Love And Time, How To Make Quality Time Count In Relationships, Self Help Podcast

💞 Love On The Clock: Why Time Is The Backbone Of Relationships

In this heartfelt episode of the Self Help Show, Gina-Margaret Tiger explores how the way we spend time with our loved ones directly shapes the quality and fate of our relationships. From romantic partners to family and friends, it's not just about how much time — it's about how meaningful that time is.

🧠 What You’ll Learn:

00:00 – Welcome To Chapter Seven: Love Meets Time

00:30 – What Quality Time Actually Means

01:10 – Strengthening Bonds Through Intentional Presence

01:45 – How Time Builds Trust, Intimacy, And Communication

02:50 – Why Lasting Memories Come From Shared Moments

03:40 – When Lack Of Time Starts Breaking The Relationship

04:30 – Real-Life Reflection On Regret, Loss, And Missed Time

06:00 – Emotional Fulfillment And Feeling Truly Seen

07:00 – Practical Ways To Make Time For What Truly Matters

08:10 – Public Apologies, Personal Growth, And The Power To Do Better

💡 Episode Highlights:

• Time is the most powerful love language

• Relationships fade when we neglect meaningful moments

• Your presence is more valuable than any gift

• Building deep connection requires intentional time

• You don’t get time back — spend it wisely with people who matter

📓 Journal Prompt:

Who have I been unintentionally neglecting, and how can I show them love through time?

🌿 Affirmation:

“I give time to what and who truly matters. I create loving memories. I choose connection.”

💬 Real Talk Reminder:

You don’t know how many moments you have left — make every one meaningful. Love doesn’t survive on autopilot. It thrives when nurtured.

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Episode Transcript

(00:00):
Hello, welcome to A Thousand Voices podcast. I am your host Gina and this is a self-help

(00:08):
show. So today I am talking about time and this is chapter seven. I talk about all things
time related and today's topic is the importance of quality time in relationships. So time
and relationships, whether it's a romantic relationship or family or friendships, it's

(00:31):
not always about how much time we spend together, but how did you spend it? Right? So the importance
of quality time is it helps you strengthen the bond between you and the people you're
spending time with. So, you know, it deepens connections. Like if you spend much time together

(00:56):
and depending on how you are spending it, it kind of makes the connection so much stronger.
It helps your communication. So the quality time you spend provides opportunities to open
dialogues, you know, to allow individuals to share thoughts and their feelings and concerns.

(01:20):
You know, you have time to enhance your communication. Then because you're doing it regularly, right?
You dedicate time for each other. It builds trust and the partner or you becomes, you
know, reliable to one another because you are getting to spend a lot more time together
and you're spending a lot of quality time together. Then one of my favorite one is you

(01:45):
get to create lasting memories. Tell me about a time that you and your family did something
together. Tell me about the time that you and your loved one did something together.
I know a couple of lasting, beautiful memories and I'm so excited to be like creating even

(02:05):
more memories because that's what life is all about, right? Then another thing is quality
life or quality time allows you to learn more, right? So you get to understand the person's

(02:25):
interests, their preferences, their values. So you understand one another if you spend
quality time together. It also reduces stress. Spending quality time with a loved one kind
of gets rid of anxiety. That's true. That is so true. And it also nurtures affection.

(02:48):
You know, because you're spending quality time together, you're maintaining that romantic
connection through physical touch and emotional closeness. Isn't that amazing? It also promotes
a balance, you know, within your life. So work life balance. Yeah. And it kind of helps

(03:09):
you guys to, if you ever fight because you've spent quality time, you kind of know the person
you're dealing with and you kind of know how to tackle all those situations. So I love
how time kind of, if you look at it, right, most cases, I don't want to talk about like

(03:30):
the struggles of relationships, but I think most relationships that don't work is because
they, those two people don't, they're not making enough time for each other. So because
of that, the relationship fails. I mean, there could be other things obviously, but I feel
like time still plays a big role in that. So now I want to talk about the opposites

(03:55):
of not having quality time. So regrets about, you know, not prioritizing meaningful moments
within your relationship, because sometimes too often or not, believe it or not, we do
take our loved ones for granted because we always assume that they will always be there.

(04:19):
And this is, this is so deep. Like the moment I just said this, I felt like a deep hole
within me because I remember the last days I spent with my mom. I wasn't even happy.
I didn't want to do what we were doing. And I was just like taking her for granted. And
then five months later she was gone and I just never, ever, ever had to spend time with

(04:44):
her again. The only memories I have is those times when she was like, no, let's go do this.
Let's do that. And I'm like, no, I don't want to do this. You know, you take people for
granted and, and if you're listening, I want you to find the person you in your life. It
could be family, it could be your partner, whoever, just take this moment to appreciate

(05:07):
them because once you don't have them anymore, you don't have them anymore. So you miss out
on those opportunities and you just cannot get it back. Yeah. Okay. So another thing
is if you don't have time, relationships just like a plant, if you don't water it, it dies

(05:30):
down. So if you don't prioritize meaningful moments, that strains your relationship and
it results in disconnection and loneliness. And then eventually it dies. Then, all for
emphasis on your work. This is so me. I focus too much on my career missions that it didn't

(05:53):
kind of lead me to regret, but then it kind of led me to like solitude to the point where
I enjoy my solitude in such a bad way that like, I'm just so good hanging out alone.
Hmm. Not great. Not great. Not great. Anywho, if you don't spend quality time with your
family, your friends, your partner, you also don't create any memories. So you don't have

(06:18):
any significant events. You don't have any adventures and that leads to a lack of cherished
moments. So you don't have anything to look back on. Honestly. Then another thing is,
um, because you don't have quality time with your family and your friends, also your communication

(06:42):
is not so great because it's like, yes, your family, yes, your friends, yes, you're in
a relationship, but if you haven't spent time together, it almost feels like there's that
separation. If you agree with everything that I'm saying, please drop a comment. Like drop
a comment. I know you can drop a comment on Spotify or Apple podcasts or anywhere you're
listening from drop a comment. And if you agree with all of these that I'm saying, then

(07:06):
another thing is, um, you also feel unfulfilled because there is a sense of fulfillment that
comes with doing the things that you love the most, spending time with people that you
love the most, feeling appreciated, appreciating them, doing what you both love together, sharing

(07:27):
that connection. And if you don't do that, you always feel like there is a void or like,
you know, there is sadness because you know, you're not filling in that gap. So you have
to make sure that like you spent quality time, you need to realize that the fleeting nature
of time can lead to regret. And this is just reality, you know, so make the most of your

(07:55):
moments and live life fully. Like you have absolutely no reason to not live life fully.
Yes, there could be challenges, you know, people are looking for money, it could be
this, it could be that, but just appreciate those around you. You know, whether it's your
partner, whether it's your kids, your friends, make the time you spend together count, no

(08:21):
matter what, like make jokes, laugh together, check up on one another, you know, send each
other random messages. If you're separated physically, you know, do voice and video calls,
just connect. I want to say I'm sorry to my family for you know, sometimes I just lock

(08:43):
in and I'm just working and working and working and I really want to make things better. Like
I just hope I get the chance and the redemption to make things better moving forward. So I'm
able to just spend more quality time. And I know my family, especially my parents, they
want me to go to church with them. So I think, and as much as I prefer online church, I mean,

(09:08):
I still worship, I still do my online church, but I think it's that togetherness, that quality
time that they desire. And yeah, I will do better. I will do better guys. So thank you
for listening to this episode. I think it was so precious. It just opens your eye on
just understanding how you need to make the most of your time. Next episode, I'm going

(09:34):
to be talking about time value, why moments matter, why they matter within your life,
your personal life, your work life, and how technology shapes the perception of our time.
Catch you in the next one.