September 5, 2024 • 29 mins
Have you ever felt like balancing personal and professional life is an impossible juggling act? Join me, Steph, your Mojo Maven and emotional Sherpa, as we challenge the notion of balance and explore what it truly means to align your body, mind, and spirit. Drawing from my personal journey, I share how embracing the mantra "I am aligning my body, mind, and spirit in balance" has transformed my approach to happiness and intention. Together, we'll navigate through the essential tools in my self-love first aid kit, delve into the complexities of shifting from a productivity-obsessed mindset to one that champions presence and gratitude, and redefine how we perceive and achieve balance.
In a compelling narrative, we reflect on the grace needed during challenging times, from starting a new business to committing to personal health goals. Through insightful critiques and thought-provoking discussions, we unpack the often elusive nature of balance with humor and practicality. Hear an inspiring story from Howard Schultz, CEO of Starbucks, on creating a life you don't need to escape from, and discover the joy in celebrating small victories. Whether it's finding harmony in your daily routine or embracing the quirks of everyday life, this episode of Pocketful of Mojo offers valuable insights and practical advice to help you cultivate unshakable confidence and self-worth.
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Speaker 1 (00:11):
Welcome to Pocketful of Mojo, where you're, you and
I'm, steph, and we tune in hereto tap into some mojo.
Well, what do you mean?
What's mojo?
Well, what do you mean?
What's mojo, mojo, is thatfeeling of unshakable confidence
, booming self-worth, likeyou're an unstoppable force of
nature, and I'm here to show youhow to have that feeling every
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single day.
You see, I think I've crackedthe code to being happy.
I'm happy all the freaking time, like every day and most of the
day, possibly to an annoyingdegree.
But hey, I wasn't always thisway.
And not to flex, but I've hadbreakdowns on multiple
continents and in two languages.
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But by paying attention andliving with more intention, and
living with more intention, I'vecurated a self-love first aid
kit full of amazing tools thathelp me out of life's more
sticky and stressful situations,and do so with grace and
self-care.
And I'm not here to gatekeep.
In fact, I'm on a mission tohelp you tap into your best
(01:20):
stuff and remember that you haveeverything you need to live
your life on your own terms.
So settle in.
We're here for some positivechange.
So let's dig in to where yourmojo meets the road.
In today's episode, I'm going toreview our mantra for the week,
and then we're going to diginto today's main topic, which
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is balance myth or secret sauceand plot twist.
We are taking it on the roadonce again and shaking things up
.
So you stick around and I'mgoing to make sure that you're
glad that you did.
Let's get started with today'smantra and get tuned in, tapped
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in and turned on.
Hello, hello, hello and welcometo the 33rd episode of
Pocketful of Mojo.
I'm Steph, I'm your Mojo Maven,your emotional Sherpa, and I'm
so glad that you're here.
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I'm here to reflect yourawesomeness back to you.
So let's settle in.
Let's start by digging intotoday's mantra, which is I am
aligning my body, mind andspirit in balance.
I am Making sure that, as weroot ourselves in this mantra,
we're tapping in and droppinginto the.
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I am to affirm and shift ourthinking.
As we root ourselves in thismantra, we're tapping in and
dropping into the.
I am to affirm and shift ourthinking.
As we begin to believe this tobe true, even if in this
particular moment we are not,then that's okay.
This is part of the rewiringthat helps us get our actions
into alignment with our desires.
This cracks open the part ofour brain that starts to problem
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solve and generate thoughts andideas around how to achieve
this goal of aligning our mind,body and spirit in perfect
balance.
It starts here.
Thoughts become things.
I am aligning my body, mind andspirit in balance.
This trinity of mind, body,spirit are the anchors through
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which we're going to be creatingthat alignment, as you set out
on your quest for alignment,finding the balance component
means that your thoughts, goalsand actions touch on each one of
these parts of your life.
For example, if every wakingmoment of your day is sitting at
a desk and producingdeliverables, you're exercising
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your brain.
But what about your body andyour spirit?
If all you do is shred at thegym and count your calories
every day, you may not befeeding your mind and your soul,
taking all that hard physicalwork still leaving you feeling
incomplete.
Nourishing each of theseanchors mindfully and in
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alignment with your goals is howbalance is truly realized.
I'm aligning my body, mind andspirit in balance.
Balance allows for flow.
Balance, balance allows forflow.
When you build a life based inbalance and your life is well
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rounded, you will have built alife that you don't need to
escape from.
No more waiting for Friday orcounting down the minutes to
your next vacation.
So don't get so busy making aliving that you forget to have a
life, because tomorrow is notpromised.
Weird shit happens all the time.
So when our spirit is rooted ingratitude for today, our mind
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is intentionally focused on themagic of now and we are poised
to move forward with intentionand purpose, allowing life to
flow and get you the pleasure ofliving a life with more ease
and, best of all, joy.
I am aligning my body, mind andspirit in balance, and this is a
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process.
It takes time, intention andawareness.
It also means taking action, ormaybe it means that you take
less action.
We live in a very busy andresults-based society where we
feel like we have to prove ourworth through our work and our
output.
This can lead to living onrinse and repeat, but it's a
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trap.
Often these standards ofproductivity aren't even real
and it's what we think we'resupposed to be doing.
But let me tell you fromexperience when we do less, no
one's going to come and stop you.
No one's going to crack thewhip and make you do more If
doing less is the breath youneed to take so that you can
step back and evaluate whatreally needs to be on your plate
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, then you're already on thepath to balance.
Then you're already on the pathto balance.
I am aligning my body, mind andspirit in balance.
If the idea of balance seemslike the holy grail to you, like
super mysterious and possibly amyth, then think of it like
well-roundedness.
Getting up, going to work,coming home exhausted, is a
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routine that I know.
I lived for far too long.
My ambitions were narrow and mygoals only revolved around work
.
Coming home exhausted is aroutine that I know.
I lived for far too long.
My ambitions were narrow and mygoals only revolved around work
, and I had nothing else goingon in my life and, as a result,
I felt depressed, unfulfilledand exhausted.
How could I have room for more?
And I loved my job, so howcould it be that bad?
But there was no balance.
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We need more than oneingredient in the soup of life,
and nowhere did we sign acontract saying that our
employer would get our beststuff during our best years for
about 50% of our life.
So think about what goodbalance looks like for you.
What does that mean?
Where in your life can you adda bit of flexibility and let in
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a little bit more joy,intentional movement, spiritual
connection or just connectingwith yourself and keeping your
mind tuned in to what trulyserves you.
I am aligning my body, mind andspirit in balance.
Okay, that was a lot to digest.
(07:34):
So, on that note, we're going tobe taking today's main topic on
a field trip.
Yes, so the last coupleepisodes we've done on the road
where I'm driving and I justriff a bit on the main topic.
But in today's very specialepisode I take you with me on my
favorite ritual breakfast withmy bestie.
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That's right, my very firstguest is none other than Leanne
Ryan Mojo, supporter from dayone.
I've known Leanne for a verylong time and she's an
incredible human, wonderfulfriend, successful entrepreneur
who opened her own clothingboutique.
Must have pockets link in theshow notes.
(08:15):
Yes, this is a shameless plugbecause it's like every woman's
dream store and, like I'vementioned in previous episodes,
our morning breakfasts arecheaper than therapy and always
full of insight.
Leanne was in my corner when Iwas at my lowest point and a
shell of a human being, and hasbeen by my side to witness my
transformation over the last fewyears.
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I'm so grateful for her.
So when we went out forbreakfast, we miked up and dove
into the topic of balance.
So the good news is is today'sepisode has a fun twist, along
with some great insights.
The bad news is halfway throughrecording her mic stopped
working, so I've been able tocapture some juicy bits of our
(08:56):
convo and I'm excited to shareit with you today.
So let's take this conversationover to the Pancake House, and
I'll meet you back here in thestudio when it's time to pay the
check, without further ado.
Here's Steph and Leanne dobreakfast.
Mojo Styles four, three, two,one go go okay, we're gonna
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record agapulamojo, not roadtrip.
We've evolved to field tripedition, so we're out for
breakfast.
We're out for breakfast,pocketful of mojo out for
breakfast edition.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
We love this.
I'm trying to decide if I'mgoing to be healthy or not
healthy.
That's where the decision isright now.
How do you want to feel today?
Oh, that's a good point.
I've got a golf later, so maybeI need to be healthier some
soup and salad.
Not exactly, geez, it's hard.
(10:12):
Oh, they do a frittata this isa big menu.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
I wonder how much some of this stuff gets ordered
like.
When was the last time someonecame here for a hot hamburger
sandwich and why can't I justhave crepes?
Why does it have to have amedley of things on it?
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Because that probably makes it more attractive.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Oh, I just want a crepe, A single crepe please One
crepe yeah.
That's a little good.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
Here we go.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Oh, and we're still recording Hooray Hooray, because
I went through all the settingsyesterday because, as I think I
told you the first time I triedto do this, I recorded like a
solid, amazing 25 minutes justwalking around my neighborhood,
yeah, and it recorded like eightseconds of it.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Oh okay, so we're on that path, we are good.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
We've passed the eight second mark.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Lovely, it's an official success Past the eight
second mark.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Lovely, it's an official success.
Love, it All right.
And yeah, we can talk abouteverything and everything as
long as we talk about balancefor a little bit.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
Yeah Well.
So, speaking of balance, soSing it sister, sing it sister.
So I finally went and orderedmy contacts and you know, the
stupid thing is is like it'sbeen way too long, like way, way
, way too long, and in the endit cost me the appointment.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
And then $45 for the contacts that I chose.
And how much of your time?
Not as much as I would havethought.
So, like the funny thing was,is that?
Speaker 1 (11:46):
how much time did you spend thinking about how much
you weren't doing it?
Speaker 2 (11:50):
oh, all the time, all the time.
But I think what it was is Ithought I was because of the
business, all that stuff.
The thought I was saving moneyand in the end let's say it's
about $200.
Okay, not nothing, not nothing.
But at the same time I took tothe grocery store.
I thought I was saving moneyand in the end let's say it's
about $200.
Okay, not nothing, not nothing.
But at the same time, but atrip to the grocery store, a
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trip to the grocery store A datenight out.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Date night out.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
I am worth far more than that.
A cute new dress with pocketsCute new dress with pockets $200
can look like a lot of things.
It can so balance.
How good does it feel?
Speaker 1 (12:26):
now that you did it, it feels so good.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
I feel like a normal human.
But again, it's just soridiculous that it took me that
long.
It shouldn't take me this long.
And what are we going to donext time?
We are going to remindourselves of this situation?
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Work, yes, because one of the things that I know we
talked about doing and I know Idid it is that I made a list of
, like what are the?
What are my self-directed yeah?
and then I was like okay, twicea year I go to Thermaea.
Yeah, every four months I getmy nails done, yeah.
And then I like I plan it out.
And then, so that my futureself doesn't have any excuses,
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I'm like no, this is thecommitment I made to myself,
just like all my othercommitments, like, so, it's like
dentist haircut, which I'moverdue for Me too.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
You know, actually I'm a little behind on and I was
gonna.
I just have to like search myinbox and I was going to.
I just have to like search myinbox, as I told my massage
therapist.
I'm like I said, the way to getme is send me the reminder
emails Like when's the last time, Because then there's always
the link on check my schedulehere, so I just have to Google
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search or not Google search thisinbox, search and.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
I'll find it, but yeah, okay, that's a great thing
, that's a and I'll find it, butyeah, okay, that's a great
thing.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
That's a great thing, it is.
It is so Cause I've.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
I've come to the point where, like when I see
those things on my to do listthat are like for my own good,
that it's so easy to talk myselfout of yeah, cause there's
quote unquote more importantthings that I should be doing.
Yeah of yeah, because there'squote-unquote more important
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things that I should be doing.
Yeah, that should work.
Then, yeah, yes, can I pleasehave the four by four and a
special request instead?
Speaker 2 (14:16):
of hash browns.
Can I get fruit?
Thank you very much, appreciateit, and I'm gonna do the frata,
the garden veggie frittata, andI would like it with rye toast.
Thanks, nice, thank you.
So this is the funny thingabout balance.
I've given myself the grace andI don't know if you can use the
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term grace when it's almost ayear old, but I've given myself
the grace.
I know I've given myself thegrace of like I've started a
business.
I can just sleep in every dayand then work and whatever.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
Are you throwing shade right now?
Speaker 2 (14:58):
If I'm throwing shade at anybody inside myself just
in the sense that I Like, Ican't use the excuse anymore
that work is too busy that Ican't take care of myself, right
?
So I haven't been getting that,because that's not sustainable.
It's not sustainable, it's nothealthy.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
And if I want, yeah, if you want anything to be
sustainable, you got to takecare of the rest.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Exactly, but Balance, balance.
So I, so you're killing it inthe self-care game.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
You've got all this amazing awareness.
You're taking action.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
It feels good.
More please, more please.
So I'm going to.
I had told myself that I wasn'tgoing to join a gym, but I'm
going to join a gym.
Well, so hubby is going to thegym, so I'm going to join the
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same gym.
Nice, and because he speaksvolumes about it, and so I want
to, I think it'll be a goodlevel of accountability, because
I'm the type of person thatneeds accountability I love
everything about this.
Well, I know I haven't joined ityet, so there's a little bit of
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accountability, but it's outthere in the ether.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
Yeah, it's out there in the ether and time doesn't
matter.
It's going to turn intowhatever makes the most sense
for you.
But this is great for yourmarriage.
Yeah, it's great foraccountability.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
It's great for your health, yeah, which is great for
all the other things, all thethings.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
Oh, I know, so it's good.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Heart exploding, heart exploding, so yeah, so now
it's just a matter of and thiscoffee is only a little bit
terrible.
It was nearly as bad as itusually is.
Nope, yep, yep, it'll work.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
If this didn't make it on.
I originally did not order acoffee, and then I was coffeed
while wearing a coffee, coffee,coffee sweatshirt, so the coffee
had a lot to live up to whichis true, this is not a lot, but
it is good, it is coffee, it iscoffee.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
And going back to your last week's episode about
routine, I think the wholeroutine and balance thing kind
of goes hand in hand.
Yes, and I definitely.
When you were talking aboutwhat's the difference between
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like a good routine and badroutine, I totally think that,
like a bad routine, let's justcall it what it is, because it
is a rut, yeah, so I thinkthat's where and you're doing it
for the sake- of doing it.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
Yeah, yeah, and I hope I called out the like.
What the fuck did you think wasgoing to happen when you're
forcing yourself, you're tappinginto all this resistant energy?
Yeah, you thought somethinggood was going to come from that
I think, is.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
I think what it is is that we get into maybe let's
say we get into habits, yes, asthe, as the top of the pinnacle,
and then the habit can eitherbecome a routine or it can
become a rut, yep, and then it'sjust you know where where do we
want that to become?
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So, like I said, for me, goingback to, like, the whole idea of
joining a gym was or Ishouldn't say, the idea of
giving myself the grace to sleepin, was less about that and
more about just the habit ofsleeping in that's turned into a
rut right versus serving youanymore isn't serving anymore,
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which, in the end as well, whenit comes to balance, there is no
balance.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
It was just yeah ditch, completely in the ditch,
so yeah, so so, yeah, in likedigging into this topic, I've
discovered like a lot of reallygood perspectives and points of
view on it and and the thingthat inspired this episode is
actually you and your responseto my script.
When I was when I refer tobalance, and you were editing my
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script for my presentation andyou had a very powerful reaction
to balance.
You're like balance is bullshit, like this shouldn't be, the
goal doesn't exist, and I likeit really got my attention and
it really rattled around my headand I was like, ooh, there's
juicy stuff there, true, and so,thank you, you're welcome.
Little did I know, because Iremember and I can see it clear
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as day in my terrible memorymeeting the CEO, howard Schultz,
of Starbucks Coffee in my storeon Broadway in Dunmore oh, I
didn't know that and asking himthe question like what do you do
for work-life balance?
You asked him that I sure did.
I looked him dead in the eyesand that was my question.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
And what did you say?
I was?
Speaker 1 (19:44):
like, your success is obviously everything that it is
.
Yeah, and I said but yourvalues are super clear.
And I was so starstruck Icouldn't even cobble together
what his answer was for youright now, but it was something
along the lines of like whenyou're aligned with your
passions, it's all just life.
Oh, I love that, right, soyou're not.
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You're living a life whereyou're not waiting for friday at
five yes, because your work isso terrible.
Yeah, you're not dying for thevacation because and counting
down the days and minutes andseconds because your everyday
life is awful, yeah, or puttingall your eggs in the basket that
, like my next job, will make meham yeah like that would agree
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risky business, yeah, but I it'sreally really complex, you know
yeah, balance, moderation,flexibility, adaptability, like
I I really all the same word,really really like I think about
diets and I I've always beenvehemently opposed to anything
that's like all in or all out, Iagree, like cutting out X
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ingredient, cutting out Yingredient, because when we
think balance, we think of aphysical scale.
Right when I want this balanceto be balanced, I have to have
50 on one side and 50 on theother.
These numerical, quantifiable,mathematical numbers are the
same, yeah, and so when we tryto apply that to our life, two
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puzzle pieces from differentpuzzles, like, yes, it and so
giving ourselves that grace toyour point, like that
flexibility, that um, yeah,joining a gym is not an
automatic sign up, that you'regonna go there every day and
shred like that's, you know it'snot all or nothing, no, um,
well, and you get to decide.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
I get to decide, but this was so.
I haven't figured out my rightamount to go yet, but I like
what you said the other day withroutine, with pilates, like you
can miss one day but you can'tmiss two.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Yeah, but this was even good.
Yeah, like giving myself alittle bit of wiggle room yeah
and then.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
But there was also, um, something I heard from
another podcast where they hadset themselves a goal and they
said like, and I think this iswhy we don't break things down
enough for ourselves is in termsof goals and what's achievable,
but their goal was to um, go totheir gym.
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That they chose um 50 times, Ithink, was.
So it was within a year, okayso, and 50 times in a year is
once a week.
Yep, she's already, uh well,towards that goal.
So she's like you know she'sfeeling good about it at this
stage for the year.
But so why, if you were to justtell somebody, oh well, I go to
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the gym once a week, somebody'dbe like, really like, once a
week.
You can't take it up and allthank you, thank you so much.
Uh, I you also.
At the moment, I think I'm okay, just need that little side.
Oh, the man, yeah, thanks.
So my friends and I have asaying.
Speaker 1 (22:58):
When we see someone doing something.
That's like I think it came upthe first time when we saw
someone super cringy on stage infront of a bunch of people,
like belting out a song, butlike kind of not really well.
We just kind of look at eachother with our judgy knowing
glance We've known each otherfor 40 years, yes and we just
say better than I could do.
(23:19):
Yes, that's true.
So for the person who's goingto the gym once a week and
someone who does not go to thegym at all, I say better than I
could do better than I could doand it just kind of takes me off
my little high horse.
Yeah, it gives me a chance tolike, see the virtue in people.
That's a teeny, tiny amount ofbutter, oh, and it's.
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Oh, this is one of my petpeeves.
It's not very few pet peeves, Idon't even put it under the
microscope that much, but it'shard.
Speaker 2 (23:51):
You can't.
Do you have any butter?
That's a little softer for the.
I can check.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
It's all in the fridge, right?
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
Oh, don't, you never know, you can put it under the
little heat lamp for you.
You don't want to damage yourlittle pancakes, but it makes me
to damage your little pancakes,but it's me so many.
Anyway, I love the better thanI could do.
And because it's true, it's sotrue, because I think that's the
problem sometimes is we'llpoint and judge.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
Well, you don't have to look further than like
instagram comment sections toknow like that.
People are willing to judge foranything.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
Throw all the stones from their glass houses.
Yes, agreed.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
You know, let that be a lesson Number one.
Don't read the comments.
Thank you, oh yeah, that'swhipped Nice.
Yeah, oh, you're the best.
Thank you for standing up forme and my butter.
It's the little things reallyis, yeah I mean, look at the
smile on my face right now.
(24:53):
I think you can probably hearit too.
Exactly, my goodness.
Yeah, the tapes is asking.
I have very few things that likeupset me yeah, the patriarchy,
and cold butter, really, anddouble standards those are my
top three.
Rage makers love that.
(25:14):
Oh my god, this has been juicy,tactical, practical, spiritual,
delicious.
We had hard butter, we had softbutter, we did the whole thing.
Amazing, this is going to giveme so much editing to do.
This is really long.
It's over an hour, oh my gosh.
(25:37):
Okay, well, I think this isgoing to wrap up the Pocketful
of Mojo Breakfast Edition.
Huge thanks to Leanne Ryan,owner, ceo, president of Awesome
at Must have Pockets Apparel,available online or in person
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here in Winnipeg, canada, centerof the universe, sending it
back to the studio to wrap it upon balance.
Come back next time see wherewe're going to talk about next
week's topic.
Ciao for now.
Oh, wasn't that fun.
(26:34):
It was such a greatconversation and I'm sad that we
didn't get to capture the wholething, although, having said
that, we had over an hour ofaudio, so this would have been a
mega episode.
Some key takeaways that I wantyou to take with you today is
that you have full permission toredefine what balance is to you
(26:54):
.
The objective of seekingbalance is really just to
promote a well-rounded life thathas more ingredients than work,
sleep and true crimedocumentaries.
Balance is about crafting alife where all of your itches
get scratched and you'reinspired to move your body, feed
your mind and nourish your soul.
(27:15):
Now, are these adjustmentsobvious?
Well, maybe not at first, butthrough the process of
rekindling your relationshipwith yourself, you'll be able to
discover what's missing, whatno longer serves you, and slowly
taking steps to rounding outyour agenda, to tick all those
boxes.
You can do it and I can help.
(27:35):
Next week, I'll be offering upa bonus episode where you'll be
able to find out all the waysthat we can work together to
help get you where you want togo.
I'm working on something reallypowerful and transformational
and I'm so excited to share itwith you.
It's called the Mojo Method andit's going to change the game.
(27:55):
So be sure to check out all thegreat links in the show notes
and, for Pete's sake, I willlove you forever if you
subscribe to this podcast.
Leave a review and bonus pointsif you share this or any
episode with a friend.
So remember, life is thebalance of holding on and
letting go.
The goal is to balance a lifethat works with a life that
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counts.
The key is to not prioritizewhat's on our schedule, but to
schedule your priorities andwatch the magic happen, because,
when it comes to work-lifebalance, the key to remember is
it's all life.
The balance has to be withinyou and it starts here.
It starts today.
Thank you so much for tuning inthis week and be sure to come
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back next week where we aregoing to unpack the monster that
is confidence.
What is it, how do we get itand why is it so important?
So until next time, my friends,stay classy, stay kind and
remember you are the mostimportant project that you'll
ever work on.
Keep going.
You're doing great.
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Love you.
Ciao for now.
Welcome to Pocketful of Mojo, where you're, you and
I'm, steph, and we tune in hereto tap into some mojo.
Well, what do you mean?
What's mojo?
Well, what do you mean?
What's mojo, mojo, is thatfeeling of unshakable confidence
, booming self-worth, likeyou're an unstoppable force of
nature, and I'm here to show youhow to have that feeling every
(00:35):
single day.
You see, I think I've crackedthe code to being happy.
I'm happy all the freaking time, like every day and most of the
day, possibly to an annoyingdegree.
But hey, I wasn't always thisway.
And not to flex, but I've hadbreakdowns on multiple
continents and in two languages.
(00:56):
But by paying attention andliving with more intention, and
living with more intention, I'vecurated a self-love first aid
kit full of amazing tools thathelp me out of life's more
sticky and stressful situations,and do so with grace and
self-care.
And I'm not here to gatekeep.
In fact, I'm on a mission tohelp you tap into your best
(01:20):
stuff and remember that you haveeverything you need to live
your life on your own terms.
So settle in.
We're here for some positivechange.
So let's dig in to where yourmojo meets the road.
In today's episode, I'm going toreview our mantra for the week,
and then we're going to diginto today's main topic, which
(01:42):
is balance myth or secret sauceand plot twist.
We are taking it on the roadonce again and shaking things up
.
So you stick around and I'mgoing to make sure that you're
glad that you did.
Let's get started with today'smantra and get tuned in, tapped
(02:02):
in and turned on.
Hello, hello, hello and welcometo the 33rd episode of
Pocketful of Mojo.
I'm Steph, I'm your Mojo Maven,your emotional Sherpa, and I'm
so glad that you're here.
(02:22):
I'm here to reflect yourawesomeness back to you.
So let's settle in.
Let's start by digging intotoday's mantra, which is I am
aligning my body, mind andspirit in balance.
I am Making sure that, as weroot ourselves in this mantra,
we're tapping in and droppinginto the.
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I am to affirm and shift ourthinking.
As we root ourselves in thismantra, we're tapping in and
dropping into the.
I am to affirm and shift ourthinking.
As we begin to believe this tobe true, even if in this
particular moment we are not,then that's okay.
This is part of the rewiringthat helps us get our actions
into alignment with our desires.
This cracks open the part ofour brain that starts to problem
(03:06):
solve and generate thoughts andideas around how to achieve
this goal of aligning our mind,body and spirit in perfect
balance.
It starts here.
Thoughts become things.
I am aligning my body, mind andspirit in balance.
This trinity of mind, body,spirit are the anchors through
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which we're going to be creatingthat alignment, as you set out
on your quest for alignment,finding the balance component
means that your thoughts, goalsand actions touch on each one of
these parts of your life.
For example, if every wakingmoment of your day is sitting at
a desk and producingdeliverables, you're exercising
(03:50):
your brain.
But what about your body andyour spirit?
If all you do is shred at thegym and count your calories
every day, you may not befeeding your mind and your soul,
taking all that hard physicalwork still leaving you feeling
incomplete.
Nourishing each of theseanchors mindfully and in
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alignment with your goals is howbalance is truly realized.
I'm aligning my body, mind andspirit in balance.
Balance allows for flow.
Balance, balance allows forflow.
When you build a life based inbalance and your life is well
(04:30):
rounded, you will have built alife that you don't need to
escape from.
No more waiting for Friday orcounting down the minutes to
your next vacation.
So don't get so busy making aliving that you forget to have a
life, because tomorrow is notpromised.
Weird shit happens all the time.
So when our spirit is rooted ingratitude for today, our mind
(04:52):
is intentionally focused on themagic of now and we are poised
to move forward with intentionand purpose, allowing life to
flow and get you the pleasure ofliving a life with more ease
and, best of all, joy.
I am aligning my body, mind andspirit in balance, and this is a
(05:14):
process.
It takes time, intention andawareness.
It also means taking action, ormaybe it means that you take
less action.
We live in a very busy andresults-based society where we
feel like we have to prove ourworth through our work and our
output.
This can lead to living onrinse and repeat, but it's a
(05:36):
trap.
Often these standards ofproductivity aren't even real
and it's what we think we'resupposed to be doing.
But let me tell you fromexperience when we do less, no
one's going to come and stop you.
No one's going to crack thewhip and make you do more If
doing less is the breath youneed to take so that you can
step back and evaluate whatreally needs to be on your plate
(05:59):
, then you're already on thepath to balance.
Then you're already on the pathto balance.
I am aligning my body, mind andspirit in balance.
If the idea of balance seemslike the holy grail to you, like
super mysterious and possibly amyth, then think of it like
well-roundedness.
Getting up, going to work,coming home exhausted, is a
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routine that I know.
I lived for far too long.
My ambitions were narrow and mygoals only revolved around work
.
Coming home exhausted is aroutine that I know.
I lived for far too long.
My ambitions were narrow and mygoals only revolved around work
, and I had nothing else goingon in my life and, as a result,
I felt depressed, unfulfilledand exhausted.
How could I have room for more?
And I loved my job, so howcould it be that bad?
But there was no balance.
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We need more than oneingredient in the soup of life,
and nowhere did we sign acontract saying that our
employer would get our beststuff during our best years for
about 50% of our life.
So think about what goodbalance looks like for you.
What does that mean?
Where in your life can you adda bit of flexibility and let in
(07:08):
a little bit more joy,intentional movement, spiritual
connection or just connectingwith yourself and keeping your
mind tuned in to what trulyserves you.
I am aligning my body, mind andspirit in balance.
Okay, that was a lot to digest.
(07:34):
So, on that note, we're going tobe taking today's main topic on
a field trip.
Yes, so the last coupleepisodes we've done on the road
where I'm driving and I justriff a bit on the main topic.
But in today's very specialepisode I take you with me on my
favorite ritual breakfast withmy bestie.
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That's right, my very firstguest is none other than Leanne
Ryan Mojo, supporter from dayone.
I've known Leanne for a verylong time and she's an
incredible human, wonderfulfriend, successful entrepreneur
who opened her own clothingboutique.
Must have pockets link in theshow notes.
(08:15):
Yes, this is a shameless plugbecause it's like every woman's
dream store and, like I'vementioned in previous episodes,
our morning breakfasts arecheaper than therapy and always
full of insight.
Leanne was in my corner when Iwas at my lowest point and a
shell of a human being, and hasbeen by my side to witness my
transformation over the last fewyears.
(08:35):
I'm so grateful for her.
So when we went out forbreakfast, we miked up and dove
into the topic of balance.
So the good news is is today'sepisode has a fun twist, along
with some great insights.
The bad news is halfway throughrecording her mic stopped
working, so I've been able tocapture some juicy bits of our
(08:56):
convo and I'm excited to shareit with you today.
So let's take this conversationover to the Pancake House, and
I'll meet you back here in thestudio when it's time to pay the
check, without further ado.
Here's Steph and Leanne dobreakfast.
Mojo Styles four, three, two,one go go okay, we're gonna
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record agapulamojo, not roadtrip.
We've evolved to field tripedition, so we're out for
breakfast.
We're out for breakfast,pocketful of mojo out for
breakfast edition.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
We love this.
I'm trying to decide if I'mgoing to be healthy or not
healthy.
That's where the decision isright now.
How do you want to feel today?
Oh, that's a good point.
I've got a golf later, so maybeI need to be healthier some
soup and salad.
Not exactly, geez, it's hard.
(10:12):
Oh, they do a frittata this isa big menu.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
I wonder how much some of this stuff gets ordered
like.
When was the last time someonecame here for a hot hamburger
sandwich and why can't I justhave crepes?
Why does it have to have amedley of things on it?
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Because that probably makes it more attractive.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Oh, I just want a crepe, A single crepe please One
crepe yeah.
That's a little good.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
Here we go.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Oh, and we're still recording Hooray Hooray, because
I went through all the settingsyesterday because, as I think I
told you the first time I triedto do this, I recorded like a
solid, amazing 25 minutes justwalking around my neighborhood,
yeah, and it recorded like eightseconds of it.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Oh okay, so we're on that path, we are good.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
We've passed the eight second mark.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Lovely, it's an official success Past the eight
second mark.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Lovely, it's an official success.
Love, it All right.
And yeah, we can talk abouteverything and everything as
long as we talk about balancefor a little bit.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
Yeah Well.
So, speaking of balance, soSing it sister, sing it sister.
So I finally went and orderedmy contacts and you know, the
stupid thing is is like it'sbeen way too long, like way, way
, way too long, and in the endit cost me the appointment.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
And then $45 for the contacts that I chose.
And how much of your time?
Not as much as I would havethought.
So, like the funny thing was,is that?
Speaker 1 (11:46):
how much time did you spend thinking about how much
you weren't doing it?
Speaker 2 (11:50):
oh, all the time, all the time.
But I think what it was is Ithought I was because of the
business, all that stuff.
The thought I was saving moneyand in the end let's say it's
about $200.
Okay, not nothing, not nothing.
But at the same time I took tothe grocery store.
I thought I was saving moneyand in the end let's say it's
about $200.
Okay, not nothing, not nothing.
But at the same time, but atrip to the grocery store, a
(12:13):
trip to the grocery store A datenight out.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Date night out.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
I am worth far more than that.
A cute new dress with pocketsCute new dress with pockets $200
can look like a lot of things.
It can so balance.
How good does it feel?
Speaker 1 (12:26):
now that you did it, it feels so good.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
I feel like a normal human.
But again, it's just soridiculous that it took me that
long.
It shouldn't take me this long.
And what are we going to donext time?
We are going to remindourselves of this situation?
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Work, yes, because one of the things that I know we
talked about doing and I know Idid it is that I made a list of
, like what are the?
What are my self-directed yeah?
and then I was like okay, twicea year I go to Thermaea.
Yeah, every four months I getmy nails done, yeah.
And then I like I plan it out.
And then, so that my futureself doesn't have any excuses,
(13:05):
I'm like no, this is thecommitment I made to myself,
just like all my othercommitments, like, so, it's like
dentist haircut, which I'moverdue for Me too.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
You know, actually I'm a little behind on and I was
gonna.
I just have to like search myinbox and I was going to.
I just have to like search myinbox, as I told my massage
therapist.
I'm like I said, the way to getme is send me the reminder
emails Like when's the last time, Because then there's always
the link on check my schedulehere, so I just have to Google
(13:38):
search or not Google search thisinbox, search and.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
I'll find it, but yeah, okay, that's a great thing
, that's a and I'll find it, butyeah, okay, that's a great
thing.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
That's a great thing, it is.
It is so Cause I've.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
I've come to the point where, like when I see
those things on my to do listthat are like for my own good,
that it's so easy to talk myselfout of yeah, cause there's
quote unquote more importantthings that I should be doing.
Yeah of yeah, because there'squote-unquote more important
(14:11):
things that I should be doing.
Yeah, that should work.
Then, yeah, yes, can I pleasehave the four by four and a
special request instead?
Speaker 2 (14:16):
of hash browns.
Can I get fruit?
Thank you very much, appreciateit, and I'm gonna do the frata,
the garden veggie frittata, andI would like it with rye toast.
Thanks, nice, thank you.
So this is the funny thingabout balance.
I've given myself the grace andI don't know if you can use the
(14:39):
term grace when it's almost ayear old, but I've given myself
the grace.
I know I've given myself thegrace of like I've started a
business.
I can just sleep in every dayand then work and whatever.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
Are you throwing shade right now?
Speaker 2 (14:58):
If I'm throwing shade at anybody inside myself just
in the sense that I Like, Ican't use the excuse anymore
that work is too busy that Ican't take care of myself, right
?
So I haven't been getting that,because that's not sustainable.
It's not sustainable, it's nothealthy.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
And if I want, yeah, if you want anything to be
sustainable, you got to takecare of the rest.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Exactly, but Balance, balance.
So I, so you're killing it inthe self-care game.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
You've got all this amazing awareness.
You're taking action.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
It feels good.
More please, more please.
So I'm going to.
I had told myself that I wasn'tgoing to join a gym, but I'm
going to join a gym.
Well, so hubby is going to thegym, so I'm going to join the
(15:53):
same gym.
Nice, and because he speaksvolumes about it, and so I want
to, I think it'll be a goodlevel of accountability, because
I'm the type of person thatneeds accountability I love
everything about this.
Well, I know I haven't joined ityet, so there's a little bit of
(16:14):
accountability, but it's outthere in the ether.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
Yeah, it's out there in the ether and time doesn't
matter.
It's going to turn intowhatever makes the most sense
for you.
But this is great for yourmarriage.
Yeah, it's great foraccountability.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
It's great for your health, yeah, which is great for
all the other things, all thethings.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
Oh, I know, so it's good.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Heart exploding, heart exploding, so yeah, so now
it's just a matter of and thiscoffee is only a little bit
terrible.
It was nearly as bad as itusually is.
Nope, yep, yep, it'll work.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
If this didn't make it on.
I originally did not order acoffee, and then I was coffeed
while wearing a coffee, coffee,coffee sweatshirt, so the coffee
had a lot to live up to whichis true, this is not a lot, but
it is good, it is coffee, it iscoffee.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
And going back to your last week's episode about
routine, I think the wholeroutine and balance thing kind
of goes hand in hand.
Yes, and I definitely.
When you were talking aboutwhat's the difference between
(17:24):
like a good routine and badroutine, I totally think that,
like a bad routine, let's justcall it what it is, because it
is a rut, yeah, so I thinkthat's where and you're doing it
for the sake- of doing it.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
Yeah, yeah, and I hope I called out the like.
What the fuck did you think wasgoing to happen when you're
forcing yourself, you're tappinginto all this resistant energy?
Yeah, you thought somethinggood was going to come from that
I think, is.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
I think what it is is that we get into maybe let's
say we get into habits, yes, asthe, as the top of the pinnacle,
and then the habit can eitherbecome a routine or it can
become a rut, yep, and then it'sjust you know where where do we
want that to become?
(18:11):
So, like I said, for me, goingback to, like, the whole idea of
joining a gym was or Ishouldn't say, the idea of
giving myself the grace to sleepin, was less about that and
more about just the habit ofsleeping in that's turned into a
rut right versus serving youanymore isn't serving anymore,
(18:32):
which, in the end as well, whenit comes to balance, there is no
balance.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
It was just yeah ditch, completely in the ditch,
so yeah, so so, yeah, in likedigging into this topic, I've
discovered like a lot of reallygood perspectives and points of
view on it and and the thingthat inspired this episode is
actually you and your responseto my script.
When I was when I refer tobalance, and you were editing my
(18:58):
script for my presentation andyou had a very powerful reaction
to balance.
You're like balance is bullshit, like this shouldn't be, the
goal doesn't exist, and I likeit really got my attention and
it really rattled around my headand I was like, ooh, there's
juicy stuff there, true, and so,thank you, you're welcome.
Little did I know, because Iremember and I can see it clear
(19:22):
as day in my terrible memorymeeting the CEO, howard Schultz,
of Starbucks Coffee in my storeon Broadway in Dunmore oh, I
didn't know that and asking himthe question like what do you do
for work-life balance?
You asked him that I sure did.
I looked him dead in the eyesand that was my question.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
And what did you say?
I was?
Speaker 1 (19:44):
like, your success is obviously everything that it is
.
Yeah, and I said but yourvalues are super clear.
And I was so starstruck Icouldn't even cobble together
what his answer was for youright now, but it was something
along the lines of like whenyou're aligned with your
passions, it's all just life.
Oh, I love that, right, soyou're not.
(20:05):
You're living a life whereyou're not waiting for friday at
five yes, because your work isso terrible.
Yeah, you're not dying for thevacation because and counting
down the days and minutes andseconds because your everyday
life is awful, yeah, or puttingall your eggs in the basket that
, like my next job, will make meham yeah like that would agree
(20:28):
risky business, yeah, but I it'sreally really complex, you know
yeah, balance, moderation,flexibility, adaptability, like
I I really all the same word,really really like I think about
diets and I I've always beenvehemently opposed to anything
that's like all in or all out, Iagree, like cutting out X
(20:49):
ingredient, cutting out Yingredient, because when we
think balance, we think of aphysical scale.
Right when I want this balanceto be balanced, I have to have
50 on one side and 50 on theother.
These numerical, quantifiable,mathematical numbers are the
same, yeah, and so when we tryto apply that to our life, two
(21:12):
puzzle pieces from differentpuzzles, like, yes, it and so
giving ourselves that grace toyour point, like that
flexibility, that um, yeah,joining a gym is not an
automatic sign up, that you'regonna go there every day and
shred like that's, you know it'snot all or nothing, no, um,
well, and you get to decide.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
I get to decide, but this was so.
I haven't figured out my rightamount to go yet, but I like
what you said the other day withroutine, with pilates, like you
can miss one day but you can'tmiss two.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Yeah, but this was even good.
Yeah, like giving myself alittle bit of wiggle room yeah
and then.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
But there was also, um, something I heard from
another podcast where they hadset themselves a goal and they
said like, and I think this iswhy we don't break things down
enough for ourselves is in termsof goals and what's achievable,
but their goal was to um, go totheir gym.
(22:15):
That they chose um 50 times, Ithink, was.
So it was within a year, okayso, and 50 times in a year is
once a week.
Yep, she's already, uh well,towards that goal.
So she's like you know she'sfeeling good about it at this
stage for the year.
But so why, if you were to justtell somebody, oh well, I go to
(22:39):
the gym once a week, somebody'dbe like, really like, once a
week.
You can't take it up and allthank you, thank you so much.
Uh, I you also.
At the moment, I think I'm okay, just need that little side.
Oh, the man, yeah, thanks.
So my friends and I have asaying.
Speaker 1 (22:58):
When we see someone doing something.
That's like I think it came upthe first time when we saw
someone super cringy on stage infront of a bunch of people,
like belting out a song, butlike kind of not really well.
We just kind of look at eachother with our judgy knowing
glance We've known each otherfor 40 years, yes and we just
say better than I could do.
(23:19):
Yes, that's true.
So for the person who's goingto the gym once a week and
someone who does not go to thegym at all, I say better than I
could do better than I could doand it just kind of takes me off
my little high horse.
Yeah, it gives me a chance tolike, see the virtue in people.
That's a teeny, tiny amount ofbutter, oh, and it's.
(23:42):
Oh, this is one of my petpeeves.
It's not very few pet peeves, Idon't even put it under the
microscope that much, but it'shard.
Speaker 2 (23:51):
You can't.
Do you have any butter?
That's a little softer for the.
I can check.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
It's all in the fridge, right?
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
Oh, don't, you never know, you can put it under the
little heat lamp for you.
You don't want to damage yourlittle pancakes, but it makes me
to damage your little pancakes,but it's me so many.
Anyway, I love the better thanI could do.
And because it's true, it's sotrue, because I think that's the
problem sometimes is we'llpoint and judge.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
Well, you don't have to look further than like
instagram comment sections toknow like that.
People are willing to judge foranything.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
Throw all the stones from their glass houses.
Yes, agreed.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
You know, let that be a lesson Number one.
Don't read the comments.
Thank you, oh yeah, that'swhipped Nice.
Yeah, oh, you're the best.
Thank you for standing up forme and my butter.
It's the little things reallyis, yeah I mean, look at the
smile on my face right now.
(24:53):
I think you can probably hearit too.
Exactly, my goodness.
Yeah, the tapes is asking.
I have very few things that likeupset me yeah, the patriarchy,
and cold butter, really, anddouble standards those are my
top three.
Rage makers love that.
(25:14):
Oh my god, this has been juicy,tactical, practical, spiritual,
delicious.
We had hard butter, we had softbutter, we did the whole thing.
Amazing, this is going to giveme so much editing to do.
This is really long.
It's over an hour, oh my gosh.
(25:37):
Okay, well, I think this isgoing to wrap up the Pocketful
of Mojo Breakfast Edition.
Huge thanks to Leanne Ryan,owner, ceo, president of Awesome
at Must have Pockets Apparel,available online or in person
(26:01):
here in Winnipeg, canada, centerof the universe, sending it
back to the studio to wrap it upon balance.
Come back next time see wherewe're going to talk about next
week's topic.
Ciao for now.
Oh, wasn't that fun.
(26:34):
It was such a greatconversation and I'm sad that we
didn't get to capture the wholething, although, having said
that, we had over an hour ofaudio, so this would have been a
mega episode.
Some key takeaways that I wantyou to take with you today is
that you have full permission toredefine what balance is to you
(26:54):
.
The objective of seekingbalance is really just to
promote a well-rounded life thathas more ingredients than work,
sleep and true crimedocumentaries.
Balance is about crafting alife where all of your itches
get scratched and you'reinspired to move your body, feed
your mind and nourish your soul.
(27:15):
Now, are these adjustmentsobvious?
Well, maybe not at first, butthrough the process of
rekindling your relationshipwith yourself, you'll be able to
discover what's missing, whatno longer serves you, and slowly
taking steps to rounding outyour agenda, to tick all those
boxes.
You can do it and I can help.
(27:35):
Next week, I'll be offering upa bonus episode where you'll be
able to find out all the waysthat we can work together to
help get you where you want togo.
I'm working on something reallypowerful and transformational
and I'm so excited to share itwith you.
It's called the Mojo Method andit's going to change the game.
(27:55):
So be sure to check out all thegreat links in the show notes
and, for Pete's sake, I willlove you forever if you
subscribe to this podcast.
Leave a review and bonus pointsif you share this or any
episode with a friend.
So remember, life is thebalance of holding on and
letting go.
The goal is to balance a lifethat works with a life that
(28:18):
counts.
The key is to not prioritizewhat's on our schedule, but to
schedule your priorities andwatch the magic happen, because,
when it comes to work-lifebalance, the key to remember is
it's all life.
The balance has to be withinyou and it starts here.
It starts today.
Thank you so much for tuning inthis week and be sure to come
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back next week where we aregoing to unpack the monster that
is confidence.
What is it, how do we get itand why is it so important?
So until next time, my friends,stay classy, stay kind and
remember you are the mostimportant project that you'll
ever work on.
Keep going.
You're doing great.
(29:02):
Love you.
Ciao for now.
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