September 4, 2025 • 51 mins
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Summer is wrapping up, the backpacks are packed, and that “back to school” energy is in the air. In this week’s episode, we’re catching up on the last of our summer trips, sharing funny kid moments, and then diving into what these seasonal transitions mean for moms—not just logistically, but emotionally and personally too.
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- End-of-summer reflections and first-day feels
- Practical + emotional tips for moms sending kids off to school (especially for the first time)
- The difference between your role as “mom” and your identity as a woman
- Why transitions—school or otherwise—can feel unsettling, and how to lean into acceptance
- Small rituals and resets that make change feel a little easier
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(00:00):
I'm Christina and I'm T, andthis is the Pretty and Pink
Again podcast where motherhoodmeets rediscovery.
Hello.
Hey, how are you?
I'm good.
(00:20):
We're finally gonna do a catchup.
We were just saying before westarted rolling that it's been a
while, even though we did somany solo, like me and you
episodes the whole summer.
It feels like it's been weekssince we've had a catch up.
I know.
We were you were on vacation forYep.
You had a long weekend, right?
I did.
You and Ra you did the oceanhouse.
We did Rhode Island.
(00:41):
Tell us about that island andYeah, then I was away with the
kids for the week and then mykids went back to school and
then Nick and I were away and wejust got back last night.
I know.
So it's been I know.
Yeah.
We've been like crossing eachother and haven't really been
able to sit down and catch up.
So we figured.
I know.
Even when you got here today,I've been, I was Very
tightlipped.
'cause I wanna save the realketchup for right now.
(01:02):
Right now.
I know.
This is technically I guesssummer is still the next couple
of weeks.
I hate to like rush saying it'sover, but it's over.
It is everybody, if you back toschool, if you ask Chad GPT if
summer's over, it'll say yes.
It's over.
It's over.
So we figured we would close outthe summer.
And also summer's also overbecause you're brunette.
I am.
I jumped in.
You are wearing brown.
(01:23):
I am.
And your hair is brown.
That's it.
That's it.
So it's so summer's over for me.
It's like August 31st.
Still summer, September 1stfall.
Did you see I put pumpkins out.
Yeah, I did.
Did you see the pumpkin on thecamera??
I, so I'm like, okay, we'reclearly all on the same page
here, but summer's over.
So we figured we were gonna do alittle close out to summer catch
up and just talk through, likewhat we've learned, what we've
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been doing.
Yeah.
Also as people roll into thenext season, your kids back to
school, what does that looklike?
I know, is it, is it a busierseason?
It is it a slower season?
'cause you might have time ifyour children are in school, but
most people are busier whentheir kids are in school.
It's a transition period.
And it's a transition period.
Yeah.
And what that feels like whenyour kids are going through that
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transition period and how do youhandle the drop offs, the
pickups, that whole thing.
We're actually going throughthat right now.
Leo starts school this week.
And so he's starting preschoolthree.
So it's a threes program and itis.
Monday, Wednesday, Friday fromnine to 12.
And that's our whole thing, iswe're gonna get into this whole,
okay, somebody needs to dropoff, somebody needs to pick up,
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what are we doing with Layla?
It's a whole transition periodfor us.
Just when I feel like we got inthe, a really good swing of
having a really good schedulethat was working for everybody.
Here we are again.
I know it's in a transitionperiod, and I feel like that's
just to 12, nine to 12 is hard.
Anytime you're just goingsomewhere for a little while.
Yeah.
It's hard.
It's hard on the kids.
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It's hard on mom and dad, it'shard to figure out what's a good
system with that?
Yes, exactly.
Exactly.
Do you take them mall?
Exactly.
Do you leave one home?
Do you pay a sitter to stay homewith one?
Yeah.
Do you go out, do you just stayout from nine to 12 and like
work at the coffee shop, likeyou're gonna have to play around
with it and see what That'swhat, that's exactly the plan.
The plan is that we don'texactly know what's gonna work
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and what's not gonna work, andso we're just gonna figure it
out as we go.
But I feel like this is thefirst time that I've been like,
ears perking up with like backto school.
Because it hasn't affected mesince I was 22 years old and I
graduated college, so it's, Ihave been out of this space for
so long.
Yeah.
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And I can't even do the math.
And so I feel like this is thefirst season where I'm like,
wow, this is like really back toschool and we're gonna be in
this stage for however long, 18more years until everybody's
outta school.
It's crazy.
Yeah.
Oh yeah.
We are very much longer thanthat.
My kids started last week.
And so my oldest started middleschool.
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Which, that was like a bigtransition for him.
That's a one to go to.
Middle school, there's a lot offun privileges that come with
middle school.
Like you can be a walker afterschool, you can go, there's a
little I will call it a coffeeshop, but he's not getting
coffee.
There's a little like breakfastplace that they can get food
after.
There's a little market.
They can walk to the library,they can walk to their after
school activities.
There's a lot more independencethat comes with it.
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So he is enjoying it.
And then my middle one moved upto the intermediate school.
And his feedback from his firstday of school was, and you were
here for this?
I was, he was like, ma, theyhave a sandwich line.
There's a deli line, but theydon't have olive oil and vinegar
and a oregano for thesandwiches.
So I got him this little squirtbottle.
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It's a little silicone squirtbottle for his locker that he
can, he could bring with him.
He can bring with him.
Oh, so he can make the sandwichof his dreams so he can dress
his sandwich to his liking.
Yep.
He can dress it up.
Yep.
At school, I love him.
And then the girls didn't reallyhave much to report back, but so
everybody no academic talk washad, but everybody, the social
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butterflies.
Yeah they're good.
They're happy.
And how are you feeling witheverybody back?
Because the last time we talkedyour pink spotlight was that you
were actually sad for thistransition, where in the past
you've been a little bit morelike antsy to get this going.
Yeah, no, I definitely missedthem the first day.
And I was saying that, I waslike, oh, this is what mothers
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feel like when mothers like misstheir kids.
Because I've always been justlike trying to push them away oh
my God, leave me alone.
Leave me, just leave me alone.
And now.
I was saying before that I thinkspace sometimes breeds more
space.
And I like just wanted to havethem around.
I was enjoying their company.
I'm enjoying their questions.
Like I'm enjoying our timetogether.
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And I was a little sad for themto go.
I know.
So how was the transition back?
I know you were away thisweekend, but how do you feel
now?
Its been a week.
Yeah.
I think I feel okay.
It's good.
It seems okay.
They're doing much better Yeah.
Than last year.
My daughter Camilla cries atevery drop off.
Any mother that's listening tothis has a crier.
Yeah.
When you drop off, it ispainful.
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I can imagine.
Imagine.
And I wish I could just give yousome advice.
I wish I could give you advice.
'cause listen, I've tried itall.
I tried the laminated chart onthe back of the, on the back of
the head of the seat in front ofher.
That if she had a good drop off,she'd get a smiley face and a
smiley face meant she'd get achocolate ice cream cone or a
chocolate candy or whatever itwas when she got the car.
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A little prize in the afternoon.
We've tried everything.
So it's just every drop off,it's just a transition.
Every drop off for school, she'sjust emotional with transit.
She'd cried and cried.
Even in kindergarten last year,she wouldn't get on the bus.
She'd cry for the bus.
I would go through the schoolline.
She would cling to me like achief frog.
Mm-hmm.
I'd walk her into school.
I would, it would be like ITTmatter 10 o'clock.
And I would just start my day.
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It was, oh my God.
Didn't matter.
Very taxing.
I'm sure.
I can't even imagine.
So she.
Is going to school so far andshe's fine.
And she seems okay.
Oh good.
That's huge.
That's amazing.
Knock on wood.
Where's the wood?
So maybe that's why I am not asexhausted.
'cause when you have to holdyour breath'cause you don't know
what's happening next.
Yes.
It's like that's, yeah, that's Ifind right now that's the, my
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most tiring part is because I'min like the toddler tantrum
phase and that emotional burnoutand exhaustion is like unlike
anything.
I feel like I've ever beenthrough before.
It's just, it's very, it's likewalking on eggshells.
So I can relate to you in thatway where you're like, I don't
know what's gonna happen.
I don't know what's gonna setyou off.
I'm trying to do all the rightthings and it that anxiety is
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depleting for sure.
Are you nervous about drop off?
I am and the next step I am.
What are you most nervous about?
So I think.
That I have that sort of kid, adeeply feelings kid.
And so I am a little bitnervous, but I'm also hopeful.
I feel like I'm building a lotup and by the time this airs,
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this will have happened already.
So hopefully it did not go, likehow I'm envisioning it's going,
which is what you're saying withthe, I'm sure this is the first
time, so I'm sure it's gonna beemotional for both of us, but
I'm gonna really try to hold ittogether.
Mm-hmm.
So that I'm obviously trying tobe like the sturdy leader like
we always say.
Yeah.
And a sturdy leader has to dropand run.
(08:19):
Yes.
I know.
You know how hard it is Hard todrop and run.
I know.
I'm sure.
I'm, I have been, I think thelast probably like week and a
half.
This has been coming and I'vebeen knowing it's been coming
for months and probably severalmonths at this point.
And so I can't believe thatwe're actually here.
And I have just been going overhow this is gonna happen in my
(08:40):
head for a very long time.
Yeah.
Like, how is this gonna happen?
And we did the run through whenwe went last week with him and
they're like, oh, we're droppingoff.
The parents stay outside.
We all stay together and then weall walk in together.
And so I was envisioning likeleaving the classroom and going
back down the hallway and that'snot gonna happen.
It's gonna be a little bit moreof a drop off.
(09:01):
Yeah.
They take them from you.
Yeah.
Yes.
And then they all go in at onceand then they all go in
together.
So it's not like I'm leaving thebuilding.
I guess maybe that helps.
I'm sure they know.
They've probably done all of theAB testing of how this works.
We also, it also builds a littleindependence because they hang
up their backpack.
They hang up their snack, theydo their water bottle.
They do their coat, yeah.
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So you've been through thisbefore?
I've been through this, yes.
Four times.
I know times.
I know two or three.
They've all gone to preschoolfor two or three years.
I've been, I've just been it'llbe interesting when it's over.
Like when the first day is over,if this went Yeah.
How I'm envisioning or if it's,maybe I will be pleasantly
surprised.
And honestly, that would evenmake me emotional too.
(09:44):
If there's no tears or ifthere's minimal tears.
And if it was just like a greatday, I feel like I'm gonna have
emotions either way, yes.
To all you mamas out there whoare sending your kids to
college, to boarding school, tohigh school, to public school,
wherever, to kindergarten, toanywhere.
Yep.
This episode is dedicated toyou.
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I know.
And we're all in this together.
It's a big transition.
It's a huge transition for mamaswho are teachers who are working
and sending their kids to schoolat the same time.
I know.
There's a lot.
It's a lot.
I'm, September is a month oftransition.
It is, and it's interesting toeven think that this continues
on, like you're saying then theygo to a different school within
their school system.
So this is just, it just keepsbuilding on itself and it's
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exciting for them.
And I'm definitely somebody whoI as a mom, i'm starting to
like, love to get to see thispart, of the, a little bit of
the independence.
And that excites me.
Like when they get lit up doingsomething that they like it's so
nice.
He's also, he's gonna have threehours of his day that you
weren't a part of.
I know.
And he's not gonna be the beststoryteller right now.
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But he will.
Come out with mom, I did X, Y,Z, or I met this friend, or i,
I'm gravitating towards thisperson.
You're gonna get to see thiswhole I did this other side of
him tried.
We learned this today.
That's so exciting.
And then it also, I read thisbook, I like this book, mom.
Yeah, I read, it's exactlyright.
And it's not something that Ibrought into the house that I
was a part of and that.
Gonna be a huge transition forus.
(11:11):
Yeah.
And it's also gonna be a hugetransition for his little sister
who has never been alone in thehouse.
Like I wonder if she's gonna bepissed.
I think she's probably gonnahave a mix of emotions too.
She's probably gonna be like,wait, I get to play with
anything without anybodyinterfering here.
And I also think she's gonna bea little bit bored.
So one of the days I'm takingher to gymnastics.
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So that's gonna be like ourmorning thing and I've ac, I've
actually never done a I can'tsay I've never done anything
alone with her, but becausethey're so close in age, right?
I've done most things.
I would say both 90% of thethings with both of them, right?
So this is actually gonna be ourtime where we get to spend a
little bit of time where I didnot have that issue with Leo,
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right?
It was me and Leo all the time,right?
So this is actually gonna be atransition for Layla and I to
get a little bit of alone time.
Should be fun and fun, do thingstogether.
So it's just gonna be.
Just a big week.
That's fun.
Yeah.
There's a trail behindgymnastics and so I used to run
or walk that with one of thekids just to kill extra time.
Oh yeah.
(12:16):
And the other one Good to knowin school, because if you're
doing a drop off at nine Yes.
And you have to be back for 12.
Yes.
And you're gonna go togymnastics, which is there's
still gonna be five minutes,there's still time, but there's
not like a lot of time to comehome because it's fine for you
to pop in, throw in a load oflaundry, do whatever.
But like, when you're bringingyour little one with you, you
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have to like factor in.
Transition time for her.
What are we doing?
We're getting in and outta thecar, yes.
So that it's not enough time forus to go back in and her to re
acclimate to the house.
So it's, yeah.
So we're gonna, it's gonna be alot of kind of trial and error.
Yeah.
And I'm gonna need all the tipsmoms, because I feel like, but
this is gonna be exciting.
You'll know what works best.
I know.
(12:56):
You'll figure, I know.
We'll get into a groove justlike we have.
And I do feel like it's.
Again with the transitions, andthis is a time, the summer's
ending, it's time to reflect howmuch more confident you do get.
So if we have any like new moms,listen, I still consider myself
a new mom, but if you have, ifyou're like a new mom, you get a
little bit more confident astime goes on.
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So I think that I thought Iwould be a lot more anxious.
I am anxious, but it's not asmuch as I probably would've
thought that I was.
I feel like I'm confident withdecisions and just, I guess that
mental state of just, we'llfigure it out.
I'm comfortable with that now,where at the beginning it was
such a hard.
Mental state to navigate for me.
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And now I'm just I live in thatspace of we'll figure it out.
We always do.
What a good healthy mindset.
It's way to go.
I feel like it's just how thishas like naturally progressed.
I like that for you.
Yeah.
Because that, because thealternative is second guessing
yourself and second guessingevery step of the way and trying
to problem solve before thingseven happen.
(13:57):
Yes.
It's the problem.
It's so tiring.
Yes.
And it doesn't work, but justrolling with it.
Yeah.
And also like you've had someexposure therapy to it.
You've been out with the kidswhen things have gone awry.
Yep.
And you're still here to talkabout it.
Exactly.
So are they?
Yep.
So how bad could it be?
So you just have to roll withit.
You just roll with it, youfigure it out.
We will all figure it out.
We'll all figure out this newtransition.
(14:20):
All right.
So you're gonna come up with alist of things that work during
that three hours?
Yeah.
And I can share car wash forsure.
I know.
Car wash.
I was gonna say we'll stop in.
Maybe we'll grab a coffee.
Maybe I'll go grab lunch so thatwhen we pick Leo up Yeah.
It'll be ready to go.
Like we'll be able to playactivities.
Yeah.
Some littles, little filler.
Yeah.
Some jersey mikes.
That's my weakness.
But yeah, I think we'll figureit out and we'll learn as we go.
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I like that for you.
Good, good.
So let's do a little summerketchup.
So where did we leave off last?
So you were away?
Yep.
So we did for your 10 yearanniversary.
Yeah.
Raja and I celebrated our 10year wedding anniversary.
We've been together for 18 yearsthis year, but we've been
married for 10.
So you've been together since2007.
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2007.
Wow.
Yes, which is crazy.
So we celebrated our 10 yearanniversary, which was really
nice.
We went away.
Anniversary was August 1st.
We went away in Midgut and wewent to Ocean House in Rhode
Island, which is in Watch Hill.
It's so beautiful.
It's right by Taylor Swift'shouse, which was so funny
because she just got engaged.
So it was like, I feel like I'vebeen I'm like a secret swifty.
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Not that I don't like, not thatI'm not proud of it, but it's
just not something that Ioutwardly share all the time.
But I love her.
I listen to her music.
I was so pregnant during theERAS tour, so I couldn't go, but
I would've loved to have gone tothat.
And, but it's just funny that wewent there and we've always
known, we've like obviouslyvisited Watch Hill like you guys
have too.
And so her house, she's had thathouse for I think like about 10
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years or maybe a little lessthan that.
And.
Her house is right next to thisbeautiful resort in Watch Hill,
Rhode Island, and it's threedown from it.
But when you're there, you canliterally look up and it's see,
it's right there on a bluff andit, you can see it.
It's just very prominent andvery beautiful.
And it's funny because I've beeninto the summer, I turned
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pretty, she's like a huge partof that, like her music and all
that.
So I feel like I've been extralistening to her this summer and
then we went there.
So she was like in the back ofmy mind the whole time of oh,
that's our house.
Was she there?
She wasn't there.
They're renovating it lookedlike, because there was a ton of
construction going on there.
But then she did theannouncement of her album.
The podcast.
Yeah.
So that was like the week thatwe were going.
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She announced on the podcastthat she has a new album.
So when we were there, there wasso much.
Media like just if you open, ifyou looked in a newspaper on a
magazine, everywhere that youwent.
And then it's like the tie toRhode Island'cause she's a
resident there and then we comeback and she gets engaged so I'm
like wow.
She's just really having quite amoment and quite a summer and it
(16:56):
was fun to see it and we'relike, do you think she's gonna
get married there?
We're now so invest.
We probably talked about her, myhusband and I a lot because we
were just so invested ineverything that's going on.
But it was beautiful.
Other than that, it was, Icannot recommend that place
enough.
Yeah.
If you are anywhere in NewEngland, go there.
I guess even into New York.
Or New Jersey or anywhere that'slike drivable to there.
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That was such a wonderful place.
It was.
It's definitely like a specialoccasion type of place, but it's
a resort and I feel like there'snot a lot of places where you
can go and you feel like unlessyou leave the country and you
feel like you're at any sort ofresort where you're like, we're
away.
This felt like that.
There's multiple restaurants.
There's Mul Spa.
(17:39):
Yes.
Everything is like full service.
And you're not driving the towelservice.
Yep.
The beach.
Yep.
So if it really felt like avacation and it was drivable,
which honestly made it evenbetter because we drove and
within two, two hours you startyour vacation door to two hours.
Yes.
Yeah.
Two, maybe not even, it was anhour 40 in the car.
And I swear it was like packingtwo duffle bags and like
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unpacking two duffle bags, twohours door to door.
We were sitting on the beach.
Oh, that's awesome.
Or during lunch.
So we were like, this is just,and how did the kids do in your
absence?
They did great.
Like they had, we had a systemfigured out.
We have, we're very lucky thatwe have the help that we do.
And so that was great.
They had a great time.
It was a few days, so it wasn'ttoo much.
And, I felt comfortable being,again, driving distance from
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them for those three days thatwe were gone.
But it was just really nice andit felt like a true vacation.
Good.
It was beautiful.
Highly, Highly recommend.
That's awesome.
Oh good.
I'm so happy to hear that.
Yeah, it was really nice.
Good.
What about you?
Because you did a trip with thefamily and then a trip without
the family?
Yeah, so Nick is from New Jerseyand his grandmother lived in
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Long Beach Island, New Jersey.
And so she actually sold thehouse, I wanna say the summer
before I even met Nick.
So I never went to her house.
But when I met Nick, he and Istarted vacationing in Long
Beach Island.
So my math could be off a littlebit, but the island is
approximately 15 miles long.
Oh.
And it's only four blocks wide,so no matter where you are on
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the island, you're on water.
Oh, that's nice.
Wow.
You're either on the bay side oryou're on the ocean Atlantic
Ocean.
It is.
Heaven.
It so nice.
It is so nice.
It is so chill.
I booked it really last minutebecause Nick's been like crazy
busy at work and it's been hardfor him to get away.
And I said, I'm just gonna bookthis house.
I'm gonna book it for a week.
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I'm gonna go with the kids.
Come when you can.
Come when you can.
It'll be fine.
So I got there on Monday and hecame Wednesday night and then we
ended up and we, we had it forthe week and it was.
It was awesome fun.
It was so much fun.
There was a hurricane going on.
Yeah.
Hurricane Erin.
So the weather was not great forhalf of it the first couple
days.
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Yeah.
Yeah.
But there's but honestly itended up being fine.
The kids went mini golfing.
We did eating as an activity.
We like went to like, all right,we're gonna have a drink here.
We're gonna have the pizza here,we're gonna have the oysters
here.
My kids love to eat, sosometimes it's, you get sad when
the weather is not the best, butI feel like when you're still
away it doesn't matter.
It was fine.
There was so much to do.
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It still do to scenery.
Like I took the kids back toschool shopping'cause there was
like tons of shopping there.
We got our nails done, it wasgreat.
The kids went fishing, theybrought their scooters, they
played pickleball, like there'slike fantasy island there.
So they did the arcades and therides and so fun.
One of my girlfriends from townwas there with her kids,
coincidentally.
So we hung out there one themone day, like it was such nice.
(20:34):
Family time for the six of us.
I love that.
Before I know,'cause I was gonnasay back to school, like that
was right before school started,so that was like your last kind
of trip.
Yeah.
Which is so nice.
It was great.
You like held onto summer?
I did.
The house was awesome.
It was right on the beach, so Isaid.
To the realtor.
I said, next year I wanna go fortwo weeks.
Oh, so nice.
I just liked it there so much.
Yep.
That's the best I know.
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So yeah, that was, I highlyrecommend Long Beach Island.
I know.
If you're looking for a familyvacation, I know, and we talked
about this at the beginning, Ithink it was like at the
beginning of the summer when wedid like a little summer catch
up and just sometimessimplifying.
And not overdoing it, where it'slike not everybody has to get on
a plane.
You don't have to make it socomplicated.
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Sometimes it's just a change ofscenery somewhere else is so
exciting.
And there's no, I feel like withsocial media and sometimes just
comparing things you're like, Idon't know, people take these
extravagant trips somewhere elseand you're, everybody is
summering in Europe and you'relike, that's wonderful, but you
don't have to do that in orderto have a wonderful vacation and
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just a change of scenery.
We literally love driving justdown to the Connecticut
shoreline for a week and thatmade a huge difference for us
and just, and we're going backnext summer.
So I feel like sometimes it'sjust simplifying.
Yeah, and like just getting achange of scenery with the
family and the kids.
Just love that time.
What you're looking, it's whatyou're looking to achieve if
you're looking to just spendsome time as family together.
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And that doesn't always have tobe in the south of France.
It doesn't, no.
Or it doesn't have to meangetting on a plane, especially
when you're in the northeast orif you're in part of the country
where it's beautiful, where youare in the summer, just go
somewhere local.
Just change.
If it's an hour away, it's achange up and it just, it feels
so good.
And you're cutting that traveltime and you're, it's just so
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much easier.
Packing the car, it's just, it'sso much easier.
Yeah.
This trip we went on thisweekend did require a plane
ride.
It's not that was you guys.
Yeah.
So I Have you ever been to GrandCayman Island?
I have, but not.
I, we've only been like on astop we've never stayed, we've
never been like staying on theisland.
Okay.
This place is a 10.
Oh, amazing.
It was an 11.
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I wish the kids were there.
They would've loved the trip.
I wanna copy and paste it and doit with them next time.
That's amazing.
They would love it.
So we stayed at the Ritz andGrand Cayman Islands, I guess
Grand Cayman Island or CaymanIslands is comprised of three
islands.
So we stayed in Grand Cayman.
Grand Cayman.
Yeah, that's a big one.
I think it was amazing.
It was so beautiful.
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The hotel was beautiful.
They had this breakfast everyday that was included if you
book with American Express.
So we had like free breakfastevery morning and it was just
like amazing.
And this morning when I woke upand I had to make myself my
Yeah, you're like oatmeal anddrink my.
Shitty coffee.
I'm like, fuck.
It was just so much better.
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Oh, I, I know.
Oh my God.
But the breakfast was amazing.
Like ev all the food wasamazing.
We had like yummy seafood.
We did this like boat day and wedid I guess you can call it a
catamaran.
Oh yeah.
Cool.
Because it has the flat bottom.
Yep.
So you can take the boat rightup into shallow waters.
So we did this swimming with thesea rays.
Oh, so fun.
And we kissed the sea rays.
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They said that give you goodluck for seven years.
So we like all kissed the searays.
Oh, there you go.
We fed them.
We this was a hair wet vacationtoo.
Yeah.
I love that hair.
I like swam.
Your hair was wet.
I love it.
They did this like swimming withwhat is it called?
The Starfish.
And then we went to Rum Island.
You got at it.
Oh, I got, oh, love it.
So we go to Rum Island, we pullup and they're like, all right,
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we're gonna drop you off here.
Walk a hundred feet that way.
And there is Rum Island.
Rum Island sounds.
So what do you think you do atRum Island?
Drink.
You drink rum.
So we go, so I don't drink alot.
I have one or two drinks and I'musually wasted.
And if I have three, I'm puking.
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Yeah.
So I don't.
I don't usually, I live in theone to two.
Yeah, one to two era.
So we go to Rum Island and I'min my wet bathing suit.
I have my period, I'm wearing awhite bathing suit and I'm just
like, fuck it.
Yeah.
I'm just gonna, I'm here, I'mjust gonna go for it.
So we're at this like bar, I'mlike, we're like barefoot.
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I'm wet, my hair is wet.
And it was just the best time.
Oh, that's, I know.
That's so nice.
I had my, my, the mudslides wereamazing.
They like mudslides, frenchfries.
So then we're like walking backto the boat I'm like the captain
of this boat's probably look atthese idiots.
Oh no, you just enjoyingyourself from island.
Oh, he probably sees a lotworse.
I'm sure he does.
Bringing people back and fortharound island.
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I'm sure he has some stories.
So the next stop they did likethe jet skis and like the water
toys and I stayed on the boatand I read my book.
Oh, nice.
Oh my gosh.
It was just so much fun.
Oh, good for you.
The simple things I know, butthat's, no, that's so nice.
And that was nice time for youand Nick and another kind of
memory to close out Summer.
It was such good times.
And then I'm reading the bestbook.
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Okay.
Tell me about your book.
It's called Next to Heaven.
Okay.
My girlfriend Casey, when wewere in LBI.
Mm-hmm.
I was like, what?
Can you tell me a good book toread?
I'm almost done with my book.
And she said, download this bookNext to Heaven.
Next to heaven.
So it takes place in NewBethlehem, Connecticut.
Okay.
Which apparently is like a verywealthy town in Connecticut.
And there's these five couplesthat are all like, the husbands
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are all like prep schoolbackground uber wealthy.
Like the McAllisters?
Yeah.
Like generational.
This generational wealth.
And the wives are basicallybored housewives, and they
decide to throw a swingers'party.
Oh.
And they all hook up with eachother's husbands.
Just some light summer readingand then there's a murder
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involved.
Of course.
I was gonna say, wait, so highlyrecommend.
Just recommend it.
Murder always.
I was gonna say, wait, come on.
There's gotta be something else.
Highly recommend it.
I love it.
Okay, maybe that will be next onmy list as I read 15 minutes a
night still, but I'll get thereanyway.
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Oh my God.
Oh, that's so good.
The no workings of my brain.
So yes.
So we read a book and then wecame home yesterday and the kids
charged the car when we gothome.
Oh, I'm sure they missed you.
And they probably had so much totell you too.
Yeah.
Basically that they don't likewhen we leave.
I know.
And blah, blah, blah.
I know.
I know.
The guilt.
You always say that.
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It's harder to leave them whenthey're older, and I feel like
it's harder to leave them now.
Yeah.
So hard to leave them.
And they were fine.
They were very well cared for,obviously.
Like when Vincent told me whathe did this weekend, he's I went
to a Yukon football game withgrandpa.
I went fishing again, I had aplay date.
We swam, we did this, we hadsteak, we had lobster, blah,
blah, blah.
I'm like, wow.
Yeah.
Sounds like you had a realshitty time.
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Yeah.
What are you complaining about?
They missed you.
Okay.
I have a question for you.
Yeah.
What kind of drop off mom do youthink you're gonna be?
Are you gonna be.
A chatty mom, are you gonna be aget right back in the car?
Mom?
I don't know.
I feel I'm going three days aweek.
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I feel like it's gonna depend onthe day.
I feel like the days that I haveto bring, like we have to go to
gymnastics, I'm probably gonnahave to get in the car and go,
because I scheduled that to belike, a little bit like here to
there.
But I think I might be somewherein the middle.
I like catching up.
I don't have a ton ofsocializing during the day
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because I work for myself andunless I'm here in this chair,
like having a, a casual meetupwith somebody, I don't get a ton
of social time, so I don't minda little bit of a chat.
I just can't spend obviouslylike my day doing that, but what
were you, what does one wear?
Does school drop off?
I know.
This is gonna be interesting andI am putting my foot in my mouth
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from the shit I used to talkbefore I became a mom.
I think I admitted this on thispodcast and I've definitely
admitted this to friends, but Iused to be like, why do you need
a school drop off outfitinspiration?
'Cause I would always see theseoutfits and it would be like
school drop off, school drop.
And I would be like, I don't getit.
You're literally wearing, asweat set or so, or like
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leggings and something.
And I would be like, I don'tunderstand why this is a thing,
but.
Now I do.
I'm like, I feel like I need tobe organized.
I need to wake up.
I need to know what I'm wearing.
I wanna put something on, likethat's at least that I could be
out in and if I have to, if I'mleaving for the day or the
morning, like that's what I'min.
I'm committing to something.
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And so now I see that and I'mlike, okay, now I need all of
the school drop off inspirationbecause you need an outfit.
And you wanna look semipresentable, but you also wanna
be comfortable.
So I get it now and I'm like,I'm sorry for all of the silent
judging I did of collages onPinterest and LTK that I did
for, 10 years where I would seethese and be like, what on earth
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do you need that inspirationfor?
It's not like you're goingsomewhere, but now you know.
Now I know.
Now you're going somewhere.
Now I know.
Maybe I will be curating someback to school.
School drop off looks.
School drop off to dinner.
Maybe I'll start documentingthat.
Yeah or just school drop off.
I'm like I'm a changer.
Like I don't stay in an outfitfor the whole entire day, but.
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I feel at least for the morning,like that's what I'm gonna be in
for three days, so it'ssometimes I feel like I can hang
into some like lounge wear orlike house kind of lounge wear.
But I'm gonna try, it also willbe part of like my day, okay,
I'm getting dressed so that ifI'm out for three hours, four
hours, by the time I do drop offand pick up, if I happen to be
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out for those, for that periodof time, I'm gonna wanna be in
something cute but comfortableand something that I wouldn't be
embarrassed to see other peoplein.
So maybe I'll start reallydocumenting those looks because
I'm gonna have to get crafty andhave to be organized.
And you're gonna talk to othermoms?
Yeah.
Maybe make a friend.
Yeah.
I feel like there's, I feel liketo me that's like very exciting
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because yes.
It's not something that I'vebeen able to do before.
I've been really out of thatschool scene.
Yeah.
So we shall see.
Oh, I love that.
Oh, stay tuned.
Yeah, we shall see.
Stay tuned.
Yeah, I know.
I've met some of my closestfriends I know at preschool.
I know with the kids.
I know you have, and I feel likeI hear other people that have
done the same thing, and so itis very exciting to now be in
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this chapter, but yeah.
Yeah.
But I was like a yoga pants andtank top mom.
Yeah.
That's, I think it's gonnadepend on the day if I'm going
to a class from there, if I'm onmy own, if I'm with going to
gymnastics with Layla from afterthat, like it's gonna vary based
on the day and what I have goingon.
Thought I was a yoga instructor.
Yeah, you were always in yourset and I was, that's why.
Nope.
I don't even have a workouttoday.
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Just a mom.
So I guess since you're aseasoned mom, do you have any
tips for me and for anybody elseto make the transitions a little
bit easier?
Like it could be like dailytransitions to get out of the
house.
I know you've shared some ofyour hacks, but it's been a long
time since you've done that onhere?
Or just any kind of mindsethacks or anything?
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I think my biggest hack and thisis a new, this is a new hack and
I wish it, it had been justshoved into my face mm-hmm.
like 10 years ago.
Okay.
Is that you have to accept thatthis whole experience is
unsettling.
It's unsettling for you, andit's unsettling for your child.
It's all transition.
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It's like your nervous systemhas been shaken up.
Think of a snow globe as likeyour body.
Yeah.
And there's like the snoweverywhere.
Everything has been shaken up.
It's unsettling for everybodyand I think that the sooner you
just accept.
That it's new and that's allthat you're feeling, and that's
all that your child is feelingis just like this newness and
this unsettledness and thatit'll pass, that everything's
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gonna be okay.
Yeah.
It's just, it'll pass.
It's just all new.
It's like being comfortable withthe uncomfortable.
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's not, there's not anythingelse going on that you need to
explore.
You don't have some weirdailment.
Your child doesn't have someweird psychological or,
behavioral issue.
Like it's just this newness.
I think when things progress andthey linger and they never die
(32:35):
down, that's when you have toinvestigate further.
Of course.
But of course, I think that's mybest advice that I like that and
gonna follow that advice.
It's all new, it's allunsettling, the school
transitions, the familytransitions, like the shifts
that you have to eat dinner at adifferent time.
You're, you were clo used to allbeing together and now you're
not, there's instead of havingsix balls together in the house,
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they're like all ped all overthe town.
Yeah.
Everybody's all over the place.
More activities are starting.
So your schedules change.
Yeah.
Like what you just said, likelunchtime, dinner time,
breakfast time, anything mightbe shifted and it's just I'm,
it's just hard.
It really is just hard.
Yeah.
Anytime you're going throughsomething and it's hard, I think
as the mom, and we always saythat like sturdy leader, that
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you aim to be, right?
You wanna be like the rock ofyour family.
It's hard when you're goingthrough it, you know your kid is
going through it, your kids aregoing through it and.
You're trying to be the rock tohold it all together, but you're
going through the transition aswell.
So I do like that advice.
Yeah, I think you just have toaccept it and also just say
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those words to your kids, likemantra that to your kids, right?
This is new for you.
This is new for mommy, right?
This is gonna feel a littlefunny.
Yeah, that we're gonna workthrough it together.
So I will have my kind bar, mynineties playlist or whatever
playlist I will be doing.
All of those things you're to,there're things that help reset
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me.
Yeah.
You're back to your reset hacksbecause now you're back, you're
like thrust back into that verystructured, you have things
going on every single day.
It's not that kind of more likelazy, carefree summer vibe where
it's just like whatever goes,we're rolling with it.
You wanna be able to roll withit, but you also need to know
how to reset yourself.
And so I guess to that too, it'smoms just remember,'cause it's
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taking us back to so manyepisodes that we've done where
we've talked about like thenervous system resetting Yes.
And things that you can dofilling your cup so that.
So that you can pour into othersand your, the rest of your
family.
You can't take care of anybodyelse if you don't take care of
yourself and if you have anopportunity right now for your
children to be in school and youhave the privilege of alone time
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explore during that alone time,what that even means to fill
your cup.
'Cause it means different thingsfor different people.
And it'll mean different thingsat different points of your
life.
So explore what are things thatreset you and then do those
things and little micro doseswhen you have to yep.
So you get comfortable withlearning, like what makes you
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feel at ease level, right level.
Yeah.
Yeah, for sure.
So that would be my biggesthack.
Yep.
So you are, you have your drinkthat you like, your little dark
chocolate.
Make sure you're not hangry yournineties playlist to reset your
mood.
And I do all these things forthe kids too.
I love that.
Yeah, we are off to the races.
I think that something that wasfrom last week's episode that
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really stuck, which was so good.
Me with, by the way.
Yeah.
If you haven't listened to ourepisode with Marissa Mead from
Style Cusp, who has been a dearfriend of mine for almost 15
years.
You can listen.
It's our last episode and shetalked about.
This identity versus roles.
And she actually gets into thisa lot on her podcast as well.
(35:53):
She has a podcast and one of theepisodes is about this.
And t and I have talked justabout how this can relate to
moms.
And you actually brought it upon last week's episode where
you're like, I'm obviouslyChristina, but I'm a mom and
that's my role, that's not myidentity.
And I don't know, it just reallystuck with me because I feel
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like a huge part of this podcastis I guess that is
differentiating that.
Is coming to terms with that,because I feel like you can
really get lost in this role ofbeing a mom.
And can we open up thatdiscussion for when you, when
like the role of mom feels likeit's becoming your entire
identity and maybe we expand ona whole episode about this.
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'cause I do think that we cantake that, what she said and
relate it back to us and likewhat we talk about on this
podcast all the time.
I think she said it in the veinof when you are creating
friendships Yes.
And meeting other people.
Yes.
And right now, you're entering aseason where you're gonna be
meeting people as a mom.
And not meeting people Yes.
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As a content creator.
Like how you met Marissa or as aprofessional Right.
Or, in, in some other facet ofyour life.
So you're gonna be meetingpeople as moms, so that'll be
what you've been introduced asYes.
As the mom.
Someone's mom.
As somebody's mom.
Yeah.
That's one of the roles that youplay.
Yep.
And I think that when that'syour main role being mom.
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Mm-hmm.
And you don't do other things,that's when you I think lose
your full identity.
And mom takes over your identityFor sure.
And I think that at differentparts of your life, like the
pieces of the pie, you're gonnashift and mom's gonna take up a
bigger piece than maybe it wouldat other times, but I think it's
just important to.
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Always keep in mind that is arole you're playing.
It's not your entire person.
And I think, yes, I think that'sa really good point.
It's a really interesting kindof point in my life to hear
that.
Because you just said, I amtransitioning into this school
where I'm gonna be meeting newpeople and I'm always going to
be like Leo and Layla's mom.
(37:59):
Yeah.
Like to the outside world.
And I have had, I don't wannasay like struggle'cause I don't
like, I feel like that'snegative.
I've had I guess mixed feelingswith the shift of kind of into
this role a as mom, because Ihave felt like I've lost bits
and pieces of myself and I feellike I've worked really hard
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over the last year especially tocome to terms with all of this
together.
I think you're still trying toexplore what all this means,
what all this means to you.
Marissa said, when you have areally strong sense of self it
doesn't mean anything to you.
And when you are discoveringthat sense of self, you're
trying to distinguish whichpieces you are willing to let
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go.
Which pieces have fall likefallen off without your
permission and which piecesyou're willingly, wanting to
replace it with.
For sure.
I don't know, I'm thinking oflike a piece of paper that's
been like cut up into a millionpieces and you're like trying to
put it back together, trying toput it back together again.
And you're like, no, I just needa new piece of paper.
How I feel.
But yeah, that's, it's just avery interesting, I guess start
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of a discussion.
Yeah.
Or start of my internaldiscussion.
And so I really liked thatpoint, like that part of the
podcast just really, even thoughyou had said it, we weren't
necessarily talking about it inthat capacity.
It just got me thinking of thosewords, like identity versus role
because it's been something thatwe've been exploring.
It was a huge part of why weboth felt the need to start this
(39:29):
conversation publicly.
Yeah.
And I'm sure a lot of women canrelate to that and also you can
think about like when you, ifyou're a working mom or not
working mom, like that can be anidentity in a role.
Sometimes I think women, whenyou're looking to build a
connection with somebody, youalmost wanna put them in a box.
Oh, this is a stay at home mom.
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This is a working mom.
This is a mom that has multiplekids.
This is a mom that lives in mytown.
This is the mom that is the roommom.
This is the this is the that.
I think as we've been having allof these really wonderful and
very impactful conversations, Ithink what I have started to tie
together especially when itcomes to friendships and
relationship building, is thatyou can use these roles to meet
(40:14):
certain people.
And we've talked about likemeeting people doing things that
are bigger than you.
So maybe volunteering or doingor meeting people at a workout
class or meeting other moms atschool.
And that's wonderful becausethat kind of helps with that
initial connection.
But then from that, you need tostrip down the role and start to
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build on the identity of theperson, and that's how you
really form these wonderfulconnections and really true
friendships.
It's step by step in getting tobuild these relationships.
Yeah.
It's not as simple as it sounds,but I think that's the roadmap
to get a beautiful friend circlearound you.
(40:57):
Yeah.
If you're looking to expand yourfriend circle as Leo Enters
school Yeah.
And you are gonna be around allthese new people.
Yeah.
You can use that knowledge.
If you want to build Right.
Friendships with some of thesenew Yeah.
Women that are gonna be in yourlife.
I know.
It's exciting, it's exciting foryou.
Yes, it is.
It's very exciting.
And I'm sure like you're evenstill, it's, your kids are going
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to new schools, they're mergingso it's like you, we've, you've
been in a bubble for the part oftown you've been in.
I know your kids are veryactive, so you met people all
throughout the area, but you'regonna be in the same position
where your kids are gonna bemeeting new people because I.
The schools kind of blend.
And so there's, it's, you're notjust in one part of town
anymore.
Now it's like the whole town.
(41:39):
And so I feel like that could betrue.
Again, as your kids grow and asthey do new activities, as they
move through the school systemand transition to different
things within school and withintheir lives it's never ending.
It is never ending.
Yeah.
It's never ending.
So we all, I feel like we couldall take that advice, even if
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you're a seasoned mom or even ifyour kids have been in school
for a while.
It's just something that we canall do, right?
Yeah.
You can always take bits andpieces from everybody.
And I think that what Marissasaid in the last episode was
something that really was a goodone to take with you and just to
have on your radar.
And I think you summed it up sobeautifully.
(42:20):
Yeah.
Thank you.
But as we move into fall Ohyeah.
Do you have anything?
It's up for fall.
Would you have anything goingon?
I know you have a huge eventcoming up, which is exciting.
Oh yeah.
So we have our third annual racefor OH Strides.
It's October 4th.
If anybody is local and you wantto attend you can get tickets to
come on oh eight strides.org,but it's at Simsbury Meadows
(42:43):
right over here.
It starts at 9:00 AM We haveexciting, we have the whole
soccer field, we set upbadminton.
There's a bounce house, there'sa dj, there's somebody doing
face painting and balloonanimals and pen of tattoos.
And we do the kids color run.
It's gonna be so fun.
So the kids get squirted withthe color bombs.
We have a dunk tank again thisyear for our doctors.
(43:05):
There's a pizza truck, an icecream truck.
There's just lots of funactivities to promote movement.
Yep.
So if you have little kids andyou want to tire them out before
they're nap come, I love that.
That's so exciting.
And can you just in case anybodydoesn't remember your connection
yeah, because that was a whileago when we did your intro.
So my husband works forOrthopedic Associates at
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Hartford OH.
And a few years ago, a couplefriends and I all, a part of the
group decided to start anonprofit for the group.
We call it OH Strides.
And we promote movement becauseit has such a profound impact on
your body, not only your likephysical body, but your mental,
your emotional state.
(43:45):
So this year, actually, ourbeneficiaries were the elderly
population and we donated moneyto these various exercise
programs to help promotemovement with the emphasis on
balance.
Because in the elderlypopulation, one thing that
causes like the highestmortality rate is falling.
And the best way is to promotebalance.
(44:05):
So we gave to thoseorganizations.
Every year we, we always promotemovement.
But every year it's like alittle different.
It's a little different.
You're like, yeah.
Emphasis on something a littledifferent.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Our bid for 2026 lts here isveterans.
Oh, that's amazing.
Which is great.
Yep.
Anyways, we, we did likeadaptive initiatives one year we
did youth sports another year.
(44:26):
So it's been.
Wonderful.
I'm so proud of you and thisevent, it's wonderful.
Is gonna be amazing.
We're obviously gonna be therewith the kids.
It's be really exciting.
I need supporters.
Yep, of course.
It's great.
But I just wanted to just take aminute and share that here with
our listeners that if anybody'slocal and wants to come see join
us.
Yeah, it's a fun morning.
Yeah, that's gonna be reallyexciting.
It's a fun morning.
It doesn't take up the wholeday.
You don't have to even run.
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You can walk or you can justcome and hang out in the big
area.
There's like the stage there.
That's so exciting.
Cool.
Thank you for sharing, sharingthat.
Yeah, we've been working reallyhard on that.
I know.
We're like in the last likemonth push.
I know.
And I can't believe it's been ayear since the last one like
that just flew by.
I know.
But you guys have been so hardat work, so that's amazing.
It's just like crazy goingfaster than ever.
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Going faster and faster.
Wow.
I wish I knew how to slow time.
I know.
Seriously.
So we'll close pink spotlight.
Yeah.
We'll close with our pinkspotlight.
What do you have for us?
Okay.
Mine you inspired me by askingme what my school drop off
outfit is gonna be.
Oh.
I don't know if this is gonnabe, it will depend on the
weather, but A brand on Amazonthat I found is called, I think
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it's called Pin Spark.
There's always like these randomAmazon brands that, you know
have like stores.
And Pin Spark is something thatI found just fits me really
well.
I feel like their sizing ispretty consistent.
So when I've ordered things,like everything fits true to
size, but it's a lot ofathleisure wear.
And I have been so into theserunning shorts.
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They have a nice band on top.
It's cinched.
And then there's bike shortsunderneath with a layer over
them that are like runningshorts.
They're it's like doublelayered.
I love bike shorts, but I don'tfeel like I like.
Running around like town in bikeshorts all the time.
But then I also don't likeshorts where I feel like if I'm
like squatting and doing thingswith the kids, like I feel like
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this is a perfect mom short it'sbike shorts with a layer over
them.
Okay.
So I feel like you're just likecovered.
You're comfortable.
They're not too short.
Like it's just they're so in theeighties when our moms wore bike
shorts, I love a bike.
Short, big oversized shirt.
I love t-shirts.
Don't get me wrong.
I love a bike short.
Not you're wearing a bike.
Shirt.
Shirt.
I love feel like shirt the shortover for sure.
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Unless I'm working out, I don'tlike.
I don't like fitted.
Fitted, like meaning like topand bottom fitted.
I need either an oversizedsomething, but when it's been
hot out, I don't wanna wear likesomething huge on top with bike
shorts.
So I've liked doing the oppositewhere it's like something
cropped or something fitted ontop, and then you have the
looseness of the shorts.
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But what I was finding was whenthey weren't lined, I just felt
like I just wasn't, it's just,yeah, you can't bend over.
You're hanging out out.
Yeah, you're hanging out.
So I liked these shorts.
I felt like they gave me likethe best of both worlds where I
felt together, but loose at thesame time.
Okay.
And so I found this brand andwhen I find something that I
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like, I don't reinvent thewheel.
So I was like, I ordered onecolor, 10 colors.
And now I'm like, okay.
I ended up, I think I have fourcolors now, and I'm like, what
am I gonna do for the fall?
But at least for like September,I'm like, this is so great.
And so they, you can put a jeanjacket over it in the morning.
Yes.
And they have a lot of differentlike tops that you can mix and
match with things.
And then I was like going down arabbit hole and I was like,
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there's just a lot of greatpieces on this store in general.
And for the most part, all ofthe colors match.
So you could go and find a topand then you could find the
shorts and they're the samecolors, so everything just looks
very Lululemon for less, true.
Or there's, or like one of thebrands that does like the color
launches all the time andeverything is like mix and
matched with the style.
So I've been very pleasantlysurprised with those pieces that
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I've gotten.
So I will definitely make sureto link them.
And that's definitely gonna belike my gymnastics school drop
off.
So if you see me there, that's.
Perfect.
That's what I'm gonna bewearing.
So you have your first day ofschool outfit picked out?
I do.
I do.
Perfect.
Yep.
Perfect.
I do, I You should get a littlematching one for Layla.
They're, I wonder if they haveanything that similar.
I know that they don't haveminis.
Of course.
That was like one of my firstthings that I looked for.
Maybe.
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The all in motion from Target.
Yes.
Might have something similar.
Similar.
They might have similar.
Which is cute.
I know.
That's great.
But I love, yeah.
The price point is so great.
So I just, I love perfect,finding a good price point on
things.
I love that.
My pink spotlight is an Amazonfine too.
Okay.
So I'm gonna do my show.
I love it.
So I think I should change Pinkspotlight to Gina Spotlight.
Yeah.
'cause the shoes from a fewweeks ago, actually I have them
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on today, Navy to match myoutfit.
You have another.
Aren't so cute.
Amazon fine.
Aren't so cute.
I cannot believe.
Anyways, but I have anotherAmazon fine.
And it's this bag.
I love it.
I have it in every color.
Oh my God.
It's cute.
Similar to you when I findsomething from Amazon to buy it
in every color.
And actually the trip we justwent on, some of my friends went
on the trip as well.
And I got one for all the girls.
So Nice and nice.
Like their little gift bags.
Yeah.
So cute.
And they were like, where arethese from?
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I'm like, Amazon.
They were 1999.
Unbelievable.
So this is like the cream color.
It is like a designer look forless.
It's how pretty This isbeautiful.
That's a great color too.
But it's not a knockoff.
There's a zipper inside.
Nope.
There's all these littlepockets.
It fits.
Look at all this stuff I have inhere.
Yeah.
It just looks like it would bevery expensive.
But it's not knocking anythingoff.
It's not like it looks like aspecific bag.
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It looks, it does.
It's beautiful.
It looks$20 and I'm obsessed.
I love it.
So I have, there's like a.
A like a straw color with brown.
Oh, I saw that one piping that Ihave.
Yep.
And then I just got the black.
Oh, I love it.
So does the black have a goldhardware on it?
Everything has gold hardware.
Oh my God.
That's gonna be beautiful.
Everything has gold hardware, sonice.
Beautiful.
So I love it.
This is my pink spotlight, Ilove a high low and you have
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been on it with the fines thissummer from Amazon?
Yeah.
My sister found these.
Okay.
So thanks G.
Another Thanks G.
Once again, another G spotlight.
You can hopefully get somegoodbyes for the fall from us.
I know.
I'm going to the US opentomorrow.
That's, we're taking Josephbecause Joseph, oh my God.
Loves tennis.
Yep.
He loves tennis.
What are you wearing?
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I don't know.
I don't know.
I'm wearing this bag.
Yeah, that's adorable.
I have a polo sweater I mightwear over my shoulder.
'cause polo's like a spot.
Huge sponsor.
Yeah.
So it might go like that preppyvibe.
Preppy.
I was gonna say, I feel likethat is so in right now with the
rugby shirts and everything isso preppy.
Like prep.
Yeah.
I actually, I just orderedJoseph a bunch of stuff from
Polo too.
It just came in while we wereaway.
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So I think we're gonna go preppyvibe, preppy.
Love it.
That will preppy vibe.
That would be perfect.
I know, but I'm really, look,I've never been before.
Have you?
It's so fun.
Yes.
I've been, it's probably beenlike eight or nine years since
I've been, but it is so fun.
Yeah.
I'm really looking forward toit.
Yeah, we're going for the day.
We're taking him out of school.
I know.
We're bad parents.
We're letting you miss No, it's,no, it's all about week of for
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sure.
He's so into it.
He's so into tennis.
He's so into tennis, and he juststarted squash.
Oh my, wow.
So he like likes racket sports.
Yeah, he does.
And he's very good at it.
Great.
Thank you.
Oh, enjoy your day.
That's gonna be so fun.
Yeah.
We're excited.
So that's all I got for you.
All right.
And don't forget, if you leaveus a review on Apple, you can DM
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us your address and tea willsend you that beautiful pink yes
and gold flamingo bracelet.
I have another batch going out.
Great.
Okay.
Today actually.
Cool.
So if you haven't gotten yourbracelet, it will be coming soon
and we will see you guys later.
Yeah.
Have a good week.
See you next week.
Bye mama.
Bye.
I'm Christina and I'm T, andthis is the Pretty and Pink
Again podcast where motherhoodmeets rediscovery.
Hello.
Hey, how are you?
I'm good.
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We're finally gonna do a catchup.
We were just saying before westarted rolling that it's been a
while, even though we did somany solo, like me and you
episodes the whole summer.
It feels like it's been weekssince we've had a catch up.
I know.
We were you were on vacation forYep.
You had a long weekend, right?
I did.
You and Ra you did the oceanhouse.
We did Rhode Island.
(00:41):
Tell us about that island andYeah, then I was away with the
kids for the week and then mykids went back to school and
then Nick and I were away and wejust got back last night.
I know.
So it's been I know.
Yeah.
We've been like crossing eachother and haven't really been
able to sit down and catch up.
So we figured.
I know.
Even when you got here today,I've been, I was Very
tightlipped.
'cause I wanna save the realketchup for right now.
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Right now.
I know.
This is technically I guesssummer is still the next couple
of weeks.
I hate to like rush saying it'sover, but it's over.
It is everybody, if you back toschool, if you ask Chad GPT if
summer's over, it'll say yes.
It's over.
It's over.
So we figured we would close outthe summer.
And also summer's also overbecause you're brunette.
I am.
I jumped in.
You are wearing brown.
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I am.
And your hair is brown.
That's it.
That's it.
So it's so summer's over for me.
It's like August 31st.
Still summer, September 1stfall.
Did you see I put pumpkins out.
Yeah, I did.
Did you see the pumpkin on thecamera??
I, so I'm like, okay, we'reclearly all on the same page
here, but summer's over.
So we figured we were gonna do alittle close out to summer catch
up and just talk through, likewhat we've learned, what we've
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been doing.
Yeah.
Also as people roll into thenext season, your kids back to
school, what does that looklike?
I know, is it, is it a busierseason?
It is it a slower season?
'cause you might have time ifyour children are in school, but
most people are busier whentheir kids are in school.
It's a transition period.
And it's a transition period.
Yeah.
And what that feels like whenyour kids are going through that
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transition period and how do youhandle the drop offs, the
pickups, that whole thing.
We're actually going throughthat right now.
Leo starts school this week.
And so he's starting preschoolthree.
So it's a threes program and itis.
Monday, Wednesday, Friday fromnine to 12.
And that's our whole thing, iswe're gonna get into this whole,
okay, somebody needs to dropoff, somebody needs to pick up,
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what are we doing with Layla?
It's a whole transition periodfor us.
Just when I feel like we got inthe, a really good swing of
having a really good schedulethat was working for everybody.
Here we are again.
I know it's in a transitionperiod, and I feel like that's
just to 12, nine to 12 is hard.
Anytime you're just goingsomewhere for a little while.
Yeah.
It's hard.
It's hard on the kids.
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It's hard on mom and dad, it'shard to figure out what's a good
system with that?
Yes, exactly.
Exactly.
Do you take them mall?
Exactly.
Do you leave one home?
Do you pay a sitter to stay homewith one?
Yeah.
Do you go out, do you just stayout from nine to 12 and like
work at the coffee shop, likeyou're gonna have to play around
with it and see what That'swhat, that's exactly the plan.
The plan is that we don'texactly know what's gonna work
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and what's not gonna work, andso we're just gonna figure it
out as we go.
But I feel like this is thefirst time that I've been like,
ears perking up with like backto school.
Because it hasn't affected mesince I was 22 years old and I
graduated college, so it's, Ihave been out of this space for
so long.
Yeah.
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And I can't even do the math.
And so I feel like this is thefirst season where I'm like,
wow, this is like really back toschool and we're gonna be in
this stage for however long, 18more years until everybody's
outta school.
It's crazy.
Yeah.
Oh yeah.
We are very much longer thanthat.
My kids started last week.
And so my oldest started middleschool.
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Which, that was like a bigtransition for him.
That's a one to go to.
Middle school, there's a lot offun privileges that come with
middle school.
Like you can be a walker afterschool, you can go, there's a
little I will call it a coffeeshop, but he's not getting
coffee.
There's a little like breakfastplace that they can get food
after.
There's a little market.
They can walk to the library,they can walk to their after
school activities.
There's a lot more independencethat comes with it.
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So he is enjoying it.
And then my middle one moved upto the intermediate school.
And his feedback from his firstday of school was, and you were
here for this?
I was, he was like, ma, theyhave a sandwich line.
There's a deli line, but theydon't have olive oil and vinegar
and a oregano for thesandwiches.
So I got him this little squirtbottle.
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It's a little silicone squirtbottle for his locker that he
can, he could bring with him.
He can bring with him.
Oh, so he can make the sandwichof his dreams so he can dress
his sandwich to his liking.
Yep.
He can dress it up.
Yep.
At school, I love him.
And then the girls didn't reallyhave much to report back, but so
everybody no academic talk washad, but everybody, the social
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butterflies.
Yeah they're good.
They're happy.
And how are you feeling witheverybody back?
Because the last time we talkedyour pink spotlight was that you
were actually sad for thistransition, where in the past
you've been a little bit morelike antsy to get this going.
Yeah, no, I definitely missedthem the first day.
And I was saying that, I waslike, oh, this is what mothers
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feel like when mothers like misstheir kids.
Because I've always been justlike trying to push them away oh
my God, leave me alone.
Leave me, just leave me alone.
And now.
I was saying before that I thinkspace sometimes breeds more
space.
And I like just wanted to havethem around.
I was enjoying their company.
I'm enjoying their questions.
Like I'm enjoying our timetogether.
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And I was a little sad for themto go.
I know.
So how was the transition back?
I know you were away thisweekend, but how do you feel
now?
Its been a week.
Yeah.
I think I feel okay.
It's good.
It seems okay.
They're doing much better Yeah.
Than last year.
My daughter Camilla cries atevery drop off.
Any mother that's listening tothis has a crier.
Yeah.
When you drop off, it ispainful.
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I can imagine.
Imagine.
And I wish I could just give yousome advice.
I wish I could give you advice.
'cause listen, I've tried itall.
I tried the laminated chart onthe back of the, on the back of
the head of the seat in front ofher.
That if she had a good drop off,she'd get a smiley face and a
smiley face meant she'd get achocolate ice cream cone or a
chocolate candy or whatever itwas when she got the car.
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A little prize in the afternoon.
We've tried everything.
So it's just every drop off,it's just a transition.
Every drop off for school, she'sjust emotional with transit.
She'd cried and cried.
Even in kindergarten last year,she wouldn't get on the bus.
She'd cry for the bus.
I would go through the schoolline.
She would cling to me like achief frog.
Mm-hmm.
I'd walk her into school.
I would, it would be like ITTmatter 10 o'clock.
And I would just start my day.
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It was, oh my God.
Didn't matter.
Very taxing.
I'm sure.
I can't even imagine.
So she.
Is going to school so far andshe's fine.
And she seems okay.
Oh good.
That's huge.
That's amazing.
Knock on wood.
Where's the wood?
So maybe that's why I am not asexhausted.
'cause when you have to holdyour breath'cause you don't know
what's happening next.
Yes.
It's like that's, yeah, that's Ifind right now that's the, my
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most tiring part is because I'min like the toddler tantrum
phase and that emotional burnoutand exhaustion is like unlike
anything.
I feel like I've ever beenthrough before.
It's just, it's very, it's likewalking on eggshells.
So I can relate to you in thatway where you're like, I don't
know what's gonna happen.
I don't know what's gonna setyou off.
I'm trying to do all the rightthings and it that anxiety is
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depleting for sure.
Are you nervous about drop off?
I am and the next step I am.
What are you most nervous about?
So I think.
That I have that sort of kid, adeeply feelings kid.
And so I am a little bitnervous, but I'm also hopeful.
I feel like I'm building a lotup and by the time this airs,
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this will have happened already.
So hopefully it did not go, likehow I'm envisioning it's going,
which is what you're saying withthe, I'm sure this is the first
time, so I'm sure it's gonna beemotional for both of us, but
I'm gonna really try to hold ittogether.
Mm-hmm.
So that I'm obviously trying tobe like the sturdy leader like
we always say.
Yeah.
And a sturdy leader has to dropand run.
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Yes.
I know.
You know how hard it is Hard todrop and run.
I know.
I'm sure.
I'm, I have been, I think thelast probably like week and a
half.
This has been coming and I'vebeen knowing it's been coming
for months and probably severalmonths at this point.
And so I can't believe thatwe're actually here.
And I have just been going overhow this is gonna happen in my
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head for a very long time.
Yeah.
Like, how is this gonna happen?
And we did the run through whenwe went last week with him and
they're like, oh, we're droppingoff.
The parents stay outside.
We all stay together and then weall walk in together.
And so I was envisioning likeleaving the classroom and going
back down the hallway and that'snot gonna happen.
It's gonna be a little bit moreof a drop off.
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Yeah.
They take them from you.
Yeah.
Yes.
And then they all go in at onceand then they all go in
together.
So it's not like I'm leaving thebuilding.
I guess maybe that helps.
I'm sure they know.
They've probably done all of theAB testing of how this works.
We also, it also builds a littleindependence because they hang
up their backpack.
They hang up their snack, theydo their water bottle.
They do their coat, yeah.
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So you've been through thisbefore?
I've been through this, yes.
Four times.
I know times.
I know two or three.
They've all gone to preschoolfor two or three years.
I've been, I've just been it'llbe interesting when it's over.
Like when the first day is over,if this went Yeah.
How I'm envisioning or if it's,maybe I will be pleasantly
surprised.
And honestly, that would evenmake me emotional too.
(09:44):
If there's no tears or ifthere's minimal tears.
And if it was just like a greatday, I feel like I'm gonna have
emotions either way, yes.
To all you mamas out there whoare sending your kids to
college, to boarding school, tohigh school, to public school,
wherever, to kindergarten, toanywhere.
Yep.
This episode is dedicated toyou.
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I know.
And we're all in this together.
It's a big transition.
It's a huge transition for mamaswho are teachers who are working
and sending their kids to schoolat the same time.
I know.
There's a lot.
It's a lot.
I'm, September is a month oftransition.
It is, and it's interesting toeven think that this continues
on, like you're saying then theygo to a different school within
their school system.
So this is just, it just keepsbuilding on itself and it's
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exciting for them.
And I'm definitely somebody whoI as a mom, i'm starting to
like, love to get to see thispart, of the, a little bit of
the independence.
And that excites me.
Like when they get lit up doingsomething that they like it's so
nice.
He's also, he's gonna have threehours of his day that you
weren't a part of.
I know.
And he's not gonna be the beststoryteller right now.
(10:50):
But he will.
Come out with mom, I did X, Y,Z, or I met this friend, or i,
I'm gravitating towards thisperson.
You're gonna get to see thiswhole I did this other side of
him tried.
We learned this today.
That's so exciting.
And then it also, I read thisbook, I like this book, mom.
Yeah, I read, it's exactlyright.
And it's not something that Ibrought into the house that I
was a part of and that.
Gonna be a huge transition forus.
(11:11):
Yeah.
And it's also gonna be a hugetransition for his little sister
who has never been alone in thehouse.
Like I wonder if she's gonna bepissed.
I think she's probably gonnahave a mix of emotions too.
She's probably gonna be like,wait, I get to play with
anything without anybodyinterfering here.
And I also think she's gonna bea little bit bored.
So one of the days I'm takingher to gymnastics.
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So that's gonna be like ourmorning thing and I've ac, I've
actually never done a I can'tsay I've never done anything
alone with her, but becausethey're so close in age, right?
I've done most things.
I would say both 90% of thethings with both of them, right?
So this is actually gonna be ourtime where we get to spend a
little bit of time where I didnot have that issue with Leo,
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right?
It was me and Leo all the time,right?
So this is actually gonna be atransition for Layla and I to
get a little bit of alone time.
Should be fun and fun, do thingstogether.
So it's just gonna be.
Just a big week.
That's fun.
Yeah.
There's a trail behindgymnastics and so I used to run
or walk that with one of thekids just to kill extra time.
Oh yeah.
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And the other one Good to knowin school, because if you're
doing a drop off at nine Yes.
And you have to be back for 12.
Yes.
And you're gonna go togymnastics, which is there's
still gonna be five minutes,there's still time, but there's
not like a lot of time to comehome because it's fine for you
to pop in, throw in a load oflaundry, do whatever.
But like, when you're bringingyour little one with you, you
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have to like factor in.
Transition time for her.
What are we doing?
We're getting in and outta thecar, yes.
So that it's not enough time forus to go back in and her to re
acclimate to the house.
So it's, yeah.
So we're gonna, it's gonna be alot of kind of trial and error.
Yeah.
And I'm gonna need all the tipsmoms, because I feel like, but
this is gonna be exciting.
You'll know what works best.
I know.
(12:56):
You'll figure, I know.
We'll get into a groove justlike we have.
And I do feel like it's.
Again with the transitions, andthis is a time, the summer's
ending, it's time to reflect howmuch more confident you do get.
So if we have any like new moms,listen, I still consider myself
a new mom, but if you have, ifyou're like a new mom, you get a
little bit more confident astime goes on.
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So I think that I thought Iwould be a lot more anxious.
I am anxious, but it's not asmuch as I probably would've
thought that I was.
I feel like I'm confident withdecisions and just, I guess that
mental state of just, we'llfigure it out.
I'm comfortable with that now,where at the beginning it was
such a hard.
Mental state to navigate for me.
(13:37):
And now I'm just I live in thatspace of we'll figure it out.
We always do.
What a good healthy mindset.
It's way to go.
I feel like it's just how thishas like naturally progressed.
I like that for you.
Yeah.
Because that, because thealternative is second guessing
yourself and second guessingevery step of the way and trying
to problem solve before thingseven happen.
(13:57):
Yes.
It's the problem.
It's so tiring.
Yes.
And it doesn't work, but justrolling with it.
Yeah.
And also like you've had someexposure therapy to it.
You've been out with the kidswhen things have gone awry.
Yep.
And you're still here to talkabout it.
Exactly.
So are they?
Yep.
So how bad could it be?
So you just have to roll withit.
You just roll with it, youfigure it out.
We will all figure it out.
We'll all figure out this newtransition.
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All right.
So you're gonna come up with alist of things that work during
that three hours?
Yeah.
And I can share car wash forsure.
I know.
Car wash.
I was gonna say we'll stop in.
Maybe we'll grab a coffee.
Maybe I'll go grab lunch so thatwhen we pick Leo up Yeah.
It'll be ready to go.
Like we'll be able to playactivities.
Yeah.
Some littles, little filler.
Yeah.
Some jersey mikes.
That's my weakness.
But yeah, I think we'll figureit out and we'll learn as we go.
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I like that for you.
Good, good.
So let's do a little summerketchup.
So where did we leave off last?
So you were away?
Yep.
So we did for your 10 yearanniversary.
Yeah.
Raja and I celebrated our 10year wedding anniversary.
We've been together for 18 yearsthis year, but we've been
married for 10.
So you've been together since2007.
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2007.
Wow.
Yes, which is crazy.
So we celebrated our 10 yearanniversary, which was really
nice.
We went away.
Anniversary was August 1st.
We went away in Midgut and wewent to Ocean House in Rhode
Island, which is in Watch Hill.
It's so beautiful.
It's right by Taylor Swift'shouse, which was so funny
because she just got engaged.
So it was like, I feel like I'vebeen I'm like a secret swifty.
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Not that I don't like, not thatI'm not proud of it, but it's
just not something that Ioutwardly share all the time.
But I love her.
I listen to her music.
I was so pregnant during theERAS tour, so I couldn't go, but
I would've loved to have gone tothat.
And, but it's just funny that wewent there and we've always
known, we've like obviouslyvisited Watch Hill like you guys
have too.
And so her house, she's had thathouse for I think like about 10
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years or maybe a little lessthan that.
And.
Her house is right next to thisbeautiful resort in Watch Hill,
Rhode Island, and it's threedown from it.
But when you're there, you canliterally look up and it's see,
it's right there on a bluff andit, you can see it.
It's just very prominent andvery beautiful.
And it's funny because I've beeninto the summer, I turned
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pretty, she's like a huge partof that, like her music and all
that.
So I feel like I've been extralistening to her this summer and
then we went there.
So she was like in the back ofmy mind the whole time of oh,
that's our house.
Was she there?
She wasn't there.
They're renovating it lookedlike, because there was a ton of
construction going on there.
But then she did theannouncement of her album.
The podcast.
Yeah.
So that was like the week thatwe were going.
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She announced on the podcastthat she has a new album.
So when we were there, there wasso much.
Media like just if you open, ifyou looked in a newspaper on a
magazine, everywhere that youwent.
And then it's like the tie toRhode Island'cause she's a
resident there and then we comeback and she gets engaged so I'm
like wow.
She's just really having quite amoment and quite a summer and it
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was fun to see it and we'relike, do you think she's gonna
get married there?
We're now so invest.
We probably talked about her, myhusband and I a lot because we
were just so invested ineverything that's going on.
But it was beautiful.
Other than that, it was, Icannot recommend that place
enough.
Yeah.
If you are anywhere in NewEngland, go there.
I guess even into New York.
Or New Jersey or anywhere that'slike drivable to there.
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That was such a wonderful place.
It was.
It's definitely like a specialoccasion type of place, but it's
a resort and I feel like there'snot a lot of places where you
can go and you feel like unlessyou leave the country and you
feel like you're at any sort ofresort where you're like, we're
away.
This felt like that.
There's multiple restaurants.
There's Mul Spa.
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Yes.
Everything is like full service.
And you're not driving the towelservice.
Yep.
The beach.
Yep.
So if it really felt like avacation and it was drivable,
which honestly made it evenbetter because we drove and
within two, two hours you startyour vacation door to two hours.
Yes.
Yeah.
Two, maybe not even, it was anhour 40 in the car.
And I swear it was like packingtwo duffle bags and like
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unpacking two duffle bags, twohours door to door.
We were sitting on the beach.
Oh, that's awesome.
Or during lunch.
So we were like, this is just,and how did the kids do in your
absence?
They did great.
Like they had, we had a systemfigured out.
We have, we're very lucky thatwe have the help that we do.
And so that was great.
They had a great time.
It was a few days, so it wasn'ttoo much.
And, I felt comfortable being,again, driving distance from
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them for those three days thatwe were gone.
But it was just really nice andit felt like a true vacation.
Good.
It was beautiful.
Highly, Highly recommend.
That's awesome.
Oh good.
I'm so happy to hear that.
Yeah, it was really nice.
Good.
What about you?
Because you did a trip with thefamily and then a trip without
the family?
Yeah, so Nick is from New Jerseyand his grandmother lived in
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Long Beach Island, New Jersey.
And so she actually sold thehouse, I wanna say the summer
before I even met Nick.
So I never went to her house.
But when I met Nick, he and Istarted vacationing in Long
Beach Island.
So my math could be off a littlebit, but the island is
approximately 15 miles long.
Oh.
And it's only four blocks wide,so no matter where you are on
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the island, you're on water.
Oh, that's nice.
Wow.
You're either on the bay side oryou're on the ocean Atlantic
Ocean.
It is.
Heaven.
It so nice.
It is so nice.
It is so chill.
I booked it really last minutebecause Nick's been like crazy
busy at work and it's been hardfor him to get away.
And I said, I'm just gonna bookthis house.
I'm gonna book it for a week.
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I'm gonna go with the kids.
Come when you can.
Come when you can.
It'll be fine.
So I got there on Monday and hecame Wednesday night and then we
ended up and we, we had it forthe week and it was.
It was awesome fun.
It was so much fun.
There was a hurricane going on.
Yeah.
Hurricane Erin.
So the weather was not great forhalf of it the first couple
days.
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Yeah.
Yeah.
But there's but honestly itended up being fine.
The kids went mini golfing.
We did eating as an activity.
We like went to like, all right,we're gonna have a drink here.
We're gonna have the pizza here,we're gonna have the oysters
here.
My kids love to eat, sosometimes it's, you get sad when
the weather is not the best, butI feel like when you're still
away it doesn't matter.
It was fine.
There was so much to do.
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It still do to scenery.
Like I took the kids back toschool shopping'cause there was
like tons of shopping there.
We got our nails done, it wasgreat.
The kids went fishing, theybrought their scooters, they
played pickleball, like there'slike fantasy island there.
So they did the arcades and therides and so fun.
One of my girlfriends from townwas there with her kids,
coincidentally.
So we hung out there one themone day, like it was such nice.
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Family time for the six of us.
I love that.
Before I know,'cause I was gonnasay back to school, like that
was right before school started,so that was like your last kind
of trip.
Yeah.
Which is so nice.
It was great.
You like held onto summer?
I did.
The house was awesome.
It was right on the beach, so Isaid.
To the realtor.
I said, next year I wanna go fortwo weeks.
Oh, so nice.
I just liked it there so much.
Yep.
That's the best I know.
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So yeah, that was, I highlyrecommend Long Beach Island.
I know.
If you're looking for a familyvacation, I know, and we talked
about this at the beginning, Ithink it was like at the
beginning of the summer when wedid like a little summer catch
up and just sometimessimplifying.
And not overdoing it, where it'slike not everybody has to get on
a plane.
You don't have to make it socomplicated.
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Sometimes it's just a change ofscenery somewhere else is so
exciting.
And there's no, I feel like withsocial media and sometimes just
comparing things you're like, Idon't know, people take these
extravagant trips somewhere elseand you're, everybody is
summering in Europe and you'relike, that's wonderful, but you
don't have to do that in orderto have a wonderful vacation and
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just a change of scenery.
We literally love driving justdown to the Connecticut
shoreline for a week and thatmade a huge difference for us
and just, and we're going backnext summer.
So I feel like sometimes it'sjust simplifying.
Yeah, and like just getting achange of scenery with the
family and the kids.
Just love that time.
What you're looking, it's whatyou're looking to achieve if
you're looking to just spendsome time as family together.
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And that doesn't always have tobe in the south of France.
It doesn't, no.
Or it doesn't have to meangetting on a plane, especially
when you're in the northeast orif you're in part of the country
where it's beautiful, where youare in the summer, just go
somewhere local.
Just change.
If it's an hour away, it's achange up and it just, it feels
so good.
And you're cutting that traveltime and you're, it's just so
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much easier.
Packing the car, it's just, it'sso much easier.
Yeah.
This trip we went on thisweekend did require a plane
ride.
It's not that was you guys.
Yeah.
So I Have you ever been to GrandCayman Island?
I have, but not.
I, we've only been like on astop we've never stayed, we've
never been like staying on theisland.
Okay.
This place is a 10.
Oh, amazing.
It was an 11.
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I wish the kids were there.
They would've loved the trip.
I wanna copy and paste it and doit with them next time.
That's amazing.
They would love it.
So we stayed at the Ritz andGrand Cayman Islands, I guess
Grand Cayman Island or CaymanIslands is comprised of three
islands.
So we stayed in Grand Cayman.
Grand Cayman.
Yeah, that's a big one.
I think it was amazing.
It was so beautiful.
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The hotel was beautiful.
They had this breakfast everyday that was included if you
book with American Express.
So we had like free breakfastevery morning and it was just
like amazing.
And this morning when I woke upand I had to make myself my
Yeah, you're like oatmeal anddrink my.
Shitty coffee.
I'm like, fuck.
It was just so much better.
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Oh, I, I know.
Oh my God.
But the breakfast was amazing.
Like ev all the food wasamazing.
We had like yummy seafood.
We did this like boat day and wedid I guess you can call it a
catamaran.
Oh yeah.
Cool.
Because it has the flat bottom.
Yep.
So you can take the boat rightup into shallow waters.
So we did this swimming with thesea rays.
Oh, so fun.
And we kissed the sea rays.
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They said that give you goodluck for seven years.
So we like all kissed the searays.
Oh, there you go.
We fed them.
We this was a hair wet vacationtoo.
Yeah.
I love that hair.
I like swam.
Your hair was wet.
I love it.
They did this like swimming withwhat is it called?
The Starfish.
And then we went to Rum Island.
You got at it.
Oh, I got, oh, love it.
So we go to Rum Island, we pullup and they're like, all right,
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we're gonna drop you off here.
Walk a hundred feet that way.
And there is Rum Island.
Rum Island sounds.
So what do you think you do atRum Island?
Drink.
You drink rum.
So we go, so I don't drink alot.
I have one or two drinks and I'musually wasted.
And if I have three, I'm puking.
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Yeah.
So I don't.
I don't usually, I live in theone to two.
Yeah, one to two era.
So we go to Rum Island and I'min my wet bathing suit.
I have my period, I'm wearing awhite bathing suit and I'm just
like, fuck it.
Yeah.
I'm just gonna, I'm here, I'mjust gonna go for it.
So we're at this like bar, I'mlike, we're like barefoot.
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I'm wet, my hair is wet.
And it was just the best time.
Oh, that's, I know.
That's so nice.
I had my, my, the mudslides wereamazing.
They like mudslides, frenchfries.
So then we're like walking backto the boat I'm like the captain
of this boat's probably look atthese idiots.
Oh no, you just enjoyingyourself from island.
Oh, he probably sees a lotworse.
I'm sure he does.
Bringing people back and fortharound island.
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I'm sure he has some stories.
So the next stop they did likethe jet skis and like the water
toys and I stayed on the boatand I read my book.
Oh, nice.
Oh my gosh.
It was just so much fun.
Oh, good for you.
The simple things I know, butthat's, no, that's so nice.
And that was nice time for youand Nick and another kind of
memory to close out Summer.
It was such good times.
And then I'm reading the bestbook.
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Okay.
Tell me about your book.
It's called Next to Heaven.
Okay.
My girlfriend Casey, when wewere in LBI.
Mm-hmm.
I was like, what?
Can you tell me a good book toread?
I'm almost done with my book.
And she said, download this bookNext to Heaven.
Next to heaven.
So it takes place in NewBethlehem, Connecticut.
Okay.
Which apparently is like a verywealthy town in Connecticut.
And there's these five couplesthat are all like, the husbands
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are all like prep schoolbackground uber wealthy.
Like the McAllisters?
Yeah.
Like generational.
This generational wealth.
And the wives are basicallybored housewives, and they
decide to throw a swingers'party.
Oh.
And they all hook up with eachother's husbands.
Just some light summer readingand then there's a murder
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involved.
Of course.
I was gonna say, wait, so highlyrecommend.
Just recommend it.
Murder always.
I was gonna say, wait, come on.
There's gotta be something else.
Highly recommend it.
I love it.
Okay, maybe that will be next onmy list as I read 15 minutes a
night still, but I'll get thereanyway.
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Oh my God.
Oh, that's so good.
The no workings of my brain.
So yes.
So we read a book and then wecame home yesterday and the kids
charged the car when we gothome.
Oh, I'm sure they missed you.
And they probably had so much totell you too.
Yeah.
Basically that they don't likewhen we leave.
I know.
And blah, blah, blah.
I know.
I know.
The guilt.
You always say that.
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It's harder to leave them whenthey're older, and I feel like
it's harder to leave them now.
Yeah.
So hard to leave them.
And they were fine.
They were very well cared for,obviously.
Like when Vincent told me whathe did this weekend, he's I went
to a Yukon football game withgrandpa.
I went fishing again, I had aplay date.
We swam, we did this, we hadsteak, we had lobster, blah,
blah, blah.
I'm like, wow.
Yeah.
Sounds like you had a realshitty time.
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Yeah.
What are you complaining about?
They missed you.
Okay.
I have a question for you.
Yeah.
What kind of drop off mom do youthink you're gonna be?
Are you gonna be.
A chatty mom, are you gonna be aget right back in the car?
Mom?
I don't know.
I feel I'm going three days aweek.
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I feel like it's gonna depend onthe day.
I feel like the days that I haveto bring, like we have to go to
gymnastics, I'm probably gonnahave to get in the car and go,
because I scheduled that to belike, a little bit like here to
there.
But I think I might be somewherein the middle.
I like catching up.
I don't have a ton ofsocializing during the day
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because I work for myself andunless I'm here in this chair,
like having a, a casual meetupwith somebody, I don't get a ton
of social time, so I don't minda little bit of a chat.
I just can't spend obviouslylike my day doing that, but what
were you, what does one wear?
Does school drop off?
I know.
This is gonna be interesting andI am putting my foot in my mouth
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from the shit I used to talkbefore I became a mom.
I think I admitted this on thispodcast and I've definitely
admitted this to friends, but Iused to be like, why do you need
a school drop off outfitinspiration?
'Cause I would always see theseoutfits and it would be like
school drop off, school drop.
And I would be like, I don't getit.
You're literally wearing, asweat set or so, or like
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leggings and something.
And I would be like, I don'tunderstand why this is a thing,
but.
Now I do.
I'm like, I feel like I need tobe organized.
I need to wake up.
I need to know what I'm wearing.
I wanna put something on, likethat's at least that I could be
out in and if I have to, if I'mleaving for the day or the
morning, like that's what I'min.
I'm committing to something.
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And so now I see that and I'mlike, okay, now I need all of
the school drop off inspirationbecause you need an outfit.
And you wanna look semipresentable, but you also wanna
be comfortable.
So I get it now and I'm like,I'm sorry for all of the silent
judging I did of collages onPinterest and LTK that I did
for, 10 years where I would seethese and be like, what on earth
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do you need that inspirationfor?
It's not like you're goingsomewhere, but now you know.
Now I know.
Now you're going somewhere.
Now I know.
Maybe I will be curating someback to school.
School drop off looks.
School drop off to dinner.
Maybe I'll start documentingthat.
Yeah or just school drop off.
I'm like I'm a changer.
Like I don't stay in an outfitfor the whole entire day, but.
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I feel at least for the morning,like that's what I'm gonna be in
for three days, so it'ssometimes I feel like I can hang
into some like lounge wear orlike house kind of lounge wear.
But I'm gonna try, it also willbe part of like my day, okay,
I'm getting dressed so that ifI'm out for three hours, four
hours, by the time I do drop offand pick up, if I happen to be
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out for those, for that periodof time, I'm gonna wanna be in
something cute but comfortableand something that I wouldn't be
embarrassed to see other peoplein.
So maybe I'll start reallydocumenting those looks because
I'm gonna have to get crafty andhave to be organized.
And you're gonna talk to othermoms?
Yeah.
Maybe make a friend.
Yeah.
I feel like there's, I feel liketo me that's like very exciting
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because yes.
It's not something that I'vebeen able to do before.
I've been really out of thatschool scene.
Yeah.
So we shall see.
Oh, I love that.
Oh, stay tuned.
Yeah, we shall see.
Stay tuned.
Yeah, I know.
I've met some of my closestfriends I know at preschool.
I know with the kids.
I know you have, and I feel likeI hear other people that have
done the same thing, and so itis very exciting to now be in
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this chapter, but yeah.
Yeah.
But I was like a yoga pants andtank top mom.
Yeah.
That's, I think it's gonnadepend on the day if I'm going
to a class from there, if I'm onmy own, if I'm with going to
gymnastics with Layla from afterthat, like it's gonna vary based
on the day and what I have goingon.
Thought I was a yoga instructor.
Yeah, you were always in yourset and I was, that's why.
Nope.
I don't even have a workouttoday.
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Just a mom.
So I guess since you're aseasoned mom, do you have any
tips for me and for anybody elseto make the transitions a little
bit easier?
Like it could be like dailytransitions to get out of the
house.
I know you've shared some ofyour hacks, but it's been a long
time since you've done that onhere?
Or just any kind of mindsethacks or anything?
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I think my biggest hack and thisis a new, this is a new hack and
I wish it, it had been justshoved into my face mm-hmm.
like 10 years ago.
Okay.
Is that you have to accept thatthis whole experience is
unsettling.
It's unsettling for you, andit's unsettling for your child.
It's all transition.
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It's like your nervous systemhas been shaken up.
Think of a snow globe as likeyour body.
Yeah.
And there's like the snoweverywhere.
Everything has been shaken up.
It's unsettling for everybodyand I think that the sooner you
just accept.
That it's new and that's allthat you're feeling, and that's
all that your child is feelingis just like this newness and
this unsettledness and thatit'll pass, that everything's
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gonna be okay.
Yeah.
It's just, it'll pass.
It's just all new.
It's like being comfortable withthe uncomfortable.
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's not, there's not anythingelse going on that you need to
explore.
You don't have some weirdailment.
Your child doesn't have someweird psychological or,
behavioral issue.
Like it's just this newness.
I think when things progress andthey linger and they never die
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down, that's when you have toinvestigate further.
Of course.
But of course, I think that's mybest advice that I like that and
gonna follow that advice.
It's all new, it's allunsettling, the school
transitions, the familytransitions, like the shifts
that you have to eat dinner at adifferent time.
You're, you were clo used to allbeing together and now you're
not, there's instead of havingsix balls together in the house,
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they're like all ped all overthe town.
Yeah.
Everybody's all over the place.
More activities are starting.
So your schedules change.
Yeah.
Like what you just said, likelunchtime, dinner time,
breakfast time, anything mightbe shifted and it's just I'm,
it's just hard.
It really is just hard.
Yeah.
Anytime you're going throughsomething and it's hard, I think
as the mom, and we always saythat like sturdy leader, that
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you aim to be, right?
You wanna be like the rock ofyour family.
It's hard when you're goingthrough it, you know your kid is
going through it, your kids aregoing through it and.
You're trying to be the rock tohold it all together, but you're
going through the transition aswell.
So I do like that advice.
Yeah, I think you just have toaccept it and also just say
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those words to your kids, likemantra that to your kids, right?
This is new for you.
This is new for mommy, right?
This is gonna feel a littlefunny.
Yeah, that we're gonna workthrough it together.
So I will have my kind bar, mynineties playlist or whatever
playlist I will be doing.
All of those things you're to,there're things that help reset
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me.
Yeah.
You're back to your reset hacksbecause now you're back, you're
like thrust back into that verystructured, you have things
going on every single day.
It's not that kind of more likelazy, carefree summer vibe where
it's just like whatever goes,we're rolling with it.
You wanna be able to roll withit, but you also need to know
how to reset yourself.
And so I guess to that too, it'smoms just remember,'cause it's
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taking us back to so manyepisodes that we've done where
we've talked about like thenervous system resetting Yes.
And things that you can dofilling your cup so that.
So that you can pour into othersand your, the rest of your
family.
You can't take care of anybodyelse if you don't take care of
yourself and if you have anopportunity right now for your
children to be in school and youhave the privilege of alone time
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explore during that alone time,what that even means to fill
your cup.
'Cause it means different thingsfor different people.
And it'll mean different thingsat different points of your
life.
So explore what are things thatreset you and then do those
things and little micro doseswhen you have to yep.
So you get comfortable withlearning, like what makes you
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feel at ease level, right level.
Yeah.
Yeah, for sure.
So that would be my biggesthack.
Yep.
So you are, you have your drinkthat you like, your little dark
chocolate.
Make sure you're not hangry yournineties playlist to reset your
mood.
And I do all these things forthe kids too.
I love that.
Yeah, we are off to the races.
I think that something that wasfrom last week's episode that
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really stuck, which was so good.
Me with, by the way.
Yeah.
If you haven't listened to ourepisode with Marissa Mead from
Style Cusp, who has been a dearfriend of mine for almost 15
years.
You can listen.
It's our last episode and shetalked about.
This identity versus roles.
And she actually gets into thisa lot on her podcast as well.
(35:53):
She has a podcast and one of theepisodes is about this.
And t and I have talked justabout how this can relate to
moms.
And you actually brought it upon last week's episode where
you're like, I'm obviouslyChristina, but I'm a mom and
that's my role, that's not myidentity.
And I don't know, it just reallystuck with me because I feel
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like a huge part of this podcastis I guess that is
differentiating that.
Is coming to terms with that,because I feel like you can
really get lost in this role ofbeing a mom.
And can we open up thatdiscussion for when you, when
like the role of mom feels likeit's becoming your entire
identity and maybe we expand ona whole episode about this.
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'cause I do think that we cantake that, what she said and
relate it back to us and likewhat we talk about on this
podcast all the time.
I think she said it in the veinof when you are creating
friendships Yes.
And meeting other people.
Yes.
And right now, you're entering aseason where you're gonna be
meeting people as a mom.
And not meeting people Yes.
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As a content creator.
Like how you met Marissa or as aprofessional Right.
Or, in, in some other facet ofyour life.
So you're gonna be meetingpeople as moms, so that'll be
what you've been introduced asYes.
As the mom.
Someone's mom.
As somebody's mom.
Yeah.
That's one of the roles that youplay.
Yep.
And I think that when that'syour main role being mom.
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Mm-hmm.
And you don't do other things,that's when you I think lose
your full identity.
And mom takes over your identityFor sure.
And I think that at differentparts of your life, like the
pieces of the pie, you're gonnashift and mom's gonna take up a
bigger piece than maybe it wouldat other times, but I think it's
just important to.
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Always keep in mind that is arole you're playing.
It's not your entire person.
And I think, yes, I think that'sa really good point.
It's a really interesting kindof point in my life to hear
that.
Because you just said, I amtransitioning into this school
where I'm gonna be meeting newpeople and I'm always going to
be like Leo and Layla's mom.
(37:59):
Yeah.
Like to the outside world.
And I have had, I don't wannasay like struggle'cause I don't
like, I feel like that'snegative.
I've had I guess mixed feelingswith the shift of kind of into
this role a as mom, because Ihave felt like I've lost bits
and pieces of myself and I feellike I've worked really hard
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over the last year especially tocome to terms with all of this
together.
I think you're still trying toexplore what all this means,
what all this means to you.
Marissa said, when you have areally strong sense of self it
doesn't mean anything to you.
And when you are discoveringthat sense of self, you're
trying to distinguish whichpieces you are willing to let
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go.
Which pieces have fall likefallen off without your
permission and which piecesyou're willingly, wanting to
replace it with.
For sure.
I don't know, I'm thinking oflike a piece of paper that's
been like cut up into a millionpieces and you're like trying to
put it back together, trying toput it back together again.
And you're like, no, I just needa new piece of paper.
How I feel.
But yeah, that's, it's just avery interesting, I guess start
(39:06):
of a discussion.
Yeah.
Or start of my internaldiscussion.
And so I really liked thatpoint, like that part of the
podcast just really, even thoughyou had said it, we weren't
necessarily talking about it inthat capacity.
It just got me thinking of thosewords, like identity versus role
because it's been something thatwe've been exploring.
It was a huge part of why weboth felt the need to start this
(39:29):
conversation publicly.
Yeah.
And I'm sure a lot of women canrelate to that and also you can
think about like when you, ifyou're a working mom or not
working mom, like that can be anidentity in a role.
Sometimes I think women, whenyou're looking to build a
connection with somebody, youalmost wanna put them in a box.
Oh, this is a stay at home mom.
(39:49):
This is a working mom.
This is a mom that has multiplekids.
This is a mom that lives in mytown.
This is the mom that is the roommom.
This is the this is the that.
I think as we've been having allof these really wonderful and
very impactful conversations, Ithink what I have started to tie
together especially when itcomes to friendships and
relationship building, is thatyou can use these roles to meet
(40:14):
certain people.
And we've talked about likemeeting people doing things that
are bigger than you.
So maybe volunteering or doingor meeting people at a workout
class or meeting other moms atschool.
And that's wonderful becausethat kind of helps with that
initial connection.
But then from that, you need tostrip down the role and start to
(40:36):
build on the identity of theperson, and that's how you
really form these wonderfulconnections and really true
friendships.
It's step by step in getting tobuild these relationships.
Yeah.
It's not as simple as it sounds,but I think that's the roadmap
to get a beautiful friend circlearound you.
(40:57):
Yeah.
If you're looking to expand yourfriend circle as Leo Enters
school Yeah.
And you are gonna be around allthese new people.
Yeah.
You can use that knowledge.
If you want to build Right.
Friendships with some of thesenew Yeah.
Women that are gonna be in yourlife.
I know.
It's exciting, it's exciting foryou.
Yes, it is.
It's very exciting.
And I'm sure like you're evenstill, it's, your kids are going
(41:18):
to new schools, they're mergingso it's like you, we've, you've
been in a bubble for the part oftown you've been in.
I know your kids are veryactive, so you met people all
throughout the area, but you'regonna be in the same position
where your kids are gonna bemeeting new people because I.
The schools kind of blend.
And so there's, it's, you're notjust in one part of town
anymore.
Now it's like the whole town.
(41:39):
And so I feel like that could betrue.
Again, as your kids grow and asthey do new activities, as they
move through the school systemand transition to different
things within school and withintheir lives it's never ending.
It is never ending.
Yeah.
It's never ending.
So we all, I feel like we couldall take that advice, even if
(42:00):
you're a seasoned mom or even ifyour kids have been in school
for a while.
It's just something that we canall do, right?
Yeah.
You can always take bits andpieces from everybody.
And I think that what Marissasaid in the last episode was
something that really was a goodone to take with you and just to
have on your radar.
And I think you summed it up sobeautifully.
(42:20):
Yeah.
Thank you.
But as we move into fall Ohyeah.
Do you have anything?
It's up for fall.
Would you have anything goingon?
I know you have a huge eventcoming up, which is exciting.
Oh yeah.
So we have our third annual racefor OH Strides.
It's October 4th.
If anybody is local and you wantto attend you can get tickets to
come on oh eight strides.org,but it's at Simsbury Meadows
(42:43):
right over here.
It starts at 9:00 AM We haveexciting, we have the whole
soccer field, we set upbadminton.
There's a bounce house, there'sa dj, there's somebody doing
face painting and balloonanimals and pen of tattoos.
And we do the kids color run.
It's gonna be so fun.
So the kids get squirted withthe color bombs.
We have a dunk tank again thisyear for our doctors.
(43:05):
There's a pizza truck, an icecream truck.
There's just lots of funactivities to promote movement.
Yep.
So if you have little kids andyou want to tire them out before
they're nap come, I love that.
That's so exciting.
And can you just in case anybodydoesn't remember your connection
yeah, because that was a whileago when we did your intro.
So my husband works forOrthopedic Associates at
(43:25):
Hartford OH.
And a few years ago, a couplefriends and I all, a part of the
group decided to start anonprofit for the group.
We call it OH Strides.
And we promote movement becauseit has such a profound impact on
your body, not only your likephysical body, but your mental,
your emotional state.
(43:45):
So this year, actually, ourbeneficiaries were the elderly
population and we donated moneyto these various exercise
programs to help promotemovement with the emphasis on
balance.
Because in the elderlypopulation, one thing that
causes like the highestmortality rate is falling.
And the best way is to promotebalance.
(44:05):
So we gave to thoseorganizations.
Every year we, we always promotemovement.
But every year it's like alittle different.
It's a little different.
You're like, yeah.
Emphasis on something a littledifferent.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Our bid for 2026 lts here isveterans.
Oh, that's amazing.
Which is great.
Yep.
Anyways, we, we did likeadaptive initiatives one year we
did youth sports another year.
(44:26):
So it's been.
Wonderful.
I'm so proud of you and thisevent, it's wonderful.
Is gonna be amazing.
We're obviously gonna be therewith the kids.
It's be really exciting.
I need supporters.
Yep, of course.
It's great.
But I just wanted to just take aminute and share that here with
our listeners that if anybody'slocal and wants to come see join
us.
Yeah, it's a fun morning.
Yeah, that's gonna be reallyexciting.
It's a fun morning.
It doesn't take up the wholeday.
You don't have to even run.
(44:47):
You can walk or you can justcome and hang out in the big
area.
There's like the stage there.
That's so exciting.
Cool.
Thank you for sharing, sharingthat.
Yeah, we've been working reallyhard on that.
I know.
We're like in the last likemonth push.
I know.
And I can't believe it's been ayear since the last one like
that just flew by.
I know.
But you guys have been so hardat work, so that's amazing.
It's just like crazy goingfaster than ever.
(45:07):
Going faster and faster.
Wow.
I wish I knew how to slow time.
I know.
Seriously.
So we'll close pink spotlight.
Yeah.
We'll close with our pinkspotlight.
What do you have for us?
Okay.
Mine you inspired me by askingme what my school drop off
outfit is gonna be.
Oh.
I don't know if this is gonnabe, it will depend on the
weather, but A brand on Amazonthat I found is called, I think
(45:29):
it's called Pin Spark.
There's always like these randomAmazon brands that, you know
have like stores.
And Pin Spark is something thatI found just fits me really
well.
I feel like their sizing ispretty consistent.
So when I've ordered things,like everything fits true to
size, but it's a lot ofathleisure wear.
And I have been so into theserunning shorts.
(45:50):
They have a nice band on top.
It's cinched.
And then there's bike shortsunderneath with a layer over
them that are like runningshorts.
They're it's like doublelayered.
I love bike shorts, but I don'tfeel like I like.
Running around like town in bikeshorts all the time.
But then I also don't likeshorts where I feel like if I'm
like squatting and doing thingswith the kids, like I feel like
(46:12):
this is a perfect mom short it'sbike shorts with a layer over
them.
Okay.
So I feel like you're just likecovered.
You're comfortable.
They're not too short.
Like it's just they're so in theeighties when our moms wore bike
shorts, I love a bike.
Short, big oversized shirt.
I love t-shirts.
Don't get me wrong.
I love a bike short.
Not you're wearing a bike.
Shirt.
Shirt.
I love feel like shirt the shortover for sure.
(46:33):
Unless I'm working out, I don'tlike.
I don't like fitted.
Fitted, like meaning like topand bottom fitted.
I need either an oversizedsomething, but when it's been
hot out, I don't wanna wear likesomething huge on top with bike
shorts.
So I've liked doing the oppositewhere it's like something
cropped or something fitted ontop, and then you have the
looseness of the shorts.
(46:54):
But what I was finding was whenthey weren't lined, I just felt
like I just wasn't, it's just,yeah, you can't bend over.
You're hanging out out.
Yeah, you're hanging out.
So I liked these shorts.
I felt like they gave me likethe best of both worlds where I
felt together, but loose at thesame time.
Okay.
And so I found this brand andwhen I find something that I
(47:14):
like, I don't reinvent thewheel.
So I was like, I ordered onecolor, 10 colors.
And now I'm like, okay.
I ended up, I think I have fourcolors now, and I'm like, what
am I gonna do for the fall?
But at least for like September,I'm like, this is so great.
And so they, you can put a jeanjacket over it in the morning.
Yes.
And they have a lot of differentlike tops that you can mix and
match with things.
And then I was like going down arabbit hole and I was like,
(47:37):
there's just a lot of greatpieces on this store in general.
And for the most part, all ofthe colors match.
So you could go and find a topand then you could find the
shorts and they're the samecolors, so everything just looks
very Lululemon for less, true.
Or there's, or like one of thebrands that does like the color
launches all the time andeverything is like mix and
matched with the style.
So I've been very pleasantlysurprised with those pieces that
(48:01):
I've gotten.
So I will definitely make sureto link them.
And that's definitely gonna belike my gymnastics school drop
off.
So if you see me there, that's.
Perfect.
That's what I'm gonna bewearing.
So you have your first day ofschool outfit picked out?
I do.
I do.
Perfect.
Yep.
Perfect.
I do, I You should get a littlematching one for Layla.
They're, I wonder if they haveanything that similar.
I know that they don't haveminis.
Of course.
That was like one of my firstthings that I looked for.
Maybe.
(48:21):
The all in motion from Target.
Yes.
Might have something similar.
Similar.
They might have similar.
Which is cute.
I know.
That's great.
But I love, yeah.
The price point is so great.
So I just, I love perfect,finding a good price point on
things.
I love that.
My pink spotlight is an Amazonfine too.
Okay.
So I'm gonna do my show.
I love it.
So I think I should change Pinkspotlight to Gina Spotlight.
Yeah.
'cause the shoes from a fewweeks ago, actually I have them
(48:44):
on today, Navy to match myoutfit.
You have another.
Aren't so cute.
Amazon fine.
Aren't so cute.
I cannot believe.
Anyways, but I have anotherAmazon fine.
And it's this bag.
I love it.
I have it in every color.
Oh my God.
It's cute.
Similar to you when I findsomething from Amazon to buy it
in every color.
And actually the trip we justwent on, some of my friends went
on the trip as well.
And I got one for all the girls.
So Nice and nice.
Like their little gift bags.
Yeah.
So cute.
And they were like, where arethese from?
(49:05):
I'm like, Amazon.
They were 1999.
Unbelievable.
So this is like the cream color.
It is like a designer look forless.
It's how pretty This isbeautiful.
That's a great color too.
But it's not a knockoff.
There's a zipper inside.
Nope.
There's all these littlepockets.
It fits.
Look at all this stuff I have inhere.
Yeah.
It just looks like it would bevery expensive.
But it's not knocking anythingoff.
It's not like it looks like aspecific bag.
(49:27):
It looks, it does.
It's beautiful.
It looks$20 and I'm obsessed.
I love it.
So I have, there's like a.
A like a straw color with brown.
Oh, I saw that one piping that Ihave.
Yep.
And then I just got the black.
Oh, I love it.
So does the black have a goldhardware on it?
Everything has gold hardware.
Oh my God.
That's gonna be beautiful.
Everything has gold hardware, sonice.
Beautiful.
So I love it.
This is my pink spotlight, Ilove a high low and you have
(49:48):
been on it with the fines thissummer from Amazon?
Yeah.
My sister found these.
Okay.
So thanks G.
Another Thanks G.
Once again, another G spotlight.
You can hopefully get somegoodbyes for the fall from us.
I know.
I'm going to the US opentomorrow.
That's, we're taking Josephbecause Joseph, oh my God.
Loves tennis.
Yep.
He loves tennis.
What are you wearing?
(50:08):
I don't know.
I don't know.
I'm wearing this bag.
Yeah, that's adorable.
I have a polo sweater I mightwear over my shoulder.
'cause polo's like a spot.
Huge sponsor.
Yeah.
So it might go like that preppyvibe.
Preppy.
I was gonna say, I feel likethat is so in right now with the
rugby shirts and everything isso preppy.
Like prep.
Yeah.
I actually, I just orderedJoseph a bunch of stuff from
Polo too.
It just came in while we wereaway.
(50:29):
So I think we're gonna go preppyvibe, preppy.
Love it.
That will preppy vibe.
That would be perfect.
I know, but I'm really, look,I've never been before.
Have you?
It's so fun.
Yes.
I've been, it's probably beenlike eight or nine years since
I've been, but it is so fun.
Yeah.
I'm really looking forward toit.
Yeah, we're going for the day.
We're taking him out of school.
I know.
We're bad parents.
We're letting you miss No, it's,no, it's all about week of for
(50:50):
sure.
He's so into it.
He's so into tennis.
He's so into tennis, and he juststarted squash.
Oh my, wow.
So he like likes racket sports.
Yeah, he does.
And he's very good at it.
Great.
Thank you.
Oh, enjoy your day.
That's gonna be so fun.
Yeah.
We're excited.
So that's all I got for you.
All right.
And don't forget, if you leaveus a review on Apple, you can DM
(51:11):
us your address and tea willsend you that beautiful pink yes
and gold flamingo bracelet.
I have another batch going out.
Great.
Okay.
Today actually.
Cool.
So if you haven't gotten yourbracelet, it will be coming soon
and we will see you guys later.
Yeah.
Have a good week.
See you next week.
Bye mama.
Bye.
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