August 22, 2024 • 26 mins
Do you want to transform your inner dialogue and elevate your life? Learn how positive self-talk can be your inner superpower in this episode of Pocketful of Mojo. We start with a mantra that sets the tone for the episode: "Self-talk is my inner superpower. I speak with love and watch my world transform." Discover how replacing negative scripts with empowering ones can foster a mindset of self-love and confidence, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling life. We explore practical techniques for mindful awareness and intentional editing of our thoughts to help you shift from self-deprecation to self-empowerment.
Hear personal stories and valuable insights on how speaking kindly to yourself can attract positivity and opportunities into your life. You'll also get actionable advice on using affirmations and mindfulness to build a better relationship with yourself. Finally, don't miss our tips for maximizing your online resources and the exciting seven-day mojo makeover challenge. Tune in to unlock the secret to harnessing positive self-talk and watch your life transform.
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Speaker 1 (00:11):
welcome to pocket full of mojo, where you get to
be you and I get to be stuff,and we tune in here to mean
what's mojo?
Mojo is that unshakable feelingof confidence, booming
self-worth, like you're anunstoppable force of nature, and
(00:34):
I'm here to show you how youcan have that feeling every
single day.
You see, I think I've crackedthe code to being happy.
I'm happy all the freaking time, like every day, at least most
of the day.
You see, I think I've crackedthe code to being happy.
I'm happy all the freaking time, like every day, at least most
of the day, possibly to anannoying degree, but hey, I
(00:55):
wasn't always this way.
And not to flex, but I've hadbreakdowns on multiple
continents and in two languages.
But by paying attention andliving with more intention, I've
created this self-love firstaid kit, and it's full of
amazing tools that help me outof life's most sticky and
stressful situations, and I doso with grace and self-care, and
(01:20):
I'm not here to gatekeep.
In fact, I'm on a mission tohelp you tap into your best
stuff and remember that you haveeverything you need to live
your life on your own terms.
So settle in.
We're here for some positivechange.
So let's dig in to where yourmojo meets the road.
(01:41):
Joe meets the road.
In today's episode, I'm going toreview our mantra for the week
and then we're going to dig intotoday's main topic, which is
self-talk.
But, plot twist, we're takingit on the road and shaking
things up once again, and thistime with better audio.
(02:02):
Thanks for hanging in there,folks.
So you stick around, and I'mgoing to make sure that you're
glad that you did.
Let's get started with today'smantra and get tuned in, tapped
in and turned on.
Hello and welcome to the 31stepisode of Pocketful of Mojo.
(02:28):
Once again, I'm Steph, I'm yourMojo Maven, I'm your soul
sister, I'm your emotionalSherpa and man.
I'm glad you're here.
I'm here to reflect yourawesome and your potential right
back to you.
So let's settle in.
We're going to get started bydigging into today's mantra, and
(02:49):
today's mantra is self-talk ismy inner superpower.
I speak with love and watch myworld transform.
Yes, my friends, you are theauthor of all that goes on
inside your mind.
It's time to put yourself backin that driver's seat when it
comes to self-talk and turn upthe awareness and the volume on
(03:12):
the conversations that you havewith yourself, because when you
do, you will immediately startto see and feel a shift.
Because the truth is is that,whether or not you think you can
or you can't, you're right.
Self-talk is my innersuperpower.
I speak with love and watch myworld transform.
(03:36):
The voice that you're going tohear the most over your entire
lifetime is the voice insideyour head, if it's not your
number one cheerleader.
Well, good news, that meansthat there's an open position
and you get to create theperfect script for what goes on
in there from now on.
So the good news here is that ifyou're struggling in the
(03:58):
self-love department, there'shope.
If you're struggling withconfidence and empowerment, this
is a key ingredient.
If you're struggling withconfidence and empowerment, this
is a key ingredient.
If you're constantly feelinglike you're letting yourself
down in one way or another, thisis the antidote.
You see, when things go wrongin, your immediate response is
to shit talk yourself.
You're affirming your role inthings going wrong.
(04:22):
Now, in reality, that may ormay not be the case.
Either way, you have options.
You can affirm that you gotwhat you deserved, or you can
give yourself some grace andsimply observe what happened and
see it as a learning experience.
Self-talk is my inner superpower.
(04:43):
I speak with love and watch myworld transform.
So, in addition to being theonly author to your self-talk,
you also get to be the editor akey part of the practice of
creating healthier self-talk foryourself.
With some mindfulness and somepositive intent, you can
(05:04):
actually catch yourself when youhave a self-deprecating thought
.
You observe it and then you canpolitely ask it to fuck right
off.
You're now on a positivity andgrace train where you treat your
inner self with kindness andself-love and you can tell
yourself exactly that.
You can say hold up, I nowtreat myself with kindness and
(05:27):
self-love, and trust me when Isay that.
No one's gonna call you on it,no one's gonna stop you and no
one's gonna ask for evidence orproof of these new positive
thoughts.
So stick with it.
You'll soon become quiteenamored with this new voice
that cheers you on.
While it cheers you up,self-talk is my inner superpower
(05:49):
.
I speak with love and watch myworld transform.
Your brain is a computer All daylong.
We feed it data, willingly andsometimes unwillingly, so we
need to be mindful of what wefeed it.
Garbage in means garbage out.
So if you're constantlyshit-talking yourself and find
(06:11):
plenty of evidence to supportthe nastiness happening in your
life.
Imagine how your life couldlook different if you flipped
the script.
If you speak to yourself in away that puts you down, you
stand a very good chance ofhaving life's hardships
highlighted as you go about yourday to day.
So by replacing that brokenrecord with more loving,
(06:34):
uplifting and supportivedialogue, you're going to be
informing your thoughts and thenyour actions in a way that's
more in tune with a life that isuplifting and supportive of the
life you truly desire.
Feeling good feels good, and inthis life, where there's so
much that's not in our control,it's so important to grab what
(06:58):
is in our control by the reinsand take ownership of where we
want to go.
Self-talk is my innersuperpower.
I speak with love and watch myworld transform.
That was a good one.
(07:18):
And now, without further ado,over to our correspondent on the
road.
Let's give a big, warm welcometo your Mojo Maven on the street
, steph in the car.
All right, we're gonna givethis a try.
(08:01):
Maybe does this work, maybe itdoesn't work, we're gonna find
out.
Going from the other thing tothe lapel mic.
So we're gonna check it out.
Oh, look at it, it's abeautiful day.
I'm gonna put on somesunglasses.
We're gonna try this again,ladies and gentlemen.
We're gonna try it with lessrattling, because last week oh
(08:23):
my god boy, are you guys evertroopers for hanging out with me
and doing that?
Because that wasn't cute.
I mean, the podcast was, butthe audio quality was not.
So I'm really glad you'vedecided to come along with me.
Today.
I'm doing a little Sundaymorning drive, so I don't know
(08:47):
how much of this I've told you,but I'm a multi-passionate woman
of many skills and since Ipromoted myself to president of
doing whatever I want, you know,I still want to keep whiskey in
the cupboard and you know, needgas, money and whatnot.
(09:11):
So I do a few side hustles, soI do voice acting.
I put myself on this app calledRover and if you're a pet owner
, it's a must have, um, so I dodog sitting.
Well, today I'm specificallydoing cat sitting, um, and it's
(09:34):
amazing because it I mean, itgives me the money, but it also
gives me all the time freedom,and we like that.
We like the time freedom, welike the flexibility, we like
being president of doingwhatever we want.
Now, our main topic today is theself-talk.
The studio already informed youof that.
(09:57):
I'm not spoiling any surpriseshere and I was thinking about it
and like I was the first time Iever really thought about
self-talk as something that wasin my control.
I was, I was with a friend ofmine and we were chatting away
(10:19):
and I said somethingself-deprecating I can't
remember exactly what it was,but it was something about like
I think it was somethingphysical, like I was making fun
of my nose or something like,and she stopped me, like she was
mad at me and she was like ifanybody walked up to you right
(10:40):
now and said that to your face,you'd want to punch them in the
nose.
And I was like, oh, you mightbe correct, but I'd never really
thought about it that way oflike.
Why would I speak to myself in away that I wouldn't tolerate
other people speaking to me?
Because I mean, I was raised onmanners right.
(11:04):
Like you, you speak nice, youspeak kindly to other people,
even if you don't like them.
Like there's a way to speak topeople.
There's actually two ways tospeak to people One that lifts
them up and one that doesn't.
And the same rule applies forourselves.
There's really nothing like therelationship that we have with
(11:28):
ourselves, and that's what mojois right, and if we can't get it
right, the way that we speak toourselves like this almost
needs to be like step one stuff.
This came up the other day whenI was on a date too.
We were getting to know eachother, and he just said, oh, and
(11:51):
I've got the worst luck.
And I was just like, oh, that'sa thread I want to pull so
badly because words have so muchpower.
And well, I will take this backto self-talk.
I mean, I mean, it all relatesright once we surrender to the
(12:11):
fact that words have power.
I mean spells, remember witches, spells it's because words mean
things, and when we spellsomething out, that means
something.
It carries a vibration, itcarries an energy, it carries a
force, and we are all forces ofnature, so we need to know how
(12:34):
to wield our power properly.
So, yeah, so I'm going on adate with this guy and he
declares that if he didn't havebad luck, he would have no luck
at all.
And I was like, oh, kiss death.
Why would you affirm that aboutyourself?
Because we can choose what wechoose to believe or not believe
(12:57):
about ourselves.
And I'm sure this guy hasanecdotal evidence that shows
that he's had a string of badluck.
But why would you want to beright about that?
Why would you want that to?
Why would you want to affirmthat as being part of how you
see yourself, how the world seesyou, how the world treats you
(13:21):
and what happens to you in yourlife?
Because I'm exactly theopposite.
I walk around being like I'mthe luckiest fucker alive.
I get all the parking spots, Iam a magnet for opportunities
and people that help me level upthe game right, like I'm so
committed to this belief in thisidea that we get to choose.
(13:43):
And so when he said that, I waslike oh man, what if we weren't
like?
What if that just wasn't a partof your identity?
Would that be cool?
You feel like maybe breaking upwith your bad luck, because
that's a good idea, and I'm justlike no, no, but seriously, I'm
like you don't need to convinceme, and as long as you're
(14:04):
around me, please don't try toconvince me, because I don't
need your bad luck.
And we could have a wholepodcast about luck, never mind.
Because you know, the harderyou work, the luckier you get
right.
And this is why I start the daywith affirmations.
I take my best affirmations.
(14:25):
I share them on my instagramswith you.
And, yeah, sure, at first itfeels like a lie or a cheat, or
I don't have evidence of thisand whatever.
Turn that voice down, becausethat voice is a jerk and just
wants to spoil your fun, becausethere's no rule that says that
you can't say an affirmation toyourself that you just believe
(14:51):
to be true in that moment, oryou're designing what you want
your future truth to look likeand you're just trying it on for
size.
We get to navigate.
There are no rules.
There is, as of this day in2024, no thought police.
So we need to take advantage ofthis, and that's my whole
mission with mojo is to just weget like five seconds on this
(15:17):
planet Earth and we're here tohave experiences and we're here
to give back, and what we'regiving back recently in the
world is not super great.
It hasn't been lovely, lovely.
(15:41):
So the genesis for all this, allthis mojo mayhem, has been like
if we can start at the source,if we can start with how we
treat ourselves, which startswith what we think, which leads
to what we say to ourselves, weare going to be better humans
when we go out into the world.
We are going to be moreprepared, more uplifted,
vibrating higher, feeling ourbest and prepared to give our
best, whereas if we are like, oh, I'm so fucking stupid, I can't
(16:05):
believe I did that yesterday.
Oh my god, how did I forgetthis and that?
How am I not getting thepromotion?
Oh, it's because I'm probably astupid loser and everyone
around me is cooler than me.
Like, you have no businessthinking that about yourself,
because it's not true.
And while there may be evidenceto support it, there's probably
(16:29):
plenty of evidence to supportthe opposite.
Well, how do we get out of it?
Awareness, really mindfulness,you know, at the top of the day,
have some really yummy, awesomeaffirmations laid out for
yourself, so you don't even haveto think about it.
Put them on like do the cliche,put them on your mirror, put
(16:54):
them on the ceiling, so that'sthe first thing that you see
when you wake up.
So many geese, oh my God, thoseguys are so crazy.
I feel like they're bullies andthey're like taking over the
streets.
Oh, and it's almost fall.
That means that they're goingto get worse.
Oh, those Cobra chickens arecrazy.
(17:15):
Okay, okay.
So back to the self-talk.
There's no other voice you'regonna hear more often than your
own.
So who do you want to spendtime with?
Who do you want to listen to?
Do you want to listen tosomebody who thinks you're a
stupid piece of hot garbage?
Uh, no, that person's a jerk.
(17:35):
They can fuck right off thevoice.
Think of the voice in your head, the voice with which you speak
to yourself.
Think of it as this person that, when you were born, you were
born with someone with you whosees you and loves you and only
(17:59):
wants the best for you and isthere to protect you and is
there to open all the doors foryou.
That's the person that you'rebuilding a relationship with and
you're going to spend every dayof your life with them.
So it better be a good one.
Better be a good relationship,a healthy relationship, a loving
, a gentle, a kind relationshipwhere you have that cheerleader.
(18:24):
You have that person who's likeyou know what.
It doesn't really matter if youfucked up or you know, I
remember, you know.
I remember the last big likeself-talk crisis I had, and I
hope she never listens to this,but I had forgotten my niece's
birthday.
I was a day late and a dollarshort and the worst aunt in the
(18:46):
whole world was what I wassaying to myself, and it was
actually my dad that caught me.
And he's like take it easy onyourself.
He's like look at all thethings that you do for her in a
year, you know, you take her tothe mall and you bring her
baking and you, you know you dothis you've done.
You know you show her love allyear long.
(19:06):
We'll find a way to, we'll finda way to celebrate a birthday.
And I was totally right.
Yes, yes, I did I mess up?
Absolutely Do.
I wish I had done better?
Yes, and she knows that I loveher.
(19:26):
And that was a chance for me toobserve, give myself some grace
and forgive myself.
Right, not letting myself offthe hook?
Not?
Well, I immediately just madeup for it with my niece, the
person I'm holding my feelingsaccountable to.
(19:47):
And then you move on, then youlet it go, and then it pops up
every once in a while where I'mlike, oh yeah, I don't want to
do that again, because I don'twant to feel like that again,
which led to me talking tomyself like that again.
So it's these coursecorrections that come from the
(20:09):
awareness and the mindfulness ofhow we speak to each other.
Oh, this is why I turn WooDanger.
No, just kidding, no danger.
I'm going to have a sip ofcoffee, though, and the coffee
is too hot.
I'm going to burn myself, and Iwon't let coffee do that to me.
(20:30):
So we've talked about self-talk.
We talked about how we have thepower.
It is about consistency, but Ireally think that, with the
awareness and the mindfulness,like when you catch yourself
saying something ridiculous toyourself, just be like oh, I
know, I'm better than that, orthat's your cue to find
(20:56):
something cute about yourself,you know, and offset that, that
debit that you just took fromyour self-esteem.
Right, you just took money outof the self-esteem account and
so you have to make a deposit.
You have to make it.
Even you have to pay yourselfback.
Let that be like the constantlittle you know theme that goes
(21:16):
on always.
Make sure that you're in theblack.
Another thing that's importantwhen it comes to self-talk is
check your posse.
Who are you around?
What are you listening to?
Is music?
Um?
Who, in your frame, like,observe how your friends speak
(21:41):
about themselves?
Is it a positive influence?
Um, and I'm not like.
Maybe they need to listen tothis podcast too.
You can share with them.
That's cool.
But I just mean, as anon-judgmental observation,
right, um, to see what it lookslike on someone else, because
it's hard to see it on ourselvessometimes, because self-talk is
(22:05):
a form of self-care.
It doesn't matter how many spasyou go to, how many lotions you
have, how many nature walkstake, if the whole time you're
thinking to yourself, negativethoughts about yourself, because
the road is going to rise tomeet you where you're at, and if
(22:30):
you see yourself as a queen ora king or just plain royalty,
you get to expect that now fromthe world.
You can set that as a boundary.
You can observe how the worldchanges when you start being
(22:51):
kinder to yourself.
The world sees that Consciouslyor subconsciously Not
unconsciously You're notsleeping.
Well, some of the world issleeping.
Oh, I did it again.
I missed my turn.
That's okay, I will park here.
(23:12):
So we did it.
We made it to the kitty cats,so I'm going to go give them
some food, and this is whatwe're going to do.
We're going to dedicate thisweek to being more mindful and
more attentive to our self-talk,because you know what it is.
(23:33):
This is the bonus.
I should have led with this.
The headline here is thatbetter.
Self-talk translates toconfidence, to self-worth, to
empowerment, which allows you toset some boundaries, which
allows you to protect yourselfand your time and your goals,
(23:55):
which allows you to feel better.
And when we feel better, we'rehappier.
And when we're happier, we goout into the world and we shine
our light.
So I think that's a beautifulnote to send it back to the
studio.
Peace out and that was pocketfull of mojo.
(24:25):
Road trip edition.
Tune in next week to see if wedo it again.
But seriously, thank you somuch for tuning in and I hope
that this has helped you tapinto some of that mojo of yours.
You're worth it, baby, and nowyou've got the soundtrack in
your head that knows that too.
Next week we're going to diginto daily routines.
Is it friend or foe?
(24:46):
So you're not going to want tomiss it when you feel like your
mojo could use a tune up.
I've come up with a lot of waysthat we could do this again
sometime.
If you like to read, I've got aweekly blog.
Sign up today and you'll alsoget a weekly Mojo magazine.
That will be the best thing inyour inbox all week.
If Instagram is where you go foryour inspo, you can also find
(25:09):
me there as well.
I got mantras, I got liveconnects and some insights that
look you know just pretty.
So you can find me at most,definitely.
And finally, if you're anaction taker, then the seven day
mojo makeover is for you.
You're going to want to grab itnow, before prices go up.
All these cool links are easilyfound in the show notes.
(25:32):
Go have a look.
You're here anyway.
I've got so much great stuff toshare with you guys, so make
sure you tune in next week anduntil then, stay classy, stay
kind.
Ciao.
For now, just needed a littlebit of reboot.
welcome to pocket full of mojo, where you get to
be you and I get to be stuff,and we tune in here to mean
what's mojo?
Mojo is that unshakable feelingof confidence, booming
self-worth, like you're anunstoppable force of nature, and
(00:34):
I'm here to show you how youcan have that feeling every
single day.
You see, I think I've crackedthe code to being happy.
I'm happy all the freaking time, like every day, at least most
of the day.
You see, I think I've crackedthe code to being happy.
I'm happy all the freaking time, like every day, at least most
of the day, possibly to anannoying degree, but hey, I
(00:55):
wasn't always this way.
And not to flex, but I've hadbreakdowns on multiple
continents and in two languages.
But by paying attention andliving with more intention, I've
created this self-love firstaid kit, and it's full of
amazing tools that help me outof life's most sticky and
stressful situations, and I doso with grace and self-care, and
(01:20):
I'm not here to gatekeep.
In fact, I'm on a mission tohelp you tap into your best
stuff and remember that you haveeverything you need to live
your life on your own terms.
So settle in.
We're here for some positivechange.
So let's dig in to where yourmojo meets the road.
(01:41):
Joe meets the road.
In today's episode, I'm going toreview our mantra for the week
and then we're going to dig intotoday's main topic, which is
self-talk.
But, plot twist, we're takingit on the road and shaking
things up once again, and thistime with better audio.
(02:02):
Thanks for hanging in there,folks.
So you stick around, and I'mgoing to make sure that you're
glad that you did.
Let's get started with today'smantra and get tuned in, tapped
in and turned on.
Hello and welcome to the 31stepisode of Pocketful of Mojo.
(02:28):
Once again, I'm Steph, I'm yourMojo Maven, I'm your soul
sister, I'm your emotionalSherpa and man.
I'm glad you're here.
I'm here to reflect yourawesome and your potential right
back to you.
So let's settle in.
We're going to get started bydigging into today's mantra, and
(02:49):
today's mantra is self-talk ismy inner superpower.
I speak with love and watch myworld transform.
Yes, my friends, you are theauthor of all that goes on
inside your mind.
It's time to put yourself backin that driver's seat when it
comes to self-talk and turn upthe awareness and the volume on
(03:12):
the conversations that you havewith yourself, because when you
do, you will immediately startto see and feel a shift.
Because the truth is is that,whether or not you think you can
or you can't, you're right.
Self-talk is my innersuperpower.
I speak with love and watch myworld transform.
(03:36):
The voice that you're going tohear the most over your entire
lifetime is the voice insideyour head, if it's not your
number one cheerleader.
Well, good news, that meansthat there's an open position
and you get to create theperfect script for what goes on
in there from now on.
So the good news here is that ifyou're struggling in the
(03:58):
self-love department, there'shope.
If you're struggling withconfidence and empowerment, this
is a key ingredient.
If you're struggling withconfidence and empowerment, this
is a key ingredient.
If you're constantly feelinglike you're letting yourself
down in one way or another, thisis the antidote.
You see, when things go wrongin, your immediate response is
to shit talk yourself.
You're affirming your role inthings going wrong.
(04:22):
Now, in reality, that may ormay not be the case.
Either way, you have options.
You can affirm that you gotwhat you deserved, or you can
give yourself some grace andsimply observe what happened and
see it as a learning experience.
Self-talk is my inner superpower.
(04:43):
I speak with love and watch myworld transform.
So, in addition to being theonly author to your self-talk,
you also get to be the editor akey part of the practice of
creating healthier self-talk foryourself.
With some mindfulness and somepositive intent, you can
(05:04):
actually catch yourself when youhave a self-deprecating thought
.
You observe it and then you canpolitely ask it to fuck right
off.
You're now on a positivity andgrace train where you treat your
inner self with kindness andself-love and you can tell
yourself exactly that.
You can say hold up, I nowtreat myself with kindness and
(05:27):
self-love, and trust me when Isay that.
No one's gonna call you on it,no one's gonna stop you and no
one's gonna ask for evidence orproof of these new positive
thoughts.
So stick with it.
You'll soon become quiteenamored with this new voice
that cheers you on.
While it cheers you up,self-talk is my inner superpower
(05:49):
.
I speak with love and watch myworld transform.
Your brain is a computer All daylong.
We feed it data, willingly andsometimes unwillingly, so we
need to be mindful of what wefeed it.
Garbage in means garbage out.
So if you're constantlyshit-talking yourself and find
(06:11):
plenty of evidence to supportthe nastiness happening in your
life.
Imagine how your life couldlook different if you flipped
the script.
If you speak to yourself in away that puts you down, you
stand a very good chance ofhaving life's hardships
highlighted as you go about yourday to day.
So by replacing that brokenrecord with more loving,
(06:34):
uplifting and supportivedialogue, you're going to be
informing your thoughts and thenyour actions in a way that's
more in tune with a life that isuplifting and supportive of the
life you truly desire.
Feeling good feels good, and inthis life, where there's so
much that's not in our control,it's so important to grab what
(06:58):
is in our control by the reinsand take ownership of where we
want to go.
Self-talk is my innersuperpower.
I speak with love and watch myworld transform.
That was a good one.
(07:18):
And now, without further ado,over to our correspondent on the
road.
Let's give a big, warm welcometo your Mojo Maven on the street
, steph in the car.
All right, we're gonna givethis a try.
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Maybe does this work, maybe itdoesn't work, we're gonna find
out.
Going from the other thing tothe lapel mic.
So we're gonna check it out.
Oh, look at it, it's abeautiful day.
I'm gonna put on somesunglasses.
We're gonna try this again,ladies and gentlemen.
We're gonna try it with lessrattling, because last week oh
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my god boy, are you guys evertroopers for hanging out with me
and doing that?
Because that wasn't cute.
I mean, the podcast was, butthe audio quality was not.
So I'm really glad you'vedecided to come along with me.
Today.
I'm doing a little Sundaymorning drive, so I don't know
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how much of this I've told you,but I'm a multi-passionate woman
of many skills and since Ipromoted myself to president of
doing whatever I want, you know,I still want to keep whiskey in
the cupboard and you know, needgas, money and whatnot.
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So I do a few side hustles, soI do voice acting.
I put myself on this app calledRover and if you're a pet owner
, it's a must have, um, so I dodog sitting.
Well, today I'm specificallydoing cat sitting, um, and it's
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amazing because it I mean, itgives me the money, but it also
gives me all the time freedom,and we like that.
We like the time freedom, welike the flexibility, we like
being president of doingwhatever we want.
Now, our main topic today is theself-talk.
The studio already informed youof that.
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I'm not spoiling any surpriseshere and I was thinking about it
and like I was the first time Iever really thought about
self-talk as something that wasin my control.
I was, I was with a friend ofmine and we were chatting away
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and I said somethingself-deprecating I can't
remember exactly what it was,but it was something about like
I think it was somethingphysical, like I was making fun
of my nose or something like,and she stopped me, like she was
mad at me and she was like ifanybody walked up to you right
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now and said that to your face,you'd want to punch them in the
nose.
And I was like, oh, you mightbe correct, but I'd never really
thought about it that way oflike.
Why would I speak to myself in away that I wouldn't tolerate
other people speaking to me?
Because I mean, I was raised onmanners right.
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Like you, you speak nice, youspeak kindly to other people,
even if you don't like them.
Like there's a way to speak topeople.
There's actually two ways tospeak to people One that lifts
them up and one that doesn't.
And the same rule applies forourselves.
There's really nothing like therelationship that we have with
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ourselves, and that's what mojois right, and if we can't get it
right, the way that we speak toourselves like this almost
needs to be like step one stuff.
This came up the other day whenI was on a date too.
We were getting to know eachother, and he just said, oh, and
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I've got the worst luck.
And I was just like, oh, that'sa thread I want to pull so
badly because words have so muchpower.
And well, I will take this backto self-talk.
I mean, I mean, it all relatesright once we surrender to the
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fact that words have power.
I mean spells, remember witches, spells it's because words mean
things, and when we spellsomething out, that means
something.
It carries a vibration, itcarries an energy, it carries a
force, and we are all forces ofnature, so we need to know how
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to wield our power properly.
So, yeah, so I'm going on adate with this guy and he
declares that if he didn't havebad luck, he would have no luck
at all.
And I was like, oh, kiss death.
Why would you affirm that aboutyourself?
Because we can choose what wechoose to believe or not believe
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about ourselves.
And I'm sure this guy hasanecdotal evidence that shows
that he's had a string of badluck.
But why would you want to beright about that?
Why would you want that to?
Why would you want to affirmthat as being part of how you
see yourself, how the world seesyou, how the world treats you
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and what happens to you in yourlife?
Because I'm exactly theopposite.
I walk around being like I'mthe luckiest fucker alive.
I get all the parking spots, Iam a magnet for opportunities
and people that help me level upthe game right, like I'm so
committed to this belief in thisidea that we get to choose.
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And so when he said that, I waslike oh man, what if we weren't
like?
What if that just wasn't a partof your identity?
Would that be cool?
You feel like maybe breaking upwith your bad luck, because
that's a good idea, and I'm justlike no, no, but seriously, I'm
like you don't need to convinceme, and as long as you're
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around me, please don't try toconvince me, because I don't
need your bad luck.
And we could have a wholepodcast about luck, never mind.
Because you know, the harderyou work, the luckier you get
right.
And this is why I start the daywith affirmations.
I take my best affirmations.
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I share them on my instagramswith you.
And, yeah, sure, at first itfeels like a lie or a cheat, or
I don't have evidence of thisand whatever.
Turn that voice down, becausethat voice is a jerk and just
wants to spoil your fun, becausethere's no rule that says that
you can't say an affirmation toyourself that you just believe
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to be true in that moment, oryou're designing what you want
your future truth to look likeand you're just trying it on for
size.
We get to navigate.
There are no rules.
There is, as of this day in2024, no thought police.
So we need to take advantage ofthis, and that's my whole
mission with mojo is to just weget like five seconds on this
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planet Earth and we're here tohave experiences and we're here
to give back, and what we'regiving back recently in the
world is not super great.
It hasn't been lovely, lovely.
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So the genesis for all this, allthis mojo mayhem, has been like
if we can start at the source,if we can start with how we
treat ourselves, which startswith what we think, which leads
to what we say to ourselves, weare going to be better humans
when we go out into the world.
We are going to be moreprepared, more uplifted,
vibrating higher, feeling ourbest and prepared to give our
best, whereas if we are like, oh, I'm so fucking stupid, I can't
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believe I did that yesterday.
Oh my god, how did I forgetthis and that?
How am I not getting thepromotion?
Oh, it's because I'm probably astupid loser and everyone
around me is cooler than me.
Like, you have no businessthinking that about yourself,
because it's not true.
And while there may be evidenceto support it, there's probably
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plenty of evidence to supportthe opposite.
Well, how do we get out of it?
Awareness, really mindfulness,you know, at the top of the day,
have some really yummy, awesomeaffirmations laid out for
yourself, so you don't even haveto think about it.
Put them on like do the cliche,put them on your mirror, put
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them on the ceiling, so that'sthe first thing that you see
when you wake up.
So many geese, oh my God, thoseguys are so crazy.
I feel like they're bullies andthey're like taking over the
streets.
Oh, and it's almost fall.
That means that they're goingto get worse.
Oh, those Cobra chickens arecrazy.
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Okay, okay.
So back to the self-talk.
There's no other voice you'regonna hear more often than your
own.
So who do you want to spendtime with?
Who do you want to listen to?
Do you want to listen tosomebody who thinks you're a
stupid piece of hot garbage?
Uh, no, that person's a jerk.
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They can fuck right off thevoice.
Think of the voice in your head, the voice with which you speak
to yourself.
Think of it as this person that, when you were born, you were
born with someone with you whosees you and loves you and only
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wants the best for you and isthere to protect you and is
there to open all the doors foryou.
That's the person that you'rebuilding a relationship with and
you're going to spend every dayof your life with them.
So it better be a good one.
Better be a good relationship,a healthy relationship, a loving
, a gentle, a kind relationshipwhere you have that cheerleader.
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You have that person who's likeyou know what.
It doesn't really matter if youfucked up or you know, I
remember, you know.
I remember the last big likeself-talk crisis I had, and I
hope she never listens to this,but I had forgotten my niece's
birthday.
I was a day late and a dollarshort and the worst aunt in the
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whole world was what I wassaying to myself, and it was
actually my dad that caught me.
And he's like take it easy onyourself.
He's like look at all thethings that you do for her in a
year, you know, you take her tothe mall and you bring her
baking and you, you know you dothis you've done.
You know you show her love allyear long.
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We'll find a way to, we'll finda way to celebrate a birthday.
And I was totally right.
Yes, yes, I did I mess up?
Absolutely Do.
I wish I had done better?
Yes, and she knows that I loveher.
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And that was a chance for me toobserve, give myself some grace
and forgive myself.
Right, not letting myself offthe hook?
Not?
Well, I immediately just madeup for it with my niece, the
person I'm holding my feelingsaccountable to.
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And then you move on, then youlet it go, and then it pops up
every once in a while where I'mlike, oh yeah, I don't want to
do that again, because I don'twant to feel like that again,
which led to me talking tomyself like that again.
So it's these coursecorrections that come from the
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awareness and the mindfulness ofhow we speak to each other.
Oh, this is why I turn WooDanger.
No, just kidding, no danger.
I'm going to have a sip ofcoffee, though, and the coffee
is too hot.
I'm going to burn myself, and Iwon't let coffee do that to me.
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So we've talked about self-talk.
We talked about how we have thepower.
It is about consistency, but Ireally think that, with the
awareness and the mindfulness,like when you catch yourself
saying something ridiculous toyourself, just be like oh, I
know, I'm better than that, orthat's your cue to find
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something cute about yourself,you know, and offset that, that
debit that you just took fromyour self-esteem.
Right, you just took money outof the self-esteem account and
so you have to make a deposit.
You have to make it.
Even you have to pay yourselfback.
Let that be like the constantlittle you know theme that goes
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on always.
Make sure that you're in theblack.
Another thing that's importantwhen it comes to self-talk is
check your posse.
Who are you around?
What are you listening to?
Is music?
Um?
Who, in your frame, like,observe how your friends speak
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about themselves?
Is it a positive influence?
Um, and I'm not like.
Maybe they need to listen tothis podcast too.
You can share with them.
That's cool.
But I just mean, as anon-judgmental observation,
right, um, to see what it lookslike on someone else, because
it's hard to see it on ourselvessometimes, because self-talk is
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a form of self-care.
It doesn't matter how many spasyou go to, how many lotions you
have, how many nature walkstake, if the whole time you're
thinking to yourself, negativethoughts about yourself, because
the road is going to rise tomeet you where you're at, and if
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you see yourself as a queen ora king or just plain royalty,
you get to expect that now fromthe world.
You can set that as a boundary.
You can observe how the worldchanges when you start being
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kinder to yourself.
The world sees that Consciouslyor subconsciously Not
unconsciously You're notsleeping.
Well, some of the world issleeping.
Oh, I did it again.
I missed my turn.
That's okay, I will park here.
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So we did it.
We made it to the kitty cats,so I'm going to go give them
some food, and this is whatwe're going to do.
We're going to dedicate thisweek to being more mindful and
more attentive to our self-talk,because you know what it is.
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This is the bonus.
I should have led with this.
The headline here is thatbetter.
Self-talk translates toconfidence, to self-worth, to
empowerment, which allows you toset some boundaries, which
allows you to protect yourselfand your time and your goals,
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which allows you to feel better.
And when we feel better, we'rehappier.
And when we're happier, we goout into the world and we shine
our light.
So I think that's a beautifulnote to send it back to the
studio.
Peace out and that was pocketfull of mojo.
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Road trip edition.
Tune in next week to see if wedo it again.
But seriously, thank you somuch for tuning in and I hope
that this has helped you tapinto some of that mojo of yours.
You're worth it, baby, and nowyou've got the soundtrack in
your head that knows that too.
Next week we're going to diginto daily routines.
Is it friend or foe?
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So you're not going to want tomiss it when you feel like your
mojo could use a tune up.
I've come up with a lot of waysthat we could do this again
sometime.
If you like to read, I've got aweekly blog.
Sign up today and you'll alsoget a weekly Mojo magazine.
That will be the best thing inyour inbox all week.
If Instagram is where you go foryour inspo, you can also find
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me there as well.
I got mantras, I got liveconnects and some insights that
look you know just pretty.
So you can find me at most,definitely.
And finally, if you're anaction taker, then the seven day
mojo makeover is for you.
You're going to want to grab itnow, before prices go up.
All these cool links are easilyfound in the show notes.
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Go have a look.
You're here anyway.
I've got so much great stuff toshare with you guys, so make
sure you tune in next week anduntil then, stay classy, stay
kind.
Ciao.
For now, just needed a littlebit of reboot.
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