June 3, 2024 • 23 mins
Ever wondered how a simple shift could reignite your passion? This episode of Pep Talk unveils the thrilling start to Season 3, where I share the journey of transforming "Pep Talk Podcast" into "Pep Talk," reflecting our mission to give you that essential weekly boost. I will recap my own hurdles and victories, exploring how a supportive community and honest conversations with loved ones can anchor us through the storms of self-doubt and imposter syndrome.
Season 2's challenges with statistical growth took a toll, but I've emerged stronger and more committed than ever. This chapter is a heartfelt recount of those struggles and the small steps that fueled my growth. Join me in this candid narrative where we emphasize the power of community in overcoming personal battles. Your feedback and topic suggestions are invaluable as we embark on this journey together.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
When's the last time you had a pep talk?
Pep talk, pep talk, yo.
When's the last time you had apep talk?
Has it been a minute?
That's okay, you're in theright place.
I've got you.
Welcome to pep talk.
Let's get it, yo.
(00:24):
What is up out there, pep Squad, how you doing?
Welcome to Pep Talk with yourhost, coach J, life Coach in
Dallas-Fort Worth, and thispodcast signals the beginning of
Season 3.
It's been a minute.
I've been in the basement forabout two months just enjoying
(00:46):
life.
Life's been busy, closing outanother school year, lots of
cool stuff happening, but Imissed y'all.
I missed you and I'm glad to beback here with you.
Welcome to Pep Talk, thepodcast that cheers you on and
coaches you up.
If this is your first timelistening, the belief of this
(01:08):
podcast is simple.
I believe that everybody needsa cheerleader to encourage them
and tell them how great they are, but we also need a coach
that's going to help us toelevate and begin to turn that
potential and move it towards aproductive purpose.
And so I'm your boy.
I'm your boy for that.
And this is season three, y'all.
(01:29):
We have two seasons in thebooks, approximately somewhere
between 64 to 65 episodes, andyo we've been rocking and we've
been rolling and, like I said, Itook a break toward the middle
part of April and I've just kindof been enjoying life, just
enjoying life, enjoying thefamily, and just thinking about
(01:52):
the podcast and what I wanted todo with it.
And so in this first episode Iwant to talk about kind of
what's been happening with mewith life and what's going to be
different about the podcast aswe move forth.
Now the big thing that you'regoing to notice is I no longer
refer to the podcast as the PepTalk podcast.
(02:14):
I thought that Pep Talk podcast,while it kind of rolls off of
the tongue, I really like it.
But I also like the idea that Imean, y'all are tuning in.
You know that this is not, youknow, a song.
This is not a music video.
This is not first take withStephen A Smith and Shannon
Sharp.
It's a podcast.
So you know, if you're tuningin on Apple Podcasts, spotify,
(02:36):
wherever you're listening, youknow it's a podcast.
So I don't think that I neededthe podcast at the end because
you're coming for the pep talk,right.
And so I thought that pep talk,rebranding the podcast just as
simply pep talk.
It gets right to the purpose ofwhat we're doing, the heart of
the matter, what we're trying toaccomplish with this endeavor.
(02:58):
We're trying to give you a pep,a pep talk to get you through
the week, to give you some placeto run so that when you're out
there living life, you'recrushing your dreams, you're
crushing your goals, or maybeyou're not.
Maybe life is hard for you inthe moment.
You still have something in theback of your mind, something in
your toolbox that you can useto make it through the remainder
(03:19):
of your week, and so that'swhat we're trying to provide
that pep for you.
So it's no longer the pep talkpodcast, it's pep talk, a
podcast that cheers you on andcoaches you up.
You'll also notice that ourintro music is different.
Y'all I know so many of y'allout there messaged in saying how
much you all really vibed tothe old intro intro music.
(03:44):
I hope that you all will vibeto this one equally.
I like it.
I'm doing my chair dance asit's going.
You know it's a little bit morehip-hop-ish, uh, which I I love
, and I love a lot of differentmusical influences.
So I can't say that this is thelast time that the music is
going to change.
But for right now, we're goingto rock with this one and I hope
, hope that you all can rockwith it.
(04:05):
I think it's fire.
I hope you think it's fire, allright.
So we've talked about the name,we've talked about the change
in the music.
Now, this season, in the podcast, I am going to be incorporating
mindset strategies, but I'malso going to be incorporating
(04:26):
more of my faith into thispodcast.
I'm going to talk more about mylife, of faith, my failures in
it, how it's impacted my mindsetand things of that nature.
I'm gonna bring in a lot ofdifferent guests, not just from
motivational spaces and mindsetspaces, but I'm trying to
(04:48):
broaden our horizons because Ibelieve that, no matter the
sphere of influence, no matterwhat category of life someone's
living in, I believe thateverybody has something that is
motivational.
I believe that everybody has apep talk inside of them.
And so, as I begin looking forguests and reaching out to
(05:08):
guests who've already let meknow that they wanted to come on
, my aim is to really give youall of me first two seasons.
But also, as I was thinking andlistening back to the episodes,
I think that there was somereally impactful avenues for me
(05:31):
to integrate my faith into thepodcast and now listen.
I understand that everybody wholistens to this podcast may not
be a Christian, may not believein God, may not believe in
anything.
You may be atheist or agnostic,whatever it is.
Believe in God May not believein anything.
You may be atheist or agnostic,whatever it is.
This is still the podcast thatis inclusive.
I still want you to listen.
You are still a member of thepep squad, but in our quest to
(05:53):
be more authentic and to just bemore Just, more of me, because
I've talked about my faith a lotin different episodes and I'm
not going to preach to you.
I'm not going to come everypodcast giving you a chapter and
a scripture and a verse, but Idon't want you looking at your
(06:16):
podcast crazy when I starttalking about my faith and
talking about biblicalreferences that are helping me
through various points in mylife.
I believe that's important.
I really do, and you know if mesharing more of my faith and
being more transparent in thatvein, if that helps you, if that
encourages you, hey, I thinkthat's great because, truth be
(06:40):
told y'all, I am a former pastor.
My wife and I served on apastoral staff for a church for
a long time in Joplin, missouri,and so that is an important
part of my life and I want tostart bringing more of that into
the podcast space.
So, you know, just keeplistening, keep rocking, keep
(07:01):
rolling, and I need y'all to letme know what you like and what
you don't like as far as thecontent for this season and if
there are topics that you lovedfrom the past two seasons that
you want us to dig more into, Iwant to hear from you.
Hit me up at thepeppodcast, atgmailcom, or hit me up on IG at
underscore JBSpeaks.
I am contemplating starting anInstagram account for the
(07:26):
podcast.
I just don't know.
I don't know.
I know last season I tried todo a Facebook group that I may
resurrect.
I'm not sure about that.
Listen, at this point everyoption is on the table and
there's gonna be some tinkeringhere and there as we're going
through this, but yo, it's thesame heart, y'all.
(07:49):
It's the same motivation, it'sthe same energy, it's the same.
Coach Jay, I am rooting for youas much as I ever have.
I want to see you become thebest possible version of
yourself and I want to play justa very small, small role in
helping you get there, to helpyou become unlocked.
(08:09):
Now, what has been happening tome?
Well, let's see, I did a sampleepisode on Mother's Day and I
just kind of talked aboutmothers and I talked about the
fact that I'd been in therapy,and I think I alluded to that
fact as we closed out season two, that I was going to be in
(08:31):
therapy.
Now I view therapy so muchdifferent than I did prior.
My wife had tried to get me togo to therapy countless times
and I just, you know I wasn'tagainst therapists, but I also,
you know, wasn't in favor,because I had this opinion that
I think, you know, if you poll alot of people who don't go to
(08:53):
therapy or people who don'tbelieve in therapy, they
probably say the same thing Ican do it on my own and I'm one
of those people whoself-therapizes.
I think I'm really meta when itcomes to myself and my mental
processes and my emotions andall of that things.
I think about those things allof the time, and so I thought
(09:16):
honestly that no therapist coulddo what I could do for myself.
Yet when I looked at my lifeand I've said this on the
podcast several times successleaves clues, but so does
failure.
And, as I looked at my life,there were so many things that I
(09:36):
could honestly say I know this,but I didn't have the fruit to
bear it out.
This, but I didn't have thefruit to bear it out.
Right, I'm planting apples, butapples are not sprouting.
Oranges are sprouting orpineapples are sprouting, and so
(09:57):
as I looked at my life and Icould see that my fruit was not
indicating that I actually knewsome of the things that I
thought that I knew.
Okay, and also the fact that youknow, as I talked about in the
Mother's Day episode, I wasstill processing some things
grief-wise, on the anniversaryof my biological mom's passing,
(10:19):
I got a therapist and it hasbeen incredible.
My therapist is really helpingme to understand how I can come
onto this podcast every week andtell you that you have to
eliminate the negative self-talk, that you have to treat
yourself like your own bestfriend, that you have to give
yourself grace and mercy andforgiveness the same things that
we extend to other people.
(10:39):
He helped me to understand whyI could say that to you and
believe that it's true for youbut not for me.
And I'm just going to be.
I'm going to be completelyhonest with you y'all,
everything that I say on thispodcast I truly, wholeheartedly
believe and I trulywholeheartedly want it for you.
But when it came to me it wasalmost like listening, going
(11:04):
back and listening to episodes.
It was almost like the CharlieBrown, the Charlie Brown adults.
You know how the Charlie Brownadults sounded.
You know the kids would soundnormal and then you would hear
the bra, bra, bra, bra, bra, bra.
You know it was gibberish, itwas unintelligible, and so my
therapist has really helped meto begin breaking down the
(11:29):
reasons why I have perpetuatedthese stories about myself that
I continue to tell myself almoston a loop.
And it's been just really,really good for me to take a
break from the podcast, becauseat the end of season two, y'all,
I was tired.
I was tired mentally, I wastired emotionally, and being in
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therapy has really helped me tobegin to self-regulate in a very
, very healthy way.
And I've given myself severalpep talks, because you know
we're not millionaires yet.
You know what I'm saying.
There have been, we've had some, a lot of bumps in the road
(12:10):
since I was last here with youregularly, and being in therapy
has helped me in the way that Ithink about those things but
also how I think about myselfand my identity in the middle of
those chaotic moments.
And I think therapy has alsohelped me to really begin
(12:36):
digging into some questions ofwhat do I want my life to be.
I tend to identify myself as amulti-hyphenate creative.
I know I have some of y'all outthere.
We have talents and giftings ina lot of different places and
spaces and so that makes it hardfor us to really narrow down a
(12:57):
lane to stick to.
And one thing my therapist toldme he said yo, you are good in
a lot of things, you can talkyour way in and out of a lot of
things, but you're going to haveto pick a lane.
You're going to have to pick alane and you're going to have to
stay in that lane and watchwhat happens in that lane.
And I can't tell you the shiverthat went down my spine not the
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good kind, like the ooh, mygoodness, pick a lane, pick a
lane, because what I had beendoing was okay.
So I published a book back whenthe pandemic first hit.
No book tours, any of thosethings, but it's still a
five-star rated book on Amazon.
But books are evergreen right.
(13:40):
So why don't I talk about mybook more often?
Talk about my book more often.
Okay, I can't tell you how manysemi-introductory manuscripts I
have saved in my Google Drivethat I've started, that I wasn't
feeling, and so I set it asideand I've never come back to it.
I can't tell you how many ideasfor businesses I've had that I
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haven't written down, thatthey've flown away, the number
of songs I've written that haveflown away.
And so, because my mentals, mymentality, is not organized, or
or or and again, this is justtransparent I try something, it
doesn't work or people don'trespond to it.
Then I think that maybe it'strash, maybe it's garbage and I
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shouldn't be doing it or Ishouldn't be putting my energy
toward it.
And so I move on to the nextthing, and my therapist was like
bro, you cannot keep runningfrom one thing to the next thing
.
You're going to have to pick alane, you're going to have to
stick to it and you're going tohave to go through the ups and
the downs of that path.
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And I'll admit that I have beenafraid to stick with something,
because I've always been afraidthat I was going to pick the
wrong thing to lean into.
I mean, I quit thinking aboutpastoring a church because
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number one I'm not perfect,because I don't think that I'm
worthy of that calling, worthyof that purpose, but it's still
something that lights a fireunder me.
Planning a church just soundslike the coolest thing that I'm
not worthy of doing.
Podcasting is the coolest thingthat I it's one of the coolest
things that I've ever done in mylife.
(15:30):
Y'all, I love coming on everyweek and being here with you all
, but somehow, in season two, Ilet the lack of statistical
growth murder my self-esteem andmurder my ability to look at
(15:51):
the positive things that havecome out of this podcast.
And again, we're being honest.
I'm catching you up on what'sbeen happening with me since we
last talked.
I'm in so much of a betterplace now.
I am so much of a better placenow I am, and it's just a really
(16:14):
cool thing.
And I'm not going to say that Ihave picked a lane to lean into
.
I'm still wrestling with that.
My therapist is still workingwith me.
God's still working with me.
I'm still praying about somethings on that, however, I can
tell you that I'm no longerafraid of picking wrong, because
I understand that some of thegreatest things about life are
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that we pick wrong and we stillhave an opportunity to remedy it
.
Life is an adventure that wedon't always pick.
It's like a pick your ownadventure book.
You may not pick the rightthing at a particular juncture,
but that does not mean that Godcannot order steps.
Life cannot bring you backaround to the pathway that's
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going to lead you to theculmination of that adventure
before you partake of the nextadventure.
And I'm saying all of thesethings because there's somebody
out there.
You may be at the same junctureas me.
You may be heading into thatjuncture.
Somebody needs to hear this.
I really firmly believe thatsomebody needs to hear all of
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this that even as a life coach,I don't have all the answers.
As a Christian, I mess up everyday.
As a teacher, my lessons don'talways land.
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As a husband, I don't always dothe right thing.
As a father, once we make adecision and I've said this
before and I firmly believe thisthat when we make a decision
for a particular direction, lifebegins to conspire.
We begin to notice the patternsin the pathway.
We begin to notice whichdirections we should take
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intrinsically, because I believea lot of the answers that we
seek.
We already have them within us.
We just need to pause and wejust need to listen and we just
need to be more aware and weneed to shift our perspectives.
And those are some of thethings that I have been working
on since we last met.
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That's it.
That has been my life.
I have been doing a lot ofsilent work on myself.
I have been working throughsome imposter syndrome things.
I have been working throughsome areas where I have not
treated myself like my own bestfriend.
I've been more aware of whatI'm thinking and why I'm
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thinking it when I'm thinking it.
It's just, it's been reallyreally met up and it's been
really really good.
It's been really challenging.
In some spots it's beenheartbreaking.
And I asked my wife.
I asked my wife and I think Isaid this in the last episode.
I asked my wife.
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I said babe, am I broken?
She looked at me and she saidyou are, you are broken, but you
wouldn't have admitted that toyourself before.
Now you admit it to yourselfand I think that you're working
on it and I think that you'reworking on it and where her
admitting to me that I wasbroken might have I don't know
caused some cracks in the facadeat some point prior.
(19:30):
Now I love her even morebecause she was able to be
unabashedly truthful with me,and I loved myself even more
because I was able to acceptthat type of honesty from her
and not get into my feelings ornot get quiet or not feel some
kind of way.
Y'all.
Every little bit of growth isstill a magnitude of growth.
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So I don't know what you areworking on with yourself and I
don't know where you are in yourheart and in your mind.
I don't know where you are inyour heart and in your mind.
I don't know where you are inyour journey, but I hope, my
deepest desire is that I hopethat you will continue to come
(20:21):
along this journey with me onthis podcast, as I work on
myself, as you, at the same timeas you work on yourself.
Let's work on ourselvestogether, let's achieve together
.
Let's form a community where weare cheering one another on and
where I don't have to have allthe answers.
(20:43):
But you give me some answers.
You email me and tell me topicsyou want to hear about.
You tell me what I got wrong inan episode and we can talk
about that and we can hash itout, because I want to hear from
you, because y'all are mypeople, you are my people and I
love y'all so much and I'm justso thankful and I am so grateful
(21:04):
that y'all are still going torock with Pep Talk in season
three and allow me to come intoyour lives on every Monday
morning and whenever I feel likedropping bonus content, but
just speak to you from my heartand hope and pray that it
encourages you and hits you in aspot that you need at that
particular moment.
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I believe it's gonna happen.
I believe the magic is stillthere.
I believe that everybody needsa pep talk and if you haven't
had one lately, guess what I gotyou, because that's what we do
here on pep talk.
So I need y'all to do me afavor.
Holler at me, shoot me an email, shoot me a dm, let me know.
(21:46):
Should I start an ig for for thepodcast?
Uh, what topics do you want meto address in this season of the
podcast?
Are there any guests that youwould like me to reach out to,
to bring onto the podcast forthis season?
I have, I put a questionnaireout there and I have some really
, really cool people to reachout to about coming onto the
(22:07):
podcast.
But y'all, I think this isgoing to be the best season of
the podcast yet, and whethereach episode gets one listen, or
whether it gets 200 listens or2000 listens, we're still going
to bring the energy, we're stillgoing to bring the hypness,
we're still going to bring thebelief in you and I'm still
(22:28):
going to believe in me, becausethat's what we do here in the
pep talk community.
So, hey, let somebody knowabout the podcast, let somebody
know that it's back, share it onyour socials, tag us and yo.
All I can say is I'll see younext week for episode two of
season three of the Pep Talk, ofPep Talk.
(22:51):
I've got to get used to sayingPep Talk.
I'm not the Pep Talk podcast,but yo, it's been your boy.
Coach J, thank you for lettingme catch you up on my life.
Hopefully you'll reach out andcatch me up on yours and, if not
, I hope to hear from you atsome point in this season,
because it's going to be goodand we're going to do this work
together.
We're going to do this worktogether and y'all know how we
(23:13):
close.
That part is not changed.
Keep it love, keep it light andkeep it, peppy.
Thank you for tuning in to peptalk.
It's your boy, coach jay.
We'll see you next week.
Y'all be blessed.
When's the last time you had a pep talk?
Pep talk, pep talk, yo.
When's the last time you had apep talk?
Has it been a minute?
That's okay, you're in theright place.
I've got you.
Welcome to pep talk.
Let's get it, yo.
(00:24):
What is up out there, pep Squad, how you doing?
Welcome to Pep Talk with yourhost, coach J, life Coach in
Dallas-Fort Worth, and thispodcast signals the beginning of
Season 3.
It's been a minute.
I've been in the basement forabout two months just enjoying
(00:46):
life.
Life's been busy, closing outanother school year, lots of
cool stuff happening, but Imissed y'all.
I missed you and I'm glad to beback here with you.
Welcome to Pep Talk, thepodcast that cheers you on and
coaches you up.
If this is your first timelistening, the belief of this
(01:08):
podcast is simple.
I believe that everybody needsa cheerleader to encourage them
and tell them how great they are, but we also need a coach
that's going to help us toelevate and begin to turn that
potential and move it towards aproductive purpose.
And so I'm your boy.
I'm your boy for that.
And this is season three, y'all.
(01:29):
We have two seasons in thebooks, approximately somewhere
between 64 to 65 episodes, andyo we've been rocking and we've
been rolling and, like I said, Itook a break toward the middle
part of April and I've just kindof been enjoying life, just
enjoying life, enjoying thefamily, and just thinking about
(01:52):
the podcast and what I wanted todo with it.
And so in this first episode Iwant to talk about kind of
what's been happening with mewith life and what's going to be
different about the podcast aswe move forth.
Now the big thing that you'regoing to notice is I no longer
refer to the podcast as the PepTalk podcast.
(02:14):
I thought that Pep Talk podcast,while it kind of rolls off of
the tongue, I really like it.
But I also like the idea that Imean, y'all are tuning in.
You know that this is not, youknow, a song.
This is not a music video.
This is not first take withStephen A Smith and Shannon
Sharp.
It's a podcast.
So you know, if you're tuningin on Apple Podcasts, spotify,
(02:36):
wherever you're listening, youknow it's a podcast.
So I don't think that I neededthe podcast at the end because
you're coming for the pep talk,right.
And so I thought that pep talk,rebranding the podcast just as
simply pep talk.
It gets right to the purpose ofwhat we're doing, the heart of
the matter, what we're trying toaccomplish with this endeavor.
(02:58):
We're trying to give you a pep,a pep talk to get you through
the week, to give you some placeto run so that when you're out
there living life, you'recrushing your dreams, you're
crushing your goals, or maybeyou're not.
Maybe life is hard for you inthe moment.
You still have something in theback of your mind, something in
your toolbox that you can useto make it through the remainder
(03:19):
of your week, and so that'swhat we're trying to provide
that pep for you.
So it's no longer the pep talkpodcast, it's pep talk, a
podcast that cheers you on andcoaches you up.
You'll also notice that ourintro music is different.
Y'all I know so many of y'allout there messaged in saying how
much you all really vibed tothe old intro intro music.
(03:44):
I hope that you all will vibeto this one equally.
I like it.
I'm doing my chair dance asit's going.
You know it's a little bit morehip-hop-ish, uh, which I I love
, and I love a lot of differentmusical influences.
So I can't say that this is thelast time that the music is
going to change.
But for right now, we're goingto rock with this one and I hope
, hope that you all can rockwith it.
(04:05):
I think it's fire.
I hope you think it's fire, allright.
So we've talked about the name,we've talked about the change
in the music.
Now, this season, in the podcast, I am going to be incorporating
mindset strategies, but I'malso going to be incorporating
(04:26):
more of my faith into thispodcast.
I'm going to talk more about mylife, of faith, my failures in
it, how it's impacted my mindsetand things of that nature.
I'm gonna bring in a lot ofdifferent guests, not just from
motivational spaces and mindsetspaces, but I'm trying to
(04:48):
broaden our horizons because Ibelieve that, no matter the
sphere of influence, no matterwhat category of life someone's
living in, I believe thateverybody has something that is
motivational.
I believe that everybody has apep talk inside of them.
And so, as I begin looking forguests and reaching out to
(05:08):
guests who've already let meknow that they wanted to come on
, my aim is to really give youall of me first two seasons.
But also, as I was thinking andlistening back to the episodes,
I think that there was somereally impactful avenues for me
(05:31):
to integrate my faith into thepodcast and now listen.
I understand that everybody wholistens to this podcast may not
be a Christian, may not believein God, may not believe in
anything.
You may be atheist or agnostic,whatever it is.
Believe in God May not believein anything.
You may be atheist or agnostic,whatever it is.
This is still the podcast thatis inclusive.
I still want you to listen.
You are still a member of thepep squad, but in our quest to
(05:53):
be more authentic and to just bemore Just, more of me, because
I've talked about my faith a lotin different episodes and I'm
not going to preach to you.
I'm not going to come everypodcast giving you a chapter and
a scripture and a verse, but Idon't want you looking at your
(06:16):
podcast crazy when I starttalking about my faith and
talking about biblicalreferences that are helping me
through various points in mylife.
I believe that's important.
I really do, and you know if mesharing more of my faith and
being more transparent in thatvein, if that helps you, if that
encourages you, hey, I thinkthat's great because, truth be
(06:40):
told y'all, I am a former pastor.
My wife and I served on apastoral staff for a church for
a long time in Joplin, missouri,and so that is an important
part of my life and I want tostart bringing more of that into
the podcast space.
So, you know, just keeplistening, keep rocking, keep
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rolling, and I need y'all to letme know what you like and what
you don't like as far as thecontent for this season and if
there are topics that you lovedfrom the past two seasons that
you want us to dig more into, Iwant to hear from you.
Hit me up at thepeppodcast, atgmailcom, or hit me up on IG at
underscore JBSpeaks.
I am contemplating starting anInstagram account for the
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podcast.
I just don't know.
I don't know.
I know last season I tried todo a Facebook group that I may
resurrect.
I'm not sure about that.
Listen, at this point everyoption is on the table and
there's gonna be some tinkeringhere and there as we're going
through this, but yo, it's thesame heart, y'all.
(07:49):
It's the same motivation, it'sthe same energy, it's the same.
Coach Jay, I am rooting for youas much as I ever have.
I want to see you become thebest possible version of
yourself and I want to play justa very small, small role in
helping you get there, to helpyou become unlocked.
(08:09):
Now, what has been happening tome?
Well, let's see, I did a sampleepisode on Mother's Day and I
just kind of talked aboutmothers and I talked about the
fact that I'd been in therapy,and I think I alluded to that
fact as we closed out season two, that I was going to be in
(08:31):
therapy.
Now I view therapy so muchdifferent than I did prior.
My wife had tried to get me togo to therapy countless times
and I just, you know I wasn'tagainst therapists, but I also,
you know, wasn't in favor,because I had this opinion that
I think, you know, if you poll alot of people who don't go to
(08:53):
therapy or people who don'tbelieve in therapy, they
probably say the same thing Ican do it on my own and I'm one
of those people whoself-therapizes.
I think I'm really meta when itcomes to myself and my mental
processes and my emotions andall of that things.
I think about those things allof the time, and so I thought
(09:16):
honestly that no therapist coulddo what I could do for myself.
Yet when I looked at my lifeand I've said this on the
podcast several times successleaves clues, but so does
failure.
And, as I looked at my life,there were so many things that I
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could honestly say I know this,but I didn't have the fruit to
bear it out.
This, but I didn't have thefruit to bear it out.
Right, I'm planting apples, butapples are not sprouting.
Oranges are sprouting orpineapples are sprouting, and so
(09:57):
as I looked at my life and Icould see that my fruit was not
indicating that I actually knewsome of the things that I
thought that I knew.
Okay, and also the fact that youknow, as I talked about in the
Mother's Day episode, I wasstill processing some things
grief-wise, on the anniversaryof my biological mom's passing,
(10:19):
I got a therapist and it hasbeen incredible.
My therapist is really helpingme to understand how I can come
onto this podcast every week andtell you that you have to
eliminate the negative self-talk, that you have to treat
yourself like your own bestfriend, that you have to give
yourself grace and mercy andforgiveness the same things that
we extend to other people.
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He helped me to understand whyI could say that to you and
believe that it's true for youbut not for me.
And I'm just going to be.
I'm going to be completelyhonest with you y'all,
everything that I say on thispodcast I truly, wholeheartedly
believe and I trulywholeheartedly want it for you.
But when it came to me it wasalmost like listening, going
(11:04):
back and listening to episodes.
It was almost like the CharlieBrown, the Charlie Brown adults.
You know how the Charlie Brownadults sounded.
You know the kids would soundnormal and then you would hear
the bra, bra, bra, bra, bra, bra.
You know it was gibberish, itwas unintelligible, and so my
therapist has really helped meto begin breaking down the
(11:29):
reasons why I have perpetuatedthese stories about myself that
I continue to tell myself almoston a loop.
And it's been just really,really good for me to take a
break from the podcast, becauseat the end of season two, y'all,
I was tired.
I was tired mentally, I wastired emotionally, and being in
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therapy has really helped me tobegin to self-regulate in a very
, very healthy way.
And I've given myself severalpep talks, because you know
we're not millionaires yet.
You know what I'm saying.
There have been, we've had some, a lot of bumps in the road
(12:10):
since I was last here with youregularly, and being in therapy
has helped me in the way that Ithink about those things but
also how I think about myselfand my identity in the middle of
those chaotic moments.
And I think therapy has alsohelped me to really begin
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digging into some questions ofwhat do I want my life to be.
I tend to identify myself as amulti-hyphenate creative.
I know I have some of y'all outthere.
We have talents and giftings ina lot of different places and
spaces and so that makes it hardfor us to really narrow down a
(12:57):
lane to stick to.
And one thing my therapist toldme he said yo, you are good in
a lot of things, you can talkyour way in and out of a lot of
things, but you're going to haveto pick a lane.
You're going to have to pick alane and you're going to have to
stay in that lane and watchwhat happens in that lane.
And I can't tell you the shiverthat went down my spine not the
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good kind, like the ooh, mygoodness, pick a lane, pick a
lane, because what I had beendoing was okay.
So I published a book back whenthe pandemic first hit.
No book tours, any of thosethings, but it's still a
five-star rated book on Amazon.
But books are evergreen right.
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So why don't I talk about mybook more often?
Talk about my book more often.
Okay, I can't tell you how manysemi-introductory manuscripts I
have saved in my Google Drivethat I've started, that I wasn't
feeling, and so I set it asideand I've never come back to it.
I can't tell you how many ideasfor businesses I've had that I
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haven't written down, thatthey've flown away, the number
of songs I've written that haveflown away.
And so, because my mentals, mymentality, is not organized, or
or or and again, this is justtransparent I try something, it
doesn't work or people don'trespond to it.
Then I think that maybe it'strash, maybe it's garbage and I
(14:26):
shouldn't be doing it or Ishouldn't be putting my energy
toward it.
And so I move on to the nextthing, and my therapist was like
bro, you cannot keep runningfrom one thing to the next thing
.
You're going to have to pick alane, you're going to have to
stick to it and you're going tohave to go through the ups and
the downs of that path.
(14:48):
And I'll admit that I have beenafraid to stick with something,
because I've always been afraidthat I was going to pick the
wrong thing to lean into.
I mean, I quit thinking aboutpastoring a church because
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number one I'm not perfect,because I don't think that I'm
worthy of that calling, worthyof that purpose, but it's still
something that lights a fireunder me.
Planning a church just soundslike the coolest thing that I'm
not worthy of doing.
Podcasting is the coolest thingthat I it's one of the coolest
things that I've ever done in mylife.
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Y'all, I love coming on everyweek and being here with you all
, but somehow, in season two, Ilet the lack of statistical
growth murder my self-esteem andmurder my ability to look at
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the positive things that havecome out of this podcast.
And again, we're being honest.
I'm catching you up on what'sbeen happening with me since we
last talked.
I'm in so much of a betterplace now.
I am so much of a better placenow I am, and it's just a really
(16:14):
cool thing.
And I'm not going to say that Ihave picked a lane to lean into
.
I'm still wrestling with that.
My therapist is still workingwith me.
God's still working with me.
I'm still praying about somethings on that, however, I can
tell you that I'm no longerafraid of picking wrong, because
I understand that some of thegreatest things about life are
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that we pick wrong and we stillhave an opportunity to remedy it
.
Life is an adventure that wedon't always pick.
It's like a pick your ownadventure book.
You may not pick the rightthing at a particular juncture,
but that does not mean that Godcannot order steps.
Life cannot bring you backaround to the pathway that's
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going to lead you to theculmination of that adventure
before you partake of the nextadventure.
And I'm saying all of thesethings because there's somebody
out there.
You may be at the same junctureas me.
You may be heading into thatjuncture.
Somebody needs to hear this.
I really firmly believe thatsomebody needs to hear all of
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this that even as a life coach,I don't have all the answers.
As a Christian, I mess up everyday.
As a teacher, my lessons don'talways land.
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As a husband, I don't always dothe right thing.
As a father, once we make adecision and I've said this
before and I firmly believe thisthat when we make a decision
for a particular direction, lifebegins to conspire.
We begin to notice the patternsin the pathway.
We begin to notice whichdirections we should take
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intrinsically, because I believea lot of the answers that we
seek.
We already have them within us.
We just need to pause and wejust need to listen and we just
need to be more aware and weneed to shift our perspectives.
And those are some of thethings that I have been working
on since we last met.
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That's it.
That has been my life.
I have been doing a lot ofsilent work on myself.
I have been working throughsome imposter syndrome things.
I have been working throughsome areas where I have not
treated myself like my own bestfriend.
I've been more aware of whatI'm thinking and why I'm
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thinking it when I'm thinking it.
It's just, it's been reallyreally met up and it's been
really really good.
It's been really challenging.
In some spots it's beenheartbreaking.
And I asked my wife.
I asked my wife and I think Isaid this in the last episode.
I asked my wife.
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I said babe, am I broken?
She looked at me and she saidyou are, you are broken, but you
wouldn't have admitted that toyourself before.
Now you admit it to yourselfand I think that you're working
on it and I think that you'reworking on it and where her
admitting to me that I wasbroken might have I don't know
caused some cracks in the facadeat some point prior.
(19:30):
Now I love her even morebecause she was able to be
unabashedly truthful with me,and I loved myself even more
because I was able to acceptthat type of honesty from her
and not get into my feelings ornot get quiet or not feel some
kind of way.
Y'all.
Every little bit of growth isstill a magnitude of growth.
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So I don't know what you areworking on with yourself and I
don't know where you are in yourheart and in your mind.
I don't know where you are inyour heart and in your mind.
I don't know where you are inyour journey, but I hope, my
deepest desire is that I hopethat you will continue to come
(20:21):
along this journey with me onthis podcast, as I work on
myself, as you, at the same timeas you work on yourself.
Let's work on ourselvestogether, let's achieve together
.
Let's form a community where weare cheering one another on and
where I don't have to have allthe answers.
(20:43):
But you give me some answers.
You email me and tell me topicsyou want to hear about.
You tell me what I got wrong inan episode and we can talk
about that and we can hash itout, because I want to hear from
you, because y'all are mypeople, you are my people and I
love y'all so much and I'm justso thankful and I am so grateful
(21:04):
that y'all are still going torock with Pep Talk in season
three and allow me to come intoyour lives on every Monday
morning and whenever I feel likedropping bonus content, but
just speak to you from my heartand hope and pray that it
encourages you and hits you in aspot that you need at that
particular moment.
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I believe it's gonna happen.
I believe the magic is stillthere.
I believe that everybody needsa pep talk and if you haven't
had one lately, guess what I gotyou, because that's what we do
here on pep talk.
So I need y'all to do me afavor.
Holler at me, shoot me an email, shoot me a dm, let me know.
(21:46):
Should I start an ig for for thepodcast?
Uh, what topics do you want meto address in this season of the
podcast?
Are there any guests that youwould like me to reach out to,
to bring onto the podcast forthis season?
I have, I put a questionnaireout there and I have some really
, really cool people to reachout to about coming onto the
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podcast.
But y'all, I think this isgoing to be the best season of
the podcast yet, and whethereach episode gets one listen, or
whether it gets 200 listens or2000 listens, we're still going
to bring the energy, we're stillgoing to bring the hypness,
we're still going to bring thebelief in you and I'm still
(22:28):
going to believe in me, becausethat's what we do here in the
pep talk community.
So, hey, let somebody knowabout the podcast, let somebody
know that it's back, share it onyour socials, tag us and yo.
All I can say is I'll see younext week for episode two of
season three of the Pep Talk, ofPep Talk.
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I've got to get used to sayingPep Talk.
I'm not the Pep Talk podcast,but yo, it's been your boy.
Coach J, thank you for lettingme catch you up on my life.
Hopefully you'll reach out andcatch me up on yours and, if not
, I hope to hear from you atsome point in this season,
because it's going to be goodand we're going to do this work
together.
We're going to do this worktogether and y'all know how we
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close.
That part is not changed.
Keep it love, keep it light andkeep it, peppy.
Thank you for tuning in to peptalk.
It's your boy, coach jay.
We'll see you next week.
Y'all be blessed.
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