. Don’t miss her invaluable insights on crafting an empowering morning routine that nurtures balance across physical, mental, emotional, energetic, and spiritual dimensions. This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom for anyone looking to unlock their full potential and lead with purpose.
Unlock the secrets to online business success with these FREE and low-cost resources from Nicole!
-Join our supportive FB Group to connect with like-minded entrepreneurs and get exclusive tips and advice: https://nicoletuxbury.com/facebook
-Get your copy of the Best of the Profit Machine Summit Book shipped to you to learn from 15+ experts on how to turn your online business into a Profit Machine for only $13! https://nicoletuxbury.com/profit-machine-summit-e-book/
- Get instant access to the Coaches Guide To Print on Demand Video Course + Spreadsheet for only $17: https://nicoletuxbury.com/product/coaches-guide-to-pod-with-resource-file/
Explore these amazing resources and start your journey to success today!
Ready to skyrocket your online business?
Book your call to discuss working together one-on-one with me to craft custom strategies and implement powerful systems that will help you smash your goals and unleash your business's full potential!
Don't wait – let's kickstart your journey to success right now!
Book your call with me today! https://nicoletuxbury.com/introcall📞✨...
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
Nicole Tuxbury (00:01):
Hello everyone and welcome back to the latest
episode of Overcome Yourself,the podcast.
As you know, my name is Nicoleand I'm so excited to be here
today with Anjali.
Did I say that correctly?
Yes, awesome.
So, anjali, take it away andtell us a little bit about
yourself and what you do, howyou help clients.
Angilie Kapoor (00:23):
Yeah, sounds good.
So, first of all, thank you somuch for having me.
I am such a pleasure to be herewith you and your audience.
So, as Nicole mentioned, myname is Anjali.
It's Anjali Kapoor, and Iactually am a TV show host of
two TV shows.
I'm also a best selling multibook author.
I have some books behind me, ifthis is going to be on video
(00:43):
and then I also am a speaker andI have a leadership coaching
company called Oversight Global,and so basically what our motto
is my team and I, my amazingteam and I is we address the
consciousness crisis in theworld one leader at a time.
And so how I got into what I'mdoing now is I actually have a
(01:05):
over 20 year career in thehealthcare industry, but half
that time I spent in managementroles and back in 2019, I really
wanted to concentrate on reallyaddressing the gap that I
experienced and saw in theproper leadership, training,
preparation and ongoingdevelopment in the workplace,
and so that's why I became aleadership coach, and you know,
(01:27):
writing books and doing TV showshas just kind of come from that
, and that's where I am today.
Nicole Tuxbury (01:33):
So that is amazing.
One of the things I talk about.
I quote Brene Brown where shesays the world is starving for
joy.
We all are, so I think that isabsolutely amazing that you do
that.
So tell us a little bit moreabout your journey.
The name of the podcast isOvercome Yourself.
So did you feel that you had toovercome yourself to get to
(01:56):
this point?
Tell us a little bit about that, because you have an amazing
repertoire, Like look at allthose books behind you.
Angilie Kapoor (02:02):
That's amazing, thank you.
But yes, absolutely To answeryour question, I've I had to
overcome myself many times andso I very much resonate with
what you talk about on this show.
You know, I really firstdiscovered that when I got
promoted into my firsthealthcare management position.
And you know, at that time youknow I was really used to being
(02:24):
able to find my footing in a newposition very quickly and be
able to be performing highly,very quickly.
But you know, being put into amanagement position was so
different from any otherposition I've ever been promoted
into, why that was.
(02:45):
But at that time I didn'trealize that.
You know, shifting from being asole contributor to being
responsible for other people andthe performance of your team,
it's such a shift that peoplearen't aware of and really
aren't prepared for.
You know, in your mindset andyour perspective and really how
you you do things, how youapproach things, and so at that
time I had a really hard time.
I was really struggling formonths trying to find my footing
(03:06):
and you know I felt like Iwasn't good at my job, I felt
like I was failing my team, andso it was a really hard time for
me, but really what happenedwas after several months of me
being overwhelmed and strugglingto figure out how to best
manage and lead my team, Ireally had this pivotal moment
of I had this, you know,uncharacteristic blow up during
(03:30):
a team meeting and it reallyshocked me and everybody else,
but it really kind of shook meinto sitting down and saying,
okay, so you know me, notknowing how to do this is really
causing me to become a personthat I don't know or like, and
so that's really where I satdown and started to ask myself
is really causing me to become aperson that I don't know or
like?
And so that's really where Isat down and started to ask
myself some really deepquestions, you know, like who
(03:51):
was I?
Who had I become?
How did I get here?
Where was I going from here?
And so that's really where myself-discovery and
self-awareness journey startedfor me, and one of the first
things that I really startedworking on was my mindset, and
that's why I have written twobooks on mindset, because it was
huge for me.
(04:13):
You know, not really beforebeing aware of just exactly what
mindset was and just howpowerful our minds really are
and, you know, either helping usto be successful or really
hindering us from being able todo things.
And so, you know, reallyrecognizing that I had a lot of
inner dialogue that wasn'tconducive to helping me do what
(04:34):
I needed to do, and you know,different limiting beliefs and
fear you know were huge thingsfor me Imposter syndrome in my
position at work that I was inat the time, and so that was
huge for me.
And you know that's one of thethings that I mainly talk about
with people is mindset because,again, it's not something that
we're taught in school.
(04:54):
People kind of stumble upon it,like I did later in life, when
they really kind of need itExactly.
And so you know that was one ofthe pivotal moments for me was
I'm really working on mindsetand overcoming my own mind and
kind of limiting beliefs that Ihad and I didn't even realize
were holding me back and causingme to be really negative in
(05:16):
some areas.
Nicole Tuxbury (05:17):
So yes, that is amazing.
Something I talk about with myclients all the time is amazing.
Um, something I talk about withmy clients all the time is um,
you know, we think enlightenmentis like this, beautiful,
peaceful, like you're like onthe top of a hill and the sun is
setting and you're just like I,just I know now, and like
that's not how it happens, rightit?
Happens in those like terriblemoments where we're
(05:40):
uncomfortable and we snap, wesay something and we're like
whoa, hold up, hold up.
This is not me.
This is not working.
That's amazing.
And just taking the time toreally look at where you are and
, like you know, I know it'svery meta, but think about what
you think about.
Most people do not do that.
(06:00):
They just let thoughts happento them and they're like well,
that's what it is Right, and soreally like taking control of
the mindset and creating thosehabits.
Right, because it is a dailything.
It's not a mindset, is not likesomething like you put a
bandaid on it and then it'shealed and now you moved on,
like no, this is something thatwe've got to learn to work on
(06:22):
every day.
And in my five minute piece Italk about how I've always been
a leader and ever since I waslittle, I was showing those
leadership qualities, but backthen I was called bossy, right,
and you're so bossy.
And I say undeveloped leadersusually are.
So I think leadership is suchan important topic.
Can you talk to me a little bitabout how leadership looks, not
(06:47):
just in business, but in ourlives, Because we have to learn
how to be like the CEO of ourentire lives, learning to
delegate things to like ourfamily, like I'm going to let
you wash the dishes.
So can you talk to me about alittle bit like, for example,
right about how we can beleaders, be more present leaders
, not just in business, but inour lives as well?
Angilie Kapoor (07:08):
Oh, absolutely.
I actually love that youmentioned that, because that's
actually we resonate very wellwith our approach to leadership.
I, you know, feel the same wayand that's why one of my shows
is called Take the Lead, aconsciousness movement, and it's
not just about workplaceleaders or business leaders,
it's like you said, it'severybody you know, because I
feel that you know, like youfeel, is that we all are not
(07:33):
just capable of being leaders,but we're meant to be leaders at
the very minimum of ourselvesand in our own lives.
So, you know, that's theapproach that I take with people
and that really came about withme starting to work with
clients.
When I first started coachingyears ago, is you know, I was
working with workplace managers,but I started to recognize that
(07:54):
we weren't just working on themleading in their job, we were
working on them also leading athome, like you mentioned, with
their families or differentrelationships that they had, and
really wanting to have thatwork-life balance.
And so that's where I startedto recognize, oh, leadership
isn't just about the workplaceor in a professional setting,
it's being a leader of yourselfand in everything that you do,
(08:17):
in every aspect of your life.
And so, yeah, I totally agreewith that.
But you know, one of the thingsthat I'm constantly talking
about on my show is, you know,um, if you and it's kind of the
mindset thing we're soprogrammed by different things
like societal expectations,expectations from family members
or other people who, you know,expect us to be a certain way or
(08:38):
think a certain way or act acertain way, look a certain way,
and that really creates this um, you know, image of us that
isn't our true selves and soreally at the core of I call it
recognizing and embodying yourinner phenomenal leader, and
it's really kind of a analogy ofdiscovering your true,
authentic self.
(08:59):
I think that you know, if youare able to do that really
recognize who you are at yourcore and not what everybody else
is trying to make you be that'sreally when you start leading
yourself and in your own life,because you're, you know, really
grabbing on to that strengthand that power that you already
have within you, that you justdon't recognize that you have
(09:26):
have.
But to be able to do that ittakes a major self-awareness and
major self-knowing and likingand loving yourself ultimately,
so that you are able to properlylead yourself and in your own
life and then extend that out toleading others, like your
family, in different types ofscenarios, including the
workplace.
Nicole Tuxbury (09:40):
That's amazing.
It's making me think about mybig thing.
The big discovery that I madewas practicing gratitude, and
that is how I learned toappreciate the things that I got
done every day things aboutmyself, you know, because I
(10:05):
caught myself.
For example, one of the scriptsthat would keep playing over
and over in my head is youhaven't gotten anything done
today.
You haven't gotten anythingdone.
And it didn't matter what I did, the script always said oh well
, you haven't gotten doneanything today.
So, like you got to dosomething else, right.
And then I was able to likestop.
I was like wait a second, holdon hold on brain.
Like we washed dishes, wecleaned up the floor, we went
(10:28):
and we ran this errand, we ranto the grocery store.
Like me and my brain, right.
We like we did all these postson social media.
It's like I'd be writing mybook, I'd be writing eight hours
a day and I couldn't appreciatethe value in those things.
So can you talk to me about youknow, gratitude and leadership
a little bit, oh absolutely.
Angilie Kapoor (10:49):
Yeah, I love that you bring that up Because
it's actually one of the thingsthat I talk about in my book and
also with my clients is thatyou know you cannot shift,
whether it is trying to shiftyour mindset or trying to shift
in.
You know, growing and improvingyourself in some way.
You can't make that shift froma place of judgment or from a
(11:10):
place of comparison.
It has to be from, like youmentioned, a place of gratitude
and the you know.
The reason is because you knowyou first have to appreciate
what you already have beforeyou're going to energetically
receive more.
It's just you know kind ofsimple physics and math right,
that you're not going to getmore of something if you don't
already appreciate what youalready have.
(11:31):
And so you know I think it'sreally important that people you
know think about and startutilizing the practice of
gratitude.
I mean it's this, I call it oursuperpower.
You know it's not anything weneed to go out and learn, go to
school and get a degree in.
It doesn't take a lot of time.
You only need a few seconds tobe able to do it, but the power
(11:51):
of it is just so amazing.
I mean it puts you in adifferent level of you know,
frequency of energy.
It puts you, it helps you tobecome motivated and inspired.
And you know, if you're, ifyou're kind of feeling down and
negative in your energy, it isinstantly, you know, picks you
up.
And again, it's just so easy todo.
(12:12):
We all know how to do it but wedon't do it enough and it only
takes seconds to do.
You know, at first it can behard because you know, if you're
not used to practicinggratitude and thinking about all
the things that you have to begrateful for, then it can be
hard to get started.
But when you kind of get intothat practice, you know you can
be grateful for everything and,like you said, it can be super
(12:35):
small, like oh, I'm so gratefulI have this pen or I'm so
grateful I have this mug todrink out of, and you know all
the way up to something big.
You know like I'm I'm glad for,I'm so grateful for the life
that I have, the day that I'mliving, you know things like
that.
But it's really getting intothat practice because you know,
then it helps shift your mindset, it helps put you in a positive
(12:56):
mindset, a positive mood, andagain, you can't grow if you're
not appreciative of where you'reat, you know, really
recognizing that.
You know there might be somethings in your past that you're
not proud of, but that had tohappen in order for you to
become the person that you aretoday.
And so you know, in this personthat you are today, you need to
(13:18):
be grateful for that person,because that's the person that's
going to help you get to thatperson you want to be tomorrow.
Nicole Tuxbury (13:31):
And so so, yeah, I agree with you, gratitude is
is huge.
That's, that's amazing, and Italk about it in my book.
I love talking to people andlike, oh, my book, cause it's
true, like we write out down allour great stuff and so we can
always keep referring back to it.
But one of the things I talkedabout it's like trying to go to
the gym and do like 100 pull-upsLike girl, like you haven't
practiced, you didn't warm up.
Angilie Kapoor (13:49):
If you can't do one, you're not going to be able
to do 100.
Nicole Tuxbury (13:52):
Like it doesn't make sense, right, and then
you're going to defeat it, andit's the same thing with
practicing gratitude.
So, like my recommendation isstart the practice with writing
down three things.
Like there's a huge connectionbetween our brain and writing,
so it's really important towrite.
That's why one of the reasonsthat I incorporate that, like
(14:14):
writing is good for your brain.
You need to do that, butwriting down three things and
eventually they start popping uplike magic, like you're just
walking around and you'll belike, oh, I'm so grateful
there's no traffic today, or I'mso grateful that I don't have
to sit in traffic every day, soI could just jam right now and
just be grateful.
Or even going to work and as aleader at work, as a manager at
work, going in and being I'mgrateful for you, as a team
(14:34):
member, as someone that'sworking for me, and I mean,
imagine how that could shift anentire workplace instead of
going in every day.
And you're like, oh, my God, Ihate everybody that I work with.
They're so dumb, they don't dowhat I tell them.
What if you could just find onething to be grateful for?
You know what?
I'm grateful that you haveamazing hair, anjali, like you
do.
Like that's the first thing Inoticed.
I was like how bouncy and cuteit is, right, you're adorable
(14:55):
and I'm so grateful for that andso yeah, but just it really
does change your patterns, right, your thinking patterns and
your perspective.
Like it totally changed my life.
And, like I said, it's not,it's not a bandaid thing, it's
not going to be healed in oneday.
This is something that we haveto intentionally practice and
(15:17):
think about and when we findourselves like going down those
rabbit holes that you know thethought patterns, and you're
like Whoa, hold up, hold up,let's stop right there and let's
like where are we right now inour body, like what's happening,
you know, telling myself I'msafe, I'm here, right Cause, if
not, I go into those littleanxious patterns and then
(15:37):
focusing on what am I gratefulfor?
So that is just absolutelyamazing.
So, anjali, what is one ofthose like big tips, like your
main tip that you share withyour audience?
Can you give us, like a quicklittle, your best leadership tip
right off the top?
Angilie Kapoor (15:58):
of your head talking about it all this time.
And I think the biggest tip andthe really first step for
anybody who's wanting to reallylead themselves and in their own
lives is becoming aware.
You know, because, again wementioned you know, for me I
didn't know what mindset was andI didn't recognize that I had
these negative things flowingthrough my mind pretty much all
(16:20):
the time until I stopped and Istarted to recognize it and
started to become aware of it.
You know, and to and for me,that started off with me.
I mean, I know it sounds weird,but it started off with me
having this notebook that Icarried around and then, every
time that I would thinksomething or say something, I
would stop and I would think,okay, is this true, is this
(16:42):
something that's productive forme?
You know, what really does thisthought, or me saying this to
myself, what does that do?
What's the effect of it?
And so, you know, for severalmonths I would, you know, walk
around with a notebook and startwriting things down and stuff
like that, but it really startedto create that awareness for me
of, you know, what is it thatI'm saying to myself, what types
(17:05):
of thought patterns andlimiting beliefs do I have that
I'm not even aware of.
And so, yeah, that is my biggesttip for anybody who's wanting
to, you know, really kind ofstart down this road and this
journey of becoming a leader ofthemselves and really starting
to shift their mindset andreally creating a life for
themselves where they don't feellike they're stuck in this
(17:25):
forever hamster wheel and, youknow, life feels like it's
Groundhog Day, where you're justliving the same thing over and
over, you know, and reallyfeeling like you know you're not
passionate, content with yourlife in any way, is really just
start becoming aware of whatthings are going through your
mind, because, again, mindset ishuge and it's so powerful and I
(17:46):
think for a majority of us, itreally does hinder us and
stagnate us and we don't evenrecognize that.
Nicole Tuxbury (17:54):
Yes, that is amazing.
Now, before we sign off, youmentioned that you have some
shows and you have some books,so can you give us a quick tour
of your books behind you, please?
Angilie Kapoor (18:20):
me dabbling with .
You know, can I write a book,what do I want to write a book
on and what the process is andthings like that.
So it's more of an introductionon what mindset is.
So you know, I'm giving you alittle history of you know what
our, what our mindset is, how wedeveloped our mindset, you know
how it can hinder us or help usand things like that.
And then my second book, whichis the yellow one back there and
it also has an accompanyingworkbook, is my second book and
(18:43):
it's called Leader MindsetActivation and it's more about
the methodology that I used formyself as well as I help walk my
clients through that as well,of really first recognizing
where your mindset is at andthen helping you to transition
into the type of mindset thatyou want to have.
And you've mentioned it severaltimes that it's really, you know
(19:03):
, it's really becomingconsistent and intentional and
it's everyday thing.
It's not like you're saying,it's not a bandaid thing, it's
not a one and done type thing.
I mean, I've been doing thisfor several years now and it is
a daily thing and I really tellpeople that it's it's a
lifestyle change.
You know you're going to wantto be doing this for the rest of
your life and not just, youknow, for three months, and then
(19:25):
you're done, and then yourevert back to what you were
doing before.
That's not going to work, youknow.
It's really creating that dailyintention and consistency.
And then the last book overthere is the latest one that
I've been part of.
It's not one that I personallywrote, but it's from Jim Britt,
who is a big thought leader andspeaker and coach.
(19:45):
He's one of the top 25 coachesin the world, I think, and 50
speakers in the world the richcode and I was able to have the
opportunity to write a chapterin his book, along with a few
other authors, and so I'm inthat book and it's endorsed by
Tony Robbins and the forward iswritten by Brian Tracy.
(20:07):
So some pretty, pretty wellknown people there.
So yeah, Very cool.
Nicole Tuxbury (20:11):
That's amazing.
Thank you so much and tell us alittle bit about your shows, oh
yeah, my two TV shows.
Angilie Kapoor (20:19):
So the first one is called unveil your
brilliance, and it's abouthelping women to overcome the
illusions that are holding themback.
So we go through every episode,we go through mindset, breaking
free from conformity and thenlearning some brilliant
strategies to help them.
Do that, and that's on the winwin women TV network and that
airs every Wednesday at 6pm.
Do that, and that's on theWin-Win Women TV Network and
that airs every Wednesday at 6pm Pacific time.
(20:41):
And then my other show iscalled Take the Lead a
Consciousness Movement, andthat's on the E360 TV Network
and that's pretty much foreverybody.
Again, we talk about anything,everything leadership, and again
, that's not just for theworkplace, it's in life as well.
And we make it fun by reallylooking at the parallels of
(21:03):
leadership concepts in parallelto salsa and ballroom dancing,
and so years ago I got thisepiphany that I wanted to do a
TED Talk on that, and so when Igot the opportunity to do a show
, I decided I wanted to exploreit all season.
So that's what we do.
We make it really fun andenergetic.
And, yeah, we've had some greatguests on there, and so we've
(21:25):
talked about some amazing topics.
So, yeah, and that one airsMondays at 6 pm Pacific time.
Nicole Tuxbury (21:32):
Awesome, that is amazing.
Do you have a free gift for theaudience available?
Angilie Kapoor (21:37):
That is amazing.
Do you have a free gift for theaudience available?
Yeah, so we didn't talk aboutit here during this discussion,
but the other thing that I'mreally big on it was the second
kind of shift and transitionthat I made when I first
embarked on my self-awarenessand self-discovery journey is
creating and having anempowering morning routine for
(21:57):
yourself every morning.
And I kind of stumbled on thatwhen I was reading a book at the
time of a journalist who was inthe process of interviewing the
most successful people all overthe world and he was kind of
dumbfounded because they all hadthis one commonality amongst
all 300 of them, and it was theyall mentioned to him that they
have this morning routine thatthey do to help them be
(22:19):
successful with their day.
And so that's when I kind ofdove into.
You know, what is a morningroutine?
What does it consist of?
And so the guide that I have isa free guide.
It's called five tips todesigning or empowering morning
routine and it talks a littlebit about the book that I just
mentioned and kind of the fiveareas that I call your five core
(22:41):
human components, and that'sphysical, mental, emotional,
energetic and spiritual, andreally recognizing that you
really want to, you know, createhealth and balance in those
areas so that you are overallhealthy, you have an overall
healthy well being.
And so, being sure to, you know, do activities in your morning
that really help you to be ableto have balance in those areas,
(23:06):
so that can be meditation,journaling, exercising or
stretching, you know things likethat.
Nicole Tuxbury (23:13):
That's amazing.
Oh, that's awesome, and thelink for that is going to be
down, available in the shownotes, in the comments, wherever
it is that you're watching this.
Um, oh, thank you so much forbeing here.
This has been absolutelyamazing.
Do you have any final tips herebefore we sign off?
Angilie Kapoor (23:28):
yeah, I mean again.
Thank you so much for having meand for allowing me to be here
and so, yeah, I mean, my finalthought for everybody is just
recognize that you know you area unique individual.
There's nobody else on thisplanet like you, and so you know
, really embrace your uniquenessand really embrace you,
(23:49):
discovering who it is that youtruly are, and not what
everybody else is trying to tellyou to be or want you to be.
You know, find that thatindividual, unique person that
you were created to be, and youknow, live the life that you are
really truly meant to live.
Nicole Tuxbury (24:05):
So that's my tip for you.
That's amazing.
Thank you so much.
This has been, like I said,absolutely amazing.
Thank you for joining me andwe'll see you next time.
Have a great rest of the day.
Bye guys, bye, bye.
Hello everyone and welcome back to the latest
episode of Overcome Yourself,the podcast.
As you know, my name is Nicoleand I'm so excited to be here
today with Anjali.
Did I say that correctly?
Yes, awesome.
So, anjali, take it away andtell us a little bit about
yourself and what you do, howyou help clients.
Angilie Kapoor (00:23):
Yeah, sounds good.
So, first of all, thank you somuch for having me.
I am such a pleasure to be herewith you and your audience.
So, as Nicole mentioned, myname is Anjali.
It's Anjali Kapoor, and Iactually am a TV show host of
two TV shows.
I'm also a best selling multibook author.
I have some books behind me, ifthis is going to be on video
(00:43):
and then I also am a speaker andI have a leadership coaching
company called Oversight Global,and so basically what our motto
is my team and I, my amazingteam and I is we address the
consciousness crisis in theworld one leader at a time.
And so how I got into what I'mdoing now is I actually have a
(01:05):
over 20 year career in thehealthcare industry, but half
that time I spent in managementroles and back in 2019, I really
wanted to concentrate on reallyaddressing the gap that I
experienced and saw in theproper leadership, training,
preparation and ongoingdevelopment in the workplace,
and so that's why I became aleadership coach, and you know,
(01:27):
writing books and doing TV showshas just kind of come from that
, and that's where I am today.
Nicole Tuxbury (01:33):
So that is amazing.
One of the things I talk about.
I quote Brene Brown where shesays the world is starving for
joy.
We all are, so I think that isabsolutely amazing that you do
that.
So tell us a little bit moreabout your journey.
The name of the podcast isOvercome Yourself.
So did you feel that you had toovercome yourself to get to
(01:56):
this point?
Tell us a little bit about that, because you have an amazing
repertoire, Like look at allthose books behind you.
Angilie Kapoor (02:02):
That's amazing, thank you.
But yes, absolutely To answeryour question, I've I had to
overcome myself many times andso I very much resonate with
what you talk about on this show.
You know, I really firstdiscovered that when I got
promoted into my firsthealthcare management position.
And you know, at that time youknow I was really used to being
(02:24):
able to find my footing in a newposition very quickly and be
able to be performing highly,very quickly.
But you know, being put into amanagement position was so
different from any otherposition I've ever been promoted
into, why that was.
(02:45):
But at that time I didn'trealize that.
You know, shifting from being asole contributor to being
responsible for other people andthe performance of your team,
it's such a shift that peoplearen't aware of and really
aren't prepared for.
You know, in your mindset andyour perspective and really how
you you do things, how youapproach things, and so at that
time I had a really hard time.
I was really struggling formonths trying to find my footing
(03:06):
and you know I felt like Iwasn't good at my job, I felt
like I was failing my team, andso it was a really hard time for
me, but really what happenedwas after several months of me
being overwhelmed and strugglingto figure out how to best
manage and lead my team, Ireally had this pivotal moment
of I had this, you know,uncharacteristic blow up during
(03:30):
a team meeting and it reallyshocked me and everybody else,
but it really kind of shook meinto sitting down and saying,
okay, so you know me, notknowing how to do this is really
causing me to become a personthat I don't know or like, and
so that's really where I satdown and started to ask myself
is really causing me to become aperson that I don't know or
like?
And so that's really where Isat down and started to ask
myself some really deepquestions, you know, like who
(03:51):
was I?
Who had I become?
How did I get here?
Where was I going from here?
And so that's really where myself-discovery and
self-awareness journey startedfor me, and one of the first
things that I really startedworking on was my mindset, and
that's why I have written twobooks on mindset, because it was
huge for me.
(04:13):
You know, not really beforebeing aware of just exactly what
mindset was and just howpowerful our minds really are
and, you know, either helping usto be successful or really
hindering us from being able todo things.
And so, you know, reallyrecognizing that I had a lot of
inner dialogue that wasn'tconducive to helping me do what
(04:34):
I needed to do, and you know,different limiting beliefs and
fear you know were huge thingsfor me Imposter syndrome in my
position at work that I was inat the time, and so that was
huge for me.
And you know that's one of thethings that I mainly talk about
with people is mindset because,again, it's not something that
we're taught in school.
(04:54):
People kind of stumble upon it,like I did later in life, when
they really kind of need itExactly.
And so you know that was one ofthe pivotal moments for me was
I'm really working on mindsetand overcoming my own mind and
kind of limiting beliefs that Ihad and I didn't even realize
were holding me back and causingme to be really negative in
(05:16):
some areas.
Nicole Tuxbury (05:17):
So yes, that is amazing.
Something I talk about with myclients all the time is amazing.
Um, something I talk about withmy clients all the time is um,
you know, we think enlightenmentis like this, beautiful,
peaceful, like you're like onthe top of a hill and the sun is
setting and you're just like I,just I know now, and like
that's not how it happens, rightit?
Happens in those like terriblemoments where we're
(05:40):
uncomfortable and we snap, wesay something and we're like
whoa, hold up, hold up.
This is not me.
This is not working.
That's amazing.
And just taking the time toreally look at where you are and
, like you know, I know it'svery meta, but think about what
you think about.
Most people do not do that.
(06:00):
They just let thoughts happento them and they're like well,
that's what it is Right, and soreally like taking control of
the mindset and creating thosehabits.
Right, because it is a dailything.
It's not a mindset, is not likesomething like you put a
bandaid on it and then it'shealed and now you moved on,
like no, this is something thatwe've got to learn to work on
(06:22):
every day.
And in my five minute piece Italk about how I've always been
a leader and ever since I waslittle, I was showing those
leadership qualities, but backthen I was called bossy, right,
and you're so bossy.
And I say undeveloped leadersusually are.
So I think leadership is suchan important topic.
Can you talk to me a little bitabout how leadership looks, not
(06:47):
just in business, but in ourlives, Because we have to learn
how to be like the CEO of ourentire lives, learning to
delegate things to like ourfamily, like I'm going to let
you wash the dishes.
So can you talk to me about alittle bit like, for example,
right about how we can beleaders, be more present leaders
, not just in business, but inour lives as well?
Angilie Kapoor (07:08):
Oh, absolutely.
I actually love that youmentioned that, because that's
actually we resonate very wellwith our approach to leadership.
I, you know, feel the same wayand that's why one of my shows
is called Take the Lead, aconsciousness movement, and it's
not just about workplaceleaders or business leaders,
it's like you said, it'severybody you know, because I
feel that you know, like youfeel, is that we all are not
(07:33):
just capable of being leaders,but we're meant to be leaders at
the very minimum of ourselvesand in our own lives.
So, you know, that's theapproach that I take with people
and that really came about withme starting to work with
clients.
When I first started coachingyears ago, is you know, I was
working with workplace managers,but I started to recognize that
(07:54):
we weren't just working on themleading in their job, we were
working on them also leading athome, like you mentioned, with
their families or differentrelationships that they had, and
really wanting to have thatwork-life balance.
And so that's where I startedto recognize, oh, leadership
isn't just about the workplaceor in a professional setting,
it's being a leader of yourselfand in everything that you do,
(08:17):
in every aspect of your life.
And so, yeah, I totally agreewith that.
But you know, one of the thingsthat I'm constantly talking
about on my show is, you know,um, if you and it's kind of the
mindset thing we're soprogrammed by different things
like societal expectations,expectations from family members
or other people who, you know,expect us to be a certain way or
(08:38):
think a certain way or act acertain way, look a certain way,
and that really creates this um, you know, image of us that
isn't our true selves and soreally at the core of I call it
recognizing and embodying yourinner phenomenal leader, and
it's really kind of a analogy ofdiscovering your true,
authentic self.
(08:59):
I think that you know, if youare able to do that really
recognize who you are at yourcore and not what everybody else
is trying to make you be that'sreally when you start leading
yourself and in your own life,because you're, you know, really
grabbing on to that strengthand that power that you already
have within you, that you justdon't recognize that you have
(09:26):
have.
But to be able to do that ittakes a major self-awareness and
major self-knowing and likingand loving yourself ultimately,
so that you are able to properlylead yourself and in your own
life and then extend that out toleading others, like your
family, in different types ofscenarios, including the
workplace.
Nicole Tuxbury (09:40):
That's amazing.
It's making me think about mybig thing.
The big discovery that I madewas practicing gratitude, and
that is how I learned toappreciate the things that I got
done every day things aboutmyself, you know, because I
(10:05):
caught myself.
For example, one of the scriptsthat would keep playing over
and over in my head is youhaven't gotten anything done
today.
You haven't gotten anythingdone.
And it didn't matter what I did, the script always said oh well
, you haven't gotten doneanything today.
So, like you got to dosomething else, right.
And then I was able to likestop.
I was like wait a second, holdon hold on brain.
Like we washed dishes, wecleaned up the floor, we went
(10:28):
and we ran this errand, we ranto the grocery store.
Like me and my brain, right.
We like we did all these postson social media.
It's like I'd be writing mybook, I'd be writing eight hours
a day and I couldn't appreciatethe value in those things.
So can you talk to me about youknow, gratitude and leadership
a little bit, oh absolutely.
Angilie Kapoor (10:49):
Yeah, I love that you bring that up Because
it's actually one of the thingsthat I talk about in my book and
also with my clients is thatyou know you cannot shift,
whether it is trying to shiftyour mindset or trying to shift
in.
You know, growing and improvingyourself in some way.
You can't make that shift froma place of judgment or from a
(11:10):
place of comparison.
It has to be from, like youmentioned, a place of gratitude
and the you know.
The reason is because you knowyou first have to appreciate
what you already have beforeyou're going to energetically
receive more.
It's just you know kind ofsimple physics and math right,
that you're not going to getmore of something if you don't
already appreciate what youalready have.
(11:31):
And so you know I think it'sreally important that people you
know think about and startutilizing the practice of
gratitude.
I mean it's this, I call it oursuperpower.
You know it's not anything weneed to go out and learn, go to
school and get a degree in.
It doesn't take a lot of time.
You only need a few seconds tobe able to do it, but the power
(11:51):
of it is just so amazing.
I mean it puts you in adifferent level of you know,
frequency of energy.
It puts you, it helps you tobecome motivated and inspired.
And you know, if you're, ifyou're kind of feeling down and
negative in your energy, it isinstantly, you know, picks you
up.
And again, it's just so easy todo.
(12:12):
We all know how to do it but wedon't do it enough and it only
takes seconds to do.
You know, at first it can behard because you know, if you're
not used to practicinggratitude and thinking about all
the things that you have to begrateful for, then it can be
hard to get started.
But when you kind of get intothat practice, you know you can
be grateful for everything and,like you said, it can be super
(12:35):
small, like oh, I'm so gratefulI have this pen or I'm so
grateful I have this mug todrink out of, and you know all
the way up to something big.
You know like I'm I'm glad for,I'm so grateful for the life
that I have, the day that I'mliving, you know things like
that.
But it's really getting intothat practice because you know,
then it helps shift your mindset, it helps put you in a positive
(12:56):
mindset, a positive mood, andagain, you can't grow if you're
not appreciative of where you'reat, you know, really
recognizing that.
You know there might be somethings in your past that you're
not proud of, but that had tohappen in order for you to
become the person that you aretoday.
And so you know, in this personthat you are today, you need to
(13:18):
be grateful for that person,because that's the person that's
going to help you get to thatperson you want to be tomorrow.
Nicole Tuxbury (13:31):
And so so, yeah, I agree with you, gratitude is
is huge.
That's, that's amazing, and Italk about it in my book.
I love talking to people andlike, oh, my book, cause it's
true, like we write out down allour great stuff and so we can
always keep referring back to it.
But one of the things I talkedabout it's like trying to go to
the gym and do like 100 pull-upsLike girl, like you haven't
practiced, you didn't warm up.
Angilie Kapoor (13:49):
If you can't do one, you're not going to be able
to do 100.
Nicole Tuxbury (13:52):
Like it doesn't make sense, right, and then
you're going to defeat it, andit's the same thing with
practicing gratitude.
So, like my recommendation isstart the practice with writing
down three things.
Like there's a huge connectionbetween our brain and writing,
so it's really important towrite.
That's why one of the reasonsthat I incorporate that, like
(14:14):
writing is good for your brain.
You need to do that, butwriting down three things and
eventually they start popping uplike magic, like you're just
walking around and you'll belike, oh, I'm so grateful
there's no traffic today, or I'mso grateful that I don't have
to sit in traffic every day, soI could just jam right now and
just be grateful.
Or even going to work and as aleader at work, as a manager at
work, going in and being I'mgrateful for you, as a team
(14:34):
member, as someone that'sworking for me, and I mean,
imagine how that could shift anentire workplace instead of
going in every day.
And you're like, oh, my God, Ihate everybody that I work with.
They're so dumb, they don't dowhat I tell them.
What if you could just find onething to be grateful for?
You know what?
I'm grateful that you haveamazing hair, anjali, like you
do.
Like that's the first thing Inoticed.
I was like how bouncy and cuteit is, right, you're adorable
(14:55):
and I'm so grateful for that andso yeah, but just it really
does change your patterns, right, your thinking patterns and
your perspective.
Like it totally changed my life.
And, like I said, it's not,it's not a bandaid thing, it's
not going to be healed in oneday.
This is something that we haveto intentionally practice and
(15:17):
think about and when we findourselves like going down those
rabbit holes that you know thethought patterns, and you're
like Whoa, hold up, hold up,let's stop right there and let's
like where are we right now inour body, like what's happening,
you know, telling myself I'msafe, I'm here, right Cause, if
not, I go into those littleanxious patterns and then
(15:37):
focusing on what am I gratefulfor?
So that is just absolutelyamazing.
So, anjali, what is one ofthose like big tips, like your
main tip that you share withyour audience?
Can you give us, like a quicklittle, your best leadership tip
right off the top?
Angilie Kapoor (15:58):
of your head talking about it all this time.
And I think the biggest tip andthe really first step for
anybody who's wanting to reallylead themselves and in their own
lives is becoming aware.
You know, because, again wementioned you know, for me I
didn't know what mindset was andI didn't recognize that I had
these negative things flowingthrough my mind pretty much all
(16:20):
the time until I stopped and Istarted to recognize it and
started to become aware of it.
You know, and to and for me,that started off with me.
I mean, I know it sounds weird,but it started off with me
having this notebook that Icarried around and then, every
time that I would thinksomething or say something, I
would stop and I would think,okay, is this true, is this
(16:42):
something that's productive forme?
You know, what really does thisthought, or me saying this to
myself, what does that do?
What's the effect of it?
And so, you know, for severalmonths I would, you know, walk
around with a notebook and startwriting things down and stuff
like that, but it really startedto create that awareness for me
of, you know, what is it thatI'm saying to myself, what types
(17:05):
of thought patterns andlimiting beliefs do I have that
I'm not even aware of.
And so, yeah, that is my biggesttip for anybody who's wanting
to, you know, really kind ofstart down this road and this
journey of becoming a leader ofthemselves and really starting
to shift their mindset andreally creating a life for
themselves where they don't feellike they're stuck in this
(17:25):
forever hamster wheel and, youknow, life feels like it's
Groundhog Day, where you're justliving the same thing over and
over, you know, and reallyfeeling like you know you're not
passionate, content with yourlife in any way, is really just
start becoming aware of whatthings are going through your
mind, because, again, mindset ishuge and it's so powerful and I
(17:46):
think for a majority of us, itreally does hinder us and
stagnate us and we don't evenrecognize that.
Nicole Tuxbury (17:54):
Yes, that is amazing.
Now, before we sign off, youmentioned that you have some
shows and you have some books,so can you give us a quick tour
of your books behind you, please?
Angilie Kapoor (18:20):
me dabbling with .
You know, can I write a book,what do I want to write a book
on and what the process is andthings like that.
So it's more of an introductionon what mindset is.
So you know, I'm giving you alittle history of you know what
our, what our mindset is, how wedeveloped our mindset, you know
how it can hinder us or help usand things like that.
And then my second book, whichis the yellow one back there and
it also has an accompanyingworkbook, is my second book and
(18:43):
it's called Leader MindsetActivation and it's more about
the methodology that I used formyself as well as I help walk my
clients through that as well,of really first recognizing
where your mindset is at andthen helping you to transition
into the type of mindset thatyou want to have.
And you've mentioned it severaltimes that it's really, you know
(19:03):
, it's really becomingconsistent and intentional and
it's everyday thing.
It's not like you're saying,it's not a bandaid thing, it's
not a one and done type thing.
I mean, I've been doing thisfor several years now and it is
a daily thing and I really tellpeople that it's it's a
lifestyle change.
You know you're going to wantto be doing this for the rest of
your life and not just, youknow, for three months, and then
(19:25):
you're done, and then yourevert back to what you were
doing before.
That's not going to work, youknow.
It's really creating that dailyintention and consistency.
And then the last book overthere is the latest one that
I've been part of.
It's not one that I personallywrote, but it's from Jim Britt,
who is a big thought leader andspeaker and coach.
(19:45):
He's one of the top 25 coachesin the world, I think, and 50
speakers in the world the richcode and I was able to have the
opportunity to write a chapterin his book, along with a few
other authors, and so I'm inthat book and it's endorsed by
Tony Robbins and the forward iswritten by Brian Tracy.
(20:07):
So some pretty, pretty wellknown people there.
So yeah, Very cool.
Nicole Tuxbury (20:11):
That's amazing.
Thank you so much and tell us alittle bit about your shows, oh
yeah, my two TV shows.
Angilie Kapoor (20:19):
So the first one is called unveil your
brilliance, and it's abouthelping women to overcome the
illusions that are holding themback.
So we go through every episode,we go through mindset, breaking
free from conformity and thenlearning some brilliant
strategies to help them.
Do that, and that's on the winwin women TV network and that
airs every Wednesday at 6pm.
Do that, and that's on theWin-Win Women TV Network and
that airs every Wednesday at 6pm Pacific time.
(20:41):
And then my other show iscalled Take the Lead a
Consciousness Movement, andthat's on the E360 TV Network
and that's pretty much foreverybody.
Again, we talk about anything,everything leadership, and again
, that's not just for theworkplace, it's in life as well.
And we make it fun by reallylooking at the parallels of
(21:03):
leadership concepts in parallelto salsa and ballroom dancing,
and so years ago I got thisepiphany that I wanted to do a
TED Talk on that, and so when Igot the opportunity to do a show
, I decided I wanted to exploreit all season.
So that's what we do.
We make it really fun andenergetic.
And, yeah, we've had some greatguests on there, and so we've
(21:25):
talked about some amazing topics.
So, yeah, and that one airsMondays at 6 pm Pacific time.
Nicole Tuxbury (21:32):
Awesome, that is amazing.
Do you have a free gift for theaudience available?
Angilie Kapoor (21:37):
That is amazing.
Do you have a free gift for theaudience available?
Yeah, so we didn't talk aboutit here during this discussion,
but the other thing that I'mreally big on it was the second
kind of shift and transitionthat I made when I first
embarked on my self-awarenessand self-discovery journey is
creating and having anempowering morning routine for
(21:57):
yourself every morning.
And I kind of stumbled on thatwhen I was reading a book at the
time of a journalist who was inthe process of interviewing the
most successful people all overthe world and he was kind of
dumbfounded because they all hadthis one commonality amongst
all 300 of them, and it was theyall mentioned to him that they
have this morning routine thatthey do to help them be
(22:19):
successful with their day.
And so that's when I kind ofdove into.
You know, what is a morningroutine?
What does it consist of?
And so the guide that I have isa free guide.
It's called five tips todesigning or empowering morning
routine and it talks a littlebit about the book that I just
mentioned and kind of the fiveareas that I call your five core
(22:41):
human components, and that'sphysical, mental, emotional,
energetic and spiritual, andreally recognizing that you
really want to, you know, createhealth and balance in those
areas so that you are overallhealthy, you have an overall
healthy well being.
And so, being sure to, you know, do activities in your morning
that really help you to be ableto have balance in those areas,
(23:06):
so that can be meditation,journaling, exercising or
stretching, you know things likethat.
Nicole Tuxbury (23:13):
That's amazing.
Oh, that's awesome, and thelink for that is going to be
down, available in the shownotes, in the comments, wherever
it is that you're watching this.
Um, oh, thank you so much forbeing here.
This has been absolutelyamazing.
Do you have any final tips herebefore we sign off?
Angilie Kapoor (23:28):
yeah, I mean again.
Thank you so much for having meand for allowing me to be here
and so, yeah, I mean, my finalthought for everybody is just
recognize that you know you area unique individual.
There's nobody else on thisplanet like you, and so you know
, really embrace your uniquenessand really embrace you,
(23:49):
discovering who it is that youtruly are, and not what
everybody else is trying to tellyou to be or want you to be.
You know, find that thatindividual, unique person that
you were created to be, and youknow, live the life that you are
really truly meant to live.
Nicole Tuxbury (24:05):
So that's my tip for you.
That's amazing.
Thank you so much.
This has been, like I said,absolutely amazing.
Thank you for joining me andwe'll see you next time.
Have a great rest of the day.
Bye guys, bye, bye.
Popular Podcasts
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.
Dateline NBC
Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations. Follow now to get the latest episodes of Dateline NBC completely free, or subscribe to Dateline Premium for ad-free listening and exclusive bonus content: DatelinePremium.com
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!