November 1, 2024 • 18 mins
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Have you ever had a hard day? That's definitely a rhetorical question because we ALL have had them. In this episode, Lunden shares 4 practical strategies to deal with hard days and move through some of those challenging, stressful moments.
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3:57 Grounding Yourself in the Present Moment
6:38 Embracing Self-Compassion by Talking to Your Emotions
11:46 Being a Rainbow in Someone's Storm
13:41 Seeking Support
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Lunden Souza (00:01):
Welcome to Self Love and Sweat THE PODCAST, the
place where you'll get inspiredto live your life
unapologetically, embrace yourperfect imperfections, break
down barriers and do what setsyour soul on fire.
I'm your host, Lunden Souza.
Hey, have you grabbed your freeSelf Self Love and Sweat free
(00:24):
monthly calendar yet?
This calendar is so amazing.
It comes right in your inboxevery single month to help you
have a little nugget of wisdom,a sweaty workout, a mindset
activity, just a littlesomething, something to help
keep you focused and motivatedand keep that momentum towards
(00:44):
your goals.
So every day, when you get thiscalendar, you'll see a link
that you can click that willlead to a podcast episode or a
workout or something that willbe very powerful and quick to
read.
And then you'll also see, onthe top left corner of every
single day, there's a littlecheckbox in the calendar and
(01:04):
what that is is that's for yourone thing.
You can choose one thing everymonth, or it can be the same,
something that you want toimplement and make this
something that you can easilyimplement, like daily meditation
or getting a certain amount ofsteps or water, for example, and
staying hydrated and eventaking your supplements.
(01:25):
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particular habit and routine.
You can choose what thatcheckbox means.
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delivered right to your inboxevery month on the first of the
month, go to lifelikelunden.
com/calendar, fill out the formreally quickly and you will have
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Go.
(02:14):
Welcome back to the podcast.
Today we are talking about harddays.
I know that everybody listeningto this episode has had a hard
day before.
I know I for sure have, and Iwant to share four things that I
know can help, that have helpedme a lot recently through some
hard and challenging times.
And there's a differencebetween acknowledging that
there's hard days and wanting tomove through that and be the
(02:39):
person that you want to be, evenwhen things are hard.
And then there's a differencebetween, like, ruminating in the
hard stuff right, and I'm surewe can all think of somebody
that hangs out in the hard allthe time.
Everything's hard, this is hard, this person makes this hard
(02:59):
and, yeah, I can even thinkabout parts of me that maybe
have hung out in the hard toolong, if that makes sense.
But I really feel like over thelast year, especially the last
six months, I've taken on a lotand I know that you have too,
and so these four things I knowwill be super helpful to reflect
(03:22):
on.
Maybe one of these will helpyou more than others, maybe all
of them will be helpful.
When I was making this list ofthese four things and I did a
meditation right before this andwas just thinking about the
things and tools that havehelped me, I really feel like
all four of these are superpowerful and I use all of them.
(03:45):
I have used all of them,especially recently, and so if
you can take them all in, great.
If there's one that speaks toyou, awesome.
But these are four things tohelp on your hard days.
Number one is the power ofpresence.
When things are hard and wehave busy schedules and we're
wearing a lot of hats andthere's a lot going on, it's
(04:08):
important that we be where weare.
Sometimes we can think aboutthe next five, 10 things that we
need to get done, and thenwe're stressed about the things
that we didn't do yet, and I hada really awesome guest on the
podcast and she mentioned doingthe things that you do while
(04:32):
you're doing them.
Do the things, do what you dowhile you're doing it, right, be
where you're at while you'redoing it.
And this has been so oh my gosh, so powerful to me, because I
wear a lot of hats, I know thatyou do too.
And if we can just be wherewe're at right, be in this
(04:53):
meeting, be in this podcastrecording, be with our kids in
the moment when we're havingthis conversation, be with our
partner in that moment whenwe're having the conversation,
do what you can to be present.
And this is why I lovemeditation so much, because you
practice getting out of the pastand getting out of the future
(05:14):
and being right in the presentmoment.
And so I think what helps methe most when things are hard
and especially I have full days,is being like okay, be right
where you're.
At Lunden, you know, thismorning I woke up really early,
I had um, I went and did myworkout at hot works, which I
love, and then I came back and Ihad um, a call with my
(05:40):
assistant, and it was like a 20minute call and I wanted to be
really present with her and talkto her and, you know, ask her
how I can support her and justwork as a team, like we always
do.
And then I took my supplementsfor my detox and while I had
them in my mouth you're supposedto hold them for like 45 to 60
seconds in your mouth I put myhand over my heart and just was
(06:02):
present taking my supplements.
And then I came here to do thispodcast and press record and so
, whatever it is that you'redoing, I know you're doing a lot
and you're doing a great job,but do what you do while you're
doing it.
And when I said that initially,I was like I had a guest on my
podcast and I couldn't rememberher name off the top of my head,
(06:23):
but it's Eleanor Evans Medina.
I love her.
Her name was on the tip of mytongue and I'll put the link to
that podcast episode in the shownotes.
But that really inspired mewhen she said that Do what you
do while you're doing it.
So, even when it's hard, bepresent for what's happening
right in front of you, we don'tneed to be 27 steps ahead, we
(06:45):
just need to be right in thismoment, because that's all we
can do, right, all we can do isbe present where we're at and do
our best in this moment.
So that's the first thing thepower of presence.
Number two when we're having ahard day and an emotion might
come up right.
It might be fear, angst,frustration.
(07:08):
Talk to that emotion.
Ask your emotion.
Ask it what it's trying to tellyou, what it's trying to teach
you.
We're not taught to talk to ouremotions.
We're taught to push ouremotions down and to not cry and
everything's going to be okayand it's not that big of a deal
(07:30):
and just like suck it up, pushit down, right.
But as I've gotten older, Irealized it's so important to
feel all of the feels and notnumb the feels.
In fact, yesterday I waswalking around with some people
from my team to go look atHalloween decorations in my
neighborhood.
First of all, my neighborhoodhas the most amazing Halloween
(07:52):
decorations I've ever seen in myentire life.
But there's a house that theydid Inside Out 2.
They had all of the differentemotions and if you haven't seen
Inside Out 2, I highly, highly,highly recommend it.
I watched it on the airplanethe other day on the way to
California and then on the wayback On the way there I was kind
of watching the movie andmultitasking Thankfully, I
(08:15):
should say, yeah, thankfully,Delta Airlines has a lot of
Wi-Fi in their airplanes, and soI was like working and
simultaneously watching thevideo but then or the movie.
But then on my way back I waslike I'm going to watch the
movie uninterrupted, and so Ihighly recommend watching Inside
Out 2.
But there's a house thatdecorated their house like the
(08:35):
Inside Out 2 house and there waslike a big sign that said like
it's okay to feel all the feels,and then it also had like a QR
code that you can scan to reachout to someone if you feel
overwhelmed or need support withmental health and all the
things, which I thought was sobeautiful.
But talking to that emotion andasking it what it's trying to
teach you.
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Now I have had panic attacks inmy life and I used to have a
lot of them and I used to numbthrough a lot of them and it's
been a while since I've had one,probably over a year, but I had
one recently, like a few weeksago, and it was really intense.
(09:18):
I could tell I was just superstressed.
My jaw was like trembling, myhands were shaking.
It was a really intense panicattack actually.
But yeah, you know we all gothrough the things and I think
what I'm most grateful for isthat I know that I don't have
them as often as I used to.
Meditation has helped me somuch through that.
(09:42):
But in the middle of this panicattack, you know being able to
talk to that emotion and askwhat it's trying to teach me and
I know this episode is abouthard days, not panic attacks but
I think this is a specificmoment that I can recall in my
recent life where I had, youknow, this overwhelming emotion
and I was like what are youtrying to teach me?
(10:03):
In the middle of my jawchattering and just yeah, it was
like it's trying to tell methat it's okay to not be perfect
.
It's trying to tell me thatit's okay to not have everything
under control.
It's trying to tell me thatnobody is.
It's not as big of a reflectionon me as I am making it out to
(10:26):
be right Sometimes, when thingsdon't go systemized and
organized in my life remember, Iam the director of a company, I
run multiple businesses.
Systems and processes are veryimportant to me and sometimes I
feel like when the systems andprocesses are not followed.
It's a reflection on me.
That's the feeling that I knowcomes up, right, that's the
(10:48):
shadow in me that comes up.
And so I just talked to it andI was like it's trying to tell
me that it's okay, like no one'sperfect, and yeah, just talking
to that emotion.
And then I was talking tomyself and saying, like it's
okay, you're doing such a greatjob, Lunden, you are pushing
through, you're helping so manypeople.
(11:08):
You're just, yeah, hypingmyself up, talking to that
emotion, figuring out what it'strying to teach you, and then
talk to yourself the way thatyou know you need to be talked
to right.
Oftentimes we can be our ownworst critic and be our own
worst enemy and our self-talkcan just be like, well, you
should have got that done andthat's your fault for not having
(11:31):
that in order.
That's sometimes what my innerdialogue is like, but awareness
of that is huge.
And so that's the second oneTalk to that emotion and ask it
what it's trying to tell you,what it's trying to teach you.
Number three this was a littlereminder and sign that I saw the
(11:52):
other day when I was at thegrocery store and it said go out
and be the rainbow in someoneelse's storm, and that's the
third thing to help on hard daysis go out and serve others.
Go out and hype somebody elseup.
Send somebody else a reallynice text message.
Go make a meal for somebodyelse.
(12:14):
Right, go out and be therainbow in somebody else's storm
.
Even when we're having our harddays or we're having our good
days, we go out and we interactwith other people.
Right, and people are notwearing their emotions like they
do on the Inside Out movie.
Right, they're not going toturn completely blue when
they're sad.
(12:34):
They're not going to be dressedin all green with blue hair
when they're joyful.
And sometimes, yeah, people goout in the world just doing
their best and we don't knowwhat they're going through.
They could be having a hard day, they could have just lost
somebody, they could be havingthe best day and you could go
out and say something kind tothem and it could enhance their
(12:55):
day even more.
I was recently driving out to StGeorge, which is in Southern
Utah.
It was like a four-hour driveand I left pretty early in the
morning because I had to bethere pretty early as well.
So I left like at 4 am and Iwas having a really good day and
I was listening to good musicand I went to Dutch Bros Coffee
to get a coffee and the guythere was so nice and he was
(13:17):
like what are you doing so early?
And I was just like, oh, I'mheading out to St.
George and blah, blah, blah.
And then he handed me thecoffee and he was like it's on
me?
And I was like thank you, andit was just so sweet and so kind
and I wasn't having necessarilya super hard day that day but I
was definitely driving fourhours at four o'clock in the
morning so it was nice that hewent out of his way to just do a
(13:40):
little random act of kindness.
So when you feel like you'rehaving a hard day, remember it's
not all about you.
Remember there's other peopleout there Not to discount your
hard, right?
I'm not saying like you know,don't feel the hard, and just
you know, push it down and go bekind to others.
That's not what I'm saying.
But just recognize like thehard day in me sees the hard day
(14:03):
in you, namaste, right, that'slike the end of a yoga class,
right, it's like the divine inme honors the divine in you.
You can take out divine and putanything in that sentence right
, the hard day in me, thestruggle in me, recognizes the
struggle in you.
So when we go out and be thatrainbow in someone else's storm,
(14:24):
or even be the rainbow insomeone else's blue sky,
beautiful, cloud day, right,just go out and do something
kind for somebody else.
And then the fourth one is tellsomeone about it.
Tell somebody about your hardday that you trust, that you
know is going to hold space foryou, that you know is not going
(14:44):
to take you down further, thatyou know is going to hold space
for you, that you know is notgoing to take you down further,
that you know is not going toruminate in the hard right, but
that's going to be there for you.
I recently did a post onInstagram about anger and I was
feeling really angry.
A week ago, I think it was aweek ago, and I could just feel
anger coming up.
And what I know about anger isyou can move through anger right
(15:06):
.
When you're in despair anddepression, anxiety, those
emotions, it's really hard totake action from those.
So even when I was in anger, Iwas like, okay, at least I know
I can move with this right, likeI can do something with this
anger.
But I shared it with my friendHaley and she was like, oh my
(15:31):
gosh, me too I've been feelingso angry about X, y or Z.
And so we just shared that witheach other and we just
expressed that and it felt sogood.
And then yesterday I was on acall with her and I'm like how's
your anger, how are you feeling?
And she's like I feel like it'sgone.
I feel like I've moved throughit.
And I was like me too.
And she's like, yeah, I had aconversation with this person.
Then that person, which werepeople that she discussed were
bringing up anger for her, butinstead of staying angry at them
(15:52):
and just being pissed off, shehad a conversation with them and
shared her heart and thoughtabout what she wanted to say to
them and communicatedconsciously and was able to have
good conversations with thosepeople.
And so I just think being ableto have people that you can
reach out to, not that are goingto be like oh yeah, let's
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Ruminating is different thanmoving through, and ruminating
is just like staying stuck andmarinating and all of that.
And and not to say you have tochop, chop, get through the hard
day and get through the angerright, but you get to decide how
long do you wanna stay thereand what do you wanna learn from
it.
So I always love talking to myfriend Haley about that, because
(16:35):
she's just so magnificent.
And yeah, her and I do a lot ofwork with Dr Joe Dispenza and
we meditate a lot, and so I justfeel like we're on the same
page when it comes to what wewant, when we're expressing to
one another.
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And I think sometimes peoplewill just be like oh, I'm sorry,
I'm sorry that you're feelingthat way and change the subject
and it's like no, you don't haveto be sorry that I'm feeling
this way, I just want to shareit with you.
But some people don't know howto hold space for others'
emotions, and that's not theirfault, it's all good.
It's just like choose thepeople that you trust and that
can hold space for you toexpress what's going on in the
hardness.
So those are the four things Iwant to offer you today on this
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episode to help on those harddays.
Remember the power of presence,talk to that emotion and figure
out what it's trying to teachyou.
Number three go out and be therainbow in someone else's storm.
And number four talk tosomebody about it.
Tell someone about it and ifyou don't have someone to talk
to about it, you can send me aDM on Instagram.
(17:38):
You can send me a little audiomessage.
I'm @lifelikelunden onInstagram and if this episode
resonates with you, I would loveif you could share this episode
with a friend via text or sendthem a DM.
That's the ultimate compliment.
When you like this episode, whenyou like one of the episodes
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that I share is, share it withsomebody, spread the word and if
you're having a hard day, Ihope that these tips help.
See you at the next episode.
Thank you so much for listeningto this episode of Self Love
and Sweat THE PODCAST.
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unapologetically, embrace yourperfect imperfections, break
down barriers and do what setsyour soul on fire.
I'm your host, Lunden Souza.
Hey, have you grabbed your freeSelf Self Love and Sweat free
(00:24):
monthly calendar yet?
This calendar is so amazing.
It comes right in your inboxevery single month to help you
have a little nugget of wisdom,a sweaty workout, a mindset
activity, just a littlesomething, something to help
keep you focused and motivatedand keep that momentum towards
(00:44):
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So every day, when you get thiscalendar, you'll see a link
that you can click that willlead to a podcast episode or a
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And then you'll also see, onthe top left corner of every
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You can choose one thing everymonth, or it can be the same,
something that you want toimplement and make this
something that you can easilyimplement, like daily meditation
or getting a certain amount ofsteps or water, for example, and
staying hydrated and eventaking your supplements.
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particular habit and routine.
You can choose what thatcheckbox means.
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Welcome back to the podcast.
Today we are talking about harddays.
I know that everybody listeningto this episode has had a hard
day before.
I know I for sure have, and Iwant to share four things that I
know can help, that have helpedme a lot recently through some
hard and challenging times.
And there's a differencebetween acknowledging that
there's hard days and wanting tomove through that and be the
(02:39):
person that you want to be, evenwhen things are hard.
And then there's a differencebetween, like, ruminating in the
hard stuff right, and I'm surewe can all think of somebody
that hangs out in the hard allthe time.
Everything's hard, this is hard, this person makes this hard
(02:59):
and, yeah, I can even thinkabout parts of me that maybe
have hung out in the hard toolong, if that makes sense.
But I really feel like over thelast year, especially the last
six months, I've taken on a lotand I know that you have too,
and so these four things I knowwill be super helpful to reflect
(03:22):
on.
Maybe one of these will helpyou more than others, maybe all
of them will be helpful.
When I was making this list ofthese four things and I did a
meditation right before this andwas just thinking about the
things and tools that havehelped me, I really feel like
all four of these are superpowerful and I use all of them.
(03:45):
I have used all of them,especially recently, and so if
you can take them all in, great.
If there's one that speaks toyou, awesome.
But these are four things tohelp on your hard days.
Number one is the power ofpresence.
When things are hard and wehave busy schedules and we're
wearing a lot of hats andthere's a lot going on, it's
(04:08):
important that we be where weare.
Sometimes we can think aboutthe next five, 10 things that we
need to get done, and thenwe're stressed about the things
that we didn't do yet, and I hada really awesome guest on the
podcast and she mentioned doingthe things that you do while
(04:32):
you're doing them.
Do the things, do what you dowhile you're doing it, right, be
where you're at while you'redoing it.
And this has been so oh my gosh, so powerful to me, because I
wear a lot of hats, I know thatyou do too.
And if we can just be wherewe're at right, be in this
(04:53):
meeting, be in this podcastrecording, be with our kids in
the moment when we're havingthis conversation, be with our
partner in that moment whenwe're having the conversation,
do what you can to be present.
And this is why I lovemeditation so much, because you
practice getting out of the pastand getting out of the future
(05:14):
and being right in the presentmoment.
And so I think what helps methe most when things are hard
and especially I have full days,is being like okay, be right
where you're.
At Lunden, you know, thismorning I woke up really early,
I had um, I went and did myworkout at hot works, which I
love, and then I came back and Ihad um, a call with my
(05:40):
assistant, and it was like a 20minute call and I wanted to be
really present with her and talkto her and, you know, ask her
how I can support her and justwork as a team, like we always
do.
And then I took my supplementsfor my detox and while I had
them in my mouth you're supposedto hold them for like 45 to 60
seconds in your mouth I put myhand over my heart and just was
(06:02):
present taking my supplements.
And then I came here to do thispodcast and press record and so
, whatever it is that you'redoing, I know you're doing a lot
and you're doing a great job,but do what you do while you're
doing it.
And when I said that initially,I was like I had a guest on my
podcast and I couldn't rememberher name off the top of my head,
(06:23):
but it's Eleanor Evans Medina.
I love her.
Her name was on the tip of mytongue and I'll put the link to
that podcast episode in the shownotes.
But that really inspired mewhen she said that Do what you
do while you're doing it.
So, even when it's hard, bepresent for what's happening
right in front of you, we don'tneed to be 27 steps ahead, we
(06:45):
just need to be right in thismoment, because that's all we
can do, right, all we can do isbe present where we're at and do
our best in this moment.
So that's the first thing thepower of presence.
Number two when we're having ahard day and an emotion might
come up right.
It might be fear, angst,frustration.
(07:08):
Talk to that emotion.
Ask your emotion.
Ask it what it's trying to tellyou, what it's trying to teach
you.
We're not taught to talk to ouremotions.
We're taught to push ouremotions down and to not cry and
everything's going to be okayand it's not that big of a deal
(07:30):
and just like suck it up, pushit down, right.
But as I've gotten older, Irealized it's so important to
feel all of the feels and notnumb the feels.
In fact, yesterday I waswalking around with some people
from my team to go look atHalloween decorations in my
neighborhood.
First of all, my neighborhoodhas the most amazing Halloween
(07:52):
decorations I've ever seen in myentire life.
But there's a house that theydid Inside Out 2.
They had all of the differentemotions and if you haven't seen
Inside Out 2, I highly, highly,highly recommend it.
I watched it on the airplanethe other day on the way to
California and then on the wayback On the way there I was kind
of watching the movie andmultitasking Thankfully, I
(08:15):
should say, yeah, thankfully,Delta Airlines has a lot of
Wi-Fi in their airplanes, and soI was like working and
simultaneously watching thevideo but then or the movie.
But then on my way back I waslike I'm going to watch the
movie uninterrupted, and so Ihighly recommend watching Inside
Out 2.
But there's a house thatdecorated their house like the
(08:35):
Inside Out 2 house and there waslike a big sign that said like
it's okay to feel all the feels,and then it also had like a QR
code that you can scan to reachout to someone if you feel
overwhelmed or need support withmental health and all the
things, which I thought was sobeautiful.
But talking to that emotion andasking it what it's trying to
teach you.
(08:56):
Now I have had panic attacks inmy life and I used to have a
lot of them and I used to numbthrough a lot of them and it's
been a while since I've had one,probably over a year, but I had
one recently, like a few weeksago, and it was really intense.
(09:18):
I could tell I was just superstressed.
My jaw was like trembling, myhands were shaking.
It was a really intense panicattack actually.
But yeah, you know we all gothrough the things and I think
what I'm most grateful for isthat I know that I don't have
them as often as I used to.
Meditation has helped me somuch through that.
(09:42):
But in the middle of this panicattack, you know being able to
talk to that emotion and askwhat it's trying to teach me and
I know this episode is abouthard days, not panic attacks but
I think this is a specificmoment that I can recall in my
recent life where I had, youknow, this overwhelming emotion
and I was like what are youtrying to teach me?
(10:03):
In the middle of my jawchattering and just yeah, it was
like it's trying to tell methat it's okay to not be perfect
.
It's trying to tell me thatit's okay to not have everything
under control.
It's trying to tell me thatnobody is.
It's not as big of a reflectionon me as I am making it out to
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be right Sometimes, when thingsdon't go systemized and
organized in my life remember, Iam the director of a company, I
run multiple businesses.
Systems and processes are veryimportant to me and sometimes I
feel like when the systems andprocesses are not followed.
It's a reflection on me.
That's the feeling that I knowcomes up, right, that's the
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shadow in me that comes up.
And so I just talked to it andI was like it's trying to tell
me that it's okay, like no one'sperfect, and yeah, just talking
to that emotion.
And then I was talking tomyself and saying, like it's
okay, you're doing such a greatjob, Lunden, you are pushing
through, you're helping so manypeople.
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You're just, yeah, hypingmyself up, talking to that
emotion, figuring out what it'strying to teach you, and then
talk to yourself the way thatyou know you need to be talked
to right.
Oftentimes we can be our ownworst critic and be our own
worst enemy and our self-talkcan just be like, well, you
should have got that done andthat's your fault for not having
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that in order.
That's sometimes what my innerdialogue is like, but awareness
of that is huge.
And so that's the second oneTalk to that emotion and ask it
what it's trying to tell you,what it's trying to teach you.
Number three this was a littlereminder and sign that I saw the
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other day when I was at thegrocery store and it said go out
and be the rainbow in someoneelse's storm, and that's the
third thing to help on hard daysis go out and serve others.
Go out and hype somebody elseup.
Send somebody else a reallynice text message.
Go make a meal for somebodyelse.
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Right, go out and be therainbow in somebody else's storm
.
Even when we're having our harddays or we're having our good
days, we go out and we interactwith other people.
Right, and people are notwearing their emotions like they
do on the Inside Out movie.
Right, they're not going toturn completely blue when
they're sad.
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They're not going to be dressedin all green with blue hair
when they're joyful.
And sometimes, yeah, people goout in the world just doing
their best and we don't knowwhat they're going through.
They could be having a hard day, they could have just lost
somebody, they could be havingthe best day and you could go
out and say something kind tothem and it could enhance their
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day even more.
I was recently driving out to StGeorge, which is in Southern
Utah.
It was like a four-hour driveand I left pretty early in the
morning because I had to bethere pretty early as well.
So I left like at 4 am and Iwas having a really good day and
I was listening to good musicand I went to Dutch Bros Coffee
to get a coffee and the guythere was so nice and he was
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like what are you doing so early?
And I was just like, oh, I'mheading out to St.
George and blah, blah, blah.
And then he handed me thecoffee and he was like it's on
me?
And I was like thank you, andit was just so sweet and so kind
and I wasn't having necessarilya super hard day that day but I
was definitely driving fourhours at four o'clock in the
morning so it was nice that hewent out of his way to just do a
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little random act of kindness.
So when you feel like you'rehaving a hard day, remember it's
not all about you.
Remember there's other peopleout there Not to discount your
hard, right?
I'm not saying like you know,don't feel the hard, and just
you know, push it down and go bekind to others.
That's not what I'm saying.
But just recognize like thehard day in me sees the hard day
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in you, namaste, right, that'slike the end of a yoga class,
right, it's like the divine inme honors the divine in you.
You can take out divine and putanything in that sentence right
, the hard day in me, thestruggle in me, recognizes the
struggle in you.
So when we go out and be thatrainbow in someone else's storm,
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or even be the rainbow insomeone else's blue sky,
beautiful, cloud day, right,just go out and do something
kind for somebody else.
And then the fourth one is tellsomeone about it.
Tell somebody about your hardday that you trust, that you
know is going to hold space foryou, that you know is not going
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to take you down further, thatyou know is going to hold space
for you, that you know is notgoing to take you down further,
that you know is not going toruminate in the hard right, but
that's going to be there for you.
I recently did a post onInstagram about anger and I was
feeling really angry.
A week ago, I think it was aweek ago, and I could just feel
anger coming up.
And what I know about anger isyou can move through anger right
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.
When you're in despair anddepression, anxiety, those
emotions, it's really hard totake action from those.
So even when I was in anger, Iwas like, okay, at least I know
I can move with this right, likeI can do something with this
anger.
But I shared it with my friendHaley and she was like, oh my
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gosh, me too I've been feelingso angry about X, y or Z.
And so we just shared that witheach other and we just
expressed that and it felt sogood.
And then yesterday I was on acall with her and I'm like how's
your anger, how are you feeling?
And she's like I feel like it'sgone.
I feel like I've moved throughit.
And I was like me too.
And she's like, yeah, I had aconversation with this person.
Then that person, which werepeople that she discussed were
bringing up anger for her, butinstead of staying angry at them
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and just being pissed off, shehad a conversation with them and
shared her heart and thoughtabout what she wanted to say to
them and communicatedconsciously and was able to have
good conversations with thosepeople.
And so I just think being ableto have people that you can
reach out to, not that are goingto be like oh yeah, let's
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Ruminating is different thanmoving through, and ruminating
is just like staying stuck andmarinating and all of that.
And and not to say you have tochop, chop, get through the hard
day and get through the angerright, but you get to decide how
long do you wanna stay thereand what do you wanna learn from
it.
So I always love talking to myfriend Haley about that, because
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she's just so magnificent.
And yeah, her and I do a lot ofwork with Dr Joe Dispenza and
we meditate a lot, and so I justfeel like we're on the same
page when it comes to what wewant, when we're expressing to
one another.
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And I think sometimes peoplewill just be like oh, I'm sorry,
I'm sorry that you're feelingthat way and change the subject
and it's like no, you don't haveto be sorry that I'm feeling
this way, I just want to shareit with you.
But some people don't know howto hold space for others'
emotions, and that's not theirfault, it's all good.
It's just like choose thepeople that you trust and that
can hold space for you toexpress what's going on in the
hardness.
So those are the four things Iwant to offer you today on this
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episode to help on those harddays.
Remember the power of presence,talk to that emotion and figure
out what it's trying to teachyou.
Number three go out and be therainbow in someone else's storm.
And number four talk tosomebody about it.
Tell someone about it and ifyou don't have someone to talk
to about it, you can send me aDM on Instagram.
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You can send me a little audiomessage.
I'm @lifelikelunden onInstagram and if this episode
resonates with you, I would loveif you could share this episode
with a friend via text or sendthem a DM.
That's the ultimate compliment.
When you like this episode, whenyou like one of the episodes
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that I share is, share it withsomebody, spread the word and if
you're having a hard day, Ihope that these tips help.
See you at the next episode.
Thank you so much for listeningto this episode of Self Love
and Sweat THE PODCAST.
Hey, do me a favor Whereveryou're listening to this podcast
, give us a review.
This really helps a lot andshare this with a friend.
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I'm only one person and withyour help, we can really spread
the message of self-love andsweat and change more lives all
around the world.
I'm Lunden Souza, reminding youthat you deserve a life full of
passion, presence and purpose,fueled by self-love.
This podcast is a HitspotAustria production.
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