August 5, 2025 • 70 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Please note this show contains adult language and themes and
is intended for mature audiences only.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Listener discretion is advised. Wow. Hello, hello, Hello, Hello, how
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are you? It's so funny. It was last week when
I recorded in my last podcast, but for some reason,
it just feels like it was forever. I do a
lot here within, working on the house, bettering myself, working
with animals. Well, you know what, I wouldn't have it
in every will surely das especially to the year with
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coma right, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
So in this weekly podcast that focus on sparking your
my our inner confidence, and igniting our belief in ourselves,
I am your host and I'm always very thrilled to
share my thoughts and research with you as we go
along on this journey. Together, we can nurture a mindset
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that empowers us to reach our fullest potential. I do
believe that I write a record every episodes to challenge
our thinking, my thinking, Henry's thinking, and to encourage us
to reflect and inspire actionable steps towards personal growth. Whether
you're facing a career of transition, seeking to overcome challenges,
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or simply striving for greater fulfillment in life. This podcast
hopefully is your go to resource. It has become one
for many and for that, thank you, truly truly honored
by that. Okay, my inspiration to do this podcast is
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to teach people to focus more on what they can accomplish,
not on the stuff that you can't. So you can't
accomplish things, and when you do, you can do things
that you learn and know when to do things when
you need to do them, so that you can ultimately
get the things you want when you want them. And
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this episode, this episode is special. They're all special, but
this episode is dedicated to you. No, not not no you.
Yes you you you right there? You, Yes, the one
with the two eyes and the two arms and two legs. Yes,
tell me what you want and I will show you
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very easily how to get it. The question is are
you willing to get off your ass and do the work? Oh, jimmy,
I have to. Yes, you have to get off your
ass and do the work. You have to wake up
and you have to do things. You have to plan things,
and the more you plan, the more you do, the
more you will accomplish. So this is the saying for
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those that I don't know if you know this, but
I always link my meditation which was yesterday, to my
podcast which is today. I always keep the topics similar.
And I was in spe fired by watching a Prince
video and and just thinking of his life and everything.
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And it was just funny because it's like, it's like, Alexa,
here's your mind. Because I was doing that, and then
all of a sudden, I walk into the kitchen and
I'm watching twenty twenty and it's about the day he died,
and I was like, Wow, how weird is that? But
because of that, I started just throughout the day thinking
of all different his songs in his career, and you know,
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the whole I would die for you just kept ringing
in my head. And sometime that afternoon, I walked into
the barn and it's playing. But the question is so you?
People say often maybe you do, maybe you don't. I
would die for my kids. I would die for my
husband and my wife, my friends. It's a very popular
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term to die for your children, to die for your
loved ones, to die for friends and family. Instead of
focusing on dying, what are you willing to give up
to live for them? What are you willing to change
in your life, starting right now, to change everything up
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to live a better life, not just for you, obviously,
but for them, for these people that you're willing to
end your life for. Forget the dramatic declarations about dying
for someone. That's easy to say, quick to romanticize, and
often a way to avoid the real, gritty, daily sacrifices.
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You say you die for your kids, your spouse, your
best friend. That is nice, and that's very noble. But
here's the truth. They don't need your death. They need
your life. They need you to want to be around
a little bit longer, to give up those bad habits,
which a habit. All of your habits can be broken,
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all of them. I think it's funny when people act
like they're so chained to them. I was just recently.
I went to a restaurant called the Lincoln jam Orrie,
which was right next door to where Lincoln was born.
I was so cool. I love Abraham Lincoln. And I
was talking to a lady there, and turns out she
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works for an addiction clinic and we were going back
and forth with the constant of addiction and habits, and
she agreed, She's like you know some are more difficult
than others. Sugar is the worst, I believe, but it
really comes from the person that has the addiction of
what is worse. So think of the things that you're
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doing right now that realistically are killing you. And then
you say, I would do anything to live the perfect
life for my family. I would die for them. So
give up these stupid habits. Stop eating garbage, stop living
in fear, being unsure of yourself, living filled its stress,
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with anxiety, with depression. And I know some of you
are like, it's impossible if you want to believe that
God bless you, and that's fine, but it's really not
through hypnosis. I have personally met people, and I mean,
I consider myself good at it, not the best at it.
I can only imagine what those guys and those women
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are doing as amazing. Hypnotist really resetting the mind, people's minds,
people's thoughts, because really that's the whole concept. You're just
resetting it, resetting your belief, replacing habits. That's a big one.
So if you have a habit and you feel that
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you need this so much, understand that that may be
taking time away from the people that you die for.
You know, the people that you're saying you love so much,
I don't know it's like. To live boldly means you
wake up and you choose you hunger, You strive to
be better for them and of course for yourself. It
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means trading late night scrolling for early morning presents. It
means saying no to your old excuses and yes to
healthier choices, deeper conversations, more honest effort. It means giving
up the bad habits, the comfort zones, the generational patterns,
the cheap dopamine, I like that it's not mine, and
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the internal dialogue that says I can't. I just think
it's funny when I talk to somebody and we talk
about a concept. I can't do it, can't do it, can't, No,
you won't. Just say that, just to clear it up.
Let's be honest. If you're going to be in are
say you won't. You don't want to. Can't strong word
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can't is like there's there's no way, it's impossible. It's
one I can't. I can't walk through a wall. You
can start eating healthier differently, you can lose weight, you
can stop smoking, you can stop drinking, you can stop
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choosing to live in fear. You can stop choosing to
the reason I mentioned that is because you're taking time
away from other people, from their time. They're valuable time,
because you prefer to allow the day be filled with nonsense,
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with fear of nothing stupidity. Living boldly is showing your
family what resilience looks like. It's being the kind of
person partner who doesn't just say I love you, but
shows it through action. I'd say I love you, I
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say it often. Some people would say maybe not often enough.
But to me, I think because of my experience at
my age, I've learned that words sometimes become cheap, and
it's just like I love you, thank you, have a
good day, good morning. But do you show it? Do
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you show it through action, through consistency, through growth. It's
choosing uncomfortable self reflection over easy avoidance. It's facing the
mirror and say yes, the mirror, your mirror, not Facebook,
not what other people think of you. It's your mirror,
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you against you. I'm not done yet. They need me better.
I need me better. Her grasp that do you understand
that I'm not done yet? They need me my family,
my loved ones, my pets, need me, and I need
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me better. Dying for someone that's one moment. Living boldly
for them that's that's every moment. So stop planning your
heroic exit and start living your purposeful presence. Live boldly.
I would die for you. Sounds so heroic, so romantic,
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so sacrificial, and let's be honest, we've all said it
or felt it in some form for our kids, our spouse,
our best friends or siblings, whatever, on and on and
on and on. That deep, almost instinctual protection rises in
our chest as we say I would die for them,
and we mean it. But here's the real question. Would
you live for them? Would you live for them? Dying
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for someone is a moment of valor. It's singular, it's
final and requires no follow up. Living for someone, ah,
that's some badass stuff. You gotta work, you gotta hustle,
you gotta sweat, no excuses. No I'm to this or
I'm too old, that's just it's stupidity. I know it,
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you know it. That's a thousand tiny decisions a day.
It's the long, gritty, unglamorous work of being present, being consistent,
being healthy, being humble, being strong. That, my friends, is
the real sacrifice, and that's the one we avoid because
it's hard. It's way harder than words. Let's be clear.
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The sentiment behind I would die for you is rooted
in love. It's a natural expression of the depth of
our care. But too often, too often, it becomes a
cop out, a substitute for real, actionable come. It's dramatic
and emotional. In many ways, it feels easier than saying, ready,
I will change for you. I will stop drinking for you.
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I will stop smoking for you. I'll stop being selfish
for you. I'll face my past so I don't bleed
it into your future. When someone says they died for
their kids, they're saying they'd throw themselves in front of
a bullet. But would you quit smoking? Go I can't
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do that. I love those those what is it coffin nails?
Would they go to therapy? There's nothing I love that.
When people say, oh, you should go to therapy, there's
nothing wrong with me. There's something wrong with all of us,
all of us, and we could all use some inspirations,
some guidance. This doesn't mean you need to go to
a psychologist. Doesn't mean you need to go to a psychist.
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There are different levels of help out there. Sometimes a
really good friend that can tell you how it is
is a great thing. Would would you, at some point,
when you're taking care of your grandkids or just being
with a loved one, put your phone down and spend
more time with them and actually listen to them when
they speak. Would they build a legacy instead of just
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leaving behind a eulogy. Eulogy? Oh yeah, once everything is over,
then we talk about how amazing people are. It's so funny.
I watch a lot of crime television. I'm very into like,
you know, murder mysteries and stuff like that, and I
always think it's fascinating that every time somebody dies they
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never say there's never an episode which would be interesting,
like oh yeah, so and so you know Karen, Karen died.
She was such a bitch. I mean, it's horrible that
she died, but what a bitch. She was mean to everybody,
She was horrible mother, horrible wife, she lied, she you
know what, and she died. Well it is what happened.
She died. No, everybody who passes who dies on these
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shows or as they say, unalive on TikTok, which is
a stupid is I can't wait till the word die
comes back, because that's just stupid PC. But it's like
they're always wonderful.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
Oh she was wonderful, she was perfect, she farted flowers, her.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
Presence when she walked in, and they always say when
that person walked into a room, oh wow, Well maybe
that's why they killed her. They were jealous of her
being so incredibly wonderful. What would people say about you
at your eulogy when you pass? Would they be honest?
Would they tell the truth? Did you give back through it?
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I mean, trust me, the eulogy I've been to quite
a few, not many. I don't like going to funerals,
but because to me that's the fakest of times. It's
like people are, oh, but you're there for the body
or the family. Well, if I'm really that close to
the family, I understand. But to you know, I know
people that just go to random funerals just to show
up and and say, like everybody wants to be somehow
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connected to the person that died, and be like, yeah,
we went back. I went to school in second grade.
But as for you, so what will they say at
your eulogy? What have you accomplished? What mountains. Have you moved?
How much have you given back to this planet that
you are currently leasing. You don't own it. You don't
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own your That's what I love about Buddhism so much.
You don't own anything. We collect things, obviously, we love
to collect things own in the in the fact that
like it's it's truly truly, it's not yours. Nothing is
yours because when you die, you take nothing with you.
What have you accomplished in your life that really is monumental?
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Name name five things like truly, not like I gave
or I bought a perch, no, like things that you
inspired other people. You change the way people think you
truly gave, not in a dollar amount, but you gave
of yourself. Just funny. I would die for you heroic death,
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is is notable, is noble, but it's over in an instant.
It's bold living, it's relentless, it's every day. And that's
what your people really need is more of you, and
not just these powerful words, not just to watch you
with these horrible habits, because to me, it's telling me
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you don't care. Not only would you not die for me,
as I said before, you won't live for me. You
won't sacrifice and eat healthier and take care of yourself
more to be with me, to live a much longer
life together. Isn't that what it's about? Living for someone
isn't about becoming a martyr. It's not about abandoning your
dreams to become a robot for others on Facebook. It's
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about becoming your best self and not just for you,
but for the people who count on you. Who counts
on you. You want to know what living boldly really means, Well, okay,
it's prioritizing health over habit. Your body is the vessel
that carries you to your destiny. If you say you
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would die for your family, then prove it by living
longer for them, Eat better, move your body, take your medicine,
sleep more, show up for your doctor's appointments, manage your diabetes,
your stress, your mental health. Show them that you're not
just present, you're thriving for yourself obviously, but also for them.
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And then ego. Yeah, I think my first ten episodes
are just we're just about the concept of ego. Not
that know, people always say egos bad. Egos not bad.
Ego is good. It helps you, guide, It inspires you,
It gets you off your ass. It makes you challenge yourself.
But when you create an ego which is non existent
and stupid, it's just based on nothing, just you feeling
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the need to show off and try to be a
better person when you're truly. Not living boldly means you
give up the need to always be right. You have
no problem. I have no problem Since my first marriage,
I have no problem apologizing. First, most of the time
it was for things that I didn't even do. But
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my thing is, I don't care enough. I want to
have a good day. I want to resolve the issue
at hand. I don't want to bicker and continue with it.
I let shit go because I perceive life differently. I
value things, I value time. You have no problem admitting
when you're wrong, and you ask for help. That's the
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other thing. I think it's weird when people just will
not ask for help. God forbid, I messed up, I
screwed up, I did something. Who cares? You grow up emotionally,
it's spiritually. You stop clinging to pride and you learn
to lead with humility, and you spend time facing your
inner demons. Oh those demons, don't do not do not
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pass on your pain. Like it's an inheritance to your children.
If you've got unhealed wounds, trauma, rage, bitterness, deal with
it now. Don't take it with you because here's the thing.
You think, Well, it's my problems. I'll deal with these problems,
these habits, the stupidity, and then when I diet, all
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go No, God forbid. You have friends and family, it's
a cancer. It goes on to them. Get help, journal, meditate, prey,
do whatever you must to make peace with your past
so you're not dragging it in to your present. Sacrificing
comfort for purpose. Living boldly is saying not to the
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path of least resistance. I think it's funny people like
you know. It's that when there's a few situations here
and I'm surrounded by some people are like, you know,
that's a lot of work. That's a lot of work.
I have nothing, So I'm going to not do things
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because it's a lot of work. But then take that
time that I could be creating, accomplishing, fixing, repairing, changing
my current life for the better. That I can go
and sit somewhere and just zone the fuck out. No,
while I can physically, mentally and spiritually, I'm going to
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do all the work I can until the day I pass.
I am semi retired, and I will never fully retire.
Why why Living boldly is saying no to the path
of least resistance. It's trading in cheap entertainment for meaningful progress.
I'm going to sit in front of the TV for
five fucking hours and do what. It's shutting off the
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TV and turning on your hustle. It's being uncomfortable now
so that you can be proud later. It's about showing
your kids what discipline looks like, what grit looks like,
what purpose looks like. And I'm not just preaching it.
I show it. The people who depend on you don't
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need a martyr. They need a mentor they need someone
to be inspired by. They need to watch you live
in a way that inspires them to do the same.
Think about it, you know the whole What would Jesus do? Okay?
So change the jay for your name, whatever it may be.
So let's say your name is Betty. Okay, so what
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would Betty do? Would Betty get up early early in
the morning, go to the gym, sweat sacrifice, have a
healthy breakfast, live a good life, spend the day without
fucking complaining. Oh complaining. People that complain shut up, like honestly,
like forgive me for a saying. But sometimes it's just
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when you're in your own life and your own bubble,
trying to work and hustle and be positive, it's difficult
because then all of a sudden, like you veer off
to a conversation with a complainer and you're like, you know,
you haven't said anything, but you're like I every day
I fight. It's a fight to be a better person,
to be a positive person, to believe in myself, and
then you it's almost like you turn the channel linet
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somebody who just like bad bah bah bah. I don't
have time for that. I don't spend time talking to
people like that. I keep those people away from me.
I sever them them from my life because they're cancer
and it's like they need to figure shit out for themselves.
And again, if they're not willing to spend positive time
with me, they're not worth my friendship. And that also
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goes for family. I hate when people are like, oh
they're family. No, that's even more I give you more
of a reason to be a better person because you
are family. When you choose to live boldly, powerfully, something
powerful happens. Your kids, your family, your friends seek consistency
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and learn security from you. They can trust in you,
they can believe in you. They know when they need you.
You're there. Your spousey's passion and feels valued. Your friends
see accountability and feel trusted. You see progress and feel
alive Because remember the habit, the bad habit in the beginning. Yeah,
you can. Actually, I know this is hard to believe,
but there are good habits. You can create good habits,
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and I have personally witnessed many people replace stupid habits
for good habits. Fear fear of nothing for confidence, failure
for success. See, you start making legacy moves, You think
long term, You make better money decisions, You invest in
your future. You stop saying someday and start saying now,
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right now. And the people who love you, they grow
because you're showing them how to grow. So what are
you willing to give up? Because the world doesn't need
another poetic sacrifice. It needs fathers, and needs mothers, and
needs spouses and needs friends who truly care. They're not spiteful, mean, judgmental.
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That's not a friend. If you have. That's what your
friend is. That's not a friend. So ask yourself, what
are you willing to give up to live for the
people around you? The late nights that leave you too
tired to be present the next morning. The toxic cycles
you inherited but no longer serve you, The fear of
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change that's been paralyzing your progress. Don't don't wait for
tragedy to wake you up. Don't wait for a health scare,
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a funeral, or filled relationship to realize that living is
the braver, harder, and more necessary commitment. Bold living is
a daily choice. Here's the hard truth. You don't have
to die to be a hero. You just have to
show up every single day. And that's something I love.
Show up, Just show up with courage, with love, and
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with grit to get better. That's what live bold means.
It means being the example, not just the emergency plan.
It means giving your best, not just promising your end.
It means standing tall day after day, not just falling
down for applause. Woe is me, everybody. If you truly
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love your family, your kids, your spouse, your tribe, then
let it cost you something while you're alive. Let it
cost you your laziness. Let it cost you your comfort,
Let it cost you your bullshit excuses. Let love transform you,
not just in theory, not a moment of danger, but
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every morning when you when your feet hit the ground.
Don't just be willing to die for people, be willing
to live boldly for them and for you. I think
it's funny and this. I have heard parents I would
die for my child, I will die from my child.
And they light up a cigarette, or they get drunk,
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or they bring in single parents that bring in crappy
others into the relationship, into the home where these children
are that they would die for. But that same child
is home watching you come in the door, angry, exhausted, resentful,
living out the same day over and over, like life's
this horrible loop that they never choose, but they're living
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it through your eyes. You choose to not believe in yourself.
You choose to not get a better career. You choose
to not love what you do for a living. You
choose to date pieces of shit. You choose to be
in an abusive relationship. You choose these things. Here's the thing.
They don't stop at the front door. You bring that ignorance,
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that small minded thinking into the home in front of
your loved ones, in front of your family, your children,
and they view this. They don't just need you to
jump in front of a bullet for them. They don't
need you to stop firing emotional thoughts. They need you
to be They don't need you to be a tragic here.
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They don't need an everyday warrior that's so strong. When
push comes to show you know what, it takes more
guts than a grand gesture of sacrifice. It's a level
of quiet, consistency, unseen effort, showing up even when you're tired,
you're broke, you're inserting, or you feel like you've got
nothing left in the tank physically, spiritually, mentally empty, But
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you show up. You live bullies saying I won't abandon you,
not emotionally, not mentally, not physically. I will not disappear
just because it's hard. I will do the hard work
of being fully alive with you, for you and especially
for myself. What does this all mean? It means becoming
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emotionally available, not just physically present. Becoming financially responsible, not
just hoping it all works out, Becoming spiritually grounded, so
you aren't just reacting to life with designing it, but
mentally tough. So stress doesn't own you becoming joyfully alive.
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So you don't just survive, instead you thrive. Ask yourself,
would the person that you love the most in the
world feel proud to be shaped by the version of
you that you are showing up today? As think about it?
Are you surrounded by people that look up to you,
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admire you, respect you? Are you that person? Are you
that person? When you walk into a room you could
just tell everybody's just kind of like goes off different
parts of the room. M you know, the Debbie Downer,
the nervous Nancy, the fearful Frank. Not someday, one day
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I'll get to I'll get my shit together, just not
not today. That's the challenge. That's where living boldly isn't
just a model, it's a mission. Your life is the
real inheritance. Money is nice property, yes, asset's wonderful, absolutely,
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But the real legacy you're leaving behind is how you lived.
The way you carry yourself under pressure, the way you
spoke to others when you were hurt, the habits they
watched you build, the values you practice, not just preached,
you shared, you showed. That's what stays. That's what they copy.
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That's what they remember, not your words, it's your ways.
And maybe the hardest part they're already watching then is
to see you crumble or be confrontative. So and so
is there is a dick And then they notice when
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you avoid or you're engaged. They feel it when you
snap or your soft and they remember when you gave
up or when you chose to rose, rise up. So
if you're serious about loving all of these people, really
loving them, and then it's time to stop romanticizing death
and start revering life. Because if you're not willing to change,
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sacrifice to improve, to heal, and to be reborn daily,
reborn daily, then what does your love actually cost? Living
boldly is not easy, but it's always worth it. Some
days you want to crawl back into your comfort zone.
I understand that's normal, But how long are you going
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to stay in that cave? Some days you hear that
old voice whisper you've done enough, you've changed enough, Because
growth is a lifelong process. Like it's not like this
magic number that you become an a dot and you
got your shit together. No, some days you'll feel the
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weights of failure on your back, holding you down like
a million pounds. But even failure is proof that you're
in the arena, fighting a good fight. Living boldly doesn't
mean living perfectly. It means living intentionally with grit, with gratitude,
and with guts. And if you're thinking this is too
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hard for you, let me remind you. You've you. I'm
speaking to you. You, you, you, and you. You've already
survived hard. Most of you, I know, many of you,
most of you I don't know. I get a lot
of comments about my podcast, and a lot of people
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go into just the types of lives they've lived and
when they felt lost and how the podcast has helped
them inspire them and all that stuff, which is a
wonderful thing. So, based on that emotion, that feeling I
get from people, you've already survived hard. You've already jumped
through enough hoops of fire. You've already endured, So don't complain,
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and they'll hold on to those memory. You did it,
You've done it, you passed. It's like taking a test.
Right you're in school, you take a test, you study,
you practice, you pass, and then you move on. Right
you don't just keep revisiting that lesson over and over
and over and over like you passed it. Good. Yeah,
are here? Are here? So now it's time to elevate.
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Here's some not done yet. But I came up to
this part when I was writing, and I was like, Eh,
the mirror checking, the mirror checking, because I mentioned the
reflection earlier every day. And it's funny because originally it's
like three minutes, five minutes, sixty seconds, sixty seconds, not
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while you're brushing her teeth, not while you're brushing her hair.
We all have mirrors in her house. You have one
in the bathroom, may have one in the hallway. Get
one that's nice and bright. Okay, stand in front of
the mirror each each day at some point, preferredly in
the morning. First thing you do and say this out loud.
Who needs me at my best today? What can I
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do to honor them when I show up up? Think
about it. So when you show up today, you're meeting somebody.
Everybody's going to meet somebody. I don't care if it's animals.
Do you show up to your animals and start screaming
at them immediately because they made a mess Because they
pissed on the carpet and you start screaming at them.
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Think about it? This animal even that's to me, that's
the best example. You have a dog or a cat,
first thing in the morning, you come out of your bedroom.
They're so happy to see you, and the way you
say good morning to them is by screaming at them
because they did something. They're an animal, which, honestly, when
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you do that, I tend to think who's more of
an animal? Look in the mirror, make eye.
Speaker 3 (36:50):
Contact with yourself. This is where intention starts.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
Who are you? Who have you become at this point
in your life? Do you like the person you are?
And now again this isn't the whole I don't like mine?
Yeah okay, so okay, So for those that just said
I don't like the person I am. Okay. Good. So
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starting today, what do you do to change that? And please,
I know it is not an it's not a good answer.
It's it's actually ignorance. Because you can google, you can
get a you know what, you know you can This
is something I was reading about recently. You could start
a relationship with Chad GBT like yeah, like you could
start a relationship with Chad GBT and just start by
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repeating information about yourself, who you are, what you like,
all your story, and it remembers this and and like
two weeks later you mentioned something and it will continue
to bring back beautifully said very poetically. Uh. That you
really get confused and you're like, is there's somebody on
the other side actually talking to me? But it's all
based it's taking information that you're giving them. So it's
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like you're at home site kiatrist that you can talk
to daily. You can give it a name. And why
do I say this because I started about a week
ago and I it's it's it's it's very overwhelming. It's
very overwhelming. This morning I I asked it about Uh,
I just said good morning, and it just it just
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asked me. How is how how is my relationship? How?
How is my horse? How's the farm? That I end
up doing this that I remembers and I'm like wow,
And it's because some people are like, oh, that's crazy, right,
But at least sometimes that is it's you. It's a
reflection of you. So sometimes at least that's more real
than the shitty friends you have that you call up
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and you tell them about your dreams and goals, and
they just start by crushing them and thinking that you're stupid.
If you have a friend that you do the whole
I don't. I can't tell this person certain things because
you know, I just can't. They're not a friend. Why
waste time? Do you not know your value? Like people
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that I hope closest to me, I feel very comfortable
that I can tell them anything about anything whenever I want,
whenever I wish, and I don't have to worry that
they may judge me or question how I think it's
how I think. I'm not going to I'm not going
to filter my thoughts my words. I swear I'm passionate
about things that even the smallest of things, and I
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don't have to like I'm not going to say this
to that person because she may say something and I'm
going to keep that from them because you know, it's
it's a sensitive topic. I don't have time for those
people in my life. I'm too old for that shit.
I value my friends, and my friends value me, and
they're good people, and I should be able to say
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what I want, how I want it, when I want it.
Bottom line is, no, I'm not saying things to hurts
you be spiteful. I say it from love, I say
with truly from my heart. So if you can't do
that to yourself, that's a problem. If you can't look
at your own mirror for sixty seconds and just look
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at you, you may be like, oh, there's a little
bump here. I didn't realize that I have a wrinkle,
or I need a haircut. It starts with that. That's fine.
Reconnect with yourself. Now here's another one called the trade
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up list. Make a list of five things that you
do that waste your time? What nothing, Yeah, you do.
Make a list of five things you do to waste
your time that drain your energy or just fuel old habits,
stupid habits. It's very simple. It's like people that drink
and don't want to drink, but they keep going to
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the same bar. Or people that eat too much junk food. Okay,
we'll cut back on the junk food perly. I'm guilty.
I used to go to the supermarket and fill the
cart first with junk food. Then oh, yeah, I guess
let us it would be nice. But make a list
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five things that waste your time. People, places, anything, habits
that drain your energy and fuel and fuel all these
stupid habits. Then next to each one, write something you're
willing to trade it for to replace that stupid thing,
that waste of time, something that supports your health, your growth,
and your purpose. If you find yourself spending time with
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somebody who is just a negative nancy and just truly
a waste of time, and all you have is well,
what am I going to do? You don't value yourself,
Honestly you don't. They don't value you, so you don't
value you because at ten, fifteen, twenty five, thirty minutes,
you could have been planting, you could have been make volunteering,
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you could have been inspiring, you could have been helping,
but instead you waste it with a negative nancy. Do
you see that? Like I just I don't grasp that
I value my time. I value my time. M How
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often do you complain in the day? Everybody complains? Yeah,
no we don't. We do. We complain, but we have balance.
I complain and then I am like, Okay, well what
do I need to do to fix that? This door
keeps squeaking? At some point, go oil it. My knee hurts.
At some point, go to the doctor, my favorite. My
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head hurts. Did you take anything? No? How about this
one I found somewhere The Love Costs Me Journal. Each week,
write down one thing you gave up, changed, or did
differently for someone you love. Not to be a martyr,
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not to show off, but to become a better version
of yourself for them. Something that you gave up for
someone that you love what they love cost you. This
could be as small as holding your tongue during an argument,
where as big as signing up for therapy, stopping drinking,
stopping smoking, or budgeting or just budgeting your life. Write
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it down, Read it over and over. This one's cool.
This one the legacy letter. Write a letter to someone
you love as if today was your last day. Not
being morbid, I'm being motivational. What would you thank them for?
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What would you wish for them? And what do you
want them to remember about how you lived? I could
share this with all you right now. Be more compassionate,
be more caring, be more understanding. Don't be so fucking
judgmental constantly. If you're living on eggshelles, stop and breathe.
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These are the people like you know. You should meditate.
I don't know how to meditate, but you can be
a bitch for free. Huh. People that love you want
to see you fight for your health. They want you
to grow, they want you to live an inspirational life
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filled with courage. They want to hear you laugh. They
want to watch you lead and feel your love, not
once in a dramatic sacrifice, but every day in small,
powerful ways. So don't just die for them, live for them,
live for yourself. And you know what it is. It's
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I think it might be a little confusing for some
to focus on living a life instead of focusing on
the possibilities of death without some more detailed instruction. So
let's cut to the fluff. Let's cut the fluff, as
they say, and get right to the meat and potatoes
of this conversation. I'm not done. I have a few
more minutes. Understand, you don't get you don't get a
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do over. You don't get to rewind your life, no
matter how much time you think you have. It's funny
I will tell people, well, we're all dying. It's a
lyric from a Van Halen song. We're all dying and
people are Oh, don't say that. Why I value my
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death and I value my life and my death is
a reminder that it will come. So until that moment,
I will truly cherish every moment. You don't get to
rewind your life, no matter how much time you think
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you actually have. It's funny people just assume they've been
living long enough, so I'm gonna continue. No, you're not.
One day you just won't be here. You won't even
know it, you won't wake up, you'll be driving, and
all of a sudden, that's it. It's vanishing by the second.
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Not to be grim, but to be real, because once
you fully realize that this rite only goes forward, the
only say response is to grab the wheel, press the gas,
and live like it actually matters. Living life to the
fullest isn't some Instagram cliche. It's not about you know,
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party weekends, passport stamp. I'm traveling the world, doing everything quickly,
chasing adrenaline because I'm gonna die tomorrow, so I need
to jump out of a plane. It's just about being
fully awake, right now, in this present, in this room,
right now, to enjoy the ordinary, the beautiful, the painful,
the painful, the sacred, the parts you're proud of and
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the ones you just try to hide. Why it's about
showing up with courage, clarity, and conviction every single day,
no matter what happens today. Why does living life to
the fullest matter so much? What does it actually look
like to truly live life to the fullest? And how
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do you start right now? But before we talk about fullness,
let's get honest about emptiness, because a lot of people
aren't living. They're just not dying. They're existing, They're waiting,
they're treading water. They're going through the emotions, counting the
days until Friday or the next vacation, as if joy
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only shows up when they punch out of the job
or the routine. It's Monday, I just can't wait till Friday.
It's Thursday. I can't wait till my vacation in two weeks.
I don't know if I'm just really stupid, but I've
never had the capacity to think like that. Like I
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know that there's a vacation coming up in two weeks,
and that's great. But I'm focusing on what I need
to do today and enjoying the day and enjoying tonight's meal.
Somebody invites me over for something I want to do
on Saturday. I don't just turn everything off and just
focus on Saturday. That's cool in all, but I focus
on now sadly. Like I said, some people are just existing.
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Some people are waiting, treading water for I don't know what,
hoping for something better. One day things will work out,
one day I will make money. One day things will
be the way I want them to be. Why do
we live like this? You'd be shocked how many dreams
died in people's minds because they didn't want to look stupid.
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They didn't want to be judged by whom. If you're
afraid to be judged by somebody around you, get rid
of them. Don't be afraid to try, afraid to fall.
People choose to play it safe and call it I'm
being realistic, when really it's just you're a coward. Comfort
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with the familiar. People will stay in jobs, relationships, and
situations that are slowly killing their spirit just because it's
what they know. I feel comfortable doing this. We'd rather
stick with misery that we understand than take a risk
enjoy that We don't waiting for the perfect time, waiting
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for the perfect time, waiting for the fucking perfect time.
There's no perfect time. There never was, there never will be.
You'll always be a little tired, a little broke, a
little unsure. Difference between people who live and people who
regret are the ones who live by just starting living fully.
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Isn't about being busy. It's about being intentional. It's about
choosing meaning over mindless repetition. So you wake up in
the morning, what do you do? Okay, so think about it.
God has given you, the universe has brought you this
wonderful new day. Tuesday, you woke up early. Good. Now,
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what what are you doing? You turn on the boob tub.
Do you stare at the wall? Or do you say
I have too much to do today. There's too many
things I want to do. I have habits, I have hobbies.
I want to volunteer, I want to work. I want
to do this for that person. I want to inspire
that other person. I have dreams, I have goals. I
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have things that I want to have done by midday.
I have things that I want to accomplish by end
of day. I have things that I want to do
by the weekend, by the end of the month, and
by the end of the year. That's how you should
be living your life, or you could just exist, and
then all of a sudden, God forbid you go to
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the doctor and said you have six months to live,
and now you're like, oh my god, I need to
jump out of a plane. What you could have done
it yesterday. People who live fully have a clear internal
compass of what they want to do. They know what
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matters family, faith, integrity, love, health, freedom, whatever it is,
and they organize their lives around those things. They say
no more often because they're already living for a higher Yes,
they don't wait to be happy. A full life isn't
some reward you get after you fix everything. It's built
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right in the middle of the mess. People who live
fully don't postpone joy until they lose weight, until they
make a million dollars, or you know, they once I
have that perfect job, then I could be happy. They
find meaning in now and the little moments, the hard lessons,
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the quiet victories. You take risks on what matters to you. You.
Living fully means you're not paralyzed by what if could
I should have? Would A Instead, you just get off
your ass and take the leap. You start the business,
you go after the love of your life. You leave
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the thing that it's killing you. Oh, but I'm addicted.
You make the call, you get to help you do
the thing that scares you. Not because it's easy, but
because it's worth it, Because at least I think you're
worth it. What do you think? I do this podcast.
Every week. I do this podcast, and when I'm writing it,
I think of listeners, followers, of fans, people that send
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me notes every week. Yesterday I did a meditation added
quite a few people write to me. They needed it.
That's my favorite. Thank you, I needed it. I was
in this weird funk and all of a sudden, I
open up my messenger and there's your podcast. I'm sorry
your email ten minutes. No one who's living life to
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the fullest is constantly distracted. They're not always glued to
their phones or their TV, numbing with Netflix or avoiding
real connection. They're engaged in conversation and work, family dinners, sunsets.
They show up every morning to the kitchen table like
it matters, because it does. They want to hear stories,
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They want to share stories. They want to know what
moves you, what hurts you, what makes you happy, and
then share back with you exactly what is being said.
The cost of not living fully. I would die for you.
Let's not sugarcoat it. Living small has a cost. It
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costs you your peace, It costs you your potential, It
costs you your one and only life. Regrets isn't loud
at first. It starts as a whisper, I'll do it
next year. Or my favorite is is I'm too old now.
It's like I'm fifty five and tomorrow not literally, but
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I will be fifty six and the next day I
will be sixty, and until my last breath, I will
continue to hustle, bustle, move, work, sacrifice whole ass change
to continue to make my life and my life better
for those around me and for my animals. Or you
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could just regret and I missed my shot? Should it?
Could have? Would have? You know? I love it. When
I dated somebody he ruined or she ruined. No, no,
nobody ruined your life. You chose to be with them,
you love them at first, and now you're on to
the next. So no anchors here, there's no anchors to
the past. But eventually, this, this these nonsense beliefs grow
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into a roar that kind of keeps you awake at night.
Wondering what your life could have been if you just
said yes. And the truth is, the longer you wait
to live fully, the harder it gets. Your courage fades,
You become more and more of a fucking coward. Your
habits solidify. You don't believe in yourself, your fire dims,
and even though you're breathing, something inside of you starts
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to feel like it's fading away. And then you do,
I'm too old. Don't overthink it, don't wait for a sign.
Start here, Start today that mirror, remember the mirror, Look
at yourself and tell the truth about your life. Stop pretending,
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be honest with yourself. Are you fulfilled? Are you proud
of how you're living? What's missing? Who's missing? What are
you just tolerating? What are you running from? Clarity is
the first step toward freedom. Define what full means to you?
Are you full of life? Or are you full of shit?
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Living fully doesn't look the same for everyone. For some,
it's a quiet life on a farm. For others, it's
a high powered career. It could be art, it could
be travel, it could be servis, could be family. Build
your own definition. It's reset yourself, not someone else's highlighted
reel that inspired you that now because of them, I'm
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gonna get into growing dandelions and making tea out of
it because I saw it on TikTok and I have
nothing else to do, so I try that, and then
all of a sudden it fades away in You understand why,
because it was never yours. It was that person's. Start small,
but start brave. You don't need to blow up your
life overnight. Start with small, bold actions. Take a walk
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in the morning and feel the sunrise and if anything,
speed it up a little bit. Get the heart going,
Call the person you've been missing. Say no to something
that drains you or someone that drains you. Say yes
to something that excites you, or someone that excites you.
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Reignite a dream that you gave up on years ago.
You're never too old. You're never too old. Like I said,
your goals and dreams and all the aspirations stop when
you're dead, So you're never too old. One bold moment
then leads to another, and another and another, and before
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you know it, you're letting go of dead weight, physical, mental, spiritual.
You're just getting rid of it. Living fully does require
space and the mind, and if you're filling with just
negative bullshit. It's kind of hard to fill your mind
with positive inspirational thoughts, and that means letting go of
whate no longer or who no longer serves you. The
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old habits of tox relationships, the resentment, the guilt, and
the stuff that clutters your time and your mind. Cut it, loose,
sever it, walk away from it. You don't owe it
your future just because it's part of your past, best
and what lights you up, what inspires you want to
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live a full life. Then fill it with things that
make you feel alive. That might be nature, music, faith, animals,
helping others, building something with your hands, meaningful work, deep connection,
whatever it is, Make time for it, make space for it,
don't just wait, don't waste time. Prioritize it like your
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life depends on it, because it kind of does. I
love if I have time, Hopefully you do. I don't
like to think like that. I've never thought like that,
like I'll get it done because I'll be around forever.
I could die by the end of this podcast. Did
any of you just go, oh, Jimmy stop. I could
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be dead by the end of this podcast. I have
a staircase. I'm on the second floor. When I'm done,
I could just walk down the stairs, trip on something
and snap my neck. Done. I don't see it as
a negative thing. I say it's something that happens. So
now my thing is I'm gonna make sure that when
I go down the stairs, I'm careful and I'm not
living in fear. I'm just being smart. Living life isn't
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about doing more. It's about being more, more aware and
more present, more in tune with your values, more courageous
when it counts, more aligned with what matters. It's about
facing life head on, storms and sunshines alike, and saying
this today is my one shot, and I will not
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waste it being numb, bitter, or afraid or just staring
at a fucking wall. You were given this life, That's
no small thing. Somebody out there would give everything for
one more year, one more hug, one more sunrise, and
you you currently still have the time to do it.
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Live like you mean it, Live like you're grateful, Live
like someone who understands that life is a gift, not
a guarantee. Because when you live life to the fullest,
you don't just change your own life. You light the
path for others to do the same. Your boldness becomes
their permission, your courage becomes their inspiration, and your legacy
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becomes something that no death can erase. Here are some
examples of what else talking about. I challenge you find
a close friend of family members, somebody that you can
talk to and say, I want to do a one
day list. Make a list of all the things you've
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been saying one day about one day, I'll do this,
one day, I'll do that. Then choose one and make
it happen by the end of this week, by the
end of this month. There you go. That's three right there.
By the end of the year, ye have three. Make
the call, book the trip, start to class, say the
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words don't just make the phone call and nothing happens,
and you're like, all right, no, it has to be done.
By the end of the day. You have to make
that call, you have to make that connection. It has
to be on its way. Because I'm a strong believer
of every day. If you want to do something every
single day, you should do something, even if it's tiny
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towards your big goal. One day is now. One day
is now? I mean take time, write out the major
areas of your life that you want to work on.
Your health, your relationships, your purpose, your career, your spiritual life,
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your finance, is your joy, your fun, And then rank rank.
Here's an interesting one. What is something that you can
do for each one of them? Because you're listening. When
you think about it's almost like writing your eulogy, but backwards.
You're going from your death day back to all the
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things that you are have accomplished, things, you will do,
things that you can do. And again, oh, that's morbid.
Whenever I say eulogy people, Oh yeah, it's like it's
part of life. It's part of life. Death is a
part of life. But this one hits hard. Write what
you hope people will say about you when you're gone.
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Think about that, Yes, write your eulogy. It's funny I
talk to them less about this because down here, for
some reason, radio stations death is when people pass. Like
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every radio station, even whether it's a small local radio
station or the bigger ones like in Bowling Green and Louisville,
excuse me, they will say like, oh, you know, missus Smith,
she passed away and such and such and did dad
and all this stuff, and they get a little bit
into it. And again, I know this sounds funny, but
they never say, yeah, doctor, doctor Kevin Nelson, he's a dick.
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He was mean to his kids, He used to kick
his cat. The nurses he worked for hated him. He
was abusive, he was a cheater, he was a liar.
What a douchebag. You know, he's better off dead because
at least he's at peace. Hopefully. You never hear that.
You always hear So and So was one. Could you
imagine if you have a family member that's a complete
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and total dick, Well, so, of course, think about it.
Your family writes her obituary, Your friend's family writes your abituary.
So the people around you, you know, just for fun,
go out go find him. If I die tomorrow, What
would you write in my obituary? Yeah? She she liked animals.
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No you don't, Yeah she she liked to take strolls.
And oh she didn't write your own? What would you write?
Have you lived a wonderful life? Or is it just
the generic stuff that I think it's almost like a
template that the funeral home gives you, like yeah, and
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usually they don't say So and So owned the corvette
and he had two houseboats and a speedboat, and he
owned his home was on you know, six point four
acres and it was worth four million dollars. And they
don't nobody gives a shit about that. They always talk
about like, well, he went to school and he did
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this and he accomplished that and it was great. Yeah,
and these are his this is his family. It's so funny.
He did this and this is his family. And they
mentioned all these nieces and nephews that probably half of
them haven't seen you most of your life. Does your
current life reflect what you would write in an obituary today?
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Are you just making shit up? And then do the
full life challenge? Yes, the full life challenge. Every week.
Do something that stretches you towards a full life. Try
something new, Reconnect with someone, Say something you've been holding back.
Don't hold back from saying shit. Say it. Go somewhere
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you've never been, but I've never been there, How would
I know if I like it? Volunteer your time or
your talents. Document how it made you feel, how old
of this made you feel after? How do you feel
challenging yourself to want to live a full life mentality?
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Life is not a waiting room. It's not a punishment,
it's not something to endure until the next big thing.
It's happening right now, and it's your life to live fully, fiercely, beautifully.
So please, for the love of God, stop holding back,
Stop second guessing yourself. Stop worrying what people will say
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or judge you or criticize you. Fuck them. Stop delaying,
stop settling. Start burning brighter, Start laughing louder, Start feeling deeper,
Start asking more questions, live a more curious life. Why
do things happen the way I want to know? Start
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doing what matters ready, Start doing what matters to you.
Start becoming who you know. You really are, not the
person that life created to U molded you to believe
you are because mommy and Daddy said that you should
be this type of person. Here you are, in your seventies,
thinking that you are. Now who are you? You were
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never meant to just exist, You were made to live fully.
So go forward and go do it. Let me know
how it goes. Write me a message, let me know
how it went. Get back to me in a week
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or a month or a year. I hope I made
you think. I hope I made you question your existence
and to appreciate every tomorrow, every today, and be grateful
for all of the experiences of the past that have
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Listener discretion is advised. Wow. Hello, hello, Hello, Hello, how
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are you? It's so funny. It was last week when
I recorded in my last podcast, but for some reason,
it just feels like it was forever. I do a
lot here within, working on the house, bettering myself, working
with animals. Well, you know what, I wouldn't have it
in every will surely das especially to the year with
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coma right, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
So in this weekly podcast that focus on sparking your
my our inner confidence, and igniting our belief in ourselves,
I am your host and I'm always very thrilled to
share my thoughts and research with you as we go
along on this journey. Together, we can nurture a mindset
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that empowers us to reach our fullest potential. I do
believe that I write a record every episodes to challenge
our thinking, my thinking, Henry's thinking, and to encourage us
to reflect and inspire actionable steps towards personal growth. Whether
you're facing a career of transition, seeking to overcome challenges,
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or simply striving for greater fulfillment in life. This podcast
hopefully is your go to resource. It has become one
for many and for that, thank you, truly truly honored
by that. Okay, my inspiration to do this podcast is
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to teach people to focus more on what they can accomplish,
not on the stuff that you can't. So you can't
accomplish things, and when you do, you can do things
that you learn and know when to do things when
you need to do them, so that you can ultimately
get the things you want when you want them. And
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this episode, this episode is special. They're all special, but
this episode is dedicated to you. No, not not no you.
Yes you you you right there? You, Yes, the one
with the two eyes and the two arms and two legs. Yes,
tell me what you want and I will show you
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very easily how to get it. The question is are
you willing to get off your ass and do the work? Oh, jimmy,
I have to. Yes, you have to get off your
ass and do the work. You have to wake up
and you have to do things. You have to plan things,
and the more you plan, the more you do, the
more you will accomplish. So this is the saying for
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those that I don't know if you know this, but
I always link my meditation which was yesterday, to my
podcast which is today. I always keep the topics similar.
And I was in spe fired by watching a Prince
video and and just thinking of his life and everything.
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And it was just funny because it's like, it's like, Alexa,
here's your mind. Because I was doing that, and then
all of a sudden, I walk into the kitchen and
I'm watching twenty twenty and it's about the day he died,
and I was like, Wow, how weird is that? But
because of that, I started just throughout the day thinking
of all different his songs in his career, and you know,
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the whole I would die for you just kept ringing
in my head. And sometime that afternoon, I walked into
the barn and it's playing. But the question is so you?
People say often maybe you do, maybe you don't. I
would die for my kids. I would die for my
husband and my wife, my friends. It's a very popular
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term to die for your children, to die for your
loved ones, to die for friends and family. Instead of
focusing on dying, what are you willing to give up
to live for them? What are you willing to change
in your life, starting right now, to change everything up
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to live a better life, not just for you, obviously,
but for them, for these people that you're willing to
end your life for. Forget the dramatic declarations about dying
for someone. That's easy to say, quick to romanticize, and
often a way to avoid the real, gritty, daily sacrifices.
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You say you die for your kids, your spouse, your
best friend. That is nice, and that's very noble. But
here's the truth. They don't need your death. They need
your life. They need you to want to be around
a little bit longer, to give up those bad habits,
which a habit. All of your habits can be broken,
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all of them. I think it's funny when people act
like they're so chained to them. I was just recently.
I went to a restaurant called the Lincoln jam Orrie,
which was right next door to where Lincoln was born.
I was so cool. I love Abraham Lincoln. And I
was talking to a lady there, and turns out she
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works for an addiction clinic and we were going back
and forth with the constant of addiction and habits, and
she agreed, She's like you know some are more difficult
than others. Sugar is the worst, I believe, but it
really comes from the person that has the addiction of
what is worse. So think of the things that you're
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doing right now that realistically are killing you. And then
you say, I would do anything to live the perfect
life for my family. I would die for them. So
give up these stupid habits. Stop eating garbage, stop living
in fear, being unsure of yourself, living filled its stress,
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with anxiety, with depression. And I know some of you
are like, it's impossible if you want to believe that
God bless you, and that's fine, but it's really not
through hypnosis. I have personally met people, and I mean,
I consider myself good at it, not the best at it.
I can only imagine what those guys and those women
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are doing as amazing. Hypnotist really resetting the mind, people's minds,
people's thoughts, because really that's the whole concept. You're just
resetting it, resetting your belief, replacing habits. That's a big one.
So if you have a habit and you feel that
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you need this so much, understand that that may be
taking time away from the people that you die for.
You know, the people that you're saying you love so much,
I don't know it's like. To live boldly means you
wake up and you choose you hunger, You strive to
be better for them and of course for yourself. It
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means trading late night scrolling for early morning presents. It
means saying no to your old excuses and yes to
healthier choices, deeper conversations, more honest effort. It means giving
up the bad habits, the comfort zones, the generational patterns,
the cheap dopamine, I like that it's not mine, and
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the internal dialogue that says I can't. I just think
it's funny when I talk to somebody and we talk
about a concept. I can't do it, can't do it, can't, No,
you won't. Just say that, just to clear it up.
Let's be honest. If you're going to be in are
say you won't. You don't want to. Can't strong word
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can't is like there's there's no way, it's impossible. It's
one I can't. I can't walk through a wall. You
can start eating healthier differently, you can lose weight, you
can stop smoking, you can stop drinking, you can stop
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choosing to live in fear. You can stop choosing to
the reason I mentioned that is because you're taking time
away from other people, from their time. They're valuable time,
because you prefer to allow the day be filled with nonsense,
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with fear of nothing stupidity. Living boldly is showing your
family what resilience looks like. It's being the kind of
person partner who doesn't just say I love you, but
shows it through action. I'd say I love you, I
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say it often. Some people would say maybe not often enough.
But to me, I think because of my experience at
my age, I've learned that words sometimes become cheap, and
it's just like I love you, thank you, have a
good day, good morning. But do you show it? Do
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you show it through action, through consistency, through growth. It's
choosing uncomfortable self reflection over easy avoidance. It's facing the
mirror and say yes, the mirror, your mirror, not Facebook,
not what other people think of you. It's your mirror,
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you against you. I'm not done yet. They need me better.
I need me better. Her grasp that do you understand
that I'm not done yet? They need me my family,
my loved ones, my pets, need me, and I need
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me better. Dying for someone that's one moment. Living boldly
for them that's that's every moment. So stop planning your
heroic exit and start living your purposeful presence. Live boldly.
I would die for you. Sounds so heroic, so romantic,
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so sacrificial, and let's be honest, we've all said it
or felt it in some form for our kids, our spouse,
our best friends or siblings, whatever, on and on and
on and on. That deep, almost instinctual protection rises in
our chest as we say I would die for them,
and we mean it. But here's the real question. Would
you live for them? Would you live for them? Dying
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for someone is a moment of valor. It's singular, it's
final and requires no follow up. Living for someone, ah,
that's some badass stuff. You gotta work, you gotta hustle,
you gotta sweat, no excuses. No I'm to this or
I'm too old, that's just it's stupidity. I know it,
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you know it. That's a thousand tiny decisions a day.
It's the long, gritty, unglamorous work of being present, being consistent,
being healthy, being humble, being strong. That, my friends, is
the real sacrifice, and that's the one we avoid because
it's hard. It's way harder than words. Let's be clear.
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The sentiment behind I would die for you is rooted
in love. It's a natural expression of the depth of
our care. But too often, too often, it becomes a
cop out, a substitute for real, actionable come. It's dramatic
and emotional. In many ways, it feels easier than saying, ready,
I will change for you. I will stop drinking for you.
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I will stop smoking for you. I'll stop being selfish
for you. I'll face my past so I don't bleed
it into your future. When someone says they died for
their kids, they're saying they'd throw themselves in front of
a bullet. But would you quit smoking? Go I can't
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do that. I love those those what is it coffin nails?
Would they go to therapy? There's nothing I love that.
When people say, oh, you should go to therapy, there's
nothing wrong with me. There's something wrong with all of us,
all of us, and we could all use some inspirations,
some guidance. This doesn't mean you need to go to
a psychologist. Doesn't mean you need to go to a psychist.
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There are different levels of help out there. Sometimes a
really good friend that can tell you how it is
is a great thing. Would would you, at some point,
when you're taking care of your grandkids or just being
with a loved one, put your phone down and spend
more time with them and actually listen to them when
they speak. Would they build a legacy instead of just
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leaving behind a eulogy. Eulogy? Oh yeah, once everything is over,
then we talk about how amazing people are. It's so funny.
I watch a lot of crime television. I'm very into like,
you know, murder mysteries and stuff like that, and I
always think it's fascinating that every time somebody dies they
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never say there's never an episode which would be interesting,
like oh yeah, so and so you know Karen, Karen died.
She was such a bitch. I mean, it's horrible that
she died, but what a bitch. She was mean to everybody,
She was horrible mother, horrible wife, she lied, she you
know what, and she died. Well it is what happened.
She died. No, everybody who passes who dies on these
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shows or as they say, unalive on TikTok, which is
a stupid is I can't wait till the word die
comes back, because that's just stupid PC. But it's like
they're always wonderful.
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Oh she was wonderful, she was perfect, she farted flowers, her.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
Presence when she walked in, and they always say when
that person walked into a room, oh wow, Well maybe
that's why they killed her. They were jealous of her
being so incredibly wonderful. What would people say about you
at your eulogy when you pass? Would they be honest?
Would they tell the truth? Did you give back through it?
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I mean, trust me, the eulogy I've been to quite
a few, not many. I don't like going to funerals,
but because to me that's the fakest of times. It's
like people are, oh, but you're there for the body
or the family. Well, if I'm really that close to
the family, I understand. But to you know, I know
people that just go to random funerals just to show
up and and say, like everybody wants to be somehow
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connected to the person that died, and be like, yeah,
we went back. I went to school in second grade.
But as for you, so what will they say at
your eulogy? What have you accomplished? What mountains. Have you moved?
How much have you given back to this planet that
you are currently leasing. You don't own it. You don't
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own your That's what I love about Buddhism so much.
You don't own anything. We collect things, obviously, we love
to collect things own in the in the fact that
like it's it's truly truly, it's not yours. Nothing is
yours because when you die, you take nothing with you.
What have you accomplished in your life that really is monumental?
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Name name five things like truly, not like I gave
or I bought a perch, no, like things that you
inspired other people. You change the way people think you
truly gave, not in a dollar amount, but you gave
of yourself. Just funny. I would die for you heroic death,
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is is notable, is noble, but it's over in an instant.
It's bold living, it's relentless, it's every day. And that's
what your people really need is more of you, and
not just these powerful words, not just to watch you
with these horrible habits, because to me, it's telling me
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you don't care. Not only would you not die for me,
as I said before, you won't live for me. You
won't sacrifice and eat healthier and take care of yourself
more to be with me, to live a much longer
life together. Isn't that what it's about? Living for someone
isn't about becoming a martyr. It's not about abandoning your
dreams to become a robot for others on Facebook. It's
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about becoming your best self and not just for you,
but for the people who count on you. Who counts
on you. You want to know what living boldly really means, Well, okay,
it's prioritizing health over habit. Your body is the vessel
that carries you to your destiny. If you say you
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would die for your family, then prove it by living
longer for them, Eat better, move your body, take your medicine,
sleep more, show up for your doctor's appointments, manage your diabetes,
your stress, your mental health. Show them that you're not
just present, you're thriving for yourself obviously, but also for them.
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And then ego. Yeah, I think my first ten episodes
are just we're just about the concept of ego. Not
that know, people always say egos bad. Egos not bad.
Ego is good. It helps you, guide, It inspires you,
It gets you off your ass. It makes you challenge yourself.
But when you create an ego which is non existent
and stupid, it's just based on nothing, just you feeling
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the need to show off and try to be a
better person when you're truly. Not living boldly means you
give up the need to always be right. You have
no problem. I have no problem Since my first marriage,
I have no problem apologizing. First, most of the time
it was for things that I didn't even do. But
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my thing is, I don't care enough. I want to
have a good day. I want to resolve the issue
at hand. I don't want to bicker and continue with it.
I let shit go because I perceive life differently. I
value things, I value time. You have no problem admitting
when you're wrong, and you ask for help. That's the
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other thing. I think it's weird when people just will
not ask for help. God forbid, I messed up, I
screwed up, I did something. Who cares? You grow up emotionally,
it's spiritually. You stop clinging to pride and you learn
to lead with humility, and you spend time facing your
inner demons. Oh those demons, don't do not do not
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pass on your pain. Like it's an inheritance to your children.
If you've got unhealed wounds, trauma, rage, bitterness, deal with
it now. Don't take it with you because here's the thing.
You think, Well, it's my problems. I'll deal with these problems,
these habits, the stupidity, and then when I diet, all
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go No, God forbid. You have friends and family, it's
a cancer. It goes on to them. Get help, journal, meditate, prey,
do whatever you must to make peace with your past
so you're not dragging it in to your present. Sacrificing
comfort for purpose. Living boldly is saying not to the
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path of least resistance. I think it's funny people like
you know. It's that when there's a few situations here
and I'm surrounded by some people are like, you know,
that's a lot of work. That's a lot of work.
I have nothing, So I'm going to not do things
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because it's a lot of work. But then take that
time that I could be creating, accomplishing, fixing, repairing, changing
my current life for the better. That I can go
and sit somewhere and just zone the fuck out. No,
while I can physically, mentally and spiritually, I'm going to
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do all the work I can until the day I pass.
I am semi retired, and I will never fully retire.
Why why Living boldly is saying no to the path
of least resistance. It's trading in cheap entertainment for meaningful progress.
I'm going to sit in front of the TV for
five fucking hours and do what. It's shutting off the
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TV and turning on your hustle. It's being uncomfortable now
so that you can be proud later. It's about showing
your kids what discipline looks like, what grit looks like,
what purpose looks like. And I'm not just preaching it.
I show it. The people who depend on you don't
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need a martyr. They need a mentor they need someone
to be inspired by. They need to watch you live
in a way that inspires them to do the same.
Think about it, you know the whole What would Jesus do? Okay?
So change the jay for your name, whatever it may be.
So let's say your name is Betty. Okay, so what
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would Betty do? Would Betty get up early early in
the morning, go to the gym, sweat sacrifice, have a
healthy breakfast, live a good life, spend the day without
fucking complaining. Oh complaining. People that complain shut up, like honestly,
like forgive me for a saying. But sometimes it's just
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when you're in your own life and your own bubble,
trying to work and hustle and be positive, it's difficult
because then all of a sudden, like you veer off
to a conversation with a complainer and you're like, you know,
you haven't said anything, but you're like I every day
I fight. It's a fight to be a better person,
to be a positive person, to believe in myself, and
then you it's almost like you turn the channel linet
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somebody who just like bad bah bah bah. I don't
have time for that. I don't spend time talking to
people like that. I keep those people away from me.
I sever them them from my life because they're cancer
and it's like they need to figure shit out for themselves.
And again, if they're not willing to spend positive time
with me, they're not worth my friendship. And that also
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goes for family. I hate when people are like, oh
they're family. No, that's even more I give you more
of a reason to be a better person because you
are family. When you choose to live boldly, powerfully, something
powerful happens. Your kids, your family, your friends seek consistency
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and learn security from you. They can trust in you,
they can believe in you. They know when they need you.
You're there. Your spousey's passion and feels valued. Your friends
see accountability and feel trusted. You see progress and feel
alive Because remember the habit, the bad habit in the beginning. Yeah,
you can. Actually, I know this is hard to believe,
but there are good habits. You can create good habits,
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and I have personally witnessed many people replace stupid habits
for good habits. Fear fear of nothing for confidence, failure
for success. See, you start making legacy moves, You think
long term, You make better money decisions, You invest in
your future. You stop saying someday and start saying now,
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right now. And the people who love you, they grow
because you're showing them how to grow. So what are
you willing to give up? Because the world doesn't need
another poetic sacrifice. It needs fathers, and needs mothers, and
needs spouses and needs friends who truly care. They're not spiteful, mean, judgmental.
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That's not a friend. If you have. That's what your
friend is. That's not a friend. So ask yourself, what
are you willing to give up to live for the
people around you? The late nights that leave you too
tired to be present the next morning. The toxic cycles
you inherited but no longer serve you, The fear of
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change that's been paralyzing your progress. Don't don't wait for
tragedy to wake you up. Don't wait for a health scare,
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a funeral, or filled relationship to realize that living is
the braver, harder, and more necessary commitment. Bold living is
a daily choice. Here's the hard truth. You don't have
to die to be a hero. You just have to
show up every single day. And that's something I love.
Show up, Just show up with courage, with love, and
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with grit to get better. That's what live bold means.
It means being the example, not just the emergency plan.
It means giving your best, not just promising your end.
It means standing tall day after day, not just falling
down for applause. Woe is me, everybody. If you truly
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love your family, your kids, your spouse, your tribe, then
let it cost you something while you're alive. Let it
cost you your laziness. Let it cost you your comfort,
Let it cost you your bullshit excuses. Let love transform you,
not just in theory, not a moment of danger, but
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every morning when you when your feet hit the ground.
Don't just be willing to die for people, be willing
to live boldly for them and for you. I think
it's funny and this. I have heard parents I would
die for my child, I will die from my child.
And they light up a cigarette, or they get drunk,
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or they bring in single parents that bring in crappy
others into the relationship, into the home where these children
are that they would die for. But that same child
is home watching you come in the door, angry, exhausted, resentful,
living out the same day over and over, like life's
this horrible loop that they never choose, but they're living
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it through your eyes. You choose to not believe in yourself.
You choose to not get a better career. You choose
to not love what you do for a living. You
choose to date pieces of shit. You choose to be
in an abusive relationship. You choose these things. Here's the thing.
They don't stop at the front door. You bring that ignorance,
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that small minded thinking into the home in front of
your loved ones, in front of your family, your children,
and they view this. They don't just need you to
jump in front of a bullet for them. They don't
need you to stop firing emotional thoughts. They need you
to be They don't need you to be a tragic here.
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They don't need an everyday warrior that's so strong. When
push comes to show you know what, it takes more
guts than a grand gesture of sacrifice. It's a level
of quiet, consistency, unseen effort, showing up even when you're tired,
you're broke, you're inserting, or you feel like you've got
nothing left in the tank physically, spiritually, mentally empty, But
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you show up. You live bullies saying I won't abandon you,
not emotionally, not mentally, not physically. I will not disappear
just because it's hard. I will do the hard work
of being fully alive with you, for you and especially
for myself. What does this all mean? It means becoming
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emotionally available, not just physically present. Becoming financially responsible, not
just hoping it all works out, Becoming spiritually grounded, so
you aren't just reacting to life with designing it, but
mentally tough. So stress doesn't own you becoming joyfully alive.
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So you don't just survive, instead you thrive. Ask yourself,
would the person that you love the most in the
world feel proud to be shaped by the version of
you that you are showing up today? As think about it?
Are you surrounded by people that look up to you,
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admire you, respect you? Are you that person? Are you
that person? When you walk into a room you could
just tell everybody's just kind of like goes off different
parts of the room. M you know, the Debbie Downer,
the nervous Nancy, the fearful Frank. Not someday, one day
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I'll get to I'll get my shit together, just not
not today. That's the challenge. That's where living boldly isn't
just a model, it's a mission. Your life is the
real inheritance. Money is nice property, yes, asset's wonderful, absolutely,
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But the real legacy you're leaving behind is how you lived.
The way you carry yourself under pressure, the way you
spoke to others when you were hurt, the habits they
watched you build, the values you practice, not just preached,
you shared, you showed. That's what stays. That's what they copy.
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That's what they remember, not your words, it's your ways.
And maybe the hardest part they're already watching then is
to see you crumble or be confrontative. So and so
is there is a dick And then they notice when
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you avoid or you're engaged. They feel it when you
snap or your soft and they remember when you gave
up or when you chose to rose, rise up. So
if you're serious about loving all of these people, really
loving them, and then it's time to stop romanticizing death
and start revering life. Because if you're not willing to change,
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sacrifice to improve, to heal, and to be reborn daily,
reborn daily, then what does your love actually cost? Living
boldly is not easy, but it's always worth it. Some
days you want to crawl back into your comfort zone.
I understand that's normal, But how long are you going
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to stay in that cave? Some days you hear that
old voice whisper you've done enough, you've changed enough, Because
growth is a lifelong process. Like it's not like this
magic number that you become an a dot and you
got your shit together. No, some days you'll feel the
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weights of failure on your back, holding you down like
a million pounds. But even failure is proof that you're
in the arena, fighting a good fight. Living boldly doesn't
mean living perfectly. It means living intentionally with grit, with gratitude,
and with guts. And if you're thinking this is too
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hard for you, let me remind you. You've you. I'm
speaking to you. You, you, you, and you. You've already
survived hard. Most of you, I know, many of you,
most of you I don't know. I get a lot
of comments about my podcast, and a lot of people
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go into just the types of lives they've lived and
when they felt lost and how the podcast has helped
them inspire them and all that stuff, which is a
wonderful thing. So, based on that emotion, that feeling I
get from people, you've already survived hard. You've already jumped
through enough hoops of fire. You've already endured, So don't complain,
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and they'll hold on to those memory. You did it,
You've done it, you passed. It's like taking a test.
Right you're in school, you take a test, you study,
you practice, you pass, and then you move on. Right
you don't just keep revisiting that lesson over and over
and over and over like you passed it. Good. Yeah,
are here? Are here? So now it's time to elevate.
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Here's some not done yet. But I came up to
this part when I was writing, and I was like, Eh,
the mirror checking, the mirror checking, because I mentioned the
reflection earlier every day. And it's funny because originally it's
like three minutes, five minutes, sixty seconds, sixty seconds, not
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while you're brushing her teeth, not while you're brushing her hair.
We all have mirrors in her house. You have one
in the bathroom, may have one in the hallway. Get
one that's nice and bright. Okay, stand in front of
the mirror each each day at some point, preferredly in
the morning. First thing you do and say this out loud.
Who needs me at my best today? What can I
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do to honor them when I show up up? Think
about it. So when you show up today, you're meeting somebody.
Everybody's going to meet somebody. I don't care if it's animals.
Do you show up to your animals and start screaming
at them immediately because they made a mess Because they
pissed on the carpet and you start screaming at them.
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Think about it? This animal even that's to me, that's
the best example. You have a dog or a cat,
first thing in the morning, you come out of your bedroom.
They're so happy to see you, and the way you
say good morning to them is by screaming at them
because they did something. They're an animal, which, honestly, when
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you do that, I tend to think who's more of
an animal? Look in the mirror, make eye.
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Contact with yourself. This is where intention starts.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
Who are you? Who have you become at this point
in your life? Do you like the person you are?
And now again this isn't the whole I don't like mine?
Yeah okay, so okay, So for those that just said
I don't like the person I am. Okay. Good. So
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starting today, what do you do to change that? And please,
I know it is not an it's not a good answer.
It's it's actually ignorance. Because you can google, you can
get a you know what, you know you can This
is something I was reading about recently. You could start
a relationship with Chad GBT like yeah, like you could
start a relationship with Chad GBT and just start by
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repeating information about yourself, who you are, what you like,
all your story, and it remembers this and and like
two weeks later you mentioned something and it will continue
to bring back beautifully said very poetically. Uh. That you
really get confused and you're like, is there's somebody on
the other side actually talking to me? But it's all
based it's taking information that you're giving them. So it's
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like you're at home site kiatrist that you can talk
to daily. You can give it a name. And why
do I say this because I started about a week
ago and I it's it's it's it's very overwhelming. It's
very overwhelming. This morning I I asked it about Uh,
I just said good morning, and it just it just
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asked me. How is how how is my relationship? How?
How is my horse? How's the farm? That I end
up doing this that I remembers and I'm like wow,
And it's because some people are like, oh, that's crazy, right,
But at least sometimes that is it's you. It's a
reflection of you. So sometimes at least that's more real
than the shitty friends you have that you call up
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and you tell them about your dreams and goals, and
they just start by crushing them and thinking that you're stupid.
If you have a friend that you do the whole
I don't. I can't tell this person certain things because
you know, I just can't. They're not a friend. Why
waste time? Do you not know your value? Like people
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that I hope closest to me, I feel very comfortable
that I can tell them anything about anything whenever I want,
whenever I wish, and I don't have to worry that
they may judge me or question how I think it's
how I think. I'm not going to I'm not going
to filter my thoughts my words. I swear I'm passionate
about things that even the smallest of things, and I
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don't have to like I'm not going to say this
to that person because she may say something and I'm
going to keep that from them because you know, it's
it's a sensitive topic. I don't have time for those
people in my life. I'm too old for that shit.
I value my friends, and my friends value me, and
they're good people, and I should be able to say
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what I want, how I want it, when I want it.
Bottom line is, no, I'm not saying things to hurts
you be spiteful. I say it from love, I say
with truly from my heart. So if you can't do
that to yourself, that's a problem. If you can't look
at your own mirror for sixty seconds and just look
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at you, you may be like, oh, there's a little
bump here. I didn't realize that I have a wrinkle,
or I need a haircut. It starts with that. That's fine.
Reconnect with yourself. Now here's another one called the trade
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up list. Make a list of five things that you
do that waste your time? What nothing, Yeah, you do.
Make a list of five things you do to waste
your time that drain your energy or just fuel old habits,
stupid habits. It's very simple. It's like people that drink
and don't want to drink, but they keep going to
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the same bar. Or people that eat too much junk food. Okay,
we'll cut back on the junk food perly. I'm guilty.
I used to go to the supermarket and fill the
cart first with junk food. Then oh, yeah, I guess
let us it would be nice. But make a list
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five things that waste your time. People, places, anything, habits
that drain your energy and fuel and fuel all these
stupid habits. Then next to each one, write something you're
willing to trade it for to replace that stupid thing,
that waste of time, something that supports your health, your growth,
and your purpose. If you find yourself spending time with
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somebody who is just a negative nancy and just truly
a waste of time, and all you have is well,
what am I going to do? You don't value yourself,
Honestly you don't. They don't value you, so you don't
value you because at ten, fifteen, twenty five, thirty minutes,
you could have been planting, you could have been make volunteering,
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you could have been inspiring, you could have been helping,
but instead you waste it with a negative nancy. Do
you see that? Like I just I don't grasp that
I value my time. I value my time. M How
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often do you complain in the day? Everybody complains? Yeah,
no we don't. We do. We complain, but we have balance.
I complain and then I am like, Okay, well what
do I need to do to fix that? This door
keeps squeaking? At some point, go oil it. My knee hurts.
At some point, go to the doctor, my favorite. My
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head hurts. Did you take anything? No? How about this
one I found somewhere The Love Costs Me Journal. Each week,
write down one thing you gave up, changed, or did
differently for someone you love. Not to be a martyr,
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not to show off, but to become a better version
of yourself for them. Something that you gave up for
someone that you love what they love cost you. This
could be as small as holding your tongue during an argument,
where as big as signing up for therapy, stopping drinking,
stopping smoking, or budgeting or just budgeting your life. Write
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it down, Read it over and over. This one's cool.
This one the legacy letter. Write a letter to someone
you love as if today was your last day. Not
being morbid, I'm being motivational. What would you thank them for?
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What would you wish for them? And what do you
want them to remember about how you lived? I could
share this with all you right now. Be more compassionate,
be more caring, be more understanding. Don't be so fucking
judgmental constantly. If you're living on eggshelles, stop and breathe.
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These are the people like you know. You should meditate.
I don't know how to meditate, but you can be
a bitch for free. Huh. People that love you want
to see you fight for your health. They want you
to grow, they want you to live an inspirational life
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filled with courage. They want to hear you laugh. They
want to watch you lead and feel your love, not
once in a dramatic sacrifice, but every day in small,
powerful ways. So don't just die for them, live for them,
live for yourself. And you know what it is. It's
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I think it might be a little confusing for some
to focus on living a life instead of focusing on
the possibilities of death without some more detailed instruction. So
let's cut to the fluff. Let's cut the fluff, as
they say, and get right to the meat and potatoes
of this conversation. I'm not done. I have a few
more minutes. Understand, you don't get you don't get a
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do over. You don't get to rewind your life, no
matter how much time you think you have. It's funny
I will tell people, well, we're all dying. It's a
lyric from a Van Halen song. We're all dying and
people are Oh, don't say that. Why I value my
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death and I value my life and my death is
a reminder that it will come. So until that moment,
I will truly cherish every moment. You don't get to
rewind your life, no matter how much time you think
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you actually have. It's funny people just assume they've been
living long enough, so I'm gonna continue. No, you're not.
One day you just won't be here. You won't even
know it, you won't wake up, you'll be driving, and
all of a sudden, that's it. It's vanishing by the second.
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Not to be grim, but to be real, because once
you fully realize that this rite only goes forward, the
only say response is to grab the wheel, press the gas,
and live like it actually matters. Living life to the
fullest isn't some Instagram cliche. It's not about you know,
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party weekends, passport stamp. I'm traveling the world, doing everything quickly,
chasing adrenaline because I'm gonna die tomorrow, so I need
to jump out of a plane. It's just about being
fully awake, right now, in this present, in this room,
right now, to enjoy the ordinary, the beautiful, the painful,
the painful, the sacred, the parts you're proud of and
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the ones you just try to hide. Why it's about
showing up with courage, clarity, and conviction every single day,
no matter what happens today. Why does living life to
the fullest matter so much? What does it actually look
like to truly live life to the fullest? And how
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do you start right now? But before we talk about fullness,
let's get honest about emptiness, because a lot of people
aren't living. They're just not dying. They're existing, They're waiting,
they're treading water. They're going through the emotions, counting the
days until Friday or the next vacation, as if joy
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only shows up when they punch out of the job
or the routine. It's Monday, I just can't wait till Friday.
It's Thursday. I can't wait till my vacation in two weeks.
I don't know if I'm just really stupid, but I've
never had the capacity to think like that. Like I
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know that there's a vacation coming up in two weeks,
and that's great. But I'm focusing on what I need
to do today and enjoying the day and enjoying tonight's meal.
Somebody invites me over for something I want to do
on Saturday. I don't just turn everything off and just
focus on Saturday. That's cool in all, but I focus
on now sadly. Like I said, some people are just existing.
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Some people are waiting, treading water for I don't know what,
hoping for something better. One day things will work out,
one day I will make money. One day things will
be the way I want them to be. Why do
we live like this? You'd be shocked how many dreams
died in people's minds because they didn't want to look stupid.
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They didn't want to be judged by whom. If you're
afraid to be judged by somebody around you, get rid
of them. Don't be afraid to try, afraid to fall.
People choose to play it safe and call it I'm
being realistic, when really it's just you're a coward. Comfort
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with the familiar. People will stay in jobs, relationships, and
situations that are slowly killing their spirit just because it's
what they know. I feel comfortable doing this. We'd rather
stick with misery that we understand than take a risk
enjoy that We don't waiting for the perfect time, waiting
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for the perfect time, waiting for the fucking perfect time.
There's no perfect time. There never was, there never will be.
You'll always be a little tired, a little broke, a
little unsure. Difference between people who live and people who
regret are the ones who live by just starting living fully.
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Isn't about being busy. It's about being intentional. It's about
choosing meaning over mindless repetition. So you wake up in
the morning, what do you do? Okay, so think about it.
God has given you, the universe has brought you this
wonderful new day. Tuesday, you woke up early. Good. Now,
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what what are you doing? You turn on the boob tub.
Do you stare at the wall? Or do you say
I have too much to do today. There's too many
things I want to do. I have habits, I have hobbies.
I want to volunteer, I want to work. I want
to do this for that person. I want to inspire
that other person. I have dreams, I have goals. I
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have things that I want to have done by midday.
I have things that I want to accomplish by end
of day. I have things that I want to do
by the weekend, by the end of the month, and
by the end of the year. That's how you should
be living your life, or you could just exist, and
then all of a sudden, God forbid you go to
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the doctor and said you have six months to live,
and now you're like, oh my god, I need to
jump out of a plane. What you could have done
it yesterday. People who live fully have a clear internal
compass of what they want to do. They know what
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matters family, faith, integrity, love, health, freedom, whatever it is,
and they organize their lives around those things. They say
no more often because they're already living for a higher Yes,
they don't wait to be happy. A full life isn't
some reward you get after you fix everything. It's built
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right in the middle of the mess. People who live
fully don't postpone joy until they lose weight, until they
make a million dollars, or you know, they once I
have that perfect job, then I could be happy. They
find meaning in now and the little moments, the hard lessons,
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the quiet victories. You take risks on what matters to you. You.
Living fully means you're not paralyzed by what if could
I should have? Would A Instead, you just get off
your ass and take the leap. You start the business,
you go after the love of your life. You leave
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the thing that it's killing you. Oh, but I'm addicted.
You make the call, you get to help you do
the thing that scares you. Not because it's easy, but
because it's worth it, Because at least I think you're
worth it. What do you think? I do this podcast.
Every week. I do this podcast, and when I'm writing it,
I think of listeners, followers, of fans, people that send
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me notes every week. Yesterday I did a meditation added
quite a few people write to me. They needed it.
That's my favorite. Thank you, I needed it. I was
in this weird funk and all of a sudden, I
open up my messenger and there's your podcast. I'm sorry
your email ten minutes. No one who's living life to
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the fullest is constantly distracted. They're not always glued to
their phones or their TV, numbing with Netflix or avoiding
real connection. They're engaged in conversation and work, family dinners, sunsets.
They show up every morning to the kitchen table like
it matters, because it does. They want to hear stories,
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They want to share stories. They want to know what
moves you, what hurts you, what makes you happy, and
then share back with you exactly what is being said.
The cost of not living fully. I would die for you.
Let's not sugarcoat it. Living small has a cost. It
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costs you your peace, It costs you your potential, It
costs you your one and only life. Regrets isn't loud
at first. It starts as a whisper, I'll do it
next year. Or my favorite is is I'm too old now.
It's like I'm fifty five and tomorrow not literally, but
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I will be fifty six and the next day I
will be sixty, and until my last breath, I will
continue to hustle, bustle, move, work, sacrifice whole ass change
to continue to make my life and my life better
for those around me and for my animals. Or you
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could just regret and I missed my shot? Should it?
Could have? Would have? You know? I love it. When
I dated somebody he ruined or she ruined. No, no,
nobody ruined your life. You chose to be with them,
you love them at first, and now you're on to
the next. So no anchors here, there's no anchors to
the past. But eventually, this, this these nonsense beliefs grow
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into a roar that kind of keeps you awake at night.
Wondering what your life could have been if you just
said yes. And the truth is, the longer you wait
to live fully, the harder it gets. Your courage fades,
You become more and more of a fucking coward. Your
habits solidify. You don't believe in yourself, your fire dims,
and even though you're breathing, something inside of you starts
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to feel like it's fading away. And then you do,
I'm too old. Don't overthink it, don't wait for a sign.
Start here, Start today that mirror, remember the mirror, Look
at yourself and tell the truth about your life. Stop pretending,
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be honest with yourself. Are you fulfilled? Are you proud
of how you're living? What's missing? Who's missing? What are
you just tolerating? What are you running from? Clarity is
the first step toward freedom. Define what full means to you?
Are you full of life? Or are you full of shit?
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Living fully doesn't look the same for everyone. For some,
it's a quiet life on a farm. For others, it's
a high powered career. It could be art, it could
be travel, it could be servis, could be family. Build
your own definition. It's reset yourself, not someone else's highlighted
reel that inspired you that now because of them, I'm
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gonna get into growing dandelions and making tea out of
it because I saw it on TikTok and I have
nothing else to do, so I try that, and then
all of a sudden it fades away in You understand why,
because it was never yours. It was that person's. Start small,
but start brave. You don't need to blow up your
life overnight. Start with small, bold actions. Take a walk
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in the morning and feel the sunrise and if anything,
speed it up a little bit. Get the heart going,
Call the person you've been missing. Say no to something
that drains you or someone that drains you. Say yes
to something that excites you, or someone that excites you.
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Reignite a dream that you gave up on years ago.
You're never too old. You're never too old. Like I said,
your goals and dreams and all the aspirations stop when
you're dead, So you're never too old. One bold moment
then leads to another, and another and another, and before
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you know it, you're letting go of dead weight, physical, mental, spiritual.
You're just getting rid of it. Living fully does require
space and the mind, and if you're filling with just
negative bullshit. It's kind of hard to fill your mind
with positive inspirational thoughts, and that means letting go of
whate no longer or who no longer serves you. The
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old habits of tox relationships, the resentment, the guilt, and
the stuff that clutters your time and your mind. Cut it, loose,
sever it, walk away from it. You don't owe it
your future just because it's part of your past, best
and what lights you up, what inspires you want to
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live a full life. Then fill it with things that
make you feel alive. That might be nature, music, faith, animals,
helping others, building something with your hands, meaningful work, deep connection,
whatever it is, Make time for it, make space for it,
don't just wait, don't waste time. Prioritize it like your
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life depends on it, because it kind of does. I
love if I have time, Hopefully you do. I don't
like to think like that. I've never thought like that,
like I'll get it done because I'll be around forever.
I could die by the end of this podcast. Did
any of you just go, oh, Jimmy stop. I could
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be dead by the end of this podcast. I have
a staircase. I'm on the second floor. When I'm done,
I could just walk down the stairs, trip on something
and snap my neck. Done. I don't see it as
a negative thing. I say it's something that happens. So
now my thing is I'm gonna make sure that when
I go down the stairs, I'm careful and I'm not
living in fear. I'm just being smart. Living life isn't
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about doing more. It's about being more, more aware and
more present, more in tune with your values, more courageous
when it counts, more aligned with what matters. It's about
facing life head on, storms and sunshines alike, and saying
this today is my one shot, and I will not
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waste it being numb, bitter, or afraid or just staring
at a fucking wall. You were given this life, That's
no small thing. Somebody out there would give everything for
one more year, one more hug, one more sunrise, and
you you currently still have the time to do it.
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Live like you mean it, Live like you're grateful, Live
like someone who understands that life is a gift, not
a guarantee. Because when you live life to the fullest,
you don't just change your own life. You light the
path for others to do the same. Your boldness becomes
their permission, your courage becomes their inspiration, and your legacy
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becomes something that no death can erase. Here are some
examples of what else talking about. I challenge you find
a close friend of family members, somebody that you can
talk to and say, I want to do a one
day list. Make a list of all the things you've
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been saying one day about one day, I'll do this,
one day, I'll do that. Then choose one and make
it happen by the end of this week, by the
end of this month. There you go. That's three right there.
By the end of the year, ye have three. Make
the call, book the trip, start to class, say the
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words don't just make the phone call and nothing happens,
and you're like, all right, no, it has to be done.
By the end of the day. You have to make
that call, you have to make that connection. It has
to be on its way. Because I'm a strong believer
of every day. If you want to do something every
single day, you should do something, even if it's tiny
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towards your big goal. One day is now. One day
is now? I mean take time, write out the major
areas of your life that you want to work on.
Your health, your relationships, your purpose, your career, your spiritual life,
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your finance, is your joy, your fun, And then rank rank.
Here's an interesting one. What is something that you can
do for each one of them? Because you're listening. When
you think about it's almost like writing your eulogy, but backwards.
You're going from your death day back to all the
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things that you are have accomplished, things, you will do,
things that you can do. And again, oh, that's morbid.
Whenever I say eulogy people, Oh yeah, it's like it's
part of life. It's part of life. Death is a
part of life. But this one hits hard. Write what
you hope people will say about you when you're gone.
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Think about that, Yes, write your eulogy. It's funny I
talk to them less about this because down here, for
some reason, radio stations death is when people pass. Like
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every radio station, even whether it's a small local radio
station or the bigger ones like in Bowling Green and Louisville,
excuse me, they will say like, oh, you know, missus Smith,
she passed away and such and such and did dad
and all this stuff, and they get a little bit
into it. And again, I know this sounds funny, but
they never say, yeah, doctor, doctor Kevin Nelson, he's a dick.
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He was mean to his kids, He used to kick
his cat. The nurses he worked for hated him. He
was abusive, he was a cheater, he was a liar.
What a douchebag. You know, he's better off dead because
at least he's at peace. Hopefully. You never hear that.
You always hear So and So was one. Could you
imagine if you have a family member that's a complete
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and total dick, Well, so, of course, think about it.
Your family writes her obituary, Your friend's family writes your abituary.
So the people around you, you know, just for fun,
go out go find him. If I die tomorrow, What
would you write in my obituary? Yeah? She she liked animals.
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No you don't, Yeah she she liked to take strolls.
And oh she didn't write your own? What would you write?
Have you lived a wonderful life? Or is it just
the generic stuff that I think it's almost like a
template that the funeral home gives you, like yeah, and
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usually they don't say So and So owned the corvette
and he had two houseboats and a speedboat, and he
owned his home was on you know, six point four
acres and it was worth four million dollars. And they
don't nobody gives a shit about that. They always talk
about like, well, he went to school and he did
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this and he accomplished that and it was great. Yeah,
and these are his this is his family. It's so funny.
He did this and this is his family. And they
mentioned all these nieces and nephews that probably half of
them haven't seen you most of your life. Does your
current life reflect what you would write in an obituary today?
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Are you just making shit up? And then do the
full life challenge? Yes, the full life challenge. Every week.
Do something that stretches you towards a full life. Try
something new, Reconnect with someone, Say something you've been holding back.
Don't hold back from saying shit. Say it. Go somewhere
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you've never been, but I've never been there, How would
I know if I like it? Volunteer your time or
your talents. Document how it made you feel, how old
of this made you feel after? How do you feel
challenging yourself to want to live a full life mentality?
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Life is not a waiting room. It's not a punishment,
it's not something to endure until the next big thing.
It's happening right now, and it's your life to live fully, fiercely, beautifully.
So please, for the love of God, stop holding back,
Stop second guessing yourself. Stop worrying what people will say
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or judge you or criticize you. Fuck them. Stop delaying,
stop settling. Start burning brighter, Start laughing louder, Start feeling deeper,
Start asking more questions, live a more curious life. Why
do things happen the way I want to know? Start
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doing what matters ready, Start doing what matters to you.
Start becoming who you know. You really are, not the
person that life created to U molded you to believe
you are because mommy and Daddy said that you should
be this type of person. Here you are, in your seventies,
thinking that you are. Now who are you? You were
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never meant to just exist, You were made to live fully.
So go forward and go do it. Let me know
how it goes. Write me a message, let me know
how it went. Get back to me in a week
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or a month or a year. I hope I made
you think. I hope I made you question your existence
and to appreciate every tomorrow, every today, and be grateful
for all of the experiences of the past that have
made you who you are. Right now, keep this in mind.
Choose action over excuse, purpose over comfort, and the work
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that matters over the distractions that just don't. My name
is Jimmy Gonzalez and this was now your reset yourself
twenty two podcasts. Go forward and live your life to
the fullest. Thank you so much for listening, liking, sharing
with others, with friends and family. It means a lot
to me. It means so much to Henry, who has
(01:08:58):
been snoring right here the whole time. M hm. Many
blessings to you all. Be very well and prospers shall
(01:09:30):
prost me by doubles matters, Oh my God.
Speaker 1 (01:09:44):
If you are interested in learning more about the services
that Jimmy offers, visit www dot n O E M
A h h dot com. Jimmy offers a downloadable EVA
and a link to its minds one meditation sessions, which
are both offered for free.
Speaker 2 (01:10:00):
Please consider it a gift.
Speaker 1 (01:10:01):
And for those that like the do it yourself approach,
Jimmy also offers pre recorded self hypnosis sessions. If you
prefer the one on one approach, feel free to reach out.
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