January 13, 2025 • 23 mins
What if you could truly listen to your body and discover the secrets to feeling your best every day? On Pocket Full of Mojo, I, Steph, invite you to explore this potential by tapping into your innate mojo—a wellspring of unshakeable confidence and self-worth. Through heartfelt storytelling, I share my transformative return to Canada, juggling the roles of the Mojo Maven, a caregiver, and a determined entrepreneur, all while navigating life’s unpredictable twists. Embrace the mantra of the week with me: "I listen to my body when it tells me what it needs in order to feel its best." This powerful affirmation guides us toward mindful self-care, showing how tuning in to our needs can lead to a happier, healthier life.
Join me as I reflect on an unexpected journey to France, where I uncovered the delicate balance between ambition and rest, learning to allow vulnerability and self-compassion into my life. Discover how the simple act of planning ahead transformed a potentially stressful Christmas into a joyous celebration, and how surrendering control can bring clarity and strengthen self-advocacy. Whether new to the podcast or a loyal listener, prepare for an uplifting ride filled with insights and inspiration, reminding you that the path to living your best life is already within you.
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Speaker 1 (00:11):
welcome to pocket full of mojo.
Where you're, you and I'm steph, and we tune in here to tap
into some mojo.
And if you're new here andasking what, what's Mojo?
Well, fair question, mojo isthat feeling of unshakable
confidence, that boomingself-worth.
Like you're an unstoppableforce of nature and I'm here to
(00:33):
show you how you can have thatfeeling every single day.
You see, I think I've crackedthe code to being happy.
I'm happy all the freaking time, at least every day, at least
most of the day, possibly to anannoying degree.
But hey, I wasn't always thisway.
And not to flex, but I have hadmultiple breakdowns on multiple
(00:59):
continents and in two languages.
Three years ago, my whole lifedumpster fire, but today I'm
better than I've ever been.
And how you ask?
Fire, but today I'm better thanI've ever been.
And how you ask Well, by payingattention and living with more
intention.
I've created a self-love firstaid kit and it's full of amazing
tools to help you level up,navigate life with that main
character energy.
And I'm not here to gatekeep.
In fact, I'm on a mission tohelp you tap into your best
(01:22):
stuff and remember that you haveeverything that you need to
live your life on your own terms.
So settle in, we're here forsome positive change.
So let's dig in to where yourmojo meets the road.
In today's episode, I'm going toreview our mantra for the week
and then we're going to wrap upseason one of Pocketful of Mojo
(01:43):
and I'm going to take you on alittle tour of how we got here
and where we're going.
This is my first YouTube post,so congrats on getting in on the
ground floor, because we aregoing to be covering some
groundbreaking stuff, and I'm soglad you're here for the ride.
And if you are new to Pocketfulof Mojo, you're in luck.
(02:04):
I've got 41 episodes of thismagic waiting for you wherever
you listen to podcasts, so besure to dive through the
archives and binge at yourpleasure.
So you, I'm going to need youto stick around and I'm going to
make sure that you're glad thatyou did.
So.
Let's get started with today'smantra and get tuned in, tapped
(02:24):
in and turned on.
So hello and welcome.
This is the 42nd episode ofPocket Full of Mojo and once
again, I'm Steph.
I'm your Mojo Maven, youremotional Sherpa, and I'm so
glad that you're here.
Quick reminder am I a therapist?
(02:44):
No, do I have a degree inpsychology?
Also, no, I'm a flawed humanand a recovering people pleaser
who's figured out how to tapinto our best stuff.
We're literally born witheverything we need, so I'm here
to reflect your awesomeness backto you.
So we're going to smash thoselimiting beliefs and hook you up
with some inspiration andmotivation to live the life you
(03:06):
love, and love the life you liveyou in.
Let's start by digging intotoday's mantra.
Now, today's mantra is I listento my body when it tells me
what it needs in order to feelits best.
When we start our mantra with Ilisten, we are putting
ourselves in receiving mode, andthat can be a challenge when
(03:29):
we're constantly out in theworld, taking action,
deciphering information andprocessing what comes at us at
all times.
When we put ourselves in listenmode, we are mindfully becoming
receptors and tuning into ourbodies and what it's trying to
tell us.
All the body ever wants is tooperate at its best, and when
(03:49):
our actions and thoughtlessnessgets involved, that things get
wonky with the old bod.
When we're dialed into the body, we're better equipped to give
it what it needs.
I listen to my body when ittells me what it needs in order
to feel its best.
I listen to my body when ittells me what it needs in order
to feel its best.
Listening to the body is agreat way to continue to show up
for yourself.
(04:09):
When you listen to your body,you are actively and consciously
prioritizing your overallwell-being and taking steps to
respond to what your body isneeding and not what your mind
may think it wants.
There may be something to besaid about paying attention to
the whisper before it becomes ashout.
(04:30):
The more we tune in and havethis responsive relationship
with our bodies, the happier ourbodies will be.
Our bodies are constantlytelling us what we need and we
pay attention to the big stuff,like if we're cold, we dress
warmer, and if we're cold, wedress warmer.
And if we're hungry, we eatsometimes, but what about the
toothache that's been buggingyou for weeks?
(04:50):
Or those sore feet that youjust haven't taken the time to
get better shoes?
This is your body drawingattention to what it needs, and
it needs you to take actionbefore the problem gets worse.
I listen to my body when ittells me what it needs in order
to feel its best.
Never underestimate the powerof good to great.
(05:13):
Even when you feel relativelyfine, that actually puts you in
a great position to level up thenoise is less.
You have more clear, directline to be able to tap in to
what your body is asking for.
We don't need to be sick to getbetter, and if you don't take
the time to be well, you bettertake some time to be sick.
(05:33):
I listen to my body when ittells me what it needs in order
to feel its best.
The key to this mantra isawareness.
As you continue to moveyourself up in the list of terms
of importance and priority, youwill start to see.
Mantra is awareness.
As you continue to moveyourself up in the list of terms
of importance and priority, youwill start to see a shift
happen where you're going tostart to behave differently with
your body.
You're going to listen more,understand more and actually
(05:56):
hear what your body has to say,from the small things to the big
things.
Knowing what your body needs isthe first step to being better,
no matter where you're at.
When we think we know what thebody wants, we tend to start to
throw spaghetti at the wall tosee what sticks, or take our
stupid mental health walk inhopes that it's going to be a
(06:17):
cure-all for our mind, body andspirit, and this is where this
mantra takes the guesswork outand allows us to instead tune in
and respond with love, care,attention and awareness that
serves our body, as opposed towhat we think it wants.
I listen to my body when ittells me what it needs in order
(06:39):
to feel its best.
Look, nobody makes choices,thinking I'm going to do what's
not best for me.
It's not something that we doconsciously, but by applying a
little bit of attention andintention.
That's the game changer.
The best part about adoptingthis mantra is that, as it gets
into our mindset, the more we doit, the less we have to
navigate.
(06:59):
You see, our bodies aredesigned to operate at its peak
potential and they're constantlyworking to heal, process, give
us energy in the most optimalway.
And then we get in the way wefall asleep with screens on, we
eat things that might not be thebest for us, we burn the candle
at both ends and then we wonderwhy we're not feeling our best.
(07:20):
But if we stop and listen towhat our body needs, we're going
to be in better shape.
Did you know that when you goto the grocery store, your eyes
will automatically draw you tothe foods that have the vitamins
and minerals that your bodyneeds True fact.
But we have to be payingattention in order to notice
that when we consciously feelthirsty, did you know that that
(07:44):
means that your body is alreadyin dehydration?
True fact.
This is why we need to listenwhen it's a whisper, so that we
don't have to react when it's ashout.
Maybe it's that headache thatcomes on after nine hours of
screen time.
Well, you know what Our body isgoing to send, a signal of what
it needs, but it's up to us toconsciously listen.
(08:05):
So when we dial down the noiseof life and dial up the
connection that we have with ourbodies, we're going to have a
much healthier, happierrelationship with our bodies.
And you know what happens whenwe show our bodies love.
It shows us love right back.
And you know how we treatthings we love.
We treat them well.
We don't sabotage the thingsand people we love with harsh
(08:28):
chemicals, poor treatment,neglect, abuse.
We show love, consideration,grace, patience and care.
Same goes for your body.
It all takes some attention,paying attention, and just watch
how your body transforms.
I listen to my body when ittells me what it needs in order
(08:49):
to feel its best.
Oh man, that was a good mantra,and it leads me to take you on
a bit of an adventure.
While I talk about how I gothere and what this is all about,
then at the end I'm going toshare with you the three big
takeaways that allowed me tosurvive and thrive through a
(09:12):
very draining, very demandingand intense season since my last
episode.
So go grab your popcorn.
It's story time.
On the last episode of Pocketfulof Mojo, I was in France, so a
quick refresh for your freshmanmojarinos out there.
I used to live in France.
I was there for four years andI moved there to be closer to my
(09:36):
in-laws at the time.
And then, four years later, mymom died Very suddenly.
She made meatloaf, she felttired, she went to bed and the
good Lord took her.
That was it Right.
Around the same time, mymarriage ended, just to keep
things exciting.
(09:57):
So it was at that point that Imade the decision to move back
to Canada, give my dad a hand innavigating life without my mom
and also do some of my ownpersonal healing.
I had the chance to be able todo it in the home I grew up in,
and it felt like the right thingto do to come home, heal care
and just reset my life.
(10:19):
But in that moment nothing madesense A life without my mom.
I couldn't even imagine a worldwithout her in it, and it was
through that process that I dida lot of self-work.
I put a lot of pieces togetherthat led me to reveal that I am
(10:39):
the Mojo Maven.
I am a Mojo Master, and when Iunlocked all of these key pieces
, that's when I knew that mymission was to come and share
this with as many people whoneeded to hear it.
Now this has made me my dad'sprimary caretaker for the last
three years, which has beenall-encompassing primary
(11:01):
caretaker for the last threeyears, which has been all
encompassing.
And as his health has declined,it's been asking more and more
and more of me.
So what I did last summer was Ibit the bullet.
I'd been spending three yearsthinking and dreaming and
imagining going back to Franceand seeing my friends again and
seeing my cats again, and Ifinally bit the bullet and I got
(11:22):
tired of talking about it and Itook action and I booked that
flight.
So there was going to be, itwas going to be six weeks in my
old hometown.
It was going to be like goinghome again and I just couldn't
wait.
So that was my ultimateself-care break.
It was the gift I gave myselfafter creating all the things
that I'd created.
I'd built a podcast, I'd builtthis company.
(11:45):
I'd given so much of myself tomy friends and my family and I
thought, you know, it's time torefill my cup.
And I went out there with hugeexpectations.
I was going to do all thisfilming and it was going to be
great, and I was going to get myworkbook done.
(12:06):
And I was going to do all thisfilming and it was going to be
great, and I was going to get myworkbook done and I was going
to develop all the coursecontent.
And it was really big pie inthe sky expectations.
And then, less than a week afterarriving in France, I get a
message from my brother my dadis in the hospital.
Cue record, scratch moment.
Everything I thought I wasgoing to do had completely just
flown out of my head.
(12:27):
I had no direction, I had nomotivation.
I just felt like all the windhad been taken out of my sails.
I had really big goals andreally big objectives and I
wanted to be productive and getthings done.
And then, all of a sudden, Iwas just body snatched Like I
had.
My brain wasn't working, myheart was broken, I was
(12:50):
conflicted, I was feeling guiltyand all of this waves of
feelings and emotions were justpulling me in a hundred
directions.
I felt like I was in anemotional tornado.
But what I learned was that Ineeded to give myself some grace
.
I needed to tune into what Ireally needed.
What I really wanted was onething.
(13:13):
What I needed was somethingcompletely different, and it was
different than what I plannedon needing.
But it gave me some perspectiveand it made me come home to a
whole new reality.
Because, after spending my timewith the people over there,
they were the ones who reallyhelped me pivot and say you know
(13:34):
what?
You came out here with reallybig ambitions and you wanted to
get so many things done herewith really big ambitions and
you wanted to get so many thingsdone.
But maybe the real purpose ofyou being here in France is to
reset, is to recharge, is torest, is to give myself a break
after working every single day.
Every single day, whether itwas on myself, whether it was on
(13:56):
my business, whether it wasbeing a caretaker, I was always
keeping myself in demand 24-7.
So in November I came back frommy trip to France to a whole new
reality.
I had to adjust to a higherlevel of needs that was really
(14:17):
and truly 24-7.
And I really had to focus onwhat I can do and take the time
pressure away.
And it really called on me totrust that everything was going
to work out, because I'd madeall these plans and they all
blew up in my face.
So I had to have faith thatsomewhere in there I was going
(14:37):
to refine my place and get backinto my lane.
And in doing so I really wasovercome with overwhelm and it
took me a while to get back inthe groove.
But here's what the differencewas when I reached out and I
opened myself up.
I work with this amazingnetworking team and I really
(14:57):
shared my vulnerability andshared my overwhelm, because I
felt like I was behind.
I felt like I wasn't doingenough, because my attention was
being split in so manydifferent directions and the
priority levels were all in flux.
But by accepting some help, Ihad some people reach out and
say hey, did you want to do abrainstorming session?
(15:18):
Hey, did you want to sit downand have a coffee and we can
flush all this out.
As a people pleaser, I typicallyused to reject help.
I used to see it as a weaknessor no, I don't want to bother
you.
But by accepting that help, itwas absolutely game changing and
it allowed me to focus on themost important things.
It made me turn down the noiseand really dial into what was
(15:42):
the most important, what was themost urgent and what could I do
today.
And as I kept chipping away atit, I felt like the path just
kind of revealed itself, becausewhen you let go, it makes room
for what you're truly attractingand what you truly need.
For example, I was all in myhead about where am I going to
(16:03):
record these videos and how am Igoing to get this done and it's
going to cost a fortune.
And all of these limitingbeliefs had just started piling
up in my brain.
And then I just hit Google andI typed recording studio
Winnipeg, which is where I livefree.
And then the library came upand with my library card I found
(16:26):
out that I can go to this coolideas lab downtown and they've
got recording equipment andgreen screens Obviously, I'm not
there today, but cameras andall of these things, and it was
just like this gift that all ofthe answers had come to find me.
And just by being able to takethat step back and ask the right
questions and operate frombalance, all that pressure went
(16:50):
away.
Everything melted away justbecause, through the act of
giving myself some grace,through the act of focusing on
what was most important and nottrying to take a bite of 10
sandwiches at the same time,because just picture what that
looks like.
It sounds ridiculous.
So as we got closer to November,I was really mindful about what
(17:11):
filled my own cup and withChristmas around the corner, I
knew just what to do.
You see Christmas around here.
It's like the Super Bowl for me, and I take after my mom in
that she was a domestic goddessand the CEO of this house and we
have three generations and100-year-old decorations and, I
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promise you, not a surface areaof this house went untouched.
I'm talking tea towels, I'mtalking coasters, I'm talking
garlands.
Everywhere.
It was magical.
So I really made sure that Iwas putting these guideposts
down so that my cup couldcontinuously be filled and that
I wasn't just always giving.
(17:53):
I knew how much joy Christmasbrought me, but I didn't want it
to be an obligation, so Iplanned it out.
I made myself a little bakingschedule.
I did two recipes every week sothat when it came time to enjoy
, I had everything done andready and that December could be
all about enjoying it.
And I had 30 days of amazingjoy.
(18:15):
The house looked spectacularmagazine ready, if I do say so
myself, and it really wentperfectly.
I hosted 10 people forChristmas Day.
Everyone had an amazing time.
The meal was perfection, thedesserts were delicious and it
really brought me so much joy tobe able to share that with the
(18:37):
people that I love.
And I was able to do thatbecause I made it a priority.
Some of the learnings that Iwant to share with you, that
I've garnered over the lastthree months, from going from
zero to hero, if you will.
The first thing is surrenderbrings clarity when things don't
(18:59):
go as planned.
That's been known to happenright.
Here's the recipe Stop, resetand adjust.
You just have to put one footin front of the other, and the
more you give yourself grace,the more you'll know how to
navigate those little changesand adapt your plan to fit your
(19:21):
current situation.
The second thing was asking forhelp.
The second thing was asking forhelp.
Self-advocacy is very difficultsometimes, especially for people
pleasers, especially for women,this can be difficult.
Now, asking for help is onething.
Receiving that help or gettingheard that you need that help
(19:43):
can be something totallydifferent.
But you're the only one who cando it, because the people who
walk in when everyone else iswalking out, those are your
people.
Those are the ones who willshow up for you in the darkest
days.
Now another important point isto go slowly.
Slowly is the fastest way toget where you're going, and I
(20:08):
learned this because I wastrying to do things at a race
pace and it was not serving meat all.
By paying attention to theresistance that happens as
you're trying to force something, it's really going to show you
the way.
When you feel that resistance,it's time to pause, take a step
back and redirect your energy alittle bit to make sure that
(20:32):
you're aware of where thatresistance is happening, because
that might be a nudge in adirection that's going to serve
you better and help you getwhere you're going in a much
more efficient way.
(20:54):
So, ladies and germs, that wasthe final episode of pocket full
of mojo is season one.
Please tune in next week for ahomegrown canadian where we're
going to dig into more greatways for you to level up the
most important relationship thatthere is, and that's the
(21:15):
relationship that you have withyourself.
Truth is going back to not, forme, was the act of self-care
like level five self-care andwhile it wasn't cheap, when it
comes to value it was a bargainat twice the price.
So, seriously, merci beaucoupfor tuning in and I hope that
(21:35):
this has helped you tap intosome of that mojo of your own,
because feeling good feels goodright.
So, in the meantime, if you feellike your mojo could use a tune
up, I've come up with lots ofways for us to do this again
sometime.
You can start by getting in onthe ground floor of YouTube.
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(21:58):
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(22:19):
to me.
When you do Look, you found meat the very beginning of all
things mojo, and there's so muchmore on the way.
So all the cool links are founddown in the show notes.
So go have a look.
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(23:02):
put love in everything you do.
Thanks again for tuning in.
This has been Steph withPocketful of Mojo Season one out
.
Ciao for now.
welcome to pocket full of mojo.
Where you're, you and I'm steph, and we tune in here to tap
into some mojo.
And if you're new here andasking what, what's Mojo?
Well, fair question, mojo isthat feeling of unshakable
confidence, that boomingself-worth.
Like you're an unstoppableforce of nature and I'm here to
(00:33):
show you how you can have thatfeeling every single day.
You see, I think I've crackedthe code to being happy.
I'm happy all the freaking time, at least every day, at least
most of the day, possibly to anannoying degree.
But hey, I wasn't always thisway.
And not to flex, but I have hadmultiple breakdowns on multiple
(00:59):
continents and in two languages.
Three years ago, my whole lifedumpster fire, but today I'm
better than I've ever been.
And how you ask?
Fire, but today I'm better thanI've ever been.
And how you ask Well, by payingattention and living with more
intention.
I've created a self-love firstaid kit and it's full of amazing
tools to help you level up,navigate life with that main
character energy.
And I'm not here to gatekeep.
In fact, I'm on a mission tohelp you tap into your best
(01:22):
stuff and remember that you haveeverything that you need to
live your life on your own terms.
So settle in, we're here forsome positive change.
So let's dig in to where yourmojo meets the road.
In today's episode, I'm going toreview our mantra for the week
and then we're going to wrap upseason one of Pocketful of Mojo
(01:43):
and I'm going to take you on alittle tour of how we got here
and where we're going.
This is my first YouTube post,so congrats on getting in on the
ground floor, because we aregoing to be covering some
groundbreaking stuff, and I'm soglad you're here for the ride.
And if you are new to Pocketfulof Mojo, you're in luck.
(02:04):
I've got 41 episodes of thismagic waiting for you wherever
you listen to podcasts, so besure to dive through the
archives and binge at yourpleasure.
So you, I'm going to need youto stick around and I'm going to
make sure that you're glad thatyou did.
So.
Let's get started with today'smantra and get tuned in, tapped
(02:24):
in and turned on.
So hello and welcome.
This is the 42nd episode ofPocket Full of Mojo and once
again, I'm Steph.
I'm your Mojo Maven, youremotional Sherpa, and I'm so
glad that you're here.
Quick reminder am I a therapist?
(02:44):
No, do I have a degree inpsychology?
Also, no, I'm a flawed humanand a recovering people pleaser
who's figured out how to tapinto our best stuff.
We're literally born witheverything we need, so I'm here
to reflect your awesomeness backto you.
So we're going to smash thoselimiting beliefs and hook you up
with some inspiration andmotivation to live the life you
(03:06):
love, and love the life you liveyou in.
Let's start by digging intotoday's mantra.
Now, today's mantra is I listento my body when it tells me
what it needs in order to feelits best.
When we start our mantra with Ilisten, we are putting
ourselves in receiving mode, andthat can be a challenge when
(03:29):
we're constantly out in theworld, taking action,
deciphering information andprocessing what comes at us at
all times.
When we put ourselves in listenmode, we are mindfully becoming
receptors and tuning into ourbodies and what it's trying to
tell us.
All the body ever wants is tooperate at its best, and when
(03:49):
our actions and thoughtlessnessgets involved, that things get
wonky with the old bod.
When we're dialed into the body, we're better equipped to give
it what it needs.
I listen to my body when ittells me what it needs in order
to feel its best.
I listen to my body when ittells me what it needs in order
to feel its best.
Listening to the body is agreat way to continue to show up
for yourself.
(04:09):
When you listen to your body,you are actively and consciously
prioritizing your overallwell-being and taking steps to
respond to what your body isneeding and not what your mind
may think it wants.
There may be something to besaid about paying attention to
the whisper before it becomes ashout.
(04:30):
The more we tune in and havethis responsive relationship
with our bodies, the happier ourbodies will be.
Our bodies are constantlytelling us what we need and we
pay attention to the big stuff,like if we're cold, we dress
warmer, and if we're cold, wedress warmer.
And if we're hungry, we eatsometimes, but what about the
toothache that's been buggingyou for weeks?
(04:50):
Or those sore feet that youjust haven't taken the time to
get better shoes?
This is your body drawingattention to what it needs, and
it needs you to take actionbefore the problem gets worse.
I listen to my body when ittells me what it needs in order
to feel its best.
Never underestimate the powerof good to great.
(05:13):
Even when you feel relativelyfine, that actually puts you in
a great position to level up thenoise is less.
You have more clear, directline to be able to tap in to
what your body is asking for.
We don't need to be sick to getbetter, and if you don't take
the time to be well, you bettertake some time to be sick.
(05:33):
I listen to my body when ittells me what it needs in order
to feel its best.
The key to this mantra isawareness.
As you continue to moveyourself up in the list of terms
of importance and priority, youwill start to see.
Mantra is awareness.
As you continue to moveyourself up in the list of terms
of importance and priority, youwill start to see a shift
happen where you're going tostart to behave differently with
your body.
You're going to listen more,understand more and actually
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hear what your body has to say,from the small things to the big
things.
Knowing what your body needs isthe first step to being better,
no matter where you're at.
When we think we know what thebody wants, we tend to start to
throw spaghetti at the wall tosee what sticks, or take our
stupid mental health walk inhopes that it's going to be a
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cure-all for our mind, body andspirit, and this is where this
mantra takes the guesswork outand allows us to instead tune in
and respond with love, care,attention and awareness that
serves our body, as opposed towhat we think it wants.
I listen to my body when ittells me what it needs in order
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to feel its best.
Look, nobody makes choices,thinking I'm going to do what's
not best for me.
It's not something that we doconsciously, but by applying a
little bit of attention andintention.
That's the game changer.
The best part about adoptingthis mantra is that, as it gets
into our mindset, the more we doit, the less we have to
navigate.
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You see, our bodies aredesigned to operate at its peak
potential and they're constantlyworking to heal, process, give
us energy in the most optimalway.
And then we get in the way wefall asleep with screens on, we
eat things that might not be thebest for us, we burn the candle
at both ends and then we wonderwhy we're not feeling our best.
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But if we stop and listen towhat our body needs, we're going
to be in better shape.
Did you know that when you goto the grocery store, your eyes
will automatically draw you tothe foods that have the vitamins
and minerals that your bodyneeds True fact.
But we have to be payingattention in order to notice
that when we consciously feelthirsty, did you know that that
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means that your body is alreadyin dehydration?
True fact.
This is why we need to listenwhen it's a whisper, so that we
don't have to react when it's ashout.
Maybe it's that headache thatcomes on after nine hours of
screen time.
Well, you know what Our body isgoing to send, a signal of what
it needs, but it's up to us toconsciously listen.
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So when we dial down the noiseof life and dial up the
connection that we have with ourbodies, we're going to have a
much healthier, happierrelationship with our bodies.
And you know what happens whenwe show our bodies love.
It shows us love right back.
And you know how we treatthings we love.
We treat them well.
We don't sabotage the thingsand people we love with harsh
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chemicals, poor treatment,neglect, abuse.
We show love, consideration,grace, patience and care.
Same goes for your body.
It all takes some attention,paying attention, and just watch
how your body transforms.
I listen to my body when ittells me what it needs in order
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to feel its best.
Oh man, that was a good mantra,and it leads me to take you on
a bit of an adventure.
While I talk about how I gothere and what this is all about,
then at the end I'm going toshare with you the three big
takeaways that allowed me tosurvive and thrive through a
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very draining, very demandingand intense season since my last
episode.
So go grab your popcorn.
It's story time.
On the last episode of Pocketfulof Mojo, I was in France, so a
quick refresh for your freshmanmojarinos out there.
I used to live in France.
I was there for four years andI moved there to be closer to my
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in-laws at the time.
And then, four years later, mymom died Very suddenly.
She made meatloaf, she felttired, she went to bed and the
good Lord took her.
That was it Right.
Around the same time, mymarriage ended, just to keep
things exciting.
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So it was at that point that Imade the decision to move back
to Canada, give my dad a hand innavigating life without my mom
and also do some of my ownpersonal healing.
I had the chance to be able todo it in the home I grew up in,
and it felt like the right thingto do to come home, heal care
and just reset my life.
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But in that moment nothing madesense A life without my mom.
I couldn't even imagine a worldwithout her in it, and it was
through that process that I dida lot of self-work.
I put a lot of pieces togetherthat led me to reveal that I am
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the Mojo Maven.
I am a Mojo Master, and when Iunlocked all of these key pieces
, that's when I knew that mymission was to come and share
this with as many people whoneeded to hear it.
Now this has made me my dad'sprimary caretaker for the last
three years, which has beenall-encompassing primary
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caretaker for the last threeyears, which has been all
encompassing.
And as his health has declined,it's been asking more and more
and more of me.
So what I did last summer was Ibit the bullet.
I'd been spending three yearsthinking and dreaming and
imagining going back to Franceand seeing my friends again and
seeing my cats again, and Ifinally bit the bullet and I got
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tired of talking about it and Itook action and I booked that
flight.
So there was going to be, itwas going to be six weeks in my
old hometown.
It was going to be like goinghome again and I just couldn't
wait.
So that was my ultimateself-care break.
It was the gift I gave myselfafter creating all the things
that I'd created.
I'd built a podcast, I'd builtthis company.
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I'd given so much of myself tomy friends and my family and I
thought, you know, it's time torefill my cup.
And I went out there with hugeexpectations.
I was going to do all thisfilming and it was going to be
great, and I was going to get myworkbook done.
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And I was going to do all thisfilming and it was going to be
great, and I was going to get myworkbook done and I was going
to develop all the coursecontent.
And it was really big pie inthe sky expectations.
And then, less than a week afterarriving in France, I get a
message from my brother my dadis in the hospital.
Cue record, scratch moment.
Everything I thought I wasgoing to do had completely just
flown out of my head.
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I had no direction, I had nomotivation.
I just felt like all the windhad been taken out of my sails.
I had really big goals andreally big objectives and I
wanted to be productive and getthings done.
And then, all of a sudden, Iwas just body snatched Like I
had.
My brain wasn't working, myheart was broken, I was
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conflicted, I was feeling guiltyand all of this waves of
feelings and emotions were justpulling me in a hundred
directions.
I felt like I was in anemotional tornado.
But what I learned was that Ineeded to give myself some grace
.
I needed to tune into what Ireally needed.
What I really wanted was onething.
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What I needed was somethingcompletely different, and it was
different than what I plannedon needing.
But it gave me some perspectiveand it made me come home to a
whole new reality.
Because, after spending my timewith the people over there,
they were the ones who reallyhelped me pivot and say you know
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what?
You came out here with reallybig ambitions and you wanted to
get so many things done herewith really big ambitions and
you wanted to get so many thingsdone.
But maybe the real purpose ofyou being here in France is to
reset, is to recharge, is torest, is to give myself a break
after working every single day.
Every single day, whether itwas on myself, whether it was on
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my business, whether it wasbeing a caretaker, I was always
keeping myself in demand 24-7.
So in November I came back frommy trip to France to a whole new
reality.
I had to adjust to a higherlevel of needs that was really
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and truly 24-7.
And I really had to focus onwhat I can do and take the time
pressure away.
And it really called on me totrust that everything was going
to work out, because I'd madeall these plans and they all
blew up in my face.
So I had to have faith thatsomewhere in there I was going
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to refine my place and get backinto my lane.
And in doing so I really wasovercome with overwhelm and it
took me a while to get back inthe groove.
But here's what the differencewas when I reached out and I
opened myself up.
I work with this amazingnetworking team and I really
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shared my vulnerability andshared my overwhelm, because I
felt like I was behind.
I felt like I wasn't doingenough, because my attention was
being split in so manydifferent directions and the
priority levels were all in flux.
But by accepting some help, Ihad some people reach out and
say hey, did you want to do abrainstorming session?
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Hey, did you want to sit downand have a coffee and we can
flush all this out.
As a people pleaser, I typicallyused to reject help.
I used to see it as a weaknessor no, I don't want to bother
you.
But by accepting that help, itwas absolutely game changing and
it allowed me to focus on themost important things.
It made me turn down the noiseand really dial into what was
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the most important, what was themost urgent and what could I do
today.
And as I kept chipping away atit, I felt like the path just
kind of revealed itself, becausewhen you let go, it makes room
for what you're truly attractingand what you truly need.
For example, I was all in myhead about where am I going to
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record these videos and how am Igoing to get this done and it's
going to cost a fortune.
And all of these limitingbeliefs had just started piling
up in my brain.
And then I just hit Google andI typed recording studio
Winnipeg, which is where I livefree.
And then the library came upand with my library card I found
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out that I can go to this coolideas lab downtown and they've
got recording equipment andgreen screens Obviously, I'm not
there today, but cameras andall of these things, and it was
just like this gift that all ofthe answers had come to find me.
And just by being able to takethat step back and ask the right
questions and operate frombalance, all that pressure went
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away.
Everything melted away justbecause, through the act of
giving myself some grace,through the act of focusing on
what was most important and nottrying to take a bite of 10
sandwiches at the same time,because just picture what that
looks like.
It sounds ridiculous.
So as we got closer to November,I was really mindful about what
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filled my own cup and withChristmas around the corner, I
knew just what to do.
You see Christmas around here.
It's like the Super Bowl for me, and I take after my mom in
that she was a domestic goddessand the CEO of this house and we
have three generations and100-year-old decorations and, I
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promise you, not a surface areaof this house went untouched.
I'm talking tea towels, I'mtalking coasters, I'm talking
garlands.
Everywhere.
It was magical.
So I really made sure that Iwas putting these guideposts
down so that my cup couldcontinuously be filled and that
I wasn't just always giving.
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I knew how much joy Christmasbrought me, but I didn't want it
to be an obligation, so Iplanned it out.
I made myself a little bakingschedule.
I did two recipes every week sothat when it came time to enjoy
, I had everything done andready and that December could be
all about enjoying it.
And I had 30 days of amazingjoy.
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The house looked spectacularmagazine ready, if I do say so
myself, and it really wentperfectly.
I hosted 10 people forChristmas Day.
Everyone had an amazing time.
The meal was perfection, thedesserts were delicious and it
really brought me so much joy tobe able to share that with the
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people that I love.
And I was able to do thatbecause I made it a priority.
Some of the learnings that Iwant to share with you, that
I've garnered over the lastthree months, from going from
zero to hero, if you will.
The first thing is surrenderbrings clarity when things don't
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go as planned.
That's been known to happenright.
Here's the recipe Stop, resetand adjust.
You just have to put one footin front of the other, and the
more you give yourself grace,the more you'll know how to
navigate those little changesand adapt your plan to fit your
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current situation.
The second thing was asking forhelp.
The second thing was asking forhelp.
Self-advocacy is very difficultsometimes, especially for people
pleasers, especially for women,this can be difficult.
Now, asking for help is onething.
Receiving that help or gettingheard that you need that help
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can be something totallydifferent.
But you're the only one who cando it, because the people who
walk in when everyone else iswalking out, those are your
people.
Those are the ones who willshow up for you in the darkest
days.
Now another important point isto go slowly.
Slowly is the fastest way toget where you're going, and I
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learned this because I wastrying to do things at a race
pace and it was not serving meat all.
By paying attention to theresistance that happens as
you're trying to force something, it's really going to show you
the way.
When you feel that resistance,it's time to pause, take a step
back and redirect your energy alittle bit to make sure that
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you're aware of where thatresistance is happening, because
that might be a nudge in adirection that's going to serve
you better and help you getwhere you're going in a much
more efficient way.
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So, ladies and germs, that wasthe final episode of pocket full
of mojo is season one.
Please tune in next week for ahomegrown canadian where we're
going to dig into more greatways for you to level up the
most important relationship thatthere is, and that's the
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relationship that you have withyourself.
Truth is going back to not, forme, was the act of self-care
like level five self-care andwhile it wasn't cheap, when it
comes to value it was a bargainat twice the price.
So, seriously, merci beaucoupfor tuning in and I hope that
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this has helped you tap intosome of that mojo of your own,
because feeling good feels goodright.
So, in the meantime, if you feellike your mojo could use a tune
up, I've come up with lots ofways for us to do this again
sometime.
You can start by getting in onthe ground floor of YouTube.
Mojo Mastery, you're a pioneer,so smash that subscribe button
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and let's keep the mojo going.
And make sure you take a coupleof minutes to subscribe to the
podcast, and extra good, juju,if you leave a review.
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and affirmations.
And be sure to show your lovewith likes and comments, because
I'm a recovering people pleaser, so you know it means the world
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to me.
When you do Look, you found meat the very beginning of all
things mojo, and there's so muchmore on the way.
So all the cool links are founddown in the show notes.
So go have a look.
I mean you're here anyway.
I've got promo codes, I've gota seven day Mojo makeover
challenge and so much more tocome.
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I've got so much great stuff toshare with you guys, so be sure
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put love in everything you do.
Thanks again for tuning in.
This has been Steph withPocketful of Mojo Season one out
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Ciao for now.
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