#11 - Three Keys to Navigating Change

In this episode of "Quiet the Noise," Gary LeBlanc delves into the topic of change, specifically focusing on the kinds of changes that happen to us, rather than those we proactively instigate. Gary reflects on his personal experiences with significant changes, such as the birth of his daughter and career shifts, and how these changes can often feel overwhelming. He discusses the sense of helplessness that can accompany unexpected changes and the importance of resilience. Through his introspective journey, Gary offers insights into managing change, reframing our perspectives, and maintaining emotional balance during turbulent times. Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Change and its Impact 03:12 Navigating Change: From Helplessness to Resilience 06:02 Reframing: From 'Have to' to 'Get to' 08:54 Catastrophizing: Avoiding Anxiety and Lost Time 11:16 Equanimity: Letting Go of Labels 13:23 Short-Circuiting Unskillful Behavior: Making Reasonable Decisions 15:41 Conclusion: Navigating Change in a Changing World   Detailed Insights Personal Experience with Change: Gary shares his personal journey of dealing with significant changes, including the birth of his daughter Emma and major career shifts. He reflects on how these changes occurred simultaneously, creating a period of intense transformation and adaptation. Change Initiated by the Unconscious Mind: Gary discusses the concept that changes often happen due to conditions set by our unconscious mind, leading to outcomes that might feel unexpected or out of our control. Sense of Helplessness: He explores the feeling of helplessness that can arise when facing substantial changes, especially when they exceed our optimal resilience levels. Gary likens minor challenges to a manageable "six and a half" on a stress scale, while significant changes can feel like an "eight or nine" gut punch, regardless of whether they are positive or negative. Reframing Perspectives: Gary emphasizes the importance of reframing our perspective from "I have to do this" to "I get to do this" to foster gratitude and a more positive outlook. This shift helps...