November 20, 2025 • 34 mins
Ever felt like you’re standing in a hallway between who you were and who you’re becoming? That’s the messy middle—and it’s where real change happens. We get honest about why transformation feels scary, why your brain clings to familiar patterns, and how to move from people pleasing and performance to alignment, peace, and personal power.
We start by decoding the science: the brain rewards predictability, not happiness. That’s why boundaries feel threatening and old roles feel safer than they are. Then we go soul-deep with a candid story about the “People Pleaser” identity—how it wins applause while quietly draining your spark. You’ll learn to spot misalignment, understand why growth often feels like grief, and honor the past version of you who kept things afloat without letting her run the future.
From there, we turn insight into action. You’ll get a simple framework to give yourself permission to outgrow, choose one small but high-signal step, and track micro-evidence that rebuilds confidence. We’ll craft “I’m the kind of person who…” identity statements that nudge your nervous system toward safety in the new. And we’ll close with grounded mantras—“I’m not lost, I’m evolving”—to meet panic with presence and turn the awkward in-between into a creative stretch rather than a crisis.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:10):
Hey babe, welcome back to Pocket Full of Mojo, and
this is the show where we ditchthe people pleasing, take up our
full freaking space, andremember that you are the magic.
I am also the magic, and I'myour host.
I'm Steph the Mojo Maven,reporting live from the scene of
your glow-up.
(00:30):
Today we're talking about afeeling that so many of us know
way too well, and that's whenthe old version of you doesn't
fit anymore.
But when the new version isn'tquite here yet.
Like when you try to squeezeinto pants from three identities
ago and your soul is like, girl,no one wears stirrup pants
anymore.
We evolved.
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So if you're in that weird,wobbly, in-between space, this
episode is your permission slipto breathe, to trust yourself,
and to keep going.
And I'm here to hold your handand more importantly, show you
how.
Because what I know is that youcan do it, and I'm here to help.
So without further ado, ladiesand gentlemen, and everyone in
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between, let's dial into ourmojo.
Let's settle in and get tunedin, tapped in, and turned up.
Let's start today's episode withsome somewhat obvious truths,
but they still bear repeating.
So stick with me.
When you're green, you'regrowing.
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And when you're ripe, you rot.
Cool Steph, but I'm not anapple.
What the fuck are you talkingabout?
Well, it means that you are notmeant to stay the same.
I mean, it's in the nature,right?
Even your cells replacethemselves every seven to ten
years.
Like your body literally updateslike an iPhone.
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But our brains, oh yeah, thoselittle drama queens, they love
familiarity.
So how do we operate with allthis confusing and sometimes
annoying duality?
Well, let's have a look at somenerdy-nerdy science real quick,
and we'll see what kind ofanswers we can get.
So our neuroscience nugget isthis the brain's job is
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predictability.
It rewards familiar patterns,even if those patterns suck.
And that's why stepping into anew identity feels terrifying.
Not because you're wrong, butbecause your brain is like, uh,
babe, this isn't on the map.
So what happens?
We keep ourselves safe to stickto what we know.
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Because what we don't know,well, yeah, our brain is like,
hey, that's terrifying.
So instead, we cling to thefamiliar, even when it's quietly
draining us.
Like the relationships thatwe've outgrown.
Because once upon a time, in adifferent version of ourselves
than who we are today, well,they make us feel seen, even if
now they only make us feelsmall.
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Because the scary thing is thatletting go means facing the
unknown.
And our brains would ratherreplay an old heartbreak than
risk a blank page.
Or maybe you think the absenceof boundaries this whole time
translates into a permanentchoice to just live out the rest
of your life as the peoplepleaser.
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Like, you know, those boundariesthat you meant to set like two
years ago but never did.
Well, I guess that ship hassailed, right?
This is just your life now?
No, not true.
But because after very littleresearch and trying nothing,
you've convinced yourself thatsaying no feels scarier than
self-betrayal.
And we tell ourselves, I'll sayno next time.
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But next time never feels easieruntil we finally realize that
peace costs less than peoplepleasing.
Because that people please andbe draining.
Or maybe for you, it's the jobthat you spiritually quit a few
years ago, but you keep showingup.
Because stability feels saferthan unknown potential and
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possibility.
And if we're not careful, we canend up numbing ourselves with
things like routine andpretending that we're fine,
while our soul is quietlyscreaming, babe, this isn't it.
We want more.
But if we're in the habit of notanswering our own needs and no
one is there to call us out onghosting ourselves or leaving
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our intuition on red, then weend up staying put, which is a
synonym for being stuck.
Or maybe it's the identity thatyou're clinging to.
You know, the one that got allthe applause, but it cost you
your real persona, the onehiding behind the performance.
Because being liked can feel alot like being loved, and at
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least at first, right?
So that's all fine until one daythe mask that got you the
applause becomes way too heavyto hold, and that real you
inside is gonna whisper, can Icome out now?
But instead you've been fed somegarbage like it's too late, or
you should have figured it outby now.
Which is to say, that is somehorse-scented shit right there,
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and it's never too late tostart.
You're ready right from whereyou are, because what we know is
is that when we stay where we'veoutgrown, not because we're
weak, but because our comfortzone has been dressed up to look
like safety, babe, don't befooled.
Comfort isn't the same as peace.
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And one thing, one choice, oneshort changing but keeping the
peace decision at a time, andpoof, we wake up one day only to
realize that through a series ofchoices and a desire to stay
safe, we've shrunk to fit a lifethat no longer aligns.
Or maybe it never fit in thefirst place.
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And here's the thing stayingsmall eventually will start to
hurt.
And that whisper, that tug, thatrestless feeling that you just
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can't quite shake, that's notfailure.
That's growth.
It's your soul saying, Hey, Ithink we're ready for more.
And when you ignore it as awhisper, it will start to show
up as a shout.
So this is where payingattention really shows up to
serve you.
And that's where the magichappens.
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When you finally stop labelingyour evolution as I'm broken,
and start recognizing it forwhat it is.
It's you.
You're blooming, you're notfalling apart, you're unfolding,
you're not lost, you're levelingup.
It's new territory, and yes, itis uncomfortable as hell, but
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it's also the most beautifulkind of becoming.
And hear me when I say, you arebuilt and designed to be able to
tolerate a bit of discomfort.
And as gross as that sounds,you're like, why would I sign up
for that?
Just remember, this too shallpass.
Keep that close as you'renavigating this discomfort
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because you don't want to misswhat's waiting for you on the
other side.
Because when you start hearingthat whisper, what has happened
is that your soul upgraded tothe penthouse energy, and
rightfully so, because you'reworthy simply by existing, and I
want you to remember that, butyour actions are still paying
rent in the basement.
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And that's not Dululu, which iseasy to snicker at and dismiss,
but it's a much more seriousdiagnosis.
If your calling lives in thepenthouse, but you refuse to
stop hanging out in thebasement, then what that is, is
misalignment.
And here's the kicker and one ofthose tough truths.
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So buckle up, Buttercup, and Isay this with love, because we
all want the glow up and to skipto the good part.
But I'm here to inform you withlove and grace that the next
level is gonna feel like lossbefore it feels like liberation.
But with this awareness, you cancomfort yourself in knowing that
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one more time for the people onthe cheap sheets, you're not
broken.
You're just blooming.
I want to take you back to apast version of Steph.
I'd like to introduce you toPeople Pleaser Steph.
She still visits from time totime, usually when I'm tired or
uncertain or just or spiralingthrough the group chat for
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validation.
But back in her prime, yeah, shehad a whole routine.
She was, you know, just tell mewhat you need and I'll twist
myself into it, Steph.
She was fluent in reading theroom, scanning faces, adjusting
the tone, and editing herselfmid-sentence just so that no one
would ever feel uncomfortable.
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Her superpower?
Shapeshifting.
Her kryptonite?
Disappointing literally anyone.
She was the girl who thoughtbeing chosen meant being worthy.
So she auditioned for love likeit was a role she might lose at
any given moment.
So be diligent, stay likable.
She'd say yes when every cell inher body screamed no, and saw it
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as a triumph, an exercise andperseverance.
And she managed to have thatpart of herself that screamed no
successfully on mute.
She'd apologize for things thatshe didn't even do, or worse,
simply for existing a little tooloudly.
She was the friend who alwayshad time, the employee who never
said no to just one more thing,and the woman who mistook
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exhaustion for purpose.
People pleaser stuff was easy tolove because she made loving her
easy.
She never asked for anything.
She believed her value was inher usefulness, like a hammer or
a toaster.
And that if everyone else washappy, she must be doing
something right.
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But what she didn't realize wasthat every time she dimmed or
muted her own needs, every timeshe swallowed her truth to keep
the peace, she was quietlyabandoning herself.
And the wild thing, it'sactually enraging when I think
too long about it, and it's thisthe world rewarded her for it.
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She got the praise, she got thepats on the back, she got the
you're such a lifesaver textmessages.
But underneath all that goldstar approval was a woman who
was disappearing in real time.
People please her steph workedhard for everyone's comfort
except her own.
And one day she woke up andrealized she didn't even know
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what she actually wantedanymore.
And that's when the evolutionbegan.
So there she was, People PleaseHer Steph, the Queen of
Composure, the Human PeaceTreaty, the constant diplomat
and doormat, all rolled into oneadorable smiling little package.
But underneath that calm,capable exterior was the quiet
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hum of restlessness.
She couldn't quite name it, butit was there, like background
music that you can't turn off.
And every time she said yes whenshe meant no, that hum got
louder.
Every time she bit her tongue tokeep things fine, that hum grew
into a buzz, like an annoyingmosquito that keeps whining
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louder and louder.
And eventually, the buzz becamea full-blown alarm.
I remember one morning I wasgetting ready for work, doing
the whole fake it till you fallover routine.
Outfit on point.
Smile polished.
They can't tell I've been cryingall morning, right?
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Because the inside?
Absolute chaos.
Then one day at brunch, becauseall revelations deserve mimosas,
my best friend looked across thetable and said, You keep trying
to be the girl you used to need.
What about the girl who you needto be next?
Oof, I swear, I heard glasscrack somewhere.
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That sentence landed like achampagne cork straight to the
soul.
And I realized in that momentI'd been living on expired
rules.
Rules that were written by aversion of me who was just
trying to survive.
The one who thought safety camefrom being small and agreeable
and low maintenance.
All I ever wanted was that pathof least resistance.
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And yet here I was in a lifethat had the smooth ease of
driving through mud.
But here's the thing aboutgrowth: it doesn't ask for
permission and it doesn't waitfor the right time.
It whispers, we're ready, evenwhen you're terrified.
It asks you to walk away fromidentities that once upon a time
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protected you, but now they justkeep you stuck.
So I started to question kind ofliterally everything, which was
about as fun as it sounds, butit was 100% the game changer.
And the questions that crackedeverything open went something
like this Who am I when I'm notperforming?
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Who am I when no one needs me tofix or smooth or soften?
And who am I when I stop earningmy worth?
And honestly, the answers didn'tcome right away.
Because becoming yourself againafter years of being what
everyone else needed, that's notan overnight job.
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That's a rebuild.
But little by little, I startedchoosing differently.
I let silence replace theover-explaining.
And exhausted me was like, doless.
Okay, sign me up.
And I learned so much in thesilence and grew comfortable
with the discomfort of notknowing.
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I let boundaries replace myguilt.
Like, first of all, I learnedwhat boundaries were, which was
very cool and also verygame-changing and very humbling
to think, oh my God, I couldhave been doing this the whole
time.
Do you guys know about this?
And people are like, yeah, weknow about boundaries.
And I was like, cool, let's getsome boundaries.
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And I started to letauthenticity replace approval.
I was like, what would happen ifI just showed up like me?
And this was also right aroundthe time that the bestseller,
The Subtle Art of Not Giving aFuck, came out.
And I bought it for myself as aChristmas present.
And it really helped get intothat whole not caring thing.
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And it helped me do somenormalizing of acting in a way
that was so foreign to my oldpeople pleaser ways.
And every time I did somethingdifferent and took a pen to the
old script, that old hum, thatrestless background noise, well,
it got quieter.
Because that sound wasn'tanxiety.
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It was misalignment.
It was my soul saying, Hey babe,this isn't who we are anymore.
And that's when I knew.
She wasn't broken.
She was outdated software.
But she got me here.
But what I knew now was that shewasn't built to take me where
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I'm going.
So let's unpack that a bit.
Let's look at what's reallyhappening.
AKA, the science and soul ofyour glow-up.
Because now that we've metpeople pleaser staff, let's
shift the focus back to you.
When your old self feelsfrustrating, unfulfilling, and
itchy, it's usually because theold version of you starts to
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feel too tight, like a life thatyou can't squeeze into anymore.
And it's not because you'relost, it's because your identity
is evolving faster than yourenvironment.
Like, think of it like this yourinner world is upgrading, but
your outer world hasn't caughtup yet.
You're running the 3.0 softwareon version 1.0 settings.
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Glitches, oh, yeah, they'reinevitable.
So we'll have a look at what'sreally going on under the hood.
Here's what we know.
We know that your brain loveswhat's predictable.
We won't get too geeky, Ipromise.
But we do know that your brainis a prediction machine.
Its number one job is to keepyou safe, not happy.
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And to your brain, safe meansfamiliar.
And that's why toxic patternscan feel comforting.
Because we know them, notbecause they're good for you.
So when you start doing thingsdifferently, saying no,
enforcing boundaries, chasingbigger dreams, your brain's
gonna freak out.
And it's gonna start sending youlittle panic pings.
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Wait, hang on, this isn't whatwe do.
What if we don't like usanymore?
What if we fail and everybodysees us?
That anxiety that you feel whenyou step into your new identity,
it's not a sign that you'redoing it wrong.
It's your nervous systemrecalibrating to a new normal.
This isn't a breakdown, this isa rewiring.
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Now, the second thing I want totalk about is that growth feels
like grief.
And nobody talks about thisenough.
Because when you startoutgrowing things, whether it's
the job, the friendship, theidentity, the partnership, the
couple, it doesn't feel freeing.
It feels like loss.
So it's really important tohonor that and give yourself
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some grace and some love and toactively and consciously mourn
the comfort of the old versionsof you, even the messy ones.
The girl who used to keepeveryone happy, the employee who
always overdelivered, the friendwho made herself available no
matter what.
She had a purpose and she keptyou safe.
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And if you're not careful,saying goodbye to her can feel
like a betrayal.
But here's the truth you canhonor the version of you who
survived while letting herretire.
Thank her, celebrate her, butstop handing her the mic.
And this is also where youdiscover that instead of the
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good part, you're in the messymiddle.
Because this is the part whereyour old self doesn't fit, but
your new self isn't fully bakedyet.
And it's awkward and it'semotional.
And I did a whole podcast aboutit.
It's like showing up to a partyin between outfits.
Like you know you don't belongin what you had on, but you're
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not dressed for what's nexteither.
And this is actually where mostpeople quit.
They run back to the familiarbecause the unknown feels really
exposed.
But if you stay in thediscomfort, and if you can
breathe through the who am I nowmoments, that's where the
transformation happens.
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You're not lost, you're underconstruction.
And anyone who's cleaned out agarage recently, you know that
it's gonna get messier before itgets cleaner.
All right.
This is kind of like that.
But when it comes to us humans,this is how it works in real
life.
We get this new awareness, andthen it shifts into our bodies,
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and we feel this internaldiscomfort.
And then when we pair thatawareness with the discomfort,
we start making little changesand the old patterns start
falling away.
And then we get the good vibesof alignment, and then the
confidence comes to the party.
And like grief, it's neverlinear, it's a dance.
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Like some days you'll strut intoyour new energy, lack abos, and
other days you're gonna tripover your old habits and think,
what the fuck?
I thought I healed this.
But here's what's reallyhappening every time you choose
the new version, even just once,your brain rewires a little
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more.
You're proving to yourself thatit's safe to be different.
And that weird in-between space,it's not chaos.
This is creation.
You're shedding everything thatwas built for your survival so
you can build what's meant foryour thriving.
And yes, it's uncomfortable.
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You don't doubt yourself, youdon't grieve the old rhythms,
even as you celebrate the newones.
But remember, this isn't anunraveling, this is an
unfolding.
We're doing this intentionally.
And the version of you who feelsconfused and emotional and
unsure, that's the version doingthe hardest and holiest work,
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becoming.
So the next time you catchyourself thinking, I don't feel
like myself anymore, try thisinstead.
Maybe that's because I'mbecoming more of who I actually
am.
Okay, so now that we've unpackedthe messy middle, that the old
me doesn't fit, the new me isn'there yet, limbo.
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Let's talk about what you canactually do.
Because knowing you're evolvingis one thing, but living it,
that takes some hands-on mojo.
And here's the truth growthdoesn't require perfection, it
requires practice and curiosityand a little bit of bravery
every day.
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So let's dig into some practicaltools.
Number one, you gotta giveyourself permission to outgrow.
First things first, you have toallow yourself to change.
No more guilt for leaving oldpatterns behind.
No more apologizing for wantingmore.
Because no one's keeping score.
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That's between you and yourmaker.
And you don't owe anybody shit.
So it's time to decide.
Are you in?
Yes.
Then let yourself be in.
You can't be in the pool andstay dry.
You gotta choose.
And you can.
And you can ask yourself, whichparts of my life are staying the
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same just because they'recomfortable and not because they
serve me.
And maybe it's that friend whosubtly drains you, or the job
you've outgrown, but you keepshowing up because, you know,
paychecks.
Or even that old version of youwho says yes when you still want
to say a hell no.
Maybe it's the limiting beliefthat you want something, but on
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further inspection, it's justwhat the world told you to want.
You're actually allowed to wantwhat you want.
And this is your invitation togive all of it a soft and loving
thank you, and then step intowhat feels aligned.
Not familiar, but aligned withtwo very different things.
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Which takes us to step numbertwo.
Start small but with intention.
Because you don't have tooverhaul your whole life in a
single day.
In fact, don't do that.
Instead, pick one thing thatsignals the new you.
Maybe it's the boundary you'vebeen avoiding, the small yes to
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something that actually lightsyou up, but you've been putting
on the back burner because it'snot what the old you would do.
Or maybe it's a tiny little actof self-kindness.
Each time you choose that newaction, your brain is gonna make
a record of it.
It's literally rewiring youridentity.
And this is you proving toyourself this version of me is
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safe and capable and worthy.
So this small but intentionalaction that you're going to
take, it anchors yourself in thewho I'm becoming.
And this is the fun one.
This is a little mojo exerciseyou can try out.
Say aloud, I'm the kind ofperson who dot dot dot and then
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fill in the blanks with traitsand habits and values of this
next version of you.
Like I'm the kind of person whoprotects my energy, I'm the kind
of person who asks for what sheneeds.
I'm the kind of person whodoesn't shrink to make other
people comfortable.
I'm the kind of person who'smade to grow.
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Affirm to yourself that growthis innate.
And fun fact, I'm a facilitatorfor a women's entrepreneurial
network, and it's actuallycalled Made to Grow.
And you should check them out ifyou're looking for a community
of support as you're buildingyour business and are looking
for a community to support yourjourney.
It's an incredible collective ofamazing women, so feel free to
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reach out if you want more info.
Anywho, the point is to craftthe affirmation that resonates
with you or sparks a little bitof, huh, inside of you.
Listen to that whisper and getcurious and stick these
affirmations on your mirror likethe cool kids do, or jot it down
in your journal, or whisper itto yourself while you're
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brushing your teeth.
The key here is that repetitionis the rewiring.
One of them that I'm working onright now is I'm the kind of
person who knows what they wantand has the courage and
confidence to ask for it.
I think they call that audacity.
Hmm.
Who knew?
And step number three is myfavorite step.
So don't skip this one.
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Celebrate the micro evidence.
Get out the magnifying glass ifyou have to.
But please celebrate in bigways, in small ways.
And do it every time you choosea boundary.
Do it every time that you restwithout guilt.
Do it every time you honor yourgoals.
And when you do this, your brainupdates the identity.
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And we love us some evidence ofhow far we've come.
And our belief system doesn'tcare if it's big or small.
And that's all dumb andsubjective anyway.
And we're not living a life by acommittee.
So just know that confidence isproof that's stacked over time.
That's right.
I know a lot of people out therethat are just like, how do I
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become more confident?
Collect proof.
Get really obsessed with seekingout moments in your day to
celebrate.
And the confidence shows up as adoor prize.
Now, step number four may seemlike it's coming out of left
field, but hear me out.
Because I need to make sure thatyou're aware so that you can
give yourself some grace andsome space to let yourself
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mourn.
Yeah, mourn.
Because even the versions thathurt us had a purpose.
And you can honor that past youwhile still letting her retire.
You can give her a gold watchand a sheet cake and send her on
a beach vacation.
Guess what?
That means you also get to go onthe beach vacation.
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And as we transition from thebeta version to the premium
deluxe version, we are alwayswell served by supportive
thoughts that anchor us in ourtruth.
So let's adopt a mojo mantra ofthe week.
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Because as you navigate thiswhite capped water, unpacking
how you got here and where youwant to go, I want you to
remember and say to yourselfwith love and grace in your
heart, I'm not lost.
I'm evolving.
And I want you to repeat ituntil your brain stops panicking
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and starts vibing.
And if that one doesn't clickfor you, I got more.
And your brain is gonna pop upand try and trick you with all
the old lyrics to all the oldsongs you used to dance to and
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try to talk you out of thisforward motion because it wants
you to stay safe, safe in theknown.
But it's a trick.
You're not in danger.
You're simply staring down thebarrel of the unknown.
But the biggest universal truthis that this is all made up.
And quite frankly, none of ushave any idea what we're doing
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or what the future holds.
So it's a great time to grab thepen and start writing your own
story.
Cause you know what, my darling?
You deserve a life that's fit.
Not the life that they chose foryou, not the life that you
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outgrew, and not the life you'vebeen settling for.
This version of you, the onethat's right here, right now,
the one in the hallway betweenwho you were and who you're
becoming.
She's the bravest of all ofthem.
I see her.
I see you.
So I invite you to take a momenttoday and honor the fact that
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you didn't quit when it gotuncomfortable.
You pivoted, you evolved, yousaid, I want more.
And that is courage that mostpeople never access.
And one more thing before yougo, I have something really
special to share with you.
And if today's episode had younodding along, maybe laughing,
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maybe tearing up a little,because you finally feel seen,
then you're gonna love what I'vecooked up.
I want to officially invite youto the seven-day mojo makeover
challenge.
Now I know what you're thinking.
You're like, Steph, a challenge.
Really?
I don't have time for achallenge.
My life is chaos.
And I hear you, alright?
But this isn't your typicalchallenge.
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This isn't about waking up at 5a.m.
doing a weird dance orpretending that you're somebody
that you're not.
Nope.
This is a realistic,soul-lifting,
confidence-boosting,life-reclaiming seven-day
makeover just for your mojo.
Here's the deal.
Over seven days, we're gonnadeep dive into you.
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The real you, where you are, themessy, the brilliant, the
evolving, the slightly chaotic,but absolutely unstoppable you.
We'll shine a light on some ofthe parts of your life that no
longer fit, whether that's therelationships, the habits, the
old versions of yourself thatare holding you back.
And we're gonna give you somepractical tools to reclaim them.
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Every day of the challenge comeswith one focused, bite-sized
activity, nothing overwhelming,nothing scary, just actionable
steps that you can do whileyou're sipping your morning
coffee or enjoying a glass ofwine at night.
And then by the end of the week,you start to notice the shifts.
You stop apologizing for wantingmore.
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You start setting boundaries andthey actually stick.
You're gonna reconnect with yourdesires, your goals, and without
guilt, without second guessing.
And most importantly, you'regonna look into that mirror and
you're gonna see yourself in away that's authentic, that's
unapologetic, that's fullyworthy of your own love and
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respect.
Think of it as your own personalseven-day tune-up for your soul,
your confidence, your identity.
And Gorge, here's the thing (31:58):
you don't have to have it all
figured out to join.
You just have to show up foryourself.
That's the magic.
That's where the transformationbegins.
So if you've ever felt stuckbetween the old version of
yourself and the new one thatyou're becoming, if you felt
restless or frustrated or likeyou're supposed to be more, but
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you aren't sure how to getthere, this is your invitation.
This is your permission slip tofinally take yourself seriously,
to prioritize your own growth,and to start living with more
energy, more confidence, and allthat clarity that you've been
craving.
Because the seven-day mojomakeover challenge isn't about
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doing more, it's about becomingmore, more aligned, more
confident, more you.
So grab your coffee or your wineor whatever fuels your soul and
come join me.
Let's shake this up, clear theclutter, and step fully into
your next level self.
You win?
Because my friend, your mojocalled and it is ready for this
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makeover.
So you can scroll down to theshow notes and you're just a
couple clicks away from theseven-day transformation that
swaps the heavy lifting for thefreedom of being yourself.
And if this episode lit a spark,by all means go ahead.
You have my full permission toshare this with everyone who
listen.
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And you're also cordiallyinvited to check out all things
mojo in the show notes, wherethere are so many ways for us to
connect.
You can find me on Instagram, onthe YouTubes, and I've got some
really amazing things in thepipeline that I'll be announcing
soon.
So if you want first cake at thecan, and you're gonna want to be
on the mojo mailing list.
(33:46):
And that way you can get all thenews and updates about what's
coming and it's gonna be good.
But that's it for this episode,and I'm gonna see you next time
when we talk about a giver'snightmare.
We're gonna talk about learningto receive.
Yeah, sounds fun, but it's it'sharder than you think when all
you do is give, right?
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So haha, until then, I need youto keep your mojo high, your
standards higher, and yourmimosas topped up with the good
stuff.
I love you, I'm proud of you,and the best is yet to come.
Ciao for now.
Love you, bye.
Hey babe, welcome back to Pocket Full of Mojo, and
this is the show where we ditchthe people pleasing, take up our
full freaking space, andremember that you are the magic.
I am also the magic, and I'myour host.
I'm Steph the Mojo Maven,reporting live from the scene of
your glow-up.
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Today we're talking about afeeling that so many of us know
way too well, and that's whenthe old version of you doesn't
fit anymore.
But when the new version isn'tquite here yet.
Like when you try to squeezeinto pants from three identities
ago and your soul is like, girl,no one wears stirrup pants
anymore.
We evolved.
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So if you're in that weird,wobbly, in-between space, this
episode is your permission slipto breathe, to trust yourself,
and to keep going.
And I'm here to hold your handand more importantly, show you
how.
Because what I know is that youcan do it, and I'm here to help.
So without further ado, ladiesand gentlemen, and everyone in
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between, let's dial into ourmojo.
Let's settle in and get tunedin, tapped in, and turned up.
Let's start today's episode withsome somewhat obvious truths,
but they still bear repeating.
So stick with me.
When you're green, you'regrowing.
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And when you're ripe, you rot.
Cool Steph, but I'm not anapple.
What the fuck are you talkingabout?
Well, it means that you are notmeant to stay the same.
I mean, it's in the nature,right?
Even your cells replacethemselves every seven to ten
years.
Like your body literally updateslike an iPhone.
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But our brains, oh yeah, thoselittle drama queens, they love
familiarity.
So how do we operate with allthis confusing and sometimes
annoying duality?
Well, let's have a look at somenerdy-nerdy science real quick,
and we'll see what kind ofanswers we can get.
So our neuroscience nugget isthis the brain's job is
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predictability.
It rewards familiar patterns,even if those patterns suck.
And that's why stepping into anew identity feels terrifying.
Not because you're wrong, butbecause your brain is like, uh,
babe, this isn't on the map.
So what happens?
We keep ourselves safe to stickto what we know.
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Because what we don't know,well, yeah, our brain is like,
hey, that's terrifying.
So instead, we cling to thefamiliar, even when it's quietly
draining us.
Like the relationships thatwe've outgrown.
Because once upon a time, in adifferent version of ourselves
than who we are today, well,they make us feel seen, even if
now they only make us feelsmall.
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Because the scary thing is thatletting go means facing the
unknown.
And our brains would ratherreplay an old heartbreak than
risk a blank page.
Or maybe you think the absenceof boundaries this whole time
translates into a permanentchoice to just live out the rest
of your life as the peoplepleaser.
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Like, you know, those boundariesthat you meant to set like two
years ago but never did.
Well, I guess that ship hassailed, right?
This is just your life now?
No, not true.
But because after very littleresearch and trying nothing,
you've convinced yourself thatsaying no feels scarier than
self-betrayal.
And we tell ourselves, I'll sayno next time.
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But next time never feels easieruntil we finally realize that
peace costs less than peoplepleasing.
Because that people please andbe draining.
Or maybe for you, it's the jobthat you spiritually quit a few
years ago, but you keep showingup.
Because stability feels saferthan unknown potential and
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possibility.
And if we're not careful, we canend up numbing ourselves with
things like routine andpretending that we're fine,
while our soul is quietlyscreaming, babe, this isn't it.
We want more.
But if we're in the habit of notanswering our own needs and no
one is there to call us out onghosting ourselves or leaving
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our intuition on red, then weend up staying put, which is a
synonym for being stuck.
Or maybe it's the identity thatyou're clinging to.
You know, the one that got allthe applause, but it cost you
your real persona, the onehiding behind the performance.
Because being liked can feel alot like being loved, and at
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least at first, right?
So that's all fine until one daythe mask that got you the
applause becomes way too heavyto hold, and that real you
inside is gonna whisper, can Icome out now?
But instead you've been fed somegarbage like it's too late, or
you should have figured it outby now.
Which is to say, that is somehorse-scented shit right there,
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and it's never too late tostart.
You're ready right from whereyou are, because what we know is
is that when we stay where we'veoutgrown, not because we're
weak, but because our comfortzone has been dressed up to look
like safety, babe, don't befooled.
Comfort isn't the same as peace.
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And one thing, one choice, oneshort changing but keeping the
peace decision at a time, andpoof, we wake up one day only to
realize that through a series ofchoices and a desire to stay
safe, we've shrunk to fit a lifethat no longer aligns.
Or maybe it never fit in thefirst place.
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And here's the thing stayingsmall eventually will start to
hurt.
And that whisper, that tug, thatrestless feeling that you just
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can't quite shake, that's notfailure.
That's growth.
It's your soul saying, Hey, Ithink we're ready for more.
And when you ignore it as awhisper, it will start to show
up as a shout.
So this is where payingattention really shows up to
serve you.
And that's where the magichappens.
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When you finally stop labelingyour evolution as I'm broken,
and start recognizing it forwhat it is.
It's you.
You're blooming, you're notfalling apart, you're unfolding,
you're not lost, you're levelingup.
It's new territory, and yes, itis uncomfortable as hell, but
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it's also the most beautifulkind of becoming.
And hear me when I say, you arebuilt and designed to be able to
tolerate a bit of discomfort.
And as gross as that sounds,you're like, why would I sign up
for that?
Just remember, this too shallpass.
Keep that close as you'renavigating this discomfort
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because you don't want to misswhat's waiting for you on the
other side.
Because when you start hearingthat whisper, what has happened
is that your soul upgraded tothe penthouse energy, and
rightfully so, because you'reworthy simply by existing, and I
want you to remember that, butyour actions are still paying
rent in the basement.
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And that's not Dululu, which iseasy to snicker at and dismiss,
but it's a much more seriousdiagnosis.
If your calling lives in thepenthouse, but you refuse to
stop hanging out in thebasement, then what that is, is
misalignment.
And here's the kicker and one ofthose tough truths.
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So buckle up, Buttercup, and Isay this with love, because we
all want the glow up and to skipto the good part.
But I'm here to inform you withlove and grace that the next
level is gonna feel like lossbefore it feels like liberation.
But with this awareness, you cancomfort yourself in knowing that
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one more time for the people onthe cheap sheets, you're not
broken.
You're just blooming.
I want to take you back to apast version of Steph.
I'd like to introduce you toPeople Pleaser Steph.
She still visits from time totime, usually when I'm tired or
uncertain or just or spiralingthrough the group chat for
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validation.
But back in her prime, yeah, shehad a whole routine.
She was, you know, just tell mewhat you need and I'll twist
myself into it, Steph.
She was fluent in reading theroom, scanning faces, adjusting
the tone, and editing herselfmid-sentence just so that no one
would ever feel uncomfortable.
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Her superpower?
Shapeshifting.
Her kryptonite?
Disappointing literally anyone.
She was the girl who thoughtbeing chosen meant being worthy.
So she auditioned for love likeit was a role she might lose at
any given moment.
So be diligent, stay likable.
She'd say yes when every cell inher body screamed no, and saw it
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as a triumph, an exercise andperseverance.
And she managed to have thatpart of herself that screamed no
successfully on mute.
She'd apologize for things thatshe didn't even do, or worse,
simply for existing a little tooloudly.
She was the friend who alwayshad time, the employee who never
said no to just one more thing,and the woman who mistook
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exhaustion for purpose.
People pleaser stuff was easy tolove because she made loving her
easy.
She never asked for anything.
She believed her value was inher usefulness, like a hammer or
a toaster.
And that if everyone else washappy, she must be doing
something right.
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But what she didn't realize wasthat every time she dimmed or
muted her own needs, every timeshe swallowed her truth to keep
the peace, she was quietlyabandoning herself.
And the wild thing, it'sactually enraging when I think
too long about it, and it's thisthe world rewarded her for it.
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She got the praise, she got thepats on the back, she got the
you're such a lifesaver textmessages.
But underneath all that goldstar approval was a woman who
was disappearing in real time.
People please her steph workedhard for everyone's comfort
except her own.
And one day she woke up andrealized she didn't even know
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what she actually wantedanymore.
And that's when the evolutionbegan.
So there she was, People PleaseHer Steph, the Queen of
Composure, the Human PeaceTreaty, the constant diplomat
and doormat, all rolled into oneadorable smiling little package.
But underneath that calm,capable exterior was the quiet
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hum of restlessness.
She couldn't quite name it, butit was there, like background
music that you can't turn off.
And every time she said yes whenshe meant no, that hum got
louder.
Every time she bit her tongue tokeep things fine, that hum grew
into a buzz, like an annoyingmosquito that keeps whining
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louder and louder.
And eventually, the buzz becamea full-blown alarm.
I remember one morning I wasgetting ready for work, doing
the whole fake it till you fallover routine.
Outfit on point.
Smile polished.
They can't tell I've been cryingall morning, right?
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Because the inside?
Absolute chaos.
Then one day at brunch, becauseall revelations deserve mimosas,
my best friend looked across thetable and said, You keep trying
to be the girl you used to need.
What about the girl who you needto be next?
Oof, I swear, I heard glasscrack somewhere.
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That sentence landed like achampagne cork straight to the
soul.
And I realized in that momentI'd been living on expired
rules.
Rules that were written by aversion of me who was just
trying to survive.
The one who thought safety camefrom being small and agreeable
and low maintenance.
All I ever wanted was that pathof least resistance.
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And yet here I was in a lifethat had the smooth ease of
driving through mud.
But here's the thing aboutgrowth: it doesn't ask for
permission and it doesn't waitfor the right time.
It whispers, we're ready, evenwhen you're terrified.
It asks you to walk away fromidentities that once upon a time
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protected you, but now they justkeep you stuck.
So I started to question kind ofliterally everything, which was
about as fun as it sounds, butit was 100% the game changer.
And the questions that crackedeverything open went something
like this Who am I when I'm notperforming?
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Who am I when no one needs me tofix or smooth or soften?
And who am I when I stop earningmy worth?
And honestly, the answers didn'tcome right away.
Because becoming yourself againafter years of being what
everyone else needed, that's notan overnight job.
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That's a rebuild.
But little by little, I startedchoosing differently.
I let silence replace theover-explaining.
And exhausted me was like, doless.
Okay, sign me up.
And I learned so much in thesilence and grew comfortable
with the discomfort of notknowing.
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I let boundaries replace myguilt.
Like, first of all, I learnedwhat boundaries were, which was
very cool and also verygame-changing and very humbling
to think, oh my God, I couldhave been doing this the whole
time.
Do you guys know about this?
And people are like, yeah, weknow about boundaries.
And I was like, cool, let's getsome boundaries.
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And I started to letauthenticity replace approval.
I was like, what would happen ifI just showed up like me?
And this was also right aroundthe time that the bestseller,
The Subtle Art of Not Giving aFuck, came out.
And I bought it for myself as aChristmas present.
And it really helped get intothat whole not caring thing.
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And it helped me do somenormalizing of acting in a way
that was so foreign to my oldpeople pleaser ways.
And every time I did somethingdifferent and took a pen to the
old script, that old hum, thatrestless background noise, well,
it got quieter.
Because that sound wasn'tanxiety.
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It was misalignment.
It was my soul saying, Hey babe,this isn't who we are anymore.
And that's when I knew.
She wasn't broken.
She was outdated software.
But she got me here.
But what I knew now was that shewasn't built to take me where
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I'm going.
So let's unpack that a bit.
Let's look at what's reallyhappening.
AKA, the science and soul ofyour glow-up.
Because now that we've metpeople pleaser staff, let's
shift the focus back to you.
When your old self feelsfrustrating, unfulfilling, and
itchy, it's usually because theold version of you starts to
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feel too tight, like a life thatyou can't squeeze into anymore.
And it's not because you'relost, it's because your identity
is evolving faster than yourenvironment.
Like, think of it like this yourinner world is upgrading, but
your outer world hasn't caughtup yet.
You're running the 3.0 softwareon version 1.0 settings.
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Glitches, oh, yeah, they'reinevitable.
So we'll have a look at what'sreally going on under the hood.
Here's what we know.
We know that your brain loveswhat's predictable.
We won't get too geeky, Ipromise.
But we do know that your brainis a prediction machine.
Its number one job is to keepyou safe, not happy.
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And to your brain, safe meansfamiliar.
And that's why toxic patternscan feel comforting.
Because we know them, notbecause they're good for you.
So when you start doing thingsdifferently, saying no,
enforcing boundaries, chasingbigger dreams, your brain's
gonna freak out.
And it's gonna start sending youlittle panic pings.
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Wait, hang on, this isn't whatwe do.
What if we don't like usanymore?
What if we fail and everybodysees us?
That anxiety that you feel whenyou step into your new identity,
it's not a sign that you'redoing it wrong.
It's your nervous systemrecalibrating to a new normal.
This isn't a breakdown, this isa rewiring.
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Now, the second thing I want totalk about is that growth feels
like grief.
And nobody talks about thisenough.
Because when you startoutgrowing things, whether it's
the job, the friendship, theidentity, the partnership, the
couple, it doesn't feel freeing.
It feels like loss.
So it's really important tohonor that and give yourself
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some grace and some love and toactively and consciously mourn
the comfort of the old versionsof you, even the messy ones.
The girl who used to keepeveryone happy, the employee who
always overdelivered, the friendwho made herself available no
matter what.
She had a purpose and she keptyou safe.
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And if you're not careful,saying goodbye to her can feel
like a betrayal.
But here's the truth you canhonor the version of you who
survived while letting herretire.
Thank her, celebrate her, butstop handing her the mic.
And this is also where youdiscover that instead of the
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good part, you're in the messymiddle.
Because this is the part whereyour old self doesn't fit, but
your new self isn't fully bakedyet.
And it's awkward and it'semotional.
And I did a whole podcast aboutit.
It's like showing up to a partyin between outfits.
Like you know you don't belongin what you had on, but you're
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not dressed for what's nexteither.
And this is actually where mostpeople quit.
They run back to the familiarbecause the unknown feels really
exposed.
But if you stay in thediscomfort, and if you can
breathe through the who am I nowmoments, that's where the
transformation happens.
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You're not lost, you're underconstruction.
And anyone who's cleaned out agarage recently, you know that
it's gonna get messier before itgets cleaner.
All right.
This is kind of like that.
But when it comes to us humans,this is how it works in real
life.
We get this new awareness, andthen it shifts into our bodies,
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and we feel this internaldiscomfort.
And then when we pair thatawareness with the discomfort,
we start making little changesand the old patterns start
falling away.
And then we get the good vibesof alignment, and then the
confidence comes to the party.
And like grief, it's neverlinear, it's a dance.
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Like some days you'll strut intoyour new energy, lack abos, and
other days you're gonna tripover your old habits and think,
what the fuck?
I thought I healed this.
But here's what's reallyhappening every time you choose
the new version, even just once,your brain rewires a little
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more.
You're proving to yourself thatit's safe to be different.
And that weird in-between space,it's not chaos.
This is creation.
You're shedding everything thatwas built for your survival so
you can build what's meant foryour thriving.
And yes, it's uncomfortable.
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You don't doubt yourself, youdon't grieve the old rhythms,
even as you celebrate the newones.
But remember, this isn't anunraveling, this is an
unfolding.
We're doing this intentionally.
And the version of you who feelsconfused and emotional and
unsure, that's the version doingthe hardest and holiest work,
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becoming.
So the next time you catchyourself thinking, I don't feel
like myself anymore, try thisinstead.
Maybe that's because I'mbecoming more of who I actually
am.
Okay, so now that we've unpackedthe messy middle, that the old
me doesn't fit, the new me isn'there yet, limbo.
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Let's talk about what you canactually do.
Because knowing you're evolvingis one thing, but living it,
that takes some hands-on mojo.
And here's the truth growthdoesn't require perfection, it
requires practice and curiosityand a little bit of bravery
every day.
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So let's dig into some practicaltools.
Number one, you gotta giveyourself permission to outgrow.
First things first, you have toallow yourself to change.
No more guilt for leaving oldpatterns behind.
No more apologizing for wantingmore.
Because no one's keeping score.
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That's between you and yourmaker.
And you don't owe anybody shit.
So it's time to decide.
Are you in?
Yes.
Then let yourself be in.
You can't be in the pool andstay dry.
You gotta choose.
And you can.
And you can ask yourself, whichparts of my life are staying the
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same just because they'recomfortable and not because they
serve me.
And maybe it's that friend whosubtly drains you, or the job
you've outgrown, but you keepshowing up because, you know,
paychecks.
Or even that old version of youwho says yes when you still want
to say a hell no.
Maybe it's the limiting beliefthat you want something, but on
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further inspection, it's justwhat the world told you to want.
You're actually allowed to wantwhat you want.
And this is your invitation togive all of it a soft and loving
thank you, and then step intowhat feels aligned.
Not familiar, but aligned withtwo very different things.
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Which takes us to step numbertwo.
Start small but with intention.
Because you don't have tooverhaul your whole life in a
single day.
In fact, don't do that.
Instead, pick one thing thatsignals the new you.
Maybe it's the boundary you'vebeen avoiding, the small yes to
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something that actually lightsyou up, but you've been putting
on the back burner because it'snot what the old you would do.
Or maybe it's a tiny little actof self-kindness.
Each time you choose that newaction, your brain is gonna make
a record of it.
It's literally rewiring youridentity.
And this is you proving toyourself this version of me is
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safe and capable and worthy.
So this small but intentionalaction that you're going to
take, it anchors yourself in thewho I'm becoming.
And this is the fun one.
This is a little mojo exerciseyou can try out.
Say aloud, I'm the kind ofperson who dot dot dot and then
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fill in the blanks with traitsand habits and values of this
next version of you.
Like I'm the kind of person whoprotects my energy, I'm the kind
of person who asks for what sheneeds.
I'm the kind of person whodoesn't shrink to make other
people comfortable.
I'm the kind of person who'smade to grow.
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Affirm to yourself that growthis innate.
And fun fact, I'm a facilitatorfor a women's entrepreneurial
network, and it's actuallycalled Made to Grow.
And you should check them out ifyou're looking for a community
of support as you're buildingyour business and are looking
for a community to support yourjourney.
It's an incredible collective ofamazing women, so feel free to
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reach out if you want more info.
Anywho, the point is to craftthe affirmation that resonates
with you or sparks a little bitof, huh, inside of you.
Listen to that whisper and getcurious and stick these
affirmations on your mirror likethe cool kids do, or jot it down
in your journal, or whisper itto yourself while you're
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brushing your teeth.
The key here is that repetitionis the rewiring.
One of them that I'm working onright now is I'm the kind of
person who knows what they wantand has the courage and
confidence to ask for it.
I think they call that audacity.
Hmm.
Who knew?
And step number three is myfavorite step.
So don't skip this one.
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Celebrate the micro evidence.
Get out the magnifying glass ifyou have to.
But please celebrate in bigways, in small ways.
And do it every time you choosea boundary.
Do it every time that you restwithout guilt.
Do it every time you honor yourgoals.
And when you do this, your brainupdates the identity.
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And we love us some evidence ofhow far we've come.
And our belief system doesn'tcare if it's big or small.
And that's all dumb andsubjective anyway.
And we're not living a life by acommittee.
So just know that confidence isproof that's stacked over time.
That's right.
I know a lot of people out therethat are just like, how do I
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become more confident?
Collect proof.
Get really obsessed with seekingout moments in your day to
celebrate.
And the confidence shows up as adoor prize.
Now, step number four may seemlike it's coming out of left
field, but hear me out.
Because I need to make sure thatyou're aware so that you can
give yourself some grace andsome space to let yourself
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mourn.
Yeah, mourn.
Because even the versions thathurt us had a purpose.
And you can honor that past youwhile still letting her retire.
You can give her a gold watchand a sheet cake and send her on
a beach vacation.
Guess what?
That means you also get to go onthe beach vacation.
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And as we transition from thebeta version to the premium
deluxe version, we are alwayswell served by supportive
thoughts that anchor us in ourtruth.
So let's adopt a mojo mantra ofthe week.
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Because as you navigate thiswhite capped water, unpacking
how you got here and where youwant to go, I want you to
remember and say to yourselfwith love and grace in your
heart, I'm not lost.
I'm evolving.
And I want you to repeat ituntil your brain stops panicking
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and starts vibing.
And if that one doesn't clickfor you, I got more.
And your brain is gonna pop upand try and trick you with all
the old lyrics to all the oldsongs you used to dance to and
(28:37):
try to talk you out of thisforward motion because it wants
you to stay safe, safe in theknown.
But it's a trick.
You're not in danger.
You're simply staring down thebarrel of the unknown.
But the biggest universal truthis that this is all made up.
And quite frankly, none of ushave any idea what we're doing
(28:59):
or what the future holds.
So it's a great time to grab thepen and start writing your own
story.
Cause you know what, my darling?
You deserve a life that's fit.
Not the life that they chose foryou, not the life that you
(29:20):
outgrew, and not the life you'vebeen settling for.
This version of you, the onethat's right here, right now,
the one in the hallway betweenwho you were and who you're
becoming.
She's the bravest of all ofthem.
I see her.
I see you.
So I invite you to take a momenttoday and honor the fact that
(29:43):
you didn't quit when it gotuncomfortable.
You pivoted, you evolved, yousaid, I want more.
And that is courage that mostpeople never access.
And one more thing before yougo, I have something really
special to share with you.
And if today's episode had younodding along, maybe laughing,
(30:04):
maybe tearing up a little,because you finally feel seen,
then you're gonna love what I'vecooked up.
I want to officially invite youto the seven-day mojo makeover
challenge.
Now I know what you're thinking.
You're like, Steph, a challenge.
Really?
I don't have time for achallenge.
My life is chaos.
And I hear you, alright?
But this isn't your typicalchallenge.
(30:25):
This isn't about waking up at 5a.m.
doing a weird dance orpretending that you're somebody
that you're not.
Nope.
This is a realistic,soul-lifting,
confidence-boosting,life-reclaiming seven-day
makeover just for your mojo.
Here's the deal.
Over seven days, we're gonnadeep dive into you.
(30:47):
The real you, where you are, themessy, the brilliant, the
evolving, the slightly chaotic,but absolutely unstoppable you.
We'll shine a light on some ofthe parts of your life that no
longer fit, whether that's therelationships, the habits, the
old versions of yourself thatare holding you back.
And we're gonna give you somepractical tools to reclaim them.
(31:09):
Every day of the challenge comeswith one focused, bite-sized
activity, nothing overwhelming,nothing scary, just actionable
steps that you can do whileyou're sipping your morning
coffee or enjoying a glass ofwine at night.
And then by the end of the week,you start to notice the shifts.
You stop apologizing for wantingmore.
(31:30):
You start setting boundaries andthey actually stick.
You're gonna reconnect with yourdesires, your goals, and without
guilt, without second guessing.
And most importantly, you'regonna look into that mirror and
you're gonna see yourself in away that's authentic, that's
unapologetic, that's fullyworthy of your own love and
(31:52):
respect.
Think of it as your own personalseven-day tune-up for your soul,
your confidence, your identity.
And Gorge, here's the thing (31:58):
you don't have to have it all
figured out to join.
You just have to show up foryourself.
That's the magic.
That's where the transformationbegins.
So if you've ever felt stuckbetween the old version of
yourself and the new one thatyou're becoming, if you felt
restless or frustrated or likeyou're supposed to be more, but
(32:20):
you aren't sure how to getthere, this is your invitation.
This is your permission slip tofinally take yourself seriously,
to prioritize your own growth,and to start living with more
energy, more confidence, and allthat clarity that you've been
craving.
Because the seven-day mojomakeover challenge isn't about
(32:42):
doing more, it's about becomingmore, more aligned, more
confident, more you.
So grab your coffee or your wineor whatever fuels your soul and
come join me.
Let's shake this up, clear theclutter, and step fully into
your next level self.
You win?
Because my friend, your mojocalled and it is ready for this
(33:04):
makeover.
So you can scroll down to theshow notes and you're just a
couple clicks away from theseven-day transformation that
swaps the heavy lifting for thefreedom of being yourself.
And if this episode lit a spark,by all means go ahead.
You have my full permission toshare this with everyone who
listen.
(33:25):
And you're also cordiallyinvited to check out all things
mojo in the show notes, wherethere are so many ways for us to
connect.
You can find me on Instagram, onthe YouTubes, and I've got some
really amazing things in thepipeline that I'll be announcing
soon.
So if you want first cake at thecan, and you're gonna want to be
on the mojo mailing list.
(33:46):
And that way you can get all thenews and updates about what's
coming and it's gonna be good.
But that's it for this episode,and I'm gonna see you next time
when we talk about a giver'snightmare.
We're gonna talk about learningto receive.
Yeah, sounds fun, but it's it'sharder than you think when all
you do is give, right?
(34:07):
So haha, until then, I need youto keep your mojo high, your
standards higher, and yourmimosas topped up with the good
stuff.
I love you, I'm proud of you,and the best is yet to come.
Ciao for now.
Love you, bye.
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