Reset Yourself 22 Podcast (Episode 191) "Who is the Victim?"

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Please note this show contains adult language and themes and
is intended for mature audiences only.

Speaker 2 (00:07):
Listener discretion is advised. Dearly beloved, we'll gather here today
to get through this thing called life. You are listening

(00:54):
to the Reset Yourself What Need You Podcast? Your host,
Jimmy dum Collars. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
Hello everyone, So this was a longer weekend for Labor Day.

(01:17):
I hope you all had a wonderful Labor Day. I
spent it doing labor. That's what happens when you buy
an old barn and you have animals, and it becomes
your passion, both of them. So, speaking of animals, here's
my co producer, Sleepy. That's what I should call him. No,

(01:38):
it's Henry. So in this weekly podcast, I focus on
sparking your inner confidence and igniting your belief and yourself.
I'm your host and I'm always very thrilled to share
my thoughts and research with you as we go along
this journey together. I hope I believe we can nurture

(02:01):
a mindset that empowers us to reach our fullest potential.
I write a record every episode to challenge my thinking,
our thinking, his thinking, and to encourage you to think
and to reflect. Don't just listen to the podcast and
go oh he's talking. Yeah, that's inspirational, and then when

(02:24):
the podcast is done, you're just like okay, which most
of you don't, which means a lot, because I get
it in the comments after the fact, or usually a
week or two later, people have had the time to
really go over some of the statements that stuck out.
The exercises at the end seem to be very popular
with people, especially when people do it in groups. I

(02:47):
think that's very helpful because it keeps you honest because
obviously most of these titles don't relate to you. To you,
they do because they relate to me, So they're great
to make you think. So, whether you're facing a career transition,

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seeking to overcome challenges, or simply striving for greater fulfillment
in your life, this podcast has been the go to
resource for thousands of people, and I say that like
that's pretty cool. Thousands of people for motivation and practical insights.
My inspiration to do this show is to teach people

(03:36):
and especially me, to focus more on what I can
accomplish so that I can do the things I need
to do when I need to do them, so that ultimately,
when all of a sudden and done, I receive the
things that I want to do when I want them.

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This episode, actually I already know. It's dedicated to you
right there. You no, not you, not you you? Yes.
You tell me what you want and I will show
you how to get it, Jimmy. So it's not difficult.

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Shut up. I'm to this, I'm to that. I'm too old,
I'm too young, I'm too sorry. Sorry excuses. If you
want to lie to yourself constantly, good for you. But yeah,
it's just an excuse. It's just being lazy. If you
want something bad enough, you find the power and you
make it happen. How do I know this because you've

(04:40):
done it already for many things. So if there's still
things that are kind of like hovering around you, like
one day, one day out, you know, one day one day,
make that one day today, like, start working on it,
start planning it out. Don't focus on what you need
to get to it because at this moment obviously you can't.

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So focus on the things that you can. The things
basically to me is just writing it out. What's the plan?
What is the plan that you have for X, Y,
and Z, and start working towards it. Is it money, fine,
don't make it number one. Write a list from one
to ten. Make money number ten, and then start focusing
on the things you can do today to start focusing

(05:25):
on reaching your goal. It's actually that simple. I want
to start off a little bit morbid for those of
you that are close to me and know me. I
love morbidity. I love the concept of death. I love
the concept of life. I love the concept just living
every day truly blessed, knowing that you know you should

(05:51):
never take your life for granted and just assume that
we're all going to live for a thousand years, because
you're not. The average life expectancy for a man is
like seventy six and for a woman is eighty one.
So I don't know where you stand now that this
does not mean that if you're seventy five that you're
going to die next year, obviously, but it's an average.

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But my thing is to assume that you are going
to die of old age, which is a beautiful thing,
is a wonderful thing, But there are many people dying
that are like a lot less, a lot younger, than
I am. It's just all of a sudden, all of
a sudden, something happens. It could be a disease, an accident,

(06:36):
a sickness, whatever. So you never know when things are
going to end for you, when your book is going
to come to an end. So this podcast is actually
I wanted to start it off with some quotes about
the topic, and of course when I did, so many
came up and they're all good, so I'll probably just

(06:56):
go through. But the concept of this podcast is about
having a victim mindset, which to me, for those of
you that have them, which obviously nobody's gonna go that's me.
They're gonna be like, I don't know, it's you. To me,
having a victim mindset, you're wasting time. That's the bottom line.
You're wasting time. Any time that you're sitting there doing

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nothing or overthinking, not preparing, overthinking, you're wasting time. Okay,
every single day should be a day towards your goal.
I don't care if it's a huge leap or a
small skip. Every single day should be towards your goal.

(07:40):
And then of course when you reach your goal, don't
just look past it. I was just talking to my
daughter about that the other day yesterday, and it's just funny.
It's like, you know, we tend and it's not a
bad thing. Doesn't mean you're a piece of crap or no,
it's just it's a human thing that we focus towards
getting to a goal. And then you know, it's funny

(08:00):
because sometimes I go collect, you know, take six months
to get to, six years to get to and then
all of a sudden, within six minutes you're like, all
right on to the next and it happens. But right
now it's a reminder to be aware of it so
that you don't focus on that and you focus on
taking a moment to be thankful for that time. So

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to me, having a victim mindset is just such a
fucking waste of time. It's just Robert Anthony said, when
you blame others, you give up your power to change.
Maya Angelou said, a wise woman wishes to be no
one's enemy. A wise woman refuses to be anyone's victim.

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Here's another one with nobody that wrote it, no name.
The only one who can truly victimize me is who
yes myself, And of the time I choose to do
that no more I'm stopping that hopefully for many of
you listening to this podcast that you're gonna be like,
I don't want to waste my time anymore. Victimhood is

(09:11):
such a compelling story, but it's not a healing story.
It's a story that just keeps you stuck. That's why
I think it's fascinating when bad things happen, because it's
normal for bad things to happen. But then people need
to go on Facebook and share it with, you know,
one hundred thousand strangers, because that's what they are there, strangers,
and then all of a sudden, like you just keep

(09:32):
repeating it. So then like I can think of five
people right now that I will. I just I have
stopped following many people. I may be friends with many,
but I unfollowed many people because to me, I'm sorry
for me to start my morning and to go to
Facebook and I just see people doing the woe is me?
Woe is me? I don't I don't really care anymore.

(09:53):
I'd rather see you say hey, no longer. I did it.
I accomplished it, I figured it out. I was stressed
and I changed it. That to me is an inspirational thing.
But there are about five people that I can think
of right now that it's been like three months, three years,

(10:14):
and it's the same story. Do you know anybody like that?
Are you like that? Are you sitting around going, yes,
I need to do X, Y and Z and September
we just welcome to September, and then all of a
sudden mid October, I still need to do that. And
then come December. Oh and New Year's is here. Wooo. Yes,

(10:35):
the resolutions that are just full of crap, and it's
just like, I'm gonna do X, Y and Z and
then before you know it, it's March twenty twenty six
and you're still just farting around hoping to accomplish I
don't know which. Realistically, all it is is a mindset.
You just have to really stick to it and go,

(10:57):
I'm going to accomplish this and that's it, and understand
that you have the power and the time. Yes, so
many of us think that we don't have time. I
don't have time for this. Yes you do. You do
have time for it. And when you want something, you do,
you find the time, you make, the time, you rearrange,
you stop. You're wasting your time on scrolling and you

(11:20):
start doing better things, things that you need to do.
You break free from the poisonous victim mentality and embrace
the truth of your greatness. You can't change the situation,
but you can challenge yourself. It's not what happens to you,

(11:42):
but how you react to with that, that's actually one of
my favorite. Yes, it's not what happens to you, but
how you react to it that matters. So for those
of you that spend the day going but Jimmy, you know,
bad shit happens and it's like, right, but how did
you react to it? Did you lose your mind or
did you just go Okay, I got a great one

(12:03):
for you. I got a great one for you. Ready,
So I change my own oil. Sometimes we go to
the oil place, but I love changing the especially in
my pickup truck because it's it's tall. So I just
get on my little slidy thing and just lay down
and slide under and I change my own like just
a few minutes. That's all it takes for me. So yesterday,
new lesson, and here's the thing, you're ready. I love

(12:25):
when shit fucks up. I do what yes, I do
because to me, when everything is smooth, it's a beautiful thing,
but we seem to naturally focus more on when the
world comes to an end. So for me, I've learned
quite a while ago that when the world comes to
an end, I don't go on face but and go
everybody in the world's coming to an end. I just

(12:46):
really sit there and ponder what happened? Why, what did
I do wrong? What could I have done differently? And
then that lesson sticks with me, and I like that.
I love lessons. The worst is the best. I really
don't care. So yesterday I got the oil okay, and

(13:07):
I got the oil filter. And this is something that
I have probably changed the oil in my vehicle, in
menu and people's vehicles more than one hundred times. It's
super easy to do. So basically, I went and got
the oil filter, I got the oil. I did do
the steps. I take the top off the engine for
the oil so that it breathes. Go, I slide underneath.

(13:28):
I take the nut. It's for my truck. It's eleven sixteen.
I go underneath. I unscrew that. Now I have a
container that catches the oil. It's a new one. It's
really cool, so you know, all the oil comes out
and it's usually horrendous. It's black. And then once it's empty,
I wipe it up. I put the nut back on perfect.

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Then I go to the front area and I moved
my tray over and I take the filter off very easy.
Unscrew that boom boom boom, and then I take that
carefully cause it's usually filled with oil, and I drop
it into the container and then I get out and
then I wipe everything down, wear gloves, and then I
get the new oil filter. Here's the problem. You're ready

(14:11):
something that I've done many times. I take the new
oil filter, and you're supposed to get some old oil
and just rub the main part, the screw part, and
then you go up to the thing, screw back in
and everything is perfect. Then I just get my oil.
I go above. I'm done, and then I just pour
it in. Okay, my truck it's five quarts. So I

(14:35):
poured in. Everything is wonderful. I slide out. I went
in really quick, cleaned my hands. I told Melissa said
all right, that was done. She was like already. I
was like, yep, I'm done. So then I come back
out and my truck has a remote starter, which is
great because I could like watch from I could watch
the engine from outside, which I've never done, but this

(14:56):
time I did. So I still have the hood open,
and I get up on the thing. I get up
on the thing and on the bumper and to tall truck,
and I look down at the engine and I hit
the remote starter. Engine turns on and it looks like
a beautiful fountain of gold, liquid spray everywhere, and I'm

(15:18):
staring at it, and like I said, I've gotten to
a point in my life that I don't I just
I don't see the concept with fear or like oh
my god, or uh oh, that's just stupid and into waste.
I just go, huh wait a minute, what's wrong? How
do I fix this? What did I do wrong? So

(15:39):
I went underneath. I unscrewed the things. See no victim
mindset here, and I turned it off immediately, and obviously
it stops. So I go underneath and I'm staring and
I'm staring, and I'm like, what the hell did I
do wrong? So I checked the nut. That is fine,
So obviously it's coming from the filter that I just
put in. I reach in, I unscrew the filter, I

(16:01):
take it off. I look at it and I put
it back on and I'm like, that's weird. So I
put a little bit more oil in. I turn it
back on again, Fountain of Gold, and I'm like, what
am I doing wrong? Again? No victim, mindset, No I'm
a piece of crap, or just what did I do

(16:22):
wrong that I could fix? It's the focus is on
the fixing, not the wrong. So really quickly I go
on to Google and I ask it the question, this
is a situation, what could have happened? And immediately I
get that a lot of people will actually take the

(16:42):
like go to a store or whatever, open the filters,
take the there's a washer washer like a rubber seal.
They peel it off and they will take it for
something else. And I'm like, I've never ever heard of that.
And I'm like, so I'm thinking, and I'm like, wait
a minute, when I took when I took the filter

(17:07):
and I put my finger in the oil to lubricate,
do I remember seeing a washer? Then? Now the problem
is because I've done it so many times, but I
didn't even think about it. So I'm like, that's odd.
So I get back unto the truck again and I
tried to clean up some of the masks. It was
pretty bad, and I unscrew the container and when I

(17:31):
look at it, yes, there was no ring, and I'm like,
what happened to the ring that I've never had this happen,
And honestly I love that because it's just to me,
it's the universe going new lesson, something you have to
watch out for. In the future. You may be doing
this for someone else and now you're gonna be in

(17:53):
the wrong place, wrong time. You're gonna feel like an idiot.
Because that's why. To me, bad things like this happened,
because so that you can learn from most likely hopefully
a future situation which you'll never notice because now I
know no victim. So I'm like, where is it? So
I go grab the box, I look at it. There's
no ring. There was no ring, so I'm like huh.

(18:14):
So at that moment, Melissa walks by and explained their situation.
She's like, can you use the ring from the other one?
And I was like, you know what, why not? So
I just went to the old filter and peeled it
off because the ring is in perfect condition, like nothing
happens to it, it doesn't get old, so it sits
in oil. So I just peeled it off, grabbed a
new one, popped it on, screwed it in. Done, no

(18:37):
loss of life. I didn't go on Facebook, I didn't
post pictures. I didn't motherfuck the world. I didn't sue
fram which is the oil filter maker. I didn't. In fact,
I did go through a lot of oil. So obviously
at some point today I do have to go somewhere
and buy some oil because I probably lost two or
three courts, which that part does suck. But I mean

(18:57):
it's not expensive, so it's just it is what it is.
If anything, it's just the oil that was on the ground.
But I went and got litter and all that stuff
and covered it and we're good to go. But again,
now that will never ever happen to me. So the
triggers that trigger you, that feed you fear, they should
also feed you education because now you're like, oh, if

(19:20):
this happens, I'm prepared. That's why preparation is such an
important word when it comes to anything, Like if you're
still living with fear, you're living fear basically is not
knowing not knowing, And that's why I love like, as
I get older, I learn more from my big screw ups.
So I'm like, all right, I know now that when

(19:41):
X happens, it's gonna be followed by Y and Z.
So at that point, the concept of just useless fear
makes no sense to me anymore, because it's like, I've
already been through that rodeo, and i know that if
you ride a certain type of bull, you're probably gonna
get thrown off. So why would I get on a
bull again and go this time? It's if it happens again,

(20:03):
I'm like, all right, it's gonna continue to happen. So
now here's my trigger for the rest of my life.
Whenever I change oil again, immediately, I'm gonna look at
that ring to make sure it's there. See so I
took a negative, which I don't never see it as
a negative, but I just took it as a situation
that happened. I'm all right, it won't happen again. So
hopefully you will learn a lot from this podcast about

(20:28):
the concept of that, because here's the thing I want
to do one more quote, which one was it, which
one wasn't. The only one who can truly victimize me
is no, that's the victim mindset. Dilutes the human potential.
By not accepting personal responsibility for our circumstances, we greatly
reduce our power to change them. So in that situation,

(20:52):
if something like that was that to happen, is your
first thought, Oh my god, the oil brand or oh
my god, somebody stole the ring or oh my god. No,
I focus on I need to get the truck done.
It's that my daughter was on her way over. I
need to get truck done, so I just get it done.
And then I don't go and tell them and oh
my god, life, why, Like, I'm not wasting my time

(21:15):
think about it. So now she's coming over, We're having
a barbecue. But now I'm gonna sit there and spend
twenty minutes, thirty minutes talking about yeah, you know the
oil filter and I got it everywhere. I'm focusing now
in the present. Understand no victim mindset, because life has

(21:36):
very hard edges. We get hurt, we get betrayed, we
get overlooked, we get disappointed, and you will get knocked
the fuck down. No one escapes life without scars. But
question isn't whether life will throw its blows. The question
is what you do after the blows. Some people rise up.

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Some people learn scars and all scars and all stronger
than before. Others settled to a subtle but devastating mindset,
which is the victim mindset. The victim mindset is not
about having been hurt that happens to us all. It's
about clinging to the hurt, rehearsing, and building an identity

(22:18):
around it. It whispers, I can't because of what happened
to me. I'm powerless because of them. Life is against me,
So why even bother trying? It turns living into waiting.
Are you living or are you waiting? And if you're
waiting for, what, honestly, what are you waiting for? Like?

(22:43):
Are you waiting for? Like? I was just talking to
somebody a few days ago about scheduling, about like planning
my day, planning my week, and I'm like, I hate
planning my day. I hate planning my week. I understand
that dour situations, doctor's appointments and stuff that you kind
of have to because you're planning it around other people.
But when it comes to me, I like to live

(23:06):
based on surprises. I don't. I just I love when
somebody comes up to me like, hey, let's go get
ice creamed out. Let's do it. Let's do I mean
the fact that well I need to have it planned.
It's like, well, here's the problem. I'm not that important
that I need a schedule because most of my day
I'm just doing things. So it's not like somebody comes

(23:27):
up to me and says, oh, can you do this? Well,
I you know, I need to know in advance, because
I have shit. What were you doing watching TV, playing
a video game, scrolling on your phone. No, Like, I
savor life. I savor my relationships with people, and I
savor those moments. And Melissa comes home, then I'm expecting

(23:48):
that we're gonna do something, and all of a sudden,
she's like, we're doing that, and I'm like, awesome, let's
go because I love life. And to me, that's what
it's about. I don't want to live by time. I
think it's a waste. My life is too valuable to
do that. To me. You're you're you're cutting, you're you're

(24:08):
adding too much, too many seconds to a day. It's
just like I need to know, And I get it.
I understand you have to kind of know what you're doing.
But I just think it's funny that most people that
are like that really have nothing to do so I mean,
but anyway, this podcast is about breaking free from that
victim mindset, not pretending pain never happened, but refusing to

(24:32):
stay chained to it, not ignoring hardships, but deciding you
are bigger than life. We will, I will, we will,
and him will explore where the victim mindset comes from.
Very interesting, how it shows up the damage it causes
them most importantly, how to overcome that waste of time?
And along the way we'll return again and again to

(24:55):
the truth. Anyway, to move past a victim mindset, you
must have to understand it. You gotta be aware of it.
That's the problem. It's like I've always When I was
in hypnosis school, I remember the teacher brought up the
concept of AA. I've never drank, so, you know, I
thank god I've never had that issue. I feel horrible

(25:17):
for those that have. But it's like, to deal at AA,
the first thing you have to do is come to
grips that you're an alcoholic. To me, that is brilliant,
because that is everything. Come to grips that you are
a piece of shit, Come to grips that you are racist,
Come to grips that you are cheating, Come to grips
that you are a liar, come to grips that you
are filled with fear, Come to grips that you're just

(25:39):
not a good person, a good friend, because to me,
that's that's rock bottom, rock bottom. Now you look up
and you go, okay, I you know why am I
not a good friend? Why am I not a good husband,
a good wife, a good anything? Why? And then you
start working on it. But if you're gonna continue living
in a loud assuming that you know, it's everybody else,

(26:02):
it's everybody else, it's everybody else, and everything that happens
to me, you know it was the oil filter's fault.
It was the truck's fault that whoever took that filter
the ring off. God damn, I don't care, Like I said,
my life. I don't know about yours. Hopefully it is.
But my life is too valuable to sit around and
be oh yeah, blah blah blah like who cares? Psychologists

(26:24):
note think about this. Psychologists note that people fall into
this pattern of just of just negativity and the victim
mindset after real trauma, which is understandable disappointment or long
stretches of feeling unseen, unheard of. It starts as protection.
I was hurt once, so I must be cautious, which

(26:48):
the same thing goes for my oil filter. I got
screwed once, so I must be cautious. But over time
that cautiousness becomes a full time identity. Now I'm living
in fear to the point that I'm and I actually
know people who do stuff like this. I will never
change my oil filter again, because what if it happens again.

(27:08):
Instead of being someone who experienced the suffering, the person
becomes someone who identifies as the sufferer. The mindset is
fueled by three beliefs. You're ready helplessness, I can't change
my situation. Two hopelessness, I will never get better I'll
never figure out how to do that right again. And
blame shifting, which it annoys me when I hear people

(27:31):
do this. They have to just point fingers at this
person that person. Trust me, everything that you've done, everything
that you've been a part of, everything that you've done wrong,
somehow your fault, even if somebody else was completely and
totally involved in making it happen and it affected you.
The bottom line is if it's still affecting you. It's

(27:53):
you're making it your fault. If you've been cheated on
by someone, a chance you may have allowed allowed it.
Chances are you probably even saw it coming. So now
you can walk in and go, yeah, back in ninety
four or so and so cheated on me, and you know,
I mean I knew he was it. I've actually had
this conversation with people. I knew he was a cheater,

(28:14):
and I knew he was a criminal. And you know,
little did I know? I mean I kind of knew
he shoplifted. Here your fault, your fault. With these three
cornerstones of helplessness, hopelessness, and blame shifting, the victim's mindset
builds a house of just stagnation, and the longer you

(28:35):
live in it, the harder it feels to move out
of it. Okay, so are you do you have the
victim mindset? Victim mentality often shows itself in quiet, quite
familiar ways, constantly telling old stories of how you were wronged.

(28:57):
Anyone feeling envious or resentful of others' success? Are you
a jealous person feeling envious or resentful of others success?
I actually know quite a few people like that. And
it's sad because I cherish when I see people do well.

(29:20):
It means so much to me. Actually, even if they're
doing what I'm trying to do and they do it better,
If anything, I just I just take it as, Oh
my God, that's awesome. Good for you, teach me some lessons.
That's a mentorship. Everybody should have a mentor. Do you
have a mentor? Everybody should have a mentor. If you
look up the fortune five hundred people, you know, the
people that you assume they are doing so well for themselves,

(29:41):
they're actually not doing it alone. They have mentors, they
have somebody they could contact with. Just the dumbest of thoughts.
How about deflecting responsibility with I can't because blah blah
blah blah blah, bullshit, bullshit, believing bad luck follows you
more than most. That's a funny one. Yeah, And you

(30:04):
know the universe is out to get me. It's God's fault.
Everything is screwing up because of God. It's targeting me
personally or feeling drained, tired, or unmotivated most of the
time because I'm too young, too old, too weak, too
excuses full of shit, sorry, full of shit, surrounding yourself

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with people who echo your complaints. Ah again to my
famous mother, hang with shitty people, you become a shitty person.
If you want to become a multi millionaire and you're
hanging around with people that are poor as how and
have the poor victim mentality, chances are not gonna happen. Sorry.

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You have to find those people. You have to hang
out with the movers and the shakers and the dreamers
that are actually accomplishing shit. Those are the people. Okay, yes,
in the beginning it may be feel a little threatening
because they're doing better than you. But understand, many of
those people aren't assholes. They want to help others. They
want to inspire others, They want to help others succeed.

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So watch out who you hang out with. Look at
your closest circle of people. Notice that I did and
say friends people. Are they good people? Are they bad people?
Is everything that comes out of their mouth negative? Do?
They just complain constantly? So that's where you vibrate, And
you could say everything, no, I know, that's where you vibrate.

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You have limiting mindset, limiting friends, limiting beliefs. When you're
in this space, your energy broadcast like static low heavy
draining static. Just as a negative tone on one instrument
can deaden a room, this state of mind resonates with
others and creates an atmosphere of just blah heaviness. This

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is why people get stay stuck. It's easy to look
from the outside and say, well, stop being a victim,
but if you've lived there, you know it's not that simple.
I have there are hidden payoffs, attention. People come for you.
They sympathize with you when you walk around and say
I'm a victim, So I can understand why some people

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do like it. Some people try the positive thing, nothing happens.
They try the negative thing, and they get the pity vote, pity,
avoidance of risk. If everything is stacked against you, you
don't have to do shit. So it's just easier to
just be like, yeah, it's tough, my life is tough.
I tried, everything is tough, so I don't have to

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do anything but understand, and that's fine. That's fine. The
problem with that is come six days, six months, six years,
you will still be doing nothing. And then those people say,
well I don't care, start looking on Facebook and TikTok,
and then why is everybody else doing well because they

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drop that shit and they started focusing on what I
need to do to accomplish everything by the end of
my day, by the end of my week, my month,
and my year. I'm not going to wait to reach
certain goals by December, and no start today right now,
I'm talking to you. Misery may not be fun, but
it's familiar because we all know misery loves company. So again,

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ask yourself right now, I'm asking you. I'm talking to
you right now. You yes, you actually all of you?
Who is closest to you not family? Friend? Is this
a person that you want to be like? Is this
a person that resonates with you because they resonate with you.
Chances are you're like them because that's energy. Energy attracts energy.

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I feel bad for people that don't understand the conces
of energy. You hang out with positive people, you become positive,
you talk positive, you dream positive, your goals become amazing.
You hang out with somebody that just talks out of
their ass cons and you're like, Okay, this is this
is where your life goes. This is where your mindset goes,
This is where it affects your body. It affects your

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mind and affects your spirit. And last I checked, the
life that I was given is just too beautiful to
waste any time with negative people. But the understand the
cost is steep. It's your freedom of your energy, your potential.
You end up chained to these people. Well why does what?
Why does mindset matter so much? Well, here's where the

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concepts of good vibrations. Remember you know the beach Boys
good vibration. Yes, well it's something real, It's not just
a song. Imagine, Okay, this is real because I've actually
done this, because I hear, I can prove that I
have a whole collection here, covin, I have an entire
set tuning forks. Okay, imagine two tuning forks across the room.

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You strike one and the other will begin to hum
at the same frequency. I've actually done this. I have
two that are similar. Okay. So if I take this
and I stand over there and I take another one
of a different size, So let's say, uh, come on,

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tay this one. I take this one. See there are
different colors, different lengths. Okay, So if I take this
one and I hit it with a stick, Okay, over there,
nothing will happen to this one being over there, different frequency.

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Now if I take this one and I whack it
over there, and I have the exact same one, Okay,
another one, but the same one over there, way over there.
If you hit it hard enough, okay, that one will
start vibrating, it'll start humming on its own. That's called resonance.

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Same frequency, similar frequency, energy carrying across space. Invisible but
powerful human beings. Me and you are no different. The
mindset you live and vibrates outward. Walk into a room
with someone steeped in bitterness or talking to you on

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the phone, blah blah, bitch, bitch, complain my life socks,
blah blah blah. It affects your body even though you're listening. Okay,
it's affecting your health. It's affecting your mindset. It's like
a fucking cancer. And you say what you want. You
walk into the room with someone steeped with someone angry,

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with some bitter you will begin to feel the weight,
even though you think it's not there. It doesn't matter.
Your body feels it, your health feels it, your mindset
feels it. Spiritually connected, you feel it. It doesn't just
affect you. It shapes the tone of your relationships, your family,
your work, your future. People sense it, and often without

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even realizing it, they begin to resonate it. Misery attracts misery.
Negativity resonates with negativity. But flip the vibration, shift your
mindset and everything will change. How do you feel when
you're driving the car and you're listening to different radio songs.
You're just scrolling a song, song, okay, and then all

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of a sudden, one song comes on that's very nostalgic.
It's something that connects you to something wonderful in your life,
a romantic moment, an inspirational moment, and all of a sudden,
your whole body. You can have a headache, you can
be in pain, you can be and this is medically proven,
all of a sudden, you just for that moment, for

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those three minutes, you're just focused on the song and
the lyrics. You probably don't even know the lyrics, but
you're humming along and you're remembering somebody, and you're remembering
a situation and life is good. Your vibration is rising
from a song. It's a good feeling. Confidence resonates, courage resonates,

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the moment you choose to break free from the victim story,
you not only set yourself free, you free the room,
You free the air. You're breaking free from that victim mindset.
If the victim mindset is a cage, then freedom begins
with one radical realization that you, my friends are the
one with the key. You all have the key. You've

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always had the key. It's just easier to say you
don't have the key. Some people just throw the key
out so they can say I don't have the key.
That's the hard truth most people don't want to hear
because blaming others, blaming fate, blaming life is just so
much easier. It gives you a ready made excuse to
just sit on your ass and be lazy. But the

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trade off is enormous. It robs you of your own agency,
of who you are, of what you can accomplish in
your life, in your short life to short life. Breaking
free doesn't mean pretending you were never hurt, okay, It
means refusing to let that hurt define your entire life.

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It means saying, yes, I put a oil filter on
the truck and it spurted black. No, it was clean
already oil, so it was a golden oil, brand new
oil everywhere all over the place. But it is not
the sum total of who I am. So how do

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you do it? It comes down to three big shifts.
Number one, remember I said, aa, I'm an alcoholic. You
have to be aware of your problems, of everything, your fears.
You have to sit there and go okay and say it,
allowed to say it aloud in a room. I am
afraid of whatever. And then you have to take the
responsibility for it. It's my issue, even if somebody granted

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it upon me. It's my issue that I'm dealing with now. Responsibility, awareness, responsibility,
and then energy. Remember the tuning forks. Energy awareness, seeing
the story that you are telling yourself dealing with what's
happening in your life. The first step is to become
aware of the story that you keep repeating. I'm afraid

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of this, I'm afraid of this, I'm afraid okay, And
you do realize that every time you feel fear, you're
hurting your body physically. You are, you are remember that
that vibration. Yes, you're hurting yourself with fear. No one
ever supports me. Bad things always happened to me. I

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can't get ahead because of where I came. That's my
favorite because where I came from, well, you know what
I came from the hood, I mean real hood. I
have many stories of my hood life and how horrible
it was, but the bottom line is it was the
best time in my life. I met really good people
that had nothing. That showed me that sometimes having nothing

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as everything, because you focus on what you do have,
because everybody has something, even if it's just a cup
of soup. I have met some people that were a
million times poorer than I ever could have been, and
they had such a much better mindset than I ever
will fascinating. These stories are sneaky. They disguise themselves as

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facts that you believe this shit, this misery, but really
they are just interpretations your lens of how you perceive life.
That's why there are some people that have lost a
leg and they're just like suicidal. And there are other
people that have lost the leg that have gotten a
grant to get a fake leg and now they're singing
and jumping out of planes. It's what's yours. Here's the

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pivot point. You're ready instead of waiting for someone else
to change your life, you know, to win the lottery,
because the lottery somehow is going to help everything. Because
money helps everything. You decide to own what you can control.
Remember what I said ten things, cash being something you need.
That's fine, it's real. I'm not being saying it's not.

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But put it as number ten from one to nine,
guarantee there's a lot of stuff you can do to
start getting your goal going. Responsibility is not about self blame.
It's about reclaiming your authority. It's your book. You're writing
your book, not your neighbor, not your wife, not your parents,
because they didn't teach you right. Sorry, When you're in

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a victim mode, you hand over your steering wheel to
everyone else. Responsibility means gripping that wheel again. It's your
steering wheel, even if the road is rough, even if
the car is going everywhere, if the oil filter is
shooting oil everywhere. How about for those like myself who
we grew up in poverty. It was not my choice.

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My parents did everything they can and let me tell
you something, they gave me stuff that money can never
give me. But choosing how you approach money, work and mindset,
now that is your choice. Say someone betrayed you, someone
hurts you you were married and someone cheated on you
and oh my god, or just a boyfriend girlfriend dumped you,

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or you knew that they were playing you. The hurts
wasn't your fault. It was their fault, those bastards. But
deciding whether you build walls for the rest of your
life is your choice. Responsibility is what shifts that vibration get.
You know, the tuning fork fork, tuning fork, tuning fork

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shifts the vibration. It moves you from helplessness to empowerment,
from static to resonance. So what do you do. You
read to your frequency, which could be done at any moment,
any age. It's like resetting yourself. Here's where we circle
back to good vibrations. Think about it. The victim mindset
is like striking a flat, dull note. It rattles the

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room and it doesn't inspire anybody. It's like going to
a piano in the middle of room where everybody's looking
at you don't know how to play piano, and you
just start playing something. It just sounds like shit. It's
not because the song sounds like shit, It really has
nothing to do with that. It's because the harmonics of
what you played were just off and it hurts people's ears.
That's the first connection. It's just like, oh god, it's

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not like it sounds like shit. Realistically, the first honest
that you're ready, it feels like shit. When you shift
into responsibility and awareness, your tone changes. You broadcast resilience,
you broadcast strength, you broadcast possibility, and others feel it.
This isn't positive vibes, only fluff, not trying to blow

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smoke up your ass. It's no, I'm being realistic. It's practical.
Walk into a job interview with victim energy, slouched posture,
defeated tone, complaining about past employers, and see how fast
the door closes on your face. Walk in with ownership,
with positivity, with a grounded strength, and watch how differently

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people respond. I always tell people when they go for
a job, don't go in as if they really like
you really need them. I know you do, you need
their money, and I get it, but you also want
to go in an attitude that they will need you
once they meet you. That is why every job I've
ever gone to, I've gotten hired most times, just it

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wasn't even like it was supposed to be a real interview,
and it's just like, yeah, you can start tomorrow, because
I walk in an attitude pretty much like I'm running
shit and I'm going to run shit and I'm gonna
be good and I'm gonna be responsible, and I'm bringing
something to you, and they're gonna be like, I want
to what he's bringing. I'm not gonna walk in there
go Yeah. You know, I don't really like to work,

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and I have a back issue and my husband left
me and my dog shit on the bed today last
But oh my god, every job I've had was horrible.
I've worked for the worst people. Every Oh my god,
it was just crap after crap after Would you hire me?
Think about that energy doesn't lie the ripple effect. Throw

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a rock in a lake. How your vibration impacts others
around you, just by your attitude when you walk into
a room. The victim mindset is contagious. If you carry
it long enough, it seeps into your relationships. You might
notice friends avoiding your calls because they know the conversation
is going to suck, or family members sighing when you
walk into a room because there goes the party. It happens.

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But the flip side is just as true. When you
shift out of victimhood. Your resonance now lifts others. So
now people wanted to meet with you. They wanted to
be a part of your energy because you're vibrating higher
than them. Think about leaders you admire. Maybe it's a coach,
a parent, or even a stranger you met once. What
struck you wasn't just what they said. I'm trying to

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go deeper with this. I hope you're getting this. This
isn't about the song. It's about how you felt from it.
Same thing with conversations. It's how you felt from that conversation,
how they made you feel, even if they said nothing.
It's the energy they carried. They radiated strength even struggle.
They showed up knowing that life wasn't easy, but they

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showed you that it was still possible. That resonance one tone,
vibrating another. Your strength creates strength in others. Your courage
wakes up courage in the room. So when you shift
your mindset, it's not it isn't selfish, it's service because
you change the emotional climate for everyone around you. How

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do you reclaim your power? Well, it's one thing to
nod along with everything I'm saying, going yeah, he's yeah,
he's good. He's what he's saying, it's good, and then
when it ends, you just go back to your shitty life.
It's another to actually work on it, to live it.
So here are some practical a few practical ways to
start basic stuff. Language audit one of my favorites. Language audit.

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Pay attention to what you say. And I don't really
mean to others. I'm talking about to yourself what comes
out of here, because look look at su Loup. What
you say here is being heard here. People are really Yeah.
So if you're constantly walking around going I can't because

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it's not fair. I'm too old, I'm too young, I'm
to this, I'm too your body physical body starts to
like and then you have those days that you just
feel like shit and you're in a shitty mood and
you understand why and it's just like start saying a
few positive sentences about whatever, and you will notice that

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your shitty day just changes. Just change this. Listen to
a positive song, watch a positive thing. You shed all
that crap, replace them with ownership instead of saying I
can't because try saying I'm gonna figure it out. Instead
of saying it's not fair. Instead say it's a challenge,

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but I will handle it. Your language is your tuning fork.
Strike it right, and your energy vibrates. When my oil
was spilling everywhere, my first thought was an uh oh
oh no, O'll be good. I was just like, oh wow,
holy crap. What the fuck did I do wrong? How

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do I fix this moment? Quickly? Turn the truck off quickly.
First reaction, Turn the truck off and study the moment,
not sit there angry at the world. No, I just studied, okay,
what needs to be done immediately to fix this problem.
Then once I did it, you're ready. I was filled
with gratitude for the mishap. Truly, I went not a victim. Instead,

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I practiced gratitude. Thank you for the lesson. It's something
I needed to learn for whatever reason. Opposite vibrations start
with three things each morning. That's what I tell people,
and I'm so tired of it. When you wake up,
I have air in my lungs. I woke up, I
open my eyes and look around and go, I'm up.
I'm up. I don't take that for granted. Are you

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kidding me? People are just assumed like, well, I woke
up and you know, all right, now I'm gonna have
a shitty fuckernay m hmm. Every morning I wake up,
I let my dogs out, I look at the clouds,
I look at the sky, and now I look at Holly,
my horse. I look at the field. I waved to
the cows. You know, I have I have hummingbirds, hummingbirds,

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and butterflies. I have seen more hummingbirds. Oh. I have
seen more hummingbirds and butterflies here than I ever have anywhere.
We have thousands of freaking butterflies constantly, and they fly
up to the land. It's bizarre. Humming birds. I saw
one hummingbird in Connecticut once. Once here yesterday I saw two.

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You know, it's just like it's you constantly see them
and you're ready. I've seen four bald eagles, which one
was in the mill street. The other one was in
one of my trees. The other one flew up the
other day, which is funny because Melissa was facing me
and behind her, I see a bald eagle just take off.
I was like, there's a bald eagle. And I appreciate
those times. I don't just go that's a bald ego.

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I stop and I go, thank you, thank you for
showing me this stuff. I'm greatly appreciati of it all.
So I start my days in my with everything victim mode.
It thrives on in action. Break it by stacking small winds,
the little things in your life and stop focusing on

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the big things, because if the big things aren't happening,
they're like, well, then my life sucks. Be happy with
the smallest of things. Yesterday we had a barbecue. We
sat around, We had some burgers, some hot dogs, some
pasta salad which I don't like. I ate it. I
enjoyed it. Melissa made brushette the other day, bushetta broushette,
all from vegetables that we grew, Roma tomatoes that we grew.

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My daughter cooked the day before. She made a squash.
It was so good. We grew that that came from
our garden. The basil. The basil is so fresh, I
mean real fresh. We grew it, and I was so
appreciative of it. It beats going to the store and just

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buying it. Surround yourself with resonance. This one's big. You
resonate with what you surround yourself with. Remember the tuning forks,
so If you keep company with complainers, you'll complain more
or you just will be numb. Will Whatmever, if you
spend time with builders, dreamers, goal people, you'll start building

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those things. Pay attention to who's in your orbit. Do
they drain you or fuel you? If the tone of
the room is always flat, maybe it's time to bring
in a new instrument. Remember I haven't brought this up
in a while, but every Monday I release a Monday

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Morning mind's eye meditation. Remember that meditation we walked through.
Yesterday I did a meditation on the same topic, meditation
helps you. Yesterday's meditation was about wearing a heavy cloak
of victimhood. Allow that cloak to fall down to the ground,
releasing all that pressure and energy of just negative thoughts

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and bullshit thoughts and limiting beliefs. I'm afraid of this,
I'm terrified of that. Bah blah blah. I can't, I won't,
I shouldn't, I couldn't. The goal isn't to erase your past.
You don't need to pretend it didn't hurt, it didn't happen,

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it didn't shape you. The goal is to stop worshiping it,
to stop harping on it. Your past is one chapter,
not the whole book. It's a page. Sometimes it's just
a paragraph or a sentence. Living in victim mode is
like rereading the same painful page over and over and
over and over and just re ripping the scab and
re ripping the scab. I'm afraid of this. I'm afraid

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of this. I'm afraid of this. But when are you
gonna do something about it? Refusing to turn the page,
you know you're not gonna advance forward. It's you can't.
You can't advance forward when you're harping on something in
the past. You can't. And I feel bad for those
people that just don't grasp the concept, because there are

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things that when you do, all of a sudden, you
feel lighter, You have full momentum going forward, and you're like, wow,
this feels great. Right. You have an anchor holding you back,
whatever it may be, your doubts, your fear, whatever you're
limiting beliefs. That's one thing that's not letting you release
completely and move forward. The antidote to victimhood, Well, if

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the victimhood, let's just say, was a disease, resilience is
the cure Resilience doesn't mean life is easier. That pain
doesn't sting. It sucks, it punches you in the face,
but it means you bounce back. You bend, you don't
break white break. Think about a tree in a storm.
A rigid tree snaps from the wind, hits too hard.

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It happens, but the tree that bends, that sways to
what gives way, survives. Resilience isn't the swing. When you
live with resilience, who say this didn't go my way,
but I will try again. That hurt, but it won't

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define me. Life knocked me down, but I'm not staying down.
Resilience takes energy, but it also gives energy back. Every
time you get up, you're proving to yourself that well,
now you can do it. And a good hypnosis thing
that I teach is reframing, so you're reframing adversity. Resilience
is built by reframing adversity. Instead of why did this

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happen to me? You say what can I take from this?
Instead of saying failure, you say it's information, it's data.
It's a lesson in disguise. Betrayal. Oh my god, somebody
broke my heart. Somebody hurt me. No, it's clarity about
who can't walk with you any longer in the future, hardship. Hardship,

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it's training for strength that you will need later. That
isn't This isn't sugarcoating. It's perspective shifting. It's refusing to
give suffering the final word, because the truth is that
adversity is unavoidable, but victimhood is optional. Modern psychology backs

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to south. Carol Dweck, which is somebody that I've picked
on many times. I've chosen her quotes and her sayings
because they're fascinating. Has done research on growth mindset, and
it shows that people who see failure as feedback grow
stronger and more successful than those who see failure as
permanent defeat. Think about that. Think of it like tuning

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a guitar. If it's out of tune, it sounds awful,
but that doesn't mean that the guitar is broken. It
just needs to be adjusted. The same with your mindset.
You're not broken. But then there's like vibrations and relationships.
Here's where the good vibrations and analogy really shines in In relationships,
whether family, romantic, or professional. Energy is contagious if one

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partner is always broadcasting victim hood and my life sucks.
The other starts to feel drained. They pick up the frequency,
just like those tuning forks. If you and that person
were very different, you would feel nothing. Conversations become heavy,
joy becomes scarce. Soon the relationship vibrates at a low,

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flat tune. But flip the script, flip the frequency, and
the opposite happens. It does when one person chooses resilience, gratitude,
and ownership. They lift the tone of the room. Their
partner feels lighter. Conversations become solutions instead of complaints. Possibility

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replaces blame. In marriage. In partnership, the victim mindset often
shows up as constant criticism, blame, or just playing small.
You never let me, you always hold me back. I
can't because of you, blah blah blah. But relationships thrive
on shared energy. When you broadcast empowerment, your partner feels

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your empowerment. Suddenly it's not you versus me, it's us
versus the problem. That shift alone can turn a struggling
relationship into a thriving relationship. In families and friends, let's
just say, in families, in victimhood, can echo across generations.
A parent who broadcast defeat my father often raises children

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who internalize the same vibration. We're also unlucky. We can't win.
Life is against us. Lucky. I had an uncle who,
trust me, was not a victim. So whenever I hung
out with somebody who's had that victim mindset on the weekends,
I would hang out with somebody who is very positive
and would never be a victim. That's how generational patterns
can change when you be come aware of it. We

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all know that friend who drains the room the moment
they walk in. Hopefully it's not you. Every story is
about being wronged, Every plan is about why it can happen.
Every laugh comes with a sigh. If you carry victim energy,
that friend might be you. But just as draining energy

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pushes people away, uplifting energy draws them right back in.
People want to be near those who radiates possibility, those
people that are positive. That's why resilient people seem magnetic.
They broadcast to frequency others want to catch This. Vibration
does not stop at personal relationship. At scales, communities, workplaces,

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even entire cultures can vibrate with victimhood or resilience this.
Think about a workplace, okay, where everyone blames management, complains
about policies and whispers and unfair, and what happens. The
place sucks to work at. The energy becomes stagnant, productivity drops,
the moral morale takes. Now, imagine a workplace where people say,

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we can find a solution together, we will figure this out.
The frequency is entirely different. People step up, creating, creativity flows,
progress happens. Societies work the same way. History shows us
that nations rise when people take responsibility, innovate, and believe
in their future, and nations have crumbled when victimhood becomes

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a dominant tone, when people say it's all rigged, so
what why try? Who cares? I'm not gonna bother voting.
I can't change anything. That's a shame. Your individual choice
not to live as a victim isn't just about you.
It's just about the collective frequency of the planet, and
that matters most. Then, most realize breaking free from victimhood

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is not a one time declaration. It's daily tuning. Okay.
Just like instruments drift out of tuna after time, so
do we. Life hits us with disappointments. It happens, and
before we know it, we ourselves are just humming garbage.
What can you do to fix that? Start early in
the morning, before you grab your phone, sit for two

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minutes and breathe. Look around the house, pet your dogs,
pet your cat. What frequency do I want to broadcast today?
What kind of day will I have? Set one intention? Courage, gratitude, strength.
Let it be the note you strike first thing in
the morning. Or you can see something negative on the

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internet of the news and just ah, life sucks, crime
is up, taxes are up, mouth screw everything. Okay, throughout
the day, check in on yourself. What am I broadcasting? Now?
Remember the tuning fork. You are that tuning fork. From
this moment on, this is you? Okay? How are you
going to vibrate today? What kind of day are're gonna have?

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Are you gonna vibrate happiness? Joy? Or you're just gonna
like walk around with like a bump on a log
before bed? Ask yourself, did I lift the room today
or did I drain it? Did I bring happy conversations
to other or were that just the mean bitch? No judgments,
just being aware, Just be aware of your day. What

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kind of person were you? Where you walking around being
jealous and envious of other people's Were people telling you
their goals and dreams and you are just telling them
how it's a waste of time? But then here's the thing.
Does I have to be permanent? Absolutely not used to
have tomorrow? Now? What kind of day are you gonna
have tomorrow? What are you gonna sound like tomorrow? The

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freedom of letting go at the end of the day.
The victim mindset is about holding on, holding onto the past,
to the pains and the misery, to the blame. Letting
go feels scary because it feels like you're giving up
your story. But in truth, letting go isn't weakness. It's
now freedom. When you unclasp, as I said, that heavy

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cloak and you drop it, you don't lose your identity.
You reclaim it. That heavy cloak was not you. It
does not define you. It's just a coat, a cape.
You drop it, you discover what you are without that
bullshit weight. And that's where the vibrations come from. A

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life not defined by pain, but by possibility, by the
many possibilities, not stuck in bitterness but broadcasting hope. Who
are you without the victim mindset. One of the hardest
questions to face is if I let go of being
the victim, then who am I? Because a lot of
people live with such a facade of being miserable the

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entire life. It just becomes who they are. But it's
really not. But it's just who you choose to think
you are, because tomorrow you could just be an incredible person.
For many the victims start becomes a kite, like I said,
like a comfort blanket. It explains why things haven't worked out.
It just justifies anger. It even gives a strange sense
of identity. I am the one who's wrong, diet, you

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know everything is about me. I'm trying to be a
survivor here. No you're not. But like I said, you
strip it away and suddenly the room gets quiet. There's
no old story or excuse to lean on to hide behind.
It's just you. Your choice is your future, your responsibility,

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and that's the point of this podcast. The person you
are without victimhood is the person you were always meant
to be, strong or clearer, more alive, someone who doesn't
live in reaction to what was, but in creation of
what can be. When you let go of the victim identity.
You don't lose yourself, but you actually find yourself in

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the first people that are negative walking heavy to a room,
they complain, they blame, and they sigh. As I said,
the energy is flat. You can almost feel the air
thick when somebody just walks in and you're like, oh
my god, Hopefully, like I said, it's not you. This
is the resonance of victimhood. But then you have other

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people that walk into the room and say, how can
we solve this problem? They laugh, Even when things are tough,
they cheer for each other's wins. The energy is light, alive, hopeful.
This isn't the resonance of resilience. When I took that
oil filter and I went like this and I saw
that there was no little washer thing, I laughed out

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loud the fact that I didn't see it. I just
am so used to just grabbing it out of the
box and touching with the thing and just putting it
in and just all right. I laughed. Every word you speak,
every sigh, every laugh, it's all broadcast is out into
the universe. People feel it, even if they can't explain it.
You are either dum telling their strings or waking up

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a room. That's why choosing to shed the victim mindset
is bigger than just your personal happiness. It's about legacy,
it's about impact. It's about leaving every room better than
you found it. Do you understand that? Hopefully? What vibration

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do you broadcast every week, every day, every minute? Right now?
What will echo after you leave this place? I've brought
this up in many situations. At your funeral, your funeral
right now, you're a how was gonna say? A fly
on the wall. You're a ghost on the wall. You're
a ghost flying around, hovering above. What are people saying

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about you? What did you share? What stories did you
share with others? What relationships did you have through life?
What kind of person? What did you give back to
this planet? Did you just take by consume or did

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you give back? Sharon Love? Think about that? What would
be said at your funeral about you? Be honest and
understand it's not permanent. If you're just like, oh my god,
I'm just a miserable, fucking person. I'm a piece of shit. Okay, good,
That's called awareness step one. So now you just go, Okay, now,

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what do I need to do to fix this, to
change it, because you can. Nothing is permanent. Death is permanent.
Everything else is not. Life will always test you. People
will hurt you, Plans will fail, Circumstances will shift. That's
the reality of living. It is what it is. But
here's the choice. You can live as the victim, carrying

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a heavy cloak, humming a dull, horrible note that just
drags others down. Or you can unclasp and release this cloak,
striking a new frequency and become the tone that wakes
the world. The victim mindset is now who you are.
It's just a story you've told yourself and you have
the pen. My friends, you can put it down, you

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can rewrite something new. Remember, energy never stays hidden you.
You are always broadcasting. Right now, you're broadcasting, and the
residents you carry, whether defeats or resilience, bitterness or gratitude,
will ripple farther than you ever realize. So choose carefully,
choose boldally. Choose to be the tone that lifts the world,

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the vibration that inspires the person who refused to be
defined by hardship. Because the truth is, you are never
meant to be the victim. You are never meant to
be vibrating, like just like a bad music tone. Sound beautiful,
be beautiful, feel beautiful. And I hope I made you think.

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I hope I made you question your existence and to
appreciate every tomorrow, every today, and be grateful for all
of the experiences of the past that have made you
who you are. Right now, keep this in mind. Choose
action over excuse, purpose over comfort, and the work that
matters over the distractions that do not. My name is

(01:10:26):
Jimmy Gonzalez. This is Henry who is sleeping, and this
was now your reset yourself twenty two podcasts. Go forward
and live your life to the fullest. Thank you, Thank you,
thank you, thank you. Thank you so much for listening, liking,
and sharing, and especially sharing with others. It means a
lot to me. Many blessings to you all. Be well

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and prosper Shell was brought to me finally.

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