April 20, 2025 • 9 mins
Life changes in an instant when you welcome a new child into the world. After bringing my daughter Bella Rae Crane home, a profound realization struck me while holding her and my other children: we literally created these perfect human beings. This miracle puts everything into perspective.
Nothing clarifies your purpose and priorities like witnessing birth. For days, I sat mesmerized by my newborn daughter's perfection, whispering promises of protection and devotion. Those innocent eyes looking up at you become the ultimate motivation to become exceptional. But there's a crucial lesson here—you must master yourself before you can truly excel as a parent or spouse. My journey through addiction taught me that self-mastery precedes family mastery.
The balancing act between ambition and presence defines modern parenthood. While pursuing goals matters, I've learned to prioritize irreplaceable moments with my family. When I was incarcerated, I didn't long for wealth or status—I missed those simple connections we take for granted. Now I'm living with the wisdom of my future elderly self, building success without sacrificing precious family time. Because when we're 80 looking back, relationships and authentic experiences are what truly matter.
Take a moment today to evaluate how you're balancing ambition with presence. Are you creating a life you'll look back on with satisfaction, knowing you did it the right way? Subscribe to the podcast as we explore together how to create lives we truly love and cherish, without compromise.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We have the capacity and the ability to create life
Like it just blew my mindCertain times, in those moments
where things just hit you and itseems so surreal and so
profound and for me it's sospecial.
Isn't that the ultimate sourceof inspiration to become the
most exceptional, amazing humanbeing you ever could be?
But I know there's gonna be alot of people that look back on
their life one day and wish thatthey just spent more time with
(00:21):
their loved ones and sometimesthe simplest life, the simple
things, are the best things.
Just don't do it in a way whereyou miss out on the special
moments because once they'regone you can never get them back
.
You don't want to get there.
Realize that you can't go backin time.
You didn't do it the right way.
Now your kids are older, yourrelationships have changed, or
you're older and you didn't dothe stuff you wanted, or you
left in your health.
(00:48):
Welcome back to another episodeof the Unstoppable Mindset
Podcast.
I'm your host, sean Crane.
We're here at the MakeshiftHome Studio.
I'm building a home podcaststudio in office that I'm going
to be recording all my contentout of, and I'm feeling blessed
man being able to work from home, be close to my wife and my
children.
I love it, and the main reasonI'm doing this is because we
(01:09):
just brought a new life intothis world.
My wife, jessica, and I had ababy girl on March 15th, bella
Rae Crane, and we're back homeand she's healthy and she's just
doing amazing.
And my wife's healthy, she'srecovering and she's amazing.
(01:29):
Shout out to anybody out thereall you women who have had
babies and raised childrenYou're the most special type of
people in this world and I thinkit's just something that's
taken for granted.
Obviously, women have babiesevery single day and that's just
what we do as human beings.
Right.
We start off as little babiesand kids and then we grow older,
we find someone we want tobuild a life with and we we have
(01:50):
children.
We start our own families.
It's beautiful man, but I wassitting there the other day and
we had come back from thehospital and had that just
miraculous experience seeingbella being brought into this
world.
There's truly nothing like it.
And I was sitting there in ourbed and I think the kids were
watching a movie and I washolding bella in one arm,
preston was laying on my leg andScarlett was laying next to me
and I was kind of cuddling withher and I just looked at all
three of them and I thought, wow, my wife and I, jessica,
(02:12):
created these lives, like wecreated these human beings.
That is just so crazy to thinkabout.
We have the capacity and theability to create life Like it
just blew my mind.
You know, certain times in thosemoments where things just hit
you and it seems so surreal andso profound and for me it's so
special, there's nothing in thisworld that truly puts things
(02:36):
into perspective, like life ordeath.
If you've had someone close toyou and you've lost them and you
know that feeling, it reallygets you thinking about life and
your purpose and how you'respending your time and every
little detail in such a profoundway.
And the same thing when you seea life being brought into this
world, like it's so miraculous,it's so special, the amount of
emotions you experience, theenergy.
(02:57):
I just was sitting there fordays on end holding and staring
at Bella, and I did this withall my children, just completely
in awe of them, of how pure andperfect they are.
You know I just get emotionalthinking about it all the time
and I would just sit there andhold Bella and like I would just
tell her, like I'm going toprotect you and take care of you
your whole life, like Daddy'sgot you.
(03:18):
I'm going to do everything inmy power to give you the best
life imaginable.
And that's what fires me up,man, as a leader for my family,
as a husband, as a father, as anexample for others, it's like
to give my family the ultimatelife, and what I mean by that is
life experiences, time together, the love and connection that
(03:39):
they experience here at home,the way that I raised them, the
way that I talked to them, thebeliefs that my wife and I
instill into them, theireducation, their like, every
aspect of their lives.
And for me it's the ultimatemotivation.
Like I talk to guys all thetime who say they're tired or
they.
You know, guys struggle to getup in the morning.
They hit fucking snooze.
(03:59):
People struggle with theirdiets or drinking or drugs.
You know, trust me, I get it, Iwas there at one point.
But, man, how could you everslack in life knowing that you
have those eyeballs and littlehuman beings looking up to you?
Like isn't that the ultimatesource of inspiration to become
the most exceptional, amazinghuman being you ever could be.
(04:19):
You know, for me it is.
But I have to remember, like,at a time, if I had children,
you know, 15 years ago, 20 yearsago, maybe it would have been a
different story.
At that time I was stillbattling addiction, I still
hadn't figured myself out, youknow, I did not have the level
of self-mastery and disciplinethat I have now and it would
(04:43):
have been a completely differentstory.
You know, I would have stillbeen struggling on my own end,
on my personal level.
How could I ever fully be therefor them?
And that's the key, man, like,if you want to be the best
husband, the best father, thebest, whatever, you have to be
the best you first.
It doesn't work the other wayaround.
You don't just focus onbuilding the business or the
family and neglect yourself.
Like, at some point you'regoing to be compromised and
that's going to jeopardize thoseimportant areas of your life.
(05:04):
And so this message is going tobe short, man, I just want to
say that number one, like I'm sograteful for my wife Jessica.
She's such an amazing woman,watching her bring our children
into this world, not just givingbirth to them, but then raising
them and being there for themas a mother should be like.
It's something I am so gratefulfor and it's something that I
always wanted in my wife.
(05:24):
Like I always had this hiddenfear, man, that I would end up
with a woman that one day justbecame unraveled, like my mom
did, and suddenly just lose hershit and become not a good mom,
not a good wife.
You know it was always thishidden fear and I remember just
like thinking about that.
Like, damn dude, is that goingto happen to me one day?
(05:45):
Because I saw it happen to mydad, I saw it happen at home as
a kid growing up and you know ithaunted me for many years.
So just being able to have theright woman by my side, that
supports me, that loves me, thatwe've built this life together
and that has helped me to becomea better man every step of the
way, like the level of gratitudethat I have is immeasurable.
And then just knowing thattogether we're going to be able
(06:06):
to raise our children the rightway and give them like the best
life, like they have the bestlife, man, every day, every
weekend, we're doing fun thingstogether and we're always doing
things that enhance the qualityof their life and we're always
teaching them.
We're always learning togetherand we're always teaching them.
We're always learning togetherand we're always spending time,
and I think it's the mostbeautiful way to experience life
.
You know a lot of people wantmoney and they want stuff and
(06:28):
they want all these things andthat's cool.
You know.
Go out and acquire it if that'swhat you want.
But I know there's going to be alot of people that look back on
their life one day and wishthat they just spent more time
with their loved ones andsometimes the Sometimes the
simplest life, the simple thingsare the best things you know,
like just spending time together, talking, holding hands, like
going to the park and playing,cuddling and watching a movie at
(06:48):
night, like dude.
Honestly, when I wasincarcerated, I didn't think
about wanting money or a Lambo.
You know, I had these big,illustrious visions that came to
me and massive goals that areon my heart that I'm
implementing now in my life,goals that are on my heart that
I'm implementing now in my life.
But oftentimes I thought aboutand longed for the little things
that we oftentimes overlook,and I know there's probably a
(07:10):
lot of parents out there withchildren who are now older who
wish that they slowed down alittle bit when their kids were
younger.
They wish that they attendedmore school, you know after
school activities, or just didthe little things with them and
didn't overlook them.
And it's hard for a lot ofparents because they're busy
working, they're stressed out,they're overwhelmed.
So my message, I guess, is forany of you who are going to have
(07:30):
children or do currently likeslow down, like life, life will
take care of itself.
Like I know, you're going to dothe right thing to take care of
your family, you're going towork, you're going to make money
.
Just don't do it in a way whereyou miss out on the special
moments, cause once they're gone, you can never get them back.
And that's one of the mainthings I'm focused on right now
is like you always hear olderpeople tell you like hey, it
goes by quick, soak it up Right.
(07:50):
And they always put things inperspective.
They're like that's whatmatters most, those
relationships, that time withyour loved ones, like that's
what elderly people always sayyou know.
And or they tell you go afteryour goals and be true to
yourself and that's allimportant, right.
So I'm trying to put my mind ina place where I'm thinking like
I would when I'm 90, you know,or 80 or 60.
Like I'm trying to put myselfin that place now and obviously
(08:12):
I'm going to go after my goals.
I'm going to crush it.
You're going to see me achieveso much in my life, but I'm
always going to make time forthose little precious moments
with my loved ones.
Every day I'm going to lookback in life and go, fuck, yeah,
I did it the right way.
I built my empire, but I didn'tneglect the time with my family
.
I didn't neglect thoserelationships.
I poured into them every singleday and that's the most
(08:34):
important thing to me, man, isthat I don't overlook that stuff
.
So for those of you right nowwho maybe you're battling to be
present, you're battling to putall the pieces together it's
possible.
You have to recognize that andyou've got to put yourself in
that place, like I do.
In the future you don't want toget there and realize that you
can't go back in time and thatyou didn't do it the right way.
(08:56):
And now your kids are older,your relationships have changed,
or you're older and you didn'tdo the stuff you wanted, or you
neglected your health, like yougot to think about this stuff
often and make sure you're doingthe right stuff today.
So, dude, I love you guys.
I want you to live the ultimatelife.
I want all of you to createlives you love and freaking
cherish.
I'm going to show you how it'sdone.
I'm going to lead by exampleevery step of the way.
Make sure you share thismessage, resonate with and do me
(09:20):
a favor, subscribe and sharethe podcast as well.
Thank you.
We have the capacity and the ability to create life
Like it just blew my mindCertain times, in those moments
where things just hit you and itseems so surreal and so
profound and for me it's sospecial.
Isn't that the ultimate sourceof inspiration to become the
most exceptional, amazing humanbeing you ever could be?
But I know there's gonna be alot of people that look back on
their life one day and wish thatthey just spent more time with
(00:21):
their loved ones and sometimesthe simplest life, the simple
things, are the best things.
Just don't do it in a way whereyou miss out on the special
moments because once they'regone you can never get them back
.
You don't want to get there.
Realize that you can't go backin time.
You didn't do it the right way.
Now your kids are older, yourrelationships have changed, or
you're older and you didn't dothe stuff you wanted, or you
left in your health.
(00:48):
Welcome back to another episodeof the Unstoppable Mindset
Podcast.
I'm your host, sean Crane.
We're here at the MakeshiftHome Studio.
I'm building a home podcaststudio in office that I'm going
to be recording all my contentout of, and I'm feeling blessed
man being able to work from home, be close to my wife and my
children.
I love it, and the main reasonI'm doing this is because we
(01:09):
just brought a new life intothis world.
My wife, jessica, and I had ababy girl on March 15th, bella
Rae Crane, and we're back homeand she's healthy and she's just
doing amazing.
And my wife's healthy, she'srecovering and she's amazing.
(01:29):
Shout out to anybody out thereall you women who have had
babies and raised childrenYou're the most special type of
people in this world and I thinkit's just something that's
taken for granted.
Obviously, women have babiesevery single day and that's just
what we do as human beings.
Right.
We start off as little babiesand kids and then we grow older,
we find someone we want tobuild a life with and we we have
(01:50):
children.
We start our own families.
It's beautiful man, but I wassitting there the other day and
we had come back from thehospital and had that just
miraculous experience seeingbella being brought into this
world.
There's truly nothing like it.
And I was sitting there in ourbed and I think the kids were
watching a movie and I washolding bella in one arm,
preston was laying on my leg andScarlett was laying next to me
and I was kind of cuddling withher and I just looked at all
three of them and I thought, wow, my wife and I, jessica,
(02:12):
created these lives, like wecreated these human beings.
That is just so crazy to thinkabout.
We have the capacity and theability to create life Like it
just blew my mind.
You know, certain times in thosemoments where things just hit
you and it seems so surreal andso profound and for me it's so
special, there's nothing in thisworld that truly puts things
(02:36):
into perspective, like life ordeath.
If you've had someone close toyou and you've lost them and you
know that feeling, it reallygets you thinking about life and
your purpose and how you'respending your time and every
little detail in such a profoundway.
And the same thing when you seea life being brought into this
world, like it's so miraculous,it's so special, the amount of
emotions you experience, theenergy.
(02:57):
I just was sitting there fordays on end holding and staring
at Bella, and I did this withall my children, just completely
in awe of them, of how pure andperfect they are.
You know I just get emotionalthinking about it all the time
and I would just sit there andhold Bella and like I would just
tell her, like I'm going toprotect you and take care of you
your whole life, like Daddy'sgot you.
(03:18):
I'm going to do everything inmy power to give you the best
life imaginable.
And that's what fires me up,man, as a leader for my family,
as a husband, as a father, as anexample for others, it's like
to give my family the ultimatelife, and what I mean by that is
life experiences, time together, the love and connection that
(03:39):
they experience here at home,the way that I raised them, the
way that I talked to them, thebeliefs that my wife and I
instill into them, theireducation, their like, every
aspect of their lives.
And for me it's the ultimatemotivation.
Like I talk to guys all thetime who say they're tired or
they.
You know, guys struggle to getup in the morning.
They hit fucking snooze.
(03:59):
People struggle with theirdiets or drinking or drugs.
You know, trust me, I get it, Iwas there at one point.
But, man, how could you everslack in life knowing that you
have those eyeballs and littlehuman beings looking up to you?
Like isn't that the ultimatesource of inspiration to become
the most exceptional, amazinghuman being you ever could be.
(04:19):
You know, for me it is.
But I have to remember, like,at a time, if I had children,
you know, 15 years ago, 20 yearsago, maybe it would have been a
different story.
At that time I was stillbattling addiction, I still
hadn't figured myself out, youknow, I did not have the level
of self-mastery and disciplinethat I have now and it would
(04:43):
have been a completely differentstory.
You know, I would have stillbeen struggling on my own end,
on my personal level.
How could I ever fully be therefor them?
And that's the key, man, like,if you want to be the best
husband, the best father, thebest, whatever, you have to be
the best you first.
It doesn't work the other wayaround.
You don't just focus onbuilding the business or the
family and neglect yourself.
Like, at some point you'regoing to be compromised and
that's going to jeopardize thoseimportant areas of your life.
(05:04):
And so this message is going tobe short, man, I just want to
say that number one, like I'm sograteful for my wife Jessica.
She's such an amazing woman,watching her bring our children
into this world, not just givingbirth to them, but then raising
them and being there for themas a mother should be like.
It's something I am so gratefulfor and it's something that I
always wanted in my wife.
(05:24):
Like I always had this hiddenfear, man, that I would end up
with a woman that one day justbecame unraveled, like my mom
did, and suddenly just lose hershit and become not a good mom,
not a good wife.
You know it was always thishidden fear and I remember just
like thinking about that.
Like, damn dude, is that goingto happen to me one day?
(05:45):
Because I saw it happen to mydad, I saw it happen at home as
a kid growing up and you know ithaunted me for many years.
So just being able to have theright woman by my side, that
supports me, that loves me, thatwe've built this life together
and that has helped me to becomea better man every step of the
way, like the level of gratitudethat I have is immeasurable.
And then just knowing thattogether we're going to be able
(06:06):
to raise our children the rightway and give them like the best
life, like they have the bestlife, man, every day, every
weekend, we're doing fun thingstogether and we're always doing
things that enhance the qualityof their life and we're always
teaching them.
We're always learning togetherand we're always teaching them.
We're always learning togetherand we're always spending time,
and I think it's the mostbeautiful way to experience life
.
You know a lot of people wantmoney and they want stuff and
(06:28):
they want all these things andthat's cool.
You know.
Go out and acquire it if that'swhat you want.
But I know there's going to be alot of people that look back on
their life one day and wishthat they just spent more time
with their loved ones andsometimes the Sometimes the
simplest life, the simple thingsare the best things you know,
like just spending time together, talking, holding hands, like
going to the park and playing,cuddling and watching a movie at
(06:48):
night, like dude.
Honestly, when I wasincarcerated, I didn't think
about wanting money or a Lambo.
You know, I had these big,illustrious visions that came to
me and massive goals that areon my heart that I'm
implementing now in my life,goals that are on my heart that
I'm implementing now in my life.
But oftentimes I thought aboutand longed for the little things
that we oftentimes overlook,and I know there's probably a
(07:10):
lot of parents out there withchildren who are now older who
wish that they slowed down alittle bit when their kids were
younger.
They wish that they attendedmore school, you know after
school activities, or just didthe little things with them and
didn't overlook them.
And it's hard for a lot ofparents because they're busy
working, they're stressed out,they're overwhelmed.
So my message, I guess, is forany of you who are going to have
(07:30):
children or do currently likeslow down, like life, life will
take care of itself.
Like I know, you're going to dothe right thing to take care of
your family, you're going towork, you're going to make money
.
Just don't do it in a way whereyou miss out on the special
moments, cause once they're gone, you can never get them back.
And that's one of the mainthings I'm focused on right now
is like you always hear olderpeople tell you like hey, it
goes by quick, soak it up Right.
(07:50):
And they always put things inperspective.
They're like that's whatmatters most, those
relationships, that time withyour loved ones, like that's
what elderly people always sayyou know.
And or they tell you go afteryour goals and be true to
yourself and that's allimportant, right.
So I'm trying to put my mind ina place where I'm thinking like
I would when I'm 90, you know,or 80 or 60.
Like I'm trying to put myselfin that place now and obviously
(08:12):
I'm going to go after my goals.
I'm going to crush it.
You're going to see me achieveso much in my life, but I'm
always going to make time forthose little precious moments
with my loved ones.
Every day I'm going to lookback in life and go, fuck, yeah,
I did it the right way.
I built my empire, but I didn'tneglect the time with my family
.
I didn't neglect thoserelationships.
I poured into them every singleday and that's the most
(08:34):
important thing to me, man, isthat I don't overlook that stuff
.
So for those of you right nowwho maybe you're battling to be
present, you're battling to putall the pieces together it's
possible.
You have to recognize that andyou've got to put yourself in
that place, like I do.
In the future you don't want toget there and realize that you
can't go back in time and thatyou didn't do it the right way.
(08:56):
And now your kids are older,your relationships have changed,
or you're older and you didn'tdo the stuff you wanted, or you
neglected your health, like yougot to think about this stuff
often and make sure you're doingthe right stuff today.
So, dude, I love you guys.
I want you to live the ultimatelife.
I want all of you to createlives you love and freaking
cherish.
I'm going to show you how it'sdone.
I'm going to lead by exampleevery step of the way.
Make sure you share thismessage, resonate with and do me
(09:20):
a favor, subscribe and sharethe podcast as well.
Thank you.
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