February 21, 2024 • 35 mins
Monica's return to our podcast couldn't be more timely, as we find ourselves delving into the transformative realms of spirituality, self-help, and the compelling force of accountability. Her journey, marked by both professional accolades and personal revelations, demonstrates how seizing control of our narrative can indeed bend the arc of our lives. Engage in our candid discussion that challenges the common narrative of success and failure lying in the hands of fate, and instead, champions the belief in our own potent potential to craft the reality we envision through purposeful action and unwavering self-belief.
Shifting the lens to the internal landscape, we confront the art of detachment from the fruits of our actions, advocating for a life rich with experience over the fixation on outcomes. This episode unravels the ethical tapestries that psychics navigate and the value of authenticity in spiritual evolution. It's a personal voyage into understanding how staying true to oneself can be both an act of defiance and liberation. Listeners will find solace in the stories shared, where embracing one's unique energy signature carves out the space for personal growth, even in the face of societal pressures to conform.
Weaving in the threads of empowerment and healing, this dialogue with Monica illuminates the oft-overlooked reservoirs of strength within women, unlocking self-confidence through energy work and hypnosis. Discover how addressing deep-seated traumas can ignite profound changes across the spectrum of life, and learn the simple yet powerful techniques to activate the innate superpowers we all possess. Finally, we remind you to shine your light with gratitude, encouraging each listener to acknowledge their intrinsic value and become a beacon of positivity in their corner of the world. Join us for an episode that promises to uplift, inspire, and transform.
Remember, your Perch isn’t just a place to sit; it’s a place to seek a higher perspective.
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Speaker 1 (00:08):
So thank you all.
That was such a great episode Ican't even call it an episode.
I was like that was a greatclass and insightful learning
and I had a lot of things I'vetaken away from it and I wish I
could talk to you for hours andhours and hours.
But, monica, again, welcomeback Our episode one.
(00:31):
We talked about just trying tounderstand spirituality and how
do we get to it, to even beginto do it in the work of getting
clarity on what our spirit isshowing us, telling us, and
what's showing up in our lives.
So we kind of left it at theend of just grazing the surface
(00:51):
but saying I bought up.
The point too, I wonder, isunconsciously.
I think people struggle withaccountability.
I think it's easy, you know,because you know.
It was often said.
I remember growing up in achurch.
People would often say you know, I'm waiting on God, I'm
waiting on God, I'm waiting onJesus.
Like, what are you waiting on?
(01:12):
You know, right, I was, like youknow, about being accountable
for, having accountability forwho we are and how we show up in
a world and making itactionable, even down to
understanding our health andtaking that in in our bodies.
So from that, you were sayingthat you had a lot to say on
(01:34):
accountability piece or theself-help journal.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Yes, because you have to be accountable towards
yourself, and the problem withour society is we're so used to
putting everything outside ofourselves, and I feel very, very
strongly towards recognizingthe divinity within yourself,
recognizing your own ability tomanifest your reality.
(02:00):
And yes, we have universalforces, but guess what?
We are that universal force aswell.
We are not separate, we are thesame, and that energy flows
through us, just like it flowsthrough other people, and it
flows through everything, andthat is that all-encompassing,
omnipresent energy.
But it is within us, it's notoutside of us, it's everything.
(02:20):
And so when we start torecognize and really understand
that, then we have to takeaccountability for our lives.
It's really easy to put itoutside and say, well, god
didn't do that for me, goddidn't do that for me.
And then when something andhere's the problem you can put
the blame outside of yourself,but you also put the winds
(02:41):
outside of yourself.
Oh, look at God, that justhappened.
Look at God.
Okay, you can say that, butalso look at you, look what you
did.
You took actions for that, anda lot of people forget to praise
themselves.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
So let's because so early in the first podcast we
talked about you and yoursuccess journey from a corporate
standpoint, and even thatthat's accountability.
You came in and was like youknow, I started here and then
you were driven in each step ofthe way.
You're accountable for the nextlevel of your success.
(03:17):
You took charge and you wentfrom this to that and then, when
it came down to health, youtook accountability and an
agency over your own body andsay, okay, not that you didn't
trust the doctors, but let mehave agency.
I'm saying all that to say topeople who struggle to grasp any
of this conversation, becausesometimes when you start talking
(03:39):
spirituality or healing, youlose people.
But what I to the greater goodI want to say it's all about
accountability to thyself andagency over self, and that's in
everything we do and how we showup.
I think we are.
Our first accountabilitypartner is us, our own
(04:00):
individual checking it Exactly.
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
And if you're not taking the actions and that's
one of the things when it comesto any kind of manifestation or
law of attraction or or prayer,or whatever it is that you do to
put energy out there to try tocreate your reality you also
have to take actions.
You can do whatever you do, youcan pray for a man, but guess
(04:27):
what?
If you're not going outside,he's probably not going to come
knocking on your door.
There's actions.
There's actions you still haveto take, and that part is the
accountability.
Now, once you've doneeverything that you can do, then
you have to let it go, and justlet it go to faith in terms of
what's going to happen.
But a lot of people put thefaith before the action.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
But you know, monica, some people will say this too.
So with you, you know, here youare a woman of color in
corporate America.
So we already know the studies,the statistics about how much
you know less you're going tomake it, how hard are your path
is going to be, but you stillcontinue and persevere on, even
(05:12):
though some of the odds wereagainst you.
And then you did the same thing.
You know for your spiritualself and some would say, well,
you just have that jump gene andI don't have that.
You know, you just have thatgene where you know you can go
for it and you're a free spiritand that's why you're so
successful at everything you do,as opposed to being accountable
(05:35):
and say, well, we all have it,exactly.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
There's, first of all , we're all even.
We're all equal.
Some of us have certain gifts.
Some people can play basketballreally well and some people
cannot, but they but guess what?
Everyone has the ability tolearn.
Everyone has the ability to bewherever they want to be if it's
important enough to them.
And if your, if your gifts andyour skills and your dreams are
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important enough to you, thenyou need to look into what, what
skills and characteristicsabout yourself you need to
acquire in order to become theperson who can achieve these
things.
Because my life wasn't easy.
I didn't have everything handedto me at all.
There's no gene for that.
(06:24):
I just went after.
I just went after my goals andsome of it just happened, and I
believe that was because that'sthat was already written, that
was supposed to happen.
But there are a lot of thingsthat I had to really pull up my
sleeves and work towards, and ifyou, if you don't do that, then
a lot of times you're not goingto get where you want to go.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Right and I think it's important.
I remember I was reading this acouple of months ago and about
giftings, and this writer wassaying how he wanted to be like
the next Michael Jordan and hestayed up and I laced my shoes
like him, I ran like him, I didthe same dedication, but that
wasn't what he was gifted at.
He had that desire, he had thatwill, but he didn't have the
(07:08):
athleticism.
But he goes.
But then what I realized I wasso passionate about this that I
was sitting on a bench andseeing things that other people
couldn't see.
So he realized his gifting wasnot in being the athlete, it was
being the coach and sitting onthe side and observing, but
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because he kept himselfaccountable and kept going after
he got clarity and I thinkthat's important.
You know, a lot of times peoplethink we want to be gifted in
certain areas and so we think,because we have the desire,
that's our gifting and I knowthat accountability to say, well
, when you're in theseenvironments and when you're
(07:49):
going after these things, whatis again the spiritual check in?
What are you realizing that you, he realized that he had an eye
from that advantage, which isnot on the court but on the
sideline to see what otherscouldn't see.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
So yeah, and to that I also want to make the point of
.
Sometimes people feel like,okay, I went in this direction
and it didn't work out, and theyfeel like, okay, that was a
failure.
And I reject that, because alot of times you will be on a
path and you are guided towardsit.
You're like, well, I listenedto my intuition.
(08:24):
It told me to go down this pathand ended up not working out.
It didn't have the outcome youdesired, but that didn't mean it
didn't work out, because yougained something when you went
on that path.
Your spirit was leading you inthe right direction.
It's just you and your mindhave an idea of where you
thought that direction should goand that's not how it works.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
I think Oprah gave the perfect example that I heard
her in an interview and she wastalking about Beloved because
she was saying how it reallytook the wind out of herself
because it got really trashed.
And when she was like, I hadsuch great attentions and I
wanted to tell this story andpeople didn't get it and it
(09:05):
didn't do well, I lost a lot ofmoney and so I forgot.
I think it was Deep Park's showwhere someone there she was
talking to he was like well,what did you want to accomplish?
She was like well, I want to.
And she said that.
And she said what she wanted toaccomplish.
She goes.
So what makes you think youdidn't accomplish that?
What makes you think were yougoing for box office success or
that?
Is that all she was like no, Iwanted to engage and I wanted
(09:28):
people.
So what makes you think thatthe however many people that saw
it $500,000 million, whateverit was wasn't engaged didn't
feel?
What makes you think that youdidn't accomplish?
Because you didn't get theresults that you thought you
should get from.
And I think that's a lot of whywe quit in the middle of the
race.
Sometimes we give them so quickbecause we're not getting the
(09:53):
results.
So we want to see we're notjust like even with this podcast
I started and I was just cryingto feel like I don't know what
to do.
But sometimes it was like Ihave to check in and say, trisha
, what were you trying toaccomplish?
Did you go in here to be, ordid you go in to have a message
and a voice and have voices beheard that tip back Right.
(10:14):
Yeah, so as long as you staythere and stay on a course and
you realize you're not a failure, you are accomplishing what it
is and things will manifest theway it was meant to be, as long
as you don't stay off veer thecourse.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Right, right, I believe everything is exactly as
it should be.
Everything is always perfectlyimperfect, and sometimes it's
perfectly perfect.
Perfectly imperfect, yeah, butthere should be no regrets of
anything that happens.
And I don't even use the wordfailure when it relates to
(10:55):
anything, because, yes, I've hadsome disappointments of things
that didn't work out the way Iwanted them to work out, but
then, in hindsight, when youlook back, you see why it had to
happen that way.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
We had it, and sometimes it was just yeah, I
didn't mean to cut you off,because we had a podcast some
months ago about the same thingand Toby and I I don't even say
the word debate anymore.
I say perch because to me whenI say debate, it's I'm
intentionally taking a positionand not being open to seeing
something a different way.
So I don't debate anymore, Iperch.
(11:27):
But I was perching with himbecause he was saying about his
son fail and I was like no, yourson lost, he lost the game.
There are winners and losers ina game.
In a sport, somebody wins by thescore.
And I was like but in life Idon't believe in failure, I'm
just like you.
But in the same token, when wetalked about divorce you know he
(11:49):
talks about well, this was afailed marriage and that was
failed and this was failed I waslike well, why was it a failure
?
I was like was that yourintention?
What was your intention whenyou got married?
So I was like did you notaccomplish those things?
You accomplished them in thatseason and that season end.
And I think that.
(12:09):
So I'm with you with the way welook at failure.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Yeah, everything is a season and when you this is
just part of spiritual growth,and it doesn't matter what kind
of religion you are, but this isjust part of spiritual growth
is learning to detach fromoutcomes because it's the
attachment to the outcomes thatcreates our suffering.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Is that attack?
I need to write that one downbecause that's true.
It's the attachment to theoutcome that creates our
suffering.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Yeah.
So when we start to just be inflow and stop focusing on the
outcome, and every time I have aclient that's like I just
started, or are you going tofriend?
I just started thisrelationship, how is it going to
work out?
I said I'm not going to tellyou that because you know I'm
psychic, so I think people callme all the time asking me
questions.
I'm like I'm just going to lookinto it and make sure that this
is a safe person, but I'm notgoing to tell you how it worked,
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how it's going to work out,because it doesn't matter how it
works out.
What you get out of therelationship, it's the
experience that matters.
You're in it for an experience.
Life is just a series ofexperiences, that's all it is.
And when you start to look atit as an experience versus as
something that needs to end inthis particular way, then it
shifts everything.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
This is totally off topic, but I have to bring it up
because it just popped in myhead.
When you said I'm psychic, Iimmediately started to clear my
mind.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
I know that's ridiculous.
I know that's ridiculous.
I get that all the time.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
But I was going to say you got to get that all the
time.
But people are like nope, she'snot going to know what I'm
thinking, nope.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
Yeah, well, you know what it is.
So because I'm, like, extremelygifted in so many different
areas and psychic is one of them, so, literally, if I'm standing
next to someone and they'recheating on their wife, I will
know about it, oh Lord.
So what I do is yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
You don't get invited to the company picnic, some
things much they keep you.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
But what I do is I don't need to know all that
information.
So when I'm out in public andlike crowds or parties or
something like that, I will turnmy gifts down because I've
mastered them, so I have fullcontrol over them.
So I turn my gifts down not off, but just down so that this way
, if anything does pop through,it's only important things like
something I actually need toknow.
(14:25):
So this way I can actuallyinteract with people on a normal
basis and not be all up intheir business, because I will
find out everything.
I used to have this hairstylethat I would go to and this is
before.
I used to turn it down all thetime.
Every time she would go to domy hair, I would get all kinds
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of information, all the personalstuff that's happening in her
life.
Next thing, you know, I'm seeingher the whole time.
I'm like you're still with him,aren't you?
Because I see what's going on.
Oh my Lord.
Yes.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
It's funny you said that about turning and I never
thought about it that way, as ifthat kind of gift you can turn
down.
The reason why that stuck withme?
Because years and years ago Iwas in a room and it was a
networking room with a bunch ofwomen, a lot of them, majority
of them, I did not know.
And this lady and I neverforget her she, I knew a little
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of her story.
She was going through cancerand she was over in the corner
and she was always kind of quietand she said can I ask you a
question?
And I said sure, did not know,I should have prepared myself
with the question she was goingto ask me.
She goes why do you do that?
And I said what do I do what?
Because I hadn't done anything.
And she was like turn down yourlight.
(15:45):
And when she asked me that Ilooked at her strange at first
and then I started sobbing likeinstantly because my spirit hit
and I was like you know, I Itold her I have to think about
it.
I said I don't know, but I knewwhat I immediately she said in
that statement said something.
One, to turn a light on in me.
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Two, I didn't recognize that Iwas doing it.
But three, I understood whatshe was saying.
Like coming into a room andtrying to fit in, you know,
trying not to be this big, happybubbly, hey, and being told
like I told like sucking up theenergy.
Are you looking for attention?
I've had it all said to me whenI only just entered a room.
(16:30):
I've been told you likeattention and I don't.
It's just that I am high energyand so when she said that, I
didn't even realize that I hadstarted to try not to be so
noticeable, which meaningturning down my energy and you
like, yeah, I was like I don'tknow, but I'm so glad she called
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that out of me and I was like,yeah, and you changed it right,
absolutely Okay good and I'mlike never dim your light.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
Yeah, I walk into a room and I own a room and I
don't care what anybody thinksabout it, because I am bubbly
and I am very expressive andhappy and a bright light.
So when I do walk in a room itis noticed.
But I don't usually get manypeople saying anything like that
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to me, but I used to.
The funny thing is I used toactually be very shy when I was
younger, so the moniker that yousee today is nowhere near what
I used to be growing up.
Maybe it's a Murgo thing samehere.
Yeah, I've gone on a wholejourney to the point where I
can't really tell, to the pointwhere I can just fully be my
authentic self, no matter whereI am, and boldly myself.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
But I think too, one thing I knew for sure for me I
was never.
I was never a shy kid, but Iwas like I wanted to be in a
room and not in a room.
At the same time I just wantedto be a sponge, and so I could
grow up in a time where kidsshould be seen and not heard.
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So I was no equisitive, I'llsay so.
I just wanted to be there.
So I kind of mastered how to bein a room and not be in a room.
But when I got older I realizedwhat it was, my spirit, still
to this day, and I get in goodtrouble I'm gonna call it good
trouble.
My spirit won't allow me justto sit, even in corporate spaces
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, and be silent, and that's agood thing and a bad thing at
times.
But I was like no, I can't.
That's the one you're notsilent about.
Right, I was like yeah, I don't.
And then, but because you arewho you are, because you are
Monica and because I'm a Tricia,you are called on, even when
you know it's not with goodintentions.
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Like so what do you think aboutthat?
You know, because sometimesthey just want that combat or
that energy, like well, I knowI'm religious and Monica, what
do you think about just thatthing?
Yeah, so it's interesting.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
Yeah, I dispel all of that energy.
And I'm just.
You know, with your energyfield you can diffuse energy
like that really easily.
Someone may toss you a ballwith negative intent and you
turn that ball into you know,beautiful prosperity ball.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
So how would you suggest?
Because I work in a Bencorporate America and I have
I've really tried especially, Ican honestly say, the last five
years to help women specificallyturn up their light.
And I notice and I want to getyour feedback on this I notice
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that I get a lot of pushbackbecause they think, oh, you're
just, you know, being kind oryou're just being, you know, a
good friend or whatever it is.
And so when I speak life andI'm being honest, I'm like I
wouldn't say it if I didn't seeit in you.
I don't say it, and it's sohard for women to see their
strength and their power Right,and how do you, with your
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spiritual gifts, help them turnup their light?
Speaker 2 (20:17):
Literally one of the gifts that I have is turning on
people's light, so I canliterally do that in two seconds
.
Such for someone In two seconds.
Okay, in seconds, so just tap inand turn it up.
Also, the ability to increasepeople's self-confidence all
through energy work Very quickly.
People notice a difference thatlike within minutes removing
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the things that are.
You know, the thing is whenpeople are afraid of turning up
their light, a lot of timesthere's multiple things going on
, but a lot of times it isrooted in a lack of
self-confidence, and so you haveto find what that, because
self-confidence is the root, butit's not the real root.
What's created thatself-confidence?
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That's the root and whatcreated that lack of
self-confidence?
That's the actual root andthat's gonna be some kind of
trauma from childhood or earlychildhood that they still hadn't
healed from.
So I can then go in and use myhealing ability Again, because I
have healed my had to healmyself and I've healed thousands
of thousands of people sincethen I can heal the results are
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like instant at this point.
So when I go in and discoverwhat that is because with my
psychic ability I can go insideof someone and literally see the
energies that they're holdingonto the people that are
involved, what happened and Iexplain all this to my clients
and they're like oh my God, Ican't believe you picked up on
that.
I haven't told anyone that storywhen I was four years old.
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Blah, blah, blah.
And I'll say this is the rootof all your problems, because
usually it's one thing thathappened when someone was a
child that then becomes theplatform and the foundation that
everything else is built on,and so there's usually one thing
that becomes the catalyst toall of their other problems, and
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when you remove that one thing,then the other problems start
to slowly fix themselves, andthen you can also go in and
actually counteract that byinfusing people with more
confidence.
I also use hypnosis to helppeople increase their confidence
, especially women in theworkplace, because we already
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know especially a woman of colorin the workplace, we already
know there are so manymicroaggressions.
There are so many things.
No, no, they're not.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
That's a myth.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
There's so many things that and that's not
everyone's experience.
There are things that you haveto deal with and you're like, oh
my God, this person's irking me, driving me crazy, and so
teaching them also how to createenergetic boundaries, because
we have I mean, there's so muchcontrol that we have over our
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energy and what goes on aroundus and we don't even realize
that because, again, thesethings are not taught.
But that's why I also teachthem in my university, but
teaching women how to and mentoo how to create energetic
boundaries that will diffusenegative energy.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
So, if someone's in a room I'm signing up for that
class because if I could diffusesome of the nonsense and the
shenanigans that yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:28):
And it's fast when you do it, when you do it like I
have.
Whenever I teach people andthey do something for the first
time, they're always surprisedat how easy it is, because I
break things down to be very,very.
It doesn't have.
You know, a lot of these, a lotof people, and this is one of
the reasons why people havethese perceptions of, oh my God,
this is some kind of weirdstuff going on, or woo, woo and
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all this other stuff.
But the reality is not.
None of this stuff has to beshrouded in mystery.
None of this stuff has to belike oh my God, only these
people have this power, onlythese people have this power.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
We all have superpowers.
Well, monica, I can say I'mreally envious, but for me to be
around women and speaking towomen and empowering women and
not being able to turn to light,you say, girl, give me two
seconds.
I got it and I'm like, whatkind of?
And I'm like, I'm just likegirl.
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I'm like you are clean, you arepowerful.
You are sorry too.
I mean not just for the sake ofbeing hyperbolic, literally
looking at giftings and callingout.
I'm like when you did this,this is not normal.
You are bumming beyond, like.
I mean being really detailed andspecific and they think oh,
you're just so sweet, you'resuch a friend.
I'm like no, I'm not trying tobe a friend, I am speaking truth
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to power and I'm trying to dowhatever I can to get you to see
yourself in a light that youtruly are, and not in this light
of, in this darkness.
I need to see yourself in alight.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
False vision of themselves that they get.
So here's a problem, though,with speaking to people, because
you're conscious mind and thisis one of the reasons why I
became a hypnotist is because Ican tell you you're beautiful
all day.
I can tell you you're amazingall day.
Your conscious mind has afilter and it'll be like nope,
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nope, I don't wanna believe it.
Nope, nope, it'll make up allthese excuses.
You're just saying that becauseyou're being nice.
Oh, you have to say that You'remy husband, or?
you have to you know, likethere's all these reasons why we
can tell ourselves no, this isnot true.
But if I have you underhypnosis and I tell you you're
beautiful, I tell you you'restrong, I tell you you're
confident, I tell you thatnothing can stop you, you're
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gonna come out of that hypnotistlike with a capon.
Because because yoursubconscious mind doesn't have
the filter that your consciousmind does Whatever you put into
it, it accepts it and then itactually acts that out in your
life.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
And specifically when it comes down to women, because
the study and the researchshows, even in a corporate
setting, when you give a womancredit in a corporate setting,
she finds a way, nine times outof 10, to turn around and
compliment her male counterpart.
It was like oh you know, monica, you were awesome, that project
you did.
(26:21):
It was phenomenal.
Well, you know what you don'tfeel you know, was over there
behind the scenes working acamera, so it's like natural.
So, with that being said,though, it is because I
appreciate the fact that you dowork for everyone, but
specifically for women.
It's something about us that we, even when, like you said, not
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in words, even in deeds when youshow that they're actions and
you try to give them a flowersand shine the light on them,
that they feel the immediateneed to turn around and give
that to a man.
So, saying that, and you'redoing the work and you're
pulling back those layers andthose bills, to me it makes
sense why you have to go to thatlevel to get them to connect,
(27:05):
because, talking, they're justgonna turn around and give the
credit to.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
Yeah, and it's because of people feel and this
is very common, especially withwomen very uncomfortable
receiving compliments, and butthe root of that is their lack
of self-worth within themselves.
So because if you don't have alack of self-worth, there's no
reason why you should feeluncomfortable receiving a
compliment.
You're uncomfortable receivinga compliment because a part of
(27:33):
your conscious mind is saying no, that's not me.
Oh, let me push that off to theside, because I don't really
deserve that type of accolade,or I don't believe that that
accolade belongs to me, becauseI don't wanna acknowledge my own
gifts, I don't wannaacknowledge my own greatness,
(27:53):
and that's a deeper issue.
And hypnosis just worksbrilliantly and quickly.
That's the beauty of it is itworks so quickly it's literally
a brain hack.
Speaker 1 (28:04):
It works so quickly.
It's amazing.
And, monica, we are coming tothe end and before we wrap up, I
want you to make sure you getout all of.
Where can people find you andmeet you?
What's your preferred method?
But before I get that, I wantto end on this note it's
something you just stated, myuncle.
(28:25):
When it comes down to receivingpositive information or
receiving praise, my uncle, Ican change my life, because that
was me.
I was taught and raised thatyou're just to be a good person,
to be a good Christian, that Ijust had to give, give, give,
give.
But the lesson that he taughtme and he goes Trisha, you have
(28:49):
to be a good receiver.
It's a blessing to be a greatreceiver.
So, in a simplest form, if wecan just take that, it'd be a
grateful, a great receiver and agracious receiver.
And so, once I got that lesson,I can take compliments.
I can take any, because I haveto, because people are trying to
(29:09):
bless you with gifts, even ifthey give it's praise, even if
they give it's saying howbeautiful you are or whatever it
is that they want that they aretrying to give you.
And we need to learn how tograciously receive, because then
you're blocking someone else'sblessing in their process too.
So it's something that simpleis learn the gratitude and the
(29:35):
graciousness behind being a goodreceiver, and that's a
positivity as well.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Yes, and one thing I just want to add to that is I
tell people to keep a gratitudejournal, and it's not just about
I'm grateful that the sun cameout today, I'm grateful that the
moon is out, because those arenot really things that we can
actually attach ourselves to, tobe like okay, yes, this is
really a reason to be gratefultoday.
It is a reason, but it's notsomething that the average human
(30:03):
being can just like.
Yes, so what I tell people todo with their gratitude journal
is write down things that youyourself have accomplished
through life, things that yousmall it could be big or small
things that you didn't thinkthat you were going to get
through a situation at work,that you didn't know how you
were going to meet this deadline, you didn't know how you were
going to get past this problemwith whatever's happening in
(30:25):
your marriage or your with yourchildren or whatever, but you
conquered and you persevered.
Those are things that should gointo your gratitude journal,
and then, every day, you shouldflip back in the book and read
one of those entries to remindyourself of your power.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
Absolutely, and I will also say this too, and
receive it.
Let go of the why, because alot of times, as women, we're
gonna well.
Why did you say that?
You know?
Why did you compliment me?
Why am I beautiful?
And I didn't even you know, Ididn't even do my hair today.
I didn't even just let go ofthe why.
You're receiving compliments orgifts that show our interest,
(31:04):
with the spirit of God.
Thank you, I appreciate that.
That's it.
Just receive, be a graciousreceiver.
And again, monica, thank youagain.
And so I want to make sure thatpeople reach you, connect with
you.
I need to get with you on apersonal level because there's
some things we need to talkabout that came up for me.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (31:27):
But so how should we, how can we get in contact with
you?
Speaker 2 (31:32):
So right now, as far as one-on-one services, I have a
long waiting list, but you cango to Monica Bay.
Thank you, you're both busy soyou can go to Monica Baycom Bay
is spelled B-E-Y, so MonicaBaycom If you want to work with
me one-on-one and get on myactual waiting list, or you
(31:56):
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.
I teach metaphysics, I teachspiritual evolution, spiritual
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I teach people how to healthemselves.
I teach people how to work withtheir energy.
I teach people and empowerpeople on how to set boundaries
energetic and verbal boundariesand all of those things.
Basically, my goal is to getpeople more tuned into
(32:42):
themselves spiritually, empowerthem to direct and be in the
driver's seat of their life, butalso to tap into their power,
discover their spiritual giftsand really be the person that
they're meant to be in thisworld and to live a better life.
Because, like I said, dualitywe are spiritual beings but we
can't be all up in the cloudsall the time.
(33:03):
We have real lives to live.
We have real bills to pay.
We have real children to raise.
So, yeah, and so it's aboutbeing spiritual, but also being
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So that's atmysticuniversitynet.
(33:24):
If you join the all access pass, I have over 30 on-demand
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I also have a I'm going to, I'mgoing to everything, but I also
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of that is to help peoplepractice trusting their
intuition, practice using theirintuition in different ways.
(34:09):
It's a muscle that needs to beworked Absolutely, and so all of
that.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
Well, again, I thank you, and for our Purge family, I
thank you for joining us withthis episode, but I wanted to
call out a few takeaways.
I hope we all learn how to bebetter receivers and receive
with grace, would be gracious inreceiving and with gratitude,
(34:34):
because we are worthy.
And for those of us who havelight has started to dim or we
don't even know how to tap intoour light, let's be focused and
intentional about finding ourlight and making sure our light
is illuminated, because we allneed it and we all take up space
in this world, so we should bemaking the best out of the space
(34:56):
that we take up.
Till we meet again, and thankyou guys, have an amazing day,
take care.
So thank you all.
That was such a great episode Ican't even call it an episode.
I was like that was a greatclass and insightful learning
and I had a lot of things I'vetaken away from it and I wish I
could talk to you for hours andhours and hours.
But, monica, again, welcomeback Our episode one.
(00:31):
We talked about just trying tounderstand spirituality and how
do we get to it, to even beginto do it in the work of getting
clarity on what our spirit isshowing us, telling us, and
what's showing up in our lives.
So we kind of left it at theend of just grazing the surface
(00:51):
but saying I bought up.
The point too, I wonder, isunconsciously.
I think people struggle withaccountability.
I think it's easy, you know,because you know.
It was often said.
I remember growing up in achurch.
People would often say you know, I'm waiting on God, I'm
waiting on God, I'm waiting onJesus.
Like, what are you waiting on?
(01:12):
You know, right, I was, like youknow, about being accountable
for, having accountability forwho we are and how we show up in
a world and making itactionable, even down to
understanding our health andtaking that in in our bodies.
So from that, you were sayingthat you had a lot to say on
(01:34):
accountability piece or theself-help journal.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Yes, because you have to be accountable towards
yourself, and the problem withour society is we're so used to
putting everything outside ofourselves, and I feel very, very
strongly towards recognizingthe divinity within yourself,
recognizing your own ability tomanifest your reality.
(02:00):
And yes, we have universalforces, but guess what?
We are that universal force aswell.
We are not separate, we are thesame, and that energy flows
through us, just like it flowsthrough other people, and it
flows through everything, andthat is that all-encompassing,
omnipresent energy.
But it is within us, it's notoutside of us, it's everything.
(02:20):
And so when we start torecognize and really understand
that, then we have to takeaccountability for our lives.
It's really easy to put itoutside and say, well, god
didn't do that for me, goddidn't do that for me.
And then when something andhere's the problem you can put
the blame outside of yourself,but you also put the winds
(02:41):
outside of yourself.
Oh, look at God, that justhappened.
Look at God.
Okay, you can say that, butalso look at you, look what you
did.
You took actions for that, anda lot of people forget to praise
themselves.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
So let's because so early in the first podcast we
talked about you and yoursuccess journey from a corporate
standpoint, and even thatthat's accountability.
You came in and was like youknow, I started here and then
you were driven in each step ofthe way.
You're accountable for the nextlevel of your success.
(03:17):
You took charge and you wentfrom this to that and then, when
it came down to health, youtook accountability and an
agency over your own body andsay, okay, not that you didn't
trust the doctors, but let mehave agency.
I'm saying all that to say topeople who struggle to grasp any
of this conversation, becausesometimes when you start talking
(03:39):
spirituality or healing, youlose people.
But what I to the greater goodI want to say it's all about
accountability to thyself andagency over self, and that's in
everything we do and how we showup.
I think we are.
Our first accountabilitypartner is us, our own
(04:00):
individual checking it Exactly.
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
And if you're not taking the actions and that's
one of the things when it comesto any kind of manifestation or
law of attraction or or prayer,or whatever it is that you do to
put energy out there to try tocreate your reality you also
have to take actions.
You can do whatever you do, youcan pray for a man, but guess
(04:27):
what?
If you're not going outside,he's probably not going to come
knocking on your door.
There's actions.
There's actions you still haveto take, and that part is the
accountability.
Now, once you've doneeverything that you can do, then
you have to let it go, and justlet it go to faith in terms of
what's going to happen.
But a lot of people put thefaith before the action.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
But you know, monica, some people will say this too.
So with you, you know, here youare a woman of color in
corporate America.
So we already know the studies,the statistics about how much
you know less you're going tomake it, how hard are your path
is going to be, but you stillcontinue and persevere on, even
(05:12):
though some of the odds wereagainst you.
And then you did the same thing.
You know for your spiritualself and some would say, well,
you just have that jump gene andI don't have that.
You know, you just have thatgene where you know you can go
for it and you're a free spiritand that's why you're so
successful at everything you do,as opposed to being accountable
(05:35):
and say, well, we all have it,exactly.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
There's, first of all , we're all even.
We're all equal.
Some of us have certain gifts.
Some people can play basketballreally well and some people
cannot, but they but guess what?
Everyone has the ability tolearn.
Everyone has the ability to bewherever they want to be if it's
important enough to them.
And if your, if your gifts andyour skills and your dreams are
(06:03):
important enough to you, thenyou need to look into what, what
skills and characteristicsabout yourself you need to
acquire in order to become theperson who can achieve these
things.
Because my life wasn't easy.
I didn't have everything handedto me at all.
There's no gene for that.
(06:24):
I just went after.
I just went after my goals andsome of it just happened, and I
believe that was because that'sthat was already written, that
was supposed to happen.
But there are a lot of thingsthat I had to really pull up my
sleeves and work towards, and ifyou, if you don't do that, then
a lot of times you're not goingto get where you want to go.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Right and I think it's important.
I remember I was reading this acouple of months ago and about
giftings, and this writer wassaying how he wanted to be like
the next Michael Jordan and hestayed up and I laced my shoes
like him, I ran like him, I didthe same dedication, but that
wasn't what he was gifted at.
He had that desire, he had thatwill, but he didn't have the
(07:08):
athleticism.
But he goes.
But then what I realized I wasso passionate about this that I
was sitting on a bench andseeing things that other people
couldn't see.
So he realized his gifting wasnot in being the athlete, it was
being the coach and sitting onthe side and observing, but
(07:29):
because he kept himselfaccountable and kept going after
he got clarity and I thinkthat's important.
You know, a lot of times peoplethink we want to be gifted in
certain areas and so we think,because we have the desire,
that's our gifting and I knowthat accountability to say, well
, when you're in theseenvironments and when you're
(07:49):
going after these things, whatis again the spiritual check in?
What are you realizing that you, he realized that he had an eye
from that advantage, which isnot on the court but on the
sideline to see what otherscouldn't see.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
So yeah, and to that I also want to make the point of
.
Sometimes people feel like,okay, I went in this direction
and it didn't work out, and theyfeel like, okay, that was a
failure.
And I reject that, because alot of times you will be on a
path and you are guided towardsit.
You're like, well, I listenedto my intuition.
(08:24):
It told me to go down this pathand ended up not working out.
It didn't have the outcome youdesired, but that didn't mean it
didn't work out, because yougained something when you went
on that path.
Your spirit was leading you inthe right direction.
It's just you and your mindhave an idea of where you
thought that direction should goand that's not how it works.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
I think Oprah gave the perfect example that I heard
her in an interview and she wastalking about Beloved because
she was saying how it reallytook the wind out of herself
because it got really trashed.
And when she was like, I hadsuch great attentions and I
wanted to tell this story andpeople didn't get it and it
(09:05):
didn't do well, I lost a lot ofmoney and so I forgot.
I think it was Deep Park's showwhere someone there she was
talking to he was like well,what did you want to accomplish?
She was like well, I want to.
And she said that.
And she said what she wanted toaccomplish.
She goes.
So what makes you think youdidn't accomplish that?
What makes you think were yougoing for box office success or
that?
Is that all she was like no, Iwanted to engage and I wanted
(09:28):
people.
So what makes you think thatthe however many people that saw
it $500,000 million, whateverit was wasn't engaged didn't
feel?
What makes you think that youdidn't accomplish?
Because you didn't get theresults that you thought you
should get from.
And I think that's a lot of whywe quit in the middle of the
race.
Sometimes we give them so quickbecause we're not getting the
(09:53):
results.
So we want to see we're notjust like even with this podcast
I started and I was just cryingto feel like I don't know what
to do.
But sometimes it was like Ihave to check in and say, trisha
, what were you trying toaccomplish?
Did you go in here to be, ordid you go in to have a message
and a voice and have voices beheard that tip back Right.
(10:14):
Yeah, so as long as you staythere and stay on a course and
you realize you're not a failure, you are accomplishing what it
is and things will manifest theway it was meant to be, as long
as you don't stay off veer thecourse.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Right, right, I believe everything is exactly as
it should be.
Everything is always perfectlyimperfect, and sometimes it's
perfectly perfect.
Perfectly imperfect, yeah, butthere should be no regrets of
anything that happens.
And I don't even use the wordfailure when it relates to
(10:55):
anything, because, yes, I've hadsome disappointments of things
that didn't work out the way Iwanted them to work out, but
then, in hindsight, when youlook back, you see why it had to
happen that way.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
We had it, and sometimes it was just yeah, I
didn't mean to cut you off,because we had a podcast some
months ago about the same thingand Toby and I I don't even say
the word debate anymore.
I say perch because to me whenI say debate, it's I'm
intentionally taking a positionand not being open to seeing
something a different way.
So I don't debate anymore, Iperch.
(11:27):
But I was perching with himbecause he was saying about his
son fail and I was like no, yourson lost, he lost the game.
There are winners and losers ina game.
In a sport, somebody wins by thescore.
And I was like but in life Idon't believe in failure, I'm
just like you.
But in the same token, when wetalked about divorce you know he
(11:49):
talks about well, this was afailed marriage and that was
failed and this was failed I waslike well, why was it a failure
?
I was like was that yourintention?
What was your intention whenyou got married?
So I was like did you notaccomplish those things?
You accomplished them in thatseason and that season end.
And I think that.
(12:09):
So I'm with you with the way welook at failure.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Yeah, everything is a season and when you this is
just part of spiritual growth,and it doesn't matter what kind
of religion you are, but this isjust part of spiritual growth
is learning to detach fromoutcomes because it's the
attachment to the outcomes thatcreates our suffering.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Is that attack?
I need to write that one downbecause that's true.
It's the attachment to theoutcome that creates our
suffering.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Yeah.
So when we start to just be inflow and stop focusing on the
outcome, and every time I have aclient that's like I just
started, or are you going tofriend?
I just started thisrelationship, how is it going to
work out?
I said I'm not going to tellyou that because you know I'm
psychic, so I think people callme all the time asking me
questions.
I'm like I'm just going to lookinto it and make sure that this
is a safe person, but I'm notgoing to tell you how it worked,
(12:59):
how it's going to work out,because it doesn't matter how it
works out.
What you get out of therelationship, it's the
experience that matters.
You're in it for an experience.
Life is just a series ofexperiences, that's all it is.
And when you start to look atit as an experience versus as
something that needs to end inthis particular way, then it
shifts everything.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
This is totally off topic, but I have to bring it up
because it just popped in myhead.
When you said I'm psychic, Iimmediately started to clear my
mind.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
I know that's ridiculous.
I know that's ridiculous.
I get that all the time.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
But I was going to say you got to get that all the
time.
But people are like nope, she'snot going to know what I'm
thinking, nope.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
Yeah, well, you know what it is.
So because I'm, like, extremelygifted in so many different
areas and psychic is one of them, so, literally, if I'm standing
next to someone and they'recheating on their wife, I will
know about it, oh Lord.
So what I do is yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
You don't get invited to the company picnic, some
things much they keep you.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
But what I do is I don't need to know all that
information.
So when I'm out in public andlike crowds or parties or
something like that, I will turnmy gifts down because I've
mastered them, so I have fullcontrol over them.
So I turn my gifts down not off, but just down so that this way
, if anything does pop through,it's only important things like
something I actually need toknow.
(14:25):
So this way I can actuallyinteract with people on a normal
basis and not be all up intheir business, because I will
find out everything.
I used to have this hairstylethat I would go to and this is
before.
I used to turn it down all thetime.
Every time she would go to domy hair, I would get all kinds
(14:45):
of information, all the personalstuff that's happening in her
life.
Next thing, you know, I'm seeingher the whole time.
I'm like you're still with him,aren't you?
Because I see what's going on.
Oh my Lord.
Yes.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
It's funny you said that about turning and I never
thought about it that way, as ifthat kind of gift you can turn
down.
The reason why that stuck withme?
Because years and years ago Iwas in a room and it was a
networking room with a bunch ofwomen, a lot of them, majority
of them, I did not know.
And this lady and I neverforget her she, I knew a little
(15:21):
of her story.
She was going through cancerand she was over in the corner
and she was always kind of quietand she said can I ask you a
question?
And I said sure, did not know,I should have prepared myself
with the question she was goingto ask me.
She goes why do you do that?
And I said what do I do what?
Because I hadn't done anything.
And she was like turn down yourlight.
(15:45):
And when she asked me that Ilooked at her strange at first
and then I started sobbing likeinstantly because my spirit hit
and I was like you know, I Itold her I have to think about
it.
I said I don't know, but I knewwhat I immediately she said in
that statement said something.
One, to turn a light on in me.
(16:06):
Two, I didn't recognize that Iwas doing it.
But three, I understood whatshe was saying.
Like coming into a room andtrying to fit in, you know,
trying not to be this big, happybubbly, hey, and being told
like I told like sucking up theenergy.
Are you looking for attention?
I've had it all said to me whenI only just entered a room.
(16:30):
I've been told you likeattention and I don't.
It's just that I am high energyand so when she said that, I
didn't even realize that I hadstarted to try not to be so
noticeable, which meaningturning down my energy and you
like, yeah, I was like I don'tknow, but I'm so glad she called
(16:51):
that out of me and I was like,yeah, and you changed it right,
absolutely Okay good and I'mlike never dim your light.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
Yeah, I walk into a room and I own a room and I
don't care what anybody thinksabout it, because I am bubbly
and I am very expressive andhappy and a bright light.
So when I do walk in a room itis noticed.
But I don't usually get manypeople saying anything like that
(17:20):
to me, but I used to.
The funny thing is I used toactually be very shy when I was
younger, so the moniker that yousee today is nowhere near what
I used to be growing up.
Maybe it's a Murgo thing samehere.
Yeah, I've gone on a wholejourney to the point where I
can't really tell, to the pointwhere I can just fully be my
authentic self, no matter whereI am, and boldly myself.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
But I think too, one thing I knew for sure for me I
was never.
I was never a shy kid, but Iwas like I wanted to be in a
room and not in a room.
At the same time I just wantedto be a sponge, and so I could
grow up in a time where kidsshould be seen and not heard.
(18:06):
So I was no equisitive, I'llsay so.
I just wanted to be there.
So I kind of mastered how to bein a room and not be in a room.
But when I got older I realizedwhat it was, my spirit, still
to this day, and I get in goodtrouble I'm gonna call it good
trouble.
My spirit won't allow me justto sit, even in corporate spaces
(18:29):
, and be silent, and that's agood thing and a bad thing at
times.
But I was like no, I can't.
That's the one you're notsilent about.
Right, I was like yeah, I don't.
And then, but because you arewho you are, because you are
Monica and because I'm a Tricia,you are called on, even when
you know it's not with goodintentions.
(18:51):
Like so what do you think aboutthat?
You know, because sometimesthey just want that combat or
that energy, like well, I knowI'm religious and Monica, what
do you think about just thatthing?
Yeah, so it's interesting.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
Yeah, I dispel all of that energy.
And I'm just.
You know, with your energyfield you can diffuse energy
like that really easily.
Someone may toss you a ballwith negative intent and you
turn that ball into you know,beautiful prosperity ball.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
So how would you suggest?
Because I work in a Bencorporate America and I have
I've really tried especially, Ican honestly say, the last five
years to help women specificallyturn up their light.
And I notice and I want to getyour feedback on this I notice
(19:48):
that I get a lot of pushbackbecause they think, oh, you're
just, you know, being kind oryou're just being, you know, a
good friend or whatever it is.
And so when I speak life andI'm being honest, I'm like I
wouldn't say it if I didn't seeit in you.
I don't say it, and it's sohard for women to see their
strength and their power Right,and how do you, with your
(20:12):
spiritual gifts, help them turnup their light?
Speaker 2 (20:17):
Literally one of the gifts that I have is turning on
people's light, so I canliterally do that in two seconds
.
Such for someone In two seconds.
Okay, in seconds, so just tap inand turn it up.
Also, the ability to increasepeople's self-confidence all
through energy work Very quickly.
People notice a difference thatlike within minutes removing
(20:41):
the things that are.
You know, the thing is whenpeople are afraid of turning up
their light, a lot of timesthere's multiple things going on
, but a lot of times it isrooted in a lack of
self-confidence, and so you haveto find what that, because
self-confidence is the root, butit's not the real root.
What's created thatself-confidence?
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That's the root and whatcreated that lack of
self-confidence?
That's the actual root andthat's gonna be some kind of
trauma from childhood or earlychildhood that they still hadn't
healed from.
So I can then go in and use myhealing ability Again, because I
have healed my had to healmyself and I've healed thousands
of thousands of people sincethen I can heal the results are
(21:26):
like instant at this point.
So when I go in and discoverwhat that is because with my
psychic ability I can go insideof someone and literally see the
energies that they're holdingonto the people that are
involved, what happened and Iexplain all this to my clients
and they're like oh my God, Ican't believe you picked up on
that.
I haven't told anyone that storywhen I was four years old.
(21:46):
Blah, blah, blah.
And I'll say this is the rootof all your problems, because
usually it's one thing thathappened when someone was a
child that then becomes theplatform and the foundation that
everything else is built on,and so there's usually one thing
that becomes the catalyst toall of their other problems, and
(22:06):
when you remove that one thing,then the other problems start
to slowly fix themselves, andthen you can also go in and
actually counteract that byinfusing people with more
confidence.
I also use hypnosis to helppeople increase their confidence
, especially women in theworkplace, because we already
(22:29):
know especially a woman of colorin the workplace, we already
know there are so manymicroaggressions.
There are so many things.
No, no, they're not.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
That's a myth.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
There's so many things that and that's not
everyone's experience.
There are things that you haveto deal with and you're like, oh
my God, this person's irking me, driving me crazy, and so
teaching them also how to createenergetic boundaries, because
we have I mean, there's so muchcontrol that we have over our
(23:03):
energy and what goes on aroundus and we don't even realize
that because, again, thesethings are not taught.
But that's why I also teachthem in my university, but
teaching women how to and mentoo how to create energetic
boundaries that will diffusenegative energy.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
So, if someone's in a room I'm signing up for that
class because if I could diffusesome of the nonsense and the
shenanigans that yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:28):
And it's fast when you do it, when you do it like I
have.
Whenever I teach people andthey do something for the first
time, they're always surprisedat how easy it is, because I
break things down to be very,very.
It doesn't have.
You know, a lot of these, a lotof people, and this is one of
the reasons why people havethese perceptions of, oh my God,
this is some kind of weirdstuff going on, or woo, woo and
(23:49):
all this other stuff.
But the reality is not.
None of this stuff has to beshrouded in mystery.
None of this stuff has to belike oh my God, only these
people have this power, onlythese people have this power.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
We all have superpowers.
Well, monica, I can say I'mreally envious, but for me to be
around women and speaking towomen and empowering women and
not being able to turn to light,you say, girl, give me two
seconds.
I got it and I'm like, whatkind of?
And I'm like, I'm just likegirl.
(24:22):
I'm like you are clean, you arepowerful.
You are sorry too.
I mean not just for the sake ofbeing hyperbolic, literally
looking at giftings and callingout.
I'm like when you did this,this is not normal.
You are bumming beyond, like.
I mean being really detailed andspecific and they think oh,
you're just so sweet, you'resuch a friend.
I'm like no, I'm not trying tobe a friend, I am speaking truth
(24:45):
to power and I'm trying to dowhatever I can to get you to see
yourself in a light that youtruly are, and not in this light
of, in this darkness.
I need to see yourself in alight.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
False vision of themselves that they get.
So here's a problem, though,with speaking to people, because
you're conscious mind and thisis one of the reasons why I
became a hypnotist is because Ican tell you you're beautiful
all day.
I can tell you you're amazingall day.
Your conscious mind has afilter and it'll be like nope,
(25:23):
nope, I don't wanna believe it.
Nope, nope, it'll make up allthese excuses.
You're just saying that becauseyou're being nice.
Oh, you have to say that You'remy husband, or?
you have to you know, likethere's all these reasons why we
can tell ourselves no, this isnot true.
But if I have you underhypnosis and I tell you you're
beautiful, I tell you you'restrong, I tell you you're
confident, I tell you thatnothing can stop you, you're
(25:46):
gonna come out of that hypnotistlike with a capon.
Because because yoursubconscious mind doesn't have
the filter that your consciousmind does Whatever you put into
it, it accepts it and then itactually acts that out in your
life.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
And specifically when it comes down to women, because
the study and the researchshows, even in a corporate
setting, when you give a womancredit in a corporate setting,
she finds a way, nine times outof 10, to turn around and
compliment her male counterpart.
It was like oh you know, monica, you were awesome, that project
you did.
(26:21):
It was phenomenal.
Well, you know what you don'tfeel you know, was over there
behind the scenes working acamera, so it's like natural.
So, with that being said,though, it is because I
appreciate the fact that you dowork for everyone, but
specifically for women.
It's something about us that we, even when, like you said, not
(26:42):
in words, even in deeds when youshow that they're actions and
you try to give them a flowersand shine the light on them,
that they feel the immediateneed to turn around and give
that to a man.
So, saying that, and you'redoing the work and you're
pulling back those layers andthose bills, to me it makes
sense why you have to go to thatlevel to get them to connect,
(27:05):
because, talking, they're justgonna turn around and give the
credit to.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
Yeah, and it's because of people feel and this
is very common, especially withwomen very uncomfortable
receiving compliments, and butthe root of that is their lack
of self-worth within themselves.
So because if you don't have alack of self-worth, there's no
reason why you should feeluncomfortable receiving a
compliment.
You're uncomfortable receivinga compliment because a part of
(27:33):
your conscious mind is saying no, that's not me.
Oh, let me push that off to theside, because I don't really
deserve that type of accolade,or I don't believe that that
accolade belongs to me, becauseI don't wanna acknowledge my own
gifts, I don't wannaacknowledge my own greatness,
(27:53):
and that's a deeper issue.
And hypnosis just worksbrilliantly and quickly.
That's the beauty of it is itworks so quickly it's literally
a brain hack.
Speaker 1 (28:04):
It works so quickly.
It's amazing.
And, monica, we are coming tothe end and before we wrap up, I
want you to make sure you getout all of.
Where can people find you andmeet you?
What's your preferred method?
But before I get that, I wantto end on this note it's
something you just stated, myuncle.
(28:25):
When it comes down to receivingpositive information or
receiving praise, my uncle, Ican change my life, because that
was me.
I was taught and raised thatyou're just to be a good person,
to be a good Christian, that Ijust had to give, give, give,
give.
But the lesson that he taughtme and he goes Trisha, you have
(28:49):
to be a good receiver.
It's a blessing to be a greatreceiver.
So, in a simplest form, if wecan just take that, it'd be a
grateful, a great receiver and agracious receiver.
And so, once I got that lesson,I can take compliments.
I can take any, because I haveto, because people are trying to
(29:09):
bless you with gifts, even ifthey give it's praise, even if
they give it's saying howbeautiful you are or whatever it
is that they want that they aretrying to give you.
And we need to learn how tograciously receive, because then
you're blocking someone else'sblessing in their process too.
So it's something that simpleis learn the gratitude and the
(29:35):
graciousness behind being a goodreceiver, and that's a
positivity as well.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Yes, and one thing I just want to add to that is I
tell people to keep a gratitudejournal, and it's not just about
I'm grateful that the sun cameout today, I'm grateful that the
moon is out, because those arenot really things that we can
actually attach ourselves to, tobe like okay, yes, this is
really a reason to be gratefultoday.
It is a reason, but it's notsomething that the average human
(30:03):
being can just like.
Yes, so what I tell people todo with their gratitude journal
is write down things that youyourself have accomplished
through life, things that yousmall it could be big or small
things that you didn't thinkthat you were going to get
through a situation at work,that you didn't know how you
were going to meet this deadline, you didn't know how you were
going to get past this problemwith whatever's happening in
(30:25):
your marriage or your with yourchildren or whatever, but you
conquered and you persevered.
Those are things that should gointo your gratitude journal,
and then, every day, you shouldflip back in the book and read
one of those entries to remindyourself of your power.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
Absolutely, and I will also say this too, and
receive it.
Let go of the why, because alot of times, as women, we're
gonna well.
Why did you say that?
You know?
Why did you compliment me?
Why am I beautiful?
And I didn't even you know, Ididn't even do my hair today.
I didn't even just let go ofthe why.
You're receiving compliments orgifts that show our interest,
(31:04):
with the spirit of God.
Thank you, I appreciate that.
That's it.
Just receive, be a graciousreceiver.
And again, monica, thank youagain.
And so I want to make sure thatpeople reach you, connect with
you.
I need to get with you on apersonal level because there's
some things we need to talkabout that came up for me.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (31:27):
But so how should we, how can we get in contact with
you?
Speaker 2 (31:32):
So right now, as far as one-on-one services, I have a
long waiting list, but you cango to Monica Bay.
Thank you, you're both busy soyou can go to Monica Baycom Bay
is spelled B-E-Y, so MonicaBaycom If you want to work with
me one-on-one and get on myactual waiting list, or you
(31:56):
cannot wait and go tomysticuniversitynet and get the
all access pass.
Mystic University is where Iteach people all of these things
.
I teach metaphysics, I teachspiritual evolution, spiritual
growth, personal growth,business growth, everything,
because I have a whole, I have awhole bunch of skills and I
(32:19):
love to and tons of knowledge inhere and I love to give that to
people.
I teach people how to healthemselves.
I teach people how to work withtheir energy.
I teach people and empowerpeople on how to set boundaries
energetic and verbal boundariesand all of those things.
Basically, my goal is to getpeople more tuned into
(32:42):
themselves spiritually, empowerthem to direct and be in the
driver's seat of their life, butalso to tap into their power,
discover their spiritual giftsand really be the person that
they're meant to be in thisworld and to live a better life.
Because, like I said, dualitywe are spiritual beings but we
can't be all up in the cloudsall the time.
(33:03):
We have real lives to live.
We have real bills to pay.
We have real children to raise.
So, yeah, and so it's aboutbeing spiritual, but also being
physical and allowing those twoto coexist in great balance,
though, and so that's what it'sall about.
So that's atmysticuniversitynet.
(33:24):
If you join the all access pass, I have over 30 on-demand
courses, plus I do an extra fouror five online new live online
classes every month.
We have a healing circle everymonth, where I go and I heal
everybody in mass, and again, itdoesn't take me long.
Everybody can feel it.
(33:47):
It's also a beautiful community, a beautiful community of
supportive and like-mindedpeople, and literally, they do
support each other.
I also have a I'm going to, I'mgoing to everything, but I also
have a monthly intuitionignition circle, and the point
of that is to help peoplepractice trusting their
intuition, practice using theirintuition in different ways.
(34:09):
It's a muscle that needs to beworked Absolutely, and so all of
that.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
Well, again, I thank you, and for our Purge family, I
thank you for joining us withthis episode, but I wanted to
call out a few takeaways.
I hope we all learn how to bebetter receivers and receive
with grace, would be gracious inreceiving and with gratitude,
(34:34):
because we are worthy.
And for those of us who havelight has started to dim or we
don't even know how to tap intoour light, let's be focused and
intentional about finding ourlight and making sure our light
is illuminated, because we allneed it and we all take up space
in this world, so we should bemaking the best out of the space
(34:56):
that we take up.
Till we meet again, and thankyou guys, have an amazing day,
take care.
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