June 19, 2025 • 18 mins
That hollow feeling when the noise dies down and everyone else has gone home?
It might not be loneliness at all—it might be your first real chance to discover who you truly are.
For those of us who've spent years (or decades) tying our worth to how useful we can be to others, that ache of isolation often strikes right when we finally stop pouring ourselves into everyone else.
Suddenly, there's silence, and in that silence might be grief, fear, or echoes of a younger self who learned that being alone meant doing something wrong. But what if that feeling isn't a punishment, but an invitation?
In this deeply personal exploration, I'm sharing five powerful steps to transform loneliness into sacred solitude. From naming your feelings without shame to romanticizing your alone time, these practices aren't just band-aids—they're portals back to your authentic self.
You'll discover how to rewrite what being alone means, how to fall in love with your own company, and why sitting still with yourself might be exactly the medicine your soul has been craving.
Whether you're a recovering people-pleaser, going through a major life transition, or simply wanting to deepen your relationship with yourself, this episode offers both gentle compassion and practical tools.
The truth is, you're not broken when you feel lonely—your nervous system is simply rewiring after years of self-abandonment.
And on the other side of that discomfort lies the most beautiful homecoming: reconnecting with the parts of yourself you temporarily forgot.
Grab the free solitude self-care checklist RIGHT HERE and join me in turning those quiet moments from something we dread into our most empowering, soul-nourishing practice. Because when you can truly be at home with yourself, you're never really alone again.
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Speaker 1 (00:10):
Are you lonely or just finally alone with yourself
for the first time in forever?
If you've ever felt that pointyache in your chest when the
noise dies down and the textmessages stop, this episode is
for you.
Today, we're talking about thedifference between loneliness
and solitude and how to turnthat humbling, hollow feeling
(00:33):
into your most healing,empowering, soul-sparking space.
If you're a recovering peoplepleaser, this might just be the
love letter you didn't know youneeded Because, believe it or
not, might just be the loveletter you didn't know you
needed Because, believe it ornot, loneliness can become one
of the most beautiful, powerfulportals back to your true self.
We're turning loneliness intosweet, soulful solitude, and
(00:58):
you're not going to want to missthis shift.
So, without further ado, let'sget tuned in, tapped in and
turned on, tapped in and turnedon.
Welcome back to Pocketful ofMojo, your cozy corner of the
podcast world, where we unpackthe real stuff, shake off the
guilt and reclaim our joy, onesoulful episode at a time.
(01:21):
I'm glad you're here.
I'm Steph, I'm your mojo maven,and while I'm not a therapist
or a psychologist, I am thatfriend that you can talk to
about your feelings.
And if you've tangled withloneliness from time to time,
I'm here to say you're not asalone as you think.
Now, today's episode is abiggie.
(01:42):
We're talking about somethingthat hits deep, especially for
those of us who spent years,maybe decades, tying our sense
of worth to how useful,available or agreeable we could
be to other people, and oftenwhat we're left with after
everyone else is taken care ofis loneliness.
So we're not just gonna talkabout it.
(02:03):
I'm gonna take you throughtoday's mantra, then we're gonna
dive deep into talk about it.
I'm going to take you throughtoday's mantra, then we're going
to dive deep into five steps tosacred solitude.
That's going to give you aclear blueprint that's just
going to offset that feeling ofloneliness and leave you feeling
aligned, empowered and whole.
Loneliness is more than justlike I'm physically alone.
It's deeper than that like I'mphysically alone.
(02:27):
It's deeper than that.
It's that ache that creeps inafter the noise dies down, like
you close the door, you hang upthe phone or finally stop
pouring yourself into everyoneelse, and suddenly there's
silence.
And in that silence sometimesthere's grief, sometimes there's
fear, and sometimes there's theecho of a younger version of
you that learned if I'm notneeded, I'm not wanted, if I'm
(02:52):
alone, I must have donesomething wrong.
Does this sound familiar?
Yeah, yeah, I see you.
I feel you and I want you toknow you're not broken.
What you're feeling there,that's your nervous system
trying to rewire after years ofpeople pleasing, overextending
(03:14):
and abandoning yourself in tinyways just to keep the peace.
But you know me, I'm here forthe good news, and I mean the
real, like soul hug kind of goodnews, because that feeling of
loneliness, it's not apunishment, it's an invitation,
my friend.
So we're gonna RSVP with Mojoand this is your one stop shop
(03:38):
for rebooting that inner badass.
And I've got everything youneed.
Today we'll go through the fivesteps and, just because you're
so pretty, I'm including a freesolitude self-care checklist and
now you can grab it anytime.
It's in the show notes, checkit out.
So we're going to start today'sepisode with our old friend, the
weekly mantra, which isn't soweekly, but it's my podcast.
(04:01):
I'm going to do what I want.
I trust in my own value.
Trust.
It doesn't happen when thingsare easy, it happens when things
(04:21):
are hard.
So when you're feeling lonely,this is the perfect time to
learn this mantra, because trustimplies like a release or a
surrender might be a better word, because you're surrendering to
what you know to be true.
And what this mantra does inparticular is prompt you to
(04:42):
start thinking about all thethings that already contribute
to your inherent value.
It forces you to start doinginventory of your own great
qualities.
I trust in my own value.
Okay, if you're still notfeeling it, then the next step
is to sit with the mantra andstart to imagine what it would
(05:05):
feel like if you did trust inyour own value.
What would that feel like?
How would your life lookdifferent if you trusted in your
own value?
How would your relationshipschange?
How would you operatedifferently?
What decisions would you makedifferently?
Because in the process of evenjust thinking about these shifts
, then you're able to likeproject your imagination towards
(05:28):
the person that you're becoming.
It shifts your mindset fromlack to fill those gaps with
your actual desired result that,like bubbles up automatically I
trust in my own value.
When you trust in your ownvalue, you've shifted away from
the old people-pleasing wayswhere we feed off of the
(05:51):
approval of other people, to alife where you get that vitamin
from the source and that's you,and that vitamin that you're
looking for is already there.
You just temporarily forgot.
This is about remembering,refreshing your belief system to
align with a life where you'reat the top of the food chain
(06:13):
when it comes to love to youfrom you.
Value starts there.
I trust in my own value.
I trust in my own value Like.
This is a decision, but it'salso a practice, which means
that you weave it into yourday-to-day, into the little
moments, because trust isn'tever about proof or permission.
(06:36):
It's about choosing to believe,even if doubt is there
whispering at you, and you'renot waiting for other people to
validate you.
You're choosing to lean intoyou and all the magic that lives
there.
I trust in my own value, andwhat I love about this one is
(06:57):
that it centers the power rightwhere it belongs within, within
you, not in your performance,not in your productivity, not in
what they think, say or approveof.
It's your worth, your truth,and it lives inside you, not
(07:17):
outside.
I trust in my own value.
This is your inherent,unshakable worthiness period.
We are not measured by how muchwe do or how easy it is to love
us, or how well we fit in.
Our value exists because weexist.
(07:38):
You matter full stop.
I trust in my own value.
Say it slow, say it loud, say ituntil it feels like the truth.
Because it is, I trust in myown value.
(08:00):
Whew, good mantra.
Because here's the thingloneliness is real and I know
this because I've spent sometime with this feeling.
(08:22):
But spoiler alert the more I'veengaged with this mojo work,
the less often it comes to visit, and when it pops its head up
it doesn't stay for very long.
But I do remember this feeling,like it was yesterday, say, for
very long.
But I do remember this feelinglike it was yesterday, that
feeling, that hollow spot thatjust seems to shout from the
bottom of my heart.
It makes me feel isolated andunloved and it can feel unsafe.
(08:44):
And then that lays the welcomemat for feelings of insecurity
and unworthiness and self-doubt.
And that why does no one loveme?
Soundtrack that seems to playon repeat, like swimming in
feelings of like some invisiblerejection, while delivering zero
(09:04):
sense of comfort or solution.
Just kind of a drifted sea inthese moments, with no apparent
lifeline, just more questions.
So let's talk about it.
Let's talk about how we shift.
What do we do with this ache ofloneliness?
How do we go from who am Iwithout them to I love who I am
(09:29):
with me.
So let's break down the how.
I promised you five steps.
Let's start at the top.
Step one name it without shame.
Feel it, because lonelinessisn't a weakness, it's
information.
Remember, feelings are notfacts and they are neither good
nor bad, they just are.
(09:50):
So instead of judging thefeeling, or if you catch
yourself judging the feeling,just catch yourself, shift a bit
and then start getting curious.
Say it out loud I feel lonelyright now.
I'd say it to myself in the carand that's okay.
This is just one feeling.
This is not a forever truth.
So, while it's super importantto let yourself feel it and name
(10:15):
it, it's important to rememberthat you're not here to fuse
with it.
It's a feeling, it's not whoyou are.
And then, for step two, we'rejust going to rewrite the
meaning of alone, of being alone, because up until now you
thought that being alone was abad thing, with not great
(10:35):
feelings attached to it.
But it can get confusing,because sometimes we really
crave being alone.
So here's a reframe for yourpocket being alone doesn't mean
being unloved.
Being alone doesn't mean beingunloved.
Being alone doesn't mean beingunworthy.
Being alone means space Spaceto breathe, space to reconnect,
(11:01):
space to remember who the heckyou are without a role to
perform.
This is about you.
My amazing friend Kip said itbest Solitude is a teaching.
It's where we tune in to findout what are my needs, my wants,
and what does it look like whenit's not connected to another
(11:22):
human being.
I just thought that was amazing, so you can try this mantra
alone is my reset, not myrejection.
Ooh, that feels empowering,just saying it.
So let's tackle number three.
Reintroduce yourself to you.
Whether you think aboutyourself this way or not, you're
in a committed relationshipwith yourself.
(11:43):
So it's time to fall in love.
Something tells me that yourheart is full of love for other
people in your life, but thegreat news is that there's
always real estate for more.
So this is the part where youadd yourself to your list of
great loves.
So where to start?
Okay, start small, start withintention.
(12:04):
Take yourself on a walk withoutyour phone.
Pay attention to your thoughts.
Make them sweet and reflectiveand soft and kind of flirty.
Make yourself a meal, not toimpress anyone but yourself,
because you deserve pleasure.
Make that recipe that you'vebeen saving for a special
occasion because you are.
(12:24):
That special occasion andactivities are great, but you
could also just spend like 10minutes with yourself and ask
what do I actually like?
What makes me feel the mostlike me?
And those are vague enough thatyou can just trust your
intuition and see where yourthoughts go.
And, if you feel up to it, grabyour journal and write it down,
(12:47):
just whatever comes up,naturally, and it might feel a
bit awkward at first, kind oflike a first date, but, babe,
this is a lifelong love storyand you're the person that
you're gonna be spending therest of your life with, so make
it the romance of the ages.
This is your chance to unwindthe ties of your worthiness to
(13:08):
other people and dig into thefabulousness that is you.
So now we're ready for step fourReplace performance with
presence.
Because you don't have to earnyour own company, you don't need
to perform.
When you're just with yourself.
You can be messy, you can beunfiltered and take the time to
(13:31):
just let the to-do list go for asecond and have some sweet
solitude, like with intention,because the sweet solitude is
born when you can sit in yourown presence without having to
edit it, without trying to fillit with productivity, without
having to be a certain kind ofway.
It's when me time stops being achore and starts being like
(13:54):
this sweet homecoming.
Now it's tempting to stay busywhen practicing solitude.
Fill your day with massages andnature walks and make a
self-care day and pack it withactivities that you enjoy, which
is great.
So, like, don't get it twisted.
Those things are amazing forself-care and part of taking
(14:14):
care of your fine self.
But what we're talking abouttoday is the process of getting
to the place where simplyspending time with yourself and
just be what does that look like?
How does that feel?
And if the thought of sittingstill with yourself gives you
the willies because you'll beconfronted, maybe, with some
(14:37):
thoughts and feelings thatyou've been working super hard
to avoid, super hard to avoidthen that, my friend, is the
quintessential clue.
It's the clue that solitude isexactly what you need.
It's your inner self crying outfor attention.
It's your cue to stop and justlisten.
Because, trust me when I saywhat you'll learn in the
(15:00):
stillness, in the silence, whatyou'll learn in the stillness,
in the silence, it's not scaryat all, it's gold.
It's the key to what your needsand desires actually are, and I
say this all the time.
You already have all theanswers and this is your
invitation to RSVP to yourselfand tune into the story that
your heart is trying to tell you.
(15:24):
And the last step is the mostfun step Just romanticize the
fuck out of it.
Like do the thing.
Start by do all the cliches,light the candles, play the
playlist, get the fancy mug Puton the outfit that you save for
special occasions.
Right Like, make this alonetime something elevated,
(15:45):
something sacred, something justyou showing you how special you
think you are.
So, whatever that looks likefor you, you can turn these solo
moments into little rituals,and it doesn't have to be over
the top, it has to be tailormade for you and it has to be
for you with you, likejournaling, meditating, singing,
(16:08):
dancing, make art, sit in thesunshine, wrap yourself in a
blanket and just like, stare.
I've tried all those things andthey're all fantastic, because
you're not waiting for life tobegin.
Once someone texts you back,you are your own green light.
Because, look, lonelinesshappens, especially when you
(16:29):
stop bending backwards to earnlove.
There's often a season wherethings feel quiet and raw, when
people aren't loving us the waythat we love them, and so what's
up?
But I promise you that quiet iswhere the real.
You start speaking up again,and that's not loneliness,
(16:51):
that's your soul stretching itslegs, that's you making room for
more new magic, that's youbecoming whole again,
remembering the parts that youtemporarily forgot.
So let's end with thisaffirmation Say it with me, if
you can.
I am safe with myself, I am notmissing.
(17:12):
I am reuniting with me In myown company.
I am never alone.
I am home.
I am safe with myself, I'm notmissing.
I'm reuniting with me In my owncompany.
I am never alone, I am home.
(17:42):
So if this episode hits you inthe feels I want to hear from
you.
Come on, dm me, share it with afriend who needs it, or maybe
leave a review.
If you want a little mojo tospare and make sure you grab
your free solitude self-carechecklist, you can just tap that
thing in the show notes becauseyou're not here to take notes.
So I did that for you thing inthe show notes because you're
(18:06):
not here to take notes, so I didthat for you.
Grab it today and then you canadd it to your self love toolbox
and remember being alone not afailure, it's a season.
Navigating it is a skill.
Everybody can learn skills andnow you can approach it as a
sacred act of self respect.
And you, you're doing great.
So thanks for being here anduntil next time, keep your heart
(18:28):
open, your mojo tuned in andyour solitude.
Sweet Love, ya, ciao.
For now, you.
Are you lonely or just finally alone with yourself
for the first time in forever?
If you've ever felt that pointyache in your chest when the
noise dies down and the textmessages stop, this episode is
for you.
Today, we're talking about thedifference between loneliness
and solitude and how to turnthat humbling, hollow feeling
(00:33):
into your most healing,empowering, soul-sparking space.
If you're a recovering peoplepleaser, this might just be the
love letter you didn't know youneeded Because, believe it or
not, might just be the loveletter you didn't know you
needed Because, believe it ornot, loneliness can become one
of the most beautiful, powerfulportals back to your true self.
We're turning loneliness intosweet, soulful solitude, and
(00:58):
you're not going to want to missthis shift.
So, without further ado, let'sget tuned in, tapped in and
turned on, tapped in and turnedon.
Welcome back to Pocketful ofMojo, your cozy corner of the
podcast world, where we unpackthe real stuff, shake off the
guilt and reclaim our joy, onesoulful episode at a time.
(01:21):
I'm glad you're here.
I'm Steph, I'm your mojo maven,and while I'm not a therapist
or a psychologist, I am thatfriend that you can talk to
about your feelings.
And if you've tangled withloneliness from time to time,
I'm here to say you're not asalone as you think.
Now, today's episode is abiggie.
(01:42):
We're talking about somethingthat hits deep, especially for
those of us who spent years,maybe decades, tying our sense
of worth to how useful,available or agreeable we could
be to other people, and oftenwhat we're left with after
everyone else is taken care ofis loneliness.
So we're not just gonna talkabout it.
(02:03):
I'm gonna take you throughtoday's mantra, then we're gonna
dive deep into talk about it.
I'm going to take you throughtoday's mantra, then we're going
to dive deep into five steps tosacred solitude.
That's going to give you aclear blueprint that's just
going to offset that feeling ofloneliness and leave you feeling
aligned, empowered and whole.
Loneliness is more than justlike I'm physically alone.
It's deeper than that like I'mphysically alone.
(02:27):
It's deeper than that.
It's that ache that creeps inafter the noise dies down, like
you close the door, you hang upthe phone or finally stop
pouring yourself into everyoneelse, and suddenly there's
silence.
And in that silence sometimesthere's grief, sometimes there's
fear, and sometimes there's theecho of a younger version of
you that learned if I'm notneeded, I'm not wanted, if I'm
(02:52):
alone, I must have donesomething wrong.
Does this sound familiar?
Yeah, yeah, I see you.
I feel you and I want you toknow you're not broken.
What you're feeling there,that's your nervous system
trying to rewire after years ofpeople pleasing, overextending
(03:14):
and abandoning yourself in tinyways just to keep the peace.
But you know me, I'm here forthe good news, and I mean the
real, like soul hug kind of goodnews, because that feeling of
loneliness, it's not apunishment, it's an invitation,
my friend.
So we're gonna RSVP with Mojoand this is your one stop shop
(03:38):
for rebooting that inner badass.
And I've got everything youneed.
Today we'll go through the fivesteps and, just because you're
so pretty, I'm including a freesolitude self-care checklist and
now you can grab it anytime.
It's in the show notes, checkit out.
So we're going to start today'sepisode with our old friend, the
weekly mantra, which isn't soweekly, but it's my podcast.
(04:01):
I'm going to do what I want.
I trust in my own value.
Trust.
It doesn't happen when thingsare easy, it happens when things
(04:21):
are hard.
So when you're feeling lonely,this is the perfect time to
learn this mantra, because trustimplies like a release or a
surrender might be a better word, because you're surrendering to
what you know to be true.
And what this mantra does inparticular is prompt you to
(04:42):
start thinking about all thethings that already contribute
to your inherent value.
It forces you to start doinginventory of your own great
qualities.
I trust in my own value.
Okay, if you're still notfeeling it, then the next step
is to sit with the mantra andstart to imagine what it would
(05:05):
feel like if you did trust inyour own value.
What would that feel like?
How would your life lookdifferent if you trusted in your
own value?
How would your relationshipschange?
How would you operatedifferently?
What decisions would you makedifferently?
Because in the process of evenjust thinking about these shifts
, then you're able to likeproject your imagination towards
(05:28):
the person that you're becoming.
It shifts your mindset fromlack to fill those gaps with
your actual desired result that,like bubbles up automatically I
trust in my own value.
When you trust in your ownvalue, you've shifted away from
the old people-pleasing wayswhere we feed off of the
(05:51):
approval of other people, to alife where you get that vitamin
from the source and that's you,and that vitamin that you're
looking for is already there.
You just temporarily forgot.
This is about remembering,refreshing your belief system to
align with a life where you'reat the top of the food chain
(06:13):
when it comes to love to youfrom you.
Value starts there.
I trust in my own value.
I trust in my own value Like.
This is a decision, but it'salso a practice, which means
that you weave it into yourday-to-day, into the little
moments, because trust isn'tever about proof or permission.
(06:36):
It's about choosing to believe,even if doubt is there
whispering at you, and you'renot waiting for other people to
validate you.
You're choosing to lean intoyou and all the magic that lives
there.
I trust in my own value, andwhat I love about this one is
(06:57):
that it centers the power rightwhere it belongs within, within
you, not in your performance,not in your productivity, not in
what they think, say or approveof.
It's your worth, your truth,and it lives inside you, not
(07:17):
outside.
I trust in my own value.
This is your inherent,unshakable worthiness period.
We are not measured by how muchwe do or how easy it is to love
us, or how well we fit in.
Our value exists because weexist.
(07:38):
You matter full stop.
I trust in my own value.
Say it slow, say it loud, say ituntil it feels like the truth.
Because it is, I trust in myown value.
(08:00):
Whew, good mantra.
Because here's the thingloneliness is real and I know
this because I've spent sometime with this feeling.
(08:22):
But spoiler alert the more I'veengaged with this mojo work,
the less often it comes to visit, and when it pops its head up
it doesn't stay for very long.
But I do remember this feeling,like it was yesterday, say, for
very long.
But I do remember this feelinglike it was yesterday, that
feeling, that hollow spot thatjust seems to shout from the
bottom of my heart.
It makes me feel isolated andunloved and it can feel unsafe.
(08:44):
And then that lays the welcomemat for feelings of insecurity
and unworthiness and self-doubt.
And that why does no one loveme?
Soundtrack that seems to playon repeat, like swimming in
feelings of like some invisiblerejection, while delivering zero
(09:04):
sense of comfort or solution.
Just kind of a drifted sea inthese moments, with no apparent
lifeline, just more questions.
So let's talk about it.
Let's talk about how we shift.
What do we do with this ache ofloneliness?
How do we go from who am Iwithout them to I love who I am
(09:29):
with me.
So let's break down the how.
I promised you five steps.
Let's start at the top.
Step one name it without shame.
Feel it, because lonelinessisn't a weakness, it's
information.
Remember, feelings are notfacts and they are neither good
nor bad, they just are.
(09:50):
So instead of judging thefeeling, or if you catch
yourself judging the feeling,just catch yourself, shift a bit
and then start getting curious.
Say it out loud I feel lonelyright now.
I'd say it to myself in the carand that's okay.
This is just one feeling.
This is not a forever truth.
So, while it's super importantto let yourself feel it and name
(10:15):
it, it's important to rememberthat you're not here to fuse
with it.
It's a feeling, it's not whoyou are.
And then, for step two, we'rejust going to rewrite the
meaning of alone, of being alone, because up until now you
thought that being alone was abad thing, with not great
(10:35):
feelings attached to it.
But it can get confusing,because sometimes we really
crave being alone.
So here's a reframe for yourpocket being alone doesn't mean
being unloved.
Being alone doesn't mean beingunloved.
Being alone doesn't mean beingunworthy.
Being alone means space Spaceto breathe, space to reconnect,
(11:01):
space to remember who the heckyou are without a role to
perform.
This is about you.
My amazing friend Kip said itbest Solitude is a teaching.
It's where we tune in to findout what are my needs, my wants,
and what does it look like whenit's not connected to another
(11:22):
human being.
I just thought that was amazing, so you can try this mantra
alone is my reset, not myrejection.
Ooh, that feels empowering,just saying it.
So let's tackle number three.
Reintroduce yourself to you.
Whether you think aboutyourself this way or not, you're
in a committed relationshipwith yourself.
(11:43):
So it's time to fall in love.
Something tells me that yourheart is full of love for other
people in your life, but thegreat news is that there's
always real estate for more.
So this is the part where youadd yourself to your list of
great loves.
So where to start?
Okay, start small, start withintention.
(12:04):
Take yourself on a walk withoutyour phone.
Pay attention to your thoughts.
Make them sweet and reflectiveand soft and kind of flirty.
Make yourself a meal, not toimpress anyone but yourself,
because you deserve pleasure.
Make that recipe that you'vebeen saving for a special
occasion because you are.
(12:24):
That special occasion andactivities are great, but you
could also just spend like 10minutes with yourself and ask
what do I actually like?
What makes me feel the mostlike me?
And those are vague enough thatyou can just trust your
intuition and see where yourthoughts go.
And, if you feel up to it, grabyour journal and write it down,
(12:47):
just whatever comes up,naturally, and it might feel a
bit awkward at first, kind oflike a first date, but, babe,
this is a lifelong love storyand you're the person that
you're gonna be spending therest of your life with, so make
it the romance of the ages.
This is your chance to unwindthe ties of your worthiness to
(13:08):
other people and dig into thefabulousness that is you.
So now we're ready for step fourReplace performance with
presence.
Because you don't have to earnyour own company, you don't need
to perform.
When you're just with yourself.
You can be messy, you can beunfiltered and take the time to
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just let the to-do list go for asecond and have some sweet
solitude, like with intention,because the sweet solitude is
born when you can sit in yourown presence without having to
edit it, without trying to fillit with productivity, without
having to be a certain kind ofway.
It's when me time stops being achore and starts being like
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this sweet homecoming.
Now it's tempting to stay busywhen practicing solitude.
Fill your day with massages andnature walks and make a
self-care day and pack it withactivities that you enjoy, which
is great.
So, like, don't get it twisted.
Those things are amazing forself-care and part of taking
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care of your fine self.
But what we're talking abouttoday is the process of getting
to the place where simplyspending time with yourself and
just be what does that look like?
How does that feel?
And if the thought of sittingstill with yourself gives you
the willies because you'll beconfronted, maybe, with some
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thoughts and feelings thatyou've been working super hard
to avoid, super hard to avoidthen that, my friend, is the
quintessential clue.
It's the clue that solitude isexactly what you need.
It's your inner self crying outfor attention.
It's your cue to stop and justlisten.
Because, trust me when I saywhat you'll learn in the
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stillness, in the silence, whatyou'll learn in the stillness,
in the silence, it's not scaryat all, it's gold.
It's the key to what your needsand desires actually are, and I
say this all the time.
You already have all theanswers and this is your
invitation to RSVP to yourselfand tune into the story that
your heart is trying to tell you.
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And the last step is the mostfun step Just romanticize the
fuck out of it.
Like do the thing.
Start by do all the cliches,light the candles, play the
playlist, get the fancy mug Puton the outfit that you save for
special occasions.
Right Like, make this alonetime something elevated,
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something sacred, something justyou showing you how special you
think you are.
So, whatever that looks likefor you, you can turn these solo
moments into little rituals,and it doesn't have to be over
the top, it has to be tailormade for you and it has to be
for you with you, likejournaling, meditating, singing,
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dancing, make art, sit in thesunshine, wrap yourself in a
blanket and just like, stare.
I've tried all those things andthey're all fantastic, because
you're not waiting for life tobegin.
Once someone texts you back,you are your own green light.
Because, look, lonelinesshappens, especially when you
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stop bending backwards to earnlove.
There's often a season wherethings feel quiet and raw, when
people aren't loving us the waythat we love them, and so what's
up?
But I promise you that quiet iswhere the real.
You start speaking up again,and that's not loneliness,
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that's your soul stretching itslegs, that's you making room for
more new magic, that's youbecoming whole again,
remembering the parts that youtemporarily forgot.
So let's end with thisaffirmation Say it with me, if
you can.
I am safe with myself, I am notmissing.
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I am reuniting with me In myown company.
I am never alone.
I am home.
I am safe with myself, I'm notmissing.
I'm reuniting with me In my owncompany.
I am never alone, I am home.
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So if this episode hits you inthe feels I want to hear from
you.
Come on, dm me, share it with afriend who needs it, or maybe
leave a review.
If you want a little mojo tospare and make sure you grab
your free solitude self-carechecklist, you can just tap that
thing in the show notes becauseyou're not here to take notes.
So I did that for you thing inthe show notes because you're
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not here to take notes, so I didthat for you.
Grab it today and then you canadd it to your self love toolbox
and remember being alone not afailure, it's a season.
Navigating it is a skill.
Everybody can learn skills andnow you can approach it as a
sacred act of self respect.
And you, you're doing great.
So thanks for being here anduntil next time, keep your heart
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open, your mojo tuned in andyour solitude.
Sweet Love, ya, ciao.
For now, you.
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