Episode 122:
What Monogamous Couples Can Learn from Swingers to Transform Love and Intimacy with Lauren Hayes
In this episode, I interview lifestyle coach Lauren Hayes about her new book on the swinging lifestyle and what monogamous individuals can learn from non-monogamous relationships. Lauren shares her journey into the swinging lifestyle with her husband, the challenges they faced, and lessons they learned—ranging from the importance of self-expression and emotional sovereignty to the significance of loving oneself more than one's partner. The conversation highlights how these lessons can be universally applied to enhance all types of relationships, emphasizing that non-monogamous relationships require a high level of self-awareness, communication, and commitment.
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00:00 Introduction to Swinging and Self-Expression
01:41 Introducing Lauren Hayes and Her Journey
04:13 Lauren's Personal Experience with Swinging
09:56 Defining Swinging and Its Misconceptions
18:56 Exploring the Lessons from Non-Monogamy
28:19 Emotional Sovereignty: Owning Your Reactions
29:11 Loving Yourself More in Relationships
29:51 Conscious People Pleasing: A New Perspective
31:53 Self-Expression and Finding Your Voice
35:42 The Importance of Self-Awareness
36:44 Pleasure as a Practice: Embracing Joy
37:54 Emotional Sovereignty Revisited
48:50 Navigating Conflict and Emotional Vulnerability
50:02 Conclusion and Resources
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