April 15, 2022 • 31 mins
"Let's Talk About the F-Words"
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In this episode of the Possibilities, Options & Dreams" Podcast: Ep-6 “Common Obstacles to Your Financial Freedom” The F-Words, Chapter 3 Your Career 2.0, Melissa, Marissa and Tamara do a deep dive into Chapter 3 of "Your Career 2.0, A Survival Guide for the Battered Career and Investor Syndrome".
Chapter three is all about what holds you back, common obstacles in the way of financial freedom and your financial freedom.
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Welcome to the top career ownership podcast! Now you can watch or listen on the go to the industry’s most insightful minds on all things business and career ownership. We hope you’ll tune in regularly! Based on the best-selling book for successful and emerging entrepreneurs “Take Ownership of your Career 2.0, A Survival Guide for the Battered Career and Investor Syndrome” POD – Possibilities, Options & Dreams fosters meaningful connections, empowering aspiring entrepreneurs to identify, pursue and achieve their dream of self-sufficiency.
Chances are that you are interested in this Podcast because you are among the 75% of the population that is seeking self-sufficiency. Most likely you have a desire to find a better way and to improve your current situation. Perhaps you are tired of being a victim of the Battered Career Syndrome® or the Battered Investor Syndrome® which keep people going back to hopeless situations with the expectation that this time around they will be different–that the job and the stock markets will go back to the heydays enjoyed in years past.
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“This is honestly one of my favorite chapters. I’m so excited that we’re talking about it today. What a great title right? We’re going to be talking about F words. And I’m sure some individuals are scratching their head like wait; what kind of F-Words? When individuals embark on the road towards self-sufficiency and Financial Freedom and realize that they can break free from the hamster wheel of corporate America and truly create the future that they’ve always dreamed of for themselves and their families. I think they start to feel emotions that maybe they haven’t felt in a while things like excitement, freedom, right! Having the freedom for their future possibilities, just to name a few. And that’s really exciting. But on the flip side, I think it’s safe to say that the road also includes some obstacles and challenges that they may face. And that’s what we call the F words.” –Marissa Frois
“Fear is a very common emotion, I don’t think we’d be human if we didn’t experience it in some way, shape, or form. But I think the key is to come to terms with the emotion and make sure that we don’t let our emotional brain make decisions for us. Rather, what if we took a fact-based approach and just for a moment challenged what we’re thinking and feeling? You guys have heard what the acronym fear stands for, right: FEAR is false evidence appearing real.” –Tamara Loring
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Unknown (00:32):
Hey pod peeps, welcome back to the possibilities
options and dreams podcast withthe entrepreneurs source where
we empower individuals toidentify, pursue and achieve
their dreams of selfsufficiency. Mary and Mel here
to kick things off today.
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Awesome. And we're glad to beback. And we're not only it's
not just us in the studio, we'realso talking with Marissa Fry's
and Tamara Loring. We're reallyexcited to pick their brains
today and have a veryinvigorating conversation around
the F words. And we'll learn alittle bit more about what that
is in just a second. But MarissaFroy strategic integrator
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tomorrow Loring brand ideology,Do you guys mind introducing
yourselves a little bit and whatyou guys do with CES with the
entrepreneurs stores? Yeah,sure.
Do you want me to go first? Gofor it. Okay, awesome. Yeah.
Thanks, lady. So my name isMarissa fois. I'm the strategic
integrator here at theentrepreneur source. I've been
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with the organization, it'll be11 years in February. But my
role today as the strategicintegrator, I think is a lot of
fun. So we have some greatvisionaries here at our
organization. We are anentrepreneurial run
organization. And sometimesvisionaries are always looking
at that next big idea, which iswonderful. But they need that
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individual that can kind of helpbring it down a few steps and
help make it a reality. Let'smake sure we're thinking of all
the big pieces that need to comeinto play to make this real,
let's prioritize everything maybe tested out first, and then be
able to launch something systemwide. And so that's really my
job as the strategic strategicintegrator, really working with
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our visionary and the rest ofthe team to help prioritize what
we call our rocks throughout thequarter, and then throughout the
year, and then take those babysteps to help make those things
reality. So I loved what I'vedone this, these entire 11
years, and I'm looking forwardto many more. And I'm excited to
chat with everyone today.
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And without Marissa like nothingwould get done. So she is a
crucial, I don't know.
And t as brand ideology. Whattell us a little bit about what
you do.
Yeah, that sounds like quite afancy title, right? Like what on
earth does that even mean? ButI'm really honored that Terry
entrusted me with the ideologyfor our system, because what we
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do here at the entrepreneursource is so counterintuitive,
so counter common wisdom. Ourworldview is about creating
possibilities. It's aboutreinventing yourself. So I feel
I get to be the kid in the candystore that I am in charge and
entrusted with making sure thatwe uphold our brand promise that
we're in alignment with ourmission and our values. So
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whether I get to work with thefolks in the marketing
department or the ops team orthe training team or the people
in support, it's always makingsure that we connect with our
why why we get up every singleday. And it's about helping
people pursue their dreams andliving the best life ever. So
that's what I do as Brentideologists.
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We love it.
And we're just so glad to haveboth of you guys here today, as
Mary said, talking about again,diving into Chapter Three of the
your career 2.0 book, a survivalguide for the battered career
and investor syndrome. Andchapter three is all about what
holds you back common obstaclesin the way of financial freedom
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and your financial freedom. SoI'm gonna pass it over to you,
Marissa and just kind of give usthe background on this and, you
know, describe to the everyoneSorry, I'm like rambling now.
I'm gonna pass it over to you.
Marissa, give us a little.
No, thank you. Thank you. Thisis honestly one of my favorite
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chapter. So I'm so excited thatwe're talking about it today.
And I mean, what a great titleright? We're going to be talking
about F words. And I'm sure someindividuals are scratching their
head like wait, what kind ofefforts and we're going to talk
more about that. But whenindividuals embark on the road
towards self sufficiency andfinancial freedom, and really
realize that they can break freefrom the hamster wheel of
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corporate America and trulycreate the future that they've
always dreamed of for themselvesand their families. I think they
start to feel a motion thatmaybe they haven't felt in a
while things like excitement,freedom, right having the
freedom for their futurepossibilities, just to name a
few. And that's really, reallyexciting. But on the flip side,
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I think it's safe to say thatthe road also includes some
obstacles and challenges thatthey may face. And that's what
we at Te es call the F words. Soon the road to your financial
independence, most of these Fwords could definitely hold you
back if you're not careful withthat. And so we want to talk
more about that really createawareness for these F words, and
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help individuals move forwardpast these obstacles so they
could see, you know, the futurethat they're envisioning for
themselves and their family. Iwould say it's pretty normal to
experience some of these Fwords, but making sure that you
don't let them kill your dreamis what's going to be key. And
the important thing to rememberis that if you can, the
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important thing to remember toovercome all of these roadblocks
is to focus on the mostimportant effort of all, and
that's your financial freedom.
But let's talk about a few ofthese F words that someone may
face on the road to careerownership. So T, I think one of
the most common emotions that wehear is fear. But that's normal
right there. It's normal to feelsome fear as you're looking
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towards self sufficiency. So canyou talk a little bit more about
fear, the types of fear someonemay face and how to best
overcome some of these fears?
Of course, I'd be happy to fearis a very common emotion, I
don't think we'd be human if wedidn't experience it in some
way, shape, or form. But I thinkthe key is to come to terms with
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the emotion and make sure thatwe don't let our emotional brain
make decisions for us. Rather,what if we took a fact based
approach and just for a momentchallenged what we're thinking
and feeling? You guys have heardwhat the acronym fear stands
for, right? The What if whatyou're thinking and feeling is
based on false evidenceappearing real, what a fear is
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false evidence appearing real.
So I love it. When we talk aboutyou know, just be careful not to
believe everything that you'rethinking and feeling. Because
just because I'm thinking it orbelieving it, it may actually
not be true. For instance, whenyou do something new and scary,
doesn't necessarily mean thatit's wrong or bad. Just because
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you've never done it before. Youknow, doesn't mean it's wrong.
But our instincts would make itseem like that the problem with
decisions is we wouldn't have aproblem making decisions if we
could be very certain that wealways have the ability to make
a good or a right decision. Butoften what keeps us making from
making a decision at all, isfear, the fear that it will be a
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bad decision or a wrongdecision. So many times what
helps me is when I realized thatwhen I tried to be perfect, that
goal is always going to be eludeme. Now, what I do have the
ability to do is I have theability to make the best
possible choice, the mostinformed choice, right, scary or
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not. And then once I've made thechoice, I need to go to work and
make it right decision. So whatare the things that I love, if
you happen to have the book,your career 2.0, when you flip
to the chapter three, it willtalk about the different
emotions that we experience asit relates to fear and really
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helps us come to terms with whatfear really means. For some
people, it may be the fear ofchange that keeps them trapped.
For others. It's the fear of theunknown, like maybe business
ownership or what it takes tobecome financially free or self
sufficient. And ironicallyenough, for some people, it's
actually even the fear ofsuccess. I know that sounds
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crazy or counterintuitive, butI've even witnessed and
experienced some of that myself,the fear of success, you know,
if I'm really good at it, whatwill it mean? How will impact my
life? What expectations will Ineed to live up to? So
hopefully, Marissa, that helps alittle bit as we just think
about what fear really means.
And what could stop you in yourtracks? Yeah,
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no, it does. Thank you for thatexplanation. And I think, for
people listening in fear isnormal, right? But if you could
just remember that fear is falseevidence appearing real and
don't let that hold you back isgoing to be crucial for you
continuing to explore thosepossibilities to help you move
forward. Along with fear,frustration, may be another
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emotion that comes up along thejourney. So there's two types of
frustrations that we talkedabout in chapter three. Can you
provide a little bit more detailhere and how you can actually
use frustration positively inthis journey?
Sure. Sure. So like you said,there are two types of
frustration, right? There's thehealthy kind of frustration that
can actually be a motivator.
Like, for instance, if I'mfrustrated with my current job,
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because it doesn't matter howhard I work, I just don't see a
way to be able to create longterm wealth and equity for me
and my family, if that isn'timportant to me. So in an
instance, like that frustrationcan be the frustration of being
stuck on the hamster wheel canactually be the thing that
motivates me, it sparks me towant to find a different way. So
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that is the healthy kind offrustration, we often use the
example of a pearl, I don't knowwhether you guys have heard, or
even ever thought about how apearl is formed. It starts off
with a grain of sand and anoyster. And it's an irritant
that over time then turns intothis beautiful treasure. So if
you think about the frustrationyou're experiencing right now,
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and think, perhaps there's areason for it, perhaps this is
what I need to experience sothat I am motivated to change
for the better. So that is thehealthy kind of frustration that
can actually propel you to dosomething that breaks you free
from this rat race, or thisnever ending hamster wheel where
you're not making any progress.
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And then, of course, the otherkind of frustration, right? That
is the unhealthy kind. That'sthe kind that absolutely
paralyzes you, it's actuallyrobs you of the ability to think
clearly, you may be feeling atthat moment in time that oh, my
gosh, anything and everything isinsurmountable and nothing is
possible. When you're feelinglike that you may not even see
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any solutions or potentialpathways forward. And even
though I don't have a magic wandthat can make everybody's
troubles and concerns manage.
What I can do is encourage youto become aware of your mindset.
When you're thinking that. Ithink it was Henry Ford that
said, whether you think you canor whether you think you can't
either way, you're right. Sothink back to the acronym I just
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mentioned, what if fear issimply false evidence appearing
real. I love it when out foundertalks about, you know, turn your
frustration into fascination.
And I have to tell you guys,every time I feel frustrated,
and I think, wow, instead ofisn't this frustrating? Wow,
isn't this fascinating? How canthis possibly be true? I feel
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like that almost is the magic.
Because just like magic, myperspective starts changing when
I think of something beingfascinating, rather than
frustrating. And my attitudechanges. And then the amazing
thing that happens is ratherthan just seeing obstacles and
things feeling insurmountable, Istart seeing things for what
they are, I start seeingsolutions, I start getting
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inspired, and I can start seeingwhat's possible. So yeah, those
are the two types offrustration, the unhealthy kind
that could actually trap you,and the healthy kind that
actually propels you to moveforward.
Yeah, that's awesome. T thankyou so much. I'm so glad that
you spoke about the frustrationinto fascination because that is
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that's one that our visionarysays often and I've used that so
much in work life, but even inmy personal life, too, right?
When you're frustrated, I justtake a deep breath and say,
Okay, how can I turn thisfrustration into fascination?
And kind of get my mindset inthe right space? So I'm, I'm so
glad that you brought that oneup, that these next two F words
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are probably my favorite,because I think it's so
astonishing when people read itin the chapter. And that's
friends and family could be an Fword right? What we call crabs
in the basket, which I knowyou're going to talk a little
bit more about. But I think foran individual, you are on cloud
nine, you're so excited you'reexploring these possibilities of
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your future, why wouldn'tfriends and family be on board
with that? And kind ofexperience that excitement with
you? Right? But is that alwaysthe case? are friends and family
always as excited as theindividual T? What are your
thoughts on that?
Oh, gosh, yeah, we probablycould write an entire book on
just that phenomena. So weactually even have a postcard
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that explains the phenomena andit says you know, any
resemblance to your family andfriends is purely metaphorical,
right, referring to them asfriends. With one crab in the
basket, you need a lid butfilled with crabs, there is no
need when one tries to climbout, the others will pull it
down. So while it's important toshare your dreams with family
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and friends, they may not alwaysunderstand or support you. Often
when trying to be supportive,caring family members or friends
can pull you down. That does notmean that they don't love you or
care about you. It's a normalreaction to change. So is it
normal? Does it happen?
Absolutely. So the real questionis really, why? Why does this
happen? So what I've seen islet's say you're frustrated with
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your career and and you feellike you're in a dead end job.
Many times people internalizethat and they think it must be
me. Maybe I'm just not qualifiedenough, maybe I'm not good
enough. And God forbid I sharewith my spouse or my significant
other how unhappy I am with myjob, right? It's one more worry
for them to you know, digestive.
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Let me just deal with it myself.
So as I know that life cannot goon like this, I may start
learning and exploring andeducating myself on how to break
free from this hamster wheel.
The challenge with that is if Idon't share how I'm thinking and
feeling with my significantothers, as I'm starting to
evolve, as I'm starting to seedifferent possibilities. And
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then one day, I say to Mike,Hey, Mike, you know what, I
think I'm going to start abusiness, my own business, or
I'm going to quit my job and dothat. He's gonna think like, oh,
my gosh, tomorrow, did you justgo mad? Where did that come
from? Right. So in thatinstance, how can I expect him
to support me if I've been goingon this journey by myself and
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solitude? So it is good toinvolve significant others and
spouses so that they can atleast understand what you're
thinking and feeling? And evenif they're not the ones who have
this dream to be selfsufficient? Or they're not the
ones who have the dream to be abusiness owner? At the very
least, they can be supportive,but if you suddenly just bring
it on them? Yeah, they're gonnathink you just went berserk or
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not. Right? Yeah. So that is oneinstance that I see. And I'm
sure you've got stories to tell,or Mal and Mary, you probably I
have stories to share there,too.
Yeah, 100%, I think the friendsand family one is so
interesting, because you think,Oh, my gosh, they of course,
they'd be the most supportive,or whatever it is. But going
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back to that whole mindsetshift, it's just almost
subconscious. And a lot oftimes, too, I feel it's just
part, it can be part of just thefamily story. You know, like,
for example, I don't like justwithin our family, like, it's
just normally we go, you go out,you get a job, you work and
you're just working towardsretirement. And, you know, there
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is that kind of mentality, thatthat's the way it should be. And
again, that's kind of how yougrew up, and what we learn in
school, and all these differentthings, my friends, there's not
a lot of them who are like,entrepreneurial, or striking out
and starting their own business.
So it's also just part of thestory that we tell ourselves
that that's part of our family.
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So but being able to, actually,you could actually be the
catalyst in your family, thatkind of changes that narrative.
But you also do want to makesure that you kind of bring them
along for the ride as well. AndI think that's a great point,
too. Yeah.
And what one of the things thatyou just spoke about makes me
think, you know, just becauseit's different, doesn't mean
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it's wrong. So if your currentcareer is giving a lot of
pleasure giving you purpose, andyou know, you're happy, then so
be it. But if it doesn't dothat, it's time to look for
alternatives. But yes,especially in families where
maybe the tradition has been goto school, get our higher
education, get a job, you know,climb the corporate ladder. I
mean, this is a completelydifferent way of thinking. So
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you know, just because they'renot familiar with it doesn't
necessarily mean it's wrong. Theother thing it makes me think of
like, why would family andfriends maybe not support you? I
don't know. But could theremaybe be a little jealousy?
Could it be that, you know, ourfriends and family wants us to
do well, as long as we're notdoing any better than them? I
mean, I don't know. I hope it'snot the key. Were any of us. But
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it's, you know?
Yeah, yeah, for sure. And Ithink too, it's so right for on
this session, we're talkingabout all of these F words. But
I think it's important to, toyour point earlier about
allowing them to be part of thejourney, because if you are
experiencing some of theseefforts, chances are your loved
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ones are just looking out foryour own best interests. That's
normal, right. And maybe they'llexperience some of these same F
words that we've spoken abouttoday. So being able to be part
of that journey, and reallyhelped to overcome some of
these. What could be obstaclesthat we're discussing today? I
think it's just as important notonly for yourself, but for your
loved ones that want to kind ofsee the best for you, and
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understand that part of thejourney. So I think it's
important. Yeah.
You know, and it's a challenge,right? Because most of us don't
really want to upset our familymembers are our last one. So you
know, my best advice would justbe always seek the truth. Don't
let fear determine your future.
Make sure that you go and gatherthe facts. And we have something
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we call the magic question.
Like, what if you were to findout that what you thinking and
feeling isn't really true, wouldthat make a difference? So just
go out and see what others say.
Right? I always say especiallywhen it comes to business
ownership. Let's let's exploreand find out from people who
actually went into businessthemselves what they do Get and
what are the challenges? Whatare the you know? Are they able
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to be financially free? Werethey able to pursue their goals
and hit them? So just seek thetruth? Just seek the truth.
Don't let fear or the becauseyou're scared? Because you've
never done it before, stop youin the tracks of you know
pursuing what could be possible?
Absolutely.
Yep. Great advice. Okay, so Ithink I saved one of the best F
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words for last. And that'sfinances, right? It's an F word
that has probably been on mostpeople's mind from the very
beginning of starting thisjourney, the finances of
investing in self sufficiency.
Maybe you're asking yourselfquestions like, can I even
afford to do this? Do I have touse my life savings to do this?
Maybe your credit isn't thebest. And you're thinking
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because of that it's going toprohibit you from moving
forward. I think all of that allof those are are normal
questions that people askthemselves. So tea, can you help
those individuals out? That maybe asking themselves those
questions on moving forward andreally helping see past those,
because at the end of the day,they're not really roadblocks
for individuals exploring selfsufficiency.
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Ya know, and it seemsreasonable, right? If I said,
Look, I don't know that I haveenough money. But here's the
funny thing. We've spoken tosome people who said, Do you
know what I don't know that I'min a financial position to
actually let's say, start abusiness for myself? And then
you find out that their networth is, you know, two or 3
million? I'm like, wait aminute, how much do you think it
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takes to start a business?
Right? So it's perspective,sometimes, what I have found is
money, or the lack of financialresources should never be the
reason why you don't at the veryleast, pursue your dream of
independence of selfsufficiency. Whether there's a
dream, trust me. And if thedesire is strong enough, money
always seems to find a way thegovernment even has incentives
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through the SBA and other typesof programs to help first time
business owners or to helpveterans or to help minorities.
So don't let money be the reasonwhy you don't dare to dream.
Everybody has a dream worthwhilepursuing. And then the next
thing is, educate yourself aboutthe possibilities, look, maybe
your credit is in bad shape. Andyou know, you need to work on
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that. So I'm not saying that theroad to independence is going to
be easy. But we need to becommitted to following and
pursuing our dream and geteducated about options. And then
you may actually be surprisedwhen you find out for instance,
when we work with our clients,so many of them don't think they
have the financial means to dosomething. And when they find
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out that so many smallbusinesses are actually funded
through retirement plans. Mostof them say, Well, no, that's
probably illegal, or that is notfor me, or I'm not old enough
yet. So I'm going to have allthese penalties. Not necessarily
true. So many small businessesare actually funded through
rollovers. And what surprisespeople is the fact that they
actually have access to capital,they just don't know it. So
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again, don't believe what youthink, necessarily, because it
may not be true. Go out and seekthe truth. Get educated. And
let's see what's possible.
Thank you so much, Mary. Yeah,no, I a couple of things. You
said they're just about don'tlet finances be the reason that
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you don't dream and also toeducate yourself on the
possibilities. And I think ifsomeone has, I almost see these
as like building blocks, right?
So maybe start with yourself,what's that fear? False Evidence
Appearing Real for yourself?
What is it that you're tellingyourself? I can't own a
business? Because I can't gointo self sufficiency. You know,
I can't achieve selfsufficiency, because, and start
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there. And then once you you'realigned with yourself, Okay, do
I want self sufficiency so muchthat I'm willing to work through
these different fears, thesedifferent efforts, then when you
go to your family, right,whether they're supportive,
whether they're critical,whatever it might be, if they're
voicing the concerns that you'vealready worked through, you can
say thank you, right? I know,you're coming from a place of
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love, but I'm gonna keep doingthis anyway. And then same with
the finances, right? If again,it's I can't go into business
for myself, because I'm notfinancially stable enough, or I
have to be at this milestone.
Okay, take that for what thatis. But like you said, there's
no harm and at least educatingyourself and what those
possibilities are, and then youcan back into it. Right? It
might not be you, you open up abusiness tomorrow, but at least
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now you know what you have to doto get there and just breaking
down those barriers one by one,I think it comes down to the
education and being willing toexplore what the options are so
that you can achieve your endgoal.
At the very least, even if youjust take that one formula we
spoke about right and ratherthan being frustrated that I
can't do this, I can't do that.
And I will never be able to doyou know X, Y and Z and be
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financially free. Turn thatfrustration into fascination.
Wow. I wonder how other Justhave done that was everybody
who's a business owner today.
You know, were they bornwealthy? Or were they able to
bootstrap it? And were they ableto surround themselves with
dream catchers as opposed todream stealers? Right? So just
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at the very least just work onyour mindset and say, am I
creating a self fulfillingprophecy by telling myself this
cannot be done? Or am I seekingpossibilities? And am I looking
for a way to make it possible?
Awesome, thank you t. Soearlier, I mentioned one very
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important effort to keep in mindto really help individuals
overcome some of the barriersthat we discussed today. And
that was financial freedom,which I think is one of the
biggest things that people aremost excited about when
exploring the possibilities. ButI think it's important to also
talk about another big one. Andthat's future and moving into
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the future that you've alwaysdreamed of for yourself and your
families. Most people see thegap between their current
situation and income and thesuccess they envision in the
future, and may say tothemselves, I don't know if I
could really survive that leap.
So if you can provide just onepiece of advice to those
individuals, maybe, you know,saying that that statement to
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themselves, what would it be?
Yeah, not all efforts need to bescary, right? For instance,
financial freedom, fantasticfutures. I mean, those are F
words that just get me fired upabout what's possible. You know,
what advice would I givesomeone, again, I'll go back to
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everybody has a dream worthwhilepursuing. So my advice would be,
don't ever limit yourself, anddon't prematurely jump to
conclusions about what is andwhat isn't possible. Give
yourself permission to learn,give yourself permission to
dream. And hey, why not engage acareer transition coach,
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somebody you could use as a selfsounding board, sometimes it's
better to have a coach who's nota family member or a friend,
because they don't have any ofthat baggage or proceed.
Proceed, no notions about whatcan or cannot be done. And then
the other thing is, if you aregoing to engage a coach, be open
to coaching, allow them tochallenge maybe the efforts that
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you're experiencing, allow themto challenge your limiting
beliefs and maybe catch you on anegative mindset, or a limiting
mindset. And, and then just seewhat's possible. I mean, you get
one life to live, you might aswell may be curious, and may
didn't make it an excitingjourney.
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antastic huh. All right. Well, Ithink we've done a pretty good
job talking about some of themost common F words, you know,
that that you'll read about inchapter three there. I think, f
these efforts we spoke about andthese emotions are normal. But
what you do with them to moveforward and overcome them is
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going to be key to reallyeducating yourself and just
exploring those those streams ofself sufficiency. Mel, Mary,
anything further that you wantedto add before we sign off for
today?
No, I think lots of good things.
I'm as always listening to Tlisting tomorrow, so I just get
jazzed up and like, Yeah, let'sgo. But I think, again, you
know, there's so muchopportunity where that fear that
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point of fear, where might be abarrier. Instead, it's a place
to identify, you know what, it'sjust something I don't know
enough about yet. And it's apath, a very clear path to
explore further. So, to everyoneout there listening, keep an
open mind, and the possibilitiesare truly endless.
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Don't let fear determine yourfeet future. Be careful who you
surround yourself with. Go andbe with the dream catchers
instead of the dream stealersmake it a great thing.
Amen. And I just again, likelove listening and talking about
this. Because most like yousaid, it's it's so normal. And I
feel like it's almost so normalthat you just kind of brush over
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it like, Oh, it's just, I just Ican't do it. I'm afraid my
friends would say no, what aremy what's my family gonna think
it's just so normal to think itbut back to today's point of
actually work with one of ourcoaches, because you don't have
to do it alone. Yes, you can goout and, you know, talk to other
business owners and explore thedifferent things around finances
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and things like that. But at theend of the day, you don't have
to do it alone. There's peopleout there who have worked with
coaches before. Our coaches havedone this so many, many times.
And you know, the entrepreneursource for the past 40 years has
been in this space of helpingpeople realize that they can
achieve their dreams and realizethat there's possibilities and
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options they didn't even realizeexisted, which is just something
like just Think about that for amoment. Anyone who's listening
like there are things out there,you haven't even thought of that
could help you reach yourdreams, whatever that is. So
take a minute and just thinkabout oh my gosh, what is it
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that maybe five years ago, 10years ago when I was just
finishing high school or collegethings that I thought I would
love to do this? And then youthought, No, I'm just going to
go get a normal job, becausethat's what just seems safe. Go
back to those dreams. Thinkabout them and actually see,
okay, think about what if Icould actually do this? What if
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this was actually possible? Whatwould that mean for me and my
family and my life and myfuture, and all the exciting
things so don't be scared of theF words. And the effort to
remember is financial freedomand that is 100% possible. So
thanks for joining us today aswe explore possibilities,
options and dreams. Keep an openmind and always remember
Hey pod peeps, welcome back to the possibilities
options and dreams podcast withthe entrepreneurs source where
we empower individuals toidentify, pursue and achieve
their dreams of selfsufficiency. Mary and Mel here
to kick things off today.
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Awesome. And we're glad to beback. And we're not only it's
not just us in the studio, we'realso talking with Marissa Fry's
and Tamara Loring. We're reallyexcited to pick their brains
today and have a veryinvigorating conversation around
the F words. And we'll learn alittle bit more about what that
is in just a second. But MarissaFroy strategic integrator
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tomorrow Loring brand ideology,Do you guys mind introducing
yourselves a little bit and whatyou guys do with CES with the
entrepreneurs stores? Yeah,sure.
Do you want me to go first? Gofor it. Okay, awesome. Yeah.
Thanks, lady. So my name isMarissa fois. I'm the strategic
integrator here at theentrepreneur source. I've been
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with the organization, it'll be11 years in February. But my
role today as the strategicintegrator, I think is a lot of
fun. So we have some greatvisionaries here at our
organization. We are anentrepreneurial run
organization. And sometimesvisionaries are always looking
at that next big idea, which iswonderful. But they need that
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individual that can kind of helpbring it down a few steps and
help make it a reality. Let'smake sure we're thinking of all
the big pieces that need to comeinto play to make this real,
let's prioritize everything maybe tested out first, and then be
able to launch something systemwide. And so that's really my
job as the strategic strategicintegrator, really working with
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our visionary and the rest ofthe team to help prioritize what
we call our rocks throughout thequarter, and then throughout the
year, and then take those babysteps to help make those things
reality. So I loved what I'vedone this, these entire 11
years, and I'm looking forwardto many more. And I'm excited to
chat with everyone today.
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And without Marissa like nothingwould get done. So she is a
crucial, I don't know.
And t as brand ideology. Whattell us a little bit about what
you do.
Yeah, that sounds like quite afancy title, right? Like what on
earth does that even mean? ButI'm really honored that Terry
entrusted me with the ideologyfor our system, because what we
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do here at the entrepreneursource is so counterintuitive,
so counter common wisdom. Ourworldview is about creating
possibilities. It's aboutreinventing yourself. So I feel
I get to be the kid in the candystore that I am in charge and
entrusted with making sure thatwe uphold our brand promise that
we're in alignment with ourmission and our values. So
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whether I get to work with thefolks in the marketing
department or the ops team orthe training team or the people
in support, it's always makingsure that we connect with our
why why we get up every singleday. And it's about helping
people pursue their dreams andliving the best life ever. So
that's what I do as Brentideologists.
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We love it.
And we're just so glad to haveboth of you guys here today, as
Mary said, talking about again,diving into Chapter Three of the
your career 2.0 book, a survivalguide for the battered career
and investor syndrome. Andchapter three is all about what
holds you back common obstaclesin the way of financial freedom
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and your financial freedom. SoI'm gonna pass it over to you,
Marissa and just kind of give usthe background on this and, you
know, describe to the everyoneSorry, I'm like rambling now.
I'm gonna pass it over to you.
Marissa, give us a little.
No, thank you. Thank you. Thisis honestly one of my favorite
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chapter. So I'm so excited thatwe're talking about it today.
And I mean, what a great titleright? We're going to be talking
about F words. And I'm sure someindividuals are scratching their
head like wait, what kind ofefforts and we're going to talk
more about that. But whenindividuals embark on the road
towards self sufficiency andfinancial freedom, and really
realize that they can break freefrom the hamster wheel of
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corporate America and trulycreate the future that they've
always dreamed of for themselvesand their families. I think they
start to feel a motion thatmaybe they haven't felt in a
while things like excitement,freedom, right having the
freedom for their futurepossibilities, just to name a
few. And that's really, reallyexciting. But on the flip side,
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I think it's safe to say thatthe road also includes some
obstacles and challenges thatthey may face. And that's what
we at Te es call the F words. Soon the road to your financial
independence, most of these Fwords could definitely hold you
back if you're not careful withthat. And so we want to talk
more about that really createawareness for these F words, and
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help individuals move forwardpast these obstacles so they
could see, you know, the futurethat they're envisioning for
themselves and their family. Iwould say it's pretty normal to
experience some of these Fwords, but making sure that you
don't let them kill your dreamis what's going to be key. And
the important thing to rememberis that if you can, the
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important thing to remember toovercome all of these roadblocks
is to focus on the mostimportant effort of all, and
that's your financial freedom.
But let's talk about a few ofthese F words that someone may
face on the road to careerownership. So T, I think one of
the most common emotions that wehear is fear. But that's normal
right there. It's normal to feelsome fear as you're looking
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towards self sufficiency. So canyou talk a little bit more about
fear, the types of fear someonemay face and how to best
overcome some of these fears?
Of course, I'd be happy to fearis a very common emotion, I
don't think we'd be human if wedidn't experience it in some
way, shape, or form. But I thinkthe key is to come to terms with
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the emotion and make sure thatwe don't let our emotional brain
make decisions for us. Rather,what if we took a fact based
approach and just for a momentchallenged what we're thinking
and feeling? You guys have heardwhat the acronym fear stands
for, right? The What if whatyou're thinking and feeling is
based on false evidenceappearing real, what a fear is
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false evidence appearing real.
So I love it. When we talk aboutyou know, just be careful not to
believe everything that you'rethinking and feeling. Because
just because I'm thinking it orbelieving it, it may actually
not be true. For instance, whenyou do something new and scary,
doesn't necessarily mean thatit's wrong or bad. Just because
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you've never done it before. Youknow, doesn't mean it's wrong.
But our instincts would make itseem like that the problem with
decisions is we wouldn't have aproblem making decisions if we
could be very certain that wealways have the ability to make
a good or a right decision. Butoften what keeps us making from
making a decision at all, isfear, the fear that it will be a
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bad decision or a wrongdecision. So many times what
helps me is when I realized thatwhen I tried to be perfect, that
goal is always going to be eludeme. Now, what I do have the
ability to do is I have theability to make the best
possible choice, the mostinformed choice, right, scary or
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not. And then once I've made thechoice, I need to go to work and
make it right decision. So whatare the things that I love, if
you happen to have the book,your career 2.0, when you flip
to the chapter three, it willtalk about the different
emotions that we experience asit relates to fear and really
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helps us come to terms with whatfear really means. For some
people, it may be the fear ofchange that keeps them trapped.
For others. It's the fear of theunknown, like maybe business
ownership or what it takes tobecome financially free or self
sufficient. And ironicallyenough, for some people, it's
actually even the fear ofsuccess. I know that sounds
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crazy or counterintuitive, butI've even witnessed and
experienced some of that myself,the fear of success, you know,
if I'm really good at it, whatwill it mean? How will impact my
life? What expectations will Ineed to live up to? So
hopefully, Marissa, that helps alittle bit as we just think
about what fear really means.
And what could stop you in yourtracks? Yeah,
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no, it does. Thank you for thatexplanation. And I think, for
people listening in fear isnormal, right? But if you could
just remember that fear is falseevidence appearing real and
don't let that hold you back isgoing to be crucial for you
continuing to explore thosepossibilities to help you move
forward. Along with fear,frustration, may be another
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emotion that comes up along thejourney. So there's two types of
frustrations that we talkedabout in chapter three. Can you
provide a little bit more detailhere and how you can actually
use frustration positively inthis journey?
Sure. Sure. So like you said,there are two types of
frustration, right? There's thehealthy kind of frustration that
can actually be a motivator.
Like, for instance, if I'mfrustrated with my current job,
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because it doesn't matter howhard I work, I just don't see a
way to be able to create longterm wealth and equity for me
and my family, if that isn'timportant to me. So in an
instance, like that frustrationcan be the frustration of being
stuck on the hamster wheel canactually be the thing that
motivates me, it sparks me towant to find a different way. So
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that is the healthy kind offrustration, we often use the
example of a pearl, I don't knowwhether you guys have heard, or
even ever thought about how apearl is formed. It starts off
with a grain of sand and anoyster. And it's an irritant
that over time then turns intothis beautiful treasure. So if
you think about the frustrationyou're experiencing right now,
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and think, perhaps there's areason for it, perhaps this is
what I need to experience sothat I am motivated to change
for the better. So that is thehealthy kind of frustration that
can actually propel you to dosomething that breaks you free
from this rat race, or thisnever ending hamster wheel where
you're not making any progress.
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And then, of course, the otherkind of frustration, right? That
is the unhealthy kind. That'sthe kind that absolutely
paralyzes you, it's actuallyrobs you of the ability to think
clearly, you may be feeling atthat moment in time that oh, my
gosh, anything and everything isinsurmountable and nothing is
possible. When you're feelinglike that you may not even see
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any solutions or potentialpathways forward. And even
though I don't have a magic wandthat can make everybody's
troubles and concerns manage.
What I can do is encourage youto become aware of your mindset.
When you're thinking that. Ithink it was Henry Ford that
said, whether you think you canor whether you think you can't
either way, you're right. Sothink back to the acronym I just
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mentioned, what if fear issimply false evidence appearing
real. I love it when out foundertalks about, you know, turn your
frustration into fascination.
And I have to tell you guys,every time I feel frustrated,
and I think, wow, instead ofisn't this frustrating? Wow,
isn't this fascinating? How canthis possibly be true? I feel
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like that almost is the magic.
Because just like magic, myperspective starts changing when
I think of something beingfascinating, rather than
frustrating. And my attitudechanges. And then the amazing
thing that happens is ratherthan just seeing obstacles and
things feeling insurmountable, Istart seeing things for what
they are, I start seeingsolutions, I start getting
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inspired, and I can start seeingwhat's possible. So yeah, those
are the two types offrustration, the unhealthy kind
that could actually trap you,and the healthy kind that
actually propels you to moveforward.
Yeah, that's awesome. T thankyou so much. I'm so glad that
you spoke about the frustrationinto fascination because that is
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that's one that our visionarysays often and I've used that so
much in work life, but even inmy personal life, too, right?
When you're frustrated, I justtake a deep breath and say,
Okay, how can I turn thisfrustration into fascination?
And kind of get my mindset inthe right space? So I'm, I'm so
glad that you brought that oneup, that these next two F words
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are probably my favorite,because I think it's so
astonishing when people read itin the chapter. And that's
friends and family could be an Fword right? What we call crabs
in the basket, which I knowyou're going to talk a little
bit more about. But I think foran individual, you are on cloud
nine, you're so excited you'reexploring these possibilities of
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your future, why wouldn'tfriends and family be on board
with that? And kind ofexperience that excitement with
you? Right? But is that alwaysthe case? are friends and family
always as excited as theindividual T? What are your
thoughts on that?
Oh, gosh, yeah, we probablycould write an entire book on
just that phenomena. So weactually even have a postcard
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that explains the phenomena andit says you know, any
resemblance to your family andfriends is purely metaphorical,
right, referring to them asfriends. With one crab in the
basket, you need a lid butfilled with crabs, there is no
need when one tries to climbout, the others will pull it
down. So while it's important toshare your dreams with family
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and friends, they may not alwaysunderstand or support you. Often
when trying to be supportive,caring family members or friends
can pull you down. That does notmean that they don't love you or
care about you. It's a normalreaction to change. So is it
normal? Does it happen?
Absolutely. So the real questionis really, why? Why does this
happen? So what I've seen islet's say you're frustrated with
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your career and and you feellike you're in a dead end job.
Many times people internalizethat and they think it must be
me. Maybe I'm just not qualifiedenough, maybe I'm not good
enough. And God forbid I sharewith my spouse or my significant
other how unhappy I am with myjob, right? It's one more worry
for them to you know, digestive.
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Let me just deal with it myself.
So as I know that life cannot goon like this, I may start
learning and exploring andeducating myself on how to break
free from this hamster wheel.
The challenge with that is if Idon't share how I'm thinking and
feeling with my significantothers, as I'm starting to
evolve, as I'm starting to seedifferent possibilities. And
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then one day, I say to Mike,Hey, Mike, you know what, I
think I'm going to start abusiness, my own business, or
I'm going to quit my job and dothat. He's gonna think like, oh,
my gosh, tomorrow, did you justgo mad? Where did that come
from? Right. So in thatinstance, how can I expect him
to support me if I've been goingon this journey by myself and
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solitude? So it is good toinvolve significant others and
spouses so that they can atleast understand what you're
thinking and feeling? And evenif they're not the ones who have
this dream to be selfsufficient? Or they're not the
ones who have the dream to be abusiness owner? At the very
least, they can be supportive,but if you suddenly just bring
it on them? Yeah, they're gonnathink you just went berserk or
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not. Right? Yeah. So that is oneinstance that I see. And I'm
sure you've got stories to tell,or Mal and Mary, you probably I
have stories to share there,too.
Yeah, 100%, I think the friendsand family one is so
interesting, because you think,Oh, my gosh, they of course,
they'd be the most supportive,or whatever it is. But going
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back to that whole mindsetshift, it's just almost
subconscious. And a lot oftimes, too, I feel it's just
part, it can be part of just thefamily story. You know, like,
for example, I don't like justwithin our family, like, it's
just normally we go, you go out,you get a job, you work and
you're just working towardsretirement. And, you know, there
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is that kind of mentality, thatthat's the way it should be. And
again, that's kind of how yougrew up, and what we learn in
school, and all these differentthings, my friends, there's not
a lot of them who are like,entrepreneurial, or striking out
and starting their own business.
So it's also just part of thestory that we tell ourselves
that that's part of our family.
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So but being able to, actually,you could actually be the
catalyst in your family, thatkind of changes that narrative.
But you also do want to makesure that you kind of bring them
along for the ride as well. AndI think that's a great point,
too. Yeah.
And what one of the things thatyou just spoke about makes me
think, you know, just becauseit's different, doesn't mean
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it's wrong. So if your currentcareer is giving a lot of
pleasure giving you purpose, andyou know, you're happy, then so
be it. But if it doesn't dothat, it's time to look for
alternatives. But yes,especially in families where
maybe the tradition has been goto school, get our higher
education, get a job, you know,climb the corporate ladder. I
mean, this is a completelydifferent way of thinking. So
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you know, just because they'renot familiar with it doesn't
necessarily mean it's wrong. Theother thing it makes me think of
like, why would family andfriends maybe not support you? I
don't know. But could theremaybe be a little jealousy?
Could it be that, you know, ourfriends and family wants us to
do well, as long as we're notdoing any better than them? I
mean, I don't know. I hope it'snot the key. Were any of us. But
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it's, you know?
Yeah, yeah, for sure. And Ithink too, it's so right for on
this session, we're talkingabout all of these F words. But
I think it's important to, toyour point earlier about
allowing them to be part of thejourney, because if you are
experiencing some of theseefforts, chances are your loved
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ones are just looking out foryour own best interests. That's
normal, right. And maybe they'llexperience some of these same F
words that we've spoken abouttoday. So being able to be part
of that journey, and reallyhelped to overcome some of
these. What could be obstaclesthat we're discussing today? I
think it's just as important notonly for yourself, but for your
loved ones that want to kind ofsee the best for you, and
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understand that part of thejourney. So I think it's
important. Yeah.
You know, and it's a challenge,right? Because most of us don't
really want to upset our familymembers are our last one. So you
know, my best advice would justbe always seek the truth. Don't
let fear determine your future.
Make sure that you go and gatherthe facts. And we have something
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we call the magic question.
Like, what if you were to findout that what you thinking and
feeling isn't really true, wouldthat make a difference? So just
go out and see what others say.
Right? I always say especiallywhen it comes to business
ownership. Let's let's exploreand find out from people who
actually went into businessthemselves what they do Get and
what are the challenges? Whatare the you know? Are they able
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to be financially free? Werethey able to pursue their goals
and hit them? So just seek thetruth? Just seek the truth.
Don't let fear or the becauseyou're scared? Because you've
never done it before, stop youin the tracks of you know
pursuing what could be possible?
Absolutely.
Yep. Great advice. Okay, so Ithink I saved one of the best F
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words for last. And that'sfinances, right? It's an F word
that has probably been on mostpeople's mind from the very
beginning of starting thisjourney, the finances of
investing in self sufficiency.
Maybe you're asking yourselfquestions like, can I even
afford to do this? Do I have touse my life savings to do this?
Maybe your credit isn't thebest. And you're thinking
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because of that it's going toprohibit you from moving
forward. I think all of that allof those are are normal
questions that people askthemselves. So tea, can you help
those individuals out? That maybe asking themselves those
questions on moving forward andreally helping see past those,
because at the end of the day,they're not really roadblocks
for individuals exploring selfsufficiency.
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Ya know, and it seemsreasonable, right? If I said,
Look, I don't know that I haveenough money. But here's the
funny thing. We've spoken tosome people who said, Do you
know what I don't know that I'min a financial position to
actually let's say, start abusiness for myself? And then
you find out that their networth is, you know, two or 3
million? I'm like, wait aminute, how much do you think it
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takes to start a business?
Right? So it's perspective,sometimes, what I have found is
money, or the lack of financialresources should never be the
reason why you don't at the veryleast, pursue your dream of
independence of selfsufficiency. Whether there's a
dream, trust me. And if thedesire is strong enough, money
always seems to find a way thegovernment even has incentives
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through the SBA and other typesof programs to help first time
business owners or to helpveterans or to help minorities.
So don't let money be the reasonwhy you don't dare to dream.
Everybody has a dream worthwhilepursuing. And then the next
thing is, educate yourself aboutthe possibilities, look, maybe
your credit is in bad shape. Andyou know, you need to work on
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that. So I'm not saying that theroad to independence is going to
be easy. But we need to becommitted to following and
pursuing our dream and geteducated about options. And then
you may actually be surprisedwhen you find out for instance,
when we work with our clients,so many of them don't think they
have the financial means to dosomething. And when they find
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out that so many smallbusinesses are actually funded
through retirement plans. Mostof them say, Well, no, that's
probably illegal, or that is notfor me, or I'm not old enough
yet. So I'm going to have allthese penalties. Not necessarily
true. So many small businessesare actually funded through
rollovers. And what surprisespeople is the fact that they
actually have access to capital,they just don't know it. So
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again, don't believe what youthink, necessarily, because it
may not be true. Go out and seekthe truth. Get educated. And
let's see what's possible.
Thank you so much, Mary. Yeah,no, I a couple of things. You
said they're just about don'tlet finances be the reason that
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you don't dream and also toeducate yourself on the
possibilities. And I think ifsomeone has, I almost see these
as like building blocks, right?
So maybe start with yourself,what's that fear? False Evidence
Appearing Real for yourself?
What is it that you're tellingyourself? I can't own a
business? Because I can't gointo self sufficiency. You know,
I can't achieve selfsufficiency, because, and start
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there. And then once you you'realigned with yourself, Okay, do
I want self sufficiency so muchthat I'm willing to work through
these different fears, thesedifferent efforts, then when you
go to your family, right,whether they're supportive,
whether they're critical,whatever it might be, if they're
voicing the concerns that you'vealready worked through, you can
say thank you, right? I know,you're coming from a place of
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love, but I'm gonna keep doingthis anyway. And then same with
the finances, right? If again,it's I can't go into business
for myself, because I'm notfinancially stable enough, or I
have to be at this milestone.
Okay, take that for what thatis. But like you said, there's
no harm and at least educatingyourself and what those
possibilities are, and then youcan back into it. Right? It
might not be you, you open up abusiness tomorrow, but at least
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now you know what you have to doto get there and just breaking
down those barriers one by one,I think it comes down to the
education and being willing toexplore what the options are so
that you can achieve your endgoal.
At the very least, even if youjust take that one formula we
spoke about right and ratherthan being frustrated that I
can't do this, I can't do that.
And I will never be able to doyou know X, Y and Z and be
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financially free. Turn thatfrustration into fascination.
Wow. I wonder how other Justhave done that was everybody
who's a business owner today.
You know, were they bornwealthy? Or were they able to
bootstrap it? And were they ableto surround themselves with
dream catchers as opposed todream stealers? Right? So just
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at the very least just work onyour mindset and say, am I
creating a self fulfillingprophecy by telling myself this
cannot be done? Or am I seekingpossibilities? And am I looking
for a way to make it possible?
Awesome, thank you t. Soearlier, I mentioned one very
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important effort to keep in mindto really help individuals
overcome some of the barriersthat we discussed today. And
that was financial freedom,which I think is one of the
biggest things that people aremost excited about when
exploring the possibilities. ButI think it's important to also
talk about another big one. Andthat's future and moving into
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the future that you've alwaysdreamed of for yourself and your
families. Most people see thegap between their current
situation and income and thesuccess they envision in the
future, and may say tothemselves, I don't know if I
could really survive that leap.
So if you can provide just onepiece of advice to those
individuals, maybe, you know,saying that that statement to
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themselves, what would it be?
Yeah, not all efforts need to bescary, right? For instance,
financial freedom, fantasticfutures. I mean, those are F
words that just get me fired upabout what's possible. You know,
what advice would I givesomeone, again, I'll go back to
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everybody has a dream worthwhilepursuing. So my advice would be,
don't ever limit yourself, anddon't prematurely jump to
conclusions about what is andwhat isn't possible. Give
yourself permission to learn,give yourself permission to
dream. And hey, why not engage acareer transition coach,
(26:56):
somebody you could use as a selfsounding board, sometimes it's
better to have a coach who's nota family member or a friend,
because they don't have any ofthat baggage or proceed.
Proceed, no notions about whatcan or cannot be done. And then
the other thing is, if you aregoing to engage a coach, be open
to coaching, allow them tochallenge maybe the efforts that
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you're experiencing, allow themto challenge your limiting
beliefs and maybe catch you on anegative mindset, or a limiting
mindset. And, and then just seewhat's possible. I mean, you get
one life to live, you might aswell may be curious, and may
didn't make it an excitingjourney.
(27:41):
antastic huh. All right. Well, Ithink we've done a pretty good
job talking about some of themost common F words, you know,
that that you'll read about inchapter three there. I think, f
these efforts we spoke about andthese emotions are normal. But
what you do with them to moveforward and overcome them is
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going to be key to reallyeducating yourself and just
exploring those those streams ofself sufficiency. Mel, Mary,
anything further that you wantedto add before we sign off for
today?
No, I think lots of good things.
I'm as always listening to Tlisting tomorrow, so I just get
jazzed up and like, Yeah, let'sgo. But I think, again, you
know, there's so muchopportunity where that fear that
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point of fear, where might be abarrier. Instead, it's a place
to identify, you know what, it'sjust something I don't know
enough about yet. And it's apath, a very clear path to
explore further. So, to everyoneout there listening, keep an
open mind, and the possibilitiesare truly endless.
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Don't let fear determine yourfeet future. Be careful who you
surround yourself with. Go andbe with the dream catchers
instead of the dream stealersmake it a great thing.
Amen. And I just again, likelove listening and talking about
this. Because most like yousaid, it's it's so normal. And I
feel like it's almost so normalthat you just kind of brush over
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it like, Oh, it's just, I just Ican't do it. I'm afraid my
friends would say no, what aremy what's my family gonna think
it's just so normal to think itbut back to today's point of
actually work with one of ourcoaches, because you don't have
to do it alone. Yes, you can goout and, you know, talk to other
business owners and explore thedifferent things around finances
(29:32):
and things like that. But at theend of the day, you don't have
to do it alone. There's peopleout there who have worked with
coaches before. Our coaches havedone this so many, many times.
And you know, the entrepreneursource for the past 40 years has
been in this space of helpingpeople realize that they can
achieve their dreams and realizethat there's possibilities and
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options they didn't even realizeexisted, which is just something
like just Think about that for amoment. Anyone who's listening
like there are things out there,you haven't even thought of that
could help you reach yourdreams, whatever that is. So
take a minute and just thinkabout oh my gosh, what is it
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that maybe five years ago, 10years ago when I was just
finishing high school or collegethings that I thought I would
love to do this? And then youthought, No, I'm just going to
go get a normal job, becausethat's what just seems safe. Go
back to those dreams. Thinkabout them and actually see,
okay, think about what if Icould actually do this? What if
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this was actually possible? Whatwould that mean for me and my
family and my life and myfuture, and all the exciting
things so don't be scared of theF words. And the effort to
remember is financial freedomand that is 100% possible. So
thanks for joining us today aswe explore possibilities,
options and dreams. Keep an openmind and always remember
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