November 13, 2025 • 34 mins
We unpack why waiting to be chosen keeps us small and how choosing ourselves rewires beliefs, focuses the brain, and attracts aligned opportunities. Steph shares a personal story of grief, self-promotion, and practical tools to define, claim, and live your worth.
• approval loops and how beliefs form
• dangers of outsourcing power and validation
• letting go of apologies, fear and old stories
• defining clear desires and non-negotiables
• identity-led action and aligned standards
• RAS, self-talk and attention shaping outcomes
• client case study from desperation to magnetism
• weekly reflection prompts and mantra practice
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SPEAKER_00 (00:10):
Okay bestie, top up that mimosa because today's
topic is one of those likelaugh, cry, sip your drink, not
aggressively, kind of combos.
We're talking about how to stopwaiting to be chosen and start
choosing yourself.
Because let's be honest, I can'tbe the only one who caught
herself refreshing her inbox oroveranalyzing that text or
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praying for that one opportunityto just notice you already.
Whether it's a job, apartnership, a client, or even
that person who keeps viewingyour stories but never actually
slides into your DMs, yeah,we've all done it.
We've put what we want on holdbecause we're waiting for
someone else to make the move.
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But my friend, I need you tohear this.
You are not the understudy ofyour life.
You're the main character.
And the moment you stop waitingfor someone to cast you, babe,
the real show begins.
Waiting for someone else to makethe move that will level up your
life.
Honey, you are the ocean, andthere is power in your moves.
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So stop sipping from the jankywater fountain and get ready for
life to come at you like a firehose.
Cause today we're learning tochoose ourselves.
And I'm so glad you're here forthe ride.
I'm Steph.
I'm your favorite Mojo Maven,and this is Pocket Full of Mojo.
And we come here to ditch theself-doubt, the burnout, the
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people pleasing, and rememberwho the fuck we are and step
into our power.
Ready, spaghetti?
Let's settle in for anothergreat episode of Pocket Full of
Mojo and start the way we alwaysdo.
We're here to get tuned in,tapped in, and turned on.
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So first things first.
If you feel like there's a partof your life where you keep
waiting to be chosen only tohear crickets, you're not
broken.
You're wired.
Our brain is a computer, and itsprocessor, it's not exactly
flawless.
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It will believe whatever we tellit.
That's what a belief is.
It's a thought that we thinkover and over again.
And it's important to rememberthat you are in charge of data
entry.
And as the saying goes, garbagein, garbage out, which is kind
of why we get in these littlemesses of thinking that we're
broken or less than, or thatthere's ugh something wrong with
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us.
Because that there is some gradeA bullshit.
Because in reality, there aresome faulty wires up in the old
noggin that sometimes take usoff our rightful path.
And if we're not careful, akawhen we're not mindful or aware,
we can make it harder thannecessary to find our own way
back.
But you found me, and this isPocket Fulla Mojo, and it's
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yours to take and adopt today sothat you can get back on track
to your rightful spot as thestar of the show.
Because the truth is that wedidn't get here overnight.
From the moment that you were akid, your brain learned that
approval equals safety.
You cleaned your room, you got asticker.
You smiled pretty, you gotpraise.
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You did what was expected, yougot love.
And this was your cute littlenervous system's first lesson in
how to belong.
Like if I do the right thing,someone chooses me.
Someone says I'm enough.
And your beautiful, loyal brainremembered that.
And that's literally its job.
So now, even as a grown personrunning a business or managing a
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family or chasing dreams orsearching for the right partner,
your brain is still whispering,oh, let's just wait until it's
safe.
Until someone says yes.
But my friend, the here's thetruth that might sting at first
and liberate you later, but it'sthat you will wait forever for
someone to see first what yourefuse to claim.
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Because it's not their job tosee you.
It's yours.
It's not their job to like you.
It's yours.
And it's not their job tohighlight your skills.
It's yours.
And it's not their job todeliver you everything that you
want.
But the good news is that it'syours.
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You don't have to wait anymore.
And the astounding truth is thatyou've already got everything
you need.
And with a bit of awareness andmindfulness, you can get where
you want to go.
And while you have everythingthat you need, the paradox here
is that you can't get therealone.
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But who you take with you on theride makes all the difference.
So let's unpack that a littlebit before we get to the real
juicy bits.
Because collaboration andpartnership can be
transformative and enriching andpowerful.
But when we do so without astrong foundation of who we are,
there can be a danger ofoutsourcing your power.
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So let's look at what thosedangers are and what can happen
if we undermined the power thatwe were born with, or even
disconnect completely from ourown power source.
When you wait to be chosen, youhand over the keys to your own
damn kingdom.
You make your own worthdependent on someone else's
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timeline or their opinion ortheir validation.
And that, my love, is adangerous place to live.
Because when you outsource yourgoals and align yourself with
someone else's star, there's afew things that happen.
You end up dimming your ownlight to stay palatable or to
fit in.
You start performing instead ofcreating from a place of your
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own truth and your own valuableexperiences that no one else has
had.
And if you don't have a strongfoundation of your self-image
and your self-esteem, you canmistake silence for rejection.
When really it's the universejust waiting for you to take
that first step.
You can't build a life onsomeone else's permission slip.
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And if you're waiting forapproval to chase your dream or
speak your truth or take upspace, you're gonna be waiting
forever.
And real growth begins when youstop asking, is this okay?
It starts when you start saying,This is mine.
And your life doesn't need to bepre-approved.
It needs to be claimed.
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And every time you choose tovalidate yourself instead of
waiting for someone else to doit, you're laying another brick
in the foundation of a lifethat's truly yours.
This is like when your friendsecretly wants to start her own
business, but she keeps sayingthings like, I'm just waiting
until my partner's cool with it,or maybe when my parents finally
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understand what I'm doing.
Girl, no, that's not how thisworks.
You can't design a dream lifefor you with a committee.
If you're constantly checkingwith everyone else's comfort
level before making a move, youend up living their version of
your life.
And that sounds ridiculous, justsaying it out loud.
But it does show up in the smallthings that we do, like asking,
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do you think I should post this?
Or is it okay if I take aweekend to myself?
Instead of just doing it becauseit feels right for you.
When you stop waiting for agreen light from the outside
world and start giving it toyourself, whoo, total game
changer.
And that's where confidencelives.
And you can't step into yourpower if your hands are busy
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holding on to things that keepyou small.
Power requires open hands, not aclosed fist.
It's key to be ready to receiveand create and lead.
But when your hands are full offear and people pleasing, and
that maybe someday there's noroom for something new.
So we rewire.
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We remember that letting goisn't weakness, it's clearance.
Every fear you release, everyapology you stop making, every
someday you replace with today,it frees up space for the
confidence and the alignment andthe momentum to move in.
Those are the roommates we'relooking for.
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Like, you know that vibe whenyou're saying yes to every
favor, every last-minute requestbecause you don't want to upset
anyone, and you think that yourstock is rising because you're
ready to do all the things atany time for anyone.
But inside you're exhausted andkind of resentful.
Yeah, that's it.
You can't rise if you're stillclutching fear and approval like
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security blankets.
And it's gonna show up asoverthinking every message you
send, or downplaying your wins,or ignoring them completely, or
talking yourself out ofopportunities because what if
I'm not ready?
Meanwhile, your power is justsitting there, like, uh, are you
done yet?
Like the moment that you dropthe people pleasing, the fear of
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being too much, that maybesomeday procrastination energy,
and you finally have both handsfree to build and create and
receive what's meant for you inall of its messy and perfect
glory, that's the moment.
Because it's not about becomingsomeone new, it's about clearing
the clutter so that the real youcan finally breathe.
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And sometimes choosing yourselfmeans putting down the things
that once made you feel safe,but now have made you feel
stuck.
Like let's talk about what youneed to put down.
Let's clear the table for asecond.
Because before we can fill yourlife with everything you
deserve, we gotta make room forit.
So have a look at your ownmetaphorical table.
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And if any of these things arein your inventory, here's what
needs to go.
Number one, the fantasy thatbeing chosen will finally make
you feel worthy.
You're not waiting for a savior,my friend.
You're remembering that you werenever lost.
And we've all been therethinking that once someone picks
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us or validates us or says,You're the one, we'll finally
feel like enough.
But that's a trap.
Worthiness doesn't come frombeing chosen, it comes from
choosing yourself first.
The real glow-up happens whenyou stop auditioning for the
approval and start standing inyour own value.
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No one is going to hand you yourworth.
It's yours, and it's been yoursthe whole time.
Second thing you need to putdown the habit of apologizing
for wanting more.
Stop saying, I'm sorry fordreaming big, being loud,
knowing your worth.
You're not too much.
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It's it's them.
They're just used to less.
Ugh, and the classic, sorry forbeing ambitious energy.
Drop it.
You dream big, speak your truth,take up space.
And if you're new, your instinctis going to instantly shrink
back and apologize and say,sorry, like your desires are an
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inconvenience.
They're not.
They are divine direction, andyou don't need to apologize for
wanting more out of life.
That hunger is your intuitionsaying there is more meant for
you.
Let the sorry go and replace itwith thank you for noticing my
shine.
I have a friend back in Francewho called me out on this real
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bad.
I was in a bad spot and I wastrying to project into the
future, and I had this limitingbelief that because I do live a
life of privilege where I have,you know, a house and
electricity and shelter and foodin my belly and clothes on my
back, that it would be selfishfor me to want more.
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And he's like, that's horseshit.
And I was, I'd I I had honestlynever had a friend speak to me
that way before.
So it it definitely stopped mein my tracks, but it was the
first domino to fall that helpedme give myself permission again
to dream big.
And while we can get insightsfrom the outside, number three
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is gonna sound like thiscontradicts what I just said,
but here we go.
Number three, the third thingthat you need to put down is the
lie that clarity comes fromoutside of you.
And like I just said, we can getinsight, we can get knowledge,
we can get advice, but claritycan only come from within you.
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And you don't need to figure itout.
You need to listen because theanswers aren't out there.
They're inside.
They're waiting for a quietenough space to be heard.
Because it's so easy to thinkthat the next podcast or the
next coach or the next visionboard will finally reveal the
answer.
But clarity doesn't come fromsearching, it comes in
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stillness.
It will reveal itself in thesilence.
You don't need to go findyourself, you just need to
listen to yourself.
And the more that you slow downand breathe and tune in, the
more obvious it all becomesbecause you have had these
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answers all along.
Because no one is you.
No one knows what you know, noone's lived what you've lived,
has the parents that you've had,has the teachers who have
influenced you, how could theypossibly have more clarity than
you?
You have the answers.
Step one, believe that.
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Step two, shut up and listen toyourself for the sake of Pete.
And just see what comes up.
You might surprise yourself.
And the fourth thing that youneed to let go of is the stories
that no longer fit.
Get out the red pen and startediting out some of those old
stories that used to serve youand are really familiar.
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You could say them back andforth, but maybe today they're
working against you.
For example, I'm not ready.
I'm not that kind of person.
I'll do it when happens.
Sound familiar?
These are the old stories thatyou outgrew but never stopped
repeating.
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They're like emotional skinnyjeans.
And at this point in your life,they're tight, they're
uncomfortable, and honestly,they're not even your style
anymore.
And what's important to takeaway here is that you don't need
to keep squeezing into your pastjust because it's familiar.
And doing something differentlydoesn't mean that what you did
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before was wrong.
It's time to toss the outdatednarratives and try on something
that actually fits who you arenow.
Now I want you to really hear mewhen I say the universe can't
deliver new blessings to handsthat are still gripping old
baggage.
Okay, so we know that the oldbaggage can hit the recycle bin.
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The next step is to know whatyou want and be ready for it.
So we're gonna go a level deeperbecause this part is huge.
Most of us say we want to bechosen.
But when I ask, for what?
Things can get fuzzy.
You have to know what you wantso that you can recognize it
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when it shows up.
Like maybe you're single and youwant a relationship.
You're not just gonna go outinto your yard and start
shouting into the void, I want arelationship.
Because there's a lot ofdifferent kinds of relationships
out there.
Business relationship, toxicrelationship, abusive
relationship.
No, that's not what you wanted.
Well, you asked for arelationship, but because you
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weren't specific, you went aheadand said yes to the blurry
vision and your first thought,and then ta-da, it's not what
you actually wanted.
But you had to learn that thehard way.
So to bypass that, you want toget specific.
I think about this one timewhere I was playing with the
idea of asking for what Iwanted, and among other things,
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like most people, I wanted towin the lottery.
And I sat and I tapped into theenergy of winning the lottery,
and I visualized how good itwould feel to win the lottery.
And then I went out, I bought myticket, and I won.
I won two whole dollars.
So technically, I got what Iasked for.
But by missing out on thespecifics, I missed the target
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by more than a little bit.
Or the time I went out apartmenthunting, and I got this really
great advice to sit down andwrite out my ideal apartment.
I wanted exposed brick, I wantedgreat neighbors, I wanted
appliances included, I wanted acute neighborhood, I wanted a
renovated bathroom, and I gotmore and more and more specific.
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And as I went out and startedlooking, sure, there was plenty
of apartments out there thatwere available.
And if that was all I waslooking for, I could have ended
up in a real dump orshort-changed myself with what
was possible.
But by setting the clear anddefined specifics of what I
wanted and dialing into what Iwanted and st and asking the
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question, what do I want?
I was able to uncover thingsthat I wanted, but had never
given conscious thought tobefore that actual exercise.
And if you bypass the questionof defining what it is that you
want, the opportunity may passright in front of you.
But unfortunately, you riskmissing the boat.
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It could walk right by you whileyou're checking your phone for
someone else's approval.
So here's a question to chew onbetween sips of mimosa.
If no one ever chose you again,what would you choose for
yourself?
Who would you be?
How would you show up?
What would you create?
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What would you stop tolerating?
Because clarity is a powerfuland quiet force.
Clarity is magnetism.
And I am a strong and firmbeliever that when you know what
you want, like really know whatyou want, the world starts
rearranging itself to make roomfor it.
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And I want to tell you a littlestory about a time I gave myself
a promotion when I didn't evenhave a job.
Okay, so once upon a time, mylife was a dumpster fire.
My 10-year marriage ended, mymom died suddenly, all within
weeks of each other.
And my self-image, myself-esteem, my vision of the
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future, it was all a pile ofashes at my feet.
And for a while there, I wasmarinating in my grief and doing
my best to heal, but it's reallyhard to know where you're going
when you haven't the faintestidea of who you are.
Who was I if not a wife?
Who was I if not a daughter?
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So as I navigated through theforest of grief and healing, I
started to feel pulled towards afuture.
And through a lot of the mojoexercises that I now teach
today, I found myself ready toseparate myself from the
narrative that my life was adumpster fire.
And pretty sure that wasn'tgoing to be my whole story for
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the rest of my life.
So it was up to me to take thepen and start writing and
defining what my future lookedlike.
So I started with my values.
What was important to me.
And little by little, I startedasking myself questions and
learning more and more about whoI was and what I liked and what
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I didn't.
And what became more and moreclear was the contrary to what I
had been told and led to believeso deeply for so many years was
that this is all made up.
And there are way fewer rules inthis life than I originally
thought.
Like at this point, I had gonemonths without a proper job.
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My job had become on thesurface, caring for my dad who
had just lost his wife of 50years.
But after decades of showing upon time to a boss and traded my
time for money, I realized thatno one came knocking on my door
to say, get back to work.
And I was like, hey, wait aminute.
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What if I wrote the story ofwhat comes next?
No one seems to be stopping me.
And what if it looked differentthan the way it used to?
What if I was in charge?
No one seems to be showing upand telling me what to do, so
I'm gonna be my own boss.
And that's when I promotedmyself to president of doing
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whatever I want.
And I made myself business cardsthat said so.
I mean, got a good chuckle fromthe good people at Staples, but
more than that, it was anempowering commitment to myself
that I believed that I was incharge of my own life and that I
was taking authorship on how itwas going to unfold, not without
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responsibility or ignoring thefundamental elements of safety
and security and kindness anddoing work for the good of all,
but certainly loosening thereins on what I used to think
life should look like.
Now, this series of events andchoices that were not taken to
committee or passed before theboard for approval, I might add,
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it swept away the clutter and itdismantled the limiting beliefs
that used to fit, but were nowfitting like skinny jeans I wore
20 pounds ago.
And it cleared the table andallowed me to add and craft a
life that was in alignment withwho I was today.
The woman who had lost her mom,the woman who made herself small
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to fit into a marriage that nolonger operated as one.
I wanted to live a life that Iwas in charge of.
So naturally, as I wasrebuilding my self-image, I
wanted to build a life where Ireally felt like I was president
of doing whatever I want.
Now that title acts as kind oflike my touchstone or my north
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star.
And since those shaky earlydays, I've been able to get
laser focused on what I want,which is always changing and
forever evolving.
But I've been able to find myvoice, clarify my why, and lead
a life that I can not only beproud of, but am inspired by.
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And one thing's for sure, I'mnot going back because I know
the life that I'm building isone that's authentic and it's
true to me.
Because I keep asking myself andlooking inward for my answers,
and not for someone else to comeand tell me they've got all the
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answers for me, or they're gonnacome and tell me how best to
live my own life.
And since I made that shift andgave myself that promotion, the
path forward just keepsrevealing itself.
And I have the confidence andthe knowing that I have what it
takes to navigate whatever theworld throws at me.
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I've been able to do it thisfar.
Because when you start choosingyourself, that's when the
universe comes calling.
Not because you proved yourself,but because you aligned
yourself.
So now that we've had story timewith Steph, let's back it up a
little with some neurosciencefor your soul.
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Because you know I can't resista brain moment.
So here's the nerdy-nerdyscience behind the magic.
Your brain has something realfancy called the reticular
activating system.
And it's like your innerspotlight.
It filters what you notice, whatyou focus on, and what you
attract.
Like when I bought a smart car,all of a sudden I started seeing
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smart cars everywhere.
And since I sold that car, Icouldn't even count on one hand
how many times I've seen a smartcar in the last year.
It's kind of like that.
So, like when you start activelyaffirming your own worth, so
that's your self-talk.
That's how you feel aboutyourself when you look at that
gorgeous mug in the mirror, orhow you respond or react when
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shit goes sideways, or whenyou're setting boundaries and
moving like you belong withconfidence, or delulu and
clarity, or at least intention.
Your RAS is gonna start scanningfor opportunities that match
that belief.
It's going to hunt for proof.
How cool is that?
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It literally tunes out what'smisaligned.
So when you decide I choosemyself, your brain starts
curating your reality to reflectthat truth.
You start spotting open doorsinstead of walls.
You start meeting the people whomatch your energy.
You start magnetizing what'smeant for you because you've
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stopped chasing what isn't.
And that's not woo, that'swiring.
And careful now becauseremember, garbage in, garbage
out, and we just proved thataiming higher attracts higher
vibes.
So pay real close attention toyour self-talk and keep your
affirmations close because youdidn't get limiting beliefs
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overnight, and it won't be alight switch moment that flips
the script.
You gotta keep at it and keep itreal and keep it mindful and
just know that how you craftyour inner dialogue will be what
you focus on.
And what you focus on paves thepath to where you're going.
Because where attention goes,energy flows.
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And if you believe you that youcan't do it, you're gonna start
seeing proof of that.
And if you start thinking thatyou're not good enough, here's a
sleepless night full of exampleswhy that's true.
But the key here is to rememberthat you choose what radio
station you will listen to.
Is it gonna be the blues ordisco?
You're the DJ.
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Remember that.
Like for a real life mojomoment, I want to tell you about
a woman I once worked with.
She was waiting on a bigbusiness partnership.
And she'd spent weeks puttingtogether this presentation for a
potential collaboration, and shefelt really good about it.
She saw lots of potential forher, and she'd be able to fit
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the needs of this potentialcollaborator.
So she put all her eggs in thisbasket and she felt good about
taking a big swing.
She was going all in.
And she sent off the proposal,and then she waited.
And then a couple of dayspassed, and then the weekend
went by, and then it was a longweekend.
Okay, well, then the week afterthat, she still heard nothing
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all this time.
She'd been holding her breath,waiting for the yes that she
thought was gonna changeeverything.
And like, oh my God, justtelling the story makes me feel
anxious, thinking about all thattime that went by, and her
thinking every ding from herphone was gonna be them.
And time after time, it wasn'tuntil it didn't happen.
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And she was super crushed, likefull-on pajama days and
questioning everything in herlife, kind of crushed.
And at one point we werechatting, and she's like, Well,
maybe Starbucks is hiring, andyou know, like no shade to
Starbucks.
I worked there for 15 years, butthis woman is a business genius,
but her inner monologue hadclearly mixed reviews on this
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fact.
So together we did some work,and I could see at this point
she didn't need a cheerleader,she needed a guide.
So after realigning her mojo,she shared with me that she'd
made some changes.
She stopped waiting for theemail, she stopped trying to
prove herself, and she startedshowing up as if she already was
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the partner that she wanted toattract.
And this boss lady, she raisedher rates, she launched her own
project, and she even startedsaying no to things that seemed
like great opportunities, but ona closer inspection, were not in
alignment.
And she had, in her words,shifted from desperation and
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lack to a motivated magnet,which is a term that I
absolutely love.
And we have permission to stealand adopt for our own
self-image.
It's okay.
I asked.
She's happy to share.
And within months, like a littlehandful of weeks, you guessed
it, that right opportunity cameand it wasn't the ones who left
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her on red.
And those ding dongs, by theway, eventually came around when
she started showing up at theevents and online sales and hot
leads started popping off.
But this time she didn't needtheir approval.
They needed her energy.
But now she was charging morethan they could afford.
And who's got time for peoplewho ghost you?
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Not this queen.
And that is the magic of selfselection.
When you choose yourself first,the world takes notes.
So here's your reflectionquestion for the week.
Where have you been waiting forsomeone else to choose you?
And what would that look like ifyou chose yourself?
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Today.
That thing that you need thatyou're waiting for the other
person to give to you, how canyou give that to yourself?
Because this is all about beingready to receive what you want.
And what if you could give it toyourself?
Maybe it's showing yourself thelove that you've been wanting so
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deeply from someone else.
What if the love you gaveyourself were enough?
Maybe it's walking away fromsomething that you've been
pouring energy into, but isn'tgiving you any energy back.
Whatever it is, you don't needpermission.
What you need is conviction.
And you've already goteverything you need.
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It's just about tapping into it.
And maybe with some slightrewiring to align with who you
are today, that shift will bethe winds that will catch your
sail.
And if you take anything awayfrom this podcast today,
remember this it's not aboutfinding more confidence.
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It's about releasing everythingthat's convincing you that
you're not enough.
Now let's anchor all thisgoodness with a good
old-fashioned Mojo Masterymantra of the week.
Now you ready?
Say it with me.
I'm done waiting to be chosen.
I choose me.
Boldly, loudly,unapologetically.
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Say it loud.
Say it while you're doing yourmakeup.
Say it walking into a room,sending that scary email,
anxiously waiting for the reply.
Just pause, observe thosethoughts, invite those limiting
beliefs to respectfully fuckoff.
And then say it again until yournervous system believes it.
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I am done waiting to be chosen.
I choose me.
Boldly, loudly,unapologetically.
Because trust me, the momentthat you do, the world shifts.
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Alright, my love, that's ourmimosa-fueled pep talk for
today.
And to recap, you don't need tobe discovered.
You need to decide.
You don't need a spotlight.
You are the glow.
And if you take nothing elsefrom today's episode, let it be
this.
The life that you're dreaming ofisn't waiting for you to be
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chosen.
It's waiting for you to chooseit back.
So go pour yourself anothermimosa, fix that crown, and walk
out into the world like the maincharacter you already are.
Because trust me, when youchoose yourself, the world can't
help but follow your lead.
So until next time, keep yourpockets and your heart full of
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mojo.
That's a wrap, my friend.
Remember, your worth never upfor debate.
Your dreams, they're not toomuch.
And the answers you're lookingfor are already whispering
inside you.
If this episode hit home, waittill you hear what's next.
We're diving into how tonavigate when you've outgrown
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the old version of you.
Because shedding what no longerfits, it's not a crisis, it's a
comeback.
And don't miss it, your nextlevel is calling.
So I'm gonna see you in the nextepisode of Pocketful Mojo.
Ciao for now.
Love you, bye.
Okay bestie, top up that mimosa because today's
topic is one of those likelaugh, cry, sip your drink, not
aggressively, kind of combos.
We're talking about how to stopwaiting to be chosen and start
choosing yourself.
Because let's be honest, I can'tbe the only one who caught
herself refreshing her inbox oroveranalyzing that text or
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praying for that one opportunityto just notice you already.
Whether it's a job, apartnership, a client, or even
that person who keeps viewingyour stories but never actually
slides into your DMs, yeah,we've all done it.
We've put what we want on holdbecause we're waiting for
someone else to make the move.
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But my friend, I need you tohear this.
You are not the understudy ofyour life.
You're the main character.
And the moment you stop waitingfor someone to cast you, babe,
the real show begins.
Waiting for someone else to makethe move that will level up your
life.
Honey, you are the ocean, andthere is power in your moves.
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So stop sipping from the jankywater fountain and get ready for
life to come at you like a firehose.
Cause today we're learning tochoose ourselves.
And I'm so glad you're here forthe ride.
I'm Steph.
I'm your favorite Mojo Maven,and this is Pocket Full of Mojo.
And we come here to ditch theself-doubt, the burnout, the
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people pleasing, and rememberwho the fuck we are and step
into our power.
Ready, spaghetti?
Let's settle in for anothergreat episode of Pocket Full of
Mojo and start the way we alwaysdo.
We're here to get tuned in,tapped in, and turned on.
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So first things first.
If you feel like there's a partof your life where you keep
waiting to be chosen only tohear crickets, you're not
broken.
You're wired.
Our brain is a computer, and itsprocessor, it's not exactly
flawless.
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It will believe whatever we tellit.
That's what a belief is.
It's a thought that we thinkover and over again.
And it's important to rememberthat you are in charge of data
entry.
And as the saying goes, garbagein, garbage out, which is kind
of why we get in these littlemesses of thinking that we're
broken or less than, or thatthere's ugh something wrong with
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us.
Because that there is some gradeA bullshit.
Because in reality, there aresome faulty wires up in the old
noggin that sometimes take usoff our rightful path.
And if we're not careful, akawhen we're not mindful or aware,
we can make it harder thannecessary to find our own way
back.
But you found me, and this isPocket Fulla Mojo, and it's
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yours to take and adopt today sothat you can get back on track
to your rightful spot as thestar of the show.
Because the truth is that wedidn't get here overnight.
From the moment that you were akid, your brain learned that
approval equals safety.
You cleaned your room, you got asticker.
You smiled pretty, you gotpraise.
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You did what was expected, yougot love.
And this was your cute littlenervous system's first lesson in
how to belong.
Like if I do the right thing,someone chooses me.
Someone says I'm enough.
And your beautiful, loyal brainremembered that.
And that's literally its job.
So now, even as a grown personrunning a business or managing a
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family or chasing dreams orsearching for the right partner,
your brain is still whispering,oh, let's just wait until it's
safe.
Until someone says yes.
But my friend, the here's thetruth that might sting at first
and liberate you later, but it'sthat you will wait forever for
someone to see first what yourefuse to claim.
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Because it's not their job tosee you.
It's yours.
It's not their job to like you.
It's yours.
And it's not their job tohighlight your skills.
It's yours.
And it's not their job todeliver you everything that you
want.
But the good news is that it'syours.
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You don't have to wait anymore.
And the astounding truth is thatyou've already got everything
you need.
And with a bit of awareness andmindfulness, you can get where
you want to go.
And while you have everythingthat you need, the paradox here
is that you can't get therealone.
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But who you take with you on theride makes all the difference.
So let's unpack that a littlebit before we get to the real
juicy bits.
Because collaboration andpartnership can be
transformative and enriching andpowerful.
But when we do so without astrong foundation of who we are,
there can be a danger ofoutsourcing your power.
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So let's look at what thosedangers are and what can happen
if we undermined the power thatwe were born with, or even
disconnect completely from ourown power source.
When you wait to be chosen, youhand over the keys to your own
damn kingdom.
You make your own worthdependent on someone else's
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timeline or their opinion ortheir validation.
And that, my love, is adangerous place to live.
Because when you outsource yourgoals and align yourself with
someone else's star, there's afew things that happen.
You end up dimming your ownlight to stay palatable or to
fit in.
You start performing instead ofcreating from a place of your
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own truth and your own valuableexperiences that no one else has
had.
And if you don't have a strongfoundation of your self-image
and your self-esteem, you canmistake silence for rejection.
When really it's the universejust waiting for you to take
that first step.
You can't build a life onsomeone else's permission slip.
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And if you're waiting forapproval to chase your dream or
speak your truth or take upspace, you're gonna be waiting
forever.
And real growth begins when youstop asking, is this okay?
It starts when you start saying,This is mine.
And your life doesn't need to bepre-approved.
It needs to be claimed.
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And every time you choose tovalidate yourself instead of
waiting for someone else to doit, you're laying another brick
in the foundation of a lifethat's truly yours.
This is like when your friendsecretly wants to start her own
business, but she keeps sayingthings like, I'm just waiting
until my partner's cool with it,or maybe when my parents finally
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understand what I'm doing.
Girl, no, that's not how thisworks.
You can't design a dream lifefor you with a committee.
If you're constantly checkingwith everyone else's comfort
level before making a move, youend up living their version of
your life.
And that sounds ridiculous, justsaying it out loud.
But it does show up in the smallthings that we do, like asking,
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do you think I should post this?
Or is it okay if I take aweekend to myself?
Instead of just doing it becauseit feels right for you.
When you stop waiting for agreen light from the outside
world and start giving it toyourself, whoo, total game
changer.
And that's where confidencelives.
And you can't step into yourpower if your hands are busy
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holding on to things that keepyou small.
Power requires open hands, not aclosed fist.
It's key to be ready to receiveand create and lead.
But when your hands are full offear and people pleasing, and
that maybe someday there's noroom for something new.
So we rewire.
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We remember that letting goisn't weakness, it's clearance.
Every fear you release, everyapology you stop making, every
someday you replace with today,it frees up space for the
confidence and the alignment andthe momentum to move in.
Those are the roommates we'relooking for.
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Like, you know that vibe whenyou're saying yes to every
favor, every last-minute requestbecause you don't want to upset
anyone, and you think that yourstock is rising because you're
ready to do all the things atany time for anyone.
But inside you're exhausted andkind of resentful.
Yeah, that's it.
You can't rise if you're stillclutching fear and approval like
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security blankets.
And it's gonna show up asoverthinking every message you
send, or downplaying your wins,or ignoring them completely, or
talking yourself out ofopportunities because what if
I'm not ready?
Meanwhile, your power is justsitting there, like, uh, are you
done yet?
Like the moment that you dropthe people pleasing, the fear of
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being too much, that maybesomeday procrastination energy,
and you finally have both handsfree to build and create and
receive what's meant for you inall of its messy and perfect
glory, that's the moment.
Because it's not about becomingsomeone new, it's about clearing
the clutter so that the real youcan finally breathe.
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And sometimes choosing yourselfmeans putting down the things
that once made you feel safe,but now have made you feel
stuck.
Like let's talk about what youneed to put down.
Let's clear the table for asecond.
Because before we can fill yourlife with everything you
deserve, we gotta make room forit.
So have a look at your ownmetaphorical table.
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And if any of these things arein your inventory, here's what
needs to go.
Number one, the fantasy thatbeing chosen will finally make
you feel worthy.
You're not waiting for a savior,my friend.
You're remembering that you werenever lost.
And we've all been therethinking that once someone picks
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us or validates us or says,You're the one, we'll finally
feel like enough.
But that's a trap.
Worthiness doesn't come frombeing chosen, it comes from
choosing yourself first.
The real glow-up happens whenyou stop auditioning for the
approval and start standing inyour own value.
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No one is going to hand you yourworth.
It's yours, and it's been yoursthe whole time.
Second thing you need to putdown the habit of apologizing
for wanting more.
Stop saying, I'm sorry fordreaming big, being loud,
knowing your worth.
You're not too much.
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It's it's them.
They're just used to less.
Ugh, and the classic, sorry forbeing ambitious energy.
Drop it.
You dream big, speak your truth,take up space.
And if you're new, your instinctis going to instantly shrink
back and apologize and say,sorry, like your desires are an
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inconvenience.
They're not.
They are divine direction, andyou don't need to apologize for
wanting more out of life.
That hunger is your intuitionsaying there is more meant for
you.
Let the sorry go and replace itwith thank you for noticing my
shine.
I have a friend back in Francewho called me out on this real
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bad.
I was in a bad spot and I wastrying to project into the
future, and I had this limitingbelief that because I do live a
life of privilege where I have,you know, a house and
electricity and shelter and foodin my belly and clothes on my
back, that it would be selfishfor me to want more.
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And he's like, that's horseshit.
And I was, I'd I I had honestlynever had a friend speak to me
that way before.
So it it definitely stopped mein my tracks, but it was the
first domino to fall that helpedme give myself permission again
to dream big.
And while we can get insightsfrom the outside, number three
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is gonna sound like thiscontradicts what I just said,
but here we go.
Number three, the third thingthat you need to put down is the
lie that clarity comes fromoutside of you.
And like I just said, we can getinsight, we can get knowledge,
we can get advice, but claritycan only come from within you.
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And you don't need to figure itout.
You need to listen because theanswers aren't out there.
They're inside.
They're waiting for a quietenough space to be heard.
Because it's so easy to thinkthat the next podcast or the
next coach or the next visionboard will finally reveal the
answer.
But clarity doesn't come fromsearching, it comes in
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stillness.
It will reveal itself in thesilence.
You don't need to go findyourself, you just need to
listen to yourself.
And the more that you slow downand breathe and tune in, the
more obvious it all becomesbecause you have had these
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answers all along.
Because no one is you.
No one knows what you know, noone's lived what you've lived,
has the parents that you've had,has the teachers who have
influenced you, how could theypossibly have more clarity than
you?
You have the answers.
Step one, believe that.
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Step two, shut up and listen toyourself for the sake of Pete.
And just see what comes up.
You might surprise yourself.
And the fourth thing that youneed to let go of is the stories
that no longer fit.
Get out the red pen and startediting out some of those old
stories that used to serve youand are really familiar.
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You could say them back andforth, but maybe today they're
working against you.
For example, I'm not ready.
I'm not that kind of person.
I'll do it when happens.
Sound familiar?
These are the old stories thatyou outgrew but never stopped
repeating.
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They're like emotional skinnyjeans.
And at this point in your life,they're tight, they're
uncomfortable, and honestly,they're not even your style
anymore.
And what's important to takeaway here is that you don't need
to keep squeezing into your pastjust because it's familiar.
And doing something differentlydoesn't mean that what you did
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before was wrong.
It's time to toss the outdatednarratives and try on something
that actually fits who you arenow.
Now I want you to really hear mewhen I say the universe can't
deliver new blessings to handsthat are still gripping old
baggage.
Okay, so we know that the oldbaggage can hit the recycle bin.
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The next step is to know whatyou want and be ready for it.
So we're gonna go a level deeperbecause this part is huge.
Most of us say we want to bechosen.
But when I ask, for what?
Things can get fuzzy.
You have to know what you wantso that you can recognize it
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when it shows up.
Like maybe you're single and youwant a relationship.
You're not just gonna go outinto your yard and start
shouting into the void, I want arelationship.
Because there's a lot ofdifferent kinds of relationships
out there.
Business relationship, toxicrelationship, abusive
relationship.
No, that's not what you wanted.
Well, you asked for arelationship, but because you
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weren't specific, you went aheadand said yes to the blurry
vision and your first thought,and then ta-da, it's not what
you actually wanted.
But you had to learn that thehard way.
So to bypass that, you want toget specific.
I think about this one timewhere I was playing with the
idea of asking for what Iwanted, and among other things,
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like most people, I wanted towin the lottery.
And I sat and I tapped into theenergy of winning the lottery,
and I visualized how good itwould feel to win the lottery.
And then I went out, I bought myticket, and I won.
I won two whole dollars.
So technically, I got what Iasked for.
But by missing out on thespecifics, I missed the target
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by more than a little bit.
Or the time I went out apartmenthunting, and I got this really
great advice to sit down andwrite out my ideal apartment.
I wanted exposed brick, I wantedgreat neighbors, I wanted
appliances included, I wanted acute neighborhood, I wanted a
renovated bathroom, and I gotmore and more and more specific.
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And as I went out and startedlooking, sure, there was plenty
of apartments out there thatwere available.
And if that was all I waslooking for, I could have ended
up in a real dump orshort-changed myself with what
was possible.
But by setting the clear anddefined specifics of what I
wanted and dialing into what Iwanted and st and asking the
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question, what do I want?
I was able to uncover thingsthat I wanted, but had never
given conscious thought tobefore that actual exercise.
And if you bypass the questionof defining what it is that you
want, the opportunity may passright in front of you.
But unfortunately, you riskmissing the boat.
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It could walk right by you whileyou're checking your phone for
someone else's approval.
So here's a question to chew onbetween sips of mimosa.
If no one ever chose you again,what would you choose for
yourself?
Who would you be?
How would you show up?
What would you create?
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What would you stop tolerating?
Because clarity is a powerfuland quiet force.
Clarity is magnetism.
And I am a strong and firmbeliever that when you know what
you want, like really know whatyou want, the world starts
rearranging itself to make roomfor it.
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And I want to tell you a littlestory about a time I gave myself
a promotion when I didn't evenhave a job.
Okay, so once upon a time, mylife was a dumpster fire.
My 10-year marriage ended, mymom died suddenly, all within
weeks of each other.
And my self-image, myself-esteem, my vision of the
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future, it was all a pile ofashes at my feet.
And for a while there, I wasmarinating in my grief and doing
my best to heal, but it's reallyhard to know where you're going
when you haven't the faintestidea of who you are.
Who was I if not a wife?
Who was I if not a daughter?
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So as I navigated through theforest of grief and healing, I
started to feel pulled towards afuture.
And through a lot of the mojoexercises that I now teach
today, I found myself ready toseparate myself from the
narrative that my life was adumpster fire.
And pretty sure that wasn'tgoing to be my whole story for
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the rest of my life.
So it was up to me to take thepen and start writing and
defining what my future lookedlike.
So I started with my values.
What was important to me.
And little by little, I startedasking myself questions and
learning more and more about whoI was and what I liked and what
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I didn't.
And what became more and moreclear was the contrary to what I
had been told and led to believeso deeply for so many years was
that this is all made up.
And there are way fewer rules inthis life than I originally
thought.
Like at this point, I had gonemonths without a proper job.
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My job had become on thesurface, caring for my dad who
had just lost his wife of 50years.
But after decades of showing upon time to a boss and traded my
time for money, I realized thatno one came knocking on my door
to say, get back to work.
And I was like, hey, wait aminute.
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What if I wrote the story ofwhat comes next?
No one seems to be stopping me.
And what if it looked differentthan the way it used to?
What if I was in charge?
No one seems to be showing upand telling me what to do, so
I'm gonna be my own boss.
And that's when I promotedmyself to president of doing
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whatever I want.
And I made myself business cardsthat said so.
I mean, got a good chuckle fromthe good people at Staples, but
more than that, it was anempowering commitment to myself
that I believed that I was incharge of my own life and that I
was taking authorship on how itwas going to unfold, not without
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responsibility or ignoring thefundamental elements of safety
and security and kindness anddoing work for the good of all,
but certainly loosening thereins on what I used to think
life should look like.
Now, this series of events andchoices that were not taken to
committee or passed before theboard for approval, I might add,
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it swept away the clutter and itdismantled the limiting beliefs
that used to fit, but were nowfitting like skinny jeans I wore
20 pounds ago.
And it cleared the table andallowed me to add and craft a
life that was in alignment withwho I was today.
The woman who had lost her mom,the woman who made herself small
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to fit into a marriage that nolonger operated as one.
I wanted to live a life that Iwas in charge of.
So naturally, as I wasrebuilding my self-image, I
wanted to build a life where Ireally felt like I was president
of doing whatever I want.
Now that title acts as kind oflike my touchstone or my north
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star.
And since those shaky earlydays, I've been able to get
laser focused on what I want,which is always changing and
forever evolving.
But I've been able to find myvoice, clarify my why, and lead
a life that I can not only beproud of, but am inspired by.
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And one thing's for sure, I'mnot going back because I know
the life that I'm building isone that's authentic and it's
true to me.
Because I keep asking myself andlooking inward for my answers,
and not for someone else to comeand tell me they've got all the
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answers for me, or they're gonnacome and tell me how best to
live my own life.
And since I made that shift andgave myself that promotion, the
path forward just keepsrevealing itself.
And I have the confidence andthe knowing that I have what it
takes to navigate whatever theworld throws at me.
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I've been able to do it thisfar.
Because when you start choosingyourself, that's when the
universe comes calling.
Not because you proved yourself,but because you aligned
yourself.
So now that we've had story timewith Steph, let's back it up a
little with some neurosciencefor your soul.
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Because you know I can't resista brain moment.
So here's the nerdy-nerdyscience behind the magic.
Your brain has something realfancy called the reticular
activating system.
And it's like your innerspotlight.
It filters what you notice, whatyou focus on, and what you
attract.
Like when I bought a smart car,all of a sudden I started seeing
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smart cars everywhere.
And since I sold that car, Icouldn't even count on one hand
how many times I've seen a smartcar in the last year.
It's kind of like that.
So, like when you start activelyaffirming your own worth, so
that's your self-talk.
That's how you feel aboutyourself when you look at that
gorgeous mug in the mirror, orhow you respond or react when
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shit goes sideways, or whenyou're setting boundaries and
moving like you belong withconfidence, or delulu and
clarity, or at least intention.
Your RAS is gonna start scanningfor opportunities that match
that belief.
It's going to hunt for proof.
How cool is that?
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It literally tunes out what'smisaligned.
So when you decide I choosemyself, your brain starts
curating your reality to reflectthat truth.
You start spotting open doorsinstead of walls.
You start meeting the people whomatch your energy.
You start magnetizing what'smeant for you because you've
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stopped chasing what isn't.
And that's not woo, that'swiring.
And careful now becauseremember, garbage in, garbage
out, and we just proved thataiming higher attracts higher
vibes.
So pay real close attention toyour self-talk and keep your
affirmations close because youdidn't get limiting beliefs
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overnight, and it won't be alight switch moment that flips
the script.
You gotta keep at it and keep itreal and keep it mindful and
just know that how you craftyour inner dialogue will be what
you focus on.
And what you focus on paves thepath to where you're going.
Because where attention goes,energy flows.
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And if you believe you that youcan't do it, you're gonna start
seeing proof of that.
And if you start thinking thatyou're not good enough, here's a
sleepless night full of exampleswhy that's true.
But the key here is to rememberthat you choose what radio
station you will listen to.
Is it gonna be the blues ordisco?
You're the DJ.
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Remember that.
Like for a real life mojomoment, I want to tell you about
a woman I once worked with.
She was waiting on a bigbusiness partnership.
And she'd spent weeks puttingtogether this presentation for a
potential collaboration, and shefelt really good about it.
She saw lots of potential forher, and she'd be able to fit
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the needs of this potentialcollaborator.
So she put all her eggs in thisbasket and she felt good about
taking a big swing.
She was going all in.
And she sent off the proposal,and then she waited.
And then a couple of dayspassed, and then the weekend
went by, and then it was a longweekend.
Okay, well, then the week afterthat, she still heard nothing
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all this time.
She'd been holding her breath,waiting for the yes that she
thought was gonna changeeverything.
And like, oh my God, justtelling the story makes me feel
anxious, thinking about all thattime that went by, and her
thinking every ding from herphone was gonna be them.
And time after time, it wasn'tuntil it didn't happen.
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And she was super crushed, likefull-on pajama days and
questioning everything in herlife, kind of crushed.
And at one point we werechatting, and she's like, Well,
maybe Starbucks is hiring, andyou know, like no shade to
Starbucks.
I worked there for 15 years, butthis woman is a business genius,
but her inner monologue hadclearly mixed reviews on this
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fact.
So together we did some work,and I could see at this point
she didn't need a cheerleader,she needed a guide.
So after realigning her mojo,she shared with me that she'd
made some changes.
She stopped waiting for theemail, she stopped trying to
prove herself, and she startedshowing up as if she already was
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the partner that she wanted toattract.
And this boss lady, she raisedher rates, she launched her own
project, and she even startedsaying no to things that seemed
like great opportunities, but ona closer inspection, were not in
alignment.
And she had, in her words,shifted from desperation and
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lack to a motivated magnet,which is a term that I
absolutely love.
And we have permission to stealand adopt for our own
self-image.
It's okay.
I asked.
She's happy to share.
And within months, like a littlehandful of weeks, you guessed
it, that right opportunity cameand it wasn't the ones who left
(29:16):
her on red.
And those ding dongs, by theway, eventually came around when
she started showing up at theevents and online sales and hot
leads started popping off.
But this time she didn't needtheir approval.
They needed her energy.
But now she was charging morethan they could afford.
And who's got time for peoplewho ghost you?
(29:38):
Not this queen.
And that is the magic of selfselection.
When you choose yourself first,the world takes notes.
So here's your reflectionquestion for the week.
Where have you been waiting forsomeone else to choose you?
And what would that look like ifyou chose yourself?
(30:00):
Today.
That thing that you need thatyou're waiting for the other
person to give to you, how canyou give that to yourself?
Because this is all about beingready to receive what you want.
And what if you could give it toyourself?
Maybe it's showing yourself thelove that you've been wanting so
(30:21):
deeply from someone else.
What if the love you gaveyourself were enough?
Maybe it's walking away fromsomething that you've been
pouring energy into, but isn'tgiving you any energy back.
Whatever it is, you don't needpermission.
What you need is conviction.
And you've already goteverything you need.
(30:42):
It's just about tapping into it.
And maybe with some slightrewiring to align with who you
are today, that shift will bethe winds that will catch your
sail.
And if you take anything awayfrom this podcast today,
remember this it's not aboutfinding more confidence.
(31:02):
It's about releasing everythingthat's convincing you that
you're not enough.
Now let's anchor all thisgoodness with a good
old-fashioned Mojo Masterymantra of the week.
Now you ready?
Say it with me.
I'm done waiting to be chosen.
I choose me.
Boldly, loudly,unapologetically.
(31:27):
Say it loud.
Say it while you're doing yourmakeup.
Say it walking into a room,sending that scary email,
anxiously waiting for the reply.
Just pause, observe thosethoughts, invite those limiting
beliefs to respectfully fuckoff.
And then say it again until yournervous system believes it.
(31:49):
I am done waiting to be chosen.
I choose me.
Boldly, loudly,unapologetically.
Because trust me, the momentthat you do, the world shifts.
(32:10):
Alright, my love, that's ourmimosa-fueled pep talk for
today.
And to recap, you don't need tobe discovered.
You need to decide.
You don't need a spotlight.
You are the glow.
And if you take nothing elsefrom today's episode, let it be
this.
The life that you're dreaming ofisn't waiting for you to be
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chosen.
It's waiting for you to chooseit back.
So go pour yourself anothermimosa, fix that crown, and walk
out into the world like the maincharacter you already are.
Because trust me, when youchoose yourself, the world can't
help but follow your lead.
So until next time, keep yourpockets and your heart full of
(32:54):
mojo.
That's a wrap, my friend.
Remember, your worth never upfor debate.
Your dreams, they're not toomuch.
And the answers you're lookingfor are already whispering
inside you.
If this episode hit home, waittill you hear what's next.
We're diving into how tonavigate when you've outgrown
(33:16):
the old version of you.
Because shedding what no longerfits, it's not a crisis, it's a
comeback.
And don't miss it, your nextlevel is calling.
So I'm gonna see you in the nextepisode of Pocketful Mojo.
Ciao for now.
Love you, bye.
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