Ep-2 “The Battered Career Syndrome”, Chapter 1 Your Career 2.0

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POD - Possibilities, Options & Dreams fosters meaningful connections, empowering aspiring entrepreneurs to identify, pursue and achieve their dream of self-sufficiency. The largest Career Ownership Coaching™ organization for nearly 40 years, The Entrepreneur's Source® (TES) has helped nearly one million professionals explore their career possibilities with our powerful approach to education, awareness and discovery and our unique Income, Lifestyle, Wealth and Equity™ assessments.
In this episode of the “Possibilities, Options & Dreams” Podcast, Mary, Melissa, and Tamara, discuss the revolutionary concepts put into a program of action within The Entrepreneur's Source® (TES) which has helped nearly one million professionals explore their career possibilities. Based on the best-selling book for successful and emerging entrepreneurs “Take Ownership of your Career 2.0, A Survival Guide for the Battered Career and Investor Syndrome”  POD – Possibilities, Options & Dreams fosters meaningful connections, empowering aspiring entrepreneurs to identify, pursue and achieve their dream of self-sufficiency.
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Have you ever been in a situation that has not made you happy, and while you’ve acknowledged that fact, you weren’t able to see any options for escaping? Perhaps you admitted to the problem but put off trying to fix it, or thought that if you gave it another chance the next time would be different–the situation would change? Sometimes the simple act of recognizing that things are not going well, and seeing beyond the illusion, is a comfort in and of itself—a way to feel that progress has been made, even though the situation has not been rectified.
For example, in the “new normal” that we are currently experiencing, we may be less likely to fall back on the illusion of security and more willing to admit being duped by corporate dependency. While some people hold out hope that the economy might one day return to the traditional model, not too many are counting on that. Most people understand that things have changed, yet their behavior patterns, which are based on habits they developed through years of working within the corporate system, are still on autopilot. They know there is a problem, but they are too habituated or fearful to extract themselves from the situation.More About This Podcast:
You are painfully aware that the job market has changed dramatically in the last 25 years with more and more layoffs every time there is a downward shift in the economy, with jobs being lost to cheaper labor in other countries and entire industries moving overseas. We have been living in the Career Revolution era where job security no longer exists and pension plans are a thing of the past. Our families, our income, our emotional wellbeing, and the way we must plan for the future have all been drastically affected. Maybe there have been cutbacks in your company. Maybe you have been lucky enough to have survived them but wonder when your turn is coming. Or maybe you didn’t survive the latest layoff and are currently unemployed or underemployed, or perhaps you have even joined the unemployable ranks. Increased levels of fears and uncertainty in today’s workplace don’t leave much room for inspiration or empowerment. In fact, when was the last time you felt inspired or empowered? 
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Episode Transcript

Unknown (00:27):
Hey everybody, welcome to the possibilities, options
and dreams podcast with theentrepreneurs source where we
empower individuals to identify,pursue and achieve their dreams
of self sufficiency. You've gotMarian Mel here to kick off
today's podcast memberrelationship strategists. And we

(00:49):
are very excited to have TamaraLoring here. So I'm going to
kick it over to her and justhave her introduce herself to
the people.
Hey guys, Tamara Loring herewith the entrepreneur source
been here for almost 20 years,believe it or not. And in my
role today, I am in charge of T's brand ideology. So I'm happy

(01:12):
to be with you guys today. Thankyou for inviting me.
Absolutely. Okay, I'll take.
Absolutely. And Tim has a wealthof knowledge. So we are really
excited to have her and today,we are going to be covering the
second chapter of the yourcareer 2.0 book, a survival
guide for the battered career,and investor syndrome. And

(01:35):
there's a lot to unpack here. Sotoday we're going to be talking
about writing your own successstory. You 2.0 And I'm wildly
excited to get started here. SoMairead, you want to kick it off
for us? Yeah, happy to.
Um, so writing your own successstory, I just think there is a

(01:59):
lot of excitement around that,in general, there's a lot of
possibilities. There's a lot ofpotential, which we're going to
look at in a little bit more.
Like, how can you write your ownsuccess story? What does that
actually look like? So the firstthing, before, you know, you
know, before you can get towhere you're headed, you have to
know where you're going. So thefirst thing if you're, you know,

(02:19):
interested in writing your ownsuccess story is you have to
define what success means toyou. And this is very, very
critical, because I think,unlike what what, you know,
traditional society ortraditional conversation or
mindset would, would have youthink, is that there's one fixed

(02:40):
definition of success. And whatwe're seeing more and more
today, especially with who wework with our clients, the
coaches working with differentindividuals, is that success
looks and feels very differentfrom person to person. So T,
would you mind just kind ofextrapolating on that a little
bit more? What does real successlook like for you? And that's a

(03:02):
rhetorical question, but why canit look so different from person
to person?
That's a really great question,right? And the answer is, it
really depends. It depends onwhere you're at, in your life.
For instance, you know, ifyou're in your mid 20s, and

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you're still paying off collegedebt, your success is going to
be being debt free, maybe, maybeyou're in your 30s, and you're
starting a young family and youknow, successful B, being able
to save up for college, andmaybe being home with a little
kids. Or if you're in your 40sor 50s, you know, maybe your
career is at a certain level andyou want to, you know, give it

(03:45):
one final push before you'regetting ready for retirement, so
or maybe you're already on yoursecond or third act. So success
will really depend on who youare. It's going to be dependent
on your dreams and your personalaspirations. So I think the
important thing that you guyssaid, is not what does success

(04:07):
look like? But what does successlook like for you? Right? So you
need to internalize what willmake me feel successful, not
what my mom wanted, not what mydad wanted, not what my boss or
a colleague or anybody elsewants. It's really doing the
soul searching and doing somereflection saying, What will

(04:28):
make me feel successful. So thebook has some great questions. I
know we're gonna look at that alittle bit. But it starts with
defining success for myself.
What do I want to do and whatwill make me feel successful?
Great answerT. And thanks for clarifying
that. And I think exactly whatyou said, taking that time just
to think about what what do Iwant? What does success look

(04:51):
like for me, but I love aboutthat. And about going back to
the theme of writing your ownsuccess story. It's that you the
end dividual are in control ofnot only defining what success
looks like, but then also takingthe action, you know, taking
steps towards realizing whatthat, you know, bringing it into
fruition what that looks likefor you, it can be a little bit

(05:13):
difficult to put some structurearound this, I think, you know,
reflection, taking, you know,stepping out to reflect and take
a wide overview of what you wantyour life to look like, that's a
great first step, but, but inthat reflection, you know,
that's a that's, that's a big,you know, thought process to

(05:35):
define what success looks like.
I would say, and Mel, maybe youwant to talk a little bit about
this too. But a good place tostart kind of filling in some of
those blanks is to create somevision around four buckets,
income, lifestyle, wealth, andequity. And what this is going

(05:56):
to do is help look at some ofthe short term goals. What does
that look like for you, right,someone in income, you know,
someone might define success forthem an income as 250 a year,
someone might be very happy with80,000 a year, someone might not
be satisfied until they hit amillion dollars a year, right?
So it's gonna look differentfrom person to person. But

(06:17):
defining specifically in thosebuckets. What does income
lifestyle wealth and equity meanfor you is going to be a great
place to start? And maybe T ormelki? Could you guys give some
examples of, of how to definewhat that looks like for them?
Well, now, if you don't mind,I'll jump in here. Right. So

(06:37):
what I love about the income,lifestyle, wealth and equity
formula, so to speak, is itreally gives you balance, right?
Because we're not just onething, right? My income doesn't
define me as a person. I'm morethan that, right? I'm a human
big, I'm living a life. I've gotsome other things, right. The

(06:58):
income is, for instance, shortterm, that's the here. And now
while I'm not just living frompaycheck to paycheck, maybe I'm
thinking about the future, likefive years from now, 10 years
from now, what do I want mywealth and equity to look like?
That is all part of the successformula. So it helps to break it
into those four buckets. Andwhen you think about income, and

(07:18):
lifestyle, those are the shorterterm things, right? Like, Mary,
you were saying, maybe myaspiration is to double my
income. Maybe I'm at 100,000.
Now, but you know, how nicewould it be if I could get
myself to 200,000? Right. Sothat is something that you can
laser focus in on? Or maybe forsomebody else, it's like, that
is it's not so much about thedollars and what I bring home,

(07:39):
but it's can I generate enoughincome to pay for my expenses,
so that I also have the time,which then leads me into
lifestyle to do the things thatmatter to me also, right? So
once I know what that incomebracket would look like, and
what would make me happier, whatdo I want to aspire towards

(08:00):
there? How is that going to fitinto my life? Right? So if I
think about some of the clientsthat we talked to day in and day
out for some, right, they'rejust really tired of having to
punch the clock, and having tomaybe be confined to working set
work hours, right. For others,it's, you know, I don't like the

(08:21):
commute that that just by, youknow, bites into the time I
could be spending with maybe myfamily. Nowadays, you know,
maybe it's not as important todo the job between nine to five,
maybe I can do other thingsduring regular work hours and do
my programming in the middle ofthe night if I want to, if

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that's part of the lifestylethat I want to create, because I
want to be more with my kids. Soincome and lifestyle are shorter
term goals, wealth and equity ismore longer term, right?
Thinking about how can I maybediversify my investments? How
can I increase my net worth? Howcan I maybe acquire cash flowing

(09:04):
assets? How can I, maybe if it'simportant to me build a legacy
for my family and my kids?
Right? So those are longer termaspirations. But I think the
income lifestyle, wealth andequity formula really gives you
a balanced approach for shortterm aspirations and long term

(09:25):
goals. Make sense?
Yeah, that makes sense and greatway of breaking it down. I love
the part of it as a formula. Sowith actually breaking apart
like the why that's a lot ofpeople can have you know why,
why is to die, I don't know,take more vacations, but it's
like breaking it down into veryspecific parts that you then can

(09:49):
actually work towards. And Ialso think too, just in today's
society, and everyone who'semployed or maybe just a
majority of people do Maybe theythink these things like, I'd
love to make a little moremoney, or I'd like to spend more
time with my family. But it'sreally just like a fleeting
thought. And they think it andthen it kind of goes away. And

(10:11):
you just kind of go back intowhere, how you were doing it
before. Or sometimes things aretheir frustrations, like the
things that you're talking abouttea, their frustrations, I have
to commute, I don't get to spendtime with my family. I don't,
I'd like to make more money, butI'm not really able to right
now. And so their frustrations,but they just kind of linger on

(10:35):
as frustrations. And so that'swhat I'd actually like to ask
you next is what might bekeeping someone from building
their success story. So maybethey thought a little bit about
income and lifestyle, or they'veeven gotten to the point of
wealth and equity. But I thinkit's pretty common for someone
to say, I don't actually knowhow to get there, or I'm not

(10:58):
gonna be able to achieve this.
Let me just stay where I am. Sowhat are some of those things
that might be preventing peoplefrom actually starting to act
towards those?
Yeah, so you're absolutelyright, right. So sometimes
people have to take thescatterplot approach, right?
Like, yeah, I want more money.
Yeah, one more time. But theydon't really see how they can
accomplish that. But even ifthey did, and they said, Okay,

(11:21):
you know, what, these are mygoals, these are my aspirations.
And this is what I want myincome to look like, this is the
life I want to live. Long term.
This is the type of wealth andequity I'd love to create for
myself and my family, oh, mygosh, the mind sometimes is so
powerful, because we will talkourselves right out of it and go

(11:43):
back into just being a humandoing right back on the rat
race, on that forever, treadingon that treadmill, and forever,
not moving forward. So I thinkit helps to first and foremost,
breathe in and slow down and tostart thinking about our

(12:04):
thinking, right? And it takesreally an honest look at our
current beliefs. And our currentactions are my current beliefs,
preventing me from movingforward, like I'll give you an
example. Right? Before I wasintroduced to the entrepreneurs,
doors, I always heard my fatherwho's an entrepreneur, say, You

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know what, tomorrow, you need todo something for yourself. And
my belief at that moment in timewas, I'm not like him, I don't
have this crazy idea, or thisgreat idea that I want to take
to the marketplace, and that Ican capitalize on it. And
therefore I made it mean, I'mnot an entrepreneur. And if I'm
not an entrepreneur, I cannot bein business for myself. And

(12:47):
therefore, you end up doing whatyou always do. So that was a
problem with my belief, I had alimiting belief about what it
can and cannot happen. And thenthe other thing too, sometimes
you believe is right, it's likemaybe you do have the
confidence. And maybe you dohave the education about what it
takes to be self sufficient. Butare you taking action? There's a

(13:10):
great book that I once read. Andit's it was by Brian Cameron, it
said, if how tos were enough,we'd all be rich, skinny and
happy so many times. It's notthat we don't know what to do,
but we just don't take action.
And why is that? So the twothings I just spoke about is
belief. Check in and take anhonest look at what you're
believing to be true. And thenlook at are you taking action?

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And if you're not tech takingaction, why? So if you look at
the book, there are actuallysome really great questions that
will help you think about yourthinking. I think it's on
actually I definitely see it'shere. It's on page 20, where we
say, you know, when you startthinking about your beliefs and
actions, ask yourself thingslike, Do we or do I tend to take

(13:54):
the path? The resistance, so doI take tend to take the path of
least resistance? And do I avoidlooking at myself? Or do we
avoid looking at ourselves andtake responsibilities for our
lives and our futures? So when Ithink about that question, it's
a really good questions becausesure, as human beings, sometimes

(14:16):
it sucks to take responsibility.
It's easier to blame things ongovernment, right? Or the
economy. I mean, I'm hearingthat all the time right now,
right? We've come through somecrazy times and everybody's
blaming everybody, butthemselves, right? Or maybe

(14:40):
we're, you know, thinking backand we're holding on to the past
and we're saying, Wow, if only Ihad a better education or if
only I was born in a differentcountry or different
circumstances. But my challengefor you guys right now anybody
listening and trust me, Ichallenge myself on this all the
time to is What if we stoppedfor just a second, and we took

(15:03):
responsibility for our actionsand our beliefs. I love the
Gandhi principle. I think hisquote goes, be the change you
wish to see in the world. Andjust by changing your mindset,
and going from being reactiveand a victim of circumstances,
yeah, all the bots beingproactive. And when you start

(15:23):
being proactive, you startlooking for solutions. And guess
what, for me, it is it makes mefeel like I'm in control. And
I'm empowered. And it's up to meto make things happen. I said a
whole bunch here. So let me giveyou guys an opportunity to maybe
comment on that. Somany good nuggets, tea. That was
awesome. Thank you for going tofleshing that out. And I think
you're right, I think, again,when it comes down to mindset is

(15:45):
everything. And taking thatmoment, first of all, to realize
how you're thinking how you'reapproaching a certain situation
or a solution. And then and thentaking ownership of, you know,
make taking the action stepsafter that is really, really
just a total unlock. I thinkwhat I heard you say as well is

(16:10):
basically you know, what, onceyou're open to possibilities, so
maybe that, you know, thatlimiting belief of I'm not an
entrepreneur, because I don'thave a good idea, right. So I
can't then go into business formyself, or something, that can
be a limiting belief that'sgonna keep you where you are.
Whereas if you're just like, Youknow what, that's not really
something that's serving me, Idon't really know what's out

(16:31):
there. But I'm open to thepossibility or the potential of
something happening or, youknow, I'm looking for another
step that I can take, you'realready kind of opening,
positioning yourself to, to takeaction and, you know, move into
taking responsibility for yourlife. So really, really good
takeaways there. I think anotherthing, you know, that that we

(16:52):
can, like, collectively rethink.
And I think if you think aboutwhat's happening in the world,
today, you hear about the greatresignation, you hear about the
hybrid work life balance postpandemic write just to bring it
into real world events, but acomplete rethink of what career

(17:13):
means. Same way that you have torethink what success means for
you, is absolutely necessarywhen writing our own success
stories. In today's world, intoday's reality, we've seen this
happen historically, right? Ifyou just think about, you know,
the farming age, I don't know ifthat has an actual title, but

(17:33):
like the stone era, and then theIndustrial Revolution, and what
that looks like the digitalrevolution, which is what we're
kind of in right now. But we'reseeing it continue to evolve.
You know, from year to year,almost. How does this same
principle of rethinking whatcareer looks like and defining
what that means? How does thatapply today?

(17:58):
Yeah, you know, I think, whenpeople think career, many people
think, job, they make it seemlike it's one in the same. And
they say, well, in order toadvance my career, I need to
find the perfect job or aanother job, right? And when you
think about the job, is itreally the job that people are

(18:22):
after? And if so, I wouldencourage you pursue it? If this
is your dream job, go for it,right. But what I typically find
is when you start asking people,so is this your dream job?
They're like, Well, no, but Ineed the job to obviously pay my
debt, or keep the lights on, youknow, pay my expenses. So then I

(18:44):
say, Well, hang on, then it'snot actually the job that you
want. It's what the job will dofor you. Right? So really,
you're looking at the paycheckor the revenue it's going to
generate for you. So if that isthe case, what if you found out
that maybe there are othervehicles other than just the

(19:05):
traditional job market to topursue your dreams, right? And
people will resist that becauseit's different. And it's, it's a
change, I remember feeling thesame way. Because, you know,
people said, well, you know,okay, so maybe if this is not
your dream job, and weunderstand most of us don't need
to work for a living, right? Andif we're wanting to accumulate

(19:27):
some wealth and build, increaseour net worth, what else can you
do, but then they think, Well,you know, yeah, I could start a
business, but have you heardabout how many businesses
failed? That seems so risky,right? Why would I do that? But
then I said, you know, so thensometimes you realize, like,
okay, maybe it's not just themoney people want for a job, but

(19:48):
it's the perceived security. Andwhen you start asking about
that, and it's like, how secureis a job nowadays, right, with
all the furloughs that rightsizing the cap sizing the
acquisitions, the mergers, youname it, right? It's like, Is
your job really so secure? Orcould advantage just like that?

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So if security is what you'reafter, are you really going to
trust and put that in somebodyelse's hand? Or who can you
trust the most in this world?
Wouldn't it be your own action?
So wouldn't it make sense tomaybe see if there's something
that you can do to take charge,and do it yourself. But I
understand it takes confidence,right? Remember how I shared the
story about how I didn'tidentify with being an

(20:32):
entrepreneur myself, and thatseemed riskier. So what I
encourage people to do is justdon't jump to conclusions. Don't
limit yourself, just because youthink something may be true, go
out and find the facts. What Ifound after and thank God for
being exposed to theentrepreneurial resource was

(20:53):
that there are many people whoare in business for themselves
that here's the shocker, who hadno prior industry experience, or
even necessarily a love or anaffinity for the product, or
service that they're in. And Iremember when I heard that the
first time, I'm like, thatsounds crazy. How successful can
that be? And then they said, Oh,we're going to use a word that

(21:14):
you don't like very much. But infranchising, it's actually
pretty predictable. So bam, Ihad to dispel another myth.
Because I thought franchisingwas all about fast food and
French, fast food and frenchfries. I didn't realize that
franchising is actually a way ofdoing business where you get to
be in business for yourself, butnot by yourself, where you get

(21:36):
to use somebody else's existingsystem, and you get to replicate
it. That's why the result is sopredictable. So even though
people are a in business forthemselves, but not by
themselves, they're also doingsomething where maybe they had
no prior experience. And once Irealized that, I thought, oh, my
gosh, right. Never in my life,do I have to worry, again, about

(22:00):
whether I'm employable, whethermy job is going to last forever
or not. And I get to participatein maybe over 80 different
industries, if I wanted to, I'mnot gonna get old enough to be
able to take advantage of allthe opportunities out there. But
it's such a liberating feelingto know the world is my oyster.
So just going back to what youwere asking right is a complete

(22:22):
rethink of career is what isneeded, right. So I'm just
saying, Don't limit yourself,see the career track that you're
on, if you're happy with it, andit's your dream job, all the
power to love it, pursue it. Butif it's, if you're thinking,
there has to be a better way,don't limit yourself and just
say, I need another job, exploreall the possibilities that are

(22:44):
available to you, not businessownership is not for everybody,
but at the very least explore itand see whether that makes sense
for you use your career trackand those opportunities as a
vehicle to attain. And goingback to the concept, you guys
introduced us to a way togenerate the income, live the
life you were meant to live andbuild long term wealth or

(23:05):
equity. And guess what, even ifthe business wasn't exactly your
dream, if it helps you make moremoney than you've ever done
before, if you're able to livethe life that you were meant to
live, and you're able to buildwealth and equity, I don't care.
Even if you're in the PortaPotty business, suddenly, that
will become an attractivebusiness, because you're meeting
those goals that you define aswhat you want to eat, to be

(23:27):
successful. So as you can tell,I get quite passionate about it.
So I'll flip it for a secondallow you guys to maybe ask some
follow up questions or, youknow, chime in.
I will first of all, I just wishI could articulate as well as
you tee it. But that's whatreally gets me excited about

(23:50):
your career to point out andactually just what it is that we
do with the entrepreneurs sourcebecause it's opening up these
doors for people to just have aspace where they can learn about
these different things. Like yousaid, when I started in
franchising five years ago, whenI started with the entrepreneur
source five years ago, I didn'tknow franchising, either. And,
you know, Terry jokes, you know,we don't know a franchise from a

(24:12):
french fry. And that'sabsolutely completely true. But
being able to give people justthis environment and this space
to learn about these differentthings, and I see to rethinking
career. It's just something youkind of fall into, you go to
high school, you graduate, yougo to college, you get a job,

(24:35):
and you just start the cycle.
And like you said, for somepeople, that's great, and it's
what they're looking for, andthey find that job or whatever
that they love. But for a lot ofpeople, it's just, I'm going to
work again, it's kind ofchecking off the box. I'm
working for the weekend. I youknow, it's like a struggle to
get through the day. All thesethings and just understanding It

(24:58):
actually doesn't have to be likethat. And I was talking to one
of our coaches who was workingwith a client. And he was like
at the beginning, this this guywas in corporate America had a
good job. And success wassuccessful, according to him,
probably the average person. Buthe was broken. He was pigeon

(25:20):
holed, he was micromanaged.
After working with a coach andkind of going through that and
understanding exactly like yousaid, there's things out there
in 80 Plus Industries, a lot ofdifferent opportunities in
franchising, he found somethingthat really met his income,

(25:40):
lifestyle, wealth and equity, itwas something he never had
thought of before a completelydifferent industry than what he
was originally in. And the coachsaid, after he found that like
clarity and decided that was theway that he was going to go, and
that was the vehicle, thatconcept, that business model was
the vehicle that was going toget him to his income,

(26:03):
lifestyle, wealth and equitygoals. He's like, I saw, like
passion and like this spark reignited in this man. And just
even thinking about it from thatperspective, that's possible for
someone who is feeling maybebroken and battered, and like
they're just in this hamsterwheel. There's something out

(26:25):
there that can reignite thiskind of excitement to kind of
build your life and doesn'tmatter when, when that happens.
And that's so empowering. Justjust to think about that, the
possibilities. And I think abouteverything that we've just
talked about here, right to, youknow, redefining or just

(26:45):
understanding what does that jobsymbolize? And is there a
potential way to get thosethings and I'm looking for in a
different venue. And whatMelissa was saying, just That's
so exciting that someone canrealize there's more to life
than just doing the same thingover and over again, I think the
magic question, the questionoverall, that's, that can really
impact someone to start thinkingabout all those different things

(27:08):
in a different way is just toask yourself, What if what I
believe to be true? Well,anything that we just talked
about, or or any situationthat's not serving you? What if
I believe, what if what Ibelieve isn't true? How would
that change the way that I thinkor approach the current
situation, and I would justencourage and invite anyone
who's listening right now, toallow yourself to go from

(27:32):
limited thinking to limitlessthinking, or truly the
possibilities are endless, andjust see what happens and the
shifts that can happen in yourlife. So okay, so now we've
defined what success looks likefor you, and what you're looking
what you're actually looking forout of your career out of a job
out of doing something everysingle day. So we now though,

(27:57):
it's about how do you takecontrol? How do you take action
steps towards creating thatversion of success and backing
into it, if you will reverseengineering? We know that the
majority of people are settlingfor less, right? We just thought
we just heard of someone whomaybe they wouldn't have said
that. But they felt stuck. Theywere compromising their

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happiness, their peace of mind,their passion for a job that
looks successful on the outside,but was like, you know, soul
crushing? And why would someonestay in that position where
they're just totally unhappy andunfulfilled? This actually, if
you're feeling this way, I wouldsay check yourself, you're
actually in your comfort zone?
And how do we get out of that? Twhen if failure wasn't an

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option, and you had your wholelife in front of you? What were
you thinking about?
You know, I love that question.
If failure wasn't an option,what would you be doing thinking
and feeling? Right? The booktalks about perhaps it's time to
polish your dreams, right?

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Remember when you were a kid,and you're going to do anything
and everything. And it didn'tmatter if somebody told you
tomorrow, you can't be thePresident of the United States.
You weren't even born here.
Right? It doesn't matter. Youdare to dream and I would
encourage people to go back tothat space. We're only given
this one life, we might as wellhave excitement for it. We might
as well live in very intentionallife. And we don't have to

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settle for just going throughthe motions just feeling like
we're making ends meet or maybefeeling like we're stuck in a
dead end career, but we have noother options. I love the story.
You were just sharing about youknow somebody who found that
spark again and found a purposeyou know, and so if you're
thinking of feeling you know,but where do I start? We already

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gave you a great formula, theill we formula, income,
lifestyle, wealth and equityformula. Another great tool We
have is something called theyour career 2.0 Worksheet. And
before we even tackle thatworksheet, it helps to start
thinking, you know about whatdoes the book call it, asking
yourself these big questions.

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For instance, you know, howwould you describe your feelings
about your present career? Whatdo you want more of in life? And
what you want less of in life?
Five years from now, if you stayin your current career path, how
do you see your options? Mary'squestion, if you knew you
couldn't fail, what career wouldyou choose? How do you see

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yourself achieving financialindependence? What are your
biggest concerns about changingcareers? And so what the
worksheet does is really, ithelps you to take your thinking
and organize it, it starts offwith what we call the

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empowerment question, right? Ifwe looked at your year, life, a
year from today, what has tohave happened both personally
and professionally for you to behappy with your progress? It's
maybe a tough question to ask.
But you know, if the answer isnothing, then I'd say I don't
know whether you're open tocoaching, or whether you're even

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open to possibilities. But ifyou say, I know that I'm not
happy with where I'm at, andgosh, I'd be happy. If I could
be debt free. I'd be happy. If Iwere in control of my schedule,
I'd be happy. If I did somethingthat was meaningful to me and
gave me passion and gave me areason to be excited about every

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single day, then I think thisbook, and that worksheet could
really help you. Because it whatit does is it stimulates your
thinking, but it does it in aneasy way where it doesn't it's
not overwhelming, and some of itis a little bit gut wrenching.
Right. So for instance, we havesome questions about the dangers
that you're currently facing.
And those don't feel good. Butyou know what, they can motivate

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you into action, you will knowthat these dangers are real, if
that gives you the stomach. It'sthe kind of stuff that keeps you
up at night, right? Like, isthis job that I thought is going
to be so secure? And give me apension plan? I mean, who even
still thinks about pensionplans? Right? Can you really
count on that? Or is that adanger? Do you need to figure
out a way to diversify yourincome so that you can have a

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comfortable retirement one day,the opportunities section is
about the stuff that you canfeel inspired about or hopeful
about, right? That's where youthink like when you were a kid,
and failure wasn't an option, Ican do anything and everything
you can isn't a great that hereand 2021, we still can create

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that future. We don't need togive up on that. And guess what
you may think but like myself,but I don't have the skills. I'm
not an entrepreneur, I don'tknow anything about that. Oh, my
gosh, trust me, when you circlereflecting on your strengths,
you will find that there's moreto you than you think there is.
It may be your work ethic, itmay be that you have had past

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successes, it may be that you'rea great communicator, I mean, I
don't care who you are, I haveyet to meet the person who
doesn't have anything that theycan check off in the strengths
column, and then use that as abasis to then feel what success
is going to look like for you.
What this chapter will do foryou, is give you a pathway

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towards working to that idealdream. So yeah, it starts by
helping and asking yourself thequestions. What do I want my
life to look like? And what willsuccess look like for me? So the
good thing is we have some toolsand resources and questions so
that we can help you think aboutyour thinking. I love that
because it gives you again, likeyou were saying it gives, it's a

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formula, it gives a path. Itgives guidance, where before it
was kind of just a big blackhole, or just the ether. And
it's just a nice to have everynow and then I'll think about
it. But you know what I'm onthis track my nine to five,
gotta get back to work. Okay,and so I like a few things to

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see. I mean, I like it all butwhat you mentioned about take a
deep breath, slow down, justtake a minute to get out of like
the rat race or get out of thatI gotta keep going, I gotta keep
going. I have a job tomorrow. Ihave to get to work tomorrow.
I've kids to get to school, youknow, all these different things
and just actually take some aminute for yourself, write
things down, actually write downwhat your income, lifestyle

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wealth and equity goals are. AndI'm saying this for the
listeners as much as myself, andit's good to revisit that as
well. If maybe you've done thatin the past and haven't done
that in a while. So slowingdown, taking time and actually
figuring that out for myself.
And then also that mindsetpiece. And I think those

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questions that you asked, thatare in this chapter here of the
book, are really thoughtprovoking and a really good
starting place. So instead ofjust saying, it's a nice to
have, there's actually somequestions you can ask here that
can get you excited to starttaking action steps and give you

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some tangible things to takeaction steps.
If I could add to that, youknow, I think what prevents
people from pursuing theirdreams, and people are scared
that they can make a wrong or abad decision, right? Something
like what if this is going to bethe worst thing? You know, what,

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if I'm going to be worse offthan I was before, right? So
take a moment to eliminatedecisions. It's not about making
the right or the wrong decisionat all. It's about creating a
safe space where you can justdare to dream. And look, none of
us can always make the perfectdecision. But what we can do is

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gather the information, put ouremotions aside and start looking
at the facts. So that if andwhen and if the dream is
important enough, we can make aninformed choice, and then go and
work at making it the rightdecision. But if we're going to
try and figure out what is goingto be perfect and look for 100%

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guarantee, guess what your dreamis going to be like that
horizon, it's always going toelude you. So don't get
overwhelmed by the big picture.
It's baby steps one at a time.
And for right now, it's notabout making a decision at all.
It's about enjoying the journeyand dreaming and just thinking
about what could be possible.
I couldn't have set up moreperfectly confident people make

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informed choices. And that'sreally what we're talking about
today. Just allowing yourself toeven take that moment to think
about choices that maybe youdidn't even know existed before.
And to me that's incrediblyexciting. So I'm Mary, this is
Melissa, member, relationshipstrategist with the
entrepreneurs source. We justwant to thank you so much for

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taking time with us today T andhopefully, and providing a huge
amount of value and a freshperspective to anyone that's
listening and maybe feeling someof the things that we talked
about in this episode. So thankyou to the listener for joining
us today as we explorepossibilities, options and
dreams. Remember, keep an openmind and always think about