It’s not always the big ruptures that create distance in a relationship.
Sometimes, it’s the tiny moments. The micro-misses. The everyday ways we unknowingly make our partner feel unseen, unimportant, or left out.
In this episode, Steve and I talk about the slow burn of disconnection—what we call death by a thousand cuts—and how seemingly small behaviours can add up and quietly erode closeness over time.
For Steve, it’s when we’re having a cuddle and the dogs jump in, and I start patting them instead. It might look harmless, but in that moment, he feels like something else just took priority. For me, it’s when I’m mid-sentence and he glances at his phone or checks his watch.
It sends the message—without words—that what I’m saying doesn’t matter as much.
We share how these moments land for us, what they actually mean underneath the surface, and how we’re learning to own our impact, not just our intention.
This isn’t about getting it perfect. It’s about being conscious of the little ways we disconnect… so we can choose to reconnect, again and again.
If you’ve ever felt brushed off, dismissed, or like you’re just not quite landing with your partner—this one will hit home.
Big love,
Kat & Steve x
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