August 19, 2025 • 68 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Please note this show contains adult language and themes and
is intended for mature audiences only.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Listener discretion is advised. Daily beloved will gather here today
to get through this thing called life. You are listening
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to the reset yourself. Thank you, thank you, thank you,
thank you, thank you. Appreciate it. Hello everybody, I hope
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you're all well. And yesterday I just released my one
hundredth session of my Monday morning Mind's Eye Meditation. Thank
you to all of you that every week will write
in and thank me for it, and mentioned stories of
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peace of mind and how being finding time to be
still and to actually listen to your breath has helped
you tremendously, something we take for granted. I mean, we
all breathe obviously, but to actually take the time to
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listen to our breath, to feel our breath, I mean,
it's funny now It's it's been twenty twenty two years
since I've been meditating. I've been honored to sit teach
many classes of many amazing people and make amazing friends.
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In my Nuima Orange office was a great, great space.
Middletwn was the best. Middletwn was the best Devon at
the Grove. We had some really good times with a
lot of people doing meditation, most of them so many
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of them saying it was their first time and they
couldn't meditate, and I still they still, they still follow,
which is a beautiful thing. Thank you, thank you for that.
But now, wow, we're looking at this new episode soon
soon to hit two hundred episodes of the Reset Yourself
twenty two podcasts, But for now, in this weekly podcast,
I focus on sparking your inner confidence and igniting your
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belief in yourself. I'm your host and I am always
very thrilled to share my thoughts and research with you
as we go along on this journey. Together with Henry.
I feel that together we can nurture a mindset that
empowers us to reach our fullest potential. I write and
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record every episode to challenge your thinking, my thinking, our thinking,
to encourage us to reflect, to inspire actionable, realistic steps
towards our personal growth. Whether we you, us, or even
Henry is facing a career transition, seeking to overcome challenges,
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we're simply striving for great or fulfillment in life, which
he does every day this podcast for many now and
every day it's every week it's new people, but go
to resource FRO, motivation and practical insights. My inspiration to
do this show is to teach people to focus more
on what they can accomplish, so they do the things
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they need to do when they need to do them,
so that ultimately you get things done when you want
to have them done. This episode is dedicated to all
of you. Tell me what you want and I will
show you how to get it. It's not that ev
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it is. The question is are you willing to do
the work? Are you willing to get off your ass
and get shit done? This, my friends, is there's a
podcast I listen to, The Millionaire real Estate podcast hosted
by Jay Abrams comes out every Monday, and I listened
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to it. It's not just about real estate, it's about
business in general, and it's about life, and I listened
to it religiously. Now it's on YouTube now it's actually
you can see him speak if you go to my
Facebook Jimmy gonzales I actually just posted a link to
the latest one, which the reason I posted it was
because it was less about real estate and more about
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your goals in life. You're focusing on your mindset, focusing
on spiritual beliefs focusing on your economy and money and
like your choices and what you do with your life.
And I actually thought it was a great episode to share,
so I did. I highly recommend it's those are like
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they're not even thirty thirty forty fifty minutes. I mean
they depend but very good. Abram does a phenomenal job.
I like I said, I've been hooked on those podcasts.
That's actually not yeah, well that's actually one of my favorites,
so one of the gentlemen there. Basically, my inspirations come
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from a sentence, a whisper, a statement, and it's never
like huge thoughts. It's just basically somebody on one of
the last podcasts just said cutting the fat. That's all
cutting the fat. And now this entire podcast that I
will share with you is about that. So you can
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see how my mind works. I heard the sentence cutting
the fat, and this is what I came up with.
So here's a bold question. Are you happy? Are you
pleased with your life as of like right now, like
right now, wherever you are right now. Yes, I'm talking
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to you. Okay, obviously the cat's not. Have you accomplished
all the things you've wanted to accomplish. Are you content?
Are you satisfying? Are you just make excuses like, well,
you know it is what it is? No, it is
what it is, is what you creative it? Are you
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happy with everything? Are you happy with your relationships? Are
you happy with your work, your career? Are you pleased
with the decisions you've made? Do you feel that throughout
your life you've made more good choices than bad choices?
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Or maybe you're just one of the many that are
still hoping that one day, somehow your life is going
to change. Something big is still about to happen that
will finally grant you the life that you've been wanting
now for thirty forty fifty sixty years, I personally have
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met many people that are still waiting for that golden
goose to show up at the front door, or my
life will finally change when I win the lottery, as
if that somehow is going to solve all of your problems.
Money does not solve your problems, and people will fight
me on that tooth and nail. Money will not solve
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all your problems. It's your perspective of life that will
solve your problems. As I've said in the past, as
you get older, you get wiser. You don't get smarter,
you get wiser, and shit starts to make sense. And
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at that point is when I feel you truly start
to value yourself, the day, your health, the people around
you that actually matter. And this is when you start
to separate yourself. You start to sevy yourself from the
things that just don't benefit you, people that just really
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don't inspire you. You have those people that show up
in your life and the first thing you do is
roll your eyes and wish they would go away. People
that just don't bring anything to your table. Hopefully you
bring stuff to other people's table. It's not a This
is not a one way thing here. You might be
the person that the other person that I'm talking about,
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But for many of us, we wake up one morning
and we see life differently. Hopefully, for most of us,
it doesn't take a grand sickness or waking up in
a hospital bed listen it doupe dupe to finally go,
oh my god, I need to get my shit together now.
Or the many people are told by a doctor you
have six months to live, and that's when they decide
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to move mountains. Why there was nothing holding you back?
Well there was. I'm sorry you were holding you back.
Not work, not money, not relationships, nothing, It was you.
It's like one day the blinders just come off and
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you look around and you see things differently, the value
in your life. And like many if you still have
not this podcast, this episode, it's for you. It's about
cutting the fat. Let's clear the the excess and reveal
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our true core, our true wants and needs to me. Okay, actually,
last night, it's funny. We went out to dinner and
we had stake life. Like a good steak is best
enjoyed when it's lean too much fat. It's actually not.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
Good for you.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
And you know, oh, but it's not good for you,
whether it's clutter and life, whether it's wasted time, unnecessary expenses,
or toxic relationships. Wait, why we're we just talking about steaks. Yes, well,
this podcast isn't really about trimming the fat of meat.
It's about trimming the fat of your life, forcing you
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to slow down. Things that make you slow down in
your life, things that weigh on your mind. How many
of you right now are carrying so much weight on
your shoulders, so much weight that you can't move forward.
You can't make a clear decision because you look around
and say, yeah, but you know so and so and
my friend and my husband and my wife and my kids,
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and they may judge me. They may question the fact
that I want to get up and move out of state.
They may question the fact that I want to lead
my job because I hate it. They make question the
fact that I want to go back to school and
change my career. Those are people you should be surround
here with self with. Oh but Jimmy, they're family. It
doesn't matter. Family doesn't get carbe blanche here. Sorry. Actually
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I hold them to a higher standard. That's why so
many of us are closer to friends that at one
point were strangers than family, which just popped up, as
you know, blood relatives. Cutting the fat isn't just a
diet for the body. It's a diet for the mind,
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for the schedule of your life, and for your soul.
I know there's some of your Wait wait, wait are
we are we still talking about food? Let me explain
one thing. One thing. Hold on before I go it,
just give give me, give me thirty seconds. Okay, I'll
make it quick. I just posted something about New Haven
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Pizza on my Facebook.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
Go to it.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
There's a link for a video which was made by
an old friend of mine, Gorman Bachard. I was actually
close with his wife. I knew her. We worked at
a music store together. Very nice lady, and she was
very inspirational, such a hard worker. Well, he is a
movie producer and he's done many movies, and he did
this documentary on pizza, which it's funny like whenever I
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share it, I end up watching it because it was
done so well and it's something that's very very inspirational
to me. Pizza, my God, I miss it living in Kentucky.
I've been to a few places. A lot of people
say it's the water. I don't know what it is.
It's just it's not the same. And of course I
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missed the old Italian culture. I grew up in a
originally very old Italian town. The pizza houses, the bakeries
all around, those those little little hole in the wall
places in Connecticut and New York, New Jersey, Little Italy
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and New Haven, Little Italy and New York. And it's
funny because when in New York keeps getting smaller and
smaller and smaller, but it's filled with quality, not quantity.
And that's something we're going to talk about here in general,
quality not quantity. So what does cutting the fat really mean?
And everyday life, cutting the fat means removing what's non
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essential so the important things can breathe, so you can choose,
You can make choices without you know, making decisions based
on But others will pick on me and criticize me
and tell me what not to think about. A business
tightening it's tightening its budget by eliminating pointless expenses, or
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an artist stripping a painting down to its essential simple.
It's about clarity, efficiency, and purpose. This principle can be
applied in three main areas. Okay, you ready. Physical clutter
things you don't use, things you don't need, things you
don't even like anymore. Mental clutter, worries, commitments, distraction that
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aren't worth the mental rent they are charging you. Do
you let people live in your head rent free? I
used to focus on somebody back from the eighties that
broke your heart. Trust me, they're not thinking of you anymore.
They already remarried, moved on and have their own life.
And you're still like, what a jerk? How about emotional clutter,
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people habits or beliefs that no longer serve you. But
to this day, why do we continue to still hold
on to this fat I ask you, Yeah, I'm talking
to you. You how big right now? Is your circle
of friends? Wait? Wait, not acquaintances, but people that would
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help you hide a body? No questions asked. My mother
always said, if you hang out with shitty people, you
become a shitty person. You know what's funny. I remember
thinking to myself, she doesn't know what she's dark. Yeah
she does. She knew what she was talking about, because
when I was young, for a very short period of
my life, I went from some friends in grammar school
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and then when I got into high school, I had
shitty friends. Uh quick, quick, quick story. One of my
shitty friends I had. I had two groups of friends.
One friend killed, like literally shot and killed another friend.
And that's when I disassociated myself from all friends and
I just went into the world of DJing and clubs
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and going to New York and that was it. I
just I severed all ties. Hopefully, I like to think
that's why I'm still here with you. But it is
my belief that if your circle of so called friends.
Whatever you think are friends sucks. Then you don't see
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your value. Friendships are earned. People work for it. I
work for friendships. Take a minute and look around you
right now in your life when it comes to friends,
Do you have quantity or do you have quality? I
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have a handful of accounts, three or four. I have
more than that. But like when I'm talking about accounts
on social media and each one has thousands, my main
two accounts have close to five thousand friends. But are they.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
So?
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Again? Do you prefer quantity or quality? Humans? We are
natural hoarders, not always in the piles of newspapers way,
but in a just in case way. We keep closed
we haven't worn in ten years, staying jobs that drain
us and make us fucking miserable, but they pay my bills.
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Other jobs pay bills too, But it's not that easy.
Then you don't see your value, you really don't. You
hang on to friendships because well, I mean, you know,
we've been friends since high school, or my favorite he's
really not a bad person, you know what's funny. At
some point people actually thought Jack the Ripper probably had
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friends that thought he wasn't a bad person either. Uh,
but why do we hold on to these things? Is
it fear of loss? What if I need this friend
one day that shits on me every day? That that
every time I talk to this person, all they do
is just non stop rattle on nonsense and misery and sadness,
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and I just sit there and listen. So you don't
love yourself, you don't value yourself. Or maybe it's just
a simplicity of comfort in the familiar, even if it's
bad for us. It's what I know, right, that's a
shame Shame on you. Shame on you identify attachment. We think.
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We think things we own or the habits we have
define us. They don't. The cost of carrying excess, carrying
unnecessary weight. Oh, I'll get into that, whether physical, mental,
or emotional, it slows you down. It keeps you from
moving forward. And then people look at themselves like, you know,
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why does my life suck? Why? And I usually say, okay,
look at your circle of friends. Yeah, but you know
they're good people. You're losing time constantly dealing with things
that you you don't need. You lose money maintaining, storing
and replacing stuff that doesn't matter. You lose energy by
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spreading yourself way too thin. It's like trying to run
a race with a backpack full of bricks. Are any
of you guilty of that right now? You might still
finish the race, but you will be exhausted and slower
than you should be. It's funny Melissa and I were
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just talking about this topic last night that she heard
on the podcast that when you know that I share
not mine but the millionaire one, someone uses analogy of
red light green light, not the game, but just for me,
I will also I need there's a yellow light, so
I want to add the yellow light yellow for caution.
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It's those people that are like, think of your circle
of people in your life right now. Think of it
right now, Think of your relationships with them. Think of
your overall time together, not just like the last five seconds.
Think of the entire relationship. Then assign them with a
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color green, red, or yellow. I asked that you be
honest with yourself, which seems to be the biggest issue
when it comes to all of this, your own honesty.
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People were a facade for so long they forget who
they truly are when they look in the mirror. A
true friend wants you to succeed. A true friend allows
you to love unconditionally, It allows you to truly be
happy with your life, to help you do anything without
planing or question. Here's a great example something I would
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like to share with you. When I first started driving,
I had a blazer, a blue and white blazer, a
little red line. And I can look back now at
the type of person that I was. Still am but
I have helped. When I was sixteen, sixteen, seventeen, eighteen,
nineteen twenty, I helped so many people move And you're like, what, Yes,
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I just I don't know. Living on the east side
of Bridgeport, people are always moving. It's just weird. You know,
lady across the street with six kids and she's like, oh,
I'm moving this nag found a new place. But I
don't know what to do this and that I would
be there that Saturday helping them move. And I'm not
talking about like just moving some boxes. I have put refrigerators, couches,
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I've put many mattresses, dressers, night stands, coffee tables in
and on top of my blazer. Yes, it's amazing. What
ropes and bungee cords do this poor truck to help
people move, and I never ever questioned what I was
moving here, I see this is where I'm going with this,
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or why I was moving it, because when I offered
to do somebody a favor, I just did it. I
didn't get all picky and judgmental and annoying with why
are they moving this? And why are you moving that?
Do you need this? Do you need that? Because now
I'm helping you and oh my god, this is heavy,
so you shouldn't have offered Shut up. I was offering
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them a favor. So you do it and you don't
question it, and then you know, you don't get all
judgmental and annoying with why they are even moving and
maybe you shouldn't move and you need help. I'm going
to help you. End of story. I don't want to
know why you're doing it, where you're going anything. I
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just need to know where I'm gonna I'm gonna pick
this up and I'm gonna put it over there. It's
that simple. The last thing people need to deal with
when they're in a situation like this, to hear your
mouth and hear you talk here, you criticize, and it's
funny looking back, I can honestly think of dozens and
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dozens that I've helped. Some were friends of friends. Some
When I was writing this, I was like, Wow, I
remember moving this person over by by the north end
of the bridgeport. I remember the house. I remember, I
remember the stuff that I moved. I actually I ended
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up moving the larger things because they just couldn't so
I was like, I'll just move the main things and
I just deliver them to a house. Everything I did
by myself with a really good handcart with straps, and
I never questioned. They just didn't have the money to
rent to tr and I wasn't there to judge. But
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the funny thing is, soon after, when it was my
time to move, all of a sudden, people get in
my business. What's in this box? What's in that box?
Why is this so heavy? Word to this come from?
Is this even important? So basically, because you're lazy and
you can't carry stuff, my stuff is a problem. Since then,
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I have moved a handful of times, and I've done
pretty much most of it alone and recently with God
bless Melissa, which she's just learned to keep her complaints
to herself. And I always thought to myself, it's a shame.
As I said, your circle of friends, who they are
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and are they really friends?
Speaker 1 (25:54):
Now?
Speaker 2 (25:55):
What is this process of trimming the fat? Cutting the
fat isn't comfortable, but it's liberating. The process can be
broken into steps, which I'll go into quite a bit.
I asked that to identify what matters most to you,
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you reset your yourself. If it doesn't align with your goals,
your values, or your well being, then it may have
to go on the chopping block. Eliminate what and now
this is tough, this is you know this what drains you?
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Who drains you? Learn to say? There was an entrepreneur
I'm not going to say his name because a lot
of people don't care for him, but and I don't
do the politics thing, but he has always said you
say no first, and then you have them work and
do what they can to prove to you why they
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need your help, and then you do it. So you
say no first. You don't say yes. Whenever anybody asks
me of anything, my first thought is either silence because
I need to think, or I say no, and then
now I need them to really figure out why they're
why they need it, and then we go into it
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and we try to do it intelligently. But I don't
bother judging. I just want them to think for themselves
because that's a beautiful thing. It's a freedom that I
offer to many people. Think for yourself, walk away from
people who only take and never give. Unsubscribed, We're going
to get into this because it's funny technology. Unsubscribe from email?
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Is that bury the important stuff I have to I
have about four email accounts, and I get so much
spam that it just pushes things. Texts people will tell
I get many texts, will get texts from the animal
world that people still want animal control help, not kidding,
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And I'm talking many in a day. My phone still
rings asking for questions about stuff like that. But when
is happening is it starts to push the real calls,
the the the actual text that you should answer, the emails.
It pushes it down to the point that you didn't
even see it anymore. It's two pages away. This happens
daily to me. Learn to streamline and simplify your life.
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Cutting the fat isn't a one time thing, trust me.
It's something you're gonna have to do often. It's not
like I'm gonna do it just Rea turn Now, if
you're like me older, you have a lot of fat,
because I do, and you're gonna have to little periodically
re evaluate and just keep keep trimming. The freedom of
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less is rejuvenating, it's it's it's wonderful. Once you've trimmed
the excess, life feel lighter, not just physically but my
favorite antally. You think more clearly, You move faster towards
your goals. You think of an idea, you put it together.
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You may have a really good circle of friends that
you can talk to, not I have an idea of Oh,
I can't tell this person to that person because they're
gonna judge me and criticize me, which is fine if
it's actually based on experience. My thing is, and I've
said this in many, many podcasts, if you're learning to
be a plumber, If you're learning to be a plumber,
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don't sit with your grandmother and tell her mom, I'm
you know, Grandma, I want to be a plumber. Excuse
my French, What the fuck does she know? I want
to be a doctor. So I'm gonna sit with my
dentist and tell my dentist I'm thinking of going to
medical school. What do you think I'm gonna tell my
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mechanic that I'm having issues with my garden and then
the zucchini isn't growing. I love when I say she like,
these people are that silly. We all do that. You
go to the wrong person, go to the people that
are doing what you do. And here's my favorite people
are like, well, I don't know. We have the internet, now,
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what do you mean? You can either google it or
there is a Facebook group for everything. If you want
to learn how to collect I want to collect cigarette lighters,
there's a Facebook group. I want to learn how to
raise chickens. My god, I'm a part right now. Currently,
I'm a part of like seventeen Facebook groups. I had
an issue with one of my chickens. I went on
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a few of the groups and I just wrote questions
and I got hundreds of answers. Now, of course, it's
up to me to figure out what works best for me.
Now I own a horse, I had issues with flies
around the face. I went on the Facebook page and
I got about fifty answers, but three of them were
really really good. Thank you to those people. When you
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cut the when you cut the fat, If you actually
listen to this podcast, and you break it down so
that it works for you. You grasp and understand what
I'm saying, and you do begin to cut the fat
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in your life. You get rid of all the red
light people.
Speaker 3 (31:23):
And those yellow people with just there are you know,
those people that make you think with their ulterior motives
that you don't really trust.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
If you don't really trust somebody, don't let them in
your house, and I'm not talking about physical home. You
get rid of them and you focus on the green people.
There are people right now in your life that believe
in you, that want to see you succeed, that one
that want would do anything for you. There are people
that spend more time worrying and thinking about you than
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you know. Right now, you probably don't worry and think
about what happens when you cut the fat. Life gets better.
Your schedule becomes manageable, Your life becomes manageable, your thoughts
become manageable, your priorities become clearer, your energy becomes more focused,
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and before you know it, it's a mindset shift. Wow.
The real secret is realizing that less isn't loss, it's gain.
You gain time, You gain freedom, You gain clarity when
you shed what doesn't matter. It's not about deprivation, It's
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about refinement, quality over quantity. Bruce Lee said, it's not
a daily increase, but a daily decrease. Hack away what's unessential.
I usually put exercises at the end, but while I
was working on this, I just kept thinking of concepts
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and ideas and one of my favorites, which is overall decluttering.
And a lot of people assume decluttering just means getting
rid of shit around the house. Yeah, I have a
story for young to share. But there's also mental decluttering.
There's spiritual religious decluttering, which is a lot of people
that have this clutter of what is and how they
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personally cope with things, and then they feel they need
to tell you how you should cope with things, which
I find fascinating. But in this case, let's start off
with the concept of just a quick declutter ten minute
physical declutter. Set a timer right now in your house.
Set a timer. Get your phone, Yes your clock has
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a timer. Set it for ten minutes. You know it
said it for ten minutes, fifteen minutes, thirty minutes, not
too long, because this is just to prove a point
and quickly set it and go through your room that
you're in now and remove put put things that you
haven't used in the past year in an area. The
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funny thing is when you sit there and you really
start to focus on you know, do you really need
this old thing, this, this thing of a jig, this
tally whacker. Before you know it, all of a sudden,
you're like, well, you know it's broken, but you know
I kind of want to fix it, okay, And what
I do that, Oh, trust me, I'm guilty of it,
but I end up fixing it or I put it
in an area where, like where the tools are, where
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I can fix it, because if it's sitting on a
shelf over there, I even know it's not gonna get fixed.
Then you sit down and you find yourself not doing
anything again, and the clutter builds. And I'm not asking
you to throw anything away, if anything, make two piles.
There's those shows, those horder shows, which I thought was
good because what they would do is when they were
cleaning out the homes, they would take two sheets out
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in the front lawn and put like the shit that
really really matters to you, that's really important, and then
the stuff that you don't even know what it is
or where it came from. Like I said, make it's
you know, thirty minutes, rush through your house and start
to pull out things that just don't matter, things that
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are just taking up space in your life, things that
when you really look at them, you you don't even
remember what they are. I've done that. You're like, what
is what is?
Speaker 3 (35:26):
What is this?
Speaker 4 (35:27):
Like?
Speaker 2 (35:27):
Why do I have this? I kind of remember it,
but why do I need it? I mean, in my
roule of thumb, is something has been in a box
for thirty years. Maybe you can donate or sell it
on Facebook marketplace. Maybe they're Actually I've been wanting to
go through one of my wrench drawers because I know
I have sockets and wrenches like of the same size.
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Like I have sockets that are like you know, there's
like seven of them that are like, you know, half
inch sockets. I only need to I have like seven,
and I know that there's other people that would love
this socket. So I just pulled up a good Will
and be like, there you go. Thinking of room now,
mind you, if you have the room and the space
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to have this collection, go for it. But I can
tell you as an animal control officer. When I was
an a control officer. I had carte blanche to go
into many, many, many, many homes. And it's funny. When
when I wrote this, I was like, wow, because a
lot of people you probably think it's like animal animal cruelty.
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Right now. You know the TV show Hoarders. I've watched
it a few times. They're all bad. There's no good
or bad hoarder. It's just hoarding is a sickness and
it's it's it's tough, it's bad. But I can I
can think of at least four hoarding cases that I
was a part of and not animal. There were animals.
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There was a cat lady, that dog lady.
Speaker 4 (36:56):
That was.
Speaker 2 (36:58):
Actually my dogs came from that one of these homes.
But there was one of an injured lady on a
second floor over in the north end of Bridgeport. She
had a German shepherd so they could hear the barking,
and of course the neighbors are like, you know, what's
going on. We haven't seen her for a few days
and we hear the dog barking. Is the dog dying whatever? Starving?
And where's this lady? But the fire department called me
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and they're like, we need you to come to this
address and blah blah blah. So of course, very typical.
I show up. There's like three fire trucks. There's a
bunch of men standing outside of this house. Whenever there's
an animal, I have to go in, because God forbid,
they get banned. Beautiful home, now what you think. Actually
it's a beautiful home. We walk up. We opened the
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front door. Actually they had to pop the door off
the frame because they couldn't push it in and they
couldn't even see through the windows. Sure, why so get
the door off. Now, imagine a open door frame, front door,
stacked stacked from floor to about this much space from
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the top of the door, close bottles, junk, stacked, I
mean stacked, like stacked, stacked, stacked all the way up.
And of course they're yelling hello, hello, hello, and you
really can't hear anything. So there's an animal in there.
So that's my job. They picked me up and I
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slid through that top little space and I look and
all I see is clothes that go continue, piles that
just continue, continue, continue, continue, continue to the other doorframes. Okay,
I could tell that I was in one room. Now here,
I am doing the army crawl I'll never forget that.
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My baton my my, my police radio is you know,
everything is scraping on the ceiling. Yes, I go through,
and I see a dining room to the right of space,
which is a little bit more open, but still not
so I go through. Now, mind you, I'm crawling on
pot like all the way up to the ceiling of
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clothes and do the math. That's a lot of clothes
I'm crawling on. God knows what else is in there.
But I finally got underneath. Now I'm in the kitchen area,
and I could see where the clothes are starting to
go down a little bit because I see there's a window,
there's a pantry at the end, there's light, and there's
a German shepherd. Surprisingly, somehow the dog had food and
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the dog had water. The dog was fine. He was
just in a crate and the crate was open so
he could climb up and you know, mountain climb too.
But god, I remember the house sprisially didn't stink. But
I get to that point now there's the dog, and
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then I realized when I go down all the way
into the pantry, there is a little space maybe like
eighteen inches wide, that goes along the front of the
kitchen cabinets to it's a doorway, which you know, you
have the back door that way and then the staircase
going up. So I get the dog. I go to
the back door. I was able to like there was
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so many close move stuff, actually more stuff, and the
fireman came in there. That was bad. The lady had
a broken leg. She was upstairs. She had a broken leg.
She was fine. The dog. I ended up taking the
dog with me for a few weeks. She got the
dog back, it was fine. She ended up working with
some professionals to help her declutter her life. I ended
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up seeing her often throughout the life, and every time
she seed me, she hugged me. And you know, we
did so much to help her. And blah blah blah
blah blah and all this stuff. But understand that hopefully
you're not that bad. But when collecting nice stuff, owning
beautiful trinkets, keeping things for historical purposes or nostalgia, it's
a wonderful thing when it gets to that point. Your
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home should be a peaceful place. Your home is a
place where you can just kick your shoes off and
really just detach and if you feel anxiety when you
walk into your home or your life. It's time to
make a change. Now, let's let's here's here's these exercises
very simple. The yes no list, the yes no list.
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Write down everything on your plate in your life in market.
Yes it supports your goals or no it doesn't. This
goes for things. This goes for people, relationships, your work.
Does it support your goals or does it not. It's
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a tough one for a lot of people because they're like, well,
most of the things on this lie. I did this
once with a client, Uh, have no secession, and they
were just like, wow, I'm surrounded Like everything I surround
myself with is just keeping me from my goals, and
like now I have a few more, which I feel
pretty good. The next one, it's fascinating. I mentioned it
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technology because here we are in a life that we're
surrounded by technology, and so this is the digital diet. Unfollow, unsubscribe,
and delete apps off of your computer, your laptop, your phone.
You don't realize how through the day we upload and
download and upload and download and upload and download and
upload it and before you know it, you know, our
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computers are slow, our phone is slow. It's okay, dedicate
a half an hour here and there, just thirty minutes.
Just go through your downloads, go through your apps, and
just clear shit. Go through your emails and just unsubscribed.
That's something I do daily. As I mentioned before, I
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get a lot of emails, a lot of emails, so
I spend quite a few bit. I spend quite a
bit of time unsubscribing a lot. So the digital diet,
it helps unfollow, unsubscribe, and delete apps. Now going back
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to that red light, green light, yellow light, how about
a relationship aud it? Oh my god, Jimmy, I can't
do that. Why make a list of people in your life.
Keep the ones who uplift you, Keep the ones that
believe in you, Keep those speedle that don't judge you,
that will help you move stuff without criticizing you. Create
a distance slowly because people are like, what am I
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supposed to walk away from people? Why is everything so
black and white? I'm sorry, in my world everything is gray.
You start to slowly distance yourself. Those people trust me.
When you distance yourself, you don't matter anyway. So they
start to just find other people to suck dry. Cutting
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the fat is not about living with nothing. It's about
living with only what matters to you. When you do,
you move faster, you feel lighter, and actually you may
may you ready, you may endure your journey hard hitting,
no fluff and absolutely knows. I'm gonna zero sugarcoat this.
You're ready the brutal truth. What do you think about
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this episode so far? Does it resonate with you? Do
you not agree with it because it's too tough? Does
it make you think about your current life your current friends?
Are you looking around your house and going, but I
need every single thing that I have here, that broken
thing over there, and that broken thing over there. Here's
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a side note. Look up a thing called funk shue.
Funk shue. I used to teach it. It's a big
part of my life. I'm not gonna get into it.
This isn't the show for it. But it's about energy
through your home. If you have broken shit laying around
your house, it stops flow of energy really quick. Imagine
opening your front door and a positive breeze of air
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is coming through, and it has to go into your
front door through your entire house, flowing, growing, expanding, bringing happiness,
joy and success and good health. And then flowing out
a back door. Can you see this wonderful breeze doing
this or is it getting constantly stopped because there's a
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broken vacuum cleaner there. There's some artwork that's stacked up
in that corner that has spiders on it because it's
been sitting there since you know, the seventies. The rug
is stained and just I don't even walk on that rug.
That couch has been broken for years. The chair's blow
and sit there. That chair is broken too. Yeah, I
have I have two own two dishes. I don't have
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more because they're all broken. So I wonder why nobody
comes over. It's an energy thing. They're not gonna come
over you don't have the dishes. Let's get this straight.
Your life is either moving forward or you you are
allowing it to be bogged down, to be held back.
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There's no neutral gear here. If you feel stuck, if
you're exhausted, if you can't figure out why you're not
where you want to be, there's a good chance because
you're dragging too much fat behind you. And again I'm
not just talking about what's on your plate or your waistline,
though that might need some attention to I'm talking about
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the excess in your life, the wasted hours of useless possessions,
the people who take up more than they actually give
to you, the bad habits that you keep defending like
they're your emotional support pets. Cutting the fat means when
you stop making the excuses for the stuff holding you
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back and you start swinging that knife. I'm sorry to
say this, many of us me I was go through
for many years carrying so much dead weight. It might
be drunk in your garage. It might be toxic friends,
or just guilt of something you did back twenty years ago.
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It might be the Netflix binge that stealing three hours
of your life every so often is fine every night,
And then you wonder why you can't get your shit
together because you're just spending all your time instead of
focusing on your dream zone and listening and watching a
positive podcast. Instead, you're just I'm just gonna do nothing.
I'm gonna sit in front of the television, and then
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wonder why shit just doesn't seem to be happening because
the magic magician, the golden Goose isn't coming to my door,
or my favorite is the job that people can't leave.
The amount of people that I talk to that are like, Oh,
I have a job. It sucks. The bass sucks. I'm
not making the money I want, but I mean it
pays the bills. The heart truth is most of you
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already know what the fat is that I'm talking about
in your life. You just don't want to cut it
because it's easier, easier to live with than to actually
do the work and get off your ass and accomplish
something and move some mountains in your life, and then
you see if shit start to happen. But here's the thing.
The fat isn't sitting around there doing nothing. It's actively
slowing you down. It's taking up space that could be
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filled with something better, someone better. It's wasting your energy
every single day because you want to romanticize the past.
A big chunk of the fat in your life is
stuff we're holding on too because it reminds us of something,
a time, a person, a place, a version of ourselves.
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Remember when I used to wear this shirt ie was cool.
Then Remember these jeans I used to fit in them.
This is when I was a size too, and you're
not anymore. And trust me, there's somebody a goodwill that's
the sized too, that could use those pants. We think
keeping these things preserve the memory, but what it really
does is it keeps you locked into a past that
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you now are admitting that you were better then. That's
when I was thinner, That's when I was sexier, okay,
and you're not anymore. So if that's an issue, joined
at gym and get prettier. I mean, I think it's
funny when people are like, well, I'm fat, I want
to lose weight, and it's like, all right, so do
something about it. I'm gonna take a magic pill. There's
no magic pill. It's fat. You have to burn fat,
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like you know, and now they have pills that do,
and yeah, they also kill you. That shit like stunts
your stomach simply because you're too lazy to just go
for a brisk walk. And like, because to lose weight
you don't just walk. You have to do a brisk
walk to raise your heart so you could burn, so
your furnace gets hotter. The fact that I explained this
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to people often and they just stare. I mean, I'm like,
that's how you lose You have to sweat, sweat the
fat off. The fat just doesn't fall off. It has
to be sweated off. It has to like, you have
to make it work, you have to raise your furnace heat.
I don't know, it's just it's just frustrating, Like you know, oh,
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this shirt from ten years ago that might fit at
me one day. It's it's the friendship that's been dead
for years, but you know, you keep texting because well,
you know, we've known each other since high school, the
old habbit. You keep telling yourself that you know, it's
just you know, it's just who I am. I can't
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stop smoking these death sticks. It's not part of who
you are becoming. If it's not heart of who you
are becoming, it's weighing you down.
Speaker 4 (51:05):
Now.
Speaker 2 (51:06):
Now, how about for those of you that love the
comfort zone? Yeay, life is easier. No, it's not, you're
just lazy. It's just it's just so much easier to
not worry. It's just so much easier to just sit
around and wait for life to happen to me. But
God forbid, when life doesn't show up at the door
with everything I want, all of a sudden, it's everybody
else's fault, instead of you getting off your ass, making
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some choices and doing something with your life. You'd rather
just be in the comfort zone. I'd rather just sit here.
Comfort is the enemy. Fat is comfortable. That's why it's there.
It doesn't fight you, it doesn't demand you change, it
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doesn't call you out. But that comfort is costing you time.
Think about it. If a race car drives started bolting
extra steel plates and stuffed animals and broken window frames
and old junk boxes to their car just becomes them
because it makes them feel good, would they be able
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to race just as quickly? Yeah, people do this every
day in your life. You're carrying just bullshit in your life.
Every single comfort that's not helping you grow is keeping
you from hitting that top speed. Lean, be lean. Now,
are we still talking about food well for obesity? No,
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there there are Let's just go there's three kinds of fat. Okay,
so yes, let's stop being vague. Here's the breakdown. Physical fat.
Stuff you don't need. If it's in your home, garage,
or workplace and it's not actively used or loved, it's clutter.
Clutter is not just a storage problem, it's it's also
a mental problem. We've seen it on the shows Hoarders
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Luddy Show. Clutter literally raises stress levels and messes with
your ability to focus. I've been in homes and people
it's not like, here's the thing. I've been in many
hoarding situations, and I've never heard people say, yeah, this
is my home. It's filled with lots of shit, but
it is what it is. I love it. No, I
walk in, not judgmental, look around, and they immediately start
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defending it or saying I know it's bad. I know
it's bad, but you know it's I know it's bad.
I didn't even say anything, so obviously you think it's bad.
I'll deal with it later. It's just another anchor on
your brain. Then you have mental fat because of the
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physical fat. This is all the junken bullshit in your head,
all the things, the limiting beliefs that you believe are true,
the fears that are just not real, the fears of
things which are not real that you for some reason
will not come to the and go it's not real.
Unnecessary commitments, habits, and time whists are steal your focus.
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Every time you say yes to something you don't actually
care about, you're adding more fat to your mental diet.
In my opinion, this is the toughest and that is
you know then you have, of course, you have emotional
fat Okay people and beliefs that you outgrow some people.
You outgrow some people you should never have been around
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in the first place. The problem is we keep them
in our lives because we're scared of the drama that
comes with letting go. What if I make them angry?
They're not bringing anything to your table, But holding onto
relationships that drag you down is like trying to run
a marathon. Well, giving that person a piggyback ride, eventually
your legs will give out. It say, is when you
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tap into the mental surgery that you need. Cutting the
fat isn't a gentle trim It's surgery you have to
get rid of. You have to be ruthless, identify the fat,
making a list of everything in your life that feels heavy,
that drains your energy, and that slows you down, asking
only the questions that matter. Does this help me get
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to where I need to go? And then you cut
without hesitation. Not someday, not maybe after things change, maybe
after things calmed down. But understand that when you start
cutting the fat, the excuses will come. You will create them.
Trust me, because I've done that too. They'll sound reasonable,
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they'll sound logical, but they're all lies. I might need
it later, No, if you haven't used it in over
five years, you won't. I can't just drop them. They're
good people, but we've been friends forever. Longevity doesn't equal value.
It's not hurting anything, Yes it is. It's taking a
space in your energy. I don't have time to do
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with this now. I love when people actually that they have.
They're that busy. You have time, you're just wasting it
somewhere else. And then, of course, when you do all this,
it's the great payoff. When you cut the fat, you
move faster, you think clearer, you stop feeling buried, held down.
You suddenly have time and energy for the things and
people that matter. It's not about living with nothing, it's
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about living with what matters. And that's when life starts
to feel sharp, clean and in your control. If you
want a better life, you have to start swinging the knife.
Nobody's coming to do it for you. Nobody's going to
beg you to let go of your clutter. Your bad
habits are your energy. Energy vampires. Yeah, I think one
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of my original podcasts was about energy vampires. This is
all your job. It's your jobt to cut the fat,
to keep the muscle, to watch how fast you start moving.
You see it. Here's a concept that actually picked up
scrolling on the internet. It's called the fat cutting blueprint.
Cutting the fat isn't just a mindset, it's a system.
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The most successful people, the entrepreneurs out there, they don't
just go out swinging without a plan. They create a blueprint.
Speaker 1 (57:14):
You know.
Speaker 2 (57:15):
It's like, if you want to stop dragging that weight,
you need steps that are simple, clear, and impossible to
wiggle out of. Now that you have been listening, have
you been envisioning things in your life? People in your life,
Situations in your life that you know that I know
that you know that we both know really don't belong there.
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So what can you do? Well, Simply you begin with
identifying your targets. You can cut what you can't cut
what you can't see, or what you're hiding. Pull out
a notebook, Melissa's favorite thing in the world, Open up
a document, grab a whitebird board, and split it into
three columns. Physical fat, mental fat, emotional fat, physical fat, stuff, possessions, gear, junk,
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duplicate tools, things you might use but you never will
mental fat, unnecessary commitments, habits that waste time, endlest someday,
someday one day. Projects, emotional fat, draining relationships, toxic shitty people,
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grudges from nineteen fifty six, and self defeating beliefs that
you can't and that you won't. Okay, wait a minute,
wait a minute. So so how do I start? Very simple?
If it doesn't contribute to your health, your happiness, and
your goals, it's on the list. You know what this
is interesting? Assign a score. I was trying to figure
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out how to do this. I had to like figure
out three or four different things to come up with this.
Not all fat is equal. Some of it is pure
dead weight, some of it is just slowing you slightly.
Give every item a score based on one. For a
minor thing, it's not that bad. Ten for it's it's
sucking you dry. It's an anchor deep into the ocean
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that's not letting you go forward. That box of junk
in the garage that you haven't opened in five years,
maybe you want to give it a five. Your buddy
who only calls you when he needs something nine, or
the person that calls you every day to just talk
about how horrible their life is that's a ten again.
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What could you be doing instead of that? You could
be helping people, You could be you could be inspiring
other people that want your company, that want to be
inspired by you and with you. But instead you're dedicating
a half an hour to somebody blah blah blah blah,
negative net. That's it. Really, you don't know your value
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scrolling social media for two hours before bed. The higher
the score of the faster it needs to go. Get it.
So this is where people get stuck because they're still
trying to make excuses for their fat Just in case
you know, I may need this person. You're not a
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museum curator for bad habits and junk. If you can
remove it right now, throw it away, donate it deleted,
block it, block them, unsubscribe, set it on fire, cancel it,
do it now, do it quick. If it's bigger, like selling,
ending at least quitting a job, set a non negotiable deadline,
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and trust me, here's the thing with deadlines. Deadlines can
be moved. Don't be ridiculous, but like, I want to
do something about my job within the next six months,
six weeks, six days, and then of course you stop
feeding your fat. You're the one who's guilty of it.
Once you start trimming it, you have to stop adding
more of it. You don't go backwards. That means no
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impulse perchaes that aren't part of your plan. Stop going
on Amazon and just buying stupid shit and then getting
it and realizing that you don't want it. Now it
sits turns to creates a new pile of clutter. No
new commitments unless they align with your top priorities. Stop
surrounding yourself with ideas and thoughts and that are just
going to focus on what you want to finish. Write
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it out, what are the things, because now you have
new things that you want to finish. I'm guilty of that.
I'm working. I have ADHD diagnosed that. It's like there's
fifteen things that I'm working on. So I add four more,
and then seven more, and then three more, and then
I finished six, but then I add set. But I
work towards it, and I'm aware of it, and I'm
constantly fighting with myself. I'm getting much better at it.
But like I said, all of this is a work
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in progress. Cut people sometimes without apology. Here's where it
gets uncomfortable. For all of you, but also where you
get the biggest gains. If someone constantly drains you, criticizes you,
just brings misery and complaints to you. They're fat. You
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don't have to blow up in a dramatic exit, but
you do have to reduce your exposure. Reduce your exposure
less time, less energy, less space in your head. Yes,
you'll get guilt trips, you'll get you've changed, but that's
prove you're moving forward because trust me, I know if
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many old friends are like you know, I don't know
who you are anymore. I'm a better version of me.
And then you can replace it with muscle cutting. The
fat leaves empty space. And if you don't fill it
with muscle, healthy habits, meaningful relationships, productive work, that fat
comes back again. If you're just sitting around twiddling with
your thumbs, that that fat will haunt you and come back. Replace.
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Like I said, replace things, gossip sessions with goal planning.
Instead of criticizing, people look up to other people, admire people.
Listen to podcasts. Is podcast positive podcasts. Whenever I'm driving,
it's usually music, but if not, I go to a podcast.
I pick a topic, a positive topic, and I listen
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to people. Tony Robbins is obviously one of my favorite.
Uh not many people like him. Everybody has a different style.
Find the style of person that inspires you. Fat will
always try to create back. That's why you need monthly maintenance.
Once a month, scan your environment, your schedule, your relationships.
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If it doesn't be long, make it go away to
do not please, do not let a molehill turn into
a mountain. The resistance you will face cutting the fat
sounds great until you're halfway through, and then the excuses
start attacking again. But I might regret this later. You'll
regret wasting more time.
Speaker 4 (01:03:49):
Now.
Speaker 2 (01:03:50):
It's not that bad, Jim. If it's not good, it's bad.
I've had it forever good and it's been holding you
back for whorever. The more fat you cut, the more
people will notice, and not everyone will cheer you on,
because some people don't like to see other people do well.
Some will feel threatened because your progress shines like a
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light on their laziness. You ignore them. Nothing nothing survives
without your purpose. Every single thing in your life needs
to earn its place, including friendships that goes for objects, routines,
and as I said, relationships, ask yourself every day this here.
Does it make me stronger, does it help me move forward?
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Does it bring me and protect my peace? If the
answer of any of these is no, it's gone. No debate,
no nostalgia.
Speaker 1 (01:04:40):
No.
Speaker 2 (01:04:41):
But someday your time, your time should be sacred. Time
is the one resource that you can't replace, and it's
running out, and fat is the thief that steals it.
In extreme fat cutting, you treat your time the way
sniper treats ammunition. You don't waste a single shot. You
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don't just start shooting into the air. You cut low activities, scrolling, gossiping, binge,
watching busy work, and said, do things get shit done
by the end.
Speaker 3 (01:05:13):
Of the day.
Speaker 2 (01:05:14):
I need to get this and that done. And trust me,
other things come into play, but by the end of
the day, I need to get that and that done.
Every day, especially here, I do a minimum of ten
things per day, four being very important and the others
just being filler, and the filler get in my way.
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But every single day, when I lay down in bed,
I know I accomplished those few things that I needed
to do. Final word, fat cutting is not going to
be comfortable. It will make people question you Why are
you caring about yourself? Why are you so focused on
being better? It will make you question you, but in
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the end you will be left with a life that's sharp, strong,
and unstoppable. You can't control every challenge that life throws
at you, but you can control the load you are
carrying when those challenges punch in the face. Keep it lean,
keep it sharp, and you'll be ready for anything. So
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you question your existence, your life, and to appreciate every
tomorrow and every today, and that you are grateful for
all of the experiences of the past that you have
made which made you who you are. Right now, keep
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I feel that together we can nurture a mindset that
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they need to do when they need to do them,
so that ultimately you get things done when you want
to have them done. This episode is dedicated to all
of you. Tell me what you want and I will
show you how to get it. It's not that ev
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it is. The question is are you willing to do
the work? Are you willing to get off your ass
and get shit done? This, my friends, is there's a
podcast I listen to, The Millionaire real Estate podcast hosted
by Jay Abrams comes out every Monday, and I listened
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to it. It's not just about real estate, it's about
business in general, and it's about life, and I listened
to it religiously. Now it's on YouTube now it's actually
you can see him speak if you go to my
Facebook Jimmy gonzales I actually just posted a link to
the latest one, which the reason I posted it was
because it was less about real estate and more about
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your goals in life. You're focusing on your mindset, focusing
on spiritual beliefs focusing on your economy and money and
like your choices and what you do with your life.
And I actually thought it was a great episode to share,
so I did. I highly recommend it's those are like
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they're not even thirty thirty forty fifty minutes. I mean
they depend but very good. Abram does a phenomenal job.
I like I said, I've been hooked on those podcasts.
That's actually not yeah, well that's actually one of my favorites,
so one of the gentlemen there. Basically, my inspirations come
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from a sentence, a whisper, a statement, and it's never
like huge thoughts. It's just basically somebody on one of
the last podcasts just said cutting the fat. That's all
cutting the fat. And now this entire podcast that I
will share with you is about that. So you can
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see how my mind works. I heard the sentence cutting
the fat, and this is what I came up with.
So here's a bold question. Are you happy? Are you
pleased with your life as of like right now, like
right now, wherever you are right now. Yes, I'm talking
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to you. Okay, obviously the cat's not. Have you accomplished
all the things you've wanted to accomplish. Are you content?
Are you satisfying? Are you just make excuses like, well,
you know it is what it is? No, it is
what it is, is what you creative it? Are you
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happy with everything? Are you happy with your relationships? Are
you happy with your work, your career? Are you pleased
with the decisions you've made? Do you feel that throughout
your life you've made more good choices than bad choices?
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Or maybe you're just one of the many that are
still hoping that one day, somehow your life is going
to change. Something big is still about to happen that
will finally grant you the life that you've been wanting
now for thirty forty fifty sixty years, I personally have
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met many people that are still waiting for that golden
goose to show up at the front door, or my
life will finally change when I win the lottery, as
if that somehow is going to solve all of your problems.
Money does not solve your problems, and people will fight
me on that tooth and nail. Money will not solve
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all your problems. It's your perspective of life that will
solve your problems. As I've said in the past, as
you get older, you get wiser. You don't get smarter,
you get wiser, and shit starts to make sense. And
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at that point is when I feel you truly start
to value yourself, the day, your health, the people around
you that actually matter. And this is when you start
to separate yourself. You start to sevy yourself from the
things that just don't benefit you, people that just really
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don't inspire you. You have those people that show up
in your life and the first thing you do is
roll your eyes and wish they would go away. People
that just don't bring anything to your table. Hopefully you
bring stuff to other people's table. It's not a This
is not a one way thing here. You might be
the person that the other person that I'm talking about,
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But for many of us, we wake up one morning
and we see life differently. Hopefully, for most of us,
it doesn't take a grand sickness or waking up in
a hospital bed listen it doupe dupe to finally go,
oh my god, I need to get my shit together now.
Or the many people are told by a doctor you
have six months to live, and that's when they decide
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to move mountains. Why there was nothing holding you back?
Well there was. I'm sorry you were holding you back.
Not work, not money, not relationships, nothing, It was you.
It's like one day the blinders just come off and
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you look around and you see things differently, the value
in your life. And like many if you still have
not this podcast, this episode, it's for you. It's about
cutting the fat. Let's clear the the excess and reveal
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our true core, our true wants and needs to me. Okay, actually,
last night, it's funny. We went out to dinner and
we had stake life. Like a good steak is best
enjoyed when it's lean too much fat. It's actually not.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
Good for you.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
And you know, oh, but it's not good for you,
whether it's clutter and life, whether it's wasted time, unnecessary expenses,
or toxic relationships. Wait, why we're we just talking about steaks. Yes, well,
this podcast isn't really about trimming the fat of meat.
It's about trimming the fat of your life, forcing you
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to slow down. Things that make you slow down in
your life, things that weigh on your mind. How many
of you right now are carrying so much weight on
your shoulders, so much weight that you can't move forward.
You can't make a clear decision because you look around
and say, yeah, but you know so and so and
my friend and my husband and my wife and my kids,
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and they may judge me. They may question the fact
that I want to get up and move out of state.
They may question the fact that I want to lead
my job because I hate it. They make question the
fact that I want to go back to school and
change my career. Those are people you should be surround
here with self with. Oh but Jimmy, they're family. It
doesn't matter. Family doesn't get carbe blanche here. Sorry. Actually
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I hold them to a higher standard. That's why so
many of us are closer to friends that at one
point were strangers than family, which just popped up, as
you know, blood relatives. Cutting the fat isn't just a
diet for the body. It's a diet for the mind,
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for the schedule of your life, and for your soul.
I know there's some of your Wait wait, wait are
we are we still talking about food? Let me explain
one thing. One thing. Hold on before I go it,
just give give me, give me thirty seconds. Okay, I'll
make it quick. I just posted something about New Haven
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Pizza on my Facebook.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
Go to it.
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There's a link for a video which was made by
an old friend of mine, Gorman Bachard. I was actually
close with his wife. I knew her. We worked at
a music store together. Very nice lady, and she was
very inspirational, such a hard worker. Well, he is a
movie producer and he's done many movies, and he did
this documentary on pizza, which it's funny like whenever I
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share it, I end up watching it because it was
done so well and it's something that's very very inspirational
to me. Pizza, my God, I miss it living in Kentucky.
I've been to a few places. A lot of people
say it's the water. I don't know what it is.
It's just it's not the same. And of course I
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missed the old Italian culture. I grew up in a
originally very old Italian town. The pizza houses, the bakeries
all around, those those little little hole in the wall
places in Connecticut and New York, New Jersey, Little Italy
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and New Haven, Little Italy and New York. And it's
funny because when in New York keeps getting smaller and
smaller and smaller, but it's filled with quality, not quantity.
And that's something we're going to talk about here in general,
quality not quantity. So what does cutting the fat really mean?
And everyday life, cutting the fat means removing what's non
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essential so the important things can breathe, so you can choose,
You can make choices without you know, making decisions based
on But others will pick on me and criticize me
and tell me what not to think about. A business
tightening it's tightening its budget by eliminating pointless expenses, or
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an artist stripping a painting down to its essential simple.
It's about clarity, efficiency, and purpose. This principle can be
applied in three main areas. Okay, you ready. Physical clutter
things you don't use, things you don't need, things you
don't even like anymore. Mental clutter, worries, commitments, distraction that
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aren't worth the mental rent they are charging you. Do
you let people live in your head rent free? I
used to focus on somebody back from the eighties that
broke your heart. Trust me, they're not thinking of you anymore.
They already remarried, moved on and have their own life.
And you're still like, what a jerk? How about emotional clutter,
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people habits or beliefs that no longer serve you. But
to this day, why do we continue to still hold
on to this fat I ask you, Yeah, I'm talking
to you. You how big right now? Is your circle
of friends? Wait? Wait, not acquaintances, but people that would
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help you hide a body? No questions asked. My mother
always said, if you hang out with shitty people, you
become a shitty person. You know what's funny. I remember
thinking to myself, she doesn't know what she's dark. Yeah
she does. She knew what she was talking about, because
when I was young, for a very short period of
my life, I went from some friends in grammar school
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and then when I got into high school, I had
shitty friends. Uh quick, quick, quick story. One of my
shitty friends I had. I had two groups of friends.
One friend killed, like literally shot and killed another friend.
And that's when I disassociated myself from all friends and
I just went into the world of DJing and clubs
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and going to New York and that was it. I
just I severed all ties. Hopefully, I like to think
that's why I'm still here with you. But it is
my belief that if your circle of so called friends.
Whatever you think are friends sucks. Then you don't see
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your value. Friendships are earned. People work for it. I
work for friendships. Take a minute and look around you
right now in your life when it comes to friends,
Do you have quantity or do you have quality? I
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have a handful of accounts, three or four. I have
more than that. But like when I'm talking about accounts
on social media and each one has thousands, my main
two accounts have close to five thousand friends. But are they.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
So?
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Again? Do you prefer quantity or quality? Humans? We are
natural hoarders, not always in the piles of newspapers way,
but in a just in case way. We keep closed
we haven't worn in ten years, staying jobs that drain
us and make us fucking miserable, but they pay my bills.
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Other jobs pay bills too, But it's not that easy.
Then you don't see your value, you really don't. You
hang on to friendships because well, I mean, you know,
we've been friends since high school, or my favorite he's
really not a bad person, you know what's funny. At
some point people actually thought Jack the Ripper probably had
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friends that thought he wasn't a bad person either. Uh,
but why do we hold on to these things? Is
it fear of loss? What if I need this friend
one day that shits on me every day? That that
every time I talk to this person, all they do
is just non stop rattle on nonsense and misery and sadness,
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and I just sit there and listen. So you don't
love yourself, you don't value yourself. Or maybe it's just
a simplicity of comfort in the familiar, even if it's
bad for us. It's what I know, right, that's a
shame Shame on you. Shame on you identify attachment. We think.
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We think things we own or the habits we have
define us. They don't. The cost of carrying excess, carrying
unnecessary weight. Oh, I'll get into that, whether physical, mental,
or emotional, it slows you down. It keeps you from
moving forward. And then people look at themselves like, you know,
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why does my life suck? Why? And I usually say, okay,
look at your circle of friends. Yeah, but you know
they're good people. You're losing time constantly dealing with things
that you you don't need. You lose money maintaining, storing
and replacing stuff that doesn't matter. You lose energy by
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spreading yourself way too thin. It's like trying to run
a race with a backpack full of bricks. Are any
of you guilty of that right now? You might still
finish the race, but you will be exhausted and slower
than you should be. It's funny Melissa and I were
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just talking about this topic last night that she heard
on the podcast that when you know that I share
not mine but the millionaire one, someone uses analogy of
red light green light, not the game, but just for me,
I will also I need there's a yellow light, so
I want to add the yellow light yellow for caution.
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It's those people that are like, think of your circle
of people in your life right now. Think of it
right now, Think of your relationships with them. Think of
your overall time together, not just like the last five seconds.
Think of the entire relationship. Then assign them with a
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color green, red, or yellow. I asked that you be
honest with yourself, which seems to be the biggest issue
when it comes to all of this, your own honesty.
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People were a facade for so long they forget who
they truly are when they look in the mirror. A
true friend wants you to succeed. A true friend allows
you to love unconditionally, It allows you to truly be
happy with your life, to help you do anything without
planing or question. Here's a great example something I would
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like to share with you. When I first started driving,
I had a blazer, a blue and white blazer, a
little red line. And I can look back now at
the type of person that I was. Still am but
I have helped. When I was sixteen, sixteen, seventeen, eighteen,
nineteen twenty, I helped so many people move And you're like, what, Yes,
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I just I don't know. Living on the east side
of Bridgeport, people are always moving. It's just weird. You know,
lady across the street with six kids and she's like, oh,
I'm moving this nag found a new place. But I
don't know what to do this and that I would
be there that Saturday helping them move. And I'm not
talking about like just moving some boxes. I have put refrigerators, couches,
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I've put many mattresses, dressers, night stands, coffee tables in
and on top of my blazer. Yes, it's amazing. What
ropes and bungee cords do this poor truck to help
people move, and I never ever questioned what I was
moving here, I see this is where I'm going with this,
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or why I was moving it, because when I offered
to do somebody a favor, I just did it. I
didn't get all picky and judgmental and annoying with why
are they moving this? And why are you moving that?
Do you need this? Do you need that? Because now
I'm helping you and oh my god, this is heavy,
so you shouldn't have offered Shut up. I was offering
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them a favor. So you do it and you don't
question it, and then you know, you don't get all
judgmental and annoying with why they are even moving and
maybe you shouldn't move and you need help. I'm going
to help you. End of story. I don't want to
know why you're doing it, where you're going anything. I
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just need to know where I'm gonna I'm gonna pick
this up and I'm gonna put it over there. It's
that simple. The last thing people need to deal with
when they're in a situation like this, to hear your
mouth and hear you talk here, you criticize, and it's
funny looking back, I can honestly think of dozens and
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dozens that I've helped. Some were friends of friends. Some
When I was writing this, I was like, Wow, I
remember moving this person over by by the north end
of the bridgeport. I remember the house. I remember, I
remember the stuff that I moved. I actually I ended
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up moving the larger things because they just couldn't so
I was like, I'll just move the main things and
I just deliver them to a house. Everything I did
by myself with a really good handcart with straps, and
I never questioned. They just didn't have the money to
rent to tr and I wasn't there to judge. But
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the funny thing is, soon after, when it was my
time to move, all of a sudden, people get in
my business. What's in this box? What's in that box?
Why is this so heavy? Word to this come from?
Is this even important? So basically, because you're lazy and
you can't carry stuff, my stuff is a problem. Since then,
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I have moved a handful of times, and I've done
pretty much most of it alone and recently with God
bless Melissa, which she's just learned to keep her complaints
to herself. And I always thought to myself, it's a shame.
As I said, your circle of friends, who they are
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and are they really friends?
Speaker 1 (25:54):
Now?
Speaker 2 (25:55):
What is this process of trimming the fat? Cutting the
fat isn't comfortable, but it's liberating. The process can be
broken into steps, which I'll go into quite a bit.
I asked that to identify what matters most to you,
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you reset your yourself. If it doesn't align with your goals,
your values, or your well being, then it may have
to go on the chopping block. Eliminate what and now
this is tough, this is you know this what drains you?
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Who drains you? Learn to say? There was an entrepreneur
I'm not going to say his name because a lot
of people don't care for him, but and I don't
do the politics thing, but he has always said you
say no first, and then you have them work and
do what they can to prove to you why they
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need your help, and then you do it. So you
say no first. You don't say yes. Whenever anybody asks
me of anything, my first thought is either silence because
I need to think, or I say no, and then
now I need them to really figure out why they're
why they need it, and then we go into it
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and we try to do it intelligently. But I don't
bother judging. I just want them to think for themselves
because that's a beautiful thing. It's a freedom that I
offer to many people. Think for yourself, walk away from
people who only take and never give. Unsubscribed, We're going
to get into this because it's funny technology. Unsubscribe from email?
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Is that bury the important stuff I have to I
have about four email accounts, and I get so much
spam that it just pushes things. Texts people will tell
I get many texts, will get texts from the animal
world that people still want animal control help, not kidding,
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And I'm talking many in a day. My phone still
rings asking for questions about stuff like that. But when
is happening is it starts to push the real calls,
the the the actual text that you should answer, the emails.
It pushes it down to the point that you didn't
even see it anymore. It's two pages away. This happens
daily to me. Learn to streamline and simplify your life.
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Cutting the fat isn't a one time thing, trust me.
It's something you're gonna have to do often. It's not
like I'm gonna do it just Rea turn Now, if
you're like me older, you have a lot of fat,
because I do, and you're gonna have to little periodically
re evaluate and just keep keep trimming. The freedom of
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less is rejuvenating, it's it's it's wonderful. Once you've trimmed
the excess, life feel lighter, not just physically but my
favorite antally. You think more clearly, You move faster towards
your goals. You think of an idea, you put it together.
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You may have a really good circle of friends that
you can talk to, not I have an idea of Oh,
I can't tell this person to that person because they're
gonna judge me and criticize me, which is fine if
it's actually based on experience. My thing is, and I've
said this in many, many podcasts, if you're learning to
be a plumber, If you're learning to be a plumber,
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don't sit with your grandmother and tell her mom, I'm
you know, Grandma, I want to be a plumber. Excuse
my French, What the fuck does she know? I want
to be a doctor. So I'm gonna sit with my
dentist and tell my dentist I'm thinking of going to
medical school. What do you think I'm gonna tell my
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mechanic that I'm having issues with my garden and then
the zucchini isn't growing. I love when I say she like,
these people are that silly. We all do that. You
go to the wrong person, go to the people that
are doing what you do. And here's my favorite people
are like, well, I don't know. We have the internet, now,
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what do you mean? You can either google it or
there is a Facebook group for everything. If you want
to learn how to collect I want to collect cigarette lighters,
there's a Facebook group. I want to learn how to
raise chickens. My god, I'm a part right now. Currently,
I'm a part of like seventeen Facebook groups. I had
an issue with one of my chickens. I went on
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a few of the groups and I just wrote questions
and I got hundreds of answers. Now, of course, it's
up to me to figure out what works best for me.
Now I own a horse, I had issues with flies
around the face. I went on the Facebook page and
I got about fifty answers, but three of them were
really really good. Thank you to those people. When you
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cut the when you cut the fat, If you actually
listen to this podcast, and you break it down so
that it works for you. You grasp and understand what
I'm saying, and you do begin to cut the fat
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in your life. You get rid of all the red
light people.
Speaker 3 (31:23):
And those yellow people with just there are you know,
those people that make you think with their ulterior motives
that you don't really trust.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
If you don't really trust somebody, don't let them in
your house, and I'm not talking about physical home. You
get rid of them and you focus on the green people.
There are people right now in your life that believe
in you, that want to see you succeed, that one
that want would do anything for you. There are people
that spend more time worrying and thinking about you than
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you know. Right now, you probably don't worry and think
about what happens when you cut the fat. Life gets better.
Your schedule becomes manageable, Your life becomes manageable, your thoughts
become manageable, your priorities become clearer, your energy becomes more focused,
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and before you know it, it's a mindset shift. Wow.
The real secret is realizing that less isn't loss, it's gain.
You gain time, You gain freedom, You gain clarity when
you shed what doesn't matter. It's not about deprivation, It's
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about refinement, quality over quantity. Bruce Lee said, it's not
a daily increase, but a daily decrease. Hack away what's unessential.
I usually put exercises at the end, but while I
was working on this, I just kept thinking of concepts
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and ideas and one of my favorites, which is overall decluttering.
And a lot of people assume decluttering just means getting
rid of shit around the house. Yeah, I have a
story for young to share. But there's also mental decluttering.
There's spiritual religious decluttering, which is a lot of people
that have this clutter of what is and how they
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personally cope with things, and then they feel they need
to tell you how you should cope with things, which
I find fascinating. But in this case, let's start off
with the concept of just a quick declutter ten minute
physical declutter. Set a timer right now in your house.
Set a timer. Get your phone, Yes your clock has
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a timer. Set it for ten minutes. You know it
said it for ten minutes, fifteen minutes, thirty minutes, not
too long, because this is just to prove a point
and quickly set it and go through your room that
you're in now and remove put put things that you
haven't used in the past year in an area. The
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funny thing is when you sit there and you really
start to focus on you know, do you really need
this old thing, this, this thing of a jig, this
tally whacker. Before you know it, all of a sudden,
you're like, well, you know it's broken, but you know
I kind of want to fix it, okay, And what
I do that, Oh, trust me, I'm guilty of it,
but I end up fixing it or I put it
in an area where, like where the tools are, where
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I can fix it, because if it's sitting on a
shelf over there, I even know it's not gonna get fixed.
Then you sit down and you find yourself not doing
anything again, and the clutter builds. And I'm not asking
you to throw anything away, if anything, make two piles.
There's those shows, those horder shows, which I thought was
good because what they would do is when they were
cleaning out the homes, they would take two sheets out
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in the front lawn and put like the shit that
really really matters to you, that's really important, and then
the stuff that you don't even know what it is
or where it came from. Like I said, make it's
you know, thirty minutes, rush through your house and start
to pull out things that just don't matter, things that
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are just taking up space in your life, things that
when you really look at them, you you don't even
remember what they are. I've done that. You're like, what
is what is?
Speaker 3 (35:26):
What is this?
Speaker 4 (35:27):
Like?
Speaker 2 (35:27):
Why do I have this? I kind of remember it,
but why do I need it? I mean, in my
roule of thumb, is something has been in a box
for thirty years. Maybe you can donate or sell it
on Facebook marketplace. Maybe they're Actually I've been wanting to
go through one of my wrench drawers because I know
I have sockets and wrenches like of the same size.
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Like I have sockets that are like you know, there's
like seven of them that are like, you know, half
inch sockets. I only need to I have like seven,
and I know that there's other people that would love
this socket. So I just pulled up a good Will
and be like, there you go. Thinking of room now,
mind you, if you have the room and the space
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to have this collection, go for it. But I can
tell you as an animal control officer. When I was
an a control officer. I had carte blanche to go
into many, many, many, many homes. And it's funny. When
when I wrote this, I was like, wow, because a
lot of people you probably think it's like animal animal cruelty.
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Right now. You know the TV show Hoarders. I've watched
it a few times. They're all bad. There's no good
or bad hoarder. It's just hoarding is a sickness and
it's it's it's tough, it's bad. But I can I
can think of at least four hoarding cases that I
was a part of and not animal. There were animals.
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There was a cat lady, that dog lady.
Speaker 4 (36:56):
That was.
Speaker 2 (36:58):
Actually my dogs came from that one of these homes.
But there was one of an injured lady on a
second floor over in the north end of Bridgeport. She
had a German shepherd so they could hear the barking,
and of course the neighbors are like, you know, what's
going on. We haven't seen her for a few days
and we hear the dog barking. Is the dog dying whatever? Starving?
And where's this lady? But the fire department called me
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and they're like, we need you to come to this
address and blah blah blah. So of course, very typical.
I show up. There's like three fire trucks. There's a
bunch of men standing outside of this house. Whenever there's
an animal, I have to go in, because God forbid,
they get banned. Beautiful home, now what you think. Actually
it's a beautiful home. We walk up. We opened the
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front door. Actually they had to pop the door off
the frame because they couldn't push it in and they
couldn't even see through the windows. Sure, why so get
the door off. Now, imagine a open door frame, front door,
stacked stacked from floor to about this much space from
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the top of the door, close bottles, junk, stacked, I
mean stacked, like stacked, stacked, stacked all the way up.
And of course they're yelling hello, hello, hello, and you
really can't hear anything. So there's an animal in there.
So that's my job. They picked me up and I
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slid through that top little space and I look and
all I see is clothes that go continue, piles that
just continue, continue, continue, continue, continue to the other doorframes. Okay,
I could tell that I was in one room. Now here,
I am doing the army crawl I'll never forget that.
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My baton my my, my police radio is you know,
everything is scraping on the ceiling. Yes, I go through,
and I see a dining room to the right of space,
which is a little bit more open, but still not
so I go through. Now, mind you, I'm crawling on
pot like all the way up to the ceiling of
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clothes and do the math. That's a lot of clothes
I'm crawling on. God knows what else is in there.
But I finally got underneath. Now I'm in the kitchen area,
and I could see where the clothes are starting to
go down a little bit because I see there's a window,
there's a pantry at the end, there's light, and there's
a German shepherd. Surprisingly, somehow the dog had food and
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the dog had water. The dog was fine. He was
just in a crate and the crate was open so
he could climb up and you know, mountain climb too.
But god, I remember the house sprisially didn't stink. But
I get to that point now there's the dog, and
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then I realized when I go down all the way
into the pantry, there is a little space maybe like
eighteen inches wide, that goes along the front of the
kitchen cabinets to it's a doorway, which you know, you
have the back door that way and then the staircase
going up. So I get the dog. I go to
the back door. I was able to like there was
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so many close move stuff, actually more stuff, and the
fireman came in there. That was bad. The lady had
a broken leg. She was upstairs. She had a broken leg.
She was fine. The dog. I ended up taking the
dog with me for a few weeks. She got the
dog back, it was fine. She ended up working with
some professionals to help her declutter her life. I ended
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up seeing her often throughout the life, and every time
she seed me, she hugged me. And you know, we
did so much to help her. And blah blah blah
blah blah and all this stuff. But understand that hopefully
you're not that bad. But when collecting nice stuff, owning
beautiful trinkets, keeping things for historical purposes or nostalgia, it's
a wonderful thing when it gets to that point. Your
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home should be a peaceful place. Your home is a
place where you can just kick your shoes off and
really just detach and if you feel anxiety when you
walk into your home or your life. It's time to
make a change. Now, let's let's here's here's these exercises
very simple. The yes no list, the yes no list.
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Write down everything on your plate in your life in market.
Yes it supports your goals or no it doesn't. This
goes for things. This goes for people, relationships, your work.
Does it support your goals or does it not. It's
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a tough one for a lot of people because they're like, well,
most of the things on this lie. I did this
once with a client, Uh, have no secession, and they
were just like, wow, I'm surrounded Like everything I surround
myself with is just keeping me from my goals, and
like now I have a few more, which I feel
pretty good. The next one, it's fascinating. I mentioned it
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technology because here we are in a life that we're
surrounded by technology, and so this is the digital diet. Unfollow, unsubscribe,
and delete apps off of your computer, your laptop, your phone.
You don't realize how through the day we upload and
download and upload and download and upload and download and
upload it and before you know it, you know, our
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computers are slow, our phone is slow. It's okay, dedicate
a half an hour here and there, just thirty minutes.
Just go through your downloads, go through your apps, and
just clear shit. Go through your emails and just unsubscribed.
That's something I do daily. As I mentioned before, I
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get a lot of emails, a lot of emails, so
I spend quite a few bit. I spend quite a
bit of time unsubscribing a lot. So the digital diet,
it helps unfollow, unsubscribe, and delete apps. Now going back
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to that red light, green light, yellow light, how about
a relationship aud it? Oh my god, Jimmy, I can't
do that. Why make a list of people in your life.
Keep the ones who uplift you, Keep the ones that
believe in you, Keep those speedle that don't judge you,
that will help you move stuff without criticizing you. Create
a distance slowly because people are like, what am I
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supposed to walk away from people? Why is everything so
black and white? I'm sorry, in my world everything is gray.
You start to slowly distance yourself. Those people trust me.
When you distance yourself, you don't matter anyway. So they
start to just find other people to suck dry. Cutting
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the fat is not about living with nothing. It's about
living with only what matters to you. When you do,
you move faster, you feel lighter, and actually you may
may you ready, you may endure your journey hard hitting,
no fluff and absolutely knows. I'm gonna zero sugarcoat this.
You're ready the brutal truth. What do you think about
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this episode so far? Does it resonate with you? Do
you not agree with it because it's too tough? Does
it make you think about your current life your current friends?
Are you looking around your house and going, but I
need every single thing that I have here, that broken
thing over there, and that broken thing over there. Here's
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a side note. Look up a thing called funk shue.
Funk shue. I used to teach it. It's a big
part of my life. I'm not gonna get into it.
This isn't the show for it. But it's about energy
through your home. If you have broken shit laying around
your house, it stops flow of energy really quick. Imagine
opening your front door and a positive breeze of air
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is coming through, and it has to go into your
front door through your entire house, flowing, growing, expanding, bringing happiness,
joy and success and good health. And then flowing out
a back door. Can you see this wonderful breeze doing
this or is it getting constantly stopped because there's a
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broken vacuum cleaner there. There's some artwork that's stacked up
in that corner that has spiders on it because it's
been sitting there since you know, the seventies. The rug
is stained and just I don't even walk on that rug.
That couch has been broken for years. The chair's blow
and sit there. That chair is broken too. Yeah, I
have I have two own two dishes. I don't have
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more because they're all broken. So I wonder why nobody
comes over. It's an energy thing. They're not gonna come
over you don't have the dishes. Let's get this straight.
Your life is either moving forward or you you are
allowing it to be bogged down, to be held back.
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There's no neutral gear here. If you feel stuck, if
you're exhausted, if you can't figure out why you're not
where you want to be, there's a good chance because
you're dragging too much fat behind you. And again I'm
not just talking about what's on your plate or your waistline,
though that might need some attention to I'm talking about
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the excess in your life, the wasted hours of useless possessions,
the people who take up more than they actually give
to you, the bad habits that you keep defending like
they're your emotional support pets. Cutting the fat means when
you stop making the excuses for the stuff holding you
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back and you start swinging that knife. I'm sorry to
say this, many of us me I was go through
for many years carrying so much dead weight. It might
be drunk in your garage. It might be toxic friends,
or just guilt of something you did back twenty years ago.
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It might be the Netflix binge that stealing three hours
of your life every so often is fine every night,
And then you wonder why you can't get your shit
together because you're just spending all your time instead of
focusing on your dream zone and listening and watching a
positive podcast. Instead, you're just I'm just gonna do nothing.
I'm gonna sit in front of the television, and then
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wonder why shit just doesn't seem to be happening because
the magic magician, the golden Goose isn't coming to my door,
or my favorite is the job that people can't leave.
The amount of people that I talk to that are like, Oh,
I have a job. It sucks. The bass sucks. I'm
not making the money I want, but I mean it
pays the bills. The heart truth is most of you
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already know what the fat is that I'm talking about
in your life. You just don't want to cut it
because it's easier, easier to live with than to actually
do the work and get off your ass and accomplish
something and move some mountains in your life, and then
you see if shit start to happen. But here's the thing.
The fat isn't sitting around there doing nothing. It's actively
slowing you down. It's taking up space that could be
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filled with something better, someone better. It's wasting your energy
every single day because you want to romanticize the past.
A big chunk of the fat in your life is
stuff we're holding on too because it reminds us of something,
a time, a person, a place, a version of ourselves.
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Remember when I used to wear this shirt ie was cool.
Then Remember these jeans I used to fit in them.
This is when I was a size too, and you're
not anymore. And trust me, there's somebody a goodwill that's
the sized too, that could use those pants. We think
keeping these things preserve the memory, but what it really
does is it keeps you locked into a past that
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you now are admitting that you were better then. That's
when I was thinner, That's when I was sexier, okay,
and you're not anymore. So if that's an issue, joined
at gym and get prettier. I mean, I think it's
funny when people are like, well, I'm fat, I want
to lose weight, and it's like, all right, so do
something about it. I'm gonna take a magic pill. There's
no magic pill. It's fat. You have to burn fat,
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like you know, and now they have pills that do,
and yeah, they also kill you. That shit like stunts
your stomach simply because you're too lazy to just go
for a brisk walk. And like, because to lose weight
you don't just walk. You have to do a brisk
walk to raise your heart so you could burn, so
your furnace gets hotter. The fact that I explained this
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to people often and they just stare. I mean, I'm like,
that's how you lose You have to sweat, sweat the
fat off. The fat just doesn't fall off. It has
to be sweated off. It has to like, you have
to make it work, you have to raise your furnace heat.
I don't know, it's just it's just frustrating, Like you know, oh,
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this shirt from ten years ago that might fit at
me one day. It's it's the friendship that's been dead
for years, but you know, you keep texting because well,
you know, we've known each other since high school, the
old habbit. You keep telling yourself that you know, it's
just you know, it's just who I am. I can't
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stop smoking these death sticks. It's not part of who
you are becoming. If it's not heart of who you
are becoming, it's weighing you down.
Speaker 4 (51:05):
Now.
Speaker 2 (51:06):
Now, how about for those of you that love the
comfort zone? Yeay, life is easier. No, it's not, you're
just lazy. It's just it's just so much easier to
not worry. It's just so much easier to just sit
around and wait for life to happen to me. But
God forbid, when life doesn't show up at the door
with everything I want, all of a sudden, it's everybody
else's fault, instead of you getting off your ass, making
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some choices and doing something with your life. You'd rather
just be in the comfort zone. I'd rather just sit here.
Comfort is the enemy. Fat is comfortable. That's why it's there.
It doesn't fight you, it doesn't demand you change, it
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doesn't call you out. But that comfort is costing you time.
Think about it. If a race car drives started bolting
extra steel plates and stuffed animals and broken window frames
and old junk boxes to their car just becomes them
because it makes them feel good, would they be able
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to race just as quickly? Yeah, people do this every
day in your life. You're carrying just bullshit in your life.
Every single comfort that's not helping you grow is keeping
you from hitting that top speed. Lean, be lean. Now,
are we still talking about food well for obesity? No,
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there there are Let's just go there's three kinds of fat. Okay,
so yes, let's stop being vague. Here's the breakdown. Physical fat.
Stuff you don't need. If it's in your home, garage,
or workplace and it's not actively used or loved, it's clutter.
Clutter is not just a storage problem, it's it's also
a mental problem. We've seen it on the shows Hoarders
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Luddy Show. Clutter literally raises stress levels and messes with
your ability to focus. I've been in homes and people
it's not like, here's the thing. I've been in many
hoarding situations, and I've never heard people say, yeah, this
is my home. It's filled with lots of shit, but
it is what it is. I love it. No, I
walk in, not judgmental, look around, and they immediately start
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defending it or saying I know it's bad. I know
it's bad, but you know it's I know it's bad.
I didn't even say anything, so obviously you think it's bad.
I'll deal with it later. It's just another anchor on
your brain. Then you have mental fat because of the
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physical fat. This is all the junken bullshit in your head,
all the things, the limiting beliefs that you believe are true,
the fears that are just not real, the fears of
things which are not real that you for some reason
will not come to the and go it's not real.
Unnecessary commitments, habits, and time whists are steal your focus.
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Every time you say yes to something you don't actually
care about, you're adding more fat to your mental diet.
In my opinion, this is the toughest and that is
you know then you have, of course, you have emotional
fat Okay people and beliefs that you outgrow some people.
You outgrow some people you should never have been around
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in the first place. The problem is we keep them
in our lives because we're scared of the drama that
comes with letting go. What if I make them angry?
They're not bringing anything to your table, But holding onto
relationships that drag you down is like trying to run
a marathon. Well, giving that person a piggyback ride, eventually
your legs will give out. It say, is when you
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tap into the mental surgery that you need. Cutting the
fat isn't a gentle trim It's surgery you have to
get rid of. You have to be ruthless, identify the fat,
making a list of everything in your life that feels heavy,
that drains your energy, and that slows you down, asking
only the questions that matter. Does this help me get
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to where I need to go? And then you cut
without hesitation. Not someday, not maybe after things change, maybe
after things calmed down. But understand that when you start
cutting the fat, the excuses will come. You will create them.
Trust me, because I've done that too. They'll sound reasonable,
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they'll sound logical, but they're all lies. I might need
it later, No, if you haven't used it in over
five years, you won't. I can't just drop them. They're
good people, but we've been friends forever. Longevity doesn't equal value.
It's not hurting anything, Yes it is. It's taking a
space in your energy. I don't have time to do
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with this now. I love when people actually that they have.
They're that busy. You have time, you're just wasting it
somewhere else. And then, of course, when you do all this,
it's the great payoff. When you cut the fat, you
move faster, you think clearer, you stop feeling buried, held down.
You suddenly have time and energy for the things and
people that matter. It's not about living with nothing, it's
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about living with what matters. And that's when life starts
to feel sharp, clean and in your control. If you
want a better life, you have to start swinging the knife.
Nobody's coming to do it for you. Nobody's going to
beg you to let go of your clutter. Your bad
habits are your energy. Energy vampires. Yeah, I think one
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of my original podcasts was about energy vampires. This is
all your job. It's your jobt to cut the fat,
to keep the muscle, to watch how fast you start moving.
You see it. Here's a concept that actually picked up
scrolling on the internet. It's called the fat cutting blueprint.
Cutting the fat isn't just a mindset, it's a system.
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The most successful people, the entrepreneurs out there, they don't
just go out swinging without a plan. They create a blueprint.
Speaker 1 (57:14):
You know.
Speaker 2 (57:15):
It's like, if you want to stop dragging that weight,
you need steps that are simple, clear, and impossible to
wiggle out of. Now that you have been listening, have
you been envisioning things in your life? People in your life,
Situations in your life that you know that I know
that you know that we both know really don't belong there.
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So what can you do? Well, Simply you begin with
identifying your targets. You can cut what you can't cut
what you can't see, or what you're hiding. Pull out
a notebook, Melissa's favorite thing in the world, Open up
a document, grab a whitebird board, and split it into
three columns. Physical fat, mental fat, emotional fat, physical fat, stuff, possessions, gear, junk,
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duplicate tools, things you might use but you never will
mental fat, unnecessary commitments, habits that waste time, endlest someday,
someday one day. Projects, emotional fat, draining relationships, toxic shitty people,
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grudges from nineteen fifty six, and self defeating beliefs that
you can't and that you won't. Okay, wait a minute,
wait a minute. So so how do I start? Very simple?
If it doesn't contribute to your health, your happiness, and
your goals, it's on the list. You know what this
is interesting? Assign a score. I was trying to figure
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out how to do this. I had to like figure
out three or four different things to come up with this.
Not all fat is equal. Some of it is pure
dead weight, some of it is just slowing you slightly.
Give every item a score based on one. For a
minor thing, it's not that bad. Ten for it's it's
sucking you dry. It's an anchor deep into the ocean
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that's not letting you go forward. That box of junk
in the garage that you haven't opened in five years,
maybe you want to give it a five. Your buddy
who only calls you when he needs something nine, or
the person that calls you every day to just talk
about how horrible their life is that's a ten again.
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What could you be doing instead of that? You could
be helping people, You could be you could be inspiring
other people that want your company, that want to be
inspired by you and with you. But instead you're dedicating
a half an hour to somebody blah blah blah blah,
negative net. That's it. Really, you don't know your value
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scrolling social media for two hours before bed. The higher
the score of the faster it needs to go. Get it.
So this is where people get stuck because they're still
trying to make excuses for their fat Just in case
you know, I may need this person. You're not a
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museum curator for bad habits and junk. If you can
remove it right now, throw it away, donate it deleted,
block it, block them, unsubscribe, set it on fire, cancel it,
do it now, do it quick. If it's bigger, like selling,
ending at least quitting a job, set a non negotiable deadline,
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and trust me, here's the thing with deadlines. Deadlines can
be moved. Don't be ridiculous, but like, I want to
do something about my job within the next six months,
six weeks, six days, and then of course you stop
feeding your fat. You're the one who's guilty of it.
Once you start trimming it, you have to stop adding
more of it. You don't go backwards. That means no
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impulse perchaes that aren't part of your plan. Stop going
on Amazon and just buying stupid shit and then getting
it and realizing that you don't want it. Now it
sits turns to creates a new pile of clutter. No
new commitments unless they align with your top priorities. Stop
surrounding yourself with ideas and thoughts and that are just
going to focus on what you want to finish. Write
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it out, what are the things, because now you have
new things that you want to finish. I'm guilty of that.
I'm working. I have ADHD diagnosed that. It's like there's
fifteen things that I'm working on. So I add four more,
and then seven more, and then three more, and then
I finished six, but then I add set. But I
work towards it, and I'm aware of it, and I'm
constantly fighting with myself. I'm getting much better at it.
But like I said, all of this is a work
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in progress. Cut people sometimes without apology. Here's where it
gets uncomfortable. For all of you, but also where you
get the biggest gains. If someone constantly drains you, criticizes you,
just brings misery and complaints to you. They're fat. You
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don't have to blow up in a dramatic exit, but
you do have to reduce your exposure. Reduce your exposure
less time, less energy, less space in your head. Yes,
you'll get guilt trips, you'll get you've changed, but that's
prove you're moving forward because trust me, I know if
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many old friends are like you know, I don't know
who you are anymore. I'm a better version of me.
And then you can replace it with muscle cutting. The
fat leaves empty space. And if you don't fill it
with muscle, healthy habits, meaningful relationships, productive work, that fat
comes back again. If you're just sitting around twiddling with
your thumbs, that that fat will haunt you and come back. Replace.
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Like I said, replace things, gossip sessions with goal planning.
Instead of criticizing, people look up to other people, admire people.
Listen to podcasts. Is podcast positive podcasts. Whenever I'm driving,
it's usually music, but if not, I go to a podcast.
I pick a topic, a positive topic, and I listen
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to people. Tony Robbins is obviously one of my favorite.
Uh not many people like him. Everybody has a different style.
Find the style of person that inspires you. Fat will
always try to create back. That's why you need monthly maintenance.
Once a month, scan your environment, your schedule, your relationships.
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If it doesn't be long, make it go away to
do not please, do not let a molehill turn into
a mountain. The resistance you will face cutting the fat
sounds great until you're halfway through, and then the excuses
start attacking again. But I might regret this later. You'll
regret wasting more time.
Speaker 4 (01:03:49):
Now.
Speaker 2 (01:03:50):
It's not that bad, Jim. If it's not good, it's bad.
I've had it forever good and it's been holding you
back for whorever. The more fat you cut, the more
people will notice, and not everyone will cheer you on,
because some people don't like to see other people do well.
Some will feel threatened because your progress shines like a
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light on their laziness. You ignore them. Nothing nothing survives
without your purpose. Every single thing in your life needs
to earn its place, including friendships that goes for objects, routines,
and as I said, relationships, ask yourself every day this here.
Does it make me stronger, does it help me move forward?
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Does it bring me and protect my peace? If the
answer of any of these is no, it's gone. No debate,
no nostalgia.
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No.
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But someday your time, your time should be sacred. Time
is the one resource that you can't replace, and it's
running out, and fat is the thief that steals it.
In extreme fat cutting, you treat your time the way
sniper treats ammunition. You don't waste a single shot. You
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don't just start shooting into the air. You cut low activities, scrolling, gossiping, binge,
watching busy work, and said, do things get shit done
by the end.
Speaker 3 (01:05:13):
Of the day.
Speaker 2 (01:05:14):
I need to get this and that done. And trust me,
other things come into play, but by the end of
the day, I need to get that and that done.
Every day, especially here, I do a minimum of ten
things per day, four being very important and the others
just being filler, and the filler get in my way.
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But every single day, when I lay down in bed,
I know I accomplished those few things that I needed
to do. Final word, fat cutting is not going to
be comfortable. It will make people question you Why are
you caring about yourself? Why are you so focused on
being better? It will make you question you, but in
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the end you will be left with a life that's sharp, strong,
and unstoppable. You can't control every challenge that life throws
at you, but you can control the load you are
carrying when those challenges punch in the face. Keep it lean,
keep it sharp, and you'll be ready for anything. So
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I hope I made you think. I hope I made
you question your existence, your life, and to appreciate every
tomorrow and every today, and that you are grateful for
all of the experiences of the past that you have
made which made you who you are. Right now, keep
this in mind. Choose action over excuse, purpose over comfort,
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and a work that matters over the distractions that do not.
My name is Jimmy Gonzalez, this is Henry, and this
was now your reset yourself twenty two podcasts. Please share
this one person or on your Facebook or with somebody
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that you think it will inspire them, somebody who has
a lot of issues with fact. Go forward and live
your life to the fullest. Thank you so much for listening, liking, subscribing,
and especially sharing with others. It means a lot to me.
It really really does. Many blessings to you all, be
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well and Prosperchell was.
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Brought to you by noa Emosis and Healing and a
mild side meditation. If you are interested in learning more
about the services that Jimmy offers, visit www dot n
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O E M a h h dot com.
Speaker 1 (01:08:14):
Jimmy offers a downloadable ebook and a link to his
Mind's Eye meditation sessions, which are both offered for free.
Please consider it a gift and for those that like
to do it yourself approach, Jimmy also offers pre recorded
self hypnosis sessions.
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If you prefer the one on one approach, feel free
to reach out.
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