December 19, 2023 • 13 mins
Heads up, ladies - this one isn’t only for those who are single!
Do you want to rev up your love life and set the stage for a fantastic year ahead? Maybe you want fresh insights and practical tips to elevate your relationships. In this episode, we discover 10 surprising ways for wives and future wives to take charge of their love lives and thrive.
Besides God, the most important relationship and the longest one you will ever have in your lifetime is with yourself. Whether single or married, focusing on personal well-being and growth makes an individual more attractive to a future partner or current spouse.
If you're ready to invest in yourself and transform your relationships in the coming year, this episode is for you.
In this episode, you will:
- Gain valuable insights and action steps for both wives and future wives.
- Understand the importance of personal growth and reflection in improving your relationships.
- Learn how to elevate your love life in the coming year.
How can you practically implement the tips and action steps shared in this episode to elevate your own love life in the coming year? Come share with me on social media!
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
On this episode of the Position Podcast, I'm
sharing tips for both wives andfuture wives on how to elevate
your love life in the comingyear.
And it is definitely not whatyou think.
So join me as I unpack somevaluable insights and some
action steps so you can moveforward in setting the stage for
the love life you've alwaysdreamed of.
(00:23):
Have you come to the point inyour life where doing that work,
church, home repeat just isn'tworking for you anymore, and you
know there's gotta be more tolife than this, then girl,
you've come to the right place.
I'm Kimberly Knight, and this isthe Position Podcast.
As a certified coach,consultant, author, and speaker,
I've had the privilege ofhelping women to position
(00:43):
themselves for success in life,love, and business.
So if you're ready for somewisdom wrapped up in a little
bit of girlfriend, join me andother experts each week as we
give you the conversation,coaching, and keys you need to
take you to your next steps.
Welcome to the Position Podcast.
I am your host, KimberleyKnight, and today we're going to
(01:06):
talk about 10 things that wivesand future wives can do to
elevate their love lives nextyear.
So, what I'm about to share withyou may be so counterintuitive
that it had to come with alittle explanation.
Besides God, the most importantrelationship and the longest one
(01:27):
you will ever have in yourlifetime is with yourself.
So I am going to share with youthat if you really want to
elevate your love life nextyear, focus on you.
Remembering that second to yourrelationship with God, it is the
most important and the longeststanding.
And by investing in your ownwell-being, your own personal
(01:47):
growth, you are going to be somuch more attractive to your
future husband if you aresingle, or your husband now if
you're married.
They're going to be able to seeeven the more so how fabulous
and what an amazing woman youare, and the one that you are
also becoming and blossominginto.
So that said, number two, I wantyou to expand your social
(02:10):
circles.
Start it this year.
Join clubs, look for classes,look for social groups that
align with your interests,right?
You want to meet new people in avariety of settings.
That's going to increase yourlikelihood for the singles to
find someone to share theirlives with.
And for you married ladies, it'sgoing to mix it up a little bit,
right?
(02:30):
So many times as married women,we may get stuck in ruts.
We become very focused on just,you know, getting everything
done.
And, you know, the lunches needto be made and the floor needs
to be mopped.
And, you know, you have to alsowork on your relationship with
your husband and spend time withyour family.
And if you're not careful, youwill stifle your own passions
(02:52):
and your relationships will onlyfocus around.
I don't know if you found this,especially for those of you who
are still actively parenting,whoever your kids' friends are,
then their parents become yourfriends.
And if you really look at it,sometimes you don't even want to
spend time with those people,but you're forced into
relationship because of theproximity of the children or the
relationships between thechildren.
(03:13):
So I'm encouraging you to expandyour social circles to include
people that are outside of thosecircles.
So they're not your husband'sfriends, they're not your
children's friends, they're yoursocial circle.
So number three, spend some timein self-reflection and make a
plan for personal andprofessional growth for next
year.
(03:34):
This is a wonderful time at theend of the year to begin to plan
for next year and how you wantto learn and grow.
And quite frankly, with thatself-reflection, the better you
understand yourself, the morelikely you are to attract
individuals that reallyappreciate you as a single
woman, and the more likely yourhusband is to begin to
(03:57):
appreciate the woman you'rebecoming.
So spend some time making yourpersonal and professional growth
plan for next year, right now,so you can hit the ground
running.
Number four, I already said toyou, you know, expand your
social circles beyond what younormally would have.
(04:18):
I want you to do the same thingfor social events, right?
We usually attend social eventsthat are inside of our comfort
zone.
But I am going to challenge youto step out of your comfort zone
by attending events that younormally wouldn't think of.
This will mean opening uppossibilities and introduce you
to people from differentbackgrounds and interests.
(04:39):
It is going to make you a muchmore interesting woman.
Number five, how about exploringsome new hobbies?
You could start this year bydiving into some activities that
ignite your passion and allowyou to meet more people.
You could do a dance class, anart workshop, join a book club,
or start one.
You might even want to pursuesome other interests that maybe
(05:02):
you did many years ago and youput down because of
responsibilities.
You may want to think of pickingthem back up now.
Again, it is going to make youmuch more interesting.
Here is the thing (05:12):
the more interesting you are and the
happier you are, the better youare going to enjoy your love
life.
You are going to be a much morewell-rounded woman with a lot
more to talk about and to share.
You will have the opportunity tomeet new people that are going
to challenge you in good ways,hopefully.
(05:35):
And that is going to add to yourfeminine mystique so that when
ladies who are married, when youare dealing with your husband,
it will be as if you're bringingsomething new to the
relationship.
And it will be because it'll bea brand new you with some brand
new perspectives.
For my single ladies, this willbe an opportunity for you to
make some meaningful connectionsand possibly meet a life
(05:57):
partner.
Let's move on to number six.
So here is the sixth way you canset yourself up for a better
romance next year.
Travel.
Oh my gosh.
Whether you do it alone, withyour family, with if you're
married with your husband, withsome friends, or even a travel
(06:18):
club.
Embrace that adventure, right?
Explore new destinations anddon't go to the normal.
If you always go to the beach,head to the mountains.
If you always go to themountains, hop on a cruise.
If you're always on a cruise,hop a plane.
If you've taken the planeseveral times, get a train.
They have these absolutelywonderful, by the way.
If anybody wants to treat me, orif any sponsors are listening, I
(06:39):
would love to do that scenictrain tour.
There are several.
There's that do an Africansafari.
There's some through theCanadian Rockies.
There's one through, I think,Washington State here in the
States.
Call me.
I am ready to go.
I will take wonderful footageand be a really great
spokesperson for you.
Try me.
(07:00):
But in all seriousness, oh, Iwas serious about that.
But in all seriousness, you'regoing to have an opportunity to
meet people whose lives are verydifferent from yours.
You'll create memories andexperience different cultures in
a way that you can't do in abook or a video.
And it's a really powerful wayto discover more about yourself
and to build confidence.
And again, that femininemystique is built and it is
(07:21):
going to rev up that love life.
Here's the seventh way you canelevate your love life next
year.
It's time to check your villagegirls.
As you can remember from my pastepisodes, I am a proponent of
having a great supportivenetwork for your life journey.
Every once and again, you needto revisit your network to make
(07:45):
sure that all of your villagersare in the right place.
It is time to strengthen yourbonds with family and friends.
You want to make sure thateveryone in the village is still
should be in the village.
And also make sure there's notany squatters, right?
Because sometimes, if we're notcareful, we'll get some
squatters in our village andthey'll take residence in places
(08:06):
they don't have any businessbeing.
You know what that looks like inreal life?
It means people who feel theyhave the authority to offer you
all kinds of opinions onsubjects they have no expertise
in or in areas where you havenot requested their assistance.
They're nosy.
Nosy know-it-alls may have to beremoved and brought back to the
(08:29):
basement, right?
But find your village, make surethat you revisit it and make
sure that it's still working foryou.
Here's another thing.
Ladies, if you really want to beattractive and elevate your love
life, be that for someone else.
Elevate not only your village,but be an elevated villager in
someone else's.
(08:50):
Strengthen those bonds.
Cultivate your friendships.
Make sure your accountabilitypartners, you know the
boundaries and you each have anunderstanding of how that works.
Be that for each other.
I am telling you, it is going tobe so powerful.
If any one thing can move notonly your relationships forward,
(09:11):
but your entire life, it's yournetwork.
By the way, I did record apodcast earlier this year on how
to build your village.
And I will put the link to thatin the show notes.
So the eighth way that you canelevate your love life next year
is by focusing on some personalgoals.
Have you begun to set your goalsfor next year yet?
(09:34):
Well, defining your personalgoals or coming up with your one
word for next year is going tobe exciting because the way it
manifests and the way that youfocus on it is really going to
elevate your mind, your sense offulfillment, and it makes you so
much more attractive.
So whether that's a one wordthat you're going to focus on,
(09:56):
and I talked about that in theepisode called Injure You're
Strong.
I'll put that link in the shownotes as well.
So whether it's your careerachievements, fitness
milestones, you're going to usea one-word or you're going to do
a whole goal statement withtracking and expansive
programming.
Just focus on being fulfilledand pursuing what excites you.
(10:19):
The ninth way you can elevateyour love life next year is to
cultivate a really positivemindset.
So here's the thing, girls.
Stinking thinking is going tocause your relationships to
tank, especially your romanticrelationship.
There is nothing more attractivethan a positive, confident
woman.
(10:40):
So do what you need to do toshift your mindset.
The Bible says that we aretransformed through the renewing
of our mind.
Take time to renew your mind.
Focus on gratitude.
Focus on the potential forpositive connection.
Focus on giving yourself andothers affirmation and looking
(11:01):
at your strengths and how youcan build on your strengths
rather than how you're going tostrengthen a weakness.
By the way, just a side note: the best way to strengthen a (11:07):
undefined
weakness is to focus on yourstrengths.
Do not put your energy forwardon strengthening your weakness.
Build more into your strengthsso that your strengths are able
to compensate for what youperceive as weaknesses in other
areas rather than spending a lotof time, energy, effort, and
(11:31):
money trying to make yourselfstrong in an area that's really
not going to serve you in thesame way.
We're all created differently bythe Father.
Some of us are really great atmath, some of us are not.
Rather than spending the nexttwo years' worth of energy
trying to make yourself betterat math, increase your skills
and language.
(11:51):
If you're really great at words,increase those skills and then
you can pay somebody to do yourmath.
So here is the tenth way that Iwant to share with you to
elevate your love life.
Reflect on your relationshiphistory.
This comes with a caveat.
When I say reflect on yourrelationship history, this is
(12:13):
for self-awareness.
This is not for you to beatyourself up.
This is not for you to startfantasizing about coulda, woulda
and shoulda.
This is about understanding whatworked well and what didn't so
you can do more of what workedwell.
It's about reflecting on yourrelationships and understanding
who you were in them and how youshowed up and how you want to
(12:35):
show up in the future.
It's about looking at yourpriorities and your boundaries
moving forward and revisitingthose.
So again, this is not a tripdown memory lane for you to have
regret.
This is about making yourhindsight foresight so that as
you move forward, you can makebetter and informed choices
about your love life.
(12:56):
So those are the 10 ways that Ihave that can rev up and elevate
your love life next year.
What about you?
Did you have a few that youwanted to share with me?
I hope so.
I would love to hear from you.
My contact information is in theshow notes.
And be sure to subscribe andshare this so that we're able to
get out more quality content toyou and your friends.
Until next time, be wonderfullyblessed.
(13:19):
Bye now.
All right, that's a wrap.
I hope you enjoyed this week'sepisode.
Be sure to subscribe to the showwherever you're listening so you
never miss one.
I would love it if you wouldshare the podcast with your
friends, post about it onFacebook and Instagram, or leave
a review.
That way you can help me tobring you more great content and
(13:40):
expert guests.
Until next week, be blessed.
On this episode of the Position Podcast, I'm
sharing tips for both wives andfuture wives on how to elevate
your love life in the comingyear.
And it is definitely not whatyou think.
So join me as I unpack somevaluable insights and some
action steps so you can moveforward in setting the stage for
the love life you've alwaysdreamed of.
(00:23):
Have you come to the point inyour life where doing that work,
church, home repeat just isn'tworking for you anymore, and you
know there's gotta be more tolife than this, then girl,
you've come to the right place.
I'm Kimberly Knight, and this isthe Position Podcast.
As a certified coach,consultant, author, and speaker,
I've had the privilege ofhelping women to position
(00:43):
themselves for success in life,love, and business.
So if you're ready for somewisdom wrapped up in a little
bit of girlfriend, join me andother experts each week as we
give you the conversation,coaching, and keys you need to
take you to your next steps.
Welcome to the Position Podcast.
I am your host, KimberleyKnight, and today we're going to
(01:06):
talk about 10 things that wivesand future wives can do to
elevate their love lives nextyear.
So, what I'm about to share withyou may be so counterintuitive
that it had to come with alittle explanation.
Besides God, the most importantrelationship and the longest one
(01:27):
you will ever have in yourlifetime is with yourself.
So I am going to share with youthat if you really want to
elevate your love life nextyear, focus on you.
Remembering that second to yourrelationship with God, it is the
most important and the longeststanding.
And by investing in your ownwell-being, your own personal
(01:47):
growth, you are going to be somuch more attractive to your
future husband if you aresingle, or your husband now if
you're married.
They're going to be able to seeeven the more so how fabulous
and what an amazing woman youare, and the one that you are
also becoming and blossominginto.
So that said, number two, I wantyou to expand your social
(02:10):
circles.
Start it this year.
Join clubs, look for classes,look for social groups that
align with your interests,right?
You want to meet new people in avariety of settings.
That's going to increase yourlikelihood for the singles to
find someone to share theirlives with.
And for you married ladies, it'sgoing to mix it up a little bit,
right?
(02:30):
So many times as married women,we may get stuck in ruts.
We become very focused on just,you know, getting everything
done.
And, you know, the lunches needto be made and the floor needs
to be mopped.
And, you know, you have to alsowork on your relationship with
your husband and spend time withyour family.
And if you're not careful, youwill stifle your own passions
(02:52):
and your relationships will onlyfocus around.
I don't know if you found this,especially for those of you who
are still actively parenting,whoever your kids' friends are,
then their parents become yourfriends.
And if you really look at it,sometimes you don't even want to
spend time with those people,but you're forced into
relationship because of theproximity of the children or the
relationships between thechildren.
(03:13):
So I'm encouraging you to expandyour social circles to include
people that are outside of thosecircles.
So they're not your husband'sfriends, they're not your
children's friends, they're yoursocial circle.
So number three, spend some timein self-reflection and make a
plan for personal andprofessional growth for next
year.
(03:34):
This is a wonderful time at theend of the year to begin to plan
for next year and how you wantto learn and grow.
And quite frankly, with thatself-reflection, the better you
understand yourself, the morelikely you are to attract
individuals that reallyappreciate you as a single
woman, and the more likely yourhusband is to begin to
(03:57):
appreciate the woman you'rebecoming.
So spend some time making yourpersonal and professional growth
plan for next year, right now,so you can hit the ground
running.
Number four, I already said toyou, you know, expand your
social circles beyond what younormally would have.
(04:18):
I want you to do the same thingfor social events, right?
We usually attend social eventsthat are inside of our comfort
zone.
But I am going to challenge youto step out of your comfort zone
by attending events that younormally wouldn't think of.
This will mean opening uppossibilities and introduce you
to people from differentbackgrounds and interests.
(04:39):
It is going to make you a muchmore interesting woman.
Number five, how about exploringsome new hobbies?
You could start this year bydiving into some activities that
ignite your passion and allowyou to meet more people.
You could do a dance class, anart workshop, join a book club,
or start one.
You might even want to pursuesome other interests that maybe
(05:02):
you did many years ago and youput down because of
responsibilities.
You may want to think of pickingthem back up now.
Again, it is going to make youmuch more interesting.
Here is the thing (05:12):
the more interesting you are and the
happier you are, the better youare going to enjoy your love
life.
You are going to be a much morewell-rounded woman with a lot
more to talk about and to share.
You will have the opportunity tomeet new people that are going
to challenge you in good ways,hopefully.
(05:35):
And that is going to add to yourfeminine mystique so that when
ladies who are married, when youare dealing with your husband,
it will be as if you're bringingsomething new to the
relationship.
And it will be because it'll bea brand new you with some brand
new perspectives.
For my single ladies, this willbe an opportunity for you to
make some meaningful connectionsand possibly meet a life
(05:57):
partner.
Let's move on to number six.
So here is the sixth way you canset yourself up for a better
romance next year.
Travel.
Oh my gosh.
Whether you do it alone, withyour family, with if you're
married with your husband, withsome friends, or even a travel
(06:18):
club.
Embrace that adventure, right?
Explore new destinations anddon't go to the normal.
If you always go to the beach,head to the mountains.
If you always go to themountains, hop on a cruise.
If you're always on a cruise,hop a plane.
If you've taken the planeseveral times, get a train.
They have these absolutelywonderful, by the way.
If anybody wants to treat me, orif any sponsors are listening, I
(06:39):
would love to do that scenictrain tour.
There are several.
There's that do an Africansafari.
There's some through theCanadian Rockies.
There's one through, I think,Washington State here in the
States.
Call me.
I am ready to go.
I will take wonderful footageand be a really great
spokesperson for you.
Try me.
(07:00):
But in all seriousness, oh, Iwas serious about that.
But in all seriousness, you'regoing to have an opportunity to
meet people whose lives are verydifferent from yours.
You'll create memories andexperience different cultures in
a way that you can't do in abook or a video.
And it's a really powerful wayto discover more about yourself
and to build confidence.
And again, that femininemystique is built and it is
(07:21):
going to rev up that love life.
Here's the seventh way you canelevate your love life next
year.
It's time to check your villagegirls.
As you can remember from my pastepisodes, I am a proponent of
having a great supportivenetwork for your life journey.
Every once and again, you needto revisit your network to make
(07:45):
sure that all of your villagersare in the right place.
It is time to strengthen yourbonds with family and friends.
You want to make sure thateveryone in the village is still
should be in the village.
And also make sure there's notany squatters, right?
Because sometimes, if we're notcareful, we'll get some
squatters in our village andthey'll take residence in places
(08:06):
they don't have any businessbeing.
You know what that looks like inreal life?
It means people who feel theyhave the authority to offer you
all kinds of opinions onsubjects they have no expertise
in or in areas where you havenot requested their assistance.
They're nosy.
Nosy know-it-alls may have to beremoved and brought back to the
(08:29):
basement, right?
But find your village, make surethat you revisit it and make
sure that it's still working foryou.
Here's another thing.
Ladies, if you really want to beattractive and elevate your love
life, be that for someone else.
Elevate not only your village,but be an elevated villager in
someone else's.
(08:50):
Strengthen those bonds.
Cultivate your friendships.
Make sure your accountabilitypartners, you know the
boundaries and you each have anunderstanding of how that works.
Be that for each other.
I am telling you, it is going tobe so powerful.
If any one thing can move notonly your relationships forward,
(09:11):
but your entire life, it's yournetwork.
By the way, I did record apodcast earlier this year on how
to build your village.
And I will put the link to thatin the show notes.
So the eighth way that you canelevate your love life next year
is by focusing on some personalgoals.
Have you begun to set your goalsfor next year yet?
(09:34):
Well, defining your personalgoals or coming up with your one
word for next year is going tobe exciting because the way it
manifests and the way that youfocus on it is really going to
elevate your mind, your sense offulfillment, and it makes you so
much more attractive.
So whether that's a one wordthat you're going to focus on,
(09:56):
and I talked about that in theepisode called Injure You're
Strong.
I'll put that link in the shownotes as well.
So whether it's your careerachievements, fitness
milestones, you're going to usea one-word or you're going to do
a whole goal statement withtracking and expansive
programming.
Just focus on being fulfilledand pursuing what excites you.
(10:19):
The ninth way you can elevateyour love life next year is to
cultivate a really positivemindset.
So here's the thing, girls.
Stinking thinking is going tocause your relationships to
tank, especially your romanticrelationship.
There is nothing more attractivethan a positive, confident
woman.
(10:40):
So do what you need to do toshift your mindset.
The Bible says that we aretransformed through the renewing
of our mind.
Take time to renew your mind.
Focus on gratitude.
Focus on the potential forpositive connection.
Focus on giving yourself andothers affirmation and looking
(11:01):
at your strengths and how youcan build on your strengths
rather than how you're going tostrengthen a weakness.
By the way, just a side note: the best way to strengthen a (11:07):
undefined
weakness is to focus on yourstrengths.
Do not put your energy forwardon strengthening your weakness.
Build more into your strengthsso that your strengths are able
to compensate for what youperceive as weaknesses in other
areas rather than spending a lotof time, energy, effort, and
(11:31):
money trying to make yourselfstrong in an area that's really
not going to serve you in thesame way.
We're all created differently bythe Father.
Some of us are really great atmath, some of us are not.
Rather than spending the nexttwo years' worth of energy
trying to make yourself betterat math, increase your skills
and language.
(11:51):
If you're really great at words,increase those skills and then
you can pay somebody to do yourmath.
So here is the tenth way that Iwant to share with you to
elevate your love life.
Reflect on your relationshiphistory.
This comes with a caveat.
When I say reflect on yourrelationship history, this is
(12:13):
for self-awareness.
This is not for you to beatyourself up.
This is not for you to startfantasizing about coulda, woulda
and shoulda.
This is about understanding whatworked well and what didn't so
you can do more of what workedwell.
It's about reflecting on yourrelationships and understanding
who you were in them and how youshowed up and how you want to
(12:35):
show up in the future.
It's about looking at yourpriorities and your boundaries
moving forward and revisitingthose.
So again, this is not a tripdown memory lane for you to have
regret.
This is about making yourhindsight foresight so that as
you move forward, you can makebetter and informed choices
about your love life.
(12:56):
So those are the 10 ways that Ihave that can rev up and elevate
your love life next year.
What about you?
Did you have a few that youwanted to share with me?
I hope so.
I would love to hear from you.
My contact information is in theshow notes.
And be sure to subscribe andshare this so that we're able to
get out more quality content toyou and your friends.
Until next time, be wonderfullyblessed.
(13:19):
Bye now.
All right, that's a wrap.
I hope you enjoyed this week'sepisode.
Be sure to subscribe to the showwherever you're listening so you
never miss one.
I would love it if you wouldshare the podcast with your
friends, post about it onFacebook and Instagram, or leave
a review.
That way you can help me tobring you more great content and
(13:40):
expert guests.
Until next week, be blessed.
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