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Hello.
(00:00):
Hello, queerly.
Beloved.
Welcome back to this week'sepisode.
So happy that you are all here.
Joining me.
And happy pride once again, Iwill always be saying that all
June because it's exciting andin such a happy time.
Of course pride is celebratedyear round, but it's really
(00:23):
awesome that we get to have thistime to come together as
community and celebrate.
I think.
This year and probably, and not,yes, not just probably previous
years in the past.
It's always tough to find waysto celebrate when there is.
Very many other things going onin the world, but I'm hoping
(00:46):
that all of us can find.
What feels good and right for usSo just wanting to acknowledge
that it's a happy time, but alsothere's a lot going on.
So, This episode, this week'sepisode is talking about pride,
but we are going to talk aboutsome ways that you can
incorporate pride into yourwedding day or celebration.
(01:08):
Obviously the two of you arealready getting married is
pretty gay.
So there is that.
But I think that every couplefeels a little bit differently.
Like I would say there's notonly a spectrum for sexuality,
but there's also a spectrum thatcouples fall on in terms of.
(01:29):
If they want to showcase prideat their wedding.
Beyond just them gettingmarried.
So.
I've.
Kind of created some ideas anddivided the list into subtle and
not so subtle.
So I will go through all ofthose.
I do think that.
I tried to kind of divide themup, but I think that a lot of
(01:51):
them could go on either list.
It sort of just depends on howall out you go.
And this is not an all-inclusivelist.
So if you have ideas or want tosend me things that you and your
partner had, have done or areplanning to do for your wedding,
I would love to see that.
And share that with the otherclearly beloved listeners.
(02:13):
Please feel free to DME yourideas or photos or inspiration
at wildly connected photo onInstagram.
And while you're there, I wouldlove for you to say hello, give
me a follow.
And my last request here is thatif you have not yet rated the
clearly beloved podcast, thatwould mean the absolute.
(02:36):
World to me, if you would also,I feel like it would be pretty
homophobic if you didn't justkidding, but also not really.
And I think that you canactually do it while you're
listening.
So, if you would leave clearlybeloved a review, that'd be
amazing.
Also, if you're listening onSpotify there are ways and apple
(02:58):
too.
There are ways to comment on theepisode.
So if you have thoughts, feelfree to leave them there as
well.
Okay.
So we're going to start outtalking through some sort of
like subtle ideas ofincorporating pride into your
day.
And also just for reference,this can mean, you know, the
actual rainbow.
(03:20):
But it could also be like thespecific colors, like from the
BI flag or the lesbian flag, orlike those specific things too.
It's kind of whatever you'reenvisioning.
So as far as subtlety startingout with, if you're going to do
like a cake or dessert, maybeyou want it to be like the
classic sort of like white andelegant on the outside, but
(03:41):
maybe the inside is rainbow.
I've seen people do that.
And I think it's like a fun,little like, oh my gosh, you cut
it open.
And there's a rainbow inside.
How fun?
So.
That's number one, number two.
Is the bottom of your shoescould be rainbow.
I've seen a lot of couples dothis, and I think it's so fun.
(04:02):
It's just like, I feel like withall of these more quote, unquote
subtle ones, it's just like sucha fun, little, like, secret that
I don't know.
I can just imagine like walkingup to people and be like, Hey
guys, you want to see the bottomof my shoe?
And they're probably like, well,no, but it's your wedding day,
so, okay.
And then you get to feeling.
But my shoes are gay.
(04:23):
I don't know.
I just, I think that's what I'menvisioning with all of these
more low key ones.
So I think these are all superfun.
Number three is kind of justpiggybacking on that.
Like any kind of accessory thatyou wear on your day.
Could have like hints of rainbowor hints of like the colors you
choose.
(04:44):
And this can include anythingfrom like your nails to like
maybe some strands of your hair.
It could also be like yoursocks.
That again, like would mostly behidden, but you still get to
like sneak a peek every once ina while.
Hairpins cufflinks jewelry.
And I feel like now, We've kindof gotten past.
(05:05):
So just like everything beinglike.
Super like obnoxious.
With the rainbow, like that'sstill, I shouldn't say
obnoxious, but like, I thinksome of you can picture, like,
sometimes it's just like toomuch.
And I think there's a lot ofcreators now who are creating.
Like, especially in the jewelryworld, things that are a lot
(05:25):
more like subtle, like maybeit's like a gold necklace.
That happens to have a rainbowon it.
You know, like something that'sjust like more subtle.
The next thing, that's kind ofan accessory, but kind of not
your flowers could be kind ofsubtly rainbow.
Whether that's like the wholerainbow or just like pulling
from pieces.
And I think it's pretty easy todo this with flowers, to have
(05:46):
them be like a bit more likepesto and subtle, rather than
like bright and bold.
Although, if you want to dosomething bold in the next list
you could set, certainly do likea very bold rainbow in your
florals.
Whether it's with the actualflowers or maybe it's something
wrapped around the bouquet.
This could apply to boot nearsor any kind of other variation
(06:07):
of florals as well.
Number five, if you aren'tinvolving like a pets, I know
it's pretty common for people tohave their dogs involved on
their wedding day.
Just being there or being like aring bear, they could wear
something like one of thebandanas.
That say like my moms aregetting married or something.
That's pretty like subtle, but Ithink it's very cute and sweet.
(06:32):
Number six.
This is one of my personalfavorites.
If you and your partner can findways to honor past and previous
queer historical figures andicons at your wedding.
I think that's like a way to belike, Hey, these were like real
people from our community, butit doesn't involve like, Hanging
a huge rainbow from the ceiling.
(06:53):
You know what I mean?
But it's also very much like,Hey, these people are important
and we want to honor and respectthem.
So some things I've seen iscouples using like photos and
like, including a little bit ofinformation about the person as
like the table numbers system.
So like table one might be.
(07:16):
Marsha P Johnson or what haveyou.
And then people get to learnabout someone and that's how
they identify their table.
I've also seen couples just sortof have like, If they have like
an extra table in somewhere andthe reception room, just kind of
having pictures and informationabout previous and current.
(07:36):
Queer icons.
So.
I think that's really, reallyawesome.
And just sort of like a nod tothe community.
Number seven.
Having queer music, artistsplaying during your dance.
Like, I mean, at this point,There's so many queer icons in
the music industry.
And I mean, like shout out toJojo Siwa for starting it, you
(07:58):
know, like if, you know, youknow, but in all seriousness,
yeah, like playing.
Queer artists throughout thedance floor and throughout the
evening, I think.
As like a really fun way to.
To do it.
Number eights, you could includethings in your wedding vows to
each other.
And I think that could looksuper different for every
(08:21):
individual and every couple,whether talking about like the
community or your own sexualityis something you want to include
in the vows is totally up toyou.
But I think just like, a line ortwo in your vows can be a really
sweet way.
If you're wanting to honor andbring in pride, but not
necessarily.
Be super bold about it.
(08:43):
Number nine is this one may notnecessarily feel like the most.
Obvious, but I think allowingyour wedding party to wear
whatever they want to.
Is there a really cool way toshow like, You're like
reflecting and allowing peopleto live out their gender
(09:04):
expression and sort of showingthat there doesn't have to be
any roles.
Like not everyone has to wear adress.
Not everyone has to wear a suit.
It can kind of be all over.
And I feel like that's just likea really cool way to show.
That.
Pride is inclusive of so manythings, including so many like
gender presentations and wantingeveryone to feel safe and
(09:25):
comfortable in your weddingparty is a really awesome way to
do that.
Number 10 is.
If you want your invites to havesome cute little subtle rainbow
elements.
And again, like it doesn'talways have to be like, Super
super bold colors.
Like something I actually triedto do with my own website was
(09:46):
have the colors be just like alittle bit more muted, a little
softer.
Just because sometimes like thereally, really intense red and
orange and yellow, like it canbe a lot.
So having some of those likelittle subtle elements on your
wedding invites, I think wouldbe really, really cute.
So, like I said, this is not acomprehensive list.
(10:06):
I think there's so many thingsthat you could totally do.
And maybe it's even things thatyou do as a couple that not
everyone even knows about orwill necessarily see, but that,
you know, as a couple.
And that's why I think this iskind of a spectrum because I
think.
Every couple gets excited aboutdifferent things in terms of
(10:27):
like sharing pride on theirwedding day.
And truly for some couples,they're like the biggest moment
of pride right here is like memarrying my person.
And I fully agree like.
That is, that is proud if I eversaw it.
But I hope that from some ofthose more subtle ideas, maybe.
You want to try one out or maybeit inspired you to try something
(10:50):
else out.
So the next set.
It is going to be attackingabout some, not so subtle or
bold ideas, if you will.
On how to incorporate pride onyour wedding day.
So the first one is, I mean,pride flags.
That's, that's pretty that's alow hanging fruit.
(11:12):
So if you want to have it asdecor a banner somewhere,
something like that, or likeI've seen couples hand, like
little mini ones out to theguests before the ceremony so
that the guests can like wavethe little flags as y'all exit
or.
Do different things like that orhow them out on the dance floor?
(11:32):
I did see that once wherethere's like pride flags on the
dance floor, and that was areally cute.
Another.
So number two is a variation ofthat, of using a pride flag in
your couples photos.
Again, this can be the actuallike rainbow flag, or it can be
like the flag of that book bestrepresents the two of you.
(11:53):
Excuse me.
And this wouldn't have to belike an, all of your photos.
Like I think sometimes couplesare like, well, I don't want to
do that.
Cause I don't want that.
And like all the photos.
No, at least for me, like Iwould take like one or two and
be like, okay, great.
Let's go back to you guys.
Obviously, totally up to thecouple, but.
Just wanting you to know you cando it really quick.
(12:14):
Okay.
Number three.
I remember seeing, I feel like10 or 15 years ago doing the
whole like rainbow smoke bombthing was so huge.
Like, I feel like everyone wasdoing it.
And I see why like the endresult is super cool and
awesome.
However.
Now that's just kind of a no-noone, because like the smoke
(12:38):
bombs can sometimes be toxic.
They can also stay in yourclothes.
And also for thinking about theenvironment and leaving no
trace.
That would not be our best bet,but I just wanted to bring that
up to like, think of like otherinspiration.
Like, could you have your wholewedding party?
Like, could you do them fold adifferent color streamer or.
(12:59):
Something like that, somethingthat would give you like a
similar effect, but.
It doesn't require a smoke bomb.
Because also smoke bombs havestarted forest fires in the back
and in the past.
And we definitely don't wantthat.
So.
No spoke no smoke bombs, butsomething similar I think would
be a really, really cool.
Number four is having a gayphoto booth.
(13:22):
Heck yeah.
And this can be like, thebackdrop could be rainbow.
The props that people hold couldhave like different.
You know, sayings like we, youhauled or whatever like that,
whatever creative things feelrelevant for you.
I think that would be super fun.
And it would also be like areally cool thing for guests to
be able to take home and like beable to like show people and,
(13:46):
you know, just like a goodmemory of your day and like,
Expressing to people like howawesome and amazing, and also
normal going to a gay weddingwas.
Number five.
This was mentioned first in thelast list, but having like a
very out there.
In terms of like bold colors,rainbow cake or dessert.
(14:09):
I actually went to a wedding acouple of years ago where the
couple had rainbow popcorn.
Like they had like everydifferent kind of color, like
red, orange, yellow, green.
And they were all differentflavors of popcorn and that was
actually so amazing.
The popcorn was fire.
I can definitely ask where theygot it from if anyone's
interested, but.
(14:31):
You could put a rainbow spin onany kind of dessert you want to
do.
And number six is also related.
You could do something like athemed.
Cocktail like a queer or arainbow inspired cocktail,
whether it's actual colors ormaybe it's just like the name,
like.
You could have.
I don't know.
Renee wrap inspired cocktail.
(14:53):
So there's that.
Number seven is incorporatingjust like funny.
Signs or slogans throughout thewedding, but it's not just a
core.
I seen one that says the gayagenda on it, and then like, has
like the schedule for theevening underneath.
So.
(15:14):
Things like that.
Or using that kind of language,like on your invites or you
know, maybe you have a sign upin the reception area.
Talking about the food or just,or it's like incorporating some
of those little fun slogans intoyour day, I think is really
cute.
And.
Is definitely tells peopleexactly what it's about,
(15:35):
especially the, say the gayagenda.
So, but I think it's a great wayto like, keep it fun and
lighthearted.
Number seven, the wedding partycode actually dressed.
In rainbow themselves.
Like if you wanted to go allout, you could have each member
of your wedding party in adifferent color of the rainbow.
That would be a greatreplacement for the smoke bombs
(15:57):
for sure.
And having everyone stand inorder.
Oh my gosh.
What a vibe?
That or you could also ask yourguests to dress brightly and, or
in rainbow colors.
Imagine taking like a huge groupphoto with everyone.
Representing all of thedifferent colors.
That would be amazing.
(16:18):
Number nine.
I have seen it's become morepopular for couples to, instead
of asking for gifts.
Because one, just a side note, Ithink.
A lot of queer couples.
If not all of them are probablyliving together before they get
married.
(16:39):
And so there's maybe less of theneed to like get new spoons.
If it's something they alreadyhave.
all that aside to say, like, notevery couple does like a similar
kind of registry.
And I have seen people do it forother things.
Like.
Please donate to our, you know,future surrogate fund or
whatever.
(16:59):
And alternatively, you couldalso ask us to consider donating
to a queer charity of yourchoice instead of leaving
allograft.
I know that's like a huge ask,like, especially because
weddings are so expensive andall of that.
So if that is not feasible foryou, then that is totally
understandable, but it is anidea.
(17:21):
Number 10.
The favors that you give to yourguests could be rainbow or gain
inspired.
I think that would be like,again, another super sweet thing
to be able to be able to takehome and the rep as they go out
into the world.
And finally, one of my favoritesis hiring a drag queen or other
(17:42):
queer performer for yourreception.
I think that's definitely a, notso subtle way to say that.
You are celebrating a queerwedding.
And every wedding I've been atthat has a drag performer has
just been so fun.
Everyone loves it and isentertained.
And it's just like a nice littleway to even switch up what your
(18:04):
reception is like, you know?
And I think that just goes handin hand with of course, like
hiring other queer vendors andYeah, just showing that you're
working with queer vendors is agreat way to tell people that
you're having a queer weddingalso.
So.
That was 21 different ideas onhow to incorporate pride into
(18:27):
your wedding or celebration.
Again, There's so many thingsand like so many like niche
things that could fall under allof those categories.
So I definitely know I didn'thit it all.
And.
From what I've seen, like peopleare so creative, so just be
creative with this.
Have fun.
And also don't feel pressured todo anything that feels not
(18:50):
authentic to you.
This is obviously not arequirement, but I do know that
some couples.
Want to do it, but they alsojust don't want it.
To be like tackier andauthentic.
And so hopefully this got thecogs in your brain going and
inspires you to figure out whatfeels right for you and your
(19:12):
partner on your wedding day.
That is all that I have for you.
Again, I would love to see yourideas or photos of things that
some of you have done.
I can't wait to see what all ofyou are planning.
As I shoot weddings throughoutthis season as well.
I hope that you all continue tocelebrate pride all month long,
(19:35):
and I will see you all in thenext episode.
Hello.
(00:00):
Hello, queerly.
Beloved.
Welcome back to this week'sepisode.
So happy that you are all here.
Joining me.
And happy pride once again, Iwill always be saying that all
June because it's exciting andin such a happy time.
Of course pride is celebratedyear round, but it's really
(00:23):
awesome that we get to have thistime to come together as
community and celebrate.
I think.
This year and probably, and not,yes, not just probably previous
years in the past.
It's always tough to find waysto celebrate when there is.
Very many other things going onin the world, but I'm hoping
(00:46):
that all of us can find.
What feels good and right for usSo just wanting to acknowledge
that it's a happy time, but alsothere's a lot going on.
So, This episode, this week'sepisode is talking about pride,
but we are going to talk aboutsome ways that you can
incorporate pride into yourwedding day or celebration.
(01:08):
Obviously the two of you arealready getting married is
pretty gay.
So there is that.
But I think that every couplefeels a little bit differently.
Like I would say there's notonly a spectrum for sexuality,
but there's also a spectrum thatcouples fall on in terms of.
(01:29):
If they want to showcase prideat their wedding.
Beyond just them gettingmarried.
So.
I've.
Kind of created some ideas anddivided the list into subtle and
not so subtle.
So I will go through all ofthose.
I do think that.
I tried to kind of divide themup, but I think that a lot of
(01:51):
them could go on either list.
It sort of just depends on howall out you go.
And this is not an all-inclusivelist.
So if you have ideas or want tosend me things that you and your
partner had, have done or areplanning to do for your wedding,
I would love to see that.
And share that with the otherclearly beloved listeners.
(02:13):
Please feel free to DME yourideas or photos or inspiration
at wildly connected photo onInstagram.
And while you're there, I wouldlove for you to say hello, give
me a follow.
And my last request here is thatif you have not yet rated the
clearly beloved podcast, thatwould mean the absolute.
(02:36):
World to me, if you would also,I feel like it would be pretty
homophobic if you didn't justkidding, but also not really.
And I think that you canactually do it while you're
listening.
So, if you would leave clearlybeloved a review, that'd be
amazing.
Also, if you're listening onSpotify there are ways and apple
(02:58):
too.
There are ways to comment on theepisode.
So if you have thoughts, feelfree to leave them there as
well.
Okay.
So we're going to start outtalking through some sort of
like subtle ideas ofincorporating pride into your
day.
And also just for reference,this can mean, you know, the
actual rainbow.
(03:20):
But it could also be like thespecific colors, like from the
BI flag or the lesbian flag, orlike those specific things too.
It's kind of whatever you'reenvisioning.
So as far as subtlety startingout with, if you're going to do
like a cake or dessert, maybeyou want it to be like the
classic sort of like white andelegant on the outside, but
(03:41):
maybe the inside is rainbow.
I've seen people do that.
And I think it's like a fun,little like, oh my gosh, you cut
it open.
And there's a rainbow inside.
How fun?
So.
That's number one, number two.
Is the bottom of your shoescould be rainbow.
I've seen a lot of couples dothis, and I think it's so fun.
(04:02):
It's just like, I feel like withall of these more quote, unquote
subtle ones, it's just like sucha fun, little, like, secret that
I don't know.
I can just imagine like walkingup to people and be like, Hey
guys, you want to see the bottomof my shoe?
And they're probably like, well,no, but it's your wedding day,
so, okay.
And then you get to feeling.
But my shoes are gay.
(04:23):
I don't know.
I just, I think that's what I'menvisioning with all of these
more low key ones.
So I think these are all superfun.
Number three is kind of justpiggybacking on that.
Like any kind of accessory thatyou wear on your day.
Could have like hints of rainbowor hints of like the colors you
choose.
(04:44):
And this can include anythingfrom like your nails to like
maybe some strands of your hair.
It could also be like yoursocks.
That again, like would mostly behidden, but you still get to
like sneak a peek every once ina while.
Hairpins cufflinks jewelry.
And I feel like now, We've kindof gotten past.
(05:05):
So just like everything beinglike.
Super like obnoxious.
With the rainbow, like that'sstill, I shouldn't say
obnoxious, but like, I thinksome of you can picture, like,
sometimes it's just like toomuch.
And I think there's a lot ofcreators now who are creating.
Like, especially in the jewelryworld, things that are a lot
(05:25):
more like subtle, like maybeit's like a gold necklace.
That happens to have a rainbowon it.
You know, like something that'sjust like more subtle.
The next thing, that's kind ofan accessory, but kind of not
your flowers could be kind ofsubtly rainbow.
Whether that's like the wholerainbow or just like pulling
from pieces.
And I think it's pretty easy todo this with flowers, to have
(05:46):
them be like a bit more likepesto and subtle, rather than
like bright and bold.
Although, if you want to dosomething bold in the next list
you could set, certainly do likea very bold rainbow in your
florals.
Whether it's with the actualflowers or maybe it's something
wrapped around the bouquet.
This could apply to boot nearsor any kind of other variation
(06:07):
of florals as well.
Number five, if you aren'tinvolving like a pets, I know
it's pretty common for people tohave their dogs involved on
their wedding day.
Just being there or being like aring bear, they could wear
something like one of thebandanas.
That say like my moms aregetting married or something.
That's pretty like subtle, but Ithink it's very cute and sweet.
(06:32):
Number six.
This is one of my personalfavorites.
If you and your partner can findways to honor past and previous
queer historical figures andicons at your wedding.
I think that's like a way to belike, Hey, these were like real
people from our community, butit doesn't involve like, Hanging
a huge rainbow from the ceiling.
(06:53):
You know what I mean?
But it's also very much like,Hey, these people are important
and we want to honor and respectthem.
So some things I've seen iscouples using like photos and
like, including a little bit ofinformation about the person as
like the table numbers system.
So like table one might be.
(07:16):
Marsha P Johnson or what haveyou.
And then people get to learnabout someone and that's how
they identify their table.
I've also seen couples just sortof have like, If they have like
an extra table in somewhere andthe reception room, just kind of
having pictures and informationabout previous and current.
(07:36):
Queer icons.
So.
I think that's really, reallyawesome.
And just sort of like a nod tothe community.
Number seven.
Having queer music, artistsplaying during your dance.
Like, I mean, at this point,There's so many queer icons in
the music industry.
And I mean, like shout out toJojo Siwa for starting it, you
(07:58):
know, like if, you know, youknow, but in all seriousness,
yeah, like playing.
Queer artists throughout thedance floor and throughout the
evening, I think.
As like a really fun way to.
To do it.
Number eights, you could includethings in your wedding vows to
each other.
And I think that could looksuper different for every
(08:21):
individual and every couple,whether talking about like the
community or your own sexualityis something you want to include
in the vows is totally up toyou.
But I think just like, a line ortwo in your vows can be a really
sweet way.
If you're wanting to honor andbring in pride, but not
necessarily.
Be super bold about it.
(08:43):
Number nine is this one may notnecessarily feel like the most.
Obvious, but I think allowingyour wedding party to wear
whatever they want to.
Is there a really cool way toshow like, You're like
reflecting and allowing peopleto live out their gender
(09:04):
expression and sort of showingthat there doesn't have to be
any roles.
Like not everyone has to wear adress.
Not everyone has to wear a suit.
It can kind of be all over.
And I feel like that's just likea really cool way to show.
That.
Pride is inclusive of so manythings, including so many like
gender presentations and wantingeveryone to feel safe and
(09:25):
comfortable in your weddingparty is a really awesome way to
do that.
Number 10 is.
If you want your invites to havesome cute little subtle rainbow
elements.
And again, like it doesn'talways have to be like, Super
super bold colors.
Like something I actually triedto do with my own website was
(09:46):
have the colors be just like alittle bit more muted, a little
softer.
Just because sometimes like thereally, really intense red and
orange and yellow, like it canbe a lot.
So having some of those likelittle subtle elements on your
wedding invites, I think wouldbe really, really cute.
So, like I said, this is not acomprehensive list.
(10:06):
I think there's so many thingsthat you could totally do.
And maybe it's even things thatyou do as a couple that not
everyone even knows about orwill necessarily see, but that,
you know, as a couple.
And that's why I think this iskind of a spectrum because I
think.
Every couple gets excited aboutdifferent things in terms of
(10:27):
like sharing pride on theirwedding day.
And truly for some couples,they're like the biggest moment
of pride right here is like memarrying my person.
And I fully agree like.
That is, that is proud if I eversaw it.
But I hope that from some ofthose more subtle ideas, maybe.
You want to try one out or maybeit inspired you to try something
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else out.
So the next set.
It is going to be attackingabout some, not so subtle or
bold ideas, if you will.
On how to incorporate pride onyour wedding day.
So the first one is, I mean,pride flags.
That's, that's pretty that's alow hanging fruit.
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So if you want to have it asdecor a banner somewhere,
something like that, or likeI've seen couples hand, like
little mini ones out to theguests before the ceremony so
that the guests can like wavethe little flags as y'all exit
or.
Do different things like that orhow them out on the dance floor?
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I did see that once wherethere's like pride flags on the
dance floor, and that was areally cute.
Another.
So number two is a variation ofthat, of using a pride flag in
your couples photos.
Again, this can be the actuallike rainbow flag, or it can be
like the flag of that book bestrepresents the two of you.
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Excuse me.
And this wouldn't have to belike an, all of your photos.
Like I think sometimes couplesare like, well, I don't want to
do that.
Cause I don't want that.
And like all the photos.
No, at least for me, like Iwould take like one or two and
be like, okay, great.
Let's go back to you guys.
Obviously, totally up to thecouple, but.
Just wanting you to know you cando it really quick.
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Okay.
Number three.
I remember seeing, I feel like10 or 15 years ago doing the
whole like rainbow smoke bombthing was so huge.
Like, I feel like everyone wasdoing it.
And I see why like the endresult is super cool and
awesome.
However.
Now that's just kind of a no-noone, because like the smoke
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bombs can sometimes be toxic.
They can also stay in yourclothes.
And also for thinking about theenvironment and leaving no
trace.
That would not be our best bet,but I just wanted to bring that
up to like, think of like otherinspiration.
Like, could you have your wholewedding party?
Like, could you do them fold adifferent color streamer or.
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Something like that, somethingthat would give you like a
similar effect, but.
It doesn't require a smoke bomb.
Because also smoke bombs havestarted forest fires in the back
and in the past.
And we definitely don't wantthat.
So.
No spoke no smoke bombs, butsomething similar I think would
be a really, really cool.
Number four is having a gayphoto booth.
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Heck yeah.
And this can be like, thebackdrop could be rainbow.
The props that people hold couldhave like different.
You know, sayings like we, youhauled or whatever like that,
whatever creative things feelrelevant for you.
I think that would be super fun.
And it would also be like areally cool thing for guests to
be able to take home and like beable to like show people and,
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you know, just like a goodmemory of your day and like,
Expressing to people like howawesome and amazing, and also
normal going to a gay weddingwas.
Number five.
This was mentioned first in thelast list, but having like a
very out there.
In terms of like bold colors,rainbow cake or dessert.
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I actually went to a wedding acouple of years ago where the
couple had rainbow popcorn.
Like they had like everydifferent kind of color, like
red, orange, yellow, green.
And they were all differentflavors of popcorn and that was
actually so amazing.
The popcorn was fire.
I can definitely ask where theygot it from if anyone's
interested, but.
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You could put a rainbow spin onany kind of dessert you want to
do.
And number six is also related.
You could do something like athemed.
Cocktail like a queer or arainbow inspired cocktail,
whether it's actual colors ormaybe it's just like the name,
like.
You could have.
I don't know.
Renee wrap inspired cocktail.
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So there's that.
Number seven is incorporatingjust like funny.
Signs or slogans throughout thewedding, but it's not just a
core.
I seen one that says the gayagenda on it, and then like, has
like the schedule for theevening underneath.
So.
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Things like that.
Or using that kind of language,like on your invites or you
know, maybe you have a sign upin the reception area.
Talking about the food or just,or it's like incorporating some
of those little fun slogans intoyour day, I think is really
cute.
And.
Is definitely tells peopleexactly what it's about,
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especially the, say the gayagenda.
So, but I think it's a great wayto like, keep it fun and
lighthearted.
Number seven, the wedding partycode actually dressed.
In rainbow themselves.
Like if you wanted to go allout, you could have each member
of your wedding party in adifferent color of the rainbow.
That would be a greatreplacement for the smoke bombs
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for sure.
And having everyone stand inorder.
Oh my gosh.
What a vibe?
That or you could also ask yourguests to dress brightly and, or
in rainbow colors.
Imagine taking like a huge groupphoto with everyone.
Representing all of thedifferent colors.
That would be amazing.
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Number nine.
I have seen it's become morepopular for couples to, instead
of asking for gifts.
Because one, just a side note, Ithink.
A lot of queer couples.
If not all of them are probablyliving together before they get
married.
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And so there's maybe less of theneed to like get new spoons.
If it's something they alreadyhave.
all that aside to say, like, notevery couple does like a similar
kind of registry.
And I have seen people do it forother things.
Like.
Please donate to our, you know,future surrogate fund or
whatever.
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And alternatively, you couldalso ask us to consider donating
to a queer charity of yourchoice instead of leaving
allograft.
I know that's like a huge ask,like, especially because
weddings are so expensive andall of that.
So if that is not feasible foryou, then that is totally
understandable, but it is anidea.
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Number 10.
The favors that you give to yourguests could be rainbow or gain
inspired.
I think that would be like,again, another super sweet thing
to be able to be able to takehome and the rep as they go out
into the world.
And finally, one of my favoritesis hiring a drag queen or other
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queer performer for yourreception.
I think that's definitely a, notso subtle way to say that.
You are celebrating a queerwedding.
And every wedding I've been atthat has a drag performer has
just been so fun.
Everyone loves it and isentertained.
And it's just like a nice littleway to even switch up what your
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reception is like, you know?
And I think that just goes handin hand with of course, like
hiring other queer vendors andYeah, just showing that you're
working with queer vendors is agreat way to tell people that
you're having a queer weddingalso.
So.
That was 21 different ideas onhow to incorporate pride into
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your wedding or celebration.
Again, There's so many thingsand like so many like niche
things that could fall under allof those categories.
So I definitely know I didn'thit it all.
And.
From what I've seen, like peopleare so creative, so just be
creative with this.
Have fun.
And also don't feel pressured todo anything that feels not
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authentic to you.
This is obviously not arequirement, but I do know that
some couples.
Want to do it, but they alsojust don't want it.
To be like tackier andauthentic.
And so hopefully this got thecogs in your brain going and
inspires you to figure out whatfeels right for you and your
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partner on your wedding day.
That is all that I have for you.
Again, I would love to see yourideas or photos of things that
some of you have done.
I can't wait to see what all ofyou are planning.
As I shoot weddings throughoutthis season as well.
I hope that you all continue tocelebrate pride all month long,
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and I will see you all in thenext episode.
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