February 23, 2025 • 16 mins
Discover the transformative journey of instilling discipline and structure in a young life as I reflect on my experiences with my stepson Mason. Through personal stories and heartfelt conversations, learn how an environment of discipline, routine, and positive influence has empowered him to navigate a world filled with distractions and peer pressure. This episode promises actionable insights into building a successful life, likened to tending a garden where the seeds of effort and hard work eventually blossom into significant achievements.
Join me as I highlight the essential role that discipline, sobriety, and continuous learning play in personal growth. You'll hear about the advice I give Mason, including the importance of waking early and committing to routines that foster self-belief and internal strength. Together, we explore the power of surrounding ourselves with people who challenge and inspire us to be better, creating environments where creativity and encouragement thrive. Share these insights with those you care about, and embark on a journey toward a more rewarding and successful life, ensuring the seeds you plant today yield a bountiful harvest tomorrow.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
A young boy with support and structure in the
household will thrive in life.
A lot of people.
They don't develop discipline,they don't have self-control,
they don't have structure earlyon and so as they get older it's
hard to develop that type ofmentality.
The foundation is personaldevelopment.
If you apply these fourconcepts into your life, I
guarantee in five years you willbe a vastly superior version of
yourself Oftentimes the mostimportant things in life.
(00:21):
The results are delayed andthat's why a lot of people quit
and give up and they never getto where they want to go.
It's like a garden you plantthose seeds, you water them, you
nurture them, you do everythingthat you can and when the
timing is right, they're goingto start to sprout and show
evidence of all that effort andhard work.
(00:44):
Welcome back to another episodeof the Unstoppable Mindset
Podcast.
I'm your host, sean Crane.
Thank you for tuning in.
I got a really, reallyimpactful, important message
today for you guys.
So if you're somebody who's aparent, if you're a leader in a
business or you just want tolevel up in your own life, this
is going to be a super valuablemessage.
So make sure you hit thatsubscribe button.
Share this with a friend orfamily member, and you know my
(01:05):
saying.
I always tell you, guys, I'mgoing to change the world, but
I'm just one man and I need yourhelp.
I need your support.
I need us to do it together.
That's how we're going tochange the world.
So the other day I was having aconversation with my son, mason,
who's 14.
He's actually my stepson,technically right, and a little
context there being a quoteunquote stepdad.
Coming into a young boy's lifewhere you're not his biological
(01:27):
father, it creates differenttypes of challenges than just
raising your biological child.
I have two children that arebiologically mine and Mason's my
stepson, and I love them dearly, like my children are
everything to me.
But, being a quote unquotestepdad, there's certain
challenges imposed upon you thatyou have to learn to deal with
and how to navigate, and so I'vealways been very cognizant of
(01:48):
that and wanting to just provideMason with the best leadership,
the best amount of guidance Icould in his life, the most love
and just to be a father figurefor him, you know.
But we've grown closer throughthose ups and downs.
Now he's 14.
He's getting ready to go intohigh school.
We just went and looked at aprivate school here in Santa
Barbara that we're going to sendhim to, and I'm just talking to
him often about like thingsthat he can start to do now or
(02:09):
changes he can make now in hislife that will set him up for
success later on, because theopposite happens for a lot of
kids.
They start off with these smalllittle mistakes or errors or
habits and over time, that wayof life, you know it sets them
up at a disadvantage.
And so there's four things thatI really talked to Mason about
consistently that also apply toyou in your life if you want to
truly hit that next level.
(02:31):
But before I share those fourthings with you, something
really special happened theother day.
You know, first we went andtoured the school Jessica, my
wife and I and Mason.
Then he had to go and take anassessment test for three hours
math, english reading,comprehension, everything and he
came home and he had this grinon his face and he goes hey,
they asked me to write aboutsomebody in my life who was
really inspiring.
And he goes Sean, I wrote aboutyou.
(02:51):
I wrote about how you teach methings, how you spend time with
us, how you're successful, howyou talk to me about discipline
and why it's important, andfitness and health and all the
stuff that we discuss and dude,that was such a profound moment
for me because a lot of timesespecially with children or just
any endeavor in life we'reputting forth effort, we're
trying, we're giving our bestand sometimes you don't see the
results right away.
(03:11):
Oftentimes the most importantthings in life, the results are
delayed and that's why a lot ofpeople quit and give up and they
never get to where they want togo is because they don't think
it's working, they don't thinkit's going to pan out down the
road.
But when it's your children, ofcourse you'll do anything for
them, right?
So the way I describe it topeople, it's like a garden you
plant those seeds, you waterthem, you nurture them, you do
(03:32):
everything that you can and whenthe timing is right, they're
going to start to sprout andshow evidence of all that effort
and hard work.
And that's what I saw in Masonin that moment.
And don't get me wrong, youknow, a couple of days later he
got in trouble for something andhe showed me he's still 14 and
immature and he still needs mysupport, my wife's support, but
it was just really cool to hearthat he is acknowledging and
absorbing the discussions we'rehaving and the principles that
(03:55):
I'm teaching him.
And it's not easy with a 14year old, you know, and he's
going to school and there's alot of influences there and
friends and peer pressure andhe's still figuring out who he
is as a young man, going throughpuberty and changing Like
there's a lot of challenges atthat age.
So on one hand I'mcompassionate and empathetic but
on the other hand I got toteach him about discipline and
structure and make sure I'mthere to support him.
(04:16):
A young boy with support andstructure in the household will
thrive in life.
A lot of people they don'tdevelop discipline, they don't
have self-control, they don'thave structure early on and so
as they get older it's hard todevelop that type of mentality.
Most of the guys I coach andteach they just lack discipline,
they lack grit, they can't getshit done.
They're capable but they'refucking weak.
They're weak because it's beena habit and a precedent as to
(04:38):
how they operate in their lives.
And you have someone that goesthrough tough times or someone
that has an athletic backgroundand they played sports and they
were competitive in high school.
That person has an advantagelater on in life because they
had structure early on, they haddiscipline early on and that
changed the way that theyoperate from a mental standpoint
.
So here are four things that Itold Mason that if he starts
doing right now, he's going tobe successful in his life.
(04:59):
He always asked me hey, whatcan I do to be successful?
I don't want to get a nine tofive and be broke and struggling
all the time Like what can I do?
What can I do Now?
True success from a materialstandpoint is much further off
in the distance for him.
You know he's going to have todevelop skill sets.
He's going to have to learnabout business, learn about
managing money, delegating,leading people, all these things
that we do in business.
But the foundation is personaldevelopment.
(05:20):
So I told him at 14, if youstart doing these things right
now, it's going to set you upfor success in life.
And this goes for you listeningto this episode.
If you're not doing thesethings, you're you're sabotaging
your potential.
If you apply these fourconcepts into your life, I
guarantee in five years you willbe a vastly superior version of
yourself, guaranteed.
Number one I told Mason get upearly in the morning and go to
(05:41):
the gym with me every single day.
Okay, and the reason for thatis because it's hard.
It's difficult and on the otherend of that endeavor is massive
amounts of discipline, forgeand belief in yourself.
When you get up early andyou're tired and you don't want
to even get out of bed, and youcan get yourself up out of bed
and you can push yourself to goto the gym and do a challenging
(06:01):
workout, you develop so manyinternal attributes that will
lead to success later on in life.
First of all, the guy that canget out of bed at four or five
in the morning while it's stilldark out, he has a why.
A person, a man or woman with astrong enough why is always
going to find a how.
I say that all the time.
What I mean by that is thatperson is keenly aware of why
they're getting out of bed.
They have some purpose, somedrive, some mission that they're
(06:23):
on.
That is more important thanthat extra hour of sleep.
The people that hit snoozethey're not connected on that
level and they're sabotagingtheir potential, because those
days and moments add up and theway you do things consistently
over time determines who youbecome.
So a couple of times hittingsnooze per week doesn't seem
like a lot, but it adds up overthe course of 10 years.
And so I told Mason, if you canfigure out how to get your butt
(06:44):
up early in the morning and youcan paint a picture with your
mind as to who that's going tohelp you to become down the road
, and you see these scenariosand these results and you almost
paint this picture with yourmind that's going to compel you
to get up each and every day.
That's powerful, that'sinternal, that's your mindset,
that's that driving force thatcreates success in the future.
Right, it starts now.
Success doesn't justmaterialize with one good deal,
(07:07):
one lucky opportunity, onebusiness that grows overnight,
dude.
It's a series of decisions overtime and for most of you you
haven't been doing this.
That's why you're not where youwant to be.
So I told Mason you know there'sno arena in the world that's
going to build your confidenceand discipline like the gym.
Every day you become a betterversion of yourself.
Every day you see yourselfgetting stronger, you're setting
PRs in different workouts, yousculpt your body over time and
(07:30):
internally, mentally, you'relike dude, there's nothing I
can't do, I just changed myphysique, like I just created a
metamorphosis through action andeffort every day.
What else can't I do?
Nothing.
I'm going to crush all my goals.
That's the message that yoursubconscious mind starts to take
hold of.
If you're not getting up in themorning and going to the gym,
you're not pushing yourself.
Why do you think that youdeserve or why do you expect to
(07:52):
get superior results in yourlife?
You're not putting in theeffort.
You first have to transformyour habits, your actions, who
you are.
Then you see it reflectedexternally and in your results.
Second thing I told Mason issobriety.
I told him sobriety is asuperpower.
At your age you're going tostart to be enticed by friends.
They're going to be smoking,weed and drinking.
You're going to hear thesethings at school.
You're going to see them.
(08:13):
I told him, the person that canmaintain sobriety throughout
their life has a vast advantageon those that don't.
Because getting drunk, smoking,doing these things, even from
time to time, it compromises whoyou could become right.
It stagnates your mental andemotional maturity.
Okay, it severs the connectionto God, which is the source to
your master plan and lifelongblueprint, and you're not going
(08:35):
to feel this internal engine,this fire, this drive, at the
level you would if you weresober and that goes for anybody
in the world.
There's always exceptions tothe rule.
Right now, you can probablyfind people who have done really
well in their lives, who drinkoccasionally, who smoke weed,
but there are exceptions to therule.
The vast majority can't.
And so I'm telling you fromfirsthand experience the moment
I got sober, it was like dude.
(08:57):
I was playing chess instead ofcheckers.
I was seeing a 4D instead ofjust black and white.
You know, I've seen all theangles.
My mind was operating so muchdifferently.
My speed of thought, my memory,my creativity, my passion all
of these things came aliveinside of me and I thought, oh
my gosh, imagine if I felt thisway 10 years ago, where I'd be
in my life now.
And so sobriety changed my lifeand so many men I mentor and
(09:19):
individuals I know personally,it changed theirs as well.
If you're a young person like myson, mason, or just somebody
who at times has struggled withtheir sobriety, whether it's
drugs, alcohol, food, porn, allthese addictions, you just need
to know this If your addictionsare in control of you, you are
not in control of your life.
You're not in control of howyou think, how you feel in your
decisions.
Therefore, you're not going toget what you want because you
(09:40):
are a victim or a slave to yourcravings.
You are not in control of yourlife.
So how could you ever trulycreate the life by design that
you want?
It's not going to happen.
Sobriety is a superpower.
I promise you.
If you get up early and go tothe gym every day and you're
sober, you will live a muchbetter life long-term.
Third thing I told Mason is readmore books.
Pick one book every monthrelated to success, business,
(10:02):
mindset, personal development.
I personally give him books toread and I told him don't just
read them to get through them.
Read them to absorb theinformation and truly understand
it.
Even if you read 10 pages overthe course of two or three days
and you're underlying certainstatements and you're journaling
about them or you're questionsabout them Like that's what I do
when I read books.
I dissect those books, I reallystudy them and then you know I
(10:26):
not only implement thoseconcepts in my life if it's
making sense for me at that time, but I teach them to other
people.
So I really ingrain theconcepts deeply into my train of
thought and my belief systemOver time.
That's had a massive impact onmy life.
Like imagine this you can studypeople who have success, people
who have the results you wantright now, like you can study
them.
They write books.
(10:47):
They're gonna give you alltheir secrets, all their stories
, all their information.
You can then take those stories, dissect them, take out the
little pieces, the goldennuggets that apply to you in
your life right now andimplement them, and you can do
that over and over and over.
Success is not that hard toachieve.
If you think about, there'sblueprints all around you and
all you have to do is just seekthem out and implement them in
(11:08):
your life.
Success leaves clues.
There's a reason that statementholds weight and carries weight
because all you have to do isobserve what other people are
doing to achieve success andapply it in your life.
And so I'm teaching Mason.
You know a lot of the stuffhe's reading in school bores him
.
He doesn't care about science.
You know he's not going to usetrigonometry.
Most likely, like a lot of thestuff in school is either
(11:29):
redundant or it doesn't apply tohim and what he wants to do in
his life.
But I also told him think of itlike working out.
You're using your brain eachand every day to absorb
information, to memorize it, tostudy.
You're priming your brain andthat muscle in there right, so
that later on in life, when youhave information that you really
want to utilize, you becomepassionate about something,
(11:50):
whether it's real estate,business, psychology,
relationships, whatever it is.
You've already trained yourselfto be able to absorb
information, memorize it, studyit and then apply it.
So I paint that picture for himso that he doesn't just think,
oh, I don't have to try inschool, right?
90% of the stuff he's learningin school won't help him in life
.
However, it's going to set apattern, he's going to build a
(12:11):
habit that's going to then servehim later on in life, and
especially if he's reading thebooks that I'm providing for him
and I know what direction hewants to go in life and I'm
going to coach him and help himand show him the way.
He's going to be supersuccessful if he applies that
concept.
Last thing I told him and thisis where most people slip,
because it's hard, whether it'sfriends or family.
I told him be careful who youspend your time with Now.
If you have loved ones rightnow, who, dude, you're setting
(12:38):
yourself up for failure, likethere comes a moment in your
life where you have to recognizethat this is your life, this is
your time.
You get to do this once and areyou going to sacrifice all of
your goals and dreams andpotential because you don't want
to distance yourself frompeople that you grew up with or
that you've known for a longtime?
That's idiotic.
You know there comes a time inyour life where you have to say
(12:59):
you know there comes a time inyour life where you have to say
I'm going after my fuckingdreams with everything I got and
I don't care what I got to doto get there.
That's how you becomesuccessful.
That's the way it happens.
It doesn't happen by chance.
Very few people can hang outwith their old friends or hang
out in their old neighborhoodand be around those belief
systems and that way of life andachieve massive amounts of
success.
That's why you see athletes andpeople who come from really
(13:19):
challenging backgrounds and thenthey end up going back with
their friends or back to theirold neighborhood and they get
caught up.
They either get shot, they getarrested for something, they get
robbed.
You hear these stories all thetime about football players, nba
players, rappers.
They're still in that lifestyle.
You can't be one foot in, onefoot out.
It's not going to work that way, and so I'm trying to teach
Mason this at an early age.
I tell him look, be around kidsthat you see are going somewhere
(13:42):
in life.
Like, build relationships withkids that bring value to your
life.
It's hard for young people toreally understand this, because
they want to fit in, they wantto be liked.
We're all self-conscious.
We all want to be around peoplethat make us feel good.
But sometimes you're justaround people that are making
you feel good because they'restuck like you are and good
(14:07):
because they're stuck like youare, and so you guys kind of
like make it okay for oneanother to hold back and settle
in life.
That was me when I was young and15, all of my friends were
knuckleheads.
All my friends were goingthrough tough times like I was.
They were also skipping school,we were smoking weed.
We weren't trying or applyingourselves at all.
If I could go back in time, Iwould have played sports and I
would have hung out with theathletes, because those kids you
could tell they had moreinitiative, they had more
self-respect, they had goalsthat were still intact.
They wanted to be the bestathletes.
(14:27):
They were in the weight room.
They weren't skipping schoolbecause they needed to get good
grades.
A lot of those kids were comingfrom better households or at
least had some type of guidanceor role models in their lives.
Those kids would have sharpenedme.
Those kids would have held meaccountable, you know.
But the kids I hung out with,they didn't.
They didn't sharpen me, theydoled me.
They didn't hold me accountable.
In fact, they pulled me down towhere they were and I I
(14:49):
complied and I wanted to bestuck.
But if I had been around peoplethat told me Sean, you know
what?
Dude, you're better than that.
Why are you skipping school andsmoking weed?
Dude, sean, you're an.
You Like you can get out thereand be one of the best players
on the field, if I had thosevoices in my ears, maybe it
would have changed my behavior,maybe not.
But the thing is, people thatyou spend your time with will
(15:09):
influence and impact you,whether it's at home or at
school or in your business orjust friends.
Make sure people that you arespending the majority of your
time with outside of yourchildren, your wife are people
that sharpen you, people thatpush you to be better.
The guys that you work out with.
They should be pushing you tocrush your workouts, not trying
to leave early or showing uplate.
Right Individuals in yourbusiness.
(15:29):
They should be bringing value.
They should be growing everystep of the way.
You should see them investingtime and energy into the
business.
Like you, guys want to be aroundeach other and create exciting,
creative thoughts and ideas.
You want to brainstorm.
You want to mastermind.
Like anybody that you're with,you want to leave that
conversation in that room goingdude.
I'm a better person because ofthat individual I just spent my
(15:50):
time with.
If you can apply those fourconcepts to your life right now,
just like my son Mason, Ipromise you no, I guarantee you
you will have a better life inthe next decade and the next
several decades and for thelongevity of your journey on
this planet.
So apply what I shared.
Also, share it with a friend orfamily member that needs to
hear this message and let's goout and make this the best year
(16:12):
of your life.
A young boy with support and structure in the
household will thrive in life.
A lot of people.
They don't develop discipline,they don't have self-control,
they don't have structure earlyon and so as they get older it's
hard to develop that type ofmentality.
The foundation is personaldevelopment.
If you apply these fourconcepts into your life, I
guarantee in five years you willbe a vastly superior version of
yourself Oftentimes the mostimportant things in life.
(00:21):
The results are delayed andthat's why a lot of people quit
and give up and they never getto where they want to go.
It's like a garden you plantthose seeds, you water them, you
nurture them, you do everythingthat you can and when the
timing is right, they're goingto start to sprout and show
evidence of all that effort andhard work.
(00:44):
Welcome back to another episodeof the Unstoppable Mindset
Podcast.
I'm your host, sean Crane.
Thank you for tuning in.
I got a really, reallyimpactful, important message
today for you guys.
So if you're somebody who's aparent, if you're a leader in a
business or you just want tolevel up in your own life, this
is going to be a super valuablemessage.
So make sure you hit thatsubscribe button.
Share this with a friend orfamily member, and you know my
(01:05):
saying.
I always tell you, guys, I'mgoing to change the world, but
I'm just one man and I need yourhelp.
I need your support.
I need us to do it together.
That's how we're going tochange the world.
So the other day I was having aconversation with my son, mason,
who's 14.
He's actually my stepson,technically right, and a little
context there being a quoteunquote stepdad.
Coming into a young boy's lifewhere you're not his biological
(01:27):
father, it creates differenttypes of challenges than just
raising your biological child.
I have two children that arebiologically mine and Mason's my
stepson, and I love them dearly, like my children are
everything to me.
But, being a quote unquotestepdad, there's certain
challenges imposed upon you thatyou have to learn to deal with
and how to navigate, and so I'vealways been very cognizant of
(01:48):
that and wanting to just provideMason with the best leadership,
the best amount of guidance Icould in his life, the most love
and just to be a father figurefor him, you know.
But we've grown closer throughthose ups and downs.
Now he's 14.
He's getting ready to go intohigh school.
We just went and looked at aprivate school here in Santa
Barbara that we're going to sendhim to, and I'm just talking to
him often about like thingsthat he can start to do now or
(02:09):
changes he can make now in hislife that will set him up for
success later on, because theopposite happens for a lot of
kids.
They start off with these smalllittle mistakes or errors or
habits and over time, that wayof life, you know it sets them
up at a disadvantage.
And so there's four things thatI really talked to Mason about
consistently that also apply toyou in your life if you want to
truly hit that next level.
(02:31):
But before I share those fourthings with you, something
really special happened theother day.
You know, first we went andtoured the school Jessica, my
wife and I and Mason.
Then he had to go and take anassessment test for three hours
math, english reading,comprehension, everything and he
came home and he had this grinon his face and he goes hey,
they asked me to write aboutsomebody in my life who was
really inspiring.
And he goes Sean, I wrote aboutyou.
(02:51):
I wrote about how you teach methings, how you spend time with
us, how you're successful, howyou talk to me about discipline
and why it's important, andfitness and health and all the
stuff that we discuss and dude,that was such a profound moment
for me because a lot of timesespecially with children or just
any endeavor in life we'reputting forth effort, we're
trying, we're giving our bestand sometimes you don't see the
results right away.
(03:11):
Oftentimes the most importantthings in life, the results are
delayed and that's why a lot ofpeople quit and give up and they
never get to where they want togo is because they don't think
it's working, they don't thinkit's going to pan out down the
road.
But when it's your children, ofcourse you'll do anything for
them, right?
So the way I describe it topeople, it's like a garden you
plant those seeds, you waterthem, you nurture them, you do
(03:32):
everything that you can and whenthe timing is right, they're
going to start to sprout andshow evidence of all that effort
and hard work.
And that's what I saw in Masonin that moment.
And don't get me wrong, youknow, a couple of days later he
got in trouble for something andhe showed me he's still 14 and
immature and he still needs mysupport, my wife's support, but
it was just really cool to hearthat he is acknowledging and
absorbing the discussions we'rehaving and the principles that
(03:55):
I'm teaching him.
And it's not easy with a 14year old, you know, and he's
going to school and there's alot of influences there and
friends and peer pressure andhe's still figuring out who he
is as a young man, going throughpuberty and changing Like
there's a lot of challenges atthat age.
So on one hand I'mcompassionate and empathetic but
on the other hand I got toteach him about discipline and
structure and make sure I'mthere to support him.
(04:16):
A young boy with support andstructure in the household will
thrive in life.
A lot of people they don'tdevelop discipline, they don't
have self-control, they don'thave structure early on and so
as they get older it's hard todevelop that type of mentality.
Most of the guys I coach andteach they just lack discipline,
they lack grit, they can't getshit done.
They're capable but they'refucking weak.
They're weak because it's beena habit and a precedent as to
(04:38):
how they operate in their lives.
And you have someone that goesthrough tough times or someone
that has an athletic backgroundand they played sports and they
were competitive in high school.
That person has an advantagelater on in life because they
had structure early on, they haddiscipline early on and that
changed the way that theyoperate from a mental standpoint
.
So here are four things that Itold Mason that if he starts
doing right now, he's going tobe successful in his life.
(04:59):
He always asked me hey, whatcan I do to be successful?
I don't want to get a nine tofive and be broke and struggling
all the time Like what can I do?
What can I do Now?
True success from a materialstandpoint is much further off
in the distance for him.
You know he's going to have todevelop skill sets.
He's going to have to learnabout business, learn about
managing money, delegating,leading people, all these things
that we do in business.
But the foundation is personaldevelopment.
(05:20):
So I told him at 14, if youstart doing these things right
now, it's going to set you upfor success in life.
And this goes for you listeningto this episode.
If you're not doing thesethings, you're you're sabotaging
your potential.
If you apply these fourconcepts into your life, I
guarantee in five years you willbe a vastly superior version of
yourself, guaranteed.
Number one I told Mason get upearly in the morning and go to
(05:41):
the gym with me every single day.
Okay, and the reason for thatis because it's hard.
It's difficult and on the otherend of that endeavor is massive
amounts of discipline, forgeand belief in yourself.
When you get up early andyou're tired and you don't want
to even get out of bed, and youcan get yourself up out of bed
and you can push yourself to goto the gym and do a challenging
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workout, you develop so manyinternal attributes that will
lead to success later on in life.
First of all, the guy that canget out of bed at four or five
in the morning while it's stilldark out, he has a why.
A person, a man or woman with astrong enough why is always
going to find a how.
I say that all the time.
What I mean by that is thatperson is keenly aware of why
they're getting out of bed.
They have some purpose, somedrive, some mission that they're
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on.
That is more important thanthat extra hour of sleep.
The people that hit snoozethey're not connected on that
level and they're sabotagingtheir potential, because those
days and moments add up and theway you do things consistently
over time determines who youbecome.
So a couple of times hittingsnooze per week doesn't seem
like a lot, but it adds up overthe course of 10 years.
And so I told Mason, if you canfigure out how to get your butt
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up early in the morning and youcan paint a picture with your
mind as to who that's going tohelp you to become down the road
, and you see these scenariosand these results and you almost
paint this picture with yourmind that's going to compel you
to get up each and every day.
That's powerful, that'sinternal, that's your mindset,
that's that driving force thatcreates success in the future.
Right, it starts now.
Success doesn't justmaterialize with one good deal,
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one lucky opportunity, onebusiness that grows overnight,
dude.
It's a series of decisions overtime and for most of you you
haven't been doing this.
That's why you're not where youwant to be.
So I told Mason you know there'sno arena in the world that's
going to build your confidenceand discipline like the gym.
Every day you become a betterversion of yourself.
Every day you see yourselfgetting stronger, you're setting
PRs in different workouts, yousculpt your body over time and
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internally, mentally, you'relike dude, there's nothing I
can't do, I just changed myphysique, like I just created a
metamorphosis through action andeffort every day.
What else can't I do?
Nothing.
I'm going to crush all my goals.
That's the message that yoursubconscious mind starts to take
hold of.
If you're not getting up in themorning and going to the gym,
you're not pushing yourself.
Why do you think that youdeserve or why do you expect to
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get superior results in yourlife?
You're not putting in theeffort.
You first have to transformyour habits, your actions, who
you are.
Then you see it reflectedexternally and in your results.
Second thing I told Mason issobriety.
I told him sobriety is asuperpower.
At your age you're going tostart to be enticed by friends.
They're going to be smoking,weed and drinking.
You're going to hear thesethings at school.
You're going to see them.
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I told him, the person that canmaintain sobriety throughout
their life has a vast advantageon those that don't.
Because getting drunk, smoking,doing these things, even from
time to time, it compromises whoyou could become right.
It stagnates your mental andemotional maturity.
Okay, it severs the connectionto God, which is the source to
your master plan and lifelongblueprint, and you're not going
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to feel this internal engine,this fire, this drive, at the
level you would if you weresober and that goes for anybody
in the world.
There's always exceptions tothe rule.
Right now, you can probablyfind people who have done really
well in their lives, who drinkoccasionally, who smoke weed,
but there are exceptions to therule.
The vast majority can't.
And so I'm telling you fromfirsthand experience the moment
I got sober, it was like dude.
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I was playing chess instead ofcheckers.
I was seeing a 4D instead ofjust black and white.
You know, I've seen all theangles.
My mind was operating so muchdifferently.
My speed of thought, my memory,my creativity, my passion all
of these things came aliveinside of me and I thought, oh
my gosh, imagine if I felt thisway 10 years ago, where I'd be
in my life now.
And so sobriety changed my lifeand so many men I mentor and
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individuals I know personally,it changed theirs as well.
If you're a young person like myson, mason, or just somebody
who at times has struggled withtheir sobriety, whether it's
drugs, alcohol, food, porn, allthese addictions, you just need
to know this If your addictionsare in control of you, you are
not in control of your life.
You're not in control of howyou think, how you feel in your
decisions.
Therefore, you're not going toget what you want because you
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are a victim or a slave to yourcravings.
You are not in control of yourlife.
So how could you ever trulycreate the life by design that
you want?
It's not going to happen.
Sobriety is a superpower.
I promise you.
If you get up early and go tothe gym every day and you're
sober, you will live a muchbetter life long-term.
Third thing I told Mason is readmore books.
Pick one book every monthrelated to success, business,
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mindset, personal development.
I personally give him books toread and I told him don't just
read them to get through them.
Read them to absorb theinformation and truly understand
it.
Even if you read 10 pages overthe course of two or three days
and you're underlying certainstatements and you're journaling
about them or you're questionsabout them Like that's what I do
when I read books.
I dissect those books, I reallystudy them and then you know I
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not only implement thoseconcepts in my life if it's
making sense for me at that time, but I teach them to other
people.
So I really ingrain theconcepts deeply into my train of
thought and my belief systemOver time.
That's had a massive impact onmy life.
Like imagine this you can studypeople who have success, people
who have the results you wantright now, like you can study
them.
They write books.
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They're gonna give you alltheir secrets, all their stories
, all their information.
You can then take those stories, dissect them, take out the
little pieces, the goldennuggets that apply to you in
your life right now andimplement them, and you can do
that over and over and over.
Success is not that hard toachieve.
If you think about, there'sblueprints all around you and
all you have to do is just seekthem out and implement them in
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your life.
Success leaves clues.
There's a reason that statementholds weight and carries weight
because all you have to do isobserve what other people are
doing to achieve success andapply it in your life.
And so I'm teaching Mason.
You know a lot of the stuffhe's reading in school bores him
.
He doesn't care about science.
You know he's not going to usetrigonometry.
Most likely, like a lot of thestuff in school is either
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redundant or it doesn't apply tohim and what he wants to do in
his life.
But I also told him think of itlike working out.
You're using your brain eachand every day to absorb
information, to memorize it, tostudy.
You're priming your brain andthat muscle in there right, so
that later on in life, when youhave information that you really
want to utilize, you becomepassionate about something,
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whether it's real estate,business, psychology,
relationships, whatever it is.
You've already trained yourselfto be able to absorb
information, memorize it, studyit and then apply it.
So I paint that picture for himso that he doesn't just think,
oh, I don't have to try inschool, right?
90% of the stuff he's learningin school won't help him in life
.
However, it's going to set apattern, he's going to build a
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habit that's going to then servehim later on in life, and
especially if he's reading thebooks that I'm providing for him
and I know what direction hewants to go in life and I'm
going to coach him and help himand show him the way.
He's going to be supersuccessful if he applies that
concept.
Last thing I told him and thisis where most people slip,
because it's hard, whether it'sfriends or family.
I told him be careful who youspend your time with Now.
If you have loved ones rightnow, who, dude, you're setting
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yourself up for failure, likethere comes a moment in your
life where you have to recognizethat this is your life, this is
your time.
You get to do this once and areyou going to sacrifice all of
your goals and dreams andpotential because you don't want
to distance yourself frompeople that you grew up with or
that you've known for a longtime?
That's idiotic.
You know there comes a time inyour life where you have to say
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you know there comes a time inyour life where you have to say
I'm going after my fuckingdreams with everything I got and
I don't care what I got to doto get there.
That's how you becomesuccessful.
That's the way it happens.
It doesn't happen by chance.
Very few people can hang outwith their old friends or hang
out in their old neighborhoodand be around those belief
systems and that way of life andachieve massive amounts of
success.
That's why you see athletes andpeople who come from really
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challenging backgrounds and thenthey end up going back with
their friends or back to theirold neighborhood and they get
caught up.
They either get shot, they getarrested for something, they get
robbed.
You hear these stories all thetime about football players, nba
players, rappers.
They're still in that lifestyle.
You can't be one foot in, onefoot out.
It's not going to work that way, and so I'm trying to teach
Mason this at an early age.
I tell him look, be around kidsthat you see are going somewhere
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in life.
Like, build relationships withkids that bring value to your
life.
It's hard for young people toreally understand this, because
they want to fit in, they wantto be liked.
We're all self-conscious.
We all want to be around peoplethat make us feel good.
But sometimes you're justaround people that are making
you feel good because they'restuck like you are and good
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because they're stuck like youare, and so you guys kind of
like make it okay for oneanother to hold back and settle
in life.
That was me when I was young and15, all of my friends were
knuckleheads.
All my friends were goingthrough tough times like I was.
They were also skipping school,we were smoking weed.
We weren't trying or applyingourselves at all.
If I could go back in time, Iwould have played sports and I
would have hung out with theathletes, because those kids you
could tell they had moreinitiative, they had more
self-respect, they had goalsthat were still intact.
They wanted to be the bestathletes.
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They were in the weight room.
They weren't skipping schoolbecause they needed to get good
grades.
A lot of those kids were comingfrom better households or at
least had some type of guidanceor role models in their lives.
Those kids would have sharpenedme.
Those kids would have held meaccountable, you know.
But the kids I hung out with,they didn't.
They didn't sharpen me, theydoled me.
They didn't hold me accountable.
In fact, they pulled me down towhere they were and I I
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complied and I wanted to bestuck.
But if I had been around peoplethat told me Sean, you know
what?
Dude, you're better than that.
Why are you skipping school andsmoking weed?
Dude, sean, you're an.
You Like you can get out thereand be one of the best players
on the field, if I had thosevoices in my ears, maybe it
would have changed my behavior,maybe not.
But the thing is, people thatyou spend your time with will
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influence and impact you,whether it's at home or at
school or in your business orjust friends.
Make sure people that you arespending the majority of your
time with outside of yourchildren, your wife are people
that sharpen you, people thatpush you to be better.
The guys that you work out with.
They should be pushing you tocrush your workouts, not trying
to leave early or showing uplate.
Right Individuals in yourbusiness.
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They should be bringing value.
They should be growing everystep of the way.
You should see them investingtime and energy into the
business.
Like you, guys want to be aroundeach other and create exciting,
creative thoughts and ideas.
You want to brainstorm.
You want to mastermind.
Like anybody that you're with,you want to leave that
conversation in that room goingdude.
I'm a better person because ofthat individual I just spent my
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time with.
If you can apply those fourconcepts to your life right now,
just like my son Mason, Ipromise you no, I guarantee you
you will have a better life inthe next decade and the next
several decades and for thelongevity of your journey on
this planet.
So apply what I shared.
Also, share it with a friend orfamily member that needs to
hear this message and let's goout and make this the best year
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of your life.
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