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Hi is Stefania over at positive affirmationsand audio stories bringing you energy to make
it through your day. We usethe power of positive words to help you
live the lifestyle, the positive lifestyle, the fulfilling lifestyle, the infinitely more
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satisfying lifestyle that you deserve. Today, let's talk a little bit about a
dilemma is quite common nowadays, lonely, Yes, being lonely versus being alone.
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We are going to explore the differencebetween those two as best we can,
and let's think about how they canhelp us to live more fulfilling lives
just better day to day. It'seasy to confuse the two, but they
are a bit different. Being alone. Believe it or not, being alone
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can be a really positive and empoweringexperience. When we have some alone time,
we get the chance to develop selfawareness. We can practice our gratitude
and its strengthens our resilience self esteem. Depending on ourselves, they can help
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us grow as individuals. They canhelp us just get through everyday life that
much more easily. So so,our perception of being alone or lonely is
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influenced by our self knowledge and ourego. Because when we have a strong
sense of self awareness and self acceptance. We're more likely to enjoy our alone
time and see it as a positivething. But on the other side,
if our ego is a bit fragile, we're just not so self empowered,
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we might perceive being alone as anegative experience, and that's how we get
lone It's a bit unproductive, butsometimes it can't be helped. Doesn't mean
you're a bad person. I've beenlonely, not all the time, but
I know what it feels like.Loneliness is characterized I learned by feelings of
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sadness, emptiness, and disconnection,and it can no doubt about it.
It can have a significant impact onour mental, physical, and spiritual well
being. It's a feeling of sadnessor emptiness that arises from a lack of
meaningful social connections, sometimes with sucha strong emotion as loneliness. It's good,
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I think to analyze in this waythat I'm doing right now, because
usually when you're feeling it, itcan be just like a big black cloud
surrounding us. We can't evaluate itbecause we're so deeply in it. So
let's think about it now. Thinkabout it now, talk about it perhaps
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even later on if you keep ajournal or diary, make some notes when
you're feeling lonely. Make some notesin that diary. Why I'm feeling lonely?
Why I choose to remain in thisfeeling of loneliness? Do I have
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a choice about being lonely? Lonelinesscan lead to feelings of depression, anxiety,
low self esteem. We might feellonely because we think nobody wants to
be with us. We're not goodenough to be with everybody else, we
have nothing to offer when we're lonely. We can connected from others, unfulfilled
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in relationships and unsupported in daily life. And of course it has a detrimental
effect on our mental and physical wellbeing, leading to a sense of hopelessness,
hopelessness, and despair. Hopefully it'snot a deep sense of hopelessness. We
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can pull ourselves out of it spiritually. Yes, loneliness can have spiritual elements
to it as well. It canleave us feeling disconnected from our inner cells
or from higher power. It canlead to negative thought patterns and self doubt.
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And physically it can manifest I learnedin symptoms such as fatigue, headaches,
and digestive issues like oh, feelkind of sick, the stomach hurts,
I'm just going to sit here,or I do don't feel well at
all. Loneliness can take you there. The key to come over this,
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the key to overcome loneliness lies inrecognizing it as a temporary state and takes
some steps to shift the energy towardsa more positive direction. How well,
One way we can move along isto shift our perspective from feeling lonely to
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simply being alone. Being alone doesnot have to be a negative experience.
It can be time for self reflection, growth, rejuvenation, and independence.
We can do what we want.We don't have to worry about the opinions
of another do go feel as wewant. When we embrace being alone as
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a positive thing, then not aselfish thing, but a positive thing.
Then when we focus on the thingsyou're grateful for, like our health,
our friendships, our personal achievements,we shift our mindset from one of luck,
which is loneliness, to one ofabundance, which is being alone.
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Gratitude allows us to appreciate the thingswe have rather than thinking about what we
may not have, and it canhelp us cultivate a sense of contentment and
fulfillment. In our own company,grateful for me, grateful for being me,
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grief you, grateful for being you, You're best friend. There are
some additional ways we can do someother things. Here's some more tips.
You don't have to be lonely.You can be alone, but you don't
have to be lonely. Connect withothers, reach out, do you love
ones or support groups to build strongrelationships and find a sense of belonging.
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If you don't have support groups,there are lots of groups in organizations such
as meetups. You know, youjust have a little skim find something you're
interested in, and go to themeeting. That's the thing. You'll have
to get yourself talk yourself into goingout to meet these people that you might
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not know, but you might havesomething in common with, and you might
be really glad that you did soreach out. Practice self care, take
care of yourself physically and mentally.Exercise, meditate, creative activities if that's
your thing. Just keep busy,take good care of yourself. You can
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volunteer. If it's really really intense, you can seek professional help. There's
even organizations I've seen the evert onthe Telly where you can call in and
you can kind of have counseling ortalks online via your phone, via your
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computer, so you really, reallyreally don't have to be alone. You
can get help in so many ways. Then how about overall changing your life
a bit, creating a positive lifestyle. If we can embrace the solitude and
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tackle the loneliness, we can cultivateresilience because we know, I'm alone for
a bit, but I choose tobe this way, and now I choose
to move out of it. Soyou don't feel so helpless gratitude. I'm
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alone, and I'm grateful that I'malive, I'm healthy, I'm grateful that
I have choices. Maybe one ofthe most important things to do in moving
from one to the other, makingthe journey from loneliness to being alone is
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action. Sometimes action is so hardto take when you're lost in the mire
of being alone. Everything seems soheavy, it requires such an effort to
move on. It's like the energyin our heads is all in their heads
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instead of being transferred to our bodiesof faction. But taking an action,
any positive, constructive action that movesus away from that heavy, self dedicated
energy of loneliness, is what weneed to do. To get out of
that feeling any action. Let's takebaby steps to complete that sometimes impossible seeming
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journey to move from sad and lonelyto the content feeling of happiness that can
come from being alone and enjoying it, having fun. Yeah, it's doable.
We don't have to be lonely.We really don't. Take some effort
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sometimes, but we really don't haveto be lonely. We can change that
too, being alone and loving it. And that's it for today. I'm
gonna get off my soap, getoff my soap box, and move on
with the business of the day.We'll be back again next week with a
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story. The next part of ourstory, violent Strange. She's still on
it, still busy solving that crimeof the second bullet. But in the
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be alone, happily not lonely.That's it for now. By for now,