May 7, 2025 • 24 mins
Have you ever known something with absolute certainty but couldn't explain why? That quiet voice, that feeling in your stomach, that inexplicable knowing—it's your intuition trying to guide you home.
In this milestone 50th episode of Pocketful of Mojo, we're diving deep into why our gut instincts matter, why we so often ignore them, and how reconnecting with this inner wisdom transforms our relationship with ourselves. For recovering people pleasers, overthinkers, and perfectionists, that gut feeling can feel fuzzy or buried under layers of doubt, fear, or programming about what others think. But what if your intuition is actually the voice of your higher self—the part of you that knows everything you've been through and still sees you as whole, worthy, and wildly capable?
I share a deeply personal story about my first podcast venture and how my intuition tried to prepare me for an unexpected tragedy, highlighting how our gut often knows what's coming before our logical mind can make sense of it. We explore what it actually looks and feels like to trust your gut—not as dramatic lightning bolt moments, but as simple acts of pausing, feeling the "ick," choosing rest, or making aligned decisions. The transformation that follows is profound: relief, clarity, confidence, and ultimately freedom from the constant need for external validation.
Building a relationship with yourself follows the same principles as any meaningful relationship: listening, showing up, and keeping your word. When you honor this connection, you develop stronger boundaries, healthier relationships, increased confidence, and the ability to take decisive action that feels like a superpower. Life becomes easier because you're no longer at war with yourself.
Ready to strengthen your intuition? Take this week's mantra with you: "I trust the part of me that always knows." Your higher self isn't something to find—it's already there, waiting for you to listen. Share this episode with someone who needs this reminder, and remember: you don't need a perfect plan—you need a little more trust in yourself.
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
hello, hello and welcome back to pocket full of
mojo, the podcast that's partpep talk, part tough love and
all about getting your sparkleback without losing your sanity.
We're calling out the BS,ditching the burnout and making
personal growth feel more like adance party than a guilt trip.
So grab your coffee or yourcrown and let's get that mojo
(00:35):
working.
Today we're talking about gutinstincts, why they matter, why
we ignore them and how tuninginto your gut is actually a
doorway to building a better,more loving relationship with
your fine self.
I'm also bringing back themantra of the week.
So, without further ado, let'sdial into that mojo and get
(00:59):
tuned in, tapped in and turnedon.
Hey, hey, hey, mojo-ino,welcome back to Pocketful of
Mojo, your go-to space forgetting real, getting clear and
getting in touch with a versionof you that actually feels like
you.
If you're new here, I'm Steph.
(01:20):
I'm your Mojo Maven.
I'm here to help you navigatethe messy bits between where you
are and where you're going, sothat you can live a life you
love and love the life you live.
Quick reminder I'm not atherapist, I'm not a
psychologist.
I'm a flawed human and arecovering people pleaser.
So if you fall into either ofthose categories.
(01:41):
You're right at home and I'm soglad each and every one of you
are here today.
Because number one, it's my50th episode and I'm so happy
and proud and pumped that over ayear later the mojo is still
a-flowing.
And two, we're diving intosomething I'm super passionate
(02:02):
about that doesn't just guideyour decisions, it transforms
your whole relationship withyourself.
I think I'm really ontosomething in a good way.
So today we're talking abouttrusting your gut, that little
voice, that quiet, little nudge,that full body, yes or no that
we feel before our monkey brainscan explain it.
(02:25):
But here's the thing most of usdon't trust it.
We leave it on red, we hit mute.
We've been trained to overrideit or to question it or silence
it, and in the process we loseconnection with ourselves.
So in this episode it's goingto be about more than just
intuition.
It's about rebuilding theself-trust, the how to listen to
(02:49):
your own wisdom, how to chooseyourself over and over, until
that just becomes your normal.
So let's get into it.
So we're talking about trustingyour gut.
So now I know that phrase getstossed around a lot just trust
your gut, like it's always easy,like it's super obvious, like
someone's banging us over thehead with the answer.
(03:10):
But for many of us, especiallyrecovering people pleasers or
overthinkers or perfectioniststhat gut feeling can feel fuzzy
or confusing or just simplyburied under layers of doubt or
fear or programming, not tomention, it can get trapped in
the filter of what other peoplethink, ew.
(03:31):
So today I want to draw a linkbetween trusting your gut and
building a loving relationshipwith yourself, because they're
deeply connected and you can'ttrust your gut if you don't know
yourself and you can't knowyourself if you never listen.
So let's unpack it.
When I think about the topic oftrusting your gut, or intuition,
(03:51):
I'm reminded of the time when Iwas back in France and fresh
out of the pandemic and startingmy first podcast.
It was called Coffee with aCanadian and it was short-lived,
but it was super cute.
Called Coffee with a Canadianand it was short-lived, but it
was super cute, and I spentweeks preparing for the launch.
(04:12):
It had kind of been born out ofthe pandemic and when you have
nothing else to do, you put pento paper and you start making a
plan and the idea had foreverbeen on my vision board and I
thought, well, I got the time todo this.
I don't really have any hobbiesto speak of.
Let's do this.
And so I crowdfunded for theequipment and I taught myself
how to use it from scratch and Iresearched the niche and I
(04:32):
programmed the format and everyday got closer to going live.
Man, it was exciting.
I was doing the thing, I waspodcasting.
It was like nobody came to stopme and this was going to be my
thing.
I was ready to start small andgrow big.
I was taking marketing classesand learning about promotion and
editing and learning all aboutsound editing and all about the
(04:55):
podcast world, and I had ayear's worth of guests lined up.
I had a perfect co-host shoutout to my girl, edie a fantastic
premise and I was so passionateabout making this work and
making this my next big thing.
And yet, no matter how hard Iworked and how committed I was,
(05:16):
I kept coming across thesehiccups that didn't make sense.
Like we would be recording andlike 45 minutes into the session
I would see that it stoppedrecording after 16 minutes.
Like that happened at leasttwice.
And I was editing one night andmy husband at the time just
(05:36):
happened to spill a glass ofwine on my laptop Awesome.
So cue the two week delay as Iwaited for my new laptop to
arrive, and I would go to uploadan episode and there would be a
glitch on the platform and Iwould lose all my progress, or
I'd be editing and get stuck anddo all the right
troubleshooting.
I would watch all the videosand do all the right things in
(05:58):
the right order and it stillwouldn't do what it was supposed
to do.
Now in my mind I was writingthis all off.
Well, it's normal that abeginner, you know this stuff
would happen.
I just need to work harder.
But there was a voiceunderneath that that was telling
me to listen harder.
I couldn't quite put my fingeron it, but I definitely ignore
(06:20):
that voice.
Then I was out and about with afriend of mine and he asked me
how the podcast was coming alongand I said well, it's going
well.
Then I was out and about with afriend of mine and he asked me
how the podcast was coming alongand I said well, it's going
well.
And I noticed that I said thatwith some hesitation, which
isn't at all like me or how Ithought of myself thinking about
it.
I thought that I was reallyexcited about it.
It was pumped and it was goingwell.
And then I continued, I pulledon that thread and I followed
(06:44):
Mike at this time and I sharedwith him.
I said I feel like something isholding me back, all of these
hiccups, all of these randomthings that should work, but
don't, and I don't know what itis.
I feel like somebody's, likegrabbing the back of my shirt
and pulling me back and sayinguh-uh, not so fast.
And I couldn't quite wrap myhead around it and I didn't have
(07:05):
the answer, but I threw it outthere anyway and it was him that
called it out.
He said well, your gut's tryingto tell you something.
You might want to meditate onit and see what comes up.
And then the next week rolledaround and I was just getting
ready, after so muchtroubleshooting and extra work
and struggle, to upload thethird episode.
I woke up to the phone callthat changed my life.
(07:27):
My mom had taken a nap andnever woke up.
My mom had died and, just likethat, the center of my universe,
my North Star, my mom, hadpassed away.
So what does this have to dowith anything?
Well, I tell you, my view andI'm resolved in this is that the
(07:48):
universe, or God or Source ormy higher power was trying to
tell me not to get too ahead ofmyself that something else was
on the way, because I think ofmy gut or my intuition like this
.
I believe that we all have ahigher self.
It's not something you earn orsomething that you find after
(08:11):
enough yoga classes orjournaling prompts.
It's been with you since theday you were born Quiet, steady,
wise and deeply loving.
This part of you knowseverything you've been through,
every mistake, every messychapter, every win, every
heartbreak, and still sees youas whole, worthy and wildly
(08:34):
capable.
This higher self is the realyou, the deep down you, the
version of you, untouched byfear, self-doubt or the need to
prove anything to anyone.
It's the you.
Beneath all the noise, beneathwhat you were taught to believe,
beneath the pressure to have itall together, beneath the masks
(08:55):
you wear to fit in, it knowswhat lights you up.
It sees the truth of who youare and who you're meant to be,
and it's always trying to guideyou there, gently, patiently,
without judgment, no need toapologize.
So when you build a relationshipwith your higher self, life
(09:17):
gets clearer.
You start making choices thatfeel right in your skin, in your
bones, even if they don't makesense on paper.
You feel less lost, lessfrantic, like you're grasping at
things just to feel okay.
And the more you do this, themore you trust yourself.
You recover faster, you say nomore easily and you start to
(09:40):
glow, not because you've becomesomeone new, but because you
finally started listening to theyou that's been there all along
.
It's less of a transformationand more of a reveal, and don't
get it twisted Having a powerfulrelationship with yourself it
doesn't mean you're perfect.
It means that you're anchored.
Think of it that way Like youdon't abandon yourself when
(10:04):
things get hard.
Because you have that bond, youdon't shame yourself for
slipping.
You become your own safe space,like your own hype squad, your
own healer, your own wise bestfriend.
And that doesn't replace thepeople in your life that hold
those roles, but you can includeyourself in the mix and from
(10:26):
that place, everything else inyour life gets better your
energy, your relationships, yourpurpose, your joy.
And it's not about beingspiritual or getting it right.
It's about getting quiet enoughto hear the part of you that
already knows the way andchoosing to trust it more often.
(10:46):
Go ahead, see what happens.
What if it was something reallygreat.
Now, I get this might be a lotfor some people to digest and
it's a bit woo-woo.
If this isn't your typicalsystem of thinking, and I get
that.
And, as always, this podcast ishere for you to take what
serves you and leave the rest.
If this isn't your jam, that'stotally fine part.
(11:12):
In particular, I want you tojust imagine what it would be
like to have a full-timecheerleader, an unconditional
supporter, a faith provider or aconstant source of empowerment,
mojo, inner peace, flow andclarity right there in your
(11:34):
pocket.
You don't have to pick up thephone, you don't have to send an
email, it's just with you.
You'd want to be friends, right?
Well, my darling, that personis you and basically what Mojo
is, and it's all there to helpyou build a better relationship
with your higher self, which isreally yourself.
See how that kind of comestogether, because that higher
self will always guide you towhat you need, even if it's not
(11:57):
what you want, sorry, not sorry.
Higher power knows best.
So let's have a look at what itlooks like to trust your gut.
Trusting your gut doesn'talways look like lightning bolts
or aha moments or hugerevelations.
Most often, a true eurekamoment looks like simply pausing
before you say yes to somethingthat doesn't feel right.
(12:19):
Or maybe it's feeling the ickand then taking action by
leaving that conversation orrelationship or situation
because it's draining you.
It sure as hell isn't liftingyou up.
Or maybe you're at the pointwhere you're tired of feeling
tired, so you choose rest overhustle, even when the world says
(12:41):
go harder.
Or maybe it's taking on thetask of getting good at making
decisions that feel aligned,even if they don't make sense on
paper or if it's not the kindof decision that you've made in
the past.
Because, let's be real, how'sthat working out for you so far?
We could all use a littletune-up, because your gut, your
(13:01):
intuition, it's subtle, it'squiet.
Sometimes it's just a whisper,or maybe tightness in your chest
, or that nagging thought thatkeeps showing up even when you
try to ignore it, Becauselistening to that whisper, that
is a radical act of self respect.
So let's go deeper, becausewhen you start to listen up to
(13:24):
your gut, when you trust it, youstart to experience some
powerful shifts.
But a shift means that you'recoming from somewhere and going
to something else.
So let's look at what's waitingfor you on the other side.
Let's have a look at what itfeels like.
So, when you trust your gut,some of the symptoms may include
(13:44):
relief, that deep exhale justto let you breathe when you made
a choice that honors you.
There's like a little bit morespace, and things that were
blurry before bring you clarity.
There's less back and forth,there's fewer pros and con lists
, there's more confidence inyour decisions, and I don't know
(14:06):
how to explain it, but it'sjust like there's this new space
.
There's this new absence ofanxiety and stress which makes
you feel at peace of anxiety andstress, which makes you feel at
peace Even when things areuncertain, because there's this
inner steadiness that sayswhatever what I've got me, I've
got this.
I've made hard decisions before, I've got people in my corner
(14:30):
that have got my back, but atthe end of the day, I know I can
figure this out and over time Igot to tell you it really
starts to feel like freedom,because you're no longer living
for everyone else's approval.
It's like I got so much freetime and this is a really good
indicator that you're inalignment with your truth.
Doesn't that sound amazing?
(14:51):
Because here's the thing Everytime you listen to your gut,
you're sending yourself amessage.
You're saying I trust you Thinkabout how good it feels to hear
that and remember that everytime you override it, you're
saying I don't think you knowwhat's best.
So if you've ever feltdisconnected from yourself or
(15:11):
unsure, insecure, resentful orconstantly second-guessing or
maybe even stuck, this is whereyou start.
You build trust with yourselfthe same way you'd build it with
a friend by listening, byshowing up, by keeping your word
.
You say you're going to workout every morning at 6 am.
Then show yourself the respectof getting up and working out at
(15:33):
6am.
I hate that example.
How about another example?
You promised yourself one houra week dedicated for just you
time, whether that's bingingGrey's Anatomy or getting a
pedicure or whatever that is foryou Fucking pedicure, stop it.
With that reference.
You build trust with yourselfthe same way you'd build it with
(15:54):
a friend by listening, byshowing up, by keeping your word
.
And the more you do that, themore you start to like yourself.
And the more you start to likeyourself, the more you start to
believe in yourself, the moreyou start to love yourself.
Because if you think about itlike, how do you treat someone
(16:14):
that you know really well, youprobably show them some respect,
some courtesy.
You're thoughtful and you'reintentional with how you act
towards them, right, maybe youeven show them love from time to
time.
Now, how do you show up foryourself?
Do you show yourself the samelove, consideration, respect?
And if this answer is, you canstart from where you are,
(16:43):
because when you know yourself,really know yourself, you make
different choices.
You stop abandoning yourself tomake other people comfortable,
you stop nurturing a side of youthat isn't in alignment with
your goals and your dreams, youstop seeking permission, you
start living your life onpurpose and get out of rinse and
(17:06):
repeat Now, I didn't sayperfectly, I said on purpose.
We are allowed to be flawedhumans who make mistakes.
That is all part of the circusof being alive.
No one said we had to give allof our best stuff away, and
there's no one at the end ofthis given out gold stars.
Life is about service andexperience, and you, my friend,
(17:34):
are worthy of the best.
So let's dabble in the ideathat treating ourselves better
in the name of building a betterrelationship, and see how our
intuition and instincts can beadded to this toolbox of
self-love.
And there's so many benefits tobuilding a better relationship
with yourself, strongerboundaries and you can do this
now because you know what's okaywith you and what's not.
(17:57):
And when I say strongerboundaries, I'm totally leaving
space for the reality that yourboundaries might not even be in
place yet, and that's okay.
Totally been there like fiveminutes ago, and boundaries ebb
and flow and change, and there'sa podcast episode about
boundaries out already.
So I invite you to check thatout if you're in more of the
(18:19):
starting blocks place with whenit comes to boundaries.
But it'll also bring youhealthier relationships because
you're not trying to prove yourworth or chase validation.
You're going to learn realquick who's in it for you and
who's in it for what you can dofor them once you establish a
more notable level ofself-respect and the ability to
(18:39):
say yes to what works and no towhat doesn't, because you're not
a yes machine.
And when that shift happens,your people will rise to the top
of the crop, not to mention themore confidence that you're
going to be strutting aroundwith because you're actually
trusting your own judgment andyou're putting yourself in the
right rooms where you can be themost you and it's really the
(19:02):
coolest one, because being ableto take decisive action starts
to feel like a superpower, andwhen this part of the
transformation actually startsto happen, it may actually take
you aback.
So enjoy that moment, celebratehow far you've come from the
person who used to need a riskanalysis report before every
(19:23):
decision.
And this new feeling.
That's freedom, that'sconfidence and it's trust that
you've got your own back and,quite frankly, life becomes more
easy because you're not at warwith yourself anymore, because
there's enough turmoil going onin the world that you don't need
to be starting World War III inyour own damn head every time a
(19:46):
decision needs to be made.
No more push-pull, no morehemming and hawing or just going
with the flow.
You're doing things with easenow, with strength and with
clarity, and you become a safeplace to land for yourself, and
that changes everything.
So if you're feelingdisconnected or unsure right now
(20:08):
and you don't know what yourgut is saying or if you can
trust it, I want to remind youof this You're not broken,
you're just out of practice.
The relationship that you havewith yourself.
It can be rebuilt.
I've done it a few times.
It starts with one choice onepause, one moment of tuning in.
(20:30):
Let it be messy, let it be slow, but let it be honest.
So now we're going to revisit anold feature of the podcast, the
weekly mantra.
You can take this with you andput it in your pocket and
reference it whenever you feelthe pull of your intuition but
(20:51):
you're not quite sure how tonavigate it.
So our mantra this week is Itrust the part of me that always
knows.
Friend, you know, and trust canbe hard, but trust is built not
when things are easy, but whenthings are hard.
So it's a trust fall withyourself when you're listening
(21:12):
to your gut.
But once you start collectingevidence that you know like you
know like you know, then you'llbe more inclined to visit your
friendly intuition more oftenand say yes where before you
would have said no to protectyourself or for safety, or say
no where you would have beforesaid yes.
Either way, it works for all ofit, especially for my fellow
(21:34):
recovering people pleasers outthere.
I see you.
I trust the part of me thatalways knows, anchoring yourself
in the thought or the idea thatthere is a part of you that has
your back, that knows whereyou're going, that has your best
interest at heart.
That's the person you want tobe tapping into, not the part
(21:55):
that wants to please or followwhat someone else has done, or
copy someone whose life iswildly different from yours.
Those voices don't know youlike you know you.
You know.
I trust the part of me thatalways knows.
Okay, steph, but what if I trustmy gut and it doesn't work out?
(22:17):
Did it not work out, though?
I'm going to challenge you onthat with love, because maybe it
didn't work out the way youthought it would, but maybe,
just maybe, you learned what youneeded to learn in order to
take the next step.
Maybe what you wanted isdifferent from what you needed.
(22:38):
If you're caught in the placeof wondering why didn't it turn
out the way I thought it would,I challenge you to just pause,
take a step back and think aboutwhat did I learn here, like
what's the lesson, what's thegem that's got to come out of
not getting it right or gettingwhat you wanted?
What was the gift that you gotthat wasn't on the registry?
(23:01):
I trust that a part of mealways knows.
So here's the truth.
Your higher self isn't amystery to solve or a version of
you that shows up once you'vedone the work.
It's already there.
Okay, it's the part of you thatwhispers instead of shouts,
(23:23):
that guides you instead ofpushing you, that loves you
without conditions.
And when you begin tuning inand building a relationship with
that version of you, life getslighter.
Not because everything's perfect, but because you stop
abandoning yourself.
You start living from a placeof truth, alignment and deep
(23:47):
inner trust, and the more youchoose to listen, the stronger
that connection becomes.
It's like having 10 aces upyour sleeve and you don't need
to become someone new.
You just need to remember whoyou've always been.
And let me tell you thatversion of you Total badass,
total powerhouse.
(24:07):
And just like that, you've gota Paca Fola Mojo From the heart
of my bottom.
My friends, thanks and mercifor tuning in to Paca Fola Mojo.
And if this hits home for you,share it with a friend who needs
the reminder.
And remember you don't need aperfect plan.
(24:33):
You need a little more trust inyourself.
So until next time, stay classy, stay kind and put love in
everything you do.
See you next time.
Ciao.
For now, mwah.
hello, hello and welcome back to pocket full of
mojo, the podcast that's partpep talk, part tough love and
all about getting your sparkleback without losing your sanity.
We're calling out the BS,ditching the burnout and making
personal growth feel more like adance party than a guilt trip.
So grab your coffee or yourcrown and let's get that mojo
(00:35):
working.
Today we're talking about gutinstincts, why they matter, why
we ignore them and how tuninginto your gut is actually a
doorway to building a better,more loving relationship with
your fine self.
I'm also bringing back themantra of the week.
So, without further ado, let'sdial into that mojo and get
(00:59):
tuned in, tapped in and turnedon.
Hey, hey, hey, mojo-ino,welcome back to Pocketful of
Mojo, your go-to space forgetting real, getting clear and
getting in touch with a versionof you that actually feels like
you.
If you're new here, I'm Steph.
(01:20):
I'm your Mojo Maven.
I'm here to help you navigatethe messy bits between where you
are and where you're going, sothat you can live a life you
love and love the life you live.
Quick reminder I'm not atherapist, I'm not a
psychologist.
I'm a flawed human and arecovering people pleaser.
So if you fall into either ofthose categories.
(01:41):
You're right at home and I'm soglad each and every one of you
are here today.
Because number one, it's my50th episode and I'm so happy
and proud and pumped that over ayear later the mojo is still
a-flowing.
And two, we're diving intosomething I'm super passionate
(02:02):
about that doesn't just guideyour decisions, it transforms
your whole relationship withyourself.
I think I'm really ontosomething in a good way.
So today we're talking abouttrusting your gut, that little
voice, that quiet, little nudge,that full body, yes or no that
we feel before our monkey brainscan explain it.
(02:25):
But here's the thing most of usdon't trust it.
We leave it on red, we hit mute.
We've been trained to overrideit or to question it or silence
it, and in the process we loseconnection with ourselves.
So in this episode it's goingto be about more than just
intuition.
It's about rebuilding theself-trust, the how to listen to
(02:49):
your own wisdom, how to chooseyourself over and over, until
that just becomes your normal.
So let's get into it.
So we're talking about trustingyour gut.
So now I know that phrase getstossed around a lot just trust
your gut, like it's always easy,like it's super obvious, like
someone's banging us over thehead with the answer.
(03:10):
But for many of us, especiallyrecovering people pleasers or
overthinkers or perfectioniststhat gut feeling can feel fuzzy
or confusing or just simplyburied under layers of doubt or
fear or programming, not tomention, it can get trapped in
the filter of what other peoplethink, ew.
(03:31):
So today I want to draw a linkbetween trusting your gut and
building a loving relationshipwith yourself, because they're
deeply connected and you can'ttrust your gut if you don't know
yourself and you can't knowyourself if you never listen.
So let's unpack it.
When I think about the topic oftrusting your gut, or intuition,
(03:51):
I'm reminded of the time when Iwas back in France and fresh
out of the pandemic and startingmy first podcast.
It was called Coffee with aCanadian and it was short-lived,
but it was super cute.
Called Coffee with a Canadianand it was short-lived, but it
was super cute, and I spentweeks preparing for the launch.
(04:12):
It had kind of been born out ofthe pandemic and when you have
nothing else to do, you put pento paper and you start making a
plan and the idea had foreverbeen on my vision board and I
thought, well, I got the time todo this.
I don't really have any hobbiesto speak of.
Let's do this.
And so I crowdfunded for theequipment and I taught myself
how to use it from scratch and Iresearched the niche and I
(04:32):
programmed the format and everyday got closer to going live.
Man, it was exciting.
I was doing the thing, I waspodcasting.
It was like nobody came to stopme and this was going to be my
thing.
I was ready to start small andgrow big.
I was taking marketing classesand learning about promotion and
editing and learning all aboutsound editing and all about the
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podcast world, and I had ayear's worth of guests lined up.
I had a perfect co-host shoutout to my girl, edie a fantastic
premise and I was so passionateabout making this work and
making this my next big thing.
And yet, no matter how hard Iworked and how committed I was,
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I kept coming across thesehiccups that didn't make sense.
Like we would be recording andlike 45 minutes into the session
I would see that it stoppedrecording after 16 minutes.
Like that happened at leasttwice.
And I was editing one night andmy husband at the time just
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happened to spill a glass ofwine on my laptop Awesome.
So cue the two week delay as Iwaited for my new laptop to
arrive, and I would go to uploadan episode and there would be a
glitch on the platform and Iwould lose all my progress, or
I'd be editing and get stuck anddo all the right
troubleshooting.
I would watch all the videosand do all the right things in
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the right order and it stillwouldn't do what it was supposed
to do.
Now in my mind I was writingthis all off.
Well, it's normal that abeginner, you know this stuff
would happen.
I just need to work harder.
But there was a voiceunderneath that that was telling
me to listen harder.
I couldn't quite put my fingeron it, but I definitely ignore
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that voice.
Then I was out and about with afriend of mine and he asked me
how the podcast was coming alongand I said well, it's going
well.
Then I was out and about with afriend of mine and he asked me
how the podcast was coming alongand I said well, it's going
well.
And I noticed that I said thatwith some hesitation, which
isn't at all like me or how Ithought of myself thinking about
it.
I thought that I was reallyexcited about it.
It was pumped and it was goingwell.
And then I continued, I pulledon that thread and I followed
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Mike at this time and I sharedwith him.
I said I feel like something isholding me back, all of these
hiccups, all of these randomthings that should work, but
don't, and I don't know what itis.
I feel like somebody's, likegrabbing the back of my shirt
and pulling me back and sayinguh-uh, not so fast.
And I couldn't quite wrap myhead around it and I didn't have
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the answer, but I threw it outthere anyway and it was him that
called it out.
He said well, your gut's tryingto tell you something.
You might want to meditate onit and see what comes up.
And then the next week rolledaround and I was just getting
ready, after so muchtroubleshooting and extra work
and struggle, to upload thethird episode.
I woke up to the phone callthat changed my life.
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My mom had taken a nap andnever woke up.
My mom had died and, just likethat, the center of my universe,
my North Star, my mom, hadpassed away.
So what does this have to dowith anything?
Well, I tell you, my view andI'm resolved in this is that the
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universe, or God or Source ormy higher power was trying to
tell me not to get too ahead ofmyself that something else was
on the way, because I think ofmy gut or my intuition like this
.
I believe that we all have ahigher self.
It's not something you earn orsomething that you find after
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enough yoga classes orjournaling prompts.
It's been with you since theday you were born Quiet, steady,
wise and deeply loving.
This part of you knowseverything you've been through,
every mistake, every messychapter, every win, every
heartbreak, and still sees youas whole, worthy and wildly
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capable.
This higher self is the realyou, the deep down you, the
version of you, untouched byfear, self-doubt or the need to
prove anything to anyone.
It's the you.
Beneath all the noise, beneathwhat you were taught to believe,
beneath the pressure to have itall together, beneath the masks
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you wear to fit in, it knowswhat lights you up.
It sees the truth of who youare and who you're meant to be,
and it's always trying to guideyou there, gently, patiently,
without judgment, no need toapologize.
So when you build a relationshipwith your higher self, life
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gets clearer.
You start making choices thatfeel right in your skin, in your
bones, even if they don't makesense on paper.
You feel less lost, lessfrantic, like you're grasping at
things just to feel okay.
And the more you do this, themore you trust yourself.
You recover faster, you say nomore easily and you start to
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glow, not because you've becomesomeone new, but because you
finally started listening to theyou that's been there all along
.
It's less of a transformationand more of a reveal, and don't
get it twisted Having a powerfulrelationship with yourself it
doesn't mean you're perfect.
It means that you're anchored.
Think of it that way Like youdon't abandon yourself when
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things get hard.
Because you have that bond, youdon't shame yourself for
slipping.
You become your own safe space,like your own hype squad, your
own healer, your own wise bestfriend.
And that doesn't replace thepeople in your life that hold
those roles, but you can includeyourself in the mix and from
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that place, everything else inyour life gets better your
energy, your relationships, yourpurpose, your joy.
And it's not about beingspiritual or getting it right.
It's about getting quiet enoughto hear the part of you that
already knows the way andchoosing to trust it more often.
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Go ahead, see what happens.
What if it was something reallygreat.
Now, I get this might be a lotfor some people to digest and
it's a bit woo-woo.
If this isn't your typicalsystem of thinking, and I get
that.
And, as always, this podcast ishere for you to take what
serves you and leave the rest.
If this isn't your jam, that'stotally fine part.
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In particular, I want you tojust imagine what it would be
like to have a full-timecheerleader, an unconditional
supporter, a faith provider or aconstant source of empowerment,
mojo, inner peace, flow andclarity right there in your
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pocket.
You don't have to pick up thephone, you don't have to send an
email, it's just with you.
You'd want to be friends, right?
Well, my darling, that personis you and basically what Mojo
is, and it's all there to helpyou build a better relationship
with your higher self, which isreally yourself.
See how that kind of comestogether, because that higher
self will always guide you towhat you need, even if it's not
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what you want, sorry, not sorry.
Higher power knows best.
So let's have a look at what itlooks like to trust your gut.
Trusting your gut doesn'talways look like lightning bolts
or aha moments or hugerevelations.
Most often, a true eurekamoment looks like simply pausing
before you say yes to somethingthat doesn't feel right.
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Or maybe it's feeling the ickand then taking action by
leaving that conversation orrelationship or situation
because it's draining you.
It sure as hell isn't liftingyou up.
Or maybe you're at the pointwhere you're tired of feeling
tired, so you choose rest overhustle, even when the world says
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go harder.
Or maybe it's taking on thetask of getting good at making
decisions that feel aligned,even if they don't make sense on
paper or if it's not the kindof decision that you've made in
the past.
Because, let's be real, how'sthat working out for you so far?
We could all use a littletune-up, because your gut, your
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intuition, it's subtle, it'squiet.
Sometimes it's just a whisper,or maybe tightness in your chest
, or that nagging thought thatkeeps showing up even when you
try to ignore it, Becauselistening to that whisper, that
is a radical act of self respect.
So let's go deeper, becausewhen you start to listen up to
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your gut, when you trust it, youstart to experience some
powerful shifts.
But a shift means that you'recoming from somewhere and going
to something else.
So let's look at what's waitingfor you on the other side.
Let's have a look at what itfeels like.
So, when you trust your gut,some of the symptoms may include
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relief, that deep exhale justto let you breathe when you made
a choice that honors you.
There's like a little bit morespace, and things that were
blurry before bring you clarity.
There's less back and forth,there's fewer pros and con lists
, there's more confidence inyour decisions, and I don't know
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how to explain it, but it'sjust like there's this new space
.
There's this new absence ofanxiety and stress which makes
you feel at peace of anxiety andstress, which makes you feel at
peace Even when things areuncertain, because there's this
inner steadiness that sayswhatever what I've got me, I've
got this.
I've made hard decisions before, I've got people in my corner
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that have got my back, but atthe end of the day, I know I can
figure this out and over time Igot to tell you it really
starts to feel like freedom,because you're no longer living
for everyone else's approval.
It's like I got so much freetime and this is a really good
indicator that you're inalignment with your truth.
Doesn't that sound amazing?
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Because here's the thing Everytime you listen to your gut,
you're sending yourself amessage.
You're saying I trust you Thinkabout how good it feels to hear
that and remember that everytime you override it, you're
saying I don't think you knowwhat's best.
So if you've ever feltdisconnected from yourself or
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unsure, insecure, resentful orconstantly second-guessing or
maybe even stuck, this is whereyou start.
You build trust with yourselfthe same way you'd build it with
a friend by listening, byshowing up, by keeping your word
.
You say you're going to workout every morning at 6 am.
Then show yourself the respectof getting up and working out at
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6am.
I hate that example.
How about another example?
You promised yourself one houra week dedicated for just you
time, whether that's bingingGrey's Anatomy or getting a
pedicure or whatever that is foryou Fucking pedicure, stop it.
With that reference.
You build trust with yourselfthe same way you'd build it with
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a friend by listening, byshowing up, by keeping your word
.
And the more you do that, themore you start to like yourself.
And the more you start to likeyourself, the more you start to
believe in yourself, the moreyou start to love yourself.
Because if you think about itlike, how do you treat someone
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that you know really well, youprobably show them some respect,
some courtesy.
You're thoughtful and you'reintentional with how you act
towards them, right, maybe youeven show them love from time to
time.
Now, how do you show up foryourself?
Do you show yourself the samelove, consideration, respect?
And if this answer is, you canstart from where you are,
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because when you know yourself,really know yourself, you make
different choices.
You stop abandoning yourself tomake other people comfortable,
you stop nurturing a side of youthat isn't in alignment with
your goals and your dreams, youstop seeking permission, you
start living your life onpurpose and get out of rinse and
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repeat Now, I didn't sayperfectly, I said on purpose.
We are allowed to be flawedhumans who make mistakes.
That is all part of the circusof being alive.
No one said we had to give allof our best stuff away, and
there's no one at the end ofthis given out gold stars.
Life is about service andexperience, and you, my friend,
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are worthy of the best.
So let's dabble in the ideathat treating ourselves better
in the name of building a betterrelationship, and see how our
intuition and instincts can beadded to this toolbox of
self-love.
And there's so many benefits tobuilding a better relationship
with yourself, strongerboundaries and you can do this
now because you know what's okaywith you and what's not.
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And when I say strongerboundaries, I'm totally leaving
space for the reality that yourboundaries might not even be in
place yet, and that's okay.
Totally been there like fiveminutes ago, and boundaries ebb
and flow and change, and there'sa podcast episode about
boundaries out already.
So I invite you to check thatout if you're in more of the
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starting blocks place with whenit comes to boundaries.
But it'll also bring youhealthier relationships because
you're not trying to prove yourworth or chase validation.
You're going to learn realquick who's in it for you and
who's in it for what you can dofor them once you establish a
more notable level ofself-respect and the ability to
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say yes to what works and no towhat doesn't, because you're not
a yes machine.
And when that shift happens,your people will rise to the top
of the crop, not to mention themore confidence that you're
going to be strutting aroundwith because you're actually
trusting your own judgment andyou're putting yourself in the
right rooms where you can be themost you and it's really the
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coolest one, because being ableto take decisive action starts
to feel like a superpower, andwhen this part of the
transformation actually startsto happen, it may actually take
you aback.
So enjoy that moment, celebratehow far you've come from the
person who used to need a riskanalysis report before every
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decision.
And this new feeling.
That's freedom, that'sconfidence and it's trust that
you've got your own back and,quite frankly, life becomes more
easy because you're not at warwith yourself anymore, because
there's enough turmoil going onin the world that you don't need
to be starting World War III inyour own damn head every time a
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decision needs to be made.
No more push-pull, no morehemming and hawing or just going
with the flow.
You're doing things with easenow, with strength and with
clarity, and you become a safeplace to land for yourself, and
that changes everything.
So if you're feelingdisconnected or unsure right now
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and you don't know what yourgut is saying or if you can
trust it, I want to remind youof this You're not broken,
you're just out of practice.
The relationship that you havewith yourself.
It can be rebuilt.
I've done it a few times.
It starts with one choice onepause, one moment of tuning in.
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Let it be messy, let it be slow, but let it be honest.
So now we're going to revisit anold feature of the podcast, the
weekly mantra.
You can take this with you andput it in your pocket and
reference it whenever you feelthe pull of your intuition but
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you're not quite sure how tonavigate it.
So our mantra this week is Itrust the part of me that always
knows.
Friend, you know, and trust canbe hard, but trust is built not
when things are easy, but whenthings are hard.
So it's a trust fall withyourself when you're listening
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to your gut.
But once you start collectingevidence that you know like you
know like you know, then you'llbe more inclined to visit your
friendly intuition more oftenand say yes where before you
would have said no to protectyourself or for safety, or say
no where you would have beforesaid yes.
Either way, it works for all ofit, especially for my fellow
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recovering people pleasers outthere.
I see you.
I trust the part of me thatalways knows, anchoring yourself
in the thought or the idea thatthere is a part of you that has
your back, that knows whereyou're going, that has your best
interest at heart.
That's the person you want tobe tapping into, not the part
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that wants to please or followwhat someone else has done, or
copy someone whose life iswildly different from yours.
Those voices don't know youlike you know you.
You know.
I trust the part of me thatalways knows.
Okay, steph, but what if I trustmy gut and it doesn't work out?
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Did it not work out, though?
I'm going to challenge you onthat with love, because maybe it
didn't work out the way youthought it would, but maybe,
just maybe, you learned what youneeded to learn in order to
take the next step.
Maybe what you wanted isdifferent from what you needed.
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If you're caught in the placeof wondering why didn't it turn
out the way I thought it would,I challenge you to just pause,
take a step back and think aboutwhat did I learn here, like
what's the lesson, what's thegem that's got to come out of
not getting it right or gettingwhat you wanted?
What was the gift that you gotthat wasn't on the registry?
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I trust that a part of mealways knows.
So here's the truth.
Your higher self isn't amystery to solve or a version of
you that shows up once you'vedone the work.
It's already there.
Okay, it's the part of you thatwhispers instead of shouts,
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that guides you instead ofpushing you, that loves you
without conditions.
And when you begin tuning inand building a relationship with
that version of you, life getslighter.
Not because everything's perfect, but because you stop
abandoning yourself.
You start living from a placeof truth, alignment and deep
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inner trust, and the more youchoose to listen, the stronger
that connection becomes.
It's like having 10 aces upyour sleeve and you don't need
to become someone new.
You just need to remember whoyou've always been.
And let me tell you thatversion of you Total badass,
total powerhouse.
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And just like that, you've gota Paca Fola Mojo From the heart
of my bottom.
My friends, thanks and mercifor tuning in to Paca Fola Mojo.
And if this hits home for you,share it with a friend who needs
the reminder.
And remember you don't need aperfect plan.
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You need a little more trust inyourself.
So until next time, stay classy, stay kind and put love in
everything you do.
See you next time.
Ciao.
For now, mwah.
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