December 31, 2024 • 22 mins
Overwhelm steals clarity and joy, leaving you stuck in reactivity. In this episode, I’ll share how to uncover your Heartfelt Priorities and stay focused on what matters most—even when life feels overwhelming. Discover practical steps to turn overwhelm into joy and explore tools like the Gently Rebellious One Minute Journal to help you reconnect with your purpose every day. Find your way back to joy, one minute at a time.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Gentle Rebellion where overwhelm is
optional.
Hello, hello, hello.
Welcome to this week's episodeof the Overwhelm is Optional
podcast, the podcast for bighearted, highly conscientious,
(00:22):
lovely, lovely professionals, myfavourite people in the world.
So this week we're going to betalking about how to turn your
overwhelm into joy.
So I don't know about you, butthis feels like the season for
signing up for workshops,manifesting challenges and
fitness apps.
(00:43):
That's what's leaping out of mefrom Instagram at the moment,
and I just find that quiteamusing.
What am I up to?
Why?
What is this pressure of thistime of year to get fitter and
be better, and oh my goodness.
So, with that in mind, just aquick reminder that I actually
am running my own workshop, butdeliberately on the 5th of
(01:07):
January, so that's when all ofthe pressure of the new year has
gone and faded into the madnessof ridiculous new year's
resolutions that we were nevergoing to keep.
That just add to ouroverwhelming pressure.
When all that's gone, come andlet me hold space for you to
identify what you truly want tobe up to in 2025.
(01:29):
That's on Saturday, the 5th ofJanuary.
If you pop over to my website,you can easily find the link
Heidi Mark at.
Was it heidimarkcouk?
Oh, goodness me.
Yeah, I'm not the professionalcall to action statementer.
You know what I mean.
(01:50):
I'm just me.
Hello, welcome to this week'sepisode.
Let's dive in.
So this is what happens.
We want full lives and we loveour lives.
We love so much, we'reenthusiastic, we're warm, lovely
, generous people, we workreally hard, we've achieved a
lot, and then we gettremendously overwhelmed, to the
(02:13):
point where we can't rememberwhat it was we wanted.
We can't focus on what mattersmost to us.
We thought we had some clarity.
We felt inspired, particularlyat the beginning of the year.
This year I'm going to have morespace for myself, have more
energy, focus on what mattersmost to me, right, and then very
quickly we're back to what wasI doing?
(02:35):
Again, can't see the wood forthe trees.
How do I prioritize?
Forget that.
What's the?
Is it the Eisenhower matrix?
The urgent, important?
Everything's urgent andimportant.
I have no idea what you mean.
How can anything not be urgent,important?
You know what I mean overwhelm.
It's a bit of a pain, right.
So instead of having full lives, we end up with overloaded
(02:57):
lives and it's not very much fun, and then we feel like failures
and we feel like we're not goodenough.
Are you with me?
It's a nonsense, right?
So let's take that with me.
It's a nonsense, right?
So let's take that overwhelmand let's turn it into joy.
Let's just do that, why not?
So what if the overwhelm isjust useful information?
What if it's just telling youthat you're not pointing your
compass in the direction of joy?
(03:18):
And what if there was an easierway?
So this is the method that I'vecome up with during the past few
years and, particularly, havehoned and written into my new
book, which is just about to popout onto Amazon.
It's called the Gently,rebellious One Minute Journal,
and the idea is that you startby identifying what it is that
(03:41):
brings you joy and then you stayfocused on it.
That's it in a nutshell.
So the journal provides both amethod and space to record what
brings you joy, which I callyour heartfelt wish list for the
year, and then to distill itdown into a word of the year,
but just not the normal word ofa year thing.
Obviously not A gentlyrebellious word of a year thing.
(04:04):
Obviously not a gentlyrebellious word of the year.
So a word of the year socourageous and so personal and
so connected to deep within yourheart that you wouldn't even
whisper it to somebody else.
If you can parade it around,then maybe it's not enough for
you.
Maybe it's not deep enough,courageous enough, rebellious
enough.
So this is a secret word, aword that you would only whisper
(04:25):
to yourself, that connects youdeeply with how it is you want
to feel this year, and thenconnecting to that daily in just
a short, one minute morningpractice.
So, yeah, it truly is a oneminute journal, but we're front
loading it by going deep at thebeginning of the year, and the
year does not have to be January.
This is so important.
What is it about this whole?
Oh, it's January.
(04:47):
Yeah, there's energy and wewant to write, to ride the
energy, but personally, I wantto do it without the pressure.
So let's remove the pressure.
Let's just move, move new yearto when you want it.
So that's what I want to talkabout today.
So I just want to go into alittle bit more.
So let's, let's just imaginethat if you really knew what you
(05:09):
wanted and you focused on that,you would have an amazing year.
Let's just imagine that'spossible and then let's make
that possible.
So, instead of thinking I wanttoo much and wanting so much
that you can't hold space for itin your head.
It's all too much, and thenthat's what leads to overwhelm.
So then you downsize yourdreams to get rid of the
(05:31):
overwhelm, which doesn't lead tomore joy, or at least it can
lead to more joy in some ways,because it's like now I've got
space, but it's not who you are.
You want more.
So, instead of that normalcycle, what we're doing is we're
saying okay, what mattersreally to me now?
This is more than the normalthis year.
I'd like blah, blah, blah to bea million times fitter, a
(05:52):
million times more organized, abetter friend like the secret
invisible.
Get better, at least.
This is way past that intogetting out of our heads, into
our hearts, our bodies, askingthe questions deep within us how
do I want to feel?
Because everything we do is inorder to change the way we feel.
(06:13):
So, if we go straight for theend goalpost, how do I want to
feel?
How do I want to move throughthis year?
There's an essence to that, andI found it to be different each
year, which is interesting,isn't it?
Because you think that you'dalways want the same, but I
think you don't, because you'reever expanding and getting
excited about different things,and that's good, right, we want
(06:34):
to be always wanting more, butwe also want to be able to sit
in the joy of what we have now.
So it's the ability to me, it'sthis skill of being able to sit
in the joy of what I've creatednow at the same time as
enjoying the wanting of what I'mgoing for next and and holding
those in a balance so that thepriority, the priority for me,
(06:54):
is joy.
I didn't realize this, Ithought I had other priorities,
and then I went deeper anddeeper and deeper and thought
yeah, it always comes back tojoy, and by joy I mean and it
could mean something else to you, and it's important that you
work out what it means to you,for that that to me, means joy.
My entire being comes alive.
So my heart feels full andexpanded.
(07:16):
My body, every cell in my body,is just filled with joy.
I don't really know how todescribe that.
It's like a bouncy, fullness, adeep satisfaction with life, a
freedom, an ease, a carelessness, in a deeply caring, warm way.
It's a whole mixture of things.
So my question to you would bewhat is it for you?
(07:37):
What is it joy?
Is it something else?
Is it calm?
Is it peace?
What do you want?
What's the feeling now?
I'm calling it joy because Iused to go for from overwhelmed
to ease, but ease doesn't feelenough because I always want
more.
So do my clients.
So from overwhelmed to joy justfeels deliciously expansive, in
(07:57):
whatever way that means to you.
Or call it something else.
So if you ask yourself deepwithin yourself, bypassing your
mind, going deep, allowing thequestions to resonate through
your body, which is what we'llbe doing in the workshop and
it's really nice to have, I findit so much easier if somebody
does this for me than trying todo it on my own.
But you can do it on your ownif you get the journal, or you
(08:19):
can just do it from this videoor this podcast episode.
So what do you want to feel?
How do you want to feel?
What brings you joy?
These are the central questionsto me for the year.
They're the ones that bypassall the others to do with how,
what do I want in terms offitness?
What do I want in terms of worksatisfaction, relationships, my
(08:40):
home?
They're the next layer, right.
So the deepest level is how do Iwant to feel?
What brings me joy, what do Iwant to feel?
How do I want to be movingthrough the year?
And then, knowing that it'soverwhelmed, that blocks well,
blocks both the feelings of joyand expansion and ease, but also
blocks the access to theinformation about what brings
(09:04):
real joy.
And then it becomes, oh, butthat's bugging me.
If I get rid of the thing that'sbugging me, I'll feel better,
and then everything becomes whenthis, then that.
That's how we end up in thatperpetual cycle of doing more in
order to feel better, but neverreaching the end of the to-do
list where there's this goldenpot of ease, because it doesn't
exist, because the truth isthat's their surface level
(09:27):
things.
The deeper thing is, is the, isthe heart going to the heart of
the matter, literally askingthe heart what brings joy and
going for that straight away,regardless, and then out of that
will come the, the practicalsteps.
So we're going really deep andthis, the, the problem I'm
(09:49):
trying to solve here, this, theoverwhelm, is that really
annoying scattering of attentionand energy.
So when you end up with withthis constant feeling like
everything feels urgentlyimportant, I can't see the wood
for the trees.
I, when you lose your abilities,prioritize that.
That's it right.
(10:09):
That's that massive frustration.
It's like I know what I'mtrying to do but I just can't do
it.
I keep getting distracted.
Everything else is taking myattention, which leads to real
resentment, I think, andbitterness and snappiness and
anger because, quite, quiteobviously, because you're not
(10:31):
doing what brings you joy.
So it's just, that's a reallyuseful bit of information, but
it's really unpleasant.
So imagine that we can just stopgoing around in that circle of
doing more in order to feelsomething.
Instead, feel the feeling now,then work out what steps would
(10:53):
bring more of it.
Can you see?
We're turning it upside down.
We're breaking that age-oldcycle.
We're gently but firmlyrebelling against the idea that
you have to work harder and getmore done to feel safe, grounded
at ease, calm and have spacefor joy.
We're finding we're connectingto the joy first and then, from
(11:14):
there, deciding how toprioritize.
We're turning it completely onits head.
So this also, by doing this, ifyou, if you can have a structure
.
So once we've got the, this iswhat I want to feel.
It also enables us to breakthat reactivity which is linked
(11:34):
to that.
Everything feels urgent andimportant because once you
recognize oh, I'm in thateverything feels like a priority
, whereas clearly not everythingcan be a priority.
Oh, I'm overwhelmed.
Oh, now I'm going to check myheartfelt priority list.
Can you see?
It's a, it's a ability, it's a,it's a higher level skill
(11:55):
structure, practicality toolthing to help you break that
even more.
So this is both aiming higher.
We're aiming straight for joy,not just for ease Look at me.
Not just for ease.
Yeah, not just for ease.
You want more, right, you wantjoy as well.
And we're going for even morepractical steps.
(12:16):
So this, for me, is I've beenquite surprised, actually,
because it took me six versionsof this journal to write and I
just thought it was going to bemore of a, more of the same as
in, not more of the same as in.
Oh, that's so boring.
I mean more of the same as in.
I had it, I'd written out thegentle rebel way.
I knew where I was and insteadthis hot, this whole new kind of
(12:38):
even higher level way of movingthrough my year has come to me
and I love it.
I'm really excited about it.
I'm not entirely sure I'mexplaining it brilliantly.
Please go and check out thejournal when it comes out on
Amazon.
I'm waiting to get my copy.
It's about to be released,about to to be released.
They're just checking it.
It explains it really clearlyin that.
(13:00):
But let's let me see if I canmake myself clearer.
I expect I'm sounding clearerthan I think.
I'm always speaking my way toclarity when I record a podcast
episode, which is why I don'tknow why I think it's popular
and connective.
Right, because I'm not readinga script.
Yeah, I've got notes in frontof me.
I'm not reading a script.
(13:21):
I'm literally speaking my wayto clarity.
I'm sharing what I'm finding atthe cutting edge of the gentle
rebellion.
I'm blazing, quietly, blazingmy own trail and sharing with
you what I'm discovering on theway.
I'm blazing, quietly, blazingmy own trail and sharing with
you what I'm discovering on theway.
So I hope that resonates, bearwith me here.
So the problem is this, to me,is the biggest problem we can't
(13:51):
stay focused on what mattersmost to us and that causes us
pain.
That's what's draining us,that's what's frustrating,
that's what's irritating,irritating us, that's what makes
us snappy and grumpy.
We just want to stay focused onwhat matters most to us and
then we spend times of the year,particularly this time of the
year.
I'm recording this on the 31stof December 2024.
Particularly this time of year,we tend to do some work or
allow space to find what mattersmost to us, and then we lose it
(14:15):
.
And this was driving me mad,because this happens to me as
well.
I get really excited.
I know what I'm doing, I set mycompass and then I find that I'm
doing other things.
And it's not that the otherthings are bad.
The other thing is all good,but there are so many good
things in life that if I have ascattergun approach, I find it
unsatisfying.
I don't want to do everything,but there are some things that
(14:36):
matter more to me.
If I have a scattergun approach, I find it unsatisfying.
I don't want to do everything,but there are some things that
matter more to me.
If I've identified them, I wanta way to keep my mind focused
on them, and that's what I'vebeen up to, and that's what this
new work is that's coming outof the Gentle Rebellion right
now.
So, number one identify whatmatters most to you.
Get out of your head into yourbody.
(14:59):
Ask those, those questions.
How do I want to feel?
Based on the idea thateverything you do is to change
how you feel.
Work out what the feeling isthat you want whether that's
safety, ease, calm, joy,whatever it is identify the
essence of that.
Then from there you can startallowing lists to come out.
So I will end up with lists ofthings I want to do to the house
(15:20):
, things I want to do to lookafter myself better, things I
want to do in terms of trips,time I want to spend with
different people, books, I wantto write podcast episodes you
know my work stuff and then Iwill end up with lots of lists
and that will be the kind ofcapture, the capturing of ah,
(15:42):
this is what's important to me,but it'll all be in line with
this feeling that I want.
And if something's out of linewith that feeling, it will be
easier for me to work outwhether it's genuinely deserving
of a place on my very preciousand important heartfelt wish
list for the year.
Now, I did this last year.
It worked really, really welland I and then from there,
(16:06):
anytime I'm like, what am I upto?
Again, I can check back with myheartfelt wishlist and know is
it in line with this or not?
Am I adding more into my yearunnecessarily, because I don't
need to add more in to feel joy,to feel the joy and ease I want
, I need to focus on what I'vealready identified.
It's the constantre-identifying, the re, those
(16:30):
feelings of like oh, I've gotclarity again, oh, it's gone.
You know, it's like washing awindow and then the window gets
dirty, can't see out, and thenyou wash it again.
Oh it's sunshine out there, andthen it gets dirty again.
You're like what am I doing?
Keep washing windows.
It's that, it's that.
Oh, I've got clarity on what Iwant.
I've lost it.
Oh, I've got inspired action,I've lost it.
This is about recording it insuch a way that you can stay
(16:54):
focused on it.
So when I get my copy and I ambuying my own copy of my own
journal because I it's what itwill work, because I've tested
it last year, it's reallypractical, I'm really proud of
it.
Please go and check it out, seeif it's for you.
Um, I will have a page where myheartfelt wish list is for the
(17:15):
year and that will guide methrough the whole year.
I can just pick up and go am Iin line or am I going off,
getting excited and overwhelmedbecause it's one or the other?
And that doesn't mean I can'tedit it.
Of course, it's my life, it'syour life, do what you want.
But I just felt the need for usto have a structure for our
minds where we can just go look,mind, it's already decided.
(17:39):
You don't need to overthink,you don't need to overanalyze,
you don't need to re-decide,it's already here, there,
remember, remember, remember.
And then I've broken that downinto checking in with heartfelt
priorities.
You take the heartfelt wishlist, break it down to heartfelt
priorities which are thepractical steps to make the
wishes come true, and then youbreak that down, you check in
(18:02):
with that every month and thenyou check in that with that
every week.
So you're breaking it down fromthe wish for the year, which
has an overall essence which iscaptured in a very deeply
powerful, secret word of theyear very courageous, heartfelt,
personal to you, the essence ofwhich you can feel in your body
(18:23):
every morning and that willguide you through your day.
That's how you want to feel,move through your day.
That's who you want to be.
And then you're breaking downyour heartfelt wish list, which
is the goals which I write asdone.
So I am, or I have blah, blah,blah, present tense.
So my subconscious knows it'sreal, it's becoming, and then
(18:46):
the practical steps are yourmonthly heartfelt priorities and
then your weekly heartfeltpriorities and then each day.
All you then have to do ischeck in with that word of the
year, which is a feeling.
It's not a word.
It's the essence of how youwant to feel that year, whatever
joy ease means to you.
That's my method, that's whatI'm, that's what I'm up to this
(19:09):
year.
Stay tuned for more.
Let's see what we can createtogether.
If you want me to hold space foryou and guide you into your
heartfelt wish list, please joinme on the 5th of January.
If you catch this episode intime, I'd love you to be part of
the amazing group of people whoare gathering.
(19:31):
Go to my website,heidiemarkcouk, to find the link
, easy to find, and the journalwill be on Amazon and you can
use that start.
It's not dated.
Use it starting any point inthe year, and that gives you
your mind a practical structureto keep you focused on what
matters most to you.
(19:52):
Because what happens when youfocus on what matters most to
you?
How good do you feel?
Don't you want to feel thatmore?
So, really, that's it right.
Identify what matters most toyou, truly, deeply, courageously
, rebelliously, and then stayfocused on it.
That seems to work.
(20:14):
Overwhelm joy.
Turn your overwhelm into joy.
Love to know what you think ofmy new method, my new thoughts
or my latest collated thoughts.
Right from the cutting edge ofthis gender rebellion, I'm on
blazing my own trail quietlyover here.
I'd love to know your thoughts.
(20:34):
I hope you found this helpful.
I hope you'll join me at theworkshop if you catch this in
time and you can make it, and Ihope that you buy the journal,
use it and it literallytransforms your overwhelm into
joy.
Any comments?
Please get in touch.
Leave below.
Thank you so much for watching.
See you next time.
For more resources to help yougently rebel, please visit my
(21:17):
website wwwheidymarkcouk.
Hello, it's me with a quickcommercial break.
Oh, it's funny doing commercialbreaks for your own podcast.
On Sunday, the 5th of January,purposely time to be post the
new year crazy.
I'm going to change my wholelife and make it so much better.
New year's resolutions nonsense.
(21:38):
I'm inviting you instead tohang out with me and the
wonderful group of people whoare gathering to start the new
year in a more effective andintentional way, by reviewing
last year and then setting yourheartfelt priorities for 2025.
(22:01):
And then I'm going to give youways to help you stay focused on
what matters most to you, onceyou've identified that, holding
space for you to do this is apleasure and a privilege.
It's something I do most turn ofthe year times.
I didn't do one last year orthe year before.
(22:22):
This one is free.
Sometimes this is paid.
It's well worth paying for.
Please, if this calls for you,come and join me.
I'd so love to meet you.
I'd so love to have you there.
It would just be joyful andwonderful to meet you.
So just pop over to my website,heidimarkcouk, and click on the
(22:44):
banner at the top to reserveyour spot, or, obviously, you
can click on the link in theshow notes below.
See you there.
Welcome to the Gentle Rebellion where overwhelm is
optional.
Hello, hello, hello.
Welcome to this week's episodeof the Overwhelm is Optional
podcast, the podcast for bighearted, highly conscientious,
(00:22):
lovely, lovely professionals, myfavourite people in the world.
So this week we're going to betalking about how to turn your
overwhelm into joy.
So I don't know about you, butthis feels like the season for
signing up for workshops,manifesting challenges and
fitness apps.
(00:43):
That's what's leaping out of mefrom Instagram at the moment,
and I just find that quiteamusing.
What am I up to?
Why?
What is this pressure of thistime of year to get fitter and
be better, and oh my goodness.
So, with that in mind, just aquick reminder that I actually
am running my own workshop, butdeliberately on the 5th of
(01:07):
January, so that's when all ofthe pressure of the new year has
gone and faded into the madnessof ridiculous new year's
resolutions that we were nevergoing to keep.
That just add to ouroverwhelming pressure.
When all that's gone, come andlet me hold space for you to
identify what you truly want tobe up to in 2025.
(01:29):
That's on Saturday, the 5th ofJanuary.
If you pop over to my website,you can easily find the link
Heidi Mark at.
Was it heidimarkcouk?
Oh, goodness me.
Yeah, I'm not the professionalcall to action statementer.
You know what I mean.
(01:50):
I'm just me.
Hello, welcome to this week'sepisode.
Let's dive in.
So this is what happens.
We want full lives and we loveour lives.
We love so much, we'reenthusiastic, we're warm, lovely
, generous people, we workreally hard, we've achieved a
lot, and then we gettremendously overwhelmed, to the
(02:13):
point where we can't rememberwhat it was we wanted.
We can't focus on what mattersmost to us.
We thought we had some clarity.
We felt inspired, particularlyat the beginning of the year.
This year I'm going to have morespace for myself, have more
energy, focus on what mattersmost to me, right, and then very
quickly we're back to what wasI doing?
(02:35):
Again, can't see the wood forthe trees.
How do I prioritize?
Forget that.
What's the?
Is it the Eisenhower matrix?
The urgent, important?
Everything's urgent andimportant.
I have no idea what you mean.
How can anything not be urgent,important?
You know what I mean overwhelm.
It's a bit of a pain, right.
So instead of having full lives, we end up with overloaded
(02:57):
lives and it's not very much fun, and then we feel like failures
and we feel like we're not goodenough.
Are you with me?
It's a nonsense, right?
So let's take that with me.
It's a nonsense, right?
So let's take that overwhelmand let's turn it into joy.
Let's just do that, why not?
So what if the overwhelm isjust useful information?
What if it's just telling youthat you're not pointing your
compass in the direction of joy?
(03:18):
And what if there was an easierway?
So this is the method that I'vecome up with during the past few
years and, particularly, havehoned and written into my new
book, which is just about to popout onto Amazon.
It's called the Gently,rebellious One Minute Journal,
and the idea is that you startby identifying what it is that
(03:41):
brings you joy and then you stayfocused on it.
That's it in a nutshell.
So the journal provides both amethod and space to record what
brings you joy, which I callyour heartfelt wish list for the
year, and then to distill itdown into a word of the year,
but just not the normal word ofa year thing.
Obviously not A gentlyrebellious word of a year thing.
(04:04):
Obviously not a gentlyrebellious word of the year.
So a word of the year socourageous and so personal and
so connected to deep within yourheart that you wouldn't even
whisper it to somebody else.
If you can parade it around,then maybe it's not enough for
you.
Maybe it's not deep enough,courageous enough, rebellious
enough.
So this is a secret word, aword that you would only whisper
(04:25):
to yourself, that connects youdeeply with how it is you want
to feel this year, and thenconnecting to that daily in just
a short, one minute morningpractice.
So, yeah, it truly is a oneminute journal, but we're front
loading it by going deep at thebeginning of the year, and the
year does not have to be January.
This is so important.
What is it about this whole?
Oh, it's January.
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Yeah, there's energy and wewant to write, to ride the
energy, but personally, I wantto do it without the pressure.
So let's remove the pressure.
Let's just move, move new yearto when you want it.
So that's what I want to talkabout today.
So I just want to go into alittle bit more.
So let's, let's just imaginethat if you really knew what you
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wanted and you focused on that,you would have an amazing year.
Let's just imagine that'spossible and then let's make
that possible.
So, instead of thinking I wanttoo much and wanting so much
that you can't hold space for itin your head.
It's all too much, and thenthat's what leads to overwhelm.
So then you downsize yourdreams to get rid of the
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overwhelm, which doesn't lead tomore joy, or at least it can
lead to more joy in some ways,because it's like now I've got
space, but it's not who you are.
You want more.
So, instead of that normalcycle, what we're doing is we're
saying okay, what mattersreally to me now?
This is more than the normalthis year.
I'd like blah, blah, blah to bea million times fitter, a
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million times more organized, abetter friend like the secret
invisible.
Get better, at least.
This is way past that intogetting out of our heads, into
our hearts, our bodies, askingthe questions deep within us how
do I want to feel?
Because everything we do is inorder to change the way we feel.
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So, if we go straight for theend goalpost, how do I want to
feel?
How do I want to move throughthis year?
There's an essence to that, andI found it to be different each
year, which is interesting,isn't it?
Because you think that you'dalways want the same, but I
think you don't, because you'reever expanding and getting
excited about different things,and that's good, right, we want
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to be always wanting more, butwe also want to be able to sit
in the joy of what we have now.
So it's the ability to me, it'sthis skill of being able to sit
in the joy of what I've creatednow at the same time as
enjoying the wanting of what I'mgoing for next and and holding
those in a balance so that thepriority, the priority for me,
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is joy.
I didn't realize this, Ithought I had other priorities,
and then I went deeper anddeeper and deeper and thought
yeah, it always comes back tojoy, and by joy I mean and it
could mean something else to you, and it's important that you
work out what it means to you,for that that to me, means joy.
My entire being comes alive.
So my heart feels full andexpanded.
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My body, every cell in my body,is just filled with joy.
I don't really know how todescribe that.
It's like a bouncy, fullness, adeep satisfaction with life, a
freedom, an ease, a carelessness, in a deeply caring, warm way.
It's a whole mixture of things.
So my question to you would bewhat is it for you?
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What is it joy?
Is it something else?
Is it calm?
Is it peace?
What do you want?
What's the feeling now?
I'm calling it joy because Iused to go for from overwhelmed
to ease, but ease doesn't feelenough because I always want
more.
So do my clients.
So from overwhelmed to joy justfeels deliciously expansive, in
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whatever way that means to you.
Or call it something else.
So if you ask yourself deepwithin yourself, bypassing your
mind, going deep, allowing thequestions to resonate through
your body, which is what we'llbe doing in the workshop and
it's really nice to have, I findit so much easier if somebody
does this for me than trying todo it on my own.
But you can do it on your ownif you get the journal, or you
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can just do it from this videoor this podcast episode.
So what do you want to feel?
How do you want to feel?
What brings you joy?
These are the central questionsto me for the year.
They're the ones that bypassall the others to do with how,
what do I want in terms offitness?
What do I want in terms of worksatisfaction, relationships, my
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home?
They're the next layer, right.
So the deepest level is how do Iwant to feel?
What brings me joy, what do Iwant to feel?
How do I want to be movingthrough the year?
And then, knowing that it'soverwhelmed, that blocks well,
blocks both the feelings of joyand expansion and ease, but also
blocks the access to theinformation about what brings
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real joy.
And then it becomes, oh, butthat's bugging me.
If I get rid of the thing that'sbugging me, I'll feel better,
and then everything becomes whenthis, then that.
That's how we end up in thatperpetual cycle of doing more in
order to feel better, but neverreaching the end of the to-do
list where there's this goldenpot of ease, because it doesn't
exist, because the truth isthat's their surface level
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things.
The deeper thing is, is the, isthe heart going to the heart of
the matter, literally askingthe heart what brings joy and
going for that straight away,regardless, and then out of that
will come the, the practicalsteps.
So we're going really deep andthis, the, the problem I'm
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trying to solve here, this, theoverwhelm, is that really
annoying scattering of attentionand energy.
So when you end up with withthis constant feeling like
everything feels urgentlyimportant, I can't see the wood
for the trees.
I, when you lose your abilities,prioritize that.
That's it right.
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That's that massive frustration.
It's like I know what I'mtrying to do but I just can't do
it.
I keep getting distracted.
Everything else is taking myattention, which leads to real
resentment, I think, andbitterness and snappiness and
anger because, quite, quiteobviously, because you're not
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doing what brings you joy.
So it's just, that's a reallyuseful bit of information, but
it's really unpleasant.
So imagine that we can just stopgoing around in that circle of
doing more in order to feelsomething.
Instead, feel the feeling now,then work out what steps would
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bring more of it.
Can you see?
We're turning it upside down.
We're breaking that age-oldcycle.
We're gently but firmlyrebelling against the idea that
you have to work harder and getmore done to feel safe, grounded
at ease, calm and have spacefor joy.
We're finding we're connectingto the joy first and then, from
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there, deciding how toprioritize.
We're turning it completely onits head.
So this also, by doing this, ifyou, if you can have a structure
.
So once we've got the, this iswhat I want to feel.
It also enables us to breakthat reactivity which is linked
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to that.
Everything feels urgent andimportant because once you
recognize oh, I'm in thateverything feels like a priority
, whereas clearly not everythingcan be a priority.
Oh, I'm overwhelmed.
Oh, now I'm going to check myheartfelt priority list.
Can you see?
It's a, it's a ability, it's a,it's a higher level skill
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structure, practicality toolthing to help you break that
even more.
So this is both aiming higher.
We're aiming straight for joy,not just for ease Look at me.
Not just for ease.
Yeah, not just for ease.
You want more, right, you wantjoy as well.
And we're going for even morepractical steps.
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So this, for me, is I've beenquite surprised, actually,
because it took me six versionsof this journal to write and I
just thought it was going to bemore of a, more of the same as
in, not more of the same as in.
Oh, that's so boring.
I mean more of the same as in.
I had it, I'd written out thegentle rebel way.
I knew where I was and insteadthis hot, this whole new kind of
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even higher level way of movingthrough my year has come to me
and I love it.
I'm really excited about it.
I'm not entirely sure I'mexplaining it brilliantly.
Please go and check out thejournal when it comes out on
Amazon.
I'm waiting to get my copy.
It's about to be released,about to to be released.
They're just checking it.
It explains it really clearlyin that.
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But let's let me see if I canmake myself clearer.
I expect I'm sounding clearerthan I think.
I'm always speaking my way toclarity when I record a podcast
episode, which is why I don'tknow why I think it's popular
and connective.
Right, because I'm not readinga script.
Yeah, I've got notes in frontof me.
I'm not reading a script.
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I'm literally speaking my wayto clarity.
I'm sharing what I'm finding atthe cutting edge of the gentle
rebellion.
I'm blazing, quietly, blazingmy own trail and sharing with
you what I'm discovering on theway.
I'm blazing, quietly, blazingmy own trail and sharing with
you what I'm discovering on theway.
So I hope that resonates, bearwith me here.
So the problem is this, to me,is the biggest problem we can't
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stay focused on what mattersmost to us and that causes us
pain.
That's what's draining us,that's what's frustrating,
that's what's irritating,irritating us, that's what makes
us snappy and grumpy.
We just want to stay focused onwhat matters most to us and
then we spend times of the year,particularly this time of the
year.
I'm recording this on the 31stof December 2024.
Particularly this time of year,we tend to do some work or
allow space to find what mattersmost to us, and then we lose it
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.
And this was driving me mad,because this happens to me as
well.
I get really excited.
I know what I'm doing, I set mycompass and then I find that I'm
doing other things.
And it's not that the otherthings are bad.
The other thing is all good,but there are so many good
things in life that if I have ascattergun approach, I find it
unsatisfying.
I don't want to do everything,but there are some things that
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matter more to me.
If I have a scattergun approach, I find it unsatisfying.
I don't want to do everything,but there are some things that
matter more to me.
If I've identified them, I wanta way to keep my mind focused
on them, and that's what I'vebeen up to, and that's what this
new work is that's coming outof the Gentle Rebellion right
now.
So, number one identify whatmatters most to you.
Get out of your head into yourbody.
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Ask those, those questions.
How do I want to feel?
Based on the idea thateverything you do is to change
how you feel.
Work out what the feeling isthat you want whether that's
safety, ease, calm, joy,whatever it is identify the
essence of that.
Then from there you can startallowing lists to come out.
So I will end up with lists ofthings I want to do to the house
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, things I want to do to lookafter myself better, things I
want to do in terms of trips,time I want to spend with
different people, books, I wantto write podcast episodes you
know my work stuff and then Iwill end up with lots of lists
and that will be the kind ofcapture, the capturing of ah,
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this is what's important to me,but it'll all be in line with
this feeling that I want.
And if something's out of linewith that feeling, it will be
easier for me to work outwhether it's genuinely deserving
of a place on my very preciousand important heartfelt wish
list for the year.
Now, I did this last year.
It worked really, really welland I and then from there,
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anytime I'm like, what am I upto?
Again, I can check back with myheartfelt wishlist and know is
it in line with this or not?
Am I adding more into my yearunnecessarily, because I don't
need to add more in to feel joy,to feel the joy and ease I want
, I need to focus on what I'vealready identified.
It's the constantre-identifying, the re, those
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feelings of like oh, I've gotclarity again, oh, it's gone.
You know, it's like washing awindow and then the window gets
dirty, can't see out, and thenyou wash it again.
Oh it's sunshine out there, andthen it gets dirty again.
You're like what am I doing?
Keep washing windows.
It's that, it's that.
Oh, I've got clarity on what Iwant.
I've lost it.
Oh, I've got inspired action,I've lost it.
This is about recording it insuch a way that you can stay
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focused on it.
So when I get my copy and I ambuying my own copy of my own
journal because I it's what itwill work, because I've tested
it last year, it's reallypractical, I'm really proud of
it.
Please go and check it out, seeif it's for you.
Um, I will have a page where myheartfelt wish list is for the
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year and that will guide methrough the whole year.
I can just pick up and go am Iin line or am I going off,
getting excited and overwhelmedbecause it's one or the other?
And that doesn't mean I can'tedit it.
Of course, it's my life, it'syour life, do what you want.
But I just felt the need for usto have a structure for our
minds where we can just go look,mind, it's already decided.
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You don't need to overthink,you don't need to overanalyze,
you don't need to re-decide,it's already here, there,
remember, remember, remember.
And then I've broken that downinto checking in with heartfelt
priorities.
You take the heartfelt wishlist, break it down to heartfelt
priorities which are thepractical steps to make the
wishes come true, and then youbreak that down, you check in
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with that every month and thenyou check in that with that
every week.
So you're breaking it down fromthe wish for the year, which
has an overall essence which iscaptured in a very deeply
powerful, secret word of theyear very courageous, heartfelt,
personal to you, the essence ofwhich you can feel in your body
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every morning and that willguide you through your day.
That's how you want to feel,move through your day.
That's who you want to be.
And then you're breaking downyour heartfelt wish list, which
is the goals which I write asdone.
So I am, or I have blah, blah,blah, present tense.
So my subconscious knows it'sreal, it's becoming, and then
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the practical steps are yourmonthly heartfelt priorities and
then your weekly heartfeltpriorities and then each day.
All you then have to do ischeck in with that word of the
year, which is a feeling.
It's not a word.
It's the essence of how youwant to feel that year, whatever
joy ease means to you.
That's my method, that's whatI'm, that's what I'm up to this
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year.
Stay tuned for more.
Let's see what we can createtogether.
If you want me to hold space foryou and guide you into your
heartfelt wish list, please joinme on the 5th of January.
If you catch this episode intime, I'd love you to be part of
the amazing group of people whoare gathering.
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Go to my website,heidiemarkcouk, to find the link
, easy to find, and the journalwill be on Amazon and you can
use that start.
It's not dated.
Use it starting any point inthe year, and that gives you
your mind a practical structureto keep you focused on what
matters most to you.
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Because what happens when youfocus on what matters most to
you?
How good do you feel?
Don't you want to feel thatmore?
So, really, that's it right.
Identify what matters most toyou, truly, deeply, courageously
, rebelliously, and then stayfocused on it.
That seems to work.
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Overwhelm joy.
Turn your overwhelm into joy.
Love to know what you think ofmy new method, my new thoughts
or my latest collated thoughts.
Right from the cutting edge ofthis gender rebellion, I'm on
blazing my own trail quietlyover here.
I'd love to know your thoughts.
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I hope you found this helpful.
I hope you'll join me at theworkshop if you catch this in
time and you can make it, and Ihope that you buy the journal,
use it and it literallytransforms your overwhelm into
joy.
Any comments?
Please get in touch.
Leave below.
Thank you so much for watching.
See you next time.
For more resources to help yougently rebel, please visit my
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website wwwheidymarkcouk.
Hello, it's me with a quickcommercial break.
Oh, it's funny doing commercialbreaks for your own podcast.
On Sunday, the 5th of January,purposely time to be post the
new year crazy.
I'm going to change my wholelife and make it so much better.
New year's resolutions nonsense.
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I'm inviting you instead tohang out with me and the
wonderful group of people whoare gathering to start the new
year in a more effective andintentional way, by reviewing
last year and then setting yourheartfelt priorities for 2025.
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And then I'm going to give youways to help you stay focused on
what matters most to you, onceyou've identified that, holding
space for you to do this is apleasure and a privilege.
It's something I do most turn ofthe year times.
I didn't do one last year orthe year before.
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This one is free.
Sometimes this is paid.
It's well worth paying for.
Please, if this calls for you,come and join me.
I'd so love to meet you.
I'd so love to have you there.
It would just be joyful andwonderful to meet you.
So just pop over to my website,heidimarkcouk, and click on the
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banner at the top to reserveyour spot, or, obviously, you
can click on the link in theshow notes below.
See you there.
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