November 12, 2025 • 48 mins
What if your turning point arrived in a 6x8 cell? Our guest takes us inside the shock of wasted years, the sting of regret, and the gritty work of rebuilding a life from the inside out. This is a raw blueprint for urgency: how to flip “why me” into “what is this for,” trade comfort for purpose, and stack proof with daily action until your identity catches up.
We walk through the exact mindset shifts that changed everything—prayer, honest self-talk, and the “I get to” reframe that lifts your energy on command. Then we get practical: the read, write, work out routine that forged discipline; committing to lifelong sobriety; and using the compounding effect to build self-trust. You’ll hear how four associate degrees earned behind bars became the fuel for a mission-driven business, and how COVID’s setbacks turned into a launchpad for Unstoppable 365, a health and performance company serving blue-collar owners.
Along the way, live moments from the room make it real: a man calling his goal weight with specifics, a young coach choosing focus over split priorities, a woman claiming strength while mastering a second language, and a leader deciding to serve addicts even when not everyone can be saved. The throughline is simple and demanding—lead yourself first. Excellence at home and in your body isn’t optional if you want lasting success in business, relationships, and impact. You’re always choosing between two selves: the one that craves comfort and the one building a legacy.
If you’re ready to stop drifting, map your days, speak your goals, and take the next hard step. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs urgency today, and leave a review with the one habit you’ll commit to right now. Let’s choose excellence and change the world together.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
I lived in denial and my life was just passing me
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by.
And then at the age of 23, I wasgoing down such a destructive
path.
I found myself sitting in a sixby eight cell every day for 24
hours a day.
Can you imagine the torment, theshock and awe, the disbelief,
the pain that I had toexperience sitting in that cell,
looking back on my life,thinking that that was it?
Because all I saw in that momentwas wasted potential, excuses,
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procrastination.
I realized that I had lived alife and lived as a person that
I was not proud of.
The pain that I felt in thatmoment.
The regret that I experiencedwas worse than the thought of
spending life in prison.
I realized that I was.
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Now, how you spend your time isso important.
John talked about compoundinterest, compounding your time,
your habits yesterday, right?
I recommend you check out thatbook by Darren Hardy, The
Compounding Effect.
Now I'm not going to tell youhow to live your lives today,
but what I will say is who doyou think's going to get ahead
faster?
The guy that's up early chasinghis dreams, or the guy that's
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sleeping in because he wanted tohave a couple extra drinks the
night before.
Now I know you're here to allsocial and have fun and let
loose a little bit.
That's okay.
But I want you to think aboutthe ROI with your time, your
daily decisions, the habits thatyou're forming.
Because that's the differencebetween the person you want to
become and the person you'regoing to look back and regret
being one day.
I promise you that.
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And so today I want to sharewith you guys how I got to this
stage, how I got to this moment.
You know, a lot of you haven'tbeen here, right?
How many people were here lastyear?
Raise your hands.
Okay.
I'm not going to share too muchand elaborate too much on my
story because you heard it.
I don't want to be redundant.
But you guys got to understandwhat I've gone through to get to
this point.
And I want to share with you thelessons, the changes, the
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mindset, the habits that allowme to go from a drug-addicted
loser facing life in prison to aman of purpose who's living out
his dream every day.
Now, how many of you in heretruly want to win in life?
Come on now! Do you guysrecognize how desperate our
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country is for real leadersright now?
I'm not going to get intopolitics, I'm not going to go
down that road.
We all know the truth.
And you know how you win andfight the enemy?
Personal excellence, dailyhabits, living out your values
and morals, demonstrating themthrough your behavior.
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I don't want to hear it, I wantto see it from each and every
one of you.
This isn't about me on stagesaying, look at me and what I've
done.
Collectively, we need to standup and do the right thing.
Right?
Let's go.
Let me get a round of applausefor that.
You guys know the truth.
I brought three of my books.
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I wrote a memoir during COVIDabout my personal life
experience.
And then I also have myself-mastery guide, which is
mindset course, personaldevelopment course, and 90 days
of daily journaling.
Okay?
I'm gonna share with you theimportance of why personal
development is paramount to yoursuccess.
And then I'm gonna give away acopy of each for those of you
that volunteer, raise your handand participate today, okay?
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Because just like Lacey, whenyou have the courage and
conviction to speak your truth,whether it's about your goals or
your setbacks, what's holdingyou back, something powerful
shifts inside of you.
No longer is that a suppressedthought or idea.
Now it becomes reality.
There's something tangible aboutit.
You can almost reach out andtouch it.
So I want to urge you andencourage you, take notes,
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listen, ask questions,participate in this hour that we
have together.
It'll change your life, justlike it changed Lacey's.
Real quick before I start too,scan that QR code.
I want you guys to follow me onsocial media.
I'm gonna share somethingpowerful with you today that I
hope inspires you to change forthe better.
And that's my mission each andevery day is to get up and put
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out content on my podcast, onFacebook, on Instagram to
inspire change in people, tohelp you to recognize that there
is more out there for you, thatyou are capable of more.
But no one's gonna give it toyou.
There's no handouts in thislife.
You need urgency, you need tolive with conviction, you need
to be honest with yourself aboutwhat you truly want.
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And then you gotta get up everyday and do the work and go after
it, because nobody is gonnacreate the life that you want
for yourself.
You gotta do it.
You guys, so I want to sharewith you where I come from and
how I got here, like I said.
Growing up, you know, I wasraised in Santa Barbara,
California.
Has anybody been to California?
Right?
Despite some of the BS that weknow is going on, it's a
beautiful state.
I was fortunate to grow up in abeach town, you know, with so
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much opportunity.
Santa Barbara, California isbeautiful, one of the best
places in the world to travelto.
And as a kid, I had so manyaspirations and dreams.
I wanted to be a professionalbaseball player.
You know, I was so excited eachand every day to live life.
You know, I was so passionateabout playing sports, going to
school, hanging out with myfriends, and I saw a world of
limit uh of unlimitedpossibilities.
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How many of you as a kidremember having big goals and
dreams and you felt they wereattainable?
Keep your hands up.
I want to see.
How many of you still feel thatway?
See, the truth is most peoplehave a gift that God has
bestowed upon you as a child.
You have clarity.
You haven't been jaded by theworld.
You're not letting fear anddoubt hold you back.
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You haven't failed.
So you believe in yourself andyou believe in the possibilities
that you see around you.
But at some point, you're gonnabe met with some adversity.
There's resistance.
Maybe somebody told you youweren't good enough.
Maybe you lost in thechampionship baseball game.
Maybe your first girlfriendcheated on you.
Maybe you saw your parents gothrough struggles and get
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divorced.
Maybe you battled withaddiction, whatever it is, and
suddenly the world didn't seemso abundant.
Suddenly, those dreams that Godput on your heart didn't seem
feasible.
Suddenly, you startedsecond-guessing your ability and
your potential.
And you did what most people do.
You start to settle.
You stop dreaming.
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You just kind of start kickingback a little bit and getting
comfortable.
And then what happens is eachand every day you make decisions
based on fear and doubt, thatnegative energy inside of you
grows stronger.
And like most people in theworld, it corrupts your
potential.
That's what happened to me.
Growing up as a kid with allthose dreams, I suddenly met
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adversity.
At the age of 10, it was thefirst time I saw my mother
overdose.
Happened multiple times by theage I was 12 years old.
Suddenly I saw her and my dadfighting.
They'd be drunk, they werebattling addiction, the cops
would come to our house.
I started seeing all thesehorrible things as a young
person that really changed myperspective about the world in
my life.
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And suddenly I startedquestioning myself.
And instead of seeing a world ofendless possibilities, I felt
like I was living under thisdark cloud of pain, of shame, of
regret.
And all I wanted to do was numbthat feeling out.
And the only thing I could do atthat young age was have a drink,
smoke some weed, take a pill.
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The only thing I found to numbout the pain that I was
experiencing was to use drugsand alcohol.
And so from 14 to 24, that'swhat I did.
I didn't play sports in highschool.
I didn't go after my dreams.
I didn't live as my true self.
I ran from my problems.
I lived in denial, and my lifewas just passing me by.
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And then at the age of 23, amiracle happened.
I was going down such adestructive path.
If I didn't end up going toprison, I wouldn't be here today
to share this message with you.
And so at the age of 23, I wentto a college party to chase
girls, have fun, be wild like Iwas at that age, and a big fight
broke out between two groups ofguys.
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And I got blamed for an assaultthat I did not do, and the next
day I was charged with attemptedmurder.
And I was facing life in prison.
Can you imagine at 23 years oldthinking that your life was over
forever?
I found myself sitting in a sixby eight cell every day for 24
hours a day.
The cell was so small I couldtouch both walls at the same
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time.
And I never left.
Can you imagine the torment, theshock and awe, the disbelief,
the pain that I had toexperience sitting in that cell,
looking back on my life,thinking that that was it?
Because all I saw in that momentwas wasted potential, excuses,
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procrastination.
And I realized that I had liveda life and lived as a person
that I was not proud of.
The pain that I felt in thatmoment, the regret that I
experienced, was worse than thethought of spending life in
prison.
Because I realized that I haddone it to myself.
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We don't live with thisperspective each and every day.
When you get up in the morning,you don't think that it might be
your last day.
When you go to sleep at nightand hug your kids and kiss your
wife, you don't even know ifyou're gonna wake up, but you
act as if you will and you liveit like you're gonna live
forever.
You take these opportunities forgranted.
We all do.
That's what I realized when Isat in that cell.
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I realized, man, if I would haveknown what I was gonna feel in
this cell, I would have lived mylife so much differently.
I wouldn't have let fear hold meback or a judgment from other
people.
I wouldn't have cared what youguys thought of me.
I wouldn't have been scared togo after my goals and pursue my
best self in life.
So what if I fail?
I'm gonna keep trying.
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I'm not gonna sleep in.
This time is practice.
I gotta get up and go.
I gotta do something with mylife.
Why didn't I have that urgency?
Why didn't I have that passionand that conviction?
We all go through life thinkingthat we have more time.
You saw last week Charlie Kirk.
Shot in the neck.
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He's gone.
Left his two young children,left his wife.
But you know what he didn'tleave?
He didn't leave a wasted life.
He left a legacy.
And that's what I want each andevery one of you to focus on.
Every day, your impact, yourdecisions have a ripple effect
that are gonna massively impactyour kids, your coworkers, your
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employees, your customers, yourwife, your community.
A lot of us, we undervalueourselves.
We don't recognize the power wepossess.
Each and every one of you has aphone right now.
You can share a message everyday that changes someone's life.
You could do the work onyourself to become an example.
You could get excited andpassionate and fired up, and
instead of being one of thosepeople on the sideline waiting
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for everyone else to change theworld, you could become the
world changer.
Imagine if we all stood up everyday with that mentality and that
initiative and took action.
What we could create.
That's what we're being calledto do right now.
Because being tolerant, beingidle, not speaking up, not
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taking action, not being aleader, look where it's gotten
us.
There's a lot taking place inlife right now that reminds me
of my time in prison and thetransformation I went through on
a personal level.
It's happening collectivelyright now in society.
It's awareness.
It's a little bit of pain.
It's recognizing that maybe ourdecisions and choices haven't
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led us to the best place that wewant to be in life.
I want you guys to think aboutsomething.
If you went to the doctor foryour routine checkup next month
and found out that you had atumor on your brain or a heart
condition you didn't know about,and you had a month to live.
Or God forbid, you have a coupletoo many drinks one night, you
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fall asleep at the wheel, youtake someone out, and you find
yourself sitting in the jailcell like I did the next morning
with a life sentence hangingover your head.
I want you to really putyourself in that place right
now.
If your life was over right now,what are the things that you
didn't do that you know you'vebeen called to do?
What are the moments that youlet pass you by?
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Carelessly overlooking howprecious they are.
Who are the people in your livesright now that you're not
spending enough time with?
Holding their hands, tellingthem you love them, being
present when they're talking toyou.
I don't care if it's yourbusiness, your family, your
personal goals, I know each andevery one of you right now has
more to give to this life thatyou've been blessed.
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I know right now each and everyone of you has more potential
that is untapped.
And you know what the greatestmotivator in life is, and this
is why I've been blessed with somuch adversity.
It's pain.
Pain is the greatest motivatorin life.
If you experience enough pain,you will change instantly.
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If you went to the doctor nextweek and he said, Hey man,
you're diabetic.
You're at risk for heartfailure, you're gonna die in a
couple years if you don't changeyour ways.
You would all get healthier, youwould all eat better food, you'd
educate yourself on nutrition,you'd actually read books and
look into it.
You'd go to the gym, you'd workout, you wouldn't hit snooze on
your alarm.
You'd get a personal trainer,you'd hire a coach, you'd get
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accountability partners, youwould lose the weight, you would
get in better shape.
Same goes with substance oralcohol.
Some of you are drinking toomuch.
You found out you had fattyliver, cirrhosis, whatever it
may be, and you found out yourlife was in jeopardy, and the
doctor said, Hey man, if youdon't quit drinking, you're
gonna die.
And you got kids and a familyyou're gonna leave behind, you
would change like that.
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Why can't not why can't we alllive with that type of urgency
and perspective now?
Why does it take us nearlylosing our lives or having to
jeopardize everything to makethe changes we know we need to
make?
Because here's the truth eachand every one of you right now
know who you want to be, youknow what goals you have, you
know what changes you need tomake, but a lot of you aren't
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making them.
And I want you to recognize thatyour time is running out, and
you don't know when that time'sgonna come for each and every
one of you.
The biggest takeaway I want youguys to have today is that you
need to live with more urgency.
You need to go after your dreamslike your life depends on it.
You need to get up every daywith focus, with a plan, with
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purpose.
You need to fight through thatresistance, face your fears,
prove yourself right by takingpositive action.
Don't side with the doubt, don'tsleep in, don't kick back.
You prove your fears right whenyou do that, you strengthen
them.
I had to experience this andlearn this and feel this the
hard way, you guys.
Sitting in that cell every daywas torture.
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And I knew that I had to dosomething to take control of my
life.
I couldn't just sit there idlyin the cell and wake up every
day and think about how I wasgonna spend the rest of my life
in prison and how I might neverget to go home and hug a loved
one, see another sunset, walk onthe beach, be a free man.
Those thoughts were torturingme.
And so the first thing Irecognized I had to change is my
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mindset.
Why are you yawning, man?
You checked out?
Come on, let's go.
Focus, focus, be with me righthere, okay?
Your mindset is everything.
The way you look at situations,the way you talk to yourself is
gonna dictate how you live yourlife.
Every day I was getting up inthat cell and I kept thinking,
why is this happening to me?
Why does no one believe me?
Why is no one trying to help me?
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You know, my lawyers, theydidn't even believe I was
innocent.
The first day in court, theywanted to amend my charges to
homicide because the victim wasin a coma for two weeks.
They told me he was brain dead.
They said, John, you're nevergetting out of here.
You're gonna do life in prison.
So waking up in that cell everyday, I recognized that my
mindset, my self-talk was makingmy situation worse.
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And when you find people inthose predicaments in life,
there's usually only one wayout.
That's death.
Very few people can endure thattype of anguish and pain day by
day, week by week, month bymonth, year by year.
And so I couldn't get out ofthat cell, I couldn't leave.
So the only thing I could do isshift my perspective around my
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situation.
And I remember one day it hitme.
One day I'm sitting there in mycell reflecting, I'm soul
searching, I'm praying to Godfor guidance and strength and
answers.
Please help me.
I can't do this alone.
Please help me.
I can't do this alone.
I'm not strong enough.
I need your strength, your help.
You know, I never prayed outlike that in my life before.
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And it's interesting when wefeel like we have nothing left
to do, no recourse, noalternative.
What do we do?
We pray.
My prayers were answered.
I remember shortly after thatsitting in my cell going, Sean,
gosh, what if you needed thisexperience?
Like, what if you needed to cometo jail to get sober?
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And being incarcerated isactually gonna save your life.
You know, you guys, I'd seen somany people die growing up.
My uncle died in my garage whenI was 19 from an overdose.
That same year I had to rush inand save my dad and give him
mouth to mouth because he wasdead on the floor until the
paramedics came.
Like I said, I saw my momoverdose three times.
She lived, but I had friends,cousins, family members, they
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all perished because they'redemons.
And I was next.
I know it.
I would not be here today had Inot gone to jail.
So I started asking myself ortelling myself, maybe you know,
coming to jail is gonna save mylife and get me sober.
Or maybe it's gonna allow me toget away from all those toxic
relationships and people that Iwas living with and amongst and
find out who I am as a person.
You know, and the big one wasbelieving that this could
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potentially be a blessing indisguise.
And although I couldn't see itin the moment, God had a plan
for me and my life.
And sometimes in the mostextreme moments of adversity,
the only recourse you have isprayer and the ability to shift
your perspective to see thepositive potential.
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And that's what I started doing.
I started projecting into thefuture, but not in a negative
way, like most people do.
I started seeing the positivepotential of my circumstances,
and it gave me a little bit ofhope that each and every day I
could cling to to get me throughthe next.
And so that led to me doingthings every day to better
myself because I remember wakingup going, okay, I can't just sit
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in this cell and let this timepass me by.
You know, a lot of people go,Oh, uh, you know, life is not
happening to you, it's happeningfor you.
Have you ever heard that?
But if you just said that toyourself every day and just laid
in your bed all day, would youactually believe it?
I had to live it out.
You have to live out the wordsthat you speak, the person you
say you are, the values that youpossess.
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I want to see you demonstratethem every day in your actions.
Otherwise, you don't evenbelieve they're true.
And most people they damage therapport they have with their
self, their relationship,because they constantly break
promises.
And if you don't have confidenceand belief in yourself, you're
not going to do anything inlife.
But a man with true conviction,true confidence, true belief in
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himself, he can conquer theworld.
And so I recognized every daythat I had to focus on what I
could do to turn those thoughtsinto reality, to prove to myself
that it was a blessing indisguise.
So the first thing I did wascommit to a life of sobriety.
That was 13 years ago.
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I've been sober ever since.
And the second thing was a shiftinternally.
It was I made a commitment tomyself that I was gonna walk the
straight and narrow.
I was gonna walk this path ofexcellence for the rest of my
life.
I wasn't gonna be one foot, whatone foot in, one foot out like
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most people.
I was gonna commit to excellenceevery day and everything I did.
I had to do it to the best of myability.
I had to be my truest self, Ihad to be authentic.
And these are thoughts in a jailcell facing life in prison.
What can I actually do?
But before you make the change,before you develop the habit,
you have to have a shift in yourown perception of yourself, your
identity.
You have to make a deep internalcommitment to who you're going
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to be for this life.
Most people waver, they spendtheir whole lives negotiating
with themselves.
Oh, tomorrow I'll do it.
Oh, next week, oh, just tonightI'll have the drinks.
Oh, if you live that way, you'renever gonna become who you want
to be.
You gotta compound these days,these decisions, these actions.
The compounding effect is real.
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So during that time, Irecognized that there was about
a handful of things I could doto better myself.
And that's all I wanted to do.
Every day I wanted to do thingsthat made me feel like I was
bettering myself.
Whatever I could do in thatcell.
So I'd get up and I would read,write, and work out.
Every day, read, write, and workout, every day, read, write, and
work out over and over and over.
And my mindset in that momentwas I get to work out, I get to
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read, I get to write theseletters home.
I started creating thisgratitude perspective for the
things I didn't have.
I wasn't dwelling or focused onwhat I didn't have or what was
working against me or who didn'tbelieve me, or all that
negativity.
I want you guys to do a littlebit of an assessment right now.
And I want you to ask yourself,how many of my thoughts each and
every day are focused onnegative outcomes, negative
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occurrences in my life?
What I don't have.
Who was a jerk to me today?
All that stuff, right?
Whatever you focus on, that'swhere your energy goes.
That's gonna affect how you liveyour life.
I recognize in the moment that Ihad to focus on positivity and
what I was doing, not what Icouldn't do.
So when I'd be working out, I'dbe telling myself, man, I'm so
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blessed right now, I get to workout.
I got arms and legs thatfunction.
I could push through thesepush-ups, I could do a thousand
push-ups today if I really try.
I get to work out, I get to.
And then when I'd pick up abook, sometimes the pages would
be ripped out, sometimes thelast two chapters would be
missing.
But I didn't focus on that.
I'd tell myself, man, I haveeyes that work, I could see
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right now, I could understandwhat's going on in this book.
I get to read.
I get to.
And then when I'd be writingletters back home, the same
thing.
Man, I have family members whoare supporting me.
They believe in me, they're herefor me.
I get to write these lettersback home, I get to.
And so, you guys, this is like asuperpower.
You're going through your dayand you're getting all angry and
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disgruntled.
Oh, I gotta drive across town tobid this job.
Oh, they didn't put the gutterson right, I gotta go back and
repair them.
Oh man, my kids are late.
I gotta go wait for them.
I gotta sit in traffic, blah,blah, blah, blah, blah.
When you talk to yourself thatway about your life, what are
you doing?
Would you rather give everythingup you have right now and just
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be dead?
No.
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Right?
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So when you start recognizing the good in your
life, man, I get to spend timewith my kids, I get to earn
money, I get to provide, I getto grow, I get to face
adversity.
That's how I become better.
I get to.
If you can shift your self-talkand remind yourself I get to,
instantly, your frequency, youremotional state will elevate.
You'll start to see the good inyour life everywhere you go in
everything that you do.
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And here's another one, right?
No matter what you're facing inlife, it's an opportunity.
No matter what goals you'regoing after, you're either gonna
get what you want, you're gonnawin.
And if you come up short, guesswhat?
You get to learn.
That's the only L we take here.
We learn.
Every day we grow, we learn, weget better.
But you're not gonna show upevery day with this mentality if
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you're talking negatively toyourself and looking at your
life saying, I have to.
So, you guys, this shift that Imade in my mindset and my daily
habits propelled me all throughprison.
I was sentenced to seven yearsin prison.
They didn't let me out.
The truth never came out.
They convicted me for assaultwith a deadly weapon and sent me
to prison for seven years.
And I remember telling myselfbefore I went upstate, Sean, if
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you can overcome this time ofincarceration, you stay focused,
you stay true to yourself, youmake everyday count, there's
nothing you can't do in yourlife.
That was my mindset, and I madeeveryday count.
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When I got to prison, I workedout more.
When I got to prison, I readmore books.
When I got to prison, I foundout they had a college
correspondence program.
I signed up, I got fourassociates' degrees during that
five and a half years.
I studied psychology, business,social and behavioral sciences.
I became obsessed with personaldevelopment and growth because I
wanted to come home and show theworld what I was made of.
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That experience taught me somuch about our time.
And if we prioritize itcorrectly, and if we can keep
our spirits alive and thatinspiration high, and we have
something we're striving for (25:32):
a goal, a purpose, a meaning.
Nothing's gonna stop us.
But I want you guys to questionyourselves and go, am I making
the most of my days?
Are my days mapped out?
Am I maximizing this gift I'vebeen given?
Is my vision so big it pulls meout of bed at night?
If you don't feel that way, it'sbecause you're doing it wrong.
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That's not the way you'resupposed to live.
You're not supposed to be numband idle and comfortable and
checked out.
That's not the way we'resupposed to live.
That was me for the first halfof my life.
This is me now.
I changed.
You can change too, I promiseyou that.
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So, you guys, I got out in 2017,2018, okay?
And I had dreams, I had goals.
I knew what I wanted to do.
In a very short period of time,I went into personal training in
a gym, left that gym, started myown business, got clients,
started building a family,started having babies, then
COVID shut the gyms down.
They took away my clients, theytook away my revenue overnight.
When I got with my wife, I toldher, baby, I got you, I'm gonna
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take care of you.
We're going into the hospital, Ihad my daughter Scarlet.
I said, Hey, when you get out ofhere, you're not going back to
work.
She was the GM at threerestaurants.
I said, You're never gonna workagain.
I'm gonna take care of you.
If you want to, you can.
If you want to start a business,you can, but I will provide, I
will take care of you.
And then COVID shut all the gymsdown and I lost all my clients
and revenue overnight.
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I remember one morning I wassitting in my wife's glider,
it's like a rocking chair whenshe has a baby, stressed out.
Four in the morning, looking atmy bank account, 1,500 bucks.
What am I gonna do?
Rent's due, we got bills.
I told my wife I was gonna bethe provider for her, I told her
I was gonna take care of her.
And I was so close to going tolook for a nine to five.
I was so close to seekingsecurity and safety.
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But I remember in that momentthinking about all the stuff I
had come overcome, all the stuffI'd gone through.
Broken home, addicted parents,ten years battling my own
addiction, life in prison, fiveand a half years in prison.
I'd come too far to stop then.
And remember in that moment,just realizing, man, I have more
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to give to this world.
I could share about how Iovercame my demons, I could talk
about my time in prison, I couldhelp people with their
depression, their mindset, theirhabits.
You know, everyone was lockeddown during COVID, they were
freaking out.
That shit was easy for me.
I had just done it.
It was easy.
I was just doing burpees in thebackyard.
It was easy.
I recognized, man, I gotta goall in on my dream.
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The only way you findfulfillment in life, the only
way you experience that feelingthat we're all chasing, it's not
money, it's not status, it's notyour Instagram followers.
It's alignment with the truththat God put on your heart.
When you go all in on yourdreams and you live every day
going after those dreams, doingeverything you can do, you start
to feel something powerfulwithin you.
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That's why I felt in prison.
I remember in prison waking upwith so much gratitude, feeling
so much purpose.
I remember questioning myself,how can I feel this way in here?
Like this shouldn't even beallowed.
This is too good.
And I remember my sole purposein prison became to keep this
energy alive inside of you,Sean, and get home and share it
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with the world.
And so, just like God sent me toprison and intervened in my
life, COVID was the opportunityto pivot and really become the
person I'm supposed to be.
And that's why I picked up myphone, I started doing Facebook
Lives, and I started sharing mystory.
I remember within the firstcouple months, started getting
clients, started building myonline program, and I never
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looked back.
So now, today, to this day, I'mthe founder of Unstoppable 365.
We're becoming the number onehealth and performance company
for blue-collar business ownersnationwide.
There's nobody that's comparingto what we're doing for
blue-collar guys and women,right?
That niche emerged by staying inalignment.
You see, over time, when you dothe right thing and you show up,
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you show up, you show up, youcompound those daily actions,
bigger visions emerge.
New opportunities,relationships.
You don't have to have it allmapped out, you just have to
have the courage to start theprocess.
And you never stop.
And so that's what I did.
And during that time, me and mywife, we were having kids.
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We have four kids now to thisday.
So, about three years aftergetting out of prison, I look
around at my life and I go, I'mthe owner of a coaching company.
I get to do what I love everyday and help people.
I wrote a book that became abestseller.
Prison of your own.
I get to speak on stages andshare my story with people in
the hopes that I could changetheir life.
And I'm looking around going,This is what I prayed for in
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prison.
These are the moments Ienvisioned.
All I wanted to do was come outand be a father and raise my
kids the right way and have afamily with my beautiful wife.
I want to get on stages andshare my message with people
like you so that I could infusesome hope, some inspiration,
some urgency, so that I couldtake all that pain, all the
lessons I learned all the time,and I could turn it into
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positive outcomes.
That's alchemy.
You could take bad and turn itinto good.
You could take negative andconvert it into positive.
You're the catalyst.
Your thoughts, your actions, thechanges you make, your
commitments, your sacrifices.
And so, you guys, today that'sthat's what I'm doing.
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I'm here to make an impact onthis world.
And I know that God is callingme for more.
And sometimes I go, man, am Idoing enough?
Is there more that I could bedoing?
And I know if I stay on thisstraight and narrow and show up
each and every day, I'llcontinue to have the
opportunities to make the impactthat God's put on my heart.
Okay, so look at.
Last year Lacey spoke, she stoodup and said, Hey, this is the
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woman I want to be.
I'm so proud of you.
She backed it up with action.
Let's give her a round ofapplause.
So I'm gonna give somebody inthe audience a chance to speak
their truth.
Look at, we all have thesesuppressed emotions, these
dreams, these hangups.
If you let them stay suppressed,they're gonna eat away at you
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for the rest of your life.
The moment you articulate yourtruth and call your shot, that's
the moment you get a chance toprove it to the world and pursue
those visions.
That's when they become real.
You got something you want tosay, brother?
Let's hear it.
SPEAKER_04 (31:49):
Uh uh six years ago, uh I stood in line to get on the
prison bus to head off for mystate sentence.
I did two years, but I was astrung out heroin addict.
I thought my life was completelyruined, and then I just kept
trying and doing everything theright way, the way it should be
done.
And then he gave me the greatopportunity to come run his
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business, and I've just that'swhat I practice every day.
Do the right thing, putting theright foot forward.
SPEAKER_00 (32:18):
I love that, man.
So let's give him a round ofapplause.
So, what is a change you want tomake to your mindset, your
habits?
unknown (32:30):
My habit, my health.
SPEAKER_00 (32:31):
Your health.
What specifically?
Tell me.
I I gotta I gotta be able to seeit.
SPEAKER_04 (32:34):
On my health, um, I had diverticulitis, put me in
the hospital.
So now that I'm out, I'm on afull protein diet.
Okay.
Um, I've already dropped uh 27pounds.
Yes, for real.
Uh yesterday morning wasactually the first time I truly
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just went for a walk withoutbeing on the job site, thanks to
Tim.
But my goal is to get back downto a little bit slimmer.
SPEAKER_00 (33:09):
What weight do you want to be?
Call your shot means you callyour shot.
I'd like to- If you don't havedetail in your goals, though,
your brain can't recognize whatyou're doing.
SPEAKER_04 (33:16):
I'd like to be at like 185, 175.
Okay.
Next year.
185, 175.
SPEAKER_00 (33:22):
Who was it?
Somebody in here.
Somebody in here came up to methe other day yesterday, and
they said, Hey man, I heard youspeak last year and I lost 80
pounds since.
Who was that?
Are you in the room?
SPEAKER_05 (33:32):
Where's Chris?
SPEAKER_00 (33:33):
Chris was in here earlier.
So look at you guys.
You all have the ability to takecontrol of your lives, but you
need detail, you need a plan.
And for you, having a personaltrainer, having a coach, having
a plan that you can follow eachand every day that guarantees
the results, it's gonna it'sgonna expedite that growth for
you.
So, I mean, we'll talk after,man.
(33:54):
Come chat with me.
But I love I love the fact thatyou're sober.
I love you changing your life.
I'm proud of you.
Let's go, baby.
SPEAKER_05 (33:59):
All right, we got another one for you.
SPEAKER_06 (34:03):
Who we got?
Come on, bring it up.
How's everybody doing?
My name is Kali.
Yeah, I don't so a shot I wantto call is um I run a personal
training business online, and Iwant to hire five new clients
every single month for the restof the year.
Let's go.
I love that.
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Thank you.
SPEAKER_05 (34:27):
Hold on, he might ask you, he might ask you
something.
He's gonna challenge you rightnow.
SPEAKER_00 (34:31):
So, are you doing online coaching or what are you
doing?
unknown (34:33):
I'm doing all right.
SPEAKER_00 (34:35):
And you're doing gutters?
Yep.
Okay.
Which one are you gonna do?
SPEAKER_06 (34:39):
Both.
SPEAKER_00 (34:40):
Both?
SPEAKER_06 (34:40):
The gutters isn't in my company, though.
SPEAKER_00 (34:43):
Okay, okay.
Yeah, so what I found is whenyou have one foot in, one foot
out, and anything, you're notgiving your all.
You know what I mean?
The only way we get exceptionalresults in life is when we give
our all we have to.
I've always put my back upagainst the wall, I've called my
shot, and I put myself in aposition where I cannot fail.
Like during COVID, I could havegone online for that whole year.
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Right?
But I was just kind of making alittle money doing in-person
training, I was comfortable, Ididn't realize it, I was in a
comfort zone.
What I recognize is that ifyou're not willing to burn the
ships and put yourself in aposition of you're either gonna
sink or you're gonna succeed, wedon't give enough effort to get
to where we want to go.
It's human tendency.
(35:26):
So it's something to reflect on,right?
I know right now you're gonnamake money, but look at it,
imagine if you didn't have apaycheck company.
You think you'd be a littlehungry to get those clients?
Oh, yeah.
You think you would be postingmore content, right?
You think you'd be sending outmore DMs?
SPEAKER_06 (35:37):
Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (35:38):
That's what I'm seeing.
So that's what I'm saying.
So the paycheck is a crutch.
The paycheck holds you back.
And I'm not here to dissuadethem from doing gutters, right?
That's what you guys are here tolearn.
But this is also about purpose.
And everyone has a differentpurpose God put on their heart.
You're here to help people.
That's what you want to do.
Go after it like your lifedepends on it.
We can chat more.
I'll be here all day.
(35:59):
I'll be here all day.
Chris, come here.
Also, too, just so you know,whoever gets up and speaks, I'm
gonna give you one of my booksand then the the journal that we
have, right?
So, Tim, you're next.
I only brought six copies, butcome talk to me after this, too.
I'll be here all day, you guys.
SPEAKER_05 (36:13):
I'm gonna let you jump back to Chris real quick.
SPEAKER_00 (36:14):
Let's do it.
There we go.
SPEAKER_05 (36:16):
He's gonna talk to you real quick.
SPEAKER_00 (36:17):
Come up here.
Come on.
So last year I spoke, right?
And kind of just like I didtoday, passing it.
Kind of have an idea of what I'mgonna say, but I just feel the
room out, and I just go withwith what God put on my heart.
I share that message.
He said he heard my message lastyear.
He came up to me, what,yesterday?
SPEAKER_02 (36:34):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (36:34):
And he goes, Sean, I just want you to know I heard
what you said last year, and Itook it to heart, and I lost 80
pounds.
So I just want to give him around of applause, man.
SPEAKER_02 (36:46):
Specifically, what I said was Specifically what I
said was that guy's an asshole,but fuck him.
I'm losing weight.
SPEAKER_00 (36:53):
Yeah, there we go, right?
SPEAKER_02 (36:54):
Which to be fair, that is what I said.
SPEAKER_00 (36:56):
So I talked a lot of shit last year on purpose.
I gotta get you guys fired up.
Sometimes those soft, fluffy,nice, positive words, like they
feel good, but do theyabsolutely create change?
But if I tell you, like, all youmen, you guys are a bunch of
pussies and nobody was in thegym, and you guys were hung over
and drunk, and that's the manyou want to be for your family,
like I'm fucking serious.
Like, think about that.
To be fair, you were right.
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But but that's the truth.
Because look at I have thehighest standards for myself
because I want to be the best! Iwant to be the best, okay?
When I was younger, I had thatfeeling, but I didn't live it
out, so I couldn't show theworld my potential.
My family members, my friends,no one knew my potential because
I never showed them.
Once I got pissed off and prisonfired me up, and I got that chip
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on my shoulder to this day forall those wasted years, that's
what drives me every day.
I'm still proving myself right.
I still gotta get up and do thework.
And when I look at my children,I look at my wife, I look at you
guys, I know why I'm doing it.
And that's something I want youall to think about.
Why does it matter if you get uptomorrow morning and do the work
or sleep in?
Why does it matter if you're fatand lazy or if you're a
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superhero for your kids?
Why does it matter if you'resober or you're a drunk?
Why does it matter if you makethe money, grow the business, or
you don't?
You gotta have something deeperinside of you that drives you
every day.
So you can run through a wall sonothing will stop you.
Those excuses, those doubts,they don't even matter.
You gotta do it.
You gotta find out.
SPEAKER_05 (38:23):
You gotta do it, yeah.
You wanna do one more?
You want it?
You want it?
Let's go.
Come on, come on.
Let's go.
This is the woman right here,baby.
What's your shot?
SPEAKER_00 (38:37):
Come up here.
I want you to stay on.
Let's give her a round ofapplause.
SPEAKER_07 (38:44):
Hi, Sean.
SPEAKER_00 (38:46):
So tell them your name, and I want you to tell
them exactly who you're becomingand what you're gonna do in your
life.
SPEAKER_07 (38:52):
Okay, my name is Jessica.
Um I want to stop to be a womanuh in depression.
I want to help you real quick.
unknown (39:05):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (39:06):
I want to know who you want to become.
SPEAKER_07 (39:08):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (39:08):
We're not gonna focus on what you can't do and
what's holding you back.
Let's look towards who you wantto become.
SPEAKER_07 (39:14):
Okay, when I be strong.
That's all.
SPEAKER_00 (39:19):
What else?
You want to be strong.
What skill sets?
What do you want to be able todo?
We talked about it last night.
And it's okay, look at realquick, these are all just human
beings.
Everybody in this room's gonnadie one day.
We're all gonna die one day.
We all have struggles, we allhave stress, we all feel the
same way.
(39:40):
We're all gonna die one day.
We're all gonna die, you guys.
Let's make the most of this timethat we have.
unknown (39:47):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (39:48):
So we talked last night, right?
You want to so can I can I sharea little bit?
SPEAKER_07 (39:52):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (39:53):
She came from Mexico.
English is her second language,she's here pursuing her dreams.
How beautiful is that, right?
And we talked last night, andyou said you feel a little
self-conscious because you can'tspeak English the same way as
you can Spanish, and you want tobe able to communicate a message
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the right way.
SPEAKER_07 (40:14):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (40:14):
Right?
And so, with that, just like Itold you guys when I went to
prison and I knew that if Icould overcome that five years,
I could do anything in my life.
It's the same for you.
You continue to improve yourEnglish, you don't get
self-conscious as much.
You just say, hey, this is whereI'm at, I'm gonna keep getting
better every day.
If I can learn English andcommunicate my message, I can do
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anything.
You gotta start, you gotta psychyourself up.
You gotta shift the perspective,change the narrative and your
mindset.
Does that make sense?
Like, if you sit there and go,oh, I'm depressed and I can't
talk good English, of courseyou're gonna be depressed.
Yeah.
But if you say, dang, I camefrom Mexico, now I'm in the US,
now I'm building my businesswith my is it your husband?
Yes.
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What a beautiful thing.
That's the American dream.
Right?
Real quick, my Uber driver onthe way over here was from
Ethiopia.
And I started asking him aboutwhat it was like to grow up in
Ethiopia, why he came toAmerica, what he thinks about
the politics here.
You know, I was asking him allthese questions.
And then I go, why do Ethiopiansand Kenyans like, why are they
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so good at running, man?
Like you guys are killing it,and all the marathons set and
world records.
And he told me, because growingup in the villages over there,
if you want to get an educationas a kid, you have to run two
hours to school, get youreducation, and then run two
hours home.
Every single day.
Can you imagine the gratitudethat he has to be in this
country with theseopportunities?
(41:39):
Gosh, that puts things inperspective, right?
So I can only imagine the stuffthat you saw in Mexico, the way
you grew up.
Some places in Mexico are harderthan the United States, right?
SPEAKER_07 (41:47):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (41:48):
Do you think that makes you a little hungrier?
Motivated?
SPEAKER_07 (41:51):
Yeah, I feel that um, well, when I came here, I
came for other purpose, just tostudy, right?
Okay.
So just to be better in myEnglish and just to get a job
there, but not here.
SPEAKER_00 (42:05):
And you're but you're doing it here now, right?
SPEAKER_07 (42:07):
Yeah, I'm not sure.
SPEAKER_00 (42:07):
And so sometimes God changes the plan.
What I'll tell you too isanything in life that's
meaningful, it requires hardwork and consistency over time.
You know, and that's what shapesyou into a better woman.
You gotta fight for it.
You gotta believe in yourself.
You gotta be willing every dayto get up and do the work.
That's how you kill thedepression.
SPEAKER_07 (42:25):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (42:26):
Make yourself proud.
Every day do as many things asyou can to build yourself up.
You don't have negativeself-talk.
Your negative self-talk somewhatis truthful.
Hey man, it's calling you out.
You didn't do what you said youwere gonna do.
But every day, if you stack winsand you do things that make you
feel proud of who you are,what's the alternative?
You're not gonna be depressed,you're gonna have pride, joy,
happiness.
(42:48):
Right?
unknown (42:48):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (42:49):
You could do it.
Let's give her a round ofapplause.
SPEAKER_05 (42:57):
Okay, good job, good job.
SPEAKER_00 (42:59):
Uh Young Tim, young Tim in the young.
SPEAKER_05 (43:01):
Young Ting.
SPEAKER_00 (43:02):
Tim Jr.
SPEAKER_05 (43:03):
Yeah, I was gonna say, young, young Tim is like, I
was just about to order somefood.
SPEAKER_00 (43:08):
Let's hear it, brother.
Tell the whole audience who youare and what you're gonna do
with your life.
SPEAKER_01 (43:13):
Uh, my name's Tim Crouch.
Uh my dream is pretty prettysimilar to his life uh
lifestyle.
I want to be an online coach andeverything.
Fitness is my passion.
Uh similar to him, I'd like toat least start with like some
five, ten clients a monthconsistently.
That's my goal ultimately.
I want to replace all my incomeswith that because I just I kind
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of do side hustles, sellfurniture, and uh do pressure
washing.
It's just not really my passion.
My passion's fitness.
But that brings in the money.
SPEAKER_00 (43:43):
Yeah, I love that.
And look at real quick, becauseyou all blue-collar guys out
here, some of you want to loseweight and get in shape.
Do you think he looks the part?
I'd trust him, right?
Get me in the gym, working out,eating right.
That's why I told him.
I said, You're already anexample of what a lot of other
men want to look like.
Now you gotta put out contentand get in front of those
people.
And you gotta connect withpeople too.
Like, I do fitness coaching, butyou won't hear me talk about
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macros and food.
I talk about the emotion insideof you.
I talk about the man that youwant to be, the leader that you
want to become.
See, I have an intimateconnection with my audience.
I know what's missing out therein the world.
So Tim's 19, you guys, and he'salready thinking about this
stuff.
And young people stressthemselves out so much.
We were talking, and a coupleother youngsters, and like
they're stressing themselves outabout where they're at in life.
I'm like, dude, when I was 19, Iwas just doing cocaine and
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chasing women.
Right?
Let's be honest.
Like, I was a knucklehead.
Jesse, where are you at?
When you were Jesse's 24, and hewas like stressed out.
I'm like, when you when I was24, I was facing life in prison.
When you get serious about whoyou want to be, you call your
shot, you show up every day.
That's when the magic happens.
Watch this guy next year whenhe's back here.
Watch Tim, right?
Let's go.
SPEAKER_05 (44:50):
One more, we're not one more.
SPEAKER_00 (44:51):
One more, one more.
SPEAKER_03 (44:54):
That's what I'm saying.
My name is Eric.
And uh just as you know, a smallbusiness owner, I do fresh
washing, floor coating.
My main goal I feel like I wantto call myself on is uh helping
more people with theiraddiction.
Uh I got a I work for a guttercompany, and the people that I
work with, you know, they're ondrugs, and there's one person
that I try my best to help, andI always get the wall.
(45:16):
But it's not gonna stop me.
But I feel like God's reallykind of like put this on my
heart to help these individuals.
I go to a lot of uh hip hopartists concerts, and uh I just
try my best to help other peoplebecause my mom's still a little
addiction and she's not hereanymore.
SPEAKER_00 (45:33):
Yeah, yeah, that's one of the hardest things is
when you want to help peoplethat don't want to change.
You gotta be the example, yougotta continue to show up for
them, put content out online,you know, bring them to events
like this, do whatever you can,but here's the sad truth.
My dad died four years ago froman overdose from fentanyl.
He never changed.
(45:53):
He never changed, man.
He wanted to, but he couldn't.
Those demons inside of him andthe stuff he experienced as a
young person, it was too much.
My mom, she died when I was inprison of a sudden aneurysm due
to her drug use.
The truth is, some people aregonna die and you can't save
everyone.
But guess what?
There's somebody in this room,there's somebody online, there's
somebody that you're gonna speakto that will change.
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And that's why we keep showingup.
Because the ones that do want tochange, they will.
The ones that are ready, whenthey hear your message, they're
gonna run with it.
And so that's why I would tellyou, man, do your part, go all
in, but just know you can't saveeveryone, and that's that's hard
for me to admit.
Because I never think that orwant to believe that, you know?
But I saw it firsthand.
So people will change, you'regonna lose some in the process,
(46:35):
but be that shiny light of hopefor them every day, man.
SPEAKER_03 (46:38):
Thank you.
Good job.
SPEAKER_00 (46:43):
Real success isn't the money in your bank account,
the quality of your business.
If you're a fat, lazy father, ifyou're a drunk, if you're not
living out your potential,you're not gonna ever be
successful.
And that's the truth.
I want you guys to beexceptional human beings.
That's how you win in everythingthat you do.
Go to the next slide.
That's a that's my mugshot.
That's the day I was arrested onthe left.
Strung out on drugs, scared outof my mind, had no idea what was
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in store for me.
The other picture on the rightis cut off, but I look a little
better there, right?
The point is, it's you versusyou every day.
The greatest fight that you willever come across in life is the
one against yourself.
I truly believe there's twoversions of us coexisting at all
times, fighting for yourattention, okay?
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It's that person that you wantto be, those goals, those
dreams, those changes, theperson that God has put you on
this earth to become.
But you're also met with thatother person, right?
The fear, the doubt, thecomfort.
I'll do it later.
Oh, tomorrow, next week.
I'll change sometime in thefuture.
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That person's always trying toget you to hold back.
That version of you is nevercalling you for greatness, it's
calling you for comfort, it'scalling you for mediocrity.
No one's gonna live your lifefor you.
No one can make the changes youneed to make.
You need to be honest withyourself, you need to recognize
that you're here for a reason,that there's so many people that
depend on you, there's so manyopportunities out there, and the
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future is abundant and limitlessif you're willing to pursue
those dreams.
But if you can't get up everyday and have clarity around who
you want to be and makedecisions that move you towards
that person, you're never gonnaget there.
I know the truth that each andevery one of you has so much
potential.
You are stronger than yourealize.
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Okay?
You're more resilient than youknow, and your capabilities are
endless.
My hope for each and every oneof you is that you leave this
room today and you decide to gochase them.
Love you guys.
Let's go out and change theworld.
I lived in denial and my life was just passing me
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by.
And then at the age of 23, I wasgoing down such a destructive
path.
I found myself sitting in a sixby eight cell every day for 24
hours a day.
Can you imagine the torment, theshock and awe, the disbelief,
the pain that I had toexperience sitting in that cell,
looking back on my life,thinking that that was it?
Because all I saw in that momentwas wasted potential, excuses,
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procrastination.
I realized that I had lived alife and lived as a person that
I was not proud of.
The pain that I felt in thatmoment.
The regret that I experiencedwas worse than the thought of
spending life in prison.
I realized that I was.
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Now, how you spend your time isso important.
John talked about compoundinterest, compounding your time,
your habits yesterday, right?
I recommend you check out thatbook by Darren Hardy, The
Compounding Effect.
Now I'm not going to tell youhow to live your lives today,
but what I will say is who doyou think's going to get ahead
faster?
The guy that's up early chasinghis dreams, or the guy that's
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sleeping in because he wanted tohave a couple extra drinks the
night before.
Now I know you're here to allsocial and have fun and let
loose a little bit.
That's okay.
But I want you to think aboutthe ROI with your time, your
daily decisions, the habits thatyou're forming.
Because that's the differencebetween the person you want to
become and the person you'regoing to look back and regret
being one day.
I promise you that.
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And so today I want to sharewith you guys how I got to this
stage, how I got to this moment.
You know, a lot of you haven'tbeen here, right?
How many people were here lastyear?
Raise your hands.
Okay.
I'm not going to share too muchand elaborate too much on my
story because you heard it.
I don't want to be redundant.
But you guys got to understandwhat I've gone through to get to
this point.
And I want to share with you thelessons, the changes, the
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mindset, the habits that allowme to go from a drug-addicted
loser facing life in prison to aman of purpose who's living out
his dream every day.
Now, how many of you in heretruly want to win in life?
Come on now! Do you guysrecognize how desperate our
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country is for real leadersright now?
I'm not going to get intopolitics, I'm not going to go
down that road.
We all know the truth.
And you know how you win andfight the enemy?
Personal excellence, dailyhabits, living out your values
and morals, demonstrating themthrough your behavior.
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I don't want to hear it, I wantto see it from each and every
one of you.
This isn't about me on stagesaying, look at me and what I've
done.
Collectively, we need to standup and do the right thing.
Right?
Let's go.
Let me get a round of applausefor that.
You guys know the truth.
I brought three of my books.
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I wrote a memoir during COVIDabout my personal life
experience.
And then I also have myself-mastery guide, which is
mindset course, personaldevelopment course, and 90 days
of daily journaling.
Okay?
I'm gonna share with you theimportance of why personal
development is paramount to yoursuccess.
And then I'm gonna give away acopy of each for those of you
that volunteer, raise your handand participate today, okay?
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Because just like Lacey, whenyou have the courage and
conviction to speak your truth,whether it's about your goals or
your setbacks, what's holdingyou back, something powerful
shifts inside of you.
No longer is that a suppressedthought or idea.
Now it becomes reality.
There's something tangible aboutit.
You can almost reach out andtouch it.
So I want to urge you andencourage you, take notes,
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listen, ask questions,participate in this hour that we
have together.
It'll change your life, justlike it changed Lacey's.
Real quick before I start too,scan that QR code.
I want you guys to follow me onsocial media.
I'm gonna share somethingpowerful with you today that I
hope inspires you to change forthe better.
And that's my mission each andevery day is to get up and put
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out content on my podcast, onFacebook, on Instagram to
inspire change in people, tohelp you to recognize that there
is more out there for you, thatyou are capable of more.
But no one's gonna give it toyou.
There's no handouts in thislife.
You need urgency, you need tolive with conviction, you need
to be honest with yourself aboutwhat you truly want.
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And then you gotta get up everyday and do the work and go after
it, because nobody is gonnacreate the life that you want
for yourself.
You gotta do it.
You guys, so I want to sharewith you where I come from and
how I got here, like I said.
Growing up, you know, I wasraised in Santa Barbara,
California.
Has anybody been to California?
Right?
Despite some of the BS that weknow is going on, it's a
beautiful state.
I was fortunate to grow up in abeach town, you know, with so
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much opportunity.
Santa Barbara, California isbeautiful, one of the best
places in the world to travelto.
And as a kid, I had so manyaspirations and dreams.
I wanted to be a professionalbaseball player.
You know, I was so excited eachand every day to live life.
You know, I was so passionateabout playing sports, going to
school, hanging out with myfriends, and I saw a world of
limit uh of unlimitedpossibilities.
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How many of you as a kidremember having big goals and
dreams and you felt they wereattainable?
Keep your hands up.
I want to see.
How many of you still feel thatway?
See, the truth is most peoplehave a gift that God has
bestowed upon you as a child.
You have clarity.
You haven't been jaded by theworld.
You're not letting fear anddoubt hold you back.
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You haven't failed.
So you believe in yourself andyou believe in the possibilities
that you see around you.
But at some point, you're gonnabe met with some adversity.
There's resistance.
Maybe somebody told you youweren't good enough.
Maybe you lost in thechampionship baseball game.
Maybe your first girlfriendcheated on you.
Maybe you saw your parents gothrough struggles and get
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divorced.
Maybe you battled withaddiction, whatever it is, and
suddenly the world didn't seemso abundant.
Suddenly, those dreams that Godput on your heart didn't seem
feasible.
Suddenly, you startedsecond-guessing your ability and
your potential.
And you did what most people do.
You start to settle.
You stop dreaming.
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You just kind of start kickingback a little bit and getting
comfortable.
And then what happens is eachand every day you make decisions
based on fear and doubt, thatnegative energy inside of you
grows stronger.
And like most people in theworld, it corrupts your
potential.
That's what happened to me.
Growing up as a kid with allthose dreams, I suddenly met
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adversity.
At the age of 10, it was thefirst time I saw my mother
overdose.
Happened multiple times by theage I was 12 years old.
Suddenly I saw her and my dadfighting.
They'd be drunk, they werebattling addiction, the cops
would come to our house.
I started seeing all thesehorrible things as a young
person that really changed myperspective about the world in
my life.
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And suddenly I startedquestioning myself.
And instead of seeing a world ofendless possibilities, I felt
like I was living under thisdark cloud of pain, of shame, of
regret.
And all I wanted to do was numbthat feeling out.
And the only thing I could do atthat young age was have a drink,
smoke some weed, take a pill.
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The only thing I found to numbout the pain that I was
experiencing was to use drugsand alcohol.
And so from 14 to 24, that'swhat I did.
I didn't play sports in highschool.
I didn't go after my dreams.
I didn't live as my true self.
I ran from my problems.
I lived in denial, and my lifewas just passing me by.
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And then at the age of 23, amiracle happened.
I was going down such adestructive path.
If I didn't end up going toprison, I wouldn't be here today
to share this message with you.
And so at the age of 23, I wentto a college party to chase
girls, have fun, be wild like Iwas at that age, and a big fight
broke out between two groups ofguys.
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And I got blamed for an assaultthat I did not do, and the next
day I was charged with attemptedmurder.
And I was facing life in prison.
Can you imagine at 23 years oldthinking that your life was over
forever?
I found myself sitting in a sixby eight cell every day for 24
hours a day.
The cell was so small I couldtouch both walls at the same
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time.
And I never left.
Can you imagine the torment, theshock and awe, the disbelief,
the pain that I had toexperience sitting in that cell,
looking back on my life,thinking that that was it?
Because all I saw in that momentwas wasted potential, excuses,
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procrastination.
And I realized that I had liveda life and lived as a person
that I was not proud of.
The pain that I felt in thatmoment, the regret that I
experienced, was worse than thethought of spending life in
prison.
Because I realized that I haddone it to myself.
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We don't live with thisperspective each and every day.
When you get up in the morning,you don't think that it might be
your last day.
When you go to sleep at nightand hug your kids and kiss your
wife, you don't even know ifyou're gonna wake up, but you
act as if you will and you liveit like you're gonna live
forever.
You take these opportunities forgranted.
We all do.
That's what I realized when Isat in that cell.
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I realized, man, if I would haveknown what I was gonna feel in
this cell, I would have lived mylife so much differently.
I wouldn't have let fear hold meback or a judgment from other
people.
I wouldn't have cared what youguys thought of me.
I wouldn't have been scared togo after my goals and pursue my
best self in life.
So what if I fail?
I'm gonna keep trying.
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I'm not gonna sleep in.
This time is practice.
I gotta get up and go.
I gotta do something with mylife.
Why didn't I have that urgency?
Why didn't I have that passionand that conviction?
We all go through life thinkingthat we have more time.
You saw last week Charlie Kirk.
Shot in the neck.
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He's gone.
Left his two young children,left his wife.
But you know what he didn'tleave?
He didn't leave a wasted life.
He left a legacy.
And that's what I want each andevery one of you to focus on.
Every day, your impact, yourdecisions have a ripple effect
that are gonna massively impactyour kids, your coworkers, your
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employees, your customers, yourwife, your community.
A lot of us, we undervalueourselves.
We don't recognize the power wepossess.
Each and every one of you has aphone right now.
You can share a message everyday that changes someone's life.
You could do the work onyourself to become an example.
You could get excited andpassionate and fired up, and
instead of being one of thosepeople on the sideline waiting
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for everyone else to change theworld, you could become the
world changer.
Imagine if we all stood up everyday with that mentality and that
initiative and took action.
What we could create.
That's what we're being calledto do right now.
Because being tolerant, beingidle, not speaking up, not
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taking action, not being aleader, look where it's gotten
us.
There's a lot taking place inlife right now that reminds me
of my time in prison and thetransformation I went through on
a personal level.
It's happening collectivelyright now in society.
It's awareness.
It's a little bit of pain.
It's recognizing that maybe ourdecisions and choices haven't
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led us to the best place that wewant to be in life.
I want you guys to think aboutsomething.
If you went to the doctor foryour routine checkup next month
and found out that you had atumor on your brain or a heart
condition you didn't know about,and you had a month to live.
Or God forbid, you have a coupletoo many drinks one night, you
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fall asleep at the wheel, youtake someone out, and you find
yourself sitting in the jailcell like I did the next morning
with a life sentence hangingover your head.
I want you to really putyourself in that place right
now.
If your life was over right now,what are the things that you
didn't do that you know you'vebeen called to do?
What are the moments that youlet pass you by?
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Carelessly overlooking howprecious they are.
Who are the people in your livesright now that you're not
spending enough time with?
Holding their hands, tellingthem you love them, being
present when they're talking toyou.
I don't care if it's yourbusiness, your family, your
personal goals, I know each andevery one of you right now has
more to give to this life thatyou've been blessed.
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I know right now each and everyone of you has more potential
that is untapped.
And you know what the greatestmotivator in life is, and this
is why I've been blessed with somuch adversity.
It's pain.
Pain is the greatest motivatorin life.
If you experience enough pain,you will change instantly.
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If you went to the doctor nextweek and he said, Hey man,
you're diabetic.
You're at risk for heartfailure, you're gonna die in a
couple years if you don't changeyour ways.
You would all get healthier, youwould all eat better food, you'd
educate yourself on nutrition,you'd actually read books and
look into it.
You'd go to the gym, you'd workout, you wouldn't hit snooze on
your alarm.
You'd get a personal trainer,you'd hire a coach, you'd get
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accountability partners, youwould lose the weight, you would
get in better shape.
Same goes with substance oralcohol.
Some of you are drinking toomuch.
You found out you had fattyliver, cirrhosis, whatever it
may be, and you found out yourlife was in jeopardy, and the
doctor said, Hey man, if youdon't quit drinking, you're
gonna die.
And you got kids and a familyyou're gonna leave behind, you
would change like that.
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Why can't not why can't we alllive with that type of urgency
and perspective now?
Why does it take us nearlylosing our lives or having to
jeopardize everything to makethe changes we know we need to
make?
Because here's the truth eachand every one of you right now
know who you want to be, youknow what goals you have, you
know what changes you need tomake, but a lot of you aren't
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making them.
And I want you to recognize thatyour time is running out, and
you don't know when that time'sgonna come for each and every
one of you.
The biggest takeaway I want youguys to have today is that you
need to live with more urgency.
You need to go after your dreamslike your life depends on it.
You need to get up every daywith focus, with a plan, with
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purpose.
You need to fight through thatresistance, face your fears,
prove yourself right by takingpositive action.
Don't side with the doubt, don'tsleep in, don't kick back.
You prove your fears right whenyou do that, you strengthen
them.
I had to experience this andlearn this and feel this the
hard way, you guys.
Sitting in that cell every daywas torture.
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And I knew that I had to dosomething to take control of my
life.
I couldn't just sit there idlyin the cell and wake up every
day and think about how I wasgonna spend the rest of my life
in prison and how I might neverget to go home and hug a loved
one, see another sunset, walk onthe beach, be a free man.
Those thoughts were torturingme.
And so the first thing Irecognized I had to change is my
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mindset.
Why are you yawning, man?
You checked out?
Come on, let's go.
Focus, focus, be with me righthere, okay?
Your mindset is everything.
The way you look at situations,the way you talk to yourself is
gonna dictate how you live yourlife.
Every day I was getting up inthat cell and I kept thinking,
why is this happening to me?
Why does no one believe me?
Why is no one trying to help me?
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You know, my lawyers, theydidn't even believe I was
innocent.
The first day in court, theywanted to amend my charges to
homicide because the victim wasin a coma for two weeks.
They told me he was brain dead.
They said, John, you're nevergetting out of here.
You're gonna do life in prison.
So waking up in that cell everyday, I recognized that my
mindset, my self-talk was makingmy situation worse.
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And when you find people inthose predicaments in life,
there's usually only one wayout.
That's death.
Very few people can endure thattype of anguish and pain day by
day, week by week, month bymonth, year by year.
And so I couldn't get out ofthat cell, I couldn't leave.
So the only thing I could do isshift my perspective around my
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situation.
And I remember one day it hitme.
One day I'm sitting there in mycell reflecting, I'm soul
searching, I'm praying to Godfor guidance and strength and
answers.
Please help me.
I can't do this alone.
Please help me.
I can't do this alone.
I'm not strong enough.
I need your strength, your help.
You know, I never prayed outlike that in my life before.
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And it's interesting when wefeel like we have nothing left
to do, no recourse, noalternative.
What do we do?
We pray.
My prayers were answered.
I remember shortly after thatsitting in my cell going, Sean,
gosh, what if you needed thisexperience?
Like, what if you needed to cometo jail to get sober?
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And being incarcerated isactually gonna save your life.
You know, you guys, I'd seen somany people die growing up.
My uncle died in my garage whenI was 19 from an overdose.
That same year I had to rush inand save my dad and give him
mouth to mouth because he wasdead on the floor until the
paramedics came.
Like I said, I saw my momoverdose three times.
She lived, but I had friends,cousins, family members, they
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all perished because they'redemons.
And I was next.
I know it.
I would not be here today had Inot gone to jail.
So I started asking myself ortelling myself, maybe you know,
coming to jail is gonna save mylife and get me sober.
Or maybe it's gonna allow me toget away from all those toxic
relationships and people that Iwas living with and amongst and
find out who I am as a person.
You know, and the big one wasbelieving that this could
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potentially be a blessing indisguise.
And although I couldn't see itin the moment, God had a plan
for me and my life.
And sometimes in the mostextreme moments of adversity,
the only recourse you have isprayer and the ability to shift
your perspective to see thepositive potential.
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And that's what I started doing.
I started projecting into thefuture, but not in a negative
way, like most people do.
I started seeing the positivepotential of my circumstances,
and it gave me a little bit ofhope that each and every day I
could cling to to get me throughthe next.
And so that led to me doingthings every day to better
myself because I remember wakingup going, okay, I can't just sit
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in this cell and let this timepass me by.
You know, a lot of people go,Oh, uh, you know, life is not
happening to you, it's happeningfor you.
Have you ever heard that?
But if you just said that toyourself every day and just laid
in your bed all day, would youactually believe it?
I had to live it out.
You have to live out the wordsthat you speak, the person you
say you are, the values that youpossess.
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I want to see you demonstratethem every day in your actions.
Otherwise, you don't evenbelieve they're true.
And most people they damage therapport they have with their
self, their relationship,because they constantly break
promises.
And if you don't have confidenceand belief in yourself, you're
not going to do anything inlife.
But a man with true conviction,true confidence, true belief in
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himself, he can conquer theworld.
And so I recognized every daythat I had to focus on what I
could do to turn those thoughtsinto reality, to prove to myself
that it was a blessing indisguise.
So the first thing I did wascommit to a life of sobriety.
That was 13 years ago.
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I've been sober ever since.
And the second thing was a shiftinternally.
It was I made a commitment tomyself that I was gonna walk the
straight and narrow.
I was gonna walk this path ofexcellence for the rest of my
life.
I wasn't gonna be one foot, whatone foot in, one foot out like
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most people.
I was gonna commit to excellenceevery day and everything I did.
I had to do it to the best of myability.
I had to be my truest self, Ihad to be authentic.
And these are thoughts in a jailcell facing life in prison.
What can I actually do?
But before you make the change,before you develop the habit,
you have to have a shift in yourown perception of yourself, your
identity.
You have to make a deep internalcommitment to who you're going
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to be for this life.
Most people waver, they spendtheir whole lives negotiating
with themselves.
Oh, tomorrow I'll do it.
Oh, next week, oh, just tonightI'll have the drinks.
Oh, if you live that way, you'renever gonna become who you want
to be.
You gotta compound these days,these decisions, these actions.
The compounding effect is real.
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So during that time, Irecognized that there was about
a handful of things I could doto better myself.
And that's all I wanted to do.
Every day I wanted to do thingsthat made me feel like I was
bettering myself.
Whatever I could do in thatcell.
So I'd get up and I would read,write, and work out.
Every day, read, write, and workout, every day, read, write, and
work out over and over and over.
And my mindset in that momentwas I get to work out, I get to
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read, I get to write theseletters home.
I started creating thisgratitude perspective for the
things I didn't have.
I wasn't dwelling or focused onwhat I didn't have or what was
working against me or who didn'tbelieve me, or all that
negativity.
I want you guys to do a littlebit of an assessment right now.
And I want you to ask yourself,how many of my thoughts each and
every day are focused onnegative outcomes, negative
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occurrences in my life?
What I don't have.
Who was a jerk to me today?
All that stuff, right?
Whatever you focus on, that'swhere your energy goes.
That's gonna affect how you liveyour life.
I recognize in the moment that Ihad to focus on positivity and
what I was doing, not what Icouldn't do.
So when I'd be working out, I'dbe telling myself, man, I'm so
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blessed right now, I get to workout.
I got arms and legs thatfunction.
I could push through thesepush-ups, I could do a thousand
push-ups today if I really try.
I get to work out, I get to.
And then when I'd pick up abook, sometimes the pages would
be ripped out, sometimes thelast two chapters would be
missing.
But I didn't focus on that.
I'd tell myself, man, I haveeyes that work, I could see
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right now, I could understandwhat's going on in this book.
I get to read.
I get to.
And then when I'd be writingletters back home, the same
thing.
Man, I have family members whoare supporting me.
They believe in me, they're herefor me.
I get to write these lettersback home, I get to.
And so, you guys, this is like asuperpower.
You're going through your dayand you're getting all angry and
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disgruntled.
Oh, I gotta drive across town tobid this job.
Oh, they didn't put the gutterson right, I gotta go back and
repair them.
Oh man, my kids are late.
I gotta go wait for them.
I gotta sit in traffic, blah,blah, blah, blah, blah.
When you talk to yourself thatway about your life, what are
you doing?
Would you rather give everythingup you have right now and just
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be dead?
No.
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So when you start recognizing the good in your
life, man, I get to spend timewith my kids, I get to earn
money, I get to provide, I getto grow, I get to face
adversity.
That's how I become better.
I get to.
If you can shift your self-talkand remind yourself I get to,
instantly, your frequency, youremotional state will elevate.
You'll start to see the good inyour life everywhere you go in
everything that you do.
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And here's another one, right?
No matter what you're facing inlife, it's an opportunity.
No matter what goals you'regoing after, you're either gonna
get what you want, you're gonnawin.
And if you come up short, guesswhat?
You get to learn.
That's the only L we take here.
We learn.
Every day we grow, we learn, weget better.
But you're not gonna show upevery day with this mentality if
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you're talking negatively toyourself and looking at your
life saying, I have to.
So, you guys, this shift that Imade in my mindset and my daily
habits propelled me all throughprison.
I was sentenced to seven yearsin prison.
They didn't let me out.
The truth never came out.
They convicted me for assaultwith a deadly weapon and sent me
to prison for seven years.
And I remember telling myselfbefore I went upstate, Sean, if
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you can overcome this time ofincarceration, you stay focused,
you stay true to yourself, youmake everyday count, there's
nothing you can't do in yourlife.
That was my mindset, and I madeeveryday count.
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When I got to prison, I workedout more.
When I got to prison, I readmore books.
When I got to prison, I foundout they had a college
correspondence program.
I signed up, I got fourassociates' degrees during that
five and a half years.
I studied psychology, business,social and behavioral sciences.
I became obsessed with personaldevelopment and growth because I
wanted to come home and show theworld what I was made of.
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That experience taught me somuch about our time.
And if we prioritize itcorrectly, and if we can keep
our spirits alive and thatinspiration high, and we have
something we're striving for (25:32):
a goal, a purpose, a meaning.
Nothing's gonna stop us.
But I want you guys to questionyourselves and go, am I making
the most of my days?
Are my days mapped out?
Am I maximizing this gift I'vebeen given?
Is my vision so big it pulls meout of bed at night?
If you don't feel that way, it'sbecause you're doing it wrong.
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That's not the way you'resupposed to live.
You're not supposed to be numband idle and comfortable and
checked out.
That's not the way we'resupposed to live.
That was me for the first halfof my life.
This is me now.
I changed.
You can change too, I promiseyou that.
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So, you guys, I got out in 2017,2018, okay?
And I had dreams, I had goals.
I knew what I wanted to do.
In a very short period of time,I went into personal training in
a gym, left that gym, started myown business, got clients,
started building a family,started having babies, then
COVID shut the gyms down.
They took away my clients, theytook away my revenue overnight.
When I got with my wife, I toldher, baby, I got you, I'm gonna
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take care of you.
We're going into the hospital, Ihad my daughter Scarlet.
I said, Hey, when you get out ofhere, you're not going back to
work.
She was the GM at threerestaurants.
I said, You're never gonna workagain.
I'm gonna take care of you.
If you want to, you can.
If you want to start a business,you can, but I will provide, I
will take care of you.
And then COVID shut all the gymsdown and I lost all my clients
and revenue overnight.
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I remember one morning I wassitting in my wife's glider,
it's like a rocking chair whenshe has a baby, stressed out.
Four in the morning, looking atmy bank account, 1,500 bucks.
What am I gonna do?
Rent's due, we got bills.
I told my wife I was gonna bethe provider for her, I told her
I was gonna take care of her.
And I was so close to going tolook for a nine to five.
I was so close to seekingsecurity and safety.
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But I remember in that momentthinking about all the stuff I
had come overcome, all the stuffI'd gone through.
Broken home, addicted parents,ten years battling my own
addiction, life in prison, fiveand a half years in prison.
I'd come too far to stop then.
And remember in that moment,just realizing, man, I have more
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to give to this world.
I could share about how Iovercame my demons, I could talk
about my time in prison, I couldhelp people with their
depression, their mindset, theirhabits.
You know, everyone was lockeddown during COVID, they were
freaking out.
That shit was easy for me.
I had just done it.
It was easy.
I was just doing burpees in thebackyard.
It was easy.
I recognized, man, I gotta goall in on my dream.
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The only way you findfulfillment in life, the only
way you experience that feelingthat we're all chasing, it's not
money, it's not status, it's notyour Instagram followers.
It's alignment with the truththat God put on your heart.
When you go all in on yourdreams and you live every day
going after those dreams, doingeverything you can do, you start
to feel something powerfulwithin you.
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That's why I felt in prison.
I remember in prison waking upwith so much gratitude, feeling
so much purpose.
I remember questioning myself,how can I feel this way in here?
Like this shouldn't even beallowed.
This is too good.
And I remember my sole purposein prison became to keep this
energy alive inside of you,Sean, and get home and share it
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with the world.
And so, just like God sent me toprison and intervened in my
life, COVID was the opportunityto pivot and really become the
person I'm supposed to be.
And that's why I picked up myphone, I started doing Facebook
Lives, and I started sharing mystory.
I remember within the firstcouple months, started getting
clients, started building myonline program, and I never
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looked back.
So now, today, to this day, I'mthe founder of Unstoppable 365.
We're becoming the number onehealth and performance company
for blue-collar business ownersnationwide.
There's nobody that's comparingto what we're doing for
blue-collar guys and women,right?
That niche emerged by staying inalignment.
You see, over time, when you dothe right thing and you show up,
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you show up, you show up, youcompound those daily actions,
bigger visions emerge.
New opportunities,relationships.
You don't have to have it allmapped out, you just have to
have the courage to start theprocess.
And you never stop.
And so that's what I did.
And during that time, me and mywife, we were having kids.
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We have four kids now to thisday.
So, about three years aftergetting out of prison, I look
around at my life and I go, I'mthe owner of a coaching company.
I get to do what I love everyday and help people.
I wrote a book that became abestseller.
Prison of your own.
I get to speak on stages andshare my story with people in
the hopes that I could changetheir life.
And I'm looking around going,This is what I prayed for in
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prison.
These are the moments Ienvisioned.
All I wanted to do was come outand be a father and raise my
kids the right way and have afamily with my beautiful wife.
I want to get on stages andshare my message with people
like you so that I could infusesome hope, some inspiration,
some urgency, so that I couldtake all that pain, all the
lessons I learned all the time,and I could turn it into
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positive outcomes.
That's alchemy.
You could take bad and turn itinto good.
You could take negative andconvert it into positive.
You're the catalyst.
Your thoughts, your actions, thechanges you make, your
commitments, your sacrifices.
And so, you guys, today that'sthat's what I'm doing.
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I'm here to make an impact onthis world.
And I know that God is callingme for more.
And sometimes I go, man, am Idoing enough?
Is there more that I could bedoing?
And I know if I stay on thisstraight and narrow and show up
each and every day, I'llcontinue to have the
opportunities to make the impactthat God's put on my heart.
Okay, so look at.
Last year Lacey spoke, she stoodup and said, Hey, this is the
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woman I want to be.
I'm so proud of you.
She backed it up with action.
Let's give her a round ofapplause.
So I'm gonna give somebody inthe audience a chance to speak
their truth.
Look at, we all have thesesuppressed emotions, these
dreams, these hangups.
If you let them stay suppressed,they're gonna eat away at you
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for the rest of your life.
The moment you articulate yourtruth and call your shot, that's
the moment you get a chance toprove it to the world and pursue
those visions.
That's when they become real.
You got something you want tosay, brother?
Let's hear it.
SPEAKER_04 (31:49):
Uh uh six years ago, uh I stood in line to get on the
prison bus to head off for mystate sentence.
I did two years, but I was astrung out heroin addict.
I thought my life was completelyruined, and then I just kept
trying and doing everything theright way, the way it should be
done.
And then he gave me the greatopportunity to come run his
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business, and I've just that'swhat I practice every day.
Do the right thing, putting theright foot forward.
SPEAKER_00 (32:18):
I love that, man.
So let's give him a round ofapplause.
So, what is a change you want tomake to your mindset, your
habits?
unknown (32:30):
My habit, my health.
SPEAKER_00 (32:31):
Your health.
What specifically?
Tell me.
I I gotta I gotta be able to seeit.
SPEAKER_04 (32:34):
On my health, um, I had diverticulitis, put me in
the hospital.
So now that I'm out, I'm on afull protein diet.
Okay.
Um, I've already dropped uh 27pounds.
Yes, for real.
Uh yesterday morning wasactually the first time I truly
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just went for a walk withoutbeing on the job site, thanks to
Tim.
But my goal is to get back downto a little bit slimmer.
SPEAKER_00 (33:09):
What weight do you want to be?
Call your shot means you callyour shot.
I'd like to- If you don't havedetail in your goals, though,
your brain can't recognize whatyou're doing.
SPEAKER_04 (33:16):
I'd like to be at like 185, 175.
Okay.
Next year.
185, 175.
SPEAKER_00 (33:22):
Who was it?
Somebody in here.
Somebody in here came up to methe other day yesterday, and
they said, Hey man, I heard youspeak last year and I lost 80
pounds since.
Who was that?
Are you in the room?
SPEAKER_05 (33:32):
Where's Chris?
SPEAKER_00 (33:33):
Chris was in here earlier.
So look at you guys.
You all have the ability to takecontrol of your lives, but you
need detail, you need a plan.
And for you, having a personaltrainer, having a coach, having
a plan that you can follow eachand every day that guarantees
the results, it's gonna it'sgonna expedite that growth for
you.
So, I mean, we'll talk after,man.
(33:54):
Come chat with me.
But I love I love the fact thatyou're sober.
I love you changing your life.
I'm proud of you.
Let's go, baby.
SPEAKER_05 (33:59):
All right, we got another one for you.
SPEAKER_06 (34:03):
Who we got?
Come on, bring it up.
How's everybody doing?
My name is Kali.
Yeah, I don't so a shot I wantto call is um I run a personal
training business online, and Iwant to hire five new clients
every single month for the restof the year.
Let's go.
I love that.
(34:24):
Thank you.
SPEAKER_05 (34:27):
Hold on, he might ask you, he might ask you
something.
He's gonna challenge you rightnow.
SPEAKER_00 (34:31):
So, are you doing online coaching or what are you
doing?
unknown (34:33):
I'm doing all right.
SPEAKER_00 (34:35):
And you're doing gutters?
Yep.
Okay.
Which one are you gonna do?
SPEAKER_06 (34:39):
Both.
SPEAKER_00 (34:40):
Both?
SPEAKER_06 (34:40):
The gutters isn't in my company, though.
SPEAKER_00 (34:43):
Okay, okay.
Yeah, so what I found is whenyou have one foot in, one foot
out, and anything, you're notgiving your all.
You know what I mean?
The only way we get exceptionalresults in life is when we give
our all we have to.
I've always put my back upagainst the wall, I've called my
shot, and I put myself in aposition where I cannot fail.
Like during COVID, I could havegone online for that whole year.
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Right?
But I was just kind of making alittle money doing in-person
training, I was comfortable, Ididn't realize it, I was in a
comfort zone.
What I recognize is that ifyou're not willing to burn the
ships and put yourself in aposition of you're either gonna
sink or you're gonna succeed, wedon't give enough effort to get
to where we want to go.
It's human tendency.
(35:26):
So it's something to reflect on,right?
I know right now you're gonnamake money, but look at it,
imagine if you didn't have apaycheck company.
You think you'd be a littlehungry to get those clients?
Oh, yeah.
You think you would be postingmore content, right?
You think you'd be sending outmore DMs?
SPEAKER_06 (35:37):
Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (35:38):
That's what I'm seeing.
So that's what I'm saying.
So the paycheck is a crutch.
The paycheck holds you back.
And I'm not here to dissuadethem from doing gutters, right?
That's what you guys are here tolearn.
But this is also about purpose.
And everyone has a differentpurpose God put on their heart.
You're here to help people.
That's what you want to do.
Go after it like your lifedepends on it.
We can chat more.
I'll be here all day.
(35:59):
I'll be here all day.
Chris, come here.
Also, too, just so you know,whoever gets up and speaks, I'm
gonna give you one of my booksand then the the journal that we
have, right?
So, Tim, you're next.
I only brought six copies, butcome talk to me after this, too.
I'll be here all day, you guys.
SPEAKER_05 (36:13):
I'm gonna let you jump back to Chris real quick.
SPEAKER_00 (36:14):
Let's do it.
There we go.
SPEAKER_05 (36:16):
He's gonna talk to you real quick.
SPEAKER_00 (36:17):
Come up here.
Come on.
So last year I spoke, right?
And kind of just like I didtoday, passing it.
Kind of have an idea of what I'mgonna say, but I just feel the
room out, and I just go withwith what God put on my heart.
I share that message.
He said he heard my message lastyear.
He came up to me, what,yesterday?
SPEAKER_02 (36:34):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (36:34):
And he goes, Sean, I just want you to know I heard
what you said last year, and Itook it to heart, and I lost 80
pounds.
So I just want to give him around of applause, man.
SPEAKER_02 (36:46):
Specifically, what I said was Specifically what I
said was that guy's an asshole,but fuck him.
I'm losing weight.
SPEAKER_00 (36:53):
Yeah, there we go, right?
SPEAKER_02 (36:54):
Which to be fair, that is what I said.
SPEAKER_00 (36:56):
So I talked a lot of shit last year on purpose.
I gotta get you guys fired up.
Sometimes those soft, fluffy,nice, positive words, like they
feel good, but do theyabsolutely create change?
But if I tell you, like, all youmen, you guys are a bunch of
pussies and nobody was in thegym, and you guys were hung over
and drunk, and that's the manyou want to be for your family,
like I'm fucking serious.
Like, think about that.
To be fair, you were right.
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But but that's the truth.
Because look at I have thehighest standards for myself
because I want to be the best! Iwant to be the best, okay?
When I was younger, I had thatfeeling, but I didn't live it
out, so I couldn't show theworld my potential.
My family members, my friends,no one knew my potential because
I never showed them.
Once I got pissed off and prisonfired me up, and I got that chip
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on my shoulder to this day forall those wasted years, that's
what drives me every day.
I'm still proving myself right.
I still gotta get up and do thework.
And when I look at my children,I look at my wife, I look at you
guys, I know why I'm doing it.
And that's something I want youall to think about.
Why does it matter if you get uptomorrow morning and do the work
or sleep in?
Why does it matter if you're fatand lazy or if you're a
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superhero for your kids?
Why does it matter if you'resober or you're a drunk?
Why does it matter if you makethe money, grow the business, or
you don't?
You gotta have something deeperinside of you that drives you
every day.
So you can run through a wall sonothing will stop you.
Those excuses, those doubts,they don't even matter.
You gotta do it.
You gotta find out.
SPEAKER_05 (38:23):
You gotta do it, yeah.
You wanna do one more?
You want it?
You want it?
Let's go.
Come on, come on.
Let's go.
This is the woman right here,baby.
What's your shot?
SPEAKER_00 (38:37):
Come up here.
I want you to stay on.
Let's give her a round ofapplause.
SPEAKER_07 (38:44):
Hi, Sean.
SPEAKER_00 (38:46):
So tell them your name, and I want you to tell
them exactly who you're becomingand what you're gonna do in your
life.
SPEAKER_07 (38:52):
Okay, my name is Jessica.
Um I want to stop to be a womanuh in depression.
I want to help you real quick.
unknown (39:05):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (39:06):
I want to know who you want to become.
SPEAKER_07 (39:08):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (39:08):
We're not gonna focus on what you can't do and
what's holding you back.
Let's look towards who you wantto become.
SPEAKER_07 (39:14):
Okay, when I be strong.
That's all.
SPEAKER_00 (39:19):
What else?
You want to be strong.
What skill sets?
What do you want to be able todo?
We talked about it last night.
And it's okay, look at realquick, these are all just human
beings.
Everybody in this room's gonnadie one day.
We're all gonna die one day.
We all have struggles, we allhave stress, we all feel the
same way.
(39:40):
We're all gonna die one day.
We're all gonna die, you guys.
Let's make the most of this timethat we have.
unknown (39:47):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (39:48):
So we talked last night, right?
You want to so can I can I sharea little bit?
SPEAKER_07 (39:52):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (39:53):
She came from Mexico.
English is her second language,she's here pursuing her dreams.
How beautiful is that, right?
And we talked last night, andyou said you feel a little
self-conscious because you can'tspeak English the same way as
you can Spanish, and you want tobe able to communicate a message
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the right way.
SPEAKER_07 (40:14):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (40:14):
Right?
And so, with that, just like Itold you guys when I went to
prison and I knew that if Icould overcome that five years,
I could do anything in my life.
It's the same for you.
You continue to improve yourEnglish, you don't get
self-conscious as much.
You just say, hey, this is whereI'm at, I'm gonna keep getting
better every day.
If I can learn English andcommunicate my message, I can do
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anything.
You gotta start, you gotta psychyourself up.
You gotta shift the perspective,change the narrative and your
mindset.
Does that make sense?
Like, if you sit there and go,oh, I'm depressed and I can't
talk good English, of courseyou're gonna be depressed.
Yeah.
But if you say, dang, I camefrom Mexico, now I'm in the US,
now I'm building my businesswith my is it your husband?
Yes.
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What a beautiful thing.
That's the American dream.
Right?
Real quick, my Uber driver onthe way over here was from
Ethiopia.
And I started asking him aboutwhat it was like to grow up in
Ethiopia, why he came toAmerica, what he thinks about
the politics here.
You know, I was asking him allthese questions.
And then I go, why do Ethiopiansand Kenyans like, why are they
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so good at running, man?
Like you guys are killing it,and all the marathons set and
world records.
And he told me, because growingup in the villages over there,
if you want to get an educationas a kid, you have to run two
hours to school, get youreducation, and then run two
hours home.
Every single day.
Can you imagine the gratitudethat he has to be in this
country with theseopportunities?
(41:39):
Gosh, that puts things inperspective, right?
So I can only imagine the stuffthat you saw in Mexico, the way
you grew up.
Some places in Mexico are harderthan the United States, right?
SPEAKER_07 (41:47):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (41:48):
Do you think that makes you a little hungrier?
Motivated?
SPEAKER_07 (41:51):
Yeah, I feel that um, well, when I came here, I
came for other purpose, just tostudy, right?
Okay.
So just to be better in myEnglish and just to get a job
there, but not here.
SPEAKER_00 (42:05):
And you're but you're doing it here now, right?
SPEAKER_07 (42:07):
Yeah, I'm not sure.
SPEAKER_00 (42:07):
And so sometimes God changes the plan.
What I'll tell you too isanything in life that's
meaningful, it requires hardwork and consistency over time.
You know, and that's what shapesyou into a better woman.
You gotta fight for it.
You gotta believe in yourself.
You gotta be willing every dayto get up and do the work.
That's how you kill thedepression.
SPEAKER_07 (42:25):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (42:26):
Make yourself proud.
Every day do as many things asyou can to build yourself up.
You don't have negativeself-talk.
Your negative self-talk somewhatis truthful.
Hey man, it's calling you out.
You didn't do what you said youwere gonna do.
But every day, if you stack winsand you do things that make you
feel proud of who you are,what's the alternative?
You're not gonna be depressed,you're gonna have pride, joy,
happiness.
(42:48):
Right?
unknown (42:48):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (42:49):
You could do it.
Let's give her a round ofapplause.
SPEAKER_05 (42:57):
Okay, good job, good job.
SPEAKER_00 (42:59):
Uh Young Tim, young Tim in the young.
SPEAKER_05 (43:01):
Young Ting.
SPEAKER_00 (43:02):
Tim Jr.
SPEAKER_05 (43:03):
Yeah, I was gonna say, young, young Tim is like, I
was just about to order somefood.
SPEAKER_00 (43:08):
Let's hear it, brother.
Tell the whole audience who youare and what you're gonna do
with your life.
SPEAKER_01 (43:13):
Uh, my name's Tim Crouch.
Uh my dream is pretty prettysimilar to his life uh
lifestyle.
I want to be an online coach andeverything.
Fitness is my passion.
Uh similar to him, I'd like toat least start with like some
five, ten clients a monthconsistently.
That's my goal ultimately.
I want to replace all my incomeswith that because I just I kind
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of do side hustles, sellfurniture, and uh do pressure
washing.
It's just not really my passion.
My passion's fitness.
But that brings in the money.
SPEAKER_00 (43:43):
Yeah, I love that.
And look at real quick, becauseyou all blue-collar guys out
here, some of you want to loseweight and get in shape.
Do you think he looks the part?
I'd trust him, right?
Get me in the gym, working out,eating right.
That's why I told him.
I said, You're already anexample of what a lot of other
men want to look like.
Now you gotta put out contentand get in front of those
people.
And you gotta connect withpeople too.
Like, I do fitness coaching, butyou won't hear me talk about
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macros and food.
I talk about the emotion insideof you.
I talk about the man that youwant to be, the leader that you
want to become.
See, I have an intimateconnection with my audience.
I know what's missing out therein the world.
So Tim's 19, you guys, and he'salready thinking about this
stuff.
And young people stressthemselves out so much.
We were talking, and a coupleother youngsters, and like
they're stressing themselves outabout where they're at in life.
I'm like, dude, when I was 19, Iwas just doing cocaine and
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chasing women.
Right?
Let's be honest.
Like, I was a knucklehead.
Jesse, where are you at?
When you were Jesse's 24, and hewas like stressed out.
I'm like, when you when I was24, I was facing life in prison.
When you get serious about whoyou want to be, you call your
shot, you show up every day.
That's when the magic happens.
Watch this guy next year whenhe's back here.
Watch Tim, right?
Let's go.
SPEAKER_05 (44:50):
One more, we're not one more.
SPEAKER_00 (44:51):
One more, one more.
SPEAKER_03 (44:54):
That's what I'm saying.
My name is Eric.
And uh just as you know, a smallbusiness owner, I do fresh
washing, floor coating.
My main goal I feel like I wantto call myself on is uh helping
more people with theiraddiction.
Uh I got a I work for a guttercompany, and the people that I
work with, you know, they're ondrugs, and there's one person
that I try my best to help, andI always get the wall.
(45:16):
But it's not gonna stop me.
But I feel like God's reallykind of like put this on my
heart to help these individuals.
I go to a lot of uh hip hopartists concerts, and uh I just
try my best to help other peoplebecause my mom's still a little
addiction and she's not hereanymore.
SPEAKER_00 (45:33):
Yeah, yeah, that's one of the hardest things is
when you want to help peoplethat don't want to change.
You gotta be the example, yougotta continue to show up for
them, put content out online,you know, bring them to events
like this, do whatever you can,but here's the sad truth.
My dad died four years ago froman overdose from fentanyl.
He never changed.
(45:53):
He never changed, man.
He wanted to, but he couldn't.
Those demons inside of him andthe stuff he experienced as a
young person, it was too much.
My mom, she died when I was inprison of a sudden aneurysm due
to her drug use.
The truth is, some people aregonna die and you can't save
everyone.
But guess what?
There's somebody in this room,there's somebody online, there's
somebody that you're gonna speakto that will change.
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And that's why we keep showingup.
Because the ones that do want tochange, they will.
The ones that are ready, whenthey hear your message, they're
gonna run with it.
And so that's why I would tellyou, man, do your part, go all
in, but just know you can't saveeveryone, and that's that's hard
for me to admit.
Because I never think that orwant to believe that, you know?
But I saw it firsthand.
So people will change, you'regonna lose some in the process,
(46:35):
but be that shiny light of hopefor them every day, man.
SPEAKER_03 (46:38):
Thank you.
Good job.
SPEAKER_00 (46:43):
Real success isn't the money in your bank account,
the quality of your business.
If you're a fat, lazy father, ifyou're a drunk, if you're not
living out your potential,you're not gonna ever be
successful.
And that's the truth.
I want you guys to beexceptional human beings.
That's how you win in everythingthat you do.
Go to the next slide.
That's a that's my mugshot.
That's the day I was arrested onthe left.
Strung out on drugs, scared outof my mind, had no idea what was
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in store for me.
The other picture on the rightis cut off, but I look a little
better there, right?
The point is, it's you versusyou every day.
The greatest fight that you willever come across in life is the
one against yourself.
I truly believe there's twoversions of us coexisting at all
times, fighting for yourattention, okay?
(47:26):
It's that person that you wantto be, those goals, those
dreams, those changes, theperson that God has put you on
this earth to become.
But you're also met with thatother person, right?
The fear, the doubt, thecomfort.
I'll do it later.
Oh, tomorrow, next week.
I'll change sometime in thefuture.
(47:47):
That person's always trying toget you to hold back.
That version of you is nevercalling you for greatness, it's
calling you for comfort, it'scalling you for mediocrity.
No one's gonna live your lifefor you.
No one can make the changes youneed to make.
You need to be honest withyourself, you need to recognize
that you're here for a reason,that there's so many people that
depend on you, there's so manyopportunities out there, and the
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future is abundant and limitlessif you're willing to pursue
those dreams.
But if you can't get up everyday and have clarity around who
you want to be and makedecisions that move you towards
that person, you're never gonnaget there.
I know the truth that each andevery one of you has so much
potential.
You are stronger than yourealize.
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Okay?
You're more resilient than youknow, and your capabilities are
endless.
My hope for each and every oneof you is that you leave this
room today and you decide to gochase them.
Love you guys.
Let's go out and change theworld.
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