The Reset Yourself 22 Podcast (Episode 200) "The Magic of a Cardboard box"

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Please note this show contains adult language and themes and
is intended for mature audiences only.

Speaker 2 (00:07):
Listener discretion is advised.

Speaker 3 (00:19):
Day beloved, we are gathered here today to get through
this thing called life.

Speaker 4 (00:52):
You are listening to the Reset Yourself What Need You
Podcast with your hosts Jimmy Gunzalis.

Speaker 2 (01:02):
Hello, Hello, Hello, he I should said. My name is
Jimmy Cazalez and missus Henry my Coole producer. Okay, you
gotta go. Okay. So today is episode two hundred, and
I say this often. I remember episode ten and I

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was so excited Episode ten. Episode one hundred was exciting.
But this is ridiculous. The only interesting thing is that
I have actually been under the weather for the past
few days. I'm on some new medication and I'm actually
having some reaction to it. So I've been getting these
odd headaches and they keep coming back and forth. So
trying to run a farm and keep the house going

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and keep him happy has been a little bit difficult,
but I've been able to do it. So for many
of you that follow my meditation, you'll notice that it
was one day late. I released it this morning, but
I apologize for that. But I mean, what am else
I supposed to do. I would have just said screw it,
skipped the whole week, but I can't. So I'm thinking

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about ninety percent. So that's not bad. But let's begin
two hundred Episode two hundred. That's in this weekly podcast.
I focus on sparking your inner confidence and igniting your
belief in WHO, and I'm always very thrilled to share
my thoughts and research with you as we go along
on this journey together. You me Him can nurture a

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mindset that empowers us to reach our fullest potential. I've
ran a recording every episode to challenge our thinking and
to encourage us to reflect and to inspire actionable steps
towards our personal growth, whether you are facing a career transition,
seeking to overcome challenges, or simply striving for greater fulfillment

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is are you willing to do the work today's episode?

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It's an interesting one. It's simply about being sick, and
you know, again we strive for so many things in life,
and then you find yourself on a bed, surrounded by
loving creatures, but still not being able to physically get
up because you have a throbbing migraine. And that's when

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you realize that what you own is just no longer
important if you can't get to it, if you can't
play with it, if you can't use it. What's important
is the time, the moment, the joy that you have
to be able to get up and do those things,
even the things are sometimes you don't want to do.
At that point, you're like, God, I would I would
rather do that than just lay here not being able

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to physically move because I don't feel good. We grew
up thinking that the good stuff in life comes in
a box, the toy, the gadget, the things that we
begged for at Christmas. But ever get a chance to
watch a child, really watch one, and you'll notice something funny.

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You give them a shining toy, and what do they
end up playing with? Yes, the box. For many of
us that don't have children, we have pets, especially cats.
We spend so much money on toys, and they prefer
to jump into a pot, or a pan or a
box of all sizes. I think it's funny. But what's
amazing with children is the joy, the simpleness, that moment

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that you see their eyes light up as they get
into this box and they create a race car, a spaceship,
a fortress against imaginary enemies. Same thing with animals. By
your cat, the most expensive rattling laser shooting toy on

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the market, and they roll around in the cardboard it
came in, or playing with the box. I say this,
trust me, I speak to our experience why because instinctively
they still get it. Life isn't about the stuff. Life
is about the experience. But then we grow up. What happens?
Suddenly we're measuring everything. The threat counts own of our

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bed sheets, the brand of our mattress, the price of
our car, the name of our shoes, the size of
our house, the labels that we wear, the titles that
we chase. We become experts in comparison, professionals in validation,
always checking what did this cost me? How did this

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make me look? Do I measure up? Do I measure
up on it against everybody on Facebook? Am I doing
as well as they are in social media? But here's
the insanity We can he tells someone exactly how much
we paid for the bed we slept in, but we
struggled to tell them the last time we slept deeply
and woke up feeling rested and alive. We know everything

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about the thing and almost nothing about the feeling. We
forget that the value of life isn't something that you
can scan at a register. I think back for a moment.
When was the last time you laughed but really just
laughed and didn't care who heard you? When was the

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last time you were proud of yourself without needing someone
else to clap for you or to pat you on
the back. When was the last time you enjoyed something
simply because it just made you feel good, not because
it was expensive or impressive or instagram worthy. Something between
childhood and adulthood, something happened. We traded magic for metrics.

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But here's the truth. Cheap mattress with deep sleep is
worth more than a thousand dollars. Mattress fill distress and restlessness.
A cardboard box filled the imagination is richer than any
toy that sits untouched on a shelf. A simple moment
of real joy is priceless. So today I want to

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ask you yourself something powerful and maybe a little uncomfortable.
Am I living for the experience or the appearance? Because
one will fill your heart, the other will empty your wallet.
We spend so much time chasing things that look good
on paper, then this denew that, but don't actually feel

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good in our souls. We're still alone. We own all
this stuff, we don't even use it. We've been trained,
almost conditioned, to believe that value lives outside of us.
To make me happy, I have to spend money out there,
and I understand it because a lot of times we
just don't know how to focus and find happiness in

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here in the brand we buy and the job title
on the business card, and who approves of us and
how successful we appear. But here's the kicker. You can
have the nicest mattress in the world and still lie
awake at three am, staring at the ceiling, worrying about bills,
your future, relationships, your purpose. Are you alone in bed?

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It's a nice bed. I'd rather live in a shitty
bed with someone than in a three thousand dollars mattress alone. Meanwhile,
someone with a simple cot or like a folded blanket
on the floor sleeps like royalty because their mind is
at peace. Value isn't what you can hold. Value is

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what holds you peace, laughter, rest, connection, presence. Those are
the things that make a life worthwhile, but we treat
them as extras, bonuses. The things will get to after
we've handled our real life. Let me tell you something
about something blunt about life. Your real life is those things.

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Think about this. Nobody sits at the end of their
life bragging about thread counts in their sheets, the name
brand of their coats, what kind of car they bought,
and how many bells and whistles it had? Nobody whispers.
I wish I bought more stuff. I wish my car

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was newer. I wish my cell phone was a better model.
At the end, all we want is more time, more love,
more moments we wake up to what really mattered, usually
a little too late. I ask, if you don't wait,
start asking the questions that actually matter to you, Starting simple,

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Starting simple with just today. Did I feel joy today
that I actually drive around town and notice anything beautiful?
Or was I just too busy focused on my watch,
having to get somewhere by such and such time, And
all they cared about was getting there by such and
such time and making sure that time and everything is
time and time is just right. That's nice. Good for

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you get there on time and miss life, because that's
what you're doing. You're missing life. I actually know people
that will go to a restaurant eat and the minute
I just think it's psychotic. To me, it's a form
of craziness. The minute the last morsel of food is

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swallowed and the spoon lays in the plate, the body
is already getting up, ready to go to go, whatever
happened to spending time with family. It's the whole concept
of breaking bread, telling stories. What did you do today?
What didn't you do today? What are your dreams, goals

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and aspirations? Not all right, we're done. We go to
restaurants to eat, and then we're done. It's criminal, it
really is. Did you show up today for yourself? Did
you show up for the people that you love? Did
you live today even for five minutes like that kid

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who could turn a cardboard box into pure magic? Because
if the answer is yes, even once you're winning, you're
actually living.

Speaker 4 (12:44):
Now.

Speaker 2 (12:44):
I know what some people say, it's just the way
adulthood is. That's such a crock of shit. I'm fifty
five living on a farm in Kentucky. I've been here
now a year and a month. And would you believe
that every single morning, every single morning, and most of

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the time, I wake up before the sun comes up,
and I take that moment to look up at the clouds,
at the sky, at the distance. You have to understand
where I lived in Connecticut, my neighbor was was right here.
I wash dishes. I love to wash dishes. I find
it very meditative and my view was a pile of shit.

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Oh my god, I think I still have a little
bit of trauma now where I wash dishes, I can't
focus on the furthest point because it's that far. But
between here and there, I see horses, I see chickens,
I see cows. I see new plants, I see new trees,
I see the grass grow. I enjoy when the grass

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is cut in, how beautiful the blue grass of Kentucky
is here. And I do that every day, and I
don't ever, ever not do it. Every time I walk
from the house to the garage, which is a distance,
I make sure to find something, something beautiful in the distance. Sadly,

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I know of people that just they wear those those
blinders and are just focused, focused. So I have to
be back. I have to time. You have to do this,
I have to do that. This and this have to
be done by this and this and this have to
be done by that. And it's just like, oh my god.
And I understand that everybody's different, but this is my podcast,
and let me stand in my soapbox for a moment.

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You're pissing life away and it hurts. A good example
is my chickens. I go into the barn. In the morning,
I release chickens from here here and over there, and
they'll come out, and it's just like a meeting of
the minds of chickens. And it's been long enough that
I already know different characters, different attitudes, how he acts,

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how she acts, how they react together. This one's a jerk,
that one's an ass. These two are always together. This
one likes this type of food. That one likes that
type of food. Because I took the time to learn
to breathe, to be aware of my surroundings. I have
pigeons that live in the barn up way above, and

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I throw seed down for them and they come and
they interact with chickens, and it's just like this meeting.
To other people, they would just see birds. Oh they're
just birds, and that's fine. But to me, it is.
If that's how you see that, that's pretty much how
you see everything. You're the type of person that just

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goes out and does something because it's new, because it's popular,
because and it's just like and that's cool. My only
thing is I really hope you truly enjoy it to
the very end. I hope you are enjoying your life
as much as I am. It's just the way adults are. Bullshit.

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You grow up, you get responsibilities. It's not that simple anymore, Jimmy, Actually,
that's a crock of shit. That's a crock of shit.
It's just an excuse. Sure, responsibilities are real, bills are real,
taxes are real. The world doesn't run on imagination in magic.
I understand that. But responsibilities shouldn't require us to abandon

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our spirit. We can't pay our bills and still play.
We can be grown ups and still dream. We can
buy the mattress and still care about the sleep on it.
We can gather with friends, break bread and laugh. This

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isn't about rejecting things. It's about reclaiming meaning in our life.
Use the comfort, but don't forget the joy. Measure the specs,
but don't forget the laughter. Own the mattress, but don't
forget to rest. Experience over appearance always. So, how do

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we get back to that fun place again in our lives,
that instinctive joy we had as a kid. The good
news is you're ready. It's not complicated. We just forgot
the basics. Here are a few truths that we need
to remember. Joy doesn't come from upgrades. You can't upgrade

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your phone every year and still feel disconnected from life.
Joy comes from the moments, the conversations, the memories, the laughter,
the stuff that you can't return to the store, and
once you have it, you won't. Presence is the most
expensive thing you can and then give presence, not a present, presence,

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your presence, not because it costs money, but because it
costs your attention. Because for that time you're with them,
you're walking with your dog, enjoying your dog. You're not
walking with your dog, not even noticing what he's going
or where he's going, because you're scrolling through your phone,
or because in your mind you're loss so you have
to do X, Y and Z by ten o'clock and

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then I let you're truly enjoying your dog. You're truly
enjoying your children watching them play instead of again big killers,
texting on the phone. Put the phone down, Push your
kid on a swing or get on the next swing.
Oh that's embarrassing. I'm totally when what there's no rules.

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Your kid is on one swing, you get on the
other swing, raise them, put your phone down, out look
someone in the eyes, which is something I find fascinating that.
I hate the point at specific people. But yeah, this

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new generation, not all, I get it. Most almost all
can't look in you in the eyes because they it's
technology's fault. A lot of people get to the parents, yes,
of course, But bottom line is I try to go
as deep as possible. It has to do with technology,
It has to do with texting. It has to do
with the fact that's how we communicate with each other,
and then when you get face to face with each other,
we don't know what to say, because how do you say.

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I'll just keep texting you my thoughts. Listen, not just
with your ears, but with your heart. That's the kind
of currency that actually bills true wealth in your life.
You see, curiosity never died, we just stopped feeding it.

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I feed my curiosity daily. I'm curious about every single here.
I have a learned about every type of spider, every
type of bug, Johnson grass. I mean, there are so
different types of mud, different types of wood, different types
of barns. Black barns, which is what I own, is
a tobacco barn. Red barns are for farm animals and

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other things miscellane is but mostly farm animals and then
white barns are for shoe animals. Did you know this?
This is a world that I was never a part of.
And every single day I google and I ask, and
I question, or I find somebody near him and I
ask him a thousand When I ever have the opportunity
to be around somebody, I ask them a million questions,

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because that's how you learn. Many times adults will only
explore what seems just worthwhile everything else is not important.
Trying something ridiculous sometimes is not a bad thing. Thinking

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outside the box, challenging yourself, being silly, being stupid, who cares?
Try something ridiculous? Sing while you cook, Take a different
route home, Sit outside and watch the wind push the
clouds above like you once did when you were nine.

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That curiosity is still inside of you. Don't lose it.
It's just waiting for permission for you to reconnect again.
Gratitude is the ultimate flex. Everyone's chasing the next thing
and the next thing, and the next thing in the
bigger house, and the better car, and the newer version

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of my cell phone or my whatever. I don't care.
I have a phone. It works. But the real move,
the real power move You're ready, is loving what you
already not what could be better. Gratitude turns ordinary moments

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into treasures. It turns a plain wooden table into a
home full of memories. It turns a cardboard box into
a castle and the wild thing. Once you appreciate what
you have truly, more good stuff will follow because you've
finally shown you know how to value value. Now. I

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know what you're thinking. It sounds nice, but life is
just too stressful. Jimmy, I have bills to pay, and
I have the water bill and the electric bill and then,
but you do understand those are things you're gonna have
your entire life. Taxes are part of your life by
the time you're in your thirties, forties, fifties, sixties, seventies,

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and you haven't come to the to the to the
understanding that bills are just bills and you're gonna have
to deal with them and you're pissing your life away.
Sounds nice, but life will always be stressful. Bills don't

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care about gratitude. You're absolutely right. Life will punch you
in the gut sometimes, but that's all the more reason
to savor those good moments. You want to live your
life and fight or flight and constantly be I actually
know quite a few people more than I ever thought so,
and I kind of thought it, I kind of knew it.
But no, this is like to the point that's just ridiculous.

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All they know is fear. They live in fear. They buzz,
their energy is just fear. Bring up a topic and
they will automatically what's wrong? Is it bad? Uh? Oh?
And it's just like, oh my god, fucking breathe. Oh,
but that's just the way I am good. Then the

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way you know it is is the exact same way
you know. You can change it. Habits can be changed.
So you prefer to be in fight or flight constantly
because that's just damning your body. It's just hurting your body,
and you're cheating the gift of life that you've been
given instead of remembering when you were at a moment

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in your life that you get into a box or
under the sheets in the living room and grabbing sheets
and putting them from the couch to the recliner and
making a castle. You don't need to be wealthy to

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be rich. I know people that had money and all
they focused on was wanting more money because more money
brings more happiness. More security. Right, it doesn't. Because they
didn't know how to handle the first few dollars, you're
not going to know how to handle the millions. More
money doesn't bring happiness. That's such a sense fall of

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since it's bullshit. It's not true. You don't need luxury
to experience joy. You just need to show up for
the little things. I as an anim control officer, I've
been in many homes, from the much lower neighborhoods to

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the extremely, extremely, way over the top wealthy. And again,
this isn't like well every because I hate when people
do that. Well, you know, Jimmy, I'm not talking about everybody.
I'm just talking about my experiences. Hopefully you have your own.
My experiences are the people that had everything, didn't even
know how to share them, didn't know how to stand

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in them. Their houses were cold, there was no emotion,
there was just I own. And then I go into
these home homes that they had the basic necessities in life,
and they wouldn't let me leave until they cooked for
me what little they had. Some of the other homes

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wouldn't even offer me a glass of water. Because I
was a civil servant, do my bidding. There's something out there.
Go do your job. It can't be a mind fuck
for you after a while, because you're like, wow, you
leave this house, This house is falling apart. These people
are as poor as hell, and like ten of them
come out of the house and they're so honored and

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pleased and humbled that you made the time to show
up to come and help them. Let me give you
a simple challenge when you can start today, before you
go to sleep, ask yourself one question. Did I enjoy

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being alive today? Not? Did I make enough money that
I look successful, that I impress somebody? Did everybody in
the neighborhood see the cool car I have? Now? Did
I put something cool enough on Facebook so that people

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will I'll get enough likes. Let's say you're honest with
yourself and you actually come to the realization that maybe not,
that doesn't matter. What's important is to tomorrow. You have
a chance to fix it. And if the answer is yes,

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do it again and again and again. Because joy isn't complicated.
We're the ones who made it expensive. Let's break something
that needs to be broken. You don't have to earn
the right to enjoy your life. Joy isn't a reward
for finishing your to do list. It's not something you

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unlock when you hit a certain level of success. Joy
is your birthright. You're created to live, not just to
get through the day. Some people spend their whole lives waiting.
I still don't understand for what. I'll be happy when
I get that job. I'll relax when I retire. I'll

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enjoy my life when things calm down. You know what's
it's Monday. You know it's funny it's Monday. But you
know what, I'll just look forward to to to this weekend.
You still got a few days to go. Life never
fully calms down. Something is always happening, something is always imperfect,

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especially well, something is always unfinished, and I wanted to
make sure always gonna be unfinished. You're never gonna finish everything.
But if you wait for perfect conditions before you allow
yourself to feel joy, you will wait forever. So take
the joy that you have now in front of you,

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even the things that are messy, especially if things are messy,
especially if things are going shitty, because joys what gives
you the strength to face the mess. Let's talk about
simplicity For a moment, I was sick on and off
for the past few days, and most of it had
to do with nausea and having this migraine headache. But
even though I was feeling pain and off and weird

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and disconnected and detached and all that shit, all I
could focus on was that as I laid in bed,
I had three dogs during that time. One of them
was my neighbor's dogs, so four dogs all cuddled pressed
against me, and my cat right there on the bed too,

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and they would not leave my side. That's all I
could focus on, not the pain that my headache and
going on social media and letting people know, Oh my god,
I'm dying, Please pray for me. None of you know
that even happened until this moment, because I don't care.
I'm not one to go hey, everybody help me, you know,

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which is great. I'm not picking up people who do.
If you need it, you need it. I just find
it in other places. I find it in the love
of my animals. I find it in the sounds of
chickens outside of my window, the horse neighing in the distance,
and then finally, after the rain broke, the sunshine coming
through one of the windows onto my face, feeling the warmth.

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That's simplicity. Some of the best moments in your life
probably don't cost a penny. Like I said, sunset coffee
with someone you love, laughing until you can't breathe, a
quiet night where you feel safe. Content and a new
word is not a new word, but it's a new

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for me because I think it's funny. I told Melissa
last night, it's funny how you get older. All you
look for is peace, just peace, to be able to
sit out of my front porch and my rocking chair
and just watch detractors go by. Listen, we have two huge, gigantic,
beautiful trees out in front of our house. Listen to

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the wind blow through the trees. And then I come
inside and there's all my animals waiting for me to
sit on there with the couch so they could just
press against me, even when it was raining. Even when

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it was raining, I opened the wind a little bit
to hear it and to smell the rain. Those are
the little things being with someone that a hug last
a little longer than usual. Let me tell you something,
those things. If you had to put a price tag
on those points, how you can't because to me, those
cost more than any luxurious car. They're priceless because they

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can only be felt, never bought. So here's what I
I want you to think about. Let it ring in
your mind for the next day. The richest person in
the room isn't the one with the fanciest stuff. It's
the one who actually enjoys their life. And if that

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means being the gron Adaux who still gets excited about
a cardboard box, then congratulations, you're doing life right now.
Imagine living life like that every single day, looking for
joy in the simple moments, finding wonder in the ordinary,
choosing presence over prestige, measuring your life by moments and

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not by things. That is how you start living instead
of existing. And once you remember how to live like that,
there's no going back. There isn't because you realize something profound.
The experience is the reward. We've talked about how children
and animals interact with the world, how a cardboard box

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can become more valuable than the most expensive toy, But
let's slow down and think about what that really means
for us as adults. It's not just this really cute,
sweet observation. It's a profound lesson in perspective, Kids, animals,
and even the simplest creatures understand something we often forget.

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Life itself is a playground. Think about it for a moment.
On your farm or even in your backyard. The things
that make you stop and smile don't cost the scent
a chicken doing something funny, the way the sunlight hits

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the field in the morning, or my tortoises slowly exploring
the world like it's a grand adventurer. Whenever I watch
them walk, I wonder what are they thinking? Those are
my boxes, those are my toys. That's how I enjoy
my life. And yet as adults we look past them.

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We rush through life, our minds filled with deadlines, with
bills as comparisons with taxes, and then and then we
pay them, and what happens? We're already what about next month?
It's like, so, when are you gonna enjoy yourself? And
of course, what is everybody else doing? Let me go
on social media see what everybody else is doing. So

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and so did this. He bought a car. How the
hell does he have a car? They went on a vacation.
How the hell do they have money on a vacation.
I don't have money on a vacation, but they I
don't think of other people. I really don't care what
they do. I wish them well, that's as far as
it goes. I really don't care, because meanwhile, the toy
is right in front of me, my moment to just

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enjoy my magical box. As I said, I remember, well,
I think about every morning on the farm. It's early
before sunrise. I step outside, barely awake sometimes and there's
just a horse standing in the distance, naying. Because every
time I open that door and that horse sees me,

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runs all the way closest to me. In that moment,
I feel this simple, pure joy, no cost, no label,
no brand, just pure peace and being present in the moment.
Why do we push these moments away? Why do we

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believe we need something expensive or elaborate to feel alive.
Our adulthood convinces it that value is something you buy.
We've been conditioned to think happiness comes with a price tag.
But the sad truth is I agree with it or not.
Joy isn't a product you can take home from the store.

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Joy is something you cultivate. It's something you notice, nurture,
and allow into your life. Reflection exercises. Practice helps you focus,
helps you really see what matters. Side note, I tend

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to every so often when I'm on the internet scrolling through.
I'll see a lot of these websites that show old toys,
and I'll think of some of them, and I'll be like,
oh my god, I remember I had that action figure,
I had that Debt racetrack, or I had that train set,
or I had that whatever, whatever it was, I don't

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have it anymore. I couldn't even tell you how it
left my house. But when I think of it, I
think of me using it, wearing it, laughing with and
enjoying it, and then that was it. It's gone. It's
the the emotion that I remember, the playing, the joy,

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the fun at the actual toy. Think about right now,
was there ever a toy that you wanted more than
anything in the world? Anything where did you that you got?
So my question is are you still using it? Probably not,
because the joy got old. The toy got old, but

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the joy didn't. You cannot get any more joy out
of it, So now you're onto the next thing. It's
like it's like a drug. You're looking for the next
hit of fun, and a lot of times you'll get
a toy and you have nobody to play with. What's
the point. That's the thing I have with people that buy,
like you know, expensive things and they live alone. What's

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the fun of it? I would be able to share
it with someone if you can grab a pan or
go on your phone or whatever. You can do this
later and think of three simple moments from today or
let's say yesterday, past few days that gave you that

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spark of joy. Don't overthink it, because if you have to,
that's a problem. It could be the way that sunlight
hit your kitchen counter, a laugh with someone you care about,
or even the sound the wind through the trees, And
ask yourself, did you stop to notice them or did
you just rush past them? Chances are if you don't

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remember anything you rushed past it, you're focused more on
the clock on the wall or the watch on your
wrist than the actual moment that you were. Now, imagine
how these moments might feel if you gave them your
full attention. This simple exercise that I'm asking to do,

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it's just a way to rewire your brain and think
differently for a moment. It's a way to challenge you.
It reminds you that joy isn't waiting somewhere in the future.
It's actually right in front of you, hiding in plain sight.
And you don't need a big budget to fight. You
don't need anything. It's funny. I went out about a

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month ago and I was talking with this couple about
the concept of time and how I went somewhere and
there was a clock, an actual clock on the wall
that had numbers, but there was no hands, but instead
the word now was in the center. And I was
blown away by it, by the concept, the simplicity of it,

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and I shared it wholeheartedly, and I was shocked that
one of them was It was like appalled by the concept.
I was like, well, that's stupid. Why do you don
have hands? How do you tell time? It's about It's
about focusing on now, the happiness of this moment right now,
us breaking bread, enjoying this meal, this moment. And I

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was like, Wow, there's people out there who just don't
get it and they will never get it. And a
lot of people are like, well, who cares, screw them whatever,
blah blah bl Yeah, I know, but I guess I
care a little bit about too much about people and
it's like I wish I could touch everybody with a
magic wand and I know I can't. But because I
get I personally myself, I get to experience some beautiful moments,

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some peaceful moments, some truly magical. That barn is my box,
and I want others to feel that, But they won't
take the time because they're too busy rushing through their
life and not living their life. That cardboard box. The

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key isn't the box itself. Understand that it's what you
do with it. It's at the bar, and it's what
you do with it sitting at a table with people.
It's not about the food, it's what you do at
the time, sitting there while you're eating. Your imagination is
like a muscle. It needs to be exercised. Kids exercise
it constantly. Adults, hmmm, not so much. I'm telling you,

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spend five minutes today doing something ridiculous, something you never
thought you would. Build a force out of things in
your house, Draw a picture with no plan in mind.
Go buy a coloring book and some crayons and color,
build a puzzle. Build it with friends. More likely then
you could. You can go back and forth, and you

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could tell stories about the past, and and and laughter
and moments, draw a picture with no plan in mind.
Make a sound or movement makes you laugh out loud.
Remember when you're a kid and you find yourself making
a sound with your mouth and then you're like, you
kept doing it because you're like, what the hell is that?
When was the last time you allowed yourself to be

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completely uninhibited? This isn't just about having fun. It's about
remembering how to just play, how to be silly, because
to me, that's the root of presence and joy. Let
me tell your story from the real world. A friend
of mine was obsessed with buying the perfect vacation home.

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He spent years comparing properties, reading reviews, and imagining the
Instagram post he would take to be able to share
how amazing he's doing in front of other people. He
spent years comparing properties, reading reviews. He finally bought one
what he thought was the best one, and you know what,

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he spent the whole time worrying about whether he made
the right choice after the fact. Meanwhile, his neighbor, who
lived in a plain house adorable house, but plane, no frills,
no labels, spent the same week hiking laughing with family
and feeling like a million dollars. The moral experience beats

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appearance every single time. Doesn't matter what you own, it
matters how you engage with what you have. So I
have this contraption, this piece of technology sitting over there.
It costs me ten thousand dollars. When was the last
time you used it? I don't, but I have it
and it's new. Do you ever share it with other people?

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It's crazy? It blows my mind. It matters how you
engage with what you have, how fully you live, how
present you are. Here are five little ways to just
start reclaiming your life today. To find joy. Simply notice,

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take the blinders off. Okay, take the blinders off. Take
the watch, throw it away, Take the cell phone, turn
it off. Notice the sunlight. Go sit on your porch
and stare at it for more than seven seconds. Feel
the warm. Think of the past. Think of a time
when you were young, sitting out in a playground and

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feeling the sun. Connect with that child. As you do that,
Listen to the wind as it blows by. The animals
in front of you, the barking, the meowing, the clucking,
the neighing, the mooing, smile, allow yourself to disconnect, allow

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yourself to step outside of your your your fear, fear
filled body, and just sit quietly. Your mind will thank you.
But don't just do this today. No, make it a habit.
Why wouldn't you want to turn off your fucking phone

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even for five minutes. Go paint, go sing, go dance,
go write, turn off the TV. That doesn't help you.
It's a program. Understand it. That's what That's what I
was meant to do. Program you to keep you just
focused living your life through what's going on television, not
living your own life on like what's going on through

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your life, making connections, making friends, getting out there. I
think it's funny when I meet people and they're like,
I'm bored. I've never been bored in my life. There's
always something to do, there's always somewhere to go, there's
always somewhere to be, there's always somebody to spend time with,

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there's always something to do. Bored, don't wait for a
funny moment. Make what happen. Call a friend, a positive friend,
a good friend that somebody's going to tell you garbage

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about the world. Tell a joke, be silly. Right before
you're ready to go to bed, and you're laying there,
ask yourself, what was today like? Was the good day?
How can I make tomorrow better? Even small actions compound

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greatness over time. They shift your brain from focusing on labels, money,
and status to focusing on meaning, joy, and experience. As adults,
we often look back at childhood in this nostalogia. Remember,
we always think of the past. Those are the good times,
those are the happy times. I remember being with so

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and so and so and so and so and so. Oh,
those are good times. So today sucks. I've never thought
of my life like that, sometimes even longing for the past.
And it's like, but it's your present. But the truth
is we've trained to grow up in a way that

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almost erases that natural curiosity.

Speaker 5 (47:35):
That simple fun the house that shows status, the job
that proves competence, the titles we have, the amount of
zero's in our bank account, that's success.

Speaker 2 (47:51):
I've never seen it like that. And I've been around
a lot of people with money, and I've never thought
of them as successful. Success is not how much you make.
Success is not how much you own, how many different
cars you have. The success is just getting to know somebody,
to see them how they are in total control of
their lives and they've created such positive, happy habits to

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enjoy everything. Those grandparents that truly enjoy their grandchildren, those
people that truly enjoy their pets. But it's tough, because, yes,
the world encourages us to compare constantly. That's all we
do is compare social media, commercials and cultural pressures. Scream

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you're not enough unless you have this, unless you do that,
unless you achieve more. And suddenly we forget the simple power,
of simple power of a smile, a laugh, or a
quiet moment on our porch. And that's where that cardboard

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box comes back. It's a symbol, a reminder that life
is more about what you do with it than what
you own. What's one thing today that you rushed past
because it seemed unimportant? Could that moment have given you
some joy? If you have just slowed down to smell

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a flower, to look out at the distance, how might
you approach tomorrow differently, noticing the small wonders around you.
I've noticed Melissa and I whenever we go out to dinner,
tell my happiest moments for me at spending time with
her for her, it's eating. I know it's not, but

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it is. Whenever we go anywhere, the first thing I
enjoy is the energy of the location. I'm not there
to just stuff my face. I'm there to enjoy the
environment the location for those that know me, that have
ever been out with me. I talk to all the

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white staff, I talk to everybody. If I get a
chance to, I comment, I compliment, I comment, I compliment,
I compliment, I compliment. We went recently to a Japanese
restaurant which was the outset was just so beautiful, amazing,
and we went inside and I was like, Wow, this
is really quiet, and I expect us in Kentucky. It's

(50:24):
in Bowling Green. Oh my god. Every type of ram
and bowl you can think of, so many different combinations.
I asked the lady. I always asked them, even if
I already know what I'm gonna do, So what do
you recommend? What do you like? What don't you like?
And you could see them light up because you're they're
not just my staff person. I'm allowing them to share
their moments. And they always smile, and they always they

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are always so many are not always, but many are
proud of what they're doing this. Lady loved it. She
was like, oh my god, and this bowl has that,
and that bowl has this, and I love this and
that with spicy. Do you like spicy? If you don't
like spicy, you should try this, and you should try that.
We just don't live in the moment animals. Animals. Animals

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live fully in the present. They don't worry about tomorrow
or compare themselves to others. A cat rolls into packaging,
a dog chases its tail, a horse frolics in the field.
I will watch Holly out there, just run, just whole
ass from one end the other. Stop, look around, and
she looks for me, and she sees me, and she
runs all the way towards me, and she stops right
in front of me, and she turns around and she

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runs up. They don't worry about tomorrow. They find joy
in doing what feels natural. I love watching my horse,
my horse, think about that. I want a horse her
mane flowing her nostrils, flaring her eyes wide with curiosity.

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That kind of pure and filtered joy is something we
can learn from Yesterday, because we've had storm's rain, so
I went to go check the fence for holes and whatever,
and she will follow me. And when I stop, she
puts her entire head right on my shoulder and she
just rested. You don't need to spend money or seek

(52:20):
approval to experience that kind of freedom. You just need
to allow yourself to be in that moment, not to
just be like, oh my god, get off dirty whorse.
I know people like that. I pray for them with
all your senses awake and your heart engaged. It's magic.

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Here's a quick exercise. I call this to five minute wonder.
Five minutes you have five minutes, okay, it's simple. Pick
any object near you, a cup, a leaf, a pen,
a piece of fruit, anything, anything, anything anything around you.
Then five minutes exploring it, holding it, looking at it,

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wondering how it was made, wondering where it came from. Understand, many,
many hands created this. Somebody at one point actually drew
it out on a piece of paper to create it.
Notice its texture, its smell, its color, its weight, its shape.

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Imagine it in a story or give it a playful purpose.
What else can you do with it? Reflect on how
it feels to slow down in that moment and just
experience this experience of that moment. It's the mindset of

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a child that you're connecting with again without thinking of
its utility or cost or all. This costs me so much.
Of course, it cost you money. You paid for it, dummy,
And it's just what I'm asking you to do is
a shortcut back to reconnecting with the mindset of a
child to curry us playful and present. It's proof that

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experience outweighs ownership. But instead many of us, you know,
let's talk about the metrics we use to measure life.
Adults often measure success by what they have, what they own,
the car, the house, the savings. Kids measure success by fun,
discovery and joy. Now, mind you, it sounds silly, but

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having the car, the house, and the savings, you can
also have fun in the car, fun in the house,
fun with the savings. You can discover new things in
the car, new bells, new whistles that you can actually
use enjoy. It can bring your joy, But instead many
will wish they had a different house, a bigger house,

(54:55):
a better car. As you're buying your car and you're
pulling out to the driveway of the dealership, the newer
model drives by and you're like, I'll tell you a story.
Back in two thousand and nine, I purchased a Dodge
Ram brand new. Actually this one had was in the

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showroom on a one of those conveyor wheel thing belts
that the cars were spinning, and I actually went there
for something completely different. But the price was amazing. They
were giving such a discount and it was an exceptional vehicle.
So before you know it, I walked out with it.
So while I was waiting for them to detail and
do everything, I kind of hung around. Somebody, a family

(55:37):
member called me and he's he's you know, I wish
he would listen to the show because it's a good example.
His comment was, oh my god, where are you? And
I said, I'm at a dealership purchasing a truck. And
he was like, oh my god, what did you get?
And I said, I got a Dodge Ram whatever. And
you know, again, I don't care like it's a ticks

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point two. I don't care. It's a nice truck and
I'm going to enjoy it. And I didn't go I
didn't take pictures of it and poist it because it
was for me. But his comment was odd because I
was mentioning the price and everything, and he was like, wow,
that's crazy. Why And I said, oh, it's a two
thousand and nine and his thing was like, oh, but

(56:18):
it's a two thousands. We're now in twenty ten, like
we just it was like January February. It was like February,
and I was like, right, but it was like last
year's model that just had been sitting there. Why would
you buy a used vehicle? Ah, this is the same

(56:42):
person that will see my cellphone and go, wow, that's
an old model. It's a cell phone. I will never
forget that moment. That was in two thousand and ten February,

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and I still remember that conversation to this day, and
I pray for that person often. Here's another one. Your
mattress tonight when you get ready to go to bed,
is it the most expensive one you can buy? Or
is it one that you've had for one hundred years?
Does it have the greatest, highest thread count sheets? Maybe yes,

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maybe no. But here's the real question. Tomorrow morning, when
you wake up, did you sleep well? Did you wake
up feeling rested, peaceful and ready to enjoy tomorrow or
are you just focused on the costs the size instead
of the actual experience of rest. Because life works the

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same way as we chase labels, appearances and better things,
yet forget to evaluate how alive we actually feel. I mean,
throughout the day, you should pause a few times a
day and ask yourself what's going on in the world
around me right now? Like right now, I just looked

(58:09):
out the leads are changing colors. Here in Kentucky. It's
much slower, which is greater because it's a much longer
feeling fall. But the wind is blowing and just like now,
I'll find myself getting lost and just watching that. And
how beautiful it is to be alive, to be able
to do this, because one day I won't be here

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and I won't be able to do this. Am I
enjoying what I'm doing? Or am I just moving through
life on autopilot? This is things that you should do
throughout the day. You go somewhere, you stop, you get
a smoothie to drink. Are you just sucking it down quickly?
Or did you take your first sip and you go,
this is good? And then you look over at the

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counter at the people that made it, and you truly like,
thank you so much, not because well I paid for it.
So what, no, I will go back and do whoever
we doing. I'll be thank you so much for taking
the time to make me this. I appreciate it. One
of the easiest ways we lose connection with life is
overlooking what we already have. We taste the next thing,

(59:13):
the bigger thing, the better thing, the newer thing, and
in the process we forget to appreciate the things that
are right in front of us, the things, even the
people that are right in front of us. I'm gonna
bring it back to this farm because it's my life.
Every day I see reminders of life's simple beauty. The
chickens clocking the scratch, watching them scratch and a dirt,

(59:35):
oblivious to anything else. They're just focused on the moment.
The tortoises walking around the garden, content with every single
blade of grass. My cat's finding warmth in the sunbeam.
And the window. We have one of those little window beds.
Great thing if you have cats, get it, put it
in the window where the sun is, and they lay there,

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perfectly satisfied with a simple spot of sun. None of
this really costs anything beyond care, attention to love. Yet
these moments are priceless. They are the living proof that
joy doesn't need a price tag. I want to share

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one more story from a day that might seem ordinary
but taught me an important lesson. It was a rainy
morning and I was doing my things, feeding the animals,
checking the fences, you know, making sure water everybody had water,
clean water. I was tired, annoyed. I think I had
a headache, wishing the rain would just stop. But then

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I came in. I went to check out my inside
animals and I have my parrots Seymour, and I found
myself staring at him, just tearing up a box, the
magic box. He looked ridiculous. He was going through it,
taking his head out another hole, making little noises, and

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all of my frustration disappeared. I laughed, I truly laughed.
He was like a little clown. The joy wasn't about
anything new, anything expensive, or anything planned. It was in
noticing life as it happens. It was present. It was
the connection. Your life is full of these moments. You

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just have to open your eyes. You do, even walking around,
going to the pharmacy, going to the store, to the supermarket.
Everything has an acknowledgment, a smile and nod, a word
of thanks can create ripples that return back to you.

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Life multiplies what you appreciate each morning and each night.
List things in your mind that you're grateful for, Say
them aloud, feel them, Let your body respond with happiness.
Not just like I'm happy because I have a car

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to get to work, No, like, think about it. A
lot of people don't. A lot of people are standing
in the rain and the weather waiting for the bus.
When you start focusing on those true moments of happiness,
you shift in your mood and awareness over the next
twenty four hours forty eight hours. I mean, I've talked

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about joy, curiosity, imagination, gratitude, and the value of ordinary moments.
But I ask you to take a step further. What
does it look like to live fully in each moment,
every single day. Well, it starts with noticing, truly noticing.
Most adults through life treat life like it's a checklist.

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We're always moving, always planning, always thinking about what's next,
what's next, what next? What needs to be done? By
the end of the day, one needs to be done.
I get it. But life happens in the spaces in between.
It's like the whole the graveyard. You're stone the day
you're born, the year you're born, the year you die. Well,
all that matters is to dash in between. What did
that person do with their life? Did they run around

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and make sure all of their bills were paid, did
they have good credit? Did they actually enjoy their life?
Were they in a great relationship where they're loving. Did
they love their kids, their pets, their grandkids. Did they
love their siblings. Did they love their their husband or wife,
their partner, their job. It's in those quiet moments, those pauses,

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the laughter, the small victories. That's the dash. Right now,
think back to your last meal. So really, if it
was this morning, if it was last night, if it
was for lunch, did you taste every single bite? Did
you notice the flavors, the textures, the smell, the warmth,

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or you're just scrolling by or watching television, thinking, planning,
rushing as you shoved food in your mouth. I know
people who do this. I've gone to eat dinner with
people and I'm like, oh my god, like they're just
I people will laughing because every time I go to eat,
a comment, oh my god, this is great, Oh my god,
that is so good, this is spicy. I kind of
like this Oh my god, I love that. Oh you

(01:04:29):
could taste the love in this That's why I prefer
to eat a hole in the walls. I like to
I love to see. There is a restaurant we go
to in Bowling Green. It's father, mother son. The son
is already like son, he's like in his thirties, but
he's the host, the waiter. The father does like the
cashier and everything else. They have like a little shopping store.

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And then the mother and the father both cook and
you see them through the window in the kitchen. I
love this place because it's like just as or gy.
You walk in there of love, like it's almost like
you want to dissect and pick it apart. Like he
must wait hate working with his parents. He is so proud,

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and like the last time I went, I had stew
and I couldn't stop complimenting him. And like he runs
and he goes and tells his mother and she waves
from the window. It's just the first time he went.
I actually went to the kitchen and like, oh my god,
I thank you, thank you, thank you for spending this
time sacrifice self employee, I mean own they own their

(01:05:31):
own little restaurant. You know what that means they're always there.
It's not easy, but they love doing it and you
taste it in their food. I would rather go there
than to some chained restaurant. I love those places. You
really do taste the food, the love and the food.

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See I'm thinking of that meal and how much I
cared and when it's like they bring it out to
and they put it down and they watch you and
they want you to love their food, their culture. Now,
imagine doing what I just said for everything, your walks
or conversations, your your your responsibilities, your work. Imagine being

(01:06:19):
fully present all the time, turning the ordinary into the extraordinary.
That's how life becomes rich, not with money, not with labels,
not with appearances, but with feeling, with presence, with love
for what is happening right now. At the end of
each day, Please I beg of you write down the

(01:06:39):
moments that brought your joy, or if you're with somebody
to talk about them. What brought you joy today. I'll
tell you what brought me joy today. Reflect on what
you have in common and how you can create more
of them. That's what you want to do, create more
of them. When you do this, you reclaim your life

(01:07:01):
and you stop measuring it by appearances and start living
it through experience. That is the richest, most abundant, and
most meaningful life that you can lead. Remember, the experience
is the reward. It's here, right now in front of you.

(01:07:21):
It's now. It's yours that you do own. That you
don't have to save up for, that you don't have
to get a loan for, that you don't have to
even ask for. You just do. And with that, I
hope I made you think. I hope I made you
question your existence and to appreciate every single tomorrow, every today,

(01:07:43):
and be grateful for all of the experiences of the
past that have made you who you are. Right now,
keep this in mind. Choose action over excuse, purpose over comfort,
and the work that matters over the distractions that don't.
My name is mister mcandalds, and this was episode two hundred.
I have done two hundred of these, and most of them,

(01:08:07):
almost all of them with Henry, who is totally knocked
out right here in front of me as he stretches
these moments. When I work on my meditations, my podcasts
and different things, I always do them right here, and
this is his time. Don't piss it away. Please go

(01:08:32):
forward and live your life to the fullest. Thank you
so much for listening, liking, and sharing with others. It
means so much to me. Many blessings, many many blessings
to you all. Be well and prosper and God bless
every single one of you.

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