Loving Empaths: Building Trust and Honoring Solitude

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Have you ever sensed a tension in the room that no one else seems to acknowledge? On the Realized Empath Podcast, I, Kristen Schwartz, take you on a journey to understand the world of empaths and how to cherish the deep connections they foster. 

We peel back the layers of empathic relationships, focusing on the importance of transparency and honesty for the emotional health of these sensitive souls. It's about more than just speaking the truth; it's about creating a foundation of trust and learning to share our inner experiences with care. 

This episode promises to arm you with practical tips for nurturing your relationships with empaths, ensuring a bond that's both resilient and deeply satisfying.

As we navigate the emotional labor that empaths often carry, we also emphasize the significance of their need for solitude—a necessity, not a sign of disinterest.

 By understanding and respecting this need for space, we can foster an environment where empaths can thrive, process their profound intuitions, and engage more fully when they are present. 

So join us as we explore these nuances and more, providing you with the insight to not only support the empaths in your life but to build a foundation of mutual trust, respect, and engagement that will deepen your connections like never before.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 2 (00:22):
Hello everyone, welcome back to the Realized
Empath Podcast.
I'm Kristen Schwartz, your host, and today we're tackling an
important topic that touches thehearts of empaths and those who
cherish them.
Let's talk about the thingsthat you need to know about
loving an empath.

(00:43):
What we're going to do is we'regoing to highlight what truly
matters in relationships withhighly sensitive people.
Whether you're an empath orsomeone who loves one,
understanding these key pointscan significantly enhance your
interactions and mutualhappiness.
So let's explore these insightstogether and learn how to

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support and love others better.
So imagine this an empath walksinto a room and instantly feels
the tension maybe a disagreementthat happened, but no one
speaks of it.
This unspoken stress can beprofoundly unsettling.
It's not just the lack ofhonesty that affects empaths.

(01:31):
It's the energy of hiddentruths that can feel physically
oppressive.
Being forthright is more than acourtesy.
It's a necessity for theemotional well-being of an
empath.
We know it, whether it's saidor not.

(01:51):
Transparent communication helpsus to clarify misunderstandings
before they escalate and thenreinforce our mistrust, and this
is fundamental to our abilityto open up and deeply connect,

(02:11):
encourage honest dialogue, notjust about the facts, but also
feelings and perceptions.
This can greatly enhance theconnection between two people,
making the relationshipsustainable and deeply
fulfilling.
So here's a practical tip Startwith small truths to build the

(02:33):
habit.
For example, if you're feelingstressed or unhappy about
something, discuss it openlyrather than hiding it.
This practice helps build afoundation of trust and teaches
both parties how to handletruths gently and constructively
.
Here's a point that I want tomake sure that we all understand

(02:56):
.
Everyone gets to choose whenthe right time to talk about
hard truths is.
Right time to talk about hardtruths is, so we may pick up on
that.
There's something not beingsaid but we don't get to choose
when that person has thecapacity and space and energy to
discuss it.
On the flip side, if you areone of those people who has

(03:21):
something heavy on their heartand knows they need to
eventually discuss it, maybejust saying yes, you are picking
up on that.
I do have something that'sweighing heavy on my heart.
I just need some time to sortthrough it and I promise you I
will come to you when the timeis right.
All right next.

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Empaths feel deeply and oftenbear the pain of others, so we
are naturally equipped to tuneinto the emotional state of
others and because of that,absorbing emotions of others
happens quite a bit as ifthey're our own.
So this can be both a gift anda heavy weight to bear.

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On one hand, it allows empathsto empathize deeply and forge
profound connections.
On the other hand, it can leadus to carry burdens that aren't
ours to bear, and that resultsin emotional exhaustion.
If you're in a relationshipwith an empath, it's crucial to
recognize that they might beoverextending themselves

(04:28):
emotionally.
Encouraging an empath tobalance empathy and emotional
independence is essential.
By fostering an environmentwhere emotional give and takes
is the norm, you can actuallymaintain a healthier, more
dynamic relationship where theempath doesn't constantly need

(04:49):
to heal or fix, but can alsoreceive support and
understanding.
So here's a practical tip Iwant you to actively check in
with your empath partner andwith yourself about your
emotional state, especiallyafter being around people or
potentially stressful situations.

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Encourage them to share theirfeelings and then offer support
without immediately jumping tosolutions.
Okay, let's talk about ourintuition and our need for space
.
Impasse and highly sensitivepeople often report feeling

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overwhelmed by their intuitiveinsights.
What happens is these can comewith a rush of emotions and
information that need time to beprocessed.
So respecting an empath's needfor space is akin to giving them
a personal sanctuary todecompress and make sense of

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their intuitions.
This need for solitude cansometimes be misunderstood as
withdrawal or maybe aloofness,but it's a form of self-care
that allows empaths and HSPs tofunction at their best.
So understanding and honoringthis need can prevent feelings

(06:14):
of suffocation and resentment inrelationships.
Providing a soft space forsolitude, without guilt or
pressure, can strengthen thebonds of trust and respect, and
that allows the empath to engagemore fully when they are
present.
Now, of course, this is nuanced, and I invite everyone to just

(06:39):
go within and look at your habitof isolation.
If there's past trauma that isstill present in our body, we
can develop the coping mechanismof isolation to avoid big
feelings or when we feel like weneed to hide and cope.

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This might be helpful at times,but also may need to be looked
at in terms of are you hidinginstead of living, instead of
healing?
So here's a practical tip Iinvite you to create a physical
space in your home just for theempath or the highly sensitive

(07:22):
person where you can retreatwhen you need quiet time.
This could be a simple,comfortable chair with some
books or art supplies orwhatever helps you feel relaxed
and recharged.
Okay, let's talk aboutcreativity, passion and hands-on
love.
Highly sensitive people oftenuse creativity to express the

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intense emotions they pick up onand maybe absorb.
Creativity can manifest invarious forms it can be arts or
music, or writing, dance and isa core aspect of the highly
sensitive person's identity.
So engaging with an empath onthis creative level can be

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incredibly rewarding Attendperformances, read their poems,
listen to their music or spendtime together in creative
pursuits.
Acknowledging and celebratingthe creative expression of the
highly sensitive person canprovide that person with the
validation and support they needto truly thrive.

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And also, participating in orsupporting their creative
endeavors isn't just aboutappreciation.
It's about sharing in the joyand passion that fundamentally
drive their spirits.
And here's a practical tiptheir spirits.

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And here's a practical tip Planregular dates or activities
that involve the HSPs or theempaths' creative interests,
whether it's visiting a galleryor attending a workshop or
simply setting aside time tocreate at home.
Showing genuine interest intheir creative life can really
deepen your connection.
Okay, let's talk about us beingdeep listeners and sincere

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expressiveness.
So empaths excel in tuning intothe nuances of communication,
often hearing what isn't said asmuch as what is right.
We value honesty and depth inour interactions, and we can
become particularly hurt whencommunication is shallow or

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inauthentic.
So encourage open, heartfeltdialogues where both parties can
feel safe expressing theirthoughts and feelings.
This level of sincerity cangreatly enhance and enrich
relationships and it provides afoundation for strong, enduring
connection.

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So being an empath meansengaging in a dance of deep
listening and expressive sharing, and, when it's reciprocal,
that fosters both individuals'growth and happiness.
Both parties need to practicethis kind of communication
because it allows theirrelationship to evolve into a

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genuinely supportive and lovingpartnership.
And here's a practical tipPractice active listening.
So what this means is fullyfocusing on the person who's
speaking, acknowledging theirfeelings and responding
thoughtfully.
It's the listening without yourmind coming up with what you're

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going to say after they're done, truly just listening to
understand how that personexperiences the world, and this
shows that you value theirexpression and you're genuinely
engaged in the relationship.
Okay, so another critical aspectto understanding about loving

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an empath is the need foremotional transparency and
support.
Impasts do pick up on emotionalundercurrents in a relationship
, which means that unspokenissues can create significant
stress for us.
So regular, open discussionsabout feelings and relationship
dynamics can prevent the stressand foster a more healthy,

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transparent environment.
The stress and foster a morehealthy, transparent environment
.
When highly sensitive peoplefeel supported and they feel
like their emotional landscapeis actually acknowledged and
respected, they're more likelyto thrive and contribute
positively to the relationship.
So here's a practical tipImplement regular check-ins, or
emotional audits, where both ofyou can practice discussing your

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feelings and talking about anyconcerns in a non-judgmental
place.
What this does is a routinelike this will help ensure that
small issues can be addressedbefore they become big, and that
helps maintain a strong andsupportive bond.
Additionally, these check-inscan become a deeply connecting
ritual that both parties canlook forward to as a source of

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comfort and stability.
And last, respect for personalrhythms and schedules.
So empaths often need to managetheir energy throughout the day
, which means they may havespecific rhythms and schedules
that support their well-being.
So understanding and respectingthese personal rhythms can be

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crucial in a relationship withan empath.
This might mean recognizingtheir need for less social
interaction after a busy day, orunderstanding their preference
for quiet mornings.
When the partner respects andsupports these needs, empaths
and highly sensitive people arebetter able to manage their
sensitivity and engage morefully in shared activities when

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they feel recharged.
So here's a practical tip Worktogether to create a weekly
schedule that accommodates theempath's energy levels and also
their personal rhythms.
This can involve planningsocial activities for times when
the empath feels more energizedor ensuring there's ample

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downtime after draining days.
So being proactive andcooperative about scheduling
shows the highly sensitiveperson that their needs are
valued and that, as a partner,you're willing to adapt for the
sake of mutual happiness andrelationship health.
And that is it for my tips fortoday.

(13:39):
Thank you for tuning in totoday's episode.
We've covered a lot about theunique aspects of loving an
empath, from the necessity ofhonesty to the importance of
mutual support and understanding.
Remember, every point we'vediscussed today aims to foster
stronger, more empatheticrelationships that benefit both
empaths and their partners.

(14:00):
If you need more personalizedguidance or support in
navigating relationships as anempath, I'm here to help.
Consider working with meone-on-one.
We can focus on strategies thatenhance your personal and
relational well-being.
Visit my website or contact medirectly to start this
supportive collaboration.
My website is realizedempathcom.

(14:22):
Until next time, keep nurturingyour relationships with
patience, love and understanding.
Take care and let's keep makingour connections deeper and more
fulfilling.
Bye.

Speaker 1 (14:35):
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Sensitive souls.