November 27, 2023 • 30 mins
Have you ever considered the true power of your emotions? How they can guide, heal and transform, rather than just disturb? Join me on a journey beyond the taboo, and into the heart of our emotional highs and lows. I'll be sharing personal stories, practical tools and the importance of seeking help when necessary. It's a chance to grapple with the reality that our emotions are not just normal, but integral to our wellbeing.
Ever thought about harnessing the power of breath and body in managing your emotions? Together, we'll discover techniques such as present breath awareness and somatic exercises that I've found incredibly helpful. We'll discuss the benefits of trying different ways of processing our emotions and delve into powerful self-healing techniques like mirror work, holotropic breath work, and IFS parts work. These methods can help address different aspects of ourselves and lead to emotional harmony.
Finally, I'll lead you to an unexplored territory of seeking guidance from our future selves. We'll explore how visualizing our ideal future selves can help us make sense of our current state and emotional challenges. I'll introduce more tools like EFT tapping, a technique that has the potential to change our state by shifting neurological connections. So, join me in embracing, understanding, and harnessing the full spectrum of our emotions for a deeper self-understanding.
Techniques discussed in the show:
- Journaling - wild mind writing/artists way
- Write down all of your fears, anger, problems
- Present breath awareness
- Crying
- Feeling the feels
- Mirror work
- Holotropic breathwork
- Talking out loud about what you are upset about
- IFS Parts work
- Movement
- Music
- Somatic exercises
- Inner child work - download a FREE Inner Child Guide Here
- Conversations with your future self
- EFT Tapping
- “Sitting in the stink”
About Nina
Nina is an author, artist, musician, Human Design Specialist, and podcast host of Receptive Impact. Open & curious to adventure and change, Nina Elise navigates the path of self-discovery, inviting you to explore the boundless opportunities that arise when we step out of our comfort zones.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome to the Receptive Impact Podcast.
I'm your host, nina Elise.
Hello everyone, it is Nina.
I am back for a brand newepisode and I'm really excited
about this episode today becauseit is a little bit different
than what I normally talk about,something a little bit more
taboo, which is emotions, andmany people might say like, oh
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taboo, emotions aren't taboo,but I'm going to be going into
more of the lower emotionalstates, like depression and when
we go through our highs and ourlows.
And I say this is taboo becausenot many people like to talk
about it or acknowledge thatthis is something that they
experience in their everydaylife, and for me, as an
emotional being, it wassomething that I really
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suppressed for 30-somethingyears of my life, basically, and
it wasn't until my early 30sthat I really started to go down
this path of realizing thatemotions and the emotional highs
and lows are actually verynormal and that is actually very
healthy to feel it and to nottry to block it or distract
myself when I'm feeling thingsand go shopping or buy something
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or eat something or just watcha bunch of TV, so that I don't
have to look at the underlyingfeelings and emotions that are
there.
And so the intention of thisspecific episode is just to kind
of bring that to light, tonormalize this and say it's not
a bad thing, you're not a badperson for feeling these highs
and these lows.
It's actually something that'svery normal and it's not really
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talked about too much.
And so I want to share some ofmy experiences and a lot of
different tools that I have usedin the past and they still
continue to use today, to helpme process a lot of these
emotional states that come up,whether it is a low or if it is
even a high as well.
And one of the biggest thingswhen we are in these lower
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states is that we're actuallyresisting that state.
We're resisting that loweremotion, whether it's sadness or
grief or anger or whatever itis.
They're actually not bad.
It's actually something that iscoming up to, that's trying to
get our intention to look atsomething that's bothering us
and it just needs to be seen andacknowledged and felt.
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And so by resisting orsuppressing these emotions or
these lower states, we'reactually amplifying it and
making it stay with us longer,and sometimes there isn't
anything we can do to force itout or process it, but there are
tools that have helped me movethrough lower emotional states,
and so I'm going to share thiswith you today.
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And I just want to add anasterisk here like, obviously,
for continuously low states oflike being in depression or
grief or having really, reallylow thoughts or emotions, I
highly recommend working with atherapist.
I have a therapist that I workwith, and when I'm not able to
process or I feel like I'mreaching an all time low, I have
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somebody that I can reach outto for help, and it's actually
someone that I work with on acontinuous basis, at least once
or twice a month, just so thatI'm not dipping down into lower
states or that I'm also learninghow to manage my emotions
continuously by working withsomeone.
So it's also really helpful towork with someone because they
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can show you what your thoughtpatterns are and what your
distractions are and why you dothe things that you do, so that
you can understand yourself more.
And it's been very empoweringfor me personally, because I've
learned a lot of different toolsfrom them and I'm able to
handle my emotions like far, farmore than I used to, and so
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highly recommend that also.
You know, if you are in a lowstate, sometimes it is necessary
to be on medicine because youneed to bring yourself almost up
to like this neutralized state,and I'm not against any type of
medicine to help with that.
I think sometimes it's verynecessary.
So just know that it's actuallyvery normal for people to be in
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that situation and that it'snot something to be hard on
yourself about and it'ssomething that we're all dealing
with in her own way, and so, ifthat's your way to deal with it
or therapy or tools that I'mabout to share, there's so many
different ways to work with ouremotions, especially when we are
in these lower states.
So I know that when you get into, or when I get into, lower
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emotional states, like some days, I might wake up and I might
feel super sad and my mind willtry to attach it to a person or
a scenario or especiallysomething in the past that I
have shame or guilt or regret orlike some sort of like judgment
towards, and it basically justmakes that emotion larger and
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larger and larger and it kind oflike spirals out of control.
And sometimes a lot of thetools that I use in the morning
whether it's meditation orjournaling or EFT tapping like
even that is just it doesn'teven touch it.
And so in those scenarios, Isometimes just say this is just
going to be a day where I'm justgoing to be sad.
So I'll go a little bit more indepth into that, but right now
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I'm going to go down this listof different things that help me
when I'm in my lower states,and these are things that can
help me pull out of these lowerstates, because I go deeper into
the root and deeper into mysubconscious to say, okay, what
is it that is coming up in orderfor me to look at and to give
attention to and give some loveto, because everyone knows that
the only way out is through.
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And so this is so, so true foremotional states, like if we are
in a state where we're sittingin our stink and we're just like
I feel sad or I'm depressed orwhatever, and then we're
resisting it and we're like Idon't want to be here, I need to
go, be productive and be happybecause I have this going on or
whatever.
You're just going to continueto perpetuate that state, and so
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the best thing you can do is,even if you just have like five
minutes of time, some of thesetools are going to be so helpful
for you to begin to movethrough that.
Not that you're trying tonecessarily change it.
It's more of just you're givingattention to it and you're
acknowledging it, so you're notjust completely suppressing it.
One of the first things that Ireally, really love to do is
journaling, and it's not justlike oh, I'm sitting down and
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I'm writing my diary.
You can call this wild mindwriting or connecting with your
higher self, and what thisreally means is you basically
just start writing and if youdon't know what to write about,
you can just start saying like,oh, I'm angry about this or I'm
feeling sad about this, and youjust let your mind just dump
everything out on paper and youcan literally say things like
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I'm so angry at this person Iwant to punch them in the face,
or I hate myself or I ruin mylife.
Like writing down all of yourfears and your problems and your
anger is like just getting itout of your head onto paper, is
like the best thing that you cando, because it's no longer
stuck inside of you and thelonger you write, the more it
becomes like something otherthan you is starting to write
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and it just kind of pours out ofyou naturally and it can be a
very cathartic exercise to do tojust write it all out and then
by the end you can go back andsay, wow, like that was inside
of me.
And if you're familiar with theartist way, it's a very similar
process, where you just startwriting or there'll be journal
prompts and you can write andyou have just all of these
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things from your mind just dumpout.
And what I love about the endof that is they recommend doing
almost like these affirmationsto counteract what you just said
.
So you can go back and you canlook at what you wrote and you
can give yourself a lot of graceand compassion and say, wow,
okay, I got this all out.
It's normal, like I acknowledgeall of this that came out.
And so what is the opposite ofhow I want to feel?
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And then you begin to writeaffirmations that are opposite
of that.
So you can say like, oh, like Iwrote that I hate myself.
Okay, well, I'm going to writethat I'm an infinite being that
is worthy of all love, no matterhow terrible I think that I am.
Or you might have written likeI'm a failure and instead of
that you can say or theaffirmation for that, you could
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say something like oh, I amsomeone who is learning and
growing, and anytime somethingdoesn't go as I wish it had gone
, I know that I am learning andI am stronger to meet the next
hurdle that may come my way.
So there are different ways thatyou can reframe and turn what
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you dumped out on paper intosomething more positive, because
it's almost like you becomingthis advocate, and then you're
also reprogramming your brain tolook at yourself in a different
way, and so this is somethingthat I do almost every single
day in the morning when I wakeup in the morning, because it
just kind of dumps everythingout and it just I have nothing
to hide from, like it's all outin the open, and it's very
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helpful for me to kind of switchthat flip, especially if I'm
veering into that lower energystate.
Another thing that I do iscalled present breath awareness,
and it is probably the mostsimple thing that you can do
anywhere at any time, and itfeels really uncomfortable at
first because it's like you areliterally just sitting with it
all.
But you're just sitting, youcan keep your eyes open and
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basically you're just puttingyour attention on your breath
coming in and out and you canbreathe through your nose, you
can breathe through your mouthwhatever is comfortable for you.
But essentially what you do,you put your attention on the
emotion or the feeling that isgoing on in your body and you
just breathe, like it really isjust as simple as that, and you
remove the judgment fromanything, from anything that
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you're feeling, and you justallow yourself to sit there and
feel and I will tell you like asyou're, as you're learning how
to work more with your emotionsand deal with your emotions like
it doesn't mean that they'regoing to magically go away, like
you are still going toexperience crummy, crummy
emotions, that you're like theseare here forever and you just
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want to run away from them andyou don't want to feel them.
Well, this isn't a perfect worldwhere we're in just these
higher states all the time.
Like we are human beings, likewe need lower states because
they force us to look at thingsfrom a different perspective.
They actually help us in ourcreativity because, if you know,
like the greatest artists andsingers, like they write the
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most beautiful, likesoul-wrenching songs after a
breakup or after they've gonethrough something really
devastating in their lives, likethere is so much beauty that
can be found in these, theselower states, so we we can't
avoid them.
They're actually like thisbeautiful contrast that is so
necessary as human being.
So when we can look at it fromthat perspective, we just know
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like, okay, we're going to havehighs and we're going to have
lows, and so when we're in theselows, we're just going to have
these tools in order to workthrough them.
And so that present breathexercise is you can just breathe
through this and you mightstill feel emotions the entire
time that you were doing thisbreath work, and you'll be
thinking this isn't doinganything.
What is the point of this?
But it's really just aboutgetting present in your body and
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bringing the attention to yourbreath versus the emotions that
are happening or the thoughtsthat are going running wild in
your mind.
And so for me, I might doanything, do this for one to 10
minutes, maybe longer, and Imight do it throughout the day
if I'm really struggling, andyou'll find over time that the
emotions begin to diminish andthey're not as intense because
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you're actually sitting withthem.
And this kind of pairs withsomatic exercises.
And so when I say somaticexercises, there's a lot of
different ways that you can dothis.
My favorite way is that presentbreath awareness.
So you're getting very still inthe body.
But what you do with this isyou scan the body and you see
where the emotions feel stuck orwhere they feel really, really
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big.
For me, I tend to feel a lot ofit in my chest or my throat and
it's something that I feel likeneeds to come out of me, but
it's like kind of stuck thereand it feels like heavy and it
just doesn't feel good and Ijust want to run away from it.
But with this specific exercise,you sit still, you put your
attention on it, you do thatslow breath in and out, and the
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difference here is like you justdon't try to change it, you
just don't judge it.
It's almost like you'rewatching a movie or like you're
kind of stepping outside of yourbody and you're like, okay, I'm
breathing through this, but I'mnot the actual emotion or the
sensation in my body.
And a lot of different thingscan happen from this, like if
you're just putting yourattention on your emotions and
you're just observing it.
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Sometimes I'll get visuals inmy mind about old memories that
pop up for me to look at and Ido some type of reparenting with
that and give myself lots ofinner child and compassion and
grace, like I do that innerchild work where I kind of talk
to myself as if I were talkingto a child, with lots of love
and grace, and sometimes I mightfeel like crying or I might
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feel like screaming or punchingsomething, or I'll punch a
pillow.
So a lot of things can come outof this somatic exercise.
So it's just basically thisenergy within yourself that
wants to be released in some way, and so this is a very
liberating exercise that you cando that can lead to the release
of whatever is going on insideof you.
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Obviously, if all else fails, myfavorite is crying.
It's like my go-to.
Sometimes it can just be likeat the end of yoga class or just
I move my body and all thisenergy like came up to be
processed and I just need to cry.
Or I'm listening to a sad songand I start crying or whatever.
Like tears are literallyreleasing water that is
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containing these emotions andthese memories and you're
releasing them, and so it'sactually very, very healthy and
we were taught that like cryingis weak or it's something that
we shouldn't do, especially withmen, and it's like that's not
true at all, like it's actuallya very, very healthy way to
process these emotional statesthat are going on inside of you,
and so it really is justallowing yourself to be a little
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bit more open and experimentingwith these different ways of
processing your emotions.
So another way that I reallylike to play around with is
mirror work.
When I say mirror work, a lotof times it's me just sitting in
front of my mirror and kind oflike talking at myself or
talking to myself and saying,hey, these are my problems, and
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like just getting it all out,like just like talking to myself
in the mirror, and as thesethings come up, it's almost like
journaling, but you're actuallyspeaking it out loud, like
you're just getting it all out,and then from there I'm able to
look at myself, and then inthose moments I do a lot of
inner child work, where I'msaying all of these things and
I'm just like, okay, like it'sokay for me to feel these things
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, it's safe for me to expressthem, and then normally what
ends up happening is, after Iget all of that out, I just say,
wow, like you're so courageous,you're so proud, you're doing
the best that you can, and thatis more than enough.
And I just say reallyencouraging, like positive
things to myself, because thatis a moment again where you're
kind of like rewiring your brainfrom putting the attention on
these little emotions and you'regiving attention to them so
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that they can come out of you inthe form of your voice, of
speaking, and so I don't know ifanyone has tried that before,
but it's actually been one of mygo-to things that I've been
doing recently that have been so, so helpful for me.
And another breath worktechnique this is a little bit
more intense, so if you're notfamiliar with it, I recommend
working with someone or doingthis in person so you can get a
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better idea of feel of whatactually happens in his
experience during this.
But there's holotropic breathwork, which is a little bit more
intense and it's like a threebreath process.
You're laying flat on theground and you normally put on
music and I just need like fiveto 15 minutes.
Sometimes people do longer butbasically you set your attention
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of what you would like toprocess or like where your
emotions are feeling stuck andwhere you want them to move, and
you breathe into your belly andthen you breathe into your
chest and then you exhale outthrough your mouth, and you do
that nonstop for as long as youdecide to do it for and it can
cause a lot of sensations thatare uncomfortable in the body,
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like sometimes my hands cramp upand my feet cramp up and my abs
get numb, like there are somany different sensations, and
it can almost even like send youinto a psychedelic state.
So it depends on, like, whatyou're going for it with this,
but for me, it's a way forenergy to be moved within the
body in order to be released.
So sometimes in theseholotropic breath work sessions
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that I do by myself because I'vebeen doing this for the last
few years, so I know how to dothis on my own Like I'll end up
crying, or I'll end up likescreaming or yelling or shaking
or hitting my hands and my legson the ground in order to like
release this energy that's liketrapped or like stuck inside of
me, and so, again, this is moreof an intense way to release
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emotions.
It's not something that Ireally go to, because I feel
like just sitting and breathingis the easiest thing that you
can do, so you don't have tolike put yourself into these
like really highly intensesituations in order to process
your emotions.
Another thing is like parts work.
If anyone is familiar with that, if you are familiar with that
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whole IFS system, where there'sbasically like different parts
of you that may seem likethey're in conflict.
There's this form of therapywhere you can talk to different
aspects of yourself.
So there might be like thescared child inside of you, or
there might be this angry partof you that needs to be
acknowledged or looked at, andso there's a way that you can
get in touch with this, andthat's either through journaling
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or talking out loud.
I have found that when I'm inreally emotional states, I'll
just start talking out loud.
I will just say, like this iswhat's wrong and this is why I'm
angry, and then I'll just starttalking to that part and say,
okay, well, why are you angry?
Or another part will pop up andsay, well, you can't be angry
because this.
And then it's almost like Ihave this conversation and I
just listen to these differentparts of myself and then I learn
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how to bring all of themtogether so that they're all
working cohesively together,because, at the end of the day,
all of these parts just want tobe heard and they just want to
be seen, and that is why there'sthis conflict or this
depression, because there areparts of us that feel suppressed
, because we're not payingattention to them, and it's this
energy that is trapped andbringing us into these lower
states.
These are obviously like thingsthat you can work with your
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therapist on.
My therapist does parts work.
She does EFT tapping, she doesa somatic therapy.
I've worked with therapists whohave done breath work before,
so there are different ways thatyou can do this work on your
own and with people who have thebackground and the
certifications to do this aswell.
So just a few more with thesetools that have been so, so
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helpful for me.
So inner child work is probablyone of my favorite things to do.
I actually infuse this intolike everything I do almost
every single day.
So inner child work can be donein a lot of different ways, but
one thing that I do that isvery simple is when I'm feeling
sad, I just sit and I close myeyes and I conjure up this idea
or this image of little Nina andI see what she's doing, I see
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what she's up to.
If I'm feeling really sad,sometimes I'll get this flash of
an image of her just laying onthe ground, crying, feeling
really sad, and I'll just slowlyapproach her and say like hey,
what do you need?
And just kind of have aconversation with them and just
saying, like what does my innerchild need?
And sometimes it's like I justneed a hug, or I just want to be
alone, or I just need a nap, orI just need to play, or I just
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need some love and I want to goget some ice cream, like there
are so many different thingsthat can come up when you're
doing this inner child work.
And it's really beautifulbecause it is this form of
reparenting, of really givingyourself grace and compassion
while you are in these lowerstates, and it's almost like
you're becoming like your parentor like your cheerleader and
just giving yourself so muchlove, something that you may not
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have received that grace orthat compassion as a child or
growing up, and so you'relearning how to give it to
yourself in this moment.
And two more things.
So future conversations this isactually something that I've
been playing around withrecently.
It's about talking to yourselfin the future and saying, okay,
I'm depressed now and I'mfeeling really terrible now, but
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if I met future Nina, my idealstate of like, this is the life
that I would want to be living,or this is the feeling, like I
want to be in this happy, joyfulstate.
What would they have to say tome right now?
Are they encouraging?
What are they doing?
What are their characteristics?
What are their habits Like, howare they living their lives?
And this is really helpful forme to say, like, okay, like you
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know, if future Nina were tocome and tell me like hey, I'm
feeling really crappy right now,or I'm not feeling very good,
and future Nina comes to me andsays, hey, like everything is
going to be okay, like life isgood, this is a temporary moment
and right now you just need tofeel everything and just know
that it's going to pass.
And sometimes, like future Ninawill tell me like, oh, just go
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do this or just sit here injournal or call this person and
talk to them, because they canoffer you a different
perspective.
Or just go out and do somethingdifferent or move your body, or
like there's so many differentthings that your future self can
tell you, but only you know,because it's coming from you and
it's knowing to listen to thatand to trust them and just hear
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what they have to say because,honestly, like know that you
wouldn't see that vision or thatversion of yourself if you
didn't think it was possible.
And so that's why I feel likeit's it's easy to believe what
my future self is saying to me,because I'm like, when I see a
version of my future self, I'mlike wow, like she's incredible,
like she's so amazing and she'sso like, like successful in her
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own ways and she's accomplishedso much and she has reached her
version of success in the waythat she defines success, and I
just see her as this incrediblewoman and I'm like wow, like
she's amazing.
But I know that she resideswithin me because she's in the
future and, like I'm envisioningit, and so I have so much
respect for what that version ofme is saying to me in that
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moment.
And the last thing that I'mgonna say, or the last tool that
I use, is I call it, or I'veheard it been called just
sitting in the stink.
Because, honestly, like thereare days where you're just like
I am trying all of these tools,like I'm talking to myself and
I'm journaling and I've done allof these things and it's just
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like nothing is working and youcan't just try to force yourself
through through the situationor through the lower emotions,
like you just need to be with itand, like I said at the
beginning, like resisting iswhat is going to cause it to
continue.
And so the days that I just amreally struggling and I wake up
and I'm just like, wow, I feelreally sad and I've done all
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these tools and I've gonethrough all of these things, I'm
like you know what, there's areason for me being in this
lower state and it's gonna forceme to evaluate my life and look
at things in a differentperspective, and so it's
actually necessary for me to behere.
And so in those days it's aboutnot doing anything, like it's
not trying to change my state,it's just accepting where I'm at
and that sadness and that angerand that grief or whatever it
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is that I'm feeling.
And sometimes that looks likejust being horizontal and
watching movies for an entireweekend.
And it's not like my normalstate, like I don't own a TV,
like I very rarely watch, likeNetflix or anything like that,
unless I'm like in these statesor I'm feeling like I need to
rest.
But when you're sitting in thesink.
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It's like sometimes you're likeI'm just not gonna run from
this, like it's just I'm justgonna feel it and I'm gonna be
okay with it and I'm just gonnabe sad, and I think that can be
really difficult for us toaccept, because we're told we
need to feel happy and we needto do all the things and we need
to be productive, and if we'renot doing all of those things,
then we are, you know, wastingtime or there's something wrong
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with us because we can't get outof the state and it's just
prolonged over and over and overagain.
Well, I'm here to tell you that,like I have been in those
states for a really, really longtime and I think that,
especially when you go throughthis journey of like awakening
and getting to really knowyourself, there can be months
where you're just feeling inthese lower states, where you
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have more lower states and youhave higher states, and I truly
believe that is because there'salmost like a death going on of
like old parts of ourself as wego through this process of
waking up and coming back toourselves, because we're
realizing like we weren't livinga life that was in alignment or
, you know, we're having to letgo of parts of ourselves and
identities and people in ourlives that we had held onto a
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very for a very long timebecause they felt safe.
But we're having to let go ofthem and so there definitely is
a mourning process and I don'tthink that most people are
conscious of that, and so theysit in these states and they try
to attach their mind to like,oh, I'm sad because of this and
it's may not even be for thatreason and maybe this
unconscious reason of like, wow,I'm just grieving and I just
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need to give myself time togrieve.
And I have been in those statesfor months and months and I was
like I had support and friendsand family and therapists that I
worked with to help me when Iwas in those states, and it was
like I learned how to not beattached to that state and
realize the reason why I wasfeeling those things.
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And it wasn't a bad thing, itwas just me processing in my own
time, in my own way.
And when you start to look atthat within yourself and you
remove that judgment, itactually helps those emotions
process through faster and theirown time.
Because when we're blocking itand we're resisting it and we're
shaming ourselves and we'rejudging ourselves for being in
those lower states, then we'rejust going to continuously
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perpetuate them and it's gonnaseem that much more or worse.
So that is what I have to sayabout all the different tools
that I have used.
I didn't go too much into EFTtapping.
I actually really wanna doanother episode specifically on
that because of how much it hasbeen helpful for me in my own
journey.
But it is actually somethingthat I do during the day and or
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any moment that I'm feeling sador I'm feeling low, and it's
kind of like this quick fix ofbeing able to tap on these
different meridian points withinmy body on my head and my face
and my chest and it's prettypopular.
You can find lots of EFTtapping videos on YouTube and
they basically help you reallychange your state and shift
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neurological connections in yourmind.
So this is something that Ihighly recommend people play
around with and experiment with.
So if you go on YouTube, youcan look up something like EFT
tapping for sadness, eft tappingfor grief, eft tapping for joy.
There are so many different likestates that you can look on
YouTube and I guarantee you thatthere is something out there
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for you and over time, the morethat you do it, you can end up
doing this on your own and itbecomes something super simple
you can do within a few minutesthat will shift your state and
while sometimes it may not beimmediate, sometimes it could
take, you know, if you're reallyshifting like a belief system
or like something like corewithin yourself, it could take
up to a couple of weeks or amonth or two in order for you to
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really see the benefits or theshifts from what you're diving
into and what you're releasing.
But for me, I find that it's areally simple, quick fix.
Okay, that's it.
For real, I tend to do this alot on my episodes where I'm
like I'm done and then I'm like,wait, no, I remember something
else.
So that is it.
Those are my tips and those aremy experiences and working with
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low states, and again, I justreally want to reiterate that it
is normal, like we are humanbeings and we are here to
experience the full range ofemotions, and I think that we
tend to want to run away fromthem because they don't feel
good and we want to constantlyfeel good.
But when we start to face theemotions, yeah, it's gonna be
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scary and it's gonna suck, butthe more that we do that, the
more that we realize thatthey're actually not scary, that
they're here to teach us things.
And if we begin to accept thatand we say, oh, I'm in a low,
and you're just like, okay, I'min a low and I know that this is
going to pass.
What is this here to teach me?
And sometimes it's your bodyjust saying I just need a rest.
So it naturally puts itself ina lower state and so it's really
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learning to get in touch withyour body and saying why am I
feeling this way and what is ithere to tell me or to teach me?
And it's actually somethingreally, really beautiful if you
can look at it and embrace thatway and, like I said, it's not
like you're never gonna feelcrappy, ever, ever again.
Like once you start to learnhow do you like work with your
emotions and even if you'reusing all these tools, like,
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you're still going to feel theseemotions.
It's just knowing that it'stemporary and it will eventually
pass, and when you realize thatthey become something less
scary and we just feel them andthen we can release them and let
them go.
So I hope that you guys enjoyedthis episode and it was
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beneficial to you in some way.
I will put all of the differenttools that I mentioned in the
show notes and if you guys haveany questions about this, I
would love for you guys to reachout to me.
I'm happy to help.
I work with a lot of clientswho experience these highs and
lows as emotional beings andwork with them with EFT, tapping
and different meditations andsomatic therapies as well, and
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combine that with human designand gene keys as well to help
you to get to really understandand know yourself and kind of
just give you permission to feeland not feel so alone or scared
of your emotions.
So, as always, if you found thisepisode helpful, entertaining
or inspiring in any way, pleaseshare with your favorite people
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Bye.
Welcome to the Receptive Impact Podcast.
I'm your host, nina Elise.
Hello everyone, it is Nina.
I am back for a brand newepisode and I'm really excited
about this episode today becauseit is a little bit different
than what I normally talk about,something a little bit more
taboo, which is emotions, andmany people might say like, oh
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taboo, emotions aren't taboo,but I'm going to be going into
more of the lower emotionalstates, like depression and when
we go through our highs and ourlows.
And I say this is taboo becausenot many people like to talk
about it or acknowledge thatthis is something that they
experience in their everydaylife, and for me, as an
emotional being, it wassomething that I really
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suppressed for 30-somethingyears of my life, basically, and
it wasn't until my early 30sthat I really started to go down
this path of realizing thatemotions and the emotional highs
and lows are actually verynormal and that is actually very
healthy to feel it and to nottry to block it or distract
myself when I'm feeling thingsand go shopping or buy something
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or eat something or just watcha bunch of TV, so that I don't
have to look at the underlyingfeelings and emotions that are
there.
And so the intention of thisspecific episode is just to kind
of bring that to light, tonormalize this and say it's not
a bad thing, you're not a badperson for feeling these highs
and these lows.
It's actually something that'svery normal and it's not really
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talked about too much.
And so I want to share some ofmy experiences and a lot of
different tools that I have usedin the past and they still
continue to use today, to helpme process a lot of these
emotional states that come up,whether it is a low or if it is
even a high as well.
And one of the biggest thingswhen we are in these lower
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states is that we're actuallyresisting that state.
We're resisting that loweremotion, whether it's sadness or
grief or anger or whatever itis.
They're actually not bad.
It's actually something that iscoming up to, that's trying to
get our intention to look atsomething that's bothering us
and it just needs to be seen andacknowledged and felt.
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And so by resisting orsuppressing these emotions or
these lower states, we'reactually amplifying it and
making it stay with us longer,and sometimes there isn't
anything we can do to force itout or process it, but there are
tools that have helped me movethrough lower emotional states,
and so I'm going to share thiswith you today.
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And I just want to add anasterisk here like, obviously,
for continuously low states oflike being in depression or
grief or having really, reallylow thoughts or emotions, I
highly recommend working with atherapist.
I have a therapist that I workwith, and when I'm not able to
process or I feel like I'mreaching an all time low, I have
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somebody that I can reach outto for help, and it's actually
someone that I work with on acontinuous basis, at least once
or twice a month, just so thatI'm not dipping down into lower
states or that I'm also learninghow to manage my emotions
continuously by working withsomeone.
So it's also really helpful towork with someone because they
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can show you what your thoughtpatterns are and what your
distractions are and why you dothe things that you do, so that
you can understand yourself more.
And it's been very empoweringfor me personally, because I've
learned a lot of different toolsfrom them and I'm able to
handle my emotions like far, farmore than I used to, and so
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highly recommend that also.
You know, if you are in a lowstate, sometimes it is necessary
to be on medicine because youneed to bring yourself almost up
to like this neutralized state,and I'm not against any type of
medicine to help with that.
I think sometimes it's verynecessary.
So just know that it's actuallyvery normal for people to be in
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that situation and that it'snot something to be hard on
yourself about and it'ssomething that we're all dealing
with in her own way, and so, ifthat's your way to deal with it
or therapy or tools that I'mabout to share, there's so many
different ways to work with ouremotions, especially when we are
in these lower states.
So I know that when you get into, or when I get into, lower
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emotional states, like some days, I might wake up and I might
feel super sad and my mind willtry to attach it to a person or
a scenario or especiallysomething in the past that I
have shame or guilt or regret orlike some sort of like judgment
towards, and it basically justmakes that emotion larger and
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larger and larger and it kind oflike spirals out of control.
And sometimes a lot of thetools that I use in the morning
whether it's meditation orjournaling or EFT tapping like
even that is just it doesn'teven touch it.
And so in those scenarios, Isometimes just say this is just
going to be a day where I'm justgoing to be sad.
So I'll go a little bit more indepth into that, but right now
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I'm going to go down this listof different things that help me
when I'm in my lower states,and these are things that can
help me pull out of these lowerstates, because I go deeper into
the root and deeper into mysubconscious to say, okay, what
is it that is coming up in orderfor me to look at and to give
attention to and give some loveto, because everyone knows that
the only way out is through.
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And so this is so, so true foremotional states, like if we are
in a state where we're sittingin our stink and we're just like
I feel sad or I'm depressed orwhatever, and then we're
resisting it and we're like Idon't want to be here, I need to
go, be productive and be happybecause I have this going on or
whatever.
You're just going to continueto perpetuate that state, and so
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the best thing you can do is,even if you just have like five
minutes of time, some of thesetools are going to be so helpful
for you to begin to movethrough that.
Not that you're trying tonecessarily change it.
It's more of just you're givingattention to it and you're
acknowledging it, so you're notjust completely suppressing it.
One of the first things that Ireally, really love to do is
journaling, and it's not justlike oh, I'm sitting down and
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I'm writing my diary.
You can call this wild mindwriting or connecting with your
higher self, and what thisreally means is you basically
just start writing and if youdon't know what to write about,
you can just start saying like,oh, I'm angry about this or I'm
feeling sad about this, and youjust let your mind just dump
everything out on paper and youcan literally say things like
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I'm so angry at this person Iwant to punch them in the face,
or I hate myself or I ruin mylife.
Like writing down all of yourfears and your problems and your
anger is like just getting itout of your head onto paper, is
like the best thing that you cando, because it's no longer
stuck inside of you and thelonger you write, the more it
becomes like something otherthan you is starting to write
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and it just kind of pours out ofyou naturally and it can be a
very cathartic exercise to do tojust write it all out and then
by the end you can go back andsay, wow, like that was inside
of me.
And if you're familiar with theartist way, it's a very similar
process, where you just startwriting or there'll be journal
prompts and you can write andyou have just all of these
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things from your mind just dumpout.
And what I love about the endof that is they recommend doing
almost like these affirmationsto counteract what you just said
.
So you can go back and you canlook at what you wrote and you
can give yourself a lot of graceand compassion and say, wow,
okay, I got this all out.
It's normal, like I acknowledgeall of this that came out.
And so what is the opposite ofhow I want to feel?
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And then you begin to writeaffirmations that are opposite
of that.
So you can say like, oh, like Iwrote that I hate myself.
Okay, well, I'm going to writethat I'm an infinite being that
is worthy of all love, no matterhow terrible I think that I am.
Or you might have written likeI'm a failure and instead of
that you can say or theaffirmation for that, you could
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say something like oh, I amsomeone who is learning and
growing, and anytime somethingdoesn't go as I wish it had gone
, I know that I am learning andI am stronger to meet the next
hurdle that may come my way.
So there are different ways thatyou can reframe and turn what
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you dumped out on paper intosomething more positive, because
it's almost like you becomingthis advocate, and then you're
also reprogramming your brain tolook at yourself in a different
way, and so this is somethingthat I do almost every single
day in the morning when I wakeup in the morning, because it
just kind of dumps everythingout and it just I have nothing
to hide from, like it's all outin the open, and it's very
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helpful for me to kind of switchthat flip, especially if I'm
veering into that lower energystate.
Another thing that I do iscalled present breath awareness,
and it is probably the mostsimple thing that you can do
anywhere at any time, and itfeels really uncomfortable at
first because it's like you areliterally just sitting with it
all.
But you're just sitting, youcan keep your eyes open and
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basically you're just puttingyour attention on your breath
coming in and out and you canbreathe through your nose, you
can breathe through your mouthwhatever is comfortable for you.
But essentially what you do,you put your attention on the
emotion or the feeling that isgoing on in your body and you
just breathe, like it really isjust as simple as that, and you
remove the judgment fromanything, from anything that
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you're feeling, and you justallow yourself to sit there and
feel and I will tell you like asyou're, as you're learning how
to work more with your emotionsand deal with your emotions like
it doesn't mean that they'regoing to magically go away, like
you are still going toexperience crummy, crummy
emotions, that you're like theseare here forever and you just
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want to run away from them andyou don't want to feel them.
Well, this isn't a perfect worldwhere we're in just these
higher states all the time.
Like we are human beings, likewe need lower states because
they force us to look at thingsfrom a different perspective.
They actually help us in ourcreativity because, if you know,
like the greatest artists andsingers, like they write the
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most beautiful, likesoul-wrenching songs after a
breakup or after they've gonethrough something really
devastating in their lives, likethere is so much beauty that
can be found in these, theselower states, so we we can't
avoid them.
They're actually like thisbeautiful contrast that is so
necessary as human being.
So when we can look at it fromthat perspective, we just know
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like, okay, we're going to havehighs and we're going to have
lows, and so when we're in theselows, we're just going to have
these tools in order to workthrough them.
And so that present breathexercise is you can just breathe
through this and you mightstill feel emotions the entire
time that you were doing thisbreath work, and you'll be
thinking this isn't doinganything.
What is the point of this?
But it's really just aboutgetting present in your body and
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bringing the attention to yourbreath versus the emotions that
are happening or the thoughtsthat are going running wild in
your mind.
And so for me, I might doanything, do this for one to 10
minutes, maybe longer, and Imight do it throughout the day
if I'm really struggling, andyou'll find over time that the
emotions begin to diminish andthey're not as intense because
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you're actually sitting withthem.
And this kind of pairs withsomatic exercises.
And so when I say somaticexercises, there's a lot of
different ways that you can dothis.
My favorite way is that presentbreath awareness.
So you're getting very still inthe body.
But what you do with this isyou scan the body and you see
where the emotions feel stuck orwhere they feel really, really
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big.
For me, I tend to feel a lot ofit in my chest or my throat and
it's something that I feel likeneeds to come out of me, but
it's like kind of stuck thereand it feels like heavy and it
just doesn't feel good and Ijust want to run away from it.
But with this specific exercise,you sit still, you put your
attention on it, you do thatslow breath in and out, and the
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difference here is like you justdon't try to change it, you
just don't judge it.
It's almost like you'rewatching a movie or like you're
kind of stepping outside of yourbody and you're like, okay, I'm
breathing through this, but I'mnot the actual emotion or the
sensation in my body.
And a lot of different thingscan happen from this, like if
you're just putting yourattention on your emotions and
you're just observing it.
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Sometimes I'll get visuals inmy mind about old memories that
pop up for me to look at and Ido some type of reparenting with
that and give myself lots ofinner child and compassion and
grace, like I do that innerchild work where I kind of talk
to myself as if I were talkingto a child, with lots of love
and grace, and sometimes I mightfeel like crying or I might
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feel like screaming or punchingsomething, or I'll punch a
pillow.
So a lot of things can come outof this somatic exercise.
So it's just basically thisenergy within yourself that
wants to be released in some way, and so this is a very
liberating exercise that you cando that can lead to the release
of whatever is going on insideof you.
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Obviously, if all else fails, myfavorite is crying.
It's like my go-to.
Sometimes it can just be likeat the end of yoga class or just
I move my body and all thisenergy like came up to be
processed and I just need to cry.
Or I'm listening to a sad songand I start crying or whatever.
Like tears are literallyreleasing water that is
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containing these emotions andthese memories and you're
releasing them, and so it'sactually very, very healthy and
we were taught that like cryingis weak or it's something that
we shouldn't do, especially withmen, and it's like that's not
true at all, like it's actuallya very, very healthy way to
process these emotional statesthat are going on inside of you,
and so it really is justallowing yourself to be a little
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bit more open and experimentingwith these different ways of
processing your emotions.
So another way that I reallylike to play around with is
mirror work.
When I say mirror work, a lotof times it's me just sitting in
front of my mirror and kind oflike talking at myself or
talking to myself and saying,hey, these are my problems, and
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like just getting it all out,like just like talking to myself
in the mirror, and as thesethings come up, it's almost like
journaling, but you're actuallyspeaking it out loud, like
you're just getting it all out,and then from there I'm able to
look at myself, and then inthose moments I do a lot of
inner child work, where I'msaying all of these things and
I'm just like, okay, like it'sokay for me to feel these things
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, it's safe for me to expressthem, and then normally what
ends up happening is, after Iget all of that out, I just say,
wow, like you're so courageous,you're so proud, you're doing
the best that you can, and thatis more than enough.
And I just say reallyencouraging, like positive
things to myself, because thatis a moment again where you're
kind of like rewiring your brainfrom putting the attention on
these little emotions and you'regiving attention to them so
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that they can come out of you inthe form of your voice, of
speaking, and so I don't know ifanyone has tried that before,
but it's actually been one of mygo-to things that I've been
doing recently that have been so, so helpful for me.
And another breath worktechnique this is a little bit
more intense, so if you're notfamiliar with it, I recommend
working with someone or doingthis in person so you can get a
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better idea of feel of whatactually happens in his
experience during this.
But there's holotropic breathwork, which is a little bit more
intense and it's like a threebreath process.
You're laying flat on theground and you normally put on
music and I just need like fiveto 15 minutes.
Sometimes people do longer butbasically you set your attention
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of what you would like toprocess or like where your
emotions are feeling stuck andwhere you want them to move, and
you breathe into your belly andthen you breathe into your
chest and then you exhale outthrough your mouth, and you do
that nonstop for as long as youdecide to do it for and it can
cause a lot of sensations thatare uncomfortable in the body,
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like sometimes my hands cramp upand my feet cramp up and my abs
get numb, like there are somany different sensations, and
it can almost even like send youinto a psychedelic state.
So it depends on, like, whatyou're going for it with this,
but for me, it's a way forenergy to be moved within the
body in order to be released.
So sometimes in theseholotropic breath work sessions
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that I do by myself because I'vebeen doing this for the last
few years, so I know how to dothis on my own Like I'll end up
crying, or I'll end up likescreaming or yelling or shaking
or hitting my hands and my legson the ground in order to like
release this energy that's liketrapped or like stuck inside of
me, and so, again, this is moreof an intense way to release
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emotions.
It's not something that Ireally go to, because I feel
like just sitting and breathingis the easiest thing that you
can do, so you don't have tolike put yourself into these
like really highly intensesituations in order to process
your emotions.
Another thing is like parts work.
If anyone is familiar with that, if you are familiar with that
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whole IFS system, where there'sbasically like different parts
of you that may seem likethey're in conflict.
There's this form of therapywhere you can talk to different
aspects of yourself.
So there might be like thescared child inside of you, or
there might be this angry partof you that needs to be
acknowledged or looked at, andso there's a way that you can
get in touch with this, andthat's either through journaling
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or talking out loud.
I have found that when I'm inreally emotional states, I'll
just start talking out loud.
I will just say, like this iswhat's wrong and this is why I'm
angry, and then I'll just starttalking to that part and say,
okay, well, why are you angry?
Or another part will pop up andsay, well, you can't be angry
because this.
And then it's almost like Ihave this conversation and I
just listen to these differentparts of myself and then I learn
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how to bring all of themtogether so that they're all
working cohesively together,because, at the end of the day,
all of these parts just want tobe heard and they just want to
be seen, and that is why there'sthis conflict or this
depression, because there areparts of us that feel suppressed
, because we're not payingattention to them, and it's this
energy that is trapped andbringing us into these lower
states.
These are obviously like thingsthat you can work with your
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therapist on.
My therapist does parts work.
She does EFT tapping, she doesa somatic therapy.
I've worked with therapists whohave done breath work before,
so there are different ways thatyou can do this work on your
own and with people who have thebackground and the
certifications to do this aswell.
So just a few more with thesetools that have been so, so
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helpful for me.
So inner child work is probablyone of my favorite things to do.
I actually infuse this intolike everything I do almost
every single day.
So inner child work can be donein a lot of different ways, but
one thing that I do that isvery simple is when I'm feeling
sad, I just sit and I close myeyes and I conjure up this idea
or this image of little Nina andI see what she's doing, I see
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what she's up to.
If I'm feeling really sad,sometimes I'll get this flash of
an image of her just laying onthe ground, crying, feeling
really sad, and I'll just slowlyapproach her and say like hey,
what do you need?
And just kind of have aconversation with them and just
saying, like what does my innerchild need?
And sometimes it's like I justneed a hug, or I just want to be
alone, or I just need a nap, orI just need to play, or I just
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need some love and I want to goget some ice cream, like there
are so many different thingsthat can come up when you're
doing this inner child work.
And it's really beautifulbecause it is this form of
reparenting, of really givingyourself grace and compassion
while you are in these lowerstates, and it's almost like
you're becoming like your parentor like your cheerleader and
just giving yourself so muchlove, something that you may not
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have received that grace orthat compassion as a child or
growing up, and so you'relearning how to give it to
yourself in this moment.
And two more things.
So future conversations this isactually something that I've
been playing around withrecently.
It's about talking to yourselfin the future and saying, okay,
I'm depressed now and I'mfeeling really terrible now, but
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if I met future Nina, my idealstate of like, this is the life
that I would want to be living,or this is the feeling, like I
want to be in this happy, joyfulstate.
What would they have to say tome right now?
Are they encouraging?
What are they doing?
What are their characteristics?
What are their habits Like, howare they living their lives?
And this is really helpful forme to say, like, okay, like you
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know, if future Nina were tocome and tell me like hey, I'm
feeling really crappy right now,or I'm not feeling very good,
and future Nina comes to me andsays, hey, like everything is
going to be okay, like life isgood, this is a temporary moment
and right now you just need tofeel everything and just know
that it's going to pass.
And sometimes, like future Ninawill tell me like, oh, just go
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do this or just sit here injournal or call this person and
talk to them, because they canoffer you a different
perspective.
Or just go out and do somethingdifferent or move your body, or
like there's so many differentthings that your future self can
tell you, but only you know,because it's coming from you and
it's knowing to listen to thatand to trust them and just hear
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what they have to say because,honestly, like know that you
wouldn't see that vision or thatversion of yourself if you
didn't think it was possible.
And so that's why I feel likeit's it's easy to believe what
my future self is saying to me,because I'm like, when I see a
version of my future self, I'mlike wow, like she's incredible,
like she's so amazing and she'sso like, like successful in her
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own ways and she's accomplishedso much and she has reached her
version of success in the waythat she defines success, and I
just see her as this incrediblewoman and I'm like wow, like
she's amazing.
But I know that she resideswithin me because she's in the
future and, like I'm envisioningit, and so I have so much
respect for what that version ofme is saying to me in that
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moment.
And the last thing that I'mgonna say, or the last tool that
I use, is I call it, or I'veheard it been called just
sitting in the stink.
Because, honestly, like thereare days where you're just like
I am trying all of these tools,like I'm talking to myself and
I'm journaling and I've done allof these things and it's just
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like nothing is working and youcan't just try to force yourself
through through the situationor through the lower emotions,
like you just need to be with itand, like I said at the
beginning, like resisting iswhat is going to cause it to
continue.
And so the days that I just amreally struggling and I wake up
and I'm just like, wow, I feelreally sad and I've done all
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these tools and I've gonethrough all of these things, I'm
like you know what, there's areason for me being in this
lower state and it's gonna forceme to evaluate my life and look
at things in a differentperspective, and so it's
actually necessary for me to behere.
And so in those days it's aboutnot doing anything, like it's
not trying to change my state,it's just accepting where I'm at
and that sadness and that angerand that grief or whatever it
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is that I'm feeling.
And sometimes that looks likejust being horizontal and
watching movies for an entireweekend.
And it's not like my normalstate, like I don't own a TV,
like I very rarely watch, likeNetflix or anything like that,
unless I'm like in these statesor I'm feeling like I need to
rest.
But when you're sitting in thesink.
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It's like sometimes you're likeI'm just not gonna run from
this, like it's just I'm justgonna feel it and I'm gonna be
okay with it and I'm just gonnabe sad, and I think that can be
really difficult for us toaccept, because we're told we
need to feel happy and we needto do all the things and we need
to be productive, and if we'renot doing all of those things,
then we are, you know, wastingtime or there's something wrong
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with us because we can't get outof the state and it's just
prolonged over and over and overagain.
Well, I'm here to tell you that,like I have been in those
states for a really, really longtime and I think that,
especially when you go throughthis journey of like awakening
and getting to really knowyourself, there can be months
where you're just feeling inthese lower states, where you
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have more lower states and youhave higher states, and I truly
believe that is because there'salmost like a death going on of
like old parts of ourself as wego through this process of
waking up and coming back toourselves, because we're
realizing like we weren't livinga life that was in alignment or
, you know, we're having to letgo of parts of ourselves and
identities and people in ourlives that we had held onto a
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very for a very long timebecause they felt safe.
But we're having to let go ofthem and so there definitely is
a mourning process and I don'tthink that most people are
conscious of that, and so theysit in these states and they try
to attach their mind to like,oh, I'm sad because of this and
it's may not even be for thatreason and maybe this
unconscious reason of like, wow,I'm just grieving and I just
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need to give myself time togrieve.
And I have been in those statesfor months and months and I was
like I had support and friendsand family and therapists that I
worked with to help me when Iwas in those states, and it was
like I learned how to not beattached to that state and
realize the reason why I wasfeeling those things.
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And it wasn't a bad thing, itwas just me processing in my own
time, in my own way.
And when you start to look atthat within yourself and you
remove that judgment, itactually helps those emotions
process through faster and theirown time.
Because when we're blocking itand we're resisting it and we're
shaming ourselves and we'rejudging ourselves for being in
those lower states, then we'rejust going to continuously
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perpetuate them and it's gonnaseem that much more or worse.
So that is what I have to sayabout all the different tools
that I have used.
I didn't go too much into EFTtapping.
I actually really wanna doanother episode specifically on
that because of how much it hasbeen helpful for me in my own
journey.
But it is actually somethingthat I do during the day and or
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any moment that I'm feeling sador I'm feeling low, and it's
kind of like this quick fix ofbeing able to tap on these
different meridian points withinmy body on my head and my face
and my chest and it's prettypopular.
You can find lots of EFTtapping videos on YouTube and
they basically help you reallychange your state and shift
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neurological connections in yourmind.
So this is something that Ihighly recommend people play
around with and experiment with.
So if you go on YouTube, youcan look up something like EFT
tapping for sadness, eft tappingfor grief, eft tapping for joy.
There are so many different likestates that you can look on
YouTube and I guarantee you thatthere is something out there
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for you and over time, the morethat you do it, you can end up
doing this on your own and itbecomes something super simple
you can do within a few minutesthat will shift your state and
while sometimes it may not beimmediate, sometimes it could
take, you know, if you're reallyshifting like a belief system
or like something like corewithin yourself, it could take
up to a couple of weeks or amonth or two in order for you to
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really see the benefits or theshifts from what you're diving
into and what you're releasing.
But for me, I find that it's areally simple, quick fix.
Okay, that's it.
For real, I tend to do this alot on my episodes where I'm
like I'm done and then I'm like,wait, no, I remember something
else.
So that is it.
Those are my tips and those aremy experiences and working with
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low states, and again, I justreally want to reiterate that it
is normal, like we are humanbeings and we are here to
experience the full range ofemotions, and I think that we
tend to want to run away fromthem because they don't feel
good and we want to constantlyfeel good.
But when we start to face theemotions, yeah, it's gonna be
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scary and it's gonna suck, butthe more that we do that, the
more that we realize thatthey're actually not scary, that
they're here to teach us things.
And if we begin to accept thatand we say, oh, I'm in a low,
and you're just like, okay, I'min a low and I know that this is
going to pass.
What is this here to teach me?
And sometimes it's your bodyjust saying I just need a rest.
So it naturally puts itself ina lower state and so it's really
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learning to get in touch withyour body and saying why am I
feeling this way and what is ithere to tell me or to teach me?
And it's actually somethingreally, really beautiful if you
can look at it and embrace thatway and, like I said, it's not
like you're never gonna feelcrappy, ever, ever again.
Like once you start to learnhow do you like work with your
emotions and even if you'reusing all these tools, like,
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you're still going to feel theseemotions.
It's just knowing that it'stemporary and it will eventually
pass, and when you realize thatthey become something less
scary and we just feel them andthen we can release them and let
them go.
So I hope that you guys enjoyedthis episode and it was
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beneficial to you in some way.
I will put all of the differenttools that I mentioned in the
show notes and if you guys haveany questions about this, I
would love for you guys to reachout to me.
I'm happy to help.
I work with a lot of clientswho experience these highs and
lows as emotional beings andwork with them with EFT, tapping
and different meditations andsomatic therapies as well, and
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combine that with human designand gene keys as well to help
you to get to really understandand know yourself and kind of
just give you permission to feeland not feel so alone or scared
of your emotions.
So, as always, if you found thisepisode helpful, entertaining
or inspiring in any way, pleaseshare with your favorite people
and post to your social media.
Your support means the world tome and if you haven't already,
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Thank you all so much fortuning in.
I love you guys so so much.
I will talk to you all in thenext episode.
Bye.
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