September 25, 2025 • 18 mins
When did "busy" become your brand? That exhausted, overwhelmed state we wear like a badge of honor isn't the flex we think it is. In this eye-opening episode, we unpack the uncomfortable truth about our addiction to busyness and why it might be the cheapest status symbol you're carrying.
Busy isn't who you are—it's just what you're doing. As people-pleasers, we've mistaken productivity for self-worth, convincing ourselves that if we're not constantly available and helpful, we're somehow less valuable. But this episode reveals the real cost of that thinking: a backpack full of other people's rocks that leaves us hunched over, staggering under responsibilities that don't even belong to us.
For parents especially, the guilt around wanting "me time" can be overwhelming. But what if protecting that slice of life isn't selfish but essential? What if your kids need to see you rested and pursuing things that light you up? This conversation offers a permission slip to put yourself back on your priority list without apology.
Your energy is currency, and you only get so much to spend each day. Being "in demand" doesn't mean you're in alignment. Just because your calendar is full doesn't mean your soul is. This week's challenge: identify your top three priorities and say no to one thing that doesn't align with them. Because at the end of the day, you're not here to be booked and busy—you're here to be aligned and alive.
Ready to trade busy for something that actually looks good on you? Listen now, grab your Mojo Gummies, and remember: don't be just busy, be fucking you.
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
Raise your hand if your default response to how are
you is ugh.
Busy, yeah, I see you, but letme ask you this Since when did
being exhausted become yourbrand Like?
Since when did running on fumesbecome your flex?
Today, we're going to talkabout why busy is the cheapest
(00:33):
badge of honor you could wearand why it's time to trade it in
for something that actuallylooks good on you.
And, fun fact, mojo looks goodon everyone, but burnout, yeah,
not so much, and it's definitelynot the flex that you think it
is.
This is Pocketful of Mojo, thepodcast that serves as your
(00:54):
antidote to burnout, self-doubtand all that people-pleasing by
learning how to pay attention,live with intention and dial
into that unstoppable force ofnature that you were born to be,
and around here we call thatmojo.
So let's get ready to do whatwe do.
When we want to dial into ourmojo, we start with a deep
(01:15):
breath and we settle in so wecan get tuned in, tapped in and
turned on, and turned on.
Hey, hey, friend, welcome backto Pocketful of Mojo.
This is Steph, your favoriteMojo Maven, and we're here to be
real because somewhere alongthe way we started wearing busy
(01:38):
as a badge of honor.
And hey, me too.
Babe takes one to know one Likeif we're not rushing and
stressing and juggling andapologizing and over delivering,
then somehow we tell ourselves,even subconsciously, that we're
not valuable.
But here's the real truth Busyisn't who you are, it's what
you're doing, it's not youridentity and it's certainly not
(02:01):
your worth.
And I've done the research andturns out it's just a costume.
Being busy is a noisy,exhausting and uncomfortable
costume that we as peoplepleasers tend to slip into
because it makes us lookimportant and useful and needed,
and to some of us that meansloved, or at least that's what
(02:21):
we tell ourselves.
I don't know, ask yourtherapist about it.
But that costume, yeah, it'sitchy, it doesn't fit right,
it's probably polyester and like.
The longer you wear it, themore you lose sight of who you
really are underneath.
And here's a fun fact no one'skeeping score.
There is no trophy for beingbest at being super busy.
(02:42):
Yeah, no prize, no cash monies.
So I'm here to hold your handand ask you gently why are you
killing yourself to make otherpeople's dreams come true when
your own dreams are collectingdust on a shelf?
Because that's just not cool.
Mojo Reno, it's just not cool.
But the good news is that,unless you know something I
don't you didn't sign a contractthat said that you have to put
(03:05):
everyone else first for the restof your life.
Like you can stop and shiftscan happen and things can change
, and that's why you're here.
So today we're going to diginto why busy is not a
personality trait, why you're sotired of carrying it and that
part won't take long, because Imean that shit's heavy and what
(03:27):
actually happens when you letother people's priorities become
your own.
And, of course, I'll leave youwith all the mojo you need to
start rewriting your own story.
Yeah, that's right, I'm savingthe best part for the end,
because you know my mama didn'traise no fool.
But first I want to take youback to my yes girl era, because
once upon a time I said yes toeverything the extra weekend
(03:51):
shifts, the bake sale, thefriend who needed the last
minute ride to the airport at 5am.
I was the go-to girl, thereliable one In my relationships
at home, at work Fuck, I waseven helping strangers with time
and energy that I didn't have.
It was out of control, but Iwas so deep into it that it
never even occurred to me to dolife any differently, like I'd
(04:15):
wrap my whole identity around it.
And, yeah, people loved me forit.
But here's the kicker theydidn't love me for it.
So I did what any other humanwould do.
I soaked up all the artificiallove and confused my constant
busyness with being valuable, nobiggity, like if I wasn't
spinning.
I was scared that people wouldthink I didn't matter and if I
(04:38):
wasn't doing something to helpthem, then how would they know
that I love them?
And I was constantly filling mycalendar with other people's
to-do lists because, as it turnsout, what I really wanted you
ready for it.
It was to be seen andappreciated and loved.
And who doesn't want that?
But where I temporarily fuckedup was that I thought that my
(05:02):
value came from what I did asopposed to who I was.
Small shift, massive mojo,because people pleasers equate
productivity with self-worth.
We mistake being booked andbusy with being important and
loved.
But the reality is that busyand loved are not synonyms.
(05:23):
I looked it up and busy makesyou tired, but love makes you
feel treasured.
And busy makes you resentful,not respected.
Because if the only reasonpeople value you is what you can
do for them, then where doesthat leave you?
Well, let's paint the picture.
Imagine you're carrying abackpack.
(05:44):
It's one of those cutebackpacks like the one that
you've had your eye on Sturdystraps, all the pockets you
could ever want, and you evengot it on sale.
Now, every time you say yes tosomeone else's priority, pick up
a big old rock and put it inthat backpack.
Help with a committee, that'sanother rock Cover for a
(06:04):
coworker Rock.
Babysit for your sister on youronly free Saturday Rock.
Before long you're hunched over, staggering, exhausted, kind of
bitchy and wondering why lifefeels so heavy.
But here's the worst part thatweight doesn't even belong to
you.
So real talk here.
(06:25):
When you let other people, nomatter how much you love them,
dictate your priorities, yourlife stops being yours.
Now do not get it twisted.
When the people you love areyour priority, that is something
that you choose and you dictatehow and when you show up for
them.
But those are your choices andnot conditional on your
(06:48):
relationship.
You want to be mindful thatwhen you treat relationships as
transactional, there is a heavytoll on who did what when and
for whom.
And, sweet jebus, leave that tothe accountants.
Okay, like, if you love them,just love them Like it's never
going to run out.
When you take the obligationaway, everything gets lighter
(07:11):
when it's rooted in love and notlike accounting, okay, great.
Moving on the headline here isthat you are in charge, and so
the idea of your energy beingspent only in one place at a
time is great.
And when your energy is spenton everyone else and you have
nothing that lights you up, hell.
(07:33):
You don't even have time tofigure out what that is, and I
can help you with that.
But that's for another episode,because when busy is your
default, peace never gets achance to breathe.
Now, quick story break.
I once had a colleague atStarbucks tell me that she
hadn't sat down to drink hercoffee while it was hot in like
years, not because she wassaving lives, but because she
(07:56):
was stuck in a loop of fixingeveryone else's emergencies.
She thought that busyness madeher selfless, but really it made
her invisible to herself.
Plot twist that colleague wasme, and it's been about eight
years since I left there, and Ican tell you there's no statue
in my honor, no lore of thehardest working manager or
(08:19):
plaque that I can polish for allthe extra work that I did over
my 15 years there.
Yeah, doing well at my job wasimportant to me, but what I
didn't understand at the timewas that I was shortchanging my
life in the bigger picture.
When I left Starbucks, I had noidea what I wanted, what my
(08:41):
hobbies were, what I liked and,quite frankly, who.
I was outside of my job BecauseI never took the time to ask
the question.
Okay, now I'm just going topause for a second because I
know I have some of youlistening that are parents, and
I'll be up front I don't havekids, so I'll never claim to
know what it feels like tojuggle everything that comes
(09:04):
with having tiny humans pluscareers, plus your households
and sports schedules, andsomehow still remember your own
name.
But I've had enoughconversations with moms and dads
and hear the same threadrunning through all of them, and
that's guilt, and not just anyguilt, the guilt of wanting me
(09:25):
time.
Here's what I've heard parentssay to me almost word for word I
love my kids, but sometimes Ijust want one quiet morning
where nobody needs me, or I feelbad saying it out loud, but I
miss having space for my owndreams.
And one friend even said Ican't remember the last time I
read a book or took a bath orhad coffee while it was hot.
(09:47):
Does any of this ring a bell?
Well, here's the thing.
I don't need to be a parent toknow that parenting is one of
the most beautiful and demandingjobs on the planet, but I also
believe that it's not supposedto erase you.
Wanting time for yourselfdoesn't mean you love your kids
less.
It means that you're human.
(10:08):
And yet so many parents pushtheir own needs to the very
bottom of the list because theythink it feels selfish to claim
space in a life that's alreadyoverflowing.
But I'm here to be real withyou.
Running on empty isn't helpinganybody.
When you're stretched so thinthat you're cranky and exhausted
(10:28):
and resentful, babe, the wholefamily feels it, and kids don't
just need you to show up.
They need you to show up well.
They need to see you rested andlaughing and pursuing things
that light you up, and you doingthis for you is actually
teaching them how to show up forthemselves, because that's how
(10:50):
they'll learn the value of theirown time and energy when they
grow up.
Trust me, it took a lot of workto unpack what my mother taught
me about pleasing everyone else, but the luggage was much
lighter when it came tounpacking what she taught me
about self-care, because all ofthe things that she modeled for
me taking care of myself was notone of them, and I don't want
(11:14):
you to have to learn this thehard way.
You're here to learn the mojoway.
So, whether you're a parent ornot listening right now, let me
say this gently but directlyProtecting a little slice of me.
Time is not indulgent, it isessential.
And maybe you don't need hoursand hours Sometimes it's 10
(11:35):
minutes with a journal, or awalk around the block without
anyone calling your name or, yes, even hiding in the bathroom
just to breathe.
You're allowed to want that,you're allowed to need that.
And while busy might feelinevitable, with kids being lost
in, busy doesn't have to beyour forever story.
(11:57):
You're allowed to take the capeoff.
You're allowed to be a personas well as a parent.
So, on that note, let's justkeep going and start looking at
choosing what's important,because here's the hard truth
your life is not an open buffetfor anyone to pile their plate
on, turns out.
(12:18):
You get to decide what mattersNot your boss, not your parents,
not your best friend, you.
And choosing what's importantdoesn't mean that you're selfish
.
It means you're strategic.
It means you're finallyrecognizing that your energy is
currency and you only get somuch to spend each day.
(12:38):
It means that you understandthat you are in charge of your
own life.
How bonkers would it be ifsomeone else was in charge of
your life?
That's bonks.
So like, think about this Ifyou don't decide what's
important, someone else will, orno one will, and then you're at
the whim of what Chance, hope,come on.
(13:01):
We can do better.
And if you don't createboundaries, someone else is
going to bulldoze them beforeyou even know it.
And if you don't slow down longenough to choose, busy will
choose for you.
So your worth isn't how muchyou can carry, it's in how much
clarity you can create.
(13:23):
Being booked and busy getspraised like it's the ultimate
status symbol.
Like if you're not rushing fromcall to call, packing your
calendar, juggling deadlines,you must not be doing enough.
But I want you to pause for asecond and ask yourself booked
for what?
Busy for who?
Because being in demand doesn'tmean you're in alignment, and
(13:44):
just because you're feelingevery hour doesn't mean you're
actually feeling your soul.
How many times have you saidyes, out of guilt or fear or
just habit, only to realizelater that you had no energy
left for what actually matteredto you.
How often have you looked atyour overflowing calendar and
thought this is supposed to meanI've made it so?
(14:07):
Why do I feel so drained?
That's the trap of theglorified busyness it convinces
you that motion is the same asprogress and that exhaustion is
the same as achievement.
But they're not Real.
Power comes when you flip thescript, when booked doesn't mean
burned out, but instead meansthat you've chosen commitments
(14:29):
that excite you and stretch youand honor your boundaries.
Like busy doesn't mean buried,but instead reflects a life
that's filled with things thatyou actually want more, of, like
joy and connection and purposeand presence.
That's when your schedule stopsfeeling like a punishment and
starts feeling like a privilege.
(14:51):
So here's the challenge Are youliving for the check marks on
your to-do list or for themoments that truly light you up?
Are you chasing approval andproductivity or are you creating
alignment and abundance?
Because, at the end of the day,being busy doesn't make you
successful.
Being fulfilled does.
(15:12):
And that's exactly what wetried to unpack on today's
episode the shift from survivalmode to soul level alignment.
So with that, mojarinos, let'sbring it home.
So I got a little bit ofhomework for you this week.
Write down your top threepriorities for the whole week,
not the rest of your life.
(15:33):
Just take on the week, and I'mnot talking about your to-do
list, I'm talking about yourpriorities and everything else
optional.
Or maybe you want to fill yourbackpack with someone else's
rocks.
It's your call.
I'm just saying have a look atthe old agenda and ask yourself
what would this look like if Iwas in charge, and see what kind
(15:55):
of shifts pop up for you.
It's never too late and there'snever a bad time to readjust
your priorities so that you arecloser to the top of that list.
We all know that thoughtsbecome things.
So start by just looking atyour agenda, see what comes up
and start thinking about whereyou can go from here.
So, my friend, here's what weknow being busy is not a
(16:26):
personality trait and it's notyour identity and it's certainly
not your brand.
You are not here in this lifeto be booked and busy.
You're here to be aligned andalive.
So here's your call to actionthis week just say no one time
to something that's not in thosetop three priorities.
Protect that little slice oflife and that nugget of time
(16:50):
like it's gold.
Then fill it with somethingthat feeds you, not your job,
not your family, not yourendless to-do list.
You and?
If you need a wee tutorial onwhat that could look like, check
out season two, episode two,for more on the art of sending
boundaries, because it's alwaysa good time to be reminded of
(17:11):
our power.
Because here's the truth whenyou stop letting busy run the
show, you start letting joy,peace and actual mojo take the
wheel, and those bitches knowwhat's up.
And for a little extra boost onthat journey, do not forget your
mojo gummies.
They're the sweet reminder thata burst of energy and clarity
(17:32):
doesn't come from saying yes toeveryone else.
It comes from fueling yourselffirst.
You can grab the link in thebio and get 15% off today and
get laser focused on your goalsand literally everything else
that you're working on.
So this is where I leave you,my lovely listener.
That's your pocket full of mojofor today.
(17:53):
Carry it with you, protect itfiercely and spend it on what
really matters.
So until next time, I need youto stay fabulous and whatever
you do, don't be just busy, befucking you.
This has been, steph, your mojomaven.
Ciao for now.
Love you, bye.
Raise your hand if your default response to how are
you is ugh.
Busy, yeah, I see you, but letme ask you this Since when did
being exhausted become yourbrand Like?
Since when did running on fumesbecome your flex?
Today, we're going to talkabout why busy is the cheapest
(00:33):
badge of honor you could wearand why it's time to trade it in
for something that actuallylooks good on you.
And, fun fact, mojo looks goodon everyone, but burnout, yeah,
not so much, and it's definitelynot the flex that you think it
is.
This is Pocketful of Mojo, thepodcast that serves as your
(00:54):
antidote to burnout, self-doubtand all that people-pleasing by
learning how to pay attention,live with intention and dial
into that unstoppable force ofnature that you were born to be,
and around here we call thatmojo.
So let's get ready to do whatwe do.
When we want to dial into ourmojo, we start with a deep
(01:15):
breath and we settle in so wecan get tuned in, tapped in and
turned on, and turned on.
Hey, hey, friend, welcome backto Pocketful of Mojo.
This is Steph, your favoriteMojo Maven, and we're here to be
real because somewhere alongthe way we started wearing busy
(01:38):
as a badge of honor.
And hey, me too.
Babe takes one to know one Likeif we're not rushing and
stressing and juggling andapologizing and over delivering,
then somehow we tell ourselves,even subconsciously, that we're
not valuable.
But here's the real truth Busyisn't who you are, it's what
you're doing, it's not youridentity and it's certainly not
(02:01):
your worth.
And I've done the research andturns out it's just a costume.
Being busy is a noisy,exhausting and uncomfortable
costume that we as peoplepleasers tend to slip into
because it makes us lookimportant and useful and needed,
and to some of us that meansloved, or at least that's what
(02:21):
we tell ourselves.
I don't know, ask yourtherapist about it.
But that costume, yeah, it'sitchy, it doesn't fit right,
it's probably polyester and like.
The longer you wear it, themore you lose sight of who you
really are underneath.
And here's a fun fact no one'skeeping score.
There is no trophy for beingbest at being super busy.
(02:42):
Yeah, no prize, no cash monies.
So I'm here to hold your handand ask you gently why are you
killing yourself to make otherpeople's dreams come true when
your own dreams are collectingdust on a shelf?
Because that's just not cool.
Mojo Reno, it's just not cool.
But the good news is that,unless you know something I
don't you didn't sign a contractthat said that you have to put
(03:05):
everyone else first for the restof your life.
Like you can stop and shiftscan happen and things can change
, and that's why you're here.
So today we're going to diginto why busy is not a
personality trait, why you're sotired of carrying it and that
part won't take long, because Imean that shit's heavy and what
(03:27):
actually happens when you letother people's priorities become
your own.
And, of course, I'll leave youwith all the mojo you need to
start rewriting your own story.
Yeah, that's right, I'm savingthe best part for the end,
because you know my mama didn'traise no fool.
But first I want to take youback to my yes girl era, because
once upon a time I said yes toeverything the extra weekend
(03:51):
shifts, the bake sale, thefriend who needed the last
minute ride to the airport at 5am.
I was the go-to girl, thereliable one In my relationships
at home, at work Fuck, I waseven helping strangers with time
and energy that I didn't have.
It was out of control, but Iwas so deep into it that it
never even occurred to me to dolife any differently, like I'd
(04:15):
wrap my whole identity around it.
And, yeah, people loved me forit.
But here's the kicker theydidn't love me for it.
So I did what any other humanwould do.
I soaked up all the artificiallove and confused my constant
busyness with being valuable, nobiggity, like if I wasn't
spinning.
I was scared that people wouldthink I didn't matter and if I
(04:38):
wasn't doing something to helpthem, then how would they know
that I love them?
And I was constantly filling mycalendar with other people's
to-do lists because, as it turnsout, what I really wanted you
ready for it.
It was to be seen andappreciated and loved.
And who doesn't want that?
But where I temporarily fuckedup was that I thought that my
(05:02):
value came from what I did asopposed to who I was.
Small shift, massive mojo,because people pleasers equate
productivity with self-worth.
We mistake being booked andbusy with being important and
loved.
But the reality is that busyand loved are not synonyms.
(05:23):
I looked it up and busy makesyou tired, but love makes you
feel treasured.
And busy makes you resentful,not respected.
Because if the only reasonpeople value you is what you can
do for them, then where doesthat leave you?
Well, let's paint the picture.
Imagine you're carrying abackpack.
(05:44):
It's one of those cutebackpacks like the one that
you've had your eye on Sturdystraps, all the pockets you
could ever want, and you evengot it on sale.
Now, every time you say yes tosomeone else's priority, pick up
a big old rock and put it inthat backpack.
Help with a committee, that'sanother rock Cover for a
(06:04):
coworker Rock.
Babysit for your sister on youronly free Saturday Rock.
Before long you're hunched over, staggering, exhausted, kind of
bitchy and wondering why lifefeels so heavy.
But here's the worst part thatweight doesn't even belong to
you.
So real talk here.
(06:25):
When you let other people, nomatter how much you love them,
dictate your priorities, yourlife stops being yours.
Now do not get it twisted.
When the people you love areyour priority, that is something
that you choose and you dictatehow and when you show up for
them.
But those are your choices andnot conditional on your
(06:48):
relationship.
You want to be mindful thatwhen you treat relationships as
transactional, there is a heavytoll on who did what when and
for whom.
And, sweet jebus, leave that tothe accountants.
Okay, like, if you love them,just love them Like it's never
going to run out.
When you take the obligationaway, everything gets lighter
(07:11):
when it's rooted in love and notlike accounting, okay, great.
Moving on the headline here isthat you are in charge, and so
the idea of your energy beingspent only in one place at a
time is great.
And when your energy is spenton everyone else and you have
nothing that lights you up, hell.
(07:33):
You don't even have time tofigure out what that is, and I
can help you with that.
But that's for another episode,because when busy is your
default, peace never gets achance to breathe.
Now, quick story break.
I once had a colleague atStarbucks tell me that she
hadn't sat down to drink hercoffee while it was hot in like
years, not because she wassaving lives, but because she
(07:56):
was stuck in a loop of fixingeveryone else's emergencies.
She thought that busyness madeher selfless, but really it made
her invisible to herself.
Plot twist that colleague wasme, and it's been about eight
years since I left there, and Ican tell you there's no statue
in my honor, no lore of thehardest working manager or
(08:19):
plaque that I can polish for allthe extra work that I did over
my 15 years there.
Yeah, doing well at my job wasimportant to me, but what I
didn't understand at the timewas that I was shortchanging my
life in the bigger picture.
When I left Starbucks, I had noidea what I wanted, what my
(08:41):
hobbies were, what I liked and,quite frankly, who.
I was outside of my job BecauseI never took the time to ask
the question.
Okay, now I'm just going topause for a second because I
know I have some of youlistening that are parents, and
I'll be up front I don't havekids, so I'll never claim to
know what it feels like tojuggle everything that comes
(09:04):
with having tiny humans pluscareers, plus your households
and sports schedules, andsomehow still remember your own
name.
But I've had enoughconversations with moms and dads
and hear the same threadrunning through all of them, and
that's guilt, and not just anyguilt, the guilt of wanting me
(09:25):
time.
Here's what I've heard parentssay to me almost word for word I
love my kids, but sometimes Ijust want one quiet morning
where nobody needs me, or I feelbad saying it out loud, but I
miss having space for my owndreams.
And one friend even said Ican't remember the last time I
read a book or took a bath orhad coffee while it was hot.
(09:47):
Does any of this ring a bell?
Well, here's the thing.
I don't need to be a parent toknow that parenting is one of
the most beautiful and demandingjobs on the planet, but I also
believe that it's not supposedto erase you.
Wanting time for yourselfdoesn't mean you love your kids
less.
It means that you're human.
(10:08):
And yet so many parents pushtheir own needs to the very
bottom of the list because theythink it feels selfish to claim
space in a life that's alreadyoverflowing.
But I'm here to be real withyou.
Running on empty isn't helpinganybody.
When you're stretched so thinthat you're cranky and exhausted
(10:28):
and resentful, babe, the wholefamily feels it, and kids don't
just need you to show up.
They need you to show up well.
They need to see you rested andlaughing and pursuing things
that light you up, and you doingthis for you is actually
teaching them how to show up forthemselves, because that's how
(10:50):
they'll learn the value of theirown time and energy when they
grow up.
Trust me, it took a lot of workto unpack what my mother taught
me about pleasing everyone else, but the luggage was much
lighter when it came tounpacking what she taught me
about self-care, because all ofthe things that she modeled for
me taking care of myself was notone of them, and I don't want
(11:14):
you to have to learn this thehard way.
You're here to learn the mojoway.
So, whether you're a parent ornot listening right now, let me
say this gently but directlyProtecting a little slice of me.
Time is not indulgent, it isessential.
And maybe you don't need hoursand hours Sometimes it's 10
(11:35):
minutes with a journal, or awalk around the block without
anyone calling your name or, yes, even hiding in the bathroom
just to breathe.
You're allowed to want that,you're allowed to need that.
And while busy might feelinevitable, with kids being lost
in, busy doesn't have to beyour forever story.
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You're allowed to take the capeoff.
You're allowed to be a personas well as a parent.
So, on that note, let's justkeep going and start looking at
choosing what's important,because here's the hard truth
your life is not an open buffetfor anyone to pile their plate
on, turns out.
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You get to decide what mattersNot your boss, not your parents,
not your best friend, you.
And choosing what's importantdoesn't mean that you're selfish
.
It means you're strategic.
It means you're finallyrecognizing that your energy is
currency and you only get somuch to spend each day.
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It means that you understandthat you are in charge of your
own life.
How bonkers would it be ifsomeone else was in charge of
your life?
That's bonks.
So like, think about this Ifyou don't decide what's
important, someone else will, orno one will, and then you're at
the whim of what Chance, hope,come on.
(13:01):
We can do better.
And if you don't createboundaries, someone else is
going to bulldoze them beforeyou even know it.
And if you don't slow down longenough to choose, busy will
choose for you.
So your worth isn't how muchyou can carry, it's in how much
clarity you can create.
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Being booked and busy getspraised like it's the ultimate
status symbol.
Like if you're not rushing fromcall to call, packing your
calendar, juggling deadlines,you must not be doing enough.
But I want you to pause for asecond and ask yourself booked
for what?
Busy for who?
Because being in demand doesn'tmean you're in alignment, and
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just because you're feelingevery hour doesn't mean you're
actually feeling your soul.
How many times have you saidyes, out of guilt or fear or
just habit, only to realizelater that you had no energy
left for what actually matteredto you.
How often have you looked atyour overflowing calendar and
thought this is supposed to meanI've made it so?
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Why do I feel so drained?
That's the trap of theglorified busyness it convinces
you that motion is the same asprogress and that exhaustion is
the same as achievement.
But they're not Real.
Power comes when you flip thescript, when booked doesn't mean
burned out, but instead meansthat you've chosen commitments
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that excite you and stretch youand honor your boundaries.
Like busy doesn't mean buried,but instead reflects a life
that's filled with things thatyou actually want more, of, like
joy and connection and purposeand presence.
That's when your schedule stopsfeeling like a punishment and
starts feeling like a privilege.
(14:51):
So here's the challenge Are youliving for the check marks on
your to-do list or for themoments that truly light you up?
Are you chasing approval andproductivity or are you creating
alignment and abundance?
Because, at the end of the day,being busy doesn't make you
successful.
Being fulfilled does.
(15:12):
And that's exactly what wetried to unpack on today's
episode the shift from survivalmode to soul level alignment.
So with that, mojarinos, let'sbring it home.
So I got a little bit ofhomework for you this week.
Write down your top threepriorities for the whole week,
not the rest of your life.
(15:33):
Just take on the week, and I'mnot talking about your to-do
list, I'm talking about yourpriorities and everything else
optional.
Or maybe you want to fill yourbackpack with someone else's
rocks.
It's your call.
I'm just saying have a look atthe old agenda and ask yourself
what would this look like if Iwas in charge, and see what kind
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of shifts pop up for you.
It's never too late and there'snever a bad time to readjust
your priorities so that you arecloser to the top of that list.
We all know that thoughtsbecome things.
So start by just looking atyour agenda, see what comes up
and start thinking about whereyou can go from here.
So, my friend, here's what weknow being busy is not a
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personality trait and it's notyour identity and it's certainly
not your brand.
You are not here in this lifeto be booked and busy.
You're here to be aligned andalive.
So here's your call to actionthis week just say no one time
to something that's not in thosetop three priorities.
Protect that little slice oflife and that nugget of time
(16:50):
like it's gold.
Then fill it with somethingthat feeds you, not your job,
not your family, not yourendless to-do list.
You and?
If you need a wee tutorial onwhat that could look like, check
out season two, episode two,for more on the art of sending
boundaries, because it's alwaysa good time to be reminded of
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our power.
Because here's the truth whenyou stop letting busy run the
show, you start letting joy,peace and actual mojo take the
wheel, and those bitches knowwhat's up.
And for a little extra boost onthat journey, do not forget your
mojo gummies.
They're the sweet reminder thata burst of energy and clarity
(17:32):
doesn't come from saying yes toeveryone else.
It comes from fueling yourselffirst.
You can grab the link in thebio and get 15% off today and
get laser focused on your goalsand literally everything else
that you're working on.
So this is where I leave you,my lovely listener.
That's your pocket full of mojofor today.
(17:53):
Carry it with you, protect itfiercely and spend it on what
really matters.
So until next time, I need youto stay fabulous and whatever
you do, don't be just busy, befucking you.
This has been, steph, your mojomaven.
Ciao for now.
Love you, bye.
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