December 12, 2025 • 18 mins
In this unique clip show, host Andy Grant of Real Men Feel compiles powerful, honest answers from 17 previous guests to one pivotal question: 'What do you wish more men knew?' These responses shed light on the significant themes of love, vulnerability, self-worth, and emotional resilience.
From emphasizing the importance of self-love and accountability to advocating for better sexual health and emotional expression, these insights reveal a common thread—strength and vulnerability are not opposites, but essential mates.
This episode encourages men to be true to themselves and engage deeply with others.
00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel
00:37 The Power of Vulnerability
03:34 Embracing Emotional Resilience
07:35 Redefining Masculinity
14:18 The Importance of Sexual Health
17:20 Conclusion and Community Invitation
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(00:00):
Hello and welcome to Real Men Feel.
I'm your host, Andy Grant. Today's show is a little bit
different. It's my first ever clip show.
Over the years, I have asked many dozens of people one simple
question. What do you wish more men do?
Today I'm sharing the answer from 17 past guests who answered
(00:22):
with honesty and hard won wisdom.
And as you listen, I am sure you'll hear a very clear theme
emerge, one that goes straight to the heart of what real men
feel has always been about. Let's do it, Ellen.
What's one thing that you wish more men knew?
I wish more men knew that peoplelove you.
(00:46):
And I think, you know, as boys, once we're old enough to run and
crawl and get off of your dad's knee, we don't get much
affection after that. And so we grow up then being
these rough and tumble guys. And don't get me wrong, and
kids, the boys need that energy as well.
We don't get a lot of the nurture piece.
(01:09):
And so I want men to know that you are loved beyond measure.
Know that you were put here for a purpose and you were put here
to do something, whatever that is.
All that we're asking you to do is to lean into it, lean into
who you are and know that you are loved.
Ryan, what's one thing that you wish more men knew That that
(01:31):
it's OK to love themselves. It's OK to be open.
It's OK to be vulnerable. It's OK to express themselves.
And, and often times they just close up and they don't know how
to to do any of that. What's one thing you wish more
men knew? Geometry.
(01:52):
No, I think. No one has.
You ever seen that? That's great.
I always thought this joke because I took geometry in 10th
grade and I felt it. And so my dad sat me down and
realized like he taught me how to think about geometry and like
in steps, like, you know, when you're doing proofs and stuff,
don't just think of it how to get to the answer, how to think
(02:14):
about understanding what you're doing.
And I think that's in life. That's actually a good point of
how to not just get to an answer, but how to understand
how you got to the answer. But I think more men just need
to know how to that, that word again, accountability, being
vulnerable. And it is all right to be
vulnerable, yo. No one's going to be tripping
(02:35):
and hating on you. And if they do, you probably
don't even need to be around them.
But I don't care who it is. If someone doesn't respect your
vulnerability, someone doesn't respect your pace and your space
of how you move it through life,and someone doesn't give you
room to grow and adapt, Yo, you probably don't need to be around
(02:55):
them because they are even respecting you, not as a man,
but just as a human. They want to inject their
personal and ego on you. So I would just tell men it's OK
to be vulnerable. Yo, it's it's actually OK.
So it's all right to strength isin the vulnerability.
Strength isn't in, you know, popping off and talking, talking
(03:18):
ish all day. That's that's weak strength is
in being strong and vulnerable and knowing you can handle
situation, knowing you're going to go through that storm.
You're going to get wet a littlebit, but at the end you'll be
all dry and you'll you'll get through that storm.
Aaron, is there one thing that you wish more men knew?
There's nothing wrong with asking and saying that you don't
(03:41):
know if you know if. I had.
One guy like wants wanted to learn.
Like tell me I want you to be myteacher.
Like be open to to learning. Because the.
Definition of sex that you learned as a heterosexual man
and the script that we had doesn't have to be the same and
if you. Really.
Want to? Pleasure A.
Woman and really have a. Good relationship.
(04:03):
That's the best way to do it, Aaron.
What's one thing you wish more men knew?
I mean, I think it goes back to my mantra in, in the, you know,
in, in the men's groups. It's it's we knew how to get out
of our heads and into our hearts, how to feel more, do
less fixing and more feeling. What is one thing you wish more
men knew? That they can talk to other men
(04:25):
and they're not alone. That whatever pain they feel
that they hold, and all of this being that they are holding, is
held by other men too. And it'd be so much lighter if
they just did. And finally, Kelly, what do you
wish more men knew? What?
(04:47):
What I. Expressed earlier, man, that the
because like I said, when I was a kid and growing up, that word
repent was scary. And it's never too late.
You know what I'm saying? It's never too late to do the
right thing. It's never too late to turn
around. You always have an opportunity
until your last breath to turn around.
What is one thing that you wish more men knew?
(05:09):
I think I wish more men knew that vulnerability is not
weakness. It is can be a strength.
And it sounds cliche because I'msure you've talked a lot about
that. But but it's just it bears
repeating, right? Because I think that someone who
studies narcissism and knows that the protection, I mean, we
(05:30):
all are hardwired to protect vulnerability, but it's also to
me, it's the doorway into not only greater self acceptance,
but also like better relationships with other people.
And so I just, I wish that was more men knew that that that
allowing in their own vulnerability and showing it
occasionally to people is is a really beautiful thing.
(05:53):
What is one thing that you wish more men knew?
Well, I think I started by saying that the work isn't
always tied to productivity, performance, and the pressure to
hold it all together. I am that that your value isn't
what in what you do. Although you can talk about self
(06:14):
actualization and Maslow's hierarchy, that's a different
conversation, but it's more about who you are, like as if
you want to be who you are. And, and I think a lot of, like
I said, men find themselves defining who they are by what
they do. And that's an easy thing to do,
(06:34):
especially because we want to bethe change we want to see.
And so when you start getting those kinds of idioms and
whatnot, it, it makes it really complex.
But I, I, I would say that that's number one.
And then the next thing is that vulnerability is not a weakness,
it's a strategy. It's not to be overused, right?
(06:54):
It's supposed to be used with deliberateness and precision,
and it's not to be manipulator. But when used appropriately
within context, it has so much power to open up relationships
and conversations in a room. And if you're really after
influence and leadership and building deep relationships,
(07:15):
whether it be with your team or family, that's where it starts
because that's when fight safetykicks in.
And then actually people are open to sharing thoughts and
ideas. And that's how we become a
better people, a better culture.And that's where innovation
lives in the technology realm. Kevin, what's one thing you wish
more men knew? You probably are not crying
(07:37):
enough. I bet money on it that most men
are not crying enough. I.
Love. A good cry.
I love a good cry. And your partner probably wants
you to ask for help more than you are.
Whether you're in a heterosexualrelationship or not a
heterosexual relationship, your partner probably wants you to
ask for help more. But we're convinced that that
(08:00):
that's weakness. And I don't think so.
There's a drastic difference between weakness and connection
that I wish, I wish more men knew that because that's
something that took me to be 30 years to learn that.
I wish that more men knew that emotional resilience, mental
strength does not equate and is not synonymous with weakness or
(08:24):
softness. We go back to being this topic
of of a warrior. Having control over yourself,
Having self mastery means havingunderstanding.
It means that instead of bottling it away because it's
quote UN quote weak, look it in the eye, acknowledge it for what
it is, and then take control of it.
(08:47):
More men need to understand thatemotional resilience comes from
first struggling with those emotions, which you you won't
have an opportunity to do if youpush it down, then getting
familiar, getting comfortable with those and then still
responding well. If you want to be a leader, if
(09:10):
you want to be a caretaker, a provider, that means having that
emotional maturity that comes from the experience of
acknowledging and working through those emotions and those
mental states. More men need to realize that
(09:31):
it's OK to feel. It's not OK to act however you
want. But that's the whole point,
right? Is that you decide.
You decide that where that line is between who's the person I'm
going to be today and I'm the only one that gets to decide
that. One thing I wish more men knew.
(09:55):
There I am innocence wrapped in valor.
As a woman, I wield my sort of compassion, cutting open
emotional wounds to reveal hidden wisdom within.
That's the feminine, OK, masculine valor wrapped in
innocence. You know, it's the, it's the,
it's the romance. It's the acknowledging the
(10:18):
feminine and getting on a knee to this one woman who is just
everything. That's what like, women really
need that and men need that. Like, women are complaining that
men don't express their emotions.
Oh, yes, they do when they're chivalrous.
That's expressing emotion because men act, women talk.
And when they're not chivalrous,like there's a lot of that right
(10:39):
now that is men talking clear asday and giving feedback to women
clear as day all day long. But women don't want to hear it
that way because women don't want to take accountability.
So I would say men embrace that you are Val or wrapped in
innocence and you in that build yourself the the the working
out, the diet, the the business and love on yourself so
(11:03):
profoundly that the only woman who could earn the privilege of
being in bed with you and you'reproviding and protection is this
one woman. Value yourself that much that
all these women taking this money and this problem and you
know, pulling you this way and that way just well, just do this
for me and just pay for this. They do not value you set your
(11:25):
life up. If you're young enough, you have
in your family in a way that youcan provide for your girl, your
wife, the mother of your children well enough that she
can stay home and that you valueyourself so much that you won't
settle for a woman that will do anything less.
That her wife is her man and herchildren and anything less don't
(11:47):
settle. So I guess that's when I have
some men don't settle. Finally, what's one thing you
wish more men knew? Being vulnerable isn't a
weakness. Being vulnerable is a strength.
And really tuning into that masculinity with being
vulnerable and naming that is transformative within itself.
(12:09):
You just have to take that chance and be vulnerable.
Alexandra, what's one thing thatyou wish more men knew?
I want more men to know that they will be loved and cherished
and accepted for their full health by women who appreciate
(12:30):
them or their whole humanity. I I think sometimes.
So much of. Self management and self
preservation kind of filled armor and layer and not showing
vulnerability leads to gap in understanding and.
Compassion. Sometimes just having that safe
(12:51):
space inside of a relationship can just feel hard and be so
restored, and it's just a matterof having those healthy
relationships where feeling annually charged, fired because
it's a psychologically safe environment.
I wish more men knew that. Don't beat yourself up because
(13:14):
nobody hasn't figured out 100%. And so the best thing that you
can do as a man is to try to getaround those you feel are
further ahead than you are and give yourself grace for the
mistakes that you made. And not to say that you don't
feel anything from making a mistake and you're not going to
try to correct it, but it's a lot easier process if you don't
(13:36):
beat yourself up over it becauseyou have to look at your life,
the life for those that came before you.
And I look at my parents, you know, the father, my biological
father, he's kind of emotionallydisconnected.
We have a good relationship, buthe's not as connected as
emotions or as vulnerable as I am.
(13:57):
He's coming along, you know, talking to me, but you have to
say they worked with everything they had available to me, all
the tools and all that stuff. And you're doing everything that
you experienced and all the tools you had.
You're doing the best you can what you've got.
So just try to figure out how todo more and learn more and be
(14:17):
around the right people. Besides the aggressive pursuit
of a great life, what else wouldyou like men to know?
I like men to know by prioritizing sexual health, you
prioritize physical health, mental health, and spiritual
health. Like I said earlier, sexual
health touches all three. And we live in a society where
(14:38):
our sexuality has been cheapened.
It had been demeaning that it, it's, it's useless to sell off
things. And the sooner that men wake up
to how our sexual energy is being exploited, turning us into
weak men, the sooner that they're going to awaken and
(14:58):
realize that this isn't normal. We are not wired to be have AI
girlfriends and to, to, to for only fans.
Like it's not healthy for most people.
It's really, really, really you owning people's lives in ways
that you and I couldn't even imagine as a kid.
(15:22):
But I want everyone to know thatyour sexual energy is powerful,
and with great power comes greatresponsibility, and you have to
treat your sexual energy with that same level of respect as
referenced by Voltaire and Spider Man.
Ethan, what's one thing you wishmore men knew?
(15:42):
It's a good question. I wish that they knew.
What comes to mind is just like that.
They don't have to have it all together.
They don't have to be Superman. They don't have to be on 100% of
the time. And you know, I don't think this
(16:03):
is a new revelation. I think people figure this out.
I think unfortunately, a lot of people figure this out the hard
way. And so helping you allow
yourself to be human and know that you don't have to be
perfect. You don't have to have it all
figured out. You don't have to do it alone.
Yeah, not even that. You don't have to.
(16:24):
Nobody does. Like, like, I think that's an
entire myth that that hurts men that you can have it all figured
out. And, you know, alone especially
makes that an impossibility. The more I'm willing to be wrong
about things, you know, the moreI'm willing to see, though
there's more to learn. Like that.
That that that used to, that used to feel like life just
(16:47):
pummeling me. Oh, there's more.
Come on. But now I'm like, oh, good.
There's more, right, So if we can appreciate that there's
more, appreciate our imperfection, appreciate that we
really don't know anything and there's more to to experiment
with. You know, trial and error are
all like great things that that we can use.
And I wish if we could find a way to celebrate that more in
the daily experience, especiallyof young men, instead of going
(17:10):
pick the right major, get the right job, you know, get it,
make sure you're right. The first thing you try for
everything you do, that that's just a horrible standard to try
to to reach for anybody. If any of those answers
resonated with you, you're not alone.
Men everywhere are waking up to the truth that strength and
vulnerability are not opposites.They belong together.
(17:33):
The world is full of men who feel alone, overwhelmed, or
unsure where to turn. But you don't have to figure
this out on your own. If you resonated with any of
those answers, you're not alone.Men everywhere are waking up to
the truth that strength and vulnerability are not opposites.
(17:53):
They belong together. The world is full of men who
feel alone, overwhelmed, or unsure of where to turn.
But you don't have to figure this out on your own.
If you want a place to explore that for yourself with other men
who get it, join my free community, Authentic AF at
realmenfeel.org/group. That's where these conversations
(18:15):
continue, deepen, and actually change lives.
Thanks for listening and until next time be good to yourself.
Hello and welcome to Real Men Feel.
I'm your host, Andy Grant. Today's show is a little bit
different. It's my first ever clip show.
Over the years, I have asked many dozens of people one simple
question. What do you wish more men do?
Today I'm sharing the answer from 17 past guests who answered
(00:22):
with honesty and hard won wisdom.
And as you listen, I am sure you'll hear a very clear theme
emerge, one that goes straight to the heart of what real men
feel has always been about. Let's do it, Ellen.
What's one thing that you wish more men knew?
I wish more men knew that peoplelove you.
(00:46):
And I think, you know, as boys, once we're old enough to run and
crawl and get off of your dad's knee, we don't get much
affection after that. And so we grow up then being
these rough and tumble guys. And don't get me wrong, and
kids, the boys need that energy as well.
We don't get a lot of the nurture piece.
(01:09):
And so I want men to know that you are loved beyond measure.
Know that you were put here for a purpose and you were put here
to do something, whatever that is.
All that we're asking you to do is to lean into it, lean into
who you are and know that you are loved.
Ryan, what's one thing that you wish more men knew That that
(01:31):
it's OK to love themselves. It's OK to be open.
It's OK to be vulnerable. It's OK to express themselves.
And, and often times they just close up and they don't know how
to to do any of that. What's one thing you wish more
men knew? Geometry.
(01:52):
No, I think. No one has.
You ever seen that? That's great.
I always thought this joke because I took geometry in 10th
grade and I felt it. And so my dad sat me down and
realized like he taught me how to think about geometry and like
in steps, like, you know, when you're doing proofs and stuff,
don't just think of it how to get to the answer, how to think
(02:14):
about understanding what you're doing.
And I think that's in life. That's actually a good point of
how to not just get to an answer, but how to understand
how you got to the answer. But I think more men just need
to know how to that, that word again, accountability, being
vulnerable. And it is all right to be
vulnerable, yo. No one's going to be tripping
(02:35):
and hating on you. And if they do, you probably
don't even need to be around them.
But I don't care who it is. If someone doesn't respect your
vulnerability, someone doesn't respect your pace and your space
of how you move it through life,and someone doesn't give you
room to grow and adapt, Yo, you probably don't need to be around
(02:55):
them because they are even respecting you, not as a man,
but just as a human. They want to inject their
personal and ego on you. So I would just tell men it's OK
to be vulnerable. Yo, it's it's actually OK.
So it's all right to strength isin the vulnerability.
Strength isn't in, you know, popping off and talking, talking
(03:18):
ish all day. That's that's weak strength is
in being strong and vulnerable and knowing you can handle
situation, knowing you're going to go through that storm.
You're going to get wet a littlebit, but at the end you'll be
all dry and you'll you'll get through that storm.
Aaron, is there one thing that you wish more men knew?
There's nothing wrong with asking and saying that you don't
(03:41):
know if you know if. I had.
One guy like wants wanted to learn.
Like tell me I want you to be myteacher.
Like be open to to learning. Because the.
Definition of sex that you learned as a heterosexual man
and the script that we had doesn't have to be the same and
if you. Really.
Want to? Pleasure A.
Woman and really have a. Good relationship.
(04:03):
That's the best way to do it, Aaron.
What's one thing you wish more men knew?
I mean, I think it goes back to my mantra in, in the, you know,
in, in the men's groups. It's it's we knew how to get out
of our heads and into our hearts, how to feel more, do
less fixing and more feeling. What is one thing you wish more
men knew? That they can talk to other men
(04:25):
and they're not alone. That whatever pain they feel
that they hold, and all of this being that they are holding, is
held by other men too. And it'd be so much lighter if
they just did. And finally, Kelly, what do you
wish more men knew? What?
(04:47):
What I. Expressed earlier, man, that the
because like I said, when I was a kid and growing up, that word
repent was scary. And it's never too late.
You know what I'm saying? It's never too late to do the
right thing. It's never too late to turn
around. You always have an opportunity
until your last breath to turn around.
What is one thing that you wish more men knew?
(05:09):
I think I wish more men knew that vulnerability is not
weakness. It is can be a strength.
And it sounds cliche because I'msure you've talked a lot about
that. But but it's just it bears
repeating, right? Because I think that someone who
studies narcissism and knows that the protection, I mean, we
(05:30):
all are hardwired to protect vulnerability, but it's also to
me, it's the doorway into not only greater self acceptance,
but also like better relationships with other people.
And so I just, I wish that was more men knew that that that
allowing in their own vulnerability and showing it
occasionally to people is is a really beautiful thing.
(05:53):
What is one thing that you wish more men knew?
Well, I think I started by saying that the work isn't
always tied to productivity, performance, and the pressure to
hold it all together. I am that that your value isn't
what in what you do. Although you can talk about self
(06:14):
actualization and Maslow's hierarchy, that's a different
conversation, but it's more about who you are, like as if
you want to be who you are. And, and I think a lot of, like
I said, men find themselves defining who they are by what
they do. And that's an easy thing to do,
(06:34):
especially because we want to bethe change we want to see.
And so when you start getting those kinds of idioms and
whatnot, it, it makes it really complex.
But I, I, I would say that that's number one.
And then the next thing is that vulnerability is not a weakness,
it's a strategy. It's not to be overused, right?
(06:54):
It's supposed to be used with deliberateness and precision,
and it's not to be manipulator. But when used appropriately
within context, it has so much power to open up relationships
and conversations in a room. And if you're really after
influence and leadership and building deep relationships,
(07:15):
whether it be with your team or family, that's where it starts
because that's when fight safetykicks in.
And then actually people are open to sharing thoughts and
ideas. And that's how we become a
better people, a better culture.And that's where innovation
lives in the technology realm. Kevin, what's one thing you wish
more men knew? You probably are not crying
(07:37):
enough. I bet money on it that most men
are not crying enough. I.
Love. A good cry.
I love a good cry. And your partner probably wants
you to ask for help more than you are.
Whether you're in a heterosexualrelationship or not a
heterosexual relationship, your partner probably wants you to
ask for help more. But we're convinced that that
(08:00):
that's weakness. And I don't think so.
There's a drastic difference between weakness and connection
that I wish, I wish more men knew that because that's
something that took me to be 30 years to learn that.
I wish that more men knew that emotional resilience, mental
strength does not equate and is not synonymous with weakness or
(08:24):
softness. We go back to being this topic
of of a warrior. Having control over yourself,
Having self mastery means havingunderstanding.
It means that instead of bottling it away because it's
quote UN quote weak, look it in the eye, acknowledge it for what
it is, and then take control of it.
(08:47):
More men need to understand thatemotional resilience comes from
first struggling with those emotions, which you you won't
have an opportunity to do if youpush it down, then getting
familiar, getting comfortable with those and then still
responding well. If you want to be a leader, if
(09:10):
you want to be a caretaker, a provider, that means having that
emotional maturity that comes from the experience of
acknowledging and working through those emotions and those
mental states. More men need to realize that
(09:31):
it's OK to feel. It's not OK to act however you
want. But that's the whole point,
right? Is that you decide.
You decide that where that line is between who's the person I'm
going to be today and I'm the only one that gets to decide
that. One thing I wish more men knew.
(09:55):
There I am innocence wrapped in valor.
As a woman, I wield my sort of compassion, cutting open
emotional wounds to reveal hidden wisdom within.
That's the feminine, OK, masculine valor wrapped in
innocence. You know, it's the, it's the,
it's the romance. It's the acknowledging the
(10:18):
feminine and getting on a knee to this one woman who is just
everything. That's what like, women really
need that and men need that. Like, women are complaining that
men don't express their emotions.
Oh, yes, they do when they're chivalrous.
That's expressing emotion because men act, women talk.
And when they're not chivalrous,like there's a lot of that right
(10:39):
now that is men talking clear asday and giving feedback to women
clear as day all day long. But women don't want to hear it
that way because women don't want to take accountability.
So I would say men embrace that you are Val or wrapped in
innocence and you in that build yourself the the the working
out, the diet, the the business and love on yourself so
(11:03):
profoundly that the only woman who could earn the privilege of
being in bed with you and you'reproviding and protection is this
one woman. Value yourself that much that
all these women taking this money and this problem and you
know, pulling you this way and that way just well, just do this
for me and just pay for this. They do not value you set your
(11:25):
life up. If you're young enough, you have
in your family in a way that youcan provide for your girl, your
wife, the mother of your children well enough that she
can stay home and that you valueyourself so much that you won't
settle for a woman that will do anything less.
That her wife is her man and herchildren and anything less don't
(11:47):
settle. So I guess that's when I have
some men don't settle. Finally, what's one thing you
wish more men knew? Being vulnerable isn't a
weakness. Being vulnerable is a strength.
And really tuning into that masculinity with being
vulnerable and naming that is transformative within itself.
(12:09):
You just have to take that chance and be vulnerable.
Alexandra, what's one thing thatyou wish more men knew?
I want more men to know that they will be loved and cherished
and accepted for their full health by women who appreciate
(12:30):
them or their whole humanity. I I think sometimes.
So much of. Self management and self
preservation kind of filled armor and layer and not showing
vulnerability leads to gap in understanding and.
Compassion. Sometimes just having that safe
(12:51):
space inside of a relationship can just feel hard and be so
restored, and it's just a matterof having those healthy
relationships where feeling annually charged, fired because
it's a psychologically safe environment.
I wish more men knew that. Don't beat yourself up because
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nobody hasn't figured out 100%. And so the best thing that you
can do as a man is to try to getaround those you feel are
further ahead than you are and give yourself grace for the
mistakes that you made. And not to say that you don't
feel anything from making a mistake and you're not going to
try to correct it, but it's a lot easier process if you don't
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beat yourself up over it becauseyou have to look at your life,
the life for those that came before you.
And I look at my parents, you know, the father, my biological
father, he's kind of emotionallydisconnected.
We have a good relationship, buthe's not as connected as
emotions or as vulnerable as I am.
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He's coming along, you know, talking to me, but you have to
say they worked with everything they had available to me, all
the tools and all that stuff. And you're doing everything that
you experienced and all the tools you had.
You're doing the best you can what you've got.
So just try to figure out how todo more and learn more and be
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around the right people. Besides the aggressive pursuit
of a great life, what else wouldyou like men to know?
I like men to know by prioritizing sexual health, you
prioritize physical health, mental health, and spiritual
health. Like I said earlier, sexual
health touches all three. And we live in a society where
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our sexuality has been cheapened.
It had been demeaning that it, it's, it's useless to sell off
things. And the sooner that men wake up
to how our sexual energy is being exploited, turning us into
weak men, the sooner that they're going to awaken and
(14:58):
realize that this isn't normal. We are not wired to be have AI
girlfriends and to, to, to for only fans.
Like it's not healthy for most people.
It's really, really, really you owning people's lives in ways
that you and I couldn't even imagine as a kid.
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But I want everyone to know thatyour sexual energy is powerful,
and with great power comes greatresponsibility, and you have to
treat your sexual energy with that same level of respect as
referenced by Voltaire and Spider Man.
Ethan, what's one thing you wishmore men knew?
(15:42):
It's a good question. I wish that they knew.
What comes to mind is just like that.
They don't have to have it all together.
They don't have to be Superman. They don't have to be on 100% of
the time. And you know, I don't think this
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is a new revelation. I think people figure this out.
I think unfortunately, a lot of people figure this out the hard
way. And so helping you allow
yourself to be human and know that you don't have to be
perfect. You don't have to have it all
figured out. You don't have to do it alone.
Yeah, not even that. You don't have to.
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Nobody does. Like, like, I think that's an
entire myth that that hurts men that you can have it all figured
out. And, you know, alone especially
makes that an impossibility. The more I'm willing to be wrong
about things, you know, the moreI'm willing to see, though
there's more to learn. Like that.
That that that used to, that used to feel like life just
(16:47):
pummeling me. Oh, there's more.
Come on. But now I'm like, oh, good.
There's more, right, So if we can appreciate that there's
more, appreciate our imperfection, appreciate that we
really don't know anything and there's more to to experiment
with. You know, trial and error are
all like great things that that we can use.
And I wish if we could find a way to celebrate that more in
the daily experience, especiallyof young men, instead of going
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pick the right major, get the right job, you know, get it,
make sure you're right. The first thing you try for
everything you do, that that's just a horrible standard to try
to to reach for anybody. If any of those answers
resonated with you, you're not alone.
Men everywhere are waking up to the truth that strength and
vulnerability are not opposites.They belong together.
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The world is full of men who feel alone, overwhelmed, or
unsure where to turn. But you don't have to figure
this out on your own. If you resonated with any of
those answers, you're not alone.Men everywhere are waking up to
the truth that strength and vulnerability are not opposites.
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They belong together. The world is full of men who
feel alone, overwhelmed, or unsure of where to turn.
But you don't have to figure this out on your own.
If you want a place to explore that for yourself with other men
who get it, join my free community, Authentic AF at
realmenfeel.org/group. That's where these conversations
(18:15):
continue, deepen, and actually change lives.
Thanks for listening and until next time be good to yourself.
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