Overcoming Imposter Syndrome: Embracing Your Worth and True Potential

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Ever felt like a fraud in your own life story? 

In this microepisode, Coach J presents an insightful coaching session, exploring the pervasive issue of impostor syndrome. Using a personal anecdote about his daughter's exciting yet daunting opportunity, Justin delves into the profound impact of feeling inadequate and undeserving in various aspects of life. Throughout the episode, he shares profound insights on tackling impostor syndrome by reshaping self-belief and taking proactive steps towards personal growth. Listeners are invited to join in on the conversation, gaining valuable strategies to combat impostor syndrome and embrace their worthiness. Through this engaging discussion, Justin delivers a message that encourages listeners to challenge damaging self-perceptions and navigate towards a life of authenticity and purpose. Don't miss this episode, as Justin provides powerful tools to overcome impostor syndrome and live a life of fulfillment.

Some questions to consider:

1. Have you ever experienced imposter syndrome in your life? How did you deal with it?

2. What are some examples of situations where you've felt like an imposter and how did you overcome those feelings?

3. Do you agree with the host's advice to shift how you think, speak, and feel about yourself in order to combat imposter syndrome? Why or why not?

4. Have you ever spoken to your children about imposter syndrome or had an honest conversation with them about your own struggles?

5. How does the idea of treating yourself like your own best friend resonate with you? Do you think self-talk can have a significant impact on imposter syndrome?

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
On today's episode of the PEP Talk podcast.
We're doing something a littlebit different, but I think
you're still gonna like it.
But before we get there, I havea question for you.
Have you had your dose of PEPtoday?
No, Don't worry, I've got you.
Now let's get into it.
["pep Talk"].

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Welcome to the PEP Talk podcast,the podcast that cheers you on
and coaches you up.
I'm your host, coach Jay, alife coach in DFW, and it is my
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Now.
We have been in a series thathas been called Choosing
Intentional Manhood and it'sbeen a series that I think has

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been impactful in challenging usmen to dig deeper and to be
better.
However, this week we are notcontinuing that episode.
This week is going to besomething along the lines of a
micro episode or a micro-soad,and I think I wanna start
incorporating these in from timeto time, just seeing if they

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stick to, seeing what theresponse is, if they are
resonating with you, my pepsquad out there, and so I wanna
use these as a little bitshorter of episodes that really
allow me to speak on some thingsthat I make social media
content about and really expandon them a little bit more.
So, if you are new to thepodcast, our episodes usually go

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about 35, 40 minutes, but thesetypes are gonna be a little bit
shorter and they might allow meto drop more than one episode
per week.
Who knows?
We'll just see how the responseis, what the response is and
just how things go.
But I wanna jump right into itbecause my wife and my oldest

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daughter and I were having aconversation the other night
about imposter syndrome and mydaughter has this amazing
opportunity to go and to trainin New York this summer for
three weeks with a dance companyup there that is really

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prestigious and she applied forit, not thinking that she would
get in.
Boom, she got in Right.
And so she's in our room andwe're talking and we're talking
about this whole thing ofimposter syndrome.
She's never been that far awayfrom us and she's gonna be
around dancers who might beprofessional, might be

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pre-professional, and we havenot been able to provide those
types of opportunities for her.
Like, she danced at her dancecompany in high school and it
was a stellar, rigorous dancecompany but as far as a lot of
other dancers being able tomaybe not go to school and just

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get professional training andeverything, we have not been
able to provide thoseopportunities for her.
And so her mom was kind oftalking to her about you know,
the imposter syndrome is gonnahit you when you get up there,
because we are trying to raisethe money for her to get there
and all this stuff and we'retalking about this whole thing

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of imposter syndrome.
And she's like you're gonna beup there surrounded by dancers
who have had more extensiveexperience that you have and she
was like, yeah, yeah, yeah,yeah, like even in some of the
auditions that she's been in forher schools for a schools dance
program that have not turnedout the way that she's wanted,

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it's been a thing of am I goodenough, am I really good enough?
And so we started having thisentire conversation around this
whole idea.
My wife was talking about, youknow, she's graduated, she's a
chiropractor, she, you know,she's in a clinic, she's working
with patients every day,getting good results, but she's
talking about how even she dealswith, you know, the struggle of

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imposter syndrome.
And I chimed in.
I chimed in, you know, as apodcaster, as a life coach, as a
teacher, and that there's notbeen a phase in my life where I
have not dealt with impostersyndrome, where, you know, it's
this whole thing.
If I were like this person orif I were like this person, then

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my, you know, maybe I'd havethis many followers or I would
get this kind of results, orpeople would like me better, or
I'd be more capable, and so.
But we're having thisconversation and it was really,
really cool just to have honestmoments with our daughter so
that she could see that we arenot Superman and superwoman, we

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struggle with the exact samethings that you struggle with at
times in your life.
We struggle with them, we'renot immune to them, and if
you're listening to this and youfind yourself, you find
yourself really in spots whereyou're like I really don't
deserve to be a leader of thisorganization, or I don't deserve

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to be a leader of this ministry, or I don't deserve this.
People look at me and you know,they can see that I'm a fraud.
They can see that I don't knowwhat I'm doing.
If that's you, then you havetuned in to just the right
episode of a podcast.
Because, listen, it is easy.

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It is easy for us to believethat we are not worthy of what
we're being called to.
You know we are not good enoughfor what we find ourselves in,
that the pathway that we're onis too big for us, that we won't
be able to step up to the plateand handle the business.

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It's also easy for us to thinkthat everybody else looks at us
as a fraud, but the reason forthat is it's because we have
convinced ourselves that we arefraudulent.
We have convinced ourselvesthat the very areas, the rooms
that we're in, we don't deserveto be in, that if people get to
know us, people are going to seethat we are ultimately frauds,

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that we are fools, gold, that weare cubic, cerconium and we
will turn your fingers green andwe'll.
And it's because we're lookingat ourselves through a funhouse
mirror.
The reality that we think thatwe're seeing when we look at
ourselves as frauds, when welook at ourselves and say that

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we don't deserve to be in anyparticular room doing any
particular thing.
It's because the reality thatwe think that we're seeing
really is nothing more than aperspective that is born out of
faulty inputs.
Here's what I mean about thatwe look at other people and we

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think we see everything thatthey're doing and we think that
they're so great at this they'rean amazing speaker, they have
this amazing podcast, they're anamazing teacher, they're an
amazing dancer because they'vehad all of these opportunities
that we think that we need toget on their level, and that is
not always the case.
A lot of times, the one thingthat we are lacking in this

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formula to become this personthat we wanna become and to do
the thing that we wanna do isthe belief in ourselves and to
change the way that we thinkabout ourselves and the way that
we feel about ourselves in here.
Sorry, wrong side.
If we could shift how we thinkabout ourselves and how we feel

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about ourselves and how we speakto ourselves on a daily basis,
then I promise you that thatimposter syndrome, that desire
to continually tear yourselfdown and knock yourself down
various notches it would slowlybegin to disappear.
That's why it's important toalways talk about this.

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You have to treat yourself likeyour own best friend.
You have to talk to yourselflike you're your own best friend
and you have to begin to feelabout yourself a love and an
affection that goes beyond thedetrimental aspects.
We all know the things that weneed to work on, but quit

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referring to them as weaknessesand begin to reshape them as
opportunities for improvement,and then take those
opportunities and invest inyourselves.
If you can't afford to get acoach, if you can't afford to
take a class, that's whatYouTube is for.
Get that freemium content offof YouTube to sustain you until

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you're able to get where youwant to get.
And I promise you, if you beginto think that you are a worthy
investment and that by investingin yourself whether it's
YouTube or paid courses orcoaches, or therapy or whatever
it is when you begin to thinkthat you are a worthy investment
.
Then, guess what?
You will begin to give yourselfa positive return on investment

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.
But you have to see that you'reworth it.
And you have to understand thatthe people that we idolize and
look up to, we don't know thecost that they had to pay, we
don't know the demons thatthey've had to slay, but we do
have to understand that at somepoint they said I'm worth it, so

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I'm going for it.
I may not be the best, but I'llbecome the best as I'm pursuing
it, but I'm worth it.
I'm worth it now, so I'm justgoing to go for it and we're
going to see what happens.
You have to believe that aboutyourself and I'm willing to bet
for 90% of you out there thatone shift in your thinking and

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then you're speaking and thenyou're feeling about yourself
that one shift is going to makea world, a world of difference,
and even with your impostersyndrome, I'm going to challenge
you to do it anyway.
I'm going to challenge you totake the risk, to take the leap
and to see where it leads you.
You don't have to be perfect,but you have to do it, and so I

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challenge you that, if you weredealing perpetually with
imposter syndrome, I challengeyou to make a shift, starting
now.
Shift what you say aboutyourself, shift how you think
about yourself and quitobsessing over what everybody
sees when they look at you.
You make sure that you'resquare when you look at you in

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the mirror and that impostersyndrome, that voice that
continues wanting to tear youdown, those thoughts that
continue wanting to tear youdown and deconstruct you, they
will become less and less andless.
That is my message for you forthis week, because I deal with

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it.
Many of you out there deal withit.
We're not immune, but we haveto be proactive in counteracting
the damage that impostersyndrome tries to inflict into
our lives.
All right, so that is today'smicro-sode.
You're not an imposter.

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You are not an imposter.
The rooms you find yourself inyou're supposed to be there.
So start believing it and thenstart acting like it and start
speaking like it and startbehaving like it, because you
deserve to be there.
If you didn't, then youwouldn't be there.
Okay, all right, you're ready.

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You are ready, and that's thisweek's episode of the PEP Talk
podcast.
Next week, we're going to becontinuing our series on
choosing intentional manhood.
But in the meantime, in thebetween time, I want you to let
me know, reach out, let me knowwhat you thought about today's
coaching session, today'sMicrosoft.
Let me know how you get overimposter syndrome and offer your

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own tips, offer your tips onhow people can get over imposter
syndrome and begin to live alife of true freedom, truly
living the way that we're allmeant to live, and that is in
freedom and that is with passionand that is with purpose, not
just for ourselves but for ourcommunity and those around us.
Y'all this has been fun.

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This is episode 29 of the PEPTalk podcast.
I'm Coach Jay and y'all knowhow we end it Keep it love, keep
it light and keep it happy.
We'll see you next week on thePEP Talk podcast.
Until then, shared with yourfriends, shared with your family
, and we will see you next week.
Y'all be blessed, peace.