September 19, 2025 • 39 mins
Episode 3 — Scores Strippers, Sopranos & Mafia
In this episode, I take you back to 1997—bartending in a hidden speakeasy in New Jersey as the The Sopranos filmed nearby, their cast and crew slipping in for late-night drinks. The air was thick with smoke, whispered mob ties, and the glamour of Scores strippers who arrived for an underground Smoker. I share how the lexicon of the mob, my father’s secret underworld connections, and his deep self-loathing for his Italian roots collided—shaping the chaos that ultimately set me on the path to becoming a dominatrix.
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And then of course the clothes all came off and it was just
money, sex and just House of illrepute all over the place.
But this is where something I often talk about how men, their
first early experience with a dominant woman, will hard lock
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something in their psyche where they become forever addicted to
that intoxicating mix of a woman, a strong, beautiful woman
overpowering them, dominating them, telling them what to do.
Hi, my name is Pamela. I am professionally known as the
Violatrix. I am a 20 year Finn Dom.
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I am on tech talk at St. #2 Siren.
I am the author of the ultimate financial domination guide,
which just so you know, I'm going to give my big disclaimer
here. This book is not the salacious
back story. That's episode 3 that I'm
filming today. That's about, that's what you're
about to hear. This book is a guide for the
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women who found me on TikTok, who asked me to come out from
the shadows to explain how I do what I do so that they too could
learn how to do it. Much to my shock, it was women
from all walks of life. It wasn't just young girls who
wanted to learn. It was like Wall Street
executives, doctors, lawyers. I was very surprised.
So my next book will have the salacious back story.
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I'm going to touch on a lot of that today, but I also wanted to
explain to you who my viewershipis, who my followers are, and
who this podcast is for. And I have two types of clients.
I have two types of people who follow me.
I have the men who want to be dominated, the submissive men.
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They are alpha by day, corporateexecutives, doctors, lawyers,
famous sports guys, athletes. And then I have the women who
follow me who kind of discoveredme and I grew with kind of this
cult following out of nowhere again on TikTok for the women
who want to learn how to do whatI do.
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So I do on my website, The Violatrix IX, the VIOLATRI
x.com. You can book an appointment with
me, a consultation, whether you're a woman wanting to do
this or whether you're a man whowants to be severely dominated.
Today's episode episode 3 is themafia and the sex industry, also
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known on TikTok as the three O 4industry.
In case you didn't know my particular back story which was
asked of me to revealed my back story underneath on my podcast
on Spotify. You can make comments about my
episodes and I was asked by several women to explain how a
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nice girl from Hershey, PA ends up becoming a global sensation
dominatrix. And that's what I'm going to
tell you today. I was 33 years old originally
from Hershey, PA, a nice ItalianAmerican.
Both my parents were Italian American, nice Italian American
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girl from a small town Hershey and lived a very kind of good
girl life. I did what my parents told me to
do. I was a rule follower.
I'm the youngest of three now. I had decided at the age of 33
after moving back from New Jersey where I went to college
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and I was also a bartender. I was the head bartender at kind
of a Speakeasy type place. It was mob controlled, mob owned
and that was in Englewood, NJ and it was called Smoke and it
was a like a six seat bar and itwas like a cigar and cognac bar.
All the servers were men and I was was the only woman employed
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in the restaurant as the bartender.
So when I left and came back to Pennsylvania, when I left New
Jersey, left college, left everything behind and I got into
a corporate career. I had become an admissions
director for a College in Pennsylvania.
I ended up in very quickly rising to from admissions
representative to director of admissions within less than two
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years. I found great personal
professional success and I bought 3 rental properties and I
was doing very well for myself. So this is by the age of 33 I
had decided I didn't believe in marriage.
I didn't want to be married, butI was ready to be a mother.
It should have not surprised me that this might not be In Sync
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with my father's vision for my future.
So at the age of 33, with my three rental properties and my
burgeoning career, corporate career, my father found out that
I was pregnant and bankrupted me.
And that's the story I'm going to tell you.
So I was owning my 3 properties.I was in the middle of showing
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one of my properties. I was about 7 1/2 months
pregnant, very visible belly, and I'm outside one of my
properties. All three of my properties were
in historical downtown Harrisburg, right?
All three of them were in the 100 block.
Two of them were on Riley St. and one was on her street, and
they were absolutely beautiful historicals.
If you know anything about Harrisburg, PA, there's just
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amazing history and architecture, and I'm very drawn
to those things. I have a love of historical
architecture. My father also didn't like that
growing up in the Marcy projectsin Brooklyn, he hated anything
that resembled that. So I'm in front of my house
showing one of my properties to a prospective tenant, a really
lovely girl. And I hear this and I flip my
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head around. I've got a clipboard, you know,
I'm pointing at the property. And the girl is like taking it
all in. And I turn around.
And my father, who's kind of like a cross between like
Frankie Avalon and like any of those old, like, 1940s fifties
singers, like the really cute ones, he's kind of a cross
between that and Joe Pesci. That's like the best way I could
describe it. And he gets out of his car and
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he starts screaming and he's spitting and he's biting his
knuckle. He's I'm going to fucking kill
you. I'm going to fucking kill you,
you fucking whore. And I'm like, and my eyes pop
out of my head and the tenant runs and he starts running
towards me and I've got the clipboard and now I run behind
his car and he's kind of chasingme around the car.
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It was like something out of a, like a movie.
It was like Shameless meets The Sopranos meets I don't know
what, and he's biting his knuckle and he's spitting and he
can't get me because I'm like behind the car.
I'm like, what? What's the problem?
And he's like, you're having a baby out of wedlock.
I'll fucking ruin you if you don't terminate this pregnancy.
I'll fucking bankrupt you. I'll fucking ruin you.
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And now bear in mind, I'd never done a single thing wrong in my
life, so this was kind of shocking.
So as he's trying to chase me and I'm ducking behind the car
people from the PIADA building, which is the Pennsylvania
independent auto dealers whom heused to do their financial
planning. My father was on Wall Street.
He became a financial planner, had his own practice, his own
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business for many years, DC competitive and associates.
And all these people come out, they're like someone call the
cops. I'm like, that's OK.
That's the guy who handles your retirement plan.
So at one point he takes off like his $700.00 Italian loafer
and he chucks it at me and I duck and he's just still trying
to get me to, I think, terminatemy pregnancy.
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It's that that part is really, still really not clear.
Fast forward couple of months, my father had gotten POA over my
my properties, which means powerof attorney.
My father was always doing dirtydeals with banks and in this
particular case he had to deal with a bank and needed to bring
them business. So he came to me and said I need
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power of attorney over your businesses.
I was like, why? And he said because I want to
wrap your three residential mortgages into a commercial
mortgage. It'll benefit you.
It'll benefit you Pammy. And I was like, that doesn't
sound like it's going to benefitme.
You're taking 3 subprime mortgages with like 3-4 hundred
dollar payments and you're wrapping it into one commercial
payment on the 1st of the month,$3000 a month.
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I said my my rentals don't run that way.
And he's like, are you questioning me?
You're going to fucking do what I told you.
OK OK, So I gave him power of attorney.
I had forgotten when I am, you know, standing here 7 1/2 months
pregnant with my properties and the whole thing, I had forgotten
I'd given him power of attorney.Fast forward, he did in fact,
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bankrupt, bankrupt me. I lost my homes, all three of
them, and my car in one fell swoop of his pen.
And he ended up selling my homesto the guy who managed.
My dad used to own Fuddruckers restaurant in Hershey, PA,
across from the Medical Center. And he like strong armed his
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manager to buy the houses. Oh, you need this, You need a
tax shelter. And he did.
And I was evicted with 24 hours notice.
So let's go back to how my father became this way, why he
became this way, and how this ties into how I became a
dominatrix. My father had a lot of anger,
being an Italian American, facing a lot of criticism, a lot
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of discrimination, and a lot of Americans don't know that
Italians were lower than any ethnic group on the totem pole,
especially during World War 2, during Hitler, and in particular
my family ended up in America because of Hitler.
When the Fascista and the Gestapo took over Italy and the
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the fascism, the fascist movement swept through Italy, my
family saw horrific crimes. One particular story was my
great grandfather had walked into a Barber shop and the
fascista, the fascist had walkedin and they were like five guys
lined up in Barber chairs and they just came in and shot each
one of them in the back of the head.
The blood started rolling down the sidewalk of the Italian
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cobblestone streets. And my great grandfather came
home and said, that's it, we're going to America.
So my father had this big kind of hard on his whole life.
You know, he got his master's degree.
He became very distinguished. And but there was always a
thread of anger and there was always a thread.
And I didn't really know this because my parents didn't talk
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about it. All I knew is that we weren't to
speak Italian in the house because we had to become
Americanized. Although they didn't change my
last our last name, which happened to a lot of Italians,
My parents did very much Americanized my brothers Glenn,
my sisters Jennifer and I'm Pamela.
They tried to drop as much of the Italian as possible so that
we could integrate they we had just become white in any census
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data. If I look back at my immigration
records of my great grandparents, they were all
listed as mulatto. And so there is a very angry
thread that runs through many Italian Americans at that time
that came up, baby boomers during World War 2, that they
had to prove something. They had to become just like all
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American white bread men, becomeCE OS business owners and
distinguished members of society, joining all sorts of
civic organizations, which my father did.
He was very politically minded as well as philanthropically
minded, and looking back now, I just thought he was a great guy.
I see now that there was an absolute path and a mission,
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almost a vendetta against what people said he was.
I remember my parents saying if you ever go to a friend's house
and they use the word Italian, get out of the house
immediately. I didn't know what it meant, but
the discrimination that my parents had faced was far worse
than anything I did growing up in 1970s white bread.
Hershey, PA. Although I was kind of the
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darkest kid in my class. So with that said, it kind of
could explain to you how some ofwhat happened.
And a lot of this. I'm writing my next book, which
is going to be the Salacious Tell All, and it will have much
more detail about this. But I think it's important for
people to understand why and howsomething a person can become so
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angry and can become so determined to dispel and lose an
ethnic stereotype. And this was definitely playing
into it. So as I was in College in the
1990s, I had quit college. I had gone to College in
Pittsburgh, quit college when mymother got sick, she I became
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her medical caregiver. She passed from cancer.
And then years later I went back.
So I was late going back to college and I took a job as a
bartender, as I mentioned in Smoke in Englewood, NJ.
Now, what was cool about Smoke was this was during the 1990's,
The Sopranos had just hit kind of the social forefront.
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It had become part of the the lexicon of everything that was
happening in America and in pop culture, let alone I was at
Ground Zero of it. So, for example, while the
restaurant was in Englewood, NJ,and a lot of The Sopranos actors
were coming into our restaurant,very high end restaurant, very
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kind of bougie. Jon Jon Stewart from The Daily
Show was coming in, Aiden Quinn,Madonna's boyfriend and
desperately Seeking Susan, you know, Stevie Wonder and a lot of
the vaudeville actors and old 1940s singers because the Screen
Actors Guild retirement home wasright down the street at that
time. So it was a really amazing time
to be in New Jersey, be bartending and be at the
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forefront of this scene. So smoke was.
So I was going to say that when when we would leave the bar or
we would close the restaurant atthe end of the night.
Again, I'm the only female employed in the restaurant.
The servers were all men and sometimes they'd like to have a
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cocktail afterwards. Well, the only place that was
open was Satin Dolls over in, I think it was Hackensack.
It was just passed Fort Lee. It was Hackensack, NJ.
The irony was it was a strip club and that's where the guys
would like to take me for a drink and they loved it.
They all had, you know, big laughs because they enjoyed
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buying me lap dances. And you have to remember our
restaurant was a pool house. So if somebody ordered, you
know, 710 thousand dollar, $15,000 bottle of wine, our tip
outs were insane. The money that we were making
was utterly insane. So we would go over to satin
dolls and have a drink. But the irony of this was or
they the tie in is that Satin dolls strip club was the Bada
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Bing club. It's where they were filming the
Bada Bing, which was Tony Sopranos kind of like, you know,
storefront or behind the scenes for his capos in The Sopranos.
So we were there and they're filming stuff was all there and
it was kind of cool. So again, I'm still a very
innocent. All of this leads up to be
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becoming this hardened dominatrix.
But bear in mind I'm still my nice innocent Catholic girl from
Hershey, PA. Both my parents are from New
Jersey, so I'm very familiar with the area.
We had a summer house in New Jersey and I am new to smoke as
a bartender. Very prestigious position by the
way, in, in Northern Jersey, NewYork City, a bartender, little
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and a head bartender is a very prestigious position.
It's usually a very pretty girl and she has a strong command of
presence. She's able to speak to the
higher clientele and build a business not unlike any other,
like a hairdresser, Dr. Laurie, whatever it is, regular
patients, you're building your regular clientele and these are
high rolling clientele. So this was a very important
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position and I loved it. But I and and I was selling
none. I had like A7 drawer humidor
behind the bar. I had sold single malt scotches
and cognacs and trying to learn the wine list.
It was it was incredible. It was it was a real crash
course in bourge in upper crust lifestyle.
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I remember my top shelf liqueur was a cognac and it was called
pre Phyloxora and I think it wasabout 12,000 a glass.
Only George, the owner of our restaurant, was able to pour it.
You had to get on a ladder to get this decanter and it was
only ordered by either rappers or somebody, some sports famous
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athlete or, you know, somebody who had really something to
prove. But I'd seen it poured a few
times pre Phyloxura. Pre Phyloxura Cognac was, I
guess there was an aphid that ate through the cognac vineyards
in the late 1800s, early 1900s, and this particular cognac was
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made pre Phyloxora before this aphid ate through those
vineyards. So it was very coveted, very
bougie, very expensive, and it was a big deal.
So that's the type of bar that it was.
So now that I'm giving you the background and what this looked
like, Smoke was a tiny restaurant, very elegant.
Again, looked like a Speakeasy. I remember an old singer, jazz
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singer from the 1940s. She was still alive.
Her name was Kitty Kalin. And they had an old record
player in the back. And when she would come in, they
would put on her records and shewould sit in the back.
And it was, it was just a reallycool thing to see as well as
again, all the vaudeville actorsand actresses would come in.
So the guys come up to me one night and they say, put this in
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the front window behind your bar.
And I said, what is it? They said, it's our next smoker.
And I said, well, what's a smoker?
And they all looked at each other, winked and grinned.
And I knew there was like, I was, I wasn't in on the joke.
Now I was like the butt of the joke.
And I was like, what's a smoker?They're like, you'll see.
So I'm reading the poster and it's basically says, you know,
it's like a $700.00 a plate dinner.
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It's private, it's exclusive. It's, you know, there's only a
certain amount of limited seats available.
And it was something like, you know, A7 course meal where the
gentleman would come in and theywould have the opportunity to
taste certain dishes, certain single malt Scotch, single malt
Scotch and certain wines. They were featuring with a
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sommelier doing a presentation. And then they would be bringing
in some lingerie that the men could buy for their wives.
I was like, oh, that's nice. That's so lovely.
The night of the smoker came andI was told to wear something
particularly sexy. And there was there was a there
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was an air of like tension, excitement, anticipation,
anticipation in the restaurant. I remember the head chef Michael
coming out and he was being veryparticular about how to serve
this, how to. There was just a lot of buzz in
the restaurant that I hadn't seen before.
And all of the sudden, George, the owner and several of the the
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maitre DI can't remember his name right now.
And some of the servers went up and they drew the blinds and
pulled the drapes in the front of the restaurant.
And they began to hold the door open.
And they're all looking out on the street.
And three limousines pull up from Scores.
And if you watch my previous episodes of my podcast, you'll
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understand how Scores later endsup playing a big role in my life
and how I ended up in phone sex and then domination.
The three limousines pull up with bodyguards and they begin
letting the women out of the limousines.
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And they get out and they start walking in and the bodyguards
escort them. These warm women.
These women walk into the restaurant past my bar.
Now I'm I'm like 5, five and a half.
I'm in 4 inch stilettos behind the bar and I was in really good
shape. I was in my late 20s at that
point. These women walk in and I'm like
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this. I'd never seen anything like
this. These were the most beautiful
women I'd ever seen in my life. They were already 56595859511
but they are in 6 inch platform stilettos so they're like I'm
looking up to them. They are tiny, they are fit,
they have long wigs and extensions and the most
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beautiful bodies. And the black women, black
women, white women, Latina, every race, creed, color,
ethnicity, and they're just walking in one.
And I was a little girl who played with Barbies.
This was like watching a stream of actual Barbies walk right
past me. And they smelled so good and
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they were dressed so pretty. So each of the women gets
assigned to a table. And now they close the doors and
the bodyguards come in and they're all lined up standing
the front. And each of the women gets
assigned to a table. They're taking off their furs.
And now they're revealing their,their garters, their pantyhose,
their glimmering, shimmering outfits bedazzled, you know,
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thongs and body suits and bikinis.
And I was just, I was absolutely, it was a sensory
moment for me. I will never forget.
It was intoxicating. I was absolutely, I was equal
parts shocked, mesmerized and seduced by the whole scene.
So what ends up happening is themen, the High Roller men, the
clients, the the restaurant clients start coming in and they
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begin coming in and they've got assigned seats.
They're all looking for their name cards and they sit down.
These men indulge in this insanely beautiful first class
meal of wine, cognac, single malt Scotch, the most beautiful
meats and pastas and seafood, all of it.
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And then they finish it off with, I can't remember what if
it was Cohiba cigars, if it was Arturo Fuente, I can't remember.
Macanudo, I don't remember what the cigars were.
But they finished off the cigars.
And then the girls who had been kind of walking through while
they're eating, each one of them, a bodyguard, takes their
hand, puts them up on the table.They're standing up on the table
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and now 1 by 1, the music's playing, the music's blaring,
and they begin stripping off their lingerie while these men
are throwing thousands of dollars at them, buying off the
lingerie from the dancers, whichI guess correlated to you can
buy your wife beautiful lingerieand take it home to her.
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OK, gross, but OK, that's what it was.
So this is how they got away with doing something like this
in this family restaurant that they, the guys would come in and
bring their wives. The wives had no idea what was
going on. And I could tell you a story or
two about some things that went on the wine room, in the
bathroom downstairs with a few celebrities.
But I think I will save that fora later date nonetheless.
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This moment of me seeing these women, seeing the power they
had, watching these wealthy men throw $100 bills at them for
hours. And the amount the stacks of
cash that these women left with the stacks of cash in their in
their garters, stuffed in their boots, just hanging from them
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because, you know, the guys are putting the $100 bills like all
around their thongs and everything.
And then of course, the clothes all came off and it was just
money, sex and just House of illrepute all over the place.
But this is where something I often talk about, how men, their
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first early experience with a dominant woman, will hard lock
something in their psyche where they become forever addicted to
that intoxicating mix of a woman, a strong, beautiful
woman. Overpowering them, dominating
them, telling them what to do. By the same token, when this
smoker happened and these glamazons from Scores were
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parading in front of me, first in thongs, then fully naked, is
something hard locked in my psyche?
This is where the power is. This is where the money is.
This is it. And of course, while I didn't
set out to do it when my father ended up now we go back to the
other story when my father endedup bankrupting me and I stumbled
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upon that ad in the New York Times for Scores looking to open
their chat Hostess division, their online Playmate webcam
model division. I immediately remembered think
that hard luck of that moment ofseeing that intoxicating power,
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that beautiful display of what awoman in her ultimate divine,
ultimate divine feminine, the power she can wield, the things
she can do, these powerful men that were at her feet.
And I was like, why not? How can I not do this?
But I can get just a piece of that.
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I want it, and I did. So there's so much more I can
tell you. My father growing up.
So my father's born in the MarcyProjects in 1941 in Brooklyn.
Marcy Projects is where Jay-Z sings about that.
He grew up in the Marcy Projects.
Extremely dangerous. They were equally as dangerous
in 1941, if not even more so. I remember my grandfather would
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carry around a bayonet from the,that this is the story.
My grandfather would carry around a bayonet from the French
and Indian War, and that's how he would ward off the neighbors.
And I remember being told the stories of how that the, I
remember being at Thanksgiving dinner, my grandfather, my Papa,
we called him Papa, but Danny Capeta, he didn't have any
teeth. I have pictures of him on my
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Instagram. I'll have to show you guys.
He was as big around as he was tall.
He was beautiful. He looked like Rudolph Valentino
when he was younger and then older.
He looked like your typical Italian, like Chef Boyardee.
Grandpa. And I remember Papa sitting at
the Thanksgiving table at some point in the 80s talking about
the ferrets. And I was like, Papa, how do you
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even know what a ferret is? And he's like, oh, you don't
know. We when the iceman would bring
up the ice, you know, six stories to our flat.
And I was like, what? The iceman?
I didn't know what an ice box was.
The iceman had to carry a big block of ice, he said, and we'd
have to chase the rats away so we would get the ferrets to eat
the rats. What quite nice little fit like
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to a kid in the 1980s like this is like horrific.
I don't even know ferrets could eat rats.
I didn't know a ferret in the hierarchy of rodents.
I didn't know the ferret is at the top of The Who knew and who
knew the ferrets at the top of the food chain?
And my grandfather housed them to eat the rats in the Marcy
projects. Who knew all this?
But anyway, so my father has an uncle.
His name was Joe Rivers. And I actually, just in case you
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think I'm lying, I validated allof this information with a
gentleman who I met from a vice.com article about the mob.
This gentleman's name is Christian Cipollini, and you can
find him on Instagram at Gangland.
What is it? Gangland?
Gangland Legends. He's on TikTok and Instagram at
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Gangland Legends and he was ableto verify all this.
My father has an uncle named JoeRivers AKA Giuseppe Selesi who
was a capo. He was a made man in the
Gambino, the Gambino crime family.
He also worked for Anastasia andSanto Traficante.
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My my father's uncle Joe Rivers Giuseppe Selesi was the one that
was sent to Havana, Cuba. If you've ever seen Godfather 3
or Godfather 2, my father's uncle was the one that was sent
to Havana, Cuba, to open the gambling tables and created that
whole economy up until Fidel Castro nixed the whole thing and
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shut it down. And then they moved, the mob
moved to Miami, and that's wherehe stayed doing his thing.
But I remember my father tellingme that Giuseppe Selesse uncle
did this. Joe Rivers, my father did not
have much interaction with him that he would show up at
funerals standing way in the back, showing up after the
funeral had begun. He would be in like a long dark
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trench coat, just like you see in the movies.
He would have dark sunglasses on.
But he had to stay, steer clear of the family for protective
reasons, not be seen, not be recognized.
So my father grew up with. So my father is born in
Brooklyn, raised in Paterson, NJand my mother's from Paterson,
NJ, my father from Buffalo Ave. my mother from 424 E 21st St. in
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Paterson. Now, if you know anything about
the Mafia, the mob, it's all outof that area.
For those of you who like the Real Housewives franchise,
you'll know that the Manzos, Dina Manzo and Caroline Manzo,
they married into a family that was affiliated with the mob,
which was the Manzo family. They own the brownstone in
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Paterson and my father has a great story to tell about Tiny
Manzo, Caroline and Dina's father-in-law, which would be
her husband's father and how he passed away.
Actually, I'll just tell it realquick.
So the story is that Tiny Manzo was doing deals in the Garment
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District in New York. And if you know anything about
the mob, they have certain areasthat they control and if you
don't give them the piece of it or you're not approved, you're
going to be in trouble. And tiny Manzo kept selling
garments out of his car in the area that was controlled by a
certain by a certain affiliationbranch of the mafia.
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And after being warned 3 times, they told him the next time is
going to be it. And so the story goes, he was
found, and I believe this was inthe 1960s or 70s.
You can Google it, it's in Wikipedia.
He was found in the trunk of hiscar covered in the garments that
he was selling and they cut off his member and put it in his
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mouth. And that's how his family found
him in the trunk of his. I think it was like a brand new
Cadillac or something. Not then my father knows this
guy so or knew this guy. So, and my father always said
that like Frank Angelica, like all of these guys that my father
grew up with, one of whom is JoePistone, AKA Donnie Brasco.
I, I have all of these photos. I'm going to have my podcast
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editors here, the guys that are filming this, I'm going to have
them put up some pictures of my father with Joe Pistone.
Joe Pistone was Donnie Brasco, and he is the one that Johnny
Depp played him in, in Donnie Brasco, the movie opposite Al
Pacino, and my father grew up with him.
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Now, Joe Pistone, again, all of these guys were entrenched in
the mob, but Joe Pistone in particular actually became an
FBI informant and turned evidence against the Mafia.
So even up until the picture that I'm going to show you was
an Italian American, the UNICO organization, my father had Joe
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come to Hershey and receive an award from the UNICO Italian
American organization. Even up until that time, his
family is very much kind of likethey don't use their real names.
It's kind of very undercurrent because there's still some
protective orders in place for the Pistone family based on the
fact that Joe was an FBI informant.
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But these were all of the characters that my father grew
up with and that he swirled in. And I even remember one time
when I was working at the bar atSmoke, there was an older guy
with a thick head of hair, and he used to come in all the time.
He was always hitting on me, andhe was really old.
And his name was Ray Nichols. Ray Nicholas or Ray Nichols.
And he owned, not unlike Tony Soprano, a trash refuse, you
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know, just disposal company. He was in the trash business.
And I remember at one point, youknow, everybody just knew me as
Pamela from Hershey, PA. And I said no, no, no, my
father's from here. And he said, what's your
father's name? And I said Don Capeta.
He said, your father is Donato. And I said yes.
And he said, so that makes your Uncle Frank, your Uncle Angelo,
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that that makes Frank Capeta your uncle.
And I was like, his entire demeanor changed.
Everything changed. And he said, will you tell your
father? I said hello.
And he paid for his drink. He left me an extra large tip,
and he left. And I think that was the moment
that I realized that there was alittle more going on to my
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father, my uncle, my family story.
And as I deeped over everything on ancestry.com and I'm finding
out that our name wasn't Capeta,it was Caputo before we left
Italy. I'm not really sure how it
turned into Capeta, which I, I have to say Capeta.
When I went to Italy, they were like, OK, boy, when I when I
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went in, they said you're pronouncing your name Capeta.
And they had discussed and they said the name is Capeta.
Capeta. So OK, so I'm pronouncing my
last name wrong. But there's so much to the
story. Now.
Joe Rivers is on my father's mother's side, which is the
Palermo, her niece side. But I'm still trying to pull
apart and diagnose and and kind of digest and investigate all of
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this because I believe not just breaking the generational cycle
of physical, verbal, emotional abuse is important.
I need to understand what was itthat happened to my family over
in Italy? What was it that drove them to
really escape? Was it the Faschista?
Was that just my mother's side? Was that the story?
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What led to my family leaving and why am I uncovering my
grandfather was arrested for? My great grandfather was
arrested for a heroin bust in 1921.
I don't even know they had heroin in 1921.
And he was sent to Rikers. I found his mug shot.
So there's a lot more that I need to uncover.
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And I just felt that this was a really good way.
The mafia and the sex industry. Because recently I have begun
talking to escort agencies, applying for jobs on a site
called Sexy Jobs. I am infiltrating not unlike Joe
Pistone, Donnie Brasco turned informant.
I'm investigating the sex industry because a lot of these
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guys mob and as well as just corrupt guys in Europe.
Young ones are breaking into theOF industry and they're managing
young women. They are managing escorts and if
you, if you are familiar at all with the three O 4 TikTok ghost,
go check it out. Three O 4 TikTok.
A lot of these girls are independent sex workers and they
they need someone fighting for them.
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They need someone being their mouthpiece.
They need someone exposing the men like the ones that I'm
describing that are behind the scenes, that are controlling the
escorts, that are the pimps, that are involved in human
trafficking. And if there's anything that
this podcast accomplishes, it's it's to bring a voice to these
women. And hopefully in future
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episodes, I will be bringing them on and getting them to tell
their stories and becoming more human.
It's it's not just The Dirty girl that you think is, you
know, living in New York City and squalor.
It's your next door neighbor. It's the girl you went to high
school with. You'd be surprised who's
escorting. It's the soccer mom who's bored
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or wants extra money for herself.
So I'm trying to tie all of thisin because it's not just a
1920s, nineteen forties, 1950s, sixties, 70s mentality with the
Mafia or the 80s, nineties with The Sopranos.
It's happening today. It's real, and I want to bring
some exposure to it. So I recently encountered a guy
out of Houston who owns some private sex clubs, and we had a
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series of conversations. I was doing so well with him,
thinking that I was coming to work with him until I couldn't
keep my mouth shut. Finally, he said a few things
and I put him in his place and Ispoke my mind and he was like,
he was coming to Vegas to meet me and I was going to find out
where the clubs were and how they run them and get the whole
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inside scoop. And then I just blew it at the
11th hour. I blew it.
So I'm sure he'll be listening because he knows that I do a
podcast. And although I'm not going to
mention your name, just know that I'm coming for you.
And then I have all my notes andeverything I've exposed,
everything that I learned will be exposed in future episodes.
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Try and put a hit on me. My own father tried to and he
couldn't. And that's the episode.
If you're interested in any moreof these stories, if there's
something that I touched on thatyou'd like me to go further in
depth about, tell me whether it's on Spotify underneath my
St. to Siren podcast, you can make comments of what you'd like
to hear, the questions you have.You're also welcome to write
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questions or ask me questions underneath my YouTube videos,
also St. to Siren, the fandom master class.
My Instagram is also St. to Siren as well as my TikTok.
I wouldn't ask me specific questions on anything adult sex
or three or four related on TikTok.
I would stick to the podcast, the Spotify and Instagram and
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YouTube tube, but I'm always looking for feedback.
I'm always looking for questions.
The reason I did this episode was because you had requested
that I go further into how I ended up in this life.
And I think it was a foregone conclusion, given my family
history that I ended up here. The irony and the picture that I
will post of my father in the 1970s with the Playboy Bunny
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sitting on his lap with a cigarette and a pinky ring.
I think it was a foregone conclusion that the thread of
mafia and criminal activity and sex work would all eventually
find their way into my lexicon. So my book is available on
Amazon. I think it's free on Kindle.
They're scalping it on eBay for three times the price is so
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better off to go to Barnes and Noble or Amazon to find it.
And thank you for tuning in. I will be recording episode 4
next week so your feedback is super important so I know what
you want covered. Bye bye.
And then of course the clothes all came off and it was just
money, sex and just House of illrepute all over the place.
But this is where something I often talk about how men, their
first early experience with a dominant woman, will hard lock
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something in their psyche where they become forever addicted to
that intoxicating mix of a woman, a strong, beautiful woman
overpowering them, dominating them, telling them what to do.
Hi, my name is Pamela. I am professionally known as the
Violatrix. I am a 20 year Finn Dom.
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I am on tech talk at St. #2 Siren.
I am the author of the ultimate financial domination guide,
which just so you know, I'm going to give my big disclaimer
here. This book is not the salacious
back story. That's episode 3 that I'm
filming today. That's about, that's what you're
about to hear. This book is a guide for the
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women who found me on TikTok, who asked me to come out from
the shadows to explain how I do what I do so that they too could
learn how to do it. Much to my shock, it was women
from all walks of life. It wasn't just young girls who
wanted to learn. It was like Wall Street
executives, doctors, lawyers. I was very surprised.
So my next book will have the salacious back story.
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I'm going to touch on a lot of that today, but I also wanted to
explain to you who my viewershipis, who my followers are, and
who this podcast is for. And I have two types of clients.
I have two types of people who follow me.
I have the men who want to be dominated, the submissive men.
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They are alpha by day, corporateexecutives, doctors, lawyers,
famous sports guys, athletes. And then I have the women who
follow me who kind of discoveredme and I grew with kind of this
cult following out of nowhere again on TikTok for the women
who want to learn how to do whatI do.
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So I do on my website, The Violatrix IX, the VIOLATRI
x.com. You can book an appointment with
me, a consultation, whether you're a woman wanting to do
this or whether you're a man whowants to be severely dominated.
Today's episode episode 3 is themafia and the sex industry, also
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known on TikTok as the three O 4industry.
In case you didn't know my particular back story which was
asked of me to revealed my back story underneath on my podcast
on Spotify. You can make comments about my
episodes and I was asked by several women to explain how a
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nice girl from Hershey, PA ends up becoming a global sensation
dominatrix. And that's what I'm going to
tell you today. I was 33 years old originally
from Hershey, PA, a nice ItalianAmerican.
Both my parents were Italian American, nice Italian American
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girl from a small town Hershey and lived a very kind of good
girl life. I did what my parents told me to
do. I was a rule follower.
I'm the youngest of three now. I had decided at the age of 33
after moving back from New Jersey where I went to college
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and I was also a bartender. I was the head bartender at kind
of a Speakeasy type place. It was mob controlled, mob owned
and that was in Englewood, NJ and it was called Smoke and it
was a like a six seat bar and itwas like a cigar and cognac bar.
All the servers were men and I was was the only woman employed
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in the restaurant as the bartender.
So when I left and came back to Pennsylvania, when I left New
Jersey, left college, left everything behind and I got into
a corporate career. I had become an admissions
director for a College in Pennsylvania.
I ended up in very quickly rising to from admissions
representative to director of admissions within less than two
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years. I found great personal
professional success and I bought 3 rental properties and I
was doing very well for myself. So this is by the age of 33 I
had decided I didn't believe in marriage.
I didn't want to be married, butI was ready to be a mother.
It should have not surprised me that this might not be In Sync
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with my father's vision for my future.
So at the age of 33, with my three rental properties and my
burgeoning career, corporate career, my father found out that
I was pregnant and bankrupted me.
And that's the story I'm going to tell you.
So I was owning my 3 properties.I was in the middle of showing
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one of my properties. I was about 7 1/2 months
pregnant, very visible belly, and I'm outside one of my
properties. All three of my properties were
in historical downtown Harrisburg, right?
All three of them were in the 100 block.
Two of them were on Riley St. and one was on her street, and
they were absolutely beautiful historicals.
If you know anything about Harrisburg, PA, there's just
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amazing history and architecture, and I'm very drawn
to those things. I have a love of historical
architecture. My father also didn't like that
growing up in the Marcy projectsin Brooklyn, he hated anything
that resembled that. So I'm in front of my house
showing one of my properties to a prospective tenant, a really
lovely girl. And I hear this and I flip my
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head around. I've got a clipboard, you know,
I'm pointing at the property. And the girl is like taking it
all in. And I turn around.
And my father, who's kind of like a cross between like
Frankie Avalon and like any of those old, like, 1940s fifties
singers, like the really cute ones, he's kind of a cross
between that and Joe Pesci. That's like the best way I could
describe it. And he gets out of his car and
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he starts screaming and he's spitting and he's biting his
knuckle. He's I'm going to fucking kill
you. I'm going to fucking kill you,
you fucking whore. And I'm like, and my eyes pop
out of my head and the tenant runs and he starts running
towards me and I've got the clipboard and now I run behind
his car and he's kind of chasingme around the car.
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It was like something out of a, like a movie.
It was like Shameless meets The Sopranos meets I don't know
what, and he's biting his knuckle and he's spitting and he
can't get me because I'm like behind the car.
I'm like, what? What's the problem?
And he's like, you're having a baby out of wedlock.
I'll fucking ruin you if you don't terminate this pregnancy.
I'll fucking bankrupt you. I'll fucking ruin you.
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And now bear in mind, I'd never done a single thing wrong in my
life, so this was kind of shocking.
So as he's trying to chase me and I'm ducking behind the car
people from the PIADA building, which is the Pennsylvania
independent auto dealers whom heused to do their financial
planning. My father was on Wall Street.
He became a financial planner, had his own practice, his own
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business for many years, DC competitive and associates.
And all these people come out, they're like someone call the
cops. I'm like, that's OK.
That's the guy who handles your retirement plan.
So at one point he takes off like his $700.00 Italian loafer
and he chucks it at me and I duck and he's just still trying
to get me to, I think, terminatemy pregnancy.
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It's that that part is really, still really not clear.
Fast forward couple of months, my father had gotten POA over my
my properties, which means powerof attorney.
My father was always doing dirtydeals with banks and in this
particular case he had to deal with a bank and needed to bring
them business. So he came to me and said I need
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power of attorney over your businesses.
I was like, why? And he said because I want to
wrap your three residential mortgages into a commercial
mortgage. It'll benefit you.
It'll benefit you Pammy. And I was like, that doesn't
sound like it's going to benefitme.
You're taking 3 subprime mortgages with like 3-4 hundred
dollar payments and you're wrapping it into one commercial
payment on the 1st of the month,$3000 a month.
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I said my my rentals don't run that way.
And he's like, are you questioning me?
You're going to fucking do what I told you.
OK OK, So I gave him power of attorney.
I had forgotten when I am, you know, standing here 7 1/2 months
pregnant with my properties and the whole thing, I had forgotten
I'd given him power of attorney.Fast forward, he did in fact,
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bankrupt, bankrupt me. I lost my homes, all three of
them, and my car in one fell swoop of his pen.
And he ended up selling my homesto the guy who managed.
My dad used to own Fuddruckers restaurant in Hershey, PA,
across from the Medical Center. And he like strong armed his
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manager to buy the houses. Oh, you need this, You need a
tax shelter. And he did.
And I was evicted with 24 hours notice.
So let's go back to how my father became this way, why he
became this way, and how this ties into how I became a
dominatrix. My father had a lot of anger,
being an Italian American, facing a lot of criticism, a lot
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of discrimination, and a lot of Americans don't know that
Italians were lower than any ethnic group on the totem pole,
especially during World War 2, during Hitler, and in particular
my family ended up in America because of Hitler.
When the Fascista and the Gestapo took over Italy and the
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the fascism, the fascist movement swept through Italy, my
family saw horrific crimes. One particular story was my
great grandfather had walked into a Barber shop and the
fascista, the fascist had walkedin and they were like five guys
lined up in Barber chairs and they just came in and shot each
one of them in the back of the head.
The blood started rolling down the sidewalk of the Italian
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cobblestone streets. And my great grandfather came
home and said, that's it, we're going to America.
So my father had this big kind of hard on his whole life.
You know, he got his master's degree.
He became very distinguished. And but there was always a
thread of anger and there was always a thread.
And I didn't really know this because my parents didn't talk
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about it. All I knew is that we weren't to
speak Italian in the house because we had to become
Americanized. Although they didn't change my
last our last name, which happened to a lot of Italians,
My parents did very much Americanized my brothers Glenn,
my sisters Jennifer and I'm Pamela.
They tried to drop as much of the Italian as possible so that
we could integrate they we had just become white in any census
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data. If I look back at my immigration
records of my great grandparents, they were all
listed as mulatto. And so there is a very angry
thread that runs through many Italian Americans at that time
that came up, baby boomers during World War 2, that they
had to prove something. They had to become just like all
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American white bread men, becomeCE OS business owners and
distinguished members of society, joining all sorts of
civic organizations, which my father did.
He was very politically minded as well as philanthropically
minded, and looking back now, I just thought he was a great guy.
I see now that there was an absolute path and a mission,
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almost a vendetta against what people said he was.
I remember my parents saying if you ever go to a friend's house
and they use the word Italian, get out of the house
immediately. I didn't know what it meant, but
the discrimination that my parents had faced was far worse
than anything I did growing up in 1970s white bread.
Hershey, PA. Although I was kind of the
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darkest kid in my class. So with that said, it kind of
could explain to you how some ofwhat happened.
And a lot of this. I'm writing my next book, which
is going to be the Salacious Tell All, and it will have much
more detail about this. But I think it's important for
people to understand why and howsomething a person can become so
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angry and can become so determined to dispel and lose an
ethnic stereotype. And this was definitely playing
into it. So as I was in College in the
1990s, I had quit college. I had gone to College in
Pittsburgh, quit college when mymother got sick, she I became
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her medical caregiver. She passed from cancer.
And then years later I went back.
So I was late going back to college and I took a job as a
bartender, as I mentioned in Smoke in Englewood, NJ.
Now, what was cool about Smoke was this was during the 1990's,
The Sopranos had just hit kind of the social forefront.
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It had become part of the the lexicon of everything that was
happening in America and in pop culture, let alone I was at
Ground Zero of it. So, for example, while the
restaurant was in Englewood, NJ,and a lot of The Sopranos actors
were coming into our restaurant,very high end restaurant, very
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kind of bougie. Jon Jon Stewart from The Daily
Show was coming in, Aiden Quinn,Madonna's boyfriend and
desperately Seeking Susan, you know, Stevie Wonder and a lot of
the vaudeville actors and old 1940s singers because the Screen
Actors Guild retirement home wasright down the street at that
time. So it was a really amazing time
to be in New Jersey, be bartending and be at the
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forefront of this scene. So smoke was.
So I was going to say that when when we would leave the bar or
we would close the restaurant atthe end of the night.
Again, I'm the only female employed in the restaurant.
The servers were all men and sometimes they'd like to have a
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cocktail afterwards. Well, the only place that was
open was Satin Dolls over in, I think it was Hackensack.
It was just passed Fort Lee. It was Hackensack, NJ.
The irony was it was a strip club and that's where the guys
would like to take me for a drink and they loved it.
They all had, you know, big laughs because they enjoyed
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buying me lap dances. And you have to remember our
restaurant was a pool house. So if somebody ordered, you
know, 710 thousand dollar, $15,000 bottle of wine, our tip
outs were insane. The money that we were making
was utterly insane. So we would go over to satin
dolls and have a drink. But the irony of this was or
they the tie in is that Satin dolls strip club was the Bada
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Bing club. It's where they were filming the
Bada Bing, which was Tony Sopranos kind of like, you know,
storefront or behind the scenes for his capos in The Sopranos.
So we were there and they're filming stuff was all there and
it was kind of cool. So again, I'm still a very
innocent. All of this leads up to be
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becoming this hardened dominatrix.
But bear in mind I'm still my nice innocent Catholic girl from
Hershey, PA. Both my parents are from New
Jersey, so I'm very familiar with the area.
We had a summer house in New Jersey and I am new to smoke as
a bartender. Very prestigious position by the
way, in, in Northern Jersey, NewYork City, a bartender, little
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and a head bartender is a very prestigious position.
It's usually a very pretty girl and she has a strong command of
presence. She's able to speak to the
higher clientele and build a business not unlike any other,
like a hairdresser, Dr. Laurie, whatever it is, regular
patients, you're building your regular clientele and these are
high rolling clientele. So this was a very important
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position and I loved it. But I and and I was selling
none. I had like A7 drawer humidor
behind the bar. I had sold single malt scotches
and cognacs and trying to learn the wine list.
It was it was incredible. It was it was a real crash
course in bourge in upper crust lifestyle.
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I remember my top shelf liqueur was a cognac and it was called
pre Phyloxora and I think it wasabout 12,000 a glass.
Only George, the owner of our restaurant, was able to pour it.
You had to get on a ladder to get this decanter and it was
only ordered by either rappers or somebody, some sports famous
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athlete or, you know, somebody who had really something to
prove. But I'd seen it poured a few
times pre Phyloxura. Pre Phyloxura Cognac was, I
guess there was an aphid that ate through the cognac vineyards
in the late 1800s, early 1900s, and this particular cognac was
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made pre Phyloxora before this aphid ate through those
vineyards. So it was very coveted, very
bougie, very expensive, and it was a big deal.
So that's the type of bar that it was.
So now that I'm giving you the background and what this looked
like, Smoke was a tiny restaurant, very elegant.
Again, looked like a Speakeasy. I remember an old singer, jazz
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singer from the 1940s. She was still alive.
Her name was Kitty Kalin. And they had an old record
player in the back. And when she would come in, they
would put on her records and shewould sit in the back.
And it was, it was just a reallycool thing to see as well as
again, all the vaudeville actorsand actresses would come in.
So the guys come up to me one night and they say, put this in
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the front window behind your bar.
And I said, what is it? They said, it's our next smoker.
And I said, well, what's a smoker?
And they all looked at each other, winked and grinned.
And I knew there was like, I was, I wasn't in on the joke.
Now I was like the butt of the joke.
And I was like, what's a smoker?They're like, you'll see.
So I'm reading the poster and it's basically says, you know,
it's like a $700.00 a plate dinner.
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It's private, it's exclusive. It's, you know, there's only a
certain amount of limited seats available.
And it was something like, you know, A7 course meal where the
gentleman would come in and theywould have the opportunity to
taste certain dishes, certain single malt Scotch, single malt
Scotch and certain wines. They were featuring with a
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sommelier doing a presentation. And then they would be bringing
in some lingerie that the men could buy for their wives.
I was like, oh, that's nice. That's so lovely.
The night of the smoker came andI was told to wear something
particularly sexy. And there was there was a there
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was an air of like tension, excitement, anticipation,
anticipation in the restaurant. I remember the head chef Michael
coming out and he was being veryparticular about how to serve
this, how to. There was just a lot of buzz in
the restaurant that I hadn't seen before.
And all of the sudden, George, the owner and several of the the
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maitre DI can't remember his name right now.
And some of the servers went up and they drew the blinds and
pulled the drapes in the front of the restaurant.
And they began to hold the door open.
And they're all looking out on the street.
And three limousines pull up from Scores.
And if you watch my previous episodes of my podcast, you'll
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understand how Scores later endsup playing a big role in my life
and how I ended up in phone sex and then domination.
The three limousines pull up with bodyguards and they begin
letting the women out of the limousines.
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And they get out and they start walking in and the bodyguards
escort them. These warm women.
These women walk into the restaurant past my bar.
Now I'm I'm like 5, five and a half.
I'm in 4 inch stilettos behind the bar and I was in really good
shape. I was in my late 20s at that
point. These women walk in and I'm like
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this. I'd never seen anything like
this. These were the most beautiful
women I'd ever seen in my life. They were already 56595859511
but they are in 6 inch platform stilettos so they're like I'm
looking up to them. They are tiny, they are fit,
they have long wigs and extensions and the most
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beautiful bodies. And the black women, black
women, white women, Latina, every race, creed, color,
ethnicity, and they're just walking in one.
And I was a little girl who played with Barbies.
This was like watching a stream of actual Barbies walk right
past me. And they smelled so good and
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they were dressed so pretty. So each of the women gets
assigned to a table. And now they close the doors and
the bodyguards come in and they're all lined up standing
the front. And each of the women gets
assigned to a table. They're taking off their furs.
And now they're revealing their,their garters, their pantyhose,
their glimmering, shimmering outfits bedazzled, you know,
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thongs and body suits and bikinis.
And I was just, I was absolutely, it was a sensory
moment for me. I will never forget.
It was intoxicating. I was absolutely, I was equal
parts shocked, mesmerized and seduced by the whole scene.
So what ends up happening is themen, the High Roller men, the
clients, the the restaurant clients start coming in and they
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begin coming in and they've got assigned seats.
They're all looking for their name cards and they sit down.
These men indulge in this insanely beautiful first class
meal of wine, cognac, single malt Scotch, the most beautiful
meats and pastas and seafood, all of it.
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And then they finish it off with, I can't remember what if
it was Cohiba cigars, if it was Arturo Fuente, I can't remember.
Macanudo, I don't remember what the cigars were.
But they finished off the cigars.
And then the girls who had been kind of walking through while
they're eating, each one of them, a bodyguard, takes their
hand, puts them up on the table.They're standing up on the table
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and now 1 by 1, the music's playing, the music's blaring,
and they begin stripping off their lingerie while these men
are throwing thousands of dollars at them, buying off the
lingerie from the dancers, whichI guess correlated to you can
buy your wife beautiful lingerieand take it home to her.
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OK, gross, but OK, that's what it was.
So this is how they got away with doing something like this
in this family restaurant that they, the guys would come in and
bring their wives. The wives had no idea what was
going on. And I could tell you a story or
two about some things that went on the wine room, in the
bathroom downstairs with a few celebrities.
But I think I will save that fora later date nonetheless.
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This moment of me seeing these women, seeing the power they
had, watching these wealthy men throw $100 bills at them for
hours. And the amount the stacks of
cash that these women left with the stacks of cash in their in
their garters, stuffed in their boots, just hanging from them
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because, you know, the guys are putting the $100 bills like all
around their thongs and everything.
And then of course, the clothes all came off and it was just
money, sex and just House of illrepute all over the place.
But this is where something I often talk about, how men, their
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first early experience with a dominant woman, will hard lock
something in their psyche where they become forever addicted to
that intoxicating mix of a woman, a strong, beautiful
woman. Overpowering them, dominating
them, telling them what to do. By the same token, when this
smoker happened and these glamazons from Scores were
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parading in front of me, first in thongs, then fully naked, is
something hard locked in my psyche?
This is where the power is. This is where the money is.
This is it. And of course, while I didn't
set out to do it when my father ended up now we go back to the
other story when my father endedup bankrupting me and I stumbled
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upon that ad in the New York Times for Scores looking to open
their chat Hostess division, their online Playmate webcam
model division. I immediately remembered think
that hard luck of that moment ofseeing that intoxicating power,
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that beautiful display of what awoman in her ultimate divine,
ultimate divine feminine, the power she can wield, the things
she can do, these powerful men that were at her feet.
And I was like, why not? How can I not do this?
But I can get just a piece of that.
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I want it, and I did. So there's so much more I can
tell you. My father growing up.
So my father's born in the MarcyProjects in 1941 in Brooklyn.
Marcy Projects is where Jay-Z sings about that.
He grew up in the Marcy Projects.
Extremely dangerous. They were equally as dangerous
in 1941, if not even more so. I remember my grandfather would
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carry around a bayonet from the,that this is the story.
My grandfather would carry around a bayonet from the French
and Indian War, and that's how he would ward off the neighbors.
And I remember being told the stories of how that the, I
remember being at Thanksgiving dinner, my grandfather, my Papa,
we called him Papa, but Danny Capeta, he didn't have any
teeth. I have pictures of him on my
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Instagram. I'll have to show you guys.
He was as big around as he was tall.
He was beautiful. He looked like Rudolph Valentino
when he was younger and then older.
He looked like your typical Italian, like Chef Boyardee.
Grandpa. And I remember Papa sitting at
the Thanksgiving table at some point in the 80s talking about
the ferrets. And I was like, Papa, how do you
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even know what a ferret is? And he's like, oh, you don't
know. We when the iceman would bring
up the ice, you know, six stories to our flat.
And I was like, what? The iceman?
I didn't know what an ice box was.
The iceman had to carry a big block of ice, he said, and we'd
have to chase the rats away so we would get the ferrets to eat
the rats. What quite nice little fit like
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to a kid in the 1980s like this is like horrific.
I don't even know ferrets could eat rats.
I didn't know a ferret in the hierarchy of rodents.
I didn't know the ferret is at the top of The Who knew and who
knew the ferrets at the top of the food chain?
And my grandfather housed them to eat the rats in the Marcy
projects. Who knew all this?
But anyway, so my father has an uncle.
His name was Joe Rivers. And I actually, just in case you
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think I'm lying, I validated allof this information with a
gentleman who I met from a vice.com article about the mob.
This gentleman's name is Christian Cipollini, and you can
find him on Instagram at Gangland.
What is it? Gangland?
Gangland Legends. He's on TikTok and Instagram at
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Gangland Legends and he was ableto verify all this.
My father has an uncle named JoeRivers AKA Giuseppe Selesi who
was a capo. He was a made man in the
Gambino, the Gambino crime family.
He also worked for Anastasia andSanto Traficante.
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My my father's uncle Joe Rivers Giuseppe Selesi was the one that
was sent to Havana, Cuba. If you've ever seen Godfather 3
or Godfather 2, my father's uncle was the one that was sent
to Havana, Cuba, to open the gambling tables and created that
whole economy up until Fidel Castro nixed the whole thing and
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shut it down. And then they moved, the mob
moved to Miami, and that's wherehe stayed doing his thing.
But I remember my father tellingme that Giuseppe Selesse uncle
did this. Joe Rivers, my father did not
have much interaction with him that he would show up at
funerals standing way in the back, showing up after the
funeral had begun. He would be in like a long dark
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trench coat, just like you see in the movies.
He would have dark sunglasses on.
But he had to stay, steer clear of the family for protective
reasons, not be seen, not be recognized.
So my father grew up with. So my father is born in
Brooklyn, raised in Paterson, NJand my mother's from Paterson,
NJ, my father from Buffalo Ave. my mother from 424 E 21st St. in
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Paterson. Now, if you know anything about
the Mafia, the mob, it's all outof that area.
For those of you who like the Real Housewives franchise,
you'll know that the Manzos, Dina Manzo and Caroline Manzo,
they married into a family that was affiliated with the mob,
which was the Manzo family. They own the brownstone in
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Paterson and my father has a great story to tell about Tiny
Manzo, Caroline and Dina's father-in-law, which would be
her husband's father and how he passed away.
Actually, I'll just tell it realquick.
So the story is that Tiny Manzo was doing deals in the Garment
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District in New York. And if you know anything about
the mob, they have certain areasthat they control and if you
don't give them the piece of it or you're not approved, you're
going to be in trouble. And tiny Manzo kept selling
garments out of his car in the area that was controlled by a
certain by a certain affiliationbranch of the mafia.
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And after being warned 3 times, they told him the next time is
going to be it. And so the story goes, he was
found, and I believe this was inthe 1960s or 70s.
You can Google it, it's in Wikipedia.
He was found in the trunk of hiscar covered in the garments that
he was selling and they cut off his member and put it in his
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mouth. And that's how his family found
him in the trunk of his. I think it was like a brand new
Cadillac or something. Not then my father knows this
guy so or knew this guy. So, and my father always said
that like Frank Angelica, like all of these guys that my father
grew up with, one of whom is JoePistone, AKA Donnie Brasco.
I, I have all of these photos. I'm going to have my podcast
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editors here, the guys that are filming this, I'm going to have
them put up some pictures of my father with Joe Pistone.
Joe Pistone was Donnie Brasco, and he is the one that Johnny
Depp played him in, in Donnie Brasco, the movie opposite Al
Pacino, and my father grew up with him.
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Now, Joe Pistone, again, all of these guys were entrenched in
the mob, but Joe Pistone in particular actually became an
FBI informant and turned evidence against the Mafia.
So even up until the picture that I'm going to show you was
an Italian American, the UNICO organization, my father had Joe
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come to Hershey and receive an award from the UNICO Italian
American organization. Even up until that time, his
family is very much kind of likethey don't use their real names.
It's kind of very undercurrent because there's still some
protective orders in place for the Pistone family based on the
fact that Joe was an FBI informant.
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But these were all of the characters that my father grew
up with and that he swirled in. And I even remember one time
when I was working at the bar atSmoke, there was an older guy
with a thick head of hair, and he used to come in all the time.
He was always hitting on me, andhe was really old.
And his name was Ray Nichols. Ray Nicholas or Ray Nichols.
And he owned, not unlike Tony Soprano, a trash refuse, you
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know, just disposal company. He was in the trash business.
And I remember at one point, youknow, everybody just knew me as
Pamela from Hershey, PA. And I said no, no, no, my
father's from here. And he said, what's your
father's name? And I said Don Capeta.
He said, your father is Donato. And I said yes.
And he said, so that makes your Uncle Frank, your Uncle Angelo,
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that that makes Frank Capeta your uncle.
And I was like, his entire demeanor changed.
Everything changed. And he said, will you tell your
father? I said hello.
And he paid for his drink. He left me an extra large tip,
and he left. And I think that was the moment
that I realized that there was alittle more going on to my
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father, my uncle, my family story.
And as I deeped over everything on ancestry.com and I'm finding
out that our name wasn't Capeta,it was Caputo before we left
Italy. I'm not really sure how it
turned into Capeta, which I, I have to say Capeta.
When I went to Italy, they were like, OK, boy, when I when I
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went in, they said you're pronouncing your name Capeta.
And they had discussed and they said the name is Capeta.
Capeta. So OK, so I'm pronouncing my
last name wrong. But there's so much to the
story. Now.
Joe Rivers is on my father's mother's side, which is the
Palermo, her niece side. But I'm still trying to pull
apart and diagnose and and kind of digest and investigate all of
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this because I believe not just breaking the generational cycle
of physical, verbal, emotional abuse is important.
I need to understand what was itthat happened to my family over
in Italy? What was it that drove them to
really escape? Was it the Faschista?
Was that just my mother's side? Was that the story?
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What led to my family leaving and why am I uncovering my
grandfather was arrested for? My great grandfather was
arrested for a heroin bust in 1921.
I don't even know they had heroin in 1921.
And he was sent to Rikers. I found his mug shot.
So there's a lot more that I need to uncover.
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And I just felt that this was a really good way.
The mafia and the sex industry. Because recently I have begun
talking to escort agencies, applying for jobs on a site
called Sexy Jobs. I am infiltrating not unlike Joe
Pistone, Donnie Brasco turned informant.
I'm investigating the sex industry because a lot of these
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guys mob and as well as just corrupt guys in Europe.
Young ones are breaking into theOF industry and they're managing
young women. They are managing escorts and if
you, if you are familiar at all with the three O 4 TikTok ghost,
go check it out. Three O 4 TikTok.
A lot of these girls are independent sex workers and they
they need someone fighting for them.
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They need someone being their mouthpiece.
They need someone exposing the men like the ones that I'm
describing that are behind the scenes, that are controlling the
escorts, that are the pimps, that are involved in human
trafficking. And if there's anything that
this podcast accomplishes, it's it's to bring a voice to these
women. And hopefully in future
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episodes, I will be bringing them on and getting them to tell
their stories and becoming more human.
It's it's not just The Dirty girl that you think is, you
know, living in New York City and squalor.
It's your next door neighbor. It's the girl you went to high
school with. You'd be surprised who's
escorting. It's the soccer mom who's bored
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or wants extra money for herself.
So I'm trying to tie all of thisin because it's not just a
1920s, nineteen forties, 1950s, sixties, 70s mentality with the
Mafia or the 80s, nineties with The Sopranos.
It's happening today. It's real, and I want to bring
some exposure to it. So I recently encountered a guy
out of Houston who owns some private sex clubs, and we had a
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series of conversations. I was doing so well with him,
thinking that I was coming to work with him until I couldn't
keep my mouth shut. Finally, he said a few things
and I put him in his place and Ispoke my mind and he was like,
he was coming to Vegas to meet me and I was going to find out
where the clubs were and how they run them and get the whole
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inside scoop. And then I just blew it at the
11th hour. I blew it.
So I'm sure he'll be listening because he knows that I do a
podcast. And although I'm not going to
mention your name, just know that I'm coming for you.
And then I have all my notes andeverything I've exposed,
everything that I learned will be exposed in future episodes.
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Try and put a hit on me. My own father tried to and he
couldn't. And that's the episode.
If you're interested in any moreof these stories, if there's
something that I touched on thatyou'd like me to go further in
depth about, tell me whether it's on Spotify underneath my
St. to Siren podcast, you can make comments of what you'd like
to hear, the questions you have.You're also welcome to write
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questions or ask me questions underneath my YouTube videos,
also St. to Siren, the fandom master class.
My Instagram is also St. to Siren as well as my TikTok.
I wouldn't ask me specific questions on anything adult sex
or three or four related on TikTok.
I would stick to the podcast, the Spotify and Instagram and
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YouTube tube, but I'm always looking for feedback.
I'm always looking for questions.
The reason I did this episode was because you had requested
that I go further into how I ended up in this life.
And I think it was a foregone conclusion, given my family
history that I ended up here. The irony and the picture that I
will post of my father in the 1970s with the Playboy Bunny
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sitting on his lap with a cigarette and a pinky ring.
I think it was a foregone conclusion that the thread of
mafia and criminal activity and sex work would all eventually
find their way into my lexicon. So my book is available on
Amazon. I think it's free on Kindle.
They're scalping it on eBay for three times the price is so
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better off to go to Barnes and Noble or Amazon to find it.
And thank you for tuning in. I will be recording episode 4
next week so your feedback is super important so I know what
you want covered. Bye bye.
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