August 14, 2025 • 16 mins
Ever find yourself saying yes when every cell in your body is screaming no? That moment—when your gut says one thing but your mouth betrays you—is exactly where your power leaks away. As recovering people-pleasers, we've mastered the art of negotiating our non-negotiables to keep everyone happy, everyone except ourselves.
What if your exhaustion, resentment, and that fantasy about escaping to a remote island with some goats isn't actually random? It's the direct result of repeatedly compromising on the boundaries that protect your energy, values, and wellbeing. These aren't just preferences or nice-to-haves—they're the foundation that allows you to function, thrive, and feel like yourself.
The four-step Mojo Method shared in this episode offers a practical roadmap to finally make your non-negotiables actually non-negotiable. You'll learn why your brain has been wired to abandon yourself before others can abandon you, how to recognize the exact moment you start to negotiate (that's your red flag!), and concrete strategies to hold firm even when it feels uncomfortable. Through Maya's story, you'll see how one well-placed boundary can transform not just your life but empower those around you.
Remember: your needs are not up for debate. You're not hard to love for having them—you're powerful for honoring them. Whether your non-negotiable is eight hours of sleep, no work on weekends, or being spoken to with respect, this episode is your permission slip to protect what matters. Your future self will thank you for listening.
Share this episode with your people-pleasing bestie, leave a five-star review, and don't forget to check out Mojo gummies—a natural alternative to Adderall for focus and productivity, with 15% off through the link in our show notes.
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Speaker 1 (00:11):
Hey, hey, welcome back to Pocketful of Mojo, the
podcast that hands your powerback in bite-sized, bold little
doses of truth.
I'm your host, I'm Steph theMojo Maven, and today we're
coming in hot with a little loveand slap for all my recovering
people pleasers, boundary blursand default yes-sayers out there
(00:33):
.
Okay, maybe not a slap,something less violent.
Okay, instead, I'm going tohold your hand when I say this,
because you know, listen, babes,if you're going to keep
negotiating your non-negotiables, they're not non-negotiable,
and that, my friend, is whyyou're feeling resentful,
exhausted and just a little tooclose to the edge of burnout.
(00:54):
So today we're diving intothose non-negotiables and what
they actually are.
We're going to look at why wekeep compromising them and how
to recognize the exact amountyou're doing it, which is the
game changer move that you'regoing to want to stick around
for, and, most importantly, howto stop.
Stop the negotiating, even whenit's uncomfortable.
(01:18):
In fact, you're going to findout that if it's uncomfortable,
then you're doing it right.
This is the episode that yourfuture self will thank you for.
We're going to unpack all thisand more.
So let's get into it.
Let's get tuned in, tapped inand turned on.
(01:40):
Okay.
So what are thesenon-negotiables Like?
Really, we should clear it allup, because non-negotiables are
the boundaries that protectthese key things, the pillars,
the anchors and I'm talkingabout the energy, your values
and your well-being, becausethese aren't preferences, this
isn't, they're not oh, it wouldbe nice ideas.
(02:03):
These are lines that you drawin the sand and say this is what
I need to function, this iswhat I need to thrive and this
is what I need to feel likemyself, and it'll look different
for everybody, but it mayinclude something like I need my
eight hours of sleep, I don'tlend money to friends, no dice.
Or a no phone zone at thedinner table, or not working on
(02:25):
weekends.
Being spoken to with respectcan be behavioral in how you
expect people to treat you, ormaybe your alone time is really
sacred, or you've gone so far asto commit to yourself that
saying no is a guilt-free zone.
Now here's the kicker, thoughPeople pleasers.
We often know what ournon-negotiables are, but we
(02:46):
betray them because we prefer tokeep the harmony we want to be
easy to love.
We love people's approval.
So we take our boundaries andthen we soften them and we blur
the definitions as it may workout better for everybody and we
explain them and we modify thembased on our audience, we
(03:06):
negotiate them and then we'resitting there wondering why
we're drained and snappy andsuddenly fantasizing about
burning it all down and quittingeverything and moving to a
remote island with some goats.
And we trick ourselves and wewonder how did I get here?
And we'd rather wonder what'sup or accuse a probable, yet
(03:29):
fully fictional, culprit beforeadmitting to ourselves that
we've gone back on our own word.
And it's funny the stories thatwe tell ourselves, am I right?
Like it's way easier to lookout the window and blame someone
out there than to look in themirror.
So you want to watch out forthat and if you're like me, it
takes a kick in the face beforewe even dare to have our own
(03:53):
non-negotiables.
Seriously, if you'd asked mefive years ago what my
non-negotiables were, I'dprobably come up with something
as deep and profound as like, nopineapple on my pizza and no
decaf Not exactly groundbreakingself-advocacy there.
I was so fine with whateverthat I had to do a lot of
(04:14):
introspection to figure out whatmy core tenets even were.
And thank goodness I did, and Iwant to keep learning about
what those things are andnurture them and evolve them as
I keep learning to get better atit.
So let's dig up the roots ofthis weed of sacrifice and ask
the question why do we keepcompromising?
Let's go a little deeper.
(04:36):
Why do we betray ournon-negotiables in the first
place?
Here's why we do this becausewe're taught that our needs are
inconvenient, and then we justnever unlearned that nonsense
and we believe that keeping thepeace is more important than
keeping our peace, or that it'sthe same thing.
And it's totally not the samething.
(04:58):
Because we fear being calleddifficult, selfish or too much.
So we confuse boundaries withrejection, and we know how
rejection feels and we do notlike.
So we no do.
We say yes to everything?
Well, at least we used to.
Because, as we know, our brainis wired for safety and
(05:20):
connection.
When you learned, consciously ornot, that honoring your own
needs risked disconnection, yournervous system came up with
this really cool idea to abandonyourself in lieu of being
abandoned.
Good one brain.
Because guess what?
Your brain doesn't care if it'shealthy.
It cares if it's predictable.
So if you've been negotiatingyour non-negotiables for years,
(05:41):
it's not because you're weak,it's because your brain
predictable.
So if you've been negotiatingyour non-negotiables for years.
It's not because you're weak,it's because your brain thought
it was keeping you safe.
But if you're interested intrying something new and writing
your priorities in stone andnot invisible ink, then there's
a moment you need to watch outfor.
So we're going to learn to getgood at spotting the moment you
(06:03):
start to negotiate.
Then we can call flag on theplay and course correct along
the way.
So let's talk about the momentthat you start to slide.
You want to listen for it andit often sounds like ah, it's
just one weekend, I'll rest nextweek, or I'll say yes, this
time.
It's just easier thanexplaining Okay.
Or maybe I know I need spaceright now, but they really need
(06:27):
me.
It's that split secondhesitation, when your gut says
no but your mouth says sure.
That's your red flag.
And here's what I want you toknow Every time you honor a
non-negotiable, you're teachingyour nervous system.
I got me.
Now You're creating that safety, even if it's awkward, even if
(06:49):
it disappoints someone, guesswhat.
Give it five minutes, they'llbe fine, because it's also not
your job to keep other peoplecomfortable, especially if it's
at your own expense.
Want me to say that again, itis not your job to keep other
people comfortable at your ownexpense, and it doesn't get you
(07:09):
a gold star.
So how do we stop the slide?
Well, how do we make ournon-negotiables actually
non-negotiable?
Well, this is why you showed uphere today.
So, to get to the goods, I gotthem just for you.
This is your four-step mojomethod on how to nail down your
non-negotiables.
Number one you gotta to getfreaking clear.
(07:32):
Write them down on paper, inpen, and then say it out loud
and keep writing it andrewriting it, saying it and
re-saying it until it feels likeit.
You'll get a little spark,you'll feel the shift and you'll
know not just what they are butwhy they matter.
So it's one thing to say Idon't answer emails after 6 pm.
(07:54):
But to make it super effective,you want to say because I value
rest and connection and beingfully present at home, I don't
answer emails after 6 pm.
And combining those twotogether is the actual
difference between fake it tillyou make it and the real
transformational change beingrooted in the why is always the
(08:17):
secret sauce to change.
You can write that down.
Number two say them before youneed them.
Boundaries are not fire alarms,they're foundations.
And when you know what yournon-negotiables are.
You create the environment forthem to be respected and honored
and upheld.
You don't wait until you'repissed off.
(08:37):
Let people know in calm andproductive ways, like when
you're working with a colleagueor a client.
You can be upfront, like termsand conditions.
Hey, I noticed you sent me anemail last night around eight.
Just want to let you know andthis is something I'm committed
to for my own wellbeing is thatI don't respond to emails after
six.
So what you can do is noticethat when you're pissed off and
(09:02):
take that as an indicator thatthis might be a new boundary
that needs your attention andreinforcement and support.
Moving on to number three Now,remember when I say this one is
that I didn't say it would beeasy.
I did say it would be worth it.
So here it is.
Number three you got to letdiscomfort be part of the
process.
Ew, gross, right, okay, I know,but paired with awareness,
(09:26):
you're going to start to see thediscomfort as a cue and not a
permanent state, because whenyou set a boundary and trust and
, believe me, people are goingto test them, and what's
different this time is thatyou're going to feel weird
enforcing them and so it doesn'tmean it's wrong.
It actually means that it'sworking Because you're
(09:47):
unlearning a lifetime ofover-functioning.
Of course it's going.
It actually means that it'sworking Because you're
unlearning a lifetime ofover-functioning.
Of course it's going to feellike friction, but guess what
friction makes Fire growth power.
And on the other side offriction is alignment.
Let's wrap it up with numberfour.
Use the three breath rule.
Before you say yes to anything,just pause, inhale, exhale and
(10:11):
ask does this honor mynon-negotiables?
Is this a yes from my body orfrom my fear?
Then you can answer.
I want to tell you a story aboutMaya.
Now.
Maya used to be the go-toperson at work, always available
, always agreeable, total peach.
Everyone loved her.
(10:32):
They probably still do.
She's still alive, anyway.
She was a subject matter expertin pretty much everything and
it felt like she was the engineof the company, and rightfully
so.
She'd been around a long timeand she'd been in the trenches.
She'd worked every job andbasically trained half of her
colleagues, and she worked withthose people every day.
(10:53):
But when Maya and I met, she wastired and resentful and, like
she shared with me, the tippingpoint for her was that she found
herself snapping at her dog forno reason.
Point for her was that shefound herself snapping at her
dog for no reason.
Like that was it.
She caught herself andsomething had to give and
snapping at the dog wasunacceptable.
So together we went through herday to day and she made some
(11:16):
decisions around what hernon-negotiables could be that
would help her turn the tides sothat she could get her mojo
back on track.
So we started really small,don't need to burn it all down.
But the one question I askedMaya was if you had one
non-negotiable, what would bethe one that would change the
game the most for you, based onwhat you're trying to do and
(11:38):
where you're trying to go?
So Maya wanted.
Her needs included moredowntime, more rest and more
balance.
So Maya's non-negotiable thatshe came up with was no work
calls.
After five period, five o'clock,she was out the door and her
non-work life began.
So at first she reallystruggled with this.
(11:59):
Having a hard line on the timeshe put in at work made her seem
lazy or like she wasn't therefor the team and for the people
who always relied on Maya well,for everything.
They had to learn a new normal.
So it was totallyunderstandable that her team
felt ignored and really felt herabsence now that she wasn't
(12:20):
like on call 24-7 like a surgeonand she was not making a
surgeon wage, which kind ofticked her off too.
So that really helped motivateher in upholding her new
boundary.
So for her existing team, shehelped them navigate this shift
by letting them know Without along and drawn out explanation
(12:40):
she didn't have a PowerPoint oranything, but she just let them
know that she wouldn't beavailable outside work hours to
put out the fires.
Instead, she directed hersupervisors to all the tools and
phone numbers necessary tosolve whatever problems came up
when she wasn't there.
Her tagline was call the peoplewho are on the clock.
(13:00):
And when those thoughts creptin that her team thought she was
lazy or that she wasn't pullingher weight.
No one was actually sayingthese things about her absence.
They were invented by herimagination and this was her
anxiety talking.
There wasn't a single fact orevidence that people thought she
was lazy or not a team player.
(13:20):
In fact, her team respondedactually really well to this new
boundary and at first, yeah,they totally called after five.
But here's what happened whenshe held the line, she got
better sleep, the team steppedup, her creativity came back and
, most importantly, she reallystarted trusting herself again.
And no one ever snapped at thedog, not even one more time.
(13:42):
And that's what happens whenyou stop negotiating with
yourself and guess what happenedwhen she slipped or made an
exception All the benefits ofgood sleep, empowered teammates
and having your creativity onfull blast it all fed her
resiliency to get back on trackfaster.
It didn't all go away.
So set a boundary, hold theline, stand up for yourself and
(14:06):
what's important to you.
In time and with practice, thatick will go away and you will
continue to show up stronger andclear and fully in your mojo,
just as you were meant to be.
Now let's lock it in.
Here's a little mantra for theweek my needs are not up for
(14:27):
debate.
I don't shrink to fit.
I rise to meet myself.
Say it again Let it land.
My needs are not up for debate.
I don't shrink to fit.
I rise to meet myself.
Well, that was a full-onboundary boot camp and soul
(14:48):
revival all in one nespa.
So if this episode litsomething up for you, then hey,
share it with yourpeople-pleasing bestie.
They're probably ready to stopbreaking their own rules too,
and maybe this is just the thingthat they need to level up and
you can be the Santa Claus thatshows them the way.
Just the thing that they needto level up and you can be the
(15:10):
Santa Claus that shows them theway.
So before you hop on to yournext podcast, make sure to
follow this one.
Leave that five star review.
It helps more than you know wegot.
To get the mojo out there.
I need your help and definitelytag me at most definitely on
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(15:30):
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There's a link in the shownotes with 15% off and all the
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And remember you're not hard tolove for having needs.
(15:51):
You're powerful for honoringthem.
So stop negotiating thosenon-negotiables, because your
mojo is worth protecting.
Tune in next week when weexplore the comfort zone and
debate whether it's friend orfoe and the role that it plays
in sustaining your mojo.
Cool right, super importantepisode, because if you know how
(16:13):
to get mojo but struggle tokeep it in your pocket at all
times.
This will be a must.
Listen, you hear me, so we'llsee you next time.
Stay clear, stay bold and keepthose pockets full of mojo.
Ciao for now.
Love you, bye.
Hey, hey, welcome back to Pocketful of Mojo, the
podcast that hands your powerback in bite-sized, bold little
doses of truth.
I'm your host, I'm Steph theMojo Maven, and today we're
coming in hot with a little loveand slap for all my recovering
people pleasers, boundary blursand default yes-sayers out there
(00:33):
.
Okay, maybe not a slap,something less violent.
Okay, instead, I'm going tohold your hand when I say this,
because you know, listen, babes,if you're going to keep
negotiating your non-negotiables, they're not non-negotiable,
and that, my friend, is whyyou're feeling resentful,
exhausted and just a little tooclose to the edge of burnout.
(00:54):
So today we're diving intothose non-negotiables and what
they actually are.
We're going to look at why wekeep compromising them and how
to recognize the exact amountyou're doing it, which is the
game changer move that you'regoing to want to stick around
for, and, most importantly, howto stop.
Stop the negotiating, even whenit's uncomfortable.
(01:18):
In fact, you're going to findout that if it's uncomfortable,
then you're doing it right.
This is the episode that yourfuture self will thank you for.
We're going to unpack all thisand more.
So let's get into it.
Let's get tuned in, tapped inand turned on.
(01:40):
Okay.
So what are thesenon-negotiables Like?
Really, we should clear it allup, because non-negotiables are
the boundaries that protectthese key things, the pillars,
the anchors and I'm talkingabout the energy, your values
and your well-being, becausethese aren't preferences, this
isn't, they're not oh, it wouldbe nice ideas.
(02:03):
These are lines that you drawin the sand and say this is what
I need to function, this iswhat I need to thrive and this
is what I need to feel likemyself, and it'll look different
for everybody, but it mayinclude something like I need my
eight hours of sleep, I don'tlend money to friends, no dice.
Or a no phone zone at thedinner table, or not working on
(02:25):
weekends.
Being spoken to with respectcan be behavioral in how you
expect people to treat you, ormaybe your alone time is really
sacred, or you've gone so far asto commit to yourself that
saying no is a guilt-free zone.
Now here's the kicker, thoughPeople pleasers.
We often know what ournon-negotiables are, but we
(02:46):
betray them because we prefer tokeep the harmony we want to be
easy to love.
We love people's approval.
So we take our boundaries andthen we soften them and we blur
the definitions as it may workout better for everybody and we
explain them and we modify thembased on our audience, we
(03:06):
negotiate them and then we'resitting there wondering why
we're drained and snappy andsuddenly fantasizing about
burning it all down and quittingeverything and moving to a
remote island with some goats.
And we trick ourselves and wewonder how did I get here?
And we'd rather wonder what'sup or accuse a probable, yet
(03:29):
fully fictional, culprit beforeadmitting to ourselves that
we've gone back on our own word.
And it's funny the stories thatwe tell ourselves, am I right?
Like it's way easier to lookout the window and blame someone
out there than to look in themirror.
So you want to watch out forthat and if you're like me, it
takes a kick in the face beforewe even dare to have our own
(03:53):
non-negotiables.
Seriously, if you'd asked mefive years ago what my
non-negotiables were, I'dprobably come up with something
as deep and profound as like, nopineapple on my pizza and no
decaf Not exactly groundbreakingself-advocacy there.
I was so fine with whateverthat I had to do a lot of
(04:14):
introspection to figure out whatmy core tenets even were.
And thank goodness I did, and Iwant to keep learning about
what those things are andnurture them and evolve them as
I keep learning to get better atit.
So let's dig up the roots ofthis weed of sacrifice and ask
the question why do we keepcompromising?
Let's go a little deeper.
(04:36):
Why do we betray ournon-negotiables in the first
place?
Here's why we do this becausewe're taught that our needs are
inconvenient, and then we justnever unlearned that nonsense
and we believe that keeping thepeace is more important than
keeping our peace, or that it'sthe same thing.
And it's totally not the samething.
(04:58):
Because we fear being calleddifficult, selfish or too much.
So we confuse boundaries withrejection, and we know how
rejection feels and we do notlike.
So we no do.
We say yes to everything?
Well, at least we used to.
Because, as we know, our brainis wired for safety and
(05:20):
connection.
When you learned, consciously ornot, that honoring your own
needs risked disconnection, yournervous system came up with
this really cool idea to abandonyourself in lieu of being
abandoned.
Good one brain.
Because guess what?
Your brain doesn't care if it'shealthy.
It cares if it's predictable.
So if you've been negotiatingyour non-negotiables for years,
(05:41):
it's not because you're weak,it's because your brain
predictable.
So if you've been negotiatingyour non-negotiables for years.
It's not because you're weak,it's because your brain thought
it was keeping you safe.
But if you're interested intrying something new and writing
your priorities in stone andnot invisible ink, then there's
a moment you need to watch outfor.
So we're going to learn to getgood at spotting the moment you
(06:03):
start to negotiate.
Then we can call flag on theplay and course correct along
the way.
So let's talk about the momentthat you start to slide.
You want to listen for it andit often sounds like ah, it's
just one weekend, I'll rest nextweek, or I'll say yes, this
time.
It's just easier thanexplaining Okay.
Or maybe I know I need spaceright now, but they really need
(06:27):
me.
It's that split secondhesitation, when your gut says
no but your mouth says sure.
That's your red flag.
And here's what I want you toknow Every time you honor a
non-negotiable, you're teachingyour nervous system.
I got me.
Now You're creating that safety, even if it's awkward, even if
(06:49):
it disappoints someone, guesswhat.
Give it five minutes, they'llbe fine, because it's also not
your job to keep other peoplecomfortable, especially if it's
at your own expense.
Want me to say that again, itis not your job to keep other
people comfortable at your ownexpense, and it doesn't get you
(07:09):
a gold star.
So how do we stop the slide?
Well, how do we make ournon-negotiables actually
non-negotiable?
Well, this is why you showed uphere today.
So, to get to the goods, I gotthem just for you.
This is your four-step mojomethod on how to nail down your
non-negotiables.
Number one you gotta to getfreaking clear.
(07:32):
Write them down on paper, inpen, and then say it out loud
and keep writing it andrewriting it, saying it and
re-saying it until it feels likeit.
You'll get a little spark,you'll feel the shift and you'll
know not just what they are butwhy they matter.
So it's one thing to say Idon't answer emails after 6 pm.
(07:54):
But to make it super effective,you want to say because I value
rest and connection and beingfully present at home, I don't
answer emails after 6 pm.
And combining those twotogether is the actual
difference between fake it tillyou make it and the real
transformational change beingrooted in the why is always the
(08:17):
secret sauce to change.
You can write that down.
Number two say them before youneed them.
Boundaries are not fire alarms,they're foundations.
And when you know what yournon-negotiables are.
You create the environment forthem to be respected and honored
and upheld.
You don't wait until you'repissed off.
(08:37):
Let people know in calm andproductive ways, like when
you're working with a colleagueor a client.
You can be upfront, like termsand conditions.
Hey, I noticed you sent me anemail last night around eight.
Just want to let you know andthis is something I'm committed
to for my own wellbeing is thatI don't respond to emails after
six.
So what you can do is noticethat when you're pissed off and
(09:02):
take that as an indicator thatthis might be a new boundary
that needs your attention andreinforcement and support.
Moving on to number three Now,remember when I say this one is
that I didn't say it would beeasy.
I did say it would be worth it.
So here it is.
Number three you got to letdiscomfort be part of the
process.
Ew, gross, right, okay, I know,but paired with awareness,
(09:26):
you're going to start to see thediscomfort as a cue and not a
permanent state, because whenyou set a boundary and trust and
, believe me, people are goingto test them, and what's
different this time is thatyou're going to feel weird
enforcing them and so it doesn'tmean it's wrong.
It actually means that it'sworking Because you're
(09:47):
unlearning a lifetime ofover-functioning.
Of course it's going.
It actually means that it'sworking Because you're
unlearning a lifetime ofover-functioning.
Of course it's going to feellike friction, but guess what
friction makes Fire growth power.
And on the other side offriction is alignment.
Let's wrap it up with numberfour.
Use the three breath rule.
Before you say yes to anything,just pause, inhale, exhale and
(10:11):
ask does this honor mynon-negotiables?
Is this a yes from my body orfrom my fear?
Then you can answer.
I want to tell you a story aboutMaya.
Now.
Maya used to be the go-toperson at work, always available
, always agreeable, total peach.
Everyone loved her.
(10:32):
They probably still do.
She's still alive, anyway.
She was a subject matter expertin pretty much everything and
it felt like she was the engineof the company, and rightfully
so.
She'd been around a long timeand she'd been in the trenches.
She'd worked every job andbasically trained half of her
colleagues, and she worked withthose people every day.
(10:53):
But when Maya and I met, she wastired and resentful and, like
she shared with me, the tippingpoint for her was that she found
herself snapping at her dog forno reason.
Point for her was that shefound herself snapping at her
dog for no reason.
Like that was it.
She caught herself andsomething had to give and
snapping at the dog wasunacceptable.
So together we went through herday to day and she made some
(11:16):
decisions around what hernon-negotiables could be that
would help her turn the tides sothat she could get her mojo
back on track.
So we started really small,don't need to burn it all down.
But the one question I askedMaya was if you had one
non-negotiable, what would bethe one that would change the
game the most for you, based onwhat you're trying to do and
(11:38):
where you're trying to go?
So Maya wanted.
Her needs included moredowntime, more rest and more
balance.
So Maya's non-negotiable thatshe came up with was no work
calls.
After five period, five o'clock,she was out the door and her
non-work life began.
So at first she reallystruggled with this.
(11:59):
Having a hard line on the timeshe put in at work made her seem
lazy or like she wasn't therefor the team and for the people
who always relied on Maya well,for everything.
They had to learn a new normal.
So it was totallyunderstandable that her team
felt ignored and really felt herabsence now that she wasn't
(12:20):
like on call 24-7 like a surgeonand she was not making a
surgeon wage, which kind ofticked her off too.
So that really helped motivateher in upholding her new
boundary.
So for her existing team, shehelped them navigate this shift
by letting them know Without along and drawn out explanation
(12:40):
she didn't have a PowerPoint oranything, but she just let them
know that she wouldn't beavailable outside work hours to
put out the fires.
Instead, she directed hersupervisors to all the tools and
phone numbers necessary tosolve whatever problems came up
when she wasn't there.
Her tagline was call the peoplewho are on the clock.
(13:00):
And when those thoughts creptin that her team thought she was
lazy or that she wasn't pullingher weight.
No one was actually sayingthese things about her absence.
They were invented by herimagination and this was her
anxiety talking.
There wasn't a single fact orevidence that people thought she
was lazy or not a team player.
(13:20):
In fact, her team respondedactually really well to this new
boundary and at first, yeah,they totally called after five.
But here's what happened whenshe held the line, she got
better sleep, the team steppedup, her creativity came back and
, most importantly, she reallystarted trusting herself again.
And no one ever snapped at thedog, not even one more time.
(13:42):
And that's what happens whenyou stop negotiating with
yourself and guess what happenedwhen she slipped or made an
exception All the benefits ofgood sleep, empowered teammates
and having your creativity onfull blast it all fed her
resiliency to get back on trackfaster.
It didn't all go away.
So set a boundary, hold theline, stand up for yourself and
(14:06):
what's important to you.
In time and with practice, thatick will go away and you will
continue to show up stronger andclear and fully in your mojo,
just as you were meant to be.
Now let's lock it in.
Here's a little mantra for theweek my needs are not up for
(14:27):
debate.
I don't shrink to fit.
I rise to meet myself.
Say it again Let it land.
My needs are not up for debate.
I don't shrink to fit.
I rise to meet myself.
Well, that was a full-onboundary boot camp and soul
(14:48):
revival all in one nespa.
So if this episode litsomething up for you, then hey,
share it with yourpeople-pleasing bestie.
They're probably ready to stopbreaking their own rules too,
and maybe this is just the thingthat they need to level up and
you can be the Santa Claus thatshows them the way.
Just the thing that they needto level up and you can be the
(15:10):
Santa Claus that shows them theway.
So before you hop on to yournext podcast, make sure to
follow this one.
Leave that five star review.
It helps more than you know wegot.
To get the mojo out there.
I need your help and definitelytag me at most definitely on
Instagram with your biggesttakeaway so I can shout you out
and cheer you on.
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And if you haven't tried Mojogummies yet, you're missing out.
These gummies are a naturalalternative to Adderall and
really help with focus andproductivity.
There's a link in the shownotes with 15% off and all the
info and answers to thequestions that you've got.
And remember you're not hard tolove for having needs.
(15:51):
You're powerful for honoringthem.
So stop negotiating thosenon-negotiables, because your
mojo is worth protecting.
Tune in next week when weexplore the comfort zone and
debate whether it's friend orfoe and the role that it plays
in sustaining your mojo.
Cool right, super importantepisode, because if you know how
(16:13):
to get mojo but struggle tokeep it in your pocket at all
times.
This will be a must.
Listen, you hear me, so we'llsee you next time.
Stay clear, stay bold and keepthose pockets full of mojo.
Ciao for now.
Love you, bye.
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