EP 30: Why Do YOU Want Friends? (#BetterYouBetterFriend)

We all want friends, right? But have you ever thought about why you want them? Having healthy friendships is an important part of your wellbeing, and we go over in episode 8 how friendship impacts your mental health with a licensed therapist.

But Daysha can’t help but notice how often people seem to be treating their friends more like accessories than people lately. Yes, vibing and taking cute photos at brunch are a fun part of having adult friends. But what about when friends lean on us for more complex needs like a ride to the airport or to give their car a jump in the middle of the night? As astutely noted by a commenter on TikTok, “everyone wants a village, but no one wants to be a villager.”

So this week’s #BetterYouBetterFriend episode, Daysha provides some coaching on:

• Why meaningful friendships are inconvenient, but worth the price of admission

• How to discover why friendship matters to YOU

• And how to honor your closest friendships through better communication

Because as sistah auntie queen Maya Angelou once said: “people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

So if you are wondering:

• Why do adult friendships feel so one-sided?

• How do I know if my friend actually values me?

• What should I expect from close friends?

• And how can I communicate better in my friendships?

Then I hope you are sat and ready because Real Talk Friend Therapy with Daysha Veronica is in session!

REFERENCES (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):

• We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships by Kat Vellos

• The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence by Gavin de Becker

• Everything Is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo

• EP 3: What Is Friendship?

• EP 7: The Line Between Love and Friendship (The Triangular Theory of Love)

• EP 8: Why Friendship Matters FT. Bri Angele

• EP 9: WTF Are Boundaries?

• EP 10: To Communicate or Not Communicate Our Boundaries FT. Calix Vu-Bui

• EP 11: How to Deal with Boundary Crossers FT. Calix Vu-Bui

• EP 28: What If I Don’t Have Friends of My Race (part 2) FT. Dannyell Rasco

• EP 29: #WhyAreWeFriends FT. Rachel

• https://www.cdc.gov/social-connectedness/risk-factors/index.html

• https://www.nationalgeographic.com/history/article/how-bicycles-transformed-world

• https://www.tiktok.com/@thesashawhitney/video/7457217985099353375?lang=en

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