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February 2, 2021 58 min

Ebony Tutora

Episode Introduction

As kids, our instinctual intelligence guided us when understanding right and wrong. We knew it when something was not right, we could sense danger and steer clear from it. What happens to that instinctive light as we grow older? Why does it get so clouded that you find yourself afar from the truth? Ebony Tutora is a revolutionary thinker and creator who emerged out through the darkest of times to become the best version of herself.

Ebony joins us on this episode of the Redefining Grief podcast, to talk right everything that needs to be about shielding from the truth in the most disheartening times. She also elaborates on why it is important to view your grief experiences as a learning journey and repeat healthy everyday habits that help heal. Listen in to experience the magic of the conversation for yourself!

Ebony experienced a fair share of childhood trauma- from having a chaotic household with a drug-addicted father, and living month-to-month on public assistance, she saw it all. When 15, Ebony got into a relationship with a guy from Ghana who was 10 years older. It had been an extremely violent relationship that ended with her being raped and held hostage. She kept going back to her abusive boyfriend: it was like a vicious cycle until she took some time to learn about it for herself. She dated him for over 3 years before breaking up with him finally. This experience had Ebony learn a major life lesson- You have to trust your instincts and face the truth.?

All this childhood trauma finally led her to this wake-up call and she found that the right books made their way into her hands. Being open to the ways of the universe, God began showing her the path. Ebony narrates a life-changing experience that is not just exciting, but also mystical.? When she was in New York City, she met a guy on the train she was traveling on. He sat next to her and whispered in her ear- “You are beautiful, beautiful in your soul”. And ended with, “You should go to Church”. And she did. But she was never able to find him there. Never. Later she talked to a person who sees angels, and she said, “That’s who he was, an angel.”

Repeating everyday healthy habits and doing necessary things to heal every day or, you know, in a way that is intentional can make all the difference in the world.


About Our Guest?

Ebony Tutora is a revolutionary thinker and creator. Her purpose and passion are to share her truth authentically via transformational Life Coaching so that others who have faced the same struggles can be inspired to know there is hope. With a passion to teach about self-worth, and finding it so we can find our purpose; she has done this through her empowerment brand Queens Recognize Queens?. Giving others a platform to gain clarity around who they are, by encouraging them to harness the divinity within. Ebony specializes in holistic coaching, one on one, and her mission is to globally impact and uplift 1 million women and girls by encouraging them to love themselves and one another, heal, and walk boldly and courageously into a lifelong goal of becoming the best version of themselves.

Episode Quotes

  • “If you have a belief that you shouldn't experience storms, you have no wisdom.” - Ebony [8:03]
  • “If you continue to look for the light in your storm, the day is just going to get brighter and brighter.” - Herdyne [18:10]
  • “Wisdom has taught me that I need to learn to surrender because I cannot control every waking hour. “- Ebony [30:29]
  • “Sometimes, growing means pruning or cutting off the people that are not growing with you.” - Herdyne [39:23]
  • “The inability to take wisdom, the inability to say goodbye, that inability to cut off things, people, and places that are what is creating strife in your life.” - ?Ebony [40:51]
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    Redefining Grief Pearls of Wisdom, P.O.W., Questions

  • What have you learned about yourself since redefining your grief journey? [44:34]
  • ????????????I learned that life doesn’t happen to you. But you happen to live. Everyone has the power to change and when you share your stories with each other, you help each other heal and evolve.?

  • If today was your last day on earth, and you were granted five words or less? What would it be? [33:35]
  • Turn your pain into power.

  • During your hard times, what's that one song that just gets you through? [35:48]
  • Tasha Cobbs – For Your Glory


    Episode Time-Stamps

  • [10:35] – Ebony shares her life story with us
  • [19:12] – Ebony reinforces how examining the truth is the only way to gain liberation from your grief
  • [25:04] – How to release your grief
  • [27:49] – Wisdom is not solidified ideas, but a current. You need to catch the wave.
  • [34:29] – Ebony shares a miraculous story
  • [42:22] – How to turn your pain into power
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    Reference Links

  • YouTube link to Ebony’s favorite song:?
  • Tasha Cobbs – For Your Glory

  • Book:
  • Forgiveness: Overcome Emotional Trauma, Heal Relationships And Find Inner Peace In Just 8 Simple Steps


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