One year married. One whole, wild, beautiful, messy, heart-opening year.
If you’d asked either of us years ago if we’d ever find a love like this, we’d have laughed—or maybe cried. Because before we found each other, we were convinced it wasn’t possible.
Steve was gutted in 2016. The kind of heartbreak that cracks you open and makes you swear, never again. So he dated. A lot. But he kept women at arm’s length, never letting anyone too close, never risking that kind of pain again. Love felt dangerous. Love was dangerous.
And me? I never thought I could be loved as I am. I had this deep belief that love had to be earned, that I had to contort myself to be chosen. So I kept choosing men who were emotionally unavailable—who couldn’t meet me, couldn’t see me, and definitely couldn’t love me in the way I longed for. And every time they didn’t, it just reinforced what I already believed: I am too much. I am not enough. I am unlovable.
But life—life had other plans for us.
Because despite all our resistance, despite our egos kicking and screaming, there was something deeper pulling us together. The intelligence of our hearts knew. Our inner knowing whispered, this is your person. But knowing and surrendering are two different things.
Our egos put up a fight. The stories, the wounds, the fear of being hurt again—it all came roaring to the surface. But love, real love, isn’t here to cater to the ego. It’s here to break it down. And that’s exactly what happened.
In this episode, we’re sharing our paths back to love—the fears we carried, the ways we tried to protect ourselves, and ultimately, the moment we both chose to trust in something bigger than our past pain.
Because love like this? It’s not something you find. It’s something you surrender to.
Listen in. It’s a special one.
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