May 9, 2023 • 29 mins
Does distance make the heart grow fonder? Find out in today!'s episode There are many cases where it did, others that didn't and some in-between. We have stories about the BEST SEX EVER, a guy with a nickname of "Travolta", and more!
My rambling ends, and the emails begin at 1:11!
Thank you for listening, and submit your stories for season 2: falen@kdwb.com
My rambling ends, and the emails begin at 1:11!
Thank you for listening, and submit your stories for season 2: falen@kdwb.com
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Hello, and thank you for joiningme for the Right Person, Wrong Time
Podcast. I am your host,Falin. I occasionally will check out the
reviews, and I so appreciate whenyou leave those. Someone did say that
they do not love my rambling inthe beginning, and other people like it,
so I know I'm never going toplease everyone, but if you are
one of the people they do notlike it, I totally understand that.
And I always put in the descriptionthe time stamp of when I stopped,
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so you can just go straight tothe emails or straight to the interview.
And I hope that helps, becausesince some people like it and I,
you know, don't mind chatting fora little bit, I'm going to keep
doing it, at least for thisepisode next because right we have two weeks
left of season one. But ifyou don't, I get that you just
want to get to the meet sometimes, and I totally respect it. Today
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we're going to jump in right awaywith some emails, and I actually had
this one on DM, so I'mgoing to read it from there and I'll
reveal all the things from the DMas we go. Says, Hey,
fallon, longtime fan of yours andthe KDWB Morning show here, can't believe
I'm actually messaging you and not sureif you'll even read this. I did.
Fun fact, I read ninety percentof my messages and the only reason
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I don't either respond is because Ido miss some if they come through requests
or if it's like one of thosedays you know where you wake up really
early. At least I wake upreally early and I'll see something I'm like,
oh, I'm not going to respondto something this early. I need
to like wake up and think aboutmy response, and then I might forget.
And I lose things very easily inmy DMS, So if there's something
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really important I didn't respond to,always send me another one. You're not
bothering me. Sometimes I just losetrack of things, but I do try
to read all of them, unlessfor some reason, if I post like
a really hot topic and I'm gettinglike one million messages, like for instance,
when I wasn't feeling well I hadstomach issues, I went to the
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hospital and I was so overwhelmed withthe amount of amazing people giving me feedback.
I did not respond to everyone becauseI just I couldn't. So but
most of the time, you know, I try to respond to everyone,
because I'm like, if you tooktime out of your day to message me,
I want at least give you alittle like so you know I saw
it. To get back to thismessage, though, she says, I
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heard about your amazing podcast and feltcalled to share my reconnection story. And
this is a spoiler because it's herhusband and her reconnection story briefly outlined in
this recent post of mine. Wewere high school sweethearts at Hopkins High School.
Tried to make it work when Iwent off to college in Madison,
but ended up sadly ending things whenthe long distance thing just wasn't working after
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a few months and I felt Ineeded to experience freshman life not being tied
down. We went our separate waysfor the next twelve years, during which
I ended up in an emotionally abusiverelationship that truly broke me. I swore
off series dating altogether, but thengot this random Facebook message from Nick he
didn't have my number anymore, sayinghe was randomly in my parents' old neighborhood
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in Golden Valley and felt compelled toreach out to see how I was doing.
Some back and forth small talk ledto us meeting up for drinks and
dinner. I just so happened tobe living temporarily at my parents, And,
as the cliche says, our clichesaying goes, the rest is history.
I know pretty much. I knewpretty much right away after reconnecting that
this was going to be a foreverkind of thing. In the last three
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years since rekindling that never quite burntout romance, we got a house together,
endured pandemic life together, got engagedand married, and welcomed our little
love, Luella into the world fivemonths ago. We just say we had
a bit of a needed hiatus atour relationship, and hadn't that break happened
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in that messy time of our lateteens twenties, when we each were us
figuring our s out, I knowfor certain we wouldn't be together today.
Sometimes I still can't believe how ourstory ended up having a to be continued.
But man, oh man, I'mso so thankful it did. Our
angsty angsy angsty cheese. That's ahard word. Sometimes teenage selves would have
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never believed we would be where weare today. It's so awesome. Your
podcast brings to life stories like ours, proving the universe indeed works in wonderfully
mysterious ways, sometimes a day brightnerof a show for sure. Congrats on
this incredible success and for reading thisall if you made it this far.
And she did tag me in thisphoto by the way, and I'm clicking
on it, and it's photos oftheir just beautiful family. Like from hold
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on, I'm going back to thevery beginning here. I want to look
at the very beginning. I thinkI can share your name, Kayla,
So I'm gonna go ahead and sayKayla because we did share his name,
so I think it's only fair.Okay, here we go. Oh yes,
from when they are young through thewhole story together with their beautiful Luella.
I love that and I love thatname. Jake his cousin. They
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have a daughter named Luella, andshe has his bright, fiery red hair
and she has the best personality.But oh, I love stories like that
all right, time for our nextemail. My name's Jessica. I saw
your post asking to hear stories regardingcouples breaking up and getting back together.
My boyfriend and I we dated forseven years, then broke up for a
year and a half or so,and got back together about three and a
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half years ago and we're still together. We met through good friends from college.
He had a bunch of friends upto his cabin one weekend and we
hit it off. My college roommateis married to one of his good friends
from college. She actually told meabout your post and encouraged me to email.
So many things in the first sevenyears were tough. He was on
the road for work, which madethings difficult. He got a new job
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and said things would change, butthey didn't change. He was the first
guy I really connected with after mybroken up engagement. We talked on the
phone all the time, texted,had dates when he was in town when
he had time. I was okaywith the time apart at first, but
then felt like I was ready tomake a steady relationship. I couldn't shake
the feeling that I was always goingto be last on his list. I
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had recently lost my mom and couldn'ttake the hurt anymore. So I ended
things after seven years, took timeapart, then after a year reconnected texting
at first, then he asked meout for dinner. We had a handful
of dates or so. Then thepandemic hit, which made things a little
more complicated, so took another sixmonth break. I laid it down our
first date after six months either wedo this or we don't. And it's
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been great ever since. We wereactually dating, planning trips and doing family
things together and we love our timetogether. He has a job that doesn't
require extended travel, which makes uswork. The last three and a half
years have been amazing. The timeapart allowed us time and space to realize
how much we mean to each other, looking at the next step of marriage
proposals soon best the cliff notes andI really appreciate that email Jessica. It's
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interesting how so many people I feellike if I had to gather thoughts on
this when they were together really young. I think it's so common to need
to almost figure out who we are, and so we experiment, we do
things, and then later in lifeit seems like, Okay, we had
time to see who we are.And sometimes it Isn't it funny you could
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look back at like a high schoolboyfriend, you're like, oh my gosh,
I could never imagine dating that personnow, And yet somehow some of
them grow into an even better versionof themselves that fit with you. I
don't know it's really interesting. Soanyway, thank you so much for sharing
that message. Hey, Thalon,I did submit this story before, but
I thought I would resend it justin case, and I'm really happy you
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did because I think I mentioned onone of the podcasts how I was kind
of a disaster with my organization.So thank you. The year was ninety
one, more specifically the infamous Halloweenblizzard. I was briefly dating a guy
named Mark, and we went tosee a movie in Eden Prairie Center.
I was a sophomore in high school, he was a freshman. I knew
that he had a crush on me, and I was on one of my
mini breaks for my somewhat serious highschool boy friend. That night, Mark
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and I went out and I felta serious connection, but being dumb,
I got back together with my boyfriend. A few weeks later, Mark and
I remained friends and there weren't anyhard feelings. Mark and his parents moved
to Arizona. I was more upsetabout him leaving than I thought i'd be
my high school boyfriend and I brokeup, and I was an emotional teenager
and really missing Mark. We talkedon the phone occasionally, but nothing serious.
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Fast forward to spring break and myparents actually let me go visit him
in Arizona. It was amazing highschool love. We had a blast after
that. We kept in touch offand on, but social media wasn't a
thing back then, so it wasn'teasy. The one time of year that
we almost always got in touch wasHalloween. The Blizzard of ninety one was
our connection. We went our separateways, went to college, he got
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married. Life continued for both ofus. Ten years ago we did reconnect
through social media. We started talkingabout how strong of a connection we've always
had, how we both feel thatwe were the one that got away.
Problem was he was still married,not happily, but nevertheless still married.
I got to see him for aday when I went to Arizona to see
some friends, and it was anelectric connection. We chatted on almost a
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daily basis, skyped when he could. But his wife found out about us,
and that was that. I knewhe needed to figure out what he
wanted, So I walked away.I deleted everything from social media, my
contacts, and for ten years wedid not speak at all until this past
Halloween. Of course, the onedate that always reminds me of him I
don't know what possessed me to reachout now, but I was curious.
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I still cared a lot about himand wanted to know how he was.
He's now divorced, not living inArizona anymore, and we've been talking pretty
regularly since Halloween. Our conversations makeme happy. We've talked a lot about
our past, a lot about whatwe hope for in the future, and
it's exciting. I'm so cautious andI have no idea what's in store for
us in the future. My planis to go visit him sometime this summer.
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He travels a lot for work,so I'm hoping we can make something
work out to really connect in person. While this story doesn't have a definitive
ending, we're a work in progress. I'm excited to see where it goes,
and I'm honestly hoping the one thatgot away back in high school will
be my happily ever after. Whookay, good luck. I mean,
I love getting the stories where itis kind of a reconnection you don't know
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where it's going to go. Imean, we had a guest on a
few weeks ago, and her storywas kind of like that they got back
together and she didn't know where itwas going to go, and I guess
you really don't, so thank youso much for sharing this. Next email,
when I had just turned twenty oneyears old, I met up with
some coworkers to get some dinner.They insisted I come to another bar to
meet one of the roommates, whothey called Travolta. I don't know what
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this I'm already laughing, I debated, and thinking, Oh God, some
guy who thinks he looks like JohnTravolta. Not my type. But I
went anyways. Although at the timeI didn't think he looked much like Travolta.
I later saw picks from when hewas younger, and he does have
a very strong resemblance to him.Andy and I hit it off that night,
and he made me laugh, andI'm a sucker for guys who can
make me laugh. I remember aweek into our relationship, I visited my
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mom and she asked me how itwas going. I stopped and said,
Mom, I'm going to marry himsomeday. It even surprised me that I
said that so quickly into a newrelationship. Well, we ended up dating
about a year. I was twentyone when I met him, and he
was twenty five. He had nointentions of settling down at the time.
He had a big group of guyswho always wanted to have guys' nights.
This eventually led to more arguments,lack of trust, jealousy, etc.
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He finally said he wanted to takea break, but come to find out
he actually had been hanging out withanother girl. I was done. I
looked back at what I had saidto my mom that day and felt dumb.
I guess I knew nothing about love. Over the next two years,
he dates that girl and I datedanother guy. Throughout that time, I
would randomly get phone calls or textfrom him, but then would go quiet
once again. I spent two yearsdoing double takes if I saw someone who
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looked like him, or trying tocatch up to see if the driver of
his make and model car was himin there. One night, our song
look After You by the Fray cameon the radio, and as I'm driving,
a shooting star falls across the entireskyline. I called one of my
girlfriends to tell her about that coincidence, and she tells me my ex literally
just walked into the bar she wasat. I felt like that was some
crazy sign. I wasn't super happyin my current relationship, but I didn't
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realize how unhappy I was until Istarted getting phone calls again. He and
his axe had broken up. Atfirst, I told him he was out
of luck and I had a boyfriend, but he was insistent his mom has
told me a story about how hetold her Katie loves me. She just
doesn't know it yet. I tookabout a month. I ended my current
relationship and started hanging out with himas friends. I didn't know how it
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would feel about him and didn't wantto rush into anything. Eventually, I
decided our relationship was worth another try. I was able to say the past
is the past and move forward withouthard feelings into this new relationship. Our
past had no place in our future. I had to let that go if
I wanted this to work. Wemarried on four eight twelve. We welcomed
our first son, Wyatt. ThatSeptember, we had our second son,
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Sawyer, and April twenty fifteen.Dawson was our COVID baby born in December
twenty twenty, and we had asurprise baby girl this past November. Shiloh
is four months old now Andy andI love this life we have built together
over the last ten years of marriage. I know it doesn't always work for
everyone to get back together. Icredit our situation working out for a few
reasons. First, we spent twofull years apart. We weren't back and
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forth, so we really had achance to miss and appreciate what we had.
Secondly, you have to be ableto forgive and move forward. Many
people struggle with that, but itreally is necessary to have a successful new
relationship. Thanks for listening to ourstory. Katie pronounced like Kati because it's
spelled differently than like your typical Katie. So Katie and Travolta, congrats on
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your big, beautiful family. Iam so thankful you shared that story with
me. I gotta be honest withyou, Katie. In the beginning,
I was like, m, Idon't trust Travolta. You know what something
I don't like it. But thenyou're right. You took the time apart,
you weren't going back and forth.Yeah, not that back and forth
can never work, but let's behonest, back and forth can be it.
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It can make it really difficult becauseit's hard to move forward. Like
She's mentioning if you have too much, I think of a toxic past,
but this podcast has proven that isnot always the case. I have a
really quick one and I even said, can I share this picture? Which
I don't know how I'm gonna dothat with a podcast, so I'll try
to share it on maybe my Instagramstories. But says high school sweethearts age
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sixteen. I separated from him formy own dumb reasons. We always remained
friendly. We both married when onour lives. Twenty two years later,
after both divorcing at different times,we reconnected, only to find we both
still loved each other. We turnedforty this year and we'll be getting married
this summer. Attached is our veryfirst picture with our very current picture on
vacation this week. That's from Ashleyquick and sweet and I said, hey,
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can I share that? And she'slike yeah, So here we go.
I have a listen. This iscalled Dominic and Casey's Love Journey.
He says, I'm Casey. I'vebeen obsessed with your new podcast and thought,
oh, what the hell, I'llemail her my story because at least
I can say I tried. Iknow you probably get tons of emails.
Ever since your new podcast blew up. But if you do end up reading
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this and choosing our story, Iwant to say thank you. I feel
honored for us to be chosen.Thank you anyone that takes the time to
send this long email, or evena short one like the last one.
I am thankful. And I dohave a lot of emails. I'm trying
to get through those today because someonesaid you your podcast episodes are too short
with emails, and I'm like,you know what, You're probably right.
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I think I was like being scarcewith them, just in case I didn't
get a lot, but then Ikept getting them. So we all have
that first time crush when we're justfiguring out what it's like to have the
feeling of love. Mine was onthe way out to recess in the fourth
grade in two thousand and four whenI had my first crush on a boy
dominic. It was the kind ofcrush where you can't stop smiling or looking
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at him, but you're afraid toconfront him, so you just look at
him from afar and giggle with yourgirlfriends. Seventh grade in two thousand and
seven starts, and that's when thefeelings get stronger. Middle school relationships are
short and fleeting. We started hangingout in the same friend group and getting
to know each other, but wealways stated other people. One day,
near the end of the school year, we walked the school bus stop together
and we were both not seeing anyoneand finally told one another, hey,
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we like each other. Well.With all middle school relationships, it didn't
last long, and he dumped mein the middle of summer break before eighth
grade. I was crushed. Hewas my first crush in my life and
he dumped me over text on mytiny little track phone. Eighth grade started
and we were already dating different peopleand in different friend groups. I thought
to myself, Oh, well,I guess it wasn't meant to be.
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The beginning of high school in twothousand and nine was a whole different ballpark.
The timing was always off when itcame to being together, and there
was always a reason we weren't together. He was dating someone I wasn't.
I was dating someone he wasn't.Two ten, sophomore year of high school.
We both dated other people for along time, but continued to stay
friends, even though deep down weboth still had feelings for each other.
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Definitely a wrong time situation l ol. Once in a blue moon, there
was a moment where both of uswere single and ended up hooking up with
each other, but neither one ofus would admit our feelings to each other.
I was so afraid that if Isaid anything to him about how I
felt about him, he would rejectme again. So I just accepted the
fact that I'm only going to behaving one night stands with him because that's
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the only time I saw him orspent time with him. In the middle
of senior year of high school twentytwelve to twenty thirteen, we were both
single. We just got done wassome intimate time and had our first pillow
talk session, because usually our encountersare one and done, but this time
seemed different. I could tell hewas itching to tell me something, but
I cut our pillow talk session shortand told him I had to leave.
I never heard from him again afterthat. Almost a year passes. It's
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twenty fourteen. I was sitting atmy friend's dorm working on an assignment for
one of the college classes when myFacebook messenger pops up on the bottom right
corner of my screen, and it'sDominic. We caught up on each other's
lives and began talking more often.It's October fall break and he tells me
to come over to see him.I go over there and we hang out
for a few hours. Nothing endsup happening, but while we're saying goodbyes,
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he tries to kiss me, butI turned my face so he gets
my cheek. I'll admit it,I chickened out because I was afraid to
get hurt again from him, andI didn't want to start having strong feelings
for him again. A couple ofmonths later, I'm sitting at my friend's
dorm room working on an assignment.My Facebook messenger dings and in Dominic he
tells me he still likes me andhas feelings for me. At this moment,
I was in shock. I lookedaround the room, like, is
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this really happening to me? AmI dreaming? Just my luck? I
was with another guy, Mark,but we weren't an official couple. But
I had a lot of feelings forthis guy, so I wanted to give
him a chance. I thought tomyself, it took me forever to get
over Dominic, and he's had multipleopportunities to confess how much he likes me.
I rejected Dominic and told him Ihave feelings for another guy and want
to give him a chance. Dominictells me that he will wait for me
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and that he will be here overwhen a break, I got the chance
to meet Mark. Things were goingwell and we spent a lot of time
together over the next month. Schoolstarted back up again in the beginning of
January, and I never heard fromMark again. I was completely ghosted.
Did he end up not liking meor did he just want one a one
time fleeing To this day, Ihave no idea why he stopped talking to
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me. It's a sign. Iwas walking to class and message Dominic and
said, I want to try andhave a relationship with you because I've always
had feelings for you. We startedtalking all the time, and he officially
asked me to be his girlfriend justin time for Valentine's Day. Once we
made it Facebook official, It's likethe floodgates opened. X's came out of
the woodworks and tried everything iner tomess things up for us, but that
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didn't stop us. He packed upeverything and moved up to me while I
was in college. We got ourown place together, got a cat.
Summer of twenty sixteen, he proposedto me on the beach and we got
married in October of twenty eighteen.To this day, Dominic still gives me
shit for rejecting him, but Ialways give him shit about dumping me first.
I would definitely say our relationship hadright person, wrong time moments.
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Thank you for taking the time toread this, and I hope you enjoyed
our story. I couldn't imagine mylife without him. He's my best friend
and the love of my life.I've been listening to KATWB since I got
my first boombox when I was inthird grade, and now I listened to
you and the rest of the morningcrew on my way to work. Thank
you for all the laughs and throwbacks. Casey, thank you for sharing your
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story. I love your love story. I'm now looking through my emails and
realizing I have so many of these, and I am almost feeling like I
should do two more episodes after thisinstead of one to get through these because
people took their time to send them. I might do that. Okay,
please don't use my name first.I want to start with I have listened
to Katie WB for years and rememberhearing the auditions when you were on and
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you were definitely my favor I'm sohappy you're still on KATIEWB as a stay
at home mom. I love listeningto you guys and think all of you
are hilarious. I wanted to writein to you once I heard about your
new podcast. As soon as Iheard the name, I knew my husband
in a situation would be a relatablestory for your podcast. Number one,
thank you. Biggest compliment ever isif someone says they listen to our show,
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our podcast, whatever that may be. And also this did kind of
give away what happened with you guyssince you said my husband. But I
still love of a happy story.So here we go. Let me preface
this by saying that I've been througha lot over the years, as most
of us have. I lost mymom suddenly. I'm so sorry and unexpectedly.
When I was nineteen years old.She was my entire world and I
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was broken and lost for many yearsthat followed. When I was I believe
around twenty one or twenty two yearsold, I was at a friend's house
party where we made our way tothe local bar. Might I also add
that at that time I was abartender and dating a guy that was a
narcissistic jerk. He would use mefor money then take different women out on
the money I borrowed him. Justwow, the things we tolerate. Circling
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back to the house party that wentto the bar, I was there drinking,
as I did frequently and to accessduring the aftermath of losing my mom
and myself in the process, andthis guy that was friends with one of
my other friends kept trying to staya conversation with me, start a conversation
with me, and I wasn't reallygiving him the time of day. After
all, I was dating that narcissist, so I was more focused on drinking
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and having a good time. Wechatted a little longer than we all ended
up going back to our friend's houseand passing out. My friend told me
that the guy trying to talk tome at the bar last night seemed interested,
but I was like, no way, I have this other guy alike
and I've been seeing right now.Fast forward to I believe twenty fourteen,
probably four years since that bar night, and we had last talked or seen
each other. We were both ina mutual friend's wedding at the time.
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I was single and he was ina relationship. My friend kept telling me
that night that I should try totake a picture with him and chat with
him, because his then girlfriend wasnot a nice person and they felt like
she was using him. She didn'tcome to the wedding reception because she was
mad at him. I didn't wantto be at home. I didn't want
to be a home wrecker, soI didn't try to pursue anything with him.
But we had some beer with ourfriends and chatted. We both went
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our separate ways again after the wedding. A few months later, while I
was at work, said guy sentme a message on Facebook saying hi.
He asked if I wanted to getdinner sometime. I said yes, and
we got dinner, but he hadmentioned still having his girlfriend, but he
was unhappy with her and wanted tobreak up with her. I thought our
dinner together was nice, but justfelt kind of yucky because he still had
a girlfriend. So after leaving there, I sent him texting I was not
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going to be talking to him orseeing him again unless he was single.
A few more months go by andI get another text that he is single
and would like to grab a byeto eat. I said yes, and
we grabbed dinner and quickly became smittenwith each other. Within a few months
of dating, we knew we wantedto be together for the long haul.
He asked me to move in andI did. We got married about a
year later, and we'll celebrate ourseventh year of marriage this month. We
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have two beautiful children together, andI couldn't be more thankful that when you're
truly meant to be with someone,God will keep placing you in their path.
Thank you for reading my email,and thank you for sending that Hey
fallon loving your podcast. Here ismy story, and that a guy will
call Jesse in ninth grade, Ihad heard of him, but was blown
away by how good looking he wasin person. We started flirting fairly quickly
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and soon became boyfriend girlfriend. Wehad a passion that was unmatched. He
was emotionally immature, though, andwe never had sex, and the relationship
eventually fizzled because of that immaturity.Fast forward to the summer before college ninety
five, we reconnected. I endeda two year relationship that was pre cell
phone days and Jesse's family did nothave a home phone, so he was
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fairly unreachable, which was a majorfrustration. I moved away to college,
and in October I was coming homefrom the week for the weekend and mailed
him a quarter in advance and said, Hey, I'll be home at this
time, Please call me. Henever did, much to my disappointment.
I went back to school and foryears dreamt of him and longed for that
passion we shared. Fast forward totwo thousand and three, About three weeks
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after I got married to a differentguy, my bff ran into Jesse and
he gave her his phone number andasked her to have me reach out.
I ran it past my new husbandas I did not want to feel like
I was crossing any lines, andhubby gave me the okay to contact him,
so I did and we met forcoffee. The chemistry was still there,
and he told me the reason helet me go into college was he
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didn't think he was good enough forme. He came from a really rough
family with a lot of problems,and he didn't want to hold me back,
but that he always had known Iwas the one if he'd never stopped
thinking of me. We never crossedany lines, but as I was newly
married, spending time with him feltlike a slippery slope, and we cut
off contact fairly soon. When Facebookcame around, we became friends, and
there I'd look occasionally again, alwayslonging for that passion we shared. Life
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happened, We each had two kidswith our respective significant others, and went
on with our lives. Years later, as my marriage was ending, we
ended up reconnecting. We dated fora couple of years and had the most
amazing sex of my life tum I, though in hindsight he was a pretty
selfish lover. I said the Lword about nine months in and he laughed
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at me and didn't say it back. I never said it again, and
he never did period, though hedid tell me in to text a couple
of times when I'd say something abouthim not loving me, that of course
he did. I repeatedly told himI needed more from him emotionally, and
eventually told him I was starting adating profile on Fumble and that if he
couldn't give me more emotionally, I'dmove on if I found someone who could.
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Nothing changed. I ended up goingout on a date during which Jesse
tried to call me. I toldhim later that I hadn't answered because I
was a date. He told methen never to contact him again. On
that day, I felt the trashtook itself out. We were in our
early forties at the time, andthe fact that he was still emotionally immature.
At that point, I was confidenthe would never change. I've been
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happy with my current relationship for twoplus years now, but I do still
think about that unmatched passion with Jesse. I guess there's a hell of a
lot more to life than sex.The one thing I learned from him and
that experience is that I deserve someonewho will love me fully, and if
a partner cannot give me that,I don't want them. I will forever
wonder what might have been if hecould have just grown up. But I
know I deserve better than what hewas capable of giving me. So sorry,
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sorry, so long. Keep upthe good work. I love listening
to you. Don't be sorry.Okay, this is my theory, and
I know people will say that's nottrue, but I know it's not in
every case. My theory is,and guys, you could agree. Maybe
this is the same way for girls. I think some of the biggest jerks
ever are the best in bed.Why because why else would you stay with
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them and tolerate them treating you likecrap because they're good in that one aspect.
Now, that doesn't mean that whenyou find a nice guy he can't
be good in bed as well.That's not what I'm saying. Like wonderful
men are also really great in bed. I just think that the ones that
are jerks are especially good in bed, and that is the reason why,
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because it's why else would we toleratetheir crap. Guys, you can let
me know if that's true for women, Like the worst women are the best
in bed, maybe, and that'swhy you tolerate their crap. I don't
know. Maybe it's different for guys, but that is my theory. I
think I one time said something ridiculouson the radio that fired people. But
I think I said, not alljerks have I think I said that not
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all jerks. I'm gonna screw thisup in one up. I think there's
something along the lines of all jerksare good in bed, but not all
good in bed guys or jerks Iworried about. I thought it out first.
As you can tell, I'm stumblingeverywhere, So anyway, forgive me.
I really wish I was inning thepodcast on a different note, because
that is not my best not mybest quote, don't quote me, put
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that on a shirt. I can'teven remember what I said. It was
so just all over the place.Okay, okay, next week's episode is
a little bit different. The guyhe reached out to me and said,
hey, I have a great story, let's do this. I said,
for sure, super nice guy.But I'll be honest, I feel like
I learned a little bit more abouthim than I did his actual relationship through
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our podcast. And he's had alife and I think it's a it's a
life where he struggled with a lotof things. He found his way out
of the struggle. He's been goodfor quite some time. And we talked
about that, honestly, a lotmore than his relationship. Like I said,
so anyway, I think next week'sepisode is pretty different. It does
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cover definitely addiction and yeah, soI'm hoping, you know what, either
next week will be up my lastepisode or the week after. I keep
saying that, but it's because likeI just like talking to you, you
know, so either way, Ireally appreciate you. I'll let you know
next week, gift. Next weekis the last episode or the week after
four Season one. I appreciate you, thank you so much for listening to
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right person, wrong time,
Hello, and thank you for joiningme for the Right Person, Wrong Time
Podcast. I am your host,Falin. I occasionally will check out the
reviews, and I so appreciate whenyou leave those. Someone did say that
they do not love my rambling inthe beginning, and other people like it,
so I know I'm never going toplease everyone, but if you are
one of the people they do notlike it, I totally understand that.
And I always put in the descriptionthe time stamp of when I stopped,
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so you can just go straight tothe emails or straight to the interview.
And I hope that helps, becausesince some people like it and I,
you know, don't mind chatting fora little bit, I'm going to keep
doing it, at least for thisepisode next because right we have two weeks
left of season one. But ifyou don't, I get that you just
want to get to the meet sometimes, and I totally respect it. Today
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we're going to jump in right awaywith some emails, and I actually had
this one on DM, so I'mgoing to read it from there and I'll
reveal all the things from the DMas we go. Says, Hey,
fallon, longtime fan of yours andthe KDWB Morning show here, can't believe
I'm actually messaging you and not sureif you'll even read this. I did.
Fun fact, I read ninety percentof my messages and the only reason
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I don't either respond is because Ido miss some if they come through requests
or if it's like one of thosedays you know where you wake up really
early. At least I wake upreally early and I'll see something I'm like,
oh, I'm not going to respondto something this early. I need
to like wake up and think aboutmy response, and then I might forget.
And I lose things very easily inmy DMS, So if there's something
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really important I didn't respond to,always send me another one. You're not
bothering me. Sometimes I just losetrack of things, but I do try
to read all of them, unlessfor some reason, if I post like
a really hot topic and I'm gettinglike one million messages, like for instance,
when I wasn't feeling well I hadstomach issues, I went to the
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hospital and I was so overwhelmed withthe amount of amazing people giving me feedback.
I did not respond to everyone becauseI just I couldn't. So but
most of the time, you know, I try to respond to everyone,
because I'm like, if you tooktime out of your day to message me,
I want at least give you alittle like so you know I saw
it. To get back to thismessage, though, she says, I
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heard about your amazing podcast and feltcalled to share my reconnection story. And
this is a spoiler because it's herhusband and her reconnection story briefly outlined in
this recent post of mine. Wewere high school sweethearts at Hopkins High School.
Tried to make it work when Iwent off to college in Madison,
but ended up sadly ending things whenthe long distance thing just wasn't working after
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a few months and I felt Ineeded to experience freshman life not being tied
down. We went our separate waysfor the next twelve years, during which
I ended up in an emotionally abusiverelationship that truly broke me. I swore
off series dating altogether, but thengot this random Facebook message from Nick he
didn't have my number anymore, sayinghe was randomly in my parents' old neighborhood
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in Golden Valley and felt compelled toreach out to see how I was doing.
Some back and forth small talk ledto us meeting up for drinks and
dinner. I just so happened tobe living temporarily at my parents, And,
as the cliche says, our clichesaying goes, the rest is history.
I know pretty much. I knewpretty much right away after reconnecting that
this was going to be a foreverkind of thing. In the last three
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years since rekindling that never quite burntout romance, we got a house together,
endured pandemic life together, got engagedand married, and welcomed our little
love, Luella into the world fivemonths ago. We just say we had
a bit of a needed hiatus atour relationship, and hadn't that break happened
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in that messy time of our lateteens twenties, when we each were us
figuring our s out, I knowfor certain we wouldn't be together today.
Sometimes I still can't believe how ourstory ended up having a to be continued.
But man, oh man, I'mso so thankful it did. Our
angsty angsy angsty cheese. That's ahard word. Sometimes teenage selves would have
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never believed we would be where weare today. It's so awesome. Your
podcast brings to life stories like ours, proving the universe indeed works in wonderfully
mysterious ways, sometimes a day brightnerof a show for sure. Congrats on
this incredible success and for reading thisall if you made it this far.
And she did tag me in thisphoto by the way, and I'm clicking
on it, and it's photos oftheir just beautiful family. Like from hold
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on, I'm going back to thevery beginning here. I want to look
at the very beginning. I thinkI can share your name, Kayla,
So I'm gonna go ahead and sayKayla because we did share his name,
so I think it's only fair.Okay, here we go. Oh yes,
from when they are young through thewhole story together with their beautiful Luella.
I love that and I love thatname. Jake his cousin. They
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have a daughter named Luella, andshe has his bright, fiery red hair
and she has the best personality.But oh, I love stories like that
all right, time for our nextemail. My name's Jessica. I saw
your post asking to hear stories regardingcouples breaking up and getting back together.
My boyfriend and I we dated forseven years, then broke up for a
year and a half or so,and got back together about three and a
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half years ago and we're still together. We met through good friends from college.
He had a bunch of friends upto his cabin one weekend and we
hit it off. My college roommateis married to one of his good friends
from college. She actually told meabout your post and encouraged me to email.
So many things in the first sevenyears were tough. He was on
the road for work, which madethings difficult. He got a new job
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and said things would change, butthey didn't change. He was the first
guy I really connected with after mybroken up engagement. We talked on the
phone all the time, texted,had dates when he was in town when
he had time. I was okaywith the time apart at first, but
then felt like I was ready tomake a steady relationship. I couldn't shake
the feeling that I was always goingto be last on his list. I
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had recently lost my mom and couldn'ttake the hurt anymore. So I ended
things after seven years, took timeapart, then after a year reconnected texting
at first, then he asked meout for dinner. We had a handful
of dates or so. Then thepandemic hit, which made things a little
more complicated, so took another sixmonth break. I laid it down our
first date after six months either wedo this or we don't. And it's
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been great ever since. We wereactually dating, planning trips and doing family
things together and we love our timetogether. He has a job that doesn't
require extended travel, which makes uswork. The last three and a half
years have been amazing. The timeapart allowed us time and space to realize
how much we mean to each other, looking at the next step of marriage
proposals soon best the cliff notes andI really appreciate that email Jessica. It's
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interesting how so many people I feellike if I had to gather thoughts on
this when they were together really young. I think it's so common to need
to almost figure out who we are, and so we experiment, we do
things, and then later in lifeit seems like, Okay, we had
time to see who we are.And sometimes it Isn't it funny you could
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look back at like a high schoolboyfriend, you're like, oh my gosh,
I could never imagine dating that personnow, And yet somehow some of
them grow into an even better versionof themselves that fit with you. I
don't know it's really interesting. Soanyway, thank you so much for sharing
that message. Hey, Thalon,I did submit this story before, but
I thought I would resend it justin case, and I'm really happy you
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did because I think I mentioned onone of the podcasts how I was kind
of a disaster with my organization.So thank you. The year was ninety
one, more specifically the infamous Halloweenblizzard. I was briefly dating a guy
named Mark, and we went tosee a movie in Eden Prairie Center.
I was a sophomore in high school, he was a freshman. I knew
that he had a crush on me, and I was on one of my
mini breaks for my somewhat serious highschool boy friend. That night, Mark
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and I went out and I felta serious connection, but being dumb,
I got back together with my boyfriend. A few weeks later, Mark and
I remained friends and there weren't anyhard feelings. Mark and his parents moved
to Arizona. I was more upsetabout him leaving than I thought i'd be
my high school boyfriend and I brokeup, and I was an emotional teenager
and really missing Mark. We talkedon the phone occasionally, but nothing serious.
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Fast forward to spring break and myparents actually let me go visit him
in Arizona. It was amazing highschool love. We had a blast after
that. We kept in touch offand on, but social media wasn't a
thing back then, so it wasn'teasy. The one time of year that
we almost always got in touch wasHalloween. The Blizzard of ninety one was
our connection. We went our separateways, went to college, he got
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married. Life continued for both ofus. Ten years ago we did reconnect
through social media. We started talkingabout how strong of a connection we've always
had, how we both feel thatwe were the one that got away.
Problem was he was still married,not happily, but nevertheless still married.
I got to see him for aday when I went to Arizona to see
some friends, and it was anelectric connection. We chatted on almost a
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daily basis, skyped when he could. But his wife found out about us,
and that was that. I knewhe needed to figure out what he
wanted, So I walked away.I deleted everything from social media, my
contacts, and for ten years wedid not speak at all until this past
Halloween. Of course, the onedate that always reminds me of him I
don't know what possessed me to reachout now, but I was curious.
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I still cared a lot about himand wanted to know how he was.
He's now divorced, not living inArizona anymore, and we've been talking pretty
regularly since Halloween. Our conversations makeme happy. We've talked a lot about
our past, a lot about whatwe hope for in the future, and
it's exciting. I'm so cautious andI have no idea what's in store for
us in the future. My planis to go visit him sometime this summer.
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He travels a lot for work,so I'm hoping we can make something
work out to really connect in person. While this story doesn't have a definitive
ending, we're a work in progress. I'm excited to see where it goes,
and I'm honestly hoping the one thatgot away back in high school will
be my happily ever after. Whookay, good luck. I mean,
I love getting the stories where itis kind of a reconnection you don't know
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where it's going to go. Imean, we had a guest on a
few weeks ago, and her storywas kind of like that they got back
together and she didn't know where itwas going to go, and I guess
you really don't, so thank youso much for sharing this. Next email,
when I had just turned twenty oneyears old, I met up with
some coworkers to get some dinner.They insisted I come to another bar to
meet one of the roommates, whothey called Travolta. I don't know what
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this I'm already laughing, I debated, and thinking, Oh God, some
guy who thinks he looks like JohnTravolta. Not my type. But I
went anyways. Although at the timeI didn't think he looked much like Travolta.
I later saw picks from when hewas younger, and he does have
a very strong resemblance to him.Andy and I hit it off that night,
and he made me laugh, andI'm a sucker for guys who can
make me laugh. I remember aweek into our relationship, I visited my
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mom and she asked me how itwas going. I stopped and said,
Mom, I'm going to marry himsomeday. It even surprised me that I
said that so quickly into a newrelationship. Well, we ended up dating
about a year. I was twentyone when I met him, and he
was twenty five. He had nointentions of settling down at the time.
He had a big group of guyswho always wanted to have guys' nights.
This eventually led to more arguments,lack of trust, jealousy, etc.
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He finally said he wanted to takea break, but come to find out
he actually had been hanging out withanother girl. I was done. I
looked back at what I had saidto my mom that day and felt dumb.
I guess I knew nothing about love. Over the next two years,
he dates that girl and I datedanother guy. Throughout that time, I
would randomly get phone calls or textfrom him, but then would go quiet
once again. I spent two yearsdoing double takes if I saw someone who
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looked like him, or trying tocatch up to see if the driver of
his make and model car was himin there. One night, our song
look After You by the Fray cameon the radio, and as I'm driving,
a shooting star falls across the entireskyline. I called one of my
girlfriends to tell her about that coincidence, and she tells me my ex literally
just walked into the bar she wasat. I felt like that was some
crazy sign. I wasn't super happyin my current relationship, but I didn't
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realize how unhappy I was until Istarted getting phone calls again. He and
his axe had broken up. Atfirst, I told him he was out
of luck and I had a boyfriend, but he was insistent his mom has
told me a story about how hetold her Katie loves me. She just
doesn't know it yet. I tookabout a month. I ended my current
relationship and started hanging out with himas friends. I didn't know how it
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would feel about him and didn't wantto rush into anything. Eventually, I
decided our relationship was worth another try. I was able to say the past
is the past and move forward withouthard feelings into this new relationship. Our
past had no place in our future. I had to let that go if
I wanted this to work. Wemarried on four eight twelve. We welcomed
our first son, Wyatt. ThatSeptember, we had our second son,
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Sawyer, and April twenty fifteen.Dawson was our COVID baby born in December
twenty twenty, and we had asurprise baby girl this past November. Shiloh
is four months old now Andy andI love this life we have built together
over the last ten years of marriage. I know it doesn't always work for
everyone to get back together. Icredit our situation working out for a few
reasons. First, we spent twofull years apart. We weren't back and
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forth, so we really had achance to miss and appreciate what we had.
Secondly, you have to be ableto forgive and move forward. Many
people struggle with that, but itreally is necessary to have a successful new
relationship. Thanks for listening to ourstory. Katie pronounced like Kati because it's
spelled differently than like your typical Katie. So Katie and Travolta, congrats on
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your big, beautiful family. Iam so thankful you shared that story with
me. I gotta be honest withyou, Katie. In the beginning,
I was like, m, Idon't trust Travolta. You know what something
I don't like it. But thenyou're right. You took the time apart,
you weren't going back and forth.Yeah, not that back and forth
can never work, but let's behonest, back and forth can be it.
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It can make it really difficult becauseit's hard to move forward. Like
She's mentioning if you have too much, I think of a toxic past,
but this podcast has proven that isnot always the case. I have a
really quick one and I even said, can I share this picture? Which
I don't know how I'm gonna dothat with a podcast, so I'll try
to share it on maybe my Instagramstories. But says high school sweethearts age
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sixteen. I separated from him formy own dumb reasons. We always remained
friendly. We both married when onour lives. Twenty two years later,
after both divorcing at different times,we reconnected, only to find we both
still loved each other. We turnedforty this year and we'll be getting married
this summer. Attached is our veryfirst picture with our very current picture on
vacation this week. That's from Ashleyquick and sweet and I said, hey,
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can I share that? And she'slike yeah, So here we go.
I have a listen. This iscalled Dominic and Casey's Love Journey.
He says, I'm Casey. I'vebeen obsessed with your new podcast and thought,
oh, what the hell, I'llemail her my story because at least
I can say I tried. Iknow you probably get tons of emails.
Ever since your new podcast blew up. But if you do end up reading
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this and choosing our story, Iwant to say thank you. I feel
honored for us to be chosen.Thank you anyone that takes the time to
send this long email, or evena short one like the last one.
I am thankful. And I dohave a lot of emails. I'm trying
to get through those today because someonesaid you your podcast episodes are too short
with emails, and I'm like,you know what, You're probably right.
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I think I was like being scarcewith them, just in case I didn't
get a lot, but then Ikept getting them. So we all have
that first time crush when we're justfiguring out what it's like to have the
feeling of love. Mine was onthe way out to recess in the fourth
grade in two thousand and four whenI had my first crush on a boy
dominic. It was the kind ofcrush where you can't stop smiling or looking
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at him, but you're afraid toconfront him, so you just look at
him from afar and giggle with yourgirlfriends. Seventh grade in two thousand and
seven starts, and that's when thefeelings get stronger. Middle school relationships are
short and fleeting. We started hangingout in the same friend group and getting
to know each other, but wealways stated other people. One day,
near the end of the school year, we walked the school bus stop together
and we were both not seeing anyoneand finally told one another, hey,
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we like each other. Well.With all middle school relationships, it didn't
last long, and he dumped mein the middle of summer break before eighth
grade. I was crushed. Hewas my first crush in my life and
he dumped me over text on mytiny little track phone. Eighth grade started
and we were already dating different peopleand in different friend groups. I thought
to myself, Oh, well,I guess it wasn't meant to be.
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The beginning of high school in twothousand and nine was a whole different ballpark.
The timing was always off when itcame to being together, and there
was always a reason we weren't together. He was dating someone I wasn't.
I was dating someone he wasn't.Two ten, sophomore year of high school.
We both dated other people for along time, but continued to stay
friends, even though deep down weboth still had feelings for each other.
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Definitely a wrong time situation l ol. Once in a blue moon, there
was a moment where both of uswere single and ended up hooking up with
each other, but neither one ofus would admit our feelings to each other.
I was so afraid that if Isaid anything to him about how I
felt about him, he would rejectme again. So I just accepted the
fact that I'm only going to behaving one night stands with him because that's
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the only time I saw him orspent time with him. In the middle
of senior year of high school twentytwelve to twenty thirteen, we were both
single. We just got done wassome intimate time and had our first pillow
talk session, because usually our encountersare one and done, but this time
seemed different. I could tell hewas itching to tell me something, but
I cut our pillow talk session shortand told him I had to leave.
I never heard from him again afterthat. Almost a year passes. It's
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twenty fourteen. I was sitting atmy friend's dorm working on an assignment for
one of the college classes when myFacebook messenger pops up on the bottom right
corner of my screen, and it'sDominic. We caught up on each other's
lives and began talking more often.It's October fall break and he tells me
to come over to see him.I go over there and we hang out
for a few hours. Nothing endsup happening, but while we're saying goodbyes,
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he tries to kiss me, butI turned my face so he gets
my cheek. I'll admit it,I chickened out because I was afraid to
get hurt again from him, andI didn't want to start having strong feelings
for him again. A couple ofmonths later, I'm sitting at my friend's
dorm room working on an assignment.My Facebook messenger dings and in Dominic he
tells me he still likes me andhas feelings for me. At this moment,
I was in shock. I lookedaround the room, like, is
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this really happening to me? AmI dreaming? Just my luck? I
was with another guy, Mark,but we weren't an official couple. But
I had a lot of feelings forthis guy, so I wanted to give
him a chance. I thought tomyself, it took me forever to get
over Dominic, and he's had multipleopportunities to confess how much he likes me.
I rejected Dominic and told him Ihave feelings for another guy and want
to give him a chance. Dominictells me that he will wait for me
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and that he will be here overwhen a break, I got the chance
to meet Mark. Things were goingwell and we spent a lot of time
together over the next month. Schoolstarted back up again in the beginning of
January, and I never heard fromMark again. I was completely ghosted.
Did he end up not liking meor did he just want one a one
time fleeing To this day, Ihave no idea why he stopped talking to
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me. It's a sign. Iwas walking to class and message Dominic and
said, I want to try andhave a relationship with you because I've always
had feelings for you. We startedtalking all the time, and he officially
asked me to be his girlfriend justin time for Valentine's Day. Once we
made it Facebook official, It's likethe floodgates opened. X's came out of
the woodworks and tried everything iner tomess things up for us, but that
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didn't stop us. He packed upeverything and moved up to me while I
was in college. We got ourown place together, got a cat.
Summer of twenty sixteen, he proposedto me on the beach and we got
married in October of twenty eighteen.To this day, Dominic still gives me
shit for rejecting him, but Ialways give him shit about dumping me first.
I would definitely say our relationship hadright person, wrong time moments.
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Thank you for taking the time toread this, and I hope you enjoyed
our story. I couldn't imagine mylife without him. He's my best friend
and the love of my life.I've been listening to KATWB since I got
my first boombox when I was inthird grade, and now I listened to
you and the rest of the morningcrew on my way to work. Thank
you for all the laughs and throwbacks. Casey, thank you for sharing your
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story. I love your love story. I'm now looking through my emails and
realizing I have so many of these, and I am almost feeling like I
should do two more episodes after thisinstead of one to get through these because
people took their time to send them. I might do that. Okay,
please don't use my name first.I want to start with I have listened
to Katie WB for years and rememberhearing the auditions when you were on and
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you were definitely my favor I'm sohappy you're still on KATIEWB as a stay
at home mom. I love listeningto you guys and think all of you
are hilarious. I wanted to writein to you once I heard about your
new podcast. As soon as Iheard the name, I knew my husband
in a situation would be a relatablestory for your podcast. Number one,
thank you. Biggest compliment ever isif someone says they listen to our show,
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our podcast, whatever that may be. And also this did kind of
give away what happened with you guyssince you said my husband. But I
still love of a happy story.So here we go. Let me preface
this by saying that I've been througha lot over the years, as most
of us have. I lost mymom suddenly. I'm so sorry and unexpectedly.
When I was nineteen years old.She was my entire world and I
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was broken and lost for many yearsthat followed. When I was I believe
around twenty one or twenty two yearsold, I was at a friend's house
party where we made our way tothe local bar. Might I also add
that at that time I was abartender and dating a guy that was a
narcissistic jerk. He would use mefor money then take different women out on
the money I borrowed him. Justwow, the things we tolerate. Circling
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back to the house party that wentto the bar, I was there drinking,
as I did frequently and to accessduring the aftermath of losing my mom
and myself in the process, andthis guy that was friends with one of
my other friends kept trying to staya conversation with me, start a conversation
with me, and I wasn't reallygiving him the time of day. After
all, I was dating that narcissist, so I was more focused on drinking
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and having a good time. Wechatted a little longer than we all ended
up going back to our friend's houseand passing out. My friend told me
that the guy trying to talk tome at the bar last night seemed interested,
but I was like, no way, I have this other guy alike
and I've been seeing right now.Fast forward to I believe twenty fourteen,
probably four years since that bar night, and we had last talked or seen
each other. We were both ina mutual friend's wedding at the time.
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I was single and he was ina relationship. My friend kept telling me
that night that I should try totake a picture with him and chat with
him, because his then girlfriend wasnot a nice person and they felt like
she was using him. She didn'tcome to the wedding reception because she was
mad at him. I didn't wantto be at home. I didn't want
to be a home wrecker, soI didn't try to pursue anything with him.
But we had some beer with ourfriends and chatted. We both went
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our separate ways again after the wedding. A few months later, while I
was at work, said guy sentme a message on Facebook saying hi.
He asked if I wanted to getdinner sometime. I said yes, and
we got dinner, but he hadmentioned still having his girlfriend, but he
was unhappy with her and wanted tobreak up with her. I thought our
dinner together was nice, but justfelt kind of yucky because he still had
a girlfriend. So after leaving there, I sent him texting I was not
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going to be talking to him orseeing him again unless he was single.
A few more months go by andI get another text that he is single
and would like to grab a byeto eat. I said yes, and
we grabbed dinner and quickly became smittenwith each other. Within a few months
of dating, we knew we wantedto be together for the long haul.
He asked me to move in andI did. We got married about a
year later, and we'll celebrate ourseventh year of marriage this month. We
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have two beautiful children together, andI couldn't be more thankful that when you're
truly meant to be with someone,God will keep placing you in their path.
Thank you for reading my email,and thank you for sending that Hey
fallon loving your podcast. Here ismy story, and that a guy will
call Jesse in ninth grade, Ihad heard of him, but was blown
away by how good looking he wasin person. We started flirting fairly quickly
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and soon became boyfriend girlfriend. Wehad a passion that was unmatched. He
was emotionally immature, though, andwe never had sex, and the relationship
eventually fizzled because of that immaturity.Fast forward to the summer before college ninety
five, we reconnected. I endeda two year relationship that was pre cell
phone days and Jesse's family did nothave a home phone, so he was
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fairly unreachable, which was a majorfrustration. I moved away to college,
and in October I was coming homefrom the week for the weekend and mailed
him a quarter in advance and said, Hey, I'll be home at this
time, Please call me. Henever did, much to my disappointment.
I went back to school and foryears dreamt of him and longed for that
passion we shared. Fast forward totwo thousand and three, About three weeks
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after I got married to a differentguy, my bff ran into Jesse and
he gave her his phone number andasked her to have me reach out.
I ran it past my new husbandas I did not want to feel like
I was crossing any lines, andhubby gave me the okay to contact him,
so I did and we met forcoffee. The chemistry was still there,
and he told me the reason helet me go into college was he
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didn't think he was good enough forme. He came from a really rough
family with a lot of problems,and he didn't want to hold me back,
but that he always had known Iwas the one if he'd never stopped
thinking of me. We never crossedany lines, but as I was newly
married, spending time with him feltlike a slippery slope, and we cut
off contact fairly soon. When Facebookcame around, we became friends, and
there I'd look occasionally again, alwayslonging for that passion we shared. Life
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happened, We each had two kidswith our respective significant others, and went
on with our lives. Years later, as my marriage was ending, we
ended up reconnecting. We dated fora couple of years and had the most
amazing sex of my life tum I, though in hindsight he was a pretty
selfish lover. I said the Lword about nine months in and he laughed
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at me and didn't say it back. I never said it again, and
he never did period, though hedid tell me in to text a couple
of times when I'd say something abouthim not loving me, that of course
he did. I repeatedly told himI needed more from him emotionally, and
eventually told him I was starting adating profile on Fumble and that if he
couldn't give me more emotionally, I'dmove on if I found someone who could.
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Nothing changed. I ended up goingout on a date during which Jesse
tried to call me. I toldhim later that I hadn't answered because I
was a date. He told methen never to contact him again. On
that day, I felt the trashtook itself out. We were in our
early forties at the time, andthe fact that he was still emotionally immature.
At that point, I was confidenthe would never change. I've been
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happy with my current relationship for twoplus years now, but I do still
think about that unmatched passion with Jesse. I guess there's a hell of a
lot more to life than sex.The one thing I learned from him and
that experience is that I deserve someonewho will love me fully, and if
a partner cannot give me that,I don't want them. I will forever
wonder what might have been if hecould have just grown up. But I
know I deserve better than what hewas capable of giving me. So sorry,
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sorry, so long. Keep upthe good work. I love listening
to you. Don't be sorry.Okay, this is my theory, and
I know people will say that's nottrue, but I know it's not in
every case. My theory is,and guys, you could agree. Maybe
this is the same way for girls. I think some of the biggest jerks
ever are the best in bed.Why because why else would you stay with
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them and tolerate them treating you likecrap because they're good in that one aspect.
Now, that doesn't mean that whenyou find a nice guy he can't
be good in bed as well.That's not what I'm saying. Like wonderful
men are also really great in bed. I just think that the ones that
are jerks are especially good in bed, and that is the reason why,
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because it's why else would we toleratetheir crap. Guys, you can let
me know if that's true for women, Like the worst women are the best
in bed, maybe, and that'swhy you tolerate their crap. I don't
know. Maybe it's different for guys, but that is my theory. I
think I one time said something ridiculouson the radio that fired people. But
I think I said, not alljerks have I think I said that not
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all jerks. I'm gonna screw thisup in one up. I think there's
something along the lines of all jerksare good in bed, but not all
good in bed guys or jerks Iworried about. I thought it out first.
As you can tell, I'm stumblingeverywhere, So anyway, forgive me.
I really wish I was inning thepodcast on a different note, because
that is not my best not mybest quote, don't quote me, put
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that on a shirt. I can'teven remember what I said. It was
so just all over the place.Okay, okay, next week's episode is
a little bit different. The guyhe reached out to me and said,
hey, I have a great story, let's do this. I said,
for sure, super nice guy.But I'll be honest, I feel like
I learned a little bit more abouthim than I did his actual relationship through
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our podcast. And he's had alife and I think it's a it's a
life where he struggled with a lotof things. He found his way out
of the struggle. He's been goodfor quite some time. And we talked
about that, honestly, a lotmore than his relationship. Like I said,
so anyway, I think next week'sepisode is pretty different. It does
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cover definitely addiction and yeah, soI'm hoping, you know what, either
next week will be up my lastepisode or the week after. I keep
saying that, but it's because likeI just like talking to you, you
know, so either way, Ireally appreciate you. I'll let you know
next week, gift. Next weekis the last episode or the week after
four Season one. I appreciate you, thank you so much for listening to
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right person, wrong time,
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