The Reset Yourself 22 Podcast (Episode 201) "What YOU water grows!"

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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Please note this show contains adult language and themes and
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Speaker 2 (00:26):
Dearly beloved, you're gathering here today to get through this
thing called life.

Speaker 3 (00:59):
You are listening to the Reset Yourself Podcasts with your host,
Jimmy dun College. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
I appreciate it. Hello all. Well, first, I have to,

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of course begin by saying last week was episode session
two hundred of the Reset Yourself twenty two podcasts, two hundred,
a few more episodes and I will be on season five.
That's five years that I've been doing this. And I

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remember the first time I got a sponsor through the
original company speaker. I was so excited. I was like, oh,
I got a sponsor, and it's funny. Recently I was
listening to doing some editing on some of the podcasts
and I was shocked. It was like, you know, now,
it's like dodg Ram sponsors a lot of computer ads, restaurants,

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department stores, and I want to say thank you to
all of those sponsors that have been supporting the many
different platforms, so many different platforms have many different sponsors.
Thank you. Thank you for doing that, and thank you
for my listeners for listening to these sponsors. Because of that,

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I have this show and now we begin a new
chapter two one, so it's like number one. It's like
starting all over again. Huh. It's pretty cool. In this
weekly podcast, I focus on sparking your inner confidence and
igniting your belief and yourself. I am your host and

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I'm always very still still at episode two hundred and
one and thrill to share my thoughts and research with
you as we go along this journey together. And what
a journey it has been. Huh. We together can nurtur
our mindset that empowers us to reach our fullest potential.
All right, and record every episode to challenge our thinking,

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his thinking, my co producers right here sleeping, and to
encourage us to reflect and inspire actionable, realistic steps towards
our personal growth. Whether you are facing a career transition,
seeking to overcome challenges, or simply striving for greater fulfillment
in our lives. This podcast has been for so many

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people around the globe. Thank you around the globe go
to resource from motivation and practical insights. My inspiration to
do this show is to teach people to focus more
on what they can can accomplish so they do the
things they need to do when they need to do them,
so they ultimately get to do the things they want

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when they want to have them. This episode is dedicated
to everybody who's been listening, but especially to everybody who
wrote in for the big two hundred episode. A lot
of people went in thanking me and sending me such
beautiful messages, positive messages of how this podcast has made

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them think and how for quite a few of them
it's changed the way they view themselves and that since
this podcast has been created for them, they can really
are beginning to see how amazing they are. Because that's
what this podcast is about, trying to tell you over

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and over again, so for two hundred and one times,
how amazing you are, and how you can nurture a
mindset that empowers you to reach your fullest potential. So
this episode it's about struggles and allowing these struggles to

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define us and just basically asking you to stop falling
in love with them. They're not yours. It's just a mindset,
and it's just fascinating to me how quickly you can change.
I'll get into this, but how you quickly can change
your mindset right now, right here, right now, within the

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next two minutes. I'm not talking about a week of
work or a year of work. I'm talking about making
a choice, changing your mind right now. I mean, as
I said that, I immediately thought of situations moments in
my life that I stood up, I dusted myself off,
and I changed my life drastically, drastically over one decision

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that I made, and everything changed even moving to Kentucky,
like still still it's going to be a year and
what two months? And Melissa and I still drive around
and go we're in Kentucky. And I wrote to a
very dear friend of mine last night stating that I
feel as though I'm living is all. It's almost as
if I was living in a book and somehow the

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main character of that book was able to step out
of that book and step into another book and just
living this life as if I've been living it my
entire life, even though I know I haven't. But everything
here is different. It's not just oh, you moved from
this place to that place, or you changed your homes

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or you changed your clothes. Now and it's funny, I
owe a lot of it to a life coach, a
gentleman that said, if you really want to change your life,
if you get to the point that you know it
has to change, and I mean like severely, you the
best thing you can do is you pack your shit up,

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you move, you change your friends. This is more than
just changing your your your instant mindset, or just changing
your underwear. This is like, I need to really truly
reset myself, and we did. We did. Now people call
me a farmer gym. It's just never thought about that.

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And at times people ask me about my past and
as I repeat it in my head, it's almost like
who was that person? It's like that person was me,
but it now seems so far away. But as for
your struggles, it's just I'll explain. People love to talk

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about empowerment. It sounds nice, It looks good on a wall,
on a mirror, Believe in yourself, empower yourself, you can
do this, all that great stuff, right. It makes for
a great Instagram post with a sense that in the
background some wonderful words, good font, But empowerment, real empowerment.

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It isn't that cute. It's not all motivation and hype.
And positive quotes. Empowerment often often starts in the dirt
and the disappointment and the sadness and the misery and
the heartbreak and the why me moments, why me and

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the setbacks that we swear we'd never recover from, because
that's that when you're down in the dirt, that's when
you first realize, damn, I am stronger than I thought.
The problem is, society has convinced that being strong means
never failing, never failing, never crying, never doubting. Like we're

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supposed to be superheroes twenty four to seven while juggling balls,
taking over the world, balancing everything in our lives. Everything
is perfect, correct, but also still dealing with some self
doubts and relationship problems and whatever chaos loves to throw

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at us. Honestly, good luck with that, because for those
of you that follow superheroes like I do, even the
Hulk has issues that he doesn't want to be the Hulk.
You have Batman, such an egotistical maniac who contemplates a

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balance of being a billionaire and having everything material but
never being able to find true love, I mean, to me,
of anything. His true love is Alfred, the truth. The
truth is you're human. We all are. We slip, we break,

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we make these decisions, We procrastinate, We get scared and
stay stuck in the very places we swore we'd escape from.
But here's where it gets twisted. Instead of admitting we're
human and rising again, we start worshiping our struggles. For some,
it's so easy to just post every time shit hits
the fan. We have to post it on face but hey,

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everybody should hit the fan, and then everybody writes in prayers,
Yeah you heard me. We start telling our stories like
they define us. Hey everyone, I screwed up again. Hey everybody,
I can't get ahead. Hey everyone, everything goes wrong Just
for me. I have it tougher than anyone. I guess

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that is just who I am. Right, are treating our
suffering like a comfort blanket. We cling to our identity
of the person who is always struggling, because struggling, when
you're struggling, that's good because the identity of the person
who rises that one requires courage. You see, Empowerment isn't

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pretending everything is fine. Oh, it's not ignoring your pain.
Empowerment is where you choose to aim your focus. What's
next for you? So you fail, you failed, you fucked up. Okay,

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the question is what's next? Now I feel I feel
that I fucked up. It's like, okay, so you did
the three f's. Now what Every single person listening right
now has done something amazing, every single one of you,
I know you have at least once, probably hopefully more

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than once. Maybe you raised the family. Maybe you survived
a loss that could have broken you. Maybe you rebuilt
your life as I have a few times over when
those closest to have just assumed that we would fail,
fall and fuck up. Maybe you fought through anxiety, depression,

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in doubt and showed up any way. Maybe you changed,
and let me tell you something, change is hard for
a lot of people. But do you celebrate any of that?
Do you honor the success the winds? Do you patch
yourself on the back when you actually do well? Or
do you struggle to accomplish something and once you did,
now you put it behind you because now you're focusing

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on the next struggle instead of taking those five ten
minutes or a day to patch yourself in the back
and go, Wow, you sacrifice, you hustled, you work, Do
you sweat, you bled, you cried. Good for you so
many battles that you have already fought and won. Instead,

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many of us sit there listening, listing everything that's wrong,
like it's an Olympic event of screw ups, because somewhere
along the way we were tricked into believing that focusing
on the negative means you are being responsible, like worrying.
Worrying is a sign of maturity, Like beating yourself up

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will somehow turn you into the best itself. How is
that working out for you? There's a big difference between
acknowledging your struggles and falling in love with them. Here's
the problem. I'm working on it, but how long does

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it take? Then you have people like you know, I'll
never rise again because you know, my friend is where
too many people live their whole lives trying and they
just don't accomplish. So I'm just gonna give up. Too
many people. It's not because they're weak, it's not because
they're incapable, but because the human mind has a very

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bad habit. It sees what you repeatedly show it what yes, Yes,
That's something that's a topic that underlies so many podcasts.
If you walk around all day saying you're a piece
of shit and you're not worthy, and that you're fat,
and that you're lazy, and that you're incompetent, and that
you're stupid and all this stuff. Your mind is just

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gonna go okay and start believing it. You see, if
you keep replaying your failures over and over, your confidence
will shrink to match the story. If he keep saying
I can't or uh oh or oh no, and everything
leads to negative and bad, that's the type of life
you're going to have. Bottom line is your future will agree,

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and we'll just basically guide you on that path of fear.
But guess what, if you can convince yourself that you're unworthy,
you can convince yourself that you are worthy. Because here's
the truth so many of us try so hard to ignore.

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The bottom line is you've done more good in your
life than you give yourself credit for. All of you,
all of you have many strengths, have many talents, have
many qualities that people around you. Maybe you don't, but
there are people around you that admire you, They look
up to you. There's a lot of people that wish

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they had your life. What yeah, even if you don't,
but you keep focusing on the two percent of your
life that's messy instead of the ninety eight percent that
proves who you truly are. Let's just say this past weekend,

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hopefully I had a few days off. Did you dwell
on the one thing that went wrong? How it could
have been a better weekend, how it could have been
spent differently, how you could have done this. Instead you
did that, instead of focusing on everything that went right.

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What a wonderful weekend it was. I had a wonderful weekend.
We did quite a bit. Actually, our Sunday, we woke
up very early, which I'd love to do here. We
just usually don't leave the house till very early. But
if it was up to me, I'd wake up right away,
get up super I get up very early and just
head out and accomplish everything so that before you know it,

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my day feels done and it's only three in the afternoon,
which is what happened this past Sunday. I feel like
we did seventeen different things, and by when I looked
at the clock, it was like three thirty three twenty
I remember, and I was like, we still have time
to do five more things, and there's I mean, life
is too short to just like you know, what did
you do on your weekend? I sat there and watched television,

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or I just existed. The only thing limiting you is
your mind. That's it. If you want empowerment, real empowerment,
you have to redirect your focus. Say this means focus.

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I guess for some reason, what did you overcome this year?
The years coming to an end? It's eleven eleven years,
You're done before you know, people here have already started
with Christmas. Thanksgiving never happened in Kentucky, or it's not
going to happen. It's just goes from Halloween to Christmas,

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very bizarre. So in this year, what did you overcome?
What did you learn that made you wiser? What strength
did you show that surprised even you? Trust me, there's
something you did that you almost as if you were
outside of your body looking back, going hmmm, good for you,

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because I do that all the time. I will do
things almost as if like a guide. I'm getting a
download of stuff that all of a sudden, I know
how to do something, and I do it well, and
I do it with pride and passion. And I'm like,
where did I learn to do that. Don't just acknowledge
the good you've done, Honor it, stand on it, move

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from it, learn from it, don't forget it. Because your
struggles are chapters. They are not the title of your story.
Think about it. Even the worst thing that has happened
in your life, well, not the worst, let's say the
many bad things that may have happened. At the time,

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they were the center of it all. If you had
to name your book your life, you would have named
it after that one moment. But as you go on
living that title that you were going to name your
book at that point, as time goes on, becomes just

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a chapter in your book, and as time goes on,
it becomes just a page in that chapter in your book.
For those of you that have been married and divorced
during that time, when you're in it, oh my god,
it's just like trying to get through it and you
don't know, and you question yourself, and you question the
other person and what did I do wrong? And what

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did they do wrong? And how can I you know,
how do I I don't want to do this again.
I want to make sure I'm a better person. And
you just think it's the center of your world. Fast
forward five ten years now, it's a chapter. It's a
page my lessons, my lessons learned of how to be

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a better partner, how to be a better friend, how
to be a better person in general, so that I
can be a better person for the next person in
my life and learn from everything that I did wrong.
Notice I said I I could blame the other person
for so many things. But here's the thing, we're no

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longer connected. I don't care what they did or didn't do.
They were a chapter in my life or good times.
They're most likely bad times, but at this point in
my life I don't even see them anymore. I just
remember the good because it doesn't matter. I'm not gonna
fill my head with toxicity walking around fifteen years later,

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fifteen years later that my ex did this, indeed did that,
and she did dad, and they did Why they moved on?
What am I gonna do? Sit here still stalking pictures
of them, wondering what they're doing and in a weird
statistic way, hoping that they don't do well. Even though
you're like I wished, I wish them. No, you don't

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stop wishing at all. What are you doing with your life?
Because I just think it's funny because I know quite
a few people that do this, and I'm like, right,
but they've already remarried, they've already bought a new house,
they're already taking trips together, they're already breaking bread together,
celebrating together, celebrating anniversaries, moving on, maybe having new kids,
new dogs, new pets, new home, new yard, new pool.

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And you're still sitting here like envious that if you
want to talk about the devil, that's the power of
the devil, envy and jealousy, looking back in anger. Why
I look forward filled with love, and I enjoy my present.

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You are not defined by how many times you fall.
You are defined by the fact that you keep getting
back up over and over. And trust me, as you
get older, it's not as easy. The bones start hurting,
the back starts cracking, the knees are sore, which is
more of a reason you need to do more. I

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think it's funny when I hear these people complain about,
you know, oh, I can't do this, or I can't
do this that. Could you please shut the fuck up? Please?
The rest of us are trying to live a long,
love filled, happy trying to be as healthy as possible
to hear you sit in the background of how your
life is so tough because everything hurts. I don't want
to hear it. That's ignorance on your part. Life is

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way too beautiful to be focused on my pain. I
focus on the glory of God and all the magic
that the universe is giving me. Every Right now, I'm
looking out the window of the beautiful leaves I love fall.

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Let me ask you something, and be honest with yourself.
Are you in love with your own suffering? It's the
harsh question, but it's a question that you should ask
yourself often. Are you in love with your own suffering?

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Because if you're a first and if your answer well,
absolutely now, absolutely right, then why do you keep harping
on the negative? Why do you keep harping on getting older,
the pain, the sadness, the misery, the fear? You're in
love with your own suffering. I'm grateful for my life
one hundred percent, one hundred percent, and I will prove

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that at the very end. I don't have to, but
I want to. Some people that I know just don't
want to heal. I just had a gentleman recently who
contacted me actually a new relationship that I have a
new friendship. And his thing was like, I was surprised,
but he was like, I want to sit with you
for hypnosis. I think I need it. I asked them

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a basic couple of questions and it ended right there
because I'm like, you, my friend, don't want to heal.
Like many of my past clients, not many, but quite
a few, they just want to be able to do it,
to say it so they can prove to somebody else
that well, I tried something. You shouldn't focus on healing

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for others. You should focus on healing for yourself. The
others come and go in your life. Everybody who is
in your life now at some point is going to leave. Everybody,
You're still there. That's why I direct this question at you.
Are you in love with your own suffering? Some people,

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surprisingly don't want to heal And that is a lesson
that I learned in my hypnosis school and I'll never
forgo when the teacher brought that up. Because a lot
of the other students in my class were social workers,
medical field nurses, I was really the only like healer,
reiki healer, sound healer, you know, just very different and

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my instructor had said, in the years she's done, she's
never actually had somebody do hypnosis with the true intention
of connecting the body and mind and a healing perspective,
not just for smoking or for weight loss. My thing
is to really connecting the mind on you know, using

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coaching to change people's thoughts, because the ability that I found,
the power that I realized I can have doing it,
which I have, thank God. And she said, understanding that
everybody wants to heal. I remember what she was worrying.
I remember when she was standing in class. I remember
the whole thing. And I looked at her and she
looked directly at me. He says, Jimmy, remember this. A

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lot of your clients do not want to heal. They
just want attention for being hurt. They want to be understood,
they want to be validated, they want to be comforted,
they want to be able to go on social media
talk about how bad they have it. They're all complete

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human desires. But the danger comes with when pain becomes
your identity, when the glory of power me becomes the
only story you know how to tell. Because again, you
always have the people that are black and white. I
personally am very gray. They weren't gray. I'm very gray.
To me. There's no black and white in anything. People

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are like, what am I not supposed to do? Not
tell people that I need help?

Speaker 1 (27:19):
Not?

Speaker 3 (27:19):
But of course, why do you have to be all
the way that way? The bottom line is you do.
And then part of that conversation, if you're going to
tell people is Hi, everybody, this is what's helping me,
this is what's happening. I need help because by the
end of this conversation, I need to solve this problem.
Not like some of the people that I know that
it's like six years go by and I meet up

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with them. What's going on? Same shit? And you haven't
changed in six years. You're still dealing with the same problems.
Why it's just a change of one mindset? And I
get it. Suffering can feel safe in a weird way.

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Trust me, I know being negative sometimes feels good. Yes,
I'm honest, I know. But if everything is going wrong
all the time, then there's no pressure, there's no expectations,
you don't have to do the work, there's no risk
of failure because you've already claimed fail You are a failure.

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You're a walking failure. It's so much easy. I don't
have to work. I don't want to look up. I
don't want to strive, I don't want to rise. I
just want to stay right here. I don't want to
have to try. H You ever notice how people who
are struggling left to say I can't help it, or
this is just how my life has been. People like

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me just don't get ahead. Life is easy for everybody else,
not for me. That's the anthem of someone who has
surrendered and given up their potential. They get that shit
on fire. Let me give you a tough truth. Sometimes
we cling to misery because happiness requires effort, because better

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requires work, Becoming stronger requires discomfort, Becoming successful requires vulnerability,
and humans hate vulnerability more than they hate pain. Pain
for many feels familiar. Growth feels uncertain. But here's where you,

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right now, right now, right here, right now, can flip
your switch. You've already survived some of the hardest moments
in your life. You've already proven you can handle more
than you thought you could, So why why pretend that
you can't handle the next step? Look back not at

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what went wrong, but look back at how you pushed
through the relationship that didn't destroy you, the illness that
you fought, the mistakes you corrected, the fear you faced,
the grief you carried, the nights you struggled but still
got up the next day. I love it. I think

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it's funny when people break up and they're in love
and oh my god, I'll never love again, or you know,
I'll never have a job like this again, or I'll
never be happy again. And see this, this is the
world's smallest violent It's like, please just stop. Tell me

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again why you think you're weak. You're only weak. And
the stories that you choose to repeat with others, I'll understand.
When you meet somebody for the first time, all they
know is what you're telling them. They have no idea
who you are, so you can start your conversation with
you know. So my parents, Yeah I got to meet them.

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I lost them when I was very young. I all
my memory was just being put into this capsule and yeah,
you know, I was shot across space to this new
planet called Earth. As from what I understand, I assume
I was told from a recorder that my planet blew

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up and I'm the last person from my planet supposedly,
and you know, and that's pretty much it Just call
me Kalel, And chances are the person you're telling this
too will just be like, okay, all right, because they
don't fucking know. So if you start your conversations, your introductions,

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your day at work with how is your evening? Oh
my god, my evening sucked? Everything went wrong, Everything went
to shit. Everything was bad. That I made dinner. It
was cold, it was too hot. It got me sick,
and then my bed socked. It was the houses to this,
and then my partner was to them. I mean again,

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balance because people like what I can't talk about. No, no,
mister black and white, it's balanced. You should be able
to also talk about the good things in your life,
the good moments, because you need to just focus. You focus,
and you get power. Right now, most people focus on

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what they lack, the lack of money, the lack of confidence,
the lack of results, the lack of progress, the lack
of opportunity. But what you focus on grows. Think about
that what you focus on grows. Lack of progress, lack
of results, lack of money, lack of grows. You stare

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at your problems long enough, they start to look permanent.
You stare at your failures long enough you start to
feel like a failure yourself. Well, how do I fix it? Jimmy?
You shift the lens that you're looking through, the words
that you choose to say that your mind hears what's

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wrong with my life? Okay, but how about what's strong
with my life? What are what? What did I accomplish?
What goals? What aspirations? What? What was it? What was
I able to focus on? Superman doesn't walk around telling
people that he's he can't be around Kryptonite. He focused.

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He's saving the world. He knows it, he knows it's
out there. He doesn't forget about it. But he's too
focused on saving the world. There is always strength within you,
even when you're tired, even when you're discouraged, even when
you doubt yourself, there is always strength within you. Humans

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are wired for survival. It's what we do, and not
just physical survival, emotional survival, mental survival, soul survival. But here,
here is the trap. Here's the trap. You didn't just
survive those battles, You grew from them. You learned, You
gained wisdom, you built resilience, You earned the right to

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say you ready I can't do hard things. Yeah, And
instead of focusing on that, you keep replaying the real
of I can't. It's just too difficult. I'm too old,
I'm too young, I'm to this, I'm too it's just excuses.

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It's easier. What did I do wrong? Why did you
give the worst parts of your life the most power?
That's not my quote. I love that. Why do you
give the worst parts of your life the most power?
So in your in your chapter of life, Let's say
each chapter in your book of life, each chapter represents

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it's one year. Okay, I have fifty five chapters in
my life. What are the most interesting chapters of your life?
So if somebody walked up to you and you're holding
your book. So I'm holding my fifty five chapters of
life with Jimmy Gonzalez, and somebody comes up to me
and I want to show them my book. What pages

(35:23):
do you go to? Think about that for a moment.
What pages do you quickly share? Let's say, for example,
you have your book and you're at a book signing
at a bookstore. There's people there, they want to hear you.
They they've already most of them have most of them
have already read your book, okay, And they're intrigued by you.

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That's why they're there. At some point they want to
steal you for a minute or two to either get
just an autograph or to just maybe take a picture
and hear more of you because they're intrigued by your life.
So there you are at your podium with your book
fifty five years with Jimmy Gonzalez. What chapter do I share?

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What chapters do I share? Let me remind you something important.
You are not behind. You are not broken. You are
not too late, you are not done. You are always
you will always be a work in progress until your

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last breath. You're not a failure in progress. You are
a work in progress. Look, you're going to fail. You're
going to fall, and yeah, you're gonna fuck up again.

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You're all going to mess up. You're all going to
doubt yourselves many times. That's called the humanity. And congratulations,
you're normal. But the fall doesn't define you. The rise does.
The failure isn't the ending. The decision to try again

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is the turning point. And I want you to hear
this part clearly. Are you focused? Are you listening? You
don't have to earn the right to believe in yourself.
You're already born with it, because you're alive. Every single

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day you wake up, you have a new chance to
focus on the things that prove your worth. Your kindness,
your work ethic, your creativity, your heart, your intelligence, your persistence,

(38:02):
your ability to learn and learn and learn, and your
willingness to continue to try again. You are a collection
of all of these strengths, not a collection of screw ups.
From this point forward, you start building your identity around

(38:22):
what is good in you, not perfect, just good, just good,
because good is enough to rise, good is enough to grow,
Good is enough to make your future better than your past.
The life you want isn't built from the parts of

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you that are wounded. It's built from the parts of
you that refuse to stay wounded. You focus on that,
and your entire world will change. There's a saying that
I love what you. Water grows if you water doubt.

(39:08):
Doubt grows if you water fear. Fear grows if you
water pain. But if you water your courage, if you
water your progress, if you water your faith, and who
you can become? What will grow? What will you become?
Who will you become? Think about that. If you put

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positive energy towards those things, who will you be in
six weeks, six months if you continue to sit there
and just bitch and complain and just be negative and
focus on all of your fuck ups and all your
your your failures and oh my god, and I did
this and that then it work out. And I tried

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this and I screwed up, and I it's what you're watering.
Here's the funny thing about empowerment. People assume that empowerment
just happens. That one morning you'll wake up with unstoppable confidence.
You're gonna jump out of your bed, literally just jump,

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land on your legs and go, I'm gonna take over
the world. Abs the fucking lily not and every insecurity
will just even magnify magically, pack its bags and just
move because realistic reality kicks in and you're like, but
I can't. I'm a failure. If only if only I

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had the nerve, if only I had the magic power
that they had. If only I had them all the
money in the world, if only I won the lottery.
If only I had a better job. If only I
had a better spouse, if only I had better children,
if only I had a nicer house, If only I
had a better car, my life would be better. If
you believe that, my friend, you are so delusional. If

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you really think more money will give you more happier life,
you are delusional. Sorry, and most of you will not
agree with me. I really don't care. It's my opinion
on all the research that I've done on people that
have actually actually gotten money, like a lot of money,

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a lot of money, and then come to realize that
when you ask them what was the happiest point in
your life, they will say my very first apartment, my
very first twin little bed in a cockroach filled room,
living in a mansion. Now, what was your happiest moment?

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My first shitty car. At times I had to push it.
I just think it's funny. I've read many books by entrepreneurs,
and I always look for those sections because that's feed
off of that, because that's the similar link of all
of them. Their happiest moments is not the present should be.

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It's not. It's always a relationship they had with somebody
who wasn't full of themselves, who wasn't money hungry, going
to school, learning. As I said, their first shitty apartment
or first crappy car. But empowerment is more like a

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daily workout. It's like a muscle being built. Most people
skip the days they don't feel like showing up to
the gym. But let me call this out directly. You
already know what's good about you, you just don't take
the time to look at it. We're so used to

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assuming our strengths are normals. Are not a big I'm
good at this, I'm good at that. Yeah, but you
know everybody is no, because we've lived with them our
whole lives. We just assumed the rest of the world
has does the wonderful things that each of us do. No,

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many will not celebrate their empathy, but they will just
say that they're too sensitive. Many will not celebrate their
persistence and instead say that they're just stubborn. So you
take a positive trend to or negative. People will not
celebrate their independence and just say I don't need anyone. Yes,

(43:40):
we do. People will say they don't celebrate their honesty,
instead say well, I'm just too blunt. We flipped. We
flip every gift into a flaw and it becomes like
a talent. It's pretty cool to watch. I've been known
to do it. Meanwhile, the world sees some of those

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traits and things. Damn, I wish I had that. Damn
I wish I was like that person. The grass is
greener on your right now, your yard. Think about it,
right now, in your yard. The grass is greener for
everybody around you, while you're looking at everybody else's yard,
going wow, the grass is greener over there. So tell

(44:24):
me who's right them or the voice in your head
that can't stand you, that is constantly putting you down,
criticizing you, breaking your spirit, making you feel that you
are not worthy. This is why your perspective matters. Your

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weaknesses are aren't the full story, Your mistakes aren't the
headline of your book of life. Your strength deserves the spotlight,
but you keep shutting off the power. Let's talk about
this obsession with fixing ourselves. We're constantly fixing ourselves. People

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will argue, I'm not dwelling, I'm just trying to solve
my problems. Okay, but how long have you been solving
the same problem? Years, decades? How long have you been
wanting to lose the weight, How long have you been
wanting to stop these habits? Huh? A week, a month,

(45:29):
a year. Be honest, some problems aren't problems anymore. They're
now habits. A habit of complaining, a habit of self criticism,
a habit of expecting disappointment, a habit of feeling powerless.
And you have fed those habits every single day so far.

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By giving your energy to what's wrong instead of what's right,
you want change. You want change will then stop feeding
the beast. Your life will start moving in the direction
of the thoughts that you repeat the most. Think about that,
your life will start moving in the direction of the

(46:14):
thoughts that you repeat the most. So if your inner
voice sounds like I can't, I never succeed, good things
just don't happen to me. I'm not enough, it's too late,
I'm too old, then your future is being built on lies.

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Because listen, you have stood in front of challenges before,
many challenges that felt impossible, and still found a way
to move forward. How quickly we forget our victories, huh,
How quickly you have forgotten your victories and still found
a way to move forward. How easily we dismiss our strength?

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But like I said, right now, right here, right at
this moment, it's time to flip your script, if you
so choose to, If you so choose to, Instead of
look what went wrong, start asking, saying to yourself, look
what I survived, Look what I've accomplished, Look how far

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I've already come. You want empowerment, you want confidence, you
want to feel strong in your own life, Then stop
being your own villain. Trust me. It's not your neighbor.
It's not your ex, it's not your teacher in seventh grade.

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It's not the bully down the street. Your worst villain
is you. Stop digging up every flaw you've ever had.
Stop pulling that scab, that scar and not letting it heal.
That scar is not you. Stop digging up every flaw

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that you've ever had. Stop digging up every flaw that
you've ever had and using it as evidence that you
are not worthy. You are worthy. You can be not
because you're perfect, but because you keep showing up every day.
Strength isn't found in the person who has never fallen.

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Strength is found in the one who refuses to stay down.
If you want to transform your life, you must decide
that your strength strengths deserve more attention than your setbacks.
You must become the narrator of a different story, one
where you are the fighter, the builder, the learner, the riser,

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the person who keeps pushing forward even when the world
says stop.

Speaker 1 (49:03):
You.

Speaker 3 (49:04):
You are not here to be average. You're not here
to be defeated. You're not here to spend your life
apologizing for just being here. You're here to make something
out of yourself, and you're damn well capable of doing
exactly that. So no more loving your misery, no more

(49:26):
giving your struggles a throne in your life, the main
chapter of your book. Think about it. So if there
was a commercial, you know, the movie guy that talks
like they always make fun of him as Arnold Schwartzenegger,
like this evening, this movie that that guy, If they
were going to do a movie about the book of you,

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would it be like failure more failure, divorce, misery, anger, regret, resentment.
That's a shitty movie. Love your courage, love your resilience,
love your effort, Love the fact that you've list lasted

(50:09):
this long and you still have not given up. You're
still here, because that's the proof of who you really are,
someone who just won't quit. Let's get into the heart
truth of why so many people stay stuck cause a
lot of people do someone who just won't or who

(50:30):
someone who doesn't quit. Let's get into the heart truth
of why so many people stay stuck. Come on, why
do people stay stuck? Well, they're more comfortable studying the
problem that they already know, it's what they know, than
actually choosing the solution. That's what I mean by people
that I know that have had issues, and like, a

(50:51):
couple of years have gone by, years have gone by,
three hundred and sixty five times four or five. That's
a lot of holidays, a lot of birthdays, a lot
of Christmases, a lot of day to day things that
five years down the line, I'm like, so, what's up?
And it's the exact same things. We convince ourselves that

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if we analyze our pain long enough, if we keep
poking at old wounds, if we keep turning every insecurity
into a full blown documentary, then maybe maybe the answer
will magically appear. It's not, but what really happens. We
drown in our doubts, We rehearse our failures. We let

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yesterday dictate our tomorrow, because focusing on everything that's wrong
with you feels like work, even though it changes nothing.
It's like rocking in a rocking chair. Lots of movement,

(51:59):
but you're not going anywhere. You want something real, something
that actually transforms you. I challenge you, shift the spotlight,
let me give you the straight let me be honest
with you. You cannot hate yourself into a better version of you.

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And I'm like, what, Yes, you cannot hate yourself into
a better version of yourself. Criticism doesn't create confidence, Shame
doesn't create strength, and fear fear, it's not going to

(52:42):
create success. You know what does?

Speaker 2 (52:46):
What?

Speaker 3 (52:47):
Jimmy, I'll tell you self respect, self belief, self recognition,
and self accountability. We're so used to beating ourselves up
that we think empowerment and some kind of luxury, like
is some kind of luxury, Like only people who already
made it get to feel good about themselves. But you

(53:12):
don't earn confidence after the victory. You build your confidence
on the way to the victory. So getting back to that,
that that flipping the switch. Let's flip the question not
what's what is wrong with me? But instead what is
right with me? That was the thing that I used
to do with my clients up in Connecticut when I

(53:34):
would meet with them, I would ask them, so, what's
right with you? Ah? I used to love their face
there because they're already coming and sitting down ready to
dump on me all the shitty things in their life,
all the bad decisions, the bad habits, the miserable stories.
And I'm like, I know that's why you're here, But
how about let's start with what's right with you? You know,

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every single person would take a moment to go, oh,
I mean I came here ready, I already have a
list of one hundred things that's wrong with me. Good,
So let's focus on the one or two things that's
right with you, and let's build on that. What qualities

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have gotten you through your life so far? Has it
been your strength, your intelligence, your compassion, your determination, your humor,
your humility, your desire to want better? These are not
small things. These are the building blocks of a very

(54:40):
powerful life. You don't need to become someone new. You
need to use what you already have, use the tools
that you have already. Winning the lottery is not what
you think. Okay, you're just gonna buy more shit, bigger shit,

(55:03):
more expensive shit. You have enough shit. The world doesn't
need a different version of you. I like the version
of you. I could guarantee you the version that you
are now is perfect. It needs the true version of you.

(55:23):
What is the true version of you? The one who
shows up, the one who fights through doubt, the one
who doesn't quit when life gets hard. And as for
one of my favorite words, mindset. When you look at
your struggles as proof that you're weak, you feel defeated.
But when you look at your struggles as proof that

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you have lived, that you have fought, that you have sweat,
that you have bled, that you have cried, that you
and I'm speaking to you have endured, Suddenly, guess what
that's called. It's called empowerment. It's the same story, just
total from a different angle. And that angle that's everything.

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You're not here to be a victim of life. You're
here to be a participant in it, an author of it,
a driver of it. You don't have to sit around
waiting for someone to hand you permission to grow. I
live for me. You already have permission your own. Actually,

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you've had it since the moment you were born. Remember
I said that life isn't meant to be spent staring
behind you or worrying about what might go wrong. I
had a thing that I used to do with my
clients is I want you to and I would describe,
and people would think that they were in it. Describe.

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See yourself in a car, your car, your car now,
or a fantasy car, I don't care, and you see
yourself driving it. Your hands on the wheel, and you're driving,
and you're looking forward. Okay, you have the windshield in
front of you. You're on a highway or somebody of
you say an interstate. But there's traffic, there's tractor trailers,
there's big cars, there's small cars. There's three lanes. You're

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in the middle lane. You're looking forward. Okay. Now here's
where everything switches, because this is what most of us do.
Are you ready? As that car is going forward, I
want you to continue to focus on pushing the gas,
feel the gas pedal underneath your shoe, pushing, pushing the
cars accelerating, not tremendously, but it's accelerating. It's going from

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fifty to fifty five, from fifty five to fifty six,
from fifty six to fifty nine. You hear the engine
getting louder. The cars are starting to go past you
a little bit quicker. Now you're hitting sixty, sixty three,
sixty five, sixty seven. Now I ask of you, you're ready.
Here's the twist. What most of you do. Look in
your rear view mirror, okay, representing the past. Look at

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your rear view mirror. Now, everything that's underneath and around
your rear view mirror has blurred out because as you're driving,
you're just focusing on your rear view mirror. The stuff
that's in your past, all the shit you've done, all
the bad stuff, all the mistakes, all the failures, all

(58:19):
the fuck ups. Now I want you to see the
no feel that the car is going faster. Now it's
at sixty eight, now it's at seventy. You're not looking
forward at all. Everything in front of you is blurt
out because all you're focusing on is what's in that mirror,
and you will not take your eyes off of your past. So,

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of course, again to my black and white people, what
am I supposed to do? Look? You know, not look
at the past. No, what you're supposed to do is
when as you drive normally, what do you do? You
look forward, you look back, you look to this mirror,
you look to that mirror. You look forward, you look.
It's just a thing. I don't remember the last time
I actually drove and thought to myself, Hey, I need

(59:04):
to check the rearview mirror. Hey I need to check
my side mirror. Hey I need to make sure I
know where I'm going. Hey. No, you just do become
second nature as you're driving. You're glancing, you're driving, you're looking.
You could change the radio station, I can have a conversation,
I could, you know, look at the birds going by,

(59:25):
look at the traffic, watching the counting the cows as
they go by. Oh look at that horse, Oh my god,
look at the sunset. Oh look at those clouds. I'm
still focused on driving. I'm still looking forward and I'm
still looking back. What's that called. It's called a balanced life. Now,
then you have the people that just are focused on
the past, or or the people that are just focused

(59:48):
on the future so far in the future, then I
ain't even focused on where their car is actually crossing
right now. They're just focused on the possibilities of where
they can end up right now currently there must they're
passing the most beautiful things I know. Quite it for
people like that that they're just driving in their car

(01:00:08):
and just focus on like I don't even know, because again,
to me, my life is too beautiful. Every time I
go anywhere here, I'm always I look at the clouds,
I look at the patterns. I look at the sun.
I look at the rays. I look at the cows.
I look at the horses. I look at the grass. Yes,
the grass here is green. I look at the mountains
in the distance. I look at the hills or as

(01:00:28):
people call them, here knobs. I look at the little
ponds of water. It's a beautiful thing. It's balance. I'm
not sitting here driving, not really looking because I'm focused
on the fact that this weekend I have to do X,
Y and Z, because at twelve forty five and at
one fifteen, I have to take care of this and that.

(01:00:49):
And I want to make sure that we get to
where we go and then we can leave so we
can be here because we have to go there by
two point fifteen, and then by nine fifteen. This has
to be done because by nine to fifteen, I want
to your car is just driving along an autopilot, and you,
my friend, are not living. And and here consider this

(01:01:10):
consider this a warning. And I hope God I hope
it doesn't happen, because I know so many people that
it has. You wait until those last moments when you
know time is going to be up soon. That that
that is when you're like, I should have lived. I
should have spent more time being silly, laughing at nothing,

(01:01:35):
spending more time with animals, truly loving them. Not just
I have I rescued a dog. No, I love my animals.
I love my grass, my trees, those beautiful leaves right
now blowing in the wind, the seasons as they change,
the blessings that we are surrounded with constantly. Because here

(01:01:59):
it is, life moves forward, and so should you. Let
me give you one more tough truth. Your excuses, Your
excuses are lying to you. I'm too old. No, it's
called your experienced. I have failed too much. No, you've

(01:02:25):
learned more than you most ever will. When I look
back on my life, when I think of my lessons,
it's the ones that I screwed up at and then
I went, I won't do that again. Those are my
favorite moments. My mistakes, my screw ups are my favorite. Yes, yes,
they are the ones that I've learned from. I don't

(01:02:48):
have what it takes in life, right, Yes you do.
You just never used all of your powers or I'm
just not lucky. Some people are again cracish. Shit, No,
you haven't adapted to the opportunities. The bottom line is
there are people that see everything as an opportunity, a possibility.

(01:03:09):
You don't. I know so many people that tell me
stories and I'm like, oh my god, really and like, oh, yeah,
you know, but you know, and I'm like, that's an opportunity,
that's a possibility, that's something you could have done. Yeah,
but you know, you know, Okay, every excuse is just
fear dressed up as logic. Stop letting fear be the

(01:03:31):
author of your story. Empowerment begins the moment you say
I know what I've been through, I know what I'm
afraid of, I know what I still need to fix,

(01:03:52):
and guess what I'm moving forward anyway. Listen, listen. Nobody
gets through life clean. We all get scratched up. We
all have our armor, and for many of us it
gets dent in and dingd But that's our way of

(01:04:16):
showing all the things we've been through, all the lessons
we've learned. But scars. Scars aren't a sign of weakness.
They're a sign you fought for something, you believed in,
something you tried and you tried again. You fought a
good fight. You don't have to hide them. You don't

(01:04:38):
have to even be ashamed of your mistakes. Your scars
are the receipts of your resilience. Wear them like armor.
Because every time you stand up, every time you wipe
the dust from your knees, every time you say not
today to the voice that want you to quit, wants

(01:05:00):
you to just sit there, you empower the future version
of yourself. Empowerment and that version, my friends, that's the
one you're becoming. That version of you is going to
change your whole life right now, right here, right I
mean this moment, not because you've never struggled, but because

(01:05:22):
you finally decided to stop worshiping the struggle and start
celebrating the strength. Here's truth. Nobody wants to say. Life
is going to knock you down. It's going to betray you,
it's going to light to you, it's going to hurt you.
It's going to drag you through the mud, it's going
to disappoint you. Your life is going to challenge you

(01:05:43):
in ways that you have never expected and yet you
keep showing up. I mean, you really don't have a choice,
and that is your superpower, that's your proof, that your
reason to stop letting the hard parts of your life
write to your story empowerment. Your empowerment doesn't come from perfection.

(01:06:06):
It comes from refusing to quit in the face of imperfection.
Right now, someone listening to this, hopefully may be thinking, hmm, yeah,
but my struggles. My struggles are too big, my failures
are too many. I don't care if I can rise.

(01:06:31):
Shame on you. Let me tell you this. You've already
risen more than you've given yourself credit for. Every morning
you get up, every time you face your fear instead
of fleeing, every time you try again after disappointment. Those
are the victories, real victories, and they count. Now. I

(01:06:52):
want you to imagine your life as a path. See
it just a path in front of you. You're not
doing it, do it path front of you right now.
Some parts of your path are smooth. Some of them
are jagged, steep, shitty, difficult, treacherous. But here's the secret.
The steep parts build you. When the path is easy,

(01:07:17):
you're just moving forward. When you actually have to stop
and look down and figure out what's your next step.
That's what builds you. The jagged parts sharpen you, the
treacherous parts. They teach you to trust in yourself. Too often,
we're so busy looking at the rocks and the roots

(01:07:40):
in our path that we forget to lift our eyes
to bottom line is where are we going? Just like
the mirror again, Then we forget to lift our eyes
over and over and over, and before you know it,
five years have gone by, ten years have gone by.
We've pissed quite a bit of our life away because
we're sitting there focused on what the neighbor is doing,

(01:08:00):
how my ex is living, or why do they have that?
And I don't What if? What if for a moment
you focused only on the direction, only on your goal,
only on your ability to move forward, You would feel
weight lift, you would feel possibility expand you would feel

(01:08:22):
power awaken inside of you because the power has been
there all along, it was just buried under guilt, shame,
under the story that you have been sharing with everybody else,
how you have had it harder than anybody else. Acknowledge
the struggle and release it. Celebrate your wins. Focus on

(01:08:45):
what you already have. That's a big one. Refuse to
worship suffering, and rise often every day. Rise. The beauty
of this is simple but profound. You already have everything
you need. Yes, you already have everything that you need.
The rest the life will give you in pieces along

(01:09:07):
the way, but the foundation is already in your hands.
Your struggles are not headlines in your book. Your courage,
your persistent your ability to keep showing up. That is
the headline. That is what made me pick up your
book to want to know more. Take a moment to
feel that truth. Let it settle in your chest. Let

(01:09:28):
it remind you that you are capable, worthy, strong and
enough right now, right here today. And as you leave
this moment, listen to this. Repeat this in your mind later,
save it. I will no longer let my life struggles
define me. I will no longer worship my suffering. I

(01:09:51):
will focus on my strength, my progress, and my incredible potential.
I will rise again and again and claim the life
I am capable of of living. That is your power,
that is your path, that is your life. Rise. Rise
in small ways, Rise in bold ways. Rise quietly when

(01:10:13):
no one is watching, Rise loudly when it matters, Rise
because you've been through hell and came out breathing. Rise
because the world needs your lights, and because you're human
and human means capable. And if you've ever doubted yourself,
remember this. Every time you've fallen before, you've also risen. Yes,

(01:10:34):
you have. Every setback you've endured is proof of your strength.
Every obstacle that you have faced has prepared you for
the next victory. So you rise again and again and again.
Because your story is still being written. Remember and the
best chapters, I think they're still they haven't been written yet.

(01:10:55):
Take a deep breath. Come on. You have the power
to do everything you wish. But empowerment, real empowerment. Like
I said, it's not cute, It isn't pretty. It's hard.

(01:11:17):
You slip, you break, you make them decisions, you get scared,
and you get stuck. Episode two hundred and one. Two
hundred and one. Doesn't that show you right there how

(01:11:40):
much I believe in you? Think about that. It's quite
a long time that I've been writing these for you.
Realize that at this moment, right now, wherever you are,
it doesn't matter what you're doing. Your entire life can

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change based on what your next thought is think about
that is your next thought a thought of empowerment, strength
or weakness and laziness. You could either feel focused on
what your next step will be or just continue on

(01:12:26):
a path of not being focused and just being on autopilot.
We're not knowing what it is you want to do next.
Maybe you don't. Bottom line is if somebody comes up
to you and says, what are you doing? And your
first answer to that, as I said before, is I
don't know. A world is filled with endless possibilities. The

(01:12:51):
amount of things that you can accomplish in a day,
the amount of goals you can finish by the end
of today is mind blowing. And if you're answered to
that question as I said, I don't know, I highly
recommend you go back and listen to this podcast again

(01:13:13):
and maybe some of the other ones from the beginning,
because that is a ridiculous excuse. I kind of touch
down a little bit in the last podcast when people
say to me that they're bored, it fascinates me because
my mind, from the moment I wake up until I
go to bed, there are just so many things I

(01:13:34):
need to do. I want to do, so many places,
I want to go, so many things I want to try.
But I will tell you a little secret. It has
nothing to do with time or the lack of it.
It has to do with your priority and what you're
willing to do with it. Twenty four hours is more
than enough. It's what you were given. It's what you

(01:13:57):
should be dealing with. To me, when people say I
don't have enough time in the day, it's because you're
just misguided and not focused. Because if you took the
time right now to think about your life and analyzing
what I'm saying, there have been many times that you
have woken up focused on what you need to accomplish
and done it. But then we have those goals that

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really have no seriousness to them. We have them. We
all have them. If you really wanted to lose weight,
you would. If you really wanted to be healthier, you would.
If you wanted to change your career, you would. If
you wanted to go back to school, you would. If
you wanted to change your relationship, you would. You can.

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To me, it's better to be honest with yourself more
than anybody else. We lie, and we lie so much
to others because we feel that for some reason that
matters what other people think of us. I personally don't
really care about what the people think of me, never have,
thank God. I don't understand why I would. Maybe when

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I was in third grade it mattered, but I got
over that very late in grammar school and I just
started focusing on what I needed to accomplish my goals,
what chapters I wanted to write by the end of
the year about my life. Because life is short. People
have this fantasy that you're going to live for another

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twenty thirty, forty fifty years. That's what it is. It's
a fantasy because you have no idea. You really don't.
Life is short. You see when when you understand the
concepts of death, and that is only when you focus

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on the concept of life. Personally, I love schools. I
said this because I'm looking around and I have a
lot of schools, and I have many. And it's funny
because or many people see skulls as evil and darkness
and symbolic of death. In a way I kind of do,
but it's very different. There's no horresque feeling to skulls.

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But in the Buddhist background, belief with philosophy, which is
something that's been a very strong part of most of
my life is it's a belief which I have followed
for many years, that the skull symbolizes in permanence. It
symbolizes death, but more of a life beginning now because

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of death being then, but as the transient nature of life.
It serves as a reminder to detach from the ego
and all of the worldly bullshit that is attached to it,
to simply embrace compassion. Schools are a reality of death.

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But the bottom line is it's all about the life
that you are currently living and how now you cherish,
truly cherish every single living moment. Maybe you've heard of
this saying, maybe you haven't, Marie. This is a saying

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that I used to have on a bag that I
used to carry all the time, Memento Marie. It's a
philosophical saying. It encourages the intentional living by reminding you
of your mortality again, not focusing on the darkness and
evil of death, because if that's how you see it,

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you should seek counseling. The concept is to see what
truly matters in life. It's a reminder that we're all
going to die. To foster gratitude and to let go
of trivial bullshit, worries to cherish every single moments. Don't

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waste any of it. Don't waste your life. Stop focusing
on how life will be better when you receive a
B and C, or how your life will finally feel
complete when you gain X, Y and Z. Wasn't it
until I moved to Kentucky, Surprisingly that a lot of

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my beliefs that I've read about, that I've practiced in
Connecticut truly finally made sense to me of what I
was ingrained with, of what I really thought brought me happiness,
which sadly was material items are more money. But it
seems how the simpler I live, the more complex my

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passion for life has become. I'm actually recording this episode.
I was going back and forth if I'm going to
share this, but I see no reason why not and
it's such a good topic. Within the last half hour hour,
I had to put my dog down. Barry he us

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are rescued from a hoarding case, a very serious hoarding
case in Bridgeport. There were dozens and dozens of animals
severely in bread and most of them had heart conditions,
lots events in breeding. Stewie, which was if you look
at my phone, it's still the main picture. He uh.
Which although Stewie and Barry weren't brothers, the only difference

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was Stewie was tan and Berry was black. But they
were so similar, very caring creatures, very compassionate. They weren't
just dogs. They made sure everybody else was safe, even
if they weren't interesting. Stuwie ended up having congenital heart failure,
but he was able to live for quite a while
with it. Barry started showing signs about a few weeks ago.

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He immediately was put on really good medication. But when
it's your time, it's your time, and he went away
with dignity. I would truly miss him, simply because he
had a level of compassion that I've not seen in
most humans. And I mean that life goes on. I

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know that he is currently meeting up with so many
of my animals that have passed. They're all at the
rainbow Bridge, crossing over to a more beautiful place, a
place where they can run again and be free. And
during his last few breaths, I just whispered in Barry's dear.

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Me.

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Being a believer in past lives and in reincarnation, I
said to him, come back to me, surprise me as
a cow. I could swear he looked at me oddly.
That would be special to me. I hope I made

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you think. I hope I made you question your existence
and to appreciate every tomorrow and every today, and to
be grateful for all of the experiences of the past
that have made you who you are. Right now, keep
this in mind. Choose action over excuse, purpose over comfort,

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and the work that matters over the distractions that don't.
My name is Jimmy Gonzales and this was to reset
yourself twenty two podcasts, Go forward and live your life
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