Eps 131 - The Chameleon Effect: Losing Yourself to Be Liked | Authenticity, Survival & Self-Observation

In this episode of The Re-Mind Podcast, Dr Ashleigh Moreland and David Masterton unpack something most of us do—often without realising it: the chameleon effect.

From relationships to work and even parenting, many of us subtly shape-shift to be who others need us to be—just to feel safe, accepted, or loved. Ash and Dave explore what happens when this survival strategy turns into self-abandonment, and how to reclaim your authenticity while still adapting with awareness.

Drawing from real-life stories (including Ash’s reflections on her 12-year-old son learning who he is around others), this episode explores the roots of this behavior and the gentle practice of self-observation as the path back to truth.

In this episode:

• What the “chameleon effect” really is and why we all do it

• How fear of rejection drives shape-shifting behaviors

• The fine line between adapting and abandoning yourself

• How to use observation—not judgment—to return to authenticity

• Parenting lessons: letting your child explore identity safely

• The importance of recording and watching yourself with compassion

• Why authenticity feels safer than performing once you learn to stay with yourself

  
  

Ash and Dave close with a powerful reflection on recording your own conversations as a tool for empathy, awareness, and growth.

Reflection prompts:

• When do you notice yourself changing to fit in?

• What’s your “why” behind wanting to be liked or accepted?

• How can you observe yourself with curiosity, not criticism?

  
  

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The Re-Mind Podcast shares general information about mental health, well-being, healing, and spiritual growth. This episode is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice or therapy. If you need support, please reach out to a qualified professional.

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