February 19, 2025 • 15 mins
Have you ever reached a point where you were so fed up with your life that you knew it was time to change? I, Sean Michael Crane, did, and it led me from the brink of spending my life in prison to transforming my mindset and taking control of my future. This episode unfolds my journey of personal transformation, emphasizing that the perfect moment to make a change is a myth. It's about recognizing when you're tired of stagnation and using that frustration as fuel to take immediate and decisive action toward your goals. I'll walk you through the excuses we commonly make and how you can overcome those barriers to unlock your true potential.
Throughout this episode, I challenge the acceptance of mediocrity, especially for those stuck in unfulfilling situations. Together, we explore the power of massive action in personal growth, from cultivating new skills to fostering self-awareness and empowerment. Learn how consistency in positive actions can dismantle the fears and doubts that hold you back, ultimately leading to a more confident, impactful life. This is a call to transform not just your life, but to become a leader in your community and family, championing a meaningful difference in the world. Join me and let's commit to the journey of self-improvement and making a life we can be proud of.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The right time and the right moment is the moment
that you get sick and tired ofbeing stuck, of living below
your potential, of letting yourlife pass you by, of taking
these opportunities for granted,and you get pissed off and you
say, fuck that, I don't carewhat happens, I'm going to
change.
Today, when I came home, I tookmassive action towards my goals
and my dreams, because I hadjust been through a crazy
experience, facing life inprison, serving five and a half
(00:22):
years, like having everythingtaken away, and I made a promise
to myself that when I got mysecond chance, I was all in.
I was never gonna let fear holdme back.
Welcome back to another episodeof the Unstoppable Mindset
Podcast.
I'm your host, sean MichaelCrane, and welcome back to
(00:47):
another episode.
You guys, I appreciate thesupport.
You know it's funny.
People want success overnightand I just got a notification
the other day that I got 5,000downloads for my podcast and
that seems like a minusculenumber, right, but how do you
think you get to 5 million?
How do you think you get to 50million?
Like at point, you have to get5,000, then 50,000, then 500,000
(01:07):
.
And I'm in this for the longterm.
I'm not going anywhere untilthe day I die.
I'm fucking showing up andgiving my all, so I appreciate
your support.
If you're not subscribed to thechannel, uh, it's on Spotify,
it's on um Apple.
I have a YouTube channel aswell.
It's Unstoppable Mindset.
That's the podcast.
Please show me some love,subscribe, share.
(01:29):
It Got a lot of valuableepisodes.
I'm going to keep showing up anddocumenting my journey, you
guys, and today I'm in areflective state, reflecting on
my journey, thinking about avery specific time in my life,
and this message is for anybodythat keeps putting off change.
If you keep making excuses andwaiting to change, I want you to
listen and pay attention,because a lot of people they
(01:55):
have these things in their livesthat they want to change,
whether it's your weight andyour health, whether it's a
relationship.
Maybe you need to get sober,maybe you hate your job and you
want to find a career that youlove and make more money.
Whatever it is, there's likethis feeling inside of you where
you're unhappy or unsatisfiedwith some element of your life.
But you know, a lot of peoplehave this situation happen where
they have a moment of clarity,they feel that truth and it's
(02:15):
undeniable, and then they makean excuse or they put it off and
they continue to procrastinateover and over and over and they
never change.
And you know, because when youmake decisions a certain way for
a long period of time, itbecomes a habit, it becomes very
, very ingrained into who youare and at some point it's very
difficult to change that.
You know, and I remember a lotof moments in my life before I
(02:38):
really took control of my lifeand got sober and started
exercising and started goingafter my passions.
You know, I remember I hadthese moments of clarity where I
knew that I wasn't living thelife I wanted to live.
I knew that I had more to giveto this world.
I knew that I was justunsatisfied with my day-to-day
but I didn't fucking change it,like, how crazy is that?
(03:00):
Looking back, going okay, I'mnot happy with all of these
different things.
I want to be sober.
I don't want to live with mydad, who's an addict, and be
stuck in the same house that Igrew up in.
I don't really want to bearound these friends.
We keep getting in troubletogether.
You know, like I don't like thejob that I'm working, it's not
something I'm passionate aboutand it's killing me physically.
(03:20):
I'm climbing trees and carryinglumber all day.
I, you know I want to make moremoney.
I want to do something thatmakes me feel proud of myself.
I want to be able to do thingsevery day that, like, helped me
build a life I'm proud of.
Like I wasn't doing any of that.
I knew that I wanted to changeall of those things and I wasn't
changing them.
And you know, a lot of peoplefind themselves in that position
where then that becomes theirlife, like at one point, they
(03:41):
finally just give up and theystop talking or thinking about
change.
But all the while, it's deepdown inside of you, like a lot
of you listening to this rightnow, you know exactly who you
want to be and what you want tochange.
And I want to ask you Are yougoing to keep waiting and
potentially wait your entirelife?
Because that's what's going tohappen for most of you.
You're going to wait.
You're going to get older.
There's always going to be areason why you can't.
(04:02):
You know whether, oh, you knowthe economy is bad right now.
Or, oh, you know my kids arehaving a tough time in school,
or, oh, I just went through abreakup.
Or you know, right now it, whenit's the right time.
Newsflash the right timeprobably will never transpire in
your life.
The right time and the rightmoment is the moment that you
get sick and tired of beingstuck, of living below your
(04:24):
potential, of letting your lifepass you by, of taking these
opportunities for granted, andyou get pissed off and you say,
fuck that, I don't care whathappens.
I'm going to change today.
This moment, like change, takesplace in an instant.
It's an instantaneous shift inyour perspective and mentality.
Now, the results that you wanttake a long time to materialize,
but that initial change, thatspark, that catalyst, it happens
(04:46):
in a split second, you know.
And so many people wait.
They wait until okay, I'm goingto wait until I have kids, when
I have more money and a securejob.
You know, I'm going to wait to,like, lose weight and go to the
gym January 1st because, likethat's the New Year's resolution
.
You know, I'm going to waituntil I have a good workout
partner.
I'm going to wait until I getthis new gym membership.
I'm going to wait and I'm goingto start this diet Like dude.
(05:08):
You guys are justprocrastinating on who you want
to be and you're actuallydeveloping that habit and that
mentality.
That is a loser's mentality.
People who procrastinate letdoubt and fear we're going to
call that word dear doubt andfear combined.
If you allow doubt and fear todictate how you make decisions,
you're going to become a lesserversion of yourself.
(05:28):
You're not going to loveyourself.
In fact, a lot of people end uphating themselves deep down
inside because you're the onethat's doing it to yourself.
Like isn't that crazy?
You're the one that's leadingto living a life that you don't
love, that you don't want.
It's your decisions and youractions every day.
And so I just want to share alittle story with you guys
because I was telling this tosomeone the other day about when
(05:52):
I came home from prison.
You know, I was working as apersonal trainer, making $1,600
a month.
I had no money, no assets.
I was renting a room at myfriend's dad's house, I was
making my car payment, you know,I was paying my phone bill, and
then I was broke every month.
And that's around the time thatme and my wife Jessica got
connected and we started dating.
(06:13):
And, you guys, I didn't waitfor anything.
When I came home, I tookmassive action towards my goals
and my dreams, because I hadjust been through a crazy
experience, facing life inprison, serving five and a half
years, like having everythingtaken away, and I made a promise
to myself that when I got mysecond chance I was all in and I
wasn't.
I was never going to let fearhold me back.
(06:34):
I was never going to hold backever again because I'd done that
for so long.
And you know a lot of peoplelike I talk to guys and they're
single and I go dude, what areyou waiting for?
Like aren't you going to getmarried or don't you want to
have a chick right?
And they're like oh well, Ijust want to wait until I'm more
financially the wrong freakingmentality.
(06:56):
Like I talk to guys all thetime that want to quit their 9
to 5 and start a business forthemselves because they know
they can be successful and theyhave all the skill sets, and
they go what are you waiting for?
What are you going to do it?
Man?
They're like oh, I just got tosave up a little more money.
I want to be more secure firstbefore I make this jump.
You know, or I have a lot ofguys that reach out to me, often
about coaching.
They want to lose weight.
They want to build discipline,they want to build confidence.
(07:18):
They want to change theirhabits.
They have all the reasons inthe world to, for their family,
for their kids, for themselves.
But then it's like oh, you know, I want to wait, man, I got a
little debt I want to pay offbefore I invest in my health and
fitness.
Is you're literally putting offyour future self and the person
(07:40):
you want to be for a lame-assexcuse that you sold yourself on
.
That's not even viable, or true?
Yeah, sure, we want to havemore money in our bank account
before we quit our 9 to 5.
You know, sure you want to havethis big, badass house and all
this stuff, you know, before youthink you can attract your
dream woman?
Sure, you want these scenariosand situations to be ideal and
comfortable and easy.
But the truth of the matter isit does not work that way.
(08:02):
You will stay stuck for therest of your life, and that's
why most people do.
They end up stuck in a life ofmediocrity where they are at
best average, because they arescared to go after what they
want and they think they foolthemselves.
They trick themselves intobelieving that somehow, someday
it's going to be easy and it'sall just going to happen by
(08:23):
itself.
Dude, if you want to reallychange and get amazing results
in life, let's say you want tobe a multimillionaire, let's say
you want to be shredded withabs, let's say you want to have
the best relationship with yourwife and just create the
ultimate life All this stuffthat you want, dude, it is a
fucking grind to get there.
You got to fight to get there,you got to go after it with
everything that you possessinternally.
(08:43):
If you're not willing to dothat, if you don't obsess over
it, if you don't want it as badas you want to breathe this air,
you're probably not going tohave it.
And that's the truth.
And this was my mentality cominghome from prison when I saw my
wife, jessica at the coffee shop.
You know I had loved her fromthe first time that we spent
time together.
We were 23.
And when I got to be around heragain and we went on a couple
of dates like I was just dude, Iwould do anything for her and I
(09:06):
never thought about the money Ididn't have, I never thought
about the career I hadn't built,the home I didn't have, and she
was attracted to my energy, mypositivity.
(09:27):
Like we would go to dinner andthen I'd be like, hey, you want
to go down to the beach and jumpin the ocean?
And she'd look at me like whatthe hell?
Like I was spontaneous, I wasexciting, I was different, and
it's because I wasn't waiting tobuild my life, I wasn't waiting
to develop a relationship, Iwasn't waiting to go after the
things I wanted to have in life.
I was going after them like mylife depended on it, because I
(09:49):
got a second chance, like I said, and I knew what was at stake
if I didn't really go after thethings I want in life.
And a lot of you guys don't knowthat pain and that's why you
procrastinate but you suffer insilence your thoughts, your
energy, your emotions.
Like you're not happy, you'renot thriving.
You might have moments ofpleasure and joy, but are you
really thriving?
If you're listening to thisright now, I want you to reflect
(10:10):
on it.
If you're somebody that'strying to like, like think, oh
well, I have a pretty good life,or hey, sean's right, but
that's not me, I want you toreally be honest with yourself.
Like, go, look in the fuckingmirror and say is this man or
woman truly thriving.
Is this the person of my dreams?
Is this my full potential?
If I get one life, because wedon't know what's after this, is
this the ultimate life that I'dbe so happy to live?
(10:31):
Or am I going to look back oneday and realize that I had more
to offer to the world, that Ihad bigger goals or skills or
experiences that I wanted todevelop in my life, but I just I
didn't get around to it becauseI waited, I wasted time Like
dude.
That shit just irks me becausepeople don't know what's at
stake.
And so you guys, I built my lifeby taking massive action, speed
(10:55):
of thought and massive action.
Okay, speed of action andmassive action, I should say so,
look at, you have to thinkbigger and you have to be
willing to go for it now.
And nine out of 10 times italways works out If you truly
give your all in that one timethat it doesn't.
It's a learning lesson thatallows you to pivot and grow
despite those circumstances anda lot of you.
You got to recognize that theway you're making decisions,
(11:18):
you're ingraining that mentalityinto who you are Meaning.
You know, if you continue towait and procrastinate on your
health goals, on changing yournutrition, on getting sober, on
spending more time with yourfamily, on reading more books,
on whatever it is Like that'swho you fucking are.
Like you're a procrastinator.
You're a shadow of the man orwoman you could be.
Like that's who you are.
Stop doubting yourself, stopbeing delusional and thinking
(11:40):
like well, you know, I'm justdoing this temporarily.
That's who you are.
You got to get pissed off andyou got to change that.
That's how the world sees you.
That's how your kids see you.
If you're a fat dad right nowand you're saying, oh, you're
(12:01):
disgruntled because you'reworking a job you hate and you
have the ability to go out andbuild a business or do something
that you know you would loveand you really want to do that,
but you're scared like andyou're having a penny pinch and
you can't really give yourfamily the life that you want to
give them, you know theyprobably don't know you as dad
who's capable to create asuccessful business and really
take care of us.
They just know you as dad whotalks about being broke and dad
who's stressed out about money.
(12:21):
And that's who the fuck you areLike.
You have to see it through thelens of other people sometimes
for you to realize that's theperson you've become.
And if you're not okay withthat person, you have to make a
choice to change.
And you have to make acommitment to yourself right
here, right now, that I will dowhatever it takes to change.
I will no longer be the fat dad.
I will no longer be the guy whosays he's broke and can't do
(12:42):
things with his family.
You know, I will no longer bethe guy who's half-assed in his
life and just showing up as alesser version of myself.
I can't be that guy anymore,like I just can't.
You have to get to the pointwhere you're sick and tired of
making these lame fuckingexcuses, because I know what
it's like to be that person.
That was me for 10 years of mylife and I hated my life and I
(13:04):
probably hated myself, eventhough I wouldn't articulate
that.
And I knew that I had more togive.
I knew that I had a lot moreinside of me that I had yet to
develop or share with the world.
And so I had to go on thismission, man of massive personal
development, of taking massiveaction.
I had to read more books, I hadto learn more, I had to journal
so I could understand myself.
You know, I had to get clarityaround my vision and who I
(13:27):
wanted to be.
I had to sculpt my physique.
I developed discipline.
I had to run farther.
I had to lift more.
I had to work out excessivelyLike I had to push my mind and
my body to the limits.
I had to develop skills so Icould speak on stages and
deliver this message.
Like I went out and wrote abook, you know.
I built relationships.
I flew all over the country.
I didn't sleep Like I ate theright foods.
I just did everything andanything I could in my power to
(13:49):
improve.
Every fucking day, man and Ishowed up for my family and our
lives got better and I faced myfears and I faced my fears and I
didn't let doubt stop me and Ijust kept going and I kept going
and I kept going and all of asudden it becomes this thing
where you're like damn, like,look at who I've become.
This all started with thedecision, in a moment where I
just got sick and tired of beinga fucking loser.
Like I knew I had more to showpeople than this.
(14:12):
I knew I had more to give theworld than this.
I knew I could grow and change.
I felt it inside, but you knowI wasn't doing it.
I wasn't doing it and that'swhy I stayed stuck and I did it
to myself.
And you have to have that momentof awareness and clarity where
you realize you're the biggestproblem and you're your greatest
asset in life.
No one's coming to save yourass, no one's going to do it for
you.
The perfect moment and theright timing doesn't exist.
(14:33):
The right time is now when yousay, fuck this, I'm going all in
, I'm going to show the worldwho I am.
Go out there and get the bestresults.
Become the best version of you.
Watch how that impacts yourchildren.
Watch how that impacts yourrelationship with your wife.
Watch how that transforms yourlife over time.
I want that for you because Iknow that you're so much more
capable than you're giving.
(14:53):
I know that inside your mind isjust doubt and fear that you
can completely obliteratethrough positive action.
And then, the more you do that,the more you believe in
yourself.
All of a sudden, that fear anddoubt doesn't even exist.
You've absolutely destroyedthat fear and doubt through
positive action over time andthat's the person that goes out
and makes a massive impact onthe world.
That's who we need right now.
That's who we need as anexample, as a leader for your
(15:19):
kids, for your community, foryour family.
That's the mission I'm on.
I want you guys by my side.
So if this message was valuablefor you, if you feel connected
to what I'm saying, share it,put it into action, display this
message through your dailyactions and let's go out and
change the fucking worldtogether.
The right time and the right moment is the moment
that you get sick and tired ofbeing stuck, of living below
your potential, of letting yourlife pass you by, of taking
these opportunities for granted,and you get pissed off and you
say, fuck that, I don't carewhat happens, I'm going to
change.
Today, when I came home, I tookmassive action towards my goals
and my dreams, because I hadjust been through a crazy
experience, facing life inprison, serving five and a half
(00:22):
years, like having everythingtaken away, and I made a promise
to myself that when I got mysecond chance, I was all in.
I was never gonna let fear holdme back.
Welcome back to another episodeof the Unstoppable Mindset
Podcast.
I'm your host, sean MichaelCrane, and welcome back to
(00:47):
another episode.
You guys, I appreciate thesupport.
You know it's funny.
People want success overnightand I just got a notification
the other day that I got 5,000downloads for my podcast and
that seems like a minusculenumber, right, but how do you
think you get to 5 million?
How do you think you get to 50million?
Like at point, you have to get5,000, then 50,000, then 500,000
(01:07):
.
And I'm in this for the longterm.
I'm not going anywhere untilthe day I die.
I'm fucking showing up andgiving my all, so I appreciate
your support.
If you're not subscribed to thechannel, uh, it's on Spotify,
it's on um Apple.
I have a YouTube channel aswell.
It's Unstoppable Mindset.
That's the podcast.
Please show me some love,subscribe, share.
(01:29):
It Got a lot of valuableepisodes.
I'm going to keep showing up anddocumenting my journey, you
guys, and today I'm in areflective state, reflecting on
my journey, thinking about avery specific time in my life,
and this message is for anybodythat keeps putting off change.
If you keep making excuses andwaiting to change, I want you to
listen and pay attention,because a lot of people they
(01:55):
have these things in their livesthat they want to change,
whether it's your weight andyour health, whether it's a
relationship.
Maybe you need to get sober,maybe you hate your job and you
want to find a career that youlove and make more money.
Whatever it is, there's likethis feeling inside of you where
you're unhappy or unsatisfiedwith some element of your life.
But you know, a lot of peoplehave this situation happen where
they have a moment of clarity,they feel that truth and it's
(02:15):
undeniable, and then they makean excuse or they put it off and
they continue to procrastinateover and over and over and they
never change.
And you know, because when youmake decisions a certain way for
a long period of time, itbecomes a habit, it becomes very
, very ingrained into who youare and at some point it's very
difficult to change that.
You know, and I remember a lotof moments in my life before I
(02:38):
really took control of my lifeand got sober and started
exercising and started goingafter my passions.
You know, I remember I hadthese moments of clarity where I
knew that I wasn't living thelife I wanted to live.
I knew that I had more to giveto this world.
I knew that I was justunsatisfied with my day-to-day
but I didn't fucking change it,like, how crazy is that?
(03:00):
Looking back, going okay, I'mnot happy with all of these
different things.
I want to be sober.
I don't want to live with mydad, who's an addict, and be
stuck in the same house that Igrew up in.
I don't really want to bearound these friends.
We keep getting in troubletogether.
You know, like I don't like thejob that I'm working, it's not
something I'm passionate aboutand it's killing me physically.
(03:20):
I'm climbing trees and carryinglumber all day.
I, you know I want to make moremoney.
I want to do something thatmakes me feel proud of myself.
I want to be able to do thingsevery day that, like, helped me
build a life I'm proud of.
Like I wasn't doing any of that.
I knew that I wanted to changeall of those things and I wasn't
changing them.
And you know, a lot of peoplefind themselves in that position
where then that becomes theirlife, like at one point, they
(03:41):
finally just give up and theystop talking or thinking about
change.
But all the while, it's deepdown inside of you, like a lot
of you listening to this rightnow, you know exactly who you
want to be and what you want tochange.
And I want to ask you Are yougoing to keep waiting and
potentially wait your entirelife?
Because that's what's going tohappen for most of you.
You're going to wait.
You're going to get older.
There's always going to be areason why you can't.
(04:02):
You know whether, oh, you knowthe economy is bad right now.
Or, oh, you know my kids arehaving a tough time in school,
or, oh, I just went through abreakup.
Or you know, right now it, whenit's the right time.
Newsflash the right timeprobably will never transpire in
your life.
The right time and the rightmoment is the moment that you
get sick and tired of beingstuck, of living below your
(04:24):
potential, of letting your lifepass you by, of taking these
opportunities for granted, andyou get pissed off and you say,
fuck that, I don't care whathappens.
I'm going to change today.
This moment, like change, takesplace in an instant.
It's an instantaneous shift inyour perspective and mentality.
Now, the results that you wanttake a long time to materialize,
but that initial change, thatspark, that catalyst, it happens
(04:46):
in a split second, you know.
And so many people wait.
They wait until okay, I'm goingto wait until I have kids, when
I have more money and a securejob.
You know, I'm going to wait to,like, lose weight and go to the
gym January 1st because, likethat's the New Year's resolution
.
You know, I'm going to waituntil I have a good workout
partner.
I'm going to wait until I getthis new gym membership.
I'm going to wait and I'm goingto start this diet Like dude.
(05:08):
You guys are justprocrastinating on who you want
to be and you're actuallydeveloping that habit and that
mentality.
That is a loser's mentality.
People who procrastinate letdoubt and fear we're going to
call that word dear doubt andfear combined.
If you allow doubt and fear todictate how you make decisions,
you're going to become a lesserversion of yourself.
(05:28):
You're not going to loveyourself.
In fact, a lot of people end uphating themselves deep down
inside because you're the onethat's doing it to yourself.
Like isn't that crazy?
You're the one that's leadingto living a life that you don't
love, that you don't want.
It's your decisions and youractions every day.
And so I just want to share alittle story with you guys
because I was telling this tosomeone the other day about when
(05:52):
I came home from prison.
You know, I was working as apersonal trainer, making $1,600
a month.
I had no money, no assets.
I was renting a room at myfriend's dad's house, I was
making my car payment, you know,I was paying my phone bill, and
then I was broke every month.
And that's around the time thatme and my wife Jessica got
connected and we started dating.
(06:13):
And, you guys, I didn't waitfor anything.
When I came home, I tookmassive action towards my goals
and my dreams, because I hadjust been through a crazy
experience, facing life inprison, serving five and a half
years, like having everythingtaken away, and I made a promise
to myself that when I got mysecond chance I was all in and I
wasn't.
I was never going to let fearhold me back.
(06:34):
I was never going to hold backever again because I'd done that
for so long.
And you know a lot of peoplelike I talk to guys and they're
single and I go dude, what areyou waiting for?
Like aren't you going to getmarried or don't you want to
have a chick right?
And they're like oh well, Ijust want to wait until I'm more
financially the wrong freakingmentality.
(06:56):
Like I talk to guys all thetime that want to quit their 9
to 5 and start a business forthemselves because they know
they can be successful and theyhave all the skill sets, and
they go what are you waiting for?
What are you going to do it?
Man?
They're like oh, I just got tosave up a little more money.
I want to be more secure firstbefore I make this jump.
You know, or I have a lot ofguys that reach out to me, often
about coaching.
They want to lose weight.
They want to build discipline,they want to build confidence.
(07:18):
They want to change theirhabits.
They have all the reasons inthe world to, for their family,
for their kids, for themselves.
But then it's like oh, you know, I want to wait, man, I got a
little debt I want to pay offbefore I invest in my health and
fitness.
Is you're literally putting offyour future self and the person
(07:40):
you want to be for a lame-assexcuse that you sold yourself on
.
That's not even viable, or true?
Yeah, sure, we want to havemore money in our bank account
before we quit our 9 to 5.
You know, sure you want to havethis big, badass house and all
this stuff, you know, before youthink you can attract your
dream woman?
Sure, you want these scenariosand situations to be ideal and
comfortable and easy.
But the truth of the matter isit does not work that way.
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You will stay stuck for therest of your life, and that's
why most people do.
They end up stuck in a life ofmediocrity where they are at
best average, because they arescared to go after what they
want and they think they foolthemselves.
They trick themselves intobelieving that somehow, someday
it's going to be easy and it'sall just going to happen by
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itself.
Dude, if you want to reallychange and get amazing results
in life, let's say you want tobe a multimillionaire, let's say
you want to be shredded withabs, let's say you want to have
the best relationship with yourwife and just create the
ultimate life All this stuffthat you want, dude, it is a
fucking grind to get there.
You got to fight to get there,you got to go after it with
everything that you possessinternally.
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If you're not willing to dothat, if you don't obsess over
it, if you don't want it as badas you want to breathe this air,
you're probably not going tohave it.
And that's the truth.
And this was my mentality cominghome from prison when I saw my
wife, jessica at the coffee shop.
You know I had loved her fromthe first time that we spent
time together.
We were 23.
And when I got to be around heragain and we went on a couple
of dates like I was just dude, Iwould do anything for her and I
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never thought about the money Ididn't have, I never thought
about the career I hadn't built,the home I didn't have, and she
was attracted to my energy, mypositivity.
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Like we would go to dinner andthen I'd be like, hey, you want
to go down to the beach and jumpin the ocean?
And she'd look at me like whatthe hell?
Like I was spontaneous, I wasexciting, I was different, and
it's because I wasn't waiting tobuild my life, I wasn't waiting
to develop a relationship, Iwasn't waiting to go after the
things I wanted to have in life.
I was going after them like mylife depended on it, because I
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got a second chance, like I said, and I knew what was at stake
if I didn't really go after thethings I want in life.
And a lot of you guys don't knowthat pain and that's why you
procrastinate but you suffer insilence your thoughts, your
energy, your emotions.
Like you're not happy, you'renot thriving.
You might have moments ofpleasure and joy, but are you
really thriving?
If you're listening to thisright now, I want you to reflect
(10:10):
on it.
If you're somebody that'strying to like, like think, oh
well, I have a pretty good life,or hey, sean's right, but
that's not me, I want you toreally be honest with yourself.
Like, go, look in the fuckingmirror and say is this man or
woman truly thriving.
Is this the person of my dreams?
Is this my full potential?
If I get one life, because wedon't know what's after this, is
this the ultimate life that I'dbe so happy to live?
(10:31):
Or am I going to look back oneday and realize that I had more
to offer to the world, that Ihad bigger goals or skills or
experiences that I wanted todevelop in my life, but I just I
didn't get around to it becauseI waited, I wasted time Like
dude.
That shit just irks me becausepeople don't know what's at
stake.
And so you guys, I built my lifeby taking massive action, speed
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of thought and massive action.
Okay, speed of action andmassive action, I should say so,
look at, you have to thinkbigger and you have to be
willing to go for it now.
And nine out of 10 times italways works out If you truly
give your all in that one timethat it doesn't.
It's a learning lesson thatallows you to pivot and grow
despite those circumstances anda lot of you.
You got to recognize that theway you're making decisions,
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you're ingraining that mentalityinto who you are Meaning.
You know, if you continue towait and procrastinate on your
health goals, on changing yournutrition, on getting sober, on
spending more time with yourfamily, on reading more books,
on whatever it is Like that'swho you fucking are.
Like you're a procrastinator.
You're a shadow of the man orwoman you could be.
Like that's who you are.
Stop doubting yourself, stopbeing delusional and thinking
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like well, you know, I'm justdoing this temporarily.
That's who you are.
You got to get pissed off andyou got to change that.
That's how the world sees you.
That's how your kids see you.
If you're a fat dad right nowand you're saying, oh, you're
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disgruntled because you'reworking a job you hate and you
have the ability to go out andbuild a business or do something
that you know you would loveand you really want to do that,
but you're scared like andyou're having a penny pinch and
you can't really give yourfamily the life that you want to
give them, you know theyprobably don't know you as dad
who's capable to create asuccessful business and really
take care of us.
They just know you as dad whotalks about being broke and dad
who's stressed out about money.
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And that's who the fuck you areLike.
You have to see it through thelens of other people sometimes
for you to realize that's theperson you've become.
And if you're not okay withthat person, you have to make a
choice to change.
And you have to make acommitment to yourself right
here, right now, that I will dowhatever it takes to change.
I will no longer be the fat dad.
I will no longer be the guy whosays he's broke and can't do
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things with his family.
You know, I will no longer bethe guy who's half-assed in his
life and just showing up as alesser version of myself.
I can't be that guy anymore,like I just can't.
You have to get to the pointwhere you're sick and tired of
making these lame fuckingexcuses, because I know what
it's like to be that person.
That was me for 10 years of mylife and I hated my life and I
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probably hated myself, eventhough I wouldn't articulate
that.
And I knew that I had more togive.
I knew that I had a lot moreinside of me that I had yet to
develop or share with the world.
And so I had to go on thismission, man of massive personal
development, of taking massiveaction.
I had to read more books, I hadto learn more, I had to journal
so I could understand myself.
You know, I had to get clarityaround my vision and who I
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wanted to be.
I had to sculpt my physique.
I developed discipline.
I had to run farther.
I had to lift more.
I had to work out excessivelyLike I had to push my mind and
my body to the limits.
I had to develop skills so Icould speak on stages and
deliver this message.
Like I went out and wrote abook, you know.
I built relationships.
I flew all over the country.
I didn't sleep Like I ate theright foods.
I just did everything andanything I could in my power to
(13:49):
improve.
Every fucking day, man and Ishowed up for my family and our
lives got better and I faced myfears and I faced my fears and I
didn't let doubt stop me and Ijust kept going and I kept going
and I kept going and all of asudden it becomes this thing
where you're like damn, like,look at who I've become.
This all started with thedecision, in a moment where I
just got sick and tired of beinga fucking loser.
Like I knew I had more to showpeople than this.
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I knew I had more to give theworld than this.
I knew I could grow and change.
I felt it inside, but you knowI wasn't doing it.
I wasn't doing it and that'swhy I stayed stuck and I did it
to myself.
And you have to have that momentof awareness and clarity where
you realize you're the biggestproblem and you're your greatest
asset in life.
No one's coming to save yourass, no one's going to do it for
you.
The perfect moment and theright timing doesn't exist.
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The right time is now when yousay, fuck this, I'm going all in
, I'm going to show the worldwho I am.
Go out there and get the bestresults.
Become the best version of you.
Watch how that impacts yourchildren.
Watch how that impacts yourrelationship with your wife.
Watch how that transforms yourlife over time.
I want that for you because Iknow that you're so much more
capable than you're giving.
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I know that inside your mind isjust doubt and fear that you
can completely obliteratethrough positive action.
And then, the more you do that,the more you believe in
yourself.
All of a sudden, that fear anddoubt doesn't even exist.
You've absolutely destroyedthat fear and doubt through
positive action over time andthat's the person that goes out
and makes a massive impact onthe world.
That's who we need right now.
That's who we need as anexample, as a leader for your
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kids, for your community, foryour family.
That's the mission I'm on.
I want you guys by my side.
So if this message was valuablefor you, if you feel connected
to what I'm saying, share it,put it into action, display this
message through your dailyactions and let's go out and
change the fucking worldtogether.
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