The Reset Yourself 22 Podcast (Episode 186) "Get back on YOUR Path"

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Please note this show contains adult language and themes and
is intended for mature audiences only.

Speaker 2 (00:08):
Listener discretion is advised. Wow. Thank you, thank you, thank you,

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thank you. Appreciate it.

Speaker 3 (01:10):
Welcome.

Speaker 2 (01:12):
Welcome to the Reset Yourself twenty two podcasts. In this
weekly podcast, I focus on sparking your inner confidence and
igniting your belief in yourself. I'm your host with my
co host which is laying right here, which can't see
me yet, but he'll.

Speaker 3 (01:26):
Probably get up.

Speaker 2 (01:27):
Henry and I am always very thrilled to share our
thoughts and research.

Speaker 3 (01:32):
With you as we go along on this journey.

Speaker 2 (01:35):
Together, we can nurture a mindset that empowers us to
reach our fullest potential. I write, see there you go.
I RT and record every episode you challenge our thinking
and to encourage us to reflect and inspire actionable, realistic
steps towards personal growth. Whether you're facing a career transition,

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seeking to overcome challenges, or simply striving for great fulfill
in life, this podcast is your go to resource from
motivation and practical insights. My inspiration to do this is
to show.

Speaker 3 (02:11):
People how to focus.

Speaker 2 (02:13):
More on what they can accomplish so they can do
the things they need to do when they need to
do them, so they ultimately get the things they want
when they wish to have them.

Speaker 3 (02:24):
This episode is now dedicated to.

Speaker 2 (02:30):
You over there, you in the back. Yeah, not you were,
you were like five weeks ago. You exactly tell me
what you want and I will show you how to
get it.

Speaker 3 (02:43):
Question is are you willing to do the work?

Speaker 2 (02:46):
That's a tough fee. So I want to talk about
stepping in your path and how throughout our lives we
end up going on many paths. Some of us will
actually just go on one or two, and then there

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are those like me who go on many who we
get on a path and we get we we drill
the hell out of it, we get good at it,
we excel at it, and then one day we just like, okay,
I've taken this to the limit, and what's next for me?
And before you know it, this path I know is
going to end because everything is temporary and I'm on

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a new path. So there comes a moment in every life,
sometimes whispered, sometimes roaring yelled, when we're faced with a
simple but life altering question, are you going to keep
living in the safe.

Speaker 3 (03:44):
Shadow of what you know?

Speaker 2 (03:47):
Or are you going to stop or step boldly into
what you are meant for?

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Because some of us know what we're meant for.

Speaker 2 (03:55):
Sometimes we, just as they say, we are our own
worse than me. That moment is a calling when you
know that there's something else for you, You know that
there's another door over there waiting for you. You're just not sure,
and it doesn't help that you ask people in your
lives that they're not sure, but they they tell you

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what they feel, which is nice, but only you know
it always. It doesn't always come with a trumpet or
a burning bush. Sometimes it arrives in quiet dissatisfaction or
restless hunger for something more, or a sudden flash of
clarity while you're doing something completely ordinary and you're just awaken,

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walking through your land, waking up to your partner beside you,
or hearing your own voice say I want more in life,
I want more out of my life. This is the
moment when your true path begins. We spend so much
of our lives playing by the rules that we sometimes

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didn't write. We do what's expected. We chase stability. We
talk ourselves out of dreams because someone told us the
risks were too high. We tuck away the deep knowing
inside of us, the one that whispers You're made from
more than this. You are. But something shifts when we

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finally stop waiting for permission, when we realize that the
right time just doesn't exist, When we stop asking what
if I fail and start asking what if I succeed
Beyond my wildest imagination. That shift is not just about ambition.

Speaker 3 (05:41):
It's about ownership.

Speaker 2 (05:42):
It's about stepping into the full power of your life
with both feet on the ground and your eyes wide open.
It's about recognizing that the life you were meant to
live won't just fall into your lap. You have to
step forward and claim it. Step yes is often the hardest.

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We all know that feeling of standing on the edge
of something new and afraid to jump. Whether it's starting
a new career, going back to school, building a business,
moving to a different place for a different state, or
letting go of something that no longer serves us.

Speaker 3 (06:20):
Yes, it's terrifying.

Speaker 2 (06:22):
There's fear, there's doubt, a million reasons to just stay put.
But here's the truth. Nothing truly great in life happens
without that leap. Taking the first step is hard, not
because you're weak, but because that step demands transformation, it

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requires you to shift from who you've been to who
you are, becoming a demand's belief and most importantly, demand's
trust in your self. You're not supposed to have all
the answers at the beginning. You're not supposed to know
every twist, and that's the point. The magic isn't in

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having it all figured out. It's in having the courage
to walk forward anyway. Your path is yours alone to take.
I'm sorry but I might sound a little spoiled when
I say this, but once I get to the end
of a path or a journey.

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Kind of bored with it.

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Like I enjoy the fight, I enjoy the trials, I
enjoy the tribulations, I enjoy the hard work. And then
when I get to the end, yes, I've learned. I've
learned to be very grateful for the path that I
chose and for the ending that I got to. But
then I can't help it go Okay, what's next? What's next?

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And what's next? Too often we measure our steps against
someone else's path. We think we should be further along,
or that we're too late, or that we missed her chance.

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But here's the thing.

Speaker 2 (07:57):
Your path is yours. It doesn't have a deadline. It
doesn't need to look like anyone else's. You might be
twenty five or fifty five, or eighty five or one
hundred and five, God bless when you finally step into
what you were meant to do. Like I said, it's
not a race against each other. It's a race against well.
It's a race for yourself. And it will still be

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the right time when you choose to do it and
when you finish it. Life doesn't hand out expiration dates
for purpose. That's kind of pointless. If you're still breathing.
If you're still breathing, you are still becoming. You're still
allowed to change your direction time and time and time again,
and time again and time again. And more than that,
you should, You should? Why not? This world isn't shaped

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by people who stayed comfortable. It's shaped by those who
dare to listen to something deeper than logic, who risked
being misunderstood, who cares what people think, who looked fear
in the eye and moved forward anyway. You don't have

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to wait for someone to validate your dream. You don't
need applause, You don't even need certainty. All you need
is the willingness to say, I may not know exactly how,
but I'm going anyway. The path is what's the point here.
Stepping into your path doesn't mean everything gets easy. In fact,

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sometimes it gets harder because now you're living aligned, awake
and on purpose. But here's the thing. Hard is not
the enemy. Did you hear what I said? Hard is
not the enemy. Hard means you're growing. It means you're
stretching into something new. The real reward isn't just in

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what you have accomplished. It's in who you've become. Your
path will shape you. It will sharpen you, It will challenge,
it will humble you, knock your ass on the ground,
but then bless you. It will ask for more than
you thought you had and then reveal that you had
even more to give. You'll find strength you didn't know

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was in you I have. You'll make decisions that scare
you and come out stronger on the other side, because
you always do. You will fall, but you will get
up and through it all, you'll be walking in alignment

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with the life you were meant to live. And isn't
that worth everything to you? Recognizing your path, listening to
the inner voice in your head.

Speaker 3 (10:51):
Before any journey begins.

Speaker 2 (10:53):
There's a stirring, a voice within that gently begins to
tug at your awareness. Might sound like a whisperer in
the quieter restlessness that just won't let you sleep. And
I know that voice very well. It's not loud, Oh
God no. In fact, it's often drawn up by the
world's noise and that's just clouding it out. But it's

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it's still there. As I said, it wakes me up.
And if you are still enough, still enough, honest enough,
and brave enough, you'll hear it. And if you don't,
you're not listening because it's there. This is what I
love when people say when I say what do you
want to do? Or where do you? I don't know?

Speaker 3 (11:36):
Yes you do, trust me, you do. And if the
answer still.

Speaker 2 (11:41):
Is I don't know, then you're not listening, you're not feeling,
you're not taking it all in that voice, your inner voice,
your gut you're knowing is the most faithful guide you
will ever have. I did a podcast two ago, three
ago about guts. Listening to your gut. Listen to that podcast. Yes,

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it is, it's the quiet truth inside of you, the
part of your being untouched by fear, by doubt, or expectation.
It is the most ancient part of you, the part
that remembers who you really are, not the person that
you think you are, not the person that you feeled
fear and.

Speaker 3 (12:17):
Stupidity because of people.

Speaker 2 (12:24):
It remembers who you are and why you came here,
long before the world tried to convince you to be
someone else. Your path is already inside of you. Philosophically,
this idea touches something deep that your path isn't something
you find outside of yourself. It's something you uncover from within.

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From the moment you were born, you were a carrier
of something very unique. Some call it purpose, other call
it calling destiny, soul contract, sacred mission. No matter, that's
not important. What matters it means is the same thing.
There's something that only you are here to give the world,

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not because you're better than others, but because your life
is a one of a kind life. No one has
your exact story, your voice, your pain, your heart, your rhythm.
Nobody we get distracted, we forget, we buy into someone

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else's blueprint for success or happiness. It's okay to look
for other people for guidance and to learn from them,
But stop trying to be like them.

Speaker 3 (13:41):
Don't walk in their path. Why create your own?

Speaker 2 (13:47):
Your truth is deep down, we already know what we're
meant for. It's just that we've learned to ignore that knowing.
We mistake busyness for direction, We confuse comfort for alignment.
We trade the call for a checklist. But the call
never leaves. It waits, sometimes patiently, sometimes loudly. And when

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you finally stop running, numbing, doubting, or trying to force
a life that doesn't fit, it'll be there whispering. Are
you ready now? The soul speaks in silence. If you
want to recognize your path, you must get quiet.

Speaker 3 (14:31):
The world, God, the world is.

Speaker 2 (14:33):
Full of noise, social media, headlines, opinions, opinions and opinions,
and so many fucking fears that they scream at us
every day. Nonsense, because that's all they are, is nonsense.
There's nothing there. The world is just full of noise.

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But your soul does not scream. It waits, and it
speaks clearest when you give it space and when you
really lead, quiet down and listen. This is why moments
of silence out on the farm, walking through the woods,
waking early before the world rises feels so sacred. It's

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because those are the moments when your soul finally gets
a word in. The philosopher sore and Kirk Guard once said,
if I were to wish for anything, I should not
wish for wealth and power, but for the potential, passionate sense,

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for the eye which sees the possible. That is what
happens when we go inward.

Speaker 3 (15:46):
We begin to see the possible. Your path becomes.

Speaker 2 (15:49):
Clearer, not by staring at a map, but by turning
in to what makes your heart race, what makes your
spirit feel alive. It brings you peace when no one's watching.
It is deeply personal. What stirs your soul may seem
absurd to others, and that's okay. Your path doesn't need

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to make sense to anyone but you. The dream doesn't
need their permission, The risk doesn't need to be approved
by anyone. Only you can feel the pull of your
becoming the echo of the eternal. Okay, let's go a
little bit deeper. There's an ancient idea found in many

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spiritual traditions that each soul is born with the seed
of its true purpose planted deep inside. The Greeks called
it your damon, a divine guiding force some indigenous tribes
and other parts of the world. Ain't that fascinating? Believe
in spirit, blueprints unique to each person, and Eastern philosophy.

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There's an idea of dharma. I love that word.

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A cosmic role.

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You're here to fulfill one thread in the vast tapestry
of life. Is that beautiful? That sea knows when to
bloom and you can't ignore it. You can bury it
beneath fear, shame or distraction and be numb. It's not
gonna die. It's not gonna die. It will keep trying

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to rise. That an easy feeling. You sometimes get that
longing for something more.

Speaker 3 (17:42):
That's the sea trying.

Speaker 2 (17:43):
To push through the soil of your life. And one day,
one day you feel it, You get up and you
go Now is the time. You may not know why,
you may not even have a plan, but something deep

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within you says, I have to do this. That's your
true path revealing itself. Not with blueprints, not with schematics,
not with notes, just a sense of urgency, with truth
that you know and I know that you know that,
I know that you know that You are not here

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by accident. You didn't land on this earth, in this body,
in this time, just to survive, paybills and die. That's
a thought for extremely closed minded people. You are part
of something amazing, greater, and that something begins to unfold
when you finally say yes, Say yes, did you say

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it to what's been calling you all along? That courage,
that courage to listen, to listen to that way is
to reclaim your life. It doesn't require a dramatic act.
Sometimes it's as simple as pausing long enough to ask yourself,

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what do I really want? And why am I afraid
to want it? How many of you are afraid of
actually succeeding. I'm okay with failing. I'm good at it.
Succeeding I'm afraid of it? Why am I afraid of it?

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That honesty alone can break open a door to everything.
Your life is trying to speak to you. Your desires
are sacred clues, Your pain carries wisdom, Your joy is
your compass. All of it together is pointing toward a
path that only you can walk. But first, hmm, you

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must listen, listen like your life depends on it. Now,
I don't know what I want to do. Listen like
your life depends on it, because in a way it does.
If the path is calling and the inner voice is whispering.
Why do so many of us hesitate? Why do we
stay in place that in a place that no longer

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feeds us, cling to habits that quietly poison us, and
convince ourselves that this is just the way things are.
The answer is simple but powerful, fear of the unknown.

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We are creatures of habit, even when our habits hurt us,
even when our comfort zone are prisons in disguise. There's something,
oddly said, deductive about the familiar, even if it's killing
our dreams. We stay because we know this place. We've
mapped every inch of the walls, and I am comfortable.

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And then that's when people say I don't like change.
We understand the routine, which makes perfect sense, and in
a world of uncertainty, that kind of predictability becomes a
wonderful shield, one we grip with white knuckles in fear
of letting go of the unknown. But here's the truth.

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Comfort it's not the same as peace, and familiar is
not the same as aligned the life that's calling you,
the one you're meant for doesn't exist inside the walls
you've built for safety. It exists beyond them, and to
reach it, you must be willing to face the discomfort
of not knowing exactly what the hell comes next.

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Because here's the thing.

Speaker 2 (21:56):
Fears disguise fear, and they make you think that it's
something that's protecting you all the time, but usually it's not.
It's a master of disguise. It doesn't always show, I'm afraid.
Sometimes it just shows up as procrastination. I'll do it
when i'm ready overthinking. Hmmm, let me just plan it

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all out first and and and plan it again. And
then I'm gonna plan it again, which again I'm okay
with planning. But you're gonna plan out the planning of
the planning, and then you get a new notebook to
do more planning of the planning, and then you're gonna
second guess you're planning. And then you may find that
you're gonna show your planning to somebody who you really
shouldn't be going to, and they're gonna give you their

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opinion of their planning, and before you know it, a year,
two years, five years, ten or fifteen years have gone
by and you haven't done shit. Then you have perfectionism.
It's not the right time because it's never the right time.
Here's a little secret. You're ready. It's always the right time.

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It's always the right time. You make it. It's your time.
But beneath all of these masks is one core belief.
If I don't know how this ends, I don't want
to start. What if I fail? That belief keeps so
many people stuck in a loop, waiting, wishing, watching others
live bodally, living their lives, succeeding.

Speaker 3 (23:25):
Trust me, they're failing too.

Speaker 2 (23:26):
But they're failing and succeeding and failing and succeeding, and
you're just not even You're just there. That belief keeps
so many people stuck in a loop, waiting, wishing, watching
false hope, hoping for that someday that some days just

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the ghost. It haunts us with false hope.

Speaker 3 (23:52):
And the longer we wait, the heavier lives feel.

Speaker 2 (23:54):
Not because we're burdened by failure, but because we're haunted
by potential. The known cage versus the unknown field. What's
out there? I feel safer inside my cage. Imagine this,
You've lived your whole life inside a walled, walled garden,
it's not terrible.

Speaker 3 (24:14):
There's food or shade, it's familiar.

Speaker 2 (24:17):
But beyond the walls, out there, over that wall is
an open field, vast, wild and chartered, and something in
you knows your true life is out there. The gate
isn't locked, it's never been. You could leave in any time,
but fear whispers, what if there's nothing out there? What

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if you're not ready, What if you can't make it
on your own? So you stay.

Speaker 3 (24:48):
And that's how comfort draps us.

Speaker 2 (24:49):
It convinces us that the known, even when it's small
and sometimes suffocating, is better than the unknown, even if
the unknown could see at us free. But here's the
sacred paradox. Your freedom lives on the other side of fear.
Yes it's risky, Yes you might stumble. Yes there are

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no guarantees. But in stepping into that open field, you
reclaim your soul, you reclaim your power. You become a creator,
not just a survivor, and that is worth everything.

Speaker 3 (25:27):
Fear isn't the enemy.

Speaker 2 (25:28):
Fear avoidance is the enemy. There's a belief out there
that says we must be fearless to succeed. That's bullshit.
That's nonsense. You don't need to be fearless, you need
to be brave. Fear is natural, it's wired into us.
It kept our ancestors from being eaten. But in today's world,

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fear rarely shows up to save us. It shows up
to stall us, to hold us back. There's no dinosaurs
chasing you, there's no saber toothed tires trying to kill you.

Speaker 3 (26:04):
Fear of trying a nude Think about that.

Speaker 2 (26:07):
Fear of what if I try a new job and
it doesn't work out. What if I date somebody new
and it just doesn't work out? Oh dear, oh my,
You don't need to be fearless. But in today's world,
fear rarely shows up to save us. And you don't
conquer fear by pretending it isn't there. You conquer it

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by moving anyway, by saying by saying I see you, fear,
I see you fear. Fuck you, fear, but you don't
get to drive. Some of the most successful, joyful, and
fulfilled people on earth are afraid every single day, but
they don't let that stop them. They've simply made peace

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with uncertainty. They've stopped waiting to feel ready. Instead, they
side to be ready you can too.

Speaker 3 (27:04):
From survival to thriving.

Speaker 2 (27:05):
Survival mode teaches us to cling to what we know.
It keeps us cautious, reactive small, but thriving demands something different.
Thriving says, let go of the safety net, say yes
before you're certain, leap before you see the landing. This

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isn't recklessness. It's trust, not blind trust in the world.
I'm not telling you to just jump into the darkness.
Do your research quick, but not too much. Have deep
trust in yourself, Trust that you are capable, that you
are worthy, that you will figure it out, that you
don't need to see the whole staircase to take the

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first step. Bottom line is I you know, could be,
but I don't think I'm talking to a eight year
old or a ten years that really hasn't been around.
I think most of you statistically whoa Actually it's very vast,
but not gonna say thirty, forty, fifty sixty, and you're

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still walking around with fear. You're still doubting yourself at
that age. How many rodeos have you been in, how
many times have you fallen? How much life as you
have you experienced already head face first to still doubt

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yourself and fear yourself. This is the kind of trust
that turns lives around, that builds empires, that creates legacies.
It's that beautiful unknown. The unknown is not your enemy.
It's your birthplace. Everything beautiful in your life once lived
in the unknown. When you were like one. Every relationship,

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every skill, every opportunity, every joyful moment, you didn't always
know they were coming.

Speaker 3 (29:03):
You just kept going. Shit just kept happening.

Speaker 2 (29:07):
And that's what makes the unknown holy.

Speaker 3 (29:11):
It's not empty, it's pregnant with possibility.

Speaker 2 (29:13):
I love that it's not mine.

Speaker 3 (29:15):
You don't have to conquer the unknown.

Speaker 2 (29:17):
You have to step into it with open hands and say,
I don't know what's ahead, but I know who I am.
Got it, get it good. I don't know what's ahead,
but here's the thing, I know who I am. I
may not have a map, but I'm still going. I

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trust the road will rise to meet my feet, because
it will. I think it's funny when people say to
me when you're driving, like, oh my god, I'm afraid
of getting lost, and I'm like, the world and technology
have gotten so good that don't say that word, And
then it's followed with no I have GP well, right, yes,
you have tools, you have a brain, and you have hopefully,

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hopefully a sense that we tend to refer to as common.
So the concept again, just always putting it out there
that what if I get lost in life?

Speaker 3 (30:11):
What if I fail?

Speaker 2 (30:12):
How you just keep trying and you keep driving, and
you keep going, and while you're going, instead of focused
on fear, you're focusing on looking out the window and
enjoying the sky and the trees and the birds and
the road ahead of you. I'm not driving focused on

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the mirror behind me, where I was I was. I'm
focused on enjoying the moment, the drive, the people I'm with,
how the world looks around me at this time. First,
then I look up forward and I want to I
can't wait to get over there. Look at this guy

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over there. Look at the clouds. How beautiful Kentucky. Sorry
to share this, We have the most beautiful clouds. It's weird.
I know that sounds odd, but I every day I
will say it, Kentucky skies. Maybe it's because the land
is so flat here that not so flat, but it
is pretty flat compared to Connecticut that you see so
much more in the oh my god, it's just so beautiful.
So when I drive, I look around. I don't drive

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focus on what if I drive off the road, what
if I hit a cow, what if I get pulled over,
what if the tire falls off the car. I'm not
wasting my time. That's a waste of time. I'm enjoying
the company. I'm enjoying the music. I'm enjoying the warmth
of the sunlight. Do you know that in the past, Well, no,

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My first time was years ago. I saw an entire
rainbow front and back. I mean when I left and right,
the entire thing. It was in the.

Speaker 3 (31:41):
Desert on the West coast.

Speaker 2 (31:43):
It was amazing. That actually was the most continuous rainbow
I've ever seen, and from what I understand, the possibility
of being able to see them full is very rare.
I'm going on four. I saw five the other day,
but it was literally like a half here and a
half over, which was weird. It was a half like this,

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and then over there was a half like that, same
shape but over there. So I'm I'm not gonna take
full credit for that.

Speaker 3 (32:09):
I can't say I canna spin it around, but.

Speaker 2 (32:13):
I almost feel that I'm being more open to what
I see, and because of that, the universe is showing
me God is like here here, It's always been here.

Speaker 3 (32:22):
It's just that you.

Speaker 2 (32:23):
Spend your time with blinders on, worried. Courage and risk
Why they go hand in hand.

Speaker 3 (32:32):
There's no stepping fully into your path without risk.

Speaker 2 (32:34):
I get it. I'm not saying that just jump into
the darkness, and there is no risk without courage. There
are two sides of the same coin and separable, intertwined
and essential. To understand this, we must first understand what
courage really is. What is courage not courage the cowardly
dog because he's a coward. Courage is not the absence

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of fear. Many people think courage means not feeling fear,
but that's a myth. Courage is feeling the fear and
still doing it. It's showing up when your knees shake.
It's taking a step forward when your heart pounds and
your mind screams, turn back.

Speaker 3 (33:15):
What if I get lost?

Speaker 2 (33:18):
It's the quiet voice that says, I will try, I
will be brave, and best of all, you're ready. I
will trust myself. Because courage is a muscle, the more
you use it, the stronger it gets. But like any muscle,
it's often weak at first, it's awkward, it might hurt,

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but it's always there inside of you, waiting for you
to call it forward. Risk. It's funny for some people
people see the word as risk, as like a challenge,
and other people see it as danger. If you see

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it as danger, just so you know, you're one of
those people that I'm criticizing. Sorry that everything is fearful.
Risk has a bad reputation. It sounds reckless, dangerous, and unpredictable.
But risk is simply the natural price of growth. Think
about this in this way. Every time you learn something
new in your life, you're trying to skill or open

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yourself to a deeper experience. You were risking the comfort
of the known for the possibility of something better.

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Since you were a little kid.

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Without risk, there is no growth, no transformational stepping into
more of who you really are. Risk asks are you
willing to lose what you have for what you want?
Are you willing to give up certainty for possibility? Are
you willing to stand in vulnerability for the chances to
be truly alive? The answer to this question separates those

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who live fully from those who just exist.

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Do you just exist. The myth of safety.

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We cling to safety as if it were life itself.

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But safety time.

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Is an illusion.

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It's not real.

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Your comfort zone feels safe because you already know it,
But predictability isn't safe, it's stagnation. The real safety lives
and knowing you can handle whatever comes your way. It's
the inner resilience to flexibility, the deeper self trust that
carries you through. That self trust that carries you through.

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When you create courage, you build this safety. When you
embrace risk, you prove to yourself that you're stronger than.

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Your fears because you are. Because courage is.

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A choice, not a feeling, you don't have to wait
to feel brave. You don't have to wait until you're ready.

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Courage is a decision.

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It's saying yes to call even when your body says no.
It's taking imperfect action in the face of uncertainty. When
you make the choice over and over and over again,
you start to change the narrative inside your mind. You

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move from being a victim of fear to being the
author of your life story. Because you are the author
of your life the role talk about vulnerability. To be
vulnerable to risk is to show your true self, to
expose your dreams, your hopes, your fears, your failures. This

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can be terrifying, but vulnerability is not weakness. It's the
gateway to connection, to growth, and to your authenticity. When
you risk, you give your self permission to be seen,
not just by the world, but by yourself. That is
one of the most courageous acts of all. To get
on the dance floor. What yes see, When I was

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very young, I was never afraid to get on the
dance floor and just dance like by myself. I didn't care.
I love music way too much. I didn't need a
partner and to listen to count the beats and go
through and go left and right and left, and I
didn't need that. When I was a young, young kid,
I didn't care. I grew up in a household that
people danced on Christmas and holidays, and we just I
danced by myself. I was the youngest, so I danced

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by myself. I didn't care because I wasn't trying to
get with anybody. I wasn't trying to show off my moves.
I was just enjoying the rhythm inside of me and
how it felt. And it is an incredible feeling. Have
any of you been guilty of going to a young

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grammar school dance and allowing the fear of others to
feed you, to fill you with fear, and to see
the entire evening go by, song after song after song,
covered in sweat, probably afraid to get out on the

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dance floor because somebody may laugh, somebody may point their
fingers at you. And I know many of you are saying, yeah,
but you're in grammar school. I mean that happens now.
I've djyed enough clubs to be able to see a
full grown adult allowed to be taken care of that
fourth grader inside of him as it still holds the

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wall up and he's still drenched in sweat, afraid to
be judged and pointed at and picked on, instead of
just going out into the dance floor and closing your
eyes and feeling the rhythm deep inside of you, listening
to whatever's being said, feel whatever is being played. Small steps,

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big impact courage doesn't always mean grand gestures just stepping
onto the dance floor. It does really begin with very
small acts, saying no to what doesn't serve you, speaking
your truth even when it's hard, and asking for help
when you need it. Try something new, even if you

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know you're going to fail. These small steps build the
foundation for bigger leaps. Each courageous actor rewires your brain
to be braver, more resilient, and much more aligned. Because risk,
risk is not recklessness. Taking risk doesn't mean being careless.

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It means being thoughtful, prepared, but willing to move without guarantee.
Do your homework, do your research, of course, but like
do it and then do it. It means accepting uncertainty
as part of the process. It means trusting that your
path will unfold as it should if you keep moving.

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Think about that. It means trusting that the path will
unfold as it should, and sometimes that should is failure.
But if you keep moving, you may feel again. You
may even feel again, as Edison has filed thousands of times,
and then finally you succeed. You wouldn't know that if

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you didn't keep moving. Failure, the most hated fucking word,
is one of the most feared words in our culture.
It has destroyed people's lives. So many people have died
never trying, never risking, never loving, never caring, creating nonsense.

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I don't need this, I don't need somebody in my life.
I don't need that. I don't need this good for you.
It carries heavyweight shame, regret, embarrassment, and disappointment if it
doesn't work out right. So you'd rather be safe and
say I don't need it. But you, and I'm speaking
to all of you, if you want to step fully

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into your path, you need to change your relationship with failure.
You need to see it for what it really is, failure, failure.
Failure is a teacher, failure is a guide, and failure
is a companion on the road to success. Failure is
not final.

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First. Failure is not the end of the story.

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It's a chapter. Sometimes it's difficult one, but never the conclusion.
Just so you know that, when I pick up stories,
whether it's you know, little videos on the internet or
people's books, documentaries, biographies, I mean, what I love to
listen to is their failure. That's where I learn.

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So why wouldn't I do the same for myself.

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I have succeeded many times in my life, many many times,
and done very well in my life, and I have
failed a lot more. And when I sit here, I
acknowledge I would say I'm not gonna lie to you.
I would say it to acknowledge both equally. But no,
I always go back to my failures not as negative things,

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just as I remember when I did that, and then
I know I shouldn't have every great achievement. Every story
of triumph is littered. It's covered with just masses of failures.
It's just a difference between how me and you interpret
this failure. Do we let failure define us, create us,

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become us only, or do we let it.

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Refine us?

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The choice is yours.

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Failure is feedback.

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I saw that on a shirt ones that I loved it.
Failure is feedback. Imagine you're taking a test and as
you're going through, you know you're making mistakes, you know
that you might not be comfortable with.

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What the test is about.

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Now you're questioning yourself, I should have studied harder, I
should have done this, or I should have done that.
Should a shit? Okay, but right there, that's see, that's
your lesson.

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It's very simple.

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It's not a dead end. It's feedback, feedback telling you
what to adjust, where to focus more attention, and how
to grow stronger. Because your mindset shifts. Your mindset, your
mindset shift turns failure from a threat into a tool
that you can now use. It frees you from the

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paralysis of perfectionism and fear. I like saying that paralysis
of perfectionism. Psychologist Carl Dweck, who I often quote, popularize
the idea of a growing mindset, the belief that your
abilities and intelligence can develop with effort and learning. A

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growth mindset embraces failure as a necessary step onto the journey,
rather than a sign of incapability. When you adopt when.

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You, when you, when you, when you stick to this mindset,
when you, when you believe in this mindset, failure becomes
less painful and more productive.

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It reminds you that you are learning and that you
are becoming. You fall, you get up, you scrape your
your your your your knees, you you clean yourself off.

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You try again.

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It's actually that simple. It doesn't matter what kind of
failure it is. You start again, you admit to it,
You go okay. I feel.

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You're learning, you are becoming.

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You are failing forward. Failing forward means moving to toward
your goal through failure. It means seeing failure as a
stepping stone, not a stumbling block. Every time you fail
and get back up. You build resilience, deepen your wisdom,

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and sharpen your focus. Each failure gives you clues about
what works and what doesn't. I always have to share
stories of people that have failed. History is full of
people who faced crushing failures before success. As I just
mentioned Thomas Edison, he failed experiments before inventing the light. Well,

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he failed so much to thousands of failures. Look him up. JK. Rowling.
It's funny how people always see the end result. They
always see the buku bucks, the big houses, the movies,
all the toys everything. Oh yeah, you know, she had
it easy, right, She just pulled Harry Potter out of
her ass and now she's a billionaire right now. Multiple rejections,

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multiple rejections. One of my favorites, and I'm not even
into sports, will always be Michael Jordan because I remember
when everybody was into Michael Jordan and the sneakers were
so popular. I was more curious of his actual career,
not how cool he can fly, was what is his story?

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You know, how do he learn to do that?

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What inspired him to be the person he became?

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And then I found out he was a super.

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Failure, which is what pushed him more to fly.

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Fear of failure is what.

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Holds many back from stepping into your path. It's the
voice that says, what if I look foolish, what if
I'm not good enough? What if I can to recover?
To me recovering. That's funny because people are like, oh,
what if I lose money? And I mean everybody has
a different value sense of what is important, what's valuable.
But I mean, I've read stories of people that have

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lost billions, gone back to poverty, and then started again
because their life is about that. Their life isn't They
never thought of the fear of failure. Their thing is
to strive for success. But here's the secret. Failure only

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has power if you let it. You gain power by
learning from it, forgiving yourself and pressing on and moving forward.
Embracing imperfection is what we're talking about here. No one
scepts fully into their path with perfect confidence or a
flawless track record. I don't think it exists. Your path

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is going to be messy, dirty, hard, sweaty, painful. It'll
be uncertain and full of so much trial and error.
Embracing and perfection allows you to take action despite doubts
and mistakes. It frees you to be human, and that's

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where truth growth happens. Sometimes the best way to understand
the truth is to see it lived out in real
people who dare to step beyond fear and into their purpose.
I love hearing those stories. These remind us that courage, risk,
and persistence are not abstract ideas. They are lived experiences.

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They show us what's possible when we say yes to
the call.

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I have an uncle.

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His name was Lewis. He was someone who used his
wealth to help and inspire many people.

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His journey.

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Is a perfect example of stepping into a path that's
both bold and generous. He didn't settle for just a
comfortable life. He took risks to build his wealth, but
he never lost sight of why he wanted it, to
uplift his community, to support his family, and to create
a lasting impact to me. When I think of my uncle,

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I think that his story is a reminder of wealth
and success, and that when paired with purpose, become forces
for good. And like him, your path is not just
about personal gain, or it shouldn't be. It's about the
legacy that you leave. Harry Potter, JK. Rowling's story is legendary.

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Before Harry Potter became a global phenomenon, Rolling faced poverty,
single motherhood, and countless rejections from publishers. There were people
actually thought the whole thing was stupid, risky, risky. She
risked everything to follow her story. She didn't know if
anyone would believe in her magic, but she wrote it anyway.

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Her bold steps wasn't just writing a book. It was
embracing vulnerability and daring to dream when the odds were
totally stacked against her. Her journey shows that stepping into
your path off I means persevering through doubt, an external.

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No, until you reach that final yes.

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And I say final, it's actually the beginning. And then
for those of you young people who don't know, look
them up. You have Nelson Mandela, which was a part
of my youth. Nelson Mandela spent twenty seven years in
prison for standing up against apartheid in South Africa, twenty

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seven years because of something he believed in. His risk
was enormous, His path was very dangerous. He could have
been killed at any time. But Mandela's courage, forgiveness and
commitment to justice reshaped an entire nation. He teaches us
that stepping into your path might demand sacrifice, but it
also holds the power to transform as he did the world.

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Starting today, you could be starting a new chapter, filled
with unknown and risks, but understand it's also an opportunity
to build, to learn, and to expand your impact. The
farm you nurture, the knowledge you gain in the mindset
you cultivate are all a part of your unique story.

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Every step you take now, however how small, adds to
the foundation of your legacy. Bold steps aren't just for
famous people and the celebrities. They happen every day in
quiet moments. A parent deciding to change careers to follow
their passion, a friend speaking their truth after years of silence,
someone he telling old wounds to build better relationships. These

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everyday acts of courage create ripple effects far beyond what
we see. They remind us that stepping into your path
is accessible to all of us, no matter where we start.
Most people live their lives by default. They drift with
the current of circumstances, expectations, and past habits, reacting more

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than creating. But stepping fully into your path means choosing
to live by design, to live by designers to take
the driver's seat of your life and steer it with intention,
with clarity and purpose, and not be afraid to get lost.
Understand that you always have a choice. At any moment.

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You can pause right now. You can pause and ask,
am I living the life I want?

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Or the life I was told to live?

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You can decide to shad old stories that no longer
serve you.

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You can rewrite your narrative.

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Designing your life is an act of courage and creativity
means defining your values, goals, and boundaries and aligning your
actions with them. Living by design isn't about perfection or
rigid control. It's about intentional action. It means waking up
each day with a commitment to act in ways that

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honor your path today.

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Have you honored your path.

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Even the smallest of small matters, Choosing to invest time
in what fuels you, saying no to distractions and energy drainers,
Surrounding yourself with people who uplift and challenge you and
not bring you down and destroy you, Making decisions aligned
with your long term vision. This kind of daily design
builds momentum and confidence. Design doesn't mean a life without

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setbacks or failures. It means adapting and recalibrating. When things
just don't go as planned, you go okay. When you
live by design, obstacles become part of the process, not
the end. You learn to navigate uncertainty with grace and resilience.

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Your path is your master peeth.

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Imagine your life as a canvas. Do that right now.
Imagine your life as a canvas. Living by design means
choosing your colors, breaststrokes, and composition. You're not a passive observer.
It's your art, so you're the artist. It's your canvas.
Each choice adds texture and depth, and each risk takes

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adds boldness and life to your canvas. The masterpiece you
create is uniquely yours, and it grows richer with every
step you take through the years. Your mindset is the
soil in which your life's garden grows. If the soil
is rich, your path blossoms. If it's depleted, even the

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best intentions struggle to take root. Transforming your mindset is
one of the most powerful steps towards stepping.

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Fully into your path.

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Here are the essential shifts that can reshape your life
from the inside out. Scarcity scarcity whispers there isn't enough,
you can't have it all, You'll never be enough, And
abundance shouts there's more than enough. There's opportunities, there's love,
there's success for everyone. The pie is big and there's

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a slice for everybody.

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How big is up to you?

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I think is most people are even even getting a peace.
They don't think they're deserving of it. Living by scarcity
keeps you stuck in fear, comparison and limitation. Abundance frees
you to take risks, share generously, and believe in your worth.
Choose choose to see the world as a place for possibility,

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not a place that lacks. From perfection to progress perfectionism.
Perfectionism is a thief. It robs you of joy, momentum,
and creativity. It progress honors the journey, messy and perfect.
But still, as I said before moving forward, celebrate your
small wins, learn from your mistakes, and keep growing. The

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path is not about being flawless. It's about being faithful
to your becoming. It's tempting to chase approval from family, friends,
in society. I get it, But the truest compass lies
inside of you. Align your choices with your values and
authentic self. Let your actions reflect what feels right for you,
not what looks good to others. When you honor your

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inner truth, you live with freedom and peace. From fear
of change to embracing transformation, what a beautiful thing. Change
can be so uncomfortable, Change can even be fucking painful,
but transformation is the essence of life. The caterpillar must
become a chrysalist to become a butterfly. Correct welcome change

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as an ally and not as an enemy. It is
through transformation that your path unfolds. You are not a
fixed story. You are a dynamic process of growth, learning
and expansion. Let's go of limiting labels. Allow yourself to evolve.
You're always becoming more capable of a home, or you

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aren't you Stepping into your path is the greatest gift
you can give yourself in this world. It is a
courageous declaration that your life matters, that your voice deserves
to be heard, does it not, and that your dreams
are valid. There will be fear, there will be uncertainty,

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and there will be failure, and that's fine because like
every roller coaster that goes down and goes up and
comes back around again, there will also be joy, growth, connection,
and profound fulfillment. The road is yours to walk, for
yours to run. The path is yours to claim. So

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take a deep breath, step forward and remember that you
were made for this. As for my regular listeners, every
not every, but often, I will give you exercises and
things to do at the end. And I've had quite
a few people right back to me and say I
tried this, and I tried that, and this worked and
that resonated. I love that word. So here's a few

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very simple Get a notebook or your phone or your monitor, whatever,
and each day, for one week, right down one small
act of courage that you took. You're like, oh, what
the small? It could be small. It could be tiny
even if it felt uncomfortable and scary. It can be
a same people is speaking your truths, trying something new,
or saying no to something that didn't serve you. At

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the end of the week, reflect on how these moments
affected your confidence and where you stand now after going
through a week of things that you feared. How about
risk reward reflection. Think of a decision or opportunity that
you've been hesitating to pursue because of fear, or uncertainty.

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Most of these things that we have.

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When we have fear uncertainty and ask people to follow
through it them, it turns out they didn't. They're afraid
of something and they never even looked into what's entailed.
So write down what risks are involved, what is the
potential reward or growth, what would happen if you don't
take the risk, and what's the worst case scenario and
how could you handle that? You see, when you break

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that stuff down, things don't seem as bad. Use this
reflection to gain clarity and break down fear into manageable,
controllable pieces. Instead of just one big path, it's almost
like little cobblestones and you're just taking one at a
time to get there. There's no rush. And then a

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very popular topic and hypnosis is reframing. So recall a
recent failure, setback and think about it. Trust me, you
have them. Write a letter to yourself about his experience,
starting with compassionate understanding. You screwed up. You screwed up,
you screwed up badly. Okay, Now be compassionate to yourself,

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be forgiving understanding. Then write down what you learned from
that big screw up. And how you grow in what
you might do differently next time. This exercise helps you
shift failure from shame to learning. And that's that's pretty
much it. And then designing your day for three days
or two days, one day, preferably three days, plan your

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day intentionally around your valids and priorities. Right down.

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Are you ready?

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What are the top three things that will move you
closer to your path? I used to have this thing
I still do every day and in every way things
are gonna get better and better. And you should always
plan something every day towards your goal, something something big,
something small, something every day.

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Has to lead towards your goal.

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What are the top three things that will move you
closer to your path to your goal? What distractions or
energy drains will you avoid?

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Who's holding you back?

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How will you check in with yourself to make sure
that you stay on your path? And then at the
end you see how much closer you've gotten. These are
the things that usually tell people to do with others
because it keeps you honest.

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And last one is spend ten.

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Minutes ten minutes you know what five minutes? Sure I
don't have time? Imagine for ten minutes, sit somewhere and
just I don't care if you're sitting on the toilet.
I don't care if you're I have a lot of
people that do my meditations in the bathroom, either souring
or the other one. Spend ten minutes today visualizing your path,

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fully in it, being a part of it. Close your
eyes and whatever you're saying that you want to do,
see it, be a part of it, Taste it, feel it,
smell it. Don't see it over there, It's right here.

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You're in it.

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It's already happened. To imagine the feelings, the environment, the
people around you, and the impact that you are making
by doing this. Feel the confidence to join fulfillment as
it's happening right now. This trains are subconscious to align
with your goals, and it feels your motivation to get
off of your ass and finally do it.

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I hope I.

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Made you think. I hope I made you question your
existence and to appreciate every tomorrow and even today, every today,
and to be very grateful for all of the experiences
of the past that have made you who you are
right now.

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Keep this in mind.

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Choose action over excuse, purpose over comfort, and the work
that matters over the distractions that don't. My name is
Jamiga Zales and this was the Reset Yourself twenty two podcasts.
Go forward and live your life to the fullest. Thank
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of you. Many blessings to you all. Be well, be
very well, be super duper well, and prosper.

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